July 28, 2025 • 20 mins
Relationship Stories - OP’s girlfriend proposed under pressure from her conservative parents, who insisted on marriage before cohabitation. Though he loves her, OP refused, believing the timing was wrong and fearing her motives weren’t entirely genuine.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi everybody, and welcome back to lost genre Reddit stories.
This post is from the subredded am I the Ahole,
and it's by user north Network. Sixteen twenty seven. Am
I the Ahle for refusing to marry my girlfriend. I
twenty two male, have been dating Emily nineteen female for
maybe around a year and a half. We met because
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she was my youngest brother's friend, and somehow we ended
up getting pretty close. She's this sweet and pretty girl
with a heart of gold. Genuinely, nothing can describe how
beautiful she is.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Sweetest thing ever I'm telling you.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
Recently, I have graduated college and got a job, so
I decided to get my own place. My girlfriend immediately
suggested to move in with me, since my place is
closer to her campus too. I was fine with it,
but her parents weren't. Her parents immediately got mad and
insisted I was destroying her innocence. This was really confusing
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to me because she had a whole pregnancy scare with
her ex when she was fifteen. I think us moving
in is really mild in comparison. Besides that, it is
really just for convenience. Her house is at least a
two hour drive away from her place, and the dorms
are just really gross. My girlfriend is a little bit
of a germophobe and thanks sharing the showers with so
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many people is icky, and I totally get her. Emily
is obviously upset and is trying to get her parents
to let her move in, but they're unwilling to budge.
In the end, they came to the conclusion that the
only way they'll let her stay with me is if
we get married to avoid having a bastard child. I
was a little appalled by this, as I have always
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been very insistent on using protection.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Even more than Emily. At times.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
I get where they're coming from, but I still feel
like this is a little crazy. After that, I thought
Emily would just stay in the dorms or rent a
place with a few friends instead. I receive a text
from her a few days later while I'm at work,
asking when we're getting married. I was gobsmacked. Although I
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am pretty sure Emily is the love of my life,
she's still nineteen and that's pretty damn young. I don't
want to marry her when she's still so young and
probably riding off emotions, especially because there have been instances
where she has done stuff just to piss her parents off.
This definitely feels like one of them. I immediately tell
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her how I felt and asked her if we could
talk about it instead of basically eloping. She immediately got
defensive and started talking about how much she loved me
and how she wanted me to see her point of view.
I was dumbfounded, to be honest. After I refused a
few more times, she just got mad and became really cold.
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I thought it would just be a usual argument, but
she actually got her friend to text me and tell
me how I was such a big douche for not
wanting to marry her. Besides the fact that we're so young,
we haven't been dating for very long too. I don't
think a year is good enough for marriage unless you're
really really sure. She's still in college too. All of
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this is making me really icky towards marrying her. I
really love her and stuff, but it's definitely too soon.
I am not sure what to do anymore.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
I feel lost and weird about this whole situation. I
don't want to lose Emily too.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
She's genuinely, so, so so special to me. Am I
the Ahle. By the way, some context that I forgot
to put in. Initially, everyone in her family marries really young.
She's the youngest of five, and all her siblings got
married around the age of eighteen to twenty two. It's
just expected for them already. Emily has always been kind
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of a late bloomer, to say, since she broke up
the res Unlike her siblings, they all married their high
school sweethearts. Them marrying young definitely has to do with
their parents. Because I used to be in the same
class as her older brother and he was stressing all
of senior year, all because his girlfriend wanted to break
up and he was afraid he wouldn't be able to
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marry young enough. It all feels really dystopian to me. Oh,
but to each their own. Wow, no OPI, you're not
the echo. You're the only one here showing maturity and restraint.
Emily's push for marriage isn't about love. It's about pressure.
Her family treats marriage like a deadline, and she's reacting,
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not deciding. And let me just say that the evidence
of all of this is the fact that Emily texted.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
You when are we gonna get married?
Speaker 1 (04:47):
And honestly, that doesn't sound like a proposal to me.
It doesn't sound like an invitation to plan a future together.
It wasn't even something that organically came after a deep
talk about commitment or timing or the future.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
OPI, you're absolutely right to pause.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Love without boundaries leads to resentment, her getting defensive and
dragging in a friend to shame you. That's not how
grown ups handled commitment. If she's marrying to defy her
parents or meet family expectations, it's the wrong reason, and
you'll be the one living with the fallout.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
So stand fermopee.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
If she can't discuss this calmly and honestly, the relationship
isn't ready for marriage. You're not cold, You're being responsible.
What do you guys think? Let me know in the
comments section, and now let's check out the community comments.
Not the aple, dude, Emily only wants to marry you
to get away from her parents.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
She sees marriages away out. Don't marry her.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
I know personally of several young ladies who got married
just because they no longer wanted to live with their parents,
and all of their marriages ended in divorce after a
few years. Emily is not ready to be married. Just
say no, don't be guiltied or bullied by the flying
monkeys family or friends.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Ignore them. Congratulations and graduate and don't. He responds, will
do dude, cool cool emojies. Thanks for the congratulations. H huh.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
This Week in the Regency says you sound like you're
a sensible and thoughtful person. Your decision is one hundred
percent right. Marriage so soon, and for such a stupid reason,
it's not going to end well. Just be careful double
that protection. Emily is desperate, but that's a terrible reason
to marry. She needs to either stand up to her
parents and move in with you, or get a job
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so she doesn't have to live in the dorm. But
either way, it's her job to sort out her life,
not yours. In five years, she'll be thanking you for
not marrying her now. Not the Ahle and beach in life.
One says she is not mature enough to get married.
She literally wants you to marry her for a place
to stay.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
I mean, get real.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
Don't marry her, and at this point I would not
have sex with her again. Don't trust her for birth control,
and don't let her have access to your protection either.
I mean, the obvious thing would have been to get
a dorm room, but stay at your place most.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
Of the time.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
The fact that she didn't come up with this herself
and not go asking her parents for permission to move
in with you says a lot. She's not ready for marriage,
and quite frankly, you are pretty young yourself. I would
not be looking for marriage for a few more years.
If I were you, you are just getting your real
life started and need to find your own footing before
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adding another person. I would be taking a long step
back from this one. Additional information from Opie's comments. Emily
is on a scholarship, very proud of her, but her
living expenses aren't included. That's where her parents' money comes in.
They are also pretty obviously adamant on me being the
wrong guy. She is already working a part time job
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to help pay what she can, but her parents are
kind against that too. Melting's Miley face. Now here is
the thing that escaped me, But your comments gave me.
I was under the understand that Emily is infertile. This
is why her pregnancy scare was just to scare, and also.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
How she found out.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
But then some of you pointed out what her parents
said about a bastard child, and holy crap, I honestly
didn't even realize that they said it in passing, and
I really didn't pay that much attention to it because
I was so caught up with everything. I will definitely
talk to her about it, because for some reason that
completely slipped my mind.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
Thank you so much. So the community agrees that.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
OPI is not the a hole and that they're both
too young to get married, and the comments were able
to raise a flag that OPI hadn't seen. So now
let's move on to the update to see how this
story ends. Holy crap, definitely did not expect to see
that post blow up so much, but thanks. Let me
set something straight first. Somewhere deep in the comments, I
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mentioned that Emily was infertile, and a very nice person
helped me realize Emily's parents saying something contradictory to that.
I genuinely don't know how that happened, but I talked
to Emily, who I thought was in fact not fertile. Uh,
I am the dumbest person alive, apparently, because turns out
she was talking about her friend who just found out
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she was infertile, and I just wasn't listening carefully, so
I thought she was just dropping that bomb on me
all casually. At least she knows I won't judge her
if she does become infertile in the future. She seemed
really chill about it when I told her, so I
didn't think she cared that much, so I didn't either.
Very dumb of me, I know. Next thing, I am
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starting to think me and Emily are terrible at communicating.
She got her friend to text me because her phone died.
I definitely exaggerated the context of the text because.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
I was pretty damn mad when I was writing it.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
Don't worry, I am calmer now, and I have checked
that everything in this post is fact not fiction. I
also talked to her on the marriage thing, too, Obviously,
she admitted that she was really tired of her parents.
Turns out they've been trying to get her to break
up with me and get back with her ex because
he has better genes and will not ruin her genetics.
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I genuinely laughed in her face when I heard it. So, no,
we're not getting married, and no we're not breaking up.
She will be staying in the dorms until she can
move away from her parents. More because they've really been
having her on a death grip. They say, if she
chooses to stay with me, she'll be out of the will.
I was honestly so mad. I was about to find
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them and give them an earful Emily has apologized repeatedly
for how she acted. For those of you who says
she's going to baby trap me, she won't. Rest assured.
She's in college. She does not have time to be
taking care of a baby. I can assure you she
loves me very much. We both have a common enemy,
and it's her parents. Both me and Emily are young
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and immature. We still have plenty of places to go
and places to grow. A few bumps along the way
won't deter us. Thank you for all the support, guys.
I really appreciate the concern and everything well it be.
It's great to know that you guys talked. You clear
the air, and you guys saw the real issue. And
it's her parents' control. So stay grounded, keep communicating better,
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and grow together. Love needs truth, not pressure. Keep choosing
each other and not chaos. And on that note, here's
wishing you the best, Opee. Thanks so much for sharing
and to take care and now let's move on to
the next post that also has an update. This post
is from the subredded am I the a hole, and
it's by user No one will ever know, am I
the a hole for yelling at my dad for getting
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my sister business class tickets but not me. For context,
my family is going on vacation to China. It's important
to note that me, seventeen female, and my mom forty
seven female, are going to China earlier than my sister
fourteen female and my dad fifty two male, because she
has a camp she wants to attend, So my father
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and my mother booked tickets separately. My dad decided to
use all of his Frequent Flyer points to upgrade himself
and my sister to Premium Economy on the way there
twelve hours and Business Class on the way back fourteen hours.
He sent a message after he did this to the
family group chat without discussing it with anybody. My mother responded,
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asking if she should also upgrade to Business Class, which
would leave me alone in Economy because she wasn't planning
on upgrading me. I was already really upset that my
father had upgraded my sister and him without asking about
it or considering other options, and then to see that
my mom was just ready to upgrade herself and let
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me be the only one not in business class. I
know this sounds super bratty, but I don't mind being
an economy and I'm glad to get to go on
a vacation. Anyhow, my father told my mom that because
we booked the tickets together, she has to upgrade both
of us. My mom realized then she doesn't have any
points to do that, but she had enough to upgrade
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both of us to premium economy, so she did that. Anyways,
when I got home, I tried to confront my parents
about this. I asked how they could without even trying
to find a fair solution to this.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
My father just told me that life isn't fair.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
My mother said that I'm selfish and the aho for
not being happy for them forgetting to be in business class.
This is when I started to lose it. How is
it selfish that I just want to be treated equally
as my sister. I mean, they could have worked out
a fair solution, but they didn't even try. Like my
father could have gifted some of his points to my
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mom so that she also could have upgraded both of
us to Business class too.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
In this case, we would.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
Have all flown there in economy and back in business.
I don't understand how they don't see how it's unfair
that my sister and my father get upgraded for both ways,
and they wouldn't have even upgraded me if my mother
wasn't forced to.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
I don't get how they.
Speaker 1 (14:02):
Could tell me I'm selfish for not being happy when
they would have upgraded everyone but me without a second thought.
I told them that it's bad parenting giving another child
so much more and just stating the other child could
be happy about it. Even my sister agreed with me,
stating that their behavior was rude. I think my parents
can use their points on themselves because it's their money,
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and I wouldn't mind if they only upgraded themselves. It's
just the fact that they have two children and they
would leave the other one out when there were other solutions. Also,
I'm actually not jealous about my sister. I'm just hurt
they wouldn't try to work out a solution. This truly
isn't about me complaining about being an economy I don't
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care about that. I'm just sad they would treat us differently?
Am I being dramatic? Here?
Speaker 2 (14:50):
Am I the ahole for yelling at my parents? Opie?
Speaker 1 (14:55):
You're not dramatic or selfish. You're hurt and rightfully so.
This wasn't about c It was about being excluded without
a second thought. And I'm sorry, but your dad's life
isn't fair excuse, that's just lazy. Your mom calling you selfish,
that's absolute deflection because she wanted to upgrade herself without
thinking about you. You weren't upset about economy. You were upset.
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No one even considered your feelings, Opie. This was your
parent's failure. It wasn't a tantrum by you. You stood
up for fairness. Even your sister back you up and
agreed with you. So stay grounded. You're not the problem here.
Your parents need to do better. What do you guys think?
Let me know in the comment section and now let's
check out the community comments. Banter one two seven says
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not the a whole? Is it a privileged thing? Yes,
but the point still stands. You aren't an a hole
and your parents were absolutely unfair and rude to you.
Their comment of life isn't fair was a BS excuse.
That was trying to be hidden as a life lesson.
It's refreshing to hear that your sister is on your side.
Best of luck, Blue pvts Storm says, not the ahole.
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For anyone who has done the fourteen hours in business,
you would be pissed too if you had to do
it in economy. Also, the fourteen year old is being
treated better than the older sibling. There are times when
things like age should have some bearing, and I feel
like the older siblings should get the benefit of upgraded privileges.
They also didn't try to figure anything out. Amphitrite two
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two seven two o four says, surprised about how many
think you are the a hole, But then it reflects
a similar situation I had recently where people think only
of the oh, what a shame you're flying to X
country whilst I'm at home. Then they ignore the bigger picture.
I said, not the a hole. It's not about the
flights or where you are going. It's about siblings being
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treated unequally and the lack of communication. He could have
waited until a trip where you could all upgrade together,
or at least spoken about it with you both first
and Leilah in seventeen twenty says not the Ahole. I
read your post and actually comprehend your point. Unlike others,
regardless of whether you are going to China, going on
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a quick flight somewhere else, literally going out for an
ice cream cone and your sister gets three scoops but
your parents only shell out for one scoop for you,
et cetera. It's really crappy that your parents support unequal
treatment of their children. As a younger sibling to an
older sister that seemed to always get something more or
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something better, I feel for you. Take a mental note,
and in the future make sure you reciprocate energy as
you deem appropriate. If it could be perceived as unfair,
but it's what works best for you. Oh well, don't
feel guilty. Tell them to get over it, because life
isn't fair. Opie's edit for clarity, because I wrote it
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wrong at first. My father and my sister are flying
premium economy there and business back. My mom and I
are flying economy there and pre economy back. We're going
there with different flights, but back on the same flight.
And I forgot to mention I don't know if it's important,
but this is a family trip, and I have Chinese,
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so we go to China every year or every other
year to visit relatives. The solution that they could have
done is my father gifts my mom points so that
she can upgrade us to business. This way, both fly
there with economy and back with business. Also about the yelling,
I did approach my parents' call me to ask about it.
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It was after they called me selfish that I started
to raise my voice. They did too. Many people have
noted that I get to go on vacation earlier. But
I'll make something clear. My sister doesn't like China that much.
She doesn't like fake cities. She wouldn't go if it
wasn't foreseeing relatives. The community agrees on two things. UPI
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is not the equal and the parents are doing a
crappy job. So now let's move on to the update
to see how this story Me and my sister came
up with the solution. My sister and my mom are
gonna swap seats on the way back. This way, my
sister is still gonna be in premium economy on the
way there and I won't, but at least it'll be
more fair this way. I still feel a bit upset
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with my parents for not putting in the effort to
think of this themselves, but I'll get over it. I'm
glad that my sister sided with me, which I knew
she would, because I would have done the same thing
for her. That's the thing, and I know she's still
getting more than me too, But I also don't blame
her at all. She also is in that fond of China.
She doesn't really like cities. She wouldn't go if it
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weren't for seeing relatives. Opie, both you and your sisters
saw the imbalance, spoke up and found a fair solution.
You guys have a great bond. That's amazing, so stay grounded.
You didn't overreact. You just wanted respect and you earned it.
So here swishing you and your sister the best, Opie,
and hopefully you guys have an awesome holiday. Take care
and thanks for sharing. And that's it for today's video.
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Hi everybody, and welcome back to lost genre Reddit stories.
This post is from the subredded am I the Ahole,
and it's by user north Network. Sixteen twenty seven. Am
I the Ahle for refusing to marry my girlfriend. I
twenty two male, have been dating Emily nineteen female for
maybe around a year and a half. We met because
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she was my youngest brother's friend, and somehow we ended
up getting pretty close. She's this sweet and pretty girl
with a heart of gold. Genuinely, nothing can describe how
beautiful she is.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Sweetest thing ever I'm telling you.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
Recently, I have graduated college and got a job, so
I decided to get my own place. My girlfriend immediately
suggested to move in with me, since my place is
closer to her campus too. I was fine with it,
but her parents weren't. Her parents immediately got mad and
insisted I was destroying her innocence. This was really confusing
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to me because she had a whole pregnancy scare with
her ex when she was fifteen. I think us moving
in is really mild in comparison. Besides that, it is
really just for convenience. Her house is at least a
two hour drive away from her place, and the dorms
are just really gross. My girlfriend is a little bit
of a germophobe and thanks sharing the showers with so
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many people is icky, and I totally get her. Emily
is obviously upset and is trying to get her parents
to let her move in, but they're unwilling to budge.
In the end, they came to the conclusion that the
only way they'll let her stay with me is if
we get married to avoid having a bastard child. I
was a little appalled by this, as I have always
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been very insistent on using protection.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Even more than Emily. At times.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
I get where they're coming from, but I still feel
like this is a little crazy. After that, I thought
Emily would just stay in the dorms or rent a
place with a few friends instead. I receive a text
from her a few days later while I'm at work,
asking when we're getting married. I was gobsmacked. Although I
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am pretty sure Emily is the love of my life,
she's still nineteen and that's pretty damn young. I don't
want to marry her when she's still so young and
probably riding off emotions, especially because there have been instances
where she has done stuff just to piss her parents off.
This definitely feels like one of them. I immediately tell
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her how I felt and asked her if we could
talk about it instead of basically eloping. She immediately got
defensive and started talking about how much she loved me
and how she wanted me to see her point of view.
I was dumbfounded, to be honest. After I refused a
few more times, she just got mad and became really cold.
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I thought it would just be a usual argument, but
she actually got her friend to text me and tell
me how I was such a big douche for not
wanting to marry her. Besides the fact that we're so young,
we haven't been dating for very long too. I don't
think a year is good enough for marriage unless you're
really really sure. She's still in college too. All of
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this is making me really icky towards marrying her. I
really love her and stuff, but it's definitely too soon.
I am not sure what to do anymore.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
I feel lost and weird about this whole situation. I
don't want to lose Emily too.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
She's genuinely, so, so so special to me. Am I
the Ahle. By the way, some context that I forgot
to put in. Initially, everyone in her family marries really young.
She's the youngest of five, and all her siblings got
married around the age of eighteen to twenty two. It's
just expected for them already. Emily has always been kind
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of a late bloomer, to say, since she broke up
the res Unlike her siblings, they all married their high
school sweethearts. Them marrying young definitely has to do with
their parents. Because I used to be in the same
class as her older brother and he was stressing all
of senior year, all because his girlfriend wanted to break
up and he was afraid he wouldn't be able to
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marry young enough. It all feels really dystopian to me. Oh,
but to each their own. Wow, no OPI, you're not
the echo. You're the only one here showing maturity and restraint.
Emily's push for marriage isn't about love. It's about pressure.
Her family treats marriage like a deadline, and she's reacting,
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not deciding. And let me just say that the evidence
of all of this is the fact that Emily texted.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
You when are we gonna get married?
Speaker 1 (04:47):
And honestly, that doesn't sound like a proposal to me.
It doesn't sound like an invitation to plan a future together.
It wasn't even something that organically came after a deep
talk about commitment or timing or the future.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
OPI, you're absolutely right to pause.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Love without boundaries leads to resentment, her getting defensive and
dragging in a friend to shame you. That's not how
grown ups handled commitment. If she's marrying to defy her
parents or meet family expectations, it's the wrong reason, and
you'll be the one living with the fallout.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
So stand fermopee.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
If she can't discuss this calmly and honestly, the relationship
isn't ready for marriage. You're not cold, You're being responsible.
What do you guys think? Let me know in the
comments section, and now let's check out the community comments.
Not the aple, dude, Emily only wants to marry you
to get away from her parents.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
She sees marriages away out. Don't marry her.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
I know personally of several young ladies who got married
just because they no longer wanted to live with their parents,
and all of their marriages ended in divorce after a
few years. Emily is not ready to be married. Just
say no, don't be guiltied or bullied by the flying
monkeys family or friends.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
Ignore them. Congratulations and graduate and don't. He responds, will
do dude, cool cool emojies. Thanks for the congratulations. H huh.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
This Week in the Regency says you sound like you're
a sensible and thoughtful person. Your decision is one hundred
percent right. Marriage so soon, and for such a stupid reason,
it's not going to end well. Just be careful double
that protection. Emily is desperate, but that's a terrible reason
to marry. She needs to either stand up to her
parents and move in with you, or get a job
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so she doesn't have to live in the dorm. But
either way, it's her job to sort out her life,
not yours. In five years, she'll be thanking you for
not marrying her now. Not the Ahle and beach in life.
One says she is not mature enough to get married.
She literally wants you to marry her for a place
to stay.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
I mean, get real.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
Don't marry her, and at this point I would not
have sex with her again. Don't trust her for birth control,
and don't let her have access to your protection either.
I mean, the obvious thing would have been to get
a dorm room, but stay at your place most.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
Of the time.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
The fact that she didn't come up with this herself
and not go asking her parents for permission to move
in with you says a lot. She's not ready for marriage,
and quite frankly, you are pretty young yourself. I would
not be looking for marriage for a few more years.
If I were you, you are just getting your real
life started and need to find your own footing before
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adding another person. I would be taking a long step
back from this one. Additional information from Opie's comments. Emily
is on a scholarship, very proud of her, but her
living expenses aren't included. That's where her parents' money comes in.
They are also pretty obviously adamant on me being the
wrong guy. She is already working a part time job
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to help pay what she can, but her parents are
kind against that too. Melting's Miley face. Now here is
the thing that escaped me, But your comments gave me.
I was under the understand that Emily is infertile. This
is why her pregnancy scare was just to scare, and also.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
How she found out.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
But then some of you pointed out what her parents
said about a bastard child, and holy crap, I honestly
didn't even realize that they said it in passing, and
I really didn't pay that much attention to it because
I was so caught up with everything. I will definitely
talk to her about it, because for some reason that
completely slipped my mind.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
Thank you so much. So the community agrees that.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
OPI is not the a hole and that they're both
too young to get married, and the comments were able
to raise a flag that OPI hadn't seen. So now
let's move on to the update to see how this
story ends. Holy crap, definitely did not expect to see
that post blow up so much, but thanks. Let me
set something straight first. Somewhere deep in the comments, I
(08:51):
mentioned that Emily was infertile, and a very nice person
helped me realize Emily's parents saying something contradictory to that.
I genuinely don't know how that happened, but I talked
to Emily, who I thought was in fact not fertile. Uh,
I am the dumbest person alive, apparently, because turns out
she was talking about her friend who just found out
(09:13):
she was infertile, and I just wasn't listening carefully, so
I thought she was just dropping that bomb on me
all casually. At least she knows I won't judge her
if she does become infertile in the future. She seemed
really chill about it when I told her, so I
didn't think she cared that much, so I didn't either.
Very dumb of me, I know. Next thing, I am
(09:35):
starting to think me and Emily are terrible at communicating.
She got her friend to text me because her phone died.
I definitely exaggerated the context of the text because.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
I was pretty damn mad when I was writing it.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
Don't worry, I am calmer now, and I have checked
that everything in this post is fact not fiction. I
also talked to her on the marriage thing, too, Obviously,
she admitted that she was really tired of her parents.
Turns out they've been trying to get her to break
up with me and get back with her ex because
he has better genes and will not ruin her genetics.
(10:12):
I genuinely laughed in her face when I heard it. So, no,
we're not getting married, and no we're not breaking up.
She will be staying in the dorms until she can
move away from her parents. More because they've really been
having her on a death grip. They say, if she
chooses to stay with me, she'll be out of the will.
I was honestly so mad. I was about to find
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them and give them an earful Emily has apologized repeatedly
for how she acted. For those of you who says
she's going to baby trap me, she won't. Rest assured.
She's in college. She does not have time to be
taking care of a baby. I can assure you she
loves me very much. We both have a common enemy,
and it's her parents. Both me and Emily are young
(10:55):
and immature. We still have plenty of places to go
and places to grow. A few bumps along the way
won't deter us. Thank you for all the support, guys.
I really appreciate the concern and everything well it be.
It's great to know that you guys talked. You clear
the air, and you guys saw the real issue. And
it's her parents' control. So stay grounded, keep communicating better,
(11:18):
and grow together. Love needs truth, not pressure. Keep choosing
each other and not chaos. And on that note, here's
wishing you the best, Opee. Thanks so much for sharing
and to take care and now let's move on to
the next post that also has an update. This post
is from the subredded am I the a hole, and
it's by user No one will ever know, am I
the a hole for yelling at my dad for getting
(11:40):
my sister business class tickets but not me. For context,
my family is going on vacation to China. It's important
to note that me, seventeen female, and my mom forty
seven female, are going to China earlier than my sister
fourteen female and my dad fifty two male, because she
has a camp she wants to attend, So my father
(12:00):
and my mother booked tickets separately. My dad decided to
use all of his Frequent Flyer points to upgrade himself
and my sister to Premium Economy on the way there
twelve hours and Business Class on the way back fourteen hours.
He sent a message after he did this to the
family group chat without discussing it with anybody. My mother responded,
(12:22):
asking if she should also upgrade to Business Class, which
would leave me alone in Economy because she wasn't planning
on upgrading me. I was already really upset that my
father had upgraded my sister and him without asking about
it or considering other options, and then to see that
my mom was just ready to upgrade herself and let
(12:42):
me be the only one not in business class. I
know this sounds super bratty, but I don't mind being
an economy and I'm glad to get to go on
a vacation. Anyhow, my father told my mom that because
we booked the tickets together, she has to upgrade both
of us. My mom realized then she doesn't have any
points to do that, but she had enough to upgrade
(13:04):
both of us to premium economy, so she did that. Anyways,
when I got home, I tried to confront my parents
about this. I asked how they could without even trying
to find a fair solution to this.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
My father just told me that life isn't fair.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
My mother said that I'm selfish and the aho for
not being happy for them forgetting to be in business class.
This is when I started to lose it. How is
it selfish that I just want to be treated equally
as my sister. I mean, they could have worked out
a fair solution, but they didn't even try. Like my
father could have gifted some of his points to my
(13:40):
mom so that she also could have upgraded both of
us to Business class too.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
In this case, we would.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
Have all flown there in economy and back in business.
I don't understand how they don't see how it's unfair
that my sister and my father get upgraded for both ways,
and they wouldn't have even upgraded me if my mother
wasn't forced to.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
I don't get how they.
Speaker 1 (14:02):
Could tell me I'm selfish for not being happy when
they would have upgraded everyone but me without a second thought.
I told them that it's bad parenting giving another child
so much more and just stating the other child could
be happy about it. Even my sister agreed with me,
stating that their behavior was rude. I think my parents
can use their points on themselves because it's their money,
(14:23):
and I wouldn't mind if they only upgraded themselves. It's
just the fact that they have two children and they
would leave the other one out when there were other solutions. Also,
I'm actually not jealous about my sister. I'm just hurt
they wouldn't try to work out a solution. This truly
isn't about me complaining about being an economy I don't
(14:45):
care about that. I'm just sad they would treat us differently?
Am I being dramatic? Here?
Speaker 2 (14:50):
Am I the ahole for yelling at my parents? Opie?
Speaker 1 (14:55):
You're not dramatic or selfish. You're hurt and rightfully so.
This wasn't about c It was about being excluded without
a second thought. And I'm sorry, but your dad's life
isn't fair excuse, that's just lazy. Your mom calling you selfish,
that's absolute deflection because she wanted to upgrade herself without
thinking about you. You weren't upset about economy. You were upset.
(15:16):
No one even considered your feelings, Opie. This was your
parent's failure. It wasn't a tantrum by you. You stood
up for fairness. Even your sister back you up and
agreed with you. So stay grounded. You're not the problem here.
Your parents need to do better. What do you guys think?
Let me know in the comment section and now let's
check out the community comments. Banter one two seven says
(15:39):
not the a whole? Is it a privileged thing? Yes,
but the point still stands. You aren't an a hole
and your parents were absolutely unfair and rude to you.
Their comment of life isn't fair was a BS excuse.
That was trying to be hidden as a life lesson.
It's refreshing to hear that your sister is on your side.
Best of luck, Blue pvts Storm says, not the ahole.
(16:01):
For anyone who has done the fourteen hours in business,
you would be pissed too if you had to do
it in economy. Also, the fourteen year old is being
treated better than the older sibling. There are times when
things like age should have some bearing, and I feel
like the older siblings should get the benefit of upgraded privileges.
They also didn't try to figure anything out. Amphitrite two
(16:26):
two seven two o four says, surprised about how many
think you are the a hole, But then it reflects
a similar situation I had recently where people think only
of the oh, what a shame you're flying to X
country whilst I'm at home. Then they ignore the bigger picture.
I said, not the a hole. It's not about the
flights or where you are going. It's about siblings being
(16:48):
treated unequally and the lack of communication. He could have
waited until a trip where you could all upgrade together,
or at least spoken about it with you both first
and Leilah in seventeen twenty says not the Ahole. I
read your post and actually comprehend your point. Unlike others,
regardless of whether you are going to China, going on
(17:09):
a quick flight somewhere else, literally going out for an
ice cream cone and your sister gets three scoops but
your parents only shell out for one scoop for you,
et cetera. It's really crappy that your parents support unequal
treatment of their children. As a younger sibling to an
older sister that seemed to always get something more or
(17:29):
something better, I feel for you. Take a mental note,
and in the future make sure you reciprocate energy as
you deem appropriate. If it could be perceived as unfair,
but it's what works best for you. Oh well, don't
feel guilty. Tell them to get over it, because life
isn't fair. Opie's edit for clarity, because I wrote it
(17:51):
wrong at first. My father and my sister are flying
premium economy there and business back. My mom and I
are flying economy there and pre economy back. We're going
there with different flights, but back on the same flight.
And I forgot to mention I don't know if it's important,
but this is a family trip, and I have Chinese,
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so we go to China every year or every other
year to visit relatives. The solution that they could have
done is my father gifts my mom points so that
she can upgrade us to business. This way, both fly
there with economy and back with business. Also about the yelling,
I did approach my parents' call me to ask about it.
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It was after they called me selfish that I started
to raise my voice. They did too. Many people have
noted that I get to go on vacation earlier. But
I'll make something clear. My sister doesn't like China that much.
She doesn't like fake cities. She wouldn't go if it
wasn't foreseeing relatives. The community agrees on two things. UPI
(18:54):
is not the equal and the parents are doing a
crappy job. So now let's move on to the update
to see how this story Me and my sister came
up with the solution. My sister and my mom are
gonna swap seats on the way back. This way, my
sister is still gonna be in premium economy on the
way there and I won't, but at least it'll be
more fair this way. I still feel a bit upset
(19:16):
with my parents for not putting in the effort to
think of this themselves, but I'll get over it. I'm
glad that my sister sided with me, which I knew
she would, because I would have done the same thing
for her. That's the thing, and I know she's still
getting more than me too, But I also don't blame
her at all. She also is in that fond of China.
She doesn't really like cities. She wouldn't go if it
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weren't for seeing relatives. Opie, both you and your sisters
saw the imbalance, spoke up and found a fair solution.
You guys have a great bond. That's amazing, so stay grounded.
You didn't overreact. You just wanted respect and you earned it.
So here swishing you and your sister the best, Opie,
and hopefully you guys have an awesome holiday. Take care
and thanks for sharing. And that's it for today's video.
(20:01):
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch it.
Speaker 2 (20:04):
Now.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
If you've gotten to this point in the video, I
assume that you like these stories that I'm reading out,
so here are a couple more that you might enjoy.
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