January 26, 2025 • 9 mins
Welp, sometimes life has some surprises in store for you. When it doesn't go as planned, it's incredble how humans are at adapting and overcoming.
On this solo episode, Wendy sips her coffee and dips her toe into the water: revealing where she's been physically and mentally.
On this solo episode, Wendy sips her coffee and dips her toe into the water: revealing where she's been physically and mentally.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Life Bites with Wendy Wilde, your bite sized podcast filled
with lifestyle stories, personal stories, and a roundup of stories
Wendy talks about on the radio. Here's Wendy for once.
I'm speechless. I cannot believe how many of you decided
to listen to this podcast, which has just been sitting
dormant for so long. That means so much. Thank you
(00:22):
so much for tuning in. And we didn't even offer
you up any technical advice like we said we were
going to do. Last week was just kind of setting
the tone for this more personal fireside chat type of format.
It was just a reunion of friends, Danielle and I
sitting down and just by sing pretty much. So if
you tuned in last week and you enjoyed it and
(00:44):
you're back, thank you. I don't even know what to say.
I just feel grateful because when you are launching a podcast,
and I can tell you this from experience, you know,
the higher ups will sit you down. They'll be like, oh,
what are you offering? What is going to drive people
to hit that subscribe button? Like you have to offer
a product, and I think, at least in last week's case,
(01:06):
the product was just us getting personal, getting down to
the nitty gritty, and yes, the intent is that I
am going to have some of my friends who are
experts in certain areas come on and we're gonna talk
about all sorts of things such as imposter syndrome. We're
gonna we're gonna give you that technical advice as far
as photography, creating better content on social media, radio, how
(01:30):
to how to be a good interviewer, which I feel
like I'm still learning how to be thanks Adhd. But
you know, for now, I'm just sitting here in my kitchen.
There is no guest. I am sipping my coffee. I'm
about to go make my breakfast. I figured this would
be another personal episode. I can get you caught up
on life. I don't know if that's really an award
(01:51):
winning product as far as having award winning podcast, but
if you are tuned in because you like me, well
here's what I've been up to, so you know, without
getting into the full story. Because I feel like I'd
like to have either Jeff or Danielle alongside me. Even Jackie.
I haven't even asked her yet. I'm sure she would
(02:12):
come on. Jackie, by the way, if you used to
listen to my old podcast, Give Our Take. I should
mention that Jackie. One of the reasons that we stopped
doing that podcast was well, obviously the news cycle. It
just it was taking a toll on our mental health.
But Jackie is now a successful therapist. The girl's got
(02:32):
a real job and she is very busy. But I'm
sure that she can spare twenty minutes to sit down
and we can go over some topic that is important
to both of us. We have a lot of those.
But yeah, I will. I will eventually tell my story
again in a way that's not harmful to anyone involved.
(02:53):
But I found myself in a position this year which
I mean it was very It was traumatic. There were
a lot of changes happening all at once, for one,
and I feel like this sounds so complaining because it's
actually a wonderful thing. And I am truly grateful that
I became a first time homeowner. But the way in
(03:15):
which it happened was not what I expected. So I
did not expect to go into this solo. I felt
extremely overwhelmed. I never thought it would be house for me.
I always thought if it were just me, it would
be some sort of condo or co op situation, because
there are a lot less things you have to worry
(03:37):
about as far as like the outside, the roof, things
like that. But when I was going into this whole situation,
there was another party involved who had very strong opinions
ended up with house, and I guess you can guess
the end of the story. So it is just me.
And while all of these tasks to care for a
(03:59):
seventy five year home seems so daunting at the time,
I just want to say to anyone who feels like
they're going at it alone, become that person you thought
you needed to rely on, because you can do it.
It's not that bad. I mean, it seems like it
is when you make a whole entire list and you
have to get through all these things. But I'm just
(04:19):
gonna pull up my phone right now, Okay, not to
bore you, but just looking at all the things that
I crossed off on this list, like, holy shit, I
did these things. Now. Granted I didn't do a lot
of these things personally myself. I'm not particularly handy just yet.
But I was able to find things and find people
(04:42):
on my own time and make it happen. And it's
funny when you first get home, you're like, oh, the aesthetics,
I'm gonna make it over and make it beautiful. No,
that's actually not what happens. You have to address the
things that could potentially cause a problem. For one, for me,
it was the the hot water heater. That thing was
(05:02):
twenty years old and those things are guaranteed the last
nine years. Now, if something were to fail or go wrong,
you could be dealing with a flood. So I had
to prioritize and put that above peeling all this wallpaper
off and redecorating, because all of the things like that
needed to go first. For instance, yesterday I updated all
(05:22):
the electric in the house, which felt like a huge project.
It is there actually not done, but that was that
was my yesterday. Pretty much, my weekends are really just
unpacked with house updates and family stuff and squeezing in
an aerial class here and there. So if you've wondered
where I've been, that's been it. But feeling pretty accomplished,
(05:44):
I will say it's pretty nice. Another thing personally I've
been dealing with is I mean, I've known this my
entire life that I've been a little bit different or
my brain processes information differently. And something that I know
I I just started opening up about two people, is
(06:04):
that my entire life, I've had sensory issues, and what
I used to do is hide it. But when you
are placed in an environment where the lights are too
bright or the sounds are too loud, it can be
so overwhelming. Just think going to a grocery store sometimes
for me is hard. So I have hid this my
(06:27):
entire life, and now I'm being more open about what
my needs are. If that means wearing some sort of
ear protection in public, or just avoiding certain loud areas,
or just ensuring that there is a like a place,
a quiet place for me to go to reset when
I do things. So if you have been wondering where
(06:49):
I have been as far as that goes, that's something
that I've been dealing with. And I was recently diagnosed,
so it all kind of makes sense. I feel very
I feel very justified, like, oh, there was nothing wrong
with me this entire time. Just my brain just is
firing all the things at once and it can be
a little overwhelming. But you know what, as I've learned,
(07:13):
I'm not alone. There's so many people who are like, oh,
me too. I experience that as well, and it's not
anything to be ashamed of. You just make accommodations for yourself.
The people around you will absolutely care or they should
and hopefully be supportive. And what's really funny is that,
you know, people were like, oh, when you're in the studio,
(07:34):
doesn't it bother you? And I'm like, no, I'm in
a soundproof studio with dimmabile lights. It's literally the best
place that I can be where I feel safe and
it's wonderful. The dimmibile lights is everything all offices should
happen and temperature control. So anyway, that's kind of what
I've been up to personally that I feel comfortable telling
you about without the crutch of having a co host,
(07:58):
which I know I have to stell doing that. It's weird.
It's kind of weird just talking. I'm like basically talking
to my catie sitting right here. Hi, Alliu. But it's
really been great to have you join me on my
journey to updating this house, dealing with these with my
(08:19):
neurodivergence and how to navigate a world that's really not
built for neurodivergence, and connecting with the others out there,
because you know what. The one thing I've learned also
is that when you are a little neurospicy, which is
the term I like to use, you typically have someone
who is very creative and they are almost experts in
(08:40):
that one area of special interest. For me, I'm obsessed
with radio, I am obsessed with photography and aerial So
those are the things like I could talk about them
all day long. I would love to connect with others
who have similar experiences. So join me as I learn
all these things, the house stuff, the brain stuff, the
(09:02):
animal stuff, which is a story for another episode. Oh
this house came with cats. We're going to get into
all of that. But for now, I do hope you
have a wonderful day and until next time,
Life Bites with Wendy Wilde, your bite sized podcast filled
with lifestyle stories, personal stories, and a roundup of stories
Wendy talks about on the radio. Here's Wendy for once.
I'm speechless. I cannot believe how many of you decided
to listen to this podcast, which has just been sitting
dormant for so long. That means so much. Thank you
(00:22):
so much for tuning in. And we didn't even offer
you up any technical advice like we said we were
going to do. Last week was just kind of setting
the tone for this more personal fireside chat type of format.
It was just a reunion of friends, Danielle and I
sitting down and just by sing pretty much. So if
you tuned in last week and you enjoyed it and
(00:44):
you're back, thank you. I don't even know what to say.
I just feel grateful because when you are launching a podcast,
and I can tell you this from experience, you know,
the higher ups will sit you down. They'll be like, oh,
what are you offering? What is going to drive people
to hit that subscribe button? Like you have to offer
a product, and I think, at least in last week's case,
(01:06):
the product was just us getting personal, getting down to
the nitty gritty, and yes, the intent is that I
am going to have some of my friends who are
experts in certain areas come on and we're gonna talk
about all sorts of things such as imposter syndrome. We're
gonna we're gonna give you that technical advice as far
as photography, creating better content on social media, radio, how
(01:30):
to how to be a good interviewer, which I feel
like I'm still learning how to be thanks Adhd. But
you know, for now, I'm just sitting here in my kitchen.
There is no guest. I am sipping my coffee. I'm
about to go make my breakfast. I figured this would
be another personal episode. I can get you caught up
on life. I don't know if that's really an award
(01:51):
winning product as far as having award winning podcast, but
if you are tuned in because you like me, well
here's what I've been up to, so you know, without
getting into the full story. Because I feel like I'd
like to have either Jeff or Danielle alongside me. Even Jackie.
I haven't even asked her yet. I'm sure she would
(02:12):
come on. Jackie, by the way, if you used to
listen to my old podcast, Give Our Take. I should
mention that Jackie. One of the reasons that we stopped
doing that podcast was well, obviously the news cycle. It
just it was taking a toll on our mental health.
But Jackie is now a successful therapist. The girl's got
(02:32):
a real job and she is very busy. But I'm
sure that she can spare twenty minutes to sit down
and we can go over some topic that is important
to both of us. We have a lot of those.
But yeah, I will. I will eventually tell my story
again in a way that's not harmful to anyone involved.
(02:53):
But I found myself in a position this year which
I mean it was very It was traumatic. There were
a lot of changes happening all at once, for one,
and I feel like this sounds so complaining because it's
actually a wonderful thing. And I am truly grateful that
I became a first time homeowner. But the way in
(03:15):
which it happened was not what I expected. So I
did not expect to go into this solo. I felt
extremely overwhelmed. I never thought it would be house for me.
I always thought if it were just me, it would
be some sort of condo or co op situation, because
there are a lot less things you have to worry
(03:37):
about as far as like the outside, the roof, things
like that. But when I was going into this whole situation,
there was another party involved who had very strong opinions
ended up with house, and I guess you can guess
the end of the story. So it is just me.
And while all of these tasks to care for a
(03:59):
seventy five year home seems so daunting at the time,
I just want to say to anyone who feels like
they're going at it alone, become that person you thought
you needed to rely on, because you can do it.
It's not that bad. I mean, it seems like it
is when you make a whole entire list and you
have to get through all these things. But I'm just
(04:19):
gonna pull up my phone right now, Okay, not to
bore you, but just looking at all the things that
I crossed off on this list, like, holy shit, I
did these things. Now. Granted I didn't do a lot
of these things personally myself. I'm not particularly handy just yet.
But I was able to find things and find people
(04:42):
on my own time and make it happen. And it's
funny when you first get home, you're like, oh, the aesthetics,
I'm gonna make it over and make it beautiful. No,
that's actually not what happens. You have to address the
things that could potentially cause a problem. For one, for me,
it was the the hot water heater. That thing was
(05:02):
twenty years old and those things are guaranteed the last
nine years. Now, if something were to fail or go wrong,
you could be dealing with a flood. So I had
to prioritize and put that above peeling all this wallpaper
off and redecorating, because all of the things like that
needed to go first. For instance, yesterday I updated all
(05:22):
the electric in the house, which felt like a huge project.
It is there actually not done, but that was that
was my yesterday. Pretty much, my weekends are really just
unpacked with house updates and family stuff and squeezing in
an aerial class here and there. So if you've wondered
where I've been, that's been it. But feeling pretty accomplished,
(05:44):
I will say it's pretty nice. Another thing personally I've
been dealing with is I mean, I've known this my
entire life that I've been a little bit different or
my brain processes information differently. And something that I know
I I just started opening up about two people, is
(06:04):
that my entire life, I've had sensory issues, and what
I used to do is hide it. But when you
are placed in an environment where the lights are too
bright or the sounds are too loud, it can be
so overwhelming. Just think going to a grocery store sometimes
for me is hard. So I have hid this my
(06:27):
entire life, and now I'm being more open about what
my needs are. If that means wearing some sort of
ear protection in public, or just avoiding certain loud areas,
or just ensuring that there is a like a place,
a quiet place for me to go to reset when
I do things. So if you have been wondering where
(06:49):
I have been as far as that goes, that's something
that I've been dealing with. And I was recently diagnosed,
so it all kind of makes sense. I feel very
I feel very justified, like, oh, there was nothing wrong
with me this entire time. Just my brain just is
firing all the things at once and it can be
a little overwhelming. But you know what, as I've learned,
(07:13):
I'm not alone. There's so many people who are like, oh,
me too. I experience that as well, and it's not
anything to be ashamed of. You just make accommodations for yourself.
The people around you will absolutely care or they should
and hopefully be supportive. And what's really funny is that,
you know, people were like, oh, when you're in the studio,
(07:34):
doesn't it bother you? And I'm like, no, I'm in
a soundproof studio with dimmabile lights. It's literally the best
place that I can be where I feel safe and
it's wonderful. The dimmibile lights is everything all offices should
happen and temperature control. So anyway, that's kind of what
I've been up to personally that I feel comfortable telling
you about without the crutch of having a co host,
(07:58):
which I know I have to stell doing that. It's weird.
It's kind of weird just talking. I'm like basically talking
to my catie sitting right here. Hi, Alliu. But it's
really been great to have you join me on my
journey to updating this house, dealing with these with my
(08:19):
neurodivergence and how to navigate a world that's really not
built for neurodivergence, and connecting with the others out there,
because you know what. The one thing I've learned also
is that when you are a little neurospicy, which is
the term I like to use, you typically have someone
who is very creative and they are almost experts in
(08:40):
that one area of special interest. For me, I'm obsessed
with radio, I am obsessed with photography and aerial So
those are the things like I could talk about them
all day long. I would love to connect with others
who have similar experiences. So join me as I learn
all these things, the house stuff, the brain stuff, the
(09:02):
animal stuff, which is a story for another episode. Oh
this house came with cats. We're going to get into
all of that. But for now, I do hope you
have a wonderful day and until next time,
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