April 23, 2023 • 61 mins
…and they’re back after scrapping multiple bummer recording sessions before finally arriving at this new episode. Melissa is still on the mend from an actual fortnight of sickness, laryngitis and everything. Amanda performed a MAJOR solid by editing out at least 12 minutes’ worth of Melissa’s wretched coughing. If only there was a way for Amanda to edit out the start of her entire 2023 because so far, this hasn’t been her year. Also, enjoy a deep dive on the latest flesh-eating street drug Tranq. Happy Imperfect Strangers New Year which starts on 4/20, hey yay ayee yay, smoke weed every day (if you have a medicinal license to do so because we are parents and this is the Internet).
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I actually genuinely feel horrible when we'relate with the show. I do,
yeah, I do too, ButI also know that you know, motherfuckers
are dying. Okay, girl,People are dying, Kim. People are
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dying, Kim. Actually people are. But I do genuinely feel bad and
so um not to lay out abunch of excuses, but I just want
to. I just want to explainhow life has been laughing for both of
us. And I feel like it'seither one of us is going through some
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shit and the other one is gungho and ready to go and ye,
or both of us are going throughsome shit and it'll be like fuck.
And then I find the need toapologize to you when I'm like, I
know I owe you this and you'relike, no, it's not even that,
Or when I text you about somethingnot completely different, you'll be like,
oh, yeah, i'll send youthat file this day. I'm like,
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I wasn't even saying that shit.So like there is a built in
guilt when the work isn't done.Okay, So let me just let me
share our text exchange that happened thisweekend when I texted you, and this
was a genuine check in how areyou feeling, Melissa, Because you've been
sick for a fortnight? How areyou feeling? But your response to me
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was not a second a real fortnightthough she's not just saying that word real
fucking fortnite voice, not coming outof her actual laryngitis four score and seven
years ago. This bitch has beensick, sick as a dog. She's
been mixing codeine and sprite on thedoctor's orders for real. Actually, which,
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by the way, can we juststop and have a moment to talk
about sisson because I don't think you'resupposed to like it. You do wowsers.
I was like, dude, Ifeel wavy kind of. I don't
know how people function at the function. Your next stop is zylazine if they're
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I mean, I feel like I'mgetting into drugs, which is terrible.
But like I took Allegri dy use, a mix dm advil promethezine, and
I was luting on a move book. Then I ate a gummy and I
was like, Yo, everything feelsfucking awesome, even though I feel like
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dogshit, so continue. My textmessage said, dude, I know I
owe you those edits, and Iwas like, I'm not even texting to
find out where shit is. Atthis point, it is what it is
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like. I've been reflecting today.I've been reflecting on the fact that tomorrow
is the Imperfect Stranger's official start ofthe new year for twenty twenty three.
Honestly, over the last four weeks, maybe since January first, twenty twenty
three, I have been feeling likeI do not want to participate this year.
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I am not interested. I've seenthe preview over the last four months.
I do not want to subscribe tothis channel. I just let's be
fast forward. I'm not still watching. Take me to twenty twenty four,
right, Yeah, you've had arough go, which is part of the
reason why we were like, yeah, it doesn't start till twenty and you
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know that could change too, becausewhat if it still sucks after four twenty.
Well, I have a day tomorrow. I only work until noon.
My plan is to come home.I have a special brand of weed that
I want to go pick up atthe dispensary, all special for tomorrow.
My favorite pizza, my favorite seasonalpizza, is available at Dewey's right now.
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So my plan is to just behome all day, be high as
fuck. And then eat a lotof pizza when Chris comes home, and
you deserve. Fridays are my selfcare day because even though the business has
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changed hands, you still have alot of existing clients with pre existing orders
that we needed to fill. Andthere have been staff changes. And when
I say staff changes, I meanit's five of us looking at each other
like, let's get these things doneright. It's really the last of us.
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Yeah it is. You've been killingit like we are. We're a
close knit, tight team. Butpart of that means, you know,
what used to be sitting in frontof your computer all day is now sitting
in front of your computer sometimes.But also I'm on my feet and I'm
doing physical labor, bagging, tagging, boxing, and I'm cool with it.
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You know. I've always been ateam player, and I'm down with
physical labor. I'm getting my stepsand I feel good about it. But
it's a lot of work to bea factory worker and then to come home
and cook your kids food and theneverything else, Like I don't return phone
calls, I don't have outfits.Honestly, every day that I get home
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and I eat something with protein init, and I shower and do my
skincare is a successful day. Yeah. Period. So Fridays have been my
self care day. So I domy work in the morning and then I
scheduled, I bought a package andI get a massage. Do I have
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moved Hebrew school in the past twoweeks, I've moved Hebrew School to Saturday
mornings instead of Friday evenings. Yeah, I am getting a massage every Friday,
and I don't feel bad about it. I'm jealous. You shouldn't feel
bad about it. Shit, you'reon concrete floor for a million hours a
day, probably squatting, bending over, picking stuff up, putting it in.
Totally, you deserve squatting, bendingover, picking stuff up, putting
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it in. My God, thishas just gotten ex Friday is my self
care day. I'm so excited foryour self care day. Um. But
most importantly, I am happy tobe back here doing a little podcasting because
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it wasn't abrupt, little many hiatus, but welcome back, welcome back.
Well, the other part was itwasn't for lack of trying. We sat
down record four times, and inthose four times I either had no voice
or I was coughing all over thetrack. You had just gotten out of
therapy and dash it ramp sad trombone. She said, ah uh, you
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know, we had a friend justdie. It was awful, but it
was like he was celebrated and itwas wonderful. That part was wonderful.
My dad got bad news again.My you know, it's just been a
lot of shit. And I thinkthe other thing that I've been reflecting on
is when it comes to and thismight get a little meta, but bear
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with me, when it comes tothe making of this podcast, we are
so we are so particular, firstof all, and what goes out.
If it's not good, it doesn'tgo out. And I think that that's
a gift. I am sparing you. Nobody wants to hear a dud of
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a fucking episode. Nobody wants tohear two depressed bitches sitting on I mean
that the last three four times thatwe've tried to record it has been just
sad. And I think that that'sthe second part of this is that at
the core we've become two friends thatsometimes we can't get to the making of
the episode until we've had a chanceto actually talk about some of the things
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that are going on. And thenwhen you have a show that is personality
based and based really on you know, We're not reading fucking you know,
true crime stories, We're not doingrecaps of a TV show. We are
having to generate brand new, hourplus long conversations every single week. And
if you feel like absolute dogshit becauseyour friend is dead, because you're fucking
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depressed, because your dad is sick, because your dog died, because the
world is fucking on fire, nobodywould want to listen to those four fucking
episodes anyways, because they are downrightdepressed. Why dog for real? It's
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really been a bonus and harmonies off. I'm glad your heads are falling off.
I'm glad that you've been reflecting becauseI felt that way too. But
then at the same time, Ifeel an intense responsibility, yeah, to
like show up, because if it'sone thing that I I do, if
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it's one thing Melissa Beck does,if it's one thing Justin Beck does,
it's that we show the fuck up. We show the fuck up. And
um, it's hard when you can't. It's hard when you physically can't,
it's hard when you emotionally can't.UM, but we still tried. We
still tried. And then I wantto say this too, Yeah, go
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for it. The other part isthe other part is this is not a
podcast about Megan Markel, So youknow what I like, Noah, I
almost texted you this afternoon. Itwas like, no matter what, we
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can't talk about Megan markele no andlike we have to put something out and
I feel and I feel like sometimes, you know, we'll start having a
conversation about life stuff, regular lifestuff, like I'm so sorry that you
got bad news about your dad,Melissa. I'm so sorry that your long
time friend and like long Island hardcorelegend died and you had to experience that
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at the same time that the companywas experiencing a shift. I'm so sorry
about all of these big feelings.We will do that dead serious for forty
five fifty five sixty five minutes thefucking ticker is running, and then it'll
be like, but you go missthe coronation for the baby though, And
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it's a genuine question. And thething is, like, it's so hard
too, because nobody, not onlywe care about that, you know what
I mean, nobody cares. Standnobody cares or was it Kyle. It's
seriously, it's driving me crazy.I'm sick of hearing about them, but
I can't get away from them veryeverywhere in my face. But Kyle,
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we just kind of don't care aboutsome dumb prints and his stupid wife.
Yeah, nobody cares Kyle. No, Justin Becket said to me, Babe,
no one cares, and you're allI have follows. Yeah, you
know what I mean. It's likewhen you're the only one that watches a
really shitty television show, like youhave to talk to somebody about it.
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You have to, and it's notthat And listen, I don't want to
talk about it just because motherfuckers getran the fuck off the internet. She
has somehow reached them beyondce a levelof protection where you can't say that you
can't even ask a question. Ijust asked a question. I just asked
a question. First of all,um, I'm rooting for all by Raciel
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everything, period period. Everybody knowsI love it by Rachel, I fucking
even openly like Drake. You knowwhat I'm saying, Like, I just
have questions. Yeah, about logistics. We all do on a very nuanced
topic of conversation that nobody cares about. That's all. And I only have
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Amanda to discuss it with. Soonce we you know, roll around in
our muck and our wallow, howwe pick ourselves back up. It was
like, yeah, did you seethat piece on I just want to know
what's happening in Monestito, that's all. And then we don't use it.
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We don't use the audihio because we'rescared to get run off the Internet.
But they're just genuine questions. They'rejust questions. Yeah. Well, one
time we did that whole sad conversationfor forty five sixty minutes and then spend
a good forty five talking about ourfascination with azempic and how we would love
to talk about the phenomenon of azempic, but we feel that we cannot without
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getting into trouble. So there wasanother one just goodbye, and like and
when we say getting into trouble,what we mean by that is like this,
none of this is meant to becontroversial. None of this is meant
to like veer off into body shaming. None of this is meant to um
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paint anybody in a specific light.Like Amanda specifically cannot talk about Meg and
Markle without somebody calling her racist,and I will be the first person to
say she is not. She's not. She's asked the same questions. I
am and I'm black as fuck.So Um, when we decide not to
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put something out because it veers offinto even the most remote idea of controversy,
I don't do it because I wantto protect us. And I don't
do it because this is not thatkind of show. And I don't want
somebody out there listening to be like, well, if they said that,
then they feel bad about me too. We're not, that's none of that
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is happening. We want this tobe fucking a good time, safe space
of reflective time, whatever. Andsome things that we could talk about off
the air do not work on theair. So yeah, every now and
again, you know, an episodeis twenty four hours late and in this
case, eleven days late. However, motherfuckers really did die. Um yeah
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yeah, the dog you really,you really had no voice. We we
tried to record when she sounded likeSpongeBob on TikTok I that tutorial. It
was horrible. Every it was itwas still horrible. But yeah, it's
still bad. Here we are,but you do feel better. I finally
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went to UM. So it startedin DC. Yeah. Oh, remember
we had that great episode about mytrip to Washington, DC and how I
went to the Holocaust Museum and howI went to the African American Museum of
Historian Culture, and then I washacking all the way through and then halfway
through the audio was gone because myaudacity was broken. So we've tried really
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hard. We've tried. Oh gosh, have we tried. I told I've
told my my whole family though aboutyour trip to DC, specifically UM,
the lady over the street gate.We've talked about that. I have talked
to UM. What did Chris andI talked about? Oh, I've talked.
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I've talked to Chris endlessly about ZilaZeine and then brought it up with
Quinn the other day. So therewere lots of little gems that came out
of that conversation. But thanks toaudacity, they're they're never more. Goodbye.
Then this is me feeling good covidUm, I dude, they tested
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me twice. No, I know, I know, but anytime I used
to cough in the past, you'dsay that to me. It is though
I told you that it is.I think it's COVID that can't be to
Texas special brand. I think thatI just have long COVID period. Okay,
so you went to DC, youthought you were having allergies. You
came home and you were sick asa dog. Well, I was having
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allergies because when I took when Iwould take the zero tech in DC,
it worked. Oh okay, Rightthen I came home and I was still
coughing. But then the cough wasreally bad only overnight. So because I
have perimenopause, I was like,this is parimanopause. Coughing and parimanopause.
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I looked it up. It wasright there. But then I just kept
coughing all night overnight, to whereJustin was like, you're sleeping on the
couch, bitch. So it's soannoying when you have to sleep with the
coffer. Dude. My kids werelike mom for real though, like I
almost they almost set me up ina tent outside. That's how bad I've
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been coughing, really bad. Andthen you know I was rounding out at
day eleven, day twelve, Ihave now not slept in like six days,
just coughing overnight, coughing overnight witha sore throat every day. I
finally went to urgent care. Theyput me on all the drugs and it
didn't help. But I never hada fever. I just felt tired.
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But I was tired because I wasn'tsleeping my abs though. Baby. So
I went back yesterday and I waslike, look, I was up in
here on Friday. I probably paidyou out fifty five dollars. I really
don't want to pay fifty five dollarsagain, but I will if you will,
please write me a prescription for anantibiotic, because I don't think this
is going to go away. Ithink that I told him, I think
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that it's bacterial bronchitis, which cameon because of the other thing that I
was fighting. Yeah, so I'mon day three or on the third dose
of a antibiotic, and I'm feelingbetter. I'm still coffee and gross,
but feeling better. I feel likesometimes when you have a cough, like
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coughs just tend to hang around forlike way too long, like way too
long. And then also because we'rein a time where we've experienced a pandemic
and the first symptom of the originalcoronavirus, remember it was coughing. So
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anybody that coughs you are like,now you got to get out of here.
Oh yes, yeah. So likeI'm like, not only am I
physically tired from all of the coughing, I'm mortified every time I have to
cough. You know, it's normalbodily function. And I'm like, oh
god, please don't judge me.Yeah, not COVID is not COVID,
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guys, don't worry. It's notCOVID. Dude. At one point,
I just put sunglasses on sunglasses andthen like had to fucking my face in
a turtleneck and I was like,I am so sorry. I am so
sorry. But yeah, I kindof like I like my new little froggy
boys. It's kind of sexy.Oh my god, why don't you go
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ahead and like, yes, yes, I do, I know exactly,
Yep, go for it. Iwant me to do like a quiet storm,
do do eating insects? Due Welcomeback to this episode of im Strangers,
where we are here to rock yourfucking socks off. Wow. Um,
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you just asked me to be sexyimpromptu and I literally could not rock
your fucking socks off. What areyou talking about? Um? That's hysterical.
But um again, not for lackof trying. Other than that,
how you been, Oh, howeverbeen? It's same as usual? Um
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good I am. I thought Ifelt like I had something to tell you,
and now I can't remember what itwas that I was going to tell
you. Oh well, COVID,not COVID. I've tried. I've tried
every day this week to Soft seventyfive my way into the new year,
and every day I failed. Ican't even do the soft one today,
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though today I'm gonna make it.I just have to go upstairs and read
ten pages of my book and thenI will be officially day one done of
Soft seventy five. You have totell everybody what soft seventy five is,
because I think that was also someaudiences, right, we didn't release that
was lost. So Melissa and Ihad been talking in one of the lost
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episodes about this thing called Soft seventyfive. So you may have heard of
this other thing called seventy five hard, which is like really one foot in
the door towards an eating disorder,if you ask me. But there's all
of these rules. You have towork out twice a day. One of
those workouts has to be outside.You gotta eat super clean, no cheat
meals, no alcohol. You gotto read ten pages of a self help
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or like nonfiction book per day.It's very strict and doesn't sound like fun.
So this other one is very gentle, and I thought very doable until
I got into it and then Iwas like, wow, I'm really bad
about prioritizing this. So seventy fivesoft are you still going to try it?
Or you just like no, I'mdone. No, I'm actually tomorrow
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is going to be my first dayback at Orange Theory in like ten days.
So fantastic. Okay, So ifyou want to follow along, we
have a little thing going in thediscord for our Patreon members, so they
have already started twittering about that inthe discord. But the rules are you
have to exercise six days a week. That can be anything. So when
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I say exercise, I just meanmove your body for like ten minutes or
more. Take a walk, goto the gym, lift, take a
class, whatever, just move yourbody. The second part is they say
eat well, I think that that'stoo vague, so I changed it to
eat nutrient dense foods because there's roomfor everything in your diet, but let's
prioritize the nutrient dense ones. Youhave to drink three liters of water a
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day. You have to read tenpages of a book, can be any
book. I chose fairy smut formy seventy five days, of course,
and you have to what was theother one? Oh, you can drink
alcohol, but it can only besocially. And I think that's it.
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So he's peasy. What about weed? Oh there's always room for weed.
Wet is from the earth. Okay, cool, I think I can do
seventy five, so off, Ithink I can manage that. Yeah.
Wait, you said six days aweek, six days a week. So
let's say if you go to Orangetheory four days a week, then the
other two maybe just take like alittle walk, or you do little yoga
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on your computer or TV or Idon't do you just like do something in
your house. I don't know.Now, how are we um logging our
results? Oh? You know what? Are we just documenting and saying we
did it? I think we're justyeah, I think we're just taking people's
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word for it. It looks like, according to the discord, the last
time I checked in, everybody waskind of starting at different times. Um
so. Oh the other thing isis if you miss so when I said
I tried to start on Monday,but I kept messing up. If you
miss a day, so like let'ssay that you didn't do your ten pages
of reading, then you have togo back to the beginning and start over
again. So there's really like incentiveto stick with it so that you don't
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have to keep starting over. UmSo I think we could just like maybe
we just like check in weekly,like okay, okay, um I've tomorrow
is going to be my first dayback at the gym. I think that
I went one time actually in thein the in the two week vortex of
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illness, and yeah, I wasso nervous to cough. I didn't cough.
It was a forty five minute weightlifting class. I was so nervous
to cough though, like my corewas engaged, bitch, but clenched the
girl I left out of there,So I was like, why am I
so tired? And I never geta lot of splat points on a working
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out class, you know, likegetting right up because I'm really like doing
my motions really slow because they stayedYour form matter. Your form is more
important than you know, the repetitionpart, like really working hard on my
form, but because I'm so scaredto cough, my butt, cheeks are
all clenched, my stomach is heldtight, and I'm just like and I
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like, it's a forty five minuteclass. I have like twenty eight flat
points. I was in them withmy heartbreaks up. Oh no, and
I was like, I don't thinkI'm ready to come back. I don't
think I feel good enough. Andat that point, the zorotec was working,
so I was like also, Butthen I had like I was in
my head about am I going toget everybody sick? Whatever? But at
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this point, you know what,nobody cares. Somebody got me sick.
Yeah, you know what I'm saying. I mean, I do feel kind
of bad, but what's crazy.I've been coughing on all of my children.
I've been baring their foods. I'vebeen you know, helping them with
homework. I've been doing all thisshit. Nobody in my house is sick.
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How help me understand why I ampatient zero? That always feels like
the most unfair. I mean,not like you want to get everybody else
sick, but how are they sosuperior to you in their immune systems.
What happened, Well, I'll tellyou why they're not going through perimenopause.
Seriously, does that lower your immunesystem? Yes? And your self esteem.
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I don't know when we made perimenopauseDiscord channel, Like that channel is
fucking lit all hours of the night. All go in there and there's so
much discussion, like we all haveit. I don't know. I apologize
right now if you're like a dudelistening to this and you don't have these
problems, but like everybody else thatlistens to this podcast is experiencing perimenopause,
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and I just want to say thankyou. This has become like one of
my favorite channels to go to inthe middle of the night because every problem
that I have, somebody in thediscord also has it. Everything makes you
feel just a little less alone.Itching all over, random headaches, sore
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throats, insomnia, Oh my god, my insomnia is through the roof,
which is why I was able todo all of that research on Zila zine.
So now you are a wealth ofknowledge on zila'sne I didn't even get
that's also in a last episode,so I'll just tell that story now again.
Okay, while we were in DCwalking over to where we were going
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to have breakfast before the Holocaust Museum. Um, we were walking, walking,
walking, and I noticed this womanhad your pants around her ankles standing
over a grate and the grate waslike pushing up warm air. So I
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guess she was just standing over thatgrate to get warm because it wasn't a
chilly morning. But then I sawa whole doodo nugget come out of her
butt, and I was like,well, what the fuck? And I
thought I was crazy having experienced youin a city. I'm just imagining your
your face, your body language inthat moment. But also like, nobody
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expects to see a woman pooping intoa street grate at eight o'clock in the
morning, in the middle of publicwhile standing so I go, oh,
oh my god, like I reacted, and so all of my family stopped
an hour staring at me, andI'm I'm I'm literally speechless. I'm just
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I'm just looking at this lady deadin her butt, and my whole family's
staring at me, and they're like, what Mom, Mom, Melissa,
Babe, are Melissa? And becauseI'm so paralyzed, I don't say anything.
Suddenly everybody turns around and now theysee what I see, and they're
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like, oh, so I go, okay, girls, let's let's cross
the street over here. Yeah.So we crossed the street, and now
me and Justin are looking at eachother because it's kind of like this is
like this is when parenting is hard. Do you address it? Do you
just pretend like nobody saw it andit didn't happen, and we're just gonna
go on with our day, right, like did you y'all see? And
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I also also am a human andwant to go, did y'all see the
dudo nugget dog? Because I justsaw it? But it's also not funny
and I don't want my kids laughing, you know what I mean? So
there was a lot Yeah, butI mean there's also that that nervous did
you know what I mean? Likethat nervous energy of like did I just
see what I thought I saw?Like that, There's there's a lot of
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layers to it, you know.Correct. I also was like, am
I fucked up for crossing the street? Should I have just acted like that
was not really happening and gone onabout my business? Yeah, there was
a lot going on, and soa lot of a part of me felt
like, am I disrespecting this personby not crossing the street, or am
I being judgmental by crossing the street? Like there was a lot so and
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I also have my kids, Yeah, you have your kids. It can
be in that moment you're like,okay, You're trying to assess the situation.
So like if somebody is is outof there, you know, um
right, mind enough to be poopingin the middle of the street, who
knows what might happen when you walkby. And sometimes those conversations like we
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were on the subway this winter andthis guy I was like shouting about killing
people, and it was really likeupsetting in the moment to be in a
closed train car with somebody that's,you know, clearly having a mental break,
but then having to then like sitdown with the kids afterwards because they're
scared, and then explain the situation. So you just you don't know,
right what the right thing to dois, like correct. So Justin and
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I are now looking at each othertrying to figure out like how we're gonna
address this. Yeah, because Idon't want to demonize homelessness. I don't
I don't want to demonize mental health, oh, because it had to be
one or the other, because Ihaven't never seen nobody taking shit in the
street like that. So Justin andI we're, you know, we're talking
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with the kids, and I couldsee that Maja has a lot of questions
and Shalom is just like and sheis bless her little heart, she little,
she a little statue, and likeher eyebrows are just like glued to
the top of her forehead. Waslike, the fuck. So I was
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just like, you know, sometimespeople are in situations where they can't get
to a bathroom or whatever, orsometimes people, you know, their brains
are different. And maybe she didn'tknow that that's what was happening, or
maybe she has become unaware of hersurroundings. And so we're like, we're
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trying to explain how, you know, life puts you in different places,
whether it's by circumstance, whether it'sby bad choices, whether it's whatever it
may be. Yeah, that happened, and we are going to go on
about our business. So anyway,I then got into a vortex because I
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was wanting to understand the level ofhomelessness and the things that I saw while
I was in DC, and thatled me to reading up on the homelessness
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and drug issues happening in primarily Philadelphia, San Francisco, New York, DC,
etc. And you know, youclick on one article, the next
article, the next article, thenext article, because I like to try
to figure out, like how didthis come to be? How did this
happen? How are we fixing it? Like where did society fail these people?
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Yeah, and where does that meetpersonal responsibility and all that shit?
You know me, I'll be tryingto get information and I came across zylazine
and I was like, Yo,this is wild. And then I told
you about zilazine, so now youknow all about zilazine. Anyway, Zylazine
is a new drug on the street. It's a it's a tranquilizer tranquilizer so
(35:00):
they call it trank tr and Qand it Narcan does not work on it,
and it just fucking zones you thefuck out. So like you'll see
people bent over at the waist andlike swaying a little bit. They're completely
totally out of it. But it'snot a ky hole. They're just like
(35:20):
zombies. Anyway, That's what's onthe streets, and I don't know how
I ended up in that place justfrom that lady Dudu in Integrate, but
I did. And well it's afterwe talked about it the last time,
I did go onto the reddit threadsand start to look and I found the
documentary that you were telling me aboutwhere the Gentleman was just like either need
(35:42):
to die or be locked up injail because there's absolutely no way around this.
It's so scary. I like harddrugs like that. I think ever
since I was a little kid,Like I feel like when you were in
elementary school or middle school and theyhad Dare come in, they made you
feel like you were going to beoffered like hard drugs at every turn,
(36:02):
anytime you went to a party asa teenage or someone to be like,
hey, you want to do someheroine. So it's always been something that's
been very scary to me because thethought of like getting high that first time
and then automatically being addicted to someof these things just is terrifying. And
then to then have this, youknow, things like fentanel mixed into drugs
(36:27):
and that shit out of Australia,that crocodile that eats your skin, and
now this this also eats your skin. Yeah, it just is it's so
depressing, and it's so sad thecycles that that folks get stuck in,
and and all of these things thatare you know, being designed and developed,
(36:50):
you know, to either make thehigh you know better or longer or
you know, it's just it's soscary. Urry. Well, what's really
like scary about it is when Iwas watching that documentary, it was like
half the people in there had nointention of doing trank. Yeah, like
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the ship was their ship that theynormally do was cut with it, and
then their brain becomes wired to needthat shit. It doesn't even they were
like, doesn't even feel good.Yeah, it just makes their body sleep.
And I guess when they're in astate of sleep, they don't have
(37:35):
to feel the things that made themdo drugs anyway. So like, yeah,
I can't knock get my sleeping ismy preferred method of avoiding my right
right. And I feel bad becauseand like I try to have these conversations
with Justin, but he's he isjust a very He has no gray area,
(38:06):
he has no he has a veryblack and white way of thinking,
and he has chosen to not dodrugs and has chosen to not drink alcohol,
and like he took that oath tobe straight edge as like a thirteen
year old kid, and like thirtyyears later he's still straight edge. So
like, yeah, he can understandwhy people get involved in doing drugs.
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He can't. He can't understand thechoice to continue. So like when I'm
like, well, it's a brainwiring and addiction is a disease, and
like I'll be trying to explain,He's like, I know, but like
at some point you got to belike, yo, this fucking sucks.
I'm like I know, but noteverybody gets to that point. And also
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it's a brain wiring, like itis. It alters your chemistry, it's
the same, you know, it'sum it's one of those things where you
you permanently, once you're hooked,you're forever an addict. And so you
know, there's there's never going tobe a time once you know, if
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you decide to get sober, thatyou're not going to be constantly fighting that
or you know, transferring your addictiononto something else. So I think,
you know, there may be somecases where people can just you know quit
hard drugs called turkey, but thatis not that is not the norm,
and it's it's incredibly sad. We'vehad experience it with with it in our
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family, and oh well it's incrediblysad to watch somebody just when you have
it in your family up close.The centigrade. Yeah, you have a
different level of empathy about that shitbecause you're like, no, I knew
this person before or their brain waswired this way. Yeah, this person
(40:04):
would never steal, This person wouldnever lie. The person that is on
the drugs would do that shit.And like it's very hard to like separate
that before drugs person and the afterdrugs person because you could only experience so
many disappointments with their choices so worndown. Yep, you have to at
(40:30):
some point learn to love from afar. Yeah, So like he doesn't have
he doesn't have, like I'm gonnasay, I'm gonna say, justin back,
I think I'm gonna say, everybodyin his family is this a wholesome
ass good person? Not? Don'tnobody got a record? That's incredible.
(40:53):
It's incredible that, I mean,who everybody's got at least one, two,
three, four, five or six. Yeah, then he married me
um let the ref raff in.I mean, listen, I have to
(41:16):
say that, like I understand that, you know, some people don't think
that it is a disease, andsome people don't think that there is a
predisposition, but there really is.So you know, like I know that
I can't fuck around, you knowwhat I'm saying, Like I joke a
little thing, like I really likethat protrazine. Girl, there will be
(41:40):
a three quarters full bottle of promethezine in this house until twenty twenty eight
because I'd be so scared to likedrink that shit even if off comes back,
because I know, yeah, Ican't just start liking stuff. You
have to. I mean, Iremember a few years ago, one of
the questions when I was taking mykids in for a well visit. You
know, one of the questions isis they ask about a family history of
(42:02):
addiction, and I, you know, put down the information that I had,
and my pediatrician just said, thisis great. She said, you
know what, we just watch.We just watch to see if the kids
have any traits that show that theymight have an addictive personality, and then
you learn how to, you know, to to coach them through that and
to to help them to be,you know, hopefully in a good place
(42:23):
where they don't get into trouble becauseof that. So it's you can come
at it from different ways, buta lot of it I feel like it
had there's either something that happens toyou that that rewires your brain and then
you get into that or you youyou start using and then obviously you know
(42:45):
it messes with you know the waythat you get your what your dopamine like,
you start to get those hits ofdopamine and you just our bodies crave.
It's the same for food or foranything else that we're addicted to.
Yes, I also think that youeither go so far in one direction or
(43:14):
so far in the other. Youever read the book Adult Children of Alcoholics,
and it lays out all the waysin which you behave that are a
(43:35):
byproduct of the environment you were in. So you will either also become an
alcoholic or you will be an overachieverand be so careful around that ship that
you just could never become an alcoholic. It's always there and you're scared of
it. You're so scared of itthat you know to be careful. It
(44:00):
shapes your personality, so like whetheror not you're a secretive person, whether
or not you're a protect perfectionist,all that stuff. So I know about
me, you know, Like ifI want to handle my business, then
I have to a lot certain timesfor when I can do social drinking or
(44:23):
whatever. Like I don't keep alcoholin my house for like just to have,
Like I don't have a bar card, you know what I mean.
Yeah, I don't even want thatshit. I don't want to. I
don't want a drink. I wouldlike to if I'm around other people and
we're having a drink, but Idon't just be up in here drinking,
(44:43):
you know. Yeah, but somepeople do when some people can. But
I just don't have it because Iknow what I think is yeah, because
you know, as long as youknow, can you take the step to
monitor your behavior, you know,just like with with the kids, you
just you keep an eye out andaddress it if it needs to be addressed.
(45:09):
But that whole xylazine thing, manis, it's scary. It's scary
to see to see those to seethose videos and people, you know,
people just like flesh, the oh, just the rotting flesh. I mean
there was one where it was justthere must have been twenty people on this
(45:31):
block. It's somewhere passed out withyou know, lit cigarettes in their hands,
others passed out with needles in theirarms. It just is so fucking
sad. It was terrible. ButI'm gonna tell you something that read it
if you if there's something you manread it is like a is like a
(45:54):
search engine if there's something you wantto know about and you want to take
a deep dive. Reddit. Ifollow more in love with it every day,
Like I want to master Reddit?How I master Twitter? One day
(46:16):
I'm going to be bold enough tomake a comment. Well, you don't
make any comments at all, I'mscared. I was. For a while,
I was just a lurker, andthen more recently I've started making commentary.
Oh you'll be in there, likeactually maybe, like what do you
(46:37):
like? Are you just be chiming? Are you talking to people? Like?
Are you meeting people? No?I haven't made any friends yet,
but I'm trying to think of what. Well, let's see what did I
comment on earlier? Oh, solike you're you have karma and all that
(47:01):
shit? Yeah I have. Um, oh, there was a there was
something that I said the other dayand I got I got up votes.
Oh somehow I landed into a subthread called handbags and someone posted this adorable
(47:22):
little wallet and they were like,this was so expensive and I love it
so much, but I'm afraid tocarry it. And I said, anytime
I feel nervous to use my nicethings, I always think of Mary Kate
Olsen and her busted ass berkin inthat comment got me eighty two of votes,
(47:43):
so it does feel a little good. Um So what happens the more
up votes you get, the morekarma you get. I don't know,
but I also I just see it. Somebody made a flare called busted ass
Birkin, so I even created flare. Okay, so some Reddit threads have
(48:05):
things called flare, and if youhit the three dots at the top of
the thread, you can choose yourflare. And usually, like if it's
a blog snark, it might besome of the things that they say about
the people that make the blog,but you can you can add a specific
little like tagline or little inside joketo your profile name, so then every
time you post, that little thingpops up. So like the girl that
(48:28):
commented below me that said, canI have this for my flare now.
It says her user name, andthen below it it says busted as Bergen.
So it's like your status, notyour status, it's like your bio.
It's just like a little like likeactual flare like office space, like
it's like your little pin. See. I'm I'm scared to post like I
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have been lurking now for a longtime. I posted in the glass Jaw
reddit like you years ago one timesomeone asked a question about Justin Becks drum
kid or something, and I waslike, actually, it's this and that,
and I was like, oh shit. And then the next thing you
know, I'm talking to a bunchof glass jop fans about about Justin's Becky
(49:15):
drum kit and how it is andhow how a really fucking awesome wife.
But thanks to God we had cowBell. Yeah totally. But I was
like, um, I should notbe posting on here and everybody knows I'm
me. That's kind of dumb.So I was like, why don't I
(49:37):
just lurk? So I just lurking? Well, are you gonna have like
a an ambiguous or not ambiguous Youneed to have like a good handle,
like you couldn't be Beck's wife.Yeah, that was my handle, Like
a dumb ass, I don't evenknow what my handle is now. It
(50:00):
could be like biracial butterfly. Butnobody gave me. They just gave me
a lurking handle, like you didn'thave to pick a name. No,
it just said I don't know whatthe fuck it is. Oh, but
I don't be talking on now.Yeah, I'm scared, Like what if
I die and somebody needs to goin my computer to find out like my
(50:25):
last bank transactions or whatever, orwhat if I go missing and somebody needs
to do that shit like the investigationon my computer, and it'll be like,
this fucking bitch is so weird.I really do think about that.
But okay, so you go missing, your phone is left behind and they
unlock it. What is the mostembarrassing thing they're going to find on your
(50:47):
cell phone? Oh? God,well, are you thinking or did this
cut out? No? I'm Idon't have to think. I know what
the most embarsting. Let's abill goright into the history and be like,
(51:14):
really seventeen videos of that. Butyou know how I feel about South American
pedietry. So it's like they arejust such experts in their field and there's
(51:37):
no blood and I'm just fascinated byit. And you know you people like
your pop, your your your pimplesand your and your earwax. That's not
even where the fucking good shit is. The good ship is in South American
pedietry. I don't even understand thewords these people are saying. Um,
but it's just very relaxing. It'slike getting a pedicure, which is gross.
(52:02):
Do you think I have a footfetish? You know, I hate
feet, though, I mean gettingyour fascination with feet with teeth? You
really might. You might be ontosomething there, actually, you know,
(52:24):
I just think it's like, whatdo you watch to relax at night?
Like, what if you had tojust kick up something on YouTube? Oh,
it's always Dateline or twenty twenty.I do that when I drive.
I just I just realized I will. I'm the weirdo that will watch the
(52:46):
show, listen to the podcast,and then listen to the recap podcast all
on the same episode. Okay,see, you got me doing that shit.
So now in the mornings, Idon't know what the fuck's happening in
the mornings, I'll listen to anepisode of twenty twenty, or I'll listen
to an episode of Dateline and yeah, I'll come home and fire it up
(53:07):
and have it and watch it becauseI want to see what the people look
like. Correct. And I justcan't believe Nick Fergus got away with murdering
Heidi for so long we lay therewas no intruder. The last one I
watched, this man said that thefirst of all, you should have gotten
(53:30):
the death penalty because he blamed ona black man. Period. Anytime you
blame a crime on a black person, death penalty, I don't care if
you said that a black person juststole a candy cane, death penalty.
Yeah. So this man, theywere like, no kids in their twenties
and you know, he was thehusband of the house. They went to
(53:52):
church. They were just a nicecouple. He he shoot her with the
shotgun? Is this the one inthe Minneapolis Yes, six in the morning,
shot her, But did it insuch a way where he had her
calling nine one one talking about thismode in my house. And he gets
(54:15):
back on the phone, He's like, no, a whole act actor.
Yes, he had me fooled.In the beginning, Chris was like he
did it. The husband did it. The husband did it, and I
was like, no way, dude. I was like, she was on
nine one one in the opening ofthe show telling them that somebody was breaking
in. I was like, howhow could he be the one to shoot
her if she hears somebody breaking in? Because he was the motherfucker in the
(54:37):
mask? I know, so crazy. That was crazy. And he lured
her down to the basement. Yep, why why would you be behind He
lured her down to the basement withher in front of him and him with
the gun behind her. Anyway,got away with it for ten or fifteen
years or however long. M he'sin jail now. So spoiler alert what
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I found Porton and Cocoa Baby,I just listen to that when they have
a day. Golly, that wasdepressing. I felt so bad for her
sister girl. I really thought itwas jitty. I really do be getting
involved, but only recently when yousaid that you would fire it up on
(55:24):
the TV, I'm like, whatdo you need to watch it for?
But yes, there's something about seeit like because I hear it first,
I don't know what anybody looks like. Yeah, and then I watch it
and now I know what everybody lookslike, and I'm like, wow,
wow, Wow. Now the nextlayer of that is that I have been
listening to A Date with Dateline forso long now that i'll listen to the
(55:45):
episode or watch it, and duringthe episode, I'll go, I wonder
what Kimberly and Katie think about that, or I wonder if they're going to
mention that on the show. Sonow there's this whole new layer where I'm
like, you have friends in yourhead. I want to see if they
talk about it when they do theirepisode. Yeah, and then you'll be
in the car by yourself like mmhmmm, same. Yeah, it's really
(56:10):
a sickness. So like I turnedon the Nick Fergus right and now Justin
sits down and I'm telling him everythingthat's about to happen. He's like,
did you already watch this? AndI was like, no, I listened
to it in the car on theway home. He's like, but so
why are we watching it? AndI'm because I didn't know what they look
(56:31):
like. Yeah, And he's like, but you already you know the answer.
I'm like, oh yeah, he'sand he's like, but you're just
watching it? Still, I'm like, yes, yes, of course there's
one. What did I just listento today? Um? The one about
the old man whose wife shot him? Um, he was a widower.
(56:54):
What was his name? Last girl? I'm I'm don't tell the ending.
I'm still there. I need towatch it because now I want to see
what Miriam looks like. I wantto see what Alan looks like. Well,
first of all, I'm only thirtyminutes in. But guess what Miriam
I knew from the beginning. Thosevoicemails sound so fake? Love you?
(57:15):
Hey, this is not like you. I was like, I fake,
she did it? Gold digging assbitch? Um, well, I don't
mind a gold digger. But yeah, no, you know what, though,
I remember her my philosophy on golddigging, There's no such thing as
(57:40):
a gold digger. There's only adumb ass man. You know what I'm
saying, Like, if you arestupid enough to follow by the ship,
then that's your dumbass as she deservesevery coin. Okay, I thought we
weren't talking about Megan Markel anymore.And with that, well, the funny
(58:05):
thing about that is, I dothink that he probably really did live modestly
and when she saw Frog more Cardas. Because I saw Frog more Carders,
I was like, what And ifIkea does, ain't no castle, And
I gotta be honest, I'd havebeen disappointed too. You mean to tell
me I've been scheming on this motherfuckingman since eighth grade. Helloa out there
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I actually genuinely feel horrible when we'relate with the show. I do,
yeah, I do too, ButI also know that you know, motherfuckers
are dying. Okay, girl,People are dying, Kim. People are
(00:47):
dying, Kim. Actually people are. But I do genuinely feel bad and
so um not to lay out abunch of excuses, but I just want
to. I just want to explainhow life has been laughing for both of
us. And I feel like it'seither one of us is going through some
(01:08):
shit and the other one is gungho and ready to go and ye,
or both of us are going throughsome shit and it'll be like fuck.
And then I find the need toapologize to you when I'm like, I
know I owe you this and you'relike, no, it's not even that,
Or when I text you about somethingnot completely different, you'll be like,
oh, yeah, i'll send youthat file this day. I'm like,
(01:30):
I wasn't even saying that shit.So like there is a built in
guilt when the work isn't done.Okay, So let me just let me
share our text exchange that happened thisweekend when I texted you, and this
was a genuine check in how areyou feeling, Melissa, Because you've been
sick for a fortnight? How areyou feeling? But your response to me
(01:53):
was not a second a real fortnightthough she's not just saying that word real
fucking fortnite voice, not coming outof her actual laryngitis four score and seven
years ago. This bitch has beensick, sick as a dog. She's
been mixing codeine and sprite on thedoctor's orders for real. Actually, which,
(02:16):
by the way, can we juststop and have a moment to talk
about sisson because I don't think you'resupposed to like it. You do wowsers.
I was like, dude, Ifeel wavy kind of. I don't
know how people function at the function. Your next stop is zylazine if they're
(02:39):
I mean, I feel like I'mgetting into drugs, which is terrible.
But like I took Allegri dy use, a mix dm advil promethezine, and
I was luting on a move book. Then I ate a gummy and I
was like, Yo, everything feelsfucking awesome, even though I feel like
(03:01):
dogshit, so continue. My textmessage said, dude, I know I
owe you those edits, and Iwas like, I'm not even texting to
find out where shit is. Atthis point, it is what it is
(03:22):
like. I've been reflecting today.I've been reflecting on the fact that tomorrow
is the Imperfect Stranger's official start ofthe new year for twenty twenty three.
Honestly, over the last four weeks, maybe since January first, twenty twenty
three, I have been feeling likeI do not want to participate this year.
(03:46):
I am not interested. I've seenthe preview over the last four months.
I do not want to subscribe tothis channel. I just let's be
fast forward. I'm not still watching. Take me to twenty twenty four,
right, Yeah, you've had arough go, which is part of the
reason why we were like, yeah, it doesn't start till twenty and you
(04:12):
know that could change too, becausewhat if it still sucks after four twenty.
Well, I have a day tomorrow. I only work until noon.
My plan is to come home.I have a special brand of weed that
I want to go pick up atthe dispensary, all special for tomorrow.
My favorite pizza, my favorite seasonalpizza, is available at Dewey's right now.
(04:34):
So my plan is to just behome all day, be high as
fuck. And then eat a lotof pizza when Chris comes home, and
you deserve. Fridays are my selfcare day because even though the business has
(04:56):
changed hands, you still have alot of existing clients with pre existing orders
that we needed to fill. Andthere have been staff changes. And when
I say staff changes, I meanit's five of us looking at each other
like, let's get these things doneright. It's really the last of us.
(05:20):
Yeah it is. You've been killingit like we are. We're a
close knit, tight team. Butpart of that means, you know,
what used to be sitting in frontof your computer all day is now sitting
in front of your computer sometimes.But also I'm on my feet and I'm
doing physical labor, bagging, tagging, boxing, and I'm cool with it.
(05:41):
You know. I've always been ateam player, and I'm down with
physical labor. I'm getting my stepsand I feel good about it. But
it's a lot of work to bea factory worker and then to come home
and cook your kids food and theneverything else, Like I don't return phone
calls, I don't have outfits.Honestly, every day that I get home
(06:03):
and I eat something with protein init, and I shower and do my
skincare is a successful day. Yeah. Period. So Fridays have been my
self care day. So I domy work in the morning and then I
scheduled, I bought a package andI get a massage. Do I have
(06:29):
moved Hebrew school in the past twoweeks, I've moved Hebrew School to Saturday
mornings instead of Friday evenings. Yeah, I am getting a massage every Friday,
and I don't feel bad about it. I'm jealous. You shouldn't feel
bad about it. Shit, you'reon concrete floor for a million hours a
day, probably squatting, bending over, picking stuff up, putting it in.
Totally, you deserve squatting, bendingover, picking stuff up, putting
(06:54):
it in. My God, thishas just gotten ex Friday is my self
care day. I'm so excited foryour self care day. Um. But
most importantly, I am happy tobe back here doing a little podcasting because
(07:15):
it wasn't abrupt, little many hiatus, but welcome back, welcome back.
Well, the other part was itwasn't for lack of trying. We sat
down record four times, and inthose four times I either had no voice
or I was coughing all over thetrack. You had just gotten out of
therapy and dash it ramp sad trombone. She said, ah uh, you
(07:42):
know, we had a friend justdie. It was awful, but it
was like he was celebrated and itwas wonderful. That part was wonderful.
My dad got bad news again.My you know, it's just been a
lot of shit. And I thinkthe other thing that I've been reflecting on
is when it comes to and thismight get a little meta, but bear
(08:05):
with me, when it comes tothe making of this podcast, we are
so we are so particular, firstof all, and what goes out.
If it's not good, it doesn'tgo out. And I think that that's
a gift. I am sparing you. Nobody wants to hear a dud of
(08:26):
a fucking episode. Nobody wants tohear two depressed bitches sitting on I mean
that the last three four times thatwe've tried to record it has been just
sad. And I think that that'sthe second part of this is that at
the core we've become two friends thatsometimes we can't get to the making of
the episode until we've had a chanceto actually talk about some of the things
(08:52):
that are going on. And thenwhen you have a show that is personality
based and based really on you know, We're not reading fucking you know,
true crime stories, We're not doingrecaps of a TV show. We are
having to generate brand new, hourplus long conversations every single week. And
if you feel like absolute dogshit becauseyour friend is dead, because you're fucking
(09:16):
depressed, because your dad is sick, because your dog died, because the
world is fucking on fire, nobodywould want to listen to those four fucking
episodes anyways, because they are downrightdepressed. Why dog for real? It's
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really been a bonus and harmonies off. I'm glad your heads are falling off.
I'm glad that you've been reflecting becauseI felt that way too. But
then at the same time, Ifeel an intense responsibility, yeah, to
like show up, because if it'sone thing that I I do, if
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it's one thing Melissa Beck does,if it's one thing Justin Beck does,
it's that we show the fuck up. We show the fuck up. And
um, it's hard when you can't. It's hard when you physically can't,
it's hard when you emotionally can't.UM, but we still tried. We
still tried. And then I wantto say this too, Yeah, go
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for it. The other part isthe other part is this is not a
podcast about Megan Markel, So youknow what I like, Noah, I
almost texted you this afternoon. Itwas like, no matter what, we
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can't talk about Megan markele no andlike we have to put something out and
I feel and I feel like sometimes, you know, we'll start having a
conversation about life stuff, regular lifestuff, like I'm so sorry that you
got bad news about your dad,Melissa. I'm so sorry that your long
time friend and like long Island hardcorelegend died and you had to experience that
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at the same time that the companywas experiencing a shift. I'm so sorry
about all of these big feelings.We will do that dead serious for forty
five fifty five sixty five minutes thefucking ticker is running, and then it'll
be like, but you go missthe coronation for the baby though, And
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it's a genuine question. And thething is, like, it's so hard
too, because nobody, not onlywe care about that, you know what
I mean, nobody cares. Standnobody cares or was it Kyle. It's
seriously, it's driving me crazy.I'm sick of hearing about them, but
I can't get away from them veryeverywhere in my face. But Kyle,
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we just kind of don't care aboutsome dumb prints and his stupid wife.
Yeah, nobody cares Kyle. No, Justin Becket said to me, Babe,
no one cares, and you're allI have follows. Yeah, you
know what I mean. It's likewhen you're the only one that watches a
really shitty television show, like youhave to talk to somebody about it.
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You have to, and it's notthat And listen, I don't want to
talk about it just because motherfuckers getran the fuck off the internet. She
has somehow reached them beyondce a levelof protection where you can't say that you
can't even ask a question. Ijust asked a question. I just asked
a question. First of all,um, I'm rooting for all by Raciel
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everything, period period. Everybody knowsI love it by Rachel, I fucking
even openly like Drake. You knowwhat I'm saying, Like, I just
have questions. Yeah, about logistics. We all do on a very nuanced
topic of conversation that nobody cares about. That's all. And I only have
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Amanda to discuss it with. Soonce we you know, roll around in
our muck and our wallow, howwe pick ourselves back up. It was
like, yeah, did you seethat piece on I just want to know
what's happening in Monestito, that's all. And then we don't use it.
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We don't use the audihio because we'rescared to get run off the Internet.
But they're just genuine questions. They'rejust questions. Yeah. Well, one
time we did that whole sad conversationfor forty five sixty minutes and then spend
a good forty five talking about ourfascination with azempic and how we would love
to talk about the phenomenon of azempic, but we feel that we cannot without
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getting into trouble. So there wasanother one just goodbye, and like and
when we say getting into trouble,what we mean by that is like this,
none of this is meant to becontroversial. None of this is meant
to like veer off into body shaming. None of this is meant to um
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paint anybody in a specific light.Like Amanda specifically cannot talk about Meg and
Markle without somebody calling her racist,and I will be the first person to
say she is not. She's not. She's asked the same questions. I
am and I'm black as fuck.So Um, when we decide not to
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put something out because it veers offinto even the most remote idea of controversy,
I don't do it because I wantto protect us. And I don't
do it because this is not thatkind of show. And I don't want
somebody out there listening to be like, well, if they said that,
then they feel bad about me too. We're not, that's none of that
(14:54):
is happening. We want this tobe fucking a good time, safe space
of reflective time, whatever. Andsome things that we could talk about off
the air do not work on theair. So yeah, every now and
again, you know, an episodeis twenty four hours late and in this
case, eleven days late. However, motherfuckers really did die. Um yeah
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yeah, the dog you really,you really had no voice. We we
tried to record when she sounded likeSpongeBob on TikTok I that tutorial. It
was horrible. Every it was itwas still horrible. But yeah, it's
still bad. Here we are,but you do feel better. I finally
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went to UM. So it startedin DC. Yeah. Oh, remember
we had that great episode about mytrip to Washington, DC and how I
went to the Holocaust Museum and howI went to the African American Museum of
Historian Culture, and then I washacking all the way through and then halfway
through the audio was gone because myaudacity was broken. So we've tried really
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hard. We've tried. Oh gosh, have we tried. I told I've
told my my whole family though aboutyour trip to DC, specifically UM,
the lady over the street gate.We've talked about that. I have talked
to UM. What did Chris andI talked about? Oh, I've talked.
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I've talked to Chris endlessly about ZilaZeine and then brought it up with
Quinn the other day. So therewere lots of little gems that came out
of that conversation. But thanks toaudacity, they're they're never more. Goodbye.
Then this is me feeling good covidUm, I dude, they tested
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me twice. No, I know, I know, but anytime I used
to cough in the past, you'dsay that to me. It is though
I told you that it is.I think it's COVID that can't be to
Texas special brand. I think thatI just have long COVID period. Okay,
so you went to DC, youthought you were having allergies. You
came home and you were sick asa dog. Well, I was having
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allergies because when I took when Iwould take the zero tech in DC,
it worked. Oh okay, Rightthen I came home and I was still
coughing. But then the cough wasreally bad only overnight. So because I
have perimenopause, I was like,this is parimanopause. Coughing and parimanopause.
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I looked it up. It wasright there. But then I just kept
coughing all night overnight, to whereJustin was like, you're sleeping on the
couch, bitch. So it's soannoying when you have to sleep with the
coffer. Dude. My kids werelike mom for real though, like I
almost they almost set me up ina tent outside. That's how bad I've
(17:52):
been coughing, really bad. Andthen you know I was rounding out at
day eleven, day twelve, Ihave now not slept in like six days,
just coughing overnight, coughing overnight witha sore throat every day. I
finally went to urgent care. Theyput me on all the drugs and it
didn't help. But I never hada fever. I just felt tired.
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But I was tired because I wasn'tsleeping my abs though. Baby. So
I went back yesterday and I waslike, look, I was up in
here on Friday. I probably paidyou out fifty five dollars. I really
don't want to pay fifty five dollarsagain, but I will if you will,
please write me a prescription for anantibiotic, because I don't think this
is going to go away. Ithink that I told him, I think
(18:37):
that it's bacterial bronchitis, which cameon because of the other thing that I
was fighting. Yeah, so I'mon day three or on the third dose
of a antibiotic, and I'm feelingbetter. I'm still coffee and gross,
but feeling better. I feel likesometimes when you have a cough, like
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coughs just tend to hang around forlike way too long, like way too
long. And then also because we'rein a time where we've experienced a pandemic
and the first symptom of the originalcoronavirus, remember it was coughing. So
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anybody that coughs you are like,now you got to get out of here.
Oh yes, yeah. So likeI'm like, not only am I
physically tired from all of the coughing, I'm mortified every time I have to
cough. You know, it's normalbodily function. And I'm like, oh
god, please don't judge me.Yeah, not COVID is not COVID,
(19:44):
guys, don't worry. It's notCOVID. Dude. At one point,
I just put sunglasses on sunglasses andthen like had to fucking my face in
a turtleneck and I was like,I am so sorry. I am so
sorry. But yeah, I kindof like I like my new little froggy
boys. It's kind of sexy.Oh my god, why don't you go
(20:07):
ahead and like, yes, yes, I do, I know exactly,
Yep, go for it. Iwant me to do like a quiet storm,
do do eating insects? Due Welcomeback to this episode of im Strangers,
where we are here to rock yourfucking socks off. Wow. Um,
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you just asked me to be sexyimpromptu and I literally could not rock
your fucking socks off. What areyou talking about? Um? That's hysterical.
But um again, not for lackof trying. Other than that,
how you been, Oh, howeverbeen? It's same as usual? Um
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good I am. I thought Ifelt like I had something to tell you,
and now I can't remember what itwas that I was going to tell
you. Oh well, COVID,not COVID. I've tried. I've tried
every day this week to Soft seventyfive my way into the new year,
and every day I failed. Ican't even do the soft one today,
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though today I'm gonna make it.I just have to go upstairs and read
ten pages of my book and thenI will be officially day one done of
Soft seventy five. You have totell everybody what soft seventy five is,
because I think that was also someaudiences, right, we didn't release that
was lost. So Melissa and Ihad been talking in one of the lost
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episodes about this thing called Soft seventyfive. So you may have heard of
this other thing called seventy five hard, which is like really one foot in
the door towards an eating disorder,if you ask me. But there's all
of these rules. You have towork out twice a day. One of
those workouts has to be outside.You gotta eat super clean, no cheat
meals, no alcohol. You gotto read ten pages of a self help
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or like nonfiction book per day.It's very strict and doesn't sound like fun.
So this other one is very gentle, and I thought very doable until
I got into it and then Iwas like, wow, I'm really bad
about prioritizing this. So seventy fivesoft are you still going to try it?
Or you just like no, I'mdone. No, I'm actually tomorrow
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is going to be my first dayback at Orange Theory in like ten days.
So fantastic. Okay, So ifyou want to follow along, we
have a little thing going in thediscord for our Patreon members, so they
have already started twittering about that inthe discord. But the rules are you
have to exercise six days a week. That can be anything. So when
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I say exercise, I just meanmove your body for like ten minutes or
more. Take a walk, goto the gym, lift, take a
class, whatever, just move yourbody. The second part is they say
eat well, I think that that'stoo vague, so I changed it to
eat nutrient dense foods because there's roomfor everything in your diet, but let's
prioritize the nutrient dense ones. Youhave to drink three liters of water a
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day. You have to read tenpages of a book, can be any
book. I chose fairy smut formy seventy five days, of course,
and you have to what was theother one? Oh, you can drink
alcohol, but it can only besocially. And I think that's it.
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So he's peasy. What about weed? Oh there's always room for weed.
Wet is from the earth. Okay, cool, I think I can do
seventy five, so off, Ithink I can manage that. Yeah.
Wait, you said six days aweek, six days a week. So
let's say if you go to Orangetheory four days a week, then the
other two maybe just take like alittle walk, or you do little yoga
(24:00):
on your computer or TV or Idon't do you just like do something in
your house. I don't know.Now, how are we um logging our
results? Oh? You know what? Are we just documenting and saying we
did it? I think we're justyeah, I think we're just taking people's
(24:22):
word for it. It looks like, according to the discord, the last
time I checked in, everybody waskind of starting at different times. Um
so. Oh the other thing isis if you miss so when I said
I tried to start on Monday,but I kept messing up. If you
miss a day, so like let'ssay that you didn't do your ten pages
of reading, then you have togo back to the beginning and start over
again. So there's really like incentiveto stick with it so that you don't
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have to keep starting over. UmSo I think we could just like maybe
we just like check in weekly,like okay, okay, um I've tomorrow
is going to be my first dayback at the gym. I think that
I went one time actually in thein the in the two week vortex of
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illness, and yeah, I wasso nervous to cough. I didn't cough.
It was a forty five minute weightlifting class. I was so nervous
to cough though, like my corewas engaged, bitch, but clenched the
girl I left out of there,So I was like, why am I
so tired? And I never geta lot of splat points on a working
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out class, you know, likegetting right up because I'm really like doing
my motions really slow because they stayedYour form matter. Your form is more
important than you know, the repetitionpart, like really working hard on my
form, but because I'm so scaredto cough, my butt, cheeks are
all clenched, my stomach is heldtight, and I'm just like and I
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like, it's a forty five minuteclass. I have like twenty eight flat
points. I was in them withmy heartbreaks up. Oh no, and
I was like, I don't thinkI'm ready to come back. I don't
think I feel good enough. Andat that point, the zorotec was working,
so I was like also, Butthen I had like I was in
my head about am I going toget everybody sick? Whatever? But at
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this point, you know what,nobody cares. Somebody got me sick.
Yeah, you know what I'm saying. I mean, I do feel kind
of bad, but what's crazy.I've been coughing on all of my children.
I've been baring their foods. I'vebeen you know, helping them with
homework. I've been doing all thisshit. Nobody in my house is sick.
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How help me understand why I ampatient zero? That always feels like
the most unfair. I mean,not like you want to get everybody else
sick, but how are they sosuperior to you in their immune systems.
What happened, Well, I'll tellyou why they're not going through perimenopause.
Seriously, does that lower your immunesystem? Yes? And your self esteem.
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I don't know when we made perimenopauseDiscord channel, Like that channel is
fucking lit all hours of the night. All go in there and there's so
much discussion, like we all haveit. I don't know. I apologize
right now if you're like a dudelistening to this and you don't have these
problems, but like everybody else thatlistens to this podcast is experiencing perimenopause,
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and I just want to say thankyou. This has become like one of
my favorite channels to go to inthe middle of the night because every problem
that I have, somebody in thediscord also has it. Everything makes you
feel just a little less alone.Itching all over, random headaches, sore
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throats, insomnia, Oh my god, my insomnia is through the roof,
which is why I was able todo all of that research on Zila zine.
So now you are a wealth ofknowledge on zila'sne I didn't even get
that's also in a last episode,so I'll just tell that story now again.
Okay, while we were in DCwalking over to where we were going
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to have breakfast before the Holocaust Museum. Um, we were walking, walking,
walking, and I noticed this womanhad your pants around her ankles standing
over a grate and the grate waslike pushing up warm air. So I
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guess she was just standing over thatgrate to get warm because it wasn't a
chilly morning. But then I sawa whole doodo nugget come out of her
butt, and I was like,well, what the fuck? And I
thought I was crazy having experienced youin a city. I'm just imagining your
your face, your body language inthat moment. But also like, nobody
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expects to see a woman pooping intoa street grate at eight o'clock in the
morning, in the middle of publicwhile standing so I go, oh,
oh my god, like I reacted, and so all of my family stopped
an hour staring at me, andI'm I'm I'm literally speechless. I'm just
(30:02):
I'm just looking at this lady deadin her butt, and my whole family's
staring at me, and they're like, what Mom, Mom, Melissa,
Babe, are Melissa? And becauseI'm so paralyzed, I don't say anything.
Suddenly everybody turns around and now theysee what I see, and they're
(30:26):
like, oh, so I go, okay, girls, let's let's cross
the street over here. Yeah.So we crossed the street, and now
me and Justin are looking at eachother because it's kind of like this is
like this is when parenting is hard. Do you address it? Do you
just pretend like nobody saw it andit didn't happen, and we're just gonna
go on with our day, right, like did you y'all see? And
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I also also am a human andwant to go, did y'all see the
dudo nugget dog? Because I justsaw it? But it's also not funny
and I don't want my kids laughing, you know what I mean? So
there was a lot Yeah, butI mean there's also that that nervous did
you know what I mean? Likethat nervous energy of like did I just
see what I thought I saw?Like that, There's there's a lot of
(31:10):
layers to it, you know.Correct. I also was like, am
I fucked up for crossing the street? Should I have just acted like that
was not really happening and gone onabout my business? Yeah, there was
a lot going on, and soa lot of a part of me felt
like, am I disrespecting this personby not crossing the street, or am
I being judgmental by crossing the street? Like there was a lot so and
(31:33):
I also have my kids, Yeah, you have your kids. It can
be in that moment you're like,okay, You're trying to assess the situation.
So like if somebody is is outof there, you know, um
right, mind enough to be poopingin the middle of the street, who
knows what might happen when you walkby. And sometimes those conversations like we
(31:56):
were on the subway this winter andthis guy I was like shouting about killing
people, and it was really likeupsetting in the moment to be in a
closed train car with somebody that's,you know, clearly having a mental break,
but then having to then like sitdown with the kids afterwards because they're
scared, and then explain the situation. So you just you don't know,
right what the right thing to dois, like correct. So Justin and
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I are now looking at each othertrying to figure out like how we're gonna
address this. Yeah, because Idon't want to demonize homelessness. I don't
I don't want to demonize mental health, oh, because it had to be
one or the other, because Ihaven't never seen nobody taking shit in the
street like that. So Justin andI we're, you know, we're talking
(32:47):
with the kids, and I couldsee that Maja has a lot of questions
and Shalom is just like and sheis bless her little heart, she little,
she a little statue, and likeher eyebrows are just like glued to
the top of her forehead. Waslike, the fuck. So I was
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just like, you know, sometimespeople are in situations where they can't get
to a bathroom or whatever, orsometimes people, you know, their brains
are different. And maybe she didn'tknow that that's what was happening, or
maybe she has become unaware of hersurroundings. And so we're like, we're
(33:28):
trying to explain how, you know, life puts you in different places,
whether it's by circumstance, whether it'sby bad choices, whether it's whatever it
may be. Yeah, that happened, and we are going to go on
about our business. So anyway,I then got into a vortex because I
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was wanting to understand the level ofhomelessness and the things that I saw while
I was in DC, and thatled me to reading up on the homelessness
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and drug issues happening in primarily Philadelphia, San Francisco, New York, DC,
etc. And you know, youclick on one article, the next
article, the next article, thenext article, because I like to try
to figure out, like how didthis come to be? How did this
happen? How are we fixing it? Like where did society fail these people?
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Yeah, and where does that meetpersonal responsibility and all that shit?
You know me, I'll be tryingto get information and I came across zylazine
and I was like, Yo,this is wild. And then I told
you about zilazine, so now youknow all about zilazine. Anyway, Zylazine
is a new drug on the street. It's a it's a tranquilizer tranquilizer so
(35:00):
they call it trank tr and Qand it Narcan does not work on it,
and it just fucking zones you thefuck out. So like you'll see
people bent over at the waist andlike swaying a little bit. They're completely
totally out of it. But it'snot a ky hole. They're just like
(35:20):
zombies. Anyway, That's what's onthe streets, and I don't know how
I ended up in that place justfrom that lady Dudu in Integrate, but
I did. And well it's afterwe talked about it the last time,
I did go onto the reddit threadsand start to look and I found the
documentary that you were telling me aboutwhere the Gentleman was just like either need
(35:42):
to die or be locked up injail because there's absolutely no way around this.
It's so scary. I like harddrugs like that. I think ever
since I was a little kid,Like I feel like when you were in
elementary school or middle school and theyhad Dare come in, they made you
feel like you were going to beoffered like hard drugs at every turn,
(36:02):
anytime you went to a party asa teenage or someone to be like,
hey, you want to do someheroine. So it's always been something that's
been very scary to me because thethought of like getting high that first time
and then automatically being addicted to someof these things just is terrifying. And
then to then have this, youknow, things like fentanel mixed into drugs
(36:27):
and that shit out of Australia,that crocodile that eats your skin, and
now this this also eats your skin. Yeah, it just is it's so
depressing, and it's so sad thecycles that that folks get stuck in,
and and all of these things thatare you know, being designed and developed,
(36:50):
you know, to either make thehigh you know better or longer or
you know, it's just it's soscary. Urry. Well, what's really
like scary about it is when Iwas watching that documentary, it was like
half the people in there had nointention of doing trank. Yeah, like
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the ship was their ship that theynormally do was cut with it, and
then their brain becomes wired to needthat shit. It doesn't even they were
like, doesn't even feel good.Yeah, it just makes their body sleep.
And I guess when they're in astate of sleep, they don't have
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to feel the things that made themdo drugs anyway. So like, yeah,
I can't knock get my sleeping ismy preferred method of avoiding my right
right. And I feel bad becauseand like I try to have these conversations
with Justin, but he's he isjust a very He has no gray area,
(38:06):
he has no he has a veryblack and white way of thinking,
and he has chosen to not dodrugs and has chosen to not drink alcohol,
and like he took that oath tobe straight edge as like a thirteen
year old kid, and like thirtyyears later he's still straight edge. So
like, yeah, he can understandwhy people get involved in doing drugs.
(38:32):
He can't. He can't understand thechoice to continue. So like when I'm
like, well, it's a brainwiring and addiction is a disease, and
like I'll be trying to explain,He's like, I know, but like
at some point you got to belike, yo, this fucking sucks.
I'm like I know, but noteverybody gets to that point. And also
(38:54):
it's a brain wiring, like itis. It alters your chemistry, it's
the same, you know, it'sum it's one of those things where you
you permanently, once you're hooked,you're forever an addict. And so you
know, there's there's never going tobe a time once you know, if
(39:15):
you decide to get sober, thatyou're not going to be constantly fighting that
or you know, transferring your addictiononto something else. So I think,
you know, there may be somecases where people can just you know quit
hard drugs called turkey, but thatis not that is not the norm,
and it's it's incredibly sad. We'vehad experience it with with it in our
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family, and oh well it's incrediblysad to watch somebody just when you have
it in your family up close.The centigrade. Yeah, you have a
different level of empathy about that shitbecause you're like, no, I knew
this person before or their brain waswired this way. Yeah, this person
(40:04):
would never steal, This person wouldnever lie. The person that is on
the drugs would do that shit.And like it's very hard to like separate
that before drugs person and the afterdrugs person because you could only experience so
many disappointments with their choices so worndown. Yep, you have to at
(40:30):
some point learn to love from afar. Yeah, So like he doesn't have
he doesn't have, like I'm gonnasay, I'm gonna say, justin back,
I think I'm gonna say, everybodyin his family is this a wholesome
ass good person? Not? Don'tnobody got a record? That's incredible.
(40:53):
It's incredible that, I mean,who everybody's got at least one, two,
three, four, five or six. Yeah, then he married me
um let the ref raff in.I mean, listen, I have to
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say that, like I understand that, you know, some people don't think
that it is a disease, andsome people don't think that there is a
predisposition, but there really is.So you know, like I know that
I can't fuck around, you knowwhat I'm saying, Like I joke a
little thing, like I really likethat protrazine. Girl, there will be
(41:40):
a three quarters full bottle of promethezine in this house until twenty twenty eight
because I'd be so scared to likedrink that shit even if off comes back,
because I know, yeah, Ican't just start liking stuff. You
have to. I mean, Iremember a few years ago, one of
the questions when I was taking mykids in for a well visit. You
know, one of the questions isis they ask about a family history of
(42:02):
addiction, and I, you know, put down the information that I had,
and my pediatrician just said, thisis great. She said, you
know what, we just watch.We just watch to see if the kids
have any traits that show that theymight have an addictive personality, and then
you learn how to, you know, to to coach them through that and
to to help them to be,you know, hopefully in a good place
(42:23):
where they don't get into trouble becauseof that. So it's you can come
at it from different ways, buta lot of it I feel like it
had there's either something that happens toyou that that rewires your brain and then
you get into that or you youyou start using and then obviously you know
(42:45):
it messes with you know the waythat you get your what your dopamine like,
you start to get those hits ofdopamine and you just our bodies crave.
It's the same for food or foranything else that we're addicted to.
Yes, I also think that youeither go so far in one direction or
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so far in the other. Youever read the book Adult Children of Alcoholics,
and it lays out all the waysin which you behave that are a
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byproduct of the environment you were in. So you will either also become an
alcoholic or you will be an overachieverand be so careful around that ship that
you just could never become an alcoholic. It's always there and you're scared of
it. You're so scared of itthat you know to be careful. It
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shapes your personality, so like whetheror not you're a secretive person, whether
or not you're a protect perfectionist,all that stuff. So I know about
me, you know, Like ifI want to handle my business, then
I have to a lot certain timesfor when I can do social drinking or
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whatever. Like I don't keep alcoholin my house for like just to have,
Like I don't have a bar card, you know what I mean.
Yeah, I don't even want thatshit. I don't want to. I
don't want a drink. I wouldlike to if I'm around other people and
we're having a drink, but Idon't just be up in here drinking,
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you know. Yeah, but somepeople do when some people can. But
I just don't have it because Iknow what I think is yeah, because
you know, as long as youknow, can you take the step to
monitor your behavior, you know,just like with with the kids, you
just you keep an eye out andaddress it if it needs to be addressed.
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But that whole xylazine thing, manis, it's scary. It's scary
to see to see those to seethose videos and people, you know,
people just like flesh, the oh, just the rotting flesh. I mean
there was one where it was justthere must have been twenty people on this
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block. It's somewhere passed out withyou know, lit cigarettes in their hands,
others passed out with needles in theirarms. It just is so fucking
sad. It was terrible. ButI'm gonna tell you something that read it
if you if there's something you manread it is like a is like a
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search engine if there's something you wantto know about and you want to take
a deep dive. Reddit. Ifollow more in love with it every day,
Like I want to master Reddit?How I master Twitter? One day
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I'm going to be bold enough tomake a comment. Well, you don't
make any comments at all, I'mscared. I was. For a while,
I was just a lurker, andthen more recently I've started making commentary.
Oh you'll be in there, likeactually maybe, like what do you
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like? Are you just be chiming? Are you talking to people? Like?
Are you meeting people? No?I haven't made any friends yet,
but I'm trying to think of what. Well, let's see what did I
comment on earlier? Oh, solike you're you have karma and all that
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shit? Yeah I have. Um, oh, there was a there was
something that I said the other dayand I got I got up votes.
Oh somehow I landed into a subthread called handbags and someone posted this adorable
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little wallet and they were like,this was so expensive and I love it
so much, but I'm afraid tocarry it. And I said, anytime
I feel nervous to use my nicethings, I always think of Mary Kate
Olsen and her busted ass berkin inthat comment got me eighty two of votes,
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so it does feel a little good. Um So what happens the more
up votes you get, the morekarma you get. I don't know,
but I also I just see it. Somebody made a flare called busted ass
Birkin, so I even created flare. Okay, so some Reddit threads have
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things called flare, and if youhit the three dots at the top of
the thread, you can choose yourflare. And usually, like if it's
a blog snark, it might besome of the things that they say about
the people that make the blog,but you can you can add a specific
little like tagline or little inside joketo your profile name, so then every
time you post, that little thingpops up. So like the girl that
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commented below me that said, canI have this for my flare now.
It says her user name, andthen below it it says busted as Bergen.
So it's like your status, notyour status, it's like your bio.
It's just like a little like likeactual flare like office space, like
it's like your little pin. See. I'm I'm scared to post like I
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have been lurking now for a longtime. I posted in the glass Jaw
reddit like you years ago one timesomeone asked a question about Justin Becks drum
kid or something, and I waslike, actually, it's this and that,
and I was like, oh shit. And then the next thing you
know, I'm talking to a bunchof glass jop fans about about Justin's Becky
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drum kit and how it is andhow how a really fucking awesome wife.
But thanks to God we had cowBell. Yeah totally. But I was
like, um, I should notbe posting on here and everybody knows I'm
me. That's kind of dumb.So I was like, why don't I
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just lurk? So I just lurking? Well, are you gonna have like
a an ambiguous or not ambiguous Youneed to have like a good handle,
like you couldn't be Beck's wife.Yeah, that was my handle, Like
a dumb ass, I don't evenknow what my handle is now. It
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could be like biracial butterfly. Butnobody gave me. They just gave me
a lurking handle, like you didn'thave to pick a name. No,
it just said I don't know whatthe fuck it is. Oh, but
I don't be talking on now.Yeah, I'm scared, Like what if
I die and somebody needs to goin my computer to find out like my
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last bank transactions or whatever, orwhat if I go missing and somebody needs
to do that shit like the investigationon my computer, and it'll be like,
this fucking bitch is so weird.I really do think about that.
But okay, so you go missing, your phone is left behind and they
unlock it. What is the mostembarrassing thing they're going to find on your
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cell phone? Oh? God,well, are you thinking or did this
cut out? No? I'm Idon't have to think. I know what
the most embarsting. Let's abill goright into the history and be like,
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really seventeen videos of that. Butyou know how I feel about South American
pedietry. So it's like they arejust such experts in their field and there's
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no blood and I'm just fascinated byit. And you know you people like
your pop, your your your pimplesand your and your earwax. That's not
even where the fucking good shit is. The good ship is in South American
pedietry. I don't even understand thewords these people are saying. Um,
but it's just very relaxing. It'slike getting a pedicure, which is gross.
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Do you think I have a footfetish? You know, I hate
feet, though, I mean gettingyour fascination with feet with teeth? You
really might. You might be ontosomething there, actually, you know,
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I just think it's like, whatdo you watch to relax at night?
Like, what if you had tojust kick up something on YouTube? Oh,
it's always Dateline or twenty twenty.I do that when I drive.
I just I just realized I will. I'm the weirdo that will watch the
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show, listen to the podcast,and then listen to the recap podcast all
on the same episode. Okay,see, you got me doing that shit.
So now in the mornings, Idon't know what the fuck's happening in
the mornings, I'll listen to anepisode of twenty twenty, or I'll listen
to an episode of Dateline and yeah, I'll come home and fire it up
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and have it and watch it becauseI want to see what the people look
like. Correct. And I justcan't believe Nick Fergus got away with murdering
Heidi for so long we lay therewas no intruder. The last one I
watched, this man said that thefirst of all, you should have gotten
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the death penalty because he blamed ona black man. Period. Anytime you
blame a crime on a black person, death penalty, I don't care if
you said that a black person juststole a candy cane, death penalty.
Yeah. So this man, theywere like, no kids in their twenties
and you know, he was thehusband of the house. They went to
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church. They were just a nicecouple. He he shoot her with the
shotgun? Is this the one inthe Minneapolis Yes, six in the morning,
shot her, But did it insuch a way where he had her
calling nine one one talking about thismode in my house. And he gets
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back on the phone, He's like, no, a whole act actor.
Yes, he had me fooled.In the beginning, Chris was like he
did it. The husband did it. The husband did it, and I
was like, no way, dude. I was like, she was on
nine one one in the opening ofthe show telling them that somebody was breaking
in. I was like, howhow could he be the one to shoot
her if she hears somebody breaking in? Because he was the motherfucker in the
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mask? I know, so crazy. That was crazy. And he lured
her down to the basement. Yep, why why would you be behind He
lured her down to the basement withher in front of him and him with
the gun behind her. Anyway,got away with it for ten or fifteen
years or however long. M he'sin jail now. So spoiler alert what
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I found Porton and Cocoa Baby,I just listen to that when they have
a day. Golly, that wasdepressing. I felt so bad for her
sister girl. I really thought itwas jitty. I really do be getting
involved, but only recently when yousaid that you would fire it up on
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the TV, I'm like, whatdo you need to watch it for?
But yes, there's something about seeit like because I hear it first,
I don't know what anybody looks like. Yeah, and then I watch it
and now I know what everybody lookslike, and I'm like, wow,
wow, Wow. Now the nextlayer of that is that I have been
listening to A Date with Dateline forso long now that i'll listen to the
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episode or watch it, and duringthe episode, I'll go, I wonder
what Kimberly and Katie think about that, or I wonder if they're going to
mention that on the show. Sonow there's this whole new layer where I'm
like, you have friends in yourhead. I want to see if they
talk about it when they do theirepisode. Yeah, and then you'll be
in the car by yourself like mmhmmm, same. Yeah, it's really
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a sickness. So like I turnedon the Nick Fergus right and now Justin
sits down and I'm telling him everythingthat's about to happen. He's like,
did you already watch this? AndI was like, no, I listened
to it in the car on theway home. He's like, but so
why are we watching it? AndI'm because I didn't know what they look
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like. Yeah, And he's like, but you already you know the answer.
I'm like, oh yeah, he'sand he's like, but you're just
watching it? Still, I'm like, yes, yes, of course there's
one. What did I just listento today? Um? The one about
the old man whose wife shot him? Um, he was a widower.
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What was his name? Last girl? I'm I'm don't tell the ending.
I'm still there. I need towatch it because now I want to see
what Miriam looks like. I wantto see what Alan looks like. Well,
first of all, I'm only thirtyminutes in. But guess what Miriam
I knew from the beginning. Thosevoicemails sound so fake? Love you?
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Hey, this is not like you. I was like, I fake,
she did it? Gold digging assbitch? Um, well, I don't
mind a gold digger. But yeah, no, you know what, though,
I remember her my philosophy on golddigging, There's no such thing as
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a gold digger. There's only adumb ass man. You know what I'm
saying, Like, if you arestupid enough to follow by the ship,
then that's your dumbass as she deservesevery coin. Okay, I thought we
weren't talking about Megan Markel anymore.And with that, well, the funny
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thing about that is, I dothink that he probably really did live modestly
and when she saw Frog more Cardas. Because I saw Frog more Carders,
I was like, what And ifIkea does, ain't no castle, And
I gotta be honest, I'd havebeen disappointed too. You mean to tell
me I've been scheming on this motherfuckingman since eighth grade. Helloa out there
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