February 27, 2025 • 50 mins
Today, I’m Kickin’ it with my sis, Perspective and Journal Therapy Coach KimmyB AKA ButterflyThoughts.
Of course we’ll talking about the usual suspects-life, love, and ALL THAT OTHER SH&T- along with friendship and sisterhood, self-care, and embracing the pivot when life throws you curve balls.
I asked Coach KimmyB her characteristics of a friend. What are yours?
Connect with Coach KimmyB on social media @iambutterflythoughts.
To be apart of the April Recharging Your Mindset Challenge, send emails to kickinitwithkekemedia@gmail.com
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/kickin-it-with-keke-life-love-all-that-other-sh-t--5060376/support.
Of course we’ll talking about the usual suspects-life, love, and ALL THAT OTHER SH&T- along with friendship and sisterhood, self-care, and embracing the pivot when life throws you curve balls.
I asked Coach KimmyB her characteristics of a friend. What are yours?
Connect with Coach KimmyB on social media @iambutterflythoughts.
To be apart of the April Recharging Your Mindset Challenge, send emails to kickinitwithkekemedia@gmail.com
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/kickin-it-with-keke-life-love-all-that-other-sh-t--5060376/support.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Welcome to Kicking In with Kiki. Kicking it you ki
Ki kicking it you ki key.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
For little personality, switching up the story inline on God
were making the story and hooks changing rise one day
at the time.
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How much problems to the side, Enjoy yourself, free.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Your mind, chicken it we ki keep.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
What's up guys, and welcome back to another episode of
Kicking and Wikiki, Life, Love and all that other ship.
I am your host, Kiki Chanel. You know, with this
podcast we are all about mindset personal growth, but this
season we're focusing on life, love and all the other
ship that comes with it. Today I am join with
the very special guest. She is not new to the platform.
(01:02):
You guys shouldn't know her by now. But again I
like to give my guests the opportunity to introduce themselves.
So sis, tell the people who you are, introduce yourself
to the newbies, and refresh yourself, you know with the
people that has always been a supporter of the show.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
Hey, hey, y'all, how y'all doing?
Speaker 1 (01:23):
This?
Speaker 3 (01:24):
Is your girl?
Speaker 4 (01:24):
Can we be the owner and CEO of Butterfly Thoughts,
where we help young women to just see things from
a different perspective, see things in a different light so
that they can live their life more prosperously.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
You know, you've been on the show for a minute.
We have a segment, and our segment gonna come back.
You know, yes, I missed the coaches corner. We had
so much fun. Life happens, and life has been happening
to us all so we have learned a pivot and
do other things.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
It's been good stuff. It's been good stuff.
Speaker 4 (02:05):
We've been going and learning some more new things. So
you know we're gonna bring back another little flat to it.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
Absolutely, so we don't get into this life love and
all this other shit, and then I'll get into some
new Kimmy be shit. You know. I would love to
ask this question. And the reason why I like this
question is I like to get the different perspectives when
it comes to this question. You're ready.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
I'm ready, girl.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
If you had to give your definition of life, what
would it be? And why?
Speaker 3 (02:43):
Wow? My definition of life?
Speaker 2 (02:48):
Who?
Speaker 3 (02:50):
I will say this?
Speaker 4 (02:53):
I think what's his name said it? The best life
is like a box of chocolates. You never know what
you're get.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
Far As Gump, his mama said that right, life is
like a box of chocolate. You never know what you're
gonna get.
Speaker 4 (03:11):
However, it is how you deal with it, is how
you make life better or upside down.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Mm hmm. Because I'm glad that you say that, because
I don't really care for coconut. So you know, some
of those chocolates come and it's chocolate, but then you
get into it and it's coconut, and I could just see.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Me right right. Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
Sometimes you have scenarios and situations that you come across
in life, curve bars and stuff like that that may
taste like something that you just don't like.
Speaker 3 (03:50):
I don't like.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
That's a type of chocolate that you just don't like.
I'm not really big on dark chocolate, but it's better
for your.
Speaker 4 (03:58):
Heart exactly, it is. Oh see, I can't do milk
chocolate no more. I used to be able to do it,
but now when I I can't do too much of
it because taste buzz is like, excuse me.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
What we're doing? What we're doing, you know.
Speaker 4 (04:17):
But dark chocolate is my thing, especially when it's mixed
with almonds or some type of hazel nut or something
like that.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
It's just it's good. It tastes good to me. And
it's good for you because the nuts have, you know,
properties that is good for your body. The dark chocolate
have properties that is good for your body. So yeah,
that's a perfect combination for me.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
Okay, I like it. I like it. Now, let's let's
talk about curve balls for a minute, because we all
have experienced those things. Life is still throwing some of
us some curve balls. And you have recently made a
pivot in your business. Yes, And that's a great segue.
(05:05):
So talk to someone who is listening that may be
on the verge of giving up because they are afraid,
are scared. I'm not gonna say afraid they're scared. I ain't.
Don't even stay scared, too.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
Comfortable where they got.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Too comfortable and where they are to make that pivot,
because sometimes it's necessary in order to grow and become
the person that God wants us to be. So learn't
going to pivot? What would Kimmy be, Coach, kim tell
a listener who is feeling like they are stuck or
too comfortable to make that pivot. Right.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
So I came up with a method, and it's called
the Stock method. Right.
Speaker 4 (05:53):
And I came up with this method because in my
regular nine to five. I see people all day every
day coming out angry and frustrated and whatnot. And it's
basically what life is. It's basically, you know, things changing,
things not being.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
Quite what they want it to be.
Speaker 4 (06:13):
It's they're comfortable in one thing and not wanting that change.
Speaker 3 (06:20):
So I just tell them, I'm.
Speaker 4 (06:21):
Like, listen, stop, stop, breathe, take a deep breath and
allow your mind to just go for a minute. And
then here comes the old, which is observed. Observe the
things that brought you to this point of this frustration
(06:44):
that you're going through right now.
Speaker 3 (06:46):
See what it is that.
Speaker 4 (06:47):
Triggered you, and then the pe is through. There's three piece.
Before you get to those three piece, you go to
ask yourself one question, is there anything that I can
do about the situation.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
If the answer is no, you're gonna pray and let
that then go okay.
Speaker 4 (07:13):
If the answer is yes, this is where the three
p's come in. You're going to plan. You're going to
pray over that plan.
Speaker 3 (07:26):
And allow.
Speaker 4 (07:29):
The plan to go forward, which is be proceeding, proceeding
with the plan that you just prayed on, because again,
life without works is dead. We can't pray on something
that we're not planning to.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Put the work in for absolutely so.
Speaker 4 (07:52):
Being that where we know that we already made the plan.
We prayed on the plan. Now we gotta proceed with
the plan. And when you proceed with the plan, the
things that you do not have to continue to make
it prosperous. God will put align those things.
Speaker 3 (08:11):
For you so that God.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
Will provide.
Speaker 4 (08:15):
God will provide, and they'll go. The fourth p thank
you for that sis, because now I'm gonna add it.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
No, the last pin is knowing that God will provide.
Speaker 3 (08:26):
That's it. That's it.
Speaker 4 (08:28):
So that's where my stop method comes into play. And
it works because again I have used it myself and
it has worked. I have given it to other people
and I know that that it works for them as well.
(08:49):
So you just have to know to say, you know what,
stop stop stop stop stoping like, let's not go no
further and let's take that deep breath, those couple deep
brands that we need to refocus our minds and allow
the things to just flow out our mind for a second,
(09:12):
and thank continue.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
I love that. I love the stop method, and that
brings me to we are doing a self care challenge
because I have an event that I'm I have coming up.
It's not my event, but I would be a part
of it with the Weekend Girl of Bad and Ruge
and it's called Molossom and Brunch and it's like an experience.
You customize the experience. They're gonna have different ways of meditating, yoga,
(09:42):
all types of panel discussions about self love, self care
and things like that. And so they have started leading
up to the event a self care challenge. We are
in week with four, Yes Week four, and thank you
for being a part of it, and it's open. It
was open to everybody, but I wanted to talk about
how you have been sharing and posting and enjoying that
(10:06):
self care challenge because self care is something that we
all must go through in order to become the best
version of ourselves.
Speaker 3 (10:17):
Absolutely, absolutely, So let's.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
Talk about self care a little bit. I mean, and
and listen, listen. Self care is not all about getting
your nails in, your haird done and stuff like that. Yes,
I do that because my mama raised me to don't
leave your house looking on any kind of way, right,
and it makes me feel good, But that's not the
that's not the overall concept of self care.
Speaker 3 (10:44):
That's just the tip of the iceberg.
Speaker 4 (10:46):
Doing your hair, doing your nails, doing you know, these
little detail therapy. That's just yeah, retail therapy. That's just
the tip of the iceberg.
Speaker 2 (10:57):
It's deeper, much deeper than that.
Speaker 3 (10:58):
It's much much deeper than that.
Speaker 4 (11:00):
And with this challenge that we were that we were
on it, it got kind of deep because I'm like,
there are things that I never thought about that could
be that it's self care, but nobody thinks about these things.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Trying a new hobby.
Speaker 4 (11:18):
That was what that was yesterday's right, So that was
that was good in itself, And I had to post
it in a way where there was two different things
going on at the same time, because I wanted to
show people that, yeah, you can be this in the.
Speaker 3 (11:37):
Background and in the forefront, but in the back you
may want to do something a little different, so you
come up with something else, you know what I mean.
So I just love the fact that, you know, these
self care challenges went deeper than just the norm love.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
I think for me, my favorite thus far is just
getting outside, taking a walk, becoming one with nature. And
I do grounding, so I love to go outside and
stick my feet in the ground. Yeah. I used to
have trees in my backyard, but I live in Louisiana
and so we have to get them trees cut down
because of hurricanes blessed right. But I have no problem
(12:22):
hugging a tree. It centers you. It gives that magnetic
pull of the of the earth, right, calm your nervous system.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
Yes, yes, yes, it helps with.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
That that feel good drug what it's called endorphinsdorphins. Yep.
So I'm glad that Simone and Sierra and Miss Pam
and so many others that are on her team came
up with the Blossoming Brunch and the self prayer challenge
because we go through we do challenges all the time
(12:56):
in our community. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (12:57):
Yeah, absolutely, because I have to. You always have to
be challenging yourself. Yes, because you need to be challenging yourself.
Speaker 3 (13:06):
You're going to stay stagnant, You're going to stay stuck,
and we need not to be being stuck. We need
to keep ourselves going.
Speaker 4 (13:16):
We need to always challenge ourselves so that not only
can we keep going in this thing called life, but in.
Speaker 3 (13:23):
Order for our self to elevate.
Speaker 2 (13:27):
That's what I was just about to say in order
to have any type of personal growth and elevation, you
have to challenge, challenge yourself.
Speaker 3 (13:37):
Got to I'm.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
Getting ready to challenge myself the whole month of uh.
I think I'm gonna do it in March. I really
think I'm gonna do it in March because I have
to get back on my juicing. I have not juiced
any this year and I feel lost without my juice.
Speaker 4 (13:53):
Oh boy, so we got to be on this challenge, girl.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
I think that you know what, I may do it
for the month of April because I just thought about it. Mark,
It's Carnival to Time here, it's Marty Gross season here. Yeah. Yeah,
we're gonna do it in April. Let's let's do it
for April. So if anybody is that's listening who would
like to be a part of the challenge, send an
(14:19):
email to Kicking In with Kiki Media at gmail dot com.
Don't forget that there's no g on kicking I will
put that in the show notes so you can send
in your request. It is gonna be totally free. But
what we do is holding each other accountable. We have
like a community. We'll probably do some zooms or whatever
(14:40):
just to tap in with each other to see how
you feeling, because these challenges can get hard, especially with
the juicing challenge, because if you're not drinking enough juice
or you know, getting enough nutrients or whatever, gonna be
Grupping's hail by day three.
Speaker 3 (14:55):
Oh yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
When we dig challenge to quit at the Day three.
Speaker 4 (15:01):
Girl, but the juice challenge with no with no food
at all.
Speaker 2 (15:08):
She did get We could do salads though, but it
was all raw food.
Speaker 3 (15:16):
There was no cook food soever, and like I had.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
That juice would have been nasty for Day three girl challenge.
Y'all need to tap into Lady Key. I don't know
when she's doing another challenge. She is on Instagram. I
will put her information in the show notes as well.
She is an amazing juice specialist, a juice therapist, juice ologists.
Speaker 4 (15:42):
She's all the three, all all the three is amazing.
So would like literally break things down for you where
it makes sense to you and make you understand or
help you to understand that the things that we on
a day.
Speaker 3 (16:00):
To day basis, it's not good for us. Some of
these things.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
Made my steps on the scale today at the doctor's office,
and I was like, Okay, Okay, Yeah, I mean not
only I'm juicing. I need to make sure that I
stay healthy and I'm not at a bad I'm not
nowhere on the borderline of being hurt for a harmful
for myself or my health.
Speaker 3 (16:25):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
And I think it's because you know, when you when
you are at peace and you're not stressed about anything,
you tend to you tend to have a little happy
way on you.
Speaker 3 (16:35):
Oh yeah, absolutely, absolutely, right Now, let's.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
Talk about it. Let's talk about the pivot that you've made.
Oh yes, tell the people.
Speaker 4 (16:51):
So it's actually an addition to what I've been doing.
I'm still the perspective coach. How I have recently became
certified as.
Speaker 3 (17:06):
A journal therapy coach. What does that mean? Oh so though,
thank you, thank you, thank you. What does that mean?
Speaker 4 (17:20):
That means everything that I do, any programs that I do,
any you know, one on one coaching that I do,
anything like that. It is always going to be rooted
in journaling. It's going to be rooted in journaling because,
first of all, that's what helped me on my journey
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because I was doing it not even knowing that I.
Speaker 3 (17:46):
Was doing it.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
Right, I've been man, I have so many journals. I
have journal I didn't, like you said, I didn't know it.
I wasn't using a journal though I would always be
the best has to have a notebook like notebook and
we went to the I could be at the grocery store.
I'm going to that now that has like the the
uh school private your school? Ye, can you just buy
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me this notebook?
Speaker 3 (18:13):
Yep?
Speaker 4 (18:13):
That and and we'll be happy campus with just the notebook.
Speaker 2 (18:18):
M hm. Ahead. I'm not not to cut you off,
but I just want to let you know that I'm
a Johnal girl too. Yes.
Speaker 4 (18:24):
Yes, there's so many times I go into like Family
Dollar or Dollar Try, and I cannot go in there
without going through the school supply section or the art sections,
just to see what they got going on. Because again,
I'm a very I'm very journal I'm very creative.
Speaker 3 (18:43):
I like to do a lot of creative stuff.
Speaker 4 (18:47):
But journals, I'm always getting a journal book or some
type of notebook because I know that for me it
is therapeutic mm hmm. And hence why it's a journal
therapy coach. Right, I love it because it is such
therapy for your mind, for your body, for your soul.
(19:09):
Because if your mind is off kiltered, the rest of
your body is going to be off kiltered.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
Absolutely. So I know a couple of people who are
not into journaling. What can you say to these people?
Speaker 3 (19:23):
I just keep telling them, right, write it out.
Speaker 2 (19:27):
Because you try it, just try it, try it. You
may need got it.
Speaker 4 (19:34):
And there are guided journals. I have seven of them.
Speaker 2 (19:40):
You may have to have a prompt, a journal prompts
you might need to write.
Speaker 4 (19:44):
About exactly, and you could always Again, if you don't
have a guided journal, you can always go on Google Chat,
GPT whatever, put it in. Give me some journal prompts
mm hm, and they will it will give you journal
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prompts and you just take one of them and just
start writing.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
I don't even go a step further than that. Write
about how you're feeling.
Speaker 3 (20:15):
That part.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
That's plain and simple. You might get distracted, but allow
that say that I am I am writing, but I'm
thinking about cheese right now.
Speaker 3 (20:27):
Right.
Speaker 4 (20:32):
And what you're thinking, because you never know where that
first line is going to take you.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
Absolutely absolutely, because sometimes.
Speaker 4 (20:42):
It will take you from just the one sentence line.
Speaker 3 (20:45):
And even if you're like, I don't know what else
to write, write that.
Speaker 2 (20:51):
I don't know where to start.
Speaker 4 (20:53):
I don't know where to start write that, write anything,
because guess what, when you start to God will drop
the things in your heart that you need to write about.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
Absolutely literally.
Speaker 3 (21:07):
I love that somewhere.
Speaker 2 (21:09):
You have to start, You have to put forth in effort.
Speaker 4 (21:12):
That part, because once again, prayers without works is dead.
Speaker 2 (21:21):
Faith is there is dead anything in my life that
is not faith based. I don't really focus too much
on it because they don't have nothing to do with me.
I love God? What's wrong with What's wrong with you?
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Shout out of Erica Camel.
Speaker 3 (21:47):
We talk about this right.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
Here is probably gonna give a little, little little heavy
We're moving from the life to the love portion.
Speaker 3 (21:57):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
And I want to talk a little bit about friendship
versus sisterhood, because people can tell you all day long,
I love you sis, I call you sis, and then
ain't no substance behind it. It's just it sounds good,
right right, But right when it comes to love and friendship,
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how do you feel about the two those two words
in the same sentence, How would you describe them or
what should those characteristics look like?
Speaker 3 (22:33):
Hmmm?
Speaker 2 (22:35):
And I'll say your top three because we can talk
about this all day. I'm gonna do the top The
top three characteristics of a friend for you would be
what when it comes to love.
Speaker 3 (22:47):
First of all, they gotta have some type of faith.
Speaker 4 (22:53):
They have to have some type of faith, whether it's
a friend, whether it's a sister, whether it's a lover,
regardless to what. If you're going to be around me,
you have to have some type of faith in your
heart for yourself, for God, and know that God is
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not going to put nothing in front of you that
is not going to take you somewhere. But you have
to be grounded in some type of faith.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
I like that number two.
Speaker 3 (23:31):
Number two someone who is hot with themselves. What do
I mean?
Speaker 2 (23:44):
Hot?
Speaker 3 (23:46):
Honest, open, and transparent? Kay?
Speaker 4 (23:54):
Because those three things right there, hm hmm. It will
as long as you're doing it for yourself first.
Speaker 3 (24:08):
You can do that with.
Speaker 2 (24:09):
Anybody, anybody. It comes second nature. It becomes because and
we always say this, like if you go back and
listen to other episodes of the podcast or you have
been a listener of the podcast, you know that me
and Kim we have the coach's corner and we always
would say get hot, which is get hot, which that
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means be honest, open, and transparent with yourself, because if
you're not able to do that with yourself, you won't
be able to do that with anybody else.
Speaker 3 (24:38):
Anybody, it don't matter who they are. It don't matter
who they are, you would not be able to be open,
honest and transparent with them.
Speaker 2 (24:49):
Right Because I like that? I like it, you know
I like it. And then number three.
Speaker 3 (24:56):
And number surreeum.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
Hmmm.
Speaker 4 (25:01):
Number three, I will say, someone who is loving, loving,
and have.
Speaker 3 (25:18):
A heart of just love to share with people.
Speaker 2 (25:28):
I love that. I like that. I like My three
character reasons of a friend is integrity. Mm hmmm.
Speaker 3 (25:43):
That's a good one.
Speaker 2 (25:44):
You have to be compassionate mm hmmm. And we have
to be able to laugh together. Oh yes, I mean,
and I'll say those because at a point in my life,
the people that are in my life, God is that
I don't that's a given. I don't have to say.
That is a correct characteristic that I need, characteristic that
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I need in a friendship because everything that I do
is is centered around my love for God.
Speaker 3 (26:12):
So God correct.
Speaker 2 (26:14):
But but yeah, we have to be able to have
because I'm goofy. You already know we're.
Speaker 3 (26:19):
Gonna laugh once all the time.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
We're gonna play and we're gonna be real with each other.
Speaker 4 (26:24):
Absolutely, absolutely, yeah, because that's how we elevate, that's how
we roll.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
Yeah. I think for me those would be the top
the top three. You have to be and you have
to have integrity, yeah, definitely have to be compassionate mm hmm.
And then you what I said the last one one. Oh,
we have to be able to laugh laugh, you know,
he said, don't take, don't talk.
Speaker 3 (26:51):
And we both could be silly all the time, being
silly and.
Speaker 2 (26:56):
All the time, Oh my god, but laughter make.
Speaker 3 (27:03):
Laughter is medicine to the soul.
Speaker 4 (27:04):
And if you if you can't laugh, why why be
with you while we around you, because you just.
Speaker 3 (27:13):
Showing how grumpy you could be.
Speaker 2 (27:14):
We don't want I'm not doing that. I've been around
people who have made me sick to my stomach because
they were so uptight or they were so hypocritical that
I just didn't want to be around them. I'm an impath,
so I feel extremely heavy mm hmm. I can feel
you before you even get close to me. I can
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walk in the room and know who's having a good
day versus who's having a bad day, and it's like, Lord,
please put me on the side of the person that's
actually having a good day, because I don't want to
I don't want to get none of that that other
end right.
Speaker 4 (27:49):
Right, And sometimes God is gonna use you to help
those people see a brighter day too.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
And he used me every day every time I talk.
I talk to people all day every day, hence the podcast.
But I do that. That's my job too. So I
I have found myself hearing that back from people.
Speaker 3 (28:13):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
Your tone has calmed me all the way down because
I was so furious when I got on this phone.
Speaker 3 (28:21):
Yes, yes, and it is.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
I mean, how you say stuff matters.
Speaker 3 (28:26):
Yeah, it does.
Speaker 2 (28:28):
How you say matter. And I feel like another thing
that should go along with a characteristic of a friend
friend when it comes to love, should be open communication.
Speaker 3 (28:42):
That's it.
Speaker 4 (28:45):
You're not communicating with yourself. You can't communicate with nobody
else too.
Speaker 2 (28:49):
Yeah, but how can you call yourself a friend and
you can't talk to the person that you say that
you're friends.
Speaker 3 (28:55):
With because they can't talk to themselves.
Speaker 2 (28:59):
Yeah, but sometimes talking to yourself is insane. It's insane
for a minute, because we could talk, we could talk
to ourselves all day long. But if you don't have
like an outlet to somebody to speak back to you,
if you're not speaking to God and hearing from the
voice of God, that's one thing. But if you just
talking to yourself and you answer yourself and you you you,
you guess, go see somebody because that's normal.
Speaker 4 (29:23):
Listen, listen sometimes listen.
Speaker 3 (29:27):
I do it from time to time.
Speaker 2 (29:29):
I mean, but at some point we're gonna have some
type of social interaction.
Speaker 3 (29:35):
That is wealthy.
Speaker 2 (29:37):
Yeah, okay, So we talked about friendship and what friendship
versus sisterhood. Now, what would be your top three characteristics
or sisterhood. I believe that a sisterhood is deeper than
a friendship. Yeah, you need to have a friendship in
order to form that sisterhood. But for me, go ahead, God,
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I'm gonna write yours down and then I'm I'm gonna
tell you mine.
Speaker 4 (30:05):
I mean, my characteristics are the same as well. However,
I should be able to pick up a phone and say, yo, sis,
I really need you right now, you know what I mean,
and not feel no way that I'm you know, disturbing
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you or whatever the case is. Not feeling no way
because you making me feel some type of way like, oh,
like what you need now, or not even answering my
phone call at all, or not even texting me backstay
and oh, I'm gonna call you right back, you know,
like it's just a deeper connection to me if you're
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gonna be around me period. You still need to be
able to be hot with yourself. You still need to
be able to love, like you said, you need to
be able to laugh. You still need all of those characteristics,
all of those that we already discussed.
Speaker 3 (31:08):
We still need those to be around me. And you
have to have an open mind.
Speaker 4 (31:15):
To know that you We can make it. We can
make it further than where we are.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
Mm hmm. For me, I don't need you to be
jealous hearted.
Speaker 3 (31:30):
Oh, but that that goes without saying now.
Speaker 2 (31:34):
Sometimes you gotta say it because some people will say
that they're your sister and be looking at you like, uh, yeah,
you're telling me all this stuff that you want to do,
But I'm gonna pray that it don't happen.
Speaker 3 (31:44):
That's true too, mm hmm.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
But I need I need you to be I need
I need you to be you. You have to be
open enough to say I want my sister to win
and be okay with that so and be with that
jealous spirit, jealous hearted. I can't do that. And I
think for a sisterhood, in order for it to work
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and grow, you cannot have that type of mentality or mindset.
And you also have to love without limits mmmm, love
without expectations, love without compromise, and you are also you
also have to be able to give tough love.
Speaker 3 (32:31):
Yes, yes, like this mm hmm.
Speaker 2 (32:35):
You know what you did was wrong. I want you
to know that I saw you mm hmmm, it was wrong.
Mm hmm. Let's let's see how we can feel. Let's
and not be not be so judgmental and you know,
hypocritical putting your mouth on folks. I just, I just,
I don't, I don't have the time, nonsense, I don't.
Speaker 3 (32:59):
I call it.
Speaker 2 (33:01):
Yeah, is listening? Just type it in the comments. What
are your what are your characteristics of a friendship versus
a sisterhood? I would love to know, And if you
want to stay anonymous, just send the email and put
it down in the show notes. It will be there.
But I just wanted to tap in about sisterhood and
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versus friendship because you know, I feel like sometimes you
outgrow people and sometimes they outgrow you. And it's okay.
There's nothing that's there's nothing, no animosity. I want you
to win. We just ain't on the same team anymore.
Speaker 3 (33:37):
And that and it's okay because not everybody can go
with you.
Speaker 2 (33:43):
And you can't go with everybody.
Speaker 3 (33:45):
Let's you can't go with everybody. There are certain people
that are made in your life or brought into your
life for a season none okay, And when they are
in your life for that season, sometimes they will divert
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and y'all may not speak as much. Y'all might not
go and do the same things y'all were doing. Y'all
might have a time of or a season of being
a part.
Speaker 4 (34:18):
But then y'all may have a season where y'all come
back together because there is something in one of your
lives or both of your lives that y'all.
Speaker 3 (34:27):
Need to be together at that moment. It is okay,
It is okay to have those seasons. But you know that.
Speaker 4 (34:41):
God is only going to put the people in your
life that you need at that time.
Speaker 2 (34:46):
And that is how it's not If it's not from God,
I don't want it.
Speaker 3 (34:51):
I don't want it.
Speaker 2 (34:53):
Yeah, I don't want it. And I say and I
say that, and we all have been I mean, I'm
not perfect and I'm not trying to be. I God
knows my heart and and I you know, I'm I'm
real enough with myself to know that I am still human.
I'm gonna make mistakes, It's gonna have absolutely, But when
it comes to like you know, life, love and all
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that other you know what that we're talking about. Mm hmm,
some things that you just can't overlook. Like I need
my friends to be able to pray with me and
for me.
Speaker 3 (35:24):
And for me. I need them to pray, no, not
pray on me.
Speaker 2 (35:28):
Absolutely, I need them to sense and I and I'm
I'm i'mna put it out there. I'm spoiled. When my
friends got me spoiled, my family has me spoiled. So
if you're not willing and I'm not talking about in
a bad way, I'm not talking about you gotta buy
me stuff and be materialistic with time, yep, attention m
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praying for me and with me yep, and just you know,
saving space for me. Let me put it like that,
just making rooms. I need the people in my life
to make room for me as I make room for.
Speaker 3 (36:04):
Them, for them.
Speaker 2 (36:05):
And I'm not talking about we got to talk every day.
We ain't got to see each other. I have friends
that have been friends with since since elementary school. Tim
once or twice a year. Ain't nothing happened, yep yep.
Never had a falling out or anything anything.
Speaker 3 (36:22):
Yep yep.
Speaker 2 (36:24):
But I know that if I call, they there, if
they call me, they know that I'm there.
Speaker 3 (36:33):
That's right, that's right.
Speaker 2 (36:35):
Those are the type of friendships that I have and
that I want because I'm not a firm believer in
this no new friends, No new friends, because you might
miss out on some blessings saying that you don't want
to be open to new friendships. Asked for that discernment
mm hm, and keep it moving.
Speaker 3 (36:54):
That's it.
Speaker 4 (36:55):
If I had said that, like, I've been through some
friendships here, gay, I've been through some some rough friendships.
And how do I said, no new friends. You wouldn't
be together, you wouldn't know each other. I wouldn't know
the people that I know now that are close to
me right now, I wouldn't know them right and I
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wouldn't like when I tell you, these are my legit
friends my legit sisters.
Speaker 3 (37:27):
They know when something is wrong with me listen and
met them on social media.
Speaker 2 (37:33):
That's what I'm saying. And that's what I'm saying. It's
like you could tell you know that it's God, because
you know, I was coming from a doctor's appointment today
and one of one of one of my one of
my sisters just say, hey, just checking in on you.
Ain't heard from y'all?
Speaker 3 (37:46):
Love you right.
Speaker 2 (37:49):
Like that means so much to me to know that
I crossed somebody's mind enough for them to say, let
me just check in on Kiki. And I make a
point to do that. When God drop somebody in my spirit,
I make a point to reach out to them. If
I don't reach out, I'm sitting up a prayer for them.
Because sometimes we intervene on behalf of our friends and
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and stop some destruction from happening. Sometimes people intervene and
save us from.
Speaker 3 (38:17):
Going through some.
Speaker 2 (38:20):
Exactly. So I just wanted to tap in a little
bit about that. So we're gonna get into all the
other ship.
Speaker 3 (38:26):
Yes, let's do it.
Speaker 2 (38:28):
Like, what's what's going on with you? Man? I know
you you you you done, got you done? Become a
certified journal, you know, therapist, and you know you just
you done did some uh you know book new books
and all.
Speaker 3 (38:43):
Yeah, And I'm glad you brought up the new bugs.
Speaker 4 (38:46):
Because these are prayer journals that I actually created myself.
So I bought the I bought the actual notebooks and
I actually designed them myself. So the thing with this,
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I'm trying it out on an event that I'm gonna
be a part of this weekend, which just so happens
to be another self care event, you know what I mean.
So it came full circle with the challenge that we're doing,
the event that Kiki's having and the event that I
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am a part of, and they're all about self care.
It is called Gallatines, a pajama party.
Speaker 2 (39:38):
Nice.
Speaker 4 (39:39):
We're gonna have girls come in together, like minded individuals
and we're just gonna talk, have a good time, have
some food, have some bubbly.
Speaker 3 (39:51):
And just enjoy the night, you know. So it's gonna
be great.
Speaker 4 (39:56):
And I decided that I'm gonna create these prayer dream
so that, you know, just to give it a little something.
Speaker 3 (40:04):
So I'm gonna see how.
Speaker 4 (40:07):
The girls react to it, see how they're gonna do
with it.
Speaker 3 (40:10):
Before I put it out to the public.
Speaker 4 (40:14):
But you God, I enjoy creating them, so yeah, I
may do it anyways, but we want to see what
God says, you know exactly.
Speaker 3 (40:29):
I had a good time creating them, you know.
Speaker 2 (40:32):
Absolutely, and I love that. So tell the people that's
listening who would like to work with you, how they
can work with.
Speaker 4 (40:39):
Be Okay, So right now I take clarity calls where
we just have girl talk, have girl talk and just
let's let your thoughts fly, let your feelings fly. There's
no judgment, there's no judgment, and you know, I will
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help you to navigate through your feelings and help you
to navigate through your thoughts and you know, give you
some things, some strategies that you can be able to
take with you and continue, you know, and you know,
start your healing process or just start whatever it is
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making sense of.
Speaker 3 (41:27):
Maybe your life at this moment is maybe a chaotic,
you know, but you know, let let's come talk with me.
You can catch me on IG.
Speaker 4 (41:37):
I am I A am butterfly thoughts. I am butterfly
thoughts on IG or actually on all social media platforms,
so you can hit me up on anyone, hit me
in my DM.
Speaker 3 (41:52):
And let me know what you need.
Speaker 4 (41:54):
Also, you can get my books or any of my
seven journal or all of myself in journals on my
website Butterfly Thoughts l LC dot com Butterfly Thoughts LLC
dot com, and you scroll down and you'll see all
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my books there. I have something for everyone.
Speaker 2 (42:21):
I have.
Speaker 4 (42:23):
Journals where you, as adults, we can tap back into
our inner child. I have Gratitude Surrender where it will
help you and it has journal prompts in them just
to help you to.
Speaker 3 (42:36):
Know where to start right.
Speaker 4 (42:39):
And then I also have Affirmation coloring book for children
to help them to affirm themselves and especially if they're
being bullied, especially if they're being teased and all of
these things, because this is what happens in school, right,
and we need our children to affirm themselves and be
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ten toes.
Speaker 3 (43:04):
Down in who they they are. And if we can
get them to know understand that and know that from
a very young age, when they become our age, they're
not going to.
Speaker 4 (43:16):
Have to go through the things that we're going through
now exactly now learning how to affirm ourselves now, learning
how to be comfortable in our skin.
Speaker 3 (43:28):
So I'm trying, like.
Speaker 4 (43:30):
With this book I wanted to get the younger ones, like,
let's go there. You know, now, as adults, we have
to tap back into our inner child in order to
heal what we went through in our inner in our childhood, right,
so you know, let's let's start with the babies and
in the same time, let's you know, tap into that
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inner child and let us heal as well.
Speaker 2 (43:54):
Absolutely, I love that guys. All of her information would
be in the show notes, so you can tap in
with coach Kimmy b to see if she's a perfect
fit for you. All right, fit for you. I just
book a clarity call so you can figure out where
to start. When it comes to journal therapy, it works, y'all.
I've been doing it forever. I went on a healing
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journey four years ago, and without journaling, I probably wouldn't
be this version of myself because some of the things
that I've written, I had to go back and read
it and I was like, wow, you were in a
dark place that day. M hm, wow, dang you you
really you inspired me by reading this.
Speaker 3 (44:37):
You wrote this, yep.
Speaker 2 (44:40):
So, and then you can keep journal secret journals like
where you go in write something and throw it away yep.
Speaker 3 (44:48):
You know that.
Speaker 4 (44:49):
That's also another level of therapy, therapy in itself, because
sometimes you don't want to hold onto things, and I
get it. It's good to hold on to them though,
just so that once you come out of that space
and you do get that feeling of you wanted to
see where you will see where your mind is. You
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can see how much you have grown and how much
you have elevated from that place.
Speaker 3 (45:16):
So that's why it's good to know that.
Speaker 4 (45:18):
But if say, for instance, you want to you have
some malice in your heart for somebody, and you want
to get rid of that malice, right, you write, you write,
say you write a letter for that person, and but
you're not going to actually send it to that person.
You're still gonna write the letter, but now you can
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burn it because now you're gonna burn all your feelings.
Speaker 3 (45:42):
Towards that person, right, you know, burn.
Speaker 4 (45:46):
It, throw it in the trash, rip it up, throw
it down the toilet, flush it down the toilet. It's
all going away. So that that will definitely help in
those types of stuff situations.
Speaker 2 (46:01):
Right, Oh, I love that.
Speaker 3 (46:02):
M h, yeah, I love that.
Speaker 2 (46:06):
I love that. Well, Sis, This is always a pleasure,
is always a pleasure when you come through. Always any
last words you would like to speak on. We talked
about life, we talked about love. We just tapped into
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all that other shit just a little bit. But is
there anything else you want to speak about on those
three topics? That is the theme for this season's podcast.
Speaker 4 (46:35):
I just want to say, there's a lot of chaos
going on right now around us. Focus on self, Focus
on the things that you know you need to do,
and allow all that other noise to just go away.
Speaker 3 (46:56):
Do not focus on that extra noise because at the
end of the day, it is not gonna do us
no good.
Speaker 4 (47:04):
And when when you find yourself getting overwhelmed, pull out
the stop method.
Speaker 3 (47:11):
Trust me, it works. Stop everything around you. If you're
feeling overwhelmed, take a couple of deep breaths and let
your mind just go and then go into that observing
seeing what brought you to.
Speaker 4 (47:28):
That place, Write it down, journal it out. Ask yourself
that question, can I do anything about it? If the
answer is no, again pray and let it go. If
the answer is yes, make the plan. Pray on the plan,
proceed with the.
Speaker 2 (47:49):
Plan and know that God would provide you.
Speaker 3 (47:52):
And know that God yes, and it will be okay.
Everything is going to work out for your good.
Speaker 4 (48:04):
Absolutely believe in it and have trust in it and
have faith in it.
Speaker 2 (48:11):
Amen, listen, this has been another episode of kicking in
with Kiki, Life, love and all that. Yes, until next time,
make sure you just surround yourself with people who make
you feel good that part. Anybody who does not is
time to take an inventory because they may not. That
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season in your life may be over. I don't care
if family, friend, acquaintance, cowork, or anything. Sometimes it's time
to say goodbye.
Speaker 3 (48:45):
That's it.
Speaker 2 (48:47):
It's hard, but sometimes it's necessary in order for you
to elevate to the person that God has created you
to be. And it is okay to want better for yourself.
God did not put us here to be mediocre. God
did not put us here to have relationships that drain us,
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that make us feel bad. So at some point you
have to love yourself and care for yourself enough to
say enough is enough. I'm done. I love you, but
I'm gonna love you from a distance. Yeah, that's it,
all right, guys. We can talk about this all day long,
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but purple hugs. Until next time. You have been listening
to another episode of season eight Kick in In with
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Speaker 3 (49:54):
Later later peace, keep
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Speaker 2 (00:15):
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Speaker 2 (00:40):
What's up guys, and welcome back to another episode of
Kicking and Wikiki, Life, Love and all that other ship.
I am your host, Kiki Chanel. You know, with this
podcast we are all about mindset personal growth, but this
season we're focusing on life, love and all the other
ship that comes with it. Today I am join with
the very special guest. She is not new to the platform.
(01:02):
You guys shouldn't know her by now. But again I
like to give my guests the opportunity to introduce themselves.
So sis, tell the people who you are, introduce yourself
to the newbies, and refresh yourself, you know with the
people that has always been a supporter of the show.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
Hey, hey, y'all, how y'all doing?
Speaker 1 (01:23):
This?
Speaker 3 (01:24):
Is your girl?
Speaker 4 (01:24):
Can we be the owner and CEO of Butterfly Thoughts,
where we help young women to just see things from
a different perspective, see things in a different light so
that they can live their life more prosperously.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
You know, you've been on the show for a minute.
We have a segment, and our segment gonna come back.
You know, yes, I missed the coaches corner. We had
so much fun. Life happens, and life has been happening
to us all so we have learned a pivot and
do other things.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
It's been good stuff. It's been good stuff.
Speaker 4 (02:05):
We've been going and learning some more new things. So
you know we're gonna bring back another little flat to it.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
Absolutely, so we don't get into this life love and
all this other shit, and then I'll get into some
new Kimmy be shit. You know. I would love to
ask this question. And the reason why I like this
question is I like to get the different perspectives when
it comes to this question. You're ready.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
I'm ready, girl.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
If you had to give your definition of life, what
would it be? And why?
Speaker 3 (02:43):
Wow? My definition of life?
Speaker 2 (02:48):
Who?
Speaker 3 (02:50):
I will say this?
Speaker 4 (02:53):
I think what's his name said it? The best life
is like a box of chocolates. You never know what
you're get.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
Far As Gump, his mama said that right, life is
like a box of chocolate. You never know what you're
gonna get.
Speaker 4 (03:11):
However, it is how you deal with it, is how
you make life better or upside down.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Mm hmm. Because I'm glad that you say that, because
I don't really care for coconut. So you know, some
of those chocolates come and it's chocolate, but then you
get into it and it's coconut, and I could just see.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Me right right. Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
Sometimes you have scenarios and situations that you come across
in life, curve bars and stuff like that that may
taste like something that you just don't like.
Speaker 3 (03:50):
I don't like.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
That's a type of chocolate that you just don't like.
I'm not really big on dark chocolate, but it's better
for your.
Speaker 4 (03:58):
Heart exactly, it is. Oh see, I can't do milk
chocolate no more. I used to be able to do it,
but now when I I can't do too much of
it because taste buzz is like, excuse me.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
What we're doing? What we're doing, you know.
Speaker 4 (04:17):
But dark chocolate is my thing, especially when it's mixed
with almonds or some type of hazel nut or something
like that.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
It's just it's good. It tastes good to me. And
it's good for you because the nuts have, you know,
properties that is good for your body. The dark chocolate
have properties that is good for your body. So yeah,
that's a perfect combination for me.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
Okay, I like it. I like it. Now, let's let's
talk about curve balls for a minute, because we all
have experienced those things. Life is still throwing some of
us some curve balls. And you have recently made a
pivot in your business. Yes, And that's a great segue.
(05:05):
So talk to someone who is listening that may be
on the verge of giving up because they are afraid,
are scared. I'm not gonna say afraid they're scared. I ain't.
Don't even stay scared, too.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
Comfortable where they got.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Too comfortable and where they are to make that pivot,
because sometimes it's necessary in order to grow and become
the person that God wants us to be. So learn't
going to pivot? What would Kimmy be, Coach, kim tell
a listener who is feeling like they are stuck or
too comfortable to make that pivot. Right.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
So I came up with a method, and it's called
the Stock method. Right.
Speaker 4 (05:53):
And I came up with this method because in my
regular nine to five. I see people all day every
day coming out angry and frustrated and whatnot. And it's
basically what life is. It's basically, you know, things changing,
things not being.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
Quite what they want it to be.
Speaker 4 (06:13):
It's they're comfortable in one thing and not wanting that change.
Speaker 3 (06:20):
So I just tell them, I'm.
Speaker 4 (06:21):
Like, listen, stop, stop, breathe, take a deep breath and
allow your mind to just go for a minute. And
then here comes the old, which is observed. Observe the
things that brought you to this point of this frustration
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that you're going through right now.
Speaker 3 (06:46):
See what it is that.
Speaker 4 (06:47):
Triggered you, and then the pe is through. There's three piece.
Before you get to those three piece, you go to
ask yourself one question, is there anything that I can
do about the situation.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
If the answer is no, you're gonna pray and let
that then go okay.
Speaker 4 (07:13):
If the answer is yes, this is where the three
p's come in. You're going to plan. You're going to
pray over that plan.
Speaker 3 (07:26):
And allow.
Speaker 4 (07:29):
The plan to go forward, which is be proceeding, proceeding
with the plan that you just prayed on, because again,
life without works is dead. We can't pray on something
that we're not planning to.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Put the work in for absolutely so.
Speaker 4 (07:52):
Being that where we know that we already made the plan.
We prayed on the plan. Now we gotta proceed with
the plan. And when you proceed with the plan, the
things that you do not have to continue to make
it prosperous. God will put align those things.
Speaker 3 (08:11):
For you so that God.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
Will provide.
Speaker 4 (08:15):
God will provide, and they'll go. The fourth p thank
you for that sis, because now I'm gonna add it.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
No, the last pin is knowing that God will provide.
Speaker 3 (08:26):
That's it. That's it.
Speaker 4 (08:28):
So that's where my stop method comes into play. And
it works because again I have used it myself and
it has worked. I have given it to other people
and I know that that it works for them as well.
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So you just have to know to say, you know what,
stop stop stop stop stoping like, let's not go no
further and let's take that deep breath, those couple deep
brands that we need to refocus our minds and allow
the things to just flow out our mind for a second,
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and thank continue.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
I love that. I love the stop method, and that
brings me to we are doing a self care challenge
because I have an event that I'm I have coming up.
It's not my event, but I would be a part
of it with the Weekend Girl of Bad and Ruge
and it's called Molossom and Brunch and it's like an experience.
You customize the experience. They're gonna have different ways of meditating, yoga,
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all types of panel discussions about self love, self care
and things like that. And so they have started leading
up to the event a self care challenge. We are
in week with four, Yes Week four, and thank you
for being a part of it, and it's open. It
was open to everybody, but I wanted to talk about
how you have been sharing and posting and enjoying that
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self care challenge because self care is something that we
all must go through in order to become the best
version of ourselves.
Speaker 3 (10:17):
Absolutely, absolutely, So let's.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
Talk about self care a little bit. I mean, and
and listen, listen. Self care is not all about getting
your nails in, your haird done and stuff like that. Yes,
I do that because my mama raised me to don't
leave your house looking on any kind of way, right,
and it makes me feel good, But that's not the
that's not the overall concept of self care.
Speaker 3 (10:44):
That's just the tip of the iceberg.
Speaker 4 (10:46):
Doing your hair, doing your nails, doing you know, these
little detail therapy. That's just yeah, retail therapy. That's just
the tip of the iceberg.
Speaker 2 (10:57):
It's deeper, much deeper than that.
Speaker 3 (10:58):
It's much much deeper than that.
Speaker 4 (11:00):
And with this challenge that we were that we were
on it, it got kind of deep because I'm like,
there are things that I never thought about that could
be that it's self care, but nobody thinks about these things.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Trying a new hobby.
Speaker 4 (11:18):
That was what that was yesterday's right, So that was
that was good in itself, And I had to post
it in a way where there was two different things
going on at the same time, because I wanted to
show people that, yeah, you can be this in the.
Speaker 3 (11:37):
Background and in the forefront, but in the back you
may want to do something a little different, so you
come up with something else, you know what I mean.
So I just love the fact that, you know, these
self care challenges went deeper than just the norm love.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
I think for me, my favorite thus far is just
getting outside, taking a walk, becoming one with nature. And
I do grounding, so I love to go outside and
stick my feet in the ground. Yeah. I used to
have trees in my backyard, but I live in Louisiana
and so we have to get them trees cut down
because of hurricanes blessed right. But I have no problem
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hugging a tree. It centers you. It gives that magnetic
pull of the of the earth, right, calm your nervous system.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
Yes, yes, yes, it helps with.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
That that feel good drug what it's called endorphinsdorphins. Yep.
So I'm glad that Simone and Sierra and Miss Pam
and so many others that are on her team came
up with the Blossoming Brunch and the self prayer challenge
because we go through we do challenges all the time
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in our community. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (12:57):
Yeah, absolutely, because I have to. You always have to
be challenging yourself. Yes, because you need to be challenging yourself.
Speaker 3 (13:06):
You're going to stay stagnant, You're going to stay stuck,
and we need not to be being stuck. We need
to keep ourselves going.
Speaker 4 (13:16):
We need to always challenge ourselves so that not only
can we keep going in this thing called life, but in.
Speaker 3 (13:23):
Order for our self to elevate.
Speaker 2 (13:27):
That's what I was just about to say in order
to have any type of personal growth and elevation, you
have to challenge, challenge yourself.
Speaker 3 (13:37):
Got to I'm.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
Getting ready to challenge myself the whole month of uh.
I think I'm gonna do it in March. I really
think I'm gonna do it in March because I have
to get back on my juicing. I have not juiced
any this year and I feel lost without my juice.
Speaker 4 (13:53):
Oh boy, so we got to be on this challenge, girl.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
I think that you know what, I may do it
for the month of April because I just thought about it. Mark,
It's Carnival to Time here, it's Marty Gross season here. Yeah. Yeah,
we're gonna do it in April. Let's let's do it
for April. So if anybody is that's listening who would
like to be a part of the challenge, send an
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email to Kicking In with Kiki Media at gmail dot com.
Don't forget that there's no g on kicking I will
put that in the show notes so you can send
in your request. It is gonna be totally free. But
what we do is holding each other accountable. We have
like a community. We'll probably do some zooms or whatever
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just to tap in with each other to see how
you feeling, because these challenges can get hard, especially with
the juicing challenge, because if you're not drinking enough juice
or you know, getting enough nutrients or whatever, gonna be
Grupping's hail by day three.
Speaker 3 (14:55):
Oh yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
When we dig challenge to quit at the Day three.
Speaker 4 (15:01):
Girl, but the juice challenge with no with no food
at all.
Speaker 2 (15:08):
She did get We could do salads though, but it
was all raw food.
Speaker 3 (15:16):
There was no cook food soever, and like I had.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
That juice would have been nasty for Day three girl challenge.
Y'all need to tap into Lady Key. I don't know
when she's doing another challenge. She is on Instagram. I
will put her information in the show notes as well.
She is an amazing juice specialist, a juice therapist, juice ologists.
Speaker 4 (15:42):
She's all the three, all all the three is amazing.
So would like literally break things down for you where
it makes sense to you and make you understand or
help you to understand that the things that we on
a day.
Speaker 3 (16:00):
To day basis, it's not good for us. Some of
these things.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
Made my steps on the scale today at the doctor's office,
and I was like, Okay, Okay, Yeah, I mean not
only I'm juicing. I need to make sure that I
stay healthy and I'm not at a bad I'm not
nowhere on the borderline of being hurt for a harmful
for myself or my health.
Speaker 3 (16:25):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
And I think it's because you know, when you when
you are at peace and you're not stressed about anything,
you tend to you tend to have a little happy
way on you.
Speaker 3 (16:35):
Oh yeah, absolutely, absolutely, right Now, let's.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
Talk about it. Let's talk about the pivot that you've made.
Oh yes, tell the people.
Speaker 4 (16:51):
So it's actually an addition to what I've been doing.
I'm still the perspective coach. How I have recently became
certified as.
Speaker 3 (17:06):
A journal therapy coach. What does that mean? Oh so though,
thank you, thank you, thank you. What does that mean?
Speaker 4 (17:20):
That means everything that I do, any programs that I do,
any you know, one on one coaching that I do,
anything like that. It is always going to be rooted
in journaling. It's going to be rooted in journaling because,
first of all, that's what helped me on my journey
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because I was doing it not even knowing that I.
Speaker 3 (17:46):
Was doing it.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
Right, I've been man, I have so many journals. I
have journal I didn't, like you said, I didn't know it.
I wasn't using a journal though I would always be
the best has to have a notebook like notebook and
we went to the I could be at the grocery store.
I'm going to that now that has like the the
uh school private your school? Ye, can you just buy
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me this notebook?
Speaker 3 (18:13):
Yep?
Speaker 4 (18:13):
That and and we'll be happy campus with just the notebook.
Speaker 2 (18:18):
M hm. Ahead. I'm not not to cut you off,
but I just want to let you know that I'm
a Johnal girl too. Yes.
Speaker 4 (18:24):
Yes, there's so many times I go into like Family
Dollar or Dollar Try, and I cannot go in there
without going through the school supply section or the art sections,
just to see what they got going on. Because again,
I'm a very I'm very journal I'm very creative.
Speaker 3 (18:43):
I like to do a lot of creative stuff.
Speaker 4 (18:47):
But journals, I'm always getting a journal book or some
type of notebook because I know that for me it
is therapeutic mm hmm. And hence why it's a journal
therapy coach. Right, I love it because it is such
therapy for your mind, for your body, for your soul.
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Because if your mind is off kiltered, the rest of
your body is going to be off kiltered.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
Absolutely. So I know a couple of people who are
not into journaling. What can you say to these people?
Speaker 3 (19:23):
I just keep telling them, right, write it out.
Speaker 2 (19:27):
Because you try it, just try it, try it. You
may need got it.
Speaker 4 (19:34):
And there are guided journals. I have seven of them.
Speaker 2 (19:40):
You may have to have a prompt, a journal prompts
you might need to write.
Speaker 4 (19:44):
About exactly, and you could always Again, if you don't
have a guided journal, you can always go on Google Chat,
GPT whatever, put it in. Give me some journal prompts
mm hm, and they will it will give you journal
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prompts and you just take one of them and just
start writing.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
I don't even go a step further than that. Write
about how you're feeling.
Speaker 3 (20:15):
That part.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
That's plain and simple. You might get distracted, but allow
that say that I am I am writing, but I'm
thinking about cheese right now.
Speaker 3 (20:27):
Right.
Speaker 4 (20:32):
And what you're thinking, because you never know where that
first line is going to take you.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
Absolutely absolutely, because sometimes.
Speaker 4 (20:42):
It will take you from just the one sentence line.
Speaker 3 (20:45):
And even if you're like, I don't know what else
to write, write that.
Speaker 2 (20:51):
I don't know where to start.
Speaker 4 (20:53):
I don't know where to start write that, write anything,
because guess what, when you start to God will drop
the things in your heart that you need to write about.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
Absolutely literally.
Speaker 3 (21:07):
I love that somewhere.
Speaker 2 (21:09):
You have to start, You have to put forth in effort.
Speaker 4 (21:12):
That part, because once again, prayers without works is dead.
Speaker 2 (21:21):
Faith is there is dead anything in my life that
is not faith based. I don't really focus too much
on it because they don't have nothing to do with me.
I love God? What's wrong with What's wrong with you?
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Shout out of Erica Camel.
Speaker 3 (21:47):
We talk about this right.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
Here is probably gonna give a little, little little heavy
We're moving from the life to the love portion.
Speaker 3 (21:57):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
And I want to talk a little bit about friendship
versus sisterhood, because people can tell you all day long,
I love you sis, I call you sis, and then
ain't no substance behind it. It's just it sounds good,
right right, But right when it comes to love and friendship,
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how do you feel about the two those two words
in the same sentence, How would you describe them or
what should those characteristics look like?
Speaker 3 (22:33):
Hmmm?
Speaker 2 (22:35):
And I'll say your top three because we can talk
about this all day. I'm gonna do the top The
top three characteristics of a friend for you would be
what when it comes to love.
Speaker 3 (22:47):
First of all, they gotta have some type of faith.
Speaker 4 (22:53):
They have to have some type of faith, whether it's
a friend, whether it's a sister, whether it's a lover,
regardless to what. If you're going to be around me,
you have to have some type of faith in your
heart for yourself, for God, and know that God is
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not going to put nothing in front of you that
is not going to take you somewhere. But you have
to be grounded in some type of faith.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
I like that number two.
Speaker 3 (23:31):
Number two someone who is hot with themselves. What do
I mean?
Speaker 2 (23:44):
Hot?
Speaker 3 (23:46):
Honest, open, and transparent? Kay?
Speaker 4 (23:54):
Because those three things right there, hm hmm. It will
as long as you're doing it for yourself first.
Speaker 3 (24:08):
You can do that with.
Speaker 2 (24:09):
Anybody, anybody. It comes second nature. It becomes because and
we always say this, like if you go back and
listen to other episodes of the podcast or you have
been a listener of the podcast, you know that me
and Kim we have the coach's corner and we always
would say get hot, which is get hot, which that
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means be honest, open, and transparent with yourself, because if
you're not able to do that with yourself, you won't
be able to do that with anybody else.
Speaker 3 (24:38):
Anybody, it don't matter who they are. It don't matter
who they are, you would not be able to be open,
honest and transparent with them.
Speaker 2 (24:49):
Right Because I like that? I like it, you know
I like it. And then number three.
Speaker 3 (24:56):
And number surreeum.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
Hmmm.
Speaker 4 (25:01):
Number three, I will say, someone who is loving, loving,
and have.
Speaker 3 (25:18):
A heart of just love to share with people.
Speaker 2 (25:28):
I love that. I like that. I like My three
character reasons of a friend is integrity. Mm hmmm.
Speaker 3 (25:43):
That's a good one.
Speaker 2 (25:44):
You have to be compassionate mm hmmm. And we have
to be able to laugh together. Oh yes, I mean,
and I'll say those because at a point in my life,
the people that are in my life, God is that
I don't that's a given. I don't have to say.
That is a correct characteristic that I need, characteristic that
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I need in a friendship because everything that I do
is is centered around my love for God.
Speaker 3 (26:12):
So God correct.
Speaker 2 (26:14):
But but yeah, we have to be able to have
because I'm goofy. You already know we're.
Speaker 3 (26:19):
Gonna laugh once all the time.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
We're gonna play and we're gonna be real with each other.
Speaker 4 (26:24):
Absolutely, absolutely, yeah, because that's how we elevate, that's how
we roll.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
Yeah. I think for me those would be the top
the top three. You have to be and you have
to have integrity, yeah, definitely have to be compassionate mm hmm.
And then you what I said the last one one. Oh,
we have to be able to laugh laugh, you know,
he said, don't take, don't talk.
Speaker 3 (26:51):
And we both could be silly all the time, being
silly and.
Speaker 2 (26:56):
All the time, Oh my god, but laughter make.
Speaker 3 (27:03):
Laughter is medicine to the soul.
Speaker 4 (27:04):
And if you if you can't laugh, why why be
with you while we around you, because you just.
Speaker 3 (27:13):
Showing how grumpy you could be.
Speaker 2 (27:14):
We don't want I'm not doing that. I've been around
people who have made me sick to my stomach because
they were so uptight or they were so hypocritical that
I just didn't want to be around them. I'm an impath,
so I feel extremely heavy mm hmm. I can feel
you before you even get close to me. I can
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walk in the room and know who's having a good
day versus who's having a bad day, and it's like, Lord,
please put me on the side of the person that's
actually having a good day, because I don't want to
I don't want to get none of that that other
end right.
Speaker 4 (27:49):
Right, And sometimes God is gonna use you to help
those people see a brighter day too.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
And he used me every day every time I talk.
I talk to people all day every day, hence the podcast.
But I do that. That's my job too. So I
I have found myself hearing that back from people.
Speaker 3 (28:13):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
Your tone has calmed me all the way down because
I was so furious when I got on this phone.
Speaker 3 (28:21):
Yes, yes, and it is.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
I mean, how you say stuff matters.
Speaker 3 (28:26):
Yeah, it does.
Speaker 2 (28:28):
How you say matter. And I feel like another thing
that should go along with a characteristic of a friend
friend when it comes to love, should be open communication.
Speaker 3 (28:42):
That's it.
Speaker 4 (28:45):
You're not communicating with yourself. You can't communicate with nobody
else too.
Speaker 2 (28:49):
Yeah, but how can you call yourself a friend and
you can't talk to the person that you say that
you're friends.
Speaker 3 (28:55):
With because they can't talk to themselves.
Speaker 2 (28:59):
Yeah, but sometimes talking to yourself is insane. It's insane
for a minute, because we could talk, we could talk
to ourselves all day long. But if you don't have
like an outlet to somebody to speak back to you,
if you're not speaking to God and hearing from the
voice of God, that's one thing. But if you just
talking to yourself and you answer yourself and you you you,
you guess, go see somebody because that's normal.
Speaker 4 (29:23):
Listen, listen sometimes listen.
Speaker 3 (29:27):
I do it from time to time.
Speaker 2 (29:29):
I mean, but at some point we're gonna have some
type of social interaction.
Speaker 3 (29:35):
That is wealthy.
Speaker 2 (29:37):
Yeah, okay, So we talked about friendship and what friendship
versus sisterhood. Now, what would be your top three characteristics
or sisterhood. I believe that a sisterhood is deeper than
a friendship. Yeah, you need to have a friendship in
order to form that sisterhood. But for me, go ahead, God,
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I'm gonna write yours down and then I'm I'm gonna
tell you mine.
Speaker 4 (30:05):
I mean, my characteristics are the same as well. However,
I should be able to pick up a phone and say, yo, sis,
I really need you right now, you know what I mean,
and not feel no way that I'm you know, disturbing
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you or whatever the case is. Not feeling no way
because you making me feel some type of way like, oh,
like what you need now, or not even answering my
phone call at all, or not even texting me backstay
and oh, I'm gonna call you right back, you know,
like it's just a deeper connection to me if you're
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gonna be around me period. You still need to be
able to be hot with yourself. You still need to
be able to love, like you said, you need to
be able to laugh. You still need all of those characteristics,
all of those that we already discussed.
Speaker 3 (31:08):
We still need those to be around me. And you
have to have an open mind.
Speaker 4 (31:15):
To know that you We can make it. We can
make it further than where we are.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
Mm hmm. For me, I don't need you to be
jealous hearted.
Speaker 3 (31:30):
Oh, but that that goes without saying now.
Speaker 2 (31:34):
Sometimes you gotta say it because some people will say
that they're your sister and be looking at you like, uh, yeah,
you're telling me all this stuff that you want to do,
But I'm gonna pray that it don't happen.
Speaker 3 (31:44):
That's true too, mm hmm.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
But I need I need you to be I need
I need you to be you. You have to be
open enough to say I want my sister to win
and be okay with that so and be with that
jealous spirit, jealous hearted. I can't do that. And I
think for a sisterhood, in order for it to work
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and grow, you cannot have that type of mentality or mindset.
And you also have to love without limits mmmm, love
without expectations, love without compromise, and you are also you
also have to be able to give tough love.
Speaker 3 (32:31):
Yes, yes, like this mm hmm.
Speaker 2 (32:35):
You know what you did was wrong. I want you
to know that I saw you mm hmmm, it was wrong.
Mm hmm. Let's let's see how we can feel. Let's
and not be not be so judgmental and you know,
hypocritical putting your mouth on folks. I just, I just,
I don't, I don't have the time, nonsense, I don't.
Speaker 3 (32:59):
I call it.
Speaker 2 (33:01):
Yeah, is listening? Just type it in the comments. What
are your what are your characteristics of a friendship versus
a sisterhood? I would love to know, And if you
want to stay anonymous, just send the email and put
it down in the show notes. It will be there.
But I just wanted to tap in about sisterhood and
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versus friendship because you know, I feel like sometimes you
outgrow people and sometimes they outgrow you. And it's okay.
There's nothing that's there's nothing, no animosity. I want you
to win. We just ain't on the same team anymore.
Speaker 3 (33:37):
And that and it's okay because not everybody can go
with you.
Speaker 2 (33:43):
And you can't go with everybody.
Speaker 3 (33:45):
Let's you can't go with everybody. There are certain people
that are made in your life or brought into your
life for a season none okay, And when they are
in your life for that season, sometimes they will divert
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and y'all may not speak as much. Y'all might not
go and do the same things y'all were doing. Y'all
might have a time of or a season of being
a part.
Speaker 4 (34:18):
But then y'all may have a season where y'all come
back together because there is something in one of your
lives or both of your lives that y'all.
Speaker 3 (34:27):
Need to be together at that moment. It is okay,
It is okay to have those seasons. But you know that.
Speaker 4 (34:41):
God is only going to put the people in your
life that you need at that time.
Speaker 2 (34:46):
And that is how it's not If it's not from God,
I don't want it.
Speaker 3 (34:51):
I don't want it.
Speaker 2 (34:53):
Yeah, I don't want it. And I say and I
say that, and we all have been I mean, I'm
not perfect and I'm not trying to be. I God
knows my heart and and I you know, I'm I'm
real enough with myself to know that I am still human.
I'm gonna make mistakes, It's gonna have absolutely, But when
it comes to like you know, life, love and all
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that other you know what that we're talking about. Mm hmm,
some things that you just can't overlook. Like I need
my friends to be able to pray with me and
for me.
Speaker 3 (35:24):
And for me. I need them to pray, no, not
pray on me.
Speaker 2 (35:28):
Absolutely, I need them to sense and I and I'm
I'm i'mna put it out there. I'm spoiled. When my
friends got me spoiled, my family has me spoiled. So
if you're not willing and I'm not talking about in
a bad way, I'm not talking about you gotta buy
me stuff and be materialistic with time, yep, attention m
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praying for me and with me yep, and just you know,
saving space for me. Let me put it like that,
just making rooms. I need the people in my life
to make room for me as I make room for.
Speaker 3 (36:04):
Them, for them.
Speaker 2 (36:05):
And I'm not talking about we got to talk every day.
We ain't got to see each other. I have friends
that have been friends with since since elementary school. Tim
once or twice a year. Ain't nothing happened, yep yep.
Never had a falling out or anything anything.
Speaker 3 (36:22):
Yep yep.
Speaker 2 (36:24):
But I know that if I call, they there, if
they call me, they know that I'm there.
Speaker 3 (36:33):
That's right, that's right.
Speaker 2 (36:35):
Those are the type of friendships that I have and
that I want because I'm not a firm believer in
this no new friends, No new friends, because you might
miss out on some blessings saying that you don't want
to be open to new friendships. Asked for that discernment
mm hm, and keep it moving.
Speaker 3 (36:54):
That's it.
Speaker 4 (36:55):
If I had said that, like, I've been through some
friendships here, gay, I've been through some some rough friendships.
And how do I said, no new friends. You wouldn't
be together, you wouldn't know each other. I wouldn't know
the people that I know now that are close to
me right now, I wouldn't know them right and I
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wouldn't like when I tell you, these are my legit
friends my legit sisters.
Speaker 3 (37:27):
They know when something is wrong with me listen and
met them on social media.
Speaker 2 (37:33):
That's what I'm saying. And that's what I'm saying. It's
like you could tell you know that it's God, because
you know, I was coming from a doctor's appointment today
and one of one of one of my one of
my sisters just say, hey, just checking in on you.
Ain't heard from y'all?
Speaker 3 (37:46):
Love you right.
Speaker 2 (37:49):
Like that means so much to me to know that
I crossed somebody's mind enough for them to say, let
me just check in on Kiki. And I make a
point to do that. When God drop somebody in my spirit,
I make a point to reach out to them. If
I don't reach out, I'm sitting up a prayer for them.
Because sometimes we intervene on behalf of our friends and
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and stop some destruction from happening. Sometimes people intervene and
save us from.
Speaker 3 (38:17):
Going through some.
Speaker 2 (38:20):
Exactly. So I just wanted to tap in a little
bit about that. So we're gonna get into all the
other ship.
Speaker 3 (38:26):
Yes, let's do it.
Speaker 2 (38:28):
Like, what's what's going on with you? Man? I know
you you you you done, got you done? Become a
certified journal, you know, therapist, and you know you just
you done did some uh you know book new books
and all.
Speaker 3 (38:43):
Yeah, And I'm glad you brought up the new bugs.
Speaker 4 (38:46):
Because these are prayer journals that I actually created myself.
So I bought the I bought the actual notebooks and
I actually designed them myself. So the thing with this,
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I'm trying it out on an event that I'm gonna
be a part of this weekend, which just so happens
to be another self care event, you know what I mean.
So it came full circle with the challenge that we're doing,
the event that Kiki's having and the event that I
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am a part of, and they're all about self care.
It is called Gallatines, a pajama party.
Speaker 2 (39:38):
Nice.
Speaker 4 (39:39):
We're gonna have girls come in together, like minded individuals
and we're just gonna talk, have a good time, have
some food, have some bubbly.
Speaker 3 (39:51):
And just enjoy the night, you know. So it's gonna
be great.
Speaker 4 (39:56):
And I decided that I'm gonna create these prayer dream
so that, you know, just to give it a little something.
Speaker 3 (40:04):
So I'm gonna see how.
Speaker 4 (40:07):
The girls react to it, see how they're gonna do
with it.
Speaker 3 (40:10):
Before I put it out to the public.
Speaker 4 (40:14):
But you God, I enjoy creating them, so yeah, I
may do it anyways, but we want to see what
God says, you know exactly.
Speaker 3 (40:29):
I had a good time creating them, you know.
Speaker 2 (40:32):
Absolutely, and I love that. So tell the people that's
listening who would like to work with you, how they
can work with.
Speaker 4 (40:39):
Be Okay, So right now I take clarity calls where
we just have girl talk, have girl talk and just
let's let your thoughts fly, let your feelings fly. There's
no judgment, there's no judgment, and you know, I will
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help you to navigate through your feelings and help you
to navigate through your thoughts and you know, give you
some things, some strategies that you can be able to
take with you and continue, you know, and you know,
start your healing process or just start whatever it is
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making sense of.
Speaker 3 (41:27):
Maybe your life at this moment is maybe a chaotic,
you know, but you know, let let's come talk with me.
You can catch me on IG.
Speaker 4 (41:37):
I am I A am butterfly thoughts. I am butterfly
thoughts on IG or actually on all social media platforms,
so you can hit me up on anyone, hit me
in my DM.
Speaker 3 (41:52):
And let me know what you need.
Speaker 4 (41:54):
Also, you can get my books or any of my
seven journal or all of myself in journals on my
website Butterfly Thoughts l LC dot com Butterfly Thoughts LLC
dot com, and you scroll down and you'll see all
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my books there. I have something for everyone.
Speaker 2 (42:21):
I have.
Speaker 4 (42:23):
Journals where you, as adults, we can tap back into
our inner child. I have Gratitude Surrender where it will
help you and it has journal prompts in them just
to help you to.
Speaker 3 (42:36):
Know where to start right.
Speaker 4 (42:39):
And then I also have Affirmation coloring book for children
to help them to affirm themselves and especially if they're
being bullied, especially if they're being teased and all of
these things, because this is what happens in school, right,
and we need our children to affirm themselves and be
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ten toes.
Speaker 3 (43:04):
Down in who they they are. And if we can
get them to know understand that and know that from
a very young age, when they become our age, they're
not going to.
Speaker 4 (43:16):
Have to go through the things that we're going through
now exactly now learning how to affirm ourselves now, learning
how to be comfortable in our skin.
Speaker 3 (43:28):
So I'm trying, like.
Speaker 4 (43:30):
With this book I wanted to get the younger ones, like,
let's go there. You know, now, as adults, we have
to tap back into our inner child in order to
heal what we went through in our inner in our childhood, right,
so you know, let's let's start with the babies and
in the same time, let's you know, tap into that
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inner child and let us heal as well.
Speaker 2 (43:54):
Absolutely, I love that guys. All of her information would
be in the show notes, so you can tap in
with coach Kimmy b to see if she's a perfect
fit for you. All right, fit for you. I just
book a clarity call so you can figure out where
to start. When it comes to journal therapy, it works, y'all.
I've been doing it forever. I went on a healing
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journey four years ago, and without journaling, I probably wouldn't
be this version of myself because some of the things
that I've written, I had to go back and read
it and I was like, wow, you were in a
dark place that day. M hm, wow, dang you you
really you inspired me by reading this.
Speaker 3 (44:37):
You wrote this, yep.
Speaker 2 (44:40):
So, and then you can keep journal secret journals like
where you go in write something and throw it away yep.
Speaker 3 (44:48):
You know that.
Speaker 4 (44:49):
That's also another level of therapy, therapy in itself, because
sometimes you don't want to hold onto things, and I
get it. It's good to hold on to them though,
just so that once you come out of that space
and you do get that feeling of you wanted to
see where you will see where your mind is. You
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can see how much you have grown and how much
you have elevated from that place.
Speaker 3 (45:16):
So that's why it's good to know that.
Speaker 4 (45:18):
But if say, for instance, you want to you have
some malice in your heart for somebody, and you want
to get rid of that malice, right, you write, you write,
say you write a letter for that person, and but
you're not going to actually send it to that person.
You're still gonna write the letter, but now you can
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burn it because now you're gonna burn all your feelings.
Speaker 3 (45:42):
Towards that person, right, you know, burn.
Speaker 4 (45:46):
It, throw it in the trash, rip it up, throw
it down the toilet, flush it down the toilet. It's
all going away. So that that will definitely help in
those types of stuff situations.
Speaker 2 (46:01):
Right, Oh, I love that.
Speaker 3 (46:02):
M h, yeah, I love that.
Speaker 2 (46:06):
I love that. Well, Sis, This is always a pleasure,
is always a pleasure when you come through. Always any
last words you would like to speak on. We talked
about life, we talked about love. We just tapped into
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all that other shit just a little bit. But is
there anything else you want to speak about on those
three topics? That is the theme for this season's podcast.
Speaker 4 (46:35):
I just want to say, there's a lot of chaos
going on right now around us. Focus on self, Focus
on the things that you know you need to do,
and allow all that other noise to just go away.
Speaker 3 (46:56):
Do not focus on that extra noise because at the
end of the day, it is not gonna do us
no good.
Speaker 4 (47:04):
And when when you find yourself getting overwhelmed, pull out
the stop method.
Speaker 3 (47:11):
Trust me, it works. Stop everything around you. If you're
feeling overwhelmed, take a couple of deep breaths and let
your mind just go and then go into that observing
seeing what brought you to.
Speaker 4 (47:28):
That place, Write it down, journal it out. Ask yourself
that question, can I do anything about it? If the
answer is no, again pray and let it go. If
the answer is yes, make the plan. Pray on the plan,
proceed with the.
Speaker 2 (47:49):
Plan and know that God would provide you.
Speaker 3 (47:52):
And know that God yes, and it will be okay.
Everything is going to work out for your good.
Speaker 4 (48:04):
Absolutely believe in it and have trust in it and
have faith in it.
Speaker 2 (48:11):
Amen, listen, this has been another episode of kicking in
with Kiki, Life, love and all that. Yes, until next time,
make sure you just surround yourself with people who make
you feel good that part. Anybody who does not is
time to take an inventory because they may not. That
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season in your life may be over. I don't care
if family, friend, acquaintance, cowork, or anything. Sometimes it's time
to say goodbye.
Speaker 3 (48:45):
That's it.
Speaker 2 (48:47):
It's hard, but sometimes it's necessary in order for you
to elevate to the person that God has created you
to be. And it is okay to want better for yourself.
God did not put us here to be mediocre. God
did not put us here to have relationships that drain us,
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that make us feel bad. So at some point you
have to love yourself and care for yourself enough to
say enough is enough. I'm done. I love you, but
I'm gonna love you from a distance. Yeah, that's it,
all right, guys. We can talk about this all day long,
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but purple hugs. Until next time. You have been listening
to another episode of season eight Kick in In with
I Am Back with another episode on Thursdays at noon
since your standard time on all major podcasts streaming platforms,
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make sure you tap in love and light, peace and blessings.
Speaker 3 (49:54):
Later later peace, keep
Speaker 1 (50:06):
Them act
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