November 20, 2024 • 14 mins
You're gonna be a shining star in fancy clothes and fancy cars and then you'll see you're gonna go far 'cause everyone knows who you are.
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Speaker 1 (00:09):
Hey, y'all, Hey y'all, Hey y'all. How y'all doing, y'all good?
You ate today? I hate today, I did. Welcome back
to the Life of les. So for the past couple episodes,
I've been telling y'all that I've been learning a lot, right,
and you probably wonder, well, what did you learn? Sis,
(00:29):
What did you learn? Alright, I'm gonna tell y'all what
I learned. I learned that for when I'm not crazy,
some things really just make sense and some things just
really don't. It's just you gotta decipher the two, right, y'alla,
figure out what makes sense or what don't. And sometimes
you can't do that without knowing or being informed that
(00:52):
something don't make sense. Mike, that's just life. But I
didn't know that, because when someone doesn't want you to
find whatever they do wrong, then that's when they gaslight
you into thinking that you're wrong and they're not wrong,
(01:14):
when one may not even be wrong. It's just what
makes sense and what? Don't you know what I'm saying.
And for a long time, like I was in a
relationship where I felt like I was the one that
was wrong all the time, and I wasn't even doing
anything bad or wrong just didn't make sense. A lot
(01:37):
of things didn't make sense to me, and I'm trying
to make it make dollars and it just didn't work
out right. But after it not making sense or not
making dollars, rather, it was easy for me to be
convinced that I was making everything up and I was
(01:58):
just stressing myself out for no reason, and it probably
was okay. Sometimes being the Lulu is not the Slulu, okay,
But you gotta understand that there's a difference, and knowing
what to do with that difference helps a lot, come
to think of it. But it's just some things you
(02:24):
don't learn until you cross that experience again and like, oh,
I've seen this before. You're trying to gas like me,
like old buddy was right, And then you just shift
how you react to it because you can't react the same.
That's like doing the same thing and expecting the same
(02:45):
or a different result is insanity. So they say, so
we had to do the same thing and switch it up. Okay,
we're switching it up. Another thing I learned that closed
mouths don't get fed, but sometimes open mouths don't either,
(03:08):
Like not saying something does more harm than saying the
wrong thing or it both of them do harm. Okay,
But I growing up right. I My mouth used to
get me in trouble if you can't tell, because I
(03:30):
love the dog. And learning that there's time and a
place to talk about everything, and sometimes this ain't the
time or the place or the person to be talking
about this too, keeps me out of trouble sometimes. Okay,
it's been getting me in trouble, but you know, I
(03:53):
learned from that, and learning from past mistakes helps with
future mistakes because people are going to people. Okay, people
are gonna talk. You tell little Johnny that somebody stole
three of his apples, he gonna tell somebody else somebody
stole full of his apples so he can get an
(04:13):
extra wink for free. Okay, Like people just make up
stuff on top of what you told them, and you
know how that goes. So I'm learning to reel in
on my talking. But also I'm learning to speak up
(04:33):
for myself, say hey, this is right, Hey this is
not right. Like I said, it's not everything has to
be right or wrong. It's just what makes sense and
what doesn't make sense, and let's make it make dollars. Okay,
we like those, we do. Another thing that I have
(04:58):
learned in this past here is that there's hope in
every situation. You just gotta look for it, and then
when you find it, you hold on for dear life. Okay,
Like have you ever just felt so hopeless? Like how
am I gonna possibly get out of this situation? Right?
(05:21):
I don't see no way out? And you just find
some This is where Delulu can be the Slulu, right.
You just find something that keeps you holding on, You
hold on through it for dear life, okay. And then
once you make it out of that situation, whether what
you was hoping for happened or not, you still made
(05:44):
it out, you know what I'm saying. But if you
just decide to hold on to the fact that you
just won't get out of that situation, then can you
imagine what's gonna happen? You're not gonna get out of
that situation? Okay. But I had to hold out hope
for a million different things in order to be where
(06:07):
I am, and this is not where I hope to be,
but it's better than where I would have been if
I hadn't found any hope at all. Right, like just
sleeping on a couch all day at night and just
pondering on all the things that have gone wrong in
(06:28):
my life and ended me up on a couch. It
had me stuck for a while. I'm not even gonna
lie because I was feeling so bad about myself. But
I had to hold on to the hope that even
though this is where I am, it's not where I'm
gonna end up. Right Like, every time I got in
(06:49):
front of this microphone this year, it was me hoping that, Okay,
this episode, somebody's gonna hear it and want me to
do something right, want me to be on their TV show.
So I don't know whatever, I don't, I didn't care, Okay.
I wanted this to be my ticket out. And it
(07:09):
wasn't like we can't escape from life. We just gotta
go through it. Whether my podcast takes off or not,
I'm still here, right Like I was hoping that you know,
I could do this, or that I really wanted to
be Cheeky's's backup singer or background singer, and I'm not,
(07:32):
And that's cool, Like that's not where life was supposed
to take me. Life was supposed to take me exactly
where I am, Okay, But had I given up, I
wouldn't be here to see it now, would Okay. And
that's just something that I didn't know growing up. I
(07:55):
just thought that life just happens to us, and we
either make it out or we don't. Right. I didn't
understand that I had the power to make it out,
like I can make that choice, and however I make
it out, I make it out, you know what I'm saying,
(08:16):
as long as I'm not hurting anybody in the process.
But I always thought that you had to hurt somebody
to make it out. Somebody had to get hurt, somebody's
feelings had to get hurt something. But that's not true.
You can just hope, hope for something great to happen
to you, and it will. It might not be what
(08:38):
you want, but it'll be something. And something's better than nothing.
That's also something that I learned. Something is better than nothing, Okay.
Like I grew up with not having much, and so
it felt comfortable to not have things because that's what
(08:58):
I'm used to, right, And so when when you got
four dollars in your account and you can't buy a
toothbrush and toothpaste and soap. What are you to do?
And I would just sit and wallowing that and the
fact that I'm like, God, gally have four dollars to
(09:20):
my name, what is me? And that that didn't get
me anywhere. It didn't. But you know what did get
me somewhere applying to a job and going to the interview.
Cause I'm gen z. We are quick to get a
(09:42):
job and leave job so as it inconveniences us, we're
out the door. Don't know why we're like that, but
here we are. Okay. But the job that I applied
for is not the job that I have, and I
love my job. But had I not applied to that
(10:02):
first job, I wouldn't have known to apply for the
job that I got. That led me to where I am.
So I had to start somewhere, and it got me somewhere.
Like something is better than nothing. Okay, my first paycheck
was small, sure, I was like, well, it's better than
the four dollars I have, that's for sure. So yeah,
(10:26):
this is just some of the things that I've learned
in life, well this year in life. Another thing I
learned is that you don't have to give up on love.
Love is inevitable, Love is natural. Love is beautiful, and
it comes to many different forms, shapes, sizes, you name it.
(10:50):
Like there's romantic love, there's friendship, love, platonic love like
love of mother, love of father, love of a aunt,
love of an uncle, grandparents, like anyone can love you,
and you can love them. You just have to know
(11:11):
how to love them, what love means to you, how
you would like to be loved in any given you know,
genre of love, flavor of love, because the love you
give may not be what you get. But you teach
people how to love you by loving yourself. And I
(11:35):
had to start loving myself and start beating myself up
and saying, woe is me? I'm just a girl from
the country. What do I know? I know a lot, okay,
And no one can tell me that I don't know
a lot, because I know I know a lot. I
know what I know, okay. And if you'll know, you know.
(11:55):
And if you don't know, now you know, okay, tell
you something. Can't tell me what I do and do
not know anyhow. I just had to know that I
was worthy of love, I was capable of loving myself,
because it's one thing to love God, because Jesus said,
(12:18):
we love God, and then we love ourselves, and then
we love our neighbors and so like, it's one thing
to love God, but it's another to love yourself. Okay,
flaws and all, you gotta get comfortable with them. Okay,
you can either change them, do something about it, or
(12:38):
just stop worrying about it. Maybe it'll go away once
you stop worrying about it. Like if you have a
pimple on your forehead, the more you worried about it
and pick at it, the longest's gonna stay there, and
then it's gonna scar. Right. But if you love on yourself,
you give yourself enough water, a routine, a skincare routine,
(12:59):
like decent products to clean your face with understanding how
to take care of your skin, doing your part to
make sure that you can love yourself correctly and how
you need to be loved. It helps you love other
people accordingly, like I take care of myself, Let me
I can take care of you kind of thing, like
(13:23):
I love me, I'm capable of loving you however you
want to be loved right, Because I love myself unconditionally,
I don't care if I mess up and follow on
my face, i'ma get back up, and i'ma be laughing, okay,
and I'm gonna tell everybody I fail. I'm gonna tell
them before you tell. Okay. I love to see them
(13:44):
laugh before you do. So yeah, those are just some
of the things that I've learned in this crazy roller
coaster car life. So I don't know, take whatever my
gay grain of salt or I don't know, do what
you want with it. Just know, should I love you
(14:07):
because I love me? Okay? And love Pieace and chicken grease, right,
and what do we always say, Bookie? Don't go missing
on nobody day because it's not very cute, not very
de mirror, not very cute to see. Okay, don't do
that all right bye,
Hey, y'all, Hey y'all, Hey y'all. How y'all doing, y'all good?
You ate today? I hate today, I did. Welcome back
to the Life of les. So for the past couple episodes,
I've been telling y'all that I've been learning a lot, right,
and you probably wonder, well, what did you learn? Sis,
(00:29):
What did you learn? Alright, I'm gonna tell y'all what
I learned. I learned that for when I'm not crazy,
some things really just make sense and some things just
really don't. It's just you gotta decipher the two, right, y'alla,
figure out what makes sense or what don't. And sometimes
you can't do that without knowing or being informed that
(00:52):
something don't make sense. Mike, that's just life. But I
didn't know that, because when someone doesn't want you to
find whatever they do wrong, then that's when they gaslight
you into thinking that you're wrong and they're not wrong,
(01:14):
when one may not even be wrong. It's just what
makes sense and what? Don't you know what I'm saying.
And for a long time, like I was in a
relationship where I felt like I was the one that
was wrong all the time, and I wasn't even doing
anything bad or wrong just didn't make sense. A lot
(01:37):
of things didn't make sense to me, and I'm trying
to make it make dollars and it just didn't work
out right. But after it not making sense or not
making dollars, rather, it was easy for me to be
convinced that I was making everything up and I was
(01:58):
just stressing myself out for no reason, and it probably
was okay. Sometimes being the Lulu is not the Slulu, okay,
But you gotta understand that there's a difference, and knowing
what to do with that difference helps a lot, come
to think of it. But it's just some things you
(02:24):
don't learn until you cross that experience again and like, oh,
I've seen this before. You're trying to gas like me,
like old buddy was right, And then you just shift
how you react to it because you can't react the same.
That's like doing the same thing and expecting the same
(02:45):
or a different result is insanity. So they say, so
we had to do the same thing and switch it up. Okay,
we're switching it up. Another thing I learned that closed
mouths don't get fed, but sometimes open mouths don't either,
(03:08):
Like not saying something does more harm than saying the
wrong thing or it both of them do harm. Okay,
But I growing up right. I My mouth used to
get me in trouble if you can't tell, because I
(03:30):
love the dog. And learning that there's time and a
place to talk about everything, and sometimes this ain't the
time or the place or the person to be talking
about this too, keeps me out of trouble sometimes. Okay,
it's been getting me in trouble, but you know, I
(03:53):
learned from that, and learning from past mistakes helps with
future mistakes because people are going to people. Okay, people
are gonna talk. You tell little Johnny that somebody stole
three of his apples, he gonna tell somebody else somebody
stole full of his apples so he can get an
(04:13):
extra wink for free. Okay, Like people just make up
stuff on top of what you told them, and you
know how that goes. So I'm learning to reel in
on my talking. But also I'm learning to speak up
(04:33):
for myself, say hey, this is right, Hey this is
not right. Like I said, it's not everything has to
be right or wrong. It's just what makes sense and
what doesn't make sense, and let's make it make dollars. Okay,
we like those, we do. Another thing that I have
(04:58):
learned in this past here is that there's hope in
every situation. You just gotta look for it, and then
when you find it, you hold on for dear life. Okay,
Like have you ever just felt so hopeless? Like how
am I gonna possibly get out of this situation? Right?
(05:21):
I don't see no way out? And you just find
some This is where Delulu can be the Slulu, right.
You just find something that keeps you holding on, You
hold on through it for dear life, okay. And then
once you make it out of that situation, whether what
you was hoping for happened or not, you still made
(05:44):
it out, you know what I'm saying. But if you
just decide to hold on to the fact that you
just won't get out of that situation, then can you
imagine what's gonna happen? You're not gonna get out of
that situation? Okay. But I had to hold out hope
for a million different things in order to be where
(06:07):
I am, and this is not where I hope to be,
but it's better than where I would have been if
I hadn't found any hope at all. Right, like just
sleeping on a couch all day at night and just
pondering on all the things that have gone wrong in
(06:28):
my life and ended me up on a couch. It
had me stuck for a while. I'm not even gonna
lie because I was feeling so bad about myself. But
I had to hold on to the hope that even
though this is where I am, it's not where I'm
gonna end up. Right Like, every time I got in
(06:49):
front of this microphone this year, it was me hoping that, Okay,
this episode, somebody's gonna hear it and want me to
do something right, want me to be on their TV show.
So I don't know whatever, I don't, I didn't care, Okay.
I wanted this to be my ticket out. And it
(07:09):
wasn't like we can't escape from life. We just gotta
go through it. Whether my podcast takes off or not,
I'm still here, right Like I was hoping that you know,
I could do this, or that I really wanted to
be Cheeky's's backup singer or background singer, and I'm not,
(07:32):
And that's cool, Like that's not where life was supposed
to take me. Life was supposed to take me exactly
where I am, Okay, But had I given up, I
wouldn't be here to see it now, would Okay. And
that's just something that I didn't know growing up. I
(07:55):
just thought that life just happens to us, and we
either make it out or we don't. Right. I didn't
understand that I had the power to make it out,
like I can make that choice, and however I make
it out, I make it out, you know what I'm saying,
(08:16):
as long as I'm not hurting anybody in the process.
But I always thought that you had to hurt somebody
to make it out. Somebody had to get hurt, somebody's
feelings had to get hurt something. But that's not true.
You can just hope, hope for something great to happen
to you, and it will. It might not be what
(08:38):
you want, but it'll be something. And something's better than nothing.
That's also something that I learned. Something is better than nothing, Okay.
Like I grew up with not having much, and so
it felt comfortable to not have things because that's what
(08:58):
I'm used to, right, And so when when you got
four dollars in your account and you can't buy a
toothbrush and toothpaste and soap. What are you to do?
And I would just sit and wallowing that and the
fact that I'm like, God, gally have four dollars to
(09:20):
my name, what is me? And that that didn't get
me anywhere. It didn't. But you know what did get
me somewhere applying to a job and going to the interview.
Cause I'm gen z. We are quick to get a
(09:42):
job and leave job so as it inconveniences us, we're
out the door. Don't know why we're like that, but
here we are. Okay. But the job that I applied
for is not the job that I have, and I
love my job. But had I not applied to that
(10:02):
first job, I wouldn't have known to apply for the
job that I got. That led me to where I am.
So I had to start somewhere, and it got me somewhere.
Like something is better than nothing. Okay, my first paycheck
was small, sure, I was like, well, it's better than
the four dollars I have, that's for sure. So yeah,
(10:26):
this is just some of the things that I've learned
in life, well this year in life. Another thing I
learned is that you don't have to give up on love.
Love is inevitable, Love is natural. Love is beautiful, and
it comes to many different forms, shapes, sizes, you name it.
(10:50):
Like there's romantic love, there's friendship, love, platonic love like
love of mother, love of father, love of a aunt,
love of an uncle, grandparents, like anyone can love you,
and you can love them. You just have to know
(11:11):
how to love them, what love means to you, how
you would like to be loved in any given you know,
genre of love, flavor of love, because the love you
give may not be what you get. But you teach
people how to love you by loving yourself. And I
(11:35):
had to start loving myself and start beating myself up
and saying, woe is me? I'm just a girl from
the country. What do I know? I know a lot, okay,
And no one can tell me that I don't know
a lot, because I know I know a lot. I
know what I know, okay. And if you'll know, you know.
(11:55):
And if you don't know, now you know, okay, tell
you something. Can't tell me what I do and do
not know anyhow. I just had to know that I
was worthy of love, I was capable of loving myself,
because it's one thing to love God, because Jesus said,
(12:18):
we love God, and then we love ourselves, and then
we love our neighbors and so like, it's one thing
to love God, but it's another to love yourself. Okay,
flaws and all, you gotta get comfortable with them. Okay,
you can either change them, do something about it, or
(12:38):
just stop worrying about it. Maybe it'll go away once
you stop worrying about it. Like if you have a
pimple on your forehead, the more you worried about it
and pick at it, the longest's gonna stay there, and
then it's gonna scar. Right. But if you love on yourself,
you give yourself enough water, a routine, a skincare routine,
(12:59):
like decent products to clean your face with understanding how
to take care of your skin, doing your part to
make sure that you can love yourself correctly and how
you need to be loved. It helps you love other
people accordingly, like I take care of myself, Let me
I can take care of you kind of thing, like
(13:23):
I love me, I'm capable of loving you however you
want to be loved right, Because I love myself unconditionally,
I don't care if I mess up and follow on
my face, i'ma get back up, and i'ma be laughing, okay,
and I'm gonna tell everybody I fail. I'm gonna tell
them before you tell. Okay. I love to see them
(13:44):
laugh before you do. So yeah, those are just some
of the things that I've learned in this crazy roller
coaster car life. So I don't know, take whatever my
gay grain of salt or I don't know, do what
you want with it. Just know, should I love you
(14:07):
because I love me? Okay? And love Pieace and chicken grease, right,
and what do we always say, Bookie? Don't go missing
on nobody day because it's not very cute, not very
de mirror, not very cute to see. Okay, don't do
that all right bye,
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