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To those who once doubted us—we don’t hold grudges. We just keep showing up, growing, and proving that staying authentic always wins!
This episode is real, reflective, and rooted in love—not controversy!
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Speaker 2 (01:06):
What's up Everybody?
Speaker 1 (01:07):
This is Copency, Capsule Slash and Smiles a Lot with
another list talk me to LLS Audio Podcast and I
have my guest here yet again, my good buddy BRANDI
guitar Slash at Aviation Export three and four. We literally
did a podcast last night and guess what we're.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Doing another one tonight.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
Well, it's because we're gonna be doing a continuation about
relationships and talking to him and giving him my best
advice and just give him my overall and set about
relationships and things of that nature. And well, if we're
gonna be honest here to start things off now, we
were talking about how I was trying to give you
my advice of the night on how you can maybe
fix things with your ex, yes, and maybe think work
(01:44):
things out, But you sent me a screenshot that was
quite interesting.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
Yeah, So that just kind of like popped up out
of nowhere. So you know, like, have you ever had
one of those times where you're just scrolling through social
media and you're like, oh, look my extras profile page.
Not that I'm curious or whatever, you know, it's just
a matter of that that just popped up. And then
(02:08):
you see that little concept on there, you know, you
see that concept.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
On there in their bio.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
Yeah, exactly what they're referring to, you know, and especially
the fact that there's a picture of her and your
child together and you see that in your body.
Speaker 4 (02:22):
So that that kind of threw me off.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
Well her, like who makes a bio? I hate?
Speaker 4 (02:28):
Exactly right. I have so many questions starting with me.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Let me see, let me see the pace are getting
re quick, because I'm correct, it looked like she didn't
have any followers. So do you think there was just
a troll page that she that she made just to
make you.
Speaker 4 (02:43):
Be noticing, because I've been noticing a lot too, not.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
Only on on that specific social media, but other social media.
Sometimes she's known to like make up them from profiles,
fake profiles to like stall, harass and like.
Speaker 4 (02:58):
You know that type of stuff.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
So on six posts, zero follower was one following. Yeah,
so okay, so wait she's okay. So again, let me
put it this way. This is what I mean by again,
I'm not to throw her under the butts or make
her sound like a bad person or anything. But again
I'm not trying to attack her out of respect. But
this is what I meant by her manipulation, her toxicity,
(03:22):
and the things that she does to you to make
you be.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
The bad guy.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
So you're telling me that she made fake profile to
try to stalk you, and like, yeah, so you know
what this is, right, her trying to gain control of
a situation that doesn't need to be a situation, or
she's making it up in her head for it to
be a situation just so she can justify what she's doing. Well,
and that's not fair to you, so let me buthway.
(03:48):
So this is why she'd always be like, are you
out cheating on me? Are you talking to other girls?
Are you doing this? Or are you doing that? But the
funny thing is if you notice, whenever somebody accuses you
of that, first they usually to hide. Yet you were
now going on to the clubs when then you found
out that she was, so I bet you she was
probably making these other fake profiles, so like maybe check
(04:09):
up on you and stuff. But how could she check
up on you if she doesn't message you.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
I guess maybe just to see her updates, your updates
right exactly?
Speaker 4 (04:17):
And now, now, is that the only one I've caught?
Speaker 3 (04:20):
I've caught multiple other profiles too, throughout the day, throughout
the week, throughout the month, whatever you name it.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
Had she ever messaged you on any of them?
Speaker 4 (04:30):
Some of them yes, some of them yes.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
Okay, that's weird, Yes, some.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
Of yes, So here's the thing. If she was trying
to do that and she didn't want to get caught,
all she would have to do, like let's say, to
break up or fight or whatever, we're going to fight
and break up and then you block each other. The
only thing she would have to do is remake a
new profile or whatever and not maybe unless and here's
(04:55):
the thing, is your profile all that is the public
because you think if it's public.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
Even if you're not and apply private.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
Okay, let's say, because if it's public, if there's if
you're not friends, there's a chance he might to be
able to see updates. So the thing is that if
it were public, let me put this way, if I'm correct,
unless although some people love it to work, it's public,
but they can't see updates unless you are friends.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
I think I think you can do. There's a setting
for that.
Speaker 4 (05:18):
See. There's another thing too, is that I keep it
on prior because you know, my career is important.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
My career is a priority, and I gotta secure my
my my my lifestyle when it comes to my career,
which involves with which also consists of social media, you know,
restricting my accounts and stuff.
Speaker 4 (05:35):
Having a name change or like a hidden name on there.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
For example, instead of using my legal name, I use
a nickname that I don't tell anybody else unless God forbidden.
Those are really close to me, like you, or the
guys in my parents' restaurant or whatever.
Speaker 4 (05:51):
So like for example, or the guys I work with too,
you know, like.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
Nobody else knows information about me except those that I'm
actually affiliated closely with or that I work with. Sure, sure,
and yes, I keep my stuff on private too. It's
just just my friends list information posts, pictures and stuff,
status updates and stuff like that. You know, like I
I keep all that stuff restricted and I don't add
(06:21):
nobody I do not know unless I know them more
if there's a mutual between certain people that I.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
Know, so and so okay, so to me like no
offense or but that's creepy, that is weird. And here's
the thing, like again, just to this is another way
for again trying to gain some kind of control over
you and of a situation.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Like I said before, like that's and I.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
Should have learned my lesson from this because look in
my past, this is not the first time this has
happened to me too. Yeah, there's ongoing scenario that there's
ongoing what what? What's that word I'm looking for. It's
an ongoing thing, just like a reoccurrence. Yes, recurrence, it's
(07:07):
an ongoing recurrence. It's constantly happening over and over.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Again, from your at community college up till now.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
D's.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
And here's why I've always felt bad with you, for
you with the wind comes the women. But you're a
good guy. But it just seems like you have.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
That's the thing you have bad luck.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
You know, see, that's not the thing that they're all jealous.
I have my stuff together. I've got my priority straight.
Everybody else, who else do we know, does not have
the priority straight.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
Let me tell you for being honest. You know what
I usually try to keep I don't know.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
Here I'm going to give you a perfect example. I
try to keep things light. I try to keep things
as kind as I can. But you know what, at
this point, I'm just gonna be honest. More than half
the bullies that mess with me from middle school up
to high school up until, like you know, later on,
they let me this way, more than half them have
(08:12):
nothing going for them. And I'm not saying that makes
me happy. But then this shows you karma is a bitch.
You you wanted to sit there and be be douchebecs
to me every single day, every single day, even after.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
The day home.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
Bester checked this out, and I think you know the
story behind this. Oh my goodness, that.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
Was a big drug. I felt that I felt like
an earthquake in this rug.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Right, that was kind of cool, but okay, So that
once when my dad passed away, they had a wake,
like a little funeral thing for him. Right, I was
crying like crazy whatever. They were actually nice to me,
which surprised me, Like you know, all the people that
were assholes, they came up to me, they were give
me hugs, you know, saying like you know, sorry, you know,
(08:54):
sorry for loves being And then literally the next day
they were douchebecs to me all over again.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
Do you know.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
How hard it was, how how hard it was for
me not to take every ounce of my strength and
put their head through a locker that and let me way,
I didn't. I wanted to do it to show them
I'm that I'm better than them, but not like stupid
to the levels and like you know, like not in
a douchey way like oh, I'm better than you, So
I'm not gonna But what I meant what I mean
(09:22):
by that, it's like as much as they would have
deserved it. I see where the lives are now versus mine,
and I'm sorry, but I won that.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
I'm I'm winning. I'm I'm I'm winning. They they're they're losing.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
And again I'm not saying that to make saying like, oh, look,
I'm I'm that makes me happy or whatever. In a way,
I kind of feel bad that there the losers. But
that's what you get for being an asshole in your
whole life. That's what you give for peaking. That's what
you give for being a douchebag. That's what I'm sorry,
but that's what you get.
Speaker 4 (09:52):
I'll give you some frime examples to on my end.
Speaker 3 (09:56):
Look at everybody that I'm affiliated with or I was
affiliated with.
Speaker 4 (10:00):
Do they all have their priorities straight versus me?
Speaker 2 (10:04):
No?
Speaker 3 (10:04):
No?
Speaker 4 (10:04):
Do I have my priority straight?
Speaker 2 (10:06):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (10:06):
Yes? I have a good, steady earned career, yeah, great income?
Do they you know, no, where are they doing for income?
Well we know the answer to that.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
But probably working at McDonald's maybe.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Or if not, even that worst case scenario you know,
work in the streets.
Speaker 1 (10:22):
I fain thing or anyways, the trust they're all trust
fund babies. I want to live on their mommies, you know,
mommy and daddy's dollar. But then eventually when other mom
and dad are like, hey, you're like thirty five or forty,
can you get to my house and make it on
their own? They might give them a loan, but you know,
unless they set them up for like once they pass
away and they get their parents' money. Otherwise, like I
(10:43):
hope at some point these words parents need to realize
they need to kick their kids off for you know.
Speaker 3 (10:46):
Okay, but now now, now, now, now versus people over
there that I have in my past, versus my ex,
I'll be honest, I have a little more respect for
my AX than anyone else because my ex someone has
their priority straight.
Speaker 4 (11:00):
I will not. I will be honest about that.
Speaker 5 (11:02):
Okay, But does does that mean that I'm still gonna, like, uh,
go out of my way for her or or or
drop the ball of what I'm doing, you know, to.
Speaker 3 (11:15):
Try to make her happy or whatever or you know, like, no,
I'm not gonna do that stuff now, it's not worth it.
But yes I will admit that I do have some
respects for her though, for having her priorities though versus anyone.
Speaker 4 (11:28):
Else in my past.
Speaker 3 (11:29):
Okay, but you know what, that still doesn't bother me,
because karma can still be a bitch sometimes part of
my language and how they've treated me in the past.
You know, people we've affiliated with, they they fucked me over.
Now look what they're at right now. They got fucked over.
Did I get sucked over? No?
Speaker 4 (11:48):
But to my ex, did she fucked me over?
Speaker 3 (11:52):
Kind of Okay, And I'll be honest, I kind of well,
her and I we're just gonna.
Speaker 4 (11:59):
Leave it at that.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
But still still still I have my respects for her though,
because she she knows what she's doing at least, or
at least she's trying to, you know, get get her
priorities settled, versus all these other idiots over here.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
Yeah, exactly, No, I know what you mean. It's that way.
But the thing is that though you can respect that
she's doing that, but you again have to take into
account what she's doing to you on the side.
Speaker 4 (12:28):
Well, that's why I say I have some respects.
Speaker 3 (12:31):
Yeah, because at least she's trying to get her priorities straight.
I don't have all respects there, but I have some,
name me some them such as working and having income.
Speaker 4 (12:42):
That's one.
Speaker 3 (12:44):
Raising my kids that's another one, because if she wanted to,
she could just left them, like she could just throw
them under the bus and you know, done her own thing.
Speaker 4 (12:54):
But she's not like that. I'm not like that either.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
You know. I'm gonna do what I gotta do to
make some my kids are happy and have everything in
the world great.
Speaker 4 (13:03):
And she'll do the same thing too.
Speaker 3 (13:05):
That's what I respect about her by, you know, going
around making all these fake profiles and then saying bad
things about me.
Speaker 4 (13:13):
No, that's a whole other level of.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
Well, that's like I said, community you it's really sad
when I actually did go to college for a little bit,
I've come to that's why I had basically the same
relationship issues that.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
I had when we went to Merrimac.
Speaker 1 (13:31):
Rumors, you know, just pathings starting, people turning against me,
friends turning against me, my so called friends I thought
were my friends, and there turning against me. Some of
my friends trying to get with my exes or whatever
because I sickly wanted to be with them, you know, whatever,
it got weird. You know what I'm saying. Yeah, I
thought I had escaped that. I thought I'd escaped that drama,
but no, it came back to haunt me. When I
(13:51):
went to give into college. It was the weirdest thing.
Like I had all these friends, I had, all these
people who like been like I would hang out with
my bullet, and then I don't know where, everyone just
started turning against each other. And like you and I said,
it's like, it's like her going out a way to
do these things to be manipulting weird. It's like those
people in the past who would go to the to
(14:14):
the to the mall and talk shit on us and
think it would be so cool and trying to spread
it around merrimac or whatever. It's like, you guys are
a bunch of losers because the things that like, we
were already dealing with those other so called friends turning
against us. We were trying to protect ourselves from that, right,
But the problem is that like we had, other people
like still continue to continuing on why we're trying to
avoid these so called friends, and that didn't help help
(14:35):
help our case at all, because you know, then they
all banded together and they all started going to the
mall together and like hang out and be stocking them
the court and the food courts. Being a bunch of losers,
It's like, what do we do anyway? Look, I'm sorry,
Like I'm sorry, but I'm not sorry. Okay, Like I
not sorry at all.
Speaker 4 (14:50):
I have no remorse, so I'm not sorry.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
They really were going to say, this is because the
people this win just like you, Like, just like you said,
with your business and your things like that I said,
when we talk about security stuff, we don't talk about details.
We don't talk about what happens on the job. We
don't say we don't say names. If you've noticed, like
I haven't said where I work, I haven't I have.
I mean I might have said maybe once. But you know,
I don't think a lot of people listen to this podcast.
But whoever does, thank you very much. But what I'm
(15:16):
getting at is that I don't I don't divol certain things.
Speaker 2 (15:19):
And the thing is that, like the reason I have
such a clean channel is because I try to have
a clean channel.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
And I try to be non controversial. I don't talk
about politics. I don't go up to people in the media.
I don't I don't.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
I don't.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
I'm because you know, I don't want to be one
of these other negative people that you've seen your feet
all the time.
Speaker 2 (15:34):
But you know, but I can get.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
Real, I can get nitty, I can get gritty, but
you know, but I'm not gonna constantly be like that
because you know, I want I wanna still be this
lighter side of myself that or like be the guy
who makes the difference, like whether it's through a podcast,
advice video, food without post whatever, you know what I'm
saying anyway, But.
Speaker 3 (15:51):
Yeah, so like like I'll have some remorse, but I
won't have remorse for those that don't truly deserve it.
Speaker 4 (15:57):
But those that are like Ali's trying.
Speaker 3 (15:59):
To to do something with their lives or make an
impact of their lives, you know, I'll have remorse and
show a lot of respect for that.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
You know what, Here's the thing, I know what you mean.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
Forgiveness starts with somebody actually saying I'm sorry yes and then.
Speaker 2 (16:16):
Actually meaning it.
Speaker 4 (16:17):
But why do you also speak a louder no words too?
That's another thing you gotta think about it.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
I had such a crappy high school experience. People will say, oh,
did you ever go to any of the reunions. Did
you ever written? And did you ever go to Indy?
And I'm like, nope, did you ever go to this
banquet dinner? Nope, nope, nope, nope, nope. No why because
I had the worst four years of hell I went
through in my life.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
When I went to high school, it got bad. And
then on top of my dad getting.
Speaker 1 (16:46):
Sick and getting in front of a little dimension basically Alzheimer's,
and then me, you know, turning to drinking a little bit,
but then then know stopping it, but you know, also
like partying with my friends on top of it on
the weekends to kind of help masking. Now, I wasn't
an alcoholic, but I was getting pretty close, if we're
being honest, like so I was. I was kind of
getting I was dangerously getting the area of substance abuse
because I was dealing with them, and then I was
(17:07):
dealing with my dad's sickness and it was just, yeah,
it was.
Speaker 2 (17:10):
It was not a good time for me. It was,
if I'm being honest.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
But you gotta see it like this too, that I
was away from home for two years though yeah, true,
I was in home for two years.
Speaker 5 (17:21):
You know, I.
Speaker 3 (17:23):
During my final two years of high school, high school days,
I was not at home.
Speaker 4 (17:30):
When I was at the boarding school. I was in
the middle of the state. I mean, did I like it?
Speaker 2 (17:36):
No?
Speaker 4 (17:36):
But did I well or no, no, I'm sorry. Let
me phrase this. Did I enjoy it? Not so much?
Did I like it?
Speaker 2 (17:44):
Yeah? It was true.
Speaker 4 (17:45):
It's pretty nice.
Speaker 3 (17:46):
I've made learn I've had some learning experiences disciplininary disciplinary
education that there's so much that you.
Speaker 4 (18:00):
Have, there's so much to learn from it. But again though, like.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
You know, talk to good cornmorals right from wrong, how
to be a good person, not to be a jerk,
how to hold the door up in for women, how
to like base the basics of being a good person
is what it taught you. And and being like militant
tender decisions and having a good discipline, things like that.
And then that's what's probably drove you go to the
Missouri Military Academy and then possibly go in the military,
(18:29):
but you you didn't, which just fine, whatever, at least
you got the experience of like realizing like, maybe this
isn't for me, But at least I learned a lot
from doing this. You know what I'm saying so, yeah,
I know what you mean, Like mm hmm, man, I
just yeah, I hate it. And I know we've talked
(18:53):
about this all the time. It's just whenever your so
called friends show you the true culture and the true
character for who they are and then they're just fake,
and then you're like, wow, I thought I knew you,
but yeah, I don't know what.
Speaker 3 (19:03):
Yeah, but not only is in my eggs. You know,
there's other people that I thought I want to trust.
I'm not gonna point names out, but you know, again.
Speaker 4 (19:10):
I've gone through experiences like.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
It's like one of my ex best friends who have
supposedly no unquote unquote since sixth grade or whatever.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
I'm not gonna name who it was, but those have
know who I'm talking about.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
What I'm talking about basically me and him.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
Our nickname was rush Hour.
Speaker 1 (19:30):
Here's my tall you know, like funny, silly, you know
friend who was you know, African American, you know, me
being like the funny little Asian you know, guy who
did who did martial arts or whatever.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
And the way we got along whatever, but you know.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
He ended up showing me his true colors and I
didn't like it. And you know, there's a lot of
things that I forgave him for, but because of who
he was and the character there was too out of
respect for him, I'm not gonna say it.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
I'm not gonna give examples.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
I'm not gonna say what he did, and I'm not
I'm gonna talk about the time that he well, long
story short at the end, that's so one point actually
stole something from me and I forgave him for it.
But then but then he showed me again just like
who he really was, just with this attitude and the
way he talked to people, just the way he was
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handling his life and stuff like that. And then I
was like, I can't, I can't do this anymore. And
I didn't stop and I didn't stop talking to him
because he stole from me. I stopped talking to him
because of who he was as a character and as
a person. I know that sounds weird, but you would
think him stealing from me would be the material material
thing that make me know. I was like, because at
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the time I thought I knew his character. I thought
I knew you know, you know, like I forgave that.
But but here's the thing, Like, do I regret for
giving him for that. No, but do I regret giving
him another chance based on his character but not based
on the fact that they stole from me? Yes, yeah,
let me put this if that makes any sense, Like, yeah,
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what we're gonna say though trying to wish I could
give you examples of like like what he would do
with the step, but I don't want to be I
don't want to be mean and talking about him like that.
Speaker 3 (21:14):
You know. Let's get into more of a topic now
about Uh sure, so we're.
Speaker 4 (21:21):
Gonna change up the subject here a little bit.
Speaker 3 (21:23):
We I think we talked a little bit enough about
like relationships, relationships, friendships and stuff like that. Relationship the
subject a little bit, so let me ask you what
got you into podcasting? Because I'm actually been thinking about
doing something new with my life, maybe potentially chasing the
motivation for starting like a podcast channel or some type
(21:47):
or I don't know, just something to like ease up
my lifestyle and just like show my interests out.
Speaker 1 (21:55):
There, honestly listening to other podcasters, seeing other pece on
social media, whether they're marketing or just being themselves doing
the same thing that I'm that I'm pretty much doing.
But like also different. It's inspirational to me. I learn
a lot a lot from the podcast I listen to,
whether it's comedy or something else to do with sports,
(22:18):
or just people talking in general.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
Joe Rogan, I mean, I'm like, I'm.
Speaker 1 (22:21):
Actually listening to nesty classified podcast Survival Guy, and if
you remember NASTI Classified show, it's literally Moe's Net and
Cookie altogether on the podcast talking just reminiscing and it's
hilarious and I and I love it so but and honestly,
like this might sound funny, but like I feel like
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as much as only this way, it's quick, it's easy,
and it's fun. Whenever we're done here, A lot I
do is do a quick description and then put my
you know, whole business fuel on the bottom, and then
post and that's it. I mean usually I mean I
usually edit, but I usually don't. But I mean, I
just hosted as is and then that's it. Like I
don't have to edit it out to worry about, you know,
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looking anice or doing my hair, nothing like that. And
what I'm saying is that, you know, and it's kind
of cool because in a way, it's like I have
on radio show. Okay, you know, because I mean, think
about it. I'm on Spreaker, I'm on Apple Podcasts, I'm
on Spotify, and iHeart Radio.
Speaker 2 (23:25):
That's four different. That's four different you know.
Speaker 1 (23:30):
Social media channels that you know, it's like they're like, well,
I mean, iHeart radio. That is a radio. It's it's
it's it's it is radio station. Even though that technically
I think there's an actual radio. No, I think you
have to do with through the app anyway, what pardon me?
But yeah, no, it's kind of like that. And not
only that, but it's kind of like asking me, why
(23:52):
do you like to be on camera and do my
advice videos?
Speaker 2 (23:54):
Right?
Speaker 1 (23:55):
Well, in a way, it's kind of like, you know,
I'm into acting, right, so whenever I put my face
out there and my advice videos, in a way, I'm
kind of I'm kind of an actor. I'm doing my
and it's my own like series, kind of like my
own TV series in the way, even though it's not TV.
But I'm putting myself out there and me talking about
what I'm talking about, even though it might be a
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vice video that's coming off the top of my head
and from my heart.
Speaker 2 (24:20):
That's my script.
Speaker 1 (24:21):
Okay, how I do my hair, what I wear, that's
my outfit, that's my costume right right, you know, And
that was actually it's funny you say we were talking
about this because I was maybe thinking about at some
point showing a little bit of my acting skills, like
maybe coming up with the script and then like you know,
just like acting out a scene, whether it's like me
as myself or doing like an accent or that I
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know I can do well, or maybe like a funny voiceover,
maybe like a cartoon character, maybe something like you know,
like you they're like like like with some kind of
like you know, Irish action or just something fun or
just like like or maybe something like in the old school, like.
Speaker 2 (24:56):
There's the Brimstone.
Speaker 6 (25:00):
And you most forced this sort of to kill jack
Card this dragon, you.
Speaker 2 (25:06):
Know, something like that.
Speaker 1 (25:06):
You know, like it's like whoo, I got you know,
like you gotta fault there right now, I'm getting no,
but you know things like that, Like I mean, I
don't think that sounded too bad.
Speaker 3 (25:13):
You know.
Speaker 2 (25:13):
One thing is that I can do these things. It's
just like it's nothing.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
I don't want to market myself as an actor. But
just with my advice videos, this this podcasting, my food
for the post my workout videos, my martialist administration training videos,
and me posting my boxing videos. I like how marketing
myself already, and I think it's working pretty well. But
maybe if I added me, you know, doing some acting
stuff behind as well on top of it, maybe it
might Catchally I have a Hollywood executive versuthing maybe a
(25:42):
director and be like, who I like the way you
know what I'm saying, Like like like the way this
guy looks, like the way he sounds, because you never know,
like I might be what they're looking for. Okay, but anyway,
so the reason I do it is again all in
all is to make a par Okay, you know what.
I usually don't care, so whatever, but I'm saying this
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with emphasis. Okay, to make a fucking difference.
Speaker 2 (26:10):
That's it.
Speaker 1 (26:11):
Okay, if I become famous from the school. If I don't,
I don't give it. I don't care. I just want to.
I want to make people feel good. That's why it's
called Let's Talk me the LLC. I want to market
other people by talking to them, Like, do you know
how much I would love to get on a podcast
and do what I'm doing with you with like some
(26:31):
executives of something or CEO of some big big company whatever,
And I don't care if they they don't even have
to pay them your sponsor me, Like, I just want
to talk to them and get them like who are they?
How they get their start? Like what made them a millionaire?
Blah blah, Like that'd be so cool. But anyway, what
we're gonna.
Speaker 2 (26:46):
Ask me that what would you what would you.
Speaker 3 (26:51):
Rank your flight skills for podcasts and your top flight
your top five flight skills on podcasting, So it could
be anything, so like where are you're more.
Speaker 4 (27:05):
What are your.
Speaker 3 (27:07):
Top skills from from.
Speaker 4 (27:15):
Expert down to beginner? What would you drink them?
Speaker 3 (27:18):
In?
Speaker 2 (27:20):
Me personally, I want to say I'm intermediate because while
I do know I have a lot.
Speaker 1 (27:26):
Of great things to talk about, when the considering the
fact that I try to keep my channel semi clean
and non controversial things like that, it's none that the
worst against me. It's just like, I know there's a
lot of things out there in the world that I
could talk about, but again I don't want to because
everybody else is already and I don't want to, like,
why bring that negativity towards my channel even more They're like,
(27:48):
trust me, there's things out there that I see that
I want to talk about. But I want to say something,
but I'm like, there's no point. Plus I'm not involved
with it, So why should my opinion matter on something
I know nothing about out Because once you open that
door and put your foot in that door, getting into
other people ship that you don't know what ship about,
you're fucked.
Speaker 2 (28:08):
Burn Burn my friends.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
No, it's true, like you are in trouble, like you
like someone's gonna be like, I'm gonna knock you.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
Well what you just like, what would you say? Don't
go there? Just don't do it.
Speaker 1 (28:19):
I be name sorry. I feel like I'm intermediate. Sometimes
I feel like I do find things that like to
like run run out of things to talk about on
my slip over my words, I might say something silly
or dumb or I don't know, but intermediate, if I'm
meant something to you, I'm a new expert. Like I'm saying,
like we're recording from my phone, we're recording from my
(28:40):
microphones here, but it works and you know, but here's
the thing though, I would say my my my advantages
are I'm fast at at podcasting. I'm quick. I get
them out very quickly. When I'm doing solo podcasting, I
always find something really interesting online to look up a
research and then talk about and then give good feedback
in my own opinion about what I'm reading and things
(29:01):
like that. So what I'm saying is that what I'm
getting is that, like it's solo podcasting or doing podcasting
with you or whatever, it's just I think I'm good
at it because I'm.
Speaker 2 (29:13):
Not afraid to talk.
Speaker 1 (29:15):
I'm very extroverted, as you can tell, and I just
feel like I've got the voice. I can be a
voice of reason to make a change. Again, it all
comes back down to making a change.
Speaker 3 (29:26):
So when you're getting ready to go live, So this
this might be a little.
Speaker 4 (29:31):
Bit of a tricky question yourself. When you're getting way
to go live, do you have a.
Speaker 3 (29:36):
Script ready or know or do you just freelance your podcast?
Speaker 2 (29:41):
So right now we're freelancing.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
Okay, But it's actually funny to say that because well,
in most of my podcasts, especially solo ones, my favorite
thing to do is to look up a different subject
on something that I feel like i'm feeling like should
be talked about or maybe that others aren't talking about okay,
as in like I do a lot of psychological, mental
health or physical health things like that, you know, like
(30:02):
why working out is good, is good for you, Like
why you know I'm going to a therapist is good
for you. Why having self affirmations and self love for
yourself is good, Like why it's good to you know,
remember to be kind to others, you know, things like that.
So what I my favorite thing to do when it
comes to podcasting, especially solo podcasting, is that I'll look
up what a professional psychologist or doctor or whatever has
(30:25):
to say, sports physiciologist, what have you?
Speaker 2 (30:28):
Okay, and then I will read their article, and.
Speaker 1 (30:31):
As I'm reading it, I will then stop and then
I don't want to say necessarily dumbing it down, but
I would say, in my own way is I repeat
back in a way like what they're saying, or like
my own reflection like what they're saying. And the funny
thing is that more than half the time, as I'm
reading it or before, I really like as I'm talking,
I'll kind of say what's in the next in.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
The part of the next part.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
Of the article without even realizing I'm like, oh, hey,
I just kind of said this, But my main thing
is that I always trying to make everything come back
to a point, you know, So I'll be like, so
as I'm reading where I'll be like, okay, so you
see how this relates to point number one or when
it comes full circle things like so, but that that's
so that That's how I like to do my solo podcast.
(31:14):
So sometimes I'll read, I'll i'll read something, or I'll
just you know, give my own reflections about I'll just
talk in general.
Speaker 2 (31:22):
So no, it's not scripted.
Speaker 3 (31:24):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
And the funny thing is, neither are my advice videos.
They used to be at first, but literally every single
thing now that you see in my advice videos are
me just talking from the top of my head. And
like I said, my heart is not scripted at all whatsoever.
So you know, yeah, I guess you could say that
makes me feel good knowing that I've gotten good enough
(31:44):
at my craft to where I know I don't need
to have things be.
Speaker 2 (31:47):
Scripted, uh when it comes to that stuff.
Speaker 1 (31:49):
So you know, yeah, Okay, on a scale of one
to ten, what would you rate?
Speaker 4 (31:58):
Uh? How was I gonna ask at this point? On
a scale one.
Speaker 3 (32:12):
To ten, what would you rate video podcast saying versus
audio and why.
Speaker 1 (32:19):
Okay, so video is good if people want to see
your environment and what you're talking about. Who you're talking
to is seeing the face of who you're talking to.
And then audio is good because I mean there's a
audio you know, you can you know, have it the
phone in your pocket. You don't need to watch the
video just to hear what's going on or ever. I
wish I had the software to do both. I I mean,
(32:41):
technically I do, but every time we've tried it, it's
always can comes out wonky. One sounds good and then
one sounds really really bad. So I think I'd rather
just stick to audio for a while. But okay, so
video is good because it will reach an audience as well,
especially if you have a video and audio at the
same time. But I feel like, though I'm notice that
people tend to tune into audio more. So that's why
(33:05):
I try to stick to more audio, because I feel
like they'll get more downloads, more listens and more, you know,
just like trying to get my message.
Speaker 2 (33:12):
Out there across to the whole world or whatever. And
I've noticed that.
Speaker 1 (33:21):
I think I get more interactions with my podcast when
it comes to audio versus video.
Speaker 2 (33:26):
Don't get me wrong, I don't.
Speaker 1 (33:27):
We've done video podcasts before, I've done a podcast before,
but you know, they can take a while to edit,
especially like what the Yeah, I need to find a
way to see if I could do a little bit
of both, you know. But yeah, So what I'm saying
is that people podcast differently however they want to do it.
(33:47):
I will say I do like it whenever I see
some like somebody is saying something inspirational, it's like up
close on them, and then you see the captions whatever,
and you can tell that it is a podcast and
they're talking, but you can also tell them like, man, no,
we've I was like, you see the video of it.
So it kind of makes you want to listen to
the audio as well. But I don't really do reels
(34:08):
like that necessarily, you know what I'm saying. Well, as
you see, the way I do it is I'll do
I'll do a screens recording about like a for thirty
seconds of one of her podcasts from like Apple or whatever,
and then I'll post that on my stories and like
add it to my post or whatever, blah blah. So
then and then like what I like to is like
I like to go to like a real specific spot
where I feel like it sounds like really good or
(34:28):
like an or never, and then and then I'll do
like a thirty second recording of that, and then I'll
post that like along with my like and I was like, hey,
here's in my new podcast bubbla or whatever. So that's
how I do that. As a matter of fact, around
like almost a ten to fifth I remember I was
actually listening to a podcast from last night at work today.
In about like at ten minutes and fifty seconds, I
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said something like we said something like really profound together,
and I was like, ooh, whenever I do actually end
up posting, like making a post on the art or
podcast from last night, because I still have to do
a description or whatever, I was going to uh record
that and then put that in the recording because I
because we said something like that sounded like a really
like crisp.
Speaker 2 (35:08):
I was like, yeah, that sounds good, you know, but
so yeah, let me put it this way.
Speaker 1 (35:13):
I was maybe thinking, you know, you know, that's not
visual visual like us talking. I was maybe thinking at
one point just maybe screen recording, uh uh, like the
the whole podcast from from Apple right. So what I'm
saying is that the podcast would be playing on my
phone from Apple right.
Speaker 2 (35:34):
Okay, but I.
Speaker 1 (35:34):
Would be, but I would screen record the whole entire
thing and then I would post it. So even though
that's an audio podcast, technically it would be a video
as well, because like you, it would be it started
and you're looking at me like, huh. It's so if
you notice on my my story, which you've seen, like
especially when I dee end of the story, if you notice,
(35:55):
like you'll see like what looks like like the play
button the middle all that or whatever. If you notice,
like I'll hit play or whatever like and then I'll
play for thirty seconds, then I'll hit stop.
Speaker 4 (36:06):
Right.
Speaker 2 (36:06):
But that's a get.
Speaker 1 (36:07):
Engaged in the audience to make them like, oh, that's
sounded really profound.
Speaker 2 (36:09):
I want to see what this podcast is all about.
Speaker 1 (36:12):
Right, So since it's like a video, a thirty second
video of that, imagine if I maybe did.
Speaker 2 (36:17):
That for like the whole hour or thirty minutes or whatever.
Speaker 1 (36:21):
So that way they can get a video as well
to watch, you know what I'm saying. So in a
way they would get video and audio at the same time. Okay,
And the advantage of maybe doing that if they wanted
to maybe listening to the video. Part of it is
that because I'd be we're screened recording from you know,
or microphones or whatever, because the audio would sound good,
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the video quality would come out good as well, because
if we.
Speaker 2 (36:44):
Wouldn't be recording, you know.
Speaker 1 (36:45):
Trying to do an actual video from like my laptop,
like we would versus then you know, doing the software
on my phone, which sounds even better. So it would
be it would So the beginning is that if I
screen recorded the audio podcast from the screen recording and
then I posted it as a video podcast, people didn't
have the option to listen to the audio podcast and
(37:06):
the video podcast evening that the video would just would
be them listening to like just to just like like
uh a screenshot on my logo U of my lovego
pretty much, but it was still good than the option
to maybe watch a v video unquote I.
Speaker 2 (37:20):
I I you know, unquote unquote video. Yeah A yeah,
so okay, no.
Speaker 1 (37:28):
Uh any o the questions or seemed like you had
a yeah.
Speaker 4 (37:37):
How do you have any more you wanna discuss about?
Speaker 6 (37:39):
So alright, I guess all in all, Yeah, I guess
all in all, just.
Speaker 2 (38:00):
When it comes to.
Speaker 1 (38:04):
Being a good person and watching out for yourself and
protecting yourself and your family, you gotta do it smartly,
you know, like you were not trying to still figure
that out, whether that's from ex'es or bullies or people
in general. Don't don't be a jerk. Don't don't go
out of your way to be mean to others. Look,
(38:26):
we get mad, we get angry, we're not perfect, But
that doesn't mean you need to take that out in other.
Speaker 2 (38:32):
People or be that be that jerk that does that.
Speaker 1 (38:35):
Yeah, Like I said, man, this world is already mad,
mad and angry and mean and hate.
Speaker 2 (38:46):
And people hate on each other enough as it is,
trying to screw each other, no over enough as it is.
Speaker 1 (38:50):
It's like it just and me and it makes me
and it it hurts to say, and I don't like
it at all. To man, people are brave only Internet
speaking in which like you like, It's like cause people
can't post nothing something without somebody somebody just completely just
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cutting this person down like they know them.
Speaker 2 (39:12):
It's like, what's wrong with you?
Speaker 4 (39:13):
Oh yeah, no, I see that stuff all all the time.
Speaker 1 (39:16):
I just I don't get it man, Like it's a
I understand you're trying to get a rise out of somebody,
but why do it.
Speaker 2 (39:28):
In that capacity? In that way? It makes no sense,
like way to show everybody that during asshole.
Speaker 1 (39:33):
Like yeah, good luck with that, Like I f I fun,
I fun digging your whole way out of that hole.
Speaker 2 (39:39):
Like anyway, but.
Speaker 4 (39:44):
Yeah, I can't think anything else.
Speaker 1 (39:46):
Nah No, really look all in all man, Look, if
you wanna start talking to your podcast or whatever, you
don't have to do it exactly like me.
Speaker 2 (39:52):
You could do it however you want to shoot who knows?
Like you know, I do.
Speaker 7 (39:56):
Like it's a lot of psychologies like m work out
stuff and mental health stuff. Maybe you could do something
like where you look up you know, different recipes and
like you talk about like your restaurant life or like
you know again, like maybe if you wanted to do
talk about you know, security or being shared but without
being too divulgent or you know whatever, you know, so
(40:17):
you don't get yourself in trouble, you know, that could
help as well, or you know.
Speaker 1 (40:22):
Just maybe or maybe just keep us separate into your
own thing like I said, like I don't really I
don't talk about security outside of work really unless it's
with you. But I mean that's that's cool, that's fine
by me. But you know, like you know, my solo podcasting,
like okay, I might mention security every now and then
on that or maybe an advice video, but it's like
very quick and very brief, and like it's just like
a quick example.
Speaker 2 (40:43):
I don't like dwelling and I don't like talk talk
about it like how you and I talk about it,
you know what I'm saying, And.
Speaker 1 (40:48):
You know, because like I don't have a reason to really,
you know. And and the thing is that, like as
much as I love, you know, talking about with you,
and it's not that I had to have an issue
with it, I would rather keep media, you know, business
separate from my from my security stuff, you know, because
it's just it's not it's not that and when it
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does co mingle when we talk about it, I don't
feel like it's dangerous. I don't feel like it's bad.
I don't feel like it's a problem or an issue
or anything. But it's just like, you know, I just
don't want to take that risky, you know what I'm saying,
like getting in trouble whatever, blah, blah yeah, you know,
so like you know, like even though though we let
a few f bombs go and like you know, saying
(41:30):
the word like shit, you know, but get against it.
Like we're adults, you know what I'm saying, Like if
we let a few go, that's cool, but if we
don't make it a happen, you know, like if it
becomes a habit, then that's when it becomes an issue.
So like that's what I mean by like not just
in security, but just like protecting my my channel as
it is and trying to keep it as wholesome as
I can. But you know, sometimes you know when you're
(41:52):
I'm not saying you need to curse to get to
get an emphasis out, but if you're really feeling something,
then you know what I'm saying, Like.
Speaker 2 (42:01):
You know, like me saying those douchebags you.
Speaker 1 (42:03):
Know, like or or or uh or no no or
what I say that to make a a fucking difference,
That's what it is.
Speaker 2 (42:10):
Yeah, that I just wanna make a difference, and you know.
Speaker 6 (42:12):
Just.
Speaker 2 (42:15):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (42:16):
Man, anyway, So look, I'm sorry that you still love.
Speaker 2 (42:23):
No let me mind.
Speaker 1 (42:24):
Saying sorry, Well, let me rephrase that I thinks that's
about some mean I understand that you still in the
way love your ex and you wanna work things out
with her, And I'm sorry that she's doing all these
weird things, you know, all these different profiles and trying
to manipulate you and try to get the better of
you and anyway, and it sounds like she's still kind
(42:45):
of acting how she used to. But I guess kudos
to her are good for her for you know, moving
the good things that yeah, she does. But I think
most important thing for you to do is to find
them balance of what do you want, like like what
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do you want out of her?
Speaker 2 (43:06):
What do you want out of the kids?
Speaker 1 (43:07):
What do you want out of the Because the thing
is that you can keep trying and trying, but you
just gotta make sure she's not she doesn't continue this
path of destruction, Like even though you know that she's
showing you she's trying to change a little bit, you
just also need to protect yourself mentally and don't let
her pull the wall over your eyes of like you know,
(43:28):
or don't don't let her let that mask what she's
done in the past, like let me put this away.
You might be able to forgive some things, and I
totally get that, but just don't forget what she's done too.
Speaker 2 (43:48):
Oh yeah, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (43:49):
Yeah, so I guess to end things off, Just be careful.
I care about you. I worry about you. Don't don't
don't let her get you mad and angry where you
do or say something dumb or stupid or you know,
don't let her like get get to your head to
where you do something permanent and you're no longer with us,
if you know what I'm saying. I don't want to
(44:10):
say the ES word on here, but what I'm saying
is I just don't. Don't let her take advantage of
the good character that you are because as soon as
you do that, guess what she wins.
Speaker 2 (44:20):
Yes, she won. Funny thing, I'm winning right now.
Speaker 1 (44:24):
But I don't have to take revenge on any of
the douchebacks dealt with back in the day. I didn't
lift a finger out and do nothing. And look where
I'm at and look where they're at. Like we were saying,
don't let her win. Right, forgive her for the things
that she's doing well and gotten better, but do not,
(44:45):
for the love of God, let her fucking win.
Speaker 2 (44:50):
Don't. I'm sorry. I'm sorry, but I'm not sorry.
Speaker 1 (44:52):
If you want the honest her shoe that as your
as your buddy, like tough love, don't let her win
because as soon as you do, you're gonna you're you think,
do you think you're maybe.
Speaker 2 (45:01):
Going in a spiral now? It's yeah, that's just my
best advice. Anyway, Guys, this is podcast got real world.
The fuck? Do you feel better though? Getting chest? See?
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Give me a high five. That's what I'm here for
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is why I do this business like this, because I
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I know.
Speaker 2 (45:32):
I try to keep a clean channel or whatever as
much as I can.
Speaker 1 (45:35):
But like I said, sometimes I'm not saying that you
use cursing has an excuse to put emphasis on things,
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Speaker 2 (01:06):
What's up Everybody?
Speaker 1 (01:07):
This is Copency, Capsule Slash and Smiles a Lot with
another list talk me to LLS Audio Podcast and I
have my guest here yet again, my good buddy BRANDI
guitar Slash at Aviation Export three and four. We literally
did a podcast last night and guess what we're.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Doing another one tonight.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
Well, it's because we're gonna be doing a continuation about
relationships and talking to him and giving him my best
advice and just give him my overall and set about
relationships and things of that nature. And well, if we're
gonna be honest here to start things off now, we
were talking about how I was trying to give you
my advice of the night on how you can maybe
fix things with your ex, yes, and maybe think work
(01:44):
things out, But you sent me a screenshot that was
quite interesting.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
Yeah, So that just kind of like popped up out
of nowhere. So you know, like, have you ever had
one of those times where you're just scrolling through social
media and you're like, oh, look my extras profile page.
Not that I'm curious or whatever, you know, it's just
a matter of that that just popped up. And then
(02:08):
you see that little concept on there, you know, you
see that concept.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
On there in their bio.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
Yeah, exactly what they're referring to, you know, and especially
the fact that there's a picture of her and your
child together and you see that in your body.
Speaker 4 (02:22):
So that that kind of threw me off.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
Well her, like who makes a bio? I hate?
Speaker 4 (02:28):
Exactly right. I have so many questions starting with me.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Let me see, let me see the pace are getting
re quick, because I'm correct, it looked like she didn't
have any followers. So do you think there was just
a troll page that she that she made just to
make you.
Speaker 4 (02:43):
Be noticing, because I've been noticing a lot too, not.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
Only on on that specific social media, but other social media.
Sometimes she's known to like make up them from profiles,
fake profiles to like stall, harass and like.
Speaker 4 (02:58):
You know that type of stuff.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
So on six posts, zero follower was one following. Yeah,
so okay, so wait she's okay. So again, let me
put it this way. This is what I mean by again,
I'm not to throw her under the butts or make
her sound like a bad person or anything. But again
I'm not trying to attack her out of respect. But
this is what I meant by her manipulation, her toxicity,
(03:22):
and the things that she does to you to make
you be.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
The bad guy.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
So you're telling me that she made fake profile to
try to stalk you, and like, yeah, so you know
what this is, right, her trying to gain control of
a situation that doesn't need to be a situation, or
she's making it up in her head for it to
be a situation just so she can justify what she's doing. Well,
and that's not fair to you, so let me buthway.
(03:48):
So this is why she'd always be like, are you
out cheating on me? Are you talking to other girls?
Are you doing this? Or are you doing that? But the
funny thing is if you notice, whenever somebody accuses you
of that, first they usually to hide. Yet you were
now going on to the clubs when then you found
out that she was, so I bet you she was
probably making these other fake profiles, so like maybe check
(04:09):
up on you and stuff. But how could she check
up on you if she doesn't message you.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
I guess maybe just to see her updates, your updates
right exactly?
Speaker 4 (04:17):
And now, now, is that the only one I've caught?
Speaker 3 (04:20):
I've caught multiple other profiles too, throughout the day, throughout
the week, throughout the month, whatever you name it.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
Had she ever messaged you on any of them?
Speaker 4 (04:30):
Some of them yes, some of them yes.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
Okay, that's weird, Yes, some.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
Of yes, So here's the thing. If she was trying
to do that and she didn't want to get caught,
all she would have to do, like let's say, to
break up or fight or whatever, we're going to fight
and break up and then you block each other. The
only thing she would have to do is remake a
new profile or whatever and not maybe unless and here's
(04:55):
the thing, is your profile all that is the public
because you think if it's public.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
Even if you're not and apply private.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
Okay, let's say, because if it's public, if there's if
you're not friends, there's a chance he might to be
able to see updates. So the thing is that if
it were public, let me put this way, if I'm correct,
unless although some people love it to work, it's public,
but they can't see updates unless you are friends.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
I think I think you can do. There's a setting
for that.
Speaker 4 (05:18):
See. There's another thing too, is that I keep it
on prior because you know, my career is important.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
My career is a priority, and I gotta secure my
my my my lifestyle when it comes to my career,
which involves with which also consists of social media, you know,
restricting my accounts and stuff.
Speaker 4 (05:35):
Having a name change or like a hidden name on there.
Speaker 3 (05:38):
For example, instead of using my legal name, I use
a nickname that I don't tell anybody else unless God forbidden.
Those are really close to me, like you, or the
guys in my parents' restaurant or whatever.
Speaker 4 (05:51):
So like for example, or the guys I work with too,
you know, like.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
Nobody else knows information about me except those that I'm
actually affiliated closely with or that I work with. Sure, sure,
and yes, I keep my stuff on private too. It's
just just my friends list information posts, pictures and stuff,
status updates and stuff like that. You know, like I
I keep all that stuff restricted and I don't add
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nobody I do not know unless I know them more
if there's a mutual between certain people that I.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
Know, so and so okay, so to me like no
offense or but that's creepy, that is weird. And here's
the thing, like again, just to this is another way
for again trying to gain some kind of control over
you and of a situation.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Like I said before, like that's and I.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
Should have learned my lesson from this because look in
my past, this is not the first time this has
happened to me too. Yeah, there's ongoing scenario that there's
ongoing what what? What's that word I'm looking for. It's
an ongoing thing, just like a reoccurrence. Yes, recurrence, it's
(07:07):
an ongoing recurrence. It's constantly happening over and over.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Again, from your at community college up till now.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
D's.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
And here's why I've always felt bad with you, for
you with the wind comes the women. But you're a
good guy. But it just seems like you have.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
That's the thing you have bad luck.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
You know, see, that's not the thing that they're all jealous.
I have my stuff together. I've got my priority straight.
Everybody else, who else do we know, does not have
the priority straight.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
Let me tell you for being honest. You know what
I usually try to keep I don't know.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
Here I'm going to give you a perfect example. I
try to keep things light. I try to keep things
as kind as I can. But you know what, at
this point, I'm just gonna be honest. More than half
the bullies that mess with me from middle school up
to high school up until, like you know, later on,
they let me this way, more than half them have
(08:12):
nothing going for them. And I'm not saying that makes
me happy. But then this shows you karma is a bitch.
You you wanted to sit there and be be douchebecs
to me every single day, every single day, even after.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
The day home.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
Bester checked this out, and I think you know the
story behind this. Oh my goodness, that.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
Was a big drug. I felt that I felt like
an earthquake in this rug.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Right, that was kind of cool, but okay, So that
once when my dad passed away, they had a wake,
like a little funeral thing for him. Right, I was
crying like crazy whatever. They were actually nice to me,
which surprised me, Like you know, all the people that
were assholes, they came up to me, they were give
me hugs, you know, saying like you know, sorry, you know,
(08:54):
sorry for loves being And then literally the next day
they were douchebecs to me all over again.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
Do you know.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
How hard it was, how how hard it was for
me not to take every ounce of my strength and
put their head through a locker that and let me way,
I didn't. I wanted to do it to show them
I'm that I'm better than them, but not like stupid
to the levels and like you know, like not in
a douchey way like oh, I'm better than you, So
I'm not gonna But what I meant what I mean
(09:22):
by that, it's like as much as they would have
deserved it. I see where the lives are now versus mine,
and I'm sorry, but I won that.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
I'm I'm winning. I'm I'm I'm winning. They they're they're losing.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
And again I'm not saying that to make saying like, oh, look,
I'm I'm that makes me happy or whatever. In a way,
I kind of feel bad that there the losers. But
that's what you get for being an asshole in your
whole life. That's what you give for peaking. That's what
you give for being a douchebag. That's what I'm sorry,
but that's what you get.
Speaker 4 (09:52):
I'll give you some frime examples to on my end.
Speaker 3 (09:56):
Look at everybody that I'm affiliated with or I was
affiliated with.
Speaker 4 (10:00):
Do they all have their priorities straight versus me?
Speaker 2 (10:04):
No?
Speaker 3 (10:04):
No?
Speaker 4 (10:04):
Do I have my priority straight?
Speaker 2 (10:06):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (10:06):
Yes? I have a good, steady earned career, yeah, great income?
Do they you know, no, where are they doing for income?
Well we know the answer to that.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
But probably working at McDonald's maybe.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Or if not, even that worst case scenario you know,
work in the streets.
Speaker 1 (10:22):
I fain thing or anyways, the trust they're all trust
fund babies. I want to live on their mommies, you know,
mommy and daddy's dollar. But then eventually when other mom
and dad are like, hey, you're like thirty five or forty,
can you get to my house and make it on
their own? They might give them a loan, but you know,
unless they set them up for like once they pass
away and they get their parents' money. Otherwise, like I
(10:43):
hope at some point these words parents need to realize
they need to kick their kids off for you know.
Speaker 3 (10:46):
Okay, but now now, now, now, now versus people over
there that I have in my past, versus my ex,
I'll be honest, I have a little more respect for
my AX than anyone else because my ex someone has
their priority straight.
Speaker 4 (11:00):
I will not. I will be honest about that.
Speaker 5 (11:02):
Okay, But does does that mean that I'm still gonna, like, uh,
go out of my way for her or or or
drop the ball of what I'm doing, you know, to.
Speaker 3 (11:15):
Try to make her happy or whatever or you know, like, no,
I'm not gonna do that stuff now, it's not worth it.
But yes I will admit that I do have some
respects for her though, for having her priorities though versus anyone.
Speaker 4 (11:28):
Else in my past.
Speaker 3 (11:29):
Okay, but you know what, that still doesn't bother me,
because karma can still be a bitch sometimes part of
my language and how they've treated me in the past.
You know, people we've affiliated with, they they fucked me over.
Now look what they're at right now. They got fucked over.
Did I get sucked over? No?
Speaker 4 (11:48):
But to my ex, did she fucked me over?
Speaker 3 (11:52):
Kind of Okay, And I'll be honest, I kind of well,
her and I we're just gonna.
Speaker 4 (11:59):
Leave it at that.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
But still still still I have my respects for her though,
because she she knows what she's doing at least, or
at least she's trying to, you know, get get her
priorities settled, versus all these other idiots over here.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
Yeah, exactly, No, I know what you mean. It's that way.
But the thing is that though you can respect that
she's doing that, but you again have to take into
account what she's doing to you on the side.
Speaker 4 (12:28):
Well, that's why I say I have some respects.
Speaker 3 (12:31):
Yeah, because at least she's trying to get her priorities straight.
I don't have all respects there, but I have some,
name me some them such as working and having income.
Speaker 4 (12:42):
That's one.
Speaker 3 (12:44):
Raising my kids that's another one, because if she wanted to,
she could just left them, like she could just throw
them under the bus and you know, done her own thing.
Speaker 4 (12:54):
But she's not like that. I'm not like that either.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
You know. I'm gonna do what I gotta do to
make some my kids are happy and have everything in
the world great.
Speaker 4 (13:03):
And she'll do the same thing too.
Speaker 3 (13:05):
That's what I respect about her by, you know, going
around making all these fake profiles and then saying bad
things about me.
Speaker 4 (13:13):
No, that's a whole other level of.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
Well, that's like I said, community you it's really sad
when I actually did go to college for a little bit,
I've come to that's why I had basically the same
relationship issues that.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
I had when we went to Merrimac.
Speaker 1 (13:31):
Rumors, you know, just pathings starting, people turning against me,
friends turning against me, my so called friends I thought
were my friends, and there turning against me. Some of
my friends trying to get with my exes or whatever
because I sickly wanted to be with them, you know, whatever,
it got weird. You know what I'm saying. Yeah, I
thought I had escaped that. I thought I'd escaped that drama,
but no, it came back to haunt me. When I
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went to give into college. It was the weirdest thing.
Like I had all these friends, I had, all these
people who like been like I would hang out with
my bullet, and then I don't know where, everyone just
started turning against each other. And like you and I said,
it's like, it's like her going out a way to
do these things to be manipulting weird. It's like those
people in the past who would go to the to
(14:14):
the to the mall and talk shit on us and
think it would be so cool and trying to spread
it around merrimac or whatever. It's like, you guys are
a bunch of losers because the things that like, we
were already dealing with those other so called friends turning
against us. We were trying to protect ourselves from that, right,
But the problem is that like we had, other people
like still continue to continuing on why we're trying to
avoid these so called friends, and that didn't help help
(14:35):
help our case at all, because you know, then they
all banded together and they all started going to the
mall together and like hang out and be stocking them
the court and the food courts. Being a bunch of losers,
It's like, what do we do anyway? Look, I'm sorry,
Like I'm sorry, but I'm not sorry. Okay, Like I
not sorry at all.
Speaker 4 (14:50):
I have no remorse, so I'm not sorry.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
They really were going to say, this is because the
people this win just like you, Like, just like you said,
with your business and your things like that I said,
when we talk about security stuff, we don't talk about details.
We don't talk about what happens on the job. We
don't say we don't say names. If you've noticed, like
I haven't said where I work, I haven't I have.
I mean I might have said maybe once. But you know,
I don't think a lot of people listen to this podcast.
But whoever does, thank you very much. But what I'm
(15:16):
getting at is that I don't I don't divol certain things.
Speaker 2 (15:19):
And the thing is that, like the reason I have
such a clean channel is because I try to have
a clean channel.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
And I try to be non controversial. I don't talk
about politics. I don't go up to people in the media.
I don't I don't.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
I don't.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
I'm because you know, I don't want to be one
of these other negative people that you've seen your feet
all the time.
Speaker 2 (15:34):
But you know, but I can get.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
Real, I can get nitty, I can get gritty, but
you know, but I'm not gonna constantly be like that
because you know, I want I wanna still be this
lighter side of myself that or like be the guy
who makes the difference, like whether it's through a podcast,
advice video, food without post whatever, you know what I'm
saying anyway, But.
Speaker 3 (15:51):
Yeah, so like like I'll have some remorse, but I
won't have remorse for those that don't truly deserve it.
Speaker 4 (15:57):
But those that are like Ali's trying.
Speaker 3 (15:59):
To to do something with their lives or make an
impact of their lives, you know, I'll have remorse and
show a lot of respect for that.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
You know what, Here's the thing, I know what you mean.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
Forgiveness starts with somebody actually saying I'm sorry yes and then.
Speaker 2 (16:16):
Actually meaning it.
Speaker 4 (16:17):
But why do you also speak a louder no words too?
That's another thing you gotta think about it.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
I had such a crappy high school experience. People will say, oh,
did you ever go to any of the reunions. Did
you ever written? And did you ever go to Indy?
And I'm like, nope, did you ever go to this
banquet dinner? Nope, nope, nope, nope, nope. No why because
I had the worst four years of hell I went
through in my life.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
When I went to high school, it got bad. And
then on top of my dad getting.
Speaker 1 (16:46):
Sick and getting in front of a little dimension basically Alzheimer's,
and then me, you know, turning to drinking a little bit,
but then then know stopping it, but you know, also
like partying with my friends on top of it on
the weekends to kind of help masking. Now, I wasn't
an alcoholic, but I was getting pretty close, if we're
being honest, like so I was. I was kind of
getting I was dangerously getting the area of substance abuse
because I was dealing with them, and then I was
(17:07):
dealing with my dad's sickness and it was just, yeah,
it was.
Speaker 2 (17:10):
It was not a good time for me. It was,
if I'm being honest.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
But you gotta see it like this too, that I
was away from home for two years though yeah, true,
I was in home for two years.
Speaker 5 (17:21):
You know, I.
Speaker 3 (17:23):
During my final two years of high school, high school days,
I was not at home.
Speaker 4 (17:30):
When I was at the boarding school. I was in
the middle of the state. I mean, did I like it?
Speaker 2 (17:36):
No?
Speaker 4 (17:36):
But did I well or no, no, I'm sorry. Let
me phrase this. Did I enjoy it? Not so much?
Did I like it?
Speaker 2 (17:44):
Yeah? It was true.
Speaker 4 (17:45):
It's pretty nice.
Speaker 3 (17:46):
I've made learn I've had some learning experiences disciplininary disciplinary
education that there's so much that you.
Speaker 4 (18:00):
Have, there's so much to learn from it. But again though, like.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
You know, talk to good cornmorals right from wrong, how
to be a good person, not to be a jerk,
how to hold the door up in for women, how
to like base the basics of being a good person
is what it taught you. And and being like militant
tender decisions and having a good discipline, things like that.
And then that's what's probably drove you go to the
Missouri Military Academy and then possibly go in the military,
(18:29):
but you you didn't, which just fine, whatever, at least
you got the experience of like realizing like, maybe this
isn't for me, But at least I learned a lot
from doing this. You know what I'm saying so, yeah,
I know what you mean, Like mm hmm, man, I
just yeah, I hate it. And I know we've talked
(18:53):
about this all the time. It's just whenever your so
called friends show you the true culture and the true
character for who they are and then they're just fake,
and then you're like, wow, I thought I knew you,
but yeah, I don't know what.
Speaker 3 (19:03):
Yeah, but not only is in my eggs. You know,
there's other people that I thought I want to trust.
I'm not gonna point names out, but you know, again.
Speaker 4 (19:10):
I've gone through experiences like.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
It's like one of my ex best friends who have
supposedly no unquote unquote since sixth grade or whatever.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
I'm not gonna name who it was, but those have
know who I'm talking about.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
What I'm talking about basically me and him.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
Our nickname was rush Hour.
Speaker 1 (19:30):
Here's my tall you know, like funny, silly, you know
friend who was you know, African American, you know, me
being like the funny little Asian you know, guy who
did who did martial arts or whatever.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
And the way we got along whatever, but you know.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
He ended up showing me his true colors and I
didn't like it. And you know, there's a lot of
things that I forgave him for, but because of who
he was and the character there was too out of
respect for him, I'm not gonna say it.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
I'm not gonna give examples.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
I'm not gonna say what he did, and I'm not
I'm gonna talk about the time that he well, long
story short at the end, that's so one point actually
stole something from me and I forgave him for it.
But then but then he showed me again just like
who he really was, just with this attitude and the
way he talked to people, just the way he was
(20:17):
handling his life and stuff like that. And then I
was like, I can't, I can't do this anymore. And
I didn't stop and I didn't stop talking to him
because he stole from me. I stopped talking to him
because of who he was as a character and as
a person. I know that sounds weird, but you would
think him stealing from me would be the material material
thing that make me know. I was like, because at
(20:39):
the time I thought I knew his character. I thought
I knew you know, you know, like I forgave that.
But but here's the thing, Like, do I regret for
giving him for that. No, but do I regret giving
him another chance based on his character but not based
on the fact that they stole from me? Yes, yeah,
let me put this if that makes any sense, Like, yeah,
(21:02):
what we're gonna say though trying to wish I could
give you examples of like like what he would do
with the step, but I don't want to be I
don't want to be mean and talking about him like that.
Speaker 3 (21:14):
You know. Let's get into more of a topic now
about Uh sure, so we're.
Speaker 4 (21:21):
Gonna change up the subject here a little bit.
Speaker 3 (21:23):
We I think we talked a little bit enough about
like relationships, relationships, friendships and stuff like that. Relationship the
subject a little bit, so let me ask you what
got you into podcasting? Because I'm actually been thinking about
doing something new with my life, maybe potentially chasing the
motivation for starting like a podcast channel or some type
(21:47):
or I don't know, just something to like ease up
my lifestyle and just like show my interests out.
Speaker 1 (21:55):
There, honestly listening to other podcasters, seeing other pece on
social media, whether they're marketing or just being themselves doing
the same thing that I'm that I'm pretty much doing.
But like also different. It's inspirational to me. I learn
a lot a lot from the podcast I listen to,
whether it's comedy or something else to do with sports,
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or just people talking in general.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
Joe Rogan, I mean, I'm like, I'm.
Speaker 1 (22:21):
Actually listening to nesty classified podcast Survival Guy, and if
you remember NASTI Classified show, it's literally Moe's Net and
Cookie altogether on the podcast talking just reminiscing and it's
hilarious and I and I love it so but and honestly,
like this might sound funny, but like I feel like
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as much as only this way, it's quick, it's easy,
and it's fun. Whenever we're done here, A lot I
do is do a quick description and then put my
you know, whole business fuel on the bottom, and then
post and that's it. I mean usually I mean I
usually edit, but I usually don't. But I mean, I
just hosted as is and then that's it. Like I
don't have to edit it out to worry about, you know,
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looking anice or doing my hair, nothing like that. And
what I'm saying is that, you know, and it's kind
of cool because in a way, it's like I have
on radio show. Okay, you know, because I mean, think
about it. I'm on Spreaker, I'm on Apple Podcasts, I'm
on Spotify, and iHeart Radio.
Speaker 2 (23:25):
That's four different. That's four different you know.
Speaker 1 (23:30):
Social media channels that you know, it's like they're like, well,
I mean, iHeart radio. That is a radio. It's it's
it's it's it is radio station. Even though that technically
I think there's an actual radio. No, I think you
have to do with through the app anyway, what pardon me?
But yeah, no, it's kind of like that. And not
only that, but it's kind of like asking me, why
(23:52):
do you like to be on camera and do my
advice videos?
Speaker 2 (23:54):
Right?
Speaker 1 (23:55):
Well, in a way, it's kind of like, you know,
I'm into acting, right, so whenever I put my face
out there and my advice videos, in a way, I'm
kind of I'm kind of an actor. I'm doing my
and it's my own like series, kind of like my
own TV series in the way, even though it's not TV.
But I'm putting myself out there and me talking about
what I'm talking about, even though it might be a
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vice video that's coming off the top of my head
and from my heart.
Speaker 2 (24:20):
That's my script.
Speaker 1 (24:21):
Okay, how I do my hair, what I wear, that's
my outfit, that's my costume right right, you know, And
that was actually it's funny you say we were talking
about this because I was maybe thinking about at some
point showing a little bit of my acting skills, like
maybe coming up with the script and then like you know,
just like acting out a scene, whether it's like me
as myself or doing like an accent or that I
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know I can do well, or maybe like a funny voiceover,
maybe like a cartoon character, maybe something like you know,
like you they're like like like with some kind of
like you know, Irish action or just something fun or
just like like or maybe something like in the old school, like.
Speaker 2 (24:56):
There's the Brimstone.
Speaker 6 (25:00):
And you most forced this sort of to kill jack
Card this dragon, you.
Speaker 2 (25:06):
Know, something like that.
Speaker 1 (25:06):
You know, like it's like whoo, I got you know,
like you gotta fault there right now, I'm getting no,
but you know things like that, Like I mean, I
don't think that sounded too bad.
Speaker 3 (25:13):
You know.
Speaker 2 (25:13):
One thing is that I can do these things. It's
just like it's nothing.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
I don't want to market myself as an actor. But
just with my advice videos, this this podcasting, my food
for the post my workout videos, my martialist administration training videos,
and me posting my boxing videos. I like how marketing
myself already, and I think it's working pretty well. But
maybe if I added me, you know, doing some acting
stuff behind as well on top of it, maybe it
might Catchally I have a Hollywood executive versuthing maybe a
(25:42):
director and be like, who I like the way you
know what I'm saying, Like like like the way this
guy looks, like the way he sounds, because you never know,
like I might be what they're looking for. Okay, but anyway,
so the reason I do it is again all in
all is to make a par Okay, you know what.
I usually don't care, so whatever, but I'm saying this
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with emphasis. Okay, to make a fucking difference.
Speaker 2 (26:10):
That's it.
Speaker 1 (26:11):
Okay, if I become famous from the school. If I don't,
I don't give it. I don't care. I just want to.
I want to make people feel good. That's why it's
called Let's Talk me the LLC. I want to market
other people by talking to them, Like, do you know
how much I would love to get on a podcast
and do what I'm doing with you with like some
(26:31):
executives of something or CEO of some big big company whatever,
And I don't care if they they don't even have
to pay them your sponsor me, Like, I just want
to talk to them and get them like who are they?
How they get their start? Like what made them a millionaire?
Blah blah, Like that'd be so cool. But anyway, what
we're gonna.
Speaker 2 (26:46):
Ask me that what would you what would you.
Speaker 3 (26:51):
Rank your flight skills for podcasts and your top flight
your top five flight skills on podcasting, So it could
be anything, so like where are you're more.
Speaker 4 (27:05):
What are your.
Speaker 3 (27:07):
Top skills from from.
Speaker 4 (27:15):
Expert down to beginner? What would you drink them?
Speaker 3 (27:18):
In?
Speaker 2 (27:20):
Me personally, I want to say I'm intermediate because while
I do know I have a lot.
Speaker 1 (27:26):
Of great things to talk about, when the considering the
fact that I try to keep my channel semi clean
and non controversial things like that, it's none that the
worst against me. It's just like, I know there's a
lot of things out there in the world that I
could talk about, but again I don't want to because
everybody else is already and I don't want to, like,
why bring that negativity towards my channel even more They're like,
(27:48):
trust me, there's things out there that I see that
I want to talk about. But I want to say something,
but I'm like, there's no point. Plus I'm not involved
with it, So why should my opinion matter on something
I know nothing about out Because once you open that
door and put your foot in that door, getting into
other people ship that you don't know what ship about,
you're fucked.
Speaker 2 (28:08):
Burn Burn my friends.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
No, it's true, like you are in trouble, like you
like someone's gonna be like, I'm gonna knock you.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
Well what you just like, what would you say? Don't
go there? Just don't do it.
Speaker 1 (28:19):
I be name sorry. I feel like I'm intermediate. Sometimes
I feel like I do find things that like to
like run run out of things to talk about on
my slip over my words, I might say something silly
or dumb or I don't know, but intermediate, if I'm
meant something to you, I'm a new expert. Like I'm saying,
like we're recording from my phone, we're recording from my
(28:40):
microphones here, but it works and you know, but here's
the thing though, I would say my my my advantages
are I'm fast at at podcasting. I'm quick. I get
them out very quickly. When I'm doing solo podcasting, I
always find something really interesting online to look up a
research and then talk about and then give good feedback
in my own opinion about what I'm reading and things
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like that. So what I'm saying is that what I'm
getting is that, like it's solo podcasting or doing podcasting
with you or whatever, it's just I think I'm good
at it because I'm.
Speaker 2 (29:13):
Not afraid to talk.
Speaker 1 (29:15):
I'm very extroverted, as you can tell, and I just
feel like I've got the voice. I can be a
voice of reason to make a change. Again, it all
comes back down to making a change.
Speaker 3 (29:26):
So when you're getting ready to go live, So this
this might be a little.
Speaker 4 (29:31):
Bit of a tricky question yourself. When you're getting way
to go live, do you have a.
Speaker 3 (29:36):
Script ready or know or do you just freelance your podcast?
Speaker 2 (29:41):
So right now we're freelancing.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
Okay, But it's actually funny to say that because well,
in most of my podcasts, especially solo ones, my favorite
thing to do is to look up a different subject
on something that I feel like i'm feeling like should
be talked about or maybe that others aren't talking about okay,
as in like I do a lot of psychological, mental
health or physical health things like that, you know, like
(30:02):
why working out is good, is good for you, Like
why you know I'm going to a therapist is good
for you. Why having self affirmations and self love for
yourself is good, Like why it's good to you know,
remember to be kind to others, you know, things like that.
So what I my favorite thing to do when it
comes to podcasting, especially solo podcasting, is that I'll look
up what a professional psychologist or doctor or whatever has
(30:25):
to say, sports physiciologist, what have you?
Speaker 2 (30:28):
Okay, and then I will read their article, and.
Speaker 1 (30:31):
As I'm reading it, I will then stop and then
I don't want to say necessarily dumbing it down, but
I would say, in my own way is I repeat
back in a way like what they're saying, or like
my own reflection like what they're saying. And the funny
thing is that more than half the time, as I'm
reading it or before, I really like as I'm talking,
I'll kind of say what's in the next in.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
The part of the next part.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
Of the article without even realizing I'm like, oh, hey,
I just kind of said this, But my main thing
is that I always trying to make everything come back
to a point, you know, So I'll be like, so
as I'm reading where I'll be like, okay, so you
see how this relates to point number one or when
it comes full circle things like so, but that that's
so that That's how I like to do my solo podcast.
(31:14):
So sometimes I'll read, I'll i'll read something, or I'll
just you know, give my own reflections about I'll just
talk in general.
Speaker 2 (31:22):
So no, it's not scripted.
Speaker 3 (31:24):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
And the funny thing is, neither are my advice videos.
They used to be at first, but literally every single
thing now that you see in my advice videos are
me just talking from the top of my head. And
like I said, my heart is not scripted at all whatsoever.
So you know, yeah, I guess you could say that
makes me feel good knowing that I've gotten good enough
(31:44):
at my craft to where I know I don't need
to have things be.
Speaker 2 (31:47):
Scripted, uh when it comes to that stuff.
Speaker 1 (31:49):
So you know, yeah, Okay, on a scale of one
to ten, what would you rate?
Speaker 4 (31:58):
Uh? How was I gonna ask at this point? On
a scale one.
Speaker 3 (32:12):
To ten, what would you rate video podcast saying versus
audio and why.
Speaker 1 (32:19):
Okay, so video is good if people want to see
your environment and what you're talking about. Who you're talking
to is seeing the face of who you're talking to.
And then audio is good because I mean there's a
audio you know, you can you know, have it the
phone in your pocket. You don't need to watch the
video just to hear what's going on or ever. I
wish I had the software to do both. I I mean,
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technically I do, but every time we've tried it, it's
always can comes out wonky. One sounds good and then
one sounds really really bad. So I think I'd rather
just stick to audio for a while. But okay, so
video is good because it will reach an audience as well,
especially if you have a video and audio at the
same time. But I feel like, though I'm notice that
people tend to tune into audio more. So that's why
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I try to stick to more audio, because I feel
like they'll get more downloads, more listens and more, you know,
just like trying to get my message.
Speaker 2 (33:12):
Out there across to the whole world or whatever. And
I've noticed that.
Speaker 1 (33:21):
I think I get more interactions with my podcast when
it comes to audio versus video.
Speaker 2 (33:26):
Don't get me wrong, I don't.
Speaker 1 (33:27):
We've done video podcasts before, I've done a podcast before,
but you know, they can take a while to edit,
especially like what the Yeah, I need to find a
way to see if I could do a little bit
of both, you know. But yeah, So what I'm saying
is that people podcast differently however they want to do it.
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I will say I do like it whenever I see
some like somebody is saying something inspirational, it's like up
close on them, and then you see the captions whatever,
and you can tell that it is a podcast and
they're talking, but you can also tell them like, man, no,
we've I was like, you see the video of it.
So it kind of makes you want to listen to
the audio as well. But I don't really do reels
(34:08):
like that necessarily, you know what I'm saying. Well, as
you see, the way I do it is I'll do
I'll do a screens recording about like a for thirty
seconds of one of her podcasts from like Apple or whatever,
and then I'll post that on my stories and like
add it to my post or whatever, blah blah. So
then and then like what I like to is like
I like to go to like a real specific spot
where I feel like it sounds like really good or
(34:28):
like an or never, and then and then I'll do
like a thirty second recording of that, and then I'll
post that like along with my like and I was like, hey,
here's in my new podcast bubbla or whatever. So that's
how I do that. As a matter of fact, around
like almost a ten to fifth I remember I was
actually listening to a podcast from last night at work today.
In about like at ten minutes and fifty seconds, I
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said something like we said something like really profound together,
and I was like, ooh, whenever I do actually end
up posting, like making a post on the art or
podcast from last night, because I still have to do
a description or whatever, I was going to uh record
that and then put that in the recording because I
because we said something like that sounded like a really
like crisp.
Speaker 2 (35:08):
I was like, yeah, that sounds good, you know, but
so yeah, let me put it this way.
Speaker 1 (35:13):
I was maybe thinking, you know, you know, that's not
visual visual like us talking. I was maybe thinking at
one point just maybe screen recording, uh uh, like the
the whole podcast from from Apple right. So what I'm
saying is that the podcast would be playing on my
phone from Apple right.
Speaker 2 (35:34):
Okay, but I.
Speaker 1 (35:34):
Would be, but I would screen record the whole entire
thing and then I would post it. So even though
that's an audio podcast, technically it would be a video
as well, because like you, it would be it started
and you're looking at me like, huh. It's so if
you notice on my my story, which you've seen, like
especially when I dee end of the story, if you notice,
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like you'll see like what looks like like the play
button the middle all that or whatever. If you notice,
like I'll hit play or whatever like and then I'll
play for thirty seconds, then I'll hit stop.
Speaker 4 (36:06):
Right.
Speaker 2 (36:06):
But that's a get.
Speaker 1 (36:07):
Engaged in the audience to make them like, oh, that's
sounded really profound.
Speaker 2 (36:09):
I want to see what this podcast is all about.
Speaker 1 (36:12):
Right, So since it's like a video, a thirty second
video of that, imagine if I maybe did.
Speaker 2 (36:17):
That for like the whole hour or thirty minutes or whatever.
Speaker 1 (36:21):
So that way they can get a video as well
to watch, you know what I'm saying. So in a
way they would get video and audio at the same time. Okay,
And the advantage of maybe doing that if they wanted
to maybe listening to the video. Part of it is
that because I'd be we're screened recording from you know,
or microphones or whatever, because the audio would sound good,
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the video quality would come out good as well, because
if we.
Speaker 2 (36:44):
Wouldn't be recording, you know.
Speaker 1 (36:45):
Trying to do an actual video from like my laptop,
like we would versus then you know, doing the software
on my phone, which sounds even better. So it would
be it would So the beginning is that if I
screen recorded the audio podcast from the screen recording and
then I posted it as a video podcast, people didn't
have the option to listen to the audio podcast and
(37:06):
the video podcast evening that the video would just would
be them listening to like just to just like like
uh a screenshot on my logo U of my lovego
pretty much, but it was still good than the option
to maybe watch a v video unquote I.
Speaker 2 (37:20):
I I you know, unquote unquote video. Yeah A yeah,
so okay, no.
Speaker 1 (37:28):
Uh any o the questions or seemed like you had
a yeah.
Speaker 4 (37:37):
How do you have any more you wanna discuss about?
Speaker 6 (37:39):
So alright, I guess all in all, Yeah, I guess
all in all, just.
Speaker 2 (38:00):
When it comes to.
Speaker 1 (38:04):
Being a good person and watching out for yourself and
protecting yourself and your family, you gotta do it smartly,
you know, like you were not trying to still figure
that out, whether that's from ex'es or bullies or people
in general. Don't don't be a jerk. Don't don't go
out of your way to be mean to others. Look,
(38:26):
we get mad, we get angry, we're not perfect, But
that doesn't mean you need to take that out in other.
Speaker 2 (38:32):
People or be that be that jerk that does that.
Speaker 1 (38:35):
Yeah, Like I said, man, this world is already mad,
mad and angry and mean and hate.
Speaker 2 (38:46):
And people hate on each other enough as it is,
trying to screw each other, no over enough as it is.
Speaker 1 (38:50):
It's like it just and me and it makes me
and it it hurts to say, and I don't like
it at all. To man, people are brave only Internet
speaking in which like you like, It's like cause people
can't post nothing something without somebody somebody just completely just
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cutting this person down like they know them.
Speaker 2 (39:12):
It's like, what's wrong with you?
Speaker 4 (39:13):
Oh yeah, no, I see that stuff all all the time.
Speaker 1 (39:16):
I just I don't get it man, Like it's a
I understand you're trying to get a rise out of somebody,
but why do it.
Speaker 2 (39:28):
In that capacity? In that way? It makes no sense,
like way to show everybody that during asshole.
Speaker 1 (39:33):
Like yeah, good luck with that, Like I f I fun,
I fun digging your whole way out of that hole.
Speaker 2 (39:39):
Like anyway, but.
Speaker 4 (39:44):
Yeah, I can't think anything else.
Speaker 1 (39:46):
Nah No, really look all in all man, Look, if
you wanna start talking to your podcast or whatever, you
don't have to do it exactly like me.
Speaker 2 (39:52):
You could do it however you want to shoot who knows?
Like you know, I do.
Speaker 7 (39:56):
Like it's a lot of psychologies like m work out
stuff and mental health stuff. Maybe you could do something
like where you look up you know, different recipes and
like you talk about like your restaurant life or like
you know again, like maybe if you wanted to do
talk about you know, security or being shared but without
being too divulgent or you know whatever, you know, so
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you don't get yourself in trouble, you know, that could
help as well, or you know.
Speaker 1 (40:22):
Just maybe or maybe just keep us separate into your
own thing like I said, like I don't really I
don't talk about security outside of work really unless it's
with you. But I mean that's that's cool, that's fine
by me. But you know, like you know, my solo podcasting,
like okay, I might mention security every now and then
on that or maybe an advice video, but it's like
very quick and very brief, and like it's just like
a quick example.
Speaker 2 (40:43):
I don't like dwelling and I don't like talk talk
about it like how you and I talk about it,
you know what I'm saying, And.
Speaker 1 (40:48):
You know, because like I don't have a reason to really,
you know. And and the thing is that, like as
much as I love, you know, talking about with you,
and it's not that I had to have an issue
with it, I would rather keep media, you know, business
separate from my from my security stuff, you know, because
it's just it's not it's not that and when it
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does co mingle when we talk about it, I don't
feel like it's dangerous. I don't feel like it's bad.
I don't feel like it's a problem or an issue
or anything. But it's just like, you know, I just
don't want to take that risky, you know what I'm saying,
like getting in trouble whatever, blah, blah yeah, you know,
so like you know, like even though though we let
a few f bombs go and like you know, saying
(41:30):
the word like shit, you know, but get against it.
Like we're adults, you know what I'm saying, Like if
we let a few go, that's cool, but if we
don't make it a happen, you know, like if it
becomes a habit, then that's when it becomes an issue.
So like that's what I mean by like not just
in security, but just like protecting my my channel as
it is and trying to keep it as wholesome as
I can. But you know, sometimes you know when you're
(41:52):
I'm not saying you need to curse to get to
get an emphasis out, but if you're really feeling something,
then you know what I'm saying, Like.
Speaker 2 (42:01):
You know, like me saying those douchebags you.
Speaker 1 (42:03):
Know, like or or or uh or no no or
what I say that to make a a fucking difference,
That's what it is.
Speaker 2 (42:10):
Yeah, that I just wanna make a difference, and you know.
Speaker 6 (42:12):
Just.
Speaker 2 (42:15):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (42:16):
Man, anyway, So look, I'm sorry that you still love.
Speaker 2 (42:23):
No let me mind.
Speaker 1 (42:24):
Saying sorry, Well, let me rephrase that I thinks that's
about some mean I understand that you still in the
way love your ex and you wanna work things out
with her, And I'm sorry that she's doing all these
weird things, you know, all these different profiles and trying
to manipulate you and try to get the better of
you and anyway, and it sounds like she's still kind
(42:45):
of acting how she used to. But I guess kudos
to her are good for her for you know, moving
the good things that yeah, she does. But I think
most important thing for you to do is to find
them balance of what do you want, like like what
(43:05):
do you want out of her?
Speaker 2 (43:06):
What do you want out of the kids?
Speaker 1 (43:07):
What do you want out of the Because the thing
is that you can keep trying and trying, but you
just gotta make sure she's not she doesn't continue this
path of destruction, Like even though you know that she's
showing you she's trying to change a little bit, you
just also need to protect yourself mentally and don't let
her pull the wall over your eyes of like you know,
(43:28):
or don't don't let her let that mask what she's
done in the past, like let me put this away.
You might be able to forgive some things, and I
totally get that, but just don't forget what she's done too.
Speaker 2 (43:48):
Oh yeah, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (43:49):
Yeah, so I guess to end things off, Just be careful.
I care about you. I worry about you. Don't don't
don't let her get you mad and angry where you
do or say something dumb or stupid or you know,
don't let her like get get to your head to
where you do something permanent and you're no longer with us,
if you know what I'm saying. I don't want to
(44:10):
say the ES word on here, but what I'm saying
is I just don't. Don't let her take advantage of
the good character that you are because as soon as
you do that, guess what she wins.
Speaker 2 (44:20):
Yes, she won. Funny thing, I'm winning right now.
Speaker 1 (44:24):
But I don't have to take revenge on any of
the douchebacks dealt with back in the day. I didn't
lift a finger out and do nothing. And look where
I'm at and look where they're at. Like we were saying,
don't let her win. Right, forgive her for the things
that she's doing well and gotten better, but do not,
(44:45):
for the love of God, let her fucking win.
Speaker 2 (44:50):
Don't. I'm sorry. I'm sorry, but I'm not sorry.
Speaker 1 (44:52):
If you want the honest her shoe that as your
as your buddy, like tough love, don't let her win
because as soon as you do, you're gonna you're you think,
do you think you're maybe.
Speaker 2 (45:01):
Going in a spiral now? It's yeah, that's just my
best advice. Anyway, Guys, this is podcast got real world.
The fuck? Do you feel better though? Getting chest? See?
Speaker 1 (45:15):
Give me a high five. That's what I'm here for
because you're my buddy, all right. See see, people, this
is why I do this business like this, because I
tried to talk. I know therapists, but I tried to
do what I can to make y'all feel better. Anyway, listen,
Sorry about the cursing.
Speaker 3 (45:31):
I know.
Speaker 2 (45:32):
I try to keep a clean channel or whatever as
much as I can.
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