October 10, 2025 • 21 mins
Reddit Relationship Stories—The OP's dad's girlfriend is adamant about making the OP's daughter like the color pink, but the girl hates it. OP has told her many times to stop doing it, but she won't. She even tried to ambush the little girl with pink, but OP got wind of that and skipped the party.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi everybody, and welcome back to Lost Genre reddit stories
quick Info. I read the original post and update back
in February, and now we're back with the final update.
If you remember the story, you can use the timestamps
to skip ahead. Now let's get started. This post is
from the subredded amiy a Hole, and it's by user
daughter Party throw am I the a hole for refusing
(00:26):
to take my daughter to her birthday party. My thirty
three female daughter, Cleo, five year old, hates pink. She
has disliked the color and almost everything to do with
it since she was about three or so. She has
one pink shirt she likes and one pink stuffed animal,
and that's it. My father's partner, Prue, refuses to accept
(00:50):
that Cleo doesn't like pink. Over the years, she's made
several attempts to push the color onto her. Pretty Much
every gift she's ever given her has some shade of pink.
No matter how many times I tell her to stop,
she has tried to give me dozens of different reasons
why I should encourage my daughter to try different shades.
(01:14):
It clearly upsets Cleo, but Prue keeps doing it. About
a week ago my father invited me, my husband, and
our children for dinner at his place. He said he
and Prue had a surprise for the kids. Right before
we left home, my younger sister, who still lives with
our father, texted me. She warned me that the surprise
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was actually a small birthday party Prue had planned for Cleo.
That alone threw me off because my daughter's birthday was
in November. My father did miss her actual birthday party
due to work, but still also, my son turns nine
in March, so I had figured his would be the
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next party we'd have. Then she's He sent me photos
of how the place was decorated, and it very clearly
wasn't actually meant for Cleo. Literally every piece of decoration
was pink, the table, the tableware, the balloons, everything she
had gotten, pink banners and glued pink foil fringe curtains
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on the doors. Even the cake was pink. I showed
everything to my husband and we agreed not to take
the kids there. I texted my father the following Hey,
my sister told me everything. We're not coming. We're taking
the kids to McDonald's and telling them that was your surprise.
You and Prue can come if you want. We're paying.
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We did exactly that. My father did show up without Prue,
but he was cold with us and left twenty minutes
after arriving. Both him and Prue are pissed. My father
is angry that my husband and I dismissed his partner's
heart felt gesture towards our daughter. Prue also told me
that I'm the reason Cleo is restrictive. I also don't
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like Pink, and I'm raising her to be an ungrateful,
spoiled brat who is unwilling to compromise to be honest.
I get how I could be in the wrong here,
but at the same time, this just felt like Prue
trying to push something Cleo doesn't like onto her. Yet again,
my sister and one of my brothers are on my side,
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though my sister did say I had been rude. My
other brother is on the fence. Am I the a hole?
I'm not going to give my commentary again, but the
main gist of it was that Opie is doing right
by her daughter and Prue can go suck a lemon. Now,
if you've never heard this story, I'd love to hear
what you think about it in the comment section. So
(03:44):
now let's check out the community comments. Haad mac dooe
for Dinner says, not the a hole. You handled it
well and avoided the worst. You were not rude so
much as clear that you would not let Prue manipulate
you or your daughter. Your father is the weakest lie here.
He should be reeling in Prue's pink obsession, not encouraging it.
(04:04):
Tell your father and Prue that there are things more
important than the color pink in this world, and that
if they cannot stop giving pink to your daughter, then
they should stop giving period. Tiny D seventy one says,
I'm not sure that Prue's efforts were a heartfelt gesture.
Her insistence on pink seems to be more about Prue
than about Cleo. Does Prue have children of her own?
(04:27):
I would think that most people who've had some exposure
to children know that they go through phases of liking, loving,
or disliking things, and that you can't really force things
on them if they don't like them. Your father and
Prue really aren't hearing you and Cleo. The party wasn't
for Cleo, so not attending doesn't seem any worse than
(04:48):
throwing a party for someone when you know they'll hate it.
Not the ahole, and Opie responds, Prue doesn't have kids.
She does have some experience with children, but mostly through
mine and her friends. She has never babysat my kids,
and I don't know whether she's ever been responsible for
any children and money Possibility six six says the spoiled
(05:12):
bread unwilling to compromise. Here is Prue, not you or
your daughter. This is like someone saying I hate mushrooms
and then someone going out of their way to invite
them to a special dinner where every dish is made
of only mushrooms, and then getting mad at them for
being ungrateful. That's what a holes do. Prue is the
(05:34):
a hole, not you, Not the a hole. Thank you
for protecting your daughter. Additional information from Opie's profile. Hey guys,
I ended up leaving a lot of comments on my post,
many of which say the same things over and over,
because I don't think it will be easy to read
them all, and because many of you were quick to
(05:54):
make inaccurate assumptions about me and my family. I'm writing
this to clarify some things. Cleo and Prue are both
fake names. We're not American. Prue is forty six years old.
I don't call her my stepmother because she's only thirteen
years older than me. Also, she's not married to my father,
but they've been together for twelve years. I have nothing
(06:17):
against her, which is not clothes. Cleo's interests are pretty balanced.
She likes princesses, cars, robots, and dolls. She loves science
and outer space. She does ballet and loves it too.
She's the only girl in her ballet class who wears black.
Her teacher calls her black Swan. She's not a girly girl,
(06:38):
but I wouldn't call her a tomboy either. She's just
a kid who hates pink. Cleo's favorite colors are yellow
and blue. Though I understand the assumption Cleo dislikes pink
because of me, that's not the case. I hate pink,
but I'm not disgusted by it. I wear pink clothing
around my children. I occasionally dressed Cleo in pink as
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a baby. I own pink stuff and buy it for myself.
My kids don't know I don't like pink. They've chosen
pink gifts for me in the past. According to my son,
I love all the colors. My father and Prue know
it because I've disliked pink since long before I had children.
There's plenty of stuff I hate that my kids like,
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and vice versa. They don't have to care about these things,
so I don't tell them. Cleo's more boyish tastes also
annoy Prue, not as much as the pink thing, but
enough that my husband and I know. Cleo's birthday party
last November was themed after Super Mario Brothers, and Pru
actually asked me why I was allowing that Cleo is
(07:42):
open about hating pink. She has expressed that to Pru
several times, specifically because she keeps pushing it. Both my
kids are polite. Whenever Prue gives my daughter something pink,
Cleo thanks her. She'll sometimes ask Prue if she can
give her something yellow next time, and she doesn't act
as excited as she gets when other people give her
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something she actually likes. But that's it. We let Cleo
choose which of her gifts she wants to exchange. She
always asks to exchange pink stuff. If it can't be exchanged,
she won't play with it or wear it we either
give those away to her friends or donate them to charity.
Cleo does have friends who like pink. Her best friend
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loves it and wouldn't complain if they threw pink parties
for themselves. She'd know those aren't about her. But the
second you make it about her also known as through
her a pink party, then she'd be upset. Cleo would
have loathed the party. She would have started crying immediately.
She wouldn't have eaten the cake, she wouldn't have had fun.
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I didn't tell Cleo about the party for a number
of reasons. Most importantly, I didn't want her to get upset.
I also knew that letting her see it would ruin
my father's image in her eyes. Cleo is already upset,
that proof she doesn't care about what she likes, and
I didn't want to get frustrated at her grandfather too. Yes,
my daughter does in fact hate pink. Yes, I am
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very well aware that might change some day. No, I
wouldn't care if it did. Okay, now let's move on
to the first update. First of all, I apologized to
my sister a few hours after I made my original post.
I am very grateful for what she did, but I'll
do my best to keep her away from these conflicts
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moving forward. Thank you to those who defended her, and
for context, my sister told me that from what she saw,
the party was entirely Prue's idea. When she started getting
pink stuff for the decorations, both my sister and my
father tried to remind her Cleo didn't like pink. Prue
barely acknowledged them, and my father eventually stopped arguing, which
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was why my sister sent me the pictures. If she
actually cared about Cleo's interests, she'd know my daughter might
actually be more girly than me. My daughter is so
much more than a girl who hates pink. If Prue
can't see that, it's her loss. Secondly, I went through
your comments with my husband, and our main takeaways was
that we did what we had to do to protect Cleo,
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even if it wasn't what we'd do in most circumstances.
Had either of us been surprised with the party decorated
with something we openly hated, we would have sucked it
up and ignored it. It sucks, but we're adults and
it comes with the territory. Cleo, however, is five years old.
She wouldn't deal with it the same way, nor would
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we expect her to. Knowing my daughter, she would have
been miserable at the party, so ultimately we don't regret
not taking her there. On Saturday, we took the kids
to spend the afternoon at my brother's place with their cousins.
In the meantime, we invited my father and Prue over
to talk. My husband and I told them we wanted
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them to abide by the following One no more's prize
parties without our knowledge and approval. Two no more pushing
the color pink onto Clio, including pink gifts, and three
no more calling our children spoiled for being allowed to
dislike something. If they didn't agree to our terms, we
would no longer take the kids to their place, and
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there would be a good chance we'd lower our contact
with them in the future. Prue didn't say anything at first.
My father tried to argue that we should at least
thank her for the party, but I said no. I
told them the problem wasn't that Prue threw a party
for my daughter that was dedicated to her own interests.
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It was that she specifically chose something she knows my
daughter hates and centered everything around it. We wouldn't thank her,
and we wouldn't apologize. That's when Prue chimed in. She
tried to tell us we were raising our daughter to
be a brat again. So I asked, why are you
so insistent on pink? She didn't answer it first, but
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then said she knew Cleo did love pink, she just
didn't know it yet. And to that, I asked, would
you be this pushy if it was about any other color.
Prue tried to say that didn't matter, but when my
husband asked her if she'd care if Cleo hated blue,
she said she doesn't need to like blue. He replied
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that she didn't need to like pink either. He told
Prue that she had no right to decide what Cleo
should and shouldn't like. Cleo hates pink, and if she
can't be an adult and respect that, then she doesn't
need to be around our children. In the end, my
father and Prue agreed to our terms. I'm not confident
about her, but I did speak to my father. I said,
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I know that he has a hard time saying not
to Prue, but he will ruin his relationship with me
and my children if he keeps enabling his partner. My
father promised he wouldn't let this happen again. Still, I
don't trust her at all. I've already warned my father
what will happen and if he doesn't stand up to her.
But I wouldn't be surprised if Prue tried something again.
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At least my siblings are on my side. I hope
this works out. Cleo is a great kid, and I
hope my father and Prue can finally start seeing that.
Thank you all for everything. All right, well, now let's
jump eight months to today and go to the final
update to see how the story ends. Hey, guys, I
(13:25):
wasn't planning on coming back, but stuff happened recently and
I remembered writing my previous posts. Things with Prue were
mostly fine the months after my last post. On one hand,
she didn't try to push Pink onto Cleo in any way.
No pink gifts, no preaching, no weirdly timed parties. On
the other hand, Prue didn't change much about the rest
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of her behavior. She was still annoyed whenever my daughter's
non girly tastes were mentioned. She wouldn't say anything, but
I could see she was making an effort not to.
Cleo didn't seem to notice it or be bothered by.
I don't have much to say about my father's behavior,
but I will say we didn't have any problems related
to this anyway. Cleo's sixth birthday is coming up in
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early November. Her best friend's birthday is about two weeks
before hers, and we're doing a joint party for them
near the end of this month. The girls have both
become obsessed with the Wicked movie this past year, so
they've decided that will be the theme. We're also looking
into taking them to see the musicals some time between
their birthdays. The girls are very excited. Last month, we
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had dinner with my father and Cleo started talking about
the party. Prue was happy about the theme until Cleo
mentioned she was going to wear the Alfafa costume and
her friend will dress as Glinda. The kids eventually shifted
the subject and Prue didn't say anything else about the party.
I got a text message from Prue later that night.
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It was long and not in English, so here are
some bullet points. She's he's been holding a lot in
these last few months. I'm influencing my daughter and raising
her to be a tomboy. Isn't as cool as I think.
Cleo is obviously confused, and it's my fault. It's embarrassing
that I won't let my daughter be special on her birthday.
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It's bad that my husband lets Cleo watch Formula one
with him. Why she felt the need to bring that
up is beyond me, and I do have to say
I know very little about Formula One, but Cleo loves
watching it with her dad. It's sad that I won't
let my daughter be herself, which I found very funny.
I'm failing my daughter. She wasn't going to say anything,
(15:38):
but couldn't help herself. The text solidified everything I already
thought about. Pro she won't drop this and she won't change,
and I don't want to keep putting my daughter around
someone who won't respect her for who she is. My
best guess is that she was upset. My daughter specifically
chose the character who doesn't wear pink as her favorite,
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as if she wasn't well aware Cleo hated pink. I
think she's just upset my daughter is not the girl
she wants her to be anyway, both me and my
husband blocked Prough. The next day, I sent my father
a screenshot of her text and told them we're lowering
our contact with her. We'll only see her during family events.
That means the only other time we'll see her this
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year is Christmas Eve, although we're not visiting them, we're
all celebrating Christmas Eve with my extended family. We're looking
forward to it and have already bought our tickets, so
we're definitely going. My father can still see the kids
without her, and if she tries to pull anything in
front of the kids, we're cutting ties permanently. A few
hours later, my father asked, I can't get you to
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change your mind, can I? I told him no, and
he said he agreed. Sometimes he's on her side purely
because he thinks I'm being dramatic. Sometimes he realizes she's
being unreasonable. I stopped trying to understand it a long
time ago. I told my siblings everything. My sister is
moving in with her boyfriend in January, so I'm not
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too worried about her getting mixed up in this any further.
But I told her to let me know if anything happened.
So far, all she's had to say is that Peru
has been telling her she wants to apologize to me.
I don't care whether she does anymore. Also, Cleo found
a type of pink she likes. It's a deep magenta.
She calls it purple pink. She still hates every other shade,
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but it's something, and because of the theme, there is
going to be a lot of pink at her birthday party,
even if it's not her half. Both my children are
doing great and I grow prouder of them every day.
I have zero intention of updating again. I have a
lot going on in my life right now, and just
thinking about the fact all this happened because a grown
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woman couldn't accept that my child hates a collar exhausts me.
I'm more than happy to stop talking about this once again.
Thank you for everything. Well. Prue was warned and even
though she did hold her own, apparently for a few months,
she just couldn't hold it anymore. And now she's banned
and well deserved of course. Ope, good for you once
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again for taking care of your daughter. So here's wishing
you all the best in the future. Thanks for sharing,
and to take care and now let's finish this video
with a mood booster post. This post is from the
subreddit malicious Compliance, and it's by user over easy. Allly
boss looked like a fool currency of me. I worked
as a recruiter for a temp agency when I was
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young and fresh out of college. The manager of the
agency was a total micro manager and wanted us say
in absolutely everything. She micro managed everyone so badly that
she wanted to prove read any emails that any staff
member was sending externally. She also wanted to be c
seed on every single outgoing external email. One day, one
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of my co workers got a response back from an
employer who gave some positive feedback about the email she wrote.
Our manager made sure to reply all and take credit
for the email, and explained she oversees all outgoing emails.
A few days later, in a staff meeting, she made
a point of saying she should get credit for any
feedback the agency receives since she proofreads everything. The thing
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is this manager was not well spoken or smart, and
not even a particularly good writer. I regularly spotted issues
with her sentence structure and use of commas, but just
didn't say anything. One day, she's proof reading one of
my emails that would be going externally to an employer
who pumped a lot of money into our agency. I
was stating in the email that I thought so and
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so was a great fit for their vacant position based
on so and so's past experience. My manager comes to
my desk and tells me the email looks good, except
it should read past experience. I told her that was incorrect,
and she told me I was wrong, and she knows
the difference between the two words. I wasn't in the
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mood to argue, so I wrote it as past experience
and c seed mismanager on the email. The employer writes
me back and says, as an employer who hires people
to work on printed literature, they wanted to correct me
and let me know it's actually past experience. That's where
malicious compliance kicked in. I hit reply all and thanked
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them for the feedback and explained my manager values all feedback,
and since she proved reads all outgoing emails, she was
the one who insisted on writing past experience. The next day,
she announced she no longer wanted to prof read outgoing
external emails and didn't want to be c seed on them.
Any further malicious compliance put that witch in her place. Well,
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OPI she might not want to read any more emails,
but I'm pretty sure she's now definitely learned the difference
between past and past. Thanks for sharing, OP, And that's
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Hi everybody, and welcome back to Lost Genre reddit stories
quick Info. I read the original post and update back
in February, and now we're back with the final update.
If you remember the story, you can use the timestamps
to skip ahead. Now let's get started. This post is
from the subredded amiy a Hole, and it's by user
daughter Party throw am I the a hole for refusing
(00:26):
to take my daughter to her birthday party. My thirty
three female daughter, Cleo, five year old, hates pink. She
has disliked the color and almost everything to do with
it since she was about three or so. She has
one pink shirt she likes and one pink stuffed animal,
and that's it. My father's partner, Prue, refuses to accept
(00:50):
that Cleo doesn't like pink. Over the years, she's made
several attempts to push the color onto her. Pretty Much
every gift she's ever given her has some shade of pink.
No matter how many times I tell her to stop,
she has tried to give me dozens of different reasons
why I should encourage my daughter to try different shades.
(01:14):
It clearly upsets Cleo, but Prue keeps doing it. About
a week ago my father invited me, my husband, and
our children for dinner at his place. He said he
and Prue had a surprise for the kids. Right before
we left home, my younger sister, who still lives with
our father, texted me. She warned me that the surprise
(01:37):
was actually a small birthday party Prue had planned for Cleo.
That alone threw me off because my daughter's birthday was
in November. My father did miss her actual birthday party
due to work, but still also, my son turns nine
in March, so I had figured his would be the
(01:57):
next party we'd have. Then she's He sent me photos
of how the place was decorated, and it very clearly
wasn't actually meant for Cleo. Literally every piece of decoration
was pink, the table, the tableware, the balloons, everything she
had gotten, pink banners and glued pink foil fringe curtains
(02:19):
on the doors. Even the cake was pink. I showed
everything to my husband and we agreed not to take
the kids there. I texted my father the following Hey,
my sister told me everything. We're not coming. We're taking
the kids to McDonald's and telling them that was your surprise.
You and Prue can come if you want. We're paying.
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We did exactly that. My father did show up without Prue,
but he was cold with us and left twenty minutes
after arriving. Both him and Prue are pissed. My father
is angry that my husband and I dismissed his partner's
heart felt gesture towards our daughter. Prue also told me
that I'm the reason Cleo is restrictive. I also don't
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like Pink, and I'm raising her to be an ungrateful,
spoiled brat who is unwilling to compromise to be honest.
I get how I could be in the wrong here,
but at the same time, this just felt like Prue
trying to push something Cleo doesn't like onto her. Yet again,
my sister and one of my brothers are on my side,
(03:24):
though my sister did say I had been rude. My
other brother is on the fence. Am I the a hole?
I'm not going to give my commentary again, but the
main gist of it was that Opie is doing right
by her daughter and Prue can go suck a lemon. Now,
if you've never heard this story, I'd love to hear
what you think about it in the comment section. So
(03:44):
now let's check out the community comments. Haad mac dooe
for Dinner says, not the a hole. You handled it
well and avoided the worst. You were not rude so
much as clear that you would not let Prue manipulate
you or your daughter. Your father is the weakest lie here.
He should be reeling in Prue's pink obsession, not encouraging it.
(04:04):
Tell your father and Prue that there are things more
important than the color pink in this world, and that
if they cannot stop giving pink to your daughter, then
they should stop giving period. Tiny D seventy one says,
I'm not sure that Prue's efforts were a heartfelt gesture.
Her insistence on pink seems to be more about Prue
than about Cleo. Does Prue have children of her own?
(04:27):
I would think that most people who've had some exposure
to children know that they go through phases of liking, loving,
or disliking things, and that you can't really force things
on them if they don't like them. Your father and
Prue really aren't hearing you and Cleo. The party wasn't
for Cleo, so not attending doesn't seem any worse than
(04:48):
throwing a party for someone when you know they'll hate it.
Not the ahole, and Opie responds, Prue doesn't have kids.
She does have some experience with children, but mostly through
mine and her friends. She has never babysat my kids,
and I don't know whether she's ever been responsible for
any children and money Possibility six six says the spoiled
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bread unwilling to compromise. Here is Prue, not you or
your daughter. This is like someone saying I hate mushrooms
and then someone going out of their way to invite
them to a special dinner where every dish is made
of only mushrooms, and then getting mad at them for
being ungrateful. That's what a holes do. Prue is the
(05:34):
a hole, not you, Not the a hole. Thank you
for protecting your daughter. Additional information from Opie's profile. Hey guys,
I ended up leaving a lot of comments on my post,
many of which say the same things over and over,
because I don't think it will be easy to read
them all, and because many of you were quick to
(05:54):
make inaccurate assumptions about me and my family. I'm writing
this to clarify some things. Cleo and Prue are both
fake names. We're not American. Prue is forty six years old.
I don't call her my stepmother because she's only thirteen
years older than me. Also, she's not married to my father,
but they've been together for twelve years. I have nothing
(06:17):
against her, which is not clothes. Cleo's interests are pretty balanced.
She likes princesses, cars, robots, and dolls. She loves science
and outer space. She does ballet and loves it too.
She's the only girl in her ballet class who wears black.
Her teacher calls her black Swan. She's not a girly girl,
(06:38):
but I wouldn't call her a tomboy either. She's just
a kid who hates pink. Cleo's favorite colors are yellow
and blue. Though I understand the assumption Cleo dislikes pink
because of me, that's not the case. I hate pink,
but I'm not disgusted by it. I wear pink clothing
around my children. I occasionally dressed Cleo in pink as
(06:59):
a baby. I own pink stuff and buy it for myself.
My kids don't know I don't like pink. They've chosen
pink gifts for me in the past. According to my son,
I love all the colors. My father and Prue know
it because I've disliked pink since long before I had children.
There's plenty of stuff I hate that my kids like,
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and vice versa. They don't have to care about these things,
so I don't tell them. Cleo's more boyish tastes also
annoy Prue, not as much as the pink thing, but
enough that my husband and I know. Cleo's birthday party
last November was themed after Super Mario Brothers, and Pru
actually asked me why I was allowing that Cleo is
(07:42):
open about hating pink. She has expressed that to Pru
several times, specifically because she keeps pushing it. Both my
kids are polite. Whenever Prue gives my daughter something pink,
Cleo thanks her. She'll sometimes ask Prue if she can
give her something yellow next time, and she doesn't act
as excited as she gets when other people give her
(08:04):
something she actually likes. But that's it. We let Cleo
choose which of her gifts she wants to exchange. She
always asks to exchange pink stuff. If it can't be exchanged,
she won't play with it or wear it we either
give those away to her friends or donate them to charity.
Cleo does have friends who like pink. Her best friend
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loves it and wouldn't complain if they threw pink parties
for themselves. She'd know those aren't about her. But the
second you make it about her also known as through
her a pink party, then she'd be upset. Cleo would
have loathed the party. She would have started crying immediately.
She wouldn't have eaten the cake, she wouldn't have had fun.
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I didn't tell Cleo about the party for a number
of reasons. Most importantly, I didn't want her to get upset.
I also knew that letting her see it would ruin
my father's image in her eyes. Cleo is already upset,
that proof she doesn't care about what she likes, and
I didn't want to get frustrated at her grandfather too. Yes,
my daughter does in fact hate pink. Yes, I am
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very well aware that might change some day. No, I
wouldn't care if it did. Okay, now let's move on
to the first update. First of all, I apologized to
my sister a few hours after I made my original post.
I am very grateful for what she did, but I'll
do my best to keep her away from these conflicts
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moving forward. Thank you to those who defended her, and
for context, my sister told me that from what she saw,
the party was entirely Prue's idea. When she started getting
pink stuff for the decorations, both my sister and my
father tried to remind her Cleo didn't like pink. Prue
barely acknowledged them, and my father eventually stopped arguing, which
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was why my sister sent me the pictures. If she
actually cared about Cleo's interests, she'd know my daughter might
actually be more girly than me. My daughter is so
much more than a girl who hates pink. If Prue
can't see that, it's her loss. Secondly, I went through
your comments with my husband, and our main takeaways was
that we did what we had to do to protect Cleo,
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even if it wasn't what we'd do in most circumstances.
Had either of us been surprised with the party decorated
with something we openly hated, we would have sucked it
up and ignored it. It sucks, but we're adults and
it comes with the territory. Cleo, however, is five years old.
She wouldn't deal with it the same way, nor would
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we expect her to. Knowing my daughter, she would have
been miserable at the party, so ultimately we don't regret
not taking her there. On Saturday, we took the kids
to spend the afternoon at my brother's place with their cousins.
In the meantime, we invited my father and Prue over
to talk. My husband and I told them we wanted
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them to abide by the following One no more's prize
parties without our knowledge and approval. Two no more pushing
the color pink onto Clio, including pink gifts, and three
no more calling our children spoiled for being allowed to
dislike something. If they didn't agree to our terms, we
would no longer take the kids to their place, and
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there would be a good chance we'd lower our contact
with them in the future. Prue didn't say anything at first.
My father tried to argue that we should at least
thank her for the party, but I said no. I
told them the problem wasn't that Prue threw a party
for my daughter that was dedicated to her own interests.
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It was that she specifically chose something she knows my
daughter hates and centered everything around it. We wouldn't thank her,
and we wouldn't apologize. That's when Prue chimed in. She
tried to tell us we were raising our daughter to
be a brat again. So I asked, why are you
so insistent on pink? She didn't answer it first, but
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then said she knew Cleo did love pink, she just
didn't know it yet. And to that, I asked, would
you be this pushy if it was about any other color.
Prue tried to say that didn't matter, but when my
husband asked her if she'd care if Cleo hated blue,
she said she doesn't need to like blue. He replied
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that she didn't need to like pink either. He told
Prue that she had no right to decide what Cleo
should and shouldn't like. Cleo hates pink, and if she
can't be an adult and respect that, then she doesn't
need to be around our children. In the end, my
father and Prue agreed to our terms. I'm not confident
about her, but I did speak to my father. I said,
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I know that he has a hard time saying not
to Prue, but he will ruin his relationship with me
and my children if he keeps enabling his partner. My
father promised he wouldn't let this happen again. Still, I
don't trust her at all. I've already warned my father
what will happen and if he doesn't stand up to her.
But I wouldn't be surprised if Prue tried something again.
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At least my siblings are on my side. I hope
this works out. Cleo is a great kid, and I
hope my father and Prue can finally start seeing that.
Thank you all for everything. All right, well, now let's
jump eight months to today and go to the final
update to see how the story ends. Hey, guys, I
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wasn't planning on coming back, but stuff happened recently and
I remembered writing my previous posts. Things with Prue were
mostly fine the months after my last post. On one hand,
she didn't try to push Pink onto Cleo in any way.
No pink gifts, no preaching, no weirdly timed parties. On
the other hand, Prue didn't change much about the rest
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of her behavior. She was still annoyed whenever my daughter's
non girly tastes were mentioned. She wouldn't say anything, but
I could see she was making an effort not to.
Cleo didn't seem to notice it or be bothered by.
I don't have much to say about my father's behavior,
but I will say we didn't have any problems related
to this anyway. Cleo's sixth birthday is coming up in
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early November. Her best friend's birthday is about two weeks
before hers, and we're doing a joint party for them
near the end of this month. The girls have both
become obsessed with the Wicked movie this past year, so
they've decided that will be the theme. We're also looking
into taking them to see the musicals some time between
their birthdays. The girls are very excited. Last month, we
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had dinner with my father and Cleo started talking about
the party. Prue was happy about the theme until Cleo
mentioned she was going to wear the Alfafa costume and
her friend will dress as Glinda. The kids eventually shifted
the subject and Prue didn't say anything else about the party.
I got a text message from Prue later that night.
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It was long and not in English, so here are
some bullet points. She's he's been holding a lot in
these last few months. I'm influencing my daughter and raising
her to be a tomboy. Isn't as cool as I think.
Cleo is obviously confused, and it's my fault. It's embarrassing
that I won't let my daughter be special on her birthday.
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It's bad that my husband lets Cleo watch Formula one
with him. Why she felt the need to bring that
up is beyond me, and I do have to say
I know very little about Formula One, but Cleo loves
watching it with her dad. It's sad that I won't
let my daughter be herself, which I found very funny.
I'm failing my daughter. She wasn't going to say anything,
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but couldn't help herself. The text solidified everything I already
thought about. Pro she won't drop this and she won't change,
and I don't want to keep putting my daughter around
someone who won't respect her for who she is. My
best guess is that she was upset. My daughter specifically
chose the character who doesn't wear pink as her favorite,
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as if she wasn't well aware Cleo hated pink. I
think she's just upset my daughter is not the girl
she wants her to be anyway, both me and my
husband blocked Prough. The next day, I sent my father
a screenshot of her text and told them we're lowering
our contact with her. We'll only see her during family events.
That means the only other time we'll see her this
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year is Christmas Eve, although we're not visiting them, we're
all celebrating Christmas Eve with my extended family. We're looking
forward to it and have already bought our tickets, so
we're definitely going. My father can still see the kids
without her, and if she tries to pull anything in
front of the kids, we're cutting ties permanently. A few
hours later, my father asked, I can't get you to
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change your mind, can I? I told him no, and
he said he agreed. Sometimes he's on her side purely
because he thinks I'm being dramatic. Sometimes he realizes she's
being unreasonable. I stopped trying to understand it a long
time ago. I told my siblings everything. My sister is
moving in with her boyfriend in January, so I'm not
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too worried about her getting mixed up in this any further.
But I told her to let me know if anything happened.
So far, all she's had to say is that Peru
has been telling her she wants to apologize to me.
I don't care whether she does anymore. Also, Cleo found
a type of pink she likes. It's a deep magenta.
She calls it purple pink. She still hates every other shade,
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but it's something, and because of the theme, there is
going to be a lot of pink at her birthday party,
even if it's not her half. Both my children are
doing great and I grow prouder of them every day.
I have zero intention of updating again. I have a
lot going on in my life right now, and just
thinking about the fact all this happened because a grown
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woman couldn't accept that my child hates a collar exhausts me.
I'm more than happy to stop talking about this once again.
Thank you for everything. Well. Prue was warned and even
though she did hold her own, apparently for a few months,
she just couldn't hold it anymore. And now she's banned
and well deserved of course. Ope, good for you once
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again for taking care of your daughter. So here's wishing
you all the best in the future. Thanks for sharing,
and to take care and now let's finish this video
with a mood booster post. This post is from the
subreddit malicious Compliance, and it's by user over easy. Allly
boss looked like a fool currency of me. I worked
as a recruiter for a temp agency when I was
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young and fresh out of college. The manager of the
agency was a total micro manager and wanted us say
in absolutely everything. She micro managed everyone so badly that
she wanted to prove read any emails that any staff
member was sending externally. She also wanted to be c
seed on every single outgoing external email. One day, one
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of my co workers got a response back from an
employer who gave some positive feedback about the email she wrote.
Our manager made sure to reply all and take credit
for the email, and explained she oversees all outgoing emails.
A few days later, in a staff meeting, she made
a point of saying she should get credit for any
feedback the agency receives since she proofreads everything. The thing
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is this manager was not well spoken or smart, and
not even a particularly good writer. I regularly spotted issues
with her sentence structure and use of commas, but just
didn't say anything. One day, she's proof reading one of
my emails that would be going externally to an employer
who pumped a lot of money into our agency. I
was stating in the email that I thought so and
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so was a great fit for their vacant position based
on so and so's past experience. My manager comes to
my desk and tells me the email looks good, except
it should read past experience. I told her that was incorrect,
and she told me I was wrong, and she knows
the difference between the two words. I wasn't in the
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mood to argue, so I wrote it as past experience
and c seed mismanager on the email. The employer writes
me back and says, as an employer who hires people
to work on printed literature, they wanted to correct me
and let me know it's actually past experience. That's where
malicious compliance kicked in. I hit reply all and thanked
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them for the feedback and explained my manager values all feedback,
and since she proved reads all outgoing emails, she was
the one who insisted on writing past experience. The next day,
she announced she no longer wanted to prof read outgoing
external emails and didn't want to be c seed on them.
Any further malicious compliance put that witch in her place. Well,
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OPI she might not want to read any more emails,
but I'm pretty sure she's now definitely learned the difference
between past and past. Thanks for sharing, OP, And that's
it for today's video. Thank you so much for taking
the time to watch it. Now. If you've gotten to
this point in the video, I assume that you like
these stories that I'm reading out, so here are a
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