JADETEENTH 2025

Happy Birthday Jade!!

We're giving you 40 life lessons to live by in honor of Jadeteenth!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Maybe you don't pay me no man, you ecod you
don't love me no more. Maybe you need space or
some time. Your attitude it is a bridge bull and
I don't want to make you unhappy. If you're not happy,

(00:22):
then you're free to gold because I don't want you
to stay no round. If I make you so miserable.

Speaker 2 (00:32):
It's your moment, then don't talk to me. Then don't
talk to me.

Speaker 3 (00:37):
Go ahead and free yourself.

Speaker 4 (00:40):
Coo, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa whoa ha ha ha whoa

(01:02):
ha ha ha ha ha ha ha.

Speaker 2 (01:05):
Ha whoa ha.

Speaker 3 (01:14):
Ha ha ha ha ha ha whoa.

Speaker 5 (01:18):
How everybody wants back to the black.

Speaker 1 (01:40):
These are the pro back clips I got.

Speaker 3 (01:42):
People like, what welcome back to the Blackest show about nothing?

Speaker 2 (01:46):
Is Jada x T? It is j T.

Speaker 1 (01:58):
I'm not gonna do it again?

Speaker 2 (02:00):
Yeah it is. Yes, it is j teenth.

Speaker 3 (02:09):
If you did not know, Jade can legally wear a
cheetah print, Yeah.

Speaker 1 (02:27):
Yeah, I now match my shoelaces to my airbrush T shirt.

Speaker 2 (02:32):
Yeah you can.

Speaker 1 (02:36):
I can't.

Speaker 3 (02:37):
Happy birthday friend, Thank you for your birthday friend. That
is amazing. Not too many folks get to be on
this side. And you know that is a blessing. So
happy birthday to you.

Speaker 1 (02:50):
Thank you for four decades of Jay God bless the world.
You know what I'm saying, It's a blessing and I'm
grateful to be here. Kia called me out at the
live show. She was like, you know, when niggas find
out Jade's birthday is nine to eleven, they're not too shocked,

(03:18):
you know what I'm saying. I couldn't even if it
was her of me, but it's that's the truth. First,
they if they don't know me and they see my ID,
they're like, oh my god. I'm like, not not almost
twenty years later? Crazy? Wait twenty years?

Speaker 3 (03:34):
It was just we had twenty we are twenty five
years now?

Speaker 1 (03:41):
Yeah, two thousand and one. Oh yeah, twenty four years.
You're right, I'm like, same reaction, It never changes.

Speaker 3 (03:48):
But if they know it's twenty four since Glitter sorry
Litter came out and no one blueprint?

Speaker 1 (03:55):
What month?

Speaker 3 (03:56):
The same day, the same day, the September eleventh, the
blueprint one.

Speaker 2 (04:00):
Glitter, uh please?

Speaker 4 (04:05):
No.

Speaker 3 (04:06):
Two weeks before it was the No More Drama album
and Aaliyah.

Speaker 2 (04:09):
Oh yeah, same day?

Speaker 1 (04:11):
Oh god?

Speaker 2 (04:14):
Yeah, yeah, craziness, craziness Wow, we.

Speaker 1 (04:19):
Have to do we haven't done two thousand and one
like as a year.

Speaker 3 (04:24):
Yeah, two thousand and one was was an interesting time
for me.

Speaker 1 (04:28):
Oh it was the year we all died. I'm sorry,
go ahead, yeah.

Speaker 3 (04:34):
Yeah, it was actually when when AI actually started I'm
trying to think, Yeah, we'll have a whole year about
two thousand and one.

Speaker 2 (04:43):
It was.

Speaker 3 (04:44):
It's when I leaned into the homosexuality.

Speaker 2 (04:49):
Oh but I was about to leaned in, you know
what I mean?

Speaker 1 (04:56):
I was I just glitch because I had so big
I was correlating so much. Have you ever see like
a montage whereas the buildings blowing up and then it
shows anohing bad and nothing batter not saying that your
anal sex is bad because I don't believe that to
be true. I just I'm like so many things just

(05:19):
like busted open that year.

Speaker 2 (05:22):
Yeah happened before that.

Speaker 1 (05:26):
I thought you said that was you leaned in copy Okay, cocky,
you're right critical listening.

Speaker 2 (05:36):
That had nothing and everything that you would like, Yeah,
excepting exactly.

Speaker 1 (05:46):
You're right.

Speaker 2 (05:49):
One was psychological that was.

Speaker 1 (05:53):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (05:56):
But AnyWho, how is your week? Uh?

Speaker 1 (06:00):
My week has been, you know, as good as it
can be. Under the circumstances of hell, went to Chicago
for getting Grown's final tour stopped for the summer tour.
Pay attention Summer Tour. Chicago is just it just remains

(06:21):
to be one of my favorite places in this country, truly,
like the black people remain to be one of my
favorites of a group, you know what I'm saying. Chicago
was the one place where everybody announced where they were
from every time they got on a microphone. My name
is Tamika and I'm from the South Side of Chicago.
My name is Jessica and I'm from the West Side.

Speaker 3 (06:42):
And it was like.

Speaker 1 (06:44):
It was a basic Actually it was a basic.

Speaker 3 (06:48):
It's like New York when New York is, Yeah, what
part of the city they're from.

Speaker 1 (06:53):
Yes, it's a it's a very It just felt it
felt good, you know what I mean. And black people
from Chicago are They're just they're just magical. So we
had a really good show, had a really good time
in Chicago, got to visit my beloved Limbs Barbecue, you know,
and had a real good Limbs Barbecue experience. I'm not

(07:18):
gonna put all that lady's business out there, but she
definitely I had a real black auntie experience with the
lady behind the counter needed some help. She's now the
main owner.

Speaker 2 (07:29):
Own.

Speaker 1 (07:29):
Like I said, I'm want to be putting on her
business out there. But she she needed some help with
something electronically. And somehow me Mary Kia and our and
our homegirl Jasmine looked like trustworthy black women, young black women.
So she was like, I need you all to do
something for me. And she comes from behind that glass

(07:53):
and we assisted her with what she needed. But I said,
you know, I just really love these very black unchanged establishments.
They're very important for us as a people's you know
what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (08:06):
Yes, I enjoy Chicago. I will be there this winter.

Speaker 1 (08:10):
You will be there this winter.

Speaker 3 (08:13):
Yeah, I'm spending the holidays with my in laws.

Speaker 1 (08:17):
Wow, God bless you.

Speaker 2 (08:20):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (08:20):
I mean I've done that before. I did Thanksgiving there
and it's fine. It's you know, I'm not going to
be there like February and stuff.

Speaker 1 (08:27):
Okay, copy.

Speaker 2 (08:30):
Copy Christmas time.

Speaker 1 (08:33):
Yeah, and hopefully global boiling, you know, will allow you
to have a slightly enjoyable experience.

Speaker 3 (08:39):
Yeah, that's what I'm baking on. I'm baking on big
fossil fuel you.

Speaker 2 (08:44):
Know what I mean.

Speaker 1 (08:45):
Yeah, oh god, because that's that's all that that's reliable
these days, it is the inevitable destruction of everything.

Speaker 3 (08:56):
Yeah, I know when all those fails, that's cool, you know.
So I my week was cool, Fine, whatever the fuck.
I have something to tell you that I had to
I had to wait here, and I'm actually gonna ask

(09:17):
your husband about this. So you know, NBA two K
came out. You know, it's it's it's a real nigga holiday.
You know, some of the women folks who are needy
have take issue with men paying. I'm here to tell you,

(09:37):
here to tell you that one man's video game is
another woman's night off.

Speaker 1 (09:41):
Hello, you need to like lean in sisters, sisters being
gender non specific.

Speaker 2 (09:47):
Listen to me. Listen to me, another woman's night off.
Get you some business.

Speaker 3 (09:53):
This is how I know you folks who complain about
your niggas watching sports or or whatever, get you some business.
That means you need to find yourself a hobbyist of
a beat up under your man. That means you are
probably insufferable to be around the presence of men folk.
Be around your sisters.

Speaker 2 (10:10):
Girl. But any who, that's not what I'm here.

Speaker 1 (10:13):
For Wait, but to your point real fast, hold on
before you move on, I just to that point, to
what you just said, I wish my nigga did. I
wish he did go back to watching sports. Like when
he started to pick basketball back up for I, I
was like, oh my god, Yes, he gonna go out
and watch the game sometimes. If it was like a

(10:35):
big game, I'm like, oh, he's gonna go to the bar.
If it was like a decent game, he'd be in
the living room for some hours. I can just you know. Now,
he likes to explain his Excel spreadsheets to me. And
I saw this video where this autistic man he is
actually autistic. Okay, this artistic man and this former drug
addict lady are in a relationship. Oh my god, the

(11:00):
lady's so sweet. But I want never mind, so.

Speaker 2 (11:05):
Listen, I'll call that little negga blood special.

Speaker 1 (11:09):
I don't think you can say that anymore.

Speaker 3 (11:13):
I would get what Nation cooks dogs give blood special.

Speaker 1 (11:22):
I just not Yes. So this video with this artistic
man and this lady, he is like explaining whatever his
obsession is to her, and she is like affirming him
but also completely disassociating while eating her food and it's
like a match made in heaven. And that was me
when Tristan was explaining his mathematics Excel sheet to me

(11:46):
about breaking down all of the values of this and
the subcontext of the blah blah blah, and I was like,
you know, I love this, and I'm going to be
a supportive, you know, partner and actually listen to what
you're saying. Kind of, but I wish you watched sports.
But anyway, please continue your thought.

Speaker 2 (12:06):
Yeah, there moments I feel like, oh god, sorry, I
learn the barbecue.

Speaker 6 (12:17):
Man's stuff, man boyshit boyshites, drugs.

Speaker 3 (12:22):
I fill away.

Speaker 1 (12:25):
I fell away, fill away. Not only did I grill
at your house, parallel punked your nigga's card, Like what
am I?

Speaker 6 (12:35):
Boyshit boyshit drugs?

Speaker 1 (12:47):
What were you telling me about?

Speaker 3 (12:53):
So he got NBA two care and K twenty six
brand new game because that every year, right, So have
you just in general, have you ever looked at the
state of the players in the National Basketball Association, not
just the game, but just in general, Like have you
ever just seen in passing, like on Instagram, like what
they tend to look like?

Speaker 1 (13:13):
Now, oh yeah, they all look like like seventh and
a half graders, like everybody's awkward they got. But then
when you think about it, they always were like that
because if you look at old footage of like Steph
Curry and Carmelo Anthony and all of the they look
like toddler, big toddler babies who was like seven feet tall.
So I feel like all basketball players look like big

(13:35):
awkward middle schoolers.

Speaker 3 (13:38):
They do until later in the ones they spend some
time in the league. But that's not what I was
going to point out, because so in the game, they
you have to like play a story mode, so you
go through, you know, your rise as a high school
or whatever. And they have prominent actors to be in
these games, like Jim and Hansu was in one huh

(14:02):
of one game.

Speaker 1 (14:06):
What do you mean he was in the game.

Speaker 3 (14:11):
You could be in the game, like you could be
like Jesse Williams was in the video game too. Like
they mowcap your face or whatever, they take capture of
your face, they put yourself in the video game.

Speaker 7 (14:23):
What is humanity? Where we tap into it? How and
why we treat each other the way that we do.
And my character Marcus has a really intriguing journey becoming
devian realizing that he actually has feelings and human qualities
inside of him.

Speaker 2 (14:40):
Okay, so a video game, MH.

Speaker 3 (14:44):
Is when let me take a step back. Video games nowadays,
thank you have the ability to use technology to take
a person's face AI and action and movements computer generated.

Speaker 2 (15:09):
But they take they like put a whole bunch of
shit on you.

Speaker 3 (15:13):
They map out your face and whatever, and they record
all your movements and they take all that and put
it in a video game.

Speaker 1 (15:19):
Okay, so here's my question to you. So you said
j Hansu was in the game.

Speaker 2 (15:28):
Yeah, he's in the game.

Speaker 1 (15:29):
Jesse Williams is in a game. Did they put themselves
in there? Or did two K generate Jaiman hans Su
and Jesse Williams.

Speaker 3 (15:39):
The people at two K Studios called those individuals, those
humans up and told them to come to our office
where we can put you in this suit, where we
can record your movements and facial ticks.

Speaker 1 (15:51):
And things right right right right.

Speaker 3 (15:53):
Yes, take that data and we put that and we
give that data to our graphic design team.

Speaker 1 (16:00):
Yes, I get all of that. What are they doing
in a basketball game?

Speaker 2 (16:05):
Oh?

Speaker 3 (16:06):
Like jam and hans who played like a like an
ominous Nigga on the Stanton Island Ferry.

Speaker 1 (16:14):
This is why I'm confused, Nigga. You treat me like.

Speaker 2 (16:22):
They play.

Speaker 3 (16:22):
It's a story, it's a video games are more like
movies now, so like they have like roles.

Speaker 2 (16:29):
In the game.

Speaker 1 (16:30):
Like I'm just trying to understand why them of all people.

Speaker 3 (16:34):
Like for example, like g and Carlo Esposito, It's like
you came, said Bukie woodbybe Is in a New two
K game.

Speaker 1 (16:46):
I'm like doing what you see? Why is he?

Speaker 8 (16:55):
When I first escaped the Spark program, no memory of
anything was white completely.

Speaker 2 (17:02):
It sounds amazing, Actually it was awful.

Speaker 3 (17:09):
Back to two K, so they tell the story. The
point of the video game is you go through this
person's life and journey through the league. So you meet
people along the way. So you have a coach, you
have a manager, you have parents. So in the NBA
two K you encounter all of these things as you
would in an immersive lifestyle video game. The reason why

(17:34):
I bring all this up is because they heavily lean
into the racial makeup of the current NBA status of Yes,
so when you play the story mode, your mom is
automatically white.

Speaker 2 (17:52):
In the game. It is a twin from standal.

Speaker 3 (18:00):
So, but I was like, so, wait a minute, and
so and when you go to create your own character,
there's only light eyes available.

Speaker 1 (18:09):
Oh no.

Speaker 3 (18:10):
On my head, I was like, oh nba, two k
is leaning into.

Speaker 1 (18:15):
This is shut Rhyme's fault because that.

Speaker 2 (18:19):
Was not these niggas who have white mamas.

Speaker 1 (18:22):
No, you know whose fault it really is Disney's, because
if Disney would stop casting Nigerian mothers and Asian fathers
to be parents of a Hispanic child.

Speaker 2 (18:37):
What are you talking about? What film is that?

Speaker 1 (18:42):
All of them little mermaid fucking Cinderella with Whoopy gold Berg.
Disney stays doing this bullshit and I'm tired of it.

Speaker 9 (18:50):
There's inclusion and it is please and they are pleasing it.
Why is Whoopy Goldberg and the daddy from Fresh off
the Boat the parents to a Peruvian and child?

Speaker 1 (19:00):
Like, I'm tired of this.

Speaker 2 (19:06):
First of all, it was Victor Garber and the guy
was Asian.

Speaker 1 (19:10):
That's what I said. Sick and Ship.

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Speaker 2 (20:40):
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Speaker 3 (20:49):
Tariffs and all that jazz. But we're gonna have some
fun today. We're gonna throw some knowledge darts at you
and as we celebrate jade teenth, head it claud.

Speaker 10 (21:02):
After these messages will be right back.

Speaker 11 (21:09):
The very idea of suffering that human beings have created
for them. So the unbelievable.

Speaker 2 (21:16):
Just about anything that can suffer, we're back.

Speaker 3 (21:26):
So in order in honor of jadeighteenth, we decided to.

Speaker 2 (21:33):
Share some life lessons.

Speaker 3 (21:36):
You know, Jade and I are about six months apart
in age, and so figured why not I would have
these same life lessons that I enter my fortieth year
in things.

Speaker 2 (21:49):
So birthday, stud would.

Speaker 3 (21:53):
You like to first?

Speaker 1 (21:59):
First of all, don't be bastardizing my Stubley sisters out there. Okay,
my bristers. First on my lists, get a bdet.

Speaker 3 (22:20):
You must have one, and in thought you.

Speaker 1 (22:26):
Had get a bodet. And when I tell you in
every form that you possibly can, okay, make sure you
have one at the crib, installed to the toilet. If
you have the ability to be able to have the
temperature controlled one, that's just luxury, you know what I'm saying.
Get you a little bit day. You can buy one

(22:47):
one line or from the Tushy, you know what I'm saying. Tushy,
great options, not too crazy in pricing. I also have
a hand held chargeable electronic a Biday that I take
on the road with me. While it does not do
everything that you're at home, but they can do. It

(23:08):
does all the things your man won't do, So that
was not correct. It does the giant. It takes care
of the job. Okay, it scratches the itch. It does
what it needs to do, and your butthole will thank you,
and so will your system. The first time, y'all use
a bidet. If you have not used one by now,

(23:29):
you are very welcome.

Speaker 2 (23:31):
Damn things are addicted. Please tell me you're talking about
the bread godays quite therapeutic. Yeah, that gentto warm water
really eases a stress. Washing out the nukes and grannies. Stop.
I'm begging you next big score and getting one for
the ship mag you too.

Speaker 3 (23:48):
My first one is never trust to fart, especially after
thirty m I just that's just it, because if you
if you are mind, you it's in tandem with mind.
But you should consume way more fiber than you currently are.
But if you are doing such, then you definitely should

(24:09):
never trust a fart, you know.

Speaker 2 (24:11):
And that's all I'll say with that.

Speaker 1 (24:16):
Yes, I agree with that very much. So laugh at yourself.
Learn to laugh at yourself. You know what I mean.
And I don't mean thinking all your jokes are funny,
even though I'm one to talk. I if you learn
to laugh at yourself and release some of the embarrassment

(24:38):
that people develop through the shame of society and when
they don't develop the right amount of shame or the
right kind of shame, learn to laugh at yourself. If
you can do that, you can get through most situations.

Speaker 3 (24:55):
Yeah, that's true. My mentor at high school used to
talk to me about the fear of image. When we
release that fear, you're able to achieve so many things.

Speaker 1 (25:05):
Absolutely, absolutely, just learn a lot at yourself. You will.
If you can do that, you can get through so
many situations. You won't take things to take your take
yourself too seriously, because some people take themselves far too
fucking seriously.

Speaker 3 (25:22):
Yeah, yeah, on went to the point where they're insufferable
to be rend exactly next on my list. White people
will in fact get white on you.

Speaker 12 (25:35):
Every time, Okay, the problem.

Speaker 3 (25:46):
That's something my grandmother always taught me or asked growing up.
She was like, white folks are cool until they get
white on you. And I did not know what she
meant by that until I got older.

Speaker 4 (25:57):
Mm hmmm.

Speaker 3 (25:58):
And you know, it's this idea that they will cling
to their own and you know, too off their noses,
touspite their faces.

Speaker 2 (26:07):
To get over you as they hate intrinsic.

Speaker 3 (26:10):
I'm not saying all white people relax, most collectively, collectively,
you all tend to.

Speaker 2 (26:24):
Yellow white. Uh.

Speaker 1 (26:26):
If you're offended by that, then you're getting white on us.
I don't like check your privilege, beloved. Yeah, that's see.
Why don't you assess the areas in which you are
possibly getting white on people where you are displaying uh,
you know, signs of white nests.

Speaker 2 (26:49):
Mm hmmmmm h but your turn.

Speaker 1 (26:57):
I know I didn't do news this week, but this
is in reference to your political thoughts. This is in
reference to how you move in society on a daily basis,
how you drive in traffic, all types of things. It's
not that hard to not be a dickhead. Yeah, it's

(27:19):
actually harder to be a dickhead than it is to
not be one. And so many people go out of
their ways to be dickheads, to continue arguments, to do
all types of things, instead of just taking a mirror
up and be like, you know what, I'm in a
bad mood or I reacted to this poorly, like I'm

(27:41):
the one who was at fault. It takes nothing for
you to be like it's me, my bad, and it
won't kill you to do so. It's not hard to
not be a dickhead. This is why I love humans
and I hate people because I feel like people don't
ever check themselves. Let me not say don't ever. A
lot of people don't check themselves in their self awareness

(28:03):
is at an all time negative.

Speaker 13 (28:10):
M hm.

Speaker 2 (28:12):
I agree.

Speaker 3 (28:15):
Next on my list, dick may come and go, but
educationist forever, hear me out.

Speaker 14 (28:24):
Remember, only the discipline ones are free in life. Only
the discipline ones are free in life. If you are
in discipline, you are asleep to your moods.

Speaker 2 (28:41):
There was a time.

Speaker 3 (28:44):
In my life, in a lot of people's lives, where
I was in college and I would skip out on
classes R two for some booty or some you know
d You know, there is oftentimes where people will lose

(29:04):
themselves over and other partners, you know, or if it's
where they use the restroom from you know what I mean.

Speaker 2 (29:14):
So like there's no need and I buy education.

Speaker 3 (29:20):
I mean, there's other things that are out there, like
don't get caught up too much in sexual gratification, because
you can people automatically. Not automatically, but people have a
tendency to turn in sexual gratifications to something else that
could be more and it will ruin you otherwise. So

(29:41):
keep your eyes on the price. If you have a
goal of finishing your degree, getting a licenseship, getting a job,
you know, getting your body together, getting your health right,
focusing on a relationship with your parents, building a relationship
with God. Do whatever you need, but don't get Yeah, man.

Speaker 1 (30:06):
That is gender specific. Don't do it. Yeah, don't don't
let it have you out here being dizzy.

Speaker 3 (30:24):
Because my next one is Erica lied and the booty
does lie because there are people out there who be.

Speaker 2 (30:31):
Lying on on on stuff.

Speaker 1 (30:34):
M mm hmm.

Speaker 2 (30:39):
So that's my three and four.

Speaker 1 (30:40):
So the booty does lie. Yeah, you might need in
more ways than one, you know what I'm saying, Like
that could apply across the board. Maybe that's what you
call this episode.

Speaker 2 (30:54):
I don't know.

Speaker 1 (30:59):
Get a bedtime routine now, do it now. If you
have not done it, do it immediately. Get yourself a
bedtime routine. It is going to be one of the
most imperative things for your health. This is coming from
a nigga who has been a nighttime person my whole

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life and am deeply regretting the fact that I am
just now getting myself into a bedtime routine. It could
have saved me so much. So get one immediately if
you don't have one, whatever that is for you, And
that also goes hand in hand with take a shower

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before you go to sleep every single time. Wash the
day off of you. You'll sleep better, your sheets will
be cleaner. Just make sure you do that every time.
Make that a part of your routine.

Speaker 13 (31:56):
People who showered at night or at least took a
foot bath afore bed fell asleep faster and had better
overall quality of sleep. Signists say bathing helps the body
cool down and relax, which contributes to better rest as
long as you do it, it's my model agreed.

Speaker 3 (32:18):
Sometimes you have to mind other people's business.

Speaker 2 (32:22):
Now, hear me out. I know we are a.

Speaker 3 (32:29):
Mind your own business. I don't talk to people. I
don't need friends.

Speaker 15 (32:33):
Boyshit boyshit, drugs, drugs, guns, guns.

Speaker 2 (32:41):
Yeah, but.

Speaker 3 (32:45):
Sometimes you got to keep your ears since streets to
know what the fuck is going on.

Speaker 1 (32:48):
Absolutely, you got to know which niggas to stay away from.
You know what I'm saying, niggas being gender and race
nonspecific specific. Yes, yes, you got to know the going
zones to know what you don't want going zones. You
know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (33:04):
Bingo.

Speaker 3 (33:06):
Someone tagged me they were like, I made a new
friend at coach at work today. But as XD says,
say no to coworkers, I.

Speaker 2 (33:14):
Would like to amend that. Oh okay, you're right, because
there are.

Speaker 3 (33:25):
I think that was birth out of like because some
people just do too much at work, you know what
I mean. You can have friends at work. We do
not tell you to be like active bitches at work.
That's just for me. But I like, no, be friendly,
don't be a douche monkey at work. Like Jade said,
like it costs nothing to not be a dickhead. We

(33:48):
just saying be weary because they're you know, Trischelle, and
receivable is not your sore war you know what I mean?

Speaker 1 (33:58):
And also you can't always trust your sore this aless
amended to r s VP maybe to coworkers. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
there we go. New phrase. Should we take a break
before we continue on?

Speaker 10 (34:20):
Oh yeah, hit a cloud after these messages will be right.

Speaker 11 (34:26):
Back as anyone who being into life a for one
hundred percent of where you want them.

Speaker 2 (34:36):
But the husband and wives spouse Wortner.

Speaker 3 (34:44):
And we're black life lessons for here on jaighteenth. Hopefully
you submit your own in the comments wherever you're listening
wherever Spotify, Apple Music, pay tre on YouTube. Let us
know some of your life lessons and the comments blur blur,

(35:05):
which you got.

Speaker 1 (35:06):
Next, wash your cans from the supermarket before you use them.
There's been all kinds of things crawling up all over
everything in warehouses and so forth and so on. So
before you bust open that can of dice tomatoes or
tomato paste or beans or what have you, just go

(35:29):
ahead and give those cans a good little quick wash off.
It'll just give you a peace of mind that you
might not have otherwise had. I know that's a very
small one, but it's what I will be passing on
to Noah.

Speaker 3 (35:45):
It's actually very smart. Like my grandmother used to and
wei should do this in general, like whenever we got
can sodas, make sure you rents off the top and
rinse and wipe with the hipper towel out we go.

Speaker 1 (35:57):
Keep your little vinegar Oh that's the bonus. Vinegar and
baking soda should be forever always household items. You throw
some vinegar and some stuff in a little bottle, spray
it up, spray the top of those kids, and get
them with some hot water. Peace of mind. That's what
I'm telling you. Forever household items. They do so much.

(36:19):
Don't buy comment anymore. Use baking soda like dawn.

Speaker 3 (36:25):
Mm hmmm hmm, although I still get comment because it's
supports that happen, you know, and sometimes.

Speaker 2 (36:32):
Hyeah ah oh yeah.

Speaker 3 (36:41):
Keep a professional from all sectors in your circle. So
either a doctor, a lawyer, a nurse, a beautician, a
brew hay, any type of you need. That's what community
is for, right, absolutely where you reach across the aisle,
because everybody needs something, right, So that's where you have

(37:01):
a beneficial community where you all could be great boons
to each other. Absolutely, you know, and still like you
should you know, you should always at least have a
lawyer in back pocket because always niggas gets in the streets.

Speaker 1 (37:17):
Yeah, always keep a lawyer in your back pocket always.
And somebody from the service industry.

Speaker 2 (37:26):
Mm hmmm.

Speaker 1 (37:27):
It's just you're always going to need to know somebody
who's in the service industry.

Speaker 3 (37:31):
A waiter and a male person. M No, one, everything's
about mail carriers. But you're having a mail carrier in
your pocket is one of the greatest things you could
ever have.

Speaker 1 (37:43):
In an hr REP as a friend, though not as
an hr REP. Ye, not your h exactly, nhr rep.
You know what I'm saying, in a magical white Oh yeah,

(38:03):
just white, just one, just one. Yeah, even though he's
not necessarily white. But I don't think I would call
it a bar magical way. I only say that because
it goes bok will buying in a video in a
video game is no, because Abe's not gonna get white

(38:26):
on us, you know what I'm saying, Like, no, you
know what I mean. And he's also not one not
a debate name to a boy age exception inception.

Speaker 3 (39:04):
Yes, Next on my list is leaf fabric softener alone,
just a little vinegar.

Speaker 1 (39:13):
Hello.

Speaker 3 (39:13):
So I say that just as a general thing, but honestly,
I think as you get older, you want to preserve
your clothing because a you're trying to save a bunch
of money as you can, and because you know, retirement and.

Speaker 2 (39:26):
Shit like that.

Speaker 3 (39:27):
But like also a lot of this laundry ship that
they get us to buy is such money grabs that
is so unnecessary, Like we could do proper laundry on
our own with natural ingredients. Vinegar is a natural occurring thing,
well through chemical processes of course, you know. Yeah, But

(39:54):
the point is you don't necessarily need even bleach all
the time, you know, or oxty whatever. The those are
time and place for certain fabrics. But like your clothing,
you can it's okay with with this, even cold water.
I know that's even controversial, with just washing cold water.
But to preserve the fabric, especially since most of us

(40:15):
shop through the modalities of fast fashion, you know, in
order to help the environment and help your wallet.

Speaker 2 (40:26):
Yeah, be mindful of how you do your laundry.

Speaker 1 (40:28):
Yep, including hanging it up. Hanging it up, because that
also helps to preserve it longer as well. Add to that,
you're probably using too much laundry detergent yep.

Speaker 2 (40:41):
Two tableswoos and max yep.

Speaker 1 (40:42):
That's what the That's what the laundry man said. And
I have been testing it out with some baking soda
and some vinegar and all that. And the white man
with the long hair, uh huh, yep. I put a
couple of drops of like some essential oil in there,
and then I'll, you know, I use my Free and
Clear and some bacon, soda and nigga and then a
little bit of vinegar and the rent cycle should be fresh. Okay,

(41:06):
it'd be fresh.

Speaker 3 (41:07):
We you know, normally we use free and Clear like
the fragrance and diephree that sensitive stuff.

Speaker 16 (41:13):
Right.

Speaker 3 (41:13):
So the dasher the other day got us tied like
regular tide and what I tell you, there's so much
perfume and shit and laundry detergents now, oh yeah, it's
like it makes me a question is there even soapen here?
So like I'm about to go down and make my

(41:34):
own detergent with borax and whatever.

Speaker 2 (41:36):
The fuck? I was like, this is such a strong.

Speaker 1 (41:41):
Scent, you know, Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 (41:45):
It is.

Speaker 1 (41:48):
Phone keys wallet before you leave the house every time.
Just phone keys wallet, just to yourself every literally every
time you leave the house. It's one of the best
things I found to make sure that I'm not forgetting anything,
keeps me from having to go back. You just repeat
it to yourself, put it by the door and then live. Laugh,
love fonts if you need to do it. Just phone keys, wallet.

Speaker 3 (42:12):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (42:13):
Yeah, this is kind of deep and it's so interesting.

Speaker 3 (42:23):
So friendships will change over time, and it's silly to
think that they won't. You know a lot of times
people try to There was the friendship expert that was
all getting grown.

Speaker 2 (42:36):
She she happened to be on in PR speaking.

Speaker 1 (42:42):
She was talking about this Daniel Bayard. I think her
name is right, yes, yes.

Speaker 2 (42:47):
Yes, yes, yes, yes.

Speaker 3 (42:48):
And you know every she talked about, every seven years
you kind of go through a cycle of friendships because
ultimately that's how life changes. Every seven years tends to be,
and so you kind of rite off the cycles of
your life changes with your friends. And she was saying,
you know, don't feel bad if you don't have the
same friends from back in the gap or even a

(43:11):
couple of years ago, because you're in a different place.
You know, lives didn't have. You know, it's not like
things bad things happen, it's just you know, you time
to move on.

Speaker 2 (43:23):
I don't.

Speaker 3 (43:23):
She was like, you know, friendships are You're silly to
think that your friendships will stay the same if you're
continuously growing. Well, you came in up, so you know,

(43:48):
I think a lot of people get bogged down and
have this issue with loneliness because of the fact that
they're still expecting things to change or not to change,
or harping on nostalgia ferent friendships when we went before
the street lights came dr grad or whatever, and.

Speaker 2 (44:02):
It's not that when we're forty.

Speaker 3 (44:05):
You know, I was talking to somebody and I was
saying I was talking to Kia, and I was like,
you know, at forty, my community looks different. Living in
California and my community looks different, and I had to
adjust to that. And a lot of people, even though
as we get older we get stuck.

Speaker 2 (44:22):
On our ways a little bit. But if you're trying to.

Speaker 3 (44:27):
Apply a true life lesson in life, and that's to
be flexible when it comes to friendships because of the
fact that you know they're not always going to.

Speaker 2 (44:35):
Be the same.

Speaker 1 (44:36):
Yeah, absolutely, you're not wrong. And some of them like
grow and blossom in ways that you don't expect. You know,
sometimes you find yourself you'll look back and be like, man,
I'm much closer to this person in a different way.
Or maybe you met somebody through somebody else, but you're closer.
You end up like those things develop and they happen.
Your palette changes too. If your taste palette changes, your

(44:58):
friendship palette changes. And it also can go through seasons.
You know what I'm saying. Sometimes challenge doesn't mean that
it's over. It just means that it's shifting. Sometimes challenge
means that it's something that you need to let go of.
In the same vein my next one is communication is
not gonna kill you. It's not you. It is you

(45:20):
are not gonna You are not gonna die from having
to have a challenging conversation with somebody that you love.
And it's better to have the conversation than to be
avoiding about it, because that's how you build resentment. Have
the conversations. If you have an uncomfortable moment, discuss it,
don't act like it didn't happen.

Speaker 2 (45:43):
Yeah, that's like one of my things on here is
a friction is okay? Yeah?

Speaker 4 (45:49):
I think.

Speaker 3 (45:52):
I think we were talking about a couple of weeks
ago how people are falling.

Speaker 2 (45:54):
In love with AI and things.

Speaker 3 (45:57):
It seems to me that people are more comfortable with
falling alone with the echo chamber and their own thoughts
as opposed to dealing with somebody else that perhaps will
challenge their thought or their way of being because you
know what I hate. I hate a well, I was

(46:18):
raised like this ass bitches, like because peoples right, Like,
who's to say that Big Shirley was the big fat
authority of mother, Like you know what I mean exactly.

Speaker 1 (46:34):
Like that bitch also gave you cooke when you would too.

Speaker 2 (46:39):
So okay, and bond fabuloso and.

Speaker 1 (46:48):
Fed your corporated greens when you were three months old.

Speaker 2 (46:52):
Yeah, like it just like that.

Speaker 1 (47:00):
Sometimes. I also saw this video of this baby who
was with his poppa and his poppa was giving him coke.
Even though this child is I mean far too young
to be having coke, it did take you back to
a beautiful, nostalgic time of grandparents.

Speaker 5 (47:15):
And kids and what I love.

Speaker 3 (47:18):
I love And this is problematic, but I love to
see a baby with a chicken egg.

Speaker 1 (47:23):
Oh my god, it's my favorite thing.

Speaker 2 (47:31):
Yeah yo yo's chickens exactly.

Speaker 1 (47:41):
I don't know why we as a people get such
a joy from the baby getting its first animal protein.
We're like, it's like, remember I know his first birthday
and we got that picture with that big ass ribby.

(48:09):
We need to do a part two to spikes. Please
go to sleep baby or whatever the book is called.
Eat Baby, Eat Baby, just so proud, beads, greens, potatoes, tomatoes,
eat Baby, Eat ribs in the cribs, Eat Baby. Eat.

(48:34):
Oh that's amazing. That's amazing to you to it was
one of it was one of the last points you made.
But it's okay to be miserable sometimes. Just communicate it.
Just communicate it. Don't leave niggas guessing. You don't even
have to go into it. Just be like, I'm not

(48:54):
good right now, and niggas be like, copy, how can
I support you? It is okay to be miserable. You
don't have to be okay all the time. That's really
what that is. Like, It's okay to not be okay,
but it is okay sometimes to just communicate it so
you're not projecting that shit out on the other people.

Speaker 2 (49:12):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (49:13):
Yeah, yeah, this is rough and I'm not to ruffle
a lot of feathers here. Oh we do you should
learn You should learn the designations on a W four
form now.

Speaker 2 (49:31):
Oh yeah, Like I recall being twenty five thirty two
calling my mother asking what do I need?

Speaker 13 (49:48):
What?

Speaker 2 (49:48):
What do I play? Zero?

Speaker 11 (49:50):
One?

Speaker 2 (49:51):
Whatever? The fuck?

Speaker 3 (49:54):
Then I got learned, and I learned that the government
takes loans off of your off the backs of your labor, right,
So therefore I learned what each thing meant on the
W four form, because that determines how much the government
takes out a loan on my on the back, on
my back. So yeah, yeah, you know, when you sign

(50:17):
up for a new job, new gig, you know, just
do a quick Google Google sha of you know what
each designation means, how much that may or may not
affect your paycheck. Because you know, us as a people,
we love to calculate shit before we get it. Just

(50:39):
know when you claim zero, they take out the most. Yeah,
and and also be sure not to claim exempt either,
because that has gotten a lot of our people in trouble.

Speaker 1 (50:48):
Oh yes, honey, So get you a person who knows
how this works, so that you're setting yourself up for
the best outcome that you possibly can in a corrupt
government and system.

Speaker 2 (51:01):
Yeah. W W nine, that's easy. W four, it's fine.
W two, that's you.

Speaker 17 (51:05):
You.

Speaker 2 (51:06):
You let the people at Jackson Hewitt do it. However,
w W four mm hmmm, I think some time you
don't have to give that to and in HR right away.
You can google real quick exactly.

Speaker 1 (51:21):
Don't let them pressure you either, like tell them that
you need.

Speaker 2 (51:26):
They're legal for them to do so.

Speaker 18 (51:28):
The W four form is the I r S document
that most of us need to complete when starting a
new job to determine how much of our income or
employers should withhold for federal income taxes and send along
to the I r S. It's a pretty common form.

Speaker 1 (51:41):
We've got to talk about the unknown number.

Speaker 2 (51:44):
Oh yeah, I know the the the agents have asked
if we watched I have not watched it yet.

Speaker 1 (51:53):
Oh, I just need you to I understand.

Speaker 3 (51:56):
It's give me the gist. Give me the gistne like
one to two sends the story of one forty.

Speaker 1 (52:11):
A white mother whites out in a way I have
never seen in my entire black ass life.

Speaker 2 (52:18):
Okay, I'll watch it and i'll report that. There you go. Yeah,
how long is it?

Speaker 1 (52:26):
Hour and a half?

Speaker 7 (52:27):
Maybe?

Speaker 2 (52:29):
Okay? Yeah, okay, because I got it. Okay, can commit
to that.

Speaker 1 (52:35):
Yeah, do that so we can discuss it. And I know,
like I said, I know, it's everywhere and everybody's talking
about it, and we were gonna not and I think
we shall. I think after you watch it, because there's
some some talking points that I'm also like, hmmm, this
was not this this particular point was not harped on enough,
and that bitch needs to still be in jail.

Speaker 2 (52:58):
Is this something I need to take notes on?

Speaker 1 (52:59):
Or is some no no, watch that ship and just
and then just collect opinions like birthday dollars. Yes, mm hmmm, ChRI,
y'all watch that tonight over supper. Okay, put your TV

(53:22):
dinners on the trays. Watch it over supper so we
can talk about it tomorrow. Yeah yeah, ce cee we
we yeah, nigga, it's that bad and then worse, Yeah
it is. Oh, I'm all yeah. Okay, my next one

(53:50):
to your last one, call your mother and ask her
for your fucking birth certificate and Social Security card. All right,
you talked about like hit your mother thirty And in
addition to that, get a fire safety box and or
zip up folder and keep all your documents in one place.

(54:15):
Get all that shit together.

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Speaker 3 (54:33):
Like, you know, my degrees are lost because I gave
them to my mother to hold on because I was
twenty five. I'm not holding onto that shit. But I
but I had my I had my by Social Diversitificate.
I've always had that. For whatever reason, I gave her

(54:56):
my I send her my degrees and shit to have whatever.
And so when they moved, they abandoned a lot of
stuff like photos and stuff like like you said, I'm
getting grown, like take photos, scan them, shits, upload them,
do something. But so there's a lot of my childhood
that's gone because for whatever reason, right, and so now

(55:16):
I'm like, now I got to call and get my
shit back. I got to call the universities or like,
and I'm I don't really give a shit, but it's
just like the fact that, like to your point, we're
adults and we can be responsible in on our own things.

Speaker 1 (55:31):
I got one of these. It's a fire safety box,
I mean of zip up folder, trapper keeper and it's
got various folders that I have labeled and have the
things that they need. So there is one location where's
Noah shot records, bom, where is your birth certificate?

Speaker 4 (55:51):
Right here?

Speaker 1 (55:52):
And where she becomes an adult. I'm going to gift
her one of those with all of us shit, and
then I will always have a back up. But I
will give to that with her ship, and I'm gonna
tell her how she can request her own from the
fucking courts and all of those things.

Speaker 3 (56:10):
M hmm, yeah, yeah, neverb I need to get a
copy of my persity because I only have the original.

Speaker 1 (56:18):
You know that, no get a copy, get a copy.
I have to get another copy of our marriage certificate
because it looks like somebody ate it. So get all
that shit together and do it now now.

Speaker 3 (56:31):
Yeah, let's take a break. Yeah, and we'll be back
with more. Jada xt hit a cloud.

Speaker 10 (56:39):
After these messages will be right back.

Speaker 11 (56:46):
Nobody happens one hundred percent of your way. This one
person must happen your way. So this is why and
Engineering Conscious product.

Speaker 2 (57:01):
We're Black Life Lessons with Jada xt hero on Jade.

Speaker 1 (57:06):
Tenth supposed to be forty lest lessons, but I don't
I think we lost count?

Speaker 2 (57:13):
Oh I have, I have my number, so but I'm on,
but I'm actually skipping over.

Speaker 7 (57:23):
Hm.

Speaker 3 (57:25):
This is deep damn. But I'll be light read and
do puzzles.

Speaker 1 (57:33):
Oh yeah.

Speaker 2 (57:40):
The one thing I talked to my mother about often
is retirement.

Speaker 3 (57:44):
And she says she currently works now because she wants
something to do, and so her fear is that when
she stops doing something, that that's where things will go wrong.
And that's often for a lot of people, especially a
lot of retired reads. My grandmother always made a point
to have a Sudoku crossword something puzzle just to keep

(58:09):
her mind active, like, and my grandmother passed away from
dimension stuff and she was ninety one. And so you
often when I think about, like keeping my mind active,
you know body is think yeah, stretching and drink water,
all that stuff, and making sure that your brain, yeah, cognitively.

Speaker 2 (58:29):
Moving in health healthily.

Speaker 3 (58:32):
You know, it's such wealth, such richness to your life
if you can keep that, keep your brain goingly. Because
when you think about brains are broken since COVID, you
know what I mean, Like, and I often think about
just critical thinking skills.

Speaker 2 (58:49):
And how that has been waning as a society. But
if you can do just read.

Speaker 3 (58:57):
I'm not telling you read a book. Read a book,
reading motherfuck book.

Speaker 1 (59:11):
Come on inside.

Speaker 17 (59:12):
We've got everything you need.

Speaker 3 (59:13):
There's plenty to do, or you can, but you can
read long form articles like there was this guy today,
Like back in the day, we were reading Eric Jerome Dickey.
But at least we were reading, we were reading, gaging
with the written word. You know, we were actively having
our brains, the synapses in our brains firing off.

Speaker 2 (59:32):
By knowledge or whatever words. Yes, puzzles.

Speaker 3 (59:37):
You know, there's so many folks who are, you know,
just cognitively and intelligent, intelligently stunted because of the fact
that they only engage in like TV or music or.

Speaker 15 (59:54):
Drugs, guns bitches, drugs, guns boy shit boyshit niggas, shit
nigga ship guns Like that's.

Speaker 2 (01:00:07):
It's my favorite. That's what future does. I love it.

Speaker 1 (01:00:15):
Boys ship guns do the Young Thug remix?

Speaker 2 (01:00:21):
No, he's he is homophobic now apparently?

Speaker 1 (01:00:25):
Oh really what he saying? Because I was just about
to be like boys, ship nigga ship gossip, bit ship boys,
ship niggas, ship gossip problematic? Yes I know, yes they
are ship Yeah, let me may be be sassy. Okay,

(01:00:48):
and the talk.

Speaker 2 (01:00:51):
Listen that one that was awesome gossip.

Speaker 1 (01:01:07):
Oh he is chitching and chatting. Okay, Oh lord, oh
my god.

Speaker 20 (01:01:17):
What we didn't even say this at the top of
the episode. We lost Oh my god. I know, Oh
George Toler, I know you know what never gain.

Speaker 4 (01:01:31):
But let me tell you something.

Speaker 2 (01:01:33):
You don't knock on my fucking door that out.

Speaker 4 (01:01:35):
I'm in a wheelchair for two bitch.

Speaker 10 (01:01:37):
If I don't open the door, if somebody calling and falk,
you bother gotta cost your it's come to the door.

Speaker 2 (01:01:42):
Don't beg them, not the fucking door like that. Yeah,
it's five thousand dollars that I pay.

Speaker 1 (01:01:50):
You have got to give him all of his credit.
When the police came in that nigga's house and he
was cussing them out the way that he was, it
was one of my favorite pieces of television from the COVID.
Like he they came in his house and he was
talking cash shit.

Speaker 16 (01:02:11):
Rolling around them, talking, rolling around the court room talking.

Speaker 1 (01:02:18):
Yeah, I saw that it. Actually, I was sad. I
was sad to see that news. So may he have
an ease full journey.

Speaker 2 (01:02:28):
Mm hmmm.

Speaker 3 (01:02:29):
I hope Beyonce still checks about him every now and
I hope, so, I hope. So yeah, here your turn.

Speaker 1 (01:02:40):
Okay. I understand that this comes with a caveat right,
because there is uh uh, you know, societal pressures. But
with those people are insecure, nasty, empty vessels. Okay, So
in contest, nobody is thinking about you as hard as

(01:03:05):
you think. Everybody's getting ready to be looking at your
outfit and dissecting it down peace for peace, you go
to the beach and think somebody's getting ready to count
the dimples on your thighs, nine times out of ten,
nobody is thinking about you because everybody is thinking about themselves.

(01:03:30):
And let that be. Let that be a freedom for you.
Let that be a freedom for you. Go to the beach,
wear the bathing suit, because the only people that are
worried about you, like I said, are people who are
empty themselves and they don't have anything else to focus on,
or they're trying very hard not to focus on themselves

(01:03:51):
because they hate themselves. But as far as you are concerned,
do what you need to do, because nobody's thinking about
you as hard, as hard as you think.

Speaker 2 (01:04:02):
That they are.

Speaker 1 (01:04:05):
At all, Let that release you. Let that release you.

Speaker 2 (01:04:10):
Yeah, this, Oh this was deep. Uh you can't.

Speaker 3 (01:04:33):
Erica Campbell said this once and it's so true, and
this is for gays or to people in general. But
I had Gaze in mind when I wrote this. But
you can't enter love with your fists up. So like
a lot of times people come into like dating scenarios

(01:04:57):
with their guard completely up, like or you have these
expectations that nobody can ever meet, or you have these
or you're just super dismissive and you don't really give
a shit about the person.

Speaker 2 (01:05:13):
You're just doing, you know what I mean.

Speaker 3 (01:05:15):
Like it's almost like you're checking a box in the
dating thing and not necessarily getting invested in and knowing
the person. Or there are some people like in gay scenarios,
gays will develop a personality that they see from television
or they've adopted a personality from a reality television show,

(01:05:38):
and because they're rather empty, like you said earlier, so
they adopt that and then becomes really caustic. Right, there's
so many gay people who live their lives through reality
TV lenses, and so they think that they're Karen Huger
or a Nini Leeks or whatever, and then such and
then so they exude nasty behaviors that they once did
as opposed to as being a real fucking human being

(01:05:59):
and being real, right, and so like, you can't expect
to be in a loving, committed a relationship if you're coming.

Speaker 2 (01:06:07):
With all of these like things.

Speaker 3 (01:06:12):
Like love is a roller coaster, and the whole point
of roller coaster is of you to release your inhibitions.
Is you never know where it's going to go. You
can't control it. But when you're coming and thinking you
can control it and all this good stuff, you're going
to fail at.

Speaker 1 (01:06:28):
Its ever give that also, But that goes for non
romantic for you know, platonic relationships as well. You can't
enter those with your dukes up and your trauma. You
know what I'm saying, You're not giving an opportunity and
a chance for people to really get to know you
and love you, you know, without a shell around you.

(01:06:50):
But also, you know, we also know that sometimes people
have experienced quite a lot and they have to learn
through relationship. Let's see what else we Okay, apparently I
missed the brue ha ha, right, but the girls got

(01:07:15):
big fucking mad at Tabitha Brown. I learned this after
the fact. So I'm like, you know, it took a while.
I was like, they always turn on you, but it
took a while. But I was like, I just am
curious as to what Tabitha did to make these people

(01:07:36):
react in this like visceral manner, right, So I go
to do my own research as to see what's happening,
and still was having a hard time fait. I was like,
so it, I'm still does she call somebody a bitch?
Does she say, you know, finally lose it and say
fuck your mother?

Speaker 2 (01:07:56):
You know?

Speaker 1 (01:07:57):
Did she cuss Wendy Williams out in a way that
she didn't before? For like, does she turn homophobic all
of a sudden even though her daughter is queer?

Speaker 2 (01:08:05):
Like?

Speaker 1 (01:08:05):
What does she do? And when I realized the reason
I kept missing it was because she told you niggas
to get a job, I was like, Oh, well, then
you're really about to be upset at me because I'm
not going to talk to you with a warm hug
that Tabitha Brown's gonna fucking talk to you in I

(01:08:26):
will reiterate the point, get a fucking job, learn a trade.

Speaker 17 (01:08:33):
Number two HVAC and electrical. If you're an HVAC technician.
You already understand quite a bit about electrical as a
residential HVAC tech.

Speaker 1 (01:08:45):
Do something useful with yourself. Listen, And that's not to
say creativity and all of these you know, all of
these different avenues are not possible. But it is not
crazy for someone to tell you to find a practical
manner to make sure that you can provide for your

(01:09:06):
basic necessities as much as you can provide in a
society that is failing economically and everything else. But it
is not asinine for somebody to tell you to make
sure that you have a backup plan, to your backup plan,
to your backup plan. I myself am trying to tussle

(01:09:28):
back and forth on whether or not I want to
go for the year long trade school to be an electrician,
just so I can have that shit up under my
fucking belt. I'm mad at to.

Speaker 2 (01:09:38):
Do this shit.

Speaker 1 (01:09:38):
Twenty years ago, Nigga, I would have become a plumber
and electrician and everything else, while I have the opportunity
with my youth if I knew what I knew in hindsight,
so I think, yes, the Internet has opened so many
possibilities and roadways for people to do things unconventional and

(01:10:00):
it's provided possibility models for people, and you know, for
them to branch out and figure out other ways to
use their gifts. But it is not stupid for you
to also have something in your back pocket. And some
of you bitches are just and bitches is gender nonspecific.
Some of you bitches are just not as talented in

(01:10:22):
your mind as you think you are. Yeah, we should
have our own reality show. Know the fuck you shouldn't.
You are not as interesting as you fucking think you are.
I promise you.

Speaker 2 (01:10:38):
Here's the thing. I think.

Speaker 3 (01:10:42):
I had the same reaction. I was like, so y'all upset.
I was like a lot of times with Tabitha or
just in general. It's it's it's a messenger, right.

Speaker 2 (01:10:51):
I think that she And this is not me promoting Tabitha.

Speaker 3 (01:10:59):
You can feel how you want to feel, but I
do want people to really assess why they truly feel.

Speaker 2 (01:11:06):
The way they do about her I or in general.

Speaker 3 (01:11:10):
Right, like we joke and say things about like downfall
listen to hate, but I have just justifiable biblical foundation
for everybody.

Speaker 2 (01:11:21):
I'm not hitting out here, I will exactly what do
you mean, desertified? But if it's your.

Speaker 3 (01:11:32):
Fault, Yeah, exactly exactly. I come with love, in the
spirit of things giving. Everywhere I motherfucking goes.

Speaker 1 (01:11:41):
I'll be passing out turkeys like Nino Brown.

Speaker 2 (01:11:45):
Please.

Speaker 3 (01:11:47):
But no, it's y'all who are the pain in my
fucking However, Tabitha, Tabitha represents a type of woman that
a lot of people do not like or have issues with,
and that is the churchy black woman. Sure she and

(01:12:09):
this is and this is has a lot to do
with insecurity, right, this is just the conversations I see
regarding her, like this idea of like she speaks in
this nice, nasty southern I'm gonna get you together but
with love and the spirit of Jesus Christ kind of thing.

Speaker 2 (01:12:24):
That's how people interpret her.

Speaker 3 (01:12:26):
Okay, yeah, just think of her, because people were like
that ain't even her real accent.

Speaker 1 (01:12:34):
That's a was like, okay, all right, y'all, we've seen
her country ass family, Like stop that lady's from North Carolina.

Speaker 3 (01:12:42):
Like, y'all get so, because people want people like finding
community and through hate next.

Speaker 1 (01:12:52):
To you, exactly, podcast Just.

Speaker 3 (01:12:58):
Here's Ultimately, there's way more egregious shit that us out
there are saying that could be having conversations about hell,
having an honest conversation that you need to get a
job because you're you know, Keisha's tax service, coffee tattoos

(01:13:21):
and you know, and dry cleaning isn't working, you know, yeh,
Like I don't. That's why I think people people look
for things to be angry about, because this not this
would not have been a conversation of contention ten years
ago or twenty years ago even right, Like.

Speaker 2 (01:13:45):
I think people.

Speaker 3 (01:13:48):
In this day and age, it is a it is
currency to be angrier, currency to critique, right like you
you find people find work through being critique or being
you know, I guess that's what we do, right. But
there there are people that throw tomatoes for sport.

Speaker 1 (01:14:11):
M h, yeah, very much so trolls. Yeah, but I
think in this particular case, it was a bunch of
hit dogs. And the fact of the matter is, y'all
don't want to fucking work. Nobody wants to fucking work,
you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (01:14:27):
And everybody wants to Everybody has like this weird sense
of like labor. And I think because everybody's like, you know,
with this system and system and I yes, yeah, and exactly.

Speaker 12 (01:14:43):
Yeah, And.

Speaker 3 (01:14:45):
This goes back to this goes back to how I
hate the fact that people have this weird conception about
who we are as black people, right, Like I hate
the tropes of I'm not my ancestors. I hate the
idea of like when people discuss decorm that they say
is rooted in the race system, maybe part of it is,
but also you're framing it in to stay that we
were back in Africa was like being like like fucking dingos.

Speaker 1 (01:15:09):
Right and like you know, rubbing our butts up against
the ground or whatever it is.

Speaker 3 (01:15:14):
Case is like that's not either, Like I don't I
want people to just be a little bit more.

Speaker 1 (01:15:20):
Get a grip, Yeah, get a fucking grip next time,
my list. Get a fucking grip. That applies to so much.
I can't believe I did not set my alarm last night.

Speaker 2 (01:15:32):
Now I'm going to be late for work. BOSSI yell
at me, I will probably.

Speaker 10 (01:15:36):
Get fired, Jonathan, Jonathan gets a grip.

Speaker 20 (01:15:40):
You will not be fired.

Speaker 10 (01:15:42):
Calm down and explain what happened to your boss.

Speaker 3 (01:15:46):
Like this, this pathway to liberation has left niggas dizzy
h okay, and I yes, oh my god.

Speaker 1 (01:15:58):
Wait hold on his pause. That was a fantastic way
of saying nobody wants to fucking work anymore. Say it again, please.

Speaker 2 (01:16:10):
I never forgot what I said. Well, liberation, dizzy something
like that.

Speaker 10 (01:16:14):
There you go.

Speaker 2 (01:16:15):
That was, oh yeah, the pathway liberation you see. There
you go.

Speaker 1 (01:16:22):
Yeah, because half of you are sitting and talking to
a corner of the fucking room, pretending that you're talking
to somebody giving a bunch of advice, and literally nobody
is listening to this ship, and you were like, I
am offering gems here and you're not.

Speaker 3 (01:16:38):
It goes to that tweet like about are they you know,
are they gurus or are they just unemployed?

Speaker 21 (01:16:44):
Like like you know, still, what about it's so true?

Speaker 1 (01:17:00):
Which is dress kids like the niggas that left them
problematic rhetorics still spot on it.

Speaker 3 (01:17:05):
Hilarious absolutely all the ship that's problematic doesn't mean it's
not untrue exactly.

Speaker 1 (01:17:13):
Why is that baby? Why is that baby?

Speaker 5 (01:17:20):
Oh my god?

Speaker 1 (01:17:21):
Oh my god.

Speaker 2 (01:17:22):
Course it's from a lady who drives ultimate you know
what I mean?

Speaker 1 (01:17:30):
Etcentra uh oh my next one.

Speaker 3 (01:17:37):
Oh, I'll explain everything every either everyone is right or
everyone is wrong. A bide to stick to your own
belief system. So Chris and I haven't of from conversations
about religion. You know, he grew up as a preacher's
kids and things, and you know, so it's the conversations

(01:17:58):
that we have are complicated because they are unlearning conversations
as well as forming new ideas of how we move
about the world.

Speaker 13 (01:18:14):
Right.

Speaker 3 (01:18:15):
And so he often says to me, he was when
it comes to different religions. He says, either everyone is
right or everyone is wrong. And you know, because if
that was the case, because you know, all religions are
finding that they believe that their religion is the true
religion right, and they believe that their religion is the
one that is true justin right and will get their

(01:18:38):
pathway to God in the after. But what if none
of that's true? What if it's because they're all some
it's weird. You know a lot of the Big Three
they all have very similar origin stories.

Speaker 1 (01:18:55):
All Abrahamic religions are very similar scenes and everything.

Speaker 2 (01:19:00):
Yeah, yeah, and so you can't tell me that.

Speaker 3 (01:19:07):
This this this is one thought based off of a
man's idea, you know, of what the creation man would be.
So clearly like a story, right, not necessarily rooted in
fact or anything like that. So who are we to
say at the end when we die that what we

(01:19:30):
have committed ourselves to learning is true absolutely if I
die as if I die as a Christian, I'm not
saying identify, But if I die as a Christian, you know,
am I not going to see my Muslim homie in heaven?

Speaker 1 (01:19:47):
You know?

Speaker 2 (01:19:48):
Am I not going to see my my Buddhist sister?

Speaker 1 (01:19:52):
You know how much sense does that make? Just because
they're not that thing right?

Speaker 2 (01:19:57):
Right?

Speaker 3 (01:19:58):
So it's it's that's one of those everything is right
and everything is wrong. So a buying is stick to
your own belief system so that you are at peace
with every decision that you make going forward.

Speaker 1 (01:20:12):
Christ right.

Speaker 3 (01:20:15):
And also I think people are religion They get too.

Speaker 13 (01:20:21):
You know.

Speaker 3 (01:20:21):
We talk about pressure from our parents and stuff and
living up to their expectations, but a lot of people
live up to religious expectations too, And that's not free,
that's not liuation. Yes, that's the opposite of such. Yeah,
live life on your own terms because you don't know
if everybody's right or everybody's wrong.

Speaker 1 (01:20:41):
Also, go I think that also goes back to get
over yourself, right, you don't know everything, like there is
no that is. One of the most uncertain things in
this life is death. It's one of the most certain
and the most uncertain. You know you're going to die,
you don't know what happens to you after literally nobody does.
You can have beliefs, but they are what they are.
And I think having your own but also respecting the

(01:21:03):
fact that everybody has their own and that you are
not one hundred percent sure cement certain of anything means
you get over yourself a little bit, so you can
allow people the space to be able to have their
own as well. And I think if there wasn't so
much judgment and finger pointing it and self righteousness and

(01:21:25):
I know everything when you actually in fact know nothing,
you know what works for you. I think if more
people did that, there would also be more peace. Yeah,
wanting to damn everybody because it's not exactly what you
believe in. That shit is crazy.

Speaker 8 (01:21:44):
Overall, Jesus's formative years were relatively simple, but one day
the boy Jesus becomes a man who challenges an empire
and earns the name King of Kings.

Speaker 2 (01:21:59):
Have two more, okay, I'll give you them both. At
the same time. All right, well three, but I'll narrative two. Uh.
The first one is stretch, Uh as we do.

Speaker 3 (01:22:17):
Yes, Uh, physical health is wealth. I talked about mental
health and stuff like that, but like it's a blessing
to wake up every day and know that you have
all your faculties together, right, Like you're a you're ambulatory,
you're able to breathe on your own, you're able to

(01:22:38):
see and all that stuff. A lot of people aren't
and but they're still here and that's okay. But we
should not take those things for granted.

Speaker 2 (01:22:48):
But stretch.

Speaker 3 (01:22:48):
It's good for your body, it's good for your mental state,
it's good to get get some ship out there, just
because it seeps into your muscles, right, it seeps into
your body and manifested. And if you can just stretch
and keep your body loose and moving, your body will
thank you for it.

Speaker 2 (01:23:06):
Future you will thank you for it. And my last
one is get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Like life is hard,
dog and there is. People try to avoid the hard

(01:23:29):
stuff so much.

Speaker 3 (01:23:34):
That a they become insufferable human beings and nobody wants
to be around them. And therefore you're only allowed to
talk to AI because you know their commission to do so,
and you know it makes you resilient. It makes you
a better human being, It makes you it gets you fit,

(01:23:59):
you know, not in the physical sense, but like in
everywhere else, like it builds character. It makes you a
stronger human being, a dc human being, a resourceful person.

Speaker 2 (01:24:14):
Right because.

Speaker 3 (01:24:17):
At any moment, anything that you're doing can be taken away.
You know, Chris often talks to me about or threatens
me about, like what if Patreon.

Speaker 2 (01:24:26):
All this stuff goes away? What you have?

Speaker 3 (01:24:27):
But I also think that could be anything that could
be you could be high power attorney. Shit goes away,
what do you have?

Speaker 2 (01:24:33):
Now?

Speaker 3 (01:24:35):
You know there there are going to be moments where
you know, just shit doesn't feel right. Not everything is
not everything is sunshine and rainbows. That was a cliche
to say, but if it were, that would make life
really really.

Speaker 2 (01:24:56):
Unseerious, and it's not functional. It's not how life works.
Mm hmm.

Speaker 3 (01:25:04):
So when you get comfortable with getting uncomfortable, so when
the uncomfortable moments do happen, you don't crash out.

Speaker 1 (01:25:13):
No. I was talking about a little girl in her
class who is one of those that likes to use
this is making me uncomfortable, like bastardly okay with reckless
abandon If she doesn't like what people are doing around her,
if it's just something she doesn't want to participate in, uh,

(01:25:35):
you know she will. This is making me uncomfortable. I
think the girls are doing a dance routine and she
was like, can you all stop? Like it's just and
all of them are like, no, this don't have nothing
to do with you. Walk away, go find something else
to do like this. The world doesn't revolve around you.
And I think that's part of it too. You got
to get a little bit on You have to be

(01:25:55):
okay with being uncomfortable because the world does not revolve
around you and your comfort, and that doesn't that's not
to be conflated with feeling unsafe and knowing when you're
in a situation that you are unsafe in. This is
about you and your comfort and knowing that the world
is not getting ready to fucking cater to you. So
the quicker you can, you can you can receive that

(01:26:17):
message and let it sit in your belly. The quicker
you will be adaptable when you need to be adaptable,
and also save yourself from added anxiety that this crumbling
society is already going to give you. So I have

(01:26:37):
a couple more. Your food allergies are your problem. This
is not this Also, yes can sometimes mean when you
go out to eat, there are things that kitchens and
chefs have to abide by. And then there's also you
knowing that you are a special case and needing to
figure out your own situation. Because again, what the world

(01:26:59):
does not revolve around you.

Speaker 3 (01:27:04):
Around for you.

Speaker 1 (01:27:05):
Never everything revolves around me, around for you.

Speaker 3 (01:27:18):
You can bring your gluten free bread. No one's gonna
judge you. It's okay, No, please do try all right,
don't govern us the whole group talking about we need
to go eat gluten free pizza like it's okay, Like no, no, no.

Speaker 2 (01:27:34):
You can link up with us after hello.

Speaker 1 (01:27:36):
You know you can opt out from time to time.
Your food allergies are your problem. They are yours and
yours alone. Let's see a couple more.

Speaker 3 (01:27:51):
I have another one on here that says Magneto was right, but.

Speaker 2 (01:27:56):
Go ahead was right, child.

Speaker 3 (01:28:01):
How do I explain that to you? Malcolm X was right,
there you go, but Magneto was right, child.

Speaker 2 (01:28:13):
Non violence resistance kissed my ass That's what my other
note says.

Speaker 20 (01:28:17):
Sometimes violence oftentimes, and violence always physical.

Speaker 3 (01:28:26):
There's emotional violence, there's psychological violence, there's financial violence.

Speaker 2 (01:28:31):
There are so many other things verbal.

Speaker 1 (01:28:34):
I told you that man opened his mouth on love
after lock up and laughed, and when we got a
peek into that hole, that was violence. Okay, he accosted us.

Speaker 2 (01:28:46):
Show how.

Speaker 1 (01:28:51):
I yeah, sev Oh my god. If you think you're
too close, you are, Yeah, you are, you are? Okay.
That could mean many things online in life the edge.
If you think you're too close, you are back up

(01:29:14):
just a little bit. Yeah, yeah, you don't know me.
I'm too clean. I'm so holy, mister, I'm godly. I
only go for room and hold Brandon.

Speaker 11 (01:29:27):
They bought me because they know I got it back.

Speaker 1 (01:29:29):
I'll show you. And your pillows matter. The types of
pillows that you sleep on fully matter to the quality
of your rest and the investment to your body. I
slept on the worst fucking pillows I have ever encountered

(01:29:54):
in my life in this hotel in Chicago. I have
never the They were blueberries but pillows. They had no backbone.
How do you stand up without a spine? How do
you fluff with no support. They were the worst pillows
I have ever ever encountered, And I said, I can't

(01:30:17):
do this. I don't, I cannot do this. I will
I will die early if I keep sleeping on pillows
like these. Please invest in your sleep health as much
as you invest in your and your pilates and your
you know, groceries and all of those types of things.

(01:30:38):
Invest in your sleep health.

Speaker 3 (01:30:41):
Trust me, Doctor Terrell always told me he was invest
in your rest.

Speaker 2 (01:30:47):
Yeah, because you have to.

Speaker 3 (01:30:49):
That's the only way that you truly recover from things. Right, Like,
when life is just fuck it up, I go take
it out. When I'm sick, I go take a nap.
A headache, I go take a nap. When the world
is too much, I go taking nap. When I'm happy,
I go taking nap when I'm said, I go take nap.

Speaker 2 (01:31:06):
Rest.

Speaker 1 (01:31:07):
Invest in it, yeah. Don't call people in their special
event days. If you know that people are doing stuff,
do not call them. If you think that you are
the only person in the world who has this very
special relationship with this person to where you can call

(01:31:28):
them and bog them down as if they are not
preparing for whatever that particular event is. There are thirty
other people who think they are just as close, and collectively,
you all are hindering your loved one from performing in
an effective manner, whatever that is, whatever that may be

(01:31:50):
walking down the aisle, putting on a live show, putting
on a dinner party. Don't call people on their special days,
find somebody else who's helping to run the show, or
swallow your fucking question and figure it the fuck out.
Use your critical thinking skills, trust me.

Speaker 2 (01:32:13):
Um.

Speaker 1 (01:32:18):
Don't emphasize the question mark on questions and text message
unless you get the go ahead to do so, unless
you have the proper security clearance with that person where
they have told you remind me of this, or if
I forget to answer you blah blah blah. But the
minute that you throw up an exclamation mark or double

(01:32:38):
tap question mark on a question you already asked me,
you're dead to me forever. We don't have it like that.
We don't have it like that. And there's no such

(01:33:02):
thing as lending money. That's once it's gone, is gone.
If you happen to get it back, beautiful, But if
you don't, that's not that's that's on you. Because there's
no such thing as lending money. There's too many things
that happen in this world. M If you can't afford

(01:33:26):
to give it away, don't give it away. Yeah, and
I think my last one is uh, I have several.
But take that fucking rug from around the base of
that toilet. It's not nineteen eighty seven anymore. That shit
is gross.

Speaker 2 (01:33:50):
Take that jacket up. But yeah, I agree, I I
you don't need it.

Speaker 3 (01:34:01):
Ye, okay, you could be okay with your feet touching
the bathroom floor while you you know, as long as.

Speaker 1 (01:34:08):
You clean that floor in the base of that toilet,
you should be good to go.

Speaker 2 (01:34:12):
Oh.

Speaker 1 (01:34:12):
I do have one more. Invest in some luggage covers.
Get yourself those protective clear cases for your luggage. Because
TSA or whoever the fuck, luggage handlers, whoever it is, baggage,

(01:34:32):
whatever they are called, they I swear they cat in
a bag Nigga's luggage like North Carolina. They are swinging
your shit around. Invest in some luggage covers. It will
help to protect your loverde luggage and go just a
little bit, a little bit further.

Speaker 4 (01:34:54):
And that is it for me.

Speaker 3 (01:34:58):
Well, happy ja taint everybody. Yes, we will see you
all next week.

Speaker 4 (01:35:07):
Bye.

Speaker 1 (01:35:07):
Bye Yes, and we're moving over.