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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi everybody, and welcome back to lost genre Reddit stories.
This post is from the Subreddada Mighty a Hole, and
it's by user ooh ksad Am I the a hole.
My parents kicked me out of the house with no warning.
For a little backstory, I twenty one mail have been
living with my parents due to some recent life events.
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About a month ago, my dad crashed my car and
my mom refused me to let me use theirs for
my commute to work. Long story short, my parents ended
up paying for the expenses to have my car fixed.
We did also end up sharing a car until I
had mine back. After that, I thought it was done
and over. My mom made a comment about it here
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and there, but it didn't seem to seriously bother her
until about a week and a half ago. She demanded
that I paid them all the money for my car
expenses back. She said it wasn't fair she lost money
to an accident she didn't cause, and I think that's fair.
But I reminded her that I didn't cause it either.
Dad caused the accident, and I told her I'm sorry
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that it ended up affecting her as well, but that
it didn't change the fact my car had to be fixed,
and it was my dad's responsibility. She got really mad
at that and started on a rant about how it
was unfair and I was using them for money. What
was my dad's response to all of this? He just
agreed with her. I ended up just telling her what
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I've already said, because there was honestly nothing else to say.
She's been very upset with me since then, but she
never mentioned any possibility of kicking me out. So imagine
my surprise a couple of days ago when I came
home to all of my stuff being outside of the
house in boxes, literally on the curb. I was honestly
shocked and mad about this, and I immediately went in
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the house to question my parents about this. My mom
said that she was tired of letting someone so ungrateful
live in her house. My dad just repeated what my
mom said, but in a kinder way, because I guess
he thought she was being harsh.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
I couldn't believe it. I asked her to.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
Explain how I've been being and grateful, and she responded
by basically saying, we raised you. We went back and
forth for a bit, and we were both pretty mad
at each other. Then my mom told me to leave
the house or else she would call the police on me.
I have no idea if anything actually would have come
of that situation, but at this point I was so
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confused and angry that I just went outside and called
around to find someone I was able to stay with.
I ended up sleeping at a friend's house. It's been
a couple of days now, and siblings have both been
calling me. I guess my parents must have told him
what happened. I'm assuming it was specifically my mom bad
talking me to them. My sister agrees with my mom
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and says I should have just paid the money back.
My brother agrees that it was unfair of them to
kick me out, but also says I should have just
paid the money back. My dad has also been trying
to reach me, but honestly, I've just been too mad
to pick up the phone for him. I'm just so
shocked by the whole situation. I wouldn't say me and
my parents' relationship has always been easy street, but it's
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never been this bad. I honestly thought we were good
until all of this. The worst part is I was
planning to move out and rent an apartment with a
friend once their lease was up in two months. My
parents knew that and still decided to do this. I'm
just so confused, and I don't understand where they're coming from.
I get they raised me and took care of me
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and all that, but I just feel like that doesn't
give them the right to do this all of a sudden.
I don't think I did anything wrong, so honestly, am
I the equal in this situation? No Opie, you are
not the equal. Your mother is absolutely off base here
just because I raised you. You need to pay me
because your dad crashed your car. I'm sorry your dad
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has no spine, op and that your mom is an
outright idiot, and it sounds like it's seeping into your siblings.
No Opie, you're not the ahole. As you said, your
dad crashed your car, he needs to pay for it.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
If your mom's.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
Pissed at anybody, she should be pissed at him. In
my opinion, kicking you out is unfair, but unfortunately she
can do that now. The way I would look at
it is just getting your life started two months sooner
than you expected. If you can, you just need to
wait it out for some time. I don't know, maybe
you could couch serf, keep saving up some money, and
then move into your own apartment and forget about them,
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because the we raised you logic opens up too many
doors to just let it fly. In a few years,
they'll come knocking on your door demanding money from you
because they raised you. So no, OPI not the ahole.
What do you guys think? Let me know in the
comments section, and now let's check out the community comments.
Any expression twenty two forty six says you're not responsible
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for the accident. There's no way you're responsible for the money.
It's fine if they want you out, but that's not
the way to do it. Do your best, find a
place live your life. When they come crawling back and
the f off, warn your siblings, they'll probably do the
same to them. And dopey response, I probably should have
said this in the post, but my siblings are older
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than me. My sister is in her late twenties and
my brother is in his early thirties. They're already well
off and out of the house. I honestly think that's
another point of tension with my mom because right now,
in her own words, I'm the only one of her
kids that is failing at life. Casey Amfichi says, not
the ahle. Your parents brought you into this world and
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were one hundred percent obligated to raise you, feed you,
clothe you, et cetera. You do not owe them for that.
Your dad wrecked your car. The right thing to do
is for your dad to fix it and pay for it.
What your parents did was hurtful and just plain wrong.
I'm sorry you had to go through this. Ford Warrior says.
My guess is that if you'd wreck their car, they
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would have expected you to pay for the damages.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
I would ask them.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
Packing up your things and putting them outside was pretty dirty,
but it is what it is. You planned to move
out in a couple of months, so just consider this
an early out. Hopefully you can couch sir for a
few weeks.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
That's what I said.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
Let your mother's calls go to voicemail, but answer your dad.
If he calls again, that would be the time to
ask him if you would expect to pay damages if
you wrecked his car. Depending on his answer, you can
decide whether you pay him back or not.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Not.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
The A Hole and Firm profile twenty seventy nine says
your mom's delusional and your father lacks integrity and doesn't
know what the word accountability means. Screenshot this, send that
to them and tell him he's a gatherer. Well, the
community agrees that OPI is not the ahole. Now OPI
has given us four updates to the story, so let's
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move on with the first one to see what happened next.
Some things have happened since my last post. I calmed
down a bit and decided to finally answer one of
my dad's calls. He started talking about how afraid he
was that I was never going to talk to them again.
Then he said that things weren't so to go that
way the other day and apologized for Mom putting my
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stuff outside. Apparently the plan was to talk to me
about it first, but he said Mom got caught up.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
In her emotions.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
When I asked why he didn't step in, he said
it was because he didn't want.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
To upset her anymore. Coward.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
I didn't really want to accept that excuse, but I
took it so we could move forward. That was until
I got another call from my brother. Mom's been absolutely
crap talking me to him and my sister. Apparently she
kept comparing me to them and how good they're doing.
Mind you, they're both older than me by several years.
Then she went on a round about how much harder
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it's been to raise me compared to them. At one point,
he says, she even insinuated that I was a mistake,
though he says to take that with a grain of salt,
as she didn't outright say it. My brother was uncomfortable
with listening to her talk about me so harshly, and
he decided to call and tell me. I'm feeling a
mix of emotions about all of that is right now.
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Part of me is still mad about the whole suddenly
kicking me out thing, but I'm mostly just sad about
it all. Knowing that my mom is saying all this
stuff behind my back only makes me think she really
means it, and whether she outright said it or not,
hearing that she thinks I'm a mistake honestly crushed my soul.
I don't understand why still, but I guess she has
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the reasons. I don't really want to talk to her again,
but I do really want to know the truth of
why she feels this way about me. I'm not sure
about Dad yet, I'm not the type to cut people off,
and having to do it to one person is already
too much for me. I'm still staying with my friend
as of now until I figure out what I'm doing.
I guess I'll see how it goes from here. So
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now let's move on to the next update. So a
lot more has happened over the last few days. First,
I went back home the other day to grab some
important things I needed. I waited to go back over
there until I knew my mom would be at work
and to try to make it quick because I didn't
particularly want to see my dad either. While I was there,
I did tell him what my mom had said about me.
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He did seem shocked she would say that to me
or my siblings. But when I asked if this is
the first time she's ever said that, he admitted that
she's told him that more than a few times. When
asked if he knew why, he just told me she
has her reasons, but they're not my fault. I tried
to get him to explain more, but that's really as
far as he would go. I don't really know how
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I should feel about that, but I just went with it.
I asked if that's how he felt about me too.
He said it's not, and that he loves me. It
hasn't really felt like that's true, and I wanted to
say that to him, but I just ended up saying okay.
I told him I'm cutting Mom completely off and him
too for now. After that, I took my stuff and left.
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Fast forward to a couple days ago, I got a
very angry series of messages from my sister about how
horrible I am for turning our brother against our mom.
She said I made Mom cry and that I should
be ashamed of myself. Needless to say, I had no
idea what she was talking about. As far as I knew,
my brother wasn't against anyone in this situation, so I
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was just confused. I tried to ask her to explain,
but I should know by now that I never get
an answer from that, so instead I called my brother
to ask him directly. Apparently Mom found out that I
knew about what she said. I'm assuming Dad told her.
Then she called my brother and screamed at him for
going behind her back and telling me, to which he
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responded that she was the only one saying things behind
people's back and that she was being unreasonably mean to
me for no real reason. He told her she should
get her priorities straight and go yell at Dad for
causing this whole thing. Then he told her not to
call him again if all she was going to do
was yell about someone or something. I honestly wasn't expecting
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that from my brother. He's not the type to step
into conflict if he doesn't have to, but obviously her
yelling at him set him off. I'm not trying to
say I'm happy she did that, but I am happy
my brother responded the way he did. Obviously she cares
more about what he thinks than she does me. I
told my brother about what Dad says, and he agrees
his response feels weird. I asked if he possibly knows
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why since he's a bit older than me, but he's
just as shocked.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
About this all as I am.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
He also said he would talk to my sister about
everything and get her to back off.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
So now I'm waiting to see how things go with that.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
Like I said before, I'm not the type to cut
people off, but if my mom is just going to
use my sister to talk to me, I'm going to
blog her too. Also, as far as housing goes, I
decided to take my friend up on his offer and
stay until my other friend's leasays up. That's the update
for now. Okay, well, then let's move on to the
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third update. I had a conversation with my dad a
few days ago. My brother and I talked him into
giving me a better response than Mom as her reasons.
I just wanted to know why or if Mom had
any reason for saying what she said, and he finally
told me. The story, according to Dad is him and
my mom were in their late thirties early forties when
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they found out Mom was pregnant again, which I did
know and after reading some comments, thought might be contributing
to this whole thing. At the time, they had decided
that they were fine with just my siblings and were
done having children, so it wasn't the best surprise to them,
but they didn't have an option but to go.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
Along with it.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
Apparently, the pregnancy was super hard for my mom, he said.
She was always in and out of the hospital. It
put a lot of stress on my parents and they
had to worry about my mom's life and mine. Eventually,
Mom began feeling some type of resentment. Dad even said
that Mom started to question if the pregnancy being so
bad was assigned God didn't want her to have me,
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and the birth was apparently also very traumatic for her.
She ended up having to give birth prematurely due to
complications and lost a lot of blood during the process,
which led to more pain and resentment. Dad said Mom
had a hard time connecting with me as a baby,
and that she said it didn't feel right then. When
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I was a kid, I had some health issues which
added more stress onto their plate. So mommy eventually started
believing that God had made some type of mistake and
accidentally punished them with me. I want to say that
hearing that did make me sad for Mom, and I
do feel bad for what she went through to bring
me into this world. But at the same time, I
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didn't choose for her to do that, so to get
blamed for it seems unfair. They had a decision to
prevent this if they didn't want it, and they actively
chose not to, or at least Dad did, as in
his own words, he doesn't believe in contraception. He did
also mentioned another reason though Mom never wanted me to
move back into the house, she had been waiting for
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so long for the house to be empty already, so
it was angry at the thought of staying at home
once again. He said she always thought my reasoning was stupid,
and then I was overreacting. Dad ended up convincing her
to let me stay for a little while, though, though
I think Dad believes the same, he just didn't want
to seem bad. I'm not going to go into too
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much detail about why I moved back in, but to
sum it up, my abusive ex tried to literally end me,
so I had to find a new place to stay
quick and at the time, everything was too expensive for me.
Plus none of my friends lived nearby then, so my
parents were the best choice, and I thought they were
fine with it. I've never seen it as a point
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of tension between us, but I will say that my
dad's made fun of me more than a few times
for it.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
I assume that's what's Mom's view is too on it.
That is a stupid excuse.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
So that's what my dad says Mom's reasoning for all
of this is, and he's as close as I can
get to asking her directly, so I'm going to have
to take his word for it. After hearing all of this,
I'm not really sure what to make of it. I
wouldn't say it helped, and honestly has made me feel
a bit worse somehow, But I'm stupid for looking for
an answer in the first place. I've been so stressed
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and confused and sad lately that I probably just would
have done better accepting the woman may have hated me
for no reason. But now that I've gotten that, I'm
still cutting off my mom, dad, and my sister because
she still won't even listen to me. Her and my
mom are still harassing me, and I'm just not even
in a state of mind to deal with it all anymore.
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I know I said I'm not the cutting off type,
but I realized I'm going to feel horrible either way,
so why not just remove myself? Obviously they've never wanted
me around anyways. And a bit of an update on
my current situation. My friends have still been supporting me
and helping me through all of this, which I cannot
be more grateful for because if it wasn't for them,
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I honestly don't know if I could handle all this.
In worse news, my job let me know I was
being let go, which isn't related to the situation at all,
but just feels like I kick in the face. I
don't know what I did to piss the universe off,
but obviously things aren't going in my favor. So my
plan is still to stay with my friend and get
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an apartment with another one once there leases up in
two months. But now I just also have to find
another job. Anyways, that's the update. I'm feeling absolutely terrible
right now and I'm just trying to get past all this.
Hopefully in a couple of months I can come back
and update you with more positive news. Well let's not
waste any time and move on straight to the final update.
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That is five months after this last post. It's been
a while since I updated on my situation. A few
people have been asking if I'm all right and if
things have gotten better, so I decided to just make
another post about what's currently happening. For starters, I still
haven't talked to my mom over the past few months.
From the few things I have heard, though, she has
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begun acting like I don't even exist. She stopped bringing
up so much when talking to my siblings. She's apparently
gotten rid of any photos that have me in them.
Then she started referring to my siblings as her only
two children, especially my brother, who she keeps making it
a point to call her only son. My brother is
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tired of arguing back and forth with her, so he
ignores whenever she says stuff like that, and honestly, I
don't really mind her doing any of that. It hurts,
of course, but it's right on track with everything else
she's said and done the past few months. Plus it's
really only fair. Since I haven't talked to her. I
haven't talked to my dad either. I do know he
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has asked my brother about me a few times. Part
of me does feel bad for not talking to him.
I have a feeling, though, that if I did talk
to him again, a lot of it would be about
how I should try and talk to mom, and I
don't want to do that. As for my sister, I
actually have spoken to her. My brother finally convinced her
the whole situation wasn't totally my fault. So we've talked
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a little bit, not a whole bunch, but it's something.
And when it comes to my brother, I believe the
last few months have been the most I've talked to him.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
It's been great.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
I feel like our relationship is better than it's ever been,
and having at least one person from my family on
my side has made things easier. My living situation has
gotten a lot better. I did manage to secure a
new job after I lost mine a couple of months ago.
Me and my friend did move in together, which has
been going great, and just my friends in general have
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been supporting me through all of this. I've been going
through a rough patch mentally lately, not only because of
the whole getting kicked out thing, but a combination of
stuff that happened before and after that. So just having
people there to take my mind off of stuff has
helped a lot. Actually, So that's the update. My situation
has improved quite a bit. My life is less chaotic now,
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feeling emotionally drained still, but I assume that will change
over time. Also, thanks for the kind messages and check
ins people have been sending me. I've been off here
for a little while, so coming back to that was nice.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
Will it.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
I'm truly sorry about your whole situation. I cannot understand
how your mom would feel like that of things that
you clearly had nothing to do with, and also that
defense your brother made of you that you are actually
not totally at fault.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
You are not at fault at all. So I do think.
Speaker 1 (19:26):
It's a sad situation to be in, but you seem
to be taking it on stride and just moving forward.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
Focus on that, Opie.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
So here's wishing you the best, Thanks so much for sharing,
and to take care. And now let's finish this video
with a mood booster post. This post is from the
subreddit malicious compliance and it's by user Ajiani. Expense reimbursement policy.
I'll follow it to the letter. At my previous job,
we had a strict expense reimbursement policy. The rule only
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expenses with receipts were reinversed, no exceptions. One month, I
traveled for work and add a few small expenses like
bus farees, street parking, and tipping where getting a receipt
was impossible.
Speaker 2 (20:07):
I submitted my.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
Report clearly listing these minor changes, totaling about twenty dollars. Rejected,
my manager said, no receipt, No reimbursement policy is policy.
We need every receipt for audit purposes. Fine cy you
malicious compliance. The next trip I went all in. Needed
a bottle of water, bought it from a fancy cafe
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with a printed receipt. Short taxi ride no cash, only
expensive app based rides with e receipts Instead of public transport.
I took more costly options that provided invoices, tipping a
server no cash, added it to the bill at high
end restaurants with detailed receipts. My total expenses two hundred
and eighty dollars instead of twenty dollars. When finance processed
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my claim, my manager was furious, why is this so high? Well,
you said, no receipt, no reinbursement, so I made sure
everything had a receipt. A new policy was introduced the
following week. Reasonable expenses may be reinversed at management's discretion,
even without receipts. Nicely dunop, changing stupid policy, one malicious
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compliance at a time. Thanks so much for sharing. And
that's it for today's video. Thank you so much for
taking the time to watch it.
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