March 12, 2025 • 19 mins
In this episode, we dive into our Wednesday free lunches at work, sharing the joy (and occasional chaos) of midweek meals. We also discuss the ups and downs of public speaking, our weekend plans, and how ADHD plays a role in both our work and personal lives. Tune in for a fun, relatable conversation with plenty of laughs and insights!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Few words. I'm saying a few words. How you doing?
How you doing?
Speaker 2 (00:03):
I need some coffee? That hazel nuts listens and.
Speaker 1 (00:06):
So he is a secret is a stash under in
the cabinet. I had Rupert order it for me, his
three boxes.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Can we go in and get some after this?
Speaker 1 (00:16):
Are you sure you don't want some now?
Speaker 2 (00:17):
No, let's just record. We'll record that. I'll take it.
We'll get coffee later. Okay. Life Bites with Wendy Wilde
your bite sized podcast filled with lifestyle stories, personal stories,
and a roundup of stories Wendy talks about on the radio.
Here's Wendy. Hey, Danielle Dullo. Hey, we're hopping on a
hump day. I'm not really humping anything right now. I'm
(00:40):
like crashing this time change really to just screw with you. Yes,
more so than I thought, because I was like, Oh,
this weekend, I'm gonna just rest. I slept way more
than usual, and I think that's what mess things up
for me.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Really, Oh gosh, Or maybe I'm just tired. Maybe maybe
you just tie it, Wendy.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
He could also be that giant lunch we just had.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
Oh can we talk about that lunch?
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Yeah? Of course they are so nice, and they treat
us to lunch on Wednesdays.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
Yes, the whole office, the entire office.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
Which is funny because I find that, you know, Monday's
not so busy around here. Friday is definitely not. But Wednesdays,
when there's free lunch, everybody's here.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
It's jumping on hump and Wednesdays.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
Can I see a question? Yeah, do you think, and
be honest, do you think that people around here hate
us secretly because we cut the line? I'm being serious.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
No, you have a valid reason. You are on the air.
You are on the radio. You need to broadcast, and
that's that.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
But we just always assume when we just jump right
ahead of whoever's well at the front of it. And sometimes,
especially today, the line was long.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
It was because everybody loves us.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
Tame, Tame time time, I asked them once. It is
time time time the Mediterranean place. Oh, it's good that
in pizza most posable.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
I love pizza.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
But we okay, So me and my two other midday
sisters in Miss Hallway, Maria Milido and Helen Little. Yes,
we always go down together and sometimes you're with us
A lot of the times you're in meetings. I know,
but we go down and we just jump ahead of
everybody who's on that line for god knows how long
they're waiting. But that's okay. So you don't think people secretly, No, they.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
Don't, and if they have a problem, I'll take.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
Care of it. I'm always in my head about people
hating me. I think it's just part of having anxiety. Yeah. Same,
you know you're always worried about what people think about you.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Yeah, I know that's my problem, Wendy. This whole week,
something happened each day, even though it's only a Wednesday. Yeah,
that affected me, thinking that people don't like me.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
I feel like that all the time. I think it's
you know what it is for me, and I don't
know if it's the same for you. Yeah, whenever I
do something that's outside of my normal routine, I get
a little bit bent out of shape. For instance, last week,
and I know it's been a couple of days since
we did the podcast. So sorry, we're just catching you
up now.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
I had the distinct honor I was asked to be
on not one, but two different panels last week.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
Oh that's right, and I miss it. I'm so sorry.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
Your back was bad. We had to talk about your back.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
Oh god.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
But it was First off, it was such an incredible experience.
I don't often do these sorts of things. A lot
of people don't know that. I am a little shy.
You wouldn't think, but I get nervous. So the fact
that I was able to do this and speak in
front of my peers, looking them in the eyeballs, it was.
(03:39):
It was nerve wracking. But I also was like, oh,
I hope I didn't say anything weird. Why are we
always second guessing ourselves?
Speaker 1 (03:46):
I agree, I always second guess myself. I will write
an email or I will say something, and then I'll
go back to the email and I'll be like, eh,
let me retweek this wait after you sent it or no, no, no,
I'll write it for then I'll wait a little bit
and then I'll go back to it. And then if
I say something, obviously you can't really take it back.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
Now you can understand, depending on your service, maybe maybe
not here.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
No, but I literally am always second guessing myself, and
I always am asking myself do I sound stupid?
Speaker 2 (04:21):
On this panel, I was like just trying to be
myself and be honest, but a lot of the times
because of the way my brain processes information, I interrupt people.
I don't mean to.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
I have the same problem.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
It's an ADHDP where you come up there's a thought
in your head and you don't want to forget it,
and sometimes you're not really paying attention to the other
noises that are happening. So jump in there, you say something.
Maybe it was something someone else said a moment ago.
I I probably what's the word ruminate? I liminated for
hours just thinking, like I hope that I didn't I
(04:57):
didn't come off like a tool or weird.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Honey, you didn't come off as a tool. I saw
videos and you did great.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
You are my idol.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
You're mine. No, you're confident. I can your confidence. You're
so you know, people assume we are extroverts here, yes,
because of what we do, and it's more complicated than that.
I think it is.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
And I feel like when you're on the radio you
kind of have a different personality than you do in
your regular day, Like sometimes because you're always when you're
on the radio, you're always smiling, and you're like when.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
You're to say, I'm a gropin.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
No, but no, not at all. But I'm saying, like
you're when you're on the radio and listen. I listen
to you every day that you're on and you I
know because I know you, like you're smiling like one
O three fib k to you, like I know, and
then like sometimes I feel like I mean when I
when I was on the radio, I'm like, like I
take it like a deep breath because you know, it's
(06:03):
a lot to be.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
It's an oddly physical job.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
Yeah, it takes a lot out of you think about it.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
I mean I fall asleep on the train sometimes.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
Yeah, let me think about it. Even when today when
we were talking about like a mic break and I'm like.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
Oh, yeah we were brainstorming together great, which yeah, thank
you for you.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
No, I'm just saying, you know, I'm saying like it's
a lot of work. People think, oh, you're just talking
on the radio.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
My brain is like actually doing jumping jacks the whole day. Yeah.
So sometimes when people come in face to face and
they want to to chat, yep, it's you know, there's
surprise sometimes that like how shy I come off. And
I'm not shy in front of people that I know
well that I feel like I can let go of
the masking a little bit. But but I just want
(06:51):
to shout out to Keana, who I know, this pops
into my head. I didn't realize that she was listening.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
I love that she listens. That is so awesome.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
I do too. And she was actually one of the
people that was like, no, you did great, Like I
didn't think it was weird. Go I told her, I said,
I think I was weird.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
Although I completely dissocated you to give yourself no credit,
but I would love to have Keana on.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
Yeah, we can talk about all sorts of stuff.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Oh my gosh, we should have a come in next time.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Yes, right, speaking of women that inspire me, Yeah, you me.
You were like, I mean, I don't know how much
you want to talk about your back.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Okay, sure, your injury, but.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
Like the fact you were coming in and just hustling
being in so much pain, What actually was going on there?
Speaker 1 (07:36):
Oh my goodness. So I woke up one morning and
I couldn't walk. I was literally hunched over, and I'm like,
what's going on? And I went right to the physical therapist.
They took X rays, so like, oh, you have arthritis,
you have hip dysplasia and you have degenerative disc disease.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
Okay, did they say that had anything to do with
your activities being a former gymnast?
Speaker 1 (07:59):
The answer yes, absolutely, And back back then in the nineties,
I have to say, we didn't wear the most appropriate shoes,
like we wore like I can't even describe white and
black saddle shoes. And then we wore kipas the keepers,
(08:20):
you know, but those no no.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
Called Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Yeah, so I'll show you a picture of the sneakers later.
But you know they were okay, they weren't like the best.
And so it was a lot of hard jumping and
landing and cartwheels, splits, fuward backhand springs, everything without supportive shoewear,
without supportive shoe wear. And you know what, when you're
(08:46):
that young, you're very limber, and I and I do splits.
I could still do a split, by the way.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
I believe it. I think I've seen it. Yes, I
don't know where, but I have.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Yeah. So the doctor said I was born with this
hip display and I said, now it all makes sense.
It's why I could do a split.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
He's like, yes, let me tell you something, because I mean,
I'm not a doctor, so no nobody listened to me
for medical advice. But I do read up a ton
on issues that I have because I just want to know. Yeah,
but when you have ADHD and you have different neurodiversience,
so this is a lot of the times there are comorbidities,
(09:23):
and one of them being is hypermobility and being somewhere
on that hypermobility spectrum disorder. Yes, and I'm sorry. I
looked at your fingers and I was like, oh, yeah,
we have the same kind of like they're bending all
different directions, having these kinds of joints. When when we
were kids, it was really popular decision to put us
(09:43):
into gymnastics, yes, because our parents did know, they're like,
oh flexible. Great. It was like maybe, but maybe not.
Maybe the smarter thing to do maybe today would be
to have your kid in some sort of physical therapist
that they can support those joints. But we have a
lot of the same issues. I know.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
It's wild, isn't it, Wendy.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Oh we're wild, But you are feeling a little bit better.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
I am feeling a lot better.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
Getting up a lot straight.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
I think, Yeah, so I'm doing physical therapy. I'm going
twice a week, which is great. I also went to
see a pain management doctor last week because last week,
Monday and Tuesday could not move. They gave me a
steroid pack and that is magic.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
Yeah, but that's not a long term solution. It's not.
Speaker 1 (10:34):
But Wendy, I was in so much pain. That's why
I wish I missed the Women's Day event because I
was so crippled.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
I mean, you know, we're going to be doing a
one off campus, yes, two weeks.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
I'm exciting me too, You're going right, oh yeah, okay, yeah, good, Yeah,
that's gonna.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
Be a lot of fun.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
I think it will be, honestly.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
And the second panel that I got to speak on
last week, it was in front of college students. No way,
I think of IBS.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
Yeah, the Intercollegiate Broadcasting System.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, I know. I'm like, oh IBS.
I mean, yeah, how perfect is that for me? But no,
but it actually is like a radio related thing, and
it's a lot of college students are either already doing
radio or looking to get into radio. That what I
was less nervous for.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
You know, why, no, do you want me to explain? Yes, well,
you're not in front of your peers. You're in front
of people who are striving to be like you in
your role one day. So the heat is off, right,
the heat is not on.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
It is Can I tell you about something amazing that
happened though? Yes, So during that panel, and I forget
the exact question, I feel like I'm not going to
do with justice, but this young person asked, like, well,
one of the biggest challenges was for me. I wish
I could say it more eloquently, but that's okay. I
did my best, and I said, listen, when I was
at the start of my career, I knew I always
(12:04):
had sensory issues. I knew that like something was. I
didn't know what it was at the time, but I
knew that there were things I needed accommodations for. And
guess what, I never did.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
And the accommodation never spoke up because I.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
Felt like, you know, as a woman in the early
two thousands, and granted I always had bosses that were
amazing and very supportive, I probably could have said something right,
but I never did because I felt like I already
had something to prove. So I admitted that pretty openly.
After the panel. One of the student who asked the question.
Came up to me and said, I go to a
school that is meant for neurodivergent people. I didn't know
(12:40):
that this existed. It's in Hermont.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
I'm like, wow. Can you imagine just like going to
a school that is meant for people like you, meaning
the fluorescent lights are probably non existent, right, you might
have some sort of sensory aids available to you. Imagine
being able to thrive in an environment like that.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
Oh right, that sounds like heaven.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
They maybe want to cry that this sort of thing exists. Yeah,
So I just wanted to give a shout out to
all the amazing kids and that's so great, all the
people who made that happen.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
Yeah, I did it one year with Joe DeAngelis. We
spoke at the IBS conference and it was it was
so great to see these young people wanting to get
into radio.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
Yeah, and you feel like you not to, like it's
different than when we got into it.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
I was just going to say that it's so different.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
I don't want to discourage anybody, but I also feel
like maybe they know more than us in a way.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
And that is another issue that I have because I'm
teaching at Hofstra, and sometimes I feel like my students
might know more than me because they're in that arena
of everything's digital and social and they're always on their phone.
It's like we weren't taught that way. We were taught
(14:00):
to write everything down or to use a binder trapper keeper,
or like, you know, everything was in an encyclopedia, or
we had cassette tapes you know.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
Yeah, you had to list your your resources. Yeah, I
just yeah. I think I think probably the best advice
I could give to anybody really is to is to
listen more and just see, because you're not to know it.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
All right, right, It's so interesting it is, isn't it.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
I know, And they look to us like because we've
been doing it, but it's it's so different now.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
The various changes that I can think of from nineteen
ninety seven when I started in radio to now.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Do you remember pulling CDs?
Speaker 1 (14:42):
Do I remember? And I had to use eight tracks
at one point.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
Okay, so we had the cart decks for the commercial, yes, exactly.
So if anybody does not know what a cart is,
how do I describe it? It's like it was like
a plastic.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
Square it's kind of like when you tape, well, but
a big one an a track. Well, do you think
about Nintendo or a game like a cartridge like that.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
We didn't have to blow on it, No, we did not,
but half the time they didn't fire correctly. I do
remember that because you had to set a tone at
the end of them, and they weren't like all wonky.
But I do remember having to clean out those machines
with a giant Q tip, Yes, and some rubbing alcohol.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
Do you remember splicing tape?
Speaker 2 (15:23):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (15:23):
Okay, I loved doing.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
I hated that. Oh I love that. I love editing.
I have a funny story too. We were actually recording
on the system right now called vox Pro. Yes. But
before vox Pro, do you remember short Cut three sixty?
Speaker 1 (15:36):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (15:37):
Okay. Do you remember how gummy and hard those buttons
were to push?
Speaker 1 (15:40):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (15:41):
And I have the same fingertips as you do.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
Yeah, we have the same finger, so basically.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
The last joint by our fingernail is like a little
too hyper mobile, so when you're trying to smash buttons. Okay,
I actually or sprained this finger on short Cuts three
sixty because of how hypermobile.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
Gosh, yeah, Oh, yeah, it was tough.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
Radio can be like dangerous.
Speaker 1 (16:09):
It really never know, you never know, I know, Wendy Wyld.
So what do you got planned for this weekend?
Speaker 2 (16:17):
Well, let's see this weekend. I'm like, I'm hoping that
there's no more improvements I have to do. Uh. Part
of the reason I did not record an episode last
week is because I was so caught up with improvements.
I had to get a new chimney liner. Oh, the
snow is still there, but it's less and at least
the chimneys safe now. So there was that. I had
(16:39):
to get a new vet for Alie. But he's doing great. Great.
I was not thrilled with where we were taking him
close to the house, so we're going a little further.
But they were wonderful.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
So and he seems happy, right, he was, okay.
Speaker 2 (16:53):
The happiest boy. Good. I did have to drug him
first though, but he's a happy boy. Yeah, he's a
happy little boy. That's so good. Though. What about you?
Are you doing anything for the weekend?
Speaker 1 (17:03):
No, I am taking it easy. But Monday is Saint
Patrick's Day.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
Oh and you're wearing green already, I know, isn't it funny?
I don't even realize.
Speaker 1 (17:12):
My best friend Amory and I have had a tradition
for about five or six years, and we make shamrock
shaped ravioli.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
Yes, wait, are you gonna bring some of it in?
Are you in on Monday?
Speaker 1 (17:27):
I am in on Monday?
Speaker 2 (17:28):
Okay? So you're making it this weekend? Okay, So we're.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
Actually making it Monday, I'm Saint Patrick's Day.
Speaker 2 (17:32):
Okay, So Tuesday, bring it in? Yeah? Is I have cheese? Yeah,
I'll bring lactaine. Oh that's really I really know. I'm
gonna need like three laxaes in that one.
Speaker 1 (17:42):
So we also make it with Vadka sauce.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
Usually it's so bod Oh my god, this sounds amazing.
Oh my god.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
And she makes me chicken cutlets, and I always make
a dessert every year, either I buy it or I
make it.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
Do you like cook a majority of your food? Are
you eating out?
Speaker 1 (17:59):
Or no? No?
Speaker 2 (17:59):
No?
Speaker 1 (17:59):
I I cook a lot. I love to cook.
Speaker 2 (18:02):
Favorite recipe.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
Well, I just got a new recipe from my mother
and it is so good. It's a dry Italian seasoning
with chicken, potatoes, onions, tomatoes, and green beans.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
Tomatoes.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
Yeah, in a skillet and you bake it in the
oven for an hour and it's delicious.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
I made hand meal like that. That's easy.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
I'm gonna I'm gonna teach you.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
Yeah yeah. The only thing I can't really handle the onion.
Oh yeah, the garlic. But I can make it without. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
Yeah, No, it's so good, Wendy. That's what I've been
eating a lot lately. But pasta bazzul I say is
my ultimate favorite.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
I just like the way you say it. Yeah. Yeah. Anyway,
if anybody would like to follow Danielle, do you want
to give.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
Out your so well, yeah, it's at Danielle DeLillo Cool Radio.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
You are, I am?
Speaker 1 (18:55):
Yeah, my god.
Speaker 2 (18:55):
You should make a Life Bites account why it seems
like a lot of work.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
No, I'll do it.
Speaker 2 (19:00):
Okay, we steal the tails over cocktails one I still one.
I guess we're going to just steal the catchphrase from
last time. So, even though we have no drinks in hand,
this has been another episode of Life Bites and until
next time, cheers,
Few words. I'm saying a few words. How you doing?
How you doing?
Speaker 2 (00:03):
I need some coffee? That hazel nuts listens and.
Speaker 1 (00:06):
So he is a secret is a stash under in
the cabinet. I had Rupert order it for me, his
three boxes.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Can we go in and get some after this?
Speaker 1 (00:16):
Are you sure you don't want some now?
Speaker 2 (00:17):
No, let's just record. We'll record that. I'll take it.
We'll get coffee later. Okay. Life Bites with Wendy Wilde
your bite sized podcast filled with lifestyle stories, personal stories,
and a roundup of stories Wendy talks about on the radio.
Here's Wendy. Hey, Danielle Dullo. Hey, we're hopping on a
hump day. I'm not really humping anything right now. I'm
(00:40):
like crashing this time change really to just screw with you. Yes,
more so than I thought, because I was like, Oh,
this weekend, I'm gonna just rest. I slept way more
than usual, and I think that's what mess things up
for me.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Really, Oh gosh, Or maybe I'm just tired. Maybe maybe
you just tie it, Wendy.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
He could also be that giant lunch we just had.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
Oh can we talk about that lunch?
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Yeah? Of course they are so nice, and they treat
us to lunch on Wednesdays.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
Yes, the whole office, the entire office.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
Which is funny because I find that, you know, Monday's
not so busy around here. Friday is definitely not. But Wednesdays,
when there's free lunch, everybody's here.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
It's jumping on hump and Wednesdays.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
Can I see a question? Yeah, do you think, and
be honest, do you think that people around here hate
us secretly because we cut the line? I'm being serious.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
No, you have a valid reason. You are on the air.
You are on the radio. You need to broadcast, and
that's that.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
But we just always assume when we just jump right
ahead of whoever's well at the front of it. And sometimes,
especially today, the line was long.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
It was because everybody loves us.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
Tame, Tame time time, I asked them once. It is
time time time the Mediterranean place. Oh, it's good that
in pizza most posable.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
I love pizza.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
But we okay, So me and my two other midday
sisters in Miss Hallway, Maria Milido and Helen Little. Yes,
we always go down together and sometimes you're with us
A lot of the times you're in meetings. I know,
but we go down and we just jump ahead of
everybody who's on that line for god knows how long
they're waiting. But that's okay. So you don't think people secretly, No, they.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
Don't, and if they have a problem, I'll take.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
Care of it. I'm always in my head about people
hating me. I think it's just part of having anxiety. Yeah. Same,
you know you're always worried about what people think about you.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Yeah, I know that's my problem, Wendy. This whole week,
something happened each day, even though it's only a Wednesday. Yeah,
that affected me, thinking that people don't like me.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
I feel like that all the time. I think it's
you know what it is for me, and I don't
know if it's the same for you. Yeah, whenever I
do something that's outside of my normal routine, I get
a little bit bent out of shape. For instance, last week,
and I know it's been a couple of days since
we did the podcast. So sorry, we're just catching you
up now.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
I had the distinct honor I was asked to be
on not one, but two different panels last week.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
Oh that's right, and I miss it. I'm so sorry.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
Your back was bad. We had to talk about your back.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
Oh god.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
But it was First off, it was such an incredible experience.
I don't often do these sorts of things. A lot
of people don't know that. I am a little shy.
You wouldn't think, but I get nervous. So the fact
that I was able to do this and speak in
front of my peers, looking them in the eyeballs, it was.
(03:39):
It was nerve wracking. But I also was like, oh,
I hope I didn't say anything weird. Why are we
always second guessing ourselves?
Speaker 1 (03:46):
I agree, I always second guess myself. I will write
an email or I will say something, and then I'll
go back to the email and I'll be like, eh,
let me retweek this wait after you sent it or no, no, no,
I'll write it for then I'll wait a little bit
and then I'll go back to it. And then if
I say something, obviously you can't really take it back.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
Now you can understand, depending on your service, maybe maybe
not here.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
No, but I literally am always second guessing myself, and
I always am asking myself do I sound stupid?
Speaker 2 (04:21):
On this panel, I was like just trying to be
myself and be honest, but a lot of the times
because of the way my brain processes information, I interrupt people.
I don't mean to.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
I have the same problem.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
It's an ADHDP where you come up there's a thought
in your head and you don't want to forget it,
and sometimes you're not really paying attention to the other
noises that are happening. So jump in there, you say something.
Maybe it was something someone else said a moment ago.
I I probably what's the word ruminate? I liminated for
hours just thinking, like I hope that I didn't I
(04:57):
didn't come off like a tool or weird.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Honey, you didn't come off as a tool. I saw
videos and you did great.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
You are my idol.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
You're mine. No, you're confident. I can your confidence. You're
so you know, people assume we are extroverts here, yes,
because of what we do, and it's more complicated than that.
I think it is.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
And I feel like when you're on the radio you
kind of have a different personality than you do in
your regular day, Like sometimes because you're always when you're
on the radio, you're always smiling, and you're like when.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
You're to say, I'm a gropin.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
No, but no, not at all. But I'm saying, like
you're when you're on the radio and listen. I listen
to you every day that you're on and you I
know because I know you, like you're smiling like one
O three fib k to you, like I know, and
then like sometimes I feel like I mean when I
when I was on the radio, I'm like, like I
take it like a deep breath because you know, it's
(06:03):
a lot to be.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
It's an oddly physical job.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
Yeah, it takes a lot out of you think about it.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
I mean I fall asleep on the train sometimes.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
Yeah, let me think about it. Even when today when
we were talking about like a mic break and I'm like.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
Oh, yeah we were brainstorming together great, which yeah, thank
you for you.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
No, I'm just saying, you know, I'm saying like it's
a lot of work. People think, oh, you're just talking
on the radio.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
My brain is like actually doing jumping jacks the whole day. Yeah.
So sometimes when people come in face to face and
they want to to chat, yep, it's you know, there's
surprise sometimes that like how shy I come off. And
I'm not shy in front of people that I know
well that I feel like I can let go of
the masking a little bit. But but I just want
(06:51):
to shout out to Keana, who I know, this pops
into my head. I didn't realize that she was listening.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
I love that she listens. That is so awesome.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
I do too. And she was actually one of the
people that was like, no, you did great, Like I
didn't think it was weird. Go I told her, I said,
I think I was weird.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
Although I completely dissocated you to give yourself no credit,
but I would love to have Keana on.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
Yeah, we can talk about all sorts of stuff.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Oh my gosh, we should have a come in next time.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Yes, right, speaking of women that inspire me, Yeah, you me.
You were like, I mean, I don't know how much
you want to talk about your back.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Okay, sure, your injury, but.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
Like the fact you were coming in and just hustling
being in so much pain, What actually was going on there?
Speaker 1 (07:36):
Oh my goodness. So I woke up one morning and
I couldn't walk. I was literally hunched over, and I'm like,
what's going on? And I went right to the physical therapist.
They took X rays, so like, oh, you have arthritis,
you have hip dysplasia and you have degenerative disc disease.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
Okay, did they say that had anything to do with
your activities being a former gymnast?
Speaker 1 (07:59):
The answer yes, absolutely, And back back then in the nineties,
I have to say, we didn't wear the most appropriate shoes,
like we wore like I can't even describe white and
black saddle shoes. And then we wore kipas the keepers,
(08:20):
you know, but those no no.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
Called Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Yeah, so I'll show you a picture of the sneakers later.
But you know they were okay, they weren't like the best.
And so it was a lot of hard jumping and
landing and cartwheels, splits, fuward backhand springs, everything without supportive shoewear,
without supportive shoe wear. And you know what, when you're
(08:46):
that young, you're very limber, and I and I do splits.
I could still do a split, by the way.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
I believe it. I think I've seen it. Yes, I
don't know where, but I have.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Yeah. So the doctor said I was born with this
hip display and I said, now it all makes sense.
It's why I could do a split.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
He's like, yes, let me tell you something, because I mean,
I'm not a doctor, so no nobody listened to me
for medical advice. But I do read up a ton
on issues that I have because I just want to know. Yeah,
but when you have ADHD and you have different neurodiversience,
so this is a lot of the times there are comorbidities,
(09:23):
and one of them being is hypermobility and being somewhere
on that hypermobility spectrum disorder. Yes, and I'm sorry. I
looked at your fingers and I was like, oh, yeah,
we have the same kind of like they're bending all
different directions, having these kinds of joints. When when we
were kids, it was really popular decision to put us
(09:43):
into gymnastics, yes, because our parents did know, they're like,
oh flexible. Great. It was like maybe, but maybe not.
Maybe the smarter thing to do maybe today would be
to have your kid in some sort of physical therapist
that they can support those joints. But we have a
lot of the same issues. I know.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
It's wild, isn't it, Wendy.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Oh we're wild, But you are feeling a little bit better.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
I am feeling a lot better.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
Getting up a lot straight.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
I think, Yeah, so I'm doing physical therapy. I'm going
twice a week, which is great. I also went to
see a pain management doctor last week because last week,
Monday and Tuesday could not move. They gave me a
steroid pack and that is magic.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
Yeah, but that's not a long term solution. It's not.
Speaker 1 (10:34):
But Wendy, I was in so much pain. That's why
I wish I missed the Women's Day event because I
was so crippled.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
I mean, you know, we're going to be doing a
one off campus, yes, two weeks.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
I'm exciting me too, You're going right, oh yeah, okay, yeah, good, Yeah,
that's gonna.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
Be a lot of fun.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
I think it will be, honestly.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
And the second panel that I got to speak on
last week, it was in front of college students. No way,
I think of IBS.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
Yeah, the Intercollegiate Broadcasting System.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, I know. I'm like, oh IBS.
I mean, yeah, how perfect is that for me? But no,
but it actually is like a radio related thing, and
it's a lot of college students are either already doing
radio or looking to get into radio. That what I
was less nervous for.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
You know, why, no, do you want me to explain? Yes, well,
you're not in front of your peers. You're in front
of people who are striving to be like you in
your role one day. So the heat is off, right,
the heat is not on.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
It is Can I tell you about something amazing that
happened though? Yes, So during that panel, and I forget
the exact question, I feel like I'm not going to
do with justice, but this young person asked, like, well,
one of the biggest challenges was for me. I wish
I could say it more eloquently, but that's okay. I
did my best, and I said, listen, when I was
at the start of my career, I knew I always
(12:04):
had sensory issues. I knew that like something was. I
didn't know what it was at the time, but I
knew that there were things I needed accommodations for. And
guess what, I never did.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
And the accommodation never spoke up because I.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
Felt like, you know, as a woman in the early
two thousands, and granted I always had bosses that were
amazing and very supportive, I probably could have said something right,
but I never did because I felt like I already
had something to prove. So I admitted that pretty openly.
After the panel. One of the student who asked the question.
Came up to me and said, I go to a
school that is meant for neurodivergent people. I didn't know
(12:40):
that this existed. It's in Hermont.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
I'm like, wow. Can you imagine just like going to
a school that is meant for people like you, meaning
the fluorescent lights are probably non existent, right, you might
have some sort of sensory aids available to you. Imagine
being able to thrive in an environment like that.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
Oh right, that sounds like heaven.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
They maybe want to cry that this sort of thing exists. Yeah,
So I just wanted to give a shout out to
all the amazing kids and that's so great, all the
people who made that happen.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
Yeah, I did it one year with Joe DeAngelis. We
spoke at the IBS conference and it was it was
so great to see these young people wanting to get
into radio.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
Yeah, and you feel like you not to, like it's
different than when we got into it.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
I was just going to say that it's so different.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
I don't want to discourage anybody, but I also feel
like maybe they know more than us in a way.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
And that is another issue that I have because I'm
teaching at Hofstra, and sometimes I feel like my students
might know more than me because they're in that arena
of everything's digital and social and they're always on their phone.
It's like we weren't taught that way. We were taught
(14:00):
to write everything down or to use a binder trapper keeper,
or like, you know, everything was in an encyclopedia, or
we had cassette tapes you know.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
Yeah, you had to list your your resources. Yeah, I
just yeah. I think I think probably the best advice
I could give to anybody really is to is to
listen more and just see, because you're not to know it.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
All right, right, It's so interesting it is, isn't it.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
I know, And they look to us like because we've
been doing it, but it's it's so different now.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
The various changes that I can think of from nineteen
ninety seven when I started in radio to now.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Do you remember pulling CDs?
Speaker 1 (14:42):
Do I remember? And I had to use eight tracks
at one point.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
Okay, so we had the cart decks for the commercial, yes, exactly.
So if anybody does not know what a cart is,
how do I describe it? It's like it was like
a plastic.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
Square it's kind of like when you tape, well, but
a big one an a track. Well, do you think
about Nintendo or a game like a cartridge like that.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
We didn't have to blow on it, No, we did not,
but half the time they didn't fire correctly. I do
remember that because you had to set a tone at
the end of them, and they weren't like all wonky.
But I do remember having to clean out those machines
with a giant Q tip, Yes, and some rubbing alcohol.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
Do you remember splicing tape?
Speaker 2 (15:23):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (15:23):
Okay, I loved doing.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
I hated that. Oh I love that. I love editing.
I have a funny story too. We were actually recording
on the system right now called vox Pro. Yes. But
before vox Pro, do you remember short Cut three sixty?
Speaker 1 (15:36):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (15:37):
Okay. Do you remember how gummy and hard those buttons
were to push?
Speaker 1 (15:40):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (15:41):
And I have the same fingertips as you do.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
Yeah, we have the same finger, so basically.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
The last joint by our fingernail is like a little
too hyper mobile, so when you're trying to smash buttons. Okay,
I actually or sprained this finger on short Cuts three
sixty because of how hypermobile.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
Gosh, yeah, Oh, yeah, it was tough.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
Radio can be like dangerous.
Speaker 1 (16:09):
It really never know, you never know, I know, Wendy Wyld.
So what do you got planned for this weekend?
Speaker 2 (16:17):
Well, let's see this weekend. I'm like, I'm hoping that
there's no more improvements I have to do. Uh. Part
of the reason I did not record an episode last
week is because I was so caught up with improvements.
I had to get a new chimney liner. Oh, the
snow is still there, but it's less and at least
the chimneys safe now. So there was that. I had
(16:39):
to get a new vet for Alie. But he's doing great. Great.
I was not thrilled with where we were taking him
close to the house, so we're going a little further.
But they were wonderful.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
So and he seems happy, right, he was, okay.
Speaker 2 (16:53):
The happiest boy. Good. I did have to drug him
first though, but he's a happy boy. Yeah, he's a
happy little boy. That's so good. Though. What about you?
Are you doing anything for the weekend?
Speaker 1 (17:03):
No, I am taking it easy. But Monday is Saint
Patrick's Day.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
Oh and you're wearing green already, I know, isn't it funny?
I don't even realize.
Speaker 1 (17:12):
My best friend Amory and I have had a tradition
for about five or six years, and we make shamrock
shaped ravioli.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
Yes, wait, are you gonna bring some of it in?
Are you in on Monday?
Speaker 1 (17:27):
I am in on Monday?
Speaker 2 (17:28):
Okay? So you're making it this weekend? Okay, So we're.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
Actually making it Monday, I'm Saint Patrick's Day.
Speaker 2 (17:32):
Okay, So Tuesday, bring it in? Yeah? Is I have cheese? Yeah,
I'll bring lactaine. Oh that's really I really know. I'm
gonna need like three laxaes in that one.
Speaker 1 (17:42):
So we also make it with Vadka sauce.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
Usually it's so bod Oh my god, this sounds amazing.
Oh my god.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
And she makes me chicken cutlets, and I always make
a dessert every year, either I buy it or I
make it.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
Do you like cook a majority of your food? Are
you eating out?
Speaker 1 (17:59):
Or no? No?
Speaker 2 (17:59):
No?
Speaker 1 (17:59):
I I cook a lot. I love to cook.
Speaker 2 (18:02):
Favorite recipe.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
Well, I just got a new recipe from my mother
and it is so good. It's a dry Italian seasoning
with chicken, potatoes, onions, tomatoes, and green beans.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
Tomatoes.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
Yeah, in a skillet and you bake it in the
oven for an hour and it's delicious.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
I made hand meal like that. That's easy.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
I'm gonna I'm gonna teach you.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
Yeah yeah. The only thing I can't really handle the onion.
Oh yeah, the garlic. But I can make it without. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
Yeah, No, it's so good, Wendy. That's what I've been
eating a lot lately. But pasta bazzul I say is
my ultimate favorite.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
I just like the way you say it. Yeah. Yeah. Anyway,
if anybody would like to follow Danielle, do you want
to give.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
Out your so well, yeah, it's at Danielle DeLillo Cool Radio.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
You are, I am?
Speaker 1 (18:55):
Yeah, my god.
Speaker 2 (18:55):
You should make a Life Bites account why it seems
like a lot of work.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
No, I'll do it.
Speaker 2 (19:00):
Okay, we steal the tails over cocktails one I still one.
I guess we're going to just steal the catchphrase from
last time. So, even though we have no drinks in hand,
this has been another episode of Life Bites and until
next time, cheers,
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