August 9, 2025 • 20 mins
Updated Reddit Stories - OP's parents got the wrong impression of what their son did and called him a creep and kicked him out. OP is trying to help out.
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Amighty a Whole and it's by user large Challenge sixty
four forty two. Am I the a hole for telling
(00:26):
my husband to book a hotel for us while we
attend my sister in law's wedding rather than share accommodations
with his family. My husband and I are going to
be traveling soon to attend his sister's wedding along with
our one year old son. The plan was that we
would land at his parents' place and attend one of
the wedding ceremonies there. A few days after that, there's
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another wedding reception in my sister in law's soon to
be husband's city. My in laws plan to book a
few train compartments for the entire family and in airbnb
for the state there two to three days. I really
don't want to be in a confined space with my
in laws for that long, especially with my son. My
in laws and I used to be cordial with each
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other until my son was born. A few weeks after delivery,
my mother in law and sister in law visited us
to help. All they did was just find any opportunity
to hold him, regardless of whether he was asleep or
in my arms, criticizing me for being too clingy with
him when I would put my foot down and basically
started locking myself in my room with him. They'd also
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lament how poor my cooking was and how sorry they
felt for their poor son or brother who had to
endure it, until both my husband and I had had enough,
and my husband hinted heavily that they had overstayed their welcome.
Since then, I get hounded for not sending enough pictures
and videos of my son and how I dress him.
I'm so grateful we're far enough away that we see
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them rarely. I old my husband a couple of days
ago that I'd rather we just fly from his parents'
place to the other city and just stay at a
hotel while we attend to the second ceremony. My husband
said that would make us look snobbish, that he himself
wasn't over the moon about the whole itinerary, but it
was a family event and we should be with family.
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The fact that he wasn't into it frustrated me even
more because like, we're all making ourselves uncomfortable for what.
Then we got into an argument his mother and sisters
stay got rehashed, and I told him he was choosing
to make me uncomfortable rather than potentially risk his family
being affronted. Am I the a whole? No, OPI, I
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don't think you're the a hole. And regardless of how
his family treats you, or how insulting or overbearing they are,
you still have the right to not want to take
a train to another city and just fly and get
a hotel. To me, the family thing are the ceremonies, right,
not the train ride. Now. I know kids are not
the same, but I do remember taking a train ride
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with my daughter when she was two and a half
years old, and it was only a four hour train ride,
and by hour or two she was done. So a
one year old for a whole day in a train,
I don't know how that would play out, to be honest, OPI,
I think you need to sit down with your husband
and have a proper conversation about this. If he's not
over the moon to be with his family, then he
should be able to see your point and just take
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the flight. And what do you guys think? Let me
know in the comments section, and now let's move on
to the community comments. Foundation Wrong says, not the a hole.
Put your foot down. Point out that you, he and
baby are a family of your own. You don't want
to get ameshed in the passive aggressive bs. He needs
to say, hey, we decided to give you guys more
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space and sort out our own accommodation. Junior can be
cranky and we don't want to spoil your peace. We
will see you all at the functions. Make it a declaration,
not a request. And Dopy responds this, this would be
a really way to put it. Knowing my in laws,
they'll probably still feel insulted. But I'll tell my husband
this is how we should put it across. Thank you.
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Shaggy Maggie loves Pat says, not the a hole. While
it is a family event, being locked in with family
for the train ride and then in an airbnb will
be very uncomfortable for everyone. Since you have a one
year old, they need routine and peace and quiet to rest,
and your family will want to pass him around and
he will end up possibly sick. It's fine to have
(04:30):
him visit with family for a reasonable amount of time,
but he needs time to nap and play without the overstimulation.
Use him as your reason for the alternate trip plans,
and advise the family that you would feel horrible if
his crying ruined everyone's time. You can even let them
know he is teething or starting his terrible twos, early
possessed by a demon, so there is no pushback. If
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your husband really wants to stay with the family, let
him know he will be in charge of the cranky
one year old and you will be in another car
getting a nap in yourself and forever forget Avil says
not the Ahle. Let your husband spend time with his family,
make the flight and hotel arrangements for yourself and your son.
Let him deal with the fallout. They already treat you poorly.
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Who cares if they think you're a snob. You are
never going to be good enough for their son or brother.
Why bother trying to keep the peace, as so many
people love to make others do. They didn't care about
offending you, but crap talking whilst you recovered from birth,
which what the f They would not have eaten if
it was me, because I would not have cooked for
them both now and before. Your husband failed. You do
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what you want and let him do as he sees fit.
Maybe don't bother going at all. Your sister in law
doesn't seem to like you, why bother supporting her? And
Opie responds, thank you so much. I'm really glad to
read the comments here. His comment about it coming across
as snobbish had given me a bit of pause. But honestly,
the train trip and the three days at the airbnb
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have been on my mind this entire time. I'm going
to take the flight there, even if my husband wants
to take the train. I really want the three of
us to stay at the hotel together, though I'm going
to insist that we stay at a hotel again. Additional
information from Opie's comments, the train ride is twenty two
hours long. A flight would be an hour and forty
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five minutes. Just thinking about that twenty two hour train
rideer is stressing me out. Also, my son's the first
grandchild on both sides of the family, and when my
husband confronted my mother in law when she came to help.
We'd made it known that she'd overstepped lines when we
politely but firmly suggested it was time for her to
go back when she'd stayed over. But that hasn't stopped
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her from being overbearing regarding pictures and what he wears
and what he eats, though, so I don't even know
if it's worth the trouble anymore. All Right, Well, the
community agrees that UPI is not the equal and that
she needs to talk to her husband, which she will.
So now let's move on to the update to see
how this story ends. Reading the comments in my original post,
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I had decided that taking the flight with my son
rather than the train was non negotiable, and I hoped
to convince my husband for the three of us to
stay at a hotel. I brought up the topic with
him again and said that a twenty two hour train
ride wasn't fair to our son. He's been doing really
well recently with a sleep cycle, and messing that up
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for my in laws sake wasn't right. Regardless of what
they ended up thinking, I was firm about it. My
husband finally agreed I thought it meant my son and
I would be taking the flight and my husband to
the train, but he said he'd be taking the flight
with us. He said the long train ride would be
horrible for him without us, and that his family would
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bring up me taking the plane and he didn't want
to be around for that. I was really happy and
decided to bring up hotel accommodations, and he agreed to
that too, saying that his family were already going to
be mad at us for taking the flight, so at
this point we might as well make ourselves comfortable. When
he told his parents about this, they did not take
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it well. My mother in law complained about how everyone
was looking forward to playing with and entertaining our son,
that it was a family event and it wouldn't be
fun without us. She even suggested to him that I
could take the plane and my husband and son take
the train, but my husband shut that down, said our
son doesn't react well to having his normal routine disrupted,
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and we'd see them there, so that's that this has
been such a weight off my shoulders. Since we're taking
the flight, will be there a day before everyone else,
and can tour the city by ourselves. I also hope
we can avoid having to go to the airbnb for everything,
Like they're going to expect us to have breakfast, lunch,
and dinner with them, but I'll rather we do our
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own thing for the meals, at least breakfast. But still,
this has been such a relief. Thank you to all
of those who gave me advice in the original post Willoughby,
I guess this is great news. You got exactly what
you wanted and it is the best for you three.
Now you get to tour a city just with your
husband and your son and enjoy your time. You don't
need to spend twenty two hours in a train with
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your in laws anymore, and it's just an hour and
forty five minute flight. So on that note, here's wishing
you the best, Topee. Thanks so much for sharing and
to take care. And now let's move on to the
next post that also has an update. This post is
from the subreddit am I the a Whole? Would I
be the Ahle Public and it's by user nosy friend group.
Am I the Ahle for not having non alcoholic drinks
(09:33):
ready when my pregnant friend showed up unannounced. So last
night my family and I were just hanging out, having
a few drinks. Nothing wild. I sent my brand Lachlan
twenty one mail a snap of everyone chilling around to
the table, music playing, you know, just the usual. We
often send each other random updates like that, so it
(09:54):
was nothing special. About thirty minutes later, Lachlan shows up
at my place out of the blue. This is fine
because I've known him for twelve years and we've got
this open door thing going on. But he brought his girlfriend,
Summer twenty two female with him. I've met Summer a
few times, maybe five before this, and I think she's cool.
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We even text regularly. Since she's got a seven month
old baby and doesn't go out much. I knew she
was pregnant because she told me so. When Lachlan crept
open a drink, I offered to get her something non alcoholic,
even suggested I'd go buy her something so she wouldn't
feel left out. She said it was fine and that
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she didn't need anything. I asked a couple more times
throughout the night, just to make sure, but she kept
saying no. Eventually, they left around midnight and we all
went to bed. The next day, I found out Summer's
upset because she felt it was rude that we didn't
already have something for her. She said my offer to
go grab something felt like a last minute attempt and
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that it wasn't really thought out. I was honestly confused
because I didn't know they were coming. If they had
given me a heads up, I would have planned ahead
and made sure she'd had something to drink. Now, some
of my friends are saying it was inconsiderate and rude
of me to not have something ready for her, And
I'm just like, how was I supposed to know? I
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offered multiple times, but they showed up unannounced. So am
I the ahle for not having something non alcoholic ready
when summer came over unexpectedly? No? Well be of course
not unless you've got a crystal ball that actually works.
How were you supposed to know she was coming by
completely unannounced? And now she's upset because you didn't have
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something for her to drink. Also, unless you guys drink
from a well, she could have tap water, right. I mean,
I don't know, but I'm assuming she can now, considering
that you text often with her, maybe you could clear
out the air with her and just tell her. Look,
I didn't know you were coming. I'm sorry, but that's
as far as i'd go. What do you guys think?
Let me know in the comment section, and now let's
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check out the community comments. Literary World says, is some
are aware they weren't actually invited. I would make sure
this isn't a misunderstanding on her part. At least. The
friends saying you're the A hole are weird for sure.
Lough and Opie responds, I think I made it pretty obvious.
I wasn't expecting either of them to show up when
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I opened the door. I asked them what they were doing,
and was pretty surprised to see them. Lachlan said they
were in the area and thought they'd chew up for
a bit. He could have told her something else, though.
I was going to ask her directly, but it ended
up involving all of our mutual friends too, which Bruce
seven says, of course, not the a hole. She arrived unexpectedly.
(12:44):
You offered several times to go get her something from
the store. She said she was fine, Then she got
upset when you weren't using your esp like. You should
have known that by sending one friend a picture he
would bring her uninvited expecting refreshments. She needs to use
her voice to say what she wants or to accept
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things the way they are, unless she's just looking for
things to be offended about. And the fox that rocks
says shut that open door. Clearly they don't know how
to use it. Imagine showing up somewhere unannounced and expect
people to be prepared for your arrival, not the ahole
Opie said it. I'm not sure if this is important,
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but I see a lot of the female best friend
issues post. I am a girl female twenty, I'm a lesbian,
and I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for
the last five years, something both Lachlan and Summer are
aware of, and they've both met her before too. Also,
this was a family gathering because it's my sister's birthday
next week and we do have non alcoholic drinks in
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the house. I offered her what we had from the kitchen, juice, water,
and soda, to which she all turned down. Then I
offered to go buy something specific if she didn't like
what we already had. I didn't see it as a
big deal because I was already getting everyone food too,
which is also why I personally don't think I was
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being inconsiderate because I even went out of my way
to buy them food too. I don't know why it
had to turn into a thing that all of our
friends also knew about and had opinions on. I've never
gotten a vibe from her that she doesn't like me before.
When we text, she's usually fine and she wants to
make plans to go out together. But lately she's just
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seemed really off and withdrawn. And while I'm a bit
offended by this incident, I'm more worried about her and
the random shift. Anyway, I've left her a message so
hopefully we can clear everything up directly. So the community
agrees that Opie is not the Ahle, and they have
raised some proper questions regarding whether Summer knew or didn't
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know that it was like an impromptu thing, and Opie
reached out to try to clear things up. So let's
move on to the update to see how this story ends. Hey,
so I shot some of a text last night, and
as a lot of people suspected, no, she wasn't a
where it was a spontaneous visit and had assumed when
they showed up and everyone was surprised that we didn't
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want her there. In particular, she told me Lachland didn't
tell her there wasn't an invite. He just told her
there was a party. When they arrived and I looked
shocked that they were there. She assumed I didn't want
to see her, and that put her off. I made
it clear that it wasn't the case, and that I
thought she had a problem with me, since she was
all closed off and then telling people there was nothing
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to drink for her long story showed it was a misunderstanding,
and we cleared the air, putting myself in her place.
I can see why she would have felt left out,
since she was under the impression they were both invited
and I'd just intentionally had nothing out for her. She
essentially felt othered or outcasted in the whole thing, and
was embarrassed. Also. She started telling me that Lachlan and
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her are having relationship issues, and apparently our plan has
been exceedingly disrespectful or dismissive to her, so it's all
just been piling up. I don't know if I'm being
too overly involved or not, but I did offer to
be there if she wanted to have a conversation with
him and didn't want to do it alone. She said
she'd feel comfortable with that, but doesn't think he'd agreed.
(16:18):
So that's where we're at. I'm glad we could at
least sort that part out. Well. It was a misunderstanding
and you were able to clear the air. As you say,
maybe the relationship thing is something you don't necessarily need
to stick yourself into. But the good thing is that
you guys are okay. So here's reaching you the best ope.
Thanks for sharing and to take care. And now let's
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finish this video with another post that has an update.
This post is from this subredded am I overreacting, and
it's by user curtain Drop. Am I overreacting. Our neighbors
failed our entire rented dumpster, and I want them to
pay for it. We rented a ten foot dumpster so
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we could clean out our house to move. We rented
it for a week, have had it less than two
days and haven't had a chance to start throwing bigger
stuff in it. Our neighbors asked if they could throw
a thing or two in and we said sure, because
we aren't going to fill it anyway. I even said
just please don't fill it. We have a lot of
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stuff to toss, and they assured me it was only
a few things. We left for the day, came back
and the whole thing is almost filled with random crap.
We aren't even sure we can fit anything past normal
trash in it now. My husband went to tell them
to knock it off as they were bringing more stuff out.
But now that we can't use it for our purposes,
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I think they should pay for the dumpster so we
can get a new one. He doesn't want to cause
a fuzz, but I feel like they took advantage. Am
I overreacting for wanting them to pay for the dumpster? No,
w P, I don't think you're overreacting. I think you
have two choices. One you give them a bill, or
two you take out the stuff from the dumpster and
put it on their front lawn. What do you guys think?
(18:03):
Let me know in the comments section and let's check
out the community comments. Sha Gail says, if they won't
pay for it, take it out and set it in
their yard. I know it's drastic, but you did make
it clear. My Lady Bits says, learn this lesson when
we are done with ouur cleaning out. If there is
any room left, that would be fine. We will let
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you know when we are done. Yep, that's a good lesson.
And someone random double seven says they abused your consent.
You will have fun with them for some time. I'd
return most of it to their yard, along with the
name and number of your skip company. You clearly need
to get your own skip and to not abuse the
kindness of your new neighbors. All right, Well, the community
(18:49):
agrees that it'll be is not overreacting, and many had
the same idea. Just put their crap in their front lawn.
Now let's move on to the update to see how
this story ends. Thank you for your feedback. My husband agrees.
After we talked and went to talk to them again,
he asked them to take some stuff out, specific and
few filing cabinets and the giant TV from the eighties
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and other giant pieces of furniture taking up all the space.
His thought was they are super elderly and two other
neighbors were helping them clean out the house. My thing is,
since we moved here, they have taking advantage of our
kindness a few times and pushed it a bit in ways.
That I feel are inappropriate. Either way, there are pulling
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stuff out and if we still can't fit our thanks,
we are going to ask them to cover at least
half thanks. Again, we will be It sounds like a
good resolution. Still, I would take out all their stuff
and like that commenter said, once you guys are done,
they can put back the tracks that they can fit.
So here's wishing you all the best in your move wipe.
Thanks for sharing and take care, and that's it for
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Hi everybody, and welcome back to Lost Genre Reddit stories
and just a quick and short reminder about my other channel,
LG Classics only stories and updates to give them a
second wind. If you're curious, The link is in the description.
Now let's get started. This post is from the subredded
Amighty a Whole and it's by user large Challenge sixty
four forty two. Am I the a hole for telling
(00:26):
my husband to book a hotel for us while we
attend my sister in law's wedding rather than share accommodations
with his family. My husband and I are going to
be traveling soon to attend his sister's wedding along with
our one year old son. The plan was that we
would land at his parents' place and attend one of
the wedding ceremonies there. A few days after that, there's
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another wedding reception in my sister in law's soon to
be husband's city. My in laws plan to book a
few train compartments for the entire family and in airbnb
for the state there two to three days. I really
don't want to be in a confined space with my
in laws for that long, especially with my son. My
in laws and I used to be cordial with each
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other until my son was born. A few weeks after delivery,
my mother in law and sister in law visited us
to help. All they did was just find any opportunity
to hold him, regardless of whether he was asleep or
in my arms, criticizing me for being too clingy with
him when I would put my foot down and basically
started locking myself in my room with him. They'd also
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lament how poor my cooking was and how sorry they
felt for their poor son or brother who had to
endure it, until both my husband and I had had enough,
and my husband hinted heavily that they had overstayed their welcome.
Since then, I get hounded for not sending enough pictures
and videos of my son and how I dress him.
I'm so grateful we're far enough away that we see
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them rarely. I old my husband a couple of days
ago that I'd rather we just fly from his parents'
place to the other city and just stay at a
hotel while we attend to the second ceremony. My husband
said that would make us look snobbish, that he himself
wasn't over the moon about the whole itinerary, but it
was a family event and we should be with family.
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The fact that he wasn't into it frustrated me even
more because like, we're all making ourselves uncomfortable for what.
Then we got into an argument his mother and sisters
stay got rehashed, and I told him he was choosing
to make me uncomfortable rather than potentially risk his family
being affronted. Am I the a whole? No, OPI, I
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don't think you're the a hole. And regardless of how
his family treats you, or how insulting or overbearing they are,
you still have the right to not want to take
a train to another city and just fly and get
a hotel. To me, the family thing are the ceremonies, right,
not the train ride. Now. I know kids are not
the same, but I do remember taking a train ride
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with my daughter when she was two and a half
years old, and it was only a four hour train ride,
and by hour or two she was done. So a
one year old for a whole day in a train,
I don't know how that would play out, to be honest, OPI,
I think you need to sit down with your husband
and have a proper conversation about this. If he's not
over the moon to be with his family, then he
should be able to see your point and just take
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the flight. And what do you guys think? Let me
know in the comments section, and now let's move on
to the community comments. Foundation Wrong says, not the a hole.
Put your foot down. Point out that you, he and
baby are a family of your own. You don't want
to get ameshed in the passive aggressive bs. He needs
to say, hey, we decided to give you guys more
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space and sort out our own accommodation. Junior can be
cranky and we don't want to spoil your peace. We
will see you all at the functions. Make it a declaration,
not a request. And Dopy responds this, this would be
a really way to put it. Knowing my in laws,
they'll probably still feel insulted. But I'll tell my husband
this is how we should put it across. Thank you.
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Shaggy Maggie loves Pat says, not the a hole. While
it is a family event, being locked in with family
for the train ride and then in an airbnb will
be very uncomfortable for everyone. Since you have a one
year old, they need routine and peace and quiet to rest,
and your family will want to pass him around and
he will end up possibly sick. It's fine to have
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him visit with family for a reasonable amount of time,
but he needs time to nap and play without the overstimulation.
Use him as your reason for the alternate trip plans,
and advise the family that you would feel horrible if
his crying ruined everyone's time. You can even let them
know he is teething or starting his terrible twos, early
possessed by a demon, so there is no pushback. If
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your husband really wants to stay with the family, let
him know he will be in charge of the cranky
one year old and you will be in another car
getting a nap in yourself and forever forget Avil says
not the Ahle. Let your husband spend time with his family,
make the flight and hotel arrangements for yourself and your son.
Let him deal with the fallout. They already treat you poorly.
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Who cares if they think you're a snob. You are
never going to be good enough for their son or brother.
Why bother trying to keep the peace, as so many
people love to make others do. They didn't care about
offending you, but crap talking whilst you recovered from birth,
which what the f They would not have eaten if
it was me, because I would not have cooked for
them both now and before. Your husband failed. You do
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what you want and let him do as he sees fit.
Maybe don't bother going at all. Your sister in law
doesn't seem to like you, why bother supporting her? And
Opie responds, thank you so much. I'm really glad to
read the comments here. His comment about it coming across
as snobbish had given me a bit of pause. But honestly,
the train trip and the three days at the airbnb
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have been on my mind this entire time. I'm going
to take the flight there, even if my husband wants
to take the train. I really want the three of
us to stay at the hotel together, though I'm going
to insist that we stay at a hotel again. Additional
information from Opie's comments, the train ride is twenty two
hours long. A flight would be an hour and forty
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five minutes. Just thinking about that twenty two hour train
rideer is stressing me out. Also, my son's the first
grandchild on both sides of the family, and when my
husband confronted my mother in law when she came to help.
We'd made it known that she'd overstepped lines when we
politely but firmly suggested it was time for her to
go back when she'd stayed over. But that hasn't stopped
(06:40):
her from being overbearing regarding pictures and what he wears
and what he eats, though, so I don't even know
if it's worth the trouble anymore. All Right, Well, the
community agrees that UPI is not the equal and that
she needs to talk to her husband, which she will.
So now let's move on to the update to see
how this story ends. Reading the comments in my original post,
(07:02):
I had decided that taking the flight with my son
rather than the train was non negotiable, and I hoped
to convince my husband for the three of us to
stay at a hotel. I brought up the topic with
him again and said that a twenty two hour train
ride wasn't fair to our son. He's been doing really
well recently with a sleep cycle, and messing that up
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for my in laws sake wasn't right. Regardless of what
they ended up thinking, I was firm about it. My
husband finally agreed I thought it meant my son and
I would be taking the flight and my husband to
the train, but he said he'd be taking the flight
with us. He said the long train ride would be
horrible for him without us, and that his family would
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bring up me taking the plane and he didn't want
to be around for that. I was really happy and
decided to bring up hotel accommodations, and he agreed to
that too, saying that his family were already going to
be mad at us for taking the flight, so at
this point we might as well make ourselves comfortable. When
he told his parents about this, they did not take
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it well. My mother in law complained about how everyone
was looking forward to playing with and entertaining our son,
that it was a family event and it wouldn't be
fun without us. She even suggested to him that I
could take the plane and my husband and son take
the train, but my husband shut that down, said our
son doesn't react well to having his normal routine disrupted,
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and we'd see them there, so that's that this has
been such a weight off my shoulders. Since we're taking
the flight, will be there a day before everyone else,
and can tour the city by ourselves. I also hope
we can avoid having to go to the airbnb for everything,
Like they're going to expect us to have breakfast, lunch,
and dinner with them, but I'll rather we do our
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own thing for the meals, at least breakfast. But still,
this has been such a relief. Thank you to all
of those who gave me advice in the original post Willoughby,
I guess this is great news. You got exactly what
you wanted and it is the best for you three.
Now you get to tour a city just with your
husband and your son and enjoy your time. You don't
need to spend twenty two hours in a train with
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your in laws anymore, and it's just an hour and
forty five minute flight. So on that note, here's wishing
you the best, Topee. Thanks so much for sharing and
to take care. And now let's move on to the
next post that also has an update. This post is
from the subreddit am I the a Whole? Would I
be the Ahle Public and it's by user nosy friend group.
Am I the Ahle for not having non alcoholic drinks
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ready when my pregnant friend showed up unannounced. So last
night my family and I were just hanging out, having
a few drinks. Nothing wild. I sent my brand Lachlan
twenty one mail a snap of everyone chilling around to
the table, music playing, you know, just the usual. We
often send each other random updates like that, so it
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was nothing special. About thirty minutes later, Lachlan shows up
at my place out of the blue. This is fine
because I've known him for twelve years and we've got
this open door thing going on. But he brought his girlfriend,
Summer twenty two female with him. I've met Summer a
few times, maybe five before this, and I think she's cool.
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We even text regularly. Since she's got a seven month
old baby and doesn't go out much. I knew she
was pregnant because she told me so. When Lachlan crept
open a drink, I offered to get her something non alcoholic,
even suggested I'd go buy her something so she wouldn't
feel left out. She said it was fine and that
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she didn't need anything. I asked a couple more times
throughout the night, just to make sure, but she kept
saying no. Eventually, they left around midnight and we all
went to bed. The next day, I found out Summer's
upset because she felt it was rude that we didn't
already have something for her. She said my offer to
go grab something felt like a last minute attempt and
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that it wasn't really thought out. I was honestly confused
because I didn't know they were coming. If they had
given me a heads up, I would have planned ahead
and made sure she'd had something to drink. Now, some
of my friends are saying it was inconsiderate and rude
of me to not have something ready for her, And
I'm just like, how was I supposed to know? I
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offered multiple times, but they showed up unannounced. So am
I the ahle for not having something non alcoholic ready
when summer came over unexpectedly? No? Well be of course
not unless you've got a crystal ball that actually works.
How were you supposed to know she was coming by
completely unannounced? And now she's upset because you didn't have
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something for her to drink. Also, unless you guys drink
from a well, she could have tap water, right. I mean,
I don't know, but I'm assuming she can now, considering
that you text often with her, maybe you could clear
out the air with her and just tell her. Look,
I didn't know you were coming. I'm sorry, but that's
as far as i'd go. What do you guys think?
Let me know in the comment section, and now let's
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check out the community comments. Literary World says, is some
are aware they weren't actually invited. I would make sure
this isn't a misunderstanding on her part. At least. The
friends saying you're the A hole are weird for sure.
Lough and Opie responds, I think I made it pretty obvious.
I wasn't expecting either of them to show up when
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I opened the door. I asked them what they were doing,
and was pretty surprised to see them. Lachlan said they
were in the area and thought they'd chew up for
a bit. He could have told her something else, though.
I was going to ask her directly, but it ended
up involving all of our mutual friends too, which Bruce
seven says, of course, not the a hole. She arrived unexpectedly.
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You offered several times to go get her something from
the store. She said she was fine, Then she got
upset when you weren't using your esp like. You should
have known that by sending one friend a picture he
would bring her uninvited expecting refreshments. She needs to use
her voice to say what she wants or to accept
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things the way they are, unless she's just looking for
things to be offended about. And the fox that rocks
says shut that open door. Clearly they don't know how
to use it. Imagine showing up somewhere unannounced and expect
people to be prepared for your arrival, not the ahole
Opie said it. I'm not sure if this is important,
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but I see a lot of the female best friend
issues post. I am a girl female twenty, I'm a lesbian,
and I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for
the last five years, something both Lachlan and Summer are
aware of, and they've both met her before too. Also,
this was a family gathering because it's my sister's birthday
next week and we do have non alcoholic drinks in
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the house. I offered her what we had from the kitchen, juice, water,
and soda, to which she all turned down. Then I
offered to go buy something specific if she didn't like
what we already had. I didn't see it as a
big deal because I was already getting everyone food too,
which is also why I personally don't think I was
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being inconsiderate because I even went out of my way
to buy them food too. I don't know why it
had to turn into a thing that all of our
friends also knew about and had opinions on. I've never
gotten a vibe from her that she doesn't like me before.
When we text, she's usually fine and she wants to
make plans to go out together. But lately she's just
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seemed really off and withdrawn. And while I'm a bit
offended by this incident, I'm more worried about her and
the random shift. Anyway, I've left her a message so
hopefully we can clear everything up directly. So the community
agrees that Opie is not the Ahle, and they have
raised some proper questions regarding whether Summer knew or didn't
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know that it was like an impromptu thing, and Opie
reached out to try to clear things up. So let's
move on to the update to see how this story ends. Hey,
so I shot some of a text last night, and
as a lot of people suspected, no, she wasn't a
where it was a spontaneous visit and had assumed when
they showed up and everyone was surprised that we didn't
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want her there. In particular, she told me Lachland didn't
tell her there wasn't an invite. He just told her
there was a party. When they arrived and I looked
shocked that they were there. She assumed I didn't want
to see her, and that put her off. I made
it clear that it wasn't the case, and that I
thought she had a problem with me, since she was
all closed off and then telling people there was nothing
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to drink for her long story showed it was a misunderstanding,
and we cleared the air, putting myself in her place.
I can see why she would have felt left out,
since she was under the impression they were both invited
and I'd just intentionally had nothing out for her. She
essentially felt othered or outcasted in the whole thing, and
was embarrassed. Also. She started telling me that Lachlan and
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her are having relationship issues, and apparently our plan has
been exceedingly disrespectful or dismissive to her, so it's all
just been piling up. I don't know if I'm being
too overly involved or not, but I did offer to
be there if she wanted to have a conversation with
him and didn't want to do it alone. She said
she'd feel comfortable with that, but doesn't think he'd agreed.
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So that's where we're at. I'm glad we could at
least sort that part out. Well. It was a misunderstanding
and you were able to clear the air. As you say,
maybe the relationship thing is something you don't necessarily need
to stick yourself into. But the good thing is that
you guys are okay. So here's reaching you the best ope.
Thanks for sharing and to take care. And now let's
(16:39):
finish this video with another post that has an update.
This post is from this subredded am I overreacting, and
it's by user curtain Drop. Am I overreacting. Our neighbors
failed our entire rented dumpster, and I want them to
pay for it. We rented a ten foot dumpster so
(16:59):
we could clean out our house to move. We rented
it for a week, have had it less than two
days and haven't had a chance to start throwing bigger
stuff in it. Our neighbors asked if they could throw
a thing or two in and we said sure, because
we aren't going to fill it anyway. I even said
just please don't fill it. We have a lot of
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stuff to toss, and they assured me it was only
a few things. We left for the day, came back
and the whole thing is almost filled with random crap.
We aren't even sure we can fit anything past normal
trash in it now. My husband went to tell them
to knock it off as they were bringing more stuff out.
But now that we can't use it for our purposes,
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I think they should pay for the dumpster so we
can get a new one. He doesn't want to cause
a fuzz, but I feel like they took advantage. Am
I overreacting for wanting them to pay for the dumpster? No,
w P, I don't think you're overreacting. I think you
have two choices. One you give them a bill, or
two you take out the stuff from the dumpster and
put it on their front lawn. What do you guys think?
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Let me know in the comments section and let's check
out the community comments. Sha Gail says, if they won't
pay for it, take it out and set it in
their yard. I know it's drastic, but you did make
it clear. My Lady Bits says, learn this lesson when
we are done with ouur cleaning out. If there is
any room left, that would be fine. We will let
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you know when we are done. Yep, that's a good lesson.
And someone random double seven says they abused your consent.
You will have fun with them for some time. I'd
return most of it to their yard, along with the
name and number of your skip company. You clearly need
to get your own skip and to not abuse the
kindness of your new neighbors. All right, Well, the community
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agrees that it'll be is not overreacting, and many had
the same idea. Just put their crap in their front lawn.
Now let's move on to the update to see how
this story ends. Thank you for your feedback. My husband agrees.
After we talked and went to talk to them again,
he asked them to take some stuff out, specific and
few filing cabinets and the giant TV from the eighties
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and other giant pieces of furniture taking up all the space.
His thought was they are super elderly and two other
neighbors were helping them clean out the house. My thing is,
since we moved here, they have taking advantage of our
kindness a few times and pushed it a bit in ways.
That I feel are inappropriate. Either way, there are pulling
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stuff out and if we still can't fit our thanks,
we are going to ask them to cover at least
half thanks. Again, we will be It sounds like a
good resolution. Still, I would take out all their stuff
and like that commenter said, once you guys are done,
they can put back the tracks that they can fit.
So here's wishing you all the best in your move wipe.
Thanks for sharing and take care, and that's it for
(19:55):
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