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Speaker 1 (00:06):
Welcome to Journey with Joan, a podcast hosted by Joan Widen,
a medium, waki master, and mind body spirit coach. Joined
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embrace their future, let go of the past, and create
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Journey with Joan, Joan.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Widen, Welcome and thank you for joining me tonight. I'm
so happy and grateful that you have come, and I'm
so happy to be grateful to be here tonight. All right,
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so I want to touch base on what we talked
about last week. I saw something that came on my
feed and I thought, hey, I'm going to share it
with you, because we talked about wanting to live the life,
to get your desires right, to get rid of your
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personal beliefs, and to set you free so you can
live abundantly and essentially get the life that you want. Okay,
So what came across my feed in LinkedIn was success
is actually a loser that tried just one more time
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and that's how they got to where they are. Right. So,
if you're feeling bummed and down on yourself. Just remember
that success happens when losers just get up and try again,
because it can happen just like that. All right. So
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this week's topic is karma, and I'm not talking about
Taylor Swift's song Karma either, even though you know I
am feeling twenty two. All right. So what is karma?
Karma is the cause and effect of our actions, okay,
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And we are responsible solely for our own actions and
the consequences. Okay. There are multiple like, let me see
what do I have? There are karma principles okay, and
the principles in karma are Let's start with the first one.
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Any small action can lead to great results, okay. And yeah,
you never know what kind of deed that you do.
Whether it's to pay for the person behind you at
the drive through and pay for their coffee you never know, right,
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Or it's the child you sponsored that you give thirty
dollars a month or whatever it is to like save
the children, like Plan Canada here, I can't remember all
the other different ones, right, and so things like that
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can make a world of a difference. I actually know
someone that was a child of one of like of
the Save the Children or I don't think it was
that particular charity, but I can tell you now she's
she had that coming every every month. It helped her
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go to school, it helped her become who she is today.
She now lives in Canada and she is so grateful
and she said it actually changed her life to what
it is today. And in fact, now she has her
own charity that she gives back to people in the Philippines.
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So she is my cousin and she actually gives back
and she I did not know that she was benefiting
from being a child of Save the Children or the
other various charities that help children around the world that
are less fortunate to get a head start and go.
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So again, you never know what that indeed will get
you will actually change someone's life forever. Right, Okay, so
when for karma, we have to kind of go all in, right,
So if we're not all in when we're actually doing
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our deeds, it doesn't really set right. So for example,
if you were to think of, you know, every time
someone does something wrong to you, right, we fully commit.
A lot of people fully commit and say, oh, well,
karma is going to get you, and right like we
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have such strong feelings towards the fact that they have
done us wrong and that it will in turn gravitate
back to them. Right, But I'm going to tell you
that's not how it works. Karma is not transferable, So
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if someone does good deeds, they can't cancel your bad karma,
et cetera. Right, So it just we are responsible for
our own and ours alone. There is just no getting
out of it. We have to experience it, We have
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to go through it. There is no oh, well, you know,
let's transfer and maybe if they do enough, like our parents,
and then it comes to us, it does not right,
So we are responsible for our own and our our actions,
and we have to also own the consequence. Okay. So
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again they cannot be transferred, meaning again everything is there, okay.
And then also the non committed actions won't give us
the results that we want. Again, I was saying, we
have to go all in. If we are aren't all
in again, it's like, well, I know I'm supposed to
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give money monthly to people that are less fortunate than me,
or I have to I should volunteer, so I should
do it. But meanwhile we're dreading the fact that we
actually have to go right, and we're not happy that
we're going, so that in turn is not necessarily going
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to give us the outcome that we want. Right, So
it's not necessarily gonna bank good karma in our bank
of karma. Right, there's good, there's bad karma. I believe
this is myself that we can create good karma and
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bank that right, and it will help lessen burdens from
the karma. Right now, again, good karma, you have to
commit to it. You got to fully commit, You got
to want to be there, you want to do this right,
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we love everything. But then most people go, well, okay, Joan,
but how does this work? Right? Someone did this to
me x y Z right, they cut me off while
we were driving. It really pissed me off. How do
I not react? And that's the thing, right, that's the
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part of the karma that we have to take a
step back and go Was it really necessary for us
to react? Right? Maybe they were late for something, Maybe
they were having a bad day and their mind isn't
focused on where they're going or how they're driving, right,
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and so they cut you off. Was it by accident
or was it inten intentional? Sometimes it's intentional, but sometimes
a lot of times we're going to give people the
benefit of the doubt that it wasn't an accident, right,
And so you know, we got to go okay, you know,
like take a step back again. Like I've said before,
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is do not react. It's like, okay, that kind of
really bothered me. Okay, just let it go, right, don't say, well,
you know what, karma is a bitch, Kara, what comes around,
goes around, all that stuff. And the reason why I
reiterate that is is when we say things like that,
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karma is a bitch. What you know, you'll get yours karma.
You know, what goes around comes around. That's wishing ill
will towards other people. Right. So in turn, since we
are really saying that with massive intent and with a
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lot of feeling, we are sending bad vibes and wishing
them harm. And I know that sounds really strange, but
that really so then that becomes a bad karma back
to you, right. We don't want that, right, so we
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just have to go okay and let it go. And
a lot of times when people say things, and you know,
they say something to us and it's really hurtful. Again,
if we react the way that they have said things
to us, it just becomes a fighting match, right, and
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again we don't know where they're coming from. But we
also don't have to put up with that. Right. We
can just say I don't agree, and we change the
topic and we leave. Or it's like, did you mean
to you know, put me down? Was that your intention?
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And sometimes that's enough to snap them out of it.
And then because you know, and then you say, well,
because that really hurt me. And sometimes it's like, well,
what I wasn't expecting someone to call me out on
my shit? Right, And so then you you can turn
around and you can take the high road and go back. Now,
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was it wishing them ill will? When you said, hey,
did you actually mean to actually put me down and
belittle me? And you know, shame me? Right? You can
give them a chance to respond, but it doesn't necessarily
mean that they intentionally did. Sometimes people don't feel and
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know that they actually did that. Right. Some people think
that's tough love, right, and when we go by tough love, wow,
some Like I have heard from lots of people when
they say, you know, people just all of a sudden,
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they're like, so, you know, I'm gonna give you some
tough love here. A lot of times, my observation in
that is they're giving themselves permission to be an ass
to you. Right. So they're putting out this caveat to say, Hey,
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what I'm about to say next is gonna sound really
harsh and really mean, right, But it's not intended to. Wow.
I'm gonna tell you you can give criticisms and you
can talk to other people and not put it under
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the umbrella of tough love, right, Because tough love doesn't
mean that someone gets to parade you, belittle you and
make fun of you, or even you know, instill their
beliefs onto you. Right. So a lot of times in
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this tough love, it's their belief systems that they're spewing
literally verbal diarrhea to you, right. And on the receiving end,
it's like whoa, whoa, whoa thank you, but no thank you. Right.
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There are multiple ways of giving tough love without having
to shame someone or tell them that they're doing everything wrong.
Because I'm gonna tell you people, that is not love.
Love comes from like, you know, I respect what you
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are doing and how you feel. However, I cannot back
you up, and that's okay, right, But I'm still gonna
be here to support you, but I may not be
here to support you in a monetary way. That if
you if you were to ask me because I don't
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agree with what you're doing, that's a tough love, right,
I'd like or you know, this is tough love. Right.
I understand you're going through all this, all this stuff,
all this emotional stuff. I have offered you suggestions. I
have offered sometimes to pay for you to go to
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a psychologist or someone or a counselor or someone to
talk to, but say they refuse, right, they don't, So
then your tough luff would be like, listen, I don't
want to hear about it because I don't know how
to help you at this point. Right. I offered you
solutions and you chose not to take them. That is
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tough love, people. It's not like I can't believe you
did this and blah blah blah blah blah blah. Right,
and then call it putting it under the umbrella of
tough love and allowing it to be okay, because I'm
telling you it is not okay. It's never been okay ever, Right,
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And that's part of boundaries, right, And so karmik do
we say anything to them back? No, but we also
you know for boundaries wise is like, no, I respect
myself enough to go I'm gonna step away from this
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and I can choose not to talk to you or
take a break from you. And that's okay, right, because
again it's a cause and effect of someone's of your
own reaction, of your own actions, and we are in
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absolutely control of ourselves and only our karma. All right, Well,
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Welcome back, and you're watching Journey with Joan and I'm
John Widen, the host. Today we are actually talking about karma,
and before the break, I was talking about making sure
you have your own boundaries and knowing you know when
to step away. I like to call it actually when
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someone's like beaking up to you and you know you're
you're going what and I'm not supposed to react? How
does this work? Like, there's no way I can't react
to that, right. I like to be like, in order
to put out the fire, and you're on fire, your
body's on fire, what do you do? You stop, you drop,
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and you roll right, so instead of actually rolling or
so you stop right and you're like, okay, you take
a breath and you drop. You drop what they were
actually saying, right, so that you can release the emotion
the hurt, right, And it's gonna be hard. It's not
gonna be easy because we're not used to go walking
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away and leaving it right, So drop it and roll.
Let's roll with it again. Let's roll in the situation.
Let's you know, live in the moment. Let's figure out
how we can, you know, move on from this. It
doesn't necessarily mean that you got to take that shit
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because you really don't again, right, Like, it's it's not
okay ever, right, And as for the karma, a lot
of people will say, well, you know, then they'll get
their karma or whatever. Again, in most in all those situations,
we have to again it's like stop, drop and roll,
because it's like, no, I'm not wishing ill will towards
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someone else. Right, Sometimes we like have triggered the other person, right,
So something we said or even an action that we did,
like nonverbal, maybe it triggered the other person, right, And
so they are reacting it that way the way they
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are because most times when people react the way they do,
it's because you know, there's something going on in their
life and they're reflecting what's going on within themselves. Right.
And now, again, yes, we are not in charge of
someone else. We are in charge of ourselves and us alone.
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So we have to just take a step back and
breathe and relax. Right. So, karma karma actions, I should say,
don't disappear on their own. Unfortunately, we have to experience
the results whether they're good or bad. You know, we
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can purify some of the bad through spiritual practices. Right.
And so the practice that I like to do to
create and purify some of the bad karma bad karma,
right is yes, you say the mantra, it's an Hawaiian right.
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And what it is is I'm sorry, please forgive me,
I love you, thank you now. They don't have to
say it in those particular like order, right. So most
times it's I love you, I'm sorry, please forgive me,
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thank you now. Most people go, I can't say that
because I don't forget, like, I don't want to forgive them, right,
They're not gonna sure as heck is, They're not gonna
forgive me, right, and I don't. I'm not gonna tell
someone I love them, like, come on, that's a bunch
of hogwash. I'm not gonna do it, okay. So the
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purpose of the I love you is the I love
you is for you. It is for our selves to
tell ourselves that we love ourselves. Right. Most times we
never tell ourselves how much we love us, right. We
always look external to get the love right. And so
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when we say I love you in this prayer, it
is for us. It is not for the other person, right,
It is for us. Please forgive me, please, forgive me.
Part of it is I don't know what I did
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to create this karma between us or the drama or
the hurt or anything like that, but you know what,
it doesn't matter. It really really doesn't matter, right, So
that's why it's like, please forgive me, and then I'm sorry.
We're gonna say sorry for whatever it was right. We
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may have It might have been nonverbal, it might have
been something that again was a trigger within that person
someone else and has nothing to do with us. It's
not always something to do with us, Okay. Just like,
let me see, when I was younger, I was walking.
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I just got off work. I worked at Walmart at
the time, and everyone was taking their time, and it
was a Friday night or a Saturday night, and I
just wanted to get home because I was gonna probably
go out partying with my friends, you know, go clubbing,
do something. Anyways, they were taking a long time, so
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I decided, instead of waiting for them, I'm going to
walk to my car by myself. Now, since Walmart was
in a mall, we weren't allowed to park near any
of the doors. We had to park, and the deep
far corners of the parking lot right, so that all
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the customers could have the prime parking spots right, so
it make it easier for them to do their shopping right.
So anyways, I walk, I start walking to my car.
All of a sudden, I start hearing footsteps behind me,
and I'm like, I think it was too quick for them.
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I'm like, no, they weren't ready. I don't know who
that is. So I walk a little bit faster, and
I'm thinking myself, Okay, now these footsteps are getting faster, right,
And all of a sudden, my intuition my guides say
to me, turn around now, and I whip around and
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I look and there is someone right behind me, someone
that I did not know, and they actually almost ran
into me, and I said, can I help you? Right instant?
This person was like, I'm not quite sure, but actually
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I'm hungry. I was looking for somewhere to eat. And
I kind of looked at him and I went, okay.
I'm like, okay, but this is weird. I'm like, you know,
there's a Tim Horton's, which is like a Starbucks across
the street. It's right there, you can clearly see it.
And he went, oh okay, and in shock still ran
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across the street to go to to Morton's that I suggested, right,
And shortly after he took off, the whole crew that
you know I didn't want to wait for started walking right,
and they caught up to me and they're like, Joan,
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who is that? Are you okay? Is everything okay? Now? Okay?
So we can say, what was the karma in that?
Speaker 3 (27:00):
Right?
Speaker 2 (27:01):
How was that? What was going on? Well? You know,
was it my fault that someone wanted to hurt me? Possibly? Right? No, right,
I just happened to be in the wrong place at
the wrong time. Was he looking? Was he stalking me? Maybe?
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I don't know. Again, I just you know, thank you
to my guides and angels to warm me and say
turn around now and confront him. Right, But it could
have all been wrong. And did I deserve that? No?
But I did learn was you know what, even though
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you're in a hurry, you should always make sure you
have that you're safe. Right. So it was a cause
and effect of my actions of me being in a
hurry of wanting to get out faster, knowing that my
car was parked in a dark space, you know, and
back then there was no like cameras everywhere. Right. No,
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we didn't have cell phones, and if you did have
a cell phone, it was like this big honking purse. Right,
So it's everything is a cause and reaction. Right now,
Was I upset? And did it hurt me? It didn't
physically hurt me. It gave me some mental anxiety, physical anxiety, right,
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And you know, I don't know what that person was thinking.
Do I wish ill will towards them? No, but I
do wish, and I'm glad that I was able to
confront him that maybe maybe that action showed him. You know,
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it's not as easy to jump someone to hurt someone,
do you know what I mean? So again, things that
happen to us are not necessarily our fault, okay. And
people seem to think that, well, this happened to me,
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so the karma. I did something to create this karma.
But remember, karma can come from a past life, it
can come from wherever. Doesn't necessarily mean that you deserve it, right,
It's it is their karma that was part of them.
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You just happened to be there, but it doesn't mean
that you deserved it and get it right now and then,
So all right, so there's that one situation and then
some people go, well, Jon, what about all the people
that people please all the time. I'm gonna tell you
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do because that is one of my like a love language.
I love doing things for people right, and it's it's
a hard thing to get out of. Right. We like
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to make people that like our friends happy, and so
we do things right and we do things for them
because we like to make people happy. But on this note,
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And we're back. You're watching Journey with Joan and I'm
your host Joan. Why then, all right before the break,
we were talking about people pleasing and how that works
with karma. Okay, so people will think, you know, well,
you're a people pleaser, so this, you know, this would
work for you, This would be great. Why because you
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must be banking in, like rolling in all that good karma.
But you know, at the same time, really they're not.
And the reason being is because they forget to honor themselves, right,
And so it is again the cause and effect of us.
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So me before, when I was younger, I really you know,
and I sometimes had to stop and check myself too,
because you know, when you love someone or when you
love your friends, and you just I you know, that's
one of my love languages. I want to do things
for them. I you know, I'll drop things and I'll
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just do things for them, right, Okay, But there's also
a point where enough's enough, right, Like, some people take
advantage of that, right because they know they'll know that
you'll stop and you'll drop everything you've got and come
running just to help them out. Right. Some mothers are
like that. Some not just mothers, you know, dads are
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like that as well. Right, I need you, I need you.
It just come right. It doesn't matter what they're doing,
they'll drop it and go right. So this is how
the good karma does not work in those instances. And
in those instances it doesn't work because they do not
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honor themselves, and so therefore you're not all in about
the good karma, right, So you're doing things for someone else,
but at the same time, you're like, oh, I got
other things to do. I can't believe you know, like
I have these things and and or again it's you
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drop the things that you need to do. Like if
you had a project that needed to be done for
work and you couldn't get it all done, so you said, okay,
well I'm going to take it home tonight and I'm
going to figure it out and work on it. And
then you choose because your friend or your partner, or
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your children or whomever needed your attention at that moment
you dropped it. So you let it go and you
did their thing. So what is the cause and reaction
of you not getting your work done for work? Right?
Or even maybe it was spending time with your family? Right?
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You had an event that you you know, that you
put aside, you set aside, and you're like, okay, as
a family, we're going to go and do this, right,
and then a friend called they were outset and they
just needed you at this moment. Right. So I understand
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some things like if they got in a car accident
or whatever and they needed your help, is worthy of
you know, dropping and going. But again, right, like are
they alone? Do they have family members that actually can
help them in that instant?
Speaker 3 (36:38):
Right?
Speaker 2 (36:40):
Why don't they want those family members to help them? Right?
Why does it have to be you? Right? So you
have to think about all those things because they're not
necessarily needing you. They have other people in their network
and in their community to be able to help them
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at that exact moment. Right. And now it doesn't mean
that we don't care about them because we're you know,
because we're not willing to drop our plans. Right. Again,
it depends on the plans with what you've got. Are
you gonna honor your time with your kids? Are you
gonna honor your you know, your family time or is
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it always going to be like, you know what, now
I got to go, or you know what, I got
a client. I'm sorry, you know, family time's got to wait. Well,
that's not honoring you, that's not honoring me, right, And
so then that creates the negative karma for ditching and
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going Okay, well I really do want to do it,
but I'm doing it because you know someone needs me.
But have you ever thought about your family needing you?
Maybe that was the only time that you have set
aside for them in a long time, and everyone was
able to be there this time because as grow, as
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families grow and kids get older, it's not necessarily easy
for people to get together, right, let alone be in
the same room. Right. So that's where people pleasing can
actually harm you and create more like, can create the
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bad karma that we don't wish right. So again we
have to make sure we honor ourselves right just like
Nama stay right. Namasday means I recognize the God within you, right,
and then if someone else says it back, it's them
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saying again, I recognize the God within you, right, or
the divinity within yourself. So we're recognizing each other and
being respectful of ourselves, right, and our souls and our
being and knowing that you know, we're all the same.
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And there's again, there is no competition in hey, I've
got all this commra bank because you know, I have
all this volunteering and this and that this and again
that's part of gloating. And yeah, you might do that.
The volunteering great good for you, right, but we don't
necessarily need to spout about it, and you know, do
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all these things because we're asking for different recognitions. When
we like boast about all the good things and all
the good deeds that we do, it's it's not a competition.
Some people don't care, right, and that's okay because you
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know what, we're not doing it for other people. We
are doing it for ourselves. And when we do things
for ourselves and because it makes our heart full, it
makes us feel better for us, right, And it it's
just I don't know how else to say it. It
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just it just makes everything more sweet, right, And we
don't care what other people think because it doesn't really
matter right, Because again, it doesn't matter what anyone thinks,
because we're not doing what we do to get a
tention for someone else or to get yeah, you're awesome
(40:54):
from someone else, right, because we are doing those things
specifically just for us, right, And that's how we create
the good karma. Karma comes, and it comes hard and fast,
and honestly, you can see it. It's within you, right
(41:17):
when you're out there being kind and generous. Now generous again,
it could be with your time. It doesn't necessarily need
to be monetary. Right, you start seeing all the different
abundant things that come your way, right, people, sometimes people
(41:41):
give you things, doors open for different opportunities. I'm trying
to think of different ways. But really, when we start
just being authenticly us and happy, a lot of happy
and good things just seem to come. Right. People are
(42:01):
happier around you. It's more contagious. You'll see that. You know,
maybe that person that you held the door for, and yes,
that can create good karma. Maybe they were having the
crappiest day, maybe someone passed away that was really you know,
meant really a lot to them, or maybe it was
(42:23):
their animal and you held the door open and you
said hello, and really that's all it takes sometimes to
create good karma is hello, how are you? You know,
are you having a good day? You know? And really
mean it when you ask someone if they're having a
(42:44):
good day, right, because when you when you just say
it just for saying it again that it doesn't mean anything,
and you're just flapping you know, it's lip service. And
no one loves lift service. No one does, right. It
doesn't help you with anything. It's just lift service. And
(43:10):
then you're just going about your day. Again. It's not
being present, fully present within your body in the moment
right here, right now. Okay, So again, remember when you're
having a day, you might spoiled out things that you
don't necessarily mean, and they come right some people. Okay,
(43:35):
so here's another one. Someone asked me, what about bad karma?
I didn't mean to hurt someone, right, I didn't mean
to braid them. I didn't intentionally do something right, So
maybe you thought it was I'm trying to think of
(43:59):
a situation, but for some reason it's fleeting me. But okay,
so let's say you're driving down the road, right, and
a dog darts out, or a deer or whatever. Right,
or a child right, or another person. Let's say they
(44:19):
dart out, you slam on the brakes right and you
can't swerve against them, like swerve to miss them, or
you do, but you end up hitting another car beside
you or on the opposite direction. Right now, is that
bad karma? I'm gonna tell you it's not. And the
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reason being is you didn't intentionally get into that accident.
You know you didn't. You did not anticipate someone stepping
in front of the car and then trying to react
so you don't hit said person or an animal, right,
(45:03):
because you're trying to do good so that you don't
hurt them or kill them or do you know, lots
of harm to them because you're in this massive vehicle, right,
doesn't matter if it's a big or small or whatever.
It's still heavy machinery compared to them, right, And so
we don't want to harm them, so we in turn
(45:26):
swerve to miss right, and unfortunately we hit another car,
or we hit a ditch, or maybe we do end
up hitting the animal. Again, that was not intentional, that
was you know, that was an accident. You know, karma
is also gentle right God in the universe are ever loving, right,
(45:52):
they don't judge, and they know when it was genuine
and that you we're trying to get out of that
situation so that you could avoid doing harm to someone.
It just happened to be a freak accident, and it
was an accident that we had no you know, intention
(46:18):
of trying to get into or we did not want
to write. It just happened because we were avoiding, all right.
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Welcome back. You're watching journey with Johanan. I'm your host,
John Wynon. Thank you again for sticking through this with me.
We're talking about karma today, and no we're not talking
about Taylor Swifts on Karma, although it's a great song. Anyways.
With karma, again, we are responsible for our own and
(49:05):
ours alone. We cannot wish in upon someone else because
what that does is it just makes it come back
to us, right, and it creates bad karma for us.
We would actually, you know, you want to always bank
the deposits the good karma, and that's doing good deeds
(49:29):
for others, being kind right, And again, like I said
before the break, it was opening. It can be as
little as opening the door for someone helping an elderly
person get out of a car because it's a bit
too high and so they kind of need that extra support,
(49:50):
or helping them walk across the street. Maybe they're lost
in like dazed and confused and they don't know where
they are. Maybe it's like calling someone to help for that. Again,
it's being responsible and honoring towards yourself. So that could
(50:15):
mean you know, taking a break from our devices, taking
a break from the hustle and bustle of life and
giving us time to ground and feel like what it
is to be alive instead of focusing and worrying about
(50:37):
day to day practices all the time. Right, doesn't like
we don't have to worry about our bills, we don't
have like all these things we want, you know, it's
about being present, being here. It's you know, if we ground,
we go for a walk, maybe we walk the dog. Right,
(50:58):
that's creating some good card too, because the dog wants
to go out and go for a walk because guess what,
we haven't felt great in a long time. And the
dog got ignored, right because it was like, you know,
I just don't feel like going for a walk. But
you know it made the dog happy when you went
(51:19):
for a walk again. I know that sounds really crazy
and how can that be so simple, Joan, But really
it really is. Good. Karma is easy to come by,
especially when you look at the world and your life
in shall we say, like happy juice like and we're
not saying your life you know, you have to be
(51:41):
in the Kumbai yah stage all the time or you know,
rainbows and sunshines. We're not saying that, but we're what
I'm saying is look for the good look for the
happy in your life, right and allow that to shine
and allow that to exude through you to others. And
(52:04):
when that happens, a lot of things changes for you
and people start being more attracted towards you, right, things
start opening up for you. You know, some people want
to be around you because why you give them that joy.
You allow them to get out of their funk, right,
(52:28):
and you help rise their spirits to become you know,
maybe a better person for them. Right, we're being an
example to them and that gives us good karma. And wow,
does that sound super easy? But honest, honestly, it really
(52:50):
is as easy at it as it is to you know,
think negative and you know, bank the bad stuff. It's
way more easy to bank the good stuff, right, And
really it just starts with sometimes saying hello with a
(53:10):
smile and really meaning it. Right. Sometimes, you know, we're
super busy and we go to the grocery store and
it's like head down, focus, I need to get this,
this and this. I only have X amount of time, right,
so we're in a rush. We're all this these things right,
and the teller, if there's a teller most times now,
(53:34):
you know, you work for the company because you're doing
your own right. So instead of thinking like that, oh
my goodness, you know I should work here, I should
get paid for doing my own life scanning aile food
and having to pay for it, right, you know, we
can we can think it that way, or we can
go you know what, there are still people that are
(53:55):
mounting it, and you can say hello, take the time
to smile at them because you don't know what they
experience they had before you, if someone chewed them out
because you know what, the store got the price wrong,
and all of a sudden the person in front of
you decided, you know what, I got that the storm
(54:17):
made the problem. But it's your fault and I'm gonna
make you feel like shit because because you just happen
to be there. Tell her right again. It's a smile,
fully understanding, being there for them, allowing it to be
and just loving life, enjoying right and being there in
(54:43):
the moment right. And that's how good karma comes about.
Good karma is everywhere, right, it's enjoying and being kind
to the earth. Recycling that soda can right in Canada,
that would be the pop camp right, or it's recycling paper,
(55:05):
it's composting, right, because we are again being kind to
our earth. Right, we are reducing reusing, and that in
turn helps the earth. Right, that creates good karma. It
also by reducing our usage of plastic or whichever, not
(55:27):
even necessarily reducing, but recycling it, we prevent it from
going into the oceans. Right. And even though you're like,
well what can I do? How is this possible? That's
just a small gesture, but remember every small gester starts there,
and that creates the good karma, right, because then now
(55:48):
that plant plastic bay doesn't get washed up like in
another country, right, it doesn't get caught up in animals, right,
that get stuck in there. Right, So the soda cans
you know they come with the rings. Birds don't get
stuck in it. All these little things and it's so
(56:10):
minute that we think, you know, but all those things
can create a karma when we recycle and we do
things like that, right. And I know, I'm this is
not a show on recycling and you know, earth stuff,
but I'm just I want to show you how easy
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it is to be, you know, to create the good
karma and loving ourselves and loving our home which we
call earth, Right, and creating good experiences for everyone that
you know, everyone includes animals, the ocean, the you know,
(56:57):
the trees around us, right, instead of really sing balloons
in the air and then they get stuck. Right, So
really really good karma to deposit in our bank is
so easy, right, just look around and smile and know
(57:18):
that you know, there is more to this life than
being grumpy, because again, we don't know what other people
have gone through. So we got to stop drop what
they've said, you know, because we again we don't know
the facts, and we don't know what made them be
(57:39):
that way. Right, their life could be something that you
know that is so bad at the moment that they
have a hard time and they need support and they
need someone to help them pick them up. Right, Sometimes
they just need a smile. Some people need a hug. Again,
(58:00):
you know, always ask for her permission first. I know
that it's kind of sad that, you know, our world
has come that way, but again, we are here, and
we're here together. We might as well make the best
of it and be kind to one another because this
is our life, this is our home, and we need
(58:23):
to make the best of our life that we have here. Right,
life is short and make the most of it. Be
the best at it, and you'll see how much the
universe and God gives to you because it is such
an abundant world. And on that note, we've run out
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of time for this week. Thank you for watching. Until
next time, embrace what fuels the soul. I'm Joan Widen,
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Widen, Welcome and thank you for joining me tonight. I'm
so happy and grateful that you have come, and I'm
so happy to be grateful to be here tonight. All right,
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so I want to touch base on what we talked
about last week. I saw something that came on my
feed and I thought, hey, I'm going to share it
with you, because we talked about wanting to live the life,
to get your desires right, to get rid of your
(01:15):
personal beliefs, and to set you free so you can
live abundantly and essentially get the life that you want. Okay,
So what came across my feed in LinkedIn was success
is actually a loser that tried just one more time
(01:37):
and that's how they got to where they are. Right. So,
if you're feeling bummed and down on yourself. Just remember
that success happens when losers just get up and try again,
because it can happen just like that. All right. So
(01:59):
this week's topic is karma, and I'm not talking about
Taylor Swift's song Karma either, even though you know I
am feeling twenty two. All right. So what is karma?
Karma is the cause and effect of our actions, okay,
(02:23):
And we are responsible solely for our own actions and
the consequences. Okay. There are multiple like, let me see
what do I have? There are karma principles okay, and
the principles in karma are Let's start with the first one.
(02:47):
Any small action can lead to great results, okay. And yeah,
you never know what kind of deed that you do.
Whether it's to pay for the person behind you at
the drive through and pay for their coffee you never know, right,
(03:09):
Or it's the child you sponsored that you give thirty
dollars a month or whatever it is to like save
the children, like Plan Canada here, I can't remember all
the other different ones, right, and so things like that
(03:32):
can make a world of a difference. I actually know
someone that was a child of one of like of
the Save the Children or I don't think it was
that particular charity, but I can tell you now she's
she had that coming every every month. It helped her
(03:57):
go to school, it helped her become who she is today.
She now lives in Canada and she is so grateful
and she said it actually changed her life to what
it is today. And in fact, now she has her
own charity that she gives back to people in the Philippines.
(04:24):
So she is my cousin and she actually gives back
and she I did not know that she was benefiting
from being a child of Save the Children or the
other various charities that help children around the world that
are less fortunate to get a head start and go.
(04:45):
So again, you never know what that indeed will get
you will actually change someone's life forever. Right, Okay, so
when for karma, we have to kind of go all in, right,
So if we're not all in when we're actually doing
(05:11):
our deeds, it doesn't really set right. So for example,
if you were to think of, you know, every time
someone does something wrong to you, right, we fully commit.
A lot of people fully commit and say, oh, well,
karma is going to get you, and right like we
(05:34):
have such strong feelings towards the fact that they have
done us wrong and that it will in turn gravitate
back to them. Right, But I'm going to tell you
that's not how it works. Karma is not transferable, So
(05:55):
if someone does good deeds, they can't cancel your bad karma,
et cetera. Right, So it just we are responsible for
our own and ours alone. There is just no getting
out of it. We have to experience it, We have
(06:15):
to go through it. There is no oh, well, you know,
let's transfer and maybe if they do enough, like our parents,
and then it comes to us, it does not right,
So we are responsible for our own and our our actions,
and we have to also own the consequence. Okay. So
(06:42):
again they cannot be transferred, meaning again everything is there, okay.
And then also the non committed actions won't give us
the results that we want. Again, I was saying, we
have to go all in. If we are aren't all
in again, it's like, well, I know I'm supposed to
(07:06):
give money monthly to people that are less fortunate than me,
or I have to I should volunteer, so I should
do it. But meanwhile we're dreading the fact that we
actually have to go right, and we're not happy that
we're going, so that in turn is not necessarily going
(07:27):
to give us the outcome that we want. Right, So
it's not necessarily gonna bank good karma in our bank
of karma. Right, there's good, there's bad karma. I believe
this is myself that we can create good karma and
(07:48):
bank that right, and it will help lessen burdens from
the karma. Right now, again, good karma, you have to
commit to it. You got to fully commit, You got
to want to be there, you want to do this right,
(08:09):
we love everything. But then most people go, well, okay, Joan,
but how does this work? Right? Someone did this to
me x y Z right, they cut me off while
we were driving. It really pissed me off. How do
I not react? And that's the thing, right, that's the
(08:31):
part of the karma that we have to take a
step back and go Was it really necessary for us
to react? Right? Maybe they were late for something, Maybe
they were having a bad day and their mind isn't
focused on where they're going or how they're driving, right,
(08:55):
and so they cut you off. Was it by accident
or was it inten intentional? Sometimes it's intentional, but sometimes
a lot of times we're going to give people the
benefit of the doubt that it wasn't an accident, right,
And so you know, we got to go okay, you know,
like take a step back again. Like I've said before,
(09:17):
is do not react. It's like, okay, that kind of
really bothered me. Okay, just let it go, right, don't say, well,
you know what, karma is a bitch, Kara, what comes around,
goes around, all that stuff. And the reason why I
reiterate that is is when we say things like that,
(09:39):
karma is a bitch. What you know, you'll get yours karma.
You know, what goes around comes around. That's wishing ill
will towards other people. Right. So in turn, since we
are really saying that with massive intent and with a
(10:03):
lot of feeling, we are sending bad vibes and wishing
them harm. And I know that sounds really strange, but
that really so then that becomes a bad karma back
to you, right. We don't want that, right, so we
(10:25):
just have to go okay and let it go. And
a lot of times when people say things, and you know,
they say something to us and it's really hurtful. Again,
if we react the way that they have said things
to us, it just becomes a fighting match, right, and
(10:47):
again we don't know where they're coming from. But we
also don't have to put up with that. Right. We
can just say I don't agree, and we change the
topic and we leave. Or it's like, did you mean
to you know, put me down? Was that your intention?
(11:11):
And sometimes that's enough to snap them out of it.
And then because you know, and then you say, well,
because that really hurt me. And sometimes it's like, well,
what I wasn't expecting someone to call me out on
my shit? Right, And so then you you can turn
around and you can take the high road and go back. Now,
(11:31):
was it wishing them ill will? When you said, hey,
did you actually mean to actually put me down and
belittle me? And you know, shame me? Right? You can
give them a chance to respond, but it doesn't necessarily
mean that they intentionally did. Sometimes people don't feel and
(11:55):
know that they actually did that. Right. Some people think
that's tough love, right, and when we go by tough love, wow,
some Like I have heard from lots of people when
they say, you know, people just all of a sudden,
(12:16):
they're like, so, you know, I'm gonna give you some
tough love here. A lot of times, my observation in
that is they're giving themselves permission to be an ass
to you. Right. So they're putting out this caveat to say, Hey,
(12:40):
what I'm about to say next is gonna sound really
harsh and really mean, right, But it's not intended to. Wow.
I'm gonna tell you you can give criticisms and you
can talk to other people and not put it under
(13:01):
the umbrella of tough love, right, Because tough love doesn't
mean that someone gets to parade you, belittle you and
make fun of you, or even you know, instill their
beliefs onto you. Right. So a lot of times in
(13:25):
this tough love, it's their belief systems that they're spewing
literally verbal diarrhea to you, right. And on the receiving end,
it's like whoa, whoa, whoa thank you, but no thank you. Right.
(13:49):
There are multiple ways of giving tough love without having
to shame someone or tell them that they're doing everything wrong.
Because I'm gonna tell you people, that is not love.
Love comes from like, you know, I respect what you
(14:12):
are doing and how you feel. However, I cannot back
you up, and that's okay, right, But I'm still gonna
be here to support you, but I may not be
here to support you in a monetary way. That if
you if you were to ask me because I don't
(14:32):
agree with what you're doing, that's a tough love, right,
I'd like or you know, this is tough love. Right.
I understand you're going through all this, all this stuff,
all this emotional stuff. I have offered you suggestions. I
have offered sometimes to pay for you to go to
(14:55):
a psychologist or someone or a counselor or someone to
talk to, but say they refuse, right, they don't, So
then your tough luff would be like, listen, I don't
want to hear about it because I don't know how
to help you at this point. Right. I offered you
solutions and you chose not to take them. That is
(15:19):
tough love, people. It's not like I can't believe you
did this and blah blah blah blah blah blah. Right,
and then call it putting it under the umbrella of
tough love and allowing it to be okay, because I'm
telling you it is not okay. It's never been okay ever, Right,
(15:43):
And that's part of boundaries, right, And so karmik do
we say anything to them back? No, but we also
you know for boundaries wise is like, no, I respect
myself enough to go I'm gonna step away from this
(16:05):
and I can choose not to talk to you or
take a break from you. And that's okay, right, because
again it's a cause and effect of someone's of your
own reaction, of your own actions, and we are in
(16:25):
absolutely control of ourselves and only our karma. All right, Well,
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Welcome back, and you're watching Journey with Joan and I'm
John Widen, the host. Today we are actually talking about karma,
and before the break, I was talking about making sure
you have your own boundaries and knowing you know when
to step away. I like to call it actually when
(19:04):
someone's like beaking up to you and you know you're
you're going what and I'm not supposed to react? How
does this work? Like, there's no way I can't react
to that, right. I like to be like, in order
to put out the fire, and you're on fire, your
body's on fire, what do you do? You stop, you drop,
(19:27):
and you roll right, so instead of actually rolling or
so you stop right and you're like, okay, you take
a breath and you drop. You drop what they were
actually saying, right, so that you can release the emotion
the hurt, right, And it's gonna be hard. It's not
gonna be easy because we're not used to go walking
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away and leaving it right, So drop it and roll.
Let's roll with it again. Let's roll in the situation.
Let's you know, live in the moment. Let's figure out
how we can, you know, move on from this. It
doesn't necessarily mean that you got to take that shit
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because you really don't again, right, Like, it's it's not
okay ever, right, And as for the karma, a lot
of people will say, well, you know, then they'll get
their karma or whatever. Again, in most in all those situations,
we have to again it's like stop, drop and roll,
because it's like, no, I'm not wishing ill will towards
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someone else. Right, Sometimes we like have triggered the other person, right,
So something we said or even an action that we did,
like nonverbal, maybe it triggered the other person, right, And
so they are reacting it that way the way they
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are because most times when people react the way they do,
it's because you know, there's something going on in their
life and they're reflecting what's going on within themselves. Right.
And now, again, yes, we are not in charge of
someone else. We are in charge of ourselves and us alone.
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So we have to just take a step back and
breathe and relax. Right. So, karma karma actions, I should say,
don't disappear on their own. Unfortunately, we have to experience
the results whether they're good or bad. You know, we
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can purify some of the bad through spiritual practices. Right.
And so the practice that I like to do to
create and purify some of the bad karma bad karma,
right is yes, you say the mantra, it's an Hawaiian right.
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And what it is is I'm sorry, please forgive me,
I love you, thank you now. They don't have to
say it in those particular like order, right. So most
times it's I love you, I'm sorry, please forgive me,
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thank you now. Most people go, I can't say that
because I don't forget, like, I don't want to forgive them, right,
They're not gonna sure as heck is, They're not gonna
forgive me, right, and I don't. I'm not gonna tell
someone I love them, like, come on, that's a bunch
of hogwash. I'm not gonna do it, okay. So the
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purpose of the I love you is the I love
you is for you. It is for our selves to
tell ourselves that we love ourselves. Right. Most times we
never tell ourselves how much we love us, right. We
always look external to get the love right. And so
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when we say I love you in this prayer, it
is for us. It is not for the other person, right,
It is for us. Please forgive me, please, forgive me.
Part of it is I don't know what I did
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to create this karma between us or the drama or
the hurt or anything like that, but you know what,
it doesn't matter. It really really doesn't matter, right, So
that's why it's like, please forgive me, and then I'm sorry.
We're gonna say sorry for whatever it was right. We
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may have It might have been nonverbal, it might have
been something that again was a trigger within that person
someone else and has nothing to do with us. It's
not always something to do with us, Okay. Just like,
let me see, when I was younger, I was walking.
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I just got off work. I worked at Walmart at
the time, and everyone was taking their time, and it
was a Friday night or a Saturday night, and I
just wanted to get home because I was gonna probably
go out partying with my friends, you know, go clubbing,
do something. Anyways, they were taking a long time, so
(24:44):
I decided, instead of waiting for them, I'm going to
walk to my car by myself. Now, since Walmart was
in a mall, we weren't allowed to park near any
of the doors. We had to park, and the deep
far corners of the parking lot right, so that all
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the customers could have the prime parking spots right, so
it make it easier for them to do their shopping right.
So anyways, I walk, I start walking to my car.
All of a sudden, I start hearing footsteps behind me,
and I'm like, I think it was too quick for them.
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I'm like, no, they weren't ready. I don't know who
that is. So I walk a little bit faster, and
I'm thinking myself, Okay, now these footsteps are getting faster, right,
And all of a sudden, my intuition my guides say
to me, turn around now, and I whip around and
(25:48):
I look and there is someone right behind me, someone
that I did not know, and they actually almost ran
into me, and I said, can I help you? Right instant?
This person was like, I'm not quite sure, but actually
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I'm hungry. I was looking for somewhere to eat. And
I kind of looked at him and I went, okay.
I'm like, okay, but this is weird. I'm like, you know,
there's a Tim Horton's, which is like a Starbucks across
the street. It's right there, you can clearly see it.
And he went, oh okay, and in shock still ran
(26:31):
across the street to go to to Morton's that I suggested, right,
And shortly after he took off, the whole crew that
you know I didn't want to wait for started walking right,
and they caught up to me and they're like, Joan,
(26:51):
who is that? Are you okay? Is everything okay? Now? Okay?
So we can say, what was the karma in that?
Speaker 3 (27:00):
Right?
Speaker 2 (27:01):
How was that? What was going on? Well? You know,
was it my fault that someone wanted to hurt me? Possibly? Right? No, right,
I just happened to be in the wrong place at
the wrong time. Was he looking? Was he stalking me? Maybe?
(27:21):
I don't know. Again, I just you know, thank you
to my guides and angels to warm me and say
turn around now and confront him. Right, But it could
have all been wrong. And did I deserve that? No?
But I did learn was you know what, even though
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you're in a hurry, you should always make sure you
have that you're safe. Right. So it was a cause
and effect of my actions of me being in a
hurry of wanting to get out faster, knowing that my
car was parked in a dark space, you know, and
back then there was no like cameras everywhere. Right. No,
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we didn't have cell phones, and if you did have
a cell phone, it was like this big honking purse. Right,
So it's everything is a cause and reaction. Right now,
Was I upset? And did it hurt me? It didn't
physically hurt me. It gave me some mental anxiety, physical anxiety, right,
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And you know, I don't know what that person was thinking.
Do I wish ill will towards them? No, but I
do wish, and I'm glad that I was able to
confront him that maybe maybe that action showed him. You know,
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it's not as easy to jump someone to hurt someone,
do you know what I mean? So again, things that
happen to us are not necessarily our fault, okay. And
people seem to think that, well, this happened to me,
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so the karma. I did something to create this karma.
But remember, karma can come from a past life, it
can come from wherever. Doesn't necessarily mean that you deserve it, right,
It's it is their karma that was part of them.
(29:39):
You just happened to be there, but it doesn't mean
that you deserved it and get it right now and then,
So all right, so there's that one situation and then
some people go, well, Jon, what about all the people
that people please all the time. I'm gonna tell you
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I used to be a people pleaser, and sometimes I
do because that is one of my like a love language.
I love doing things for people right, and it's it's
a hard thing to get out of. Right. We like
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And we're back. You're watching Journey with Joan and I'm
your host Joan. Why then, all right before the break,
we were talking about people pleasing and how that works
with karma. Okay, so people will think, you know, well,
you're a people pleaser, so this, you know, this would
work for you, This would be great. Why because you
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must be banking in, like rolling in all that good karma.
But you know, at the same time, really they're not.
And the reason being is because they forget to honor themselves, right,
And so it is again the cause and effect of us.
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So me before, when I was younger, I really you know,
and I sometimes had to stop and check myself too,
because you know, when you love someone or when you
love your friends, and you just I you know, that's
one of my love languages. I want to do things
for them. I you know, I'll drop things and I'll
(34:05):
just do things for them, right, Okay, But there's also
a point where enough's enough, right, Like, some people take
advantage of that, right because they know they'll know that
you'll stop and you'll drop everything you've got and come
running just to help them out. Right. Some mothers are
like that. Some not just mothers, you know, dads are
(34:28):
like that as well. Right, I need you, I need you.
It just come right. It doesn't matter what they're doing,
they'll drop it and go right. So this is how
the good karma does not work in those instances. And
in those instances it doesn't work because they do not
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honor themselves, and so therefore you're not all in about
the good karma, right, So you're doing things for someone else,
but at the same time, you're like, oh, I got
other things to do. I can't believe you know, like
I have these things and and or again it's you
(35:10):
drop the things that you need to do. Like if
you had a project that needed to be done for
work and you couldn't get it all done, so you said, okay,
well I'm going to take it home tonight and I'm
going to figure it out and work on it. And
then you choose because your friend or your partner, or
(35:37):
your children or whomever needed your attention at that moment
you dropped it. So you let it go and you
did their thing. So what is the cause and reaction
of you not getting your work done for work? Right?
Or even maybe it was spending time with your family? Right?
(36:00):
You had an event that you you know, that you
put aside, you set aside, and you're like, okay, as
a family, we're going to go and do this, right,
and then a friend called they were outset and they
just needed you at this moment. Right. So I understand
(36:20):
some things like if they got in a car accident
or whatever and they needed your help, is worthy of
you know, dropping and going. But again, right, like are
they alone? Do they have family members that actually can
help them in that instant?
Speaker 3 (36:38):
Right?
Speaker 2 (36:40):
Why don't they want those family members to help them? Right?
Why does it have to be you? Right? So you
have to think about all those things because they're not
necessarily needing you. They have other people in their network
and in their community to be able to help them
(37:01):
at that exact moment. Right. And now it doesn't mean
that we don't care about them because we're you know,
because we're not willing to drop our plans. Right. Again,
it depends on the plans with what you've got. Are
you gonna honor your time with your kids? Are you
gonna honor your you know, your family time or is
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it always going to be like, you know what, now
I got to go, or you know what, I got
a client. I'm sorry, you know, family time's got to wait. Well,
that's not honoring you, that's not honoring me, right, And
so then that creates the negative karma for ditching and
(37:45):
going Okay, well I really do want to do it,
but I'm doing it because you know someone needs me.
But have you ever thought about your family needing you?
Maybe that was the only time that you have set
aside for them in a long time, and everyone was
able to be there this time because as grow, as
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families grow and kids get older, it's not necessarily easy
for people to get together, right, let alone be in
the same room. Right. So that's where people pleasing can
actually harm you and create more like, can create the
(38:33):
bad karma that we don't wish right. So again we
have to make sure we honor ourselves right just like
Nama stay right. Namasday means I recognize the God within you, right,
and then if someone else says it back, it's them
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saying again, I recognize the God within you, right, or
the divinity within yourself. So we're recognizing each other and
being respectful of ourselves, right, and our souls and our
being and knowing that you know, we're all the same.
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And there's again, there is no competition in hey, I've
got all this commra bank because you know, I have
all this volunteering and this and that this and again
that's part of gloating. And yeah, you might do that.
The volunteering great good for you, right, but we don't
necessarily need to spout about it, and you know, do
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all these things because we're asking for different recognitions. When
we like boast about all the good things and all
the good deeds that we do, it's it's not a competition.
Some people don't care, right, and that's okay because you
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know what, we're not doing it for other people. We
are doing it for ourselves. And when we do things
for ourselves and because it makes our heart full, it
makes us feel better for us, right, And it it's
just I don't know how else to say it. It
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just it just makes everything more sweet, right, And we
don't care what other people think because it doesn't really
matter right, Because again, it doesn't matter what anyone thinks,
because we're not doing what we do to get a
tention for someone else or to get yeah, you're awesome
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from someone else, right, because we are doing those things
specifically just for us, right, And that's how we create
the good karma. Karma comes, and it comes hard and fast,
and honestly, you can see it. It's within you, right
(41:17):
when you're out there being kind and generous. Now generous again,
it could be with your time. It doesn't necessarily need
to be monetary. Right, you start seeing all the different
abundant things that come your way, right, people, sometimes people
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give you things, doors open for different opportunities. I'm trying
to think of different ways. But really, when we start
just being authenticly us and happy, a lot of happy
and good things just seem to come. Right. People are
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happier around you. It's more contagious. You'll see that. You know,
maybe that person that you held the door for, and yes,
that can create good karma. Maybe they were having the
crappiest day, maybe someone passed away that was really you know,
meant really a lot to them, or maybe it was
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their animal and you held the door open and you
said hello, and really that's all it takes sometimes to
create good karma is hello, how are you? You know,
are you having a good day? You know? And really
mean it when you ask someone if they're having a
(42:44):
good day, right, because when you when you just say
it just for saying it again that it doesn't mean anything,
and you're just flapping you know, it's lip service. And
no one loves lift service. No one does, right. It
doesn't help you with anything. It's just lift service. And
(43:10):
then you're just going about your day. Again. It's not
being present, fully present within your body in the moment
right here, right now. Okay, So again, remember when you're
having a day, you might spoiled out things that you
don't necessarily mean, and they come right some people. Okay,
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so here's another one. Someone asked me, what about bad karma?
I didn't mean to hurt someone, right, I didn't mean
to braid them. I didn't intentionally do something right, So
maybe you thought it was I'm trying to think of
(43:59):
a situation, but for some reason it's fleeting me. But okay,
so let's say you're driving down the road, right, and
a dog darts out, or a deer or whatever. Right,
or a child right, or another person. Let's say they
(44:19):
dart out, you slam on the brakes right and you
can't swerve against them, like swerve to miss them, or
you do, but you end up hitting another car beside
you or on the opposite direction. Right now, is that
bad karma? I'm gonna tell you it's not. And the
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reason being is you didn't intentionally get into that accident.
You know you didn't. You did not anticipate someone stepping
in front of the car and then trying to react
so you don't hit said person or an animal, right,
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because you're trying to do good so that you don't
hurt them or kill them or do you know, lots
of harm to them because you're in this massive vehicle, right,
doesn't matter if it's a big or small or whatever.
It's still heavy machinery compared to them, right, And so
we don't want to harm them, so we in turn
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swerve to miss right, and unfortunately we hit another car,
or we hit a ditch, or maybe we do end
up hitting the animal. Again, that was not intentional, that
was you know, that was an accident. You know, karma
is also gentle right God in the universe are ever loving, right,
(45:52):
they don't judge, and they know when it was genuine
and that you we're trying to get out of that
situation so that you could avoid doing harm to someone.
It just happened to be a freak accident, and it
was an accident that we had no you know, intention
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of trying to get into or we did not want
to write. It just happened because we were avoiding, all right.
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Welcome back. You're watching journey with Johanan. I'm your host,
John Wynon. Thank you again for sticking through this with me.
We're talking about karma today, and no we're not talking
about Taylor Swifts on Karma, although it's a great song. Anyways.
With karma, again, we are responsible for our own and
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ours alone. We cannot wish in upon someone else because
what that does is it just makes it come back
to us, right, and it creates bad karma for us.
We would actually, you know, you want to always bank
the deposits the good karma, and that's doing good deeds
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for others, being kind right, And again, like I said
before the break, it was opening. It can be as
little as opening the door for someone helping an elderly
person get out of a car because it's a bit
too high and so they kind of need that extra support,
(49:50):
or helping them walk across the street. Maybe they're lost
in like dazed and confused and they don't know where
they are. Maybe it's like calling someone to help for that. Again,
it's being responsible and honoring towards yourself. So that could
(50:15):
mean you know, taking a break from our devices, taking
a break from the hustle and bustle of life and
giving us time to ground and feel like what it
is to be alive instead of focusing and worrying about
(50:37):
day to day practices all the time. Right, doesn't like
we don't have to worry about our bills, we don't
have like all these things we want, you know, it's
about being present, being here. It's you know, if we ground,
we go for a walk, maybe we walk the dog. Right,
(50:58):
that's creating some good card too, because the dog wants
to go out and go for a walk because guess what,
we haven't felt great in a long time. And the
dog got ignored, right because it was like, you know,
I just don't feel like going for a walk. But
you know it made the dog happy when you went
(51:19):
for a walk again. I know that sounds really crazy
and how can that be so simple, Joan, But really
it really is. Good. Karma is easy to come by,
especially when you look at the world and your life
in shall we say, like happy juice like and we're
not saying your life you know, you have to be
(51:41):
in the Kumbai yah stage all the time or you know,
rainbows and sunshines. We're not saying that, but we're what
I'm saying is look for the good look for the
happy in your life, right and allow that to shine
and allow that to exude through you to others. And
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when that happens, a lot of things changes for you
and people start being more attracted towards you, right, things
start opening up for you. You know, some people want
to be around you because why you give them that joy.
You allow them to get out of their funk, right,
(52:28):
and you help rise their spirits to become you know,
maybe a better person for them. Right, we're being an
example to them and that gives us good karma. And wow,
does that sound super easy? But honest, honestly, it really
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is as easy at it as it is to you know,
think negative and you know, bank the bad stuff. It's
way more easy to bank the good stuff, right, And
really it just starts with sometimes saying hello with a
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smile and really meaning it. Right. Sometimes, you know, we're
super busy and we go to the grocery store and
it's like head down, focus, I need to get this,
this and this. I only have X amount of time, right,
so we're in a rush. We're all this these things right,
and the teller, if there's a teller most times now,
(53:34):
you know, you work for the company because you're doing
your own right. So instead of thinking like that, oh
my goodness, you know I should work here, I should
get paid for doing my own life scanning aile food
and having to pay for it, right, you know, we
can we can think it that way, or we can
go you know what, there are still people that are
(53:55):
mounting it, and you can say hello, take the time
to smile at them because you don't know what they
experience they had before you, if someone chewed them out
because you know what, the store got the price wrong,
and all of a sudden the person in front of
you decided, you know what, I got that the storm
(54:17):
made the problem. But it's your fault and I'm gonna
make you feel like shit because because you just happen
to be there. Tell her right again. It's a smile,
fully understanding, being there for them, allowing it to be
and just loving life, enjoying right and being there in
(54:43):
the moment right. And that's how good karma comes about.
Good karma is everywhere, right, it's enjoying and being kind
to the earth. Recycling that soda can right in Canada,
that would be the pop camp right, or it's recycling paper,
(55:05):
it's composting, right, because we are again being kind to
our earth. Right, we are reducing reusing, and that in
turn helps the earth. Right, that creates good karma. It
also by reducing our usage of plastic or whichever, not
(55:27):
even necessarily reducing, but recycling it, we prevent it from
going into the oceans. Right. And even though you're like,
well what can I do? How is this possible? That's
just a small gesture, but remember every small gester starts there,
and that creates the good karma, right, because then now
(55:48):
that plant plastic bay doesn't get washed up like in
another country, right, it doesn't get caught up in animals, right,
that get stuck in there. Right, So the soda cans
you know they come with the rings. Birds don't get
stuck in it. All these little things and it's so
(56:10):
minute that we think, you know, but all those things
can create a karma when we recycle and we do
things like that, right. And I know, I'm this is
not a show on recycling and you know, earth stuff,
but I'm just I want to show you how easy
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it is to be, you know, to create the good
karma and loving ourselves and loving our home which we
call earth, Right, and creating good experiences for everyone that
you know, everyone includes animals, the ocean, the you know,
(56:57):
the trees around us, right, instead of really sing balloons
in the air and then they get stuck. Right, So
really really good karma to deposit in our bank is
so easy, right, just look around and smile and know
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that you know, there is more to this life than
being grumpy, because again, we don't know what other people
have gone through. So we got to stop drop what
they've said, you know, because we again we don't know
the facts, and we don't know what made them be
(57:39):
that way. Right, their life could be something that you
know that is so bad at the moment that they
have a hard time and they need support and they
need someone to help them pick them up. Right, Sometimes
they just need a smile. Some people need a hug. Again,
(58:00):
you know, always ask for her permission first. I know
that it's kind of sad that, you know, our world
has come that way, but again, we are here, and
we're here together. We might as well make the best
of it and be kind to one another because this
is our life, this is our home, and we need
(58:23):
to make the best of our life that we have here. Right,
life is short and make the most of it. Be
the best at it, and you'll see how much the
universe and God gives to you because it is such
an abundant world. And on that note, we've run out
(58:45):
of time for this week. Thank you for watching. Until
next time, embrace what fuels the soul. I'm Joan Widen,
the host of Journey with Joan, only on the Bold
Brave TV good Night.
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