August 23, 2025 • 20 mins
Relationship Stories - OP happily agreed to be maid of honor at her best friend’s wedding, but constant public slights and humiliation pushed her to leave early—sparking an explosive reaction from the bride that shocked everyone.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi everybody, and welcome back to Lost Genre Reddit stories.
This post is from the subredded Am I the A hole?
What I be? The A hole? Public? And it's by
user enthusiastic Tree twenty eight Am I the A hole
for leaving my best friend's wedding halfway through? I twenty
five female, have been best friends with Kara twenty six
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female since we were like thirteen. We've been through everything,
high school drama, bad breakups, moving to different cities, all
of it. When she got engaged last year, I was
genuinely thrilled for her. She asked me to be made
of honor and I said yes without even thinking. Now
here's where it gets messy. Kara met her now husband,
Evan about three years ago. I've never been his biggest fan,
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not because he's done anything darable to me personally, but
because he has this way of subtly belittling Kara in
front of people, like she'll tell a story and he'll
in with, that's not how it happened, or you're being dramatic.
I've brought it up to her before, gently and she
just says, that's how we joke. Fine, whatever. Leading up
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to the wedding I was heavily involved planning the bachelor red,
running errands, making sure she ate on the day of
because she was stressed as hell. The actual wedding day
started fine, but little things piled up. First, Kara's mom
pulled me aside in the morning and basically told me
not to outshine the bride in any way. I was
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wearing the dress Kara picked, so that threw me off.
Then at the reception, Evan gives his speech and thanks
his brother, who he said was basically the best man
and maid of honor combined. He didn't mention me at all.
I laughed it off because maybe it was just nerves,
but I saw a couple of people at my table
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give each other a look. Later, during the bouquetos, Tara
jokingly aimed it directly at her cousin instead of tossing
it normally, then turned to me and said loud enough
for people to hear, well, you'll be single forever anyway.
Everyone laughed. I laughed too, but it kind of hurt.
The final straw was during the dancing. I was at
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the bar chatting with a mutual friend when Evans's brother
came up and said, hey, Kira told me to tell
you not to hog the attention at the dance floor.
You're making her uncomfortable. I hadn't been dancing weird or anything,
just normal wedding fun, but apparently me existing in her
orbit was now a problem. I went to find Kara
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to ask what the deal was, but she brushed me
off with can we not do this right now? It's
my day. At that point, I felt I was just
not wanted there. I'd spent months helping plan this wedding,
paid for travel, address, gifts, and here I was being
treated like I was the party. So I told her
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I wasn't feeling well and left before dessert. When I
got home, my phone blew up with texts from Kara.
At first it was where did you go?
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Then I can't believe you ditched my wedding, and finally
everyone's asking where my maid of honor went. Do you
know how bad this makes me look? I explained I
felt unwelcomed, and she said I was being selfish and
making it about me on her wedding day.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
I didn't respond after that. Now a couple mutual friends
are saying I overreacted and that weddings are stressful and
people say things they don't mean. So Reddit, am I
the a hole? OPI? You are definitely not the a whole,
and your quote unquote best friend doesn't sound like much
of a friend to me. You were disrespected from start
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to finish. You used your time, your money, your energy
to celebrate your friend. You did everything and all that
you could to make her day the best day, and
she decided to humiliate you in public like that, send
her brother in law to talk you down. And what's
up with her mom saying that you shouldn't outshine the
bride like has that happened in the past or something?
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So again, No, OPI, I don't think you're the ahle.
I think you need to reevaluate this friendship to see
if you want to be in it still or not.
What do you guys think? Let me know in the
comments section and now let's chick out the community comments.
Fick Secretary thirty seven oh one says, not the ahle.
Your friend is jealous as hell. The groom knows you
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don't like him, so he tried to throw subtle digs
at you instead of Kara. She was probably on board
with that because at least it wasn't her This time.
Either way, they both suck and you're better off without them.
I don't see their marriage going well. Programmer level twenty
eight twenty nine says, not the a hole. If she
wanted you there, she should have treated you with basic courtesy.
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That means if she had an issue with your behavior,
she should have sat down like an adult with you
and explain what her problem is, not send her flying
monkey mom and brother in law to tell you. She said,
then blow you off when you tried to talk to
her about it. Notice she didn't say she was hurt
or upset that you left. She said it made her
look bad, and it should. But she wasn't concerned about
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anyone's feelings or the state of your friendship. She was
concerned about her reputation. You have a friend problem here,
not a friend's husband's problem. If you valued your friendship,
she wouldn't let him treat you crappily or make digs
at you in front of an audience. It doesn't matter
that at least it's someone else this time. She should
have told him that you were off limits, and she
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should have talked to you if she was insecure about something.
If you want to try salvaging this friendship, invited to
have a coffee and clear the air. Explain to her
that you are not her husband's emotional punching bag, You
are not in love with him, and you aren't putting
up with this crap. And if she has a problem,
she needs to cowgirl up and tell you yourself and
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explain exactly what is going on and not involve multiple
third parties or bitch about you behind your back. This
isn't elementary school and you aren't playing telephone. If she
can't handle an adult friendship where everyone is treated with
courtesy and people communicate, then you're moving on. Thanks for
all the memories, but you're an adult and you socialize
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with adults. And Opie responds, yeah, exactly. It's all about
her image, not our friendship. I'm done being treated like
a punching bag or a prop in her wedding. If
she can't deal like an adult, that's on her impression.
Number fifteen oh nine says not the equal. But if
you consider that the groom may not like you because
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of what she has said to him about you, and
Dopi responds, Honestly, I hadn't thought of that. I mean,
I've never had any big fights with him or anything.
But I guess it's possible. Kara's never hinted at saying
anything negative about me to him, though, But then again,
I wouldn't really know if she had. And Celtic mus
Books says a common theme in these types of posts
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is failed to communicate. When Kara's mom told you not
to outshine her in any way, your response needed to
be what do you mean by that? Please be specific?
When Kara made the comment about you never getting married,
you should have responded, Wow, that was really mean? Is
everything okay? Are you having second thoughts about your marriage?
When Kara sent Evan to tell you not to hog
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attention on the dance floor, you should have immediately gone
to her and asked what she meant by that. When
she blew up your phone with why did you leave texts?
You should have responded I kept being told I was
outshining you, and since I wasn't doing anything to outshine you,
the only solution to not outshine you was to leave.
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Is Kara that unattractive that she's so easily outshown? And
Opie responds, Lough, I don't think it's about attractiveness. It's
about her insecurities and how she handled them. I tried
asking for clarity multiple times, but she wouldn't actually answer.
Leaving was just me stepping out of a situation where
nothing I did would be seen as okay. Well, the
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community agrees that Opia is not the agle, and that
she did the right thing. If she was in a
place that completely made her feel unwanted, why would she
want to stay, and that her friend Kara is not
that much of a friend anyways. So now let's move
on to the update to see how this story ends.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
Hi.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
Everyone, I didn't expect my original post to get that
much attention, but since so many of you asked for
an update, here it is. After the wedding incident, I
decided to take a step back from Kara completely. I
didn't blog her, but I stopped initiating any contact. She
eventually called me a few hours after I made the post,
clearly trying to play the victim. She said she couldn't
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believe I left her wedding over nothing, and that she's
never been so humiliated by a friend. I told her
very calmly that I did didn't appreciate being told multiple
times throughout her wedding day that I was outshining her
when all I was doing was existing. I pointed out
that I followed the dress code, danced like everyone else,
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and never once tried to make the event about me.
She tried to say it was just banter when she
made that comment about me never getting married, but I
reminded her that it wasn't just that. It was her
mom warning me before the wedding not to steal the spotlight,
her sending her husband to tell me to stop dancing
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so much, and then blowing up my phone the moment
I left. I told her if she really believed I
was stealing the spotlight simply by being there, then she
needs to look inward and figure out why she feels
so insecure. The conversation didn't go well. She accused me
of being jealous of her marriage, which is laughable because
I would never want to marry someone like her husband,
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who didn't even have the decency to mention his wife's
best friend and his speech. After a decade of friendship,
I told her, I don't want to be in a
friendship where I have to shrink myself to make her
feel better. In her defense, she was never like this
before she met Evan though as kids we would always
talk about weddings and how we wanted ours. So random,
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I know, Lo and I'd always imagined us together, being
each other's maid of honors and having a peaceful, cozy wedding.
It truly is so unfair how everything turned out. Anyway,
we haven't spoken since. From what I've learned through mutual friends,
she's been telling people that I stormed out of her
wedding to cause drama. Luckily, most people were there and
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saw how ridiculous that is. The comments on my original
post really solidified that I wasn't crazy for feeling humiliated.
I'm glad I walked away because if someone's wedding is
the peak of their self esteem and they can't handle
anyone else existing in the same room, that's their issue,
not mine. Opie's edit. A lot of people are asking
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me why the husband would have to mention me in
his wedding speech. He doesn't. It makes a lot of
sense why so many people are asking this. It was
mentioned in the first post, but the quote Evan gives
his speech and thanks his brother, who said was basically
the best man and maid of honor combined. I hope
this clears up any doubts. Another thing a lot of
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people were questioning was why her family was asking me
to not dim her light. I have no idea. I'm
an introvert and almost always hate it when the attention
is on me. A lot of people assumed I was
in attention, hogger or something. I could not imagine anything worse.
Kara is honestly super insecure, and even though I think
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she's beautiful, during our friendship, she always compared her looks
to mine. God forbid she got one pimple. She would
constantly talk about it and compare herself to me. WELLOPI,
it sucks when a friendship ends like this, but let's
face it, it wasn't much of a friendship anymore if she
was tweeting you like that. So I do think you've
made the right decision. And on that note, here's wishing
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you the best, Opee. Thanks so much for sharing and
to take care. And now let's move on to the
next post that also has an update. This post is
from the subredded am I the Acle and it's by you, sir,
capable constant five seven three am I the Eqal for
posting a picture of my stepdad walking me down the aisle.
So for context, I twenty three female, have a very
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strained and rocky relationship with my biodad forty five male.
When I was young. He cheated on my mom forty
five female, and basically abandoned me and my little sister,
Belle twenty one female for his new wife, Amanda thirty
five female. My mom remarried my stepdad, Jason forty eight male,
when I was ten, two years after my dad left,
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and Jason has been more of a dad to us
than my biodad ever was. My biodad didn't come to
me my wedding, so honestly, I don't even know why
I'm typing this, but here we are. I recently married
the love of my life, Daniel twenty four female, on
August first. The day was magical. Jason walked me down
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the aisle and it meant so much to me. We
went to Hawaii for our honeymoon, and when we got back,
our photographer sent us a sneak peek of our wedding photos. Obviously,
I posted a few, including one of Jason walking me
down the aisle. An hour after I posted, Bell called
me and asked me to take that particular photo down.
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She said our dad had called her saying it was
disrespectful to let another man walk me down the aisle.
She told him, well, you weren't even at the wedding.
He apparently responded with I would have gone if she'd
let me walk her down the aisle. For the record,
there was absolutely no way I was going to let
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him do that. He hasn't been there for me in years,
and Jason has been the one who who's actually acted
like a father. Now Bell says I'm being petty and
rubbing it in his face by posting the picture, and
some extended family have started making comments about how I
shouldn't air family drama online. I don't see how posting
a photo from my own wedding is airing drama. But
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now I'm wondering if I'm missing something. So am I
the ahle? No, of course you're not the a hol op.
One it was your wedding. Two, it was your picture.
He doesn't get to have a say. He can feel
hurt all he wants, but his voice is irrelevant. He's
not just a cheater, he's a deadbeat dad, and Jason
sounds like a stand up guy, so not at Hollopie,
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not the ahle for posting that picture. Again, it's your wedding.
You get to post what you want. Biodad can go
suck a lemon. And what do you guys think? Let
me know in the comments section and now let's chick
out the community comments. Kutulu LaRue says, of course you're
not the a whole. I would even double down on
this and post a follow up thanking your stepdad not
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only for walking you down the aisle, but for being
there for you raising you. Any of your dad's flying
monkeys who call you can be blocked. Visual Lobster sixty
six twenty five says, not the a hole. If your
bio father feels like this was disrespectful, then he needs
to look at himself. He should have been a better
father and that would have been him in the picture
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instead of your stepfather. Did he not go to your
wedding because he wouldn't be walking you down the aisle?
Or did he not go for another reason? He can't
ride two horses with one ass. He can't be a
crappy father and then expect to get all the perks
of being a good dad. And Opie responds he didn't
go only because Amanda wasn't allowed to be in the wedding.
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He was invited along with Amanda to not have drama.
But here we are low and Amanda wanted a part
in the wedding, like how my mom had. Amanda didn't
go dressed shopping with me. She didn't have any say
in anything, and frankly, my dad didn't like it, so
he told me he just wasn't coming. Dave nineteen fifty
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seven a says, not the a hole. I was a
stepdad who took on two young kids after their father
left after cheating on their mom. I raised them as
mine and was lucky enough to walk them down the aisle.
Your biodad didn't even attend the wedding. You did nothing
wrong choosing the person who raised you. And Opie response,
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I know this isn't related to the post what I'm
about to say, but I am so grateful for people
like you and my dad Jason. Your kids must really
love you, and Adam Lucas says, not the a hole.
The man who stepped up as your dad and was
there for you when you needed him was obviously going
to walk you down the aisle. The fact he wasn't
even invited to the wedding shows how far from being
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in your life your biodad was. You made the right decision,
and if biodad and wife have a problem with that,
then it's on them, not you. It's going to be
the same, Missue, whatever you do in life. Have a baby,
it's disrespectful. Stepdad is holding the newborn when biodad hasn't
even met the child. The fact you don't want your
biodad to meet the child or have anything to do
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with it is besides the point. Somehow, you're the villain.
Blood doesn't make family. Jason has taken on the responsibility
of being your dad and deserves every praise and memory.
Your biodad just wants the tingle of getting the praise
without putting in any of the work. I'm surprised you're
even this low contact. I'd use the opportunity to cut
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him and his wipe out completely. It's all about the
optics for them. They don't want to have to explain
to people why Jason is getting dad duties and he
isn't Additional information from Opie's comments. Bell is closed to Amanda.
Bell has always kind of been closer to them, since
I guess she has forgiven them for what happened and
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which I haven't. But I know Bell wouldn't make something
like this up, or at least I hope. I didn't
speak to my father directly since I have his number blocked.
I have to say that Belle still loves our dad,
even though he isn't the greatest. Finally, my dad did
have me on Facebook, but after I posted this and
read some comments, I blocked him. Well, the community definitely
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agrees that Obee did the right thing, that Jason walking
down the aisle was the thing that had to happen,
and that by your dad can go take a hike.
So now let's move on to the update to see
how this story ends. I honestly didn't expect all the
comments and kind words on my original post, so thank you.
I ended up speaking with both my dad and Belle
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about the whole situation. First, with Belle, I told her
to stay out of it all together. I said, if
she's on our dad's side so much, she can have
him walk her down the aisle at her wedding. I
also made it clear that I'm not going to punish
her for still talking to him, but I'm also not
going to pretend he's been a father to me when he, frankly, ever, was.
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She didn't have much to say after that. Then I
called my dad. That conversation went about how you'd expect.
He started with, one day you'll understand, and that I
need to learn respect told him cheating wasn't respectful, and
neither was abandoning your kids, and that he hasn't been
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there for me since I was ten. Jason, however, has
been there every step of the way, and he is
my father to me. That's when my dad hung up
on me. Lo Amanda then made a passive, aggressive Facebook
post saying, no matter things that happened in the past,
you'll always be family. I'm about ninety nine percent sure
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that was about me, but I digress. At the end
of the day, I'm still not taking the photo down.
I don't want to make Jason upset if I do,
and he deserves to be celebrated. I'm not letting my
bio dad rewrite history just because it makes him uncomfortable.
Well done, Op, not just standing up for yourself, but
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for Jason as well. And you're absolutely right. He doesn't
get to rewrite history just because he doesn't like it,
so here's witching you the best op. Thanks so much
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Hi everybody, and welcome back to Lost Genre Reddit stories.
This post is from the subredded Am I the A hole?
What I be? The A hole? Public? And it's by
user enthusiastic Tree twenty eight Am I the A hole
for leaving my best friend's wedding halfway through? I twenty
five female, have been best friends with Kara twenty six
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female since we were like thirteen. We've been through everything,
high school drama, bad breakups, moving to different cities, all
of it. When she got engaged last year, I was
genuinely thrilled for her. She asked me to be made
of honor and I said yes without even thinking. Now
here's where it gets messy. Kara met her now husband,
Evan about three years ago. I've never been his biggest fan,
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not because he's done anything darable to me personally, but
because he has this way of subtly belittling Kara in
front of people, like she'll tell a story and he'll
in with, that's not how it happened, or you're being dramatic.
I've brought it up to her before, gently and she
just says, that's how we joke. Fine, whatever. Leading up
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to the wedding I was heavily involved planning the bachelor red,
running errands, making sure she ate on the day of
because she was stressed as hell. The actual wedding day
started fine, but little things piled up. First, Kara's mom
pulled me aside in the morning and basically told me
not to outshine the bride in any way. I was
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wearing the dress Kara picked, so that threw me off.
Then at the reception, Evan gives his speech and thanks
his brother, who he said was basically the best man
and maid of honor combined. He didn't mention me at all.
I laughed it off because maybe it was just nerves,
but I saw a couple of people at my table
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give each other a look. Later, during the bouquetos, Tara
jokingly aimed it directly at her cousin instead of tossing
it normally, then turned to me and said loud enough
for people to hear, well, you'll be single forever anyway.
Everyone laughed. I laughed too, but it kind of hurt.
The final straw was during the dancing. I was at
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the bar chatting with a mutual friend when Evans's brother
came up and said, hey, Kira told me to tell
you not to hog the attention at the dance floor.
You're making her uncomfortable. I hadn't been dancing weird or anything,
just normal wedding fun, but apparently me existing in her
orbit was now a problem. I went to find Kara
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to ask what the deal was, but she brushed me
off with can we not do this right now? It's
my day. At that point, I felt I was just
not wanted there. I'd spent months helping plan this wedding,
paid for travel, address, gifts, and here I was being
treated like I was the party. So I told her
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I wasn't feeling well and left before dessert. When I
got home, my phone blew up with texts from Kara.
At first it was where did you go?
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Then I can't believe you ditched my wedding, and finally
everyone's asking where my maid of honor went. Do you
know how bad this makes me look? I explained I
felt unwelcomed, and she said I was being selfish and
making it about me on her wedding day.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
I didn't respond after that. Now a couple mutual friends
are saying I overreacted and that weddings are stressful and
people say things they don't mean. So Reddit, am I
the a hole? OPI? You are definitely not the a whole,
and your quote unquote best friend doesn't sound like much
of a friend to me. You were disrespected from start
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to finish. You used your time, your money, your energy
to celebrate your friend. You did everything and all that
you could to make her day the best day, and
she decided to humiliate you in public like that, send
her brother in law to talk you down. And what's
up with her mom saying that you shouldn't outshine the
bride like has that happened in the past or something?
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So again, No, OPI, I don't think you're the ahle.
I think you need to reevaluate this friendship to see
if you want to be in it still or not.
What do you guys think? Let me know in the
comments section and now let's chick out the community comments.
Fick Secretary thirty seven oh one says, not the ahle.
Your friend is jealous as hell. The groom knows you
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don't like him, so he tried to throw subtle digs
at you instead of Kara. She was probably on board
with that because at least it wasn't her This time.
Either way, they both suck and you're better off without them.
I don't see their marriage going well. Programmer level twenty
eight twenty nine says, not the a hole. If she
wanted you there, she should have treated you with basic courtesy.
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That means if she had an issue with your behavior,
she should have sat down like an adult with you
and explain what her problem is, not send her flying
monkey mom and brother in law to tell you. She said,
then blow you off when you tried to talk to
her about it. Notice she didn't say she was hurt
or upset that you left. She said it made her
look bad, and it should. But she wasn't concerned about
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anyone's feelings or the state of your friendship. She was
concerned about her reputation. You have a friend problem here,
not a friend's husband's problem. If you valued your friendship,
she wouldn't let him treat you crappily or make digs
at you in front of an audience. It doesn't matter
that at least it's someone else this time. She should
have told him that you were off limits, and she
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should have talked to you if she was insecure about something.
If you want to try salvaging this friendship, invited to
have a coffee and clear the air. Explain to her
that you are not her husband's emotional punching bag, You
are not in love with him, and you aren't putting
up with this crap. And if she has a problem,
she needs to cowgirl up and tell you yourself and
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explain exactly what is going on and not involve multiple
third parties or bitch about you behind your back. This
isn't elementary school and you aren't playing telephone. If she
can't handle an adult friendship where everyone is treated with
courtesy and people communicate, then you're moving on. Thanks for
all the memories, but you're an adult and you socialize
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with adults. And Opie responds, yeah, exactly. It's all about
her image, not our friendship. I'm done being treated like
a punching bag or a prop in her wedding. If
she can't deal like an adult, that's on her impression.
Number fifteen oh nine says not the equal. But if
you consider that the groom may not like you because
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of what she has said to him about you, and
Dopi responds, Honestly, I hadn't thought of that. I mean,
I've never had any big fights with him or anything.
But I guess it's possible. Kara's never hinted at saying
anything negative about me to him, though, But then again,
I wouldn't really know if she had. And Celtic mus
Books says a common theme in these types of posts
(07:08):
is failed to communicate. When Kara's mom told you not
to outshine her in any way, your response needed to
be what do you mean by that? Please be specific?
When Kara made the comment about you never getting married,
you should have responded, Wow, that was really mean? Is
everything okay? Are you having second thoughts about your marriage?
When Kara sent Evan to tell you not to hog
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attention on the dance floor, you should have immediately gone
to her and asked what she meant by that. When
she blew up your phone with why did you leave texts?
You should have responded I kept being told I was
outshining you, and since I wasn't doing anything to outshine you,
the only solution to not outshine you was to leave.
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Is Kara that unattractive that she's so easily outshown? And
Opie responds, Lough, I don't think it's about attractiveness. It's
about her insecurities and how she handled them. I tried
asking for clarity multiple times, but she wouldn't actually answer.
Leaving was just me stepping out of a situation where
nothing I did would be seen as okay. Well, the
(08:11):
community agrees that Opia is not the agle, and that
she did the right thing. If she was in a
place that completely made her feel unwanted, why would she
want to stay, and that her friend Kara is not
that much of a friend anyways. So now let's move
on to the update to see how this story ends.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
Hi.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
Everyone, I didn't expect my original post to get that
much attention, but since so many of you asked for
an update, here it is. After the wedding incident, I
decided to take a step back from Kara completely. I
didn't blog her, but I stopped initiating any contact. She
eventually called me a few hours after I made the post,
clearly trying to play the victim. She said she couldn't
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believe I left her wedding over nothing, and that she's
never been so humiliated by a friend. I told her
very calmly that I did didn't appreciate being told multiple
times throughout her wedding day that I was outshining her
when all I was doing was existing. I pointed out
that I followed the dress code, danced like everyone else,
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and never once tried to make the event about me.
She tried to say it was just banter when she
made that comment about me never getting married, but I
reminded her that it wasn't just that. It was her
mom warning me before the wedding not to steal the spotlight,
her sending her husband to tell me to stop dancing
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so much, and then blowing up my phone the moment
I left. I told her if she really believed I
was stealing the spotlight simply by being there, then she
needs to look inward and figure out why she feels
so insecure. The conversation didn't go well. She accused me
of being jealous of her marriage, which is laughable because
I would never want to marry someone like her husband,
(09:55):
who didn't even have the decency to mention his wife's
best friend and his speech. After a decade of friendship,
I told her, I don't want to be in a
friendship where I have to shrink myself to make her
feel better. In her defense, she was never like this
before she met Evan though as kids we would always
talk about weddings and how we wanted ours. So random,
(10:17):
I know, Lo and I'd always imagined us together, being
each other's maid of honors and having a peaceful, cozy wedding.
It truly is so unfair how everything turned out. Anyway,
we haven't spoken since. From what I've learned through mutual friends,
she's been telling people that I stormed out of her
wedding to cause drama. Luckily, most people were there and
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saw how ridiculous that is. The comments on my original
post really solidified that I wasn't crazy for feeling humiliated.
I'm glad I walked away because if someone's wedding is
the peak of their self esteem and they can't handle
anyone else existing in the same room, that's their issue,
not mine. Opie's edit. A lot of people are asking
(11:03):
me why the husband would have to mention me in
his wedding speech. He doesn't. It makes a lot of
sense why so many people are asking this. It was
mentioned in the first post, but the quote Evan gives
his speech and thanks his brother, who said was basically
the best man and maid of honor combined. I hope
this clears up any doubts. Another thing a lot of
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people were questioning was why her family was asking me
to not dim her light. I have no idea. I'm
an introvert and almost always hate it when the attention
is on me. A lot of people assumed I was
in attention, hogger or something. I could not imagine anything worse.
Kara is honestly super insecure, and even though I think
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she's beautiful, during our friendship, she always compared her looks
to mine. God forbid she got one pimple. She would
constantly talk about it and compare herself to me. WELLOPI,
it sucks when a friendship ends like this, but let's
face it, it wasn't much of a friendship anymore if she
was tweeting you like that. So I do think you've
made the right decision. And on that note, here's wishing
(12:06):
you the best, Opee. Thanks so much for sharing and
to take care. And now let's move on to the
next post that also has an update. This post is
from the subredded am I the Acle and it's by you, sir,
capable constant five seven three am I the Eqal for
posting a picture of my stepdad walking me down the aisle.
So for context, I twenty three female, have a very
(12:29):
strained and rocky relationship with my biodad forty five male.
When I was young. He cheated on my mom forty
five female, and basically abandoned me and my little sister,
Belle twenty one female for his new wife, Amanda thirty
five female. My mom remarried my stepdad, Jason forty eight male,
when I was ten, two years after my dad left,
(12:52):
and Jason has been more of a dad to us
than my biodad ever was. My biodad didn't come to
me my wedding, so honestly, I don't even know why
I'm typing this, but here we are. I recently married
the love of my life, Daniel twenty four female, on
August first. The day was magical. Jason walked me down
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the aisle and it meant so much to me. We
went to Hawaii for our honeymoon, and when we got back,
our photographer sent us a sneak peek of our wedding photos. Obviously,
I posted a few, including one of Jason walking me
down the aisle. An hour after I posted, Bell called
me and asked me to take that particular photo down.
(13:34):
She said our dad had called her saying it was
disrespectful to let another man walk me down the aisle.
She told him, well, you weren't even at the wedding.
He apparently responded with I would have gone if she'd
let me walk her down the aisle. For the record,
there was absolutely no way I was going to let
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him do that. He hasn't been there for me in years,
and Jason has been the one who who's actually acted
like a father. Now Bell says I'm being petty and
rubbing it in his face by posting the picture, and
some extended family have started making comments about how I
shouldn't air family drama online. I don't see how posting
a photo from my own wedding is airing drama. But
(14:17):
now I'm wondering if I'm missing something. So am I
the ahle? No, of course you're not the a hol op.
One it was your wedding. Two, it was your picture.
He doesn't get to have a say. He can feel
hurt all he wants, but his voice is irrelevant. He's
not just a cheater, he's a deadbeat dad, and Jason
sounds like a stand up guy, so not at Hollopie,
(14:39):
not the ahle for posting that picture. Again, it's your wedding.
You get to post what you want. Biodad can go
suck a lemon. And what do you guys think? Let
me know in the comments section and now let's chick
out the community comments. Kutulu LaRue says, of course you're
not the a whole. I would even double down on
this and post a follow up thanking your stepdad not
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only for walking you down the aisle, but for being
there for you raising you. Any of your dad's flying
monkeys who call you can be blocked. Visual Lobster sixty
six twenty five says, not the a hole. If your
bio father feels like this was disrespectful, then he needs
to look at himself. He should have been a better
father and that would have been him in the picture
(15:23):
instead of your stepfather. Did he not go to your
wedding because he wouldn't be walking you down the aisle?
Or did he not go for another reason? He can't
ride two horses with one ass. He can't be a
crappy father and then expect to get all the perks
of being a good dad. And Opie responds he didn't
go only because Amanda wasn't allowed to be in the wedding.
(15:45):
He was invited along with Amanda to not have drama.
But here we are low and Amanda wanted a part
in the wedding, like how my mom had. Amanda didn't
go dressed shopping with me. She didn't have any say
in anything, and frankly, my dad didn't like it, so
he told me he just wasn't coming. Dave nineteen fifty
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seven a says, not the a hole. I was a
stepdad who took on two young kids after their father
left after cheating on their mom. I raised them as
mine and was lucky enough to walk them down the aisle.
Your biodad didn't even attend the wedding. You did nothing
wrong choosing the person who raised you. And Opie response,
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I know this isn't related to the post what I'm
about to say, but I am so grateful for people
like you and my dad Jason. Your kids must really
love you, and Adam Lucas says, not the a hole.
The man who stepped up as your dad and was
there for you when you needed him was obviously going
to walk you down the aisle. The fact he wasn't
even invited to the wedding shows how far from being
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in your life your biodad was. You made the right decision,
and if biodad and wife have a problem with that,
then it's on them, not you. It's going to be
the same, Missue, whatever you do in life. Have a baby,
it's disrespectful. Stepdad is holding the newborn when biodad hasn't
even met the child. The fact you don't want your
biodad to meet the child or have anything to do
(17:11):
with it is besides the point. Somehow, you're the villain.
Blood doesn't make family. Jason has taken on the responsibility
of being your dad and deserves every praise and memory.
Your biodad just wants the tingle of getting the praise
without putting in any of the work. I'm surprised you're
even this low contact. I'd use the opportunity to cut
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him and his wipe out completely. It's all about the
optics for them. They don't want to have to explain
to people why Jason is getting dad duties and he
isn't Additional information from Opie's comments. Bell is closed to Amanda.
Bell has always kind of been closer to them, since
I guess she has forgiven them for what happened and
(17:54):
which I haven't. But I know Bell wouldn't make something
like this up, or at least I hope. I didn't
speak to my father directly since I have his number blocked.
I have to say that Belle still loves our dad,
even though he isn't the greatest. Finally, my dad did
have me on Facebook, but after I posted this and
read some comments, I blocked him. Well, the community definitely
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agrees that Obee did the right thing, that Jason walking
down the aisle was the thing that had to happen,
and that by your dad can go take a hike.
So now let's move on to the update to see
how this story ends. I honestly didn't expect all the
comments and kind words on my original post, so thank you.
I ended up speaking with both my dad and Belle
(18:38):
about the whole situation. First, with Belle, I told her
to stay out of it all together. I said, if
she's on our dad's side so much, she can have
him walk her down the aisle at her wedding. I
also made it clear that I'm not going to punish
her for still talking to him, but I'm also not
going to pretend he's been a father to me when he, frankly, ever, was.
(19:01):
She didn't have much to say after that. Then I
called my dad. That conversation went about how you'd expect.
He started with, one day you'll understand, and that I
need to learn respect told him cheating wasn't respectful, and
neither was abandoning your kids, and that he hasn't been
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there for me since I was ten. Jason, however, has
been there every step of the way, and he is
my father to me. That's when my dad hung up
on me. Lo Amanda then made a passive, aggressive Facebook
post saying, no matter things that happened in the past,
you'll always be family. I'm about ninety nine percent sure
(19:44):
that was about me, but I digress. At the end
of the day, I'm still not taking the photo down.
I don't want to make Jason upset if I do,
and he deserves to be celebrated. I'm not letting my
bio dad rewrite history just because it makes him uncomfortable.
Well done, Op, not just standing up for yourself, but
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for Jason as well. And you're absolutely right. He doesn't
get to rewrite history just because he doesn't like it,
so here's witching you the best op. Thanks so much
for sharing, and take care. And that's it for today's video.
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch
it now. If you've gotten to this point in the video,
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