Episode 8-How to Navigate Perfectionism

It deserves to be said that perfect is not the same as perfectionism. "Perfect" can be a repeatedly-attainable outcome in situations that have little nuance and meet certain specifications. Think about a puzzle and how every piece fits in exactly one correct spot in order to recreate the image.



Connecting a piece to another might have us considering this a perfect fit. It almost seems impossible, though, to keep this same line of logic flowing when considering something as nuanced as human behavior and how perfectionism impacts our actions or inactions. Even if our brains can understand that something being "perfect" is relative, we somehow still may end up trying to meet specific marks.





Whose marks are we trying to meet and what standards are we upholding in our pursuits? Hint: If you find yourself procrastinating, never being satisfied with your efforts, and feeling like there is a clear "right" way that is superior to other ways, you're likely perpetuating someone else's measurements and norm.



This is the foundation of perfectionism--being in a cycle of desiring outcomes that can never be achieved and that don't resonate with your unique likeness. Let that sink in...and then join us as we sit in council around how perfectionism can show up in our lives and reimagine how we can move through it with nourishing and resonant practices.



We at TLC all need this conversation and we are looking forward to learning with you!



*Books Mentioned: Teaching to Transgress by Bell Hooks