December 29, 2025 • 22 mins
Reddit Stories - OP got accepted into an elite air traffic control program after years of hard work. With graduation months away, her boyfriend demanded she abandon it to follow him abroad and support his dream instead.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi everybody, and welcome back to lost genre reddit stories.
This post is from the subreddit Amighty Ahle and it's
by user existing Bag eighty six fifty seven. Am I
the a hole for refusing to give up the opportunity
of a lifetime for my boyfriend. So I twenty six female.
I'm dating my boyfriend, twenty seven male for four years now.
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During our relationship, we've made significant changes in our careers.
We've met at minimum wage job and after that he
had opened his own business renovation company, which I helped
him at a lot. I wrote an EU funding application,
which he got. In the meantime, I got a job
at a corporate institution and got quickly promoted as the
person managing around thirty people. After two years, I experienced
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awful mistreatment, resulting in a lawsuit and paid medical leave
of six months at the end of it. While searching
for a job opportunity, I came by air Tree traffic
controller recruitment. I started to read about it and I
learned that air traffic controllers earned about three times the
median payroll and have up to forty plus days of
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paid vacation time every year. I checked what it takes
to become one and was relieved that you don't have
to have any qualifications, you just have to be at
two percent top of the society in terms of spatial intelligence, multitasking,
decision making and B two English skills. I thought I
was always good at these things, so I applied and
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got invited for a six step recruitment. Every year, there
are tens of thousands of people who apply, and literally
less than ten people get into this steady program. After
two years, maybe two to four of them gets licensed.
First I got to do an online test, Then I
went to the institution to do FEAST one and two tests,
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then some more tests, assessment center, and finally recruitment interview
in English. I was finally informed I got into the program.
It doesn't mean I got the job. I still had
to complete very stressful and demanding course with many tests,
which failing would mean letting me go. It put a
strain on my relationship as we were living together, and
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I had to abruptly leave to study at the center.
For approximately one and a half years, I spent every
week commuting to my boyfriend who stayed at my house,
literally studying every living second except meeting with him. We've
been discussing immigrating into Scandinavian countries, as he would make
significantly more money there, but I didn't want to go
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to another country without any qualifications. With an EIGHTYC license,
I would be making one hundred and twenty k a
year almost anywhere. The thing is, he met someone, a
business partner, that gave him a good opportunity to leave now,
and he wants me to leave with him. I've got
less than a couple of months to end my course.
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I told him I'm staying to finish, but he insists
we have to go now because he will make good
money for sure, but I have little to no chance
to finish my course with the license. It really hurt
my feelings because I never doubted myself and I believe
I'm fantastic get this job. I told him absolutely not,
but he reiterated what I said when we met, that
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I would be okay being a stay at home mom.
I guess I was and still am okay with that.
I really love him and we are really a good
couple together, and I don't want to lose him. If
I choose to stay in program, we would be long
distance almost half a year. I know he would make
arrangements for me to be saved financially if I relied
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on him. He always showed green flags in that matter.
I feel as if I would be inn ajol if
I would want to finish my course, even if I
have a little chance to do it successfully. What are
you talking about? Ope, you've passed every hurdle so far.
You're just a few months away from getting that license,
and honestly, it feels kind of all that you need
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to leave right now for him to have success wherever
he's going. No, you don't. It's not up to you.
You don't work for him. It's not like you have
to go so that he has this good opportunity. I
think he should still go if he wants to, and
you should finish your license. The fact of the matter
is it doesn't depend on if you're together at the
time in order for their relationship to survive. How do
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other couples do it? Other long distance relationships or people
that have jobs that take them away for months at
a time from home. So OPI, No, you're not the
ahole and you shouldn't feel like it. Also, fantastic support
from your boyfriend telling you that you've got zero chances,
so you should just go with him. That sounds very
manipulative in my opinion, and it definitely isn't a green
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flag opie. What do you guys think? Let me know
in the comment section and now let's check out the
community comments. Main calligrapher two four four says, not the
a whole finish the course. Your first responsibility is to you.
You have studied hard, you are nearly there. Get the qualifications,
get some time and experience doing the role and building
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your own savings. What if his business doesn't work out?
What if he has a nasty accident and suddenly you
are the breadwinner. What if you both outgrow each other
and decide to go separate ways future, prove yourself, get
the qualification. You're nearly there. Hello cloud Cilowski says, do
not leave with him, not be ahole but him. If
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he loves you, he would never suggest something so ridiculous.
You should be very proud of how far you've gotten
and you're almost at the finish line. You're meant to
just drop out of a program that accepts only the
very top percent of applicants. Never he sounds insecure about
your success, especially when he's starting something new. Tell him
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you want the best for his new career, and you
need him to want the best for yours. Ideally, you
get your license and an air traffic position, his business
comes together and does well. You go on to make
a great life together. But if he doesn't want the
best for you, now there's nothing to build on. Get
that license, come back and tell us and we'll celebrate
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your achievement. Chunky Major says, not the ahle. You realize
he wants you to fail, right. He wants you to fail,
so you're trapped and dependent on him. Why would you
even consider staying with someone like this? Do you truly
believe this is love? When I got into a good
school in a different country, my husband than boyfriend pushed
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me to go and supported me so much. He believed
in me more than I did in myself. That's what
someone who loves you will do for you. This guy
just wants to control your life. Be smart and leave.
This isn't the guy for you. Active sheep Herder sixty
four says, congrats on getting into such a prestigious course.
One hundred percent. You should stay and finish. You've put
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so much time and effort into it. And you're almost
at the end. You deserve to see it through. Long
distance in this situation is not a huge deal. You've
got a timeline for reuniting, and half a year isn't
that long, especially if it means you can both pursue
life changing career opportunities. Plus you've already been together for
four years. It will be challenging at times, but if
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you trust each other and communicate well, you will get
through it and it'll be worth it. If you gave
up on your dream for his dream, can you honestly
say you wouldn't feel any resentment in the future. In
my opinion, that's way more likely to damage the relationship
than six months apart, and even speech five to seven
zero says a man who loved you would never make
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you leave your training early to be a stay at
home wife. When I was in training, my husband postponed
his own training for a year to wait for me
to finish, and then we moved for his training after
I was done. Your boyfriend can go if he needs
to go, but he's selfish beyond belief to try to
make you give up your dream for him. Ope, he's edit. Wow,
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I never expected this post to blow up like it did.
For now, I'm reading comments and one thing is clear.
I'm finishing the course tomorrow. I'll see him again and
we'll talk about any solutions for this time. Apart, many
of you suggested that his new business partner is a scam.
It's not. My boyfriend has been his contractor for months now.
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They are building industrial level metal constructions for farming. The
thing is new regulations are due to happen in the
EU countries in twenty twenty six, which means a lot
of changes that only so many people can do. Prices
for this specialized labor are absolutely insane. Now. His business
partner is in his late sixties, so he's willing to
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give up big clients as he won't leave the country now.
There are hundreds of thousands of dollars to be made.
My boyfriend is employing five people who are willing to
go right now. Also, many of you suggested that my
boyfriend has bad intentions towards me and is unsupportive. I
don't think that's the case. I think he just believed
it would be better for us now. But I cannot
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ignore this issue and so many of you see it
this way. I won't assume his intentions during our talk,
and I'll try to see what his reactions are really showing.
I'll let you know in a couple of days. Well,
the community is in unison, saying that it'll be has
to finish, and also kind of weary about the boyfriend.
So let's move on to the update to see how
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this story ends. So much has happened that I didn't
have much time to update on time. As I came home,
I was met with usual behavior from his side. We
talked a lot about our options, but one thing changed.
I started to record our talks. Then I transcribed them
and put them into chat GBT. I know it's probably
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very childlike and stupid, but somehow it opened my eyes.
The chat was sure it was an abusive relationship. It
highlighted a lot of things I didn't seem to fathom
on my own in the upcoming days. As Christmas came,
I didn't say much and let him talk as much
as he wanted. He portrayed every single manipulation tactic there.
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I got scared. To be honest, I understood there is
no us anymore. I tried to talk to him once,
but I realized he's not able to understand anything, so
leaving is the only option. As I decided to leave,
I still put up with his scrap as I planned
my escape. He really really hurt me in this time,
doing something he knew would f me up. Not cheating,
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just emotional abuse. Tomorrow we will split to meet our
families on our own, and I will tell my family
we're breaking up and why they will support me. I
plan on packing his things with their help and moving
him out. While he's out, As he lives at my place,
he has a place to go. I don't plan to
talk to him at any point moving forward. They my
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family will be responsible for that. I don't have anything
to say to him now. It hurts, but I'm one
hundred percent set on leaving. It will cost me a
lot of money, but my family will help. The point
is to make me free as soon as possible. OPI
he's edit. I searched his phone and found out about
a lot of his lives. Currently, it's three am and
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I'm waiting for a taxi to my parents. He's asleep.
I will come back tomorrow with bodyguards to pack him. Also,
I just wanted to respond to allegations that I made
my choice based on chat GPT. I didn't. It just
made me realize something was off. I was in an
abusive relationship one hundred percent being called names, manipulation, etc.
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Final update. I spent the night at my parents' house
after I took screenshots, sent them to me and blocked
them on everything. He's not cheating, but to doing something shady.
Today I came home with someone from my family and
informed him we are done and he needs to pack
essential stuff and leave my house as soon as possible.
Bringing someone was a great idea, as he agreed to
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leave without much fuss. Right now, I feel really bad,
but not as much as I thought I would. I
took your recommendations, which helped calm me down and did
sure I'm doing the right thing. My now ex started
to call our mutual friends to tell them we broke
up and why. But he's trying to build up some
kind of narration that he meant only good and he's
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such a loving boyfriend. It's just making me sick how
manipulative he is. I literally feel nauseous about how disgusting
he is. Tomorrow morning, I will start to pack his
stuff and ask my family to supervise him picking it up.
I don't intend on ever meeting with him again. Well, P,
I've no idea what you saw on his phone, but yeah,
you were clearly in an emotionally abusive relationship. So good
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for you for getting out of there. Here's wishing you
the best on your qualification, So Pee, take care and
thanks for sharing. And now let's move on to the
next post that also has an update. This post is
from the subreddadam I the a Hole, and it's by
user Playful Magician eight three one. Am I the ahole
for telling my girlfriend I'm tired of chasing her after
six years together. My girlfriend, thirty female, and I, thirty
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one male, have been together for six years. I've been
planning to propose soon, but I've been struggling with issues
I've brought up since day one of our relationship that
haven't changed. The main issue. I feel like I'm constantly
chasing her for attention and affection, especially in social gatherings.
When we're in groups with her family or friends, she
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won't come to me. I always have to go to her.
She won't initiate conversation with me unless I speak first,
and even then she just gives short answers without asking
me anything back. When I suggest things, she'll say no,
but when someone else suggests the exact same thing, she'll
do it. What makes this harder is that she's bubbly
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and engaging with other people, but cold towards me. It's
like she saves all her warmth for everyone else. I
feel she always prioritizes her convenience instead of our relationship.
Some examples of what I mean. One, we usually meet
closer to her place two hours commute for me. Even
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for my birthday celebration, we plan each other's birthday, she
still wanted me to travel to her area rather than
meeting me somewhere more convenient for me. Two at social
gatherings with her family, she'll leave me alone without saying anything,
even though I don't know her family well and was
expecting her to include me, or at least stay with
me or just check in from time to time if
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I'm all right. Three, when our relationship was struggling and
was about to break up, I suggested couples therapy, which
I offered to pay for. Her first concern was the
location was inconvenient for her. I've raised these issues repeatedly
over six years. But nothing has changed. So I sent
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her a message saying that after six years together, I
don't want to feel like I'm still chasing her or
courting her, and that I'm not going to pursue her
all the time anymore. Her response was just an exclamation
mark and then silence. It's been over a day and
she hasn't messaged me. Historically, I've always been the one
to reach out first and apologize, even when I'm the
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one who's hurt. I decided not to respond to the
exclamation mark because I feel like that would just be
chasing her again. But now I'm second guessing myself. Was
I too confrontational. She's never been in a relationship before,
so maybe she doesn't understand what she's doing. Am I
the a whole? No? OPI You're not the Ahle, and
now you're making excuses to go back and ask for
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forgiveness even though your relationship is completely unbalanced. You don't
like the way she treats you or the way she
doesn't show love for you. You've had this issue for
six years, but you're still in this relationship and you
keep making excuses to stay with her. She didn't respond
to anything. She just sent you a question mark, no
follow up, no nothing. If she would be worried or
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concerned for your feelings, she'd call you and ask what's up,
but just a question mark and then silence. And now
you're here gaslighting yourself thinking if you've been to confrontational
because she's never been in a relationship before, don't do that. Ope,
you're not the ahole and this relationship is not the
one for you. What do you guys think? Let me
know in the comment section, and now let's check out
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the community comments. BEBDHD says not the a whole time
to move on, dude, and DOPI responds, deep inside, I
know this, but I'm really struggling with the guilt of
wasting her prime years of starting a family, so I'm
always convincing myself that this might work once I marry her.
I didn't really expect the singular question mark as her
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sole response for bringing it up. Jet Lay ninety eight says,
you really answered your own question. Why are you wasting
time on someone that treats you this way? And Chip
Malfunction says, not the ahole. I am shocked you could
keep this up for six years, no judgment. I think
plenty if people do stuff like this, and it's human
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to love someone and want to make it work. I
am almost always single because I get feeling unseen and
unwanted in our relationship one year tops, usually less than
half of that. Oh, it could be that you have
different a protest to things, or some other kind of explanation,
like she is masking with other people bubbly, but feels
comfortable enough with you to be herself. But if you
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have continuously brought things like this up for six years
and she responds with distance and she hasn't been open
to counseling, Oh my gosh, do not get married. Opie's edit.
Thank you guys for all of the advice. I'm now
starting to see how dumb I am for not considering
to end this sooner. I will not message her and
will give an update if she ever reaches out. Also
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an information I wanted to add, I lost my father
two years ago, and I've been struggling with depression. I
guess part of the reason I put up with this
is that I really don't want to lose another important
person in my life. This is mostly on social settings,
but it's fine when it's only the two of us.
We were happy the past years. Though yes, she indeed
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has selfish tendencies sometimes and I'm at my limit about
this issue, I guess. Also, let me clarify the dynamics
with her family. The main thing is that I'm still
sort of the outsider, and she's much closer to them
compared to me because I only see them a couple
of times a year. I actually sometimes feel much more
comfortable conversing with her family than her, because they would
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ask me questions to extend the conversation. I actually got
super close with her two male cousins instantly because I
found out we share some hobbies and gaming and anime.
But even with this, is it not fair for me
to expect her to come to me from time to
time and not me chasing her around all day? Or
is it too much overthinking? The community agrees Ope as
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not the ahle and that this relationship should end. Also, Opie,
I don't think you're wasting her time. I think she's
wasting yours. So now let's move on to the update
to see how the story ends. I couldn't help myself.
After she ignored my vulnerable message for two days, I
reached out again last night with messages explaining how hurt
I was by her dismissiveness and asked if she wanted
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to meet up. I also told her I think we
have an anxious, avoidant attachment dynamic and sent her videos
and detailed explanations about it, hoping she'd finally understand where
I'm coming from and maybe even give us a starting
point on how we can fix the relationship. Her response,
she completely ignored everything I said and just told me
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I'm going to the mall anyway. You can come if
you want. So. Even after pouring my heart out about
feeling dismissed and invisible, she dismissed me and made me
feel invisible again. It really hurts I'm meeting her today.
I know everyone is going to call me an idiot,
and you're probably right, but I need to do this
face to face. I'll break up with her. Will it
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be for your own benefit? I do hope you break
up with her, and when you do break up with her,
don't expect Please, I'm sorry, come back to me. And
even if she does say that, which I highly doubt,
do not do it. Just leave. And on that note,
here's wishing you the best. Opee. Thanks for sharing and
to take care. And now let's finish this video with
a mood booster post. This post is from the subreddit
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petty Revenge and it's by user fresh Nectary. In eight
sixty seven, I ate a bag of rich Man's nut
so my boss would stop coming into my office and
eating the rich Man's nuts. It's the holidays, so the
company I work for gets a lot of gift baskets
from our clients and vendors. I work in a department that,
because of the work we do, we rarely get gifts
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and treats unless one of the other departments share their
gifts with us. Thankfully, someone shared a couple of baskets
with nuts, candies, crackers, et cetera. The VP has been
coming into our office almost every day to pick from
our gift baskets. He doesn't do this to any of
the other departments, and I have seen him get a
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couple of baskets himself and never shared them. We had
in an opened basket and he opened it, then chose
the most expensive item, a bag of pistachios, and ripped
into it, stealing some of our pistachios. Then said, I
love the rich Man's nut. This man makes five times
what I do. When the opportunity came for him to
fight for races for us, he didn't. And now he
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is coming into our office and stealing our gifts and
eating our rich Man nuts. This cannot continue. I decided
that I am going to eat every single pistachio. I
don't particularly like pistachios or nuts, but I am not
gonna let him come in here and steal my rich
Man nut. I'm gonna eat them all to myself and
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enjoy every single last minute of it. I have eaten
four sleeves of nuts. The basket is now empty. My
body doesn't feel good, but my pride is intact, knowing
that I am full of rich Man nut while he
cannot take any more. Wellopy, this is absolutely the definition
of a petty revenge. And congratulations, and hopefully, even though
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you don't like them very much, those pistachos were nice.
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Hi everybody, and welcome back to lost genre reddit stories.
This post is from the subreddit Amighty Ahle and it's
by user existing Bag eighty six fifty seven. Am I
the a hole for refusing to give up the opportunity
of a lifetime for my boyfriend. So I twenty six female.
I'm dating my boyfriend, twenty seven male for four years now.
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During our relationship, we've made significant changes in our careers.
We've met at minimum wage job and after that he
had opened his own business renovation company, which I helped
him at a lot. I wrote an EU funding application,
which he got. In the meantime, I got a job
at a corporate institution and got quickly promoted as the
person managing around thirty people. After two years, I experienced
(00:49):
awful mistreatment, resulting in a lawsuit and paid medical leave
of six months at the end of it. While searching
for a job opportunity, I came by air Tree traffic
controller recruitment. I started to read about it and I
learned that air traffic controllers earned about three times the
median payroll and have up to forty plus days of
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paid vacation time every year. I checked what it takes
to become one and was relieved that you don't have
to have any qualifications, you just have to be at
two percent top of the society in terms of spatial intelligence, multitasking,
decision making and B two English skills. I thought I
was always good at these things, so I applied and
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got invited for a six step recruitment. Every year, there
are tens of thousands of people who apply, and literally
less than ten people get into this steady program. After
two years, maybe two to four of them gets licensed.
First I got to do an online test, Then I
went to the institution to do FEAST one and two tests,
(01:53):
then some more tests, assessment center, and finally recruitment interview
in English. I was finally informed I got into the program.
It doesn't mean I got the job. I still had
to complete very stressful and demanding course with many tests,
which failing would mean letting me go. It put a
strain on my relationship as we were living together, and
(02:15):
I had to abruptly leave to study at the center.
For approximately one and a half years, I spent every
week commuting to my boyfriend who stayed at my house,
literally studying every living second except meeting with him. We've
been discussing immigrating into Scandinavian countries, as he would make
significantly more money there, but I didn't want to go
(02:37):
to another country without any qualifications. With an EIGHTYC license,
I would be making one hundred and twenty k a
year almost anywhere. The thing is, he met someone, a
business partner, that gave him a good opportunity to leave now,
and he wants me to leave with him. I've got
less than a couple of months to end my course.
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I told him I'm staying to finish, but he insists
we have to go now because he will make good
money for sure, but I have little to no chance
to finish my course with the license. It really hurt
my feelings because I never doubted myself and I believe
I'm fantastic get this job. I told him absolutely not,
but he reiterated what I said when we met, that
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I would be okay being a stay at home mom.
I guess I was and still am okay with that.
I really love him and we are really a good
couple together, and I don't want to lose him. If
I choose to stay in program, we would be long
distance almost half a year. I know he would make
arrangements for me to be saved financially if I relied
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on him. He always showed green flags in that matter.
I feel as if I would be inn ajol if
I would want to finish my course, even if I
have a little chance to do it successfully. What are
you talking about? Ope, you've passed every hurdle so far.
You're just a few months away from getting that license,
and honestly, it feels kind of all that you need
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to leave right now for him to have success wherever
he's going. No, you don't. It's not up to you.
You don't work for him. It's not like you have
to go so that he has this good opportunity. I
think he should still go if he wants to, and
you should finish your license. The fact of the matter
is it doesn't depend on if you're together at the
time in order for their relationship to survive. How do
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other couples do it? Other long distance relationships or people
that have jobs that take them away for months at
a time from home. So OPI, No, you're not the
ahole and you shouldn't feel like it. Also, fantastic support
from your boyfriend telling you that you've got zero chances,
so you should just go with him. That sounds very
manipulative in my opinion, and it definitely isn't a green
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flag opie. What do you guys think? Let me know
in the comment section and now let's check out the
community comments. Main calligrapher two four four says, not the
a whole finish the course. Your first responsibility is to you.
You have studied hard, you are nearly there. Get the qualifications,
get some time and experience doing the role and building
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your own savings. What if his business doesn't work out?
What if he has a nasty accident and suddenly you
are the breadwinner. What if you both outgrow each other
and decide to go separate ways future, prove yourself, get
the qualification. You're nearly there. Hello cloud Cilowski says, do
not leave with him, not be ahole but him. If
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he loves you, he would never suggest something so ridiculous.
You should be very proud of how far you've gotten
and you're almost at the finish line. You're meant to
just drop out of a program that accepts only the
very top percent of applicants. Never he sounds insecure about
your success, especially when he's starting something new. Tell him
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you want the best for his new career, and you
need him to want the best for yours. Ideally, you
get your license and an air traffic position, his business
comes together and does well. You go on to make
a great life together. But if he doesn't want the
best for you, now there's nothing to build on. Get
that license, come back and tell us and we'll celebrate
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your achievement. Chunky Major says, not the ahle. You realize
he wants you to fail, right. He wants you to fail,
so you're trapped and dependent on him. Why would you
even consider staying with someone like this? Do you truly
believe this is love? When I got into a good
school in a different country, my husband than boyfriend pushed
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me to go and supported me so much. He believed
in me more than I did in myself. That's what
someone who loves you will do for you. This guy
just wants to control your life. Be smart and leave.
This isn't the guy for you. Active sheep Herder sixty
four says, congrats on getting into such a prestigious course.
One hundred percent. You should stay and finish. You've put
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so much time and effort into it. And you're almost
at the end. You deserve to see it through. Long
distance in this situation is not a huge deal. You've
got a timeline for reuniting, and half a year isn't
that long, especially if it means you can both pursue
life changing career opportunities. Plus you've already been together for
four years. It will be challenging at times, but if
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you trust each other and communicate well, you will get
through it and it'll be worth it. If you gave
up on your dream for his dream, can you honestly
say you wouldn't feel any resentment in the future. In
my opinion, that's way more likely to damage the relationship
than six months apart, and even speech five to seven
zero says a man who loved you would never make
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you leave your training early to be a stay at
home wife. When I was in training, my husband postponed
his own training for a year to wait for me
to finish, and then we moved for his training after
I was done. Your boyfriend can go if he needs
to go, but he's selfish beyond belief to try to
make you give up your dream for him. Ope, he's edit. Wow,
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I never expected this post to blow up like it did.
For now, I'm reading comments and one thing is clear.
I'm finishing the course tomorrow. I'll see him again and
we'll talk about any solutions for this time. Apart, many
of you suggested that his new business partner is a scam.
It's not. My boyfriend has been his contractor for months now.
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They are building industrial level metal constructions for farming. The
thing is new regulations are due to happen in the
EU countries in twenty twenty six, which means a lot
of changes that only so many people can do. Prices
for this specialized labor are absolutely insane. Now. His business
partner is in his late sixties, so he's willing to
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give up big clients as he won't leave the country now.
There are hundreds of thousands of dollars to be made.
My boyfriend is employing five people who are willing to
go right now. Also, many of you suggested that my
boyfriend has bad intentions towards me and is unsupportive. I
don't think that's the case. I think he just believed
it would be better for us now. But I cannot
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ignore this issue and so many of you see it
this way. I won't assume his intentions during our talk,
and I'll try to see what his reactions are really showing.
I'll let you know in a couple of days. Well,
the community is in unison, saying that it'll be has
to finish, and also kind of weary about the boyfriend.
So let's move on to the update to see how
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this story ends. So much has happened that I didn't
have much time to update on time. As I came home,
I was met with usual behavior from his side. We
talked a lot about our options, but one thing changed.
I started to record our talks. Then I transcribed them
and put them into chat GBT. I know it's probably
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very childlike and stupid, but somehow it opened my eyes.
The chat was sure it was an abusive relationship. It
highlighted a lot of things I didn't seem to fathom
on my own in the upcoming days. As Christmas came,
I didn't say much and let him talk as much
as he wanted. He portrayed every single manipulation tactic there.
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I got scared. To be honest, I understood there is
no us anymore. I tried to talk to him once,
but I realized he's not able to understand anything, so
leaving is the only option. As I decided to leave,
I still put up with his scrap as I planned
my escape. He really really hurt me in this time,
doing something he knew would f me up. Not cheating,
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just emotional abuse. Tomorrow we will split to meet our
families on our own, and I will tell my family
we're breaking up and why they will support me. I
plan on packing his things with their help and moving
him out. While he's out, As he lives at my place,
he has a place to go. I don't plan to
talk to him at any point moving forward. They my
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family will be responsible for that. I don't have anything
to say to him now. It hurts, but I'm one
hundred percent set on leaving. It will cost me a
lot of money, but my family will help. The point
is to make me free as soon as possible. OPI
he's edit. I searched his phone and found out about
a lot of his lives. Currently, it's three am and
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I'm waiting for a taxi to my parents. He's asleep.
I will come back tomorrow with bodyguards to pack him. Also,
I just wanted to respond to allegations that I made
my choice based on chat GPT. I didn't. It just
made me realize something was off. I was in an
abusive relationship one hundred percent being called names, manipulation, etc.
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Final update. I spent the night at my parents' house
after I took screenshots, sent them to me and blocked
them on everything. He's not cheating, but to doing something shady.
Today I came home with someone from my family and
informed him we are done and he needs to pack
essential stuff and leave my house as soon as possible.
Bringing someone was a great idea, as he agreed to
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leave without much fuss. Right now, I feel really bad,
but not as much as I thought I would. I
took your recommendations, which helped calm me down and did
sure I'm doing the right thing. My now ex started
to call our mutual friends to tell them we broke
up and why. But he's trying to build up some
kind of narration that he meant only good and he's
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such a loving boyfriend. It's just making me sick how
manipulative he is. I literally feel nauseous about how disgusting
he is. Tomorrow morning, I will start to pack his
stuff and ask my family to supervise him picking it up.
I don't intend on ever meeting with him again. Well, P,
I've no idea what you saw on his phone, but yeah,
you were clearly in an emotionally abusive relationship. So good
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for you for getting out of there. Here's wishing you
the best on your qualification, So Pee, take care and
thanks for sharing. And now let's move on to the
next post that also has an update. This post is
from the subreddadam I the a Hole, and it's by
user Playful Magician eight three one. Am I the ahole
for telling my girlfriend I'm tired of chasing her after
six years together. My girlfriend, thirty female, and I, thirty
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one male, have been together for six years. I've been
planning to propose soon, but I've been struggling with issues
I've brought up since day one of our relationship that
haven't changed. The main issue. I feel like I'm constantly
chasing her for attention and affection, especially in social gatherings.
When we're in groups with her family or friends, she
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won't come to me. I always have to go to her.
She won't initiate conversation with me unless I speak first,
and even then she just gives short answers without asking
me anything back. When I suggest things, she'll say no,
but when someone else suggests the exact same thing, she'll
do it. What makes this harder is that she's bubbly
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and engaging with other people, but cold towards me. It's
like she saves all her warmth for everyone else. I
feel she always prioritizes her convenience instead of our relationship.
Some examples of what I mean. One, we usually meet
closer to her place two hours commute for me. Even
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for my birthday celebration, we plan each other's birthday, she
still wanted me to travel to her area rather than
meeting me somewhere more convenient for me. Two at social
gatherings with her family, she'll leave me alone without saying anything,
even though I don't know her family well and was
expecting her to include me, or at least stay with
me or just check in from time to time if
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I'm all right. Three, when our relationship was struggling and
was about to break up, I suggested couples therapy, which
I offered to pay for. Her first concern was the
location was inconvenient for her. I've raised these issues repeatedly
over six years. But nothing has changed. So I sent
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her a message saying that after six years together, I
don't want to feel like I'm still chasing her or
courting her, and that I'm not going to pursue her
all the time anymore. Her response was just an exclamation
mark and then silence. It's been over a day and
she hasn't messaged me. Historically, I've always been the one
to reach out first and apologize, even when I'm the
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one who's hurt. I decided not to respond to the
exclamation mark because I feel like that would just be
chasing her again. But now I'm second guessing myself. Was
I too confrontational. She's never been in a relationship before,
so maybe she doesn't understand what she's doing. Am I
the a whole? No? OPI You're not the Ahle, and
now you're making excuses to go back and ask for
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forgiveness even though your relationship is completely unbalanced. You don't
like the way she treats you or the way she
doesn't show love for you. You've had this issue for
six years, but you're still in this relationship and you
keep making excuses to stay with her. She didn't respond
to anything. She just sent you a question mark, no
follow up, no nothing. If she would be worried or
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concerned for your feelings, she'd call you and ask what's up,
but just a question mark and then silence. And now
you're here gaslighting yourself thinking if you've been to confrontational
because she's never been in a relationship before, don't do that. Ope,
you're not the ahole and this relationship is not the
one for you. What do you guys think? Let me
know in the comment section, and now let's check out
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the community comments. BEBDHD says not the a whole time
to move on, dude, and DOPI responds, deep inside, I
know this, but I'm really struggling with the guilt of
wasting her prime years of starting a family, so I'm
always convincing myself that this might work once I marry her.
I didn't really expect the singular question mark as her
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sole response for bringing it up. Jet Lay ninety eight says,
you really answered your own question. Why are you wasting
time on someone that treats you this way? And Chip
Malfunction says, not the ahole. I am shocked you could
keep this up for six years, no judgment. I think
plenty if people do stuff like this, and it's human
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to love someone and want to make it work. I
am almost always single because I get feeling unseen and
unwanted in our relationship one year tops, usually less than
half of that. Oh, it could be that you have
different a protest to things, or some other kind of explanation,
like she is masking with other people bubbly, but feels
comfortable enough with you to be herself. But if you
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have continuously brought things like this up for six years
and she responds with distance and she hasn't been open
to counseling, Oh my gosh, do not get married. Opie's edit.
Thank you guys for all of the advice. I'm now
starting to see how dumb I am for not considering
to end this sooner. I will not message her and
will give an update if she ever reaches out. Also
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an information I wanted to add, I lost my father
two years ago, and I've been struggling with depression. I
guess part of the reason I put up with this
is that I really don't want to lose another important
person in my life. This is mostly on social settings,
but it's fine when it's only the two of us.
We were happy the past years. Though yes, she indeed
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has selfish tendencies sometimes and I'm at my limit about
this issue, I guess. Also, let me clarify the dynamics
with her family. The main thing is that I'm still
sort of the outsider, and she's much closer to them
compared to me because I only see them a couple
of times a year. I actually sometimes feel much more
comfortable conversing with her family than her, because they would
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ask me questions to extend the conversation. I actually got
super close with her two male cousins instantly because I
found out we share some hobbies and gaming and anime.
But even with this, is it not fair for me
to expect her to come to me from time to
time and not me chasing her around all day? Or
is it too much overthinking? The community agrees Ope as
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not the ahle and that this relationship should end. Also, Opie,
I don't think you're wasting her time. I think she's
wasting yours. So now let's move on to the update
to see how the story ends. I couldn't help myself.
After she ignored my vulnerable message for two days, I
reached out again last night with messages explaining how hurt
I was by her dismissiveness and asked if she wanted
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to meet up. I also told her I think we
have an anxious, avoidant attachment dynamic and sent her videos
and detailed explanations about it, hoping she'd finally understand where
I'm coming from and maybe even give us a starting
point on how we can fix the relationship. Her response,
she completely ignored everything I said and just told me
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I'm going to the mall anyway. You can come if
you want. So. Even after pouring my heart out about
feeling dismissed and invisible, she dismissed me and made me
feel invisible again. It really hurts I'm meeting her today.
I know everyone is going to call me an idiot,
and you're probably right, but I need to do this
face to face. I'll break up with her. Will it
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be for your own benefit? I do hope you break
up with her, and when you do break up with her,
don't expect Please, I'm sorry, come back to me. And
even if she does say that, which I highly doubt,
do not do it. Just leave. And on that note,
here's wishing you the best. Opee. Thanks for sharing and
to take care. And now let's finish this video with
a mood booster post. This post is from the subreddit
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petty Revenge and it's by user fresh Nectary. In eight
sixty seven, I ate a bag of rich Man's nut
so my boss would stop coming into my office and
eating the rich Man's nuts. It's the holidays, so the
company I work for gets a lot of gift baskets
from our clients and vendors. I work in a department that,
because of the work we do, we rarely get gifts
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and treats unless one of the other departments share their
gifts with us. Thankfully, someone shared a couple of baskets
with nuts, candies, crackers, et cetera. The VP has been
coming into our office almost every day to pick from
our gift baskets. He doesn't do this to any of
the other departments, and I have seen him get a
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couple of baskets himself and never shared them. We had
in an opened basket and he opened it, then chose
the most expensive item, a bag of pistachios, and ripped
into it, stealing some of our pistachios. Then said, I
love the rich Man's nut. This man makes five times
what I do. When the opportunity came for him to
fight for races for us, he didn't. And now he
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is coming into our office and stealing our gifts and
eating our rich Man nuts. This cannot continue. I decided
that I am going to eat every single pistachio. I
don't particularly like pistachios or nuts, but I am not
gonna let him come in here and steal my rich
Man nut. I'm gonna eat them all to myself and
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enjoy every single last minute of it. I have eaten
four sleeves of nuts. The basket is now empty. My
body doesn't feel good, but my pride is intact, knowing
that I am full of rich Man nut while he
cannot take any more. Wellopy, this is absolutely the definition
of a petty revenge. And congratulations, and hopefully, even though
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you don't like them very much, those pistachos were nice.
Thanks for sharing, Op, and that's it for today's video.
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch it. Now,
if you've gotten to this point in the video, I
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