August 2, 2025 • 21 mins
Relationship Stories - OP, a successful nurse, stood up to her fiancé’s mother after being mocked. When her fiancé asked her to apologize for it, she ended the engagement — choosing self-respect over a future with toxic in-laws.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi everybody, and welcome back to lost genre Reddit stories.
This post is from the Subjetada might Ahle and it's
by user deleted. Am I the a whole broke up
with my heart surgeon boyfriend over his mom's comments on
me being a nurse. I am twenty seven female and
I am a nurse. I make a good salary as
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a private nurse for a firm which provides care for
rich families six figures in my country, not the USA.
I am proud of my career. I wanted to be
a doctor when I was a teen, but it was
it possible for my family to provide me medical education.
And at that time I felt self hate to be
a nurse. But by the age of twenty I became
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a nurse and now I love it. This job made
possible for me to buy my own house, car and
travel outside the country, a good pension plan and other savings.
I can raise a family on my own income. I
have or had a boyfriend, we'll call him Rob, twenty
eight male, who is into his heart's specialty, and we
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fell in love during hospital visits. He was the one
to pursue me. He is soon going to be a
heart surgeon. His mom has always made passive aggressive comments
about me being a nurse. We got engaged recently, and
all of his relatives were at a family dinner party
held by Rob's parents last week. So his mom and
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aunts at the dinner table joked around that a heart
surgeon like Rob can get any female doctor as a wife.
Rob took offense and said Opie is very much independent
and makes a good salary herself to take care of
a whole family. But his mom went on, I have
had enough. I have respect for housewives. But this time
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I fired back. I said his mom and aunts are
gold diggin' housewives with no life skills outside of raising kids.
They live on their husband's money, who are rich. Some
of them started crying and started shouting. Everyone one, including Rob,
asked me to apologize. I broke upon the spot. I said,
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I will not sell my self respect for his family.
I rather marry a normal man than a surgeon whose
family doesn't respect me. I left, and Rob is begging
for a chance. I know he tried to silence his mom,
but I don't see the future. I see a lifetime
of taunts, and I can't ask him to cut off
his parents which he won't do anyways, my parents are
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saying he is a good catch and to ignore his
mom's comments. But money isn't everything and social status isn't everything.
I don't want to be looked down upon, but I
miss him and it is breaking my heart. Am I
the ahole? You're not the ahole? Opie. You've worked hard,
You've built a strong life, and you've earned everything you have.
That's very admirable. And it's family disrespected you openly and
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when they pushed too far, you responded. You didn't start
this conflict. They did, and sure may Rob carry enough
to tell his mom, but as soon as you stand
up for yourself, he asks you to apologize. Yeah, that
doesn't set a nice president for the future. And regarding
your parents, Opieve, I'm sorry that they just see status,
but you are right to walk away and you shouldn't
have to tolerate insults to stay in a relationship. So
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definitely not be Ahuope. You've made the right choice. What
do you guys think? Let me know in the comment
section and now let's check out the community comments. Verra
Sultre says, girl, you chose you and I respect that
heavy Like Yeah, love is cute, No, but not when
it comes with a side of disrespect from the in
laws buffet. You don't sign up for a lifetime of
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microaggressions just to be someone's respectable nurse wife when you're
already out there thriving his mom acting like your some
peasant for not being a doctor. Meanwhile, you're out here
making six figs, traveling own property. Be serious and Rob
might be a sweetheart, but if he can't put his
mom on mute when she's coming for your whole existence,
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then what's the point. You didn't lose a heart surgeon,
you dodged a future group chat full of backhanded compliments.
And when are you going back to school? Vibes, You're
the prize, always were. Keep the crown on Treman Dakruca says,
if yeah, not the ahle. I can't imagine his mom's
passive aggressive comments would drive me nuts too, Like if
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she has a problem with you as an engaged woman,
what makes her think it'll magically stop after you're married.
Some people just don't know when to keep their mouth
shut mind to their own business. Seeing me, I guess
I'm still naive enough to believe in fairy tales. Where
the wicked step mom or mother in law turns into
a supportive partner wants the wedding bell's chime. But hey,
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at least you'd stood up for yourself and your hard
earned career. Don't let anyone make you feel less than
what you are. June Plumb seventy nine says, not the ahle.
Don't take him back because if this is how his
family treats you and you're not even married yet, imagine
what would happen. And if you actually married him. He
doesn't have a spine and allowed his family to disrespect
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and bully you, and then had the nerve to tell
you to apologize to them. You dodged the bullet on
this one. Move on with your life and don't look back. Impossible.
Nebula thirty three says, even if he married a doctor,
she would still have a problem because at the core
she is driven by jealousy because look at how easily
you walked away, because you, yourself are very successful and
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don't need to beg for scraps from anyone. Your head
is held high. Meanwhile, she couldn't do the same because
her life depends on a man and his money. You're
above these people choose yourself and uber Nube seven one
nine says this reminds me of a Korean drama I
watched years ago, Golden Eras of daughters in law. Your
excess mom was probably treated horribly by her own mother
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in law and internalized it as the normal way of
treating daughters in law. The difference between the show and
your real life is that in the show, the mother
in law realized me too late the value of self
worth and not being tied to others. You've got the
nail on the head in wanting a partner that respects
your autonomy. Your ex may be a doctor, but his
spine is about as solid as a piece of jello
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in a flower seed. Live your best life, sister. You
deserve way better than him, not the A whole additional
information from Opie's comments. In our culture, the family system
is strong, so I would be expected to be an
available daughter in law to his mother. But that was
what scares me. I want a mother in law who
respects me, not someone who makes my life hell every day.
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He also wants to live near his support system, so
when we have kids, his family can take care of
them under his parents' supervision. It hurts and I love him,
but I see a dark future. If I get married
and have kids, I will be trapped forever. So that's
why I ended it. It's a lifetime of misery that
I don't want. Opie's edit. He has tried to stop
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their comments. Whenever I told him it boss, he told
me to try to ignore it, and whenever he tried
arguing with them, they said it is just joking and
he shouldn't disrespect elders. So after marriage we would have
moved to the house next door to my in laws.
I would never have peace in my life. I realized
he will never cut them off, nor will I force anyone.
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It's better to end it, all right. The community agrees
that Ope is not the Ahle. So now let's move
on to the update to see how this story ends. Hi.
I deleted the old post as I didn't want to continue,
but most comments gave me a sense and I am thankful.
Rob and I met after that event. A few days
after I made the original post, he came to my
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place to discuss things. My brother was there, but I
sent him to the other room before Rob came, and
he didn't know my brother was there. I just wanted
to be secure. He cried, and I cried too, but
I told him the only way it is possible for
me to get back together with him is that we
have to move far from his parents and limited contact
from my side with him, his family, and our future kids.
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He said it is impossible, and his family will be
a great support system to us. He told me he
will make a huge amount of money and I can
continue part time when we have kids, as he will
pay me around my salary to spend. My independence is
something I value, and I refused. I told him that
his mother will not raise my kids and I won't
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leave my job. He got angry and our discussion became
heated and in anger. He slapped me hard and literally
ripped my shirt when he held my arm. I'm a
five foot nine inch tall woman, but a six foot
muscle man made me realize how weak I felt physically
at that moment. I called my brother out, and when
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he saw blood from my nose and ripped shirt, he
lost it and beat robbed to a pulp that I
had to stop him. In the end, we called his
family and the police got involved. It was decided he
won't press charges if I don't because it will ruin
his career. And I also wanted no trouble for my brother,
but I have a restraining order in process. The relationship
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is all over. My love went to zero with that
slap of his His mother begged me not to file
charges anyway. Thanks Reddit for opening my eyes. I never
knew my ex was like this before this incident because
he never raised hands on me. If my brother wasn't there,
I don't know what could have happened to me. I
got a camera installed a couple of days back. Though,
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I will sell this house and buy a house in
my parents neighborhood. This is finished chapter of my life
and I will not date someone for months. I'm going
on a three weeks trip to Europe this summer and
want to heal my heart and soul. This is my
final update. Thank you Opie's edit. Who find it fake
can buzz off from my post. If it was fake,
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I wouldn't have deleted my ID back then and made
an update post as soon as possible. I suffered and
took a break from social media. I finally got energy
to update you guys because I got a lot of
support earlier. Some are saying I'm not native English speaker.
I don't know why some think I'm a teenager because
I use a lot of et cetera type short forms.
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This is very common way of communication in my country,
and it comes in my writing style. Wow, OPI, it's
a good thing you had your brother there. I'm sorry
you had to go through that, but the good thing
is that you have a restraining order in process and
he's out of your life. So here's wishing you the
best in the future. Ope, thanks so much for sharing
and to take care, and now let's move on to
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the next post that also has an update. This post
is from the subredded entitled people, and it's by user
dry Interaction thirty nine forty took in my old friend
when she had no one. Now I feel used, disrespected,
and honestly creeped out. I'm mainly writing this to vent
and process everything that happened. If you've ever helped someone
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only to have it backfired completely, you'll probably relate. We
were childhood friends I make Kate when we were thirteen.
We became close quickly. One day, she confided something very
serious and painful about her home life. She said her
mother's boyfriend had sexually assaulted her and asked me not
to tell anyone. I kept her secret, thinking I was
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being loyal. I was just being a kid too. Over time,
she became jealous and passive aggressive toward me. A boy
she liked started showing interest in me, which I didn't discourage.
Then I was selected for a student leadership role at school,
something she wanted. She had a meltdown and begged me
to turn it down. That was the final straw. I
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ended the friendship. Our classmates distance from her too, not
at my urging, and her mother came to school accusing
me of bullying. It wasn't true, and even the school
could see that, but it was a lot of drama
for a teenager to deal with. Years later, in our thirties,
we reconnected online. I was living overseas and visited home,
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so we met up. She was buried with the child,
but told me her marriage was difficult. Her husband was
emotionally distant and not helping financially. She had inherited money
from a late family member mother and was using that
to stay afloat while struggling with her job. Eventually, she
divorced and moved in with a much younger man, she'd
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started dating. She gave him a large sum of money
to invest in a business and was paying for everything,
including their rent. The money came from the sale of
her marital home. She also let her ex take full
time care of her child. She barely saw him anymore,
just because the younger man disliked hanging out with her child.
At that point, I've moved back to my home country
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for about a year. I offered support and got overwhelmed.
She told me she had nowhere to go with her
son since her boyfriend didn't want to be around kids.
I invited her to bring him over to my home
on Sundays to hang out with my daughter and me.
That quickly turned into her coming every single weekend, then
multiple times a week, even without her son. She'd show
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up unannounced and our livin' nanny would just let her in. Eventually,
the boyfriend broke up with her and moved out around
the same time she lost her job. She told me
she was completely alone and struggling badly. After talking with
my husband, we offered her a place to stay our
spare room, which was my husband's home office, for up
to six months or until she got back on her feet.
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We didn't ask for rant, We just wanted to help.
Things got uncomfortable fast during her stay. She cried, constantly
shared everything with us, even very personal things, and started
relying on us emotionally for everything. It was draining. One day,
she told me she thought she might be pregnant from
her eggs and was hoping the baby would bring him back.
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When I asked what she'd do if it didn't, she
casually suggested I could raise the child because she knew
I had fertility issues and a live in nanny. I
was shocked and deeply hurt by that comment. The test
was negative and she was upset. I felt relieved, but
that moment changed everything for me. Even after she moved out,
she never really left. She eventually moved into her aunt's place,
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but she left all her belongings at my home and
continued to come over almost every day, lounging around, smoking
on our balcony, and acting like she still lived here.
She started making very uncomfortable comments around my husband, sitting
too close, touching him during conversations, and wearing revealing outfits
in our home, telling him personal sexual anecdotes. My husband
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asked me not to leave him alone anymore. And I agreed.
Then she met a new guy through a dating app.
After the first date, she declared him her boyfriend and
wanted to bring him over to introduce him to us.
We said no, we have a young daughter and that
didn't feel safe or appropriate. She didn't like the boundary,
and although she started coming slightly less often, it was
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still too much. She crossed a final line. A teenage
son of a family friend came to stay with us
temporarily for a school internship. I asked Kate to stop
visiting during that time and to finally clear her belongings
from our spare room. She ignored that and came to
a group dinner, where she made inappropriate comments to the teen,
saying that he is a very good looking boy and
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asked if he has a girlfriend, then joked about getting
her room back after he left. I told her firmly
that my husband needed his office back. Her reply, it's okay,
he can work while I just chill on the bed.
That was beyond inappropriate. I didn't want to create a scene,
but that was the last straw. I'm now pregnant and
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I want her out of my life. I recently found doubt.
I'm expecting I haven't told her, and I don't plan to.
Every time I try to have a serious boundary setting conversation,
she flips the script and reminds me that she had
a difficult childhood and is an orphan, as if that
excuses everything. I'm done being manipulated, guilt trip, or used.
I just want peace in my home, especially with a
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baby on the way. Thanks for letting me vent. I
guess I just needed to put this somewhere so I
don't explode. If you've been through something similar where trying
to help someone ends up wrecking your emotional will being,
I see you. Yikes, it sounds like ope. Hete definitely
needs to get Kate out of her life. So let's
not waste any time and move on straight to the
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update to see how this story ends. There has been
a new development, and I honestly feel sick about the
whole situation. What I didn't mention previously is that I
have another friend. Let's call her Mary. We've been close
since childhood, the kind of friends who don't overshare or pry,
but always show up for each other. We've known each
other for twenty years. When Kate came into my life,
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the three of us started hanging out. Mary and Kate
didn't know each other before, but since I was a
mutual link, we all occasionally went out together. Now, as
I mentioned, I recently found out I was pregnant. My
husband and I decided to take a short four day
baby moon to a neighboring country. It would be our
first time traveling without our daughter. Since our living nanny
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could manage, I invited Mary under her husband to come along.
They have four kids and definitely deserve a break, but
only Mary could make it due to her husband's work schedule.
She was respectful enough to book a hotel down the
street from us to give us privacy. Kate found out
about the trip and just invited herself, paid only for
her flight, and made plans to share a room with Mary.
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My husband and I were honestly shocked when we found
out via group chat. We were already looking forward to
some peace and relaxation, and now we're dreading it. A
few days ago, the son of a family friend who
was staying with us flew home. Mary brought her kids
over for a small farewell party. Since it was mainly
for the kids, we didn't invite Kate. Apparently she found
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out and got mad at Mary for meeting up without her.
When Mary explained it was a kid's focused event, Kate
stopped replying to her During that visit. I finally opened
up to Mary about how I've been needing distance from
Kate and that if I don't come out or reply
to texts, it's not personal, it's me setting boundaries. That
that's when Mary told me everything. She's been hanging out
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with Kate a lot lately, often with her husband, because
Kate's been constantly upset and needy, and Kate lied. She
told everyone she was living with her aunt, but she's
actually back with the same younger guy she previously warned
me about, the one she invested her late mother's inheritance
and the proceeds from her marital flat into or without
her name on any documents. Turns out, Kate refuses to
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collect her stuff from my house because she's keeping my
place as a backup nest in case her relationship fails,
and she even asked Mary to lie about it to me.
It gets worse. Kate also started dating another man behind
the younger guy's back, hoping to upgrade. That guy disappeared
after borrowing twenty seven hundred dollars from her, which she
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just handed over no questions asked. Mary finally admitted she
was tired of keeping all these secrets, especially since Kate
constantly lies. She even showed me private texts between them
where Kate Kate trashed me, saying my husband and I
are bad parents, that she had to discipline my six
year old autistic daughter, which never happened. This really hit
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me hard to hear that she twisted things like that
made me furious. She also called me an a hole
for putting my husband first and said I made her
feel unimportant. Then there's my work life. My husband and
I recently received one hundred thousand dollars funding for our
startup and brought on a former schoolmate, John to help
us out. He's working for free because he believes in
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the project. Kate asked me for a job and I
politely declined. She then went behind my back and asked
my husband. He said no too, so she went to
John to fish for company info. He immediately told us. Later,
she complained to Mary that my husband is a jerk
for not hiring her and said she doesn't believe John
is working for free because no one would be that stupid.
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She also belittled me for my job, saying I only
earned two thousand dollars and I'm financially weak and useful.
I work as a teaching assistant at a school for
autistic kids. It's not about the money, It's about making
a difference. It's personal to me. Right now, all her
stuff is still sitting in my spare bedroom. I haven't
talked to her since learning all this, and the vacation
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hasn't even happened yet. She's arriving a day later than
us due to work. Mary offered to just hang out
with her separately and keep her away from us, but honestly,
I feel disgusted just thinking about it. I want to
cut ties. I want to block her, and Mary already
offered to pack and send her things back. I just
feel really betrayed and grossed out at this point. I'm
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just too tired emotionally to handle this. We live in
a country that throwing her stuff out will be legal.
The address on her idea is not our address, so
it won't cause any trouble. I feel like I'll just
dump all her stuff out and block her everywhere. I
can't even be bothered to have a conversation about it.
We did not book the same flight home. Our flight
is full so probably won't even bump into her. Thanks
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for reading. Wow, OPI, that is one mess of a person.
I think you're making the right decision. It's nice to
try to want to help out, but it's a totally
different thing to get taking advantage of like this, Opie.
Cutting ties with her is absolutely the right thing to do.
So here's pushing you the best, Opie. Thanks for sharing
and to take care. And that's it for today's video.
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Hi everybody, and welcome back to lost genre Reddit stories.
This post is from the Subjetada might Ahle and it's
by user deleted. Am I the a whole broke up
with my heart surgeon boyfriend over his mom's comments on
me being a nurse. I am twenty seven female and
I am a nurse. I make a good salary as
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a private nurse for a firm which provides care for
rich families six figures in my country, not the USA.
I am proud of my career. I wanted to be
a doctor when I was a teen, but it was
it possible for my family to provide me medical education.
And at that time I felt self hate to be
a nurse. But by the age of twenty I became
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a nurse and now I love it. This job made
possible for me to buy my own house, car and
travel outside the country, a good pension plan and other savings.
I can raise a family on my own income. I
have or had a boyfriend, we'll call him Rob, twenty
eight male, who is into his heart's specialty, and we
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fell in love during hospital visits. He was the one
to pursue me. He is soon going to be a
heart surgeon. His mom has always made passive aggressive comments
about me being a nurse. We got engaged recently, and
all of his relatives were at a family dinner party
held by Rob's parents last week. So his mom and
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aunts at the dinner table joked around that a heart
surgeon like Rob can get any female doctor as a wife.
Rob took offense and said Opie is very much independent
and makes a good salary herself to take care of
a whole family. But his mom went on, I have
had enough. I have respect for housewives. But this time
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I fired back. I said his mom and aunts are
gold diggin' housewives with no life skills outside of raising kids.
They live on their husband's money, who are rich. Some
of them started crying and started shouting. Everyone one, including Rob,
asked me to apologize. I broke upon the spot. I said,
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I will not sell my self respect for his family.
I rather marry a normal man than a surgeon whose
family doesn't respect me. I left, and Rob is begging
for a chance. I know he tried to silence his mom,
but I don't see the future. I see a lifetime
of taunts, and I can't ask him to cut off
his parents which he won't do anyways, my parents are
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saying he is a good catch and to ignore his
mom's comments. But money isn't everything and social status isn't everything.
I don't want to be looked down upon, but I
miss him and it is breaking my heart. Am I
the ahole? You're not the ahole? Opie. You've worked hard,
You've built a strong life, and you've earned everything you have.
That's very admirable. And it's family disrespected you openly and
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when they pushed too far, you responded. You didn't start
this conflict. They did, and sure may Rob carry enough
to tell his mom, but as soon as you stand
up for yourself, he asks you to apologize. Yeah, that
doesn't set a nice president for the future. And regarding
your parents, Opieve, I'm sorry that they just see status,
but you are right to walk away and you shouldn't
have to tolerate insults to stay in a relationship. So
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definitely not be Ahuope. You've made the right choice. What
do you guys think? Let me know in the comment
section and now let's check out the community comments. Verra
Sultre says, girl, you chose you and I respect that
heavy Like Yeah, love is cute, No, but not when
it comes with a side of disrespect from the in
laws buffet. You don't sign up for a lifetime of
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microaggressions just to be someone's respectable nurse wife when you're
already out there thriving his mom acting like your some
peasant for not being a doctor. Meanwhile, you're out here
making six figs, traveling own property. Be serious and Rob
might be a sweetheart, but if he can't put his
mom on mute when she's coming for your whole existence,
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then what's the point. You didn't lose a heart surgeon,
you dodged a future group chat full of backhanded compliments.
And when are you going back to school? Vibes, You're
the prize, always were. Keep the crown on Treman Dakruca says,
if yeah, not the ahle. I can't imagine his mom's
passive aggressive comments would drive me nuts too, Like if
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she has a problem with you as an engaged woman,
what makes her think it'll magically stop after you're married.
Some people just don't know when to keep their mouth
shut mind to their own business. Seeing me, I guess
I'm still naive enough to believe in fairy tales. Where
the wicked step mom or mother in law turns into
a supportive partner wants the wedding bell's chime. But hey,
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at least you'd stood up for yourself and your hard
earned career. Don't let anyone make you feel less than
what you are. June Plumb seventy nine says, not the ahle.
Don't take him back because if this is how his
family treats you and you're not even married yet, imagine
what would happen. And if you actually married him. He
doesn't have a spine and allowed his family to disrespect
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and bully you, and then had the nerve to tell
you to apologize to them. You dodged the bullet on
this one. Move on with your life and don't look back. Impossible.
Nebula thirty three says, even if he married a doctor,
she would still have a problem because at the core
she is driven by jealousy because look at how easily
you walked away, because you, yourself are very successful and
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don't need to beg for scraps from anyone. Your head
is held high. Meanwhile, she couldn't do the same because
her life depends on a man and his money. You're
above these people choose yourself and uber Nube seven one
nine says this reminds me of a Korean drama I
watched years ago, Golden Eras of daughters in law. Your
excess mom was probably treated horribly by her own mother
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in law and internalized it as the normal way of
treating daughters in law. The difference between the show and
your real life is that in the show, the mother
in law realized me too late the value of self
worth and not being tied to others. You've got the
nail on the head in wanting a partner that respects
your autonomy. Your ex may be a doctor, but his
spine is about as solid as a piece of jello
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in a flower seed. Live your best life, sister. You
deserve way better than him, not the A whole additional
information from Opie's comments. In our culture, the family system
is strong, so I would be expected to be an
available daughter in law to his mother. But that was
what scares me. I want a mother in law who
respects me, not someone who makes my life hell every day.
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He also wants to live near his support system, so
when we have kids, his family can take care of
them under his parents' supervision. It hurts and I love him,
but I see a dark future. If I get married
and have kids, I will be trapped forever. So that's
why I ended it. It's a lifetime of misery that
I don't want. Opie's edit. He has tried to stop
(06:58):
their comments. Whenever I told him it boss, he told
me to try to ignore it, and whenever he tried
arguing with them, they said it is just joking and
he shouldn't disrespect elders. So after marriage we would have
moved to the house next door to my in laws.
I would never have peace in my life. I realized
he will never cut them off, nor will I force anyone.
(07:18):
It's better to end it, all right. The community agrees
that Ope is not the Ahle. So now let's move
on to the update to see how this story ends. Hi.
I deleted the old post as I didn't want to continue,
but most comments gave me a sense and I am thankful.
Rob and I met after that event. A few days
after I made the original post, he came to my
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place to discuss things. My brother was there, but I
sent him to the other room before Rob came, and
he didn't know my brother was there. I just wanted
to be secure. He cried, and I cried too, but
I told him the only way it is possible for
me to get back together with him is that we
have to move far from his parents and limited contact
from my side with him, his family, and our future kids.
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He said it is impossible, and his family will be
a great support system to us. He told me he
will make a huge amount of money and I can
continue part time when we have kids, as he will
pay me around my salary to spend. My independence is
something I value, and I refused. I told him that
his mother will not raise my kids and I won't
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leave my job. He got angry and our discussion became
heated and in anger. He slapped me hard and literally
ripped my shirt when he held my arm. I'm a
five foot nine inch tall woman, but a six foot
muscle man made me realize how weak I felt physically
at that moment. I called my brother out, and when
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he saw blood from my nose and ripped shirt, he
lost it and beat robbed to a pulp that I
had to stop him. In the end, we called his
family and the police got involved. It was decided he
won't press charges if I don't because it will ruin
his career. And I also wanted no trouble for my brother,
but I have a restraining order in process. The relationship
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is all over. My love went to zero with that
slap of his His mother begged me not to file
charges anyway. Thanks Reddit for opening my eyes. I never
knew my ex was like this before this incident because
he never raised hands on me. If my brother wasn't there,
I don't know what could have happened to me. I
got a camera installed a couple of days back. Though,
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I will sell this house and buy a house in
my parents neighborhood. This is finished chapter of my life
and I will not date someone for months. I'm going
on a three weeks trip to Europe this summer and
want to heal my heart and soul. This is my
final update. Thank you Opie's edit. Who find it fake
can buzz off from my post. If it was fake,
(09:48):
I wouldn't have deleted my ID back then and made
an update post as soon as possible. I suffered and
took a break from social media. I finally got energy
to update you guys because I got a lot of
support earlier. Some are saying I'm not native English speaker.
I don't know why some think I'm a teenager because
I use a lot of et cetera type short forms.
(10:09):
This is very common way of communication in my country,
and it comes in my writing style. Wow, OPI, it's
a good thing you had your brother there. I'm sorry
you had to go through that, but the good thing
is that you have a restraining order in process and
he's out of your life. So here's wishing you the
best in the future. Ope, thanks so much for sharing
and to take care, and now let's move on to
(10:29):
the next post that also has an update. This post
is from the subredded entitled people, and it's by user
dry Interaction thirty nine forty took in my old friend
when she had no one. Now I feel used, disrespected,
and honestly creeped out. I'm mainly writing this to vent
and process everything that happened. If you've ever helped someone
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only to have it backfired completely, you'll probably relate. We
were childhood friends I make Kate when we were thirteen.
We became close quickly. One day, she confided something very
serious and painful about her home life. She said her
mother's boyfriend had sexually assaulted her and asked me not
to tell anyone. I kept her secret, thinking I was
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being loyal. I was just being a kid too. Over time,
she became jealous and passive aggressive toward me. A boy
she liked started showing interest in me, which I didn't discourage.
Then I was selected for a student leadership role at school,
something she wanted. She had a meltdown and begged me
to turn it down. That was the final straw. I
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ended the friendship. Our classmates distance from her too, not
at my urging, and her mother came to school accusing
me of bullying. It wasn't true, and even the school
could see that, but it was a lot of drama
for a teenager to deal with. Years later, in our thirties,
we reconnected online. I was living overseas and visited home,
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so we met up. She was buried with the child,
but told me her marriage was difficult. Her husband was
emotionally distant and not helping financially. She had inherited money
from a late family member mother and was using that
to stay afloat while struggling with her job. Eventually, she
divorced and moved in with a much younger man, she'd
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started dating. She gave him a large sum of money
to invest in a business and was paying for everything,
including their rent. The money came from the sale of
her marital home. She also let her ex take full
time care of her child. She barely saw him anymore,
just because the younger man disliked hanging out with her child.
At that point, I've moved back to my home country
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for about a year. I offered support and got overwhelmed.
She told me she had nowhere to go with her
son since her boyfriend didn't want to be around kids.
I invited her to bring him over to my home
on Sundays to hang out with my daughter and me.
That quickly turned into her coming every single weekend, then
multiple times a week, even without her son. She'd show
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up unannounced and our livin' nanny would just let her in. Eventually,
the boyfriend broke up with her and moved out around
the same time she lost her job. She told me
she was completely alone and struggling badly. After talking with
my husband, we offered her a place to stay our
spare room, which was my husband's home office, for up
to six months or until she got back on her feet.
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We didn't ask for rant, We just wanted to help.
Things got uncomfortable fast during her stay. She cried, constantly
shared everything with us, even very personal things, and started
relying on us emotionally for everything. It was draining. One day,
she told me she thought she might be pregnant from
her eggs and was hoping the baby would bring him back.
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When I asked what she'd do if it didn't, she
casually suggested I could raise the child because she knew
I had fertility issues and a live in nanny. I
was shocked and deeply hurt by that comment. The test
was negative and she was upset. I felt relieved, but
that moment changed everything for me. Even after she moved out,
she never really left. She eventually moved into her aunt's place,
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but she left all her belongings at my home and
continued to come over almost every day, lounging around, smoking
on our balcony, and acting like she still lived here.
She started making very uncomfortable comments around my husband, sitting
too close, touching him during conversations, and wearing revealing outfits
in our home, telling him personal sexual anecdotes. My husband
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asked me not to leave him alone anymore. And I agreed.
Then she met a new guy through a dating app.
After the first date, she declared him her boyfriend and
wanted to bring him over to introduce him to us.
We said no, we have a young daughter and that
didn't feel safe or appropriate. She didn't like the boundary,
and although she started coming slightly less often, it was
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still too much. She crossed a final line. A teenage
son of a family friend came to stay with us
temporarily for a school internship. I asked Kate to stop
visiting during that time and to finally clear her belongings
from our spare room. She ignored that and came to
a group dinner, where she made inappropriate comments to the teen,
saying that he is a very good looking boy and
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asked if he has a girlfriend, then joked about getting
her room back after he left. I told her firmly
that my husband needed his office back. Her reply, it's okay,
he can work while I just chill on the bed.
That was beyond inappropriate. I didn't want to create a scene,
but that was the last straw. I'm now pregnant and
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I want her out of my life. I recently found doubt.
I'm expecting I haven't told her, and I don't plan to.
Every time I try to have a serious boundary setting conversation,
she flips the script and reminds me that she had
a difficult childhood and is an orphan, as if that
excuses everything. I'm done being manipulated, guilt trip, or used.
I just want peace in my home, especially with a
(15:52):
baby on the way. Thanks for letting me vent. I
guess I just needed to put this somewhere so I
don't explode. If you've been through something similar where trying
to help someone ends up wrecking your emotional will being,
I see you. Yikes, it sounds like ope. Hete definitely
needs to get Kate out of her life. So let's
not waste any time and move on straight to the
(16:13):
update to see how this story ends. There has been
a new development, and I honestly feel sick about the
whole situation. What I didn't mention previously is that I
have another friend. Let's call her Mary. We've been close
since childhood, the kind of friends who don't overshare or pry,
but always show up for each other. We've known each
other for twenty years. When Kate came into my life,
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the three of us started hanging out. Mary and Kate
didn't know each other before, but since I was a
mutual link, we all occasionally went out together. Now, as
I mentioned, I recently found out I was pregnant. My
husband and I decided to take a short four day
baby moon to a neighboring country. It would be our
first time traveling without our daughter. Since our living nanny
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could manage, I invited Mary under her husband to come along.
They have four kids and definitely deserve a break, but
only Mary could make it due to her husband's work schedule.
She was respectful enough to book a hotel down the
street from us to give us privacy. Kate found out
about the trip and just invited herself, paid only for
her flight, and made plans to share a room with Mary.
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My husband and I were honestly shocked when we found
out via group chat. We were already looking forward to
some peace and relaxation, and now we're dreading it. A
few days ago, the son of a family friend who
was staying with us flew home. Mary brought her kids
over for a small farewell party. Since it was mainly
for the kids, we didn't invite Kate. Apparently she found
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out and got mad at Mary for meeting up without her.
When Mary explained it was a kid's focused event, Kate
stopped replying to her During that visit. I finally opened
up to Mary about how I've been needing distance from
Kate and that if I don't come out or reply
to texts, it's not personal, it's me setting boundaries. That
that's when Mary told me everything. She's been hanging out
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with Kate a lot lately, often with her husband, because
Kate's been constantly upset and needy, and Kate lied. She
told everyone she was living with her aunt, but she's
actually back with the same younger guy she previously warned
me about, the one she invested her late mother's inheritance
and the proceeds from her marital flat into or without
her name on any documents. Turns out, Kate refuses to
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collect her stuff from my house because she's keeping my
place as a backup nest in case her relationship fails,
and she even asked Mary to lie about it to me.
It gets worse. Kate also started dating another man behind
the younger guy's back, hoping to upgrade. That guy disappeared
after borrowing twenty seven hundred dollars from her, which she
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just handed over no questions asked. Mary finally admitted she
was tired of keeping all these secrets, especially since Kate
constantly lies. She even showed me private texts between them
where Kate Kate trashed me, saying my husband and I
are bad parents, that she had to discipline my six
year old autistic daughter, which never happened. This really hit
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me hard to hear that she twisted things like that
made me furious. She also called me an a hole
for putting my husband first and said I made her
feel unimportant. Then there's my work life. My husband and
I recently received one hundred thousand dollars funding for our
startup and brought on a former schoolmate, John to help
us out. He's working for free because he believes in
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the project. Kate asked me for a job and I
politely declined. She then went behind my back and asked
my husband. He said no too, so she went to
John to fish for company info. He immediately told us. Later,
she complained to Mary that my husband is a jerk
for not hiring her and said she doesn't believe John
is working for free because no one would be that stupid.
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She also belittled me for my job, saying I only
earned two thousand dollars and I'm financially weak and useful.
I work as a teaching assistant at a school for
autistic kids. It's not about the money, It's about making
a difference. It's personal to me. Right now, all her
stuff is still sitting in my spare bedroom. I haven't
talked to her since learning all this, and the vacation
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hasn't even happened yet. She's arriving a day later than
us due to work. Mary offered to just hang out
with her separately and keep her away from us, but honestly,
I feel disgusted just thinking about it. I want to
cut ties. I want to block her, and Mary already
offered to pack and send her things back. I just
feel really betrayed and grossed out at this point. I'm
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just too tired emotionally to handle this. We live in
a country that throwing her stuff out will be legal.
The address on her idea is not our address, so
it won't cause any trouble. I feel like I'll just
dump all her stuff out and block her everywhere. I
can't even be bothered to have a conversation about it.
We did not book the same flight home. Our flight
is full so probably won't even bump into her. Thanks
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for reading. Wow, OPI, that is one mess of a person.
I think you're making the right decision. It's nice to
try to want to help out, but it's a totally
different thing to get taking advantage of like this, Opie.
Cutting ties with her is absolutely the right thing to do.
So here's pushing you the best, Opie. Thanks for sharing
and to take care. And that's it for today's video.
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