Soul Statements – You Deserve More Out of Life and Love with Corey Lyon Folsom - Inspired Living

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go prospecting together, shall we. Today I want to welcome
a very special guest, Corey Lynn Folsom, and we're going
to be talking about his book, and we're going to
dive into his book, Soul Statements. You deserve more out
of life and love, and who doesn't want more out
of life and love? I know that I do. So

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I want to read a little bit about Corey's journey
and kind of give you a synops of the book,
and then we'll dive in and go prospecting to find
those diamonds that I'm always talking about, but he always
talks about. Corey talks about old patterns can be replaced
with skillful listening and communication that aligns with how we
want to live and how to love. Masculine feminine dynamics

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can be a source of appreciation and excitements once they're understood.
Imagine going beyond current limitations and being really happy with
the depth and texture of your intimate connections. Wisdom is
your center. So Corey is a highly regarded love and
relationship coach and the author of Sole Statements, a Love
Coach's Guide to Successful Communication. Corey's award winning books, Sole

(04:46):
Statements is a practical guide I love that. I love practicality,
full of simple yet potent tools for making small shifts
that produce outsized benefits in life and love. As a
certified NLP practitioner and relationship coach, he helps people increase
the soulfulness, clarity, and ease with which they experience life.

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Corey is passionate about helping people expand their empathy and
communication skills, and after a spiritual soul awakening back in
two thousand and nine, Corey participated in I'm not sure
I'm saying this right, Rogan, He'll correct me. I'm sure,
but Ibsalu the source school of TNTRA Yoga, Light Love
Coach Academy Tony Robbins and other programs. And he's been

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a professional tracker, a Aboriginal Skills instructor, wilderness guide and
newly sober people and Vision quest leader. So we're going
to talk about all that because I'm curious to know
what that is. He enjoys daily movement and is the
father of two adult sons, and he wants to make
sure to promote his book today and this guide, a

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Love Coach's Guide to Successful Communication, also known as soul statements.
That link is directly on our social media pages or
the Inspired Liby main radio page if you want to
go check that out, and you can also visit his
website at core relationship dot com. Corey, Welcome to Inspired Living,
my friend.

Speaker 3 (06:15):
Thank you so much, Mark. I'm really happy to be here.

Speaker 2 (06:19):
Yeah, thanks for being so correct me. Did I pronounce
that wrong? I've never seen this word? I P s
l A l U. How do you pronounce this?

Speaker 4 (06:29):
Sala?

Speaker 3 (06:30):
No? Ipsolute absolute?

Speaker 2 (06:32):
Thank you for that? And and what is that? What
is ipsolute?

Speaker 3 (06:38):
It is what they I guess under the heading of
white contra, which means it consists of by and large
solo breathing practices. So you're practicing kind of directing your
energy within your own body and and just becoming aligned

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in your in your center through primarily breathing.

Speaker 2 (07:03):
Okay, okay ye. I practice a lot of soma breath work.
So this is a word that I had not seen before,
so I will definitely research it and learn more about it.
But it's really the focus of ipsola is working with
breath through the power of tntra. Is that would that
be fair to say?

Speaker 3 (07:17):
Yes? And we could just distill contra into or we
could substitute the word intentionality. So you're being very present
for that texture of this moment and you're, you know,
focusing on the breath and how how it's moving through
your system.

Speaker 2 (07:35):
Okay, yeah, See, that's why I like doing these podcasts,
because I get to learn something every time I do
an episode. So where does where does that modality come from?
What part of the world? Absolute?

Speaker 3 (07:46):
Uh, somewhere in the subcontinent of India.

Speaker 2 (07:52):
Okay, okay, yeah, interesting, Okay, yeah, I was just when
I was reading through it, I was like, I got
to understand what this is because I've never heard that
word before. And I do work with a lot of
different breathworks, but not this one. So let's talk about
your new book. I enjoyed reading through it. I love
the opening chapter because you start with Joseph Campbell. The
cave you fear enters, the enter. The cave you fear

(08:13):
to enter holds the treasure you seek. And I've been
watching a series with Joseph Campbell on PBS. I've actually
taped them, and I'm going back and now this is
back in the seventies and he's a much older, more
seasoned man at this time. But I love his philosophy
and his wisdom, and I like how you open up
the chapter to say, what can what this book can
do for you? And I'm just going to read a

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little bit for our listening audience out there so they
can kind of get a taste of this book, and
then we'll get into some questions for you. But it says,
if you've longed to become a more confident and graceful communicator,
Soul Statements is for you. It offers a direct path
the personal empowerment by teaching you how to effectively turn
your inner voice into a constructive ally. Each chapter has

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a wealth of simple, yet potent tools for relieving and
upgrading your communication, mindfulness, and connection. As a result, you
can interact with family, friends, and co workers in a
more caring and productive way. I love that because I
think in this time, I don't think, I know in
this time, we have a lot of division between families

(09:19):
and friends in our world. And I think today's episode
is going to be very powerful because you do focus
on you know, communications, mindfulness, connections, or what I like
to say, unity through community. So tell us about how
this book came into my reality. How you started to
envision this manifest this? How did you come about this
knowledge for writing this book?

Speaker 3 (09:41):
Well, I heard there was a germ of an idea
when I heard Tony Robbins say that our minds aren't
designed to make us happy, and that what's wrong is
always available, but what right is also available always and

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so and then I then I heard some other people
talking about choosing your next thought, making that that default
thought be a better one, and so if you insert
the positive into your thinking, then your next thought is

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informed by that. So that all kind of gelled in
my mind. And I started asking my coaching clients when
they're in some form of distress or helplessness or feeling
less than I would say, what are you? What are
you thinking at that exact moment? What's your mind telling you?
And then helping them. And this is how I actually

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do it. I say, huh, I used to think that,
And what's really true is and then insert of soul
statements such as I have a loving heart, there is
wisdom in my center. I got this, this too shall
pass and so and then just re anchoring to something

(11:10):
inside me that's more resourced, and I can believe that
other fault story less, and it's moving from feeling disempowered
to feeling more empowered. So that's how it all started,
and so I just was the coaching clients had such
great results from it, I thought, Oh, I'll write a

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blog about this, and the blog turned into a book.
Got it? Got it?

Speaker 2 (11:37):
Yeah, I do a lot of writing for blogs and
I eventually will probably combine all of my writings over
the last few years into my second book. So I
get that. And for the listening audience out there, I'm
just going to give you a quick test to see
if this book is for you. And is this book
is for you if you have a yes to the
following And this is for the listening audience out there,

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I am ready to access the deeper me. I desire
to be a better communicator. I want to live as
the person I was born to be. I deserve increased
ease in my relationships. So if you said yes to
any of those four following statements, then this book is
for you, and you'll need to go grab this book

(12:19):
either from our social media accounts or wherever books are sold. Amazon,
I believe is where you're selling this book to as well. Right,
I believe that's one of the stops. Yeah, it's one
of those you know, one shop stopped kind of places.
So so for you, Corey, because somebody just doesn't write
a book without some sort of experience. I always say

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that we're the sum of our experiences. So just give
us a background of how you started to seek out
people like Tony Robbins to want to put together a
blog talking about this, How did how does one become
a relationship coach? What's kind of your your backstory or
your journey of prospecting to be with us here today
to reveal this the soul statement, if you will.

Speaker 3 (13:04):
Yeah, well, there was lots of lots of ups and downs,
lots of trials and tribulations. I mean I had a
great childhood, wonderful family, small town America, coast of Maine
and kind of the opposite coast from you, but very
similar in many ways. You know, eagle scout went to

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church on Sundays and it was it was really good.
And but when I became an adult, I just wasn't
prepared socially. I was such a shy person. I have
a lot of self doubt, and I mean I made
it all the way through high school without ever initiating
a conversation with a girl because I didn't know what

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to say. Little did I know that I could just
say hi, my name's Corey, and that would be good,
and that was but I didn't know if that so,
so I just I felt a bit unprepared. And I
also didn't have partly because we had such a warm,
loving home, nobody raised their voices. But we also didn't

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have hard conversations or difficult conversations, and so I wasn't
practiced at that and I just wondered why life wasn't
responding with awesomeness because I was such a good guy. Well,
you know, life doesn't respond necessarily to what we want.

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It responds to who we are and to our alignment
or a lack of alignment with our destiny, our purpose,
our center. And so, you know, three divorces later, kids
living in another state, getting you know, hurt in the ocean,

(14:53):
on horses, bucking me off, and a lot of setbacks,
and at some point point I just had to decide
to get better. And I attended some of those workshops
that you mentioned and a whole lot more and just
learned how to you know, be be human and to

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initiate conversations. And when I worked as a wilderness guide,
it was with newly sober people, and many of them
didn't really want to be there, and they were novices
in terms of staying safe out there or even warm
and dry, and so I really had to learn how

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to align our interests if they didn't want to necessarily
hike another step. But I knew where the water was
and I knew where our food drop would be in
a week, and so we had things we had to accomplish,
and it was it was a long process of figuring

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out how can we both want the same thing and
just listening. And I learned that being a leader isn't
about oh, we're going to all do what I want
to do. It's about making sure everybody's okay and at
every level. And so when we can feel like, hey,

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we're in this together, we're all doing our best we can,
we can actually make some positive things happen. I'm not
sure if I answered your question.

Speaker 2 (16:34):
But you know, I think it's important for the listeners
because a lot of us you know, you made a
good you made a good point. Here in my studio,
I actually have a plaque that says life happens, and
that's a reminder that life doesn't ask us what we want. Right,
we can either be the victim of life circumstances or
we can be the superhero of life circumstances, because life

(16:56):
does throw a lot at not just us here on
the air, but the listeners that are listening to this podcast.
And you know, I think it's important to give that
background for your journey and what you went through and
you know, the things that you experienced, because a lot
of times with the guests that I have on the show,
they have these experiences that they're sharing and people realize,

(17:17):
maybe I'm not the only one going through this. There
is somebody else going through you know, whether it's marriage
or divorce, or survival or communications, you know, what have you.
But life doesn't ask us what we want, and life,
the only thing consistent in life has changed, Right, So
we have to decide do we want to be at
that higher vibration to tell life that no, this is
happening for me, this isn't happening to me, and that

(17:40):
victim mentality, and when you realize that, then life does
become a little bit more balanced and a little bit different.
And you know, that life is going to throw things
at you. And so for soul statements, you actually put
a quote from Tony Robbins and I'm going to read it. It
says you don't need techniques as much as just to
remember who you are. So Corey and is sent you're

(18:00):
coming back after a brief I don't know, Rip Van
Winkle of being asleep or not being awoke or you know,
you're coming back to who you are. And you wrote
this guide to help you know not only yourself, but
then share it with the world where other people can
also work with relationships and communications. And so you know,

(18:21):
sole statement is how how would that soul statement be
different from an affirmation if you will, because we use
affirmations all the time.

Speaker 3 (18:29):
Oh sure, And you know affirmations are not a bad thing.
They're a good thing. And an affirmation tends to be
I want to shift into a desired future state. I
want to be thinner or happier or whatever. And and

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so you're emotionally inhabiting a desired state or you know,
pulling pull your future into the present, whereas a soul
statement is a present time reminder of who you are.
Though like like you can you can say, I'm a

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love child of God, I'm held in God's love. I'm
I'm I can call upon the grit inside of me.
My soul knows what to do. Those are all soul
statements that bring us to our center, to our resource
self in real time, right now. And and so it's

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you're not you're not tricking your brain in any way.
You're you're coming back to what's always true and eternal
and good about you. And so the soul statements are
really based on the premise that answers are in your center.
And so it's it's a way to focus us on

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circumstance and more on what you got inside you. There's
another quote somewhere in the book by Ralph Waldo Emerson
who says, what's inside I'm going to paraphrase a little bit,
what's inside of you is greater than what's outside of you.
And so and so the fact is we can script

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in advance how we speak to ourselves to create more
emotional coherence. And so that's another reason I'm a big
fan of spending time in stillness. So because when we
get really still and quiet, and whether we're gazing at
a at a beautiful stream, or a spring of water,

(20:44):
or or just whatever connects you to you. Some people
could be journaling. Some people it could be sitting on
a meditation cushion. Some people it could just be a stroll.
But that's where we hear that still small voice, and
so we can go, oh, yeah, that's true about me.

(21:09):
Let me make a soul statement. So it's at the ready.
I can just pull that out of my back pocket
and declare that in real time, in present time. And
as I said before, I actually oftentimes will do this
little kind of smirk with my mouth and a little
half smile. As I said before, I'll go, I can't

(21:29):
believe I just thought that for the millions time. You know,
what I know to be true about me or is,
and so that that's what I do.

Speaker 2 (21:41):
Yeah, And you know the other side of that is
the negative side, right always your mind, people, that one
person retalked to the most in our lives while we're
here is ourselves. So you have to really become mindful
and aware of the thoughts and the communications you're having internally,
and so, you know, having the sole statement, which in
the book you talk about it being a present time

(22:02):
declaration about the unchanging nature of our soul. And I
found that to be very for me. I was like, Oh,
that's really good because it is an unchanging nature of
your soul. And you talk about in the book that
a soul statement is not a way to fake it
until you make it. You're not attempting to lie to
your brain. It's a tool that you can grab hold

(22:23):
of what is unchanging about you and let the true
essence guide you to that next thought or that next action.
And you're so right, and this goes you know, this
is for the listeners out there. This isn't anything new
that Corey and I are talking about today. This is
very ancient knowledge and wisdom that was accessed thousands of

(22:43):
years ago, going all the way back to Roomy, twelfth
century mystic that always talked about the more silent and
still you become, the more that you'll actually start to hear.
And you and I Corey started our spiritual path about
the same time I was in two thousand and eight,
so right around the same time I started to have
my own opening to things bigger than myself. And I
remember coming across that statement, I was like, what do

(23:04):
you mean, the more silent and still you become it didn't.
I didn't understand it. I had never been educated about it.
I hadn't learned about it in my religious doctrines that
you know, growing up, and I was just like, I'm
gonna this is interesting. I'm going to explore what that
actually means. And stillness is a big part of it
as well, because when you become silent and still, stillness

(23:25):
means that you're shutting the brain down because when you move,
the brain has to communicate to the body. So stillness
becomes very important because you're actually turning off the unconscious
mind and the conscious mind to connect to something bigger
than yourself. And I'm gonna get ready to do that
here after today's show. I'm heading out to nature to connect,
to move into that silence and that stillness and access

(23:48):
the ancient wisdom and knowledge that is always available to us.
But for our listeners out there, you're probably not accessing
it because you don't take the time to disconnect. So
you can make that time to reconnect in this very busy,
fast paced world. So, uh, Corey, for you, how does
the soul statement improve that inner clarity that I'm just
talking about as far as with communication that inner clarity,

(24:09):
that getting still, that getting silent, having that affirmation or
mantra for this soul statement, what would be what would uh,
what would improve that inner clarity and communication? After reading
soul statements?

Speaker 3 (24:23):
Would you say, sure, well, I want to just take
a half step back and reference what you were just
talking about, which is uh. It can be also distilled
into that statement that someone very wise said a long
time ago, be still in no actually than God that God.

Speaker 2 (24:43):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, you're right.

Speaker 3 (24:46):
Yeah, So be still in no. I mean why that's
a wonderful thing to meditate on or contemplate, is just
sit and go how still can I? How still can
I be? Can I be more still? And one of

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I try to do a little bit of a little
bit of it each morning is is I said, night times,
I'll stand and I see that the light growing in
the sky or the sun just coming up, and I'll
I'll try to be as still as I can be
physically still, mentally still. And my my effort, for lack

(25:30):
of a better word, is too offer my own stillness
to the great stillness. So it's like merging and not merging.
And and so that's one version of my be still
and no, and that's when that's when we we receive
little little kernels of insight, and so that the soul

(25:54):
statements really are based on those moments where you you
know yourself a little bit more. I mean, in the
I think I also shared this little story in the
book too, where in the Polar Eskimo, Barry Lopez, wonderful
author wrote about how their name for the polar bear
was translated as giver of power and because when a

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lone Eskimo hunter had an interaction with a polar bear,
one thousand miles of ice in every direction, no trees
to climb, no holes to drop into, right, and you know,
he did whatever he did, and for some reason, the
polar bear decided to let him live. He now was

(26:42):
in contact, or had contacted a little piece of himself
that he had not contacted previously to that experience, and
so he knew a little bit more of what he
was made of, and so he had a little more
personal power because he had access to something. And so
that's all we're trying to do, is we're trying to

(27:04):
access a little bit more of me and grow in
some self understanding, grow in a feeling of connection to
the greater life, the greater spirit. And so if we
as we feel more and more of that, that informs
our our ease, our clarity, our lowers are striving, and

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so we can be better communicators because we're not trying
to prove as much we're not. We're a little more
comfortable just holding space and not making our points. So
quickly we become better listeners because we are more at
ease with who we are. Like, I know who I

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am on the inside. So if somebody wants to, you know,
grow a judgment at me, I can. I can realize
or think to myself, that's what they think, but they
really don't know me. And so that's where you know,
a soul statement. I think of it as like an
emotional postcard to yourself. And so when we realize we're

(28:15):
having that unhelpful thought, unhelpful attitude, we can realign and
and then as we practice that, and you know, some
people have one soul statement kind of catch all. A
woman just told me recently her soul statement is I
got this, and it just applies her everything and it
helps her to be like, I'm okay no matter what,

(28:37):
and other people like me a little more tailored so
I have a certainty that is deeper than my thoughts
is a great one. My body knows how to heal itself.
That's another one I'll use, and so and so. As
far as communication, it just allows us that great knowing

(29:01):
contact with our center, allows us to speak from our
what our center is about. And so as we're more
connected to our own essence. By remembering who we are
beneath circumstance, beyond wherey, we can speak to what we value,
and we can speak up for our own value. And

(29:26):
so we can use our voice in not defense of,
but in in conjunction with or in support of our
own value. So we don't abandon what's important to us,
because you know, we're for whatever reason we're afraid, we

(29:48):
don't want to, you know. But we can just calmly
and with hopefully more neutral say, you know, this is
what I'm about, this is what I'm up for, this
is what I'm not up for, and that helps everyone.
I just want to know where people are at, and
I want them to know where I'm at, and then
we can, as adults, you know, do whatever we do.

Speaker 2 (30:09):
So I love that. So many diamonds in that an
emotional postcard to ourselves. So we're going to take our break.
You're going to want to stick around. We're going to
come back with the second half of the show. We
have today's guest. He wrote a book called Soul Statements,
I Love Coach's Guide to Successful Communications with Corey lyon Folsom.
We'll be right back here in just a few minutes.

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very powerful. Welcome back to our guest Corey Lyon Folsom
with his new book, Soul Statements. I love Coach's Guide
to Successful Communication.

Speaker 3 (33:53):
Corey.

Speaker 2 (33:53):
This show goes by quick, so let's just pick up
right where we left off talking about that that inner
clarity for munications and how to use soul statement as
a guide and as a tool to start changing you know,
it really comes back your thoughts become your words. Your
words become your actions, your actions become your behavior, your
behavior becomes your habits, and your habits lead you to

(34:13):
your destiny. So it really does start with the thoughts
and the conversations that we're having with ourselves on this
thing called journey of life or the school of life,
and all of the good, the bad, and the indifferent
things that happen on the pathways of life. But I
love that what you talked about, and I'm not going
to say right so I'm gonna have you said. You
talked about your inner silence connecting with the bigger silence.

(34:37):
You said it really well, So can you say that
one more time for our listeners.

Speaker 3 (34:42):
Yeah, I offer my stillness to the great stillness.

Speaker 2 (34:50):
I offer my stillness to the great stillness. Ooh, that's
some wisdom right there. I love the diamonds. We'll let
the listening audience marinate on that and download that. So
that's a very powerful statement. So just picking up how
does we get the book? We go through it and
there's a lot of practical exercises that you can use

(35:11):
from journaling to the statements, But how does one shift
a relationship from conflict to harmony and flow using this
guide if you will.

Speaker 3 (35:25):
Well, firstly, I just want to put in a plug
for optimism in that intimacy is maintained by learned skills,
which means we can learn to be more skillful and
that's awesome. And partly it starts with an attitude of

(35:46):
you know, I'm not the most important person in the room,
which is usually true and maybe always true. And so
there's that, and also maybe reminding I remind myself else
that from time to time that my partner is not
a draftdee, she's a volunteer. And so maybe I could

(36:09):
offer a little more appreciation, even if I don't stay
it out loud, just being an appreciation of Wow, this
person's agreed to share their most precious possession with me,
which is time. And so there's that. And I like
to say, think more we than me, and and a

(36:34):
lot of it comes down to paying attention to our
empathy and our impact. And so paying attention to our
empathy is you know, checking ourselves like a check up
from the head up or from the you know, heart

(36:54):
up or the feed up, and just am I or
can I feel even a smidgeon of empathy right now?
Or can I increase the empathy? You know, I like
to think of it as a as an invisible contest

(37:17):
of speed to empathy, like how quickly can we return?
How quickly can we return to love? That's a wonderful contest.
And so if I'm feeling, if I'm noticing that I
have an absence of empathy, maybe that's a good time
to speak up and say, hey, you know what you're

(37:41):
saying is important. And if I spend a little bit
of time alone with me right now, I could be
better able to hear what you're saying. And maybe just
take a break, do whatever you have to do to
get to get right, to get more centered and more
more patient, uh, and just spend spend a little bit

(38:03):
of time by yourself. And So what's the best soul
statement for me right now? When I trust love, I
can handle whatever happens. I love that one. And I'm
I am bigger than any complaint. That's a good one.
And so and another one, this is one that I

(38:24):
got from my contra practice, is I have a beloved
that dwells within And you know, we can talk to
our own heart and we can we can practice appreciation
without with or without words and just you know, uh,
my girlfriend even she likes to put her hand on
her heart and go, I feel you, I feel you.

(38:47):
I'm loved. It's okay, and just it's like you know,
we are hold oftentimes to give acknowledgement as a wonderful
a thing in communication and partnership, whether it's a coworker
or anything else. You know, they come up with something,

(39:07):
they do something, and if you disagree with that, you
don't like what they did, you can still offer acknowledgment
and say, well, I can understand how you would think
that way, or or I can appreciate that, I can
appreciate your effort and I'm just wondering why you did

(39:27):
what you did. You don't have to agree or like
it to offer acknowledgement. That being said is you can
also violently offer acknowledgement to your own heart and go,
oh that that didn't feel good. It's okay, I got you,
you know, thank you for beating for me. And if

(39:49):
you do that silently, I mean that didn't take very
many seconds. You're better able to then offer some acknowledgment
externally to someone else. And so my one of my teachers,
Scott Thomas taught me that offer love to your own
wounded heart first before trying to offer anything else to

(40:14):
anyone else. If you're triggered, if you're upset, offer a
little self soothing on the inside, and then you're better
able to be present for what's going on.

Speaker 2 (40:31):
And when you're talking to triggered. In my mind, going
back to the famous words of ice Cube, you better
check yourself before you wreck yourself. Right, we're going back
to the nineteen eighties with a statement that's just you know,
so relative today about you know, checking yourself before you
wreck yourself. And you know, the two words that really

(40:52):
came up for me, you talk about the words trust
and for the inspired listeners out there, trust is a
big part of this journey. Trust in the process way
knows the way, get out of your own way and
sit in that stillness, in that silence, and then the
time you know, we were watching a really excellent show,
well written third season of White Lotus. This season it's

(41:14):
all about spirituality, and there was a point where the
woman is trying to justify her life. And it wasn't
based on relationships. It wasn't based on friendships, it wasn't
based on her career. It was time that gave her
life meaning. And you know, for myself and for you Corey,
and for your listeners out there, we all know what
our bank accounts are, right, we know the balances, but
the one thing we don't know is what our account

(41:36):
is for how much time we have. And you know
that's you know, just more encouraging and motivating to live
in the present moment, to carp dm to seize the
day because we don't know when that balance runs out.
And time is your greatest commodity. I tell people this
all the time. Your time is your greatest commodity, not
how much money you have, not how famous you are.

(41:57):
It's all about the time that you have and what
you're doing with that time. You know, And you put
you put a quote in the book from Winston Churchill,
who I'm just fascinated with World War two. In Winston Churchill,
I think it might be a reincarnation thing that I had,
you know, previous life before me. But you talked about
courage is what it takes to stand up and speak,

(42:18):
where courage is also what it takes to sit down
and listen. And I think in this world, I think
there's a lot of us out there that can take
that second part literally and say, Okay, I need to
sit down and I need to listen. I need to
check myself before I wreck myself. I never thought I'd
use ice cube in one of my podcasts, but yet
here we are. So as far as you know, how

(42:39):
do soul statement make us more empathic partners? If you
will are be more empathic to co workers, to friends,
to family, which can be the dynamics of you know,
having empathy in the coworker, friends and family environments can
be very challenging.

Speaker 3 (42:58):
Yeah, well, well, first off, a soul statement, part of
the magic of it is that when you declare it
silently or allowed is to actually, that's not the whole thing.
You want to feel the rightness of it, the truth

(43:21):
that in it. It's just this knowing. It's like when
you do it right, you want to feel a little
more solid in your bones, a little more like standing
on firm ground. And so it's the feeling the thought
generates that's more important than the thought. And then with
that little more solid basis, your next action can be

(43:45):
more congruent with that with who you really are, Your
next thought can be a better thought and so that's
really where the magic and the effectiveness happens. And so
what I wanted to say is is oftentimes we don't
speak up. And I've thought about that a lot. Why,

(44:09):
you know, and I know our power is connected to,
you know, how fearless we can be. I get that,
I really get that. But when we don't speak up,
I think oftentimes it's because we don't trust ourselfs to
defend ourself. In other words, you know, if I get

(44:32):
into this conversation with this person, I don't know if
i'll speak up to protect my own heart. I don't
know if I'll be able to gracefully exit. I don't
know if if I bring up what's important to me,
I'll do it in a way that they can hear
me and it won't just cause more tribulation and trauma.

(44:55):
And so sometimes we don't speak up versus abandoning our
knee or our values because we don't trust that we'll
be able to do it well and not cause more
wounding to ourself or someone else. And and so what else, Oh,

(45:18):
and so part of the more skillful way, more graceful
way to do that is I found, is too you know,
to do that acknowledgment and just saying I understand that
this is difficult for you. I understand that this is
a difficult time for you. Mean, there's no cost to

(45:42):
saying that, but there's you know, great benefit and and
also to just when we lead with our feelings versus
an assessment of someone else's actions. You know, you're a
dummy dog because us, but that's not necessarily going to

(46:03):
get us where we want to go in a good time.
But we can say, you know, when X happened, my
heart felt, my heart felt tense, or I feel like
I contracted a little bit, or it didn't just it
didn't feel good. I mean, you got you can keep
it simple, that's awesome too. And so when we lead

(46:25):
with the feeling then versus an evaluation of someone else,
there's less opportunity or basis for them to feel attacked
or or have to justify whatever they did or didn't do.
And because you know, we're each the world's leading authority

(46:46):
on how we feel and the impact of someone else
on us, but everyone else is the expert on our
impact on them. So it's really need to know information,
like you know, what happened for the other person on

(47:08):
the inside and so. And also I've really seen this
with you know, my girlfriend. We've been together twelve and
a half years, and as a guy, I'm definitely more
kind of dense or not not cueued into energy. The
way she is and how she feels affects me so

(47:33):
much more than what she thinks, because if she says, well,
I think this or I think that, I can, in
my mind say well, I think something different. You know,
I thought of that in a different way. Whereas if
she says, hey, this is how I feel, like, oh,
you know, I've felt nervous or anxious or whatever it

(47:56):
may be, or gracious or what I felt that way
in the past two I know how that feels for me,
and I can relate to that like, oh, and if
it's a it's a feeling she doesn't want to have, well,
you know, one of my basic things is that I
want her to have a good time when she's with me.

(48:17):
I want her to say that was a good decision
to spend my time with him. And so if she's
feeling something other than that, I want to know about it, like, huh,
maybe we should be doing something differently or I should
be doing something differently. So that kind of openness, undefendiveness,

(48:38):
ability to hear someone else's feelings is really really a
fundamental ingredient to success.

Speaker 7 (48:47):
I think, yeah, I agree with you, and you know,
and listening and transforming, you know, from those conversations that
you're having, because women just are just so much more
emotionally connected with their feelings the world around them.

Speaker 2 (49:03):
They bring forth life. Us as guys, we'll never get
to that level. We can you know, learn an attempt
to get to that type of you know thinking. But
you know, so that's why men are from Mars and
women are from Venus, right, There's just two different formats
of interactions, and sometimes that can you know, be difficult
with the communication. So I like that about just you know,
becoming aware of that and listening to your partner and

(49:25):
you know, when it comes to relationships, and you know,
I think reading through this, Corey, one of my favorite
chapters I you know, and we're talking about interacting with
others was chapter eight, and that was probably my favorite
chapter because right now in history, we're so connected as
a species, based on our technology, based on our social media,
based on our news, but we're more disconnected than we've

(49:49):
ever been in recorded history, and that to me is interesting.
So I think that this, this this podcast, and this
book coming out is very relevant to helping people to
rea get out of their silos, get out of their zoom,
get out of their team, you know, online, because it's
much different behind a keyboard than it is interacting with
a person. And you talked in this chapter, you opened

(50:11):
up a quote from Tim Ferriss that says, quote, a
person's success in life can usually be measured by the
number of uncomfortable conversation he or she is willing to have.
And I was like, huh, yeah, because a lot of
people don't want to have those uncomfortable conversations. And then
you know, and then you open the chapter. It says,
when we live from what's true, life gets easier. When

(50:33):
we live from what's true, life gets easier. And there's
a great benefit in showing up congruent with who you
are at your depth, and when you're aware of your
deep values and core strength, it is natural to remain
more balanced with your attention and speech. This way can
be more responsive to what's happening in the present, rather

(50:55):
than being distracted or consumed by emotional overhang stain in
resonance with your deeper self, engender self assurance. And then
the sole statement example was I can contact the best
of me, and I was just like, wow, that's that's
very powerful statement. I can contact the best of me.

(51:17):
And when we live from what's true, life gets easier.
Lots of diamonds, right, there really lots of times I
do it. I love it. I love these type of readings.
And you know, but we don't want to have those
uncomfortable conversations, right. We don't want to, you know, upeat
the status call. We don't want to hurt somebody's feelings.
So it becomes this awareness to how can I improve

(51:38):
my communications not with just other people, but communications with myself?
How can I contact the best of me, which then
resonates and vibrates and reflects out to the world because
I'm trying to be the best version of myself, right,
and it goes back. I'm not remember who said it,
but you know, we all want to go out and
change the world, but the best thing that we can
do is change ourselves and then the world changes around us.

(51:59):
And so be the change you want to be is
very important. So from writing this book, Corey, what was
what's your biggest takeaway? What would you want to share
with the listening audience today, Just kind of that one
diamond that can really transform or heal or become aware
of soul statements.

Speaker 3 (52:19):
Well, Mark, you are such a great prospector because you've just.

Speaker 6 (52:24):
Preempted that for me. Which might one takeaway I usually
say is that you can call up the best part
of you in a moment. That's my big take away,
And you just said it, so uh, you know, and
there's there's such a.

Speaker 3 (52:44):
I tried to make this book just chock full of
you know, journal prompts and questions to be asking yourself
and little tips and tricks. It's just every page and
so uh, you know, to have those skills, to have
those conversations, to be able to speak to your needs,
to be able to listen and be present for the

(53:07):
other person and for yourself, and so you know, it
just kind of comes down to trusting love. And the
more you know what you're really made of, the more
you can trust that and and be present. And you know,
I was thinking about you know, you being in the
in the in the nature very soon and and one

(53:29):
I had this beautiful experience of being in this certain
place and the mountains of Big sur and and I
remember sitting by this little spring and every it was
hot and the insects were buzzing and the water was trickling,
and the light was just glistening and pure, and I
remember feeling this utter contentment. And it was the contentment

(53:53):
of this place that I was able to feel, and
I was able to match that in inside me. And
so one of my go to soul statements became the
contentment of the mountains lives inside me. And I can
go back to that feeling of sitting there and it's
it's available. And so that's that's one of the you know,

(54:17):
we can go revisit emotionally these these times of serenity
or contentment, and and that will take us a long way.
Uh yeah, I love it.

Speaker 2 (54:29):
Yeah, powerful stuff. And again, it just it just might.
It just dropped into my mind. An old cartoon growing
up was this cartoon called g I Joe. And it
was always the tagline, Knowing is half the battle. So
from G I Joe of knowing is half the battle
to ice Cube, check yourself before you wreck yourself. Uh, Corey,
it's been it's been a pleasure learning about you and

(54:52):
Soul Statements, A Love Coach's Guide to Successful Communication. If
you want to get this book, you want to work
with Corey, you can go to his website. All of
the information is posted on our social media platforms as well.
Is there any other place that the listeners can go
to work with you? Or if you want to write
another book and come on inspired a living and share
that with us, you're welcome back.

Speaker 7 (55:12):
Any other sure?

Speaker 3 (55:12):
Well, yeah, I'm thinking of doing an audiobook of soul Statements,
but Instagram.

Speaker 6 (55:19):
You just love Coach Corey.

Speaker 3 (55:20):
That's that's where I kind of have the most fun.
And yeah, so, and you know the hero I like
to also say, the hero and the coward initially feel
the same thing. It's what we do next, and that's
what a soul statement is designed to help us, you know,
do that best right thing next.

Speaker 2 (55:42):
And that's where we'll leave it. Brother, Thanks for coming on.
I appreciate you. I appreciate your work you're doing for
all of our inspired listeners out there. Until our next
sol adventure together, be kind, be caring, be compassionate. Most important,
wherever you're at, dare to dream, dare to explore, dare
to live. And discover the Dome with him. We'll see
you next time here on inspired letting take everybody sh

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