January 17, 2024 • 25 mins
I'd like to introduce Adam Vohra. Grew up in Connecticut Persian and Indian descent Background sales and hospitality Personal struggles lead him to start his business, ARV Enterprises, dedicated to fostering innovation and impactful projects. Our mission is to transform creative ideas into reality, driving positive change in various sectors, and most importantly, giving back to the community with his first project launching January 25th. Working with The Nest Egg Foundation and The WIllow Grant.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Lot Host Radio, Lot Host Radio. Hi everyone, and welcome
back to Insight into Healing. My name is Alexas Servo
dibio Anda. I'm your host and I'm so excited to
be back. Happy New Year everyone, Happy twenty twenty four.
I'm so excited to be back on the air with
(00:21):
you this year. Have so many incredible guests and episodes
coming up, but I really wanted to kick off the
new year with a cause that is very dear and
near to my heart. Our guest tonight is Adam Vaurra.
He grew up in Connecticut. He's of Persian and Indian descent.
He has a background in sales and hospitality. His personal
(00:42):
struggles has led him to start his business, AARV Enterprises,
dedicated to fostering innovation and impactful projects. His mission is
to transform creative ideas into reality, driving positive change in
various sectors, and most important, giving back to the community.
(01:02):
With his first project launching this January twenty fifth, working
with the Nest Egg Foundation and the Willow Grant. Adam,
Welcome to Insight into Healing. I'm so excited to have
you on this evening.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Thank you so much. Lessa. That was quite a lovely introduction.
I'm really excited to be here, especially as your first
episode of twenty twenty four. Happy to you to all
the listeners.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Yes, yes, And it's so incredible because your story and
your background is so about the guests that I have
on my show, about giving back to the community, using
your struggles to show your passion, but also to add
your healing process and to inspire others. And the cause
that we are talking about tonight, the Nest Egg Foundation
(01:50):
and the Willow Grant, is also very near and dear
to my heart. Give us a little background on how
you got started and also about this the Willow Grant.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Sure. So you know, back in August, I knew that
you know, I work at sales job right now, and
you know, I knew that I really wanted to start
a business that would not be as you know, self serving,
where like you know, I saw a lot of people
(02:21):
and I was going to a lot of networking events
leading up to launch my business, and it was really
like seeing people just like really just like entrenched and
self promotion. And you know when I found, you know,
when I started asking people these questions is really like
all about enriching themselves, which listen, I understand that for
a component, but for me, you know, I didn't want
(02:43):
to do that. I wanted to serve causes that were
bigger than me. You know, my personal history. You know,
I am in recovery. I you know, over the past
you know, sixteen months, I've been in recovery. And you know,
through that journey, I was able to learn a lot
about myself. And one thing that I learned was that
(03:06):
and feeding my ego and and was my kryptonite. You know.
And in addition to that, like that, you know, the
opposite ego is humility, and like carrying on a mission
that is fueled by humility and giving back was something
that I wanted to be in such a component of
my business. So I decided to, you know, after speaking
(03:27):
with a bunch of people, you know, like I'm in
a community where there's a lot of nonprofit work, and
I you know, I was like, listen, like, I think
there are so many causes that don't get the the
platform that they deserve and that could be really reach
a lot of people. So you know, I decided to
launch this companies where I helped these companies build advocacy
(03:49):
for their respective causes. You mentioned ANSTEC foundation and the
Wild Grant. I was so lucky to come across my
partner in this. Her name's Ashley Redone. And when I
met her, you know, it was a very organic conversation,
and you know, you know, she shared with me about
(04:09):
her family and and you know, the conversation kind of
pivoted to like her struggles with starting a family and
how you know, how she and her husband had you know, no,
I really don't want to, like to feel comfortable, like
really going sharing much about the story because that's her story.
But like they had trouble starting their family, dusputility issues,
(04:30):
and they had the Willow Grant, which was a grant
design to help families like theirs. Immediately it was I
was drawn to it. There are a couple of reasons
because I you know, I do want to share as
to why thirty seven year old, unmarried person with no
children would be interested in this cause, you know, like
(04:53):
my family personally, you know, there has been you know,
I had an aunt who had multiple miscarriages. My mother
wasn't able to bear children. I am and I'm adopted
when she passed away in twenty thirteen. Yeah, I found
out from family, how dark of a place she was
(05:16):
in when she found out she wasn't able to bear children,
and she was she was she was very depressed, She
was very she was in a very very place of inadequacy,
the mental anguish that she was afflicted with, the feeling
of incompetence, that she was overwhelmeds especially culturally, my mom
(05:40):
was a Persian Jew, my dad's Indians. Those cultures you know,
are very graph roots where it's like listen, like you're
the veteran, or you bear children, you raise the children.
My mom wouldn't do that. So when I found that out,
and when I was hearing Ashley's story, like, that's immediately
where it took me to like, you know, that's what
my mom thought. Those are the things that she thought
(06:02):
about regularly until she found me and my sister. And
I immediately was drawn to the cause. And you know,
I was drawn to actually passioned for wanting to build
something special, but also open to like ideas and how
to grow it. So we decided to work together.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
Wow, and it's so incredible, as many of my listeners
that know, took me a long time to finally have
my daughter Maxon, who's four years old now, but the
process of IVF is just so can be brutal at times,
and it's a lot of trying and unfortunately miscarriages and
(06:43):
still born in a lot of very dark, dark places
that can bring you plus the cost, and I think
a lot of times insurance companies won't pay for it.
I know they would not pay for mine because they
said I'm geriatric, because I was older than the age
they thought someone should have a child. So a lot
of times people can't have it also out of finance,
(07:04):
which is very difficult. And what you're doing is really
giving life to families, and it's so important that to
be able to have that, but also to give that
to other people, give that that dream to them and
having this type of organization that will support it and
foster it.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
Yeah, I mean the financial burden and the restrictions that
insurance companies placed on women's health, I think more often
than not in the media and in the public landscape,
you know, we're talking about abortion. You know, like abortion
has been like the one thing that has always been
the first thing that people go to when it comes
(07:43):
to women's health, when like, let's look at the flip
side of that. You know what about these people trying
to have children who can't and the things that resonated
with me the most as I began to like study
and learn and talk to people about their fertility journeys,
there are many times I would out There are several
(08:03):
you know, over the past several months where I would
talk to a woman and I would tell her what
I'm doing, and you know, they would they would come
into my office and they would close the door quietly
behind them, and they would sit down and they would
be like, Adam, like, let me tell you my story.
And that was That's always the most like since shows
(08:27):
up my spines right now as I talk about it,
because it touches so many more people than we think
it does. And the thing that strikes me the most
and the biggest commonality that I had with my personal struggles,
you know, like I I'm you know, I'm sober fifteen months.
I mentioned you, But that was a journey that I
was very much ashamed to address, a shame to talk
(08:49):
about publicly. And you know, like that that traps feeling
of like not being heard or you know that's I
resonated it so well with these women who would you know,
just show me that die to them be vulnerable, and
that's how real change happens. That's how it happened to
(09:11):
me for me, and you know like that that the
emotional component is what I connected with so much. Like like,
I think that there should be a safe space because
being trapped in that mind of yours is the danger
(09:34):
most dangerous place and the feeling of being alone in
a struggle like that hopelessness is just not a place
to be. But a lot of it, Yeah, it is
self inflicted because you know, you don't talk about it,
and you know that's where you know, I come in,
where I'm going to provide a safe space for people
to talk about, to rally around it and and and
(09:55):
hopefully incorporate change.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Yes, And it's so into because so many times women
don't want to. Even the husband's or the boyfriend's fiances
are almost have that shame or that stigma when they
are going through the infertility or going through IVF that
it's hard to have that discussion. But yet it's such
a big part of someone's life. It doesn't happen overnight.
(10:22):
Mine took three years and about seven to ten different
tries of different ways of different you know different methods,
and it's very, very difficult, and I think having that
safe space, that place where someone can come to and
really be able to speak about it and be able
to say, wow, this is my story, because I think
so many times people don't want to talk about IVF, infertility,
(10:44):
trying to start a family, miscarriages. It's you know, as
I say, it's not a hot topic, and I think
it really needs to be more brought to the light
that this is something that many women go through and
a lot of times of doing my shows and the
last chapter of my book was dedicated to my journey
and to my daughter that I lost in a miscarriage,
(11:06):
and I think it's so important of giving people that hope,
but also making sure people are also aware of what's
going on and what someone could be going through and
just watching what you say or what type of questions
you ask or what type of judgments sometimes people can
have without knowing the whole story about it.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
Listen, I totally agree. You know, so, like I mentioned
before that you know, me and my sister were adopted.
We didn't find out until we were thirteen years old.
And when we found out, we you know, I confronted
my parents, my mom and I, you know, one day,
I you know, like I we were driving back from
(11:48):
the local town park, you know, after David the beach
and I kind of started bickering with my sister and
at one point I just let it up mom when
we adopted, right, and she you know, super stylent in
the car, and right afterwards she was like, yeah, when
we got home, you know, they doesn't go clean up,
come downstairs and let's have a conversation. So we came
(12:11):
downstairs and when they said it is non they were like, listen,
like the reason we didn't tell you is because people
would look at you differently. And I remember in that
moment like that was like a major turning point in
my life because then I started to look at myself differently.
But now as I grow up and I look back,
it wasn't that people would look at me differently. My
(12:32):
parents are afraid that people would look at them differently,
you know, So like that's the part where like that
was the shame that you know, like actually these other
women who have spoken about were referred to, but was
shame where they wanted to keep it a secret even
after like having you know, having me and my sister,
My parents were shamed of being perceived as inadequate or
(12:55):
that they weren't normal. It wasn't about us, It was
about protecting that. And you know, that's something where like,
you know, it was a different time. That was something
that I struggled with for a very long time. But
once I you know, especially now as you know, I
started working on this project and I started working on
(13:15):
this project, I realized that, like, it's not about me.
They didn't think people would look at me differently. There
for people look at them differently. And you know, like
that kind of resonates with what you just said, where yeah,
like you know, like there shouldn't be shame associated with
this happens more often than more people than you are
(13:36):
willing to admit, apparently do struggle with with fertility issues.
And it's something that now with the treatment available, should
be more accessible, you know, And you know that's the
goal that's mine to Nashley, regardless's goal is to build
a coalition. And we're so grateful Alexa for you know,
(13:58):
like just for meeting you the first conversation we had,
you know, like you were very transparent with your story.
You you know, peel back the onion and let me in.
And you know, I immediately knew. I was like, I
want I want you involved, I want you to be
at our events. I want you to share your story.
(14:19):
And you know, like I couldn't be more blessed that
you came into the picture as soon as you did,
you know. So, you know like I'm grateful to like
all the people who have rallied around it. And I
do think there is going to be like a big
year ahead of us, not only with just like raising resources,
(14:43):
but just normalizing the conversation.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
Yes, yes, Now this event is on January twenty fifth
at the Bruce Museum in Greenwich. Is it six to
eight thirty pm.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
Six o'clock to e p m so Duras Museum. It's
right off Acted three on ninety five in Connecticut. It's
a beautiful venue. It's gonna be more like a cocktail reception.
I'm gonna share a few words. Ashley is going to
share a few words. Dana Gill and the president of
the Netflix Foundation, will certainly share a few words as well.
(15:21):
It's it's really just the way for people to meet Ashley,
meet the board, understand the work that we're doing. You know,
also learn when ways to participate in contribute to to
to to the larger initiative that we plan on rolling
out in the weeks ahead. It's gonna be like more.
(15:44):
I didn't want it to be like like like I said,
down dinner. I wanted it to be where people can
like mingle and and and and be comfortable with each
other and provide a safe space for for women and
men too to share share their experience.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
Yes, and I think that's I think you're right. You
hit it right on with not having a sit down,
because I think this is the type of topic people
want to share their stories and speak to speak to
each other and really have that type of setting. Who
who should come to this? How can they find out
more about that? Because I know many of my listeners
are definitely interested in and showing up and supporting. What
(16:23):
would be the next step? What should they expect?
Speaker 2 (16:28):
Okay, so like the next step, you can go to
my website ARV Enterprises LLC dot com. Immediately when you
go on to a pop up will come which will
direct you to where you can purchase tickets to the event.
You can also email me directly Adam at ar V
(16:49):
Enterprises LLC. Dot com. Honestly, I invite you to. I
would love to hear people's stories. I would love to
just start a conversation. You know. Obviously I'm open to
expanding this network. And it doesn't need to be just
(17:11):
like repeated miscarriage. You know, I am working with a
group also where they are you know, the women who
started this group, they had multiple stillburns. It just has
to do with just like women like and families, anybody
(17:31):
who cares about women and families like I invite to participate.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
Yes, yes, And I think it's so important that people
understand about it, that women and families and that journey
of healing but also of hope. And I think that's
such an important thing, and that's such an incredible thing
that you are your enterprise is doing. Is it's providing hope,
because so many times that's all that you really need
(17:59):
sometimes through all of it, to get you through those
dark moments, to get you through those really dark tough times.
Is having that hope but also knowing that there's a
community and there's people that understand and have an idea
of what you're going through, but are also working with
you to heal and give back to those because I
know there's a lot of women that I've been speaking
(18:19):
to and men with their families that are very interested
in finding places like yours that can give them a
place for advocacy but also for the support and finding
different ways to help them make their dreams come true.
Speaker 2 (18:36):
I think you hit it right, the no right on
the head when you said it's about hope. I think
hope and sadness are temporary until you take action. And
you know, when you have a beacon of hope, that
opens up so many different doors. And you know, that's
(19:00):
I couldn't have said it better than you did. You know,
like in an aciety now where you know, like everything
you consume can you know, like you get over stimulated
with you know, media and and a lot of negativity
and a lot of noise. Hopelessness is very prevalent in
our current society, which is it's really really, really sad
(19:27):
and disheartening to me. That's why, Yeah, you know, it's
that's that's exactly the motto for the Willow Grant rooted
in hope, because hope can take you anywhere.
Speaker 1 (19:41):
And it's and it gives you passion, it empowers you.
But I think it also gives you the strength to
put that one foot in front of the other when
you're when you're having a disappointment a letdown, especially on
this journey, that it's able to say, Okay, I can
acknowledge it, but I can have hope to move forward.
(20:02):
I remember my doctor saying to me at one point,
how much more do you have in you? How much
more do you have left to continue this fight? And
I said, I'm going to keep on trying until I can't,
And he said, all right, let's do it. Let's do
it again. And I remember someone said, just pick your
head up. No, you don't have anything to be embarrassed about,
and do it. You can do this. You have your mindset,
(20:23):
you can do this, keep going, keep going. We know
you can do this. And that just made me feel like, wow,
I'm doing this. This is what I'm doing. I'm going
to keep on moving and gave me the strength to
keep moving forward. So I think it's so important that
our listeners know that there is hope and to be
able to keep following your passion and moving forward.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
I completely agree. I can you know, like you know,
I'll tell you a story about hope, and it's that story,
but it speaks to the power of hope. You know,
my mom and her during her last days. You know,
my mom was diagnosed with bikemia back in twenty eleven,
and you know, it was maybe it was August thirty,
(21:09):
twenty thirteen. The doctors came into her room and they go, Ellie.
That was her name, La, which is Persian, and they
asked her, they go, Ellie, realistically, what are your goals?
And you know, she replied, she was like, I just
can't wait to sleep in my bed again. And the
(21:33):
doctor said to her, they go, Ellie, that's not a
realistic goal. My mom died the next day, and I
firmly believe it was because in answering that question, my
mom was living on hope. You know, that's the power
of hope. It wasn't will power, it was hope. And
(21:57):
you know, in answering that question, it took away her
home and that you know, that was it. And you know,
like obviously, like it's part of life, and it's you know,
like I think about that a lot, and you know,
when you know, I saw that the rooted and hope
was the slogan for the Willow grad was what they're
(22:22):
rooted in and it just felt like such a perfect match.
Speaker 1 (22:29):
Absolutely, and I believe you know, sometimes medically things don't
say they could work, but you know, miracles happen. Things
happened that I think you have that hope even if
sometimes I was told a lot of times it's just
not going to end up happening. But I had the hope.
And I think that's the most important thing that even
if the community of medical community everyone is saying this
(22:51):
is not something that's realistic, it's knowing that there's people
there that have hope. There's your enterprises. These groups that
are here apports you and feed you and help you
get that emotional strength on this journey because it is
a tough journey. But I think it's also the reward
is a blessing in life that you could never never
(23:13):
get it from anywhere else. It's what I've always say,
my daughter is my gift from God that I could
never imagine. And I think that it's amazing to have
people be able to have that hope but also to
get their gifts too.
Speaker 2 (23:27):
Absolutely, So, like you know, I invite everybody who has
a hopeful, loving heart to participate in this event. No,
I think that type of energy is what I'm trying
to fill this room with because hope we'll get you anywhere.
So that's January twenty fifth at the Bruce Museum in Gremi. Knecky,
(23:48):
you reached directly out to me at a Adam at
ARV ENTERPRISESLLC dot com, or you know, you can go
to my website www dot aar V Enterprise LLC dot com.
Speaker 1 (24:03):
Wonderful, wonderful and I am so blessed and honored also
to be part of this, and I cannot wait to
see everybody there and to hear their stories and just
to see the power and the emotion and the strength
that's going to be in that room. And the hope
is going to be just no hope, breathtaking. It's going
to be. I think, you know, when you were saying
before having chills up your back, I was having chills
(24:24):
up my back, and I can imagine how many chills
I'm going to have up that back and really realize
that this is the place of hope and strength and
ny dreams coming true.
Speaker 2 (24:36):
Absolutely, thank you so much for having me today like that,
you know, like just getting the message out is half
the battle.
Speaker 1 (24:48):
Absolutely, absolutely, and thank you so much for being on
and everyone again. It's January twenty fifth at the Bruce
Museum in Greenwich, Connecticut, six pm to eight thirty. Please anyone.
If you have any questions, you can also send me
an email at Insight into Healing at gmail dot com. Everyone,
(25:09):
thank you so much for tuning in. Adam again, thank
you so much for coming on the show tonight. It's
the best way to start twenty twenty four out with
hope and that's exactly what you did. Thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (25:22):
Thank you so much, Alexa, thank you and everyone.
Speaker 1 (25:25):
Thank you so much for tuning in. Everyone, have a
good night and God bless
Lot Host Radio, Lot Host Radio. Hi everyone, and welcome
back to Insight into Healing. My name is Alexas Servo
dibio Anda. I'm your host and I'm so excited to
be back. Happy New Year everyone, Happy twenty twenty four.
I'm so excited to be back on the air with
(00:21):
you this year. Have so many incredible guests and episodes
coming up, but I really wanted to kick off the
new year with a cause that is very dear and
near to my heart. Our guest tonight is Adam Vaurra.
He grew up in Connecticut. He's of Persian and Indian descent.
He has a background in sales and hospitality. His personal
(00:42):
struggles has led him to start his business, AARV Enterprises,
dedicated to fostering innovation and impactful projects. His mission is
to transform creative ideas into reality, driving positive change in
various sectors, and most important, giving back to the community.
(01:02):
With his first project launching this January twenty fifth, working
with the Nest Egg Foundation and the Willow Grant. Adam,
Welcome to Insight into Healing. I'm so excited to have
you on this evening.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Thank you so much. Lessa. That was quite a lovely introduction.
I'm really excited to be here, especially as your first
episode of twenty twenty four. Happy to you to all
the listeners.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Yes, yes, And it's so incredible because your story and
your background is so about the guests that I have
on my show, about giving back to the community, using
your struggles to show your passion, but also to add
your healing process and to inspire others. And the cause
that we are talking about tonight, the Nest Egg Foundation
(01:50):
and the Willow Grant, is also very near and dear
to my heart. Give us a little background on how
you got started and also about this the Willow Grant.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Sure. So you know, back in August, I knew that
you know, I work at sales job right now, and
you know, I knew that I really wanted to start
a business that would not be as you know, self serving,
where like you know, I saw a lot of people
(02:21):
and I was going to a lot of networking events
leading up to launch my business, and it was really
like seeing people just like really just like entrenched and
self promotion. And you know when I found, you know,
when I started asking people these questions is really like
all about enriching themselves, which listen, I understand that for
a component, but for me, you know, I didn't want
(02:43):
to do that. I wanted to serve causes that were
bigger than me. You know, my personal history. You know,
I am in recovery. I you know, over the past
you know, sixteen months, I've been in recovery. And you know,
through that journey, I was able to learn a lot
about myself. And one thing that I learned was that
(03:06):
and feeding my ego and and was my kryptonite. You know.
And in addition to that, like that, you know, the
opposite ego is humility, and like carrying on a mission
that is fueled by humility and giving back was something
that I wanted to be in such a component of
my business. So I decided to, you know, after speaking
(03:27):
with a bunch of people, you know, like I'm in
a community where there's a lot of nonprofit work, and
I you know, I was like, listen, like, I think
there are so many causes that don't get the the
platform that they deserve and that could be really reach
a lot of people. So you know, I decided to
launch this companies where I helped these companies build advocacy
(03:49):
for their respective causes. You mentioned ANSTEC foundation and the
Wild Grant. I was so lucky to come across my
partner in this. Her name's Ashley Redone. And when I
met her, you know, it was a very organic conversation,
and you know, you know, she shared with me about
(04:09):
her family and and you know, the conversation kind of
pivoted to like her struggles with starting a family and
how you know, how she and her husband had you know, no,
I really don't want to, like to feel comfortable, like
really going sharing much about the story because that's her story.
But like they had trouble starting their family, dusputility issues,
(04:30):
and they had the Willow Grant, which was a grant
design to help families like theirs. Immediately it was I
was drawn to it. There are a couple of reasons
because I you know, I do want to share as
to why thirty seven year old, unmarried person with no
children would be interested in this cause, you know, like
(04:53):
my family personally, you know, there has been you know,
I had an aunt who had multiple miscarriages. My mother
wasn't able to bear children. I am and I'm adopted
when she passed away in twenty thirteen. Yeah, I found
out from family, how dark of a place she was
(05:16):
in when she found out she wasn't able to bear children,
and she was she was she was very depressed, She
was very she was in a very very place of inadequacy,
the mental anguish that she was afflicted with, the feeling
of incompetence, that she was overwhelmeds especially culturally, my mom
(05:40):
was a Persian Jew, my dad's Indians. Those cultures you know,
are very graph roots where it's like listen, like you're
the veteran, or you bear children, you raise the children.
My mom wouldn't do that. So when I found that out,
and when I was hearing Ashley's story, like, that's immediately
where it took me to like, you know, that's what
my mom thought. Those are the things that she thought
(06:02):
about regularly until she found me and my sister. And
I immediately was drawn to the cause. And you know,
I was drawn to actually passioned for wanting to build
something special, but also open to like ideas and how
to grow it. So we decided to work together.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
Wow, and it's so incredible, as many of my listeners
that know, took me a long time to finally have
my daughter Maxon, who's four years old now, but the
process of IVF is just so can be brutal at times,
and it's a lot of trying and unfortunately miscarriages and
(06:43):
still born in a lot of very dark, dark places
that can bring you plus the cost, and I think
a lot of times insurance companies won't pay for it.
I know they would not pay for mine because they
said I'm geriatric, because I was older than the age
they thought someone should have a child. So a lot
of times people can't have it also out of finance,
(07:04):
which is very difficult. And what you're doing is really
giving life to families, and it's so important that to
be able to have that, but also to give that
to other people, give that that dream to them and
having this type of organization that will support it and
foster it.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
Yeah, I mean the financial burden and the restrictions that
insurance companies placed on women's health, I think more often
than not in the media and in the public landscape,
you know, we're talking about abortion. You know, like abortion
has been like the one thing that has always been
the first thing that people go to when it comes
(07:43):
to women's health, when like, let's look at the flip
side of that. You know what about these people trying
to have children who can't and the things that resonated
with me the most as I began to like study
and learn and talk to people about their fertility journeys,
there are many times I would out There are several
(08:03):
you know, over the past several months where I would
talk to a woman and I would tell her what
I'm doing, and you know, they would they would come
into my office and they would close the door quietly
behind them, and they would sit down and they would
be like, Adam, like, let me tell you my story.
And that was That's always the most like since shows
(08:27):
up my spines right now as I talk about it,
because it touches so many more people than we think
it does. And the thing that strikes me the most
and the biggest commonality that I had with my personal struggles,
you know, like I I'm you know, I'm sober fifteen months.
I mentioned you, But that was a journey that I
was very much ashamed to address, a shame to talk
(08:49):
about publicly. And you know, like that that traps feeling
of like not being heard or you know that's I
resonated it so well with these women who would you know,
just show me that die to them be vulnerable, and
that's how real change happens. That's how it happened to
(09:11):
me for me, and you know like that that the
emotional component is what I connected with so much. Like like,
I think that there should be a safe space because
being trapped in that mind of yours is the danger
(09:34):
most dangerous place and the feeling of being alone in
a struggle like that hopelessness is just not a place
to be. But a lot of it, Yeah, it is
self inflicted because you know, you don't talk about it,
and you know that's where you know, I come in,
where I'm going to provide a safe space for people
to talk about, to rally around it and and and
(09:55):
hopefully incorporate change.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Yes, And it's so into because so many times women
don't want to. Even the husband's or the boyfriend's fiances
are almost have that shame or that stigma when they
are going through the infertility or going through IVF that
it's hard to have that discussion. But yet it's such
a big part of someone's life. It doesn't happen overnight.
(10:22):
Mine took three years and about seven to ten different
tries of different ways of different you know different methods,
and it's very, very difficult, and I think having that
safe space, that place where someone can come to and
really be able to speak about it and be able
to say, wow, this is my story, because I think
so many times people don't want to talk about IVF, infertility,
(10:44):
trying to start a family, miscarriages. It's you know, as
I say, it's not a hot topic, and I think
it really needs to be more brought to the light
that this is something that many women go through and
a lot of times of doing my shows and the
last chapter of my book was dedicated to my journey
and to my daughter that I lost in a miscarriage,
(11:06):
and I think it's so important of giving people that hope,
but also making sure people are also aware of what's
going on and what someone could be going through and
just watching what you say or what type of questions
you ask or what type of judgments sometimes people can
have without knowing the whole story about it.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
Listen, I totally agree. You know, so, like I mentioned
before that you know, me and my sister were adopted.
We didn't find out until we were thirteen years old.
And when we found out, we you know, I confronted
my parents, my mom and I, you know, one day,
I you know, like I we were driving back from
(11:48):
the local town park, you know, after David the beach
and I kind of started bickering with my sister and
at one point I just let it up mom when
we adopted, right, and she you know, super stylent in
the car, and right afterwards she was like, yeah, when
we got home, you know, they doesn't go clean up,
come downstairs and let's have a conversation. So we came
(12:11):
downstairs and when they said it is non they were like, listen,
like the reason we didn't tell you is because people
would look at you differently. And I remember in that
moment like that was like a major turning point in
my life because then I started to look at myself differently.
But now as I grow up and I look back,
it wasn't that people would look at me differently. My
(12:32):
parents are afraid that people would look at them differently,
you know, So like that's the part where like that
was the shame that you know, like actually these other
women who have spoken about were referred to, but was
shame where they wanted to keep it a secret even
after like having you know, having me and my sister,
My parents were shamed of being perceived as inadequate or
(12:55):
that they weren't normal. It wasn't about us, It was
about protecting that. And you know, that's something where like,
you know, it was a different time. That was something
that I struggled with for a very long time. But
once I you know, especially now as you know, I
started working on this project and I started working on
(13:15):
this project, I realized that, like, it's not about me.
They didn't think people would look at me differently. There
for people look at them differently. And you know, like
that kind of resonates with what you just said, where yeah,
like you know, like there shouldn't be shame associated with
this happens more often than more people than you are
(13:36):
willing to admit, apparently do struggle with with fertility issues.
And it's something that now with the treatment available, should
be more accessible, you know, And you know that's the
goal that's mine to Nashley, regardless's goal is to build
a coalition. And we're so grateful Alexa for you know,
(13:58):
like just for meeting you the first conversation we had,
you know, like you were very transparent with your story.
You you know, peel back the onion and let me in.
And you know, I immediately knew. I was like, I
want I want you involved, I want you to be
at our events. I want you to share your story.
(14:19):
And you know, like I couldn't be more blessed that
you came into the picture as soon as you did,
you know. So, you know like I'm grateful to like
all the people who have rallied around it. And I
do think there is going to be like a big
year ahead of us, not only with just like raising resources,
(14:43):
but just normalizing the conversation.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
Yes, yes, Now this event is on January twenty fifth
at the Bruce Museum in Greenwich. Is it six to
eight thirty pm.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
Six o'clock to e p m so Duras Museum. It's
right off Acted three on ninety five in Connecticut. It's
a beautiful venue. It's gonna be more like a cocktail reception.
I'm gonna share a few words. Ashley is going to
share a few words. Dana Gill and the president of
the Netflix Foundation, will certainly share a few words as well.
(15:21):
It's it's really just the way for people to meet Ashley,
meet the board, understand the work that we're doing. You know,
also learn when ways to participate in contribute to to
to to the larger initiative that we plan on rolling
out in the weeks ahead. It's gonna be like more.
(15:44):
I didn't want it to be like like like I said,
down dinner. I wanted it to be where people can
like mingle and and and and be comfortable with each
other and provide a safe space for for women and
men too to share share their experience.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
Yes, and I think that's I think you're right. You
hit it right on with not having a sit down,
because I think this is the type of topic people
want to share their stories and speak to speak to
each other and really have that type of setting. Who
who should come to this? How can they find out
more about that? Because I know many of my listeners
are definitely interested in and showing up and supporting. What
(16:23):
would be the next step? What should they expect?
Speaker 2 (16:28):
Okay, so like the next step, you can go to
my website ARV Enterprises LLC dot com. Immediately when you
go on to a pop up will come which will
direct you to where you can purchase tickets to the event.
You can also email me directly Adam at ar V
(16:49):
Enterprises LLC. Dot com. Honestly, I invite you to. I
would love to hear people's stories. I would love to
just start a conversation. You know. Obviously I'm open to
expanding this network. And it doesn't need to be just
(17:11):
like repeated miscarriage. You know, I am working with a
group also where they are you know, the women who
started this group, they had multiple stillburns. It just has
to do with just like women like and families, anybody
(17:31):
who cares about women and families like I invite to participate.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
Yes, yes, And I think it's so important that people
understand about it, that women and families and that journey
of healing but also of hope. And I think that's
such an important thing, and that's such an incredible thing
that you are your enterprise is doing. Is it's providing hope,
because so many times that's all that you really need
(17:59):
sometimes through all of it, to get you through those
dark moments, to get you through those really dark tough times.
Is having that hope but also knowing that there's a
community and there's people that understand and have an idea
of what you're going through, but are also working with
you to heal and give back to those because I
know there's a lot of women that I've been speaking
(18:19):
to and men with their families that are very interested
in finding places like yours that can give them a
place for advocacy but also for the support and finding
different ways to help them make their dreams come true.
Speaker 2 (18:36):
I think you hit it right, the no right on
the head when you said it's about hope. I think
hope and sadness are temporary until you take action. And
you know, when you have a beacon of hope, that
opens up so many different doors. And you know, that's
(19:00):
I couldn't have said it better than you did. You know,
like in an aciety now where you know, like everything
you consume can you know, like you get over stimulated
with you know, media and and a lot of negativity
and a lot of noise. Hopelessness is very prevalent in
our current society, which is it's really really, really sad
(19:27):
and disheartening to me. That's why, Yeah, you know, it's
that's that's exactly the motto for the Willow Grant rooted
in hope, because hope can take you anywhere.
Speaker 1 (19:41):
And it's and it gives you passion, it empowers you.
But I think it also gives you the strength to
put that one foot in front of the other when
you're when you're having a disappointment a letdown, especially on
this journey, that it's able to say, Okay, I can
acknowledge it, but I can have hope to move forward.
(20:02):
I remember my doctor saying to me at one point,
how much more do you have in you? How much
more do you have left to continue this fight? And
I said, I'm going to keep on trying until I can't,
And he said, all right, let's do it. Let's do
it again. And I remember someone said, just pick your
head up. No, you don't have anything to be embarrassed about,
and do it. You can do this. You have your mindset,
(20:23):
you can do this, keep going, keep going. We know
you can do this. And that just made me feel like, wow,
I'm doing this. This is what I'm doing. I'm going
to keep on moving and gave me the strength to
keep moving forward. So I think it's so important that
our listeners know that there is hope and to be
able to keep following your passion and moving forward.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
I completely agree. I can you know, like you know,
I'll tell you a story about hope, and it's that story,
but it speaks to the power of hope. You know,
my mom and her during her last days. You know,
my mom was diagnosed with bikemia back in twenty eleven,
and you know, it was maybe it was August thirty,
(21:09):
twenty thirteen. The doctors came into her room and they go, Ellie.
That was her name, La, which is Persian, and they
asked her, they go, Ellie, realistically, what are your goals?
And you know, she replied, she was like, I just
can't wait to sleep in my bed again. And the
(21:33):
doctor said to her, they go, Ellie, that's not a
realistic goal. My mom died the next day, and I
firmly believe it was because in answering that question, my
mom was living on hope. You know, that's the power
of hope. It wasn't will power, it was hope. And
(21:57):
you know, in answering that question, it took away her
home and that you know, that was it. And you know,
like obviously, like it's part of life, and it's you know,
like I think about that a lot, and you know,
when you know, I saw that the rooted and hope
was the slogan for the Willow grad was what they're
(22:22):
rooted in and it just felt like such a perfect match.
Speaker 1 (22:29):
Absolutely, and I believe you know, sometimes medically things don't
say they could work, but you know, miracles happen. Things
happened that I think you have that hope even if
sometimes I was told a lot of times it's just
not going to end up happening. But I had the hope.
And I think that's the most important thing that even
if the community of medical community everyone is saying this
(22:51):
is not something that's realistic, it's knowing that there's people
there that have hope. There's your enterprises. These groups that
are here apports you and feed you and help you
get that emotional strength on this journey because it is
a tough journey. But I think it's also the reward
is a blessing in life that you could never never
(23:13):
get it from anywhere else. It's what I've always say,
my daughter is my gift from God that I could
never imagine. And I think that it's amazing to have
people be able to have that hope but also to
get their gifts too.
Speaker 2 (23:27):
Absolutely, So, like you know, I invite everybody who has
a hopeful, loving heart to participate in this event. No,
I think that type of energy is what I'm trying
to fill this room with because hope we'll get you anywhere.
So that's January twenty fifth at the Bruce Museum in Gremi. Knecky,
(23:48):
you reached directly out to me at a Adam at
ARV ENTERPRISESLLC dot com, or you know, you can go
to my website www dot aar V Enterprise LLC dot com.
Speaker 1 (24:03):
Wonderful, wonderful and I am so blessed and honored also
to be part of this, and I cannot wait to
see everybody there and to hear their stories and just
to see the power and the emotion and the strength
that's going to be in that room. And the hope
is going to be just no hope, breathtaking. It's going
to be. I think, you know, when you were saying
before having chills up your back, I was having chills
(24:24):
up my back, and I can imagine how many chills
I'm going to have up that back and really realize
that this is the place of hope and strength and
ny dreams coming true.
Speaker 2 (24:36):
Absolutely, thank you so much for having me today like that,
you know, like just getting the message out is half
the battle.
Speaker 1 (24:48):
Absolutely, absolutely, and thank you so much for being on
and everyone again. It's January twenty fifth at the Bruce
Museum in Greenwich, Connecticut, six pm to eight thirty. Please anyone.
If you have any questions, you can also send me
an email at Insight into Healing at gmail dot com. Everyone,
(25:09):
thank you so much for tuning in. Adam again, thank
you so much for coming on the show tonight. It's
the best way to start twenty twenty four out with
hope and that's exactly what you did. Thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (25:22):
Thank you so much, Alexa, thank you and everyone.
Speaker 1 (25:25):
Thank you so much for tuning in. Everyone, have a
good night and God bless
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