December 31, 2025 • 21 mins
Relationship Stories - OP confronted their best friend’s ex when he tried to force his way back into his daughter’s life after five years. In front of his new wife, OP exposed everything he had abandoned.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi everybody, and welcome back to Lost Genre Reddit stories.
This post is from the subreddadamiv a hole, and it's
by user master Fortune three eighty five. Am I the
a hole for telling my god daughter's father that he
is a cowardly deadbeat dad and humiliate him in front
of his wife, family and friends. To give some context,
(00:25):
Me twenty five female and my best friend for the
past fifteen years, Anna twenty six female are very close.
I consider her a sister. When Anna turned twenty, she
got pregnant by her boyfriend from high school and they
had been together for five years. To sum up the story,
Anna asked me to be the godmother of her baby,
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Aurora five female. When the baby was born, her boyfriend,
Jeff twenty six male, cheated on her, saying he couldn't
handle the stress of having to share attention with a newborn.
He left the two of them in an apartment and left.
Anna moved into my apartment while I was still in university,
a small, two bedroom apartment where she started getting her
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life back on track. We took turns taking care of
the baby while I managed my classes in part time
job and she worked other shifts. We made it work,
and I love my god daughter more than anything. I
see her as a chosen daughter. When I finished my
PhD and started earning very well, I was able to
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buy an apartment, and I made a deal with Anna.
She would continue living with me free of costs, without
worrying about rent bills or food. And since I always
knew she had always wanted to go to university but
never had the time having to work a lot to
support the baby, I said I would pay her child support.
I would give her a weekly amount so she wouldn't
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have to take any part time job and could focus
on her daughter and university. It's been like that for
almost two years. In part, I also didn't want to
be away from my goddaughter, and to me, Anna is family.
In return, she would help take care of the apartment.
The problem started when Jeff came back into our lives
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a week ago, like a messenger of Satan. He has
a new wife now and suddenly wants to be involved
in his daughter's life. He wants to show that he
regrets it and believes he deserves contact with his daughter.
Anna said no, and he said he would go to
court to claim his rights, even if he had to
pay child support. At that moment, I laughed in his
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face really loud, and said, neither of us need your money,
you cowardly debt beat.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
I am more of a parent to the child than
you are.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
If you want to go to court, I'll make sure
to destroy you there because I won't let you treat
my god daughter like an accessory. He said I had
no rights over his daughter, and I said no, but
I do have love. And I signed agreement where I
pay eight hundred dollars weekly to Anna to spend solely
on the child and herself, and also on the side
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covering all health insurance costs, private school, and everything I
do for my goddaughter. All of this happened in public,
in front of Jeff's new wife, his parents, and some friends.
He brought to my apartment for this intervention, expecting to
manipulate us with the talk of she also deserves to
meet her grandparents. At that moment, his wife left in disbelief,
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and he started yelling at me. I told him to
leave my property or I would call the police. So
am I the Ahle? No, OPI You're not the ahle.
You simply called him out by drawing a hard line
about what he did and what you do. He is
a deadbeat and a coward, and I don't understand why,
for some reason he just came back five years later
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with his new wife to try to be a part
of your daughter's life. And this whole show of him
coming with his parents and friends to try to do
what manipulate you guys into letting him have time with
a child he decided to abandon. No, Opie, you did
the right thing. And if he does go to court
and you do have the chance to destroy him there,
please do so. If he was truly sorry, he wouldn't
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have come with an army to back him up in
his claims that he has to be in her life.
And that's actually what makes me think he's not sorry
at all, and he has some weird ulterior motive to
be in her life. So hopefully you can keep him
away from her. What do you guys think? Let me
know in the comments section, and now let's check out
the community comments, which Witch ninety four O two says,
(04:30):
please consult the lawyer as soon as possible. Yes, Jeff
is a piece of crap, but he is the father.
Did Anna put him on the birth certificate? If yes,
he has rights even though he skipped town and hasn't
paid child support. Just go look at all the posts
about deadbeat dads and they will get visitation. If he
is not on the birth certificate, then he's going to
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have to petition court to establish his parental rights. He's
still going to get axes, but Anna has to fight.
You can bankroll her, but be the silent partner. Anna
can make the case that the child has never known
him and insist on supervised visits, a lengthy time for
Aurora to get to know him, and therapy for Aurora.
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Snoo Cauliflower ninety eight seventy four says, not the ahle.
You only told her the truth. Thank goodness, Anna and
her daughter have you. I have a feeling he's only
trying to act like a parent because of his new wife.
It's not like he's paying child support and wants to
pay less. In fact, he should be in arrears for
thousands of dollars if she's five years old. Hopefully the
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judge will laugh in his face and tell him he
needs to pay the arrears first before even thinking about
being a part of her life, and that will likely
take years. Unless he hasn't worked this whole time. Gravy
Seal forty five says, not the ahle, but you are wrong.
He is the father and he gets to see his kid.
Even if he is or was the worst father in
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the world and has never paid a cent, he still
gets to see his kid. Your money won't to the judge.
If he hasn't put cigarettes out on the kid, or
used her as a dartboard, or some other heinous act
that proves he is a danger to the kid. He
gets to see his kid. It's not fair, but it's
how legal parenting works. He will at least get partial
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custody and get to take the kid to his house
a couple weekends a month. You will have a very
hard time convincing a judge that there is sound reason
that he shouldn't get fifty percent custody. At the same time,
your friend should one hundred percent pursuit child support and
should have done that on day one. Not saying any
of the above is right, but it is how it works,
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and Opie responds, he just disappeared. He vanished for five years.
He deleted his social media, left the city or state
as far as we know, and completely disappeared. He doesn't
deserve any visitation rights, and if it comes to fighting
in court, we will fight, but he would still have
to pay five years of child support that he won't pay.
He's only doing this to show his new wife that
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he's a good man, and I think after everything she
found out, I highly doubt she wants to stay with him,
and Goodwin seventy eight eighty nine says, hire a PI
to track down what her eggs has been up to.
You need a complete rundown. Go talk to a good
custody lawyer. Given his background for leaving. I wouldn't trust him.
(07:23):
If you have to do custody, demand supervision for a
year and first right of refusal if he's unavailable. Also
demand all communications go through a third party parenting app.
And Dopey responds, we will find everything soon. We are
working on everything to know everything, get all the dirt
we can't find right now. We're taking all the probes
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we need if it comes to go to court. Me
and Anna are talking to my family's lawyer in this moment.
Additional information from Opie's comments to clarify my financial situation.
I am an only child and my grandparents and my
parents gave me a good start. Yes, my family has
money and good connections. You could call me a trust
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fund baby. But I did not pay for my education.
Neither did my family. It was all scholarships, and my
job was basically to do research in the lab and
write about what I had done. I received money from
the university through scholarships to continue the work, and all
the money my parents sent me I saved since my
research scholarship was enough. During my PhD, I also received
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a scholarship to do my thesis and a month's salary
for that. Combining this with the fact that I went
straight from university to work in research and development. And
just to be clear, there was more said in the
conversation by Anna, I only focused on the part where
I was speaking. Anna humiliated him in various ways too,
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but that would make this way too long. With everything
she said, Lough and a second point, Anna and I
don't have any kind of romantic relationship.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
We are purely best friends.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
Well, the community was giving Opie a lot of good
legal advice as to what to do next.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
So now let's move on to.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
The update to see how this story ends. Hey, Anna, here,
So the OPI showed me this post with a very
condensed version of the facts, because I understand that it
wouldn't be possible to write everything in a single post.
Everything the OPI wrote is true, and the details are
even more grotesque than that. The jerk who is my
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daughter's father had no interest in her at all. Someone
here guessed that his wife was infertile, and that's why
he wanted to reconnect. Well, from what we've discovered now,
it's true, and one of the reasons she didn't want
the girl anymore is because Aurora was born with diabetes
and for his wife that was defective. I found this
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out just a few minutes ago. Opie spoke with her
family's lawyers. Yes, the bitch is a rich bourgeois and
we started preparing everything in case we need to go
to court or if we need evidence against my daughter's
father's character. In the end, he disappeared again, and I
don't think he's going to show up. But I have
good news. In the country we currently live in, being
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a godmother is something socially accepted as a second mother,
and this is something that does have social impact because
it is a very Catholic country. Despite the lack of
automatic legal obligation. The moral, social, and family weight associated
with the role of godparent is big. In many families.
There is still a strong expectation that if something happens
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to the parents, the god parents will be the first
to step in and take on a protective role. The
truth is that Opi has saved my life many times,
and she also says that I saved hers.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
Well.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
We are family and to prevent anything from happening in
the future, we are going to keep in touch with
the lawyer. And in the end, the person who called
Opa sugarmummy made us laugh and from now on me
and our friends are going to call her that. Haha.
That's probably the worst sugar mommy deal in history. Well,
(11:10):
Opie and Anna, I guess Jeff was just a short
hiccup and the wife ill saying that about your daughter.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Man, she sucks.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
But it's a good thing that you both can put
this thing in the rear view mirror and just move forward.
Wishing you all three the best in the future. Thanks
so much for sharing and take care and now let's
move on to the next post that also has an update.
This post is from the subreddam the Aho and it's
by user new cartographer fifty three to eighty one. Am
(11:39):
I the Aho for giving my husband an ultimatum? My
husband and I male twenty eight, female thirty met at
university and have been married for four years. Over the
past two years, my husband has been sending monthly, sometimes
even weekly, sums of money to his younger sister to
allow her to pursue her dreams. For context, my husband's
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sister dropped out of UNI two years ago because she
felt it wasn't for her and has been bouncing from
fantasy to fantasy and trying to find what she is
passionate about and good at. These sums of money have
been increasing, and I feel uncomfortable with us giving so
much money to someone, even if it is a family member.
(12:22):
I raised and have been raising the issue with him,
but he can't find it in himself to deny his sister.
He'll start to come around to my point of view,
but the moment he speaks to her, he's renders all
over again more Immediately last weekend, I gave my husband
an ultimatum that he either stopped giving money to his
sister or I'd have to seriously consider our marriage. He
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did not react well and said that he wasn't going
to be selfish when he had so much money to spare.
I told him this wasn't about the money, but about
setting boundaries with his family. Unfortunately, he refused to listen
and said that he wanted to help his sister achieve
her dreams. This is the first big fight we've had
in years. But I don't think I'm in the wrong.
(13:05):
So am I the a hole?
Speaker 2 (13:08):
Well be?
Speaker 1 (13:09):
In my opinion, you're not wrong for being upset that
your husband is giving away money to his sister without
even consulting you, and even when you've raised the topic
many many times, he refuses to listen to you and
still does what he wants. Now, personally, I don't like
ultimatums because they put the relationship in a it's my
way or the highway kind of situation. But he is
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leaving you very little room to maneuver. Now, you say
it's not about the money, but it's about setting boundaries
with his family. So to this, I would ask if
the money that he's giving his sister negatively impacting the
way of life that you two have, because if it doesn't,
and it is his money, like I don't know, he'll
save money to give to his sister. Then I wouldn't
see it differently than somebody would see fun money or
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leisure money. I think you need to sit down with
your husband and have another talk and very clear about
what the financial situation should look like. And what do
you guys think? Let me know in the comments section
and now let's check out the community comments. Amazing Drive
five to five one says this is very subjective and nuanced,
following her dreams, bouncing from fantasy to fantasy, et cetera.
(14:14):
Are these your words? His hers? Are her interests and jobs?
Really that impractical? The amount of money kind of matters, honestly.
How much do you have to spare, how much is
being given, the rate of increase, the frequency, your plans
for the future, all of it. A lot of people
are saying he's not respecting your boundaries and he doesn't
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get to decide what to do with wee money. Well,
guess what, it works both ways. He's not obligated to
just conform to whatever you feel is in everyone's best interest.
And you can't just decide that he can't help out
a family member because it makes you uncomfortable, And he
doesn't get to go spending money on whatever he thinks
is appropriate.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
Either this is marriage.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
People don't always see eye to eye and there are
disagree on things, finances included. This doesn't mean he doesn't
respect you or you don't respect him, et cetera. There
just needs to be the love and respect to be
able to work out some sort of compromise. And at
the end of the day, is something is truly a
deal breaker, either of you are free to move on
from this. Is he denying you of anything financially? Is
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this lack of money keeping you from living the life
you want to live? Can you set a limit on
the amount or frequency? If this is all out of
principle and the amount of money isn't impacting you, I'd
reconsider these ultimatums. There are other avenues you can take
here before having him choose between his sister and his wife.
He's helping family and it's not putting you in any
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kind of position. And Opie responds the editorializing about fantasy
to fantasy was my words. As mentioned above, the amount
of money last year amounted to around thirty thousand pounds,
and she is currently attempting to become a musician after
becoming this illuine with acting. The money is not having
any discernible impact on our livelihood. Ok Day eighty five
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fifty nine says, not the ahle. You have to set
some boundaries of your own. Stop your paycheck from going
into the joint account. Change your bank only put it
enough to cover the bills and nothing else. If you
don't want to finance his sister, then you have to
make changes of your own and dopy response, I don't
necessarily have an issue with the amount of money itself,
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which is largely negligible. I just don't have a desire
to subsidize his sister endlessly. And no I thirty four
to twenty three says, not the ahle. That's money that
could be going to retirement or anything else that actually
helps you and your spouse's life, not hers. In a marriage,
it's a two yes decision for things like this. He
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doesn't care about what you think or how his endless
giving affects you and your future. I'd be reevaluating too.
Additional information from Opie's comment their parents are dead and
the houses jointly owned by my husband and his sister.
There was no official difference in the way they were
treated from what I know, there was abuse and seems
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to have been emotional. Over the past two years, my
husband's sister has tried her hand at various things, such
as theater, but they haven't panned out.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
Also, he earns much more than I do.
Speaker 1 (17:22):
Last year, the split was around two hundred and forty
thousand and ninety thousand in his favor net. We live
in this city, so we're comfortable, but not immensely wealthy. Well,
the community generally agrees Opie was not the ahole. So
now let's move on to the update to see how
this story ends. So, following some of your advice, I
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had a long conversation with my husband and raised the
pausibility of having shared accounts in addition to a joint
household account. He was open to the idea, but again
resisted reducing and stopping the transfers of money. Again, following
the advice, I clearly outlined why I wasn't comfortable in
a calm way. He became increasingly nervous and eventually fell silent.
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At the end, he said that I needed to talk
to his sister if I wanted to fully understand everything.
She came over to our house and explained everything. Apparently
their parents were not the best when they were alive.
She now blames my husband for ruining her childhood because
they were constantly being compared and she was dismissed in
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favor of him as her interests were less orthodox. She
views this money as compensation for the emotional abuse she
suffered from their parents. I asked her if my husband
had directly said or done anything to her at the time,
and she said that wasn't relevant because what he was
doing provided their parents with the opportunity to put her down.
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I want to say that I very much sympathize with her,
but it still did not convince me that we needed
to send our money. When I later raised it with
my husband, he expected me to understand his actions and
was very shocked when I still advised us against sending money.
He has apparently been harboring this guilt for many years
and did not tell me earlier as he was scared wrongly,
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so I'd think less of him, to be honest. While
I'm sure it was very painful for her, I don't
see why my husband and me have to pay the
price for his parents wrong At any rate, we have
at least temporarily stopped sending the money apart from still
paying for utilities and necessities. I suspect will come to
a compromise that involves a lump sum plus signing over
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their parents' house.
Speaker 2 (19:31):
Thank you for the advice, Okay, OPI.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
I understand it's really sad that she was emotionally abused
by her parents by comparing her to your husband, But
now she is disgustingly emotionally manipulating her brother to give
her money, guilting him as if he was the one
responsible for whatever.
Speaker 2 (19:48):
She went through.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
No, I think you're right, Opie, and I think you
should talk to your husband about getting some help to
get over that guilt. And regarding the solution, I would
cut it in half. I wouldn't give her a lump
sum of money. Woul just probably sign over the house
and then she can handle it on her own. If
she wants to sell it, go ahead, But that would.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
Be it for me.
Speaker 1 (20:06):
What she's doing is not right in any case. He
is wishing you both the best, Ope, thanks so much
for sharing and to take care and now let's finish
this video with a mood booster post. This post is
from the subredded Petty Revenge and it's by user solid
wrongdoer thirty one sixty two.
Speaker 2 (20:22):
Leave my leaves alone.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
My neighbor is a typical comergonly old man. He loads
the fact that I do not rake my leaves yay pollinators.
He tells anyone who will listen how much he hates it.
Even the mailman said, wow, that guy does not like you.
My leaves do not touch his yard at all. We
are separated by a chain link fence. The wind can't
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even blow them into his space. They have zero effect
on his life. Yesterday, when I got home, all of
my leaves that could be seen from his window had
been raked into a pile around the corps of my house.
Another neighbor said she saw him in my yard raking
them up. Me, being quite komer gingly myself, waited until
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after dark, snock out and put all my leaves back
where they belong. This morning, the old guy walked outside
for his morning stroke, stopped, stared, and started cousin. It
was glorious. Paha, nicely done, Opie. Sometimes these little acts
of pettiness do add some spice to life. Thanks so
much for sharing, Opie, and happy New Year to you
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Hi everybody, and welcome back to Lost Genre Reddit stories.
This post is from the subreddadamiv a hole, and it's
by user master Fortune three eighty five. Am I the
a hole for telling my god daughter's father that he
is a cowardly deadbeat dad and humiliate him in front
of his wife, family and friends. To give some context,
(00:25):
Me twenty five female and my best friend for the
past fifteen years, Anna twenty six female are very close.
I consider her a sister. When Anna turned twenty, she
got pregnant by her boyfriend from high school and they
had been together for five years. To sum up the story,
Anna asked me to be the godmother of her baby,
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Aurora five female. When the baby was born, her boyfriend,
Jeff twenty six male, cheated on her, saying he couldn't
handle the stress of having to share attention with a newborn.
He left the two of them in an apartment and left.
Anna moved into my apartment while I was still in university,
a small, two bedroom apartment where she started getting her
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life back on track. We took turns taking care of
the baby while I managed my classes in part time
job and she worked other shifts. We made it work,
and I love my god daughter more than anything. I
see her as a chosen daughter. When I finished my
PhD and started earning very well, I was able to
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buy an apartment, and I made a deal with Anna.
She would continue living with me free of costs, without
worrying about rent bills or food. And since I always
knew she had always wanted to go to university but
never had the time having to work a lot to
support the baby, I said I would pay her child support.
I would give her a weekly amount so she wouldn't
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have to take any part time job and could focus
on her daughter and university. It's been like that for
almost two years. In part, I also didn't want to
be away from my goddaughter, and to me, Anna is family.
In return, she would help take care of the apartment.
The problem started when Jeff came back into our lives
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a week ago, like a messenger of Satan. He has
a new wife now and suddenly wants to be involved
in his daughter's life. He wants to show that he
regrets it and believes he deserves contact with his daughter.
Anna said no, and he said he would go to
court to claim his rights, even if he had to
pay child support. At that moment, I laughed in his
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face really loud, and said, neither of us need your money,
you cowardly debt beat.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
I am more of a parent to the child than
you are.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
If you want to go to court, I'll make sure
to destroy you there because I won't let you treat
my god daughter like an accessory. He said I had
no rights over his daughter, and I said no, but
I do have love. And I signed agreement where I
pay eight hundred dollars weekly to Anna to spend solely
on the child and herself, and also on the side
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covering all health insurance costs, private school, and everything I
do for my goddaughter. All of this happened in public,
in front of Jeff's new wife, his parents, and some friends.
He brought to my apartment for this intervention, expecting to
manipulate us with the talk of she also deserves to
meet her grandparents. At that moment, his wife left in disbelief,
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and he started yelling at me. I told him to
leave my property or I would call the police. So
am I the Ahle? No, OPI You're not the ahle.
You simply called him out by drawing a hard line
about what he did and what you do. He is
a deadbeat and a coward, and I don't understand why,
for some reason he just came back five years later
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with his new wife to try to be a part
of your daughter's life. And this whole show of him
coming with his parents and friends to try to do
what manipulate you guys into letting him have time with
a child he decided to abandon. No, Opie, you did
the right thing. And if he does go to court
and you do have the chance to destroy him there,
please do so. If he was truly sorry, he wouldn't
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have come with an army to back him up in
his claims that he has to be in her life.
And that's actually what makes me think he's not sorry
at all, and he has some weird ulterior motive to
be in her life. So hopefully you can keep him
away from her. What do you guys think? Let me
know in the comments section, and now let's check out
the community comments, which Witch ninety four O two says,
(04:30):
please consult the lawyer as soon as possible. Yes, Jeff
is a piece of crap, but he is the father.
Did Anna put him on the birth certificate? If yes,
he has rights even though he skipped town and hasn't
paid child support. Just go look at all the posts
about deadbeat dads and they will get visitation. If he
is not on the birth certificate, then he's going to
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have to petition court to establish his parental rights. He's
still going to get axes, but Anna has to fight.
You can bankroll her, but be the silent partner. Anna
can make the case that the child has never known
him and insist on supervised visits, a lengthy time for
Aurora to get to know him, and therapy for Aurora.
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Snoo Cauliflower ninety eight seventy four says, not the ahle.
You only told her the truth. Thank goodness, Anna and
her daughter have you. I have a feeling he's only
trying to act like a parent because of his new wife.
It's not like he's paying child support and wants to
pay less. In fact, he should be in arrears for
thousands of dollars if she's five years old. Hopefully the
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judge will laugh in his face and tell him he
needs to pay the arrears first before even thinking about
being a part of her life, and that will likely
take years. Unless he hasn't worked this whole time. Gravy
Seal forty five says, not the ahle, but you are wrong.
He is the father and he gets to see his kid.
Even if he is or was the worst father in
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the world and has never paid a cent, he still
gets to see his kid. Your money won't to the judge.
If he hasn't put cigarettes out on the kid, or
used her as a dartboard, or some other heinous act
that proves he is a danger to the kid. He
gets to see his kid. It's not fair, but it's
how legal parenting works. He will at least get partial
(06:17):
custody and get to take the kid to his house
a couple weekends a month. You will have a very
hard time convincing a judge that there is sound reason
that he shouldn't get fifty percent custody. At the same time,
your friend should one hundred percent pursuit child support and
should have done that on day one. Not saying any
of the above is right, but it is how it works,
(06:40):
and Opie responds, he just disappeared. He vanished for five years.
He deleted his social media, left the city or state
as far as we know, and completely disappeared. He doesn't
deserve any visitation rights, and if it comes to fighting
in court, we will fight, but he would still have
to pay five years of child support that he won't pay.
He's only doing this to show his new wife that
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he's a good man, and I think after everything she
found out, I highly doubt she wants to stay with him,
and Goodwin seventy eight eighty nine says, hire a PI
to track down what her eggs has been up to.
You need a complete rundown. Go talk to a good
custody lawyer. Given his background for leaving. I wouldn't trust him.
(07:23):
If you have to do custody, demand supervision for a
year and first right of refusal if he's unavailable. Also
demand all communications go through a third party parenting app.
And Dopey responds, we will find everything soon. We are
working on everything to know everything, get all the dirt
we can't find right now. We're taking all the probes
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we need if it comes to go to court. Me
and Anna are talking to my family's lawyer in this moment.
Additional information from Opie's comments to clarify my financial situation.
I am an only child and my grandparents and my
parents gave me a good start. Yes, my family has
money and good connections. You could call me a trust
(08:05):
fund baby. But I did not pay for my education.
Neither did my family. It was all scholarships, and my
job was basically to do research in the lab and
write about what I had done. I received money from
the university through scholarships to continue the work, and all
the money my parents sent me I saved since my
research scholarship was enough. During my PhD, I also received
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a scholarship to do my thesis and a month's salary
for that. Combining this with the fact that I went
straight from university to work in research and development. And
just to be clear, there was more said in the
conversation by Anna, I only focused on the part where
I was speaking. Anna humiliated him in various ways too,
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but that would make this way too long. With everything
she said, Lough and a second point, Anna and I
don't have any kind of romantic relationship.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
We are purely best friends.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
Well, the community was giving Opie a lot of good
legal advice as to what to do next.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
So now let's move on to.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
The update to see how this story ends. Hey, Anna, here,
So the OPI showed me this post with a very
condensed version of the facts, because I understand that it
wouldn't be possible to write everything in a single post.
Everything the OPI wrote is true, and the details are
even more grotesque than that. The jerk who is my
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daughter's father had no interest in her at all. Someone
here guessed that his wife was infertile, and that's why
he wanted to reconnect. Well, from what we've discovered now,
it's true, and one of the reasons she didn't want
the girl anymore is because Aurora was born with diabetes
and for his wife that was defective. I found this
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out just a few minutes ago. Opie spoke with her
family's lawyers. Yes, the bitch is a rich bourgeois and
we started preparing everything in case we need to go
to court or if we need evidence against my daughter's
father's character. In the end, he disappeared again, and I
don't think he's going to show up. But I have
good news. In the country we currently live in, being
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a godmother is something socially accepted as a second mother,
and this is something that does have social impact because
it is a very Catholic country. Despite the lack of
automatic legal obligation. The moral, social, and family weight associated
with the role of godparent is big. In many families.
There is still a strong expectation that if something happens
(10:37):
to the parents, the god parents will be the first
to step in and take on a protective role. The
truth is that Opi has saved my life many times,
and she also says that I saved hers.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
Well.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
We are family and to prevent anything from happening in
the future, we are going to keep in touch with
the lawyer. And in the end, the person who called
Opa sugarmummy made us laugh and from now on me
and our friends are going to call her that. Haha.
That's probably the worst sugar mommy deal in history. Well,
(11:10):
Opie and Anna, I guess Jeff was just a short
hiccup and the wife ill saying that about your daughter.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Man, she sucks.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
But it's a good thing that you both can put
this thing in the rear view mirror and just move forward.
Wishing you all three the best in the future. Thanks
so much for sharing and take care and now let's
move on to the next post that also has an update.
This post is from the subreddam the Aho and it's
by user new cartographer fifty three to eighty one. Am
(11:39):
I the Aho for giving my husband an ultimatum? My
husband and I male twenty eight, female thirty met at
university and have been married for four years. Over the
past two years, my husband has been sending monthly, sometimes
even weekly, sums of money to his younger sister to
allow her to pursue her dreams. For context, my husband's
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sister dropped out of UNI two years ago because she
felt it wasn't for her and has been bouncing from
fantasy to fantasy and trying to find what she is
passionate about and good at. These sums of money have
been increasing, and I feel uncomfortable with us giving so
much money to someone, even if it is a family member.
(12:22):
I raised and have been raising the issue with him,
but he can't find it in himself to deny his sister.
He'll start to come around to my point of view,
but the moment he speaks to her, he's renders all
over again more Immediately last weekend, I gave my husband
an ultimatum that he either stopped giving money to his
sister or I'd have to seriously consider our marriage. He
(12:45):
did not react well and said that he wasn't going
to be selfish when he had so much money to spare.
I told him this wasn't about the money, but about
setting boundaries with his family. Unfortunately, he refused to listen
and said that he wanted to help his sister achieve
her dreams. This is the first big fight we've had
in years. But I don't think I'm in the wrong.
(13:05):
So am I the a hole?
Speaker 2 (13:08):
Well be?
Speaker 1 (13:09):
In my opinion, you're not wrong for being upset that
your husband is giving away money to his sister without
even consulting you, and even when you've raised the topic
many many times, he refuses to listen to you and
still does what he wants. Now, personally, I don't like
ultimatums because they put the relationship in a it's my
way or the highway kind of situation. But he is
(13:30):
leaving you very little room to maneuver. Now, you say
it's not about the money, but it's about setting boundaries
with his family. So to this, I would ask if
the money that he's giving his sister negatively impacting the
way of life that you two have, because if it doesn't,
and it is his money, like I don't know, he'll
save money to give to his sister. Then I wouldn't
see it differently than somebody would see fun money or
(13:52):
leisure money. I think you need to sit down with
your husband and have another talk and very clear about
what the financial situation should look like. And what do
you guys think? Let me know in the comments section
and now let's check out the community comments. Amazing Drive
five to five one says this is very subjective and nuanced,
following her dreams, bouncing from fantasy to fantasy, et cetera.
(14:14):
Are these your words? His hers? Are her interests and jobs?
Really that impractical? The amount of money kind of matters, honestly.
How much do you have to spare, how much is
being given, the rate of increase, the frequency, your plans
for the future, all of it. A lot of people
are saying he's not respecting your boundaries and he doesn't
(14:34):
get to decide what to do with wee money. Well,
guess what, it works both ways. He's not obligated to
just conform to whatever you feel is in everyone's best interest.
And you can't just decide that he can't help out
a family member because it makes you uncomfortable, And he
doesn't get to go spending money on whatever he thinks
is appropriate.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
Either this is marriage.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
People don't always see eye to eye and there are
disagree on things, finances included. This doesn't mean he doesn't
respect you or you don't respect him, et cetera. There
just needs to be the love and respect to be
able to work out some sort of compromise. And at
the end of the day, is something is truly a
deal breaker, either of you are free to move on
from this. Is he denying you of anything financially? Is
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this lack of money keeping you from living the life
you want to live? Can you set a limit on
the amount or frequency? If this is all out of
principle and the amount of money isn't impacting you, I'd
reconsider these ultimatums. There are other avenues you can take
here before having him choose between his sister and his wife.
He's helping family and it's not putting you in any
(15:43):
kind of position. And Opie responds the editorializing about fantasy
to fantasy was my words. As mentioned above, the amount
of money last year amounted to around thirty thousand pounds,
and she is currently attempting to become a musician after
becoming this illuine with acting. The money is not having
any discernible impact on our livelihood. Ok Day eighty five
(16:07):
fifty nine says, not the ahle. You have to set
some boundaries of your own. Stop your paycheck from going
into the joint account. Change your bank only put it
enough to cover the bills and nothing else. If you
don't want to finance his sister, then you have to
make changes of your own and dopy response, I don't
necessarily have an issue with the amount of money itself,
(16:28):
which is largely negligible. I just don't have a desire
to subsidize his sister endlessly. And no I thirty four
to twenty three says, not the ahle. That's money that
could be going to retirement or anything else that actually
helps you and your spouse's life, not hers. In a marriage,
it's a two yes decision for things like this. He
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doesn't care about what you think or how his endless
giving affects you and your future. I'd be reevaluating too.
Additional information from Opie's comment their parents are dead and
the houses jointly owned by my husband and his sister.
There was no official difference in the way they were
treated from what I know, there was abuse and seems
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to have been emotional. Over the past two years, my
husband's sister has tried her hand at various things, such
as theater, but they haven't panned out.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
Also, he earns much more than I do.
Speaker 1 (17:22):
Last year, the split was around two hundred and forty
thousand and ninety thousand in his favor net. We live
in this city, so we're comfortable, but not immensely wealthy. Well,
the community generally agrees Opie was not the ahole. So
now let's move on to the update to see how
this story ends. So, following some of your advice, I
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had a long conversation with my husband and raised the
pausibility of having shared accounts in addition to a joint
household account. He was open to the idea, but again
resisted reducing and stopping the transfers of money. Again, following
the advice, I clearly outlined why I wasn't comfortable in
a calm way. He became increasingly nervous and eventually fell silent.
(18:06):
At the end, he said that I needed to talk
to his sister if I wanted to fully understand everything.
She came over to our house and explained everything. Apparently
their parents were not the best when they were alive.
She now blames my husband for ruining her childhood because
they were constantly being compared and she was dismissed in
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favor of him as her interests were less orthodox. She
views this money as compensation for the emotional abuse she
suffered from their parents. I asked her if my husband
had directly said or done anything to her at the time,
and she said that wasn't relevant because what he was
doing provided their parents with the opportunity to put her down.
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I want to say that I very much sympathize with her,
but it still did not convince me that we needed
to send our money. When I later raised it with
my husband, he expected me to understand his actions and
was very shocked when I still advised us against sending money.
He has apparently been harboring this guilt for many years
and did not tell me earlier as he was scared wrongly,
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so I'd think less of him, to be honest. While
I'm sure it was very painful for her, I don't
see why my husband and me have to pay the
price for his parents wrong At any rate, we have
at least temporarily stopped sending the money apart from still
paying for utilities and necessities. I suspect will come to
a compromise that involves a lump sum plus signing over
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their parents' house.
Speaker 2 (19:31):
Thank you for the advice, Okay, OPI.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
I understand it's really sad that she was emotionally abused
by her parents by comparing her to your husband, But
now she is disgustingly emotionally manipulating her brother to give
her money, guilting him as if he was the one
responsible for whatever.
Speaker 2 (19:48):
She went through.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
No, I think you're right, Opie, and I think you
should talk to your husband about getting some help to
get over that guilt. And regarding the solution, I would
cut it in half. I wouldn't give her a lump
sum of money. Woul just probably sign over the house
and then she can handle it on her own. If
she wants to sell it, go ahead, But that would.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
Be it for me.
Speaker 1 (20:06):
What she's doing is not right in any case. He
is wishing you both the best, Ope, thanks so much
for sharing and to take care and now let's finish
this video with a mood booster post. This post is
from the subredded Petty Revenge and it's by user solid
wrongdoer thirty one sixty two.
Speaker 2 (20:22):
Leave my leaves alone.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
My neighbor is a typical comergonly old man. He loads
the fact that I do not rake my leaves yay pollinators.
He tells anyone who will listen how much he hates it.
Even the mailman said, wow, that guy does not like you.
My leaves do not touch his yard at all. We
are separated by a chain link fence. The wind can't
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even blow them into his space. They have zero effect
on his life. Yesterday, when I got home, all of
my leaves that could be seen from his window had
been raked into a pile around the corps of my house.
Another neighbor said she saw him in my yard raking
them up. Me, being quite komer gingly myself, waited until
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after dark, snock out and put all my leaves back
where they belong. This morning, the old guy walked outside
for his morning stroke, stopped, stared, and started cousin. It
was glorious. Paha, nicely done, Opie. Sometimes these little acts
of pettiness do add some spice to life. Thanks so
much for sharing, Opie, and happy New Year to you
(21:31):
and everyone else, and that's it for today's video. Thank
you so much for taking the time to watch it now.
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