Ambien Y Tu?

Ever the studious ones fearful of disappointing others, the ladies sit down to record while Amanda is sick with a sore throat. Amanda discusses her hesitation in taking any kind of medication which makes Melissa crazy — just do the drugs! That said, Melissa is an insomniac who 100% cannot be trusted with Ambien.

Episode Transcript

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I found this article and the titleof it is called the puzzling gap between
how old you are and how oldyou think you are? And this is
in the Atlantic, which I thinkdidn't the Atlantic get us started on are
you washing your body too much?The Atlantic likes to do controversial things.
Yes, shout out to the Atlanticforgiving. They like to get the people

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talking. So you're what hold on? You sound like you're back? FYI

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she had laryngitis. Oh, oh, okay, I can't catch a break.
Last weekend, my I was socongested. You know when you're so
congested and you can like breathe,but you can feel it in your head
and so you're just miserable, eventhough like on the outside you look okay,
on the inside you just like tenpounds a snot in those sinus cavities.

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M I gross, okay that becausethat's the only time it's coming out
of your nose is in the shower. Correct, Yes, So I start
taking this antihistamine. My midwife gaveme this anti histamine to help me sleep
last year when my dad was goingthrough it in the hospital, and it

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hit me this week. I waslike, wait a minute, that shit
drives me so far out. I'mgoing to take this a couple of nights
and see if I can't drain outor dry up all the snot in my
head. Well it worked. Iwas like, Oh, I'm amazing.
Friday morning, I wake up witha sore throat and I was like,
you know, it's dry. It'sbeen cold, so you know, sometimes

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you wake up morning with this morethrow and then once you have something to
drink and you get going, itgoes away. No, this hurt so
bad all day, and it hurtinto the insides of my ears that I
was so uncomfortable. I slept likeshit Friday night. I wake up Saturday
morning and now I have no voice. My throat hurts so bad. I

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don't want to swallow, like Ialmost just got a cup and spit in
it all day. That's how badit felt. Yeah, pretty disgusting,
but I was like desperate. SoChris came home because I notoriously don't like
to take anything when I'm sick,so I just try to wait it out.

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You think i'd learn at this point, but I try to wait it
out and let it go away onits own. And so he came home
yesterday from the store with like emergencysome kind of painkiller because my lymph nodes
were so swollen they still are thatit hurt to touch the sides of my
neck. It's bad. So hejust started pumping me full of like hot
tea and yes, I don't waitlozengees and I'd be mixed and shit too.

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I'll take the benetrum with the nightquill with you that I don't give
this shit. I'm taking all ofit, and I'm gonna lay down and
hope for the best. Okay,Because I took an etctera and Friday night
before we took the kids out todinner Friday night for good grades, and
I when I came home and pickedup the boys and Chris, I asked
him to bring me an etcetera.So I took one at seven o'clock and

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then he gave me too bare thenext morning that was supposed to help my
lymph nodes. And I was like, wait a minute, how long do
I have to wait? Because Itook the excentri and last night He's just
like, that's fine, just drinkall this water, not at all,
I don't wait, Nope, ortaking all of the over the counter medication
for every I hate it. Idon't wait, not one second. No,

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I love drugs. I just it'sthe hassle, you know, it's
the it's the inconvenience of having tomake that sick visit to the doctor.
I once waited and waited and waitedon a uti because I thought, surely,
if I drink enough water and cranberryjuice, I can take care of
this on my own. I've gotit. I'll be okay. It's like

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five days pass and I have togo pick the kids up from school and
I can barely make it to thecar. I have a fever. I'm
doubled over in pain, and I'mstill unwilling to admit that I need to
go to the doctor. And finally, by the time I got back to
the house, my little three miledrive, I had to call my dad
and I was like, can youcome sit with the kids so that I
can take myself to urgent care becauseI think I'm I'm dying dude. Yeah,

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oh see, Yeah, I'm stubbornabout having to go to the doctor
because it is annoying, Like Igotta get there. I gotta figure out
who's gonna watch my kids while I'min there, and then I gotta go
to pharmacy too. God damn,I really do try not to go to
that. You gotta park, yougotta wait. But I will drink every
over the counter item. I justhave had too many like uncomfortable side effects

(05:01):
from taking over the counter medications thatI just I'm always wary that something's gonna
make me feel worse than I alreadydo. See. The thing is,
though, if you operate in lifeas life itself is a side effect you
like, I mean, I guessthat should I do every day? I
mean, I guess, yeah,I guess every day I wake up made

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it again. So maybe this drugcocktail of over the counter medications will take
me out today. Finally, it'snot going to be this head called but
maybe that music X. Yeah,definitely, if you're listening to this,
don't don't mix over the counter drugs. Don't don't, but don't listen to

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anything we are saying. Definitely,don't wait until you're on your deathbed.
Don't take the night will, butdefinitely don't take the night will with the
benadrolment. Anything I'm saying, donot do anything she's saying, wouldn't recommend
no, but I do have.I bought some cannabis honey, or I

(06:12):
should say honey infused with cannabis.I bought some from the dispensary a few
months ago, and I will saythat putting it in my hot tea was
so pleasant over the last few daysas I've had the sore throat. So
if it's legal in your state andyou have access stock that, it's also
really yummy over goat cheese on toast. I've tried that before too, so

(06:38):
mid a little fun tip. Yeah, Well, I just was like,
oh, I'll just put a littlebit, you know, like, but
you forget with edibles how potent theycan be. I mean, luckily I
had nowhere to be. I wasjust laid up on the couch. See.
I have been having some neck andback pain. My neck, my

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back, and also because I've beenincreasing my uh weights, you know,
because you know, once you you'rean athlete, accomplished the eights, you
got to move on to the tens. And then once you you know the
tens aren't making it hard for youanymore, you got to move on to
the fifteen. So I'm in thefifteen range. So I've been having you

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know, some soreness. So Iwas like, okay, and I try
not to eat gummies all the timebecause they are very strong, even though
they're only five milligrams. Like andshe don't have me, motherfucking it hits
different, bitch, I'm in SpaceX. Yeah. So um, like two

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nights last week I had the gummybecause I wasn't like my body hurt.
I can't. I can't be two. It's gotta be one night a week.
It's gotta be a weekend. Ain'tnothing to do the next day because
I will be up for all tenpm till four am. Paranoid than a

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motherfucker reading up shit, just reading, reading, reading, reading, unrelated
things, jumping all around different topics. I don't know what the hell's going
on. I went from fucking inbrone toneail surgery to fucking whether or not
Megan Markol is trying to fucking reunitewith her dad As a PR strategy,
I mean just all over the placewith my read. You know, if

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you start to go a little toofar, you can always take just regular
old CBD and that will help totame the effects of the THHC. So
maybe have that on hand next time, or you can buy gummies that are
like one to one, and soit kind of just gives it. It's
a more mild effect. Yeah,we're gonna need a more mild effect because

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ever since my body has been youknow, more fit, it's like,
what are these strange chemicals? What'sthis? And there are reactions that I
have not had before, so oofoof, and then I go crazy and
then i'd be you wake up toten thousand messages. We have to fix
this, we have to change this. Everything is broken. I hate it
here. Oh my god, we'redefinitely getting run off the interner if I

(09:20):
say that, can you go backin there and delete this? I don't
like that cowbell sound. What aboutlike? It's just like I can't.
I'm serious. It really makes mecrazy. It makes me crazy and overthink
everything. So I'm gonna stop doingthat. Yeah, if it's not working
for you, definitely don't keep participating. Maybe try half or like a quarter.

(09:41):
Even Why am I yawning? You'remaking me so tired. It's eight
thirty eight. It's a round seat. Here's what happens. I get sleepier
around this time because I've been raying, going the kids, you know,

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Okay, finish your food. Finishingfood, Okay, hand me the dishes.
Okay, hand me the dishes.Okay, it's sign for your shower.
Did you brush teeth? It's justconstant managing them. Yeah. And
then around nine ish, I'm gonnafinally have my little me time. I'll
be able to take a shower andlay down. But then because I took
a shower now and why the fuck, awake again? And then I'll turn

(10:22):
a show on. But then allI can't turn a show on and watch
a show like a normal person becauseInstagram again said I had ADHD, which
I do. I'll start scrolling myphone and then listening to the show.
Oh yeah, it's no, that'snot good, really bad. Then,
because my eyes are looking at thephone and I'm listening to the thing.

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Now I'm getting over stimulated and I'mgetting kind attired. So I'll those off
and have like an hour cat napand then wake up. And now it's
eleven o'clock, and now it's twelveo'clock, and now it's one o'clock,
and now it's two o'clock. Andthen I got I go to the gym
at six in the morning, soI have not been sleeping. Yeah,
you need to work on that sleephygiene. That's really really important. And

(11:09):
actually, as you're getting more andmore into this fitness thing, like getting
adequate rest and getting efficient rest,it's going to be really important because that's
where all the magic happens and yourmuscles repair and you know it. That
recovery time is so crucial for buildinglean mass and for you know, obviously
your immune system and so many differentthings. So you need to figure out

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like, I mean, I knowyou like to read, and I know
you do a lot of your readingonline. What if you just tried like
like just regular paper books. Couldyou try something like that? And then
because I'll be up four hours andfinish the book. It does. See
if I lay down to read atnight, I can make it like five
pages and then I'm out cold.Oh no, I'll read the fucking book

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cover to cover and then be upat seven am having not slept and like
I was a good ass book though. Shoot, Okay, so maybe not
that. What about um, youknow, because they say it's like all
in the ritual, So maybe canyou take your shower a little bit earlier
so that you have time to kindof come down off of that. I

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don't know you up. I thinkthat because like something's very off, because
when I take the six in themorning class, Yeah, it's supposed to
be where you take the class,you go home, you eat some protein,
you have your coffee, you takeyour shower, and then you're like
energized for the rest of the day. It feels like that's the direction that

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it's going. But around eleven AM, after that six o'clock class, I'm
like, bitch, I gotta laiddown. I gotta laid down, y'all
don't feel tired. And then Iwon't lay down, and I'll just keep
going, going, going, Andthen around five o'clock I'll be like,
oh my god, I'm gonna legitdie. So then I was like,

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maybe I shouldn't take the morning class. Maybe I'll take the evening class,
take the evening class, get home, shower, and now it's like I've
done cocaine. It's eight pm andI want to fucking deep clean the house.
What. Yeah, it can.It can definitely for some people.
Evening exercise can do that. Itcan be really detrimental to your sleep.

(13:22):
Um, I think you could keepwith you early morning, but you're going
to have to come up with asolution where on the nights that you have
to be up early the next morning, you need to try to get to
bed or even if you're not asleep, like get it. Say I'm going
to get in bed by like eightthirty, which is going to require,

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you know, pushing the kids alittle bit earlier. But I'm going to
be in bed by eight thirty andmy goal is to be asleep by nine
o'clock. So no TV, nointernet? Oh yeah, maybe do something
like Jessin Backs needs the TV well, and Justin Beck can watch TV in
the other room. No, no, Justin Beck has to get out altogether

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one and then don't come in here, okay, is he needs TV and
it'll be so bucking loud and brightso it'll wake me up. So I'll
have come in here and had mylittle ritual and laid down or whatever,
and then he'll move from his areato here and then turn the TV and

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it'll be like, bitch, whathappened here? But I was I was
doing just fine. Now you fuckedme up. It's constant. What if
you what if he wore headphones whilehe was watching and you had a sleep
note m I need it silent.I want it dark, I want it
freezing. I think I just wanthim out of here. You can't be
in here. I made Chris sleepin the guest room like and was a

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two thousand nine, Yeah, earlytwo thousand and nine. I was so
tired of his snoring. I waslike, you, I have to move
out of this bedroom until you figureshit out. I can't. People do
it. People do it. It'sa real thing. Justin thinks it's inappropriate.
It's so wrong you. The maritalbed is overrated. I think the
marital bed is the biggest crock ofshit that we have been fed. Separate

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bedrooms, Separate beds are the wayto go. I would if I had
the space here, I would ina heartbeat. Dude, I love my
house is so inappropriate. I knowhe thinks it's so inappropriate and so crazy.
There was a time where hit thevolume because you know, it's be
like warlords and lichens and wolves andshit, and oh loud, and then

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bright mine is always horror movies.It's screaming and yeah, yeah it's loud,
and it's really annoying and jarring.So then I would then go and
lay down and Shearer's room and likecuddle Shearing because like I don't knows,
there's something about tiny baby cuddles thatmakes you sleep. So I would go

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there. But the problem with thatis, you know, Jessin Beck loves
lights. He loves lights, andso the exterior lights on the house are
on weird different timers, so likeI'm sleeping, it'll be great, but
then a bright ass light will shinein a girl. I know that what
you call it the circadian what's itcalled circadian rhythm? Yeah, we a'll

(16:23):
have none of that. I don'thave that. I know you don't be
talking to you. Your sleep habitsare really bad, um so bad.
So I think you need to tryjust implementing just like a couple of things,
like you don't have to go ballsto the wall, but on the
nights that you go to the class, like you have to, you've got

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to talk to Jessin because like,if you can, if you can go
into your bed and fall asleep andbe fine, and it's his TV watching,
well then he's got to figure outa different solution. He also doesn't
sleep, does not, so o, hey, well you guys can do
this together. He well, he'snever slept our whole lives. This is

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new for me. I mean,I've always been a really late into the
night reader, but I have beenable to get tired and lay down.
I don't know. This is probablyperimenopause. This, you know what?
This is probably another I bet youI'll hang up here, I'll google it.
Perimenopause insomnia. I look at itright now. I bet you that's
what it is. I'm pretty sureit is. This feels my algorithm thinks

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that I want to hear about paramedopauseall the time now everything that's wrong with
me. I type it in withthe word perimanopause and it says yes.
Then you have to go get likethe topical hormones you've got. You need
to go see a doctor and youneed to get help. Here we go.

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During perimenopause, you get on yours. Yeah, oh baby, I
bet I think I'm in my sixthyear of it. I swear to God.
During perimenopause, your ovaries begin producinglesser amounts of key hormones. This
includes estrogen and progesterone. As thesehormone levels fall, symptoms of menopause increase,
one of which is insomnia. Insomniais a disorder that prevents you from

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getting adequate sleep. Didn't I sayit was parrimanopause. Yeah, you need
to go. You need to startdoing some looking into you know doctors in
your area that specialize in that,because I bet, I bet it would
help other things too. I wonderif it would do something with your with

(18:38):
your moods and with your like randomlike heat and cold. Look at that.
See, And because I'm not sleeping, I am feeling more anxious,
more irritable, more stressed, havea hard time focusing or paying attention,

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find it difficult to remember things orstay on tasks, Experience more errors or
accidents, Experience an increase in headachefrequency. Yes, I knew that was
paramo, experienced gastro intextional obsessed.Yes to all these. Even though I'm
feeling better in my body and feelinggreat because of the exercise. The lack
of sleep, though, is reallyit's crazy. And then, not to

(19:23):
be an asshole, but my faceis looking crazy? What do you mean?
Because I already have a very likeangular, bony face, and so
when I get deep dark circles fromnot having sleep, I just look so

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much crazier and uglier and witchier thanis necessary because of the deep like you
can actually see my cranial shape.And I'm like, oh nikes, Okay,
I have an idea. This justhit me. Tomorrow. I want

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you to stop at Whole Foods orlike if you the vitamin shop like a
supplement store, and I want youto go get magnesium. I heelated magnesium.
Oh not that I have magnesium gummies. Okay, do you take them?
Yes? Masa does too because shegets headaches barametric pressure headaches. I

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get those two. So that tellsme when she needs to take them.
The thing you should You should betaking it every single day. And because
it's a smooth muscle relaxer, takeit at night before you go to bed,
and it should help you relax andhave more RESTful sleep. I mean,

(20:56):
we need to handle this right totally. It sounds miserable, but just
even like yeah, of course,yeah. If I didn't get to bed
on I'm telling you, I waslike Chris would make fun of me because
I would be asleep in bed beforehe would come home with Quinn at nine

(21:19):
thirty for you know, gymnastics pickup, you know, bringing her home.
But if I had to wake upat five the next morning, and
I wasn't in bed asleep before ninethirty. I would hit the wall at
three o'clock the next day and bedone. Just a mess um. That's
me every day, yawning, cranky. And you know maybe I should not

(21:47):
drink coffee at night. Well duh, I think recently I was like,
oh little decalf at night and youwere like, what record scratch decalf?
I just been drinking the ship becauseI feel like it doesn't have a effect
on me. You know what youcould replace the ritual with, like a
hot herbal team. I'm gonna startreplacing the ritual with a hot shitting tea.

(22:14):
How about that? And then wakeup in the morning, take a
shit, go to the gym.You need a healthy breakfast, take a
shower. Feel rejuvenated now, nish, feel fucking sluggish and tired again?
How can you eat? Feel likedying because I just ate now I feel
like you know, food coma.Then do a little more work, Get

(22:34):
in the car, drive home asthe sun is going down. You know
that real tired sunny, you know, driving across the fucking mountains and Arizona,
that kind of sun hitting you tiredship where you're really trying to stay
awake and you're fucking slapping the sideof your face and you're rolling down the
window and you're rolling down the sunroofs mortal coil. You know what I'm
talking about. When you are sofucking tired and you're like, man,

(22:57):
I know how your truck drivers,ah, you wish you had those little
And then the worst part about inyour eyes, you're tired all the way
home. You're tired the whole drivehome, and then when you get home,
all of a sudden you have asecond wind. What's this for?

(23:18):
I don't need this. I wantedto come here and lay down. But
then you get in the house andyou start washing the dishes, and you
start going through the mail that youain't gonna open. Organized shit. You
put clothes in the dryer and thenext thing you know, you're you know,
the the chickens thought, and you'recooking it. And now it's nine
thirty you're finishing up cleaning the kitchen. You definitely feel tired. You chake

(23:41):
your shower, but now you can'tsleep because you want to refresh your body.
Dumb ass, and a shower shouldbe like so relaxing and like should
just like get you into that moodfor like going to sleep. It should.
But I'll do all my skinner care. I'll get in the bed and
then I'll be like, whoop,let me read all about and then I'll

(24:06):
choose the fucking wildest topic. Andthen the next thing, you know,
I'm trying to find out why Petewentz things. He's Steve Ioki and here
we are. It's it's every dayshower when you get home from work,
Like right when you get home fromwork, take a shower, and then
you wake me right back up.No way, Yeah, but you said

(24:30):
take a shower and then wait fortold on a second, take a shower
and then just be ashy regular untilno skincare must happen immediately after. Well
sometimes like if I, if Ido it, then I'll just put like
some like you know, obviously Iwash my face, I'll put a little
bit of moisturizer on, and thenbefore I go to bed, then I

(24:52):
just put on all of my serumsand powders and creams and all that stuff,
and then I go to sleep.I think that there's nothing wrong with
that. You could do that.No, No, I have to do
if there's an order to it.My face has to feel wet with skinny
care before I lay down. Butyou're not laying down. You're just getting
back into your mom job. Butyou're gonna do no no no no no

(25:12):
no no no showers. No showersare for laying down. But you're not
sleepy after you take a shower.I know. But I still like to
lay down and rest my body andrest my eyes. That's what I say.
I'm doing. I'm resting my body. What do you do how you
sleep? Now? I'm resting myeyes. I'm not resting shop lad,

(25:33):
Like God, I can't wait tofall asleep. I mean, listen.
I also think that it's a it'sit's it's a personality thing as well.
Like I think I just have athirst for knowledge. And then once I
get on that path and I'm readingand I'm exploring and I'm my my brain

(25:56):
is lighting up with dot connecting,I'm like, oh, like the chops
Off Crimes is shit with this insomnia. But there's like reasons that they use
sleep deprivation to like mind control people. So if your mind is broken down
and sleep creates those new neural pathways, well, then, if you're not
getting enough sleep, how are youcreating your new neural pathways to retain the

(26:18):
information that you stayed up reading thenight before. I don't know, girl,
I don't know. You know what. I also want to go to
one of those things where you livein a hotel and they put all those
little things on you and it's thisis sleep study. Sleep study, yep,
because I've said Justin Beck needs todo it for years, because he's

(26:41):
never slept the entire time we've knowneach other. I don't know how.
I think that would be so hard, though, because you know, like
whenever you sleep someplace for the firstnight, your sleep is always so bad.
So I think it would be reallyhard. I would be so stressed
out. Like we got this newbed and it tracks all of this shit,
and for the first week, Iwas so stressed out every night that

(27:02):
I'd go to sleep because I wanteda high score. Wait a second,
what do you mean the bed tracksthings. So we needed a new mattress,
and Labor Day or like right aroundLabor Day weekend, we went looking
and we went to the Sleep Numberstore because we thought that it was interesting

(27:22):
that you could adjust the softness ofyour bed, and I thought that it
was cool that it would like adjustwith you as you move through the night.
So we went there and we testedthem all out and we really liked
it. And so what it doesis like when we were in the store,
they determined what our appropriate number was, and then every night, when
I get in bed and the bedsenses I laid down, it will shift

(27:47):
down to my number, and whenChris gets in his side, shifts to
his number. And then while you'reso like in the minute that you get
in bed and it turns on,it starts to track your heart, your
respiration rate. It tracks like ifI get up in the middle of the
night, how long I was outof bed, and then it'll give me

(28:10):
like a score in the morning thatsays, based off of all of these
different data points, this is youraverage score for the night. And then
it'll track it for you and it'llmake suggestions and anyways, I wanted a
perfect score every night, so Iwas very stressed out. So sometimes I
think that if you did a sleepstudy like that, I would be so
like in my head and anxious thatI wasn't going to do well sleep study.

(28:34):
Hold on a second, and itwould be pointless. What if I
just we're like the Apple Watch thing. Okay, So I was going to
tell you that there's this thing calleda Whoop and I wore it for a
couple of years and then I stopped. But Christal uses his because I got

(28:56):
my Apple Watch and I was like, I don't need two things at once.
Hold on, well, I havean Apple Watch. But I stopped
using my Whoop once I got myApple Watch because I didn't feel like I
wanted two devices on my wrist.Hold on. The Apple Watch tells you
about your sleep though, right,this device is actually more accurate than any

(29:22):
fitbit or Apple Watch or any ofthat. So that's why I liked it
because basically whoop. Okay, Soit's essentially like a very fancy heart rate
monitor. And so throughout the day, it tracts what they call your strain,
so your cardiovascular strain of how you'removing. So when you go to

(29:44):
the gym, you'll record your workoutit I'll give you your strain for that
workout, and then as you movethrough your day, it will record your
movement and then it updates it tothis app on your phone and it shows
you how you're doing, and thenwhen you sleep at night, it tracks
all of your sleep and so thenwhen you wake up the next morning,
it will tell you, hey,Melissa, you've recovered x amount of percent.

(30:04):
So if you're going to work out, then that day you know how
to proceed with your workout. Soif you come back and shit, your
score is a ninety eight for thatday, then you know you can perform
at peak levels the next day andwork really hard and push yourself because you've
recovered from the strain that you hadthe day previous through you know, rest
and you know whatever. So thenlet's say then on day three, you

(30:29):
wake up and your scores at likeforty five, then you know that this
is a day that I should justtake an active rest or just like you
know, not do anything strenuous becausemy body hasn't fully recovered. And so
it's a nice way to be ableto kind of track your output during the
week, whether it's in a workoutor like working in the yard or just
moving through your daily life. Youcan kind of be really strategic about how

(30:52):
you how you play your days.But then it also gives you really good
feedback on how you're sleeping at nightand how you're recovering. Yeah, I
just got here, and you know, it cost a lot of money to
be an athlete. No, Iam, well, you can pay You
don't have to pay for that outright. You can pay for it monthly.

(31:14):
That's the part I just got toand I was like, na, motherfucker,
no, what is it. It'slike fifty it's fifty bucks a month
something like that, two thirty nineup front and then twenty dollars a month.
I raised the price because I thinkI pais a month. I think
I just did the thirty dollars amonth. I don't think I had to
pay anything up front. Maybe Ihad to buy the band. I don't

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remember. Well, I also don'twear watches, so that would be a
really huge adjustment for me. Don'tthey have it yet? Being listen,
I got a baby step. AllI know is I think maybe just trying
to, like, you know,get better sleep routine and better sleeps.

(32:00):
You know what I'm about to say. And it's the wrong thing to want
to do, but I don't wantto do it. Take ambien? No,
have you ever taken an ambien before? Never? Oh my gosh,
But I know that motherfucker's wake upand start eating dogs in the middle of

(32:20):
the night. Yeah, you'll justit'll be on gibl Justin won't be on
the episode of Snapped. But you'mgon for him. I'm gonna be Yeah,
I'm gonna be fucking Taisa and yellowjackets and shit, just climbing trees
and then I eating dirt. Iknow, I've heard, I've heard bad
things happen um and you can't rememberthem. Motherfucker's drowned their wife in the

(32:45):
pool. I swear to god,they were sleeping. But the instructions when
they were given to me, theinstructions were take it and get immediately into
bed. I was like, whywhat what? She was like, take
it and then get into bed.And she said and this was like and
Bennett was little, you know,still adjusting to his big boy bed.

(33:05):
And so we would wake up acouple times at night, and she was
like, Chris will be the onethat gets up with him in the night.
Do not have him wake you up. You need to sleep, but
don't fuck around with this. Onlytake it if you absolutely need it.
I was like, Okay, I'mkind of scared. I'm kind of scared,
but also kind of curious. Ithink Jess and Beck should take it.

(33:30):
He's scared of everything. He's worsethan you. He will not take
medicine. He will not hit Nike. Will He's like, oh my god,
I'm so zuid. I feel likeI've been drugged. I feel like,
could you please calm the fuck down. It's real though, I'm like,
oh my god, he can't takeit ad there, he can't take

(33:52):
tyle and I'll no, I'll justget through it. Would you shut your
ass up? Like I've wanted totake one of those like you know on
in the movies when they want tocompletely take control of a person and they
stab him in the neck with abig old needle and the bitch collapses over
every time he says a little thingsore throat, running nose, low grade

(34:13):
fever. I just want to tranquilizehis ass because I don't want to hear
it. Okay, you sound likeChris, just shut up, take the
drugs, leave us all alone.No, I'm just gonna keep back.
Shut up, shut up. I'mjust gonna I'm just gonna put drop one

(34:34):
of those vexed things in the shower. What you no take? Like he
what was it. We went ona flight. It was a long fucking
flight, and he wouldn't take hiszanex. We flew to fucking Israel and
he would not take his zanex.I was like, oh my god,
this fucking boy. I can understandthat though, because I sometimes, I

(34:55):
mean, for a long flight likethat, that's such a long fight.
You you don't want to, likefeel out of control. Yes, I
do. I want to feel dead. Wake me when we get there.
I hope there's a fucking drinking handupon my arrival. Shut up? What

(35:16):
are you talking about? Like that? I wouldn't like that. Well,
he wouldn't take it, but alsorequired silence, and I was like,
I think this is a really badway to start a marriage. I can't
talk to you where He's like,I have a lot of anxiety on flights.

(35:36):
I just I just zone out andI just watch my movies and zone
out. I was like, we'renot gonna talk about the fucking marriage we
just started. We're going on ourhoneymoons or what do you mean? I
can't talk? Really bad anxiety,so take this medication. Oh god,
I can't do that. What thefuck is going on? And I was

(35:58):
like, I'm like I really waslike, you're really not going to take
this medication though, for real though, And he really wasn't gonna do it
wow and won't and won't, likehe has to be in like such insane
pain to take anything. Like thetime he was dying on the road,
literally dying every hour on the hour, I would check out, like do

(36:22):
you feel hot? Are you clammy? Do you think you have a fever?
Yeah, I think you have afever. This motherfucker probably had whooping
cough, fucking h whatever you getwhen you're dying on the Oregon trail.
Yeah, I'm talking about oh dysentery. He had that shit one time on
tour, and I remember being like, you gotta get in an uber.

(36:45):
You gotta get in an uber andget to a minute clinic and get your
throat swabbed and see if you havethe fucking flu. And then you need
to get on Tamba flu even thoughit's too late, you need to get
on tamaflou. And you need toget sleep peals, and you need it
whatever between cities where you're going tosleep on the bus. You need to

(37:05):
just sleep, period, end ofstory. While being completely drugged up,
and then hope for the best.When you play in two days and he's
like, I don't think I coulddo it, I was like, okay,
I'm gonna kill him. So Ihad to like call other people in
the band and be like, yo, listen to me. Listen to me.
He's not gonna make it. He'sgonna have walking, fucking pneumonia if

(37:30):
he doesn't do what the fuck Isay. I understand you guys are scared
to cancel the shows because you alwayscanceled the shows. But the show's gonna
get canceled if he doesn't do whatthe fuck I say. Okay, So
he did, and it was whatthe fuck I said, and he got

(37:51):
the drugs, and then by thetime he landed to play New York he
was better, still dying better.He played that show and I remember following
him backstage and he was in theshower just hacking up shit, just just
gross, green, horrible flagm andI was like, you there to get
away from me. This is prettymask. I was like, uh,

(38:14):
now I'm gonna get sick. Um, But that's that hard headed shit that
I'm talking about. Just take thedrugs and do what we say. It's
so annoying sorry, I didn't meanto, cause he's so much higher.
I mean, at least she's takingover the counter medications. I mean,

(38:36):
at least she'll do the ambient.Well that was under I mean that was
under traumatic circumstances. I oh damn, I wasn't sleeping. I'd take his
handex in the morning and an ambientat night, and I was like,
I am doing so good. Idon't know what united talk about. I

(39:00):
am that was so self actualized.Yeah, those are special circumstances. I
got to find a circumstance that wherethat'll be what you need. I don't
know. I think ye, Iwould have to to make him take this
dress. Wow. Um, welltired, I think um. I was

(39:31):
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