September 30, 2025 • 21 mins
Relationship Stories - OP’s boyfriend allowed her stalker ex into their home to decorate for her birthday while she was at work. Despite OP's discomfort and repeated objections, her boyfriend continues to dismiss her concerns.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi everybody, and welcome back to lost genre reddit stories.
This post is from the subreddit Relationship Advice, and it's
by user diseased Caterpillar. My twenty eight female boyfriend twenty
nine male let my stoker X twenty eight male into
our apartment to leave me a birthday surprise. How do
I handle this absurdity? I, twenty eight female broke up
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with my ex twenty eight male ten months ago, but
he will not get over it, despite me wishing to
no longer interact with my ex, as well as me
dating someone new, cold twenty nine male. My ex has
been trying to win me back by doing over the
top things like sending me gift baskets, love letters, chocolates,
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et cetera, even though I've blogged his number on all
social media and always ignore his attempts to woo me
with his gifts. He never actually interacts with me directly,
never waits for me outside or tries to talk to me.
He just leaves me gifts at our doorstep and runs away.
It's creepy and makes me super uncomfortable. Cole, who I
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live with, doesn't actually see an issue with this and
says he feels bad for my ex and doesn't want
me to waste my ex's money or efforts. So I
reluctantly just let Cole eat the chocolates and other crabs,
and he insists I don't throw them out. He even
likes reading the love letters, even though I tell him
I don't want to. I don't understand why he's so
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chill about this because my ex and Cole aren't even
friends and have never interacted, so it makes no sense
why he's so okay with my ex doing these dumb
gestures that he knows make me uncomfortable and creeped out.
If anything, Cole should be pissed off that someone is
trying to steal his girlfriend. Right anyway, all of this
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finally came to head on my birthday. After work, I
came home to our apartment decorated in balloons, chocolates, and flowers.
I'm immediately touched, thinking all of this was a surprise
from Coal. Nope, apparently my ex actually came over with
all this crap, buzzed our apartment doorbell. Cole let him
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in and allowed my ex to decorate our apartment and
leave gifts for me. Then my ex left before I
could get home. Coal apparently so no issues with this.
He literally let my ex into our apartment like it
was no big deal because my ex came all the
way with all the gifts, which was such a thoughtful gesture.
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Now I feel totally unsafe. What if my ex secretly
left a hidden camera or something. I have no idea
why Coal is so fine with all of this. I've
talked to him over and over and he won't understand
why I would want to reject free stuff from someone
who cares about me. I love Coal, but the fact
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that he actually let my ex into our apartment was
a huge breach of my trust, and I have no
clue how to deal with this. Is this relationship just unsalvageable?
Or is there a way I can get it through
Cole's head that none of this is okay? Could Cole
have ulterior motives by letting my ex do all of
these things? Any advice is welcome. I just have no
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clue how to handle this absurd situation. Thanks wow, OPI
your boyfriend gives me the impression of what a yellow
lab would be if it turned into a human. No
offense to yellow Lab. They're awesome, but they're not known
as the dog that you would want to scare away
bad people from your home, and in this case, your
boyfriend behaved just the same. Whatever Robber comes, is he
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gonna go and tell him, hey, look, here's the safe,
you can take everything. And also do you have any
biscuits anyway? OPI all jokes aside. You're absolutely right to
feel like your trust has been breached because it was.
You've spoken to him about this many times, as you've mentioned,
and he still doesn't understand. That means he doesn't care,
or he's too much of a good person to care,
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or he just can't get you. Regardless, your boundaries have
been breached, and now you need to make a decision.
As I mentioned before. If this is not the first
time and he still won't get it, and he did this,
then I think you know what you need to do.
And what do you guys think? Let me know in
the comments section, and now let's move on to the
community comments. Going Price for Home says something is very
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wrong with coal. What the F does he mean he
feels bad for your ex who's stalking you? If he
really doesn't know him. The only thing I can think
of is he's got some kind of weird male solidarity
view of the situation. He follow any podcasters that make
you raise your brow on social media? Do you mind
if I ask why you're already living with coal? And
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Dopey responds, cost of living mostly. I live in a
very expensive city, so I was living month to month
on my own. He basically offered to be my roommate
so that we can go half and half on the
rent internet utilities and it would relieve my financial stress,
which it has a lot. It might have been stupid
to jump the gun at us moving in so quickly,
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but he had only shown green flags until now I
can technically kick him out and try to look for
a different roommate if things are totally done for since
most of the stuff in our apartment is mine, Tequila
Mockingbird eighty says OPI. They know each other. Think about it.
There is no way your ex is going to be
chill handing out and decorating the apartment while your boyfriend
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is literally watching him, and your boyfriend isn't going to
be chill letting your ex do that. I'm really concerned
they are in this together and you are in danger,
and Opie responds, I'm really starting to think this could
be the case. My boyfriend is working from home, so
there's a chance he caught my EGGX while he was
dropping things off and they talked. He denies that, but
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I'm becoming more and more paranoid now, and I am
definitely going to see what I can do to this
relationship in case they are secretly in cahoots. Norman Beats says,
you need to run. This man literally has your worst
interested heart. It would be entirely possible that they don't
know each other, but that Cole is such a misogynist
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that he puts your ex's feelings before your safety. My
best friend's ex did something similar. He ambushed her with
her abusive X, trying to force a forgiveness for her
own good. He happily sat at the table with a
man who threw her down a flight of stairs. Cole
is doing the same thing. This is a drop everything
and move to a new city situation. You are twenty eight,
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You are in control, run and some astronauts sixty nine
oh seven says, So I reluctantly just let Cole eat
the chocolates and other crabs andce. He insists, I don't
throw them out. He even likes reading the love letters,
even though I tell him I don't want to. This
is partly on you. He should definitely not be chill
about what your ex is doing, but you should not
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be putting up with it reluctantly or not. And Opie response,
I admit I'm a pushover being raised by an abusive mother.
Does that? Sadly? I definitely needed this wake up call.
Additional information from Ope's comments. Cole and I didn't just
meet recently. We've actually known each other for a couple
of years through work and gaming. We only started dating
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about eight months ago, and at first he honestly seemed
like a really great guy before this whole stalker mess.
He was thoughtful, funny, helpful and sweet, the type to
rub my shoulders if I had a rough day and
just listen. That's why this whole thing blindsided me so badly.
The disregard for my safety only started showing when my
ex wouldn't let go. For background, my relationship with my
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ex was super short, literally only two months before he
did some dumb stuff that made me dump him instantly.
So all of this over the dab grand gesture nonsense
he's been doing since we broke up feels extra ridiculous.
The love letters and signed tags are one hundred percent
in his handwriting. There's no mistaking it. What I can't
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wrap my head around is how Coal could be so
okay with all of this. His friends apparently think it's
funny that my ex is such a try hard, but
I don't find anything about it funny. Coal himself has
been eating the chocolates and edibles my ex leaves, which
at this point makes me wonder if he's tolerating it
just because he benefits. It feels careless and dismissive. And yeah,
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part of why I've tolerated more than I should is
because of my own background. I grew up with an
abusive mom and an absent dad, and I know it's
made me a pushover in relationships. But this whole situation
has been a huge wake up call. I've already decided
I need to go back to therapy before I even
think about dating again. For now, I've asked my younger
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brother to come help me come front Coal. He's tall, intimidating,
and very protective, and honestly, I just feel safer with
it backing me up. I can technically kick Coal out
since most of the stuff in the apartment is mine
and at this point I'm seriously considering it. The more
I think about it, the more I realize I can't
keep living like this. Well, the community agrees that this
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relationship is dead, and apparently Op saw the writing on
the wall, so she's moving on. Now let's do the
same and move on to the update to see how
this story ends. Hello, Oh, my last post blew up
a bit and many people were concerned about me, so
I'm going to give you this update. I can't even
put into words how insane this situation is. Gotten When
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I got back home on Friday, I tried to come
up with a good plan to keep myself safe while
I confronted Coal in casey where to do something scary.
A lot of people put the fear of God into
me in the comments of my last post. I invited
my very tall and intimidating younger brother over to be
there while I talked to Coal. My brother couldn't come
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over until Sunday, so I spent a day and a
half awkwardly trying to tend everything was fine, but I
must have done some crap job because Cole kept asking
me what was wrong and love bombing me. Eventually, Sunday
came around, my brother showed up, and I wi grilled
Cole about why the hell he's been so fine with
my ex, coming around with gifts and even letting him
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in to decorate our apartment for my birthday. I was
not ready. All of you had a lot of theories.
One of which came up a lot was that the
two knew each other and or were working together to
do this. If anything, I would have rather that been
the case, because the truth is so much more effed up. Basically,
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Cole has been fixated on my ex. He has essentially
been stalking my stalker. Cole admitted that he made fake
social media accounts, yes multiple, to follow my ex and
has been stalking his Instagram and Facebook. Apparently, my ex
has been making a lot of vent posts about me
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and how hurt he is that I'm not returned his
feelings and have moved on so fast, and Coal has
been egging him on on his alt accounts to get
my ex to keep trying. The reason my ex is
still stalking me is because Cole has been literally telling
him to on his effing alt accounts. It's obvious my
ex is unstable if he's listening to random strangers telling
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him to keep trying, and Cole is taking advantage of
his instability by planting thoughts into his head. If I
am to believe Cole's words, my ex has no idea
that it's Coal that's been encouraging him to keep pursuing me.
But I can't be certain about anything this guy says
at this point, So why you ask was Cole doing
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all of this? This is exactly what my brother and
I ask. This was his answer to give my ex
false hope, basically to bully him. Anytime my ex ANGX
post on his social media about me. Cole got some
sick satisfaction of watching his misery. He wanted to strain
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my eggs along to keep trying to win my heart,
just to watch him fail over and over. Col finds
it hilarious that my ex is wasting so much money
on gifts for me, and that it's him who eats
the chocolates and reads the desperate love letters my ex
sends to me, while I act like my exis gifts
are radioactive and avoid them. This has all been some
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sick game to see how long he can get my
ex to keep pining for me. Who the hell even
does this short answer is a sociopath. I've been living
in fear for months because Cole thinks it's funny to
manipulate my ex and watch him be heartbroken. I cannot
articulate how sick all of this is. How is this funny?
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What is wrong with him? He said he makes sure
not to go too far by discouraging my ex to
make direct contact with me. But I can't believe anything anymore.
I've read so many stories of people who were dating
someone who seemed so sweet initially but turned out to
be actually unhinged. But I, naively I never thought that
could be me. I was so careless and dumb because
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I clung to someone who finally treated me with kindness.
But he is a twisted man who turned my ex
into a monster by feeding his delusions. I think if
he hadn't done all this, my ex probably wouldn't still
be stalking me in the first place. My constant fear
and discomfort have just been an unfortunate byproduct of his
little game of puppetry. I can't even comprehend how someone
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could do something like this. I'm so shaken up. I
feel I'm spiraling. Suffice to say, I'm living with my
brother and his girlfriend while my ex gets the hell out.
I told him he needs to move out within the
week or I'm getting the cops involved. He didn't make
a fuzz or anything. Surprisingly, he just looked at the
floor like a kicked puppy. He hasn't even tried to
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call or text me, but I blocked him just in case.
I'm going to see if my landlord can understand my
situation and let me break lease early with no extra cost.
But if I can, my brother is going to cover
the extra cost in the meantime, and I'll stay with
him and his girlfriend until I can find somewhere else.
My brother is seriously a godsend. I'm definitely going to
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go back to therapy as soon as possible because this
whole situation has me unable to sleep at night, trust anyone,
and I really need a better understanding of what are
red flags and relationships. So many of you told me
I was a pushover, and you're all right, it shouldn't
have taken this long for me to call this relationship
with Cole off. This is so effed up, But I'm
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safer now. I don't know what to do without my
brother and his girlfriend. Thanks to everyone who told me
to get out of this relationship, because Cole was way
more twisted than I ever could have thought. I don't
even know if he told me the whole truth, but
I don't even care anymore. I'm out gone and never
looking back. Opie's edit. Thank you everyone for your advice
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and words of encouragement. I called to the non emergency
police line to file a report of all this. It
wasn't super helpful other than just making a record, so
I'll do a follow up with them once I have
safe access to my apartment and can collect evidence. I
am blocked Cole for now together any text evidence, as
some of you suggested, but he's been pretty quiet. He
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sent a photo of a couple of garbage bags full
of his stuff, and he asked if he could have
a day to say goodbye to my cat. I have
her with me currently at my brother's place. No way
I'm letting her near him. I haven't replied yet. I
turned read receipts off, haven't contacted X one yet, still
figuring out the best way to do that. Tomorrow is
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a state holiday, where I live, so my brother and
his girlfriend will be home from work. We are working
together to figure all this out. Definitely moving out of
my current place as soon as I can. Sorry, I
can't reply to all the comments. I'm still pretty overwhelmed
and anxious, and there are so many that it's frying
my brain, but I'm trying to read most of them.
I appreciate every one of you, though. Wow, Opie Coal
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is a sociopath. What the hell that dude's sick. Good
for you for getting out or there and fighting that
police report. Maybe your brother can send a message to
your X number one so he can start getting over
you already. And Coal, yeah, he just needs to be vanished.
In the meantime. Ope, here' swishing you the best and
hopefully your life can go back to normal as soon
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as possible. Take care and thanks for sharing. This post
is from the subreddit malicious Compliance, and it's by user
primary Ladder eighty three ten. No problem sign this. So.
I drive a twin stick our model Mac Boom truck,
the largest in our fleet. This truck was big, heavy,
and it had an unusually wide turning radius. At the time,
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I delivered construction materials while we had residential and commercial materials.
I often focused on new construction and commercial sites due
to the truck being so large. Every once in a
while I would get a residential delivery. Mostly these deliveries
I could make from this street without having to pull
on the property. This is not one of those stories.
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So this one day, I am told I am doing
a residential roofing delivery to the roof of the house.
My radar is now on because I am familiar with
the roads in that area and they are narrow. Delivery
to the roof means I have to enter the property
and get right up to the house. I get loaded
and get to the job. As I approach the job site,
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the road is narrow, barely twenty feet wide. The houses
on my left and facing the property, the driveway is
on the left. Important In a second, I stop and
go find the person in charge. He says, you're right
on time. I need you in the driveway and boom
across the roof. I say that's great, but there are
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several issues. One, all of the vehicles parked on the
street need to be moved down past the neighbor's house
for me to fit down this road. Two, I cannot
make the turn from the street onto the driveway without
driving across the lawn, backing up two or three times three.
I cannot guarantee that driveway can support the weight. He shouts,
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I'll move the trucks and you just get your truck
in there. In a very demeaning tone. I say, okay,
I will. As I back down the street to the intersection,
turn around, and back up the road. He gets all
the trucks moved. I get into position to pull on
the property and stop. I grabbed my clipboard and jump out.
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I woke up to him and say, I need you
to sign this. We carry legal forms in the trucks that,
when signed, make the signee or their company responsible for
any damage to the property, truck load, or towing fees
to get the truck off site. He signs and all
but throws the clipboard at me. Well, okay, then game on.
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I turn into the yard and pull across the driveway
and back up four times to get the truck completely
on asphalt. Once in the best position I could get,
I got out and looked at my handiwork eight inch
ruts all across the front twenty nine feet of yard
from the street. Each edge where the tires went from
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grass to asphalt or asphalt to grass, the driveway collapsed
and broke away. The rest of the driveway had several
six inch ruts that were at least a foot wide
on most of the driveway. But I'm not done yet.
I have to put down my outriggers to stabilize the boom.
Because the driveway was as white as the truck, meant
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that when I put them down, they would be in
the lawn. I carried large blocks to enlarge the footprint
of the outriggers to get stability on soft ground. This
left two more ten inch holes in the yard about
three foot by four foot square. I delivered the entire
load with no issue. Then the homeowner came home as
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I was climbing off the boom and start. But it's
screaming at me for the state of his driveway and yard.
I calmly turned and pointed to the job foreman and said,
you need to talk to him, then turned back around
to finish wrapping up the truck. I could hear them
as they were screaming at each other, but could not
understand what they were saying. The final insult I had
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to ask them both to move their vehicles so I
could back out, and yes, more ruds were made. Leaving
I paused on the street for a minute to check
out my handiwork. It was bad. I got back to
the warehouse and the bosses coordinered me. Before I could
get into the office, the contractor's boss got blown up
my boss's phone with threats and complaints. I quickly explained
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and pulled out the signed Affidavid. Boss said well, okay,
then we're covered, and I heard nothing more about it.
That afid David has saved my ass a lot over
the years and has afforded me some great and funny
malicious compliance over the years. Nicely done, OPI that clipboard
with that paper on it was the best shield pausible
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for all that VS. Hopefully the foreman learned a little bit.
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Hi everybody, and welcome back to lost genre reddit stories.
This post is from the subreddit Relationship Advice, and it's
by user diseased Caterpillar. My twenty eight female boyfriend twenty
nine male let my stoker X twenty eight male into
our apartment to leave me a birthday surprise. How do
I handle this absurdity? I, twenty eight female broke up
(00:28):
with my ex twenty eight male ten months ago, but
he will not get over it, despite me wishing to
no longer interact with my ex, as well as me
dating someone new, cold twenty nine male. My ex has
been trying to win me back by doing over the
top things like sending me gift baskets, love letters, chocolates,
(00:49):
et cetera, even though I've blogged his number on all
social media and always ignore his attempts to woo me
with his gifts. He never actually interacts with me directly,
never waits for me outside or tries to talk to me.
He just leaves me gifts at our doorstep and runs away.
It's creepy and makes me super uncomfortable. Cole, who I
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live with, doesn't actually see an issue with this and
says he feels bad for my ex and doesn't want
me to waste my ex's money or efforts. So I
reluctantly just let Cole eat the chocolates and other crabs,
and he insists I don't throw them out. He even
likes reading the love letters, even though I tell him
I don't want to. I don't understand why he's so
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chill about this because my ex and Cole aren't even
friends and have never interacted, so it makes no sense
why he's so okay with my ex doing these dumb
gestures that he knows make me uncomfortable and creeped out.
If anything, Cole should be pissed off that someone is
trying to steal his girlfriend. Right anyway, all of this
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finally came to head on my birthday. After work, I
came home to our apartment decorated in balloons, chocolates, and flowers.
I'm immediately touched, thinking all of this was a surprise
from Coal. Nope, apparently my ex actually came over with
all this crap, buzzed our apartment doorbell. Cole let him
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in and allowed my ex to decorate our apartment and
leave gifts for me. Then my ex left before I
could get home. Coal apparently so no issues with this.
He literally let my ex into our apartment like it
was no big deal because my ex came all the
way with all the gifts, which was such a thoughtful gesture.
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Now I feel totally unsafe. What if my ex secretly
left a hidden camera or something. I have no idea
why Coal is so fine with all of this. I've
talked to him over and over and he won't understand
why I would want to reject free stuff from someone
who cares about me. I love Coal, but the fact
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that he actually let my ex into our apartment was
a huge breach of my trust, and I have no
clue how to deal with this. Is this relationship just unsalvageable?
Or is there a way I can get it through
Cole's head that none of this is okay? Could Cole
have ulterior motives by letting my ex do all of
these things? Any advice is welcome. I just have no
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clue how to handle this absurd situation. Thanks wow, OPI
your boyfriend gives me the impression of what a yellow
lab would be if it turned into a human. No
offense to yellow Lab. They're awesome, but they're not known
as the dog that you would want to scare away
bad people from your home, and in this case, your
boyfriend behaved just the same. Whatever Robber comes, is he
(03:43):
gonna go and tell him, hey, look, here's the safe,
you can take everything. And also do you have any
biscuits anyway? OPI all jokes aside. You're absolutely right to
feel like your trust has been breached because it was.
You've spoken to him about this many times, as you've mentioned,
and he still doesn't understand. That means he doesn't care,
or he's too much of a good person to care,
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or he just can't get you. Regardless, your boundaries have
been breached, and now you need to make a decision.
As I mentioned before. If this is not the first
time and he still won't get it, and he did this,
then I think you know what you need to do.
And what do you guys think? Let me know in
the comments section, and now let's move on to the
community comments. Going Price for Home says something is very
(04:28):
wrong with coal. What the F does he mean he
feels bad for your ex who's stalking you? If he
really doesn't know him. The only thing I can think
of is he's got some kind of weird male solidarity
view of the situation. He follow any podcasters that make
you raise your brow on social media? Do you mind
if I ask why you're already living with coal? And
(04:49):
Dopey responds, cost of living mostly. I live in a
very expensive city, so I was living month to month
on my own. He basically offered to be my roommate
so that we can go half and half on the
rent internet utilities and it would relieve my financial stress,
which it has a lot. It might have been stupid
to jump the gun at us moving in so quickly,
(05:10):
but he had only shown green flags until now I
can technically kick him out and try to look for
a different roommate if things are totally done for since
most of the stuff in our apartment is mine, Tequila
Mockingbird eighty says OPI. They know each other. Think about it.
There is no way your ex is going to be
chill handing out and decorating the apartment while your boyfriend
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is literally watching him, and your boyfriend isn't going to
be chill letting your ex do that. I'm really concerned
they are in this together and you are in danger,
and Opie responds, I'm really starting to think this could
be the case. My boyfriend is working from home, so
there's a chance he caught my EGGX while he was
dropping things off and they talked. He denies that, but
(05:54):
I'm becoming more and more paranoid now, and I am
definitely going to see what I can do to this
relationship in case they are secretly in cahoots. Norman Beats says,
you need to run. This man literally has your worst
interested heart. It would be entirely possible that they don't
know each other, but that Cole is such a misogynist
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that he puts your ex's feelings before your safety. My
best friend's ex did something similar. He ambushed her with
her abusive X, trying to force a forgiveness for her
own good. He happily sat at the table with a
man who threw her down a flight of stairs. Cole
is doing the same thing. This is a drop everything
and move to a new city situation. You are twenty eight,
(06:38):
You are in control, run and some astronauts sixty nine
oh seven says, So I reluctantly just let Cole eat
the chocolates and other crabs andce. He insists, I don't
throw them out. He even likes reading the love letters,
even though I tell him I don't want to. This
is partly on you. He should definitely not be chill
about what your ex is doing, but you should not
(07:00):
be putting up with it reluctantly or not. And Opie response,
I admit I'm a pushover being raised by an abusive mother.
Does that? Sadly? I definitely needed this wake up call.
Additional information from Ope's comments. Cole and I didn't just
meet recently. We've actually known each other for a couple
of years through work and gaming. We only started dating
(07:22):
about eight months ago, and at first he honestly seemed
like a really great guy before this whole stalker mess.
He was thoughtful, funny, helpful and sweet, the type to
rub my shoulders if I had a rough day and
just listen. That's why this whole thing blindsided me so badly.
The disregard for my safety only started showing when my
ex wouldn't let go. For background, my relationship with my
(07:46):
ex was super short, literally only two months before he
did some dumb stuff that made me dump him instantly.
So all of this over the dab grand gesture nonsense
he's been doing since we broke up feels extra ridiculous.
The love letters and signed tags are one hundred percent
in his handwriting. There's no mistaking it. What I can't
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wrap my head around is how Coal could be so
okay with all of this. His friends apparently think it's
funny that my ex is such a try hard, but
I don't find anything about it funny. Coal himself has
been eating the chocolates and edibles my ex leaves, which
at this point makes me wonder if he's tolerating it
just because he benefits. It feels careless and dismissive. And yeah,
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part of why I've tolerated more than I should is
because of my own background. I grew up with an
abusive mom and an absent dad, and I know it's
made me a pushover in relationships. But this whole situation
has been a huge wake up call. I've already decided
I need to go back to therapy before I even
think about dating again. For now, I've asked my younger
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brother to come help me come front Coal. He's tall, intimidating,
and very protective, and honestly, I just feel safer with
it backing me up. I can technically kick Coal out
since most of the stuff in the apartment is mine
and at this point I'm seriously considering it. The more
I think about it, the more I realize I can't
keep living like this. Well, the community agrees that this
(09:15):
relationship is dead, and apparently Op saw the writing on
the wall, so she's moving on. Now let's do the
same and move on to the update to see how
this story ends. Hello, Oh, my last post blew up
a bit and many people were concerned about me, so
I'm going to give you this update. I can't even
put into words how insane this situation is. Gotten When
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I got back home on Friday, I tried to come
up with a good plan to keep myself safe while
I confronted Coal in casey where to do something scary.
A lot of people put the fear of God into
me in the comments of my last post. I invited
my very tall and intimidating younger brother over to be
there while I talked to Coal. My brother couldn't come
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over until Sunday, so I spent a day and a
half awkwardly trying to tend everything was fine, but I
must have done some crap job because Cole kept asking
me what was wrong and love bombing me. Eventually, Sunday
came around, my brother showed up, and I wi grilled
Cole about why the hell he's been so fine with
my ex, coming around with gifts and even letting him
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in to decorate our apartment for my birthday. I was
not ready. All of you had a lot of theories.
One of which came up a lot was that the
two knew each other and or were working together to
do this. If anything, I would have rather that been
the case, because the truth is so much more effed up. Basically,
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Cole has been fixated on my ex. He has essentially
been stalking my stalker. Cole admitted that he made fake
social media accounts, yes multiple, to follow my ex and
has been stalking his Instagram and Facebook. Apparently, my ex
has been making a lot of vent posts about me
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and how hurt he is that I'm not returned his
feelings and have moved on so fast, and Coal has
been egging him on on his alt accounts to get
my ex to keep trying. The reason my ex is
still stalking me is because Cole has been literally telling
him to on his effing alt accounts. It's obvious my
ex is unstable if he's listening to random strangers telling
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him to keep trying, and Cole is taking advantage of
his instability by planting thoughts into his head. If I
am to believe Cole's words, my ex has no idea
that it's Coal that's been encouraging him to keep pursuing me.
But I can't be certain about anything this guy says
at this point, So why you ask was Cole doing
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all of this? This is exactly what my brother and
I ask. This was his answer to give my ex
false hope, basically to bully him. Anytime my ex ANGX
post on his social media about me. Cole got some
sick satisfaction of watching his misery. He wanted to strain
(12:00):
my eggs along to keep trying to win my heart,
just to watch him fail over and over. Col finds
it hilarious that my ex is wasting so much money
on gifts for me, and that it's him who eats
the chocolates and reads the desperate love letters my ex
sends to me, while I act like my exis gifts
are radioactive and avoid them. This has all been some
(12:21):
sick game to see how long he can get my
ex to keep pining for me. Who the hell even
does this short answer is a sociopath. I've been living
in fear for months because Cole thinks it's funny to
manipulate my ex and watch him be heartbroken. I cannot
articulate how sick all of this is. How is this funny?
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What is wrong with him? He said he makes sure
not to go too far by discouraging my ex to
make direct contact with me. But I can't believe anything anymore.
I've read so many stories of people who were dating
someone who seemed so sweet initially but turned out to
be actually unhinged. But I, naively I never thought that
could be me. I was so careless and dumb because
(13:05):
I clung to someone who finally treated me with kindness.
But he is a twisted man who turned my ex
into a monster by feeding his delusions. I think if
he hadn't done all this, my ex probably wouldn't still
be stalking me in the first place. My constant fear
and discomfort have just been an unfortunate byproduct of his
little game of puppetry. I can't even comprehend how someone
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could do something like this. I'm so shaken up. I
feel I'm spiraling. Suffice to say, I'm living with my
brother and his girlfriend while my ex gets the hell out.
I told him he needs to move out within the
week or I'm getting the cops involved. He didn't make
a fuzz or anything. Surprisingly, he just looked at the
floor like a kicked puppy. He hasn't even tried to
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call or text me, but I blocked him just in case.
I'm going to see if my landlord can understand my
situation and let me break lease early with no extra cost.
But if I can, my brother is going to cover
the extra cost in the meantime, and I'll stay with
him and his girlfriend until I can find somewhere else.
My brother is seriously a godsend. I'm definitely going to
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go back to therapy as soon as possible because this
whole situation has me unable to sleep at night, trust anyone,
and I really need a better understanding of what are
red flags and relationships. So many of you told me
I was a pushover, and you're all right, it shouldn't
have taken this long for me to call this relationship
with Cole off. This is so effed up, But I'm
(14:33):
safer now. I don't know what to do without my
brother and his girlfriend. Thanks to everyone who told me
to get out of this relationship, because Cole was way
more twisted than I ever could have thought. I don't
even know if he told me the whole truth, but
I don't even care anymore. I'm out gone and never
looking back. Opie's edit. Thank you everyone for your advice
(14:54):
and words of encouragement. I called to the non emergency
police line to file a report of all this. It
wasn't super helpful other than just making a record, so
I'll do a follow up with them once I have
safe access to my apartment and can collect evidence. I
am blocked Cole for now together any text evidence, as
some of you suggested, but he's been pretty quiet. He
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sent a photo of a couple of garbage bags full
of his stuff, and he asked if he could have
a day to say goodbye to my cat. I have
her with me currently at my brother's place. No way
I'm letting her near him. I haven't replied yet. I
turned read receipts off, haven't contacted X one yet, still
figuring out the best way to do that. Tomorrow is
(15:36):
a state holiday, where I live, so my brother and
his girlfriend will be home from work. We are working
together to figure all this out. Definitely moving out of
my current place as soon as I can. Sorry, I
can't reply to all the comments. I'm still pretty overwhelmed
and anxious, and there are so many that it's frying
my brain, but I'm trying to read most of them.
I appreciate every one of you, though. Wow, Opie Coal
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is a sociopath. What the hell that dude's sick. Good
for you for getting out or there and fighting that
police report. Maybe your brother can send a message to
your X number one so he can start getting over
you already. And Coal, yeah, he just needs to be vanished.
In the meantime. Ope, here' swishing you the best and
hopefully your life can go back to normal as soon
(16:21):
as possible. Take care and thanks for sharing. This post
is from the subreddit malicious Compliance, and it's by user
primary Ladder eighty three ten. No problem sign this. So.
I drive a twin stick our model Mac Boom truck,
the largest in our fleet. This truck was big, heavy,
and it had an unusually wide turning radius. At the time,
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I delivered construction materials while we had residential and commercial materials.
I often focused on new construction and commercial sites due
to the truck being so large. Every once in a
while I would get a residential delivery. Mostly these deliveries
I could make from this street without having to pull
on the property. This is not one of those stories.
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So this one day, I am told I am doing
a residential roofing delivery to the roof of the house.
My radar is now on because I am familiar with
the roads in that area and they are narrow. Delivery
to the roof means I have to enter the property
and get right up to the house. I get loaded
and get to the job. As I approach the job site,
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the road is narrow, barely twenty feet wide. The houses
on my left and facing the property, the driveway is
on the left. Important In a second, I stop and
go find the person in charge. He says, you're right
on time. I need you in the driveway and boom
across the roof. I say that's great, but there are
(17:47):
several issues. One, all of the vehicles parked on the
street need to be moved down past the neighbor's house
for me to fit down this road. Two, I cannot
make the turn from the street onto the driveway without
driving across the lawn, backing up two or three times three.
I cannot guarantee that driveway can support the weight. He shouts,
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I'll move the trucks and you just get your truck
in there. In a very demeaning tone. I say, okay,
I will. As I back down the street to the intersection,
turn around, and back up the road. He gets all
the trucks moved. I get into position to pull on
the property and stop. I grabbed my clipboard and jump out.
(18:31):
I woke up to him and say, I need you
to sign this. We carry legal forms in the trucks that,
when signed, make the signee or their company responsible for
any damage to the property, truck load, or towing fees
to get the truck off site. He signs and all
but throws the clipboard at me. Well, okay, then game on.
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I turn into the yard and pull across the driveway
and back up four times to get the truck completely
on asphalt. Once in the best position I could get,
I got out and looked at my handiwork eight inch
ruts all across the front twenty nine feet of yard
from the street. Each edge where the tires went from
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grass to asphalt or asphalt to grass, the driveway collapsed
and broke away. The rest of the driveway had several
six inch ruts that were at least a foot wide
on most of the driveway. But I'm not done yet.
I have to put down my outriggers to stabilize the boom.
Because the driveway was as white as the truck, meant
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that when I put them down, they would be in
the lawn. I carried large blocks to enlarge the footprint
of the outriggers to get stability on soft ground. This
left two more ten inch holes in the yard about
three foot by four foot square. I delivered the entire
load with no issue. Then the homeowner came home as
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I was climbing off the boom and start. But it's
screaming at me for the state of his driveway and yard.
I calmly turned and pointed to the job foreman and said,
you need to talk to him, then turned back around
to finish wrapping up the truck. I could hear them
as they were screaming at each other, but could not
understand what they were saying. The final insult I had
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to ask them both to move their vehicles so I
could back out, and yes, more ruds were made. Leaving
I paused on the street for a minute to check
out my handiwork. It was bad. I got back to
the warehouse and the bosses coordinered me. Before I could
get into the office, the contractor's boss got blown up
my boss's phone with threats and complaints. I quickly explained
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and pulled out the signed Affidavid. Boss said well, okay,
then we're covered, and I heard nothing more about it.
That afid David has saved my ass a lot over
the years and has afforded me some great and funny
malicious compliance over the years. Nicely done, OPI that clipboard
with that paper on it was the best shield pausible
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for all that VS. Hopefully the foreman learned a little bit.
Thanks for sharing, Op, and that's it for today's video.
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch
it now. If you've gotten to this point in the video,
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