January 15, 2024 • 25 mins
Adam Vohra Nest Egg
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Block Host Radio. Hi everyone, and welcome back to Insight
into Healing. My name is Alexas Servo Dibiona. I'm your
host and I'm so excited to be back. Happy New
Year everyone, Happy twenty twenty four. I'm so excited to
be back on the air with you this year. Have
so many incredible guests and episodes coming up, but I
(00:22):
really wanted to kick off the new year with a
cause that is very dear and near to my heart.
Our guest tonight is Adam Vorra. He grew up in Connecticut.
He's of Persian and Indian descent. He has a background
in sales and hospitality. His personal struggles has led him
to start his business, aar V Enterprises, dedicated to fostering
(00:45):
innovation and impactful projects. His mission is to transform creative
ideas into reality, driving positive change in various sectors, and
most importantly, giving back to the community. With his first
project launching this January twenty fifth, working with the Nest
Egg Foundation and the Willow Grant. Adam, Welcome to Insight
(01:08):
into Healing. I'm so excited to have you on this evening.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
Thank you so much. Lessa.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
That was quite a lovely introduction I'm really excited to
be here, especially as your first episode of twenty twenty four.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Happy to you to all the listeners.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Yes, yes, And it's so incredible because your story and
your background is so about the guests that I have
on my show, about giving back to the community, using
your struggles to show your passion, but also that as
your healing process and to inspire others. And the cause
that we are talking about tonight, the Nest Egg Foundation
(01:47):
and the Willow Grant is also very near and dear
to my heart. Give us a little background on how
you got started and also about this the Willow Grant.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
Sure.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
So you know, back in August, I knew that you know,
I work at sales job right now, and you know,
I knew that I really wanted to start a business
that would not be as you know, self serving, where
like you know, I saw a lot of people and
I was going to a lot of networking events leading
(02:19):
up to launch my business, and it was really like
seeing people just like really just like entrenched in self promotion.
And you know when I found you know, when I
started asking people these questions is really like all about
enriching themselves, which listen, I understand that component. But for me,
you know, I didn't want to do that. I wanted
(02:41):
to serve causes that were bigger than me. You know,
my personal history. You know, I am in recovery. I
you know, over the past you know, sixteen months, I've
been in recovery. And you know, through that journey, I
was able to learn a lot about myself. And one
thing that I learned was that and feeding my ego
(03:04):
and and was my kryptonite, you know. And in addition
to that, like that, you know, the opposite.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
Ego is humility, and like carrying.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
On a mission that is fueled by humility and giving
back was something that I wanted to be in such
a component of my business. So I decided to, you know,
after speaking with a bunch of people, you know, like
I'm in a community where there's a lot of nonprofit work,
and I you know, I was like, listen, like, I
think there are so many causes that don't get the
(03:34):
the platform that they deserve and that could be really
reach a lot of people. So you know, I decided
to launch this companies where I helped these companies build
advocacy for their respective causes. You mentioned the NSC Foundation
and the Wild grand I was so lucky to come
across my partner in this or names Ashley Radone. And
(03:58):
when I met her, you know, it was a very
organic conversation, and you know, you know, she shared with
me about her family and and you know, the conversation
kind of pivoted to like her struggles was starting a
family and how you know, how she and her husband
had you know, no, I really don't want to like
to feel comfortable, like really good going sharing much about
(04:22):
the story because that's her story. But like they had
troubles starting their family, dusicputility issues, and they had the
Willow Grant, which was a grant design to help families
like theirs. Immediately it was I was drawn to it.
There are a couple of reasons because you know, I
do want to share as to why thirty seven year old,
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unmarried person with no children would be interested in this cause,
you know, like my family personally, you know, there has
been you know, I had an ant who had multiple miscarriages.
My mother wasn't able to beare children I am, and
I'm adopted when she passed away in twenty thirteen. You know,
(05:08):
I found out from family how dark of a place
she was in when she found out she wasn't able
to bear children, and she was she she was very depressed,
She was very she was in a very very place
of inadequacy, the mental anguish that she was afflicted with,
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the feeling of incompetence, that she was.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
Overwhelmed.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
Especially culturally. My mom was a Persian Jew, my dad's Indians.
Those cultures you know, are very draft roofs where it's
like listen, like you're the breter and her you bear children,
you raise the children.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
My mom wouldn't do that.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
So when I found that out, and when I was
hearing Ashley's story, like, that's immediately where it took me
to like, you know, that's what my mom felt. Those
are the things that she thought about regularly until she
found me and my sister, and I immediately was drawn
to the cause. And you know, I was drawn to
actually passion for wanting to build something special, but also
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open to like ideas and how to grow it.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
So we decided to work together.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Wow, and it's so incredible, as many of my listeners
that know, took me a long time to finally have
my daughter, Maxon, who's four years old now, but the
process of IVF is just so can be brutal at times,
and it's a lot of trying and unfortunately miscarriages and
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still born in a lot of very dark, dark places
that can bring you plus the cost, and I think
a lot of times insurance companies won't pay for it.
I know they would not pay for mine because they
said I'm geriatric, because I was older than the age
they thought someone should have a child. So a lot
of times people can't have it also out of finance,
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which is very difficult. And what you're doing is really
giving life to families, and it's so important that to
be able to have that, but also to give that
to other people, give that that dream to them, and
having this type of organization that will support it and
foster it.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
Yeah, I mean the financial burden and the restrictions that
insurance companies placed on a women's health I think more
often than not in the media and in the public landscape,
you know, we're talking about.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
Abortion.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
You know, like abortion has been like the one thing
that has always been the first thing that people go
to when it comes to women's health, when.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
Like, let's look at the flip side of that, you know,
what about these.
Speaker 3 (07:44):
People trying to have children who can't and the things
that resonated with me the most as I began to
like study and learn and talk to people about their
their fertility journeys. There are many times, there are several
you know, over the past several months where I would
talk to a woman and I would tell her what
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I'm doing, and you know, they would they would come
into my office and they would close the door quietly
behind them, and they would sit down and they would
be like, Adam, like, let me tell you my story.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
And that was That's always the.
Speaker 3 (08:21):
Most like since chills up my spines right now as
I talk about it, because it touches so many more
people than we think it does. And the thing that
strikes me the most and the biggest commonality that I
had with my personal struggles, you know, like I I'm
you know, I'm over fifteen months. I mentioned you, But
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that was a journey that I was very much ashamed
to address, shame to talk about publicly, and you know,
like that that traps feeling of like not being heard
or you know, that's I resonated it so well with
these women who would you know, just show me that
die to them be vulnerable and that's how real change happens.
(09:07):
That's how it happened to me for me, and you
know like that that the emotional component is what I
connected with so much. Like like, I think that there
should be a safe space because being trapped in that
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mind of yours is the dangers most dangerous place and the.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Feeling of being alone in a struggle.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
Like that hopelessness is just not a place to but
a lot of it, Yeah, it is self inflicted because
you know, you don't talk about it, and you know
that's where you know, I come in where I'm going
to provide a safe space for people to to talk about,
to rally around it, and and hopefully incorporate change.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
Yes, And it's so empowering because so many times women
don't want even the husband's or the boyfriend's fiances are
almost have that shame or that stigma when they are
going through the infertility or going through IVF that it's
hard to have that discussion. But yet it's such a
big part of someone's life. It doesn't happen overnight. Mine
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took three years and about seven to ten different tries
of different ways of different you know, different methods and
it's very, very difficult, and I think having that safe space,
that place where someone can come to and really be
able to speak about it and be able to say, wow,
this is my story, because I think so many times
people don't want to talk about IVF, infertility, trying to
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start a family, miscarriages, it's you know, as I say,
it's not a hot topic, and I think it really
needs to be more brought to the light that this
is something that many women go through and a lot
of times of doing my shows and the last chapter
of my book was dedicated to my journey in and
to my daughter that I lost in a miscarriage, and
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I think it's so important of giving people that hope,
but also making sure people are also aware of what's
going on and what someone could be going through and
just watching what you say or what type of questions
you ask or what type of judgments sometimes people can
have without knowing the whole story about it.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
Listen, I totally agree.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
You know, so, like I mentioned before that you know,
me and my sister were adopted. We didn't find out
until we were thirteen years old. And when we found out,
we you know, I confronted my parents. My mom and I,
you know, one day, I you know, like I we
were driving back from the local town park, you know,
after day and the beach, and I kind of started
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bickering with my sister and at one point I just
let it up mom when we adopted, right, and she
you know, super silent in the car, and right afterwards
she yet when we got home, you know, they doesn't
go clean up, come downstairs and let's have a conversation.
So we came downstairs and when they said it is down,
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they were like, listen, like the reason we didn't tell
you is because people would look at you differently. And
I remember in that moment like that was like a
major turning point in my life because then I started
to look at myself differently. But now as I grow
up and I look back, it wasn't that people would
look at me differently. My parents were afraid that people
would look at them differently, you know, So like that's
the part where like that was the shame that you know,
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like actually these other women who have spoken about were
referred to, but was shame where they wanted to keep
it a secret, even after like having you know, having
me and my sister. My parents were shamed of being
perceived as inadequate or that they weren't normal. It wasn't
about us, It was about protecting that. And you know
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that's something where like, you know, it was a different time.
That was something that I struggled with for a very
long time. But once I you know, especially now as
you know, I started working on this project and I
started working on this project, I realized that, like, it's
not about me. They didn't think people would look at
me differently there for people look at them differently. And
(13:21):
you know, like that kind of resonates with what you
just said, where yeah, like you know, like there shouldn't
be shame associated with this happens more often than more
people than you are willing to admit, apparently do struggle
with with fertility issues. And it's something that now with
the treatment available, should be more accessible, you know, And
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you know that's that's the goal that's mine to Nashley,
regardless's goal is to build a coalition. And we're so
grateful Alexa for you know, like just from meeting you,
the first conversation we had, you know, like you were
very transparent with your story. You you know, peel back
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the onion and let me in.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
And you know, I immediately knew.
Speaker 3 (14:09):
I was like, I want I want you involved, I
want you to be at our events, I want you
to share your story. And you know, like I couldn't
be more blessed that you came into the picture as
soon as you did, you know. So you know like
I'm grateful to like all the.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
People who have rallied around it.
Speaker 3 (14:33):
And I do think there is going to be like
a big year ahead of us, not only with just
like raising resources, but just normalizing the conversation.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
Yes, yes, Now this event is on January twenty fifth
at the Bruce Museum in Greenwich. Is it six to
eight thirty pm?
Speaker 3 (14:56):
Six o'clock to eight thirty pm, so, DM, It's the
right effected three on ninety five in Connecticut. It's a
beautiful venue. It's gonna be more like a cocktail reception.
I'm gonna share a few words. Ashley is going to
share a few words. Dana Gillan, the president of the
Netflix Foundation, will certainly share a few words as well.
Speaker 2 (15:19):
It's it's really just the way for people to me
ashually meet the.
Speaker 3 (15:23):
Board, understand the work that we're doing, you know, also
learn when ways to participate in contribute to to to
to the larger initiative that we plan on rolling out
in the weeks ahead.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
It's gonna be like more.
Speaker 3 (15:41):
I didn't want it to be like like like I said,
down dinner. I wanted it to be where people can
like mingle and and and and be comfortable with each
other and provide a safe space for for women and
men too.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
To share share their experience.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
Yes, and I think that's I think you're right. You
hit it right on with not having a sit down,
because I think this is the type of topic people
want to share their stories and speak to speak to
each other and really have that type of setting. Who
who should come to this? How can they find out
more about that? Because I know many of my listeners
are definitely interested in and showing up and supporting. What
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would be the next step? What should they expect?
Speaker 3 (16:25):
Okay, so like the next step, you can go to
my website ARV Enterprises LLC dot com. Immediately when you
go on to a pop up will come which will
direct you to where you can purchase tickets to the event.
You can also email me directly Adam at ARV Enterprises
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LLC dot com. Honestly, I invite you to. I would
love to hear people's stories. I would love to just
start a conversation. You know, obviously I'm open to expanding
this network, and it doesn't need to be just like
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repeated miscarriage. You know, I am working with a group
also where they are you know, the women who started
this group, they had multiple stilver.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
It just has to do with just like women like
and families.
Speaker 3 (17:28):
Anybody who cares about women and families like I invite
to participate.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
Yes, yes, And I think it's so important that people
understand about it, that women and families and that journey
of healing but also of hope. And I think that's
such an important thing and that's such an incredible thing
that you are your enterprise is doing. Is it's providing hope,
because so many times that's all that you really need
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sometimes through all of it, to get you through those
dark moments, to get you through those really dark tough times.
Is having that hope, but also knowing that there's a
community and there's people that understand and have an idea
of what you're going through, but are also working with
you to heal and give back to those because I
know there's a lot of women that I was speaking
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to and men with their families that are very interested
in finding places like yours that can give them a
place for advocacy but also for the support and finding
different ways to help them make their dreams come true.
Speaker 3 (18:33):
I think you hit it right, the no right on
the head when you said it's about hope.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
I think.
Speaker 3 (18:40):
Hope and sadness are temporary until you take action. And
you know, when you have a beacon of hope, that
opens up.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
So many different doors.
Speaker 3 (18:55):
And you know that I couldn't have said it better
than you did you like in an eciety now where
you know, like everything you consume can you know, like
you get over stimulated with you know, media and and
a lot of negativity and a lot of noise. Hopelessness
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is very prevalent in our current society, which is it's
really really really sad and disheartening to me. That's why, Yeah,
you know it's that's that's exactly the motto for the
Willow Grant rooted in hope, because hope can take you anywhere.
Speaker 1 (19:38):
And it's and it gives you passion, it empowers you,
but I think it also gives you the strength to
put that one foot in front of the other when
you're when you're having a disappointment a letdown, especially on
this journey, that it's able to say, Okay, I can
acknowledge it, but I can have hope to move forward.
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I'm I remember my doctor saying to me at one point,
how much more do you have in you? How much
more do you have left to continue this fight? And
I said, I'm going to keep on trying until I can't.
And he said, all right, let's do it. Let's do
it again. And I remember someone said, just pick your
head up. No, you don't have anything to be embarrassed about,
and do it. You can do this. You have your mindset,
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you can do this, keep going, keep going. We know
you can do this. And that just made me feel like, wow,
I'm doing this. This is what I'm doing. I'm going
to keep on moving and gave me the strength to
keep moving forward. So I think it's so important that
our listeners know that there is hope and to be
able to keep following your passion and moving forward.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
I completely agree.
Speaker 3 (20:45):
I can you know, like you know, I'll tell you
a story about hope, and it's that story, but it.
Speaker 2 (20:53):
Speaks to the power of hope.
Speaker 3 (20:56):
You know, my mom and her during her last days.
You know, my mom was diagnosed, so they keep me
back in twenty eleven, and you know, it was maybe
it was August thirty, twenty thirteen. The doctors came into
her room and they go, Ellie. That was her name, La,
which is Persian, and they asked her, they go, Ellie, realistically,
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what are your goals?
Speaker 2 (21:22):
And you know, she replied.
Speaker 3 (21:24):
She was like, I just can't wait to sleep in
my bed again. And the doctor said to her, they go, Ellie,
that's not a realistic volt. My mom died the next day,
and I firmly believe it was because in answering that question,
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my mom was living on hope. You know, that's the
power of hope. It wasn't well power, it was hope.
And you know, in answering that question, it took away
her home and that you know, that was it. And
you know, like obviously like it's part of life, and
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it's you know, like I think about that a lot,
and you know, when you know, I saw that.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
The rooted and hope was the slogan.
Speaker 3 (22:18):
For the Willow Grad was what they're rooted it, and
it just felt like such a perfect match.
Speaker 1 (22:27):
Absolutely, and I believe you know, sometimes medically things don't
say they could work, but you know, miracles happen. Things
happened that I think you have that hope even if
sometimes I was told a lot of times it's just
not going to end up happening. But I had the hope.
And I think that's the most important thing that even
if the community of medical community everyone is saying this
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is not something that's realistic, it's knowing that there's people
there that have hope. There's your enterprises, these groups that
are here to support you and feed you and help
you get that emotional strength on this journey because it
is a tough journey. But I think it's also the
reward is is a blessing in life that you could
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never never get it from anywhere else. That's what I've
always say. My daughter is my gift from God that
I could never imagine. And I think that it's amazing
to have people be able to have that hope but
also to get their gifts too.
Speaker 3 (23:25):
Absolutely, So, like you know, I invite everybody who has
a hopeful, loving heart to participate in this event. No,
I think that type of energy is what I'm trying
to fill this room with because hope we'll get you anywhere.
So that's January twenty fifth at the Bruce Museum in Green, Kentucky.
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You reached directly out to me at a Adam at
ARV Enterprises LLC dot com, or you know, you can
go to my website www dot aar V Enterprises LLC
dot com.
Speaker 1 (24:01):
Wonderful, wonderful And I am so blessed and honored also
to be part of this, and I cannot wait to
see everybody there and to hear their stories and just
to see the power and the emotion and the strength
that's going to be in that room. And the hope
is going to be just no hope, breathtaking. It's going
to be I think, you know, when you were saying
before having chills up your back, I was having chills
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up my back, and I can imagine how many chills
I'm going to have up that back and really realize
that this is the place of hope and strength and
any dreams coming true.
Speaker 2 (24:33):
Absolutely, thank you so much for.
Speaker 3 (24:38):
Having me today like that, you know, like just getting
the message out is half the battle.
Speaker 1 (24:46):
Absolutely, Absolutely, and thank you so much for being on
and everyone again. It's January twenty fifth at the Bruce
Museum in Greenwich, Connecticut, six pm to eight thirty pm.
Please anyone. If you have any questions, you can also
send me an email at Insight into Healing at gmail
dot com. Everyone, thank you so much for tuning in.
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Adam again, thank you so much for coming on the
show tonight. It's the best way to start twenty twenty
four out with hope and that's exactly what you did.
Thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (25:20):
Thank you so much, Alexa, thank you.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
And everyone, thank you so much for tuning in. Everyone,
have a good night and God bless
Block Host Radio. Hi everyone, and welcome back to Insight
into Healing. My name is Alexas Servo Dibiona. I'm your
host and I'm so excited to be back. Happy New
Year everyone, Happy twenty twenty four. I'm so excited to
be back on the air with you this year. Have
so many incredible guests and episodes coming up, but I
(00:22):
really wanted to kick off the new year with a
cause that is very dear and near to my heart.
Our guest tonight is Adam Vorra. He grew up in Connecticut.
He's of Persian and Indian descent. He has a background
in sales and hospitality. His personal struggles has led him
to start his business, aar V Enterprises, dedicated to fostering
(00:45):
innovation and impactful projects. His mission is to transform creative
ideas into reality, driving positive change in various sectors, and
most importantly, giving back to the community. With his first
project launching this January twenty fifth, working with the Nest
Egg Foundation and the Willow Grant. Adam, Welcome to Insight
(01:08):
into Healing. I'm so excited to have you on this evening.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
Thank you so much. Lessa.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
That was quite a lovely introduction I'm really excited to
be here, especially as your first episode of twenty twenty four.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Happy to you to all the listeners.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Yes, yes, And it's so incredible because your story and
your background is so about the guests that I have
on my show, about giving back to the community, using
your struggles to show your passion, but also that as
your healing process and to inspire others. And the cause
that we are talking about tonight, the Nest Egg Foundation
(01:47):
and the Willow Grant is also very near and dear
to my heart. Give us a little background on how
you got started and also about this the Willow Grant.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
Sure.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
So you know, back in August, I knew that you know,
I work at sales job right now, and you know,
I knew that I really wanted to start a business
that would not be as you know, self serving, where
like you know, I saw a lot of people and
I was going to a lot of networking events leading
(02:19):
up to launch my business, and it was really like
seeing people just like really just like entrenched in self promotion.
And you know when I found you know, when I
started asking people these questions is really like all about
enriching themselves, which listen, I understand that component. But for me,
you know, I didn't want to do that. I wanted
(02:41):
to serve causes that were bigger than me. You know,
my personal history. You know, I am in recovery. I
you know, over the past you know, sixteen months, I've
been in recovery. And you know, through that journey, I
was able to learn a lot about myself. And one
thing that I learned was that and feeding my ego
(03:04):
and and was my kryptonite, you know. And in addition
to that, like that, you know, the opposite.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
Ego is humility, and like carrying.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
On a mission that is fueled by humility and giving
back was something that I wanted to be in such
a component of my business. So I decided to, you know,
after speaking with a bunch of people, you know, like
I'm in a community where there's a lot of nonprofit work,
and I you know, I was like, listen, like, I
think there are so many causes that don't get the
(03:34):
the platform that they deserve and that could be really
reach a lot of people. So you know, I decided
to launch this companies where I helped these companies build
advocacy for their respective causes. You mentioned the NSC Foundation
and the Wild grand I was so lucky to come
across my partner in this or names Ashley Radone. And
(03:58):
when I met her, you know, it was a very
organic conversation, and you know, you know, she shared with
me about her family and and you know, the conversation
kind of pivoted to like her struggles was starting a
family and how you know, how she and her husband
had you know, no, I really don't want to like
to feel comfortable, like really good going sharing much about
(04:22):
the story because that's her story. But like they had
troubles starting their family, dusicputility issues, and they had the
Willow Grant, which was a grant design to help families
like theirs. Immediately it was I was drawn to it.
There are a couple of reasons because you know, I
do want to share as to why thirty seven year old,
(04:43):
unmarried person with no children would be interested in this cause,
you know, like my family personally, you know, there has
been you know, I had an ant who had multiple miscarriages.
My mother wasn't able to beare children I am, and
I'm adopted when she passed away in twenty thirteen. You know,
(05:08):
I found out from family how dark of a place
she was in when she found out she wasn't able
to bear children, and she was she she was very depressed,
She was very she was in a very very place
of inadequacy, the mental anguish that she was afflicted with,
(05:30):
the feeling of incompetence, that she was.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
Overwhelmed.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
Especially culturally. My mom was a Persian Jew, my dad's Indians.
Those cultures you know, are very draft roofs where it's
like listen, like you're the breter and her you bear children,
you raise the children.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
My mom wouldn't do that.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
So when I found that out, and when I was
hearing Ashley's story, like, that's immediately where it took me
to like, you know, that's what my mom felt. Those
are the things that she thought about regularly until she
found me and my sister, and I immediately was drawn
to the cause. And you know, I was drawn to
actually passion for wanting to build something special, but also
(06:11):
open to like ideas and how to grow it.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
So we decided to work together.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Wow, and it's so incredible, as many of my listeners
that know, took me a long time to finally have
my daughter, Maxon, who's four years old now, but the
process of IVF is just so can be brutal at times,
and it's a lot of trying and unfortunately miscarriages and
(06:39):
still born in a lot of very dark, dark places
that can bring you plus the cost, and I think
a lot of times insurance companies won't pay for it.
I know they would not pay for mine because they
said I'm geriatric, because I was older than the age
they thought someone should have a child. So a lot
of times people can't have it also out of finance,
(07:01):
which is very difficult. And what you're doing is really
giving life to families, and it's so important that to
be able to have that, but also to give that
to other people, give that that dream to them, and
having this type of organization that will support it and
foster it.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
Yeah, I mean the financial burden and the restrictions that
insurance companies placed on a women's health I think more
often than not in the media and in the public landscape,
you know, we're talking about.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
Abortion.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
You know, like abortion has been like the one thing
that has always been the first thing that people go
to when it comes to women's health, when.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
Like, let's look at the flip side of that, you know,
what about these.
Speaker 3 (07:44):
People trying to have children who can't and the things
that resonated with me the most as I began to
like study and learn and talk to people about their
their fertility journeys. There are many times, there are several
you know, over the past several months where I would
talk to a woman and I would tell her what
(08:04):
I'm doing, and you know, they would they would come
into my office and they would close the door quietly
behind them, and they would sit down and they would
be like, Adam, like, let me tell you my story.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
And that was That's always the.
Speaker 3 (08:21):
Most like since chills up my spines right now as
I talk about it, because it touches so many more
people than we think it does. And the thing that
strikes me the most and the biggest commonality that I
had with my personal struggles, you know, like I I'm
you know, I'm over fifteen months. I mentioned you, But
(08:42):
that was a journey that I was very much ashamed
to address, shame to talk about publicly, and you know,
like that that traps feeling of like not being heard
or you know, that's I resonated it so well with
these women who would you know, just show me that
die to them be vulnerable and that's how real change happens.
(09:07):
That's how it happened to me for me, and you
know like that that the emotional component is what I
connected with so much. Like like, I think that there
should be a safe space because being trapped in that
(09:28):
mind of yours is the dangers most dangerous place and the.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Feeling of being alone in a struggle.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
Like that hopelessness is just not a place to but
a lot of it, Yeah, it is self inflicted because
you know, you don't talk about it, and you know
that's where you know, I come in where I'm going
to provide a safe space for people to to talk about,
to rally around it, and and hopefully incorporate change.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
Yes, And it's so empowering because so many times women
don't want even the husband's or the boyfriend's fiances are
almost have that shame or that stigma when they are
going through the infertility or going through IVF that it's
hard to have that discussion. But yet it's such a
big part of someone's life. It doesn't happen overnight. Mine
(10:19):
took three years and about seven to ten different tries
of different ways of different you know, different methods and
it's very, very difficult, and I think having that safe space,
that place where someone can come to and really be
able to speak about it and be able to say, wow,
this is my story, because I think so many times
people don't want to talk about IVF, infertility, trying to
(10:41):
start a family, miscarriages, it's you know, as I say,
it's not a hot topic, and I think it really
needs to be more brought to the light that this
is something that many women go through and a lot
of times of doing my shows and the last chapter
of my book was dedicated to my journey in and
to my daughter that I lost in a miscarriage, and
(11:03):
I think it's so important of giving people that hope,
but also making sure people are also aware of what's
going on and what someone could be going through and
just watching what you say or what type of questions
you ask or what type of judgments sometimes people can
have without knowing the whole story about it.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
Listen, I totally agree.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
You know, so, like I mentioned before that you know,
me and my sister were adopted. We didn't find out
until we were thirteen years old. And when we found out,
we you know, I confronted my parents. My mom and I,
you know, one day, I you know, like I we
were driving back from the local town park, you know,
after day and the beach, and I kind of started
(11:50):
bickering with my sister and at one point I just
let it up mom when we adopted, right, and she
you know, super silent in the car, and right afterwards
she yet when we got home, you know, they doesn't
go clean up, come downstairs and let's have a conversation.
So we came downstairs and when they said it is down,
(12:13):
they were like, listen, like the reason we didn't tell
you is because people would look at you differently. And
I remember in that moment like that was like a
major turning point in my life because then I started
to look at myself differently. But now as I grow
up and I look back, it wasn't that people would
look at me differently. My parents were afraid that people
would look at them differently, you know, So like that's
the part where like that was the shame that you know,
(12:37):
like actually these other women who have spoken about were
referred to, but was shame where they wanted to keep
it a secret, even after like having you know, having
me and my sister. My parents were shamed of being
perceived as inadequate or that they weren't normal. It wasn't
about us, It was about protecting that. And you know
(12:58):
that's something where like, you know, it was a different time.
That was something that I struggled with for a very
long time. But once I you know, especially now as
you know, I started working on this project and I
started working on this project, I realized that, like, it's
not about me. They didn't think people would look at
me differently there for people look at them differently. And
(13:21):
you know, like that kind of resonates with what you
just said, where yeah, like you know, like there shouldn't
be shame associated with this happens more often than more
people than you are willing to admit, apparently do struggle
with with fertility issues. And it's something that now with
the treatment available, should be more accessible, you know, And
(13:45):
you know that's that's the goal that's mine to Nashley,
regardless's goal is to build a coalition. And we're so
grateful Alexa for you know, like just from meeting you,
the first conversation we had, you know, like you were
very transparent with your story. You you know, peel back
(14:06):
the onion and let me in.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
And you know, I immediately knew.
Speaker 3 (14:09):
I was like, I want I want you involved, I
want you to be at our events, I want you
to share your story. And you know, like I couldn't
be more blessed that you came into the picture as
soon as you did, you know. So you know like
I'm grateful to like all the.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
People who have rallied around it.
Speaker 3 (14:33):
And I do think there is going to be like
a big year ahead of us, not only with just
like raising resources, but just normalizing the conversation.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
Yes, yes, Now this event is on January twenty fifth
at the Bruce Museum in Greenwich. Is it six to
eight thirty pm?
Speaker 3 (14:56):
Six o'clock to eight thirty pm, so, DM, It's the
right effected three on ninety five in Connecticut. It's a
beautiful venue. It's gonna be more like a cocktail reception.
I'm gonna share a few words. Ashley is going to
share a few words. Dana Gillan, the president of the
Netflix Foundation, will certainly share a few words as well.
Speaker 2 (15:19):
It's it's really just the way for people to me
ashually meet the.
Speaker 3 (15:23):
Board, understand the work that we're doing, you know, also
learn when ways to participate in contribute to to to
to the larger initiative that we plan on rolling out
in the weeks ahead.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
It's gonna be like more.
Speaker 3 (15:41):
I didn't want it to be like like like I said,
down dinner. I wanted it to be where people can
like mingle and and and and be comfortable with each
other and provide a safe space for for women and
men too.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
To share share their experience.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
Yes, and I think that's I think you're right. You
hit it right on with not having a sit down,
because I think this is the type of topic people
want to share their stories and speak to speak to
each other and really have that type of setting. Who
who should come to this? How can they find out
more about that? Because I know many of my listeners
are definitely interested in and showing up and supporting. What
(16:21):
would be the next step? What should they expect?
Speaker 3 (16:25):
Okay, so like the next step, you can go to
my website ARV Enterprises LLC dot com. Immediately when you
go on to a pop up will come which will
direct you to where you can purchase tickets to the event.
You can also email me directly Adam at ARV Enterprises
(16:48):
LLC dot com. Honestly, I invite you to. I would
love to hear people's stories. I would love to just
start a conversation. You know, obviously I'm open to expanding
this network, and it doesn't need to be just like
(17:10):
repeated miscarriage. You know, I am working with a group
also where they are you know, the women who started
this group, they had multiple stilver.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
It just has to do with just like women like
and families.
Speaker 3 (17:28):
Anybody who cares about women and families like I invite
to participate.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
Yes, yes, And I think it's so important that people
understand about it, that women and families and that journey
of healing but also of hope. And I think that's
such an important thing and that's such an incredible thing
that you are your enterprise is doing. Is it's providing hope,
because so many times that's all that you really need
(17:56):
sometimes through all of it, to get you through those
dark moments, to get you through those really dark tough times.
Is having that hope, but also knowing that there's a
community and there's people that understand and have an idea
of what you're going through, but are also working with
you to heal and give back to those because I
know there's a lot of women that I was speaking
(18:17):
to and men with their families that are very interested
in finding places like yours that can give them a
place for advocacy but also for the support and finding
different ways to help them make their dreams come true.
Speaker 3 (18:33):
I think you hit it right, the no right on
the head when you said it's about hope.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
I think.
Speaker 3 (18:40):
Hope and sadness are temporary until you take action. And
you know, when you have a beacon of hope, that
opens up.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
So many different doors.
Speaker 3 (18:55):
And you know that I couldn't have said it better
than you did you like in an eciety now where
you know, like everything you consume can you know, like
you get over stimulated with you know, media and and
a lot of negativity and a lot of noise. Hopelessness
(19:16):
is very prevalent in our current society, which is it's
really really really sad and disheartening to me. That's why, Yeah,
you know it's that's that's exactly the motto for the
Willow Grant rooted in hope, because hope can take you anywhere.
Speaker 1 (19:38):
And it's and it gives you passion, it empowers you,
but I think it also gives you the strength to
put that one foot in front of the other when
you're when you're having a disappointment a letdown, especially on
this journey, that it's able to say, Okay, I can
acknowledge it, but I can have hope to move forward.
(19:59):
I'm I remember my doctor saying to me at one point,
how much more do you have in you? How much
more do you have left to continue this fight? And
I said, I'm going to keep on trying until I can't.
And he said, all right, let's do it. Let's do
it again. And I remember someone said, just pick your
head up. No, you don't have anything to be embarrassed about,
and do it. You can do this. You have your mindset,
(20:21):
you can do this, keep going, keep going. We know
you can do this. And that just made me feel like, wow,
I'm doing this. This is what I'm doing. I'm going
to keep on moving and gave me the strength to
keep moving forward. So I think it's so important that
our listeners know that there is hope and to be
able to keep following your passion and moving forward.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
I completely agree.
Speaker 3 (20:45):
I can you know, like you know, I'll tell you
a story about hope, and it's that story, but it.
Speaker 2 (20:53):
Speaks to the power of hope.
Speaker 3 (20:56):
You know, my mom and her during her last days.
You know, my mom was diagnosed, so they keep me
back in twenty eleven, and you know, it was maybe
it was August thirty, twenty thirteen. The doctors came into
her room and they go, Ellie. That was her name, La,
which is Persian, and they asked her, they go, Ellie, realistically,
(21:20):
what are your goals?
Speaker 2 (21:22):
And you know, she replied.
Speaker 3 (21:24):
She was like, I just can't wait to sleep in
my bed again. And the doctor said to her, they go, Ellie,
that's not a realistic volt. My mom died the next day,
and I firmly believe it was because in answering that question,
(21:46):
my mom was living on hope. You know, that's the
power of hope. It wasn't well power, it was hope.
And you know, in answering that question, it took away
her home and that you know, that was it. And
you know, like obviously like it's part of life, and
(22:09):
it's you know, like I think about that a lot,
and you know, when you know, I saw that.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
The rooted and hope was the slogan.
Speaker 3 (22:18):
For the Willow Grad was what they're rooted it, and
it just felt like such a perfect match.
Speaker 1 (22:27):
Absolutely, and I believe you know, sometimes medically things don't
say they could work, but you know, miracles happen. Things
happened that I think you have that hope even if
sometimes I was told a lot of times it's just
not going to end up happening. But I had the hope.
And I think that's the most important thing that even
if the community of medical community everyone is saying this
(22:49):
is not something that's realistic, it's knowing that there's people
there that have hope. There's your enterprises, these groups that
are here to support you and feed you and help
you get that emotional strength on this journey because it
is a tough journey. But I think it's also the
reward is is a blessing in life that you could
(23:09):
never never get it from anywhere else. That's what I've
always say. My daughter is my gift from God that
I could never imagine. And I think that it's amazing
to have people be able to have that hope but
also to get their gifts too.
Speaker 3 (23:25):
Absolutely, So, like you know, I invite everybody who has
a hopeful, loving heart to participate in this event. No,
I think that type of energy is what I'm trying
to fill this room with because hope we'll get you anywhere.
So that's January twenty fifth at the Bruce Museum in Green, Kentucky.
(23:45):
You reached directly out to me at a Adam at
ARV Enterprises LLC dot com, or you know, you can
go to my website www dot aar V Enterprises LLC
dot com.
Speaker 1 (24:01):
Wonderful, wonderful And I am so blessed and honored also
to be part of this, and I cannot wait to
see everybody there and to hear their stories and just
to see the power and the emotion and the strength
that's going to be in that room. And the hope
is going to be just no hope, breathtaking. It's going
to be I think, you know, when you were saying
before having chills up your back, I was having chills
(24:22):
up my back, and I can imagine how many chills
I'm going to have up that back and really realize
that this is the place of hope and strength and
any dreams coming true.
Speaker 2 (24:33):
Absolutely, thank you so much for.
Speaker 3 (24:38):
Having me today like that, you know, like just getting
the message out is half the battle.
Speaker 1 (24:46):
Absolutely, Absolutely, and thank you so much for being on
and everyone again. It's January twenty fifth at the Bruce
Museum in Greenwich, Connecticut, six pm to eight thirty pm.
Please anyone. If you have any questions, you can also
send me an email at Insight into Healing at gmail
dot com. Everyone, thank you so much for tuning in.
(25:08):
Adam again, thank you so much for coming on the
show tonight. It's the best way to start twenty twenty
four out with hope and that's exactly what you did.
Thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (25:20):
Thank you so much, Alexa, thank you.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
And everyone, thank you so much for tuning in. Everyone,
have a good night and God bless
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