August 9, 2025 • 19 mins
Sometimes, anger is just a mask for pain. Dive into the heartwarming story of "I’m Not Angry, I’m Just Hurt," now available as a podcast!
This powerful story explores:
• The journey of Liam, a boy who feels deeply broken and believes people always leave him, with every little thing echoing his inner pain.
• His unexpected encounter with an injured stray dog, whom he names Shadow, recognizing her pain as familiar because "sometimes, the wounded find each other by accident".
• How caring for Shadow helps Liam confront his own invisible hurt, transforming his anger into a path of healing and self-discovery.
• The importance of trust, healing, and second chances, as Liam learns to open his heart, supported by his grandma and best friend Maya.
• The profound truth that healing isn't a straight line, but every little victory counts, especially when you let someone in.
"I’m Not Angry, I’m Just Hurt" is a testament to how the wounded can find each other and heal together. Published by Kokoshungsan Ltd., this story embodies our mission to empower individuals through the transformative power of knowledge and personal growth.
Tune in to hear how Liam and Shadow's bond teaches us that "behind anger is hurt, and behind hurt, the possibility of healing!" Listen now and let this story resonate with you, reminding you that "healing is its own kind of magic".
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This powerful story explores:
• The journey of Liam, a boy who feels deeply broken and believes people always leave him, with every little thing echoing his inner pain.
• His unexpected encounter with an injured stray dog, whom he names Shadow, recognizing her pain as familiar because "sometimes, the wounded find each other by accident".
• How caring for Shadow helps Liam confront his own invisible hurt, transforming his anger into a path of healing and self-discovery.
• The importance of trust, healing, and second chances, as Liam learns to open his heart, supported by his grandma and best friend Maya.
• The profound truth that healing isn't a straight line, but every little victory counts, especially when you let someone in.
"I’m Not Angry, I’m Just Hurt" is a testament to how the wounded can find each other and heal together. Published by Kokoshungsan Ltd., this story embodies our mission to empower individuals through the transformative power of knowledge and personal growth.
Tune in to hear how Liam and Shadow's bond teaches us that "behind anger is hurt, and behind hurt, the possibility of healing!" Listen now and let this story resonate with you, reminding you that "healing is its own kind of magic".
#ImNotAngryImJustHurt #Podcast #HealingJourney #TrustAndHealing #SecondChances #EmotionalWellbeing #Kokoshungsan #NewRelease #ListenNow #PersonalGrowth
👉 我不是生氣，我只是受傷了 / I’m Not Angry, I’m Just Hurt: 信任、療癒與第二次機會的故事 —— 兒童與青少年英文・繁體中文版
https://amzn.eu/d/eDu4Zcw
👉 Apple Ebooks: https://books.apple.com/gb/author/shu-chen-hou/id1643138532
👉Google Play Ebooks: https://play.google.com/store/books/author?id=Shu+Chen+Hou
💗KOKOSHUNGSAN® Empowering digital success. ►https://kokoshungsan.net
💗KOKOSHUNGSAN® Music:
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https://music.youtube.com/channel/UCEtPd_qlZdRR8hrCyWQhzYQ
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Scar result. We thought, you.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Know, how often do we actually see anger, I mean
really see it out in the world, maybe in the news,
sometimes even in ourselves, and we just react to it. Right,
We see the outburst, the frustration, maybe sharp words, and
we react to that. But what if underneath all that
there's a well, a different story, a deeper one. Today
(00:37):
we're doing a deep dive into exactly that kind of
hidden narrative. We're exploring this really insightful, concise little book
that tackles this very idea. It's called I'm Not Angry,
I'm Just Hurt by Doctor chu Chinhell yeah.
Speaker 3 (00:50):
And what grabs you immediately, like right there on the
cover is the subtitle A Story of trust, healing and
second Chances. It tells you right away this isn't just,
you know, a simple story. It's about a journey and
doctor Howis She's managed to distill these incredibly complex, sometimes
really messy human emotions into a well, a surprisingly accessible story.
It's presented like a fable, sure, but the wisdom in
(01:10):
it it really speaks to anyone, any age, who's ever
dealt with that kind of invisible pain.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Absolutely, so our mission for this deep dive is really
to unpack the insights woven into this story, into the
character's journey. We want to explore what you listening right
now can maybe learn about pain, about the whole process
of healing. And this is crucial the power of connection,
real connection human or as we'll see, even animal connection.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
So yeah, this isn't just going to be a plot summary.
We're digging into the psychological truths here, the wisdom you
can actually use, and.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
It really tackles some truly universal stuff, themes we all encounter.
That feeling of being invisible. You know, how much courage
it takes to actually trust someone else, and the impact,
the huge impact of letting someone see the real you,
the vulnerable you. It's about finding maybe just a flicker
of light at first, but eventually real warmth, even when
you're stuck in like the deepest shadows of hurt.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Okay, So for this deep dive, our sources are right
from the book itself. We've got carefully chosen excerpts. We've
looked at the introduction which really sets the scene, snippets
from key chapter straits in the story, doctor Hal's own
bio which is quite interesting, and info about the publisher too,
Cocashinsan Ltd. And I have to say, just reading these parts,
even before really analyzing them, it hit me. It's one
(02:26):
of those books that, well, it sticks with you. The
message is really intactful. Okay, so let's get into the narrative.
It opens with the scene that immediately tells you what
the book's getting at. We meet this boy, Liam, and
his anger is just it's right there, you feel it.
He slams his locker right so hard the whole hallway
kind of flinches. It's this immediate, very physical display of frustration.
But the author, she makes it clear pretty quickly. This
(02:48):
isn't just anger, is it.
Speaker 3 (02:49):
No, not at all. And what's really striking is how
the author doesn't just describe the anger. She goes straight
for the roots. The text says explicitly Liam was broken
in ways no wa never asked about. So the anger
isn't the core issue. It's a symptom, right, a very visible,
maybe aggressive symptom, but it points to something deeper, something invisible.
There's this line, every thought of a textbook in his
(03:11):
backpack felt like another bruise deep where nobody could see.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
That just nails it, doesn't it that common thing where
internal pain, if it's not seen or dealt with, just
bursts out its frustration or anger. It's like a shield.
He's throwing up, maybe not even consciously, and his.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Internal thoughts, Wow, they're really quite heartbreaking. He's walking home
alone and he's just wishing someone, anyone would care enough
to ask what's really wrong. He wants someone to stay,
actually see him. But then he thinks, bitterly, you know
people always left, that feeling of abandonment, of just being unseen, unheard,
it's clearly driving his behavior. The anger is the wall, yeah,
(03:48):
protecting something really tender underneath. And it immediately makes you think,
doesn't it. How often do we in our own lives
just judge the anger we see in other people, maybe
even in ourselves, without stopping to think, okay, wait, what
hurt might be underneath this. Liam's story really challenges us
to look past that surface reaction. His pain makes this
whole world feel, the book says, cracked, and it echoes
(04:12):
inside him with every little thing, every small slight. It's
not really about the outside stuff, it's about how it
triggers the inside stuff.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
So here's where things take a really interesting turn, a
pivotal one it feels almost like fate, you know, the
wounded finding each other. Liam ducks into this alley he
doesn't usually use, and he finds this stray dog, ragged hurt.
The dog has a twisted paw, clearly useless, and her eyes,
the book says, are huge, wet, scared, and they meet his.
It's like this moment of instant recognition. Something inside Liam
(04:41):
just lurched, not just reacting to the injury, but to
the shared sense of pain and echo.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
It's a really powerful moment of synchronicity. Yeah, and this encounter,
it's not just a plot point. It shows how connection
can start because for the first time, Liam's anger, which
is usually burning inward, it shifts his focus moves out
towards this other creature's pain. The anger that usually burned
in his throat turned into a lump. Hmmm. That's not
just physical. It's like the very first tiny step toward healing,
(05:08):
finding connection through shared vulnerability, even if it's someone else's vulnerability.
He sees first. He doesn't see the dog as another
reason to be angry. He sees himself, his own hurt
reflected in her eyes. And often it is easier to
show compassion to someone else before we can show it
to ourselves, isn't it?
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Yeah? Absolutely, And his reaction tells you everything about that shift.
He grabs his phone frankly typing how to help an
injured straight dog, and the advice he gets be gentle
all for water, find shelter. It becomes like this unconscious
guide not just for the dog who he ends, maybe Shadow,
but really for himself too. He bandages her paw, his
hands are shaking, and in doing that and focusing on her,
(05:45):
he sees her loneliness and a desperate hope so familiar
it almost hurt to look. It's like looking in a mirror,
seeing his own deepest needs reflected.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
Back exactly, And that interaction really highlights something profound, almost paradoxical.
Sometimes when we we offer care to someone else, we
actually start the process of caring for ourselves, maybe without
even realizing it. What Liam does for Shadow is in
a way like projected self care. Yeah, he can deal
with the pain when it's externalized. It's less threatening that way,
(06:13):
and that gently opens the door to maybe looking at
his own pain. Oh and it's important too that his
grandma is so accepting she lets Shadow into their home.
That provides this crucial safe space for Liam too to
start opening up. It shows healing isn't usually a solo thing.
It needs that acceptance, that understanding, right.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
So the story moves into this phase. The book calls
healing Together, which is just perfect, And there's this powerful line,
it's easier to open your heart when someone finally sees
you the real hurting you. Liam just throws himself into
caring for Shadow, researching wound care, buying supplies, sitting with
her every day, and in those quiet moments, he starts
whispering things secrets he's never told anyone about being bullied
(06:52):
at school, about that awful feeling of being invisible, about
his parents just disappearing and leaving this huge aching hole
inside him.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Such a critical transformative part of the story. Shadow becomes
his confidant, safe, non judgmental, like a mirror for his
pain and the process of building trust with Shadow. It's slow, steady,
almost invisible at first, but it mirrors Liam's own internal shifts.
The author describes it beautifully. At first, Shadow just watched
with wary eyes, but slowly she leaned into his hand,
(07:22):
until one day she rested her head on his knee.
That simple act of trust from Shadow. Wow, it's the catalyst.
It's so powerful. It finally lets Liam crack just a bit.
He cries quietly, deeply into her fur. That's the moment
the mask really starts to slip, revealing the hurt underneath.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
That moment. It's so visceral, isn't it. It's not just crying.
It's like this huge release of everything he's been holding in,
the abandonment, the grief, and it perfectly sets up the
next step, which comes when his best friend Maya notices
he's different. She just says, gently, you're different lately. Not
as mad, are you? Okay?
Speaker 3 (07:54):
And Maya's approach here is so insightful. She's a real friend.
She doesn't confront the anger he used to show. She
sees through it. She acknowledges the change, which validates what's
happening inside him. And Liam's response, it's a breakthrough for him.
He says, I don't think I was ever just angry.
I think I was left behind.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
It hurts.
Speaker 3 (08:13):
That's not just dialogue. That's him finally naming the invisible wound,
the thing the anger was covering up. And it makes
you think, doesn't it? How often do we mistake our
own pain, maybe feeling unseen or unheard for just being
angry or irritable. The book gently leads you to that
kind of self reflection.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
Yeah, and Maya's reply is just perfect for that moment
of vulnerability. You don't have to hide it with me,
just simple permission acceptance, exactly what he needed. Later, Liam
thinks about how he used to push people away, sharp words,
slam doors, all to avoid being left again, and he
has this realization. Shadow's wounds were obvious, right, easy to
see and fix, but his own hurt was totally invisible,
(08:50):
except maybe to this one creature who somehow saw pass
his anger. It's a really profound moment of self awareness,
recognizing those subtle ways we try to protect ourselves.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
The whole sequence just masterfully illustrates the book's core message
about vulnerability being transformative. It takes incredible courage to admit
you're hurt, and even more courage to let someone else
see it without judgment, without fearing they'll leave to The
book really argues that true connection, real friendship, doesn't just
react to the anger. It looks for the pain underneath.
(09:21):
It offers a space for healing instead of just pushing
back against the surface emotion.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Okay, so then we get to a part called small
steps Forward. I love this framing. It really emphasizes that
healing isn't like a straight line. It's a journey twists
and turns, and every little victory, every bit of progress,
it counts a lot. Shadow's limbs starts getting better, she
wags her tail more. You see her healing physically, and
Liam neels beside her and whispers, it's scary to trust again. Huh.
(09:47):
And Shadow, you know, like she understands, just licks his hand,
this silent connection, maybe even forgiveness for how harsh the
world can be.
Speaker 3 (09:54):
It's such a quiet, beautiful interaction, and it says so
much about their parallel journeys. Liam is literally learning from Shabbery,
about the courage it takes to take those small steps
towards trust, towards feeling secure again. And you see the
result later at school. Some kids laugh at his old sneakers.
The old Liam he would have exploded right, that familiar anger,
but now he pauses, takes breath, mutters whatever, and just
(10:18):
walks away. He doesn't need that angry shield. In the
same way, the wound inside is starting to heal, so
the external stuff doesn't trigger him as.
Speaker 2 (10:25):
Much, and Maya sees it straight away. She tells him
that was brave, and he actually manages a small smile,
a real one, says, I'm trying. Shadow helps weeks go by,
shadow fully recovers. Liam starts writing his feelings down in
a notebook. He even talks to his grandma about his
deep as fears and she just listens with love. The
ache from his past that's still there, he knows it is,
(10:46):
but it's not sharp anymore, not consuming him. His whole
phase is about recognizing that healing takes time and effort
and self compassion.
Speaker 3 (10:53):
It's ongoing absolutely and connecting this to just how people
work psychologically. The story shows powerfully that healing really is
a journey of small, brave steps, often steps nobody else
even sees. It's not about some overnight cure or dramatic fix.
It's gradual. It's about slowly letting go of old defenses
(11:13):
and bravely consistently choosing vulnerability and connection instead. And the
support from his Grandma and Maya. It underlines how vital
that support network is when you're navigating emotional recovery. You
rarely do it completely alone, and.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
That brings us near the end to a scene called
Golden Evenings Gentle Hearts. Liam and Shadow are just sitting
on the porch steps sunset, warm colors. He's scratching her head,
feeling her solid presence beside him, and he whispers, almost
talking to himself. We're both learning, we're both still here.
It's this moment of real peace, acceptance.
Speaker 3 (11:44):
It's a beautiful culmination, isn't it a quiet testament to
the healing they've found together? Shadow leaning against him, warm, steady.
She's not just a pet anymore. She's like a living
symbol of the trust and healing they've both achieved. It
makes you think, what does it really mean to just
be with someone and that quiet, unconditional understanding, no big
words needed.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
Yeah, and Liam, in this moment just pure honesty, says again,
almost to himself, I'm not just angry anymore. I'm healing
and maybe one day I'll trust for real. Oh, Shadow,
perfectly in tune, just licks his cheek as it's saying
me too. Ooh h. That quiet moment just perfectly captures
the book's main insight, the transformative idea by getting anger
(12:25):
is hurt and behind hurt the possibility of healing, especially
when you let someone in. It's such a simple truth
but delivered with so much emotional weight. So this book
I'm not angry, I'm just hurt. It's definitely, without doubt,
a strong recommendation from us. It's incredibly quick to read.
You can absorb the main message in like one sitting,
but the depth the insights you get, they really last.
(12:46):
It's perfect if you're looking for a deeper understanding of emotions, pain, healing,
but in an accessible way. It gives you wisdom without
feeling heavy.
Speaker 3 (12:53):
It really does illustrate that core wisdom so powerfully. Behind
the anger is hurt, and behind the hurt is healing,
especially when you let someone see you let them in.
It's a fantastic example of the courage vulnerability takes, the
strength you find in connection, and just the truth that
healing happens in small, brave steps consistently. And the author herself,
(13:15):
doctor Shu Chen who her own story is pretty inspiring too.
She moved from deep in the sciences to embracing her
love for music, writing and founding Kokushumson Ltd. Her journey
kind of shows that brilliance and the drive to make
a positive impact can take many forms. This book is
a powerful expression of that.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
So thinking about Liam and Shadow and how the book
shows anger as often being well a mask for pain.
Here's something maybe to think about after listening, what invisible
hurt might be driving some of the anger you encounter
in your own life, maybe in other people, or maybe
even frustrations you feel inside yourself. How might understanding that
difference to the distinction change how you approach connection or
(13:53):
healing for yourself or others. It really powerful, lens, I
think definitely.
Speaker 3 (13:57):
And if you are intrigued by this story, by the
wisdom of offers, or if you just want to explore
more resources that aim to empower people through knowledge making
it accessible, we strongly wholeheartedly encourage you to visit cookushing
sound dot net.
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Speaker 3 (14:15):
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There learn more about doctor shuchinhaus work, and also discover
what Cocushing Song Ltd. Is all about. Their mission to
make education accessible create positive change globally. It really is
more than just a publisher. It feels like a platform
maybe even a movement empowering minds. Thank you so much
for joining us on this, this deep dive into trust
(14:37):
and healing and the power of second chances.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
Yeah, thank you. Until our stories cross again, keep seeking
out those profound nuggets of knowledge, the ones that really
shift your perspective.
Speaker 4 (14:55):
Winds storm clouds gathering, winds grow strong. Remember hoo long,
you've been brave all along. In the darkest moments, when
hope feels thin, look inside your heart at the light within,
gegging rasible it all.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
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Speaker 4 (15:30):
When the world feels heavy and nights so long, hold
on to your dreams. Fine, way you belong.
Speaker 1 (15:39):
Every stirrup you say brings it closer to the light.
Keep moving fallward and it's only your line. All the suspearit, salt,
raise through the chase. Don't be every door stands all
to be afraid of fall. You have power beyond.
Speaker 4 (16:11):
When the world feels heavy and the night saw along,
hold onto your dreams.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
Fine where you along the other step you say, grease closer.
Speaker 4 (16:23):
To the line, Keep moving.
Speaker 1 (16:25):
Forward before your life a face and to close your song,
then you know reas fall, start dissever, be holly, distever
(16:49):
shine noted the too nicey side ras above you. That's
a star soult break through the sad only every time
stands all to be a face of fall. You have
a power above all to keep the faith.
Speaker 4 (17:11):
Lets your heart be strong. The journey is your own way.
You be long with love and courage. You'll find you
all way. Tomorrow's a new dawn. Embrace today, embracing, so
(17:34):
keep the.
Speaker 1 (17:34):
Favorite soppy song. The journey is your own way. You're
being long. Love shall find you all way some mosing
new dn Embrace today.
Speaker 4 (18:00):
When the world feels heavy and the night so long,
hold on to your dreams.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
Fine, will you belong? Every step you say brings your
closer to the light. Keep moving forward with though your life.
When the face is down your head, you are stronger
(18:31):
than no re fall stepper, sever shuck, don't get too
nicey sun, So keep the faint, be song, the tree
your own way, your fels find your way. It's a
(18:56):
mos a little dog and very today. Ok. The that
shot be sold the shore some all ye finds alway
some long's you jolly place today?
Scar result. We thought, you.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Know, how often do we actually see anger, I mean
really see it out in the world, maybe in the news,
sometimes even in ourselves, and we just react to it. Right,
We see the outburst, the frustration, maybe sharp words, and
we react to that. But what if underneath all that
there's a well, a different story, a deeper one. Today
(00:37):
we're doing a deep dive into exactly that kind of
hidden narrative. We're exploring this really insightful, concise little book
that tackles this very idea. It's called I'm Not Angry,
I'm Just Hurt by Doctor chu Chinhell yeah.
Speaker 3 (00:50):
And what grabs you immediately, like right there on the
cover is the subtitle A Story of trust, healing and
second Chances. It tells you right away this isn't just,
you know, a simple story. It's about a journey and
doctor Howis She's managed to distill these incredibly complex, sometimes
really messy human emotions into a well, a surprisingly accessible story.
It's presented like a fable, sure, but the wisdom in
(01:10):
it it really speaks to anyone, any age, who's ever
dealt with that kind of invisible pain.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Absolutely, so our mission for this deep dive is really
to unpack the insights woven into this story, into the
character's journey. We want to explore what you listening right
now can maybe learn about pain, about the whole process
of healing. And this is crucial the power of connection,
real connection human or as we'll see, even animal connection.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
So yeah, this isn't just going to be a plot summary.
We're digging into the psychological truths here, the wisdom you
can actually use, and.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
It really tackles some truly universal stuff, themes we all encounter.
That feeling of being invisible. You know, how much courage
it takes to actually trust someone else, and the impact,
the huge impact of letting someone see the real you,
the vulnerable you. It's about finding maybe just a flicker
of light at first, but eventually real warmth, even when
you're stuck in like the deepest shadows of hurt.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Okay, So for this deep dive, our sources are right
from the book itself. We've got carefully chosen excerpts. We've
looked at the introduction which really sets the scene, snippets
from key chapter straits in the story, doctor Hal's own
bio which is quite interesting, and info about the publisher too,
Cocashinsan Ltd. And I have to say, just reading these parts,
even before really analyzing them, it hit me. It's one
(02:26):
of those books that, well, it sticks with you. The
message is really intactful. Okay, so let's get into the narrative.
It opens with the scene that immediately tells you what
the book's getting at. We meet this boy, Liam, and
his anger is just it's right there, you feel it.
He slams his locker right so hard the whole hallway
kind of flinches. It's this immediate, very physical display of frustration.
But the author, she makes it clear pretty quickly. This
(02:48):
isn't just anger, is it.
Speaker 3 (02:49):
No, not at all. And what's really striking is how
the author doesn't just describe the anger. She goes straight
for the roots. The text says explicitly Liam was broken
in ways no wa never asked about. So the anger
isn't the core issue. It's a symptom, right, a very visible,
maybe aggressive symptom, but it points to something deeper, something invisible.
There's this line, every thought of a textbook in his
(03:11):
backpack felt like another bruise deep where nobody could see.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
That just nails it, doesn't it that common thing where
internal pain, if it's not seen or dealt with, just
bursts out its frustration or anger. It's like a shield.
He's throwing up, maybe not even consciously, and his.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Internal thoughts, Wow, they're really quite heartbreaking. He's walking home
alone and he's just wishing someone, anyone would care enough
to ask what's really wrong. He wants someone to stay,
actually see him. But then he thinks, bitterly, you know
people always left, that feeling of abandonment, of just being unseen, unheard,
it's clearly driving his behavior. The anger is the wall, yeah,
(03:48):
protecting something really tender underneath. And it immediately makes you think,
doesn't it. How often do we in our own lives
just judge the anger we see in other people, maybe
even in ourselves, without stopping to think, okay, wait, what
hurt might be underneath this. Liam's story really challenges us
to look past that surface reaction. His pain makes this
whole world feel, the book says, cracked, and it echoes
(04:12):
inside him with every little thing, every small slight. It's
not really about the outside stuff, it's about how it
triggers the inside stuff.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
So here's where things take a really interesting turn, a
pivotal one it feels almost like fate, you know, the
wounded finding each other. Liam ducks into this alley he
doesn't usually use, and he finds this stray dog, ragged hurt.
The dog has a twisted paw, clearly useless, and her eyes,
the book says, are huge, wet, scared, and they meet his.
It's like this moment of instant recognition. Something inside Liam
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just lurched, not just reacting to the injury, but to
the shared sense of pain and echo.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
It's a really powerful moment of synchronicity. Yeah, and this encounter,
it's not just a plot point. It shows how connection
can start because for the first time, Liam's anger, which
is usually burning inward, it shifts his focus moves out
towards this other creature's pain. The anger that usually burned
in his throat turned into a lump. Hmmm. That's not
just physical. It's like the very first tiny step toward healing,
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finding connection through shared vulnerability, even if it's someone else's vulnerability.
He sees first. He doesn't see the dog as another
reason to be angry. He sees himself, his own hurt
reflected in her eyes. And often it is easier to
show compassion to someone else before we can show it
to ourselves, isn't it?
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Yeah? Absolutely, And his reaction tells you everything about that shift.
He grabs his phone frankly typing how to help an
injured straight dog, and the advice he gets be gentle
all for water, find shelter. It becomes like this unconscious
guide not just for the dog who he ends, maybe Shadow,
but really for himself too. He bandages her paw, his
hands are shaking, and in doing that and focusing on her,
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he sees her loneliness and a desperate hope so familiar
it almost hurt to look. It's like looking in a mirror,
seeing his own deepest needs reflected.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
Back exactly, And that interaction really highlights something profound, almost paradoxical.
Sometimes when we we offer care to someone else, we
actually start the process of caring for ourselves, maybe without
even realizing it. What Liam does for Shadow is in
a way like projected self care. Yeah, he can deal
with the pain when it's externalized. It's less threatening that way,
(06:13):
and that gently opens the door to maybe looking at
his own pain. Oh and it's important too that his
grandma is so accepting she lets Shadow into their home.
That provides this crucial safe space for Liam too to
start opening up. It shows healing isn't usually a solo thing.
It needs that acceptance, that understanding, right.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
So the story moves into this phase. The book calls
healing Together, which is just perfect, And there's this powerful line,
it's easier to open your heart when someone finally sees
you the real hurting you. Liam just throws himself into
caring for Shadow, researching wound care, buying supplies, sitting with
her every day, and in those quiet moments, he starts
whispering things secrets he's never told anyone about being bullied
(06:52):
at school, about that awful feeling of being invisible, about
his parents just disappearing and leaving this huge aching hole
inside him.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Such a critical transformative part of the story. Shadow becomes
his confidant, safe, non judgmental, like a mirror for his
pain and the process of building trust with Shadow. It's slow, steady,
almost invisible at first, but it mirrors Liam's own internal shifts.
The author describes it beautifully. At first, Shadow just watched
with wary eyes, but slowly she leaned into his hand,
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until one day she rested her head on his knee.
That simple act of trust from Shadow. Wow, it's the catalyst.
It's so powerful. It finally lets Liam crack just a bit.
He cries quietly, deeply into her fur. That's the moment
the mask really starts to slip, revealing the hurt underneath.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
That moment. It's so visceral, isn't it. It's not just crying.
It's like this huge release of everything he's been holding in,
the abandonment, the grief, and it perfectly sets up the
next step, which comes when his best friend Maya notices
he's different. She just says, gently, you're different lately. Not
as mad, are you? Okay?
Speaker 3 (07:54):
And Maya's approach here is so insightful. She's a real friend.
She doesn't confront the anger he used to show. She
sees through it. She acknowledges the change, which validates what's
happening inside him. And Liam's response, it's a breakthrough for him.
He says, I don't think I was ever just angry.
I think I was left behind.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
It hurts.
Speaker 3 (08:13):
That's not just dialogue. That's him finally naming the invisible wound,
the thing the anger was covering up. And it makes
you think, doesn't it? How often do we mistake our
own pain, maybe feeling unseen or unheard for just being
angry or irritable. The book gently leads you to that
kind of self reflection.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
Yeah, and Maya's reply is just perfect for that moment
of vulnerability. You don't have to hide it with me,
just simple permission acceptance, exactly what he needed. Later, Liam
thinks about how he used to push people away, sharp words,
slam doors, all to avoid being left again, and he
has this realization. Shadow's wounds were obvious, right, easy to
see and fix, but his own hurt was totally invisible,
(08:50):
except maybe to this one creature who somehow saw pass
his anger. It's a really profound moment of self awareness,
recognizing those subtle ways we try to protect ourselves.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
The whole sequence just masterfully illustrates the book's core message
about vulnerability being transformative. It takes incredible courage to admit
you're hurt, and even more courage to let someone else
see it without judgment, without fearing they'll leave to The
book really argues that true connection, real friendship, doesn't just
react to the anger. It looks for the pain underneath.
(09:21):
It offers a space for healing instead of just pushing
back against the surface emotion.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Okay, so then we get to a part called small
steps Forward. I love this framing. It really emphasizes that
healing isn't like a straight line. It's a journey twists
and turns, and every little victory, every bit of progress,
it counts a lot. Shadow's limbs starts getting better, she
wags her tail more. You see her healing physically, and
Liam neels beside her and whispers, it's scary to trust again. Huh.
(09:47):
And Shadow, you know, like she understands, just licks his hand,
this silent connection, maybe even forgiveness for how harsh the
world can be.
Speaker 3 (09:54):
It's such a quiet, beautiful interaction, and it says so
much about their parallel journeys. Liam is literally learning from Shabbery,
about the courage it takes to take those small steps
towards trust, towards feeling secure again. And you see the
result later at school. Some kids laugh at his old sneakers.
The old Liam he would have exploded right, that familiar anger,
but now he pauses, takes breath, mutters whatever, and just
(10:18):
walks away. He doesn't need that angry shield. In the
same way, the wound inside is starting to heal, so
the external stuff doesn't trigger him as.
Speaker 2 (10:25):
Much, and Maya sees it straight away. She tells him
that was brave, and he actually manages a small smile,
a real one, says, I'm trying. Shadow helps weeks go by,
shadow fully recovers. Liam starts writing his feelings down in
a notebook. He even talks to his grandma about his
deep as fears and she just listens with love. The
ache from his past that's still there, he knows it is,
(10:46):
but it's not sharp anymore, not consuming him. His whole
phase is about recognizing that healing takes time and effort
and self compassion.
Speaker 3 (10:53):
It's ongoing absolutely and connecting this to just how people
work psychologically. The story shows powerfully that healing really is
a journey of small, brave steps, often steps nobody else
even sees. It's not about some overnight cure or dramatic fix.
It's gradual. It's about slowly letting go of old defenses
(11:13):
and bravely consistently choosing vulnerability and connection instead. And the
support from his Grandma and Maya. It underlines how vital
that support network is when you're navigating emotional recovery. You
rarely do it completely alone, and.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
That brings us near the end to a scene called
Golden Evenings Gentle Hearts. Liam and Shadow are just sitting
on the porch steps sunset, warm colors. He's scratching her head,
feeling her solid presence beside him, and he whispers, almost
talking to himself. We're both learning, we're both still here.
It's this moment of real peace, acceptance.
Speaker 3 (11:44):
It's a beautiful culmination, isn't it a quiet testament to
the healing they've found together? Shadow leaning against him, warm, steady.
She's not just a pet anymore. She's like a living
symbol of the trust and healing they've both achieved. It
makes you think, what does it really mean to just
be with someone and that quiet, unconditional understanding, no big
words needed.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
Yeah, and Liam, in this moment just pure honesty, says again,
almost to himself, I'm not just angry anymore. I'm healing
and maybe one day I'll trust for real. Oh, Shadow,
perfectly in tune, just licks his cheek as it's saying
me too. Ooh h. That quiet moment just perfectly captures
the book's main insight, the transformative idea by getting anger
(12:25):
is hurt and behind hurt the possibility of healing, especially
when you let someone in. It's such a simple truth
but delivered with so much emotional weight. So this book
I'm not angry, I'm just hurt. It's definitely, without doubt,
a strong recommendation from us. It's incredibly quick to read.
You can absorb the main message in like one sitting,
but the depth the insights you get, they really last.
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It's perfect if you're looking for a deeper understanding of emotions, pain, healing,
but in an accessible way. It gives you wisdom without
feeling heavy.
Speaker 3 (12:53):
It really does illustrate that core wisdom so powerfully. Behind
the anger is hurt, and behind the hurt is healing,
especially when you let someone see you let them in.
It's a fantastic example of the courage vulnerability takes, the
strength you find in connection, and just the truth that
healing happens in small, brave steps consistently. And the author herself,
(13:15):
doctor Shu Chen who her own story is pretty inspiring too.
She moved from deep in the sciences to embracing her
love for music, writing and founding Kokushumson Ltd. Her journey
kind of shows that brilliance and the drive to make
a positive impact can take many forms. This book is
a powerful expression of that.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
So thinking about Liam and Shadow and how the book
shows anger as often being well a mask for pain.
Here's something maybe to think about after listening, what invisible
hurt might be driving some of the anger you encounter
in your own life, maybe in other people, or maybe
even frustrations you feel inside yourself. How might understanding that
difference to the distinction change how you approach connection or
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healing for yourself or others. It really powerful, lens, I
think definitely.
Speaker 3 (13:57):
And if you are intrigued by this story, by the
wisdom of offers, or if you just want to explore
more resources that aim to empower people through knowledge making
it accessible, we strongly wholeheartedly encourage you to visit cookushing
sound dot net.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
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Speaker 3 (14:15):
One word you can find I'm not angry, I'm just hurt.
There learn more about doctor shuchinhaus work, and also discover
what Cocushing Song Ltd. Is all about. Their mission to
make education accessible create positive change globally. It really is
more than just a publisher. It feels like a platform
maybe even a movement empowering minds. Thank you so much
for joining us on this, this deep dive into trust
(14:37):
and healing and the power of second chances.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
Yeah, thank you. Until our stories cross again, keep seeking
out those profound nuggets of knowledge, the ones that really
shift your perspective.
Speaker 4 (14:55):
Winds storm clouds gathering, winds grow strong. Remember hoo long,
you've been brave all along. In the darkest moments, when
hope feels thin, look inside your heart at the light within,
gegging rasible it all.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
Than suspearit, so pay through the chains. Hoen every tone
stand t don't be afraid to fall. You'll have the
power rasi all.
Speaker 4 (15:30):
When the world feels heavy and nights so long, hold
on to your dreams. Fine, way you belong.
Speaker 1 (15:39):
Every stirrup you say brings it closer to the light.
Keep moving fallward and it's only your line. All the suspearit, salt,
raise through the chase. Don't be every door stands all
to be afraid of fall. You have power beyond.
Speaker 4 (16:11):
When the world feels heavy and the night saw along,
hold onto your dreams.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
Fine where you along the other step you say, grease closer.
Speaker 4 (16:23):
To the line, Keep moving.
Speaker 1 (16:25):
Forward before your life a face and to close your song,
then you know reas fall, start dissever, be holly, distever
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shine noted the too nicey side ras above you. That's
a star soult break through the sad only every time
stands all to be a face of fall. You have
a power above all to keep the faith.
Speaker 4 (17:11):
Lets your heart be strong. The journey is your own way.
You be long with love and courage. You'll find you
all way. Tomorrow's a new dawn. Embrace today, embracing, so
(17:34):
keep the.
Speaker 1 (17:34):
Favorite soppy song. The journey is your own way. You're
being long. Love shall find you all way some mosing
new dn Embrace today.
Speaker 4 (18:00):
When the world feels heavy and the night so long,
hold on to your dreams.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
Fine, will you belong? Every step you say brings your
closer to the light. Keep moving forward with though your life.
When the face is down your head, you are stronger
(18:31):
than no re fall stepper, sever shuck, don't get too
nicey sun, So keep the faint, be song, the tree
your own way, your fels find your way. It's a
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mos a little dog and very today. Ok. The that
shot be sold the shore some all ye finds alway
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