October 9, 2025 • 21 mins
Relationship Stories - OP’s husband secretly sent private photos to a woman he met online. When she began extorting him, he drained their life savings trying to keep her quiet—until she exposed everything, leaving OP heartbroken, broke, and ready to leave.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi everybody, and welcome back to lost genre reddit stories.
This post is from the subreddit True of My Chest,
and it's by user throw me Away Shame four four four.
My husband being the victim of revenge smut has destroyed
our marriage. Ever since this happened, I've been sick. My
female twenty nine husband male thirty, has been the victim
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of revenge smut. Images of him were sent to our
family and friends, and even some of my husband's colleagues.
At first, my husband told me they were old images
from before we met, but some of them were taken
in our flat, the flat we moved into together. Afterward,
he admitted the images are recent. He met a woman
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on an online dating app, and he said after they
exchanged photos, she began extorting him. He's been paying her
from our savings account behind my back. He paid her
fifty five hundred pounds once he had no more to give,
she went through with her threat and released the photos.
It has been devastating going through the fallout from this,
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not just that my husband was on a dating app,
but that he gave her everything we had saved and
now we have nothing. The police say whoever extorted him
isn't even in this country. He swears he never met
anyone in person or cheated on me. We have been
married for two years and together for four. We are
(01:31):
saving for a down payment, and now we have nothing.
Nearly everyone we know now knows my husband was on
a dating app exchanging photos with another woman. This has
destroyed me. I'm so ashamed. My confession is that I
can't stay after this. I just had to tell someone.
Ah Hopie, I'm so sorry you're having to go through
(01:51):
this because of your idiotic husband, who will hopefully be
soon your ex husband. There's nothing salvageable here. His whole
behavior is grown. He was definitely trying to cheat on you, OPI.
You don't go on a dating app to buy groceries. Also,
this isn't revenge smut, Opie, that's a different concept. My
guess is that your husband is getting extorted by somebody
(02:11):
who knows how to use stable diffusion to lower low
judgment suckers. My point, op is that you don't have
to carry this burden because it has nothing to do
with you. This is not the behavior of a proper partner,
so he should not be your partner anymore. Get a lawyer,
cut him loose and let him deal with his own shame.
You are the victim here, not him. He's just an idiot.
(02:34):
And what do you guys think? Let me know in
the comments section, and now let's check out the community comments.
Full Gear fifty one eighty five says, because you used pounds,
I assume you're in the UK. I'm pretty sure there
are revenge smut laws there. Look into filing a police
report for the photos and the blackmail, then look into
the boorce lawyer he was cheating. Also, if you contribute
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it to that fund, somebody owes you the money back,
her or him, doesn't matter, but get that money back.
Live Watercress seventy eighth four says the title should not
be he's a victim of revenge smut. It should be
my husband ruined our marriage by cheating on me and
stole all our life savings to save his own ass.
(03:17):
You are in complete reason to leave. Easy Target says
I'm sorry that your husband hurt you emotionally and financially. However,
I don't think your husband is a victim of revenge smut.
He fell for an internet scam. The person he was
exchanging nudes with is probably a dude living in Nigeria,
India or Cambodia. He did go in with the intent
(03:37):
of cheating, so he's not a victim. In my book,
you are psychological Yak sixty two sixty nine says, The
thing that breaks my heart for you most is that
this probably was not the first time or only person.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
If he was on multiple dating apps, what are.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
The odds he was blackmailed the first time, OPI. This
is not your fault, This is all him. I hope
you find someone to confide in that you trust to
help guide you through this and suing Mama says, your
husband is not a victim.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
He is a cheater.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
He abandoned you and your marriage vows. He was not victimized.
He did this on his own. He drained your savings
to pay a random woman on a dating app. He
is not a victim. He sent those photos willingly. You
are wise not to stay. Kick him out, don't leave
your home, make him do so. You have nothing to
be ashamed of. The community agree that it's all on
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the husband and that Opie shouldn't be going through any
of this and that she.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
Should just drop him. So now let's move on.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
To the update to see how this story ends. Before
I give my update, I want to address some things
from my previous post. I mentioned in my previous post
that I couldn't stay in my marriage.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
I don't know why I got.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
Comments saying I needed to leave him, or asking me
why I'm staying after what he did, or messages calling
me a doormat and other names that I won't say here.
I am not staying. I am going to get a divorce.
I never said anywhere that my husband didn't cheat on me.
He said that he didn't meet anyone in.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Person or cheat on me.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
I don't believe him, and regardless of if he met
anyone or not, I consider being on dating apps to
be cheating. I'm not sure why I got comment saying
I'm an idiot or acting like a fool, or am wrong,
or messages saying the same thing. I never stated anywhere
that he didn't cheat. I used the term revenge smut
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because it was the term used by both the police
and the solicitor my husband consulted. English is not my
first language, and when speaking to both the police and
the solicitor, and on all the paperwork, it was called
revenge smut, so it was my belief this was the
English term. With English not being my mother language and
it being a time of stress, I may have used
(05:55):
the wrong words in my post, such as revenge, smut,
and down payment. I'm not AI or someone making up
the story. This is happening to me. I got a
comment and some messages calling me AI or a bot.
I posted a reply to the comment to prove I
am not a bot. I am a person. This is
the post that OPI is referring to. I have turned
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off the option to receive messages to avoid more bad ones.
Now this is my update. I have left my husband,
just as I said I was going to do. I
moved out of our flat on Saturday and I have
his solicitor hired. I have begun the process to get
a divorce from my husband. I will not be changing
my mind. My husband is upset and he begged me
(06:38):
not to leave him. He keeps saying he is a
victim and I am leaving him in the worst time
of his life. He is having trouble with his career
because the intimate photos and messages were sent to everyone
on his LinkedIn. He might be a victim of the
person he met on the dating app. But I am
not leaving him because he is a victim. I am
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leaving him because he was on a dating app, messaging
others and exchanging intimate photos, and because he took fifty
five hundred pounds from our savings and left us with nothing.
I consider both of those things reasons to get a divorce.
Divorce in the UK is only no fault, so anything
my husband did is not considered in the divorce. My
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solicitor told me she will try to see if I
can recover some of the money that my husband took,
but otherwise, his being on a dating app or anything
else from his behavior is not relevant to the divorce.
My solicitor says I will most likely not have to
pay spousal maintenance because I have only been married for
two years.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
She will try to get back the money he took.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
I have told my husband there's no reason for us
to speak or see each other again. I moved out
and want a divorce. There is nothing else to say,
and I plugged him. I will not change my mind
about this. My thanks to all of you who were
nice to me and didn't call me name or sent messages.
I do appreciate it. This was my update. Well, OPI,
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you are making the right decision. I hope your attorney
is able to retrieve some of that money back for you,
but I wouldn't hold my breath on that because your
husband did give it out willingly from an account you
both share. I'm assuming, but then again, I'm not a lawyer,
so this is just speculation in any case, OPI, here's
wishing you the best in the future. Thanks so much
(08:26):
for sharing and take care and now let's move on
to the next post that also has an update. This
post is from the separated Amighty a Hole and it's
by user Okay Barrakuda fifty sixty. Am I the ahle
for buying my niece two pairs of glasses and letting
her get contacts.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
I have a twelve year.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
Old niece, Hailey. Hailey lives with her dad, step mom,
and four younger step siblings, two boys two girls. Don't
know the exact ages, but they seem to be between
five and ten. Her mom passed away when she was three.
Hailey's and stepmom are not well off. They live in
a three bedroom house, so Hailey shares a room with
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her stepsisters. The kids get one pair of shoes, reuse
school supplies until they're falling apart, and if their clothes
still fit, they don't get new school clothes. I am
doing a lot better, but I refuse to help him
with money because if I give him money with the
direct instructions to get Hayley some decent shoes or a
nice jacket, I expect the money to be used on Hailey,
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not split between all five kids. He also dislikes me
because he blames me for CPS investigating him and his
wife for leaving the kids home alone every day. Haley
stays with me after school and sleeps over a few
nights a week because I won't drop her off if
there's not an adult present, and I told her not
to get on the bus under any circumstances so they
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can't tell her. I wanted her to take the bus
home that day so Haley and two of her step
siblings needed glasses. He was able to take Hailey for
her eye exam and to get the glasses, so they
asked me to take her and gave me one hundred
dollars with the instructions to get the cheapest pair we
can find. I was driving Hailey to the eye doctor,
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and she told me she really wanted contacts, but her
dad said no. I talked to the receptionist and they
were able to get her in for a contact fitting
that day. After her eye contact appointment, we checked out
the glasses and she found two pairs that she really liked,
so I told her to get both. I took her
back after school a few days later and picked up
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a few boxes of contacts. Her new glasses came in
a few days ago and she loves them, but her
dad is furious about the glasses. Then he found out
about the contacts. I guess Hailey was keeping them in
her backpack and never told them about it. So he
told her she gets to keep one pair of glasses
and everything else has to stay at my house because
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he's sick of me, and Hailey rubbed her stuff in
her step siblings' faces. Hailey responded by packing most of
her stuff and walking to my house. Now she's refusing
to go home. CPS came for another investigation and was
told by the kids that Hailey doesn't live there anymore,
which is not helping my brother in law's case. Now,
(11:19):
my brother in law wants me to make Hayley come
back and stop spoiling her so she won't rub it
in her siblings' faces anymore. Her rubbing it in their
faces means she put both pairs of glasses on her dresser,
but it wasn't fair because the other kids could see it.
Am I the ahle for getting her contacts and two
pairs of glasses? Well, OPI, I don't think you're an
(11:41):
a hole for taking care of your niece, and I
feel bad for all of those kids in that house.
That said, the only question I have is did you
pay for those two pairs of glasses and contact lenses
with one hundred dollars that your brother in law gave you.
If the answer is yes, then I would unfortunately have
to say yeah, you would be the a hole for that,
because yes, even though you don't like the way your
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brother in law is doing things and we don't know
the full story, that was his money, and with that money,
she was still going to get glasses. Now, if the
additional pair of glasses, or the two pairs of glasses
and the contacts came straight out of your pocket, then
I'd have no problem with that. And of course you
are not the a whole the whole family situation in CPS.
That's another story altogether. And like I said, I feel
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really bad for all the kids in that house.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
And what do you guys think?
Speaker 1 (12:28):
Let me know in the comments section, and now let's
check out the community comments.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
Chocolate Chip Wizard says.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
You realize that your brother in law and his wife
are collecting a Social Security survivor benefit check for caring
for your niece. Right if she's staying with you, he
should not be claiming that check, okay. Illustrator seven four
four five says, not the a whole. Hailey's mom is dead.
The step siblings have a living mom. As someone whose
mom died while I was growing up, I can say
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that having a living mom is way better than two
pairs of glasses. But Ailey did not get to choose
about her mom. Let her have the glasses and contacts.
It is a very small consolation. Mss Aanda Regrets says,
not the a whole. You're doing what her mother can't.
It's not her fault. Her father decided to take on
a litter of children and make her suffer for his choices.
(13:20):
Someone correct me if I'm wrong. But I was told
that contacts slow the progression of eyesight degradation. I can't
wear them, but really wish i'd been able to.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
Good for you, OPI.
Speaker 1 (13:31):
Kids deserve someone in their corner. It's too bad the
steps don't have that. But it's not your problem. I'm
not trying to sound cruel. It's just a harsh fact
of reality.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
No proof.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
Thirty two oh one says, not the a whole sounds
like you should also file for full custody, and Opie
responds they won't give it to me willingly, and they're
in the middle of a CPS investigation at the moment,
so it would make officially getting custody tricky. CPS is
aware that she's currently staying with me and that she
was previously sleeping over three to four days a week,
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was here every day after school, and came over most
weekends to avoid being home with four young children. Dr
Tennis thirteen says, did you pay for everything yourself or
did you use the one hundred dollars your brother in
law gave you and paid the difference. Not that it
makes their behavior any better, but you could have paid
for all of the supplies and given him the hundred
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dollars back to help defray the costs of the other
kids' classes. Also, assuming that since Hailey's dad is your
brother in law, that it was your sister that passed away,
keep being there for Haley. It sounds as if her
parents are leaving the kids home alone that she is
expected to take care of them. And Opie response, I
paid for everything myself and had Hailey give him the
(14:48):
money back. Hailey doesn't care for her step siblings because
I pick her up from school and told her dad
I will not drop her off unless there's an adult present,
and because she knows to walk or ride a bike
to my house if they leave on weekends. Well, the
community agrees that Opi is not the Ahle, and she
cleared in that last comment that she did pay for
everything herself and gave the money back. So absolutely not
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the Aqle in my opinion. Now let's move on to
the update to see how this story ends. Hailey has
been in the hospital since Saturday for either alterative collidis
or crones. Her health insurance pretty much only lets her
go to the county hospital and medical centers, and even
this is going to get expensive. On top of Haley's
stomach situation, she also has type one diabetes and ADHD.
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The ADHD is currently not being treated. We live twenty
minutes away from one of the best children's hospital in
the country for both GI and diabetes. They also have
a great psyche department and ADHD clinic. This would be
covered under my insurance. Thirty five minutes in the other
direction is another world renowned children's hospital that I would
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be able to send her to. So I sat Hailey's
dad down the other day and showed him how much
I was paying each month for Haley, between her health
insurance premiums, her insulin monitor and pump, her EpiPens, doctor's appointments,
et cetera. And told them that I refuse to continue
to pay out of the ass for her to receive
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medical care that is subpar at best, when if I
was Aguardian, she would get some of the best care
possible for less than what I'm paying now. After a
long discussion and a lot of back and forth, he
agreed to give me guardianship of Hailey. We started the
process yesterday. She will live with me, but we'll see
her dad every other weekend and holiday. We talked to
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Haley about it today. She is very excited. To officially
live with me. When I get guardianship, I'm able to
put Haley on my insurance. Putting Haley on my insurance
gives her access to a world class medical care for
less than what I'm currently paying now, apart from what
I'm all ready paying for her health. I additionally contribute
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towards her father's mortgage. I occasionally help with utilities. I've
sent grocery gift cards to the house before. This man
is not able to provide for his daughter, and I
was sick of paying this much for her to still
not be adequately cared for.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
Well.
Speaker 1 (17:19):
Op, I gotta say these are great news, of course,
not Hailey being in the hospital, but the fact that
you are going to get the guardianship or that you've
started the process already. So hopefully that whole process is
a breeze and Hailey gets to live with you soon.
So on that note, here's swishing you and Ailey the
best in the future. Ope, thanks so much for sharing it.
To take care, and now let's finish this video with
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a mood booster post. This post is from the subreddit
malicious Compliance, and it's by user Casserole four to two
to two.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
Take you to court. Okay.
Speaker 1 (17:50):
Twas the year of Our Lord, two thousand and six,
my big sister had just started driving on her own.
My parents did as most parents did at the time,
and brought her the biggainst Pilo crap car that they
could find relatively reliable. But it was a mid eighties
gold Geo Metro. It was a beaver, rusty, dented and dinged,
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very ugly, and importantly for this story, one of the
mirrors was duck taped on one afternoon in the fading light.
She was driving to our local pizza hut to pick
up her paycheck. On that fateful day, as the sun
was going down, someone in a big black suburban type
of vehicle backed into her front driver's side pretty hard,
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so hard, in fact, that the car was completely totaled,
But luckily my sister was fine. Both parties had insurance.
They called the police to take an official report, and
my parents started the hunt for a new car. Sometime
passes and they get a letter from the suburban's insurance
agency asking for our insurance to cover the cost of
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the damage done to the suburban. The suburban driver was
alleging that my sister had been speeding through the parking
lot and was therefore at fault. This was news to them.
They grilled my sister, who swore up and down in
sideways that she was not speeding and actually that she
was going much lower than normal because as the sun
was setting, it was hitting the windshield in a way
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that made visibility difficult. After some digging, they found in
the police report the sheriff's deputy had noted that the
mirror that was duck taped on fell straight down, So
not only had my sister not been speeding, but she
was very nearly or completely stopped at the time of
the accident. My parents' insurance sent a letter back stating
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that my sister had not been for this accident and
they were willing to accept the total they had paid
for the car several months earlier, a paltry sum of
three hundred and fifty dollars. The lady who hit my
sister responded back that she would not be paying for anything,
as she was very confident that she was not at fault,
and told my parents that they would have to take
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her to small claims court. My parents responded bet and
did just that. In order to get all of the
paperwork in line for small claims court, they had to
take this crappy little geometro to an autobody shop and
get an estimation of how much it would cost to
replace the panels that this lady had totaled. Well, a
car that old was difficult to find part for and
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so they were unable to find anything to replace the
panels and the door, So they gave her a quote
for how much it would be to repair those panels
as well as replace the tire and suspension bits that
she messed up by backing into it about four thousand dollars.
Just before court, they did attempt to go to mediation
with her to attempt to get her to pay the
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three hundred and fifty they had initially bought the car for. Unfortunately,
or fortunately, she was still convinced that she was not
at fault. Long story short, my parents were awarded the
full four grant as it was determined that the lady
did not check behind her thoroughly enough before backing out
of the parking spot. And that's how my parents made
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three grand on a three hundred dollars car.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
Wow, Op, your parents were.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
Playing nice the whole time, but I guess this lady
was even nicer because she wanted to pay more. Thanks
so much for sharing, Opie. And that's it for today's video.
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Hi everybody, and welcome back to lost genre reddit stories.
This post is from the subreddit True of My Chest,
and it's by user throw me Away Shame four four four.
My husband being the victim of revenge smut has destroyed
our marriage. Ever since this happened, I've been sick. My
female twenty nine husband male thirty, has been the victim
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of revenge smut. Images of him were sent to our
family and friends, and even some of my husband's colleagues.
At first, my husband told me they were old images
from before we met, but some of them were taken
in our flat, the flat we moved into together. Afterward,
he admitted the images are recent. He met a woman
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on an online dating app, and he said after they
exchanged photos, she began extorting him. He's been paying her
from our savings account behind my back. He paid her
fifty five hundred pounds once he had no more to give,
she went through with her threat and released the photos.
It has been devastating going through the fallout from this,
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not just that my husband was on a dating app,
but that he gave her everything we had saved and
now we have nothing. The police say whoever extorted him
isn't even in this country. He swears he never met
anyone in person or cheated on me. We have been
married for two years and together for four. We are
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saving for a down payment, and now we have nothing.
Nearly everyone we know now knows my husband was on
a dating app exchanging photos with another woman. This has
destroyed me. I'm so ashamed. My confession is that I
can't stay after this. I just had to tell someone.
Ah Hopie, I'm so sorry you're having to go through
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this because of your idiotic husband, who will hopefully be
soon your ex husband. There's nothing salvageable here. His whole
behavior is grown. He was definitely trying to cheat on you, OPI.
You don't go on a dating app to buy groceries. Also,
this isn't revenge smut, Opie, that's a different concept. My
guess is that your husband is getting extorted by somebody
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who knows how to use stable diffusion to lower low
judgment suckers. My point, op is that you don't have
to carry this burden because it has nothing to do
with you. This is not the behavior of a proper partner,
so he should not be your partner anymore. Get a lawyer,
cut him loose and let him deal with his own shame.
You are the victim here, not him. He's just an idiot.
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And what do you guys think? Let me know in
the comments section, and now let's check out the community comments.
Full Gear fifty one eighty five says, because you used pounds,
I assume you're in the UK. I'm pretty sure there
are revenge smut laws there. Look into filing a police
report for the photos and the blackmail, then look into
the boorce lawyer he was cheating. Also, if you contribute
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it to that fund, somebody owes you the money back,
her or him, doesn't matter, but get that money back.
Live Watercress seventy eighth four says the title should not
be he's a victim of revenge smut. It should be
my husband ruined our marriage by cheating on me and
stole all our life savings to save his own ass.
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You are in complete reason to leave. Easy Target says
I'm sorry that your husband hurt you emotionally and financially. However,
I don't think your husband is a victim of revenge smut.
He fell for an internet scam. The person he was
exchanging nudes with is probably a dude living in Nigeria,
India or Cambodia. He did go in with the intent
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of cheating, so he's not a victim. In my book,
you are psychological Yak sixty two sixty nine says, The
thing that breaks my heart for you most is that
this probably was not the first time or only person.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
If he was on multiple dating apps, what are.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
The odds he was blackmailed the first time, OPI. This
is not your fault, This is all him. I hope
you find someone to confide in that you trust to
help guide you through this and suing Mama says, your
husband is not a victim.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
He is a cheater.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
He abandoned you and your marriage vows. He was not victimized.
He did this on his own. He drained your savings
to pay a random woman on a dating app. He
is not a victim. He sent those photos willingly. You
are wise not to stay. Kick him out, don't leave
your home, make him do so. You have nothing to
be ashamed of. The community agree that it's all on
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the husband and that Opie shouldn't be going through any
of this and that she.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
Should just drop him. So now let's move on.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
To the update to see how this story ends. Before
I give my update, I want to address some things
from my previous post. I mentioned in my previous post
that I couldn't stay in my marriage.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
I don't know why I got.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
Comments saying I needed to leave him, or asking me
why I'm staying after what he did, or messages calling
me a doormat and other names that I won't say here.
I am not staying. I am going to get a divorce.
I never said anywhere that my husband didn't cheat on me.
He said that he didn't meet anyone in.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Person or cheat on me.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
I don't believe him, and regardless of if he met
anyone or not, I consider being on dating apps to
be cheating. I'm not sure why I got comment saying
I'm an idiot or acting like a fool, or am wrong,
or messages saying the same thing. I never stated anywhere
that he didn't cheat. I used the term revenge smut
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because it was the term used by both the police
and the solicitor my husband consulted. English is not my
first language, and when speaking to both the police and
the solicitor, and on all the paperwork, it was called
revenge smut, so it was my belief this was the
English term. With English not being my mother language and
it being a time of stress, I may have used
(05:55):
the wrong words in my post, such as revenge, smut,
and down payment. I'm not AI or someone making up
the story. This is happening to me. I got a
comment and some messages calling me AI or a bot.
I posted a reply to the comment to prove I
am not a bot. I am a person. This is
the post that OPI is referring to. I have turned
(06:17):
off the option to receive messages to avoid more bad ones.
Now this is my update. I have left my husband,
just as I said I was going to do. I
moved out of our flat on Saturday and I have
his solicitor hired. I have begun the process to get
a divorce from my husband. I will not be changing
my mind. My husband is upset and he begged me
(06:38):
not to leave him. He keeps saying he is a
victim and I am leaving him in the worst time
of his life. He is having trouble with his career
because the intimate photos and messages were sent to everyone
on his LinkedIn. He might be a victim of the
person he met on the dating app. But I am
not leaving him because he is a victim. I am
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leaving him because he was on a dating app, messaging
others and exchanging intimate photos, and because he took fifty
five hundred pounds from our savings and left us with nothing.
I consider both of those things reasons to get a divorce.
Divorce in the UK is only no fault, so anything
my husband did is not considered in the divorce. My
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solicitor told me she will try to see if I
can recover some of the money that my husband took,
but otherwise, his being on a dating app or anything
else from his behavior is not relevant to the divorce.
My solicitor says I will most likely not have to
pay spousal maintenance because I have only been married for
two years.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
She will try to get back the money he took.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
I have told my husband there's no reason for us
to speak or see each other again. I moved out
and want a divorce. There is nothing else to say,
and I plugged him. I will not change my mind
about this. My thanks to all of you who were
nice to me and didn't call me name or sent messages.
I do appreciate it. This was my update. Well, OPI,
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you are making the right decision. I hope your attorney
is able to retrieve some of that money back for you,
but I wouldn't hold my breath on that because your
husband did give it out willingly from an account you
both share. I'm assuming, but then again, I'm not a lawyer,
so this is just speculation in any case, OPI, here's
wishing you the best in the future. Thanks so much
(08:26):
for sharing and take care and now let's move on
to the next post that also has an update. This
post is from the separated Amighty a Hole and it's
by user Okay Barrakuda fifty sixty. Am I the ahle
for buying my niece two pairs of glasses and letting
her get contacts.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
I have a twelve year.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
Old niece, Hailey. Hailey lives with her dad, step mom,
and four younger step siblings, two boys two girls. Don't
know the exact ages, but they seem to be between
five and ten. Her mom passed away when she was three.
Hailey's and stepmom are not well off. They live in
a three bedroom house, so Hailey shares a room with
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her stepsisters. The kids get one pair of shoes, reuse
school supplies until they're falling apart, and if their clothes
still fit, they don't get new school clothes. I am
doing a lot better, but I refuse to help him
with money because if I give him money with the
direct instructions to get Hayley some decent shoes or a
nice jacket, I expect the money to be used on Hailey,
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not split between all five kids. He also dislikes me
because he blames me for CPS investigating him and his
wife for leaving the kids home alone every day. Haley
stays with me after school and sleeps over a few
nights a week because I won't drop her off if
there's not an adult present, and I told her not
to get on the bus under any circumstances so they
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can't tell her. I wanted her to take the bus
home that day so Haley and two of her step
siblings needed glasses. He was able to take Hailey for
her eye exam and to get the glasses, so they
asked me to take her and gave me one hundred
dollars with the instructions to get the cheapest pair we
can find. I was driving Hailey to the eye doctor,
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and she told me she really wanted contacts, but her
dad said no. I talked to the receptionist and they
were able to get her in for a contact fitting
that day. After her eye contact appointment, we checked out
the glasses and she found two pairs that she really liked,
so I told her to get both. I took her
back after school a few days later and picked up
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a few boxes of contacts. Her new glasses came in
a few days ago and she loves them, but her
dad is furious about the glasses. Then he found out
about the contacts. I guess Hailey was keeping them in
her backpack and never told them about it. So he
told her she gets to keep one pair of glasses
and everything else has to stay at my house because
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he's sick of me, and Hailey rubbed her stuff in
her step siblings' faces. Hailey responded by packing most of
her stuff and walking to my house. Now she's refusing
to go home. CPS came for another investigation and was
told by the kids that Hailey doesn't live there anymore,
which is not helping my brother in law's case. Now,
(11:19):
my brother in law wants me to make Hayley come
back and stop spoiling her so she won't rub it
in her siblings' faces anymore. Her rubbing it in their
faces means she put both pairs of glasses on her dresser,
but it wasn't fair because the other kids could see it.
Am I the ahle for getting her contacts and two
pairs of glasses? Well, OPI, I don't think you're an
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a hole for taking care of your niece, and I
feel bad for all of those kids in that house.
That said, the only question I have is did you
pay for those two pairs of glasses and contact lenses
with one hundred dollars that your brother in law gave you.
If the answer is yes, then I would unfortunately have
to say yeah, you would be the a hole for that,
because yes, even though you don't like the way your
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brother in law is doing things and we don't know
the full story, that was his money, and with that money,
she was still going to get glasses. Now, if the
additional pair of glasses, or the two pairs of glasses
and the contacts came straight out of your pocket, then
I'd have no problem with that. And of course you
are not the a whole the whole family situation in CPS.
That's another story altogether. And like I said, I feel
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really bad for all the kids in that house.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
And what do you guys think?
Speaker 1 (12:28):
Let me know in the comments section, and now let's
check out the community comments.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
Chocolate Chip Wizard says.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
You realize that your brother in law and his wife
are collecting a Social Security survivor benefit check for caring
for your niece. Right if she's staying with you, he
should not be claiming that check, okay. Illustrator seven four
four five says, not the a whole. Hailey's mom is dead.
The step siblings have a living mom. As someone whose
mom died while I was growing up, I can say
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that having a living mom is way better than two
pairs of glasses. But Ailey did not get to choose
about her mom. Let her have the glasses and contacts.
It is a very small consolation. Mss Aanda Regrets says,
not the a whole. You're doing what her mother can't.
It's not her fault. Her father decided to take on
a litter of children and make her suffer for his choices.
(13:20):
Someone correct me if I'm wrong. But I was told
that contacts slow the progression of eyesight degradation. I can't
wear them, but really wish i'd been able to.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
Good for you, OPI.
Speaker 1 (13:31):
Kids deserve someone in their corner. It's too bad the
steps don't have that. But it's not your problem. I'm
not trying to sound cruel. It's just a harsh fact
of reality.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
No proof.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
Thirty two oh one says, not the a whole sounds
like you should also file for full custody, and Opie
responds they won't give it to me willingly, and they're
in the middle of a CPS investigation at the moment,
so it would make officially getting custody tricky. CPS is
aware that she's currently staying with me and that she
was previously sleeping over three to four days a week,
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was here every day after school, and came over most
weekends to avoid being home with four young children. Dr
Tennis thirteen says, did you pay for everything yourself or
did you use the one hundred dollars your brother in
law gave you and paid the difference. Not that it
makes their behavior any better, but you could have paid
for all of the supplies and given him the hundred
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dollars back to help defray the costs of the other
kids' classes. Also, assuming that since Hailey's dad is your
brother in law, that it was your sister that passed away,
keep being there for Haley. It sounds as if her
parents are leaving the kids home alone that she is
expected to take care of them. And Opie response, I
paid for everything myself and had Hailey give him the
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money back. Hailey doesn't care for her step siblings because
I pick her up from school and told her dad
I will not drop her off unless there's an adult present,
and because she knows to walk or ride a bike
to my house if they leave on weekends. Well, the
community agrees that Opi is not the Ahle, and she
cleared in that last comment that she did pay for
everything herself and gave the money back. So absolutely not
(15:11):
the Aqle in my opinion. Now let's move on to
the update to see how this story ends. Hailey has
been in the hospital since Saturday for either alterative collidis
or crones. Her health insurance pretty much only lets her
go to the county hospital and medical centers, and even
this is going to get expensive. On top of Haley's
stomach situation, she also has type one diabetes and ADHD.
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The ADHD is currently not being treated. We live twenty
minutes away from one of the best children's hospital in
the country for both GI and diabetes. They also have
a great psyche department and ADHD clinic. This would be
covered under my insurance. Thirty five minutes in the other
direction is another world renowned children's hospital that I would
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be able to send her to. So I sat Hailey's
dad down the other day and showed him how much
I was paying each month for Haley, between her health
insurance premiums, her insulin monitor and pump, her EpiPens, doctor's appointments,
et cetera. And told them that I refuse to continue
to pay out of the ass for her to receive
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medical care that is subpar at best, when if I
was Aguardian, she would get some of the best care
possible for less than what I'm paying now. After a
long discussion and a lot of back and forth, he
agreed to give me guardianship of Hailey. We started the
process yesterday. She will live with me, but we'll see
her dad every other weekend and holiday. We talked to
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Haley about it today. She is very excited. To officially
live with me. When I get guardianship, I'm able to
put Haley on my insurance. Putting Haley on my insurance
gives her access to a world class medical care for
less than what I'm currently paying now, apart from what
I'm all ready paying for her health. I additionally contribute
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towards her father's mortgage. I occasionally help with utilities. I've
sent grocery gift cards to the house before. This man
is not able to provide for his daughter, and I
was sick of paying this much for her to still
not be adequately cared for.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
Well.
Speaker 1 (17:19):
Op, I gotta say these are great news, of course,
not Hailey being in the hospital, but the fact that
you are going to get the guardianship or that you've
started the process already. So hopefully that whole process is
a breeze and Hailey gets to live with you soon.
So on that note, here's swishing you and Ailey the
best in the future. Ope, thanks so much for sharing it.
To take care, and now let's finish this video with
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a mood booster post. This post is from the subreddit
malicious Compliance, and it's by user Casserole four to two
to two.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
Take you to court. Okay.
Speaker 1 (17:50):
Twas the year of Our Lord, two thousand and six,
my big sister had just started driving on her own.
My parents did as most parents did at the time,
and brought her the biggainst Pilo crap car that they
could find relatively reliable. But it was a mid eighties
gold Geo Metro. It was a beaver, rusty, dented and dinged,
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very ugly, and importantly for this story, one of the
mirrors was duck taped on one afternoon in the fading light.
She was driving to our local pizza hut to pick
up her paycheck. On that fateful day, as the sun
was going down, someone in a big black suburban type
of vehicle backed into her front driver's side pretty hard,
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so hard, in fact, that the car was completely totaled,
But luckily my sister was fine. Both parties had insurance.
They called the police to take an official report, and
my parents started the hunt for a new car. Sometime
passes and they get a letter from the suburban's insurance
agency asking for our insurance to cover the cost of
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the damage done to the suburban. The suburban driver was
alleging that my sister had been speeding through the parking
lot and was therefore at fault. This was news to them.
They grilled my sister, who swore up and down in
sideways that she was not speeding and actually that she
was going much lower than normal because as the sun
was setting, it was hitting the windshield in a way
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that made visibility difficult. After some digging, they found in
the police report the sheriff's deputy had noted that the
mirror that was duck taped on fell straight down, So
not only had my sister not been speeding, but she
was very nearly or completely stopped at the time of
the accident. My parents' insurance sent a letter back stating
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that my sister had not been for this accident and
they were willing to accept the total they had paid
for the car several months earlier, a paltry sum of
three hundred and fifty dollars. The lady who hit my
sister responded back that she would not be paying for anything,
as she was very confident that she was not at fault,
and told my parents that they would have to take
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her to small claims court. My parents responded bet and
did just that. In order to get all of the
paperwork in line for small claims court, they had to
take this crappy little geometro to an autobody shop and
get an estimation of how much it would cost to
replace the panels that this lady had totaled. Well, a
car that old was difficult to find part for and
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so they were unable to find anything to replace the
panels and the door, So they gave her a quote
for how much it would be to repair those panels
as well as replace the tire and suspension bits that
she messed up by backing into it about four thousand dollars.
Just before court, they did attempt to go to mediation
with her to attempt to get her to pay the
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three hundred and fifty they had initially bought the car for. Unfortunately,
or fortunately, she was still convinced that she was not
at fault. Long story short, my parents were awarded the
full four grant as it was determined that the lady
did not check behind her thoroughly enough before backing out
of the parking spot. And that's how my parents made
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three grand on a three hundred dollars car.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
Wow, Op, your parents were.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
Playing nice the whole time, but I guess this lady
was even nicer because she wanted to pay more. Thanks
so much for sharing, Opie. And that's it for today's video.
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch
it now. If you've gotten to this point in the video,
I assume that you like these stories that I'm reading out,
so here are a couple more that you might enjoy.
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