January 2, 2025 • 15 mins
Hi listener family. In this episode, I'll really break down the verses Philippians 4:6 & 7, and how we can apply it to ourselves, as individuals, and as parents. There are many other scriptures and resources that can help us as parents but those specific two verses really say it all for me. In order to have better reactions and responses to our kids or towards other people in our lives, it all boils down to trusting in and looking to Jesus for His help and guidance. When we lean on our own strength and understanding (our thoughts/reasoning and feelings) when responding to a situation, we really cheat ourselves, and more times than not, make the situation worse rather than better. God is more than able to give us His peace, love, and a patient attitude, resulting in way better communication in our relationships with our kids and anyone we may encounter. I hope these concepts will help you in the same way it has helped, and is continually helping me. We're all doing our best, and we're all in this together. 🥹🙏🫂
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hi, guys, ess here on just in the Mess. Welcome
back to another episode. This one will be about parenting.
And if you're a parent, you know that being a
parent is probably the hardest job that there is here
for us to do. So I'm going to go ahead
(00:26):
and dive right in. And a question that I wanted
to start off with is as a parent, what do
we do in moments of chaos, anxiety, frustration, and uncertainty.
You know, I, myself am still learning the answer to
(00:50):
that question. I for sure do not have it all
figured out, but I feel like I'm in a good
place with what God is teaching me right now about that.
And I feel like the biggest weapon that we have
(01:13):
in raising our kids up in the way that they
should go and fighting back against the enemy's schemes is prayer. Prayer.
Prayer is a privilege. I feel like we take prayer
for granted a lot, and whenever you really get down
(01:36):
to the simplicity of it, we get to talk. We
get to connect and have a relationship a deep, pretty
ugly however it looks, in your household, in your heart,
in yourself. We get to have that real connection with
(02:00):
the Almighty God who created everything. So I feel like
the most powerful thing that we can do for our
kids is pray for them, but not only that, pray
for ourselves as parents to be able to be equipped
(02:21):
and know how to respond the right way and lead
them in the ways that they should go. Because let's
be honest, I don't think there's a parent out there
that can say that they've never lost their temper or
you know, said the wrong thing or said a thing
(02:42):
in the wrong tone. I don't know. Like I feel
like we all struggle with this and there shouldn't be
any shame or guilt about it either. We're all learning,
we're all trying to be a better mom or a
better dad and do better than we did the day before.
(03:05):
So I feel like the most powerful thing that we
can do is in every situation is just bring it
to God, bring it to the Father and ask him
what our next reaction or choice of words or course
(03:27):
of action should be. And that it goes along with Philippians.
Let's see Philippians for six. I'm going to read Philippians four,
six and seven, and that is in nothing be anxious,
So that's basically saying, do not worry, don't be anxious
(03:54):
about anything. It really goes along with trust, trusting God,
because we only worry whenever we're leaning on our own
understanding and not on God, who knows everything, who knows
us fully and he cares for us. So there's that,
(04:20):
and nothing be anxious. But in everything, by prayer and
supplication with thanksgiving, let your requests be known or be
made known unto God. And I'm going to stop right
there because I feel like that's the most important part
(04:42):
of the verse. Because the anxiety is going to come,
the fear, the worry, the doubt, it's going to come.
It's going to present itself. But then that leaves us
in a position where we have to chew if we're
going to take the bait. And what I mean by
(05:04):
that is we can either go this way and once
we feel those negative feelings, we can respond in leaning
on our own understanding and trusting in ourselves to be
able to come out with the right words or right
reactions to our kids or just to anybody period. But
(05:27):
or we can go straight to God in that moment,
just even mentally in our mind picture Jesus and just
even say a mental prayer or out loud whatever that
looks like to you as you are bringing it to God,
(05:48):
whatever it may be. We have those options right before
us in every moment in every day, so prayer. Prayer
is definitely the first thing that we need to do,
especially when those feelings arise. It's our greatest weapon, along
(06:11):
with the Word of God, and in addition with bringing
it to the Father whatever is going on in our
lives in that current moment. The verse also says, you know,
and nothing be anxious. So we're trusting Him enough to
(06:32):
bring all things that are happening in our life to
him in every moment, and with a thankful heart. It says,
by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be
made known unto God. So we're trusting God enough to
bring it all to him without worry and with the
(06:55):
expectancy that He will come right away to help us
and give us the guidance that we need. We have
His Spirit, the Holy Spirit, who lives and dwells in
us at all times, and he never leaves. So with
that being said, we can be thankful that we have
(07:16):
the helper right here ready to help. But he's just
waiting for us to welcome him and ask him which
brings me to the rest of the verse. Let your
requests be made known unto God. God already knows what
we need before we ask. But that doesn't mean we
(07:36):
shouldn't ask. So I feel it's very appropriate to say
that he's just he's on standby. And that's another characteristic
or characteristic or duty of the Holy Spirit is to
be on standby until we ask him of what we need.
(07:59):
So and as parents, we want to feel like you know,
we don't like it when we get things wrong. I
know I don't like it whenever I mess up with
my kids, or hurt their feelings, or teach them the
wrong thing, show the wrong example. And what better person
(08:22):
to teach us how to be a good parent than
God himself. So, and I'll finish this the next verse
that goes with Philippians four six, this is verse seven,
and it says, and the peace of God, which surpasses
(08:42):
all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.
And this is what really ties it up for me,
because whenever we are in that position where we're in
that chaotic situation, and we have the choice to either
(09:03):
react and respond badly, going with those bad feelings that
we're feeling in the moment, or we can choose to
bring it to God and to wait for his instruction,
whether that be words or no words, or just an
action or redirection to the kids, whatever he directs us
(09:26):
or instructs us to do. So, whenever we do choose
God and we choose peace, we ultimately choose His peace
when we bring it to him. Personally, I can say,
whenever I use that fruit of self control that the
(09:47):
Holy Spirit gives us, and I do whatever I need
to do, specially for myself in that moment when going
to God with it, I have to bre I have
to clear my mind, I have to block out the noise,
and I have to wait for him whatever he says
(10:09):
to do next, and immediately I will feel such a
like overflow of peace come over me. God has seen
and knows that I am looking to him, so he
will pour out his peace on me. And that peace
(10:32):
no one on this earth, no human can understand his peace.
It's a divine peace. And with the rest of that verse,
it says, and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding,
will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. So
(10:54):
when that peace, his divine peace comes over us. Oh.
I love to feel his peace. It gives my mind
such a soundness, a sound mind, and it fills my
heart with love and patience. And I'm I'm then able
(11:16):
to respond in the right way as opposed to if
I would have chose the other option, chose to worry
and feel that frustration and go down that rabbit hole
of leaning on my own strength, leaning on my own
understanding and feelings in that moment, and then Bam, I
(11:41):
just reacted really badly to my kids and probably worsened
their reactions to me. And like I said, if we're
not being led by the spirit of God, something else
will lead us. And kids they are like sponges. We
(12:02):
are their heroes as parents. They think that we can
do no wrong and they look up to us, so
they are going to mimic whatever we do. And when
we have that bad reaction to them, they will mimic
that and it'll just seem like everything's just falling apart
and getting even worse. And that's an even more frustrating
(12:26):
place to be. So with that being said, I feel
like Philippians four six and seven is just like it's
a really good resource for anybody to go to concerning
all of our relationships, because when we strengthen our prayer life,
(12:49):
when we when we strengthen our talking to God and
inviting Him into every moment, every activity, every relationship and encounter,
we will be able to respond better than we would
have if we didn't bring it all to Him first.
(13:12):
You know. We try to deal with it first, and
we try to fix it ourselves, thinking that that we're able,
but we're simply not. And I feel like that's like
a little a little sense of pride that we just
have to practice getting out of. And it's really a
(13:36):
sense of like it's a surrendering. It's a knowing that
I need God to help me, and I'm not too
proud to admit that. And I'm not going to feel
silly or like corny for stopping and going to God
(13:59):
about it or I even try to address it myself,
you know. And this is going to be very situational.
It's going to look different for everybody. We're all different,
all of our kids are different, we're different, family dynamics
are different, situations are different. So with that being said, however,
this looks like for you and God, I really, I
(14:24):
pray for whoever is listening, that your prayer life and
your relationship, your closeness to God be strengthened, and that
all of us as parents are able to practice responding
better and receiving His instruction rather than leaning on our
(14:46):
own understanding. I pray that in Jesus' name, Amen, and
I love you guys. I hope everyone has a great day,
and thank you for listening. Bye bye,
Hi, guys, ess here on just in the Mess. Welcome
back to another episode. This one will be about parenting.
And if you're a parent, you know that being a
parent is probably the hardest job that there is here
for us to do. So I'm going to go ahead
(00:26):
and dive right in. And a question that I wanted
to start off with is as a parent, what do
we do in moments of chaos, anxiety, frustration, and uncertainty.
You know, I, myself am still learning the answer to
(00:50):
that question. I for sure do not have it all
figured out, but I feel like I'm in a good
place with what God is teaching me right now about that.
And I feel like the biggest weapon that we have
(01:13):
in raising our kids up in the way that they
should go and fighting back against the enemy's schemes is prayer. Prayer.
Prayer is a privilege. I feel like we take prayer
for granted a lot, and whenever you really get down
(01:36):
to the simplicity of it, we get to talk. We
get to connect and have a relationship a deep, pretty
ugly however it looks, in your household, in your heart,
in yourself. We get to have that real connection with
(02:00):
the Almighty God who created everything. So I feel like
the most powerful thing that we can do for our
kids is pray for them, but not only that, pray
for ourselves as parents to be able to be equipped
(02:21):
and know how to respond the right way and lead
them in the ways that they should go. Because let's
be honest, I don't think there's a parent out there
that can say that they've never lost their temper or
you know, said the wrong thing or said a thing
(02:42):
in the wrong tone. I don't know. Like I feel
like we all struggle with this and there shouldn't be
any shame or guilt about it either. We're all learning,
we're all trying to be a better mom or a
better dad and do better than we did the day before.
(03:05):
So I feel like the most powerful thing that we
can do is in every situation is just bring it
to God, bring it to the Father and ask him
what our next reaction or choice of words or course
(03:27):
of action should be. And that it goes along with Philippians.
Let's see Philippians for six. I'm going to read Philippians four,
six and seven, and that is in nothing be anxious,
So that's basically saying, do not worry, don't be anxious
(03:54):
about anything. It really goes along with trust, trusting God,
because we only worry whenever we're leaning on our own
understanding and not on God, who knows everything, who knows
us fully and he cares for us. So there's that,
(04:20):
and nothing be anxious. But in everything, by prayer and
supplication with thanksgiving, let your requests be known or be
made known unto God. And I'm going to stop right
there because I feel like that's the most important part
(04:42):
of the verse. Because the anxiety is going to come,
the fear, the worry, the doubt, it's going to come.
It's going to present itself. But then that leaves us
in a position where we have to chew if we're
going to take the bait. And what I mean by
(05:04):
that is we can either go this way and once
we feel those negative feelings, we can respond in leaning
on our own understanding and trusting in ourselves to be
able to come out with the right words or right
reactions to our kids or just to anybody period. But
(05:27):
or we can go straight to God in that moment,
just even mentally in our mind picture Jesus and just
even say a mental prayer or out loud whatever that
looks like to you as you are bringing it to God,
(05:48):
whatever it may be. We have those options right before
us in every moment in every day, so prayer. Prayer
is definitely the first thing that we need to do,
especially when those feelings arise. It's our greatest weapon, along
(06:11):
with the Word of God, and in addition with bringing
it to the Father whatever is going on in our
lives in that current moment. The verse also says, you know,
and nothing be anxious. So we're trusting Him enough to
(06:32):
bring all things that are happening in our life to
him in every moment, and with a thankful heart. It says,
by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be
made known unto God. So we're trusting God enough to
bring it all to him without worry and with the
(06:55):
expectancy that He will come right away to help us
and give us the guidance that we need. We have
His Spirit, the Holy Spirit, who lives and dwells in
us at all times, and he never leaves. So with
that being said, we can be thankful that we have
(07:16):
the helper right here ready to help. But he's just
waiting for us to welcome him and ask him which
brings me to the rest of the verse. Let your
requests be made known unto God. God already knows what
we need before we ask. But that doesn't mean we
(07:36):
shouldn't ask. So I feel it's very appropriate to say
that he's just he's on standby. And that's another characteristic
or characteristic or duty of the Holy Spirit is to
be on standby until we ask him of what we need.
(07:59):
So and as parents, we want to feel like you know,
we don't like it when we get things wrong. I
know I don't like it whenever I mess up with
my kids, or hurt their feelings, or teach them the
wrong thing, show the wrong example. And what better person
(08:22):
to teach us how to be a good parent than
God himself. So, and I'll finish this the next verse
that goes with Philippians four six, this is verse seven,
and it says, and the peace of God, which surpasses
(08:42):
all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.
And this is what really ties it up for me,
because whenever we are in that position where we're in
that chaotic situation, and we have the choice to either
(09:03):
react and respond badly, going with those bad feelings that
we're feeling in the moment, or we can choose to
bring it to God and to wait for his instruction,
whether that be words or no words, or just an
action or redirection to the kids, whatever he directs us
(09:26):
or instructs us to do. So, whenever we do choose
God and we choose peace, we ultimately choose His peace
when we bring it to him. Personally, I can say,
whenever I use that fruit of self control that the
(09:47):
Holy Spirit gives us, and I do whatever I need
to do, specially for myself in that moment when going
to God with it, I have to bre I have
to clear my mind, I have to block out the noise,
and I have to wait for him whatever he says
(10:09):
to do next, and immediately I will feel such a
like overflow of peace come over me. God has seen
and knows that I am looking to him, so he
will pour out his peace on me. And that peace
(10:32):
no one on this earth, no human can understand his peace.
It's a divine peace. And with the rest of that verse,
it says, and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding,
will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. So
(10:54):
when that peace, his divine peace comes over us. Oh.
I love to feel his peace. It gives my mind
such a soundness, a sound mind, and it fills my
heart with love and patience. And I'm I'm then able
(11:16):
to respond in the right way as opposed to if
I would have chose the other option, chose to worry
and feel that frustration and go down that rabbit hole
of leaning on my own strength, leaning on my own
understanding and feelings in that moment, and then Bam, I
(11:41):
just reacted really badly to my kids and probably worsened
their reactions to me. And like I said, if we're
not being led by the spirit of God, something else
will lead us. And kids they are like sponges. We
(12:02):
are their heroes as parents. They think that we can
do no wrong and they look up to us, so
they are going to mimic whatever we do. And when
we have that bad reaction to them, they will mimic
that and it'll just seem like everything's just falling apart
and getting even worse. And that's an even more frustrating
(12:26):
place to be. So with that being said, I feel
like Philippians four six and seven is just like it's
a really good resource for anybody to go to concerning
all of our relationships, because when we strengthen our prayer life,
(12:49):
when we when we strengthen our talking to God and
inviting Him into every moment, every activity, every relationship and encounter,
we will be able to respond better than we would
have if we didn't bring it all to Him first.
(13:12):
You know. We try to deal with it first, and
we try to fix it ourselves, thinking that that we're able,
but we're simply not. And I feel like that's like
a little a little sense of pride that we just
have to practice getting out of. And it's really a
(13:36):
sense of like it's a surrendering. It's a knowing that
I need God to help me, and I'm not too
proud to admit that. And I'm not going to feel
silly or like corny for stopping and going to God
(13:59):
about it or I even try to address it myself,
you know. And this is going to be very situational.
It's going to look different for everybody. We're all different,
all of our kids are different, we're different, family dynamics
are different, situations are different. So with that being said, however,
this looks like for you and God, I really, I
(14:24):
pray for whoever is listening, that your prayer life and
your relationship, your closeness to God be strengthened, and that
all of us as parents are able to practice responding
better and receiving His instruction rather than leaning on our
(14:46):
own understanding. I pray that in Jesus' name, Amen, and
I love you guys. I hope everyone has a great day,
and thank you for listening. Bye bye,
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