In Bed with Koaty & Sumner
Join adult influencers and reality TV personalities Koaty & Sumner as they explore the world of love, dating, and relationships from a reality and adult film world point of view. So take off your clothes, it’s time to get in bed with the duo that does more than each other.
Episodes
July 30, 2025 • 31 mins
This week, we’re diving deep—literally and emotionally. Koaty and Sumner open up about how adult toys transformed our sex life and brought us closer as a couple. From our first unrealistic dildo to designing our very own double penetration mold with Mr. Hankey’s Toys, this episode is all about pleasure, trust, and play. We’re talking:
- Why toys aren’t a last resort—they’re the gateway to emotional safety
- How we use them to explore...
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July 23, 2025 • 55 mins
In this special “first-in-bed” episode, Koaty & Sumner welcome their first actual in-bed guest: psychiatrist, entrepreneur, and emotional edge-walker Dr. Hector.
Together, they get real about why so many gay men struggle to feel emotionally connected—even in hyper-social, hyper-sexual spaces. From intimacy issues to trauma loops, hookup culture to healing, this episode peels back the layers with insight, humor, and zero shame.
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Together, they get real about why so many gay men struggle to feel emotionally connected—even in hyper-social, hyper-sexual spaces. From intimacy issues to trauma loops, hookup culture to healing, this episode peels back the layers with insight, humor, and zero shame.
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July 16, 2025 • 46 mins
This week, we’re in bed with the one and only Dr. Chris Donaghue—sex therapist, author, and queer truth-teller behind the book Rebel Love. We dive deep into the messy beauty of queer intimacy, ethical sex, and rewriting every outdated rule we’ve been told about love and relationships.
From emotional differentiation to kinky exploration, Dr. Chris helps us unpack how shame-free pleasure and radical honesty can actually heal our relat...
From emotional differentiation to kinky exploration, Dr. Chris helps us unpack how shame-free pleasure and radical honesty can actually heal our relat...
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July 2, 2025 • 54 mins
We’re joined by therapist and author Tom Bruett, whose book The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men has genuinely impacted our relationship. In this honest and vulnerable conversation, we dive deep into the two stages that rocked us the most: Differentiation and Exploration.
We talk about what it really means to stay emotionally connected while becoming your own person, how to ask for what you want in bed (without shame), and why o...
We talk about what it really means to stay emotionally connected while becoming your own person, how to ask for what you want in bed (without shame), and why o...
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June 25, 2025 • 40 mins
In this vulnerable and validating episode, Koaty shares the emotional journey behind cutting off his father—and the years of narcissistic behavior, gaslighting, and betrayal that led up to it. We explore how hard it can be to draw boundaries with a parent, especially when manipulation is masked as love. From financial deception to emotional abuse, we break down the signs of a narcissistic parent, why it’s okay to walk away, and how...
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June 11, 2025 • 53 mins
From church pews to OnlyFans views. In this episode, Sumner opens up about growing up Mormon—from blessing sacrament trays as a teenager to being interrogated by bishops about masturbation (yep, really). Koaty plays Mormon Mythbusters and finds out just how weird—and wildly repressive—Sumner’s childhood really was.
We get into sex shame, secret Mormon wife culture, sacred underwear, and how leaving the Church helped Sumner finally r...
We get into sex shame, secret Mormon wife culture, sacred underwear, and how leaving the Church helped Sumner finally r...
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June 4, 2025 • 29 mins
"Hey!!! We just got back from Puerto Vallarta, where we were nominated for three awards at the very first International Content Creator Awards (aka the ICCAs)… and we took home Best Podcast! 🏆 In this episode, we’re sharing all the highlights: from the content house vibes to the red carpet feels, and what it meant to be surrounded by so many creators in one space.
We also open up about the mental side of it all — the pressure to co...
We also open up about the mental side of it all — the pressure to co...
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May 21, 2025 • 35 mins
Skinny jeans are out. Baggy cargos are in. Harnesses? Always timeless. In this episode, Sumner & Koaty Blayne dive headfirst into the messy, sexy, and sometimes downright busted world of gay men’s fashion. From growing up in skin-tight clubwear to navigating the oversized streetwear takeover, they spill all the tea.
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May 14, 2025 • 37 mins
In this episode, Koaty and Sumner Blayne open up about their full journey through circuit party culture—from wild weekends, outfit changes, and hookup chaos to burnout, boundaries, and slowing the hell down.
We reflect on how the circuit brought us together, tested our relationship, boosted our OnlyFans, and eventually wore us out. We’re not anti-party—we’re just pro-evolution.
Plus: a chaotic game of “Did We Do That?” featuring afte...
We reflect on how the circuit brought us together, tested our relationship, boosted our OnlyFans, and eventually wore us out. We’re not anti-party—we’re just pro-evolution.
Plus: a chaotic game of “Did We Do That?” featuring afte...
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May 7, 2025 • 46 mins
In this episode, Koaty and Sumner Blayne open up about their evolving relationship with kink, not as experts or full-time fetish freaks, but as a couple learning to be more curious, more communicative, and way less judgmental.
We explore how getting older has made us more open to trying things we once avoided, and how shame can sneak into the bedroom even in the most loving relationships. From sploshing and age play to sounding and ...
We explore how getting older has made us more open to trying things we once avoided, and how shame can sneak into the bedroom even in the most loving relationships. From sploshing and age play to sounding and ...
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March 12, 2025 • 27 mins
In this spicy and thought-provoking episode of In Bed with Koaty and Sumner, we’re diving into the wild world of AI, sexbots, and the future of intimacy. As technology advances, virtual partners and hyper-realistic sex dolls are shaking up relationships—so where do we draw the line?
We explore whether AI companions are enhancing or replacing real human connection, debate if having a virtual AI partner counts as cheating, and ask the...
We explore whether AI companions are enhancing or replacing real human connection, debate if having a virtual AI partner counts as cheating, and ask the...
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February 19, 2025 • 26 mins
Season 2 of In Bed with Koaty & Sum kicks off with a bang! We’re diving into one of the wildest, most productive weeks Koaty has ever had! For seven days leading up to the GAYVN Awards in Las Vegas, he stayed in a content house with some of the biggest OnlyFans creators—all set up by his agent. His goal? To film 11 collabs. But, of course, things didn’t always go as planned.
Sumner, who does do studio porn, is full of questions ...
Sumner, who does do studio porn, is full of questions ...
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December 11, 2024 • 17 mins
In this episode, we dive into the topic of physical intimacy and how it plays a crucial role in our relationship. We open up about how often we need it, the highs and lows of our sex drives, and how we’ve learned to balance and meet each other’s needs. We also get real about the challenges—what happens when one of us feels like it’s not enough or when the dynamic starts to feel one-sided. Join us for an honest and vulnerable conver...
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November 27, 2024 • 21 mins
On this episode, the couple dives deep into the art of maximizing your experience as a bottom. From preparation tips and mindset shifts to their favorite techniques for enhancing pleasure, they share honest, uncensored advice based on their own experiences. They also discuss how communication, trust, and self-awareness can elevate your confidence in the bedroom, ensuring every moment feels empowering and satisfying. Whether you’re ...
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November 20, 2024 • 28 mins
In this episode, Koaty and Sumner dive into the complexities of life as a gay couple in the spotlight. They discuss navigating the highs and lows of being a social media duo, their experiences filming threesomes and exploring studio adult content with SeanCody, and the challenges of balancing personal and professional dynamics. Reflecting on their hardest year together, they open up about mental health struggles and the steps they’...
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November 13, 2024 • 29 mins
Hey everyone, it’s Koaty and Sumner, and on this episode, we’re getting real (and a little cheeky) about something that affects way more people than you’d think: erectile dysfunction! We’re diving into ED myths, true-or-false games, and some fun facts that you probably haven’t heard before. Whether you’re curious, concerned, or just here for the laughs, we’ve got you covered with a mix of humor and honesty as we tackle the reality ...
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November 6, 2024 • 34 mins
We are beyond excited to share that we’ve officially chosen Villa de Amore as the perfect venue for our wedding! In this video, we’re taking you inside our wedding planning process as a gay couple, sharing all the details about why this venue spoke to us and how we’re organizing every step to create our dream LGBTQ+ wedding. If you’re looking for wedding tips or need help managing wedding stress, this is the video for you! From cho...
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October 23, 2024 • 30 mins
We’re Koaty and Sumner Blayne, a gay couple engaged and building our dream life together. In this episode, we’re diving into one of the most frequently asked questions we get—how do we make an ‘open-ish’ relationship work? For us, the answer is simple: we’re emotionally monogamous but sexually open. We’ve figured out how to maintain deep love and trust while embracing freedom and exploration. Being in the adult industry and managin...
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October 16, 2024 • 12 mins
In this episode, we’re diving into some of the biggest stigmas surrounding the porn industry that we’ve faced personally. There’s a lot of misunderstanding and judgment out there, and we want to set the record straight. From misconceptions about relationships and intimacy to the stereotypes people still cling to, we’re here to share our experiences and shed some light on what it’s really like. It’s an honest conversation about the ...
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October 9, 2024 • 36 mins
In this episode, Koaty and Sumner sit down with Kazumi and her boyfriend Reggie to dive deep into the dynamics of open relationships, comparing the experiences of gay vs straight couples. We explore how navigating an open relationship intersects with working in the adult content industry, sharing our own stories and tips on maintaining trust, boundaries, and communication. Whether you're curious about polyamory, open relationships,...
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