August 14, 2025 • 28 mins
Meet Co-hosts Jade and Simone of new podcast, Uncomfortable Situations. They are here to talk about how they started the podcast, the name behind, and the hot topic you are sure to enjoy during this episode with me today.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Welcome to Kicking and Wikiki.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Kicking it be ki Ki, kicking it the ki ki
for a little personality, switching up the storyline on God
we making the story and hooks chins one day at
the time, How much problems.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
To the side. Enjoy yourself, free your mind, kickin it
wi ki Ki.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
Hello again and welcome to another episode of Kicking and Wikiki, life,
love and all that other shit. I am your host,
Kiki Chanel, award winning author, thirty five mindset coach and
owner of nineteen lifestyle magazine. Today I am joined with
fellow podcast hosts co host Samone and Jade, and they
will be talking about their upcoming podcast. I'm super excited
(01:03):
to have podcasters on the podcast because that just gives you,
guys another avenue to listen, to connect, and to have
conversations that you normally wouldn't have before we dive into
all things podcasts. I would like to give these two
the opportunity to tell you who they are, and since
Simone is a veteran of the show, we'll let her
(01:26):
go first and then we'll get miss Jade to tell
us who she is and what she does.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
So go ahead, well, I am one half of the
hosting extraordinaries for Uncomfortable Situations, Simone Higginbotham. I also am
the owner of rebirth magazine Weekend Girls, which is a
lifestyle website. I'm a founder of Legend Awards VR, and
(01:50):
I guess a community advocate. I've been told that I'm
a curator of stories. I don't know how true that is,
but you know that's what I've heard. So that's me.
I'm a grammy sister uh unh just and I try
to be a very good friend to all those people
that I call a friends. So that's who Simone is.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
All right, And we have the newcomer to kicking it
with Kiki. Jay, go ahead and tell people who you
are the other half of Uncomfortable Situations.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
Hi, I am Jay Miller.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
I am the other half co host of Uncomfortable Situations,
and I'm a former service member and recruiter. Currently what
I do I consult, you know, people consult with me
on how to go to gardens. And I also handmade
you know, some fashionable statement jewel. I'm a daughter, I'm
a sister, I'm a cousin, I'm a niece.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
A few people who.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
Call me mom. You know, I love to embrace the
word motherhood. It's very important. But other than that, you know,
I'm a part of the community and I love being
a part of the metro.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
That comity absolutely well. Thank you for being here, Thank
you both for being here. And I want to dive
right into uncomfortable situations? Why the name? First and foremost,
how did you guys come up with the name uncomfortable situations?
Speaker 3 (03:16):
That's all Jade? Uh. I can't think the credit for that.
That's Jane. That was all j But when she said it,
I knew it was the right name.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
All right, Jane. Sometime know what birth? Uncomfortable situation?
Speaker 3 (03:31):
Okame?
Speaker 1 (03:32):
Can I guess?
Speaker 3 (03:33):
Said?
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Before? You know, I'm a former service member as well,
and I spent the number of years in the military
serving our great country that we live in. But in
the midst of me serving my country and everything, being
a human, I've experienced some I was standing uncomfortable situations.
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And I'll tell you those uncomfortable situations. My life should
have been a drama y a movie or something, you know,
or one thing about uncomfortable situations. They have to be addressed,
they have to be discussed. You know, people oftentime, like
to goal behind. Odie Kane said like this. Odie Kane
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said like that.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
I had two.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
Grandmothers who were very non traditional women, and whatever came
to their head came out of their moms. And much
respect to my grandmother's I learned from those strong women.
It's the reason why they addressed everything that was uncomfortable.
Anything that was uncomfortable. None of my grandmothers they were
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not sham of.
Speaker 3 (04:40):
Absolutely well.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
I love the name of uncomfortable situations because we've all
been there. I think that the audience can relate to
how uncomfortable those uncomfortable situations can get. And the fact
that you guys are bringing this platform to give some
people a voice or allowed them to shed some light
on comforable situations. Aside from you guys, you know, being
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advocates in the community and pillars of the community. Uh,
former service member, what can listeners expect from this dynamic
duo of Jade and Simon.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
We'll get to the point and get to the point.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Yeah, and I think, yeah, we are, we're a whole
lot of life. But then we're different and we're I
think what they will get most about is the real
honesty and no sugar coat anything. We will discussed things
that maybe some people want to talk about but maybe
afraid to talk about. We want to get that information
out there. You know, every situation is different, and most
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of them in the time that we live in now,
things are uncomfortable. Uh, we're literally I come from a
ja We come from a generation that we were told
not to talk about. Yeah, especially being running things that
we shouldn't discuss, things that may be you know, viewed
into society maybe unladylike we shouldn't you know, we shouldn't
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talk about. But I think, like you said, you put
things out on the table, and put things out there.
They have to be addressed, and we're just gonna address
some things that they wouldn't expect to be addressed. You know,
we may start off a little luke warm, but we're
gonna heat up toward the end.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
Absolute bit. I love it. What are some key messages
you guys wish a hope that the listeners gain by
tuning in too uncomfortable situation.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
Well, I want women to understand that, you know, for them,
women to embrace the atonomy. You're autonomy, you know, embrace
being independent. You know, don't worry about it. If you're single,
don't worry about it. If you man free, Embrace your
God given autonomy, your independent decision to be a woman,
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and your independent decision to not having to ask anybody
to do anything.
Speaker 3 (06:52):
You just do it.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
Take the money out the bank, do what you want
to do with your money out the bank. You don't
have to ask anybody. Embrace your time, embrace your independence.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
And you know, and I agree, absolutely agree with Jade
on that. And I want women also to be not
to be able to stand uh and just believe, you know,
have your own beliefs. It's okay to be different.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
You know.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
A lot of times women you feel like we have
to fit within this box or we have to fit
within this within these boundaries. Hey, color on the outside
of the lines, and you don't have to be on
the inside of the lines anymore. So I've learned in
the last couple of years, on probably the last four
and a half, that I have to live my length
the way I want to live it. I can't live
to make everybody. It's okay to make yourself happy, and
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you might make some people uncomfortable, make them unhappy, you know,
So to do that that's one of the things that's
my major thing for me personally. What I want to
bring the calls to the women that listen in.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
Okay, so I see you guys are targeting women as
your your targeted audience, right, So, do you guys have
anything for the men? Are y'all gonna discriminate and just
pour into the ladies or candom? Is this something that
the men can tune in too as well? Well?
Speaker 1 (08:04):
The men can tune in, you know, I agree, you know,
I agree they may learn something because it's a lot
that they don't know. And lately I've been hit with
quite a few questions from different men. Just in the
month of July.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
About four different men are like, why is.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
It that women are choosing to be alone?
Speaker 3 (08:25):
Now?
Speaker 1 (08:26):
I ain't never seen it like this before, when women
wan to be by themselves. I've heard that four times
in the month of July.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
What What was your answer?
Speaker 3 (08:38):
What did you tell them?
Speaker 1 (08:39):
I told them, you know, pretty much, I say women
are embracing themselves and say, you know, we're tired of being.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
Told what to do.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
You know sometime, you know, we gave y'all the upper
hand to lead us. You didn't take us to even
get a drink of water. You did not lead us
to get a drink of water, you know what I'm saying.
And how can the I you know, tell a woman
who knows how to manage her finances and everything. And then,
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by the way, while women get in with these men
who don't know how to manage finances, and she know
how to manage finances, and all he gonna.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
Do is use her to get him straight.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
Next thing, you know, he gonna be with the one
he can get who who had nothing to help him
field it up. And you know that this can go
on and on and on.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, what you have to say about it
to my own I know you said that they can
learn something.
Speaker 3 (09:32):
But the men that, as James, I think, men, a
lot of men don't really know what it's the essence
of a woman, you know, what it is, what our
true needs are, or they don't know how to find
out what our needs are, what our desires are. So
they think that, you know, they provide for you and
(09:54):
that's it. But it's so much more to that. A
lot of you know, men, you know that I've come across,
they don't they really, I just don't know. They just
know that a man is supposed to have a woman,
you know, but it's so much more of it, you know,
And a lot of us are beginning to find our
independence and they don't understand that we can be independent
and still if you choose, we so choose to be
in a relationship or be married, but we also meet
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our independence to an extent, and that doesn't separate us
from them, but we need that to feel for me
to feel complete or feel whole. So that's why I'm
at this point in life where I don't feel like
I have to have a husband. I don't think I
ever will have another husband. It's not on my to
do list, it's not on my bucket list. I've been married,
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you know. And I said over and over again, I
had a tragedy early in life. That's what I call it,
because that's what it was for me. It may not
have been that way for other women, but it was
that way for me. But I want people to understand, maybe,
you know, I know there are other women like me
that feel the way I feel, but a lot of
them are afraid. So I want men to know that
it doesn't make us any less of a woman because
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we don't want those typical are traditional relationships with a man,
but sometimes we just want to beat us. We want
to have a chance to grow to see who we are,
who we are from inside out, not outside in.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
Absolutely, that was beautiful, there was it was beautifully said.
I love that, and I love that you stand in
your truth. And for a lot of women, that probably
is an uncomfortable situation for them to talk about the
fact that you're comfortable not being married anymore.
Speaker 3 (11:28):
You And I'm gonna say this about other women. I
find that a lot of women have a tendency to
make women like myself feel like we are not that
something's wrong with me, you know, because I don't want
to be married. It's absolutely nothing wrong with me. You know,
I just don't want.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
To be married.
Speaker 3 (11:43):
I've been married. It's you know, I'm a firm believer
that that piece of paper doesn't validate a relationship for
me now with somebody. I can't tell anybody else what
the feeling and think, but I'm quite I know there
are other women that feel like I.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Do and they're afraid to say it.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
Yeah, to see and by other most times by other women,
not so much men.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Yeah, right, some other women can be some cutthroat behind that.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
Mm hmm, absolutely absolutely, But I love I love the
fact that you guys decided to do a podcast. Now,
you know, you could have done a radio show. You
could have just gone live on Facebook or Instagram. What
prompted the actual podcast? How did you say, day Simon, Hey,
let's just turn this into a podcast. How did that
all all happen? Well?
Speaker 1 (12:35):
Look, some all, okay, some of been knowing me. We've
been knowing each other for quite a while, right, and
you know, through different people around the community, and so
we've been Facebook friends for quite some time. So someon
been looking at some of the stuff I'll be posting
on Facebook, and yes, I talked just like both of
my grandmothers on Facebook, and so same was like, we
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need to get together and do a podcast, and that's
all of it.
Speaker 3 (13:08):
Yeah, yeah, looks it's been about a year ago. Almost
said yeah, yeah about it. Yes, here you know, and
started talking about together and here we are, and I'm
so excited. Look, I'm so excited about it.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
So I know that it's about to make his debut.
And before we get into that, to tell the listeners
how they can tune in and everything like that. I
want to ask a question, what has been an uncomfortable
situation of yours that has shaped your life thus far?
Speaker 1 (13:44):
Hmmm, I'll tell you my second of us is really
the stain, the catalysts and everything that gave me the motivation.
(14:04):
Not saying I didn't have a choice, but because always
I came into a marriage being an independent woman. But
this right here said don't do that again. So that's
why Simon and are a lot of light marriage for me.
Not doing that again, that's it.
Speaker 3 (14:24):
It's over with.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
Wow, that's shape that has that had a lot to do.
I look at ment in a different way because see
I learned to pay attention to certain things. Now I
know how to identify red flags. And now I don't mind,
you know, if I don't go out on no date
or anything, I'm happy. I'm I'm good with that. Yeah,
(14:48):
because I wasn't born with a twin and look, only
one person could fit in the casket anyway, You're right,
I'm for me.
Speaker 3 (15:00):
The most uncomfortable situation for me is the fact that
being in a company. You know, I was married young
and been the divorce going into in December to be
twenty twenty two, years in December. So I've been without
a husband for a long time, but I've been I've
had relationships, but I think the most uncomfortable thing for
(15:23):
me is the last relationship that I was in. You know,
gone ho about being married and I didn't. I made
it clear at the beginning it was not on my agenda.
And I think the most uncomfortable thing was being you know,
having to walk away from that because you know, I
don't want to be pressured, you know, every day, every
you know, that's what the conversation ends up. You know, why,
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what's wrong with you? What women wouldn't want to And
that was very uncomfortable for me. So I had to
cut times, I had to just walk completely away. It's
no being friends, none of that, because it just was
never going to end. It was that was, like recently,
the most uncomfortable situation for me.
Speaker 2 (16:01):
Oh wow, yeah, I believe that it would have been
very uncomfortable for me as well. I think the most
uncomfortable situation I have ever been in is realizing that
I need to stay out of my parents' business because
they had a lot of uncomfortable situations that happened that
we saw as kids, and they are still together married
(16:23):
almost fifty years, and what works for them doesn't work
for everybody, and they still genuinely love each other. They
decide to move past those uncomfortable situations. So I just
had to look and say, you know what, I just
need to mind my business because they love it. If
they like it, I love it.
Speaker 3 (16:42):
So to speak.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
Now, I said that they had so much going on
where if it was me, I probably wouldn't stay. But
it was just some of the dynamics in the relationship
I just wouldn't want for a relationship myself. Yeah, can
you guys share like a couple of topics that the
listeners can't expect to listen to are here? Uh? In
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the first season of Uncomfortable Situations, anything that stands out
to you.
Speaker 3 (17:08):
Guys, Uh, my favorite probably will be a huge woman
is dangerous? Yeah, I like that one.
Speaker 4 (17:20):
Yeah, you know that that that that that was like
the one for me because I think and I guess
I'm giving a little bit of the episode, but one
of the things we discussed with in that episode was
why a lot of men go after that woman that's
not healed?
Speaker 3 (17:40):
You know? And I see that a lot a lot.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
And guys, we're not we're not gonna we're not telling
about the episode.
Speaker 3 (17:51):
Uh you know, I'm just saying that's one of the things,
like you have to you have to tune in, and
we're about to tell.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
Y'all how y'all can tune in and all of the
show and things like that. But but what about you, Jay,
Like what what are what can can you name like
a topic that stands out to you that listeners can
be ready to like explore with you guys to join
in on the conversation.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
Oh, you know, things like marriage wants to go?
Speaker 3 (18:17):
But was it the prize?
Speaker 2 (18:20):
Oh? I can't wait for that one. I cannot wait
for that one. Mm hm wow like that? Okay, scratch
my scratch myself right there.
Speaker 3 (18:34):
Oh yeah, I like that And I like that.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
I tell all the tell the people of Kick It
Withakiki how they can become people of uncomfortable situations working
they tune in. I know that you guys are going
to be doing something amazing where where listeners can write
in like email to the show about topics and things
like that. I know you're gonna have some things that
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you're doing live, you know, to promote the show and
stuff like that. So you guys tell the listeners of
Kicking It with Kiki how they can become the listeners
of Uncomfortable Situations.
Speaker 3 (19:10):
Okay, So the first episode launches August fifth, six point
thirty pm, and it's be a Spreaker dot com or
they can go over to Rebirthmagazine dot com and it
will be a tab there to also to click and
listen in. But also Sunday evenings, Jada and I will
go live for about ten fifteen minutes and talk about
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you know some you know some topics. You can voice
your opinion via the live or be Facebook live if
you follow Jade or myself on social media, but uh,
we'll put it out there on social media. So Uncomfortable
Situations at gmail dot com. If you're interested in being
a guest, or you have a topic that you would
like to talk about, us to talk about something you'd
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like for us to make a lot of people uncomfortable about.
So that's Uncomfortable Situations at Gmail dot com. Uh, the
show will be the Streaker, which is s p R
E a k e R dot com or Rebirth Magazine
dot com. First show O SPIF six thirty p m.
Speaker 2 (20:11):
Absolutely, I love it. I love it and and and
I know that Spreaker does have like mass platform district
district distribute.
Speaker 3 (20:20):
Yeah, so we have an actual page on Streaker and
distributed to all of the all the you know platforms,
you know Google. iHeart I whole nine, right, absolutely anything
that you guys would like to share about.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
Uncomfortable situations thus far, Like how has the journey of
recording coming up with topics, research and all of that.
How has that been?
Speaker 1 (20:47):
We'll go ahead, Jay, It's been fun and humbling at
the same time. But they have to do is pay
attention to life. And uh we all snap think a
snap away from being in on situation, right, you know.
Speaker 3 (21:06):
And some of us create our situations, and that you know,
we create our own madness. And you know, some people
want a misory. But a few of my uncomfortable situations,
most of them, I've created them for myself. So I'm
trying to have to learn from that. And I'm hoping
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that this podcasts even can assist me in learning, you know,
how to like you said, red flags, how to embrace
situations and you know before they get to that uncomfortable
uh place.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
So yeah, and accountability too. You know, when we can
look at and say, well, hey, you know, I did
make mess for myself. That's growth and accountability also, right.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
Absolutely, anything that you can take ownership of knowing that
you did it, yeah, that is accountability and personal growth.
What can the new listeners expect when they tune in
for the first episode, like what makes the podcast spand
out for others in your opinion, Like, what can they
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expect when they tune into uncomfortable situations for the first time?
Speaker 3 (22:19):
I think because we have regular people, the ladies that
are our guests, they're regular everyday people that are relatable.
They're not women that are prominent women, they're not same
as women. They are regular everyday women that our listeners
can relate to. I think that's the first thing that
they will realize in listening that we just we just
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you know, just regular women, just everyday women that have
gone through life who experiences That's basically what I think
the first thing will be. You know, they'll saying, hey,
you know that lady's a lot like me, or I
know somebody like her. Somebody absolutely did that. You know
that's overcome that, you know that's in that right now,
in that situation, So relate that the relatability is one
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of the first things they'll get from it. And inclusion.
Speaker 1 (23:05):
You know, when we include, we get you know, knowing
who they are. The audiences, you know, with their feedback
and everything that will help us with that de generate
more inclusion.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
Yeah, I think any audience that feels included will become
like like regular show. You know, they're listening, they'll tell
their friends they're promoting things like that, because everybody want
to just feel like they're a part of something, and
they may not want to become a part of the
conversation on screen or you know, behind the mic, but
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them being in the comments, are sending the emails letting
you know, hey, I think you should talk about this topic.
Or I have a friend that went through this situation
and I let her listen to I told her about
your podcast. She listened to it and it actually gave
her some insight in revelation and now she's better from it.
So that's the I love. I love that that is
the essence of uncomfortable situations. And just to put it
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out there, Kikiki Media is the producer of the show.
So I'm so.
Speaker 3 (24:09):
Excited about that. Thank you guys for trusting the vision
to me, uh that I'm just waiting.
Speaker 2 (24:20):
Yes, I'm super excited about that. Anything else that you
guys would like to uh talk about as far as
like uncomfortable situations are concerned.
Speaker 3 (24:32):
I just want everybody just to tune in and support us,
you know, sharing, give us some feedback, email us, you know,
let us know what you're like, but you didn't like
we want honestly, we want to know what we're not right.
We could do things we shouldn't do. And you know,
even with the topics the topic, the topic has topics
(24:53):
have no limits. You know, we're not saying no to
yeah any because we want we want to be that
platform where people can voice their opinions or either it
can be a far far out, far left, far right,
but we want it all. We want to we want
to bring it all.
Speaker 1 (25:09):
And like Kekey saying, you know, people like to be
a part of something, you.
Speaker 3 (25:14):
Know, m hm mm hmm.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
Yeah. So I'm super excited. Tell the people again when
they can catch the first episode and the first live
because I know you be y'all, y'all gonna go live,
you know that Sunday before each episode airs. How often
will each episode air just pull the podcast and let
them know when they can expect to have a new
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episode of Uncomfortable Situation.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
So what we got every Tuesday, Every Tuesday at six
thirty pm.
Speaker 2 (25:46):
And then and the lives before them Live Days.
Speaker 3 (25:51):
Yeah, we got Linda at six thirty Yeah, okay, and
we're gonna be just you know, just talking about what
that Tuesday.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
Yeah, yep.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
So when you guys listen to this podcast, the first
episode of Uncomfortable Situations would have aired because Kicking the
Waikiki air on Thursday, their podcast air on Tuesday, so
you guys won't see this episode until the first episode
of Uncomfortable Situations is released. So I would love for
you to come back when you watch this show to
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voice your opinions, your your feedback and things of how
you enjoyed the show, what you think can be done
but more, or send an email to Uncomfortable Situations at
gmail dot com so we can be in the know.
Constructive criticism is necessary in the podcast industry because it
teaches us what the audience like dislike, and it helps
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us grow. So please do it respectfully because I think
all all three of us we will we will get
you together. If you come at us wrong for real,
believe that all in love? Though all in love, all
in love. But you guys have been listening to another
episode of Kicking Wikiki, Life, Love and all that other shit.
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I am your host, Kiki. I have been joined with
the co host of Uncomfortable Situations, Simone and Jaye. Make
sure you support these sisters in the endeavor that they
are on. It is going to be an amazing journey,
a freeing journey, an uncomfortable journey, but a necessary journey.
So make sure you tune in every Tuesday at six
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thirty pm on all major podcasts streaming platforms. We're gonna
be getting into some video for next season, so we
already thinking forward, so there will be another season before
this season even airs. That's just what we do. But
before we actually go any other comments, any words to
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the Kicking Wikiki listeners or anything like that about embracing
and going through the process of those uncomfortable cities situations.
Speaker 1 (28:02):
Get ready to get uncomfortable.
Speaker 3 (28:05):
Look, can you say, like my good friend Anita Tape
to say, all gas and no breaks, get ready I love.
Speaker 2 (28:13):
I love her? Yes, all gas, little breaks. Get ready
to be uncomfortable y'all hit it here here on, kick
it the WITHI, Kiki, life, love and all that other shit.
Until next time, you make sure that you prepare yourself
to be uncomfortable. There is no growth in being in comfort,
so in order to elevate, you have to go through
those uncomfortable situations. They are not always pretty, but they
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are necessary in order to empower yourself as well as
elevate yourself mind, body, and spirit. So next time, perfect
HUDs later
Welcome to Kicking and Wikiki.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Kicking it be ki Ki, kicking it the ki ki
for a little personality, switching up the storyline on God
we making the story and hooks chins one day at
the time, How much problems.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
To the side. Enjoy yourself, free your mind, kickin it
wi ki Ki.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
Hello again and welcome to another episode of Kicking and Wikiki, life,
love and all that other shit. I am your host,
Kiki Chanel, award winning author, thirty five mindset coach and
owner of nineteen lifestyle magazine. Today I am joined with
fellow podcast hosts co host Samone and Jade, and they
will be talking about their upcoming podcast. I'm super excited
(01:03):
to have podcasters on the podcast because that just gives you,
guys another avenue to listen, to connect, and to have
conversations that you normally wouldn't have before we dive into
all things podcasts. I would like to give these two
the opportunity to tell you who they are, and since
Simone is a veteran of the show, we'll let her
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go first and then we'll get miss Jade to tell
us who she is and what she does.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
So go ahead, well, I am one half of the
hosting extraordinaries for Uncomfortable Situations, Simone Higginbotham. I also am
the owner of rebirth magazine Weekend Girls, which is a
lifestyle website. I'm a founder of Legend Awards VR, and
(01:50):
I guess a community advocate. I've been told that I'm
a curator of stories. I don't know how true that is,
but you know that's what I've heard. So that's me.
I'm a grammy sister uh unh just and I try
to be a very good friend to all those people
that I call a friends. So that's who Simone is.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
All right, And we have the newcomer to kicking it
with Kiki. Jay, go ahead and tell people who you
are the other half of Uncomfortable Situations.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
Hi, I am Jay Miller.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
I am the other half co host of Uncomfortable Situations,
and I'm a former service member and recruiter. Currently what
I do I consult, you know, people consult with me
on how to go to gardens. And I also handmade
you know, some fashionable statement jewel. I'm a daughter, I'm
a sister, I'm a cousin, I'm a niece.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
A few people who.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
Call me mom. You know, I love to embrace the
word motherhood. It's very important. But other than that, you know,
I'm a part of the community and I love being
a part of the metro.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
That comity absolutely well. Thank you for being here, Thank
you both for being here. And I want to dive
right into uncomfortable situations? Why the name? First and foremost,
how did you guys come up with the name uncomfortable situations?
Speaker 3 (03:16):
That's all Jade? Uh. I can't think the credit for that.
That's Jane. That was all j But when she said it,
I knew it was the right name.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
All right, Jane. Sometime know what birth? Uncomfortable situation?
Speaker 3 (03:31):
Okame?
Speaker 1 (03:32):
Can I guess?
Speaker 3 (03:33):
Said?
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Before? You know, I'm a former service member as well,
and I spent the number of years in the military
serving our great country that we live in. But in
the midst of me serving my country and everything, being
a human, I've experienced some I was standing uncomfortable situations.
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And I'll tell you those uncomfortable situations. My life should
have been a drama y a movie or something, you know,
or one thing about uncomfortable situations. They have to be addressed,
they have to be discussed. You know, people oftentime, like
to goal behind. Odie Kane said like this. Odie Kane
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said like that.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
I had two.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
Grandmothers who were very non traditional women, and whatever came
to their head came out of their moms. And much
respect to my grandmother's I learned from those strong women.
It's the reason why they addressed everything that was uncomfortable.
Anything that was uncomfortable. None of my grandmothers they were
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not sham of.
Speaker 3 (04:40):
Absolutely well.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
I love the name of uncomfortable situations because we've all
been there. I think that the audience can relate to
how uncomfortable those uncomfortable situations can get. And the fact
that you guys are bringing this platform to give some
people a voice or allowed them to shed some light
on comforable situations. Aside from you guys, you know, being
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advocates in the community and pillars of the community. Uh,
former service member, what can listeners expect from this dynamic
duo of Jade and Simon.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
We'll get to the point and get to the point.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Yeah, and I think, yeah, we are, we're a whole
lot of life. But then we're different and we're I
think what they will get most about is the real
honesty and no sugar coat anything. We will discussed things
that maybe some people want to talk about but maybe
afraid to talk about. We want to get that information
out there. You know, every situation is different, and most
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of them in the time that we live in now,
things are uncomfortable. Uh, we're literally I come from a
ja We come from a generation that we were told
not to talk about. Yeah, especially being running things that
we shouldn't discuss, things that may be you know, viewed
into society maybe unladylike we shouldn't you know, we shouldn't
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talk about. But I think, like you said, you put
things out on the table, and put things out there.
They have to be addressed, and we're just gonna address
some things that they wouldn't expect to be addressed. You know,
we may start off a little luke warm, but we're
gonna heat up toward the end.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
Absolute bit. I love it. What are some key messages
you guys wish a hope that the listeners gain by
tuning in too uncomfortable situation.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
Well, I want women to understand that, you know, for them,
women to embrace the atonomy. You're autonomy, you know, embrace
being independent. You know, don't worry about it. If you're single,
don't worry about it. If you man free, Embrace your
God given autonomy, your independent decision to be a woman,
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and your independent decision to not having to ask anybody
to do anything.
Speaker 3 (06:52):
You just do it.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
Take the money out the bank, do what you want
to do with your money out the bank. You don't
have to ask anybody. Embrace your time, embrace your independence.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
And you know, and I agree, absolutely agree with Jade
on that. And I want women also to be not
to be able to stand uh and just believe, you know,
have your own beliefs. It's okay to be different.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
You know.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
A lot of times women you feel like we have
to fit within this box or we have to fit
within this within these boundaries. Hey, color on the outside
of the lines, and you don't have to be on
the inside of the lines anymore. So I've learned in
the last couple of years, on probably the last four
and a half, that I have to live my length
the way I want to live it. I can't live
to make everybody. It's okay to make yourself happy, and
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you might make some people uncomfortable, make them unhappy, you know,
So to do that that's one of the things that's
my major thing for me personally. What I want to
bring the calls to the women that listen in.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
Okay, so I see you guys are targeting women as
your your targeted audience, right, So, do you guys have
anything for the men? Are y'all gonna discriminate and just
pour into the ladies or candom? Is this something that
the men can tune in too as well? Well?
Speaker 1 (08:04):
The men can tune in, you know, I agree, you know,
I agree they may learn something because it's a lot
that they don't know. And lately I've been hit with
quite a few questions from different men. Just in the
month of July.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
About four different men are like, why is.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
It that women are choosing to be alone?
Speaker 3 (08:25):
Now?
Speaker 1 (08:26):
I ain't never seen it like this before, when women
wan to be by themselves. I've heard that four times
in the month of July.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
What What was your answer?
Speaker 3 (08:38):
What did you tell them?
Speaker 1 (08:39):
I told them, you know, pretty much, I say women
are embracing themselves and say, you know, we're tired of being.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
Told what to do.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
You know sometime, you know, we gave y'all the upper
hand to lead us. You didn't take us to even
get a drink of water. You did not lead us
to get a drink of water, you know what I'm saying.
And how can the I you know, tell a woman
who knows how to manage her finances and everything. And then,
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by the way, while women get in with these men
who don't know how to manage finances, and she know
how to manage finances, and all he gonna.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
Do is use her to get him straight.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
Next thing, you know, he gonna be with the one
he can get who who had nothing to help him
field it up. And you know that this can go
on and on and on.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, what you have to say about it
to my own I know you said that they can
learn something.
Speaker 3 (09:32):
But the men that, as James, I think, men, a
lot of men don't really know what it's the essence
of a woman, you know, what it is, what our
true needs are, or they don't know how to find
out what our needs are, what our desires are. So
they think that, you know, they provide for you and
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that's it. But it's so much more to that. A
lot of you know, men, you know that I've come across,
they don't they really, I just don't know. They just
know that a man is supposed to have a woman,
you know, but it's so much more of it, you know,
And a lot of us are beginning to find our
independence and they don't understand that we can be independent
and still if you choose, we so choose to be
in a relationship or be married, but we also meet
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our independence to an extent, and that doesn't separate us
from them, but we need that to feel for me
to feel complete or feel whole. So that's why I'm
at this point in life where I don't feel like
I have to have a husband. I don't think I
ever will have another husband. It's not on my to
do list, it's not on my bucket list. I've been married,
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you know. And I said over and over again, I
had a tragedy early in life. That's what I call it,
because that's what it was for me. It may not
have been that way for other women, but it was
that way for me. But I want people to understand, maybe,
you know, I know there are other women like me
that feel the way I feel, but a lot of
them are afraid. So I want men to know that
it doesn't make us any less of a woman because
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we don't want those typical are traditional relationships with a man,
but sometimes we just want to beat us. We want
to have a chance to grow to see who we are,
who we are from inside out, not outside in.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
Absolutely, that was beautiful, there was it was beautifully said.
I love that, and I love that you stand in
your truth. And for a lot of women, that probably
is an uncomfortable situation for them to talk about the
fact that you're comfortable not being married anymore.
Speaker 3 (11:28):
You And I'm gonna say this about other women. I
find that a lot of women have a tendency to
make women like myself feel like we are not that
something's wrong with me, you know, because I don't want
to be married. It's absolutely nothing wrong with me. You know,
I just don't want.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
To be married.
Speaker 3 (11:43):
I've been married. It's you know, I'm a firm believer
that that piece of paper doesn't validate a relationship for
me now with somebody. I can't tell anybody else what
the feeling and think, but I'm quite I know there
are other women that feel like I.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Do and they're afraid to say it.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
Yeah, to see and by other most times by other women,
not so much men.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Yeah, right, some other women can be some cutthroat behind that.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
Mm hmm, absolutely absolutely, But I love I love the
fact that you guys decided to do a podcast. Now,
you know, you could have done a radio show. You
could have just gone live on Facebook or Instagram. What
prompted the actual podcast? How did you say, day Simon, Hey,
let's just turn this into a podcast. How did that
all all happen? Well?
Speaker 1 (12:35):
Look, some all, okay, some of been knowing me. We've
been knowing each other for quite a while, right, and
you know, through different people around the community, and so
we've been Facebook friends for quite some time. So someon
been looking at some of the stuff I'll be posting
on Facebook, and yes, I talked just like both of
my grandmothers on Facebook, and so same was like, we
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need to get together and do a podcast, and that's
all of it.
Speaker 3 (13:08):
Yeah, yeah, looks it's been about a year ago. Almost
said yeah, yeah about it. Yes, here you know, and
started talking about together and here we are, and I'm
so excited. Look, I'm so excited about it.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
So I know that it's about to make his debut.
And before we get into that, to tell the listeners
how they can tune in and everything like that. I
want to ask a question, what has been an uncomfortable
situation of yours that has shaped your life thus far?
Speaker 1 (13:44):
Hmmm, I'll tell you my second of us is really
the stain, the catalysts and everything that gave me the motivation.
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Not saying I didn't have a choice, but because always
I came into a marriage being an independent woman. But
this right here said don't do that again. So that's
why Simon and are a lot of light marriage for me.
Not doing that again, that's it.
Speaker 3 (14:24):
It's over with.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
Wow, that's shape that has that had a lot to do.
I look at ment in a different way because see
I learned to pay attention to certain things. Now I
know how to identify red flags. And now I don't mind,
you know, if I don't go out on no date
or anything, I'm happy. I'm I'm good with that. Yeah,
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because I wasn't born with a twin and look, only
one person could fit in the casket anyway, You're right,
I'm for me.
Speaker 3 (15:00):
The most uncomfortable situation for me is the fact that
being in a company. You know, I was married young
and been the divorce going into in December to be
twenty twenty two, years in December. So I've been without
a husband for a long time, but I've been I've
had relationships, but I think the most uncomfortable thing for
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me is the last relationship that I was in. You know,
gone ho about being married and I didn't. I made
it clear at the beginning it was not on my agenda.
And I think the most uncomfortable thing was being you know,
having to walk away from that because you know, I
don't want to be pressured, you know, every day, every
you know, that's what the conversation ends up. You know, why,
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what's wrong with you? What women wouldn't want to And
that was very uncomfortable for me. So I had to
cut times, I had to just walk completely away. It's
no being friends, none of that, because it just was
never going to end. It was that was, like recently,
the most uncomfortable situation for me.
Speaker 2 (16:01):
Oh wow, yeah, I believe that it would have been
very uncomfortable for me as well. I think the most
uncomfortable situation I have ever been in is realizing that
I need to stay out of my parents' business because
they had a lot of uncomfortable situations that happened that
we saw as kids, and they are still together married
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almost fifty years, and what works for them doesn't work
for everybody, and they still genuinely love each other. They
decide to move past those uncomfortable situations. So I just
had to look and say, you know what, I just
need to mind my business because they love it. If
they like it, I love it.
Speaker 3 (16:42):
So to speak.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
Now, I said that they had so much going on
where if it was me, I probably wouldn't stay. But
it was just some of the dynamics in the relationship
I just wouldn't want for a relationship myself. Yeah, can
you guys share like a couple of topics that the
listeners can't expect to listen to are here? Uh? In
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the first season of Uncomfortable Situations, anything that stands out
to you.
Speaker 3 (17:08):
Guys, Uh, my favorite probably will be a huge woman
is dangerous? Yeah, I like that one.
Speaker 4 (17:20):
Yeah, you know that that that that that was like
the one for me because I think and I guess
I'm giving a little bit of the episode, but one
of the things we discussed with in that episode was
why a lot of men go after that woman that's
not healed?
Speaker 3 (17:40):
You know? And I see that a lot a lot.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
And guys, we're not we're not gonna we're not telling
about the episode.
Speaker 3 (17:51):
Uh you know, I'm just saying that's one of the things,
like you have to you have to tune in, and
we're about to tell.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
Y'all how y'all can tune in and all of the
show and things like that. But but what about you, Jay,
Like what what are what can can you name like
a topic that stands out to you that listeners can
be ready to like explore with you guys to join
in on the conversation.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
Oh, you know, things like marriage wants to go?
Speaker 3 (18:17):
But was it the prize?
Speaker 2 (18:20):
Oh? I can't wait for that one. I cannot wait
for that one. Mm hm wow like that? Okay, scratch
my scratch myself right there.
Speaker 3 (18:34):
Oh yeah, I like that And I like that.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
I tell all the tell the people of Kick It
Withakiki how they can become people of uncomfortable situations working
they tune in. I know that you guys are going
to be doing something amazing where where listeners can write
in like email to the show about topics and things
like that. I know you're gonna have some things that
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you're doing live, you know, to promote the show and
stuff like that. So you guys tell the listeners of
Kicking It with Kiki how they can become the listeners
of Uncomfortable Situations.
Speaker 3 (19:10):
Okay, So the first episode launches August fifth, six point
thirty pm, and it's be a Spreaker dot com or
they can go over to Rebirthmagazine dot com and it
will be a tab there to also to click and
listen in. But also Sunday evenings, Jada and I will
go live for about ten fifteen minutes and talk about
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you know some you know some topics. You can voice
your opinion via the live or be Facebook live if
you follow Jade or myself on social media, but uh,
we'll put it out there on social media. So Uncomfortable
Situations at gmail dot com. If you're interested in being
a guest, or you have a topic that you would
like to talk about, us to talk about something you'd
(19:52):
like for us to make a lot of people uncomfortable about.
So that's Uncomfortable Situations at Gmail dot com. Uh, the
show will be the Streaker, which is s p R
E a k e R dot com or Rebirth Magazine
dot com. First show O SPIF six thirty p m.
Speaker 2 (20:11):
Absolutely, I love it. I love it and and and
I know that Spreaker does have like mass platform district
district distribute.
Speaker 3 (20:20):
Yeah, so we have an actual page on Streaker and
distributed to all of the all the you know platforms,
you know Google. iHeart I whole nine, right, absolutely anything
that you guys would like to share about.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
Uncomfortable situations thus far, Like how has the journey of
recording coming up with topics, research and all of that.
How has that been?
Speaker 1 (20:47):
We'll go ahead, Jay, It's been fun and humbling at
the same time. But they have to do is pay
attention to life. And uh we all snap think a
snap away from being in on situation, right, you know.
Speaker 3 (21:06):
And some of us create our situations, and that you know,
we create our own madness. And you know, some people
want a misory. But a few of my uncomfortable situations,
most of them, I've created them for myself. So I'm
trying to have to learn from that. And I'm hoping
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that this podcasts even can assist me in learning, you know,
how to like you said, red flags, how to embrace
situations and you know before they get to that uncomfortable
uh place.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
So yeah, and accountability too. You know, when we can
look at and say, well, hey, you know, I did
make mess for myself. That's growth and accountability also, right.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
Absolutely, anything that you can take ownership of knowing that
you did it, yeah, that is accountability and personal growth.
What can the new listeners expect when they tune in
for the first episode, like what makes the podcast spand
out for others in your opinion, Like, what can they
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expect when they tune into uncomfortable situations for the first time?
Speaker 3 (22:19):
I think because we have regular people, the ladies that
are our guests, they're regular everyday people that are relatable.
They're not women that are prominent women, they're not same
as women. They are regular everyday women that our listeners
can relate to. I think that's the first thing that
they will realize in listening that we just we just
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you know, just regular women, just everyday women that have
gone through life who experiences That's basically what I think
the first thing will be. You know, they'll saying, hey,
you know that lady's a lot like me, or I
know somebody like her. Somebody absolutely did that. You know
that's overcome that, you know that's in that right now,
in that situation, So relate that the relatability is one
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of the first things they'll get from it. And inclusion.
Speaker 1 (23:05):
You know, when we include, we get you know, knowing
who they are. The audiences, you know, with their feedback
and everything that will help us with that de generate
more inclusion.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
Yeah, I think any audience that feels included will become
like like regular show. You know, they're listening, they'll tell
their friends they're promoting things like that, because everybody want
to just feel like they're a part of something, and
they may not want to become a part of the
conversation on screen or you know, behind the mic, but
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them being in the comments, are sending the emails letting
you know, hey, I think you should talk about this topic.
Or I have a friend that went through this situation
and I let her listen to I told her about
your podcast. She listened to it and it actually gave
her some insight in revelation and now she's better from it.
So that's the I love. I love that that is
the essence of uncomfortable situations. And just to put it
(24:05):
out there, Kikiki Media is the producer of the show.
So I'm so.
Speaker 3 (24:09):
Excited about that. Thank you guys for trusting the vision
to me, uh that I'm just waiting.
Speaker 2 (24:20):
Yes, I'm super excited about that. Anything else that you
guys would like to uh talk about as far as
like uncomfortable situations are concerned.
Speaker 3 (24:32):
I just want everybody just to tune in and support us,
you know, sharing, give us some feedback, email us, you know,
let us know what you're like, but you didn't like
we want honestly, we want to know what we're not right.
We could do things we shouldn't do. And you know,
even with the topics the topic, the topic has topics
(24:53):
have no limits. You know, we're not saying no to
yeah any because we want we want to be that
platform where people can voice their opinions or either it
can be a far far out, far left, far right,
but we want it all. We want to we want
to bring it all.
Speaker 1 (25:09):
And like Kekey saying, you know, people like to be
a part of something, you.
Speaker 3 (25:14):
Know, m hm mm hmm.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
Yeah. So I'm super excited. Tell the people again when
they can catch the first episode and the first live
because I know you be y'all, y'all gonna go live,
you know that Sunday before each episode airs. How often
will each episode air just pull the podcast and let
them know when they can expect to have a new
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episode of Uncomfortable Situation.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
So what we got every Tuesday, Every Tuesday at six
thirty pm.
Speaker 2 (25:46):
And then and the lives before them Live Days.
Speaker 3 (25:51):
Yeah, we got Linda at six thirty Yeah, okay, and
we're gonna be just you know, just talking about what
that Tuesday.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
Yeah, yep.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
So when you guys listen to this podcast, the first
episode of Uncomfortable Situations would have aired because Kicking the
Waikiki air on Thursday, their podcast air on Tuesday, so
you guys won't see this episode until the first episode
of Uncomfortable Situations is released. So I would love for
you to come back when you watch this show to
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voice your opinions, your your feedback and things of how
you enjoyed the show, what you think can be done
but more, or send an email to Uncomfortable Situations at
gmail dot com so we can be in the know.
Constructive criticism is necessary in the podcast industry because it
teaches us what the audience like dislike, and it helps
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us grow. So please do it respectfully because I think
all all three of us we will we will get
you together. If you come at us wrong for real,
believe that all in love? Though all in love, all
in love. But you guys have been listening to another
episode of Kicking Wikiki, Life, Love and all that other shit.
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I am your host, Kiki. I have been joined with
the co host of Uncomfortable Situations, Simone and Jaye. Make
sure you support these sisters in the endeavor that they
are on. It is going to be an amazing journey,
a freeing journey, an uncomfortable journey, but a necessary journey.
So make sure you tune in every Tuesday at six
(27:31):
thirty pm on all major podcasts streaming platforms. We're gonna
be getting into some video for next season, so we
already thinking forward, so there will be another season before
this season even airs. That's just what we do. But
before we actually go any other comments, any words to
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the Kicking Wikiki listeners or anything like that about embracing
and going through the process of those uncomfortable cities situations.
Speaker 1 (28:02):
Get ready to get uncomfortable.
Speaker 3 (28:05):
Look, can you say, like my good friend Anita Tape
to say, all gas and no breaks, get ready I love.
Speaker 2 (28:13):
I love her? Yes, all gas, little breaks. Get ready
to be uncomfortable y'all hit it here here on, kick
it the WITHI, Kiki, life, love and all that other shit.
Until next time, you make sure that you prepare yourself
to be uncomfortable. There is no growth in being in comfort,
so in order to elevate, you have to go through
those uncomfortable situations. They are not always pretty, but they
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are necessary in order to empower yourself as well as
elevate yourself mind, body, and spirit. So next time, perfect
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