August 1, 2025 • 20 mins
Relationship Stories - OP immediately ended things with her boyfriend after he confessed to cheating. But instead of supporting her, her brother—who’s been best friends with her ex since childhood—urged forgiveness, leaving OP stunned and hurt.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi everybody, and welcome back to Lost genre Reddit stories.
This post is from the Sebreddadam I the Ahu, and
it's by user communication fit thirty four ninety eight. Am
I in the wrong for not wanting to get back
with my ex because my brother said so, Hey everyone,
I'm really trying to make sense of the absolute movie
(00:25):
I've been thrown in for context. I am twenty and
I was dating my ex boyfriend twenty one for two years.
My ex is my brother's best friend from childhood, so
basically grew up with him. I always had a crush
on him, but only did something about it after high school.
When we started dating. He was my world. We were perfect.
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There wasn't a day he wasn't by my side. I
really loved him. Two weeks ago, I found out he
cheated on me with a girl at a party. He
came to me immediately afterwards, crying and asking me for forgiveness.
I shattered, literally shattered, like lass. I didn't even respond.
I grabbed my keys and left him in my own house.
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My brother called me a few hours later, saying he
heard what happened and tried to comfort me. We talked
for a while, and I told him that I'm breaking
up with him. He said that wasn't a good idea.
I couldn't believe what I was hearing. Not a good
idea that I break up with the guy who cheated
on me. He complained that my ex was his best
friend and he would be really bummed if I broke
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up with him. Like what I told him, I didn't
really care. I didn't even think he'd still want to
be friends with him after finding out he cheated on
his sister. Anyway, I'm not getting back together with him.
Don't get me wrong. I loved him a lot, but
he cheated on me, and that's a level of disrespect
I will never tolerate. My brother and I are not
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on speaking terms, and my mom is kind of on
his side. She said that he's just defending his friend.
But I'm literally his sister. So am I the a hole? No,
OPI You're not the a hole. You're the only one
here that's showing any spine. Act one, he cheated, Act two,
you left, and there's no Act three because that's the
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end of the story, no drama at all. And your brother, man,
he showed who he truly was. He chose to protect
the cheater over his sister. What a lack of character
and your mom siding with them, that's just the cherry
on top Opie. In my opinion, this isn't about a breakup.
It's about how people show up when it counts, and
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you stood up for yourself. They didn't, So OPI don't
listen to any of those a holes. You made the
right decision. And what do you guys think? Let me
know in the comments section, and now let's check out
the community comments. Marjor eighty six says, not the a
hole because of your brother's actions. Now he gets to
share the ahole award your ex already gets. You're one
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hundred percent in the right and don't let anyone tell
you otherwise. Honestly, your brother's actions are worse than your
exes in my opinion. As a brother myself with a
younger sister, that is a sacred bond he broke. I
am so sorry you are dealing with this. I seriously
hope he realizes he eft up and makes things right,
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and OPI responds, I agree. The worst part is that
this is absolutely not like him. He used to be
super protective and all throughout high school he'd threatened to
beat up any guy who came near me. I don't
know what happened, mister Neo six zoo two says, your
brother is an idiot. It might be his best friend,
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but you're his sister. I smacked around a couple of
her high school boyfriends that cheated on her. Pretty much.
The majority of my fighting back in the day was
because of her. At the end of the day, I
still would throw down for some family. That's the brother
code ef his dumbass friend. He should have cut him
off and kicked his ass between his shoulder blades, and
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Opie responds, lmao, I'm glad your sister has a brother
to look out for her. Luckily, this happened at an
age where I'm extremely self aware and had seen my
handful of the cheaters, and the Buxom Babe says, I'd
ask your mom why she's okay with you being cheated
on regardless of who the cheater was to anyone in
the family. I mean, if your bff cheated on your brother,
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would they be saying the same to you? Ask them that.
Ask your brother if his girlfriend was also your best
friend and she cheated on him, would he stay with
her because she's your best friend. Would your mom be
saying the same thing in your defense of a cheater?
I highly doubt it. You're not the Ahle, but your
brother and mother are the community's in saying saying OPI,
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he is not the Ahle and that the brother really
effed up here and the mom too. So now let's
move on to the update to see how this story ends. Hey, again,
so some of you wanted me to go into more detail,
and some of you had some questions about my brother
and how he felt about our relationship. At first, I'll
start with saying that when I told my brother, who
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is twenty two by the way, I was breaking up
with his best friend, he was angry, I mean, like
really mad. He kept telling me that I was trying
to hurt his best friend and have him deal with
a bummed out friend and would not. Obviously, I was
taken aback. He then went to go tell on me
to my mom. My mom called me really upset. She
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said that I should stop working my brother's nerves and
all kinds of nonsense. I told her the full story
because obviously my brother didn't. I told her how my
ex cheated on me all she said was eh, then
hung up. Hadn't heard from her sense, I won't lie.
My mom has always favored my brother, but I excuse
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it as a boy mom thing. She's never neglected me
or treated me badly because she just had an obvious favorite.
I've also never been one to do the most for
anyone's approval. A few of you had questions about my
brother too, like if he was a cheater too, and
if he approved of my relationship in the first place.
For the first question, my brother's a loser. He's really immature,
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so naturally girls don't want to spend a lot of
time with him. I've told him several times that he
should grow up or he'll be single forever. So to
answer your question, my brother has never even had the
chance to cheat. As for the second question, my brother
found it awkward at first, but then he got over it.
Plus me dating his best friend meant he'd practically see
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him twenty four seven, so I guess he didn't mind
that much. He just didn't like the PDA and all
that stuff. Now, there isn't much to update on. My
exes tried and failed to contact me. All my friends
have blocked him and no one is giving him any
of my information. He's even tried contacting my boss. My
brother is still insisting I talked to my ex. I
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continue to tell him to leave me alone. My mom
is radio silent, and honestly it hits for the best.
Will I get over this, sure, but it'll take some time.
I don't think this is something to get therapy over,
but I'll need some healing. Thank you for all your
lovely comments and messages. It's comforting to know there are
people on my wavelength who understand that cheating is loser behavior,
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and tolerance for it is even weirder. Opie's update, Hey again,
I contemplated posting this for hours because it's just so
much and so little. At the same time, I wanted
to preface this by saying that I am one thousand
percent not getting back together with anyone. I'd made my
decision from the beginning and they can all try all
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they want, but it's not happening. First, I want to
say thank you to everyone who commented and messaged me
offering support and advice. It really means a lot to me.
I stalk this sub often, so the community means a lot.
So I spoke to my ex again through text to
tell him to leave me alone and stop trying to
contact me. I also told him to come get the
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stuff he left at my open apartment. He went on
to tell me that he needed to tell me something
that he said he needed to tell me the truth.
I did not respond, but he kept texting anyway. He
proceeded to tell me that he made everything up, the
cheating story and everything. Obviously I didn't believe him at first,
but then he went on, However, you guys need to
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understand that I really loved this man and have for years,
so there's a part of me that wants to take
his word for it. Anyway, he told me that he
planned the whole thing with my brother, like it was
some kind of sick prank. Who does that. He called
it a test, a test for what He told me
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to call my brother and tell him to tell me
the truth. Keep in mind that all of this happened
in a day, by the way, so it was crazy.
He went on and on about how much he still
loves me and how he wishes he never listened to
my brother. I felt physically sick. It felt like whiplash.
A few hours later, I called to my brother and
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told him to open up just to see his reaction
and if i'd get a similar story from him. Surprisingly,
his story was somewhat similar, except he made it look
like he was just told to keep up with the
lie rather than being part of the planning. He also
told me that he was urging me to get back
with my ex because he knew that nothing really happened
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and we wouldn't have broken up over nothing. I still
think that is very stupid, but at the same time,
I really don't know what to think. Who is telling
the truth? Why did I need to be tested? Why
the hell am I still in love with this jerk?
A lot of questions and no answers. On a different topic,
a few of you had some issues with my mom,
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and they're all justified. From a young age, I knew
she had her favorites, but I am very likable, so
if I wasn't getting her attention, it really didn't bother me.
I know that sounds cocky, but it's the truth. Anyway,
we talked and she told me she hadn't known that
I was cheated on until I told her and gave
me a care to apology. I also don't know if
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she's telling the truth. She's also told me she scolded
my brother for lying to her and hurting my feelings,
as if that was meant to make me feel better. Anyway,
our relationship will continue to strain anyway, so I'd rather
not focus on that. Some of you asked where my
dad is in all of this. Unfortunately, my dad is
no longer with us. He passed away twelve years ago,
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and it still breaks my heart. I was always told
that I was the apple of his eye, and his
world didn't seem complete until I was born. I carry
him with me everywhere I go. I find comfort in
the idea that he would have stuck up for me
right now. I love him so much, even till this day.
I'm currently typing all this very late at night because
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I've been pondering all day. This is practically consumed my life,
and I'm sick of it. It also doesn't help that
my town is relatively tiny and everyone from my graduating
class already knows everything. I'm more fed up than I
am sad, but I won't let it bother me for
too long. But seriously, can whoever is controlling the TV
show that is my life give me a break. Thank
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you all for reading. I really appreciate it. A test.
I don't buy that for a second. I'm gonna give
it to your scumbag of a boyfriend. He's going for
the hail Mary of gas lighting. He's not trying to
make you doubt about parts of this story. He's trying
to get you to think the whole story didn't even exist.
And your brother is an unreliable alibi at this moment. Anyways,
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that's what I think. I could be absolutely wrong, But regardless, OPI,
you've made the right choice. Just move on. And on
that point, here's wishing you the best, OPI. Thanks for
sharing and take care, and now let's move on to
the next post that also has an update. This post
is from the subreddata Mighty Ahle and it's by you,
sir job Ok eighty nine forty one. I don't want
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my sister in law to come to our vacation, and
now she claims I shamed her. I don't think you
can shame someone who is incapable of being ashamed of
her actions, even after people pointed them out to her.
A couple of years ago, my brother met his now wife,
Susan thirty three female and started bringing her to our events.
Our family has a cabin that we use every year
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for a one week family vacation. Normally it used to
be our parents, husband, and I and my brother, but
for the last two years Susan also joined us. This year,
I refuse to go if Susan is present and my
parents want me there, so Susan is not invited anymore.
Onto why I don't want Susan to come with us,
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The short reply is that she is disgusting. She doesn't
have any kind of hygiene, and every vacation with her
was a nightmare because she can't act like a normal
human being. Some examples of what happened until now. One,
she stinks, plain and simple. How my brother can tolerate
her smelling the way she does is beyond my understanding,
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but all the rest of us have a hard time
being in her presence. The reason why she stinks is
because she is against the odorant. Two, she uses items
that don't belong to her without asking and without informing
anyone afterwards. Last year, I have left my and my
husband's towel to dry in the sun after we had
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our morning showers. Around noon, I wanted to take the
towels back to our room and noticed it was soaking wet,
which couldn't be possible since it literally stayed in the
sun for half a day. When I asked if anyone
knows what happened to our towels or why it was wet,
Susan said she had a shower and used it. It's
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a miracle she showers, but I don't share my towel
with anyone except my husband, so it landed right to
the bin. She acted offended that I threw it out
and said there's no need to act like she has
the plague. I told her there is also no need
to use my towel, and I don't care what she
has or not. It's not okay to use things that
don't belong to you, no matter what. Three. She doesn't
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clean the toilet after using it, so all of us
found period blood and poop displayed when we needed to
use the bathroom. She also doesn't wrappered hampons when throwing
them away in the bin. Her reason every time is
I forgot. Four. I have seen her multiple times drinking
juice milk directly from the bottle. She also forgets we
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don't want to share saliva with her and that this
habit is disgusting. And five she uses her hands to
mix ingredients without washing them before she was making a
salad and mixed everything together in the bowl with her
dirty hands. When we talked to my brother about everything,
he always made excuses for her. His main justifications are
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that she has autism and that she grew up poor,
so we need to be understanding of her. I am not.
Poverty is not an excuse to stink and be dirty.
Poverty and autism are not excuses to not clean the
toilet after you use it when you have a brush
there for this exact purpose. I guess my brother told
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her the reasons why she is not invited, and she
confronted me, crying that I am shaming her. So I
told her, if by this age she is incapable of
feeling ashamed by her own behavior, there's a very slim
chance I or anyone else can ever shame her in
any way. Am I the a whole? No? OPI or
not the a whole? You set a boundary after years
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of tolerating behavior that's unhygienic and disrespectful. As you said,
autism and poverty don't excuse using other people's belongings, poor
higiing or ignoring basic cleanliness, and the fact that your
brother enables her doesn't mean this is your problem. Also,
you're not shaming her, It's just called reality. So no,
not the ahole. And what do you guys think? Let
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me know in the comments section, and now let's check
out the community comments. Fitzfroglet says, not thele Your brother
is for blaming autism for her behavior. One thing I
found autistic people are normally very good at is understanding
direct instructions like please wash your hands before touching food,
and please don't use my things without asking, and you
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have to make the toilet look clean before you leave
the room. I can understand that the odorant might be
difficult from a sensory perspective, although I found the cream
one suit me. However, if you don't use it, you
need to clean yourself more often so you don't have
body odorlechi Oka thirty one twenty says, not the ahole.
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She is not disgusting because she grew up poor or
because she has autism. She is just the type of
person who lacks respect for the people around her and
then blames it on her condition or upbringing and undead
pyro Ninja Lover says, not the ahole. My sister was autistic,
God rests oh, and she showered every day, used the odorant,
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cleaned up after herself. There is no excuse for being disgusting.
The community agrees, not the ahole. So now let's move
on to the update to see how this story ends.
Thank you guys for all your feedback on my last
post after yesterday, I was left with mixed feelings. On
one hand, I am happy that there are still normal
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people around who value being clean and sanitary, but on
the other hand, I was sad to see how many
nasty people we have around us. Someone said very well
that shame should once again start being a thing, because
maybe by feeling ashamed, some people will start acting normally
again and stop demanding the rest of the society to
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put up with nasty habits. As an adult, to go
on the internet and claim that a thirty three year
old female must be showed and explained basic things like
cleaning a toilet seed after getting it dirty is unreal,
just a personal idea, but I will share it here.
One may not learn from home everything they need to
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know or all the social standards, but each and every
one of us is responsible to educate ourselves. If that
education did not come in our early years, meaning your
parents may not have explained to you why it's important
to have a good hygiene, but as an adult you
have all the means to learn it yourself. To those
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who say my parents did not teach me this and
this is why I don't know are just lazy and
ignorant people. If you have a phone and internet access
to waste time on writing nonsense on Reddit, you can
clearly use those tools to google it, or watch tutorials
on how to deal with your period, your sanitary products,
or how to clean poop after yourself. That being said,
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my family and I are leaving tomorrow to go to
the cabin. My brother will join us, but Susan will not.
I don't know what's going on, but my guess is
that he is also tired of his wife and her
inability to act like a normal human being. It's sad,
and he is also to blame for how things turned out,
for not putting a stop to his wife's nasty habits.
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But well, for the first time in two years, we
will enjoy our family vacation, and my parents will have
both his kid's presence with no stress, not being disgusted
or tired of cleaning after an adult woman. For those
who seemed unable to understand why my husband is still
invited and my brother's wife is not, the answer is
because my husband is not a pig, and because my
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husband did not leave period blood on the toilet seat
making my father storm out of the house to go
pee in his own yard because he was too disgusted
to use his own bathroom from his own cabin. Hope
this clears that absurd question. But if you need more
graphic descriptions I can provide also for those who will
start crying in a corner, how unfair it is that
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Susan will be excluded tough life, bro. Society will exclude
you if you are unable to follow basic decent cues
because people don't owe you anything. And no, this does
not come from a place of hate, as immature people
want to believe. It comes from a place of valuing
boundaries and comfort. And one last thing, I promise this trip,
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I am not throwing any towel away. Since this was
such a triggering topic for many of you, keep calm.
The towels are saved with me, I swear well be
if Susan's not going anymore, so you get to enjoy
your family holiday. But the thing with your brother there
is gonna need to work on that thing if his
marriage is gonna survive, I guess. In any case, thanks
for sharing, Opion. Here's wishing you the best, Take care,
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Hi everybody, and welcome back to Lost genre Reddit stories.
This post is from the Sebreddadam I the Ahu, and
it's by user communication fit thirty four ninety eight. Am
I in the wrong for not wanting to get back
with my ex because my brother said so, Hey everyone,
I'm really trying to make sense of the absolute movie
(00:25):
I've been thrown in for context. I am twenty and
I was dating my ex boyfriend twenty one for two years.
My ex is my brother's best friend from childhood, so
basically grew up with him. I always had a crush
on him, but only did something about it after high school.
When we started dating. He was my world. We were perfect.
(00:46):
There wasn't a day he wasn't by my side. I
really loved him. Two weeks ago, I found out he
cheated on me with a girl at a party. He
came to me immediately afterwards, crying and asking me for forgiveness.
I shattered, literally shattered, like lass. I didn't even respond.
I grabbed my keys and left him in my own house.
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My brother called me a few hours later, saying he
heard what happened and tried to comfort me. We talked
for a while, and I told him that I'm breaking
up with him. He said that wasn't a good idea.
I couldn't believe what I was hearing. Not a good
idea that I break up with the guy who cheated
on me. He complained that my ex was his best
friend and he would be really bummed if I broke
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up with him. Like what I told him, I didn't
really care. I didn't even think he'd still want to
be friends with him after finding out he cheated on
his sister. Anyway, I'm not getting back together with him.
Don't get me wrong. I loved him a lot, but
he cheated on me, and that's a level of disrespect
I will never tolerate. My brother and I are not
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on speaking terms, and my mom is kind of on
his side. She said that he's just defending his friend.
But I'm literally his sister. So am I the a hole? No,
OPI You're not the a hole. You're the only one
here that's showing any spine. Act one, he cheated, Act two,
you left, and there's no Act three because that's the
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end of the story, no drama at all. And your brother, man,
he showed who he truly was. He chose to protect
the cheater over his sister. What a lack of character
and your mom siding with them, that's just the cherry
on top Opie. In my opinion, this isn't about a breakup.
It's about how people show up when it counts, and
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you stood up for yourself. They didn't, So OPI don't
listen to any of those a holes. You made the
right decision. And what do you guys think? Let me
know in the comments section, and now let's check out
the community comments. Marjor eighty six says, not the a
hole because of your brother's actions. Now he gets to
share the ahole award your ex already gets. You're one
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hundred percent in the right and don't let anyone tell
you otherwise. Honestly, your brother's actions are worse than your
exes in my opinion. As a brother myself with a
younger sister, that is a sacred bond he broke. I
am so sorry you are dealing with this. I seriously
hope he realizes he eft up and makes things right,
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and OPI responds, I agree. The worst part is that
this is absolutely not like him. He used to be
super protective and all throughout high school he'd threatened to
beat up any guy who came near me. I don't
know what happened, mister Neo six zoo two says, your
brother is an idiot. It might be his best friend,
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but you're his sister. I smacked around a couple of
her high school boyfriends that cheated on her. Pretty much.
The majority of my fighting back in the day was
because of her. At the end of the day, I
still would throw down for some family. That's the brother
code ef his dumbass friend. He should have cut him
off and kicked his ass between his shoulder blades, and
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Opie responds, lmao, I'm glad your sister has a brother
to look out for her. Luckily, this happened at an
age where I'm extremely self aware and had seen my
handful of the cheaters, and the Buxom Babe says, I'd
ask your mom why she's okay with you being cheated
on regardless of who the cheater was to anyone in
the family. I mean, if your bff cheated on your brother,
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would they be saying the same to you? Ask them that.
Ask your brother if his girlfriend was also your best
friend and she cheated on him, would he stay with
her because she's your best friend. Would your mom be
saying the same thing in your defense of a cheater?
I highly doubt it. You're not the Ahle, but your
brother and mother are the community's in saying saying OPI,
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he is not the Ahle and that the brother really
effed up here and the mom too. So now let's
move on to the update to see how this story ends. Hey, again,
so some of you wanted me to go into more detail,
and some of you had some questions about my brother
and how he felt about our relationship. At first, I'll
start with saying that when I told my brother, who
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is twenty two by the way, I was breaking up
with his best friend, he was angry, I mean, like
really mad. He kept telling me that I was trying
to hurt his best friend and have him deal with
a bummed out friend and would not. Obviously, I was
taken aback. He then went to go tell on me
to my mom. My mom called me really upset. She
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said that I should stop working my brother's nerves and
all kinds of nonsense. I told her the full story
because obviously my brother didn't. I told her how my
ex cheated on me all she said was eh, then
hung up. Hadn't heard from her sense, I won't lie.
My mom has always favored my brother, but I excuse
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it as a boy mom thing. She's never neglected me
or treated me badly because she just had an obvious favorite.
I've also never been one to do the most for
anyone's approval. A few of you had questions about my
brother too, like if he was a cheater too, and
if he approved of my relationship in the first place.
For the first question, my brother's a loser. He's really immature,
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so naturally girls don't want to spend a lot of
time with him. I've told him several times that he
should grow up or he'll be single forever. So to
answer your question, my brother has never even had the
chance to cheat. As for the second question, my brother
found it awkward at first, but then he got over it.
Plus me dating his best friend meant he'd practically see
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him twenty four seven, so I guess he didn't mind
that much. He just didn't like the PDA and all
that stuff. Now, there isn't much to update on. My
exes tried and failed to contact me. All my friends
have blocked him and no one is giving him any
of my information. He's even tried contacting my boss. My
brother is still insisting I talked to my ex. I
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continue to tell him to leave me alone. My mom
is radio silent, and honestly it hits for the best.
Will I get over this, sure, but it'll take some time.
I don't think this is something to get therapy over,
but I'll need some healing. Thank you for all your
lovely comments and messages. It's comforting to know there are
people on my wavelength who understand that cheating is loser behavior,
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and tolerance for it is even weirder. Opie's update, Hey again,
I contemplated posting this for hours because it's just so
much and so little. At the same time, I wanted
to preface this by saying that I am one thousand
percent not getting back together with anyone. I'd made my
decision from the beginning and they can all try all
(07:37):
they want, but it's not happening. First, I want to
say thank you to everyone who commented and messaged me
offering support and advice. It really means a lot to me.
I stalk this sub often, so the community means a lot.
So I spoke to my ex again through text to
tell him to leave me alone and stop trying to
contact me. I also told him to come get the
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stuff he left at my open apartment. He went on
to tell me that he needed to tell me something
that he said he needed to tell me the truth.
I did not respond, but he kept texting anyway. He
proceeded to tell me that he made everything up, the
cheating story and everything. Obviously I didn't believe him at first,
but then he went on, However, you guys need to
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understand that I really loved this man and have for years,
so there's a part of me that wants to take
his word for it. Anyway, he told me that he
planned the whole thing with my brother, like it was
some kind of sick prank. Who does that. He called
it a test, a test for what He told me
(08:42):
to call my brother and tell him to tell me
the truth. Keep in mind that all of this happened
in a day, by the way, so it was crazy.
He went on and on about how much he still
loves me and how he wishes he never listened to
my brother. I felt physically sick. It felt like whiplash.
A few hours later, I called to my brother and
(09:04):
told him to open up just to see his reaction
and if i'd get a similar story from him. Surprisingly,
his story was somewhat similar, except he made it look
like he was just told to keep up with the
lie rather than being part of the planning. He also
told me that he was urging me to get back
with my ex because he knew that nothing really happened
(09:26):
and we wouldn't have broken up over nothing. I still
think that is very stupid, but at the same time,
I really don't know what to think. Who is telling
the truth? Why did I need to be tested? Why
the hell am I still in love with this jerk?
A lot of questions and no answers. On a different topic,
a few of you had some issues with my mom,
(09:47):
and they're all justified. From a young age, I knew
she had her favorites, but I am very likable, so
if I wasn't getting her attention, it really didn't bother me.
I know that sounds cocky, but it's the truth. Anyway,
we talked and she told me she hadn't known that
I was cheated on until I told her and gave
me a care to apology. I also don't know if
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she's telling the truth. She's also told me she scolded
my brother for lying to her and hurting my feelings,
as if that was meant to make me feel better. Anyway,
our relationship will continue to strain anyway, so I'd rather
not focus on that. Some of you asked where my
dad is in all of this. Unfortunately, my dad is
no longer with us. He passed away twelve years ago,
(10:30):
and it still breaks my heart. I was always told
that I was the apple of his eye, and his
world didn't seem complete until I was born. I carry
him with me everywhere I go. I find comfort in
the idea that he would have stuck up for me
right now. I love him so much, even till this day.
I'm currently typing all this very late at night because
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I've been pondering all day. This is practically consumed my life,
and I'm sick of it. It also doesn't help that
my town is relatively tiny and everyone from my graduating
class already knows everything. I'm more fed up than I
am sad, but I won't let it bother me for
too long. But seriously, can whoever is controlling the TV
show that is my life give me a break. Thank
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you all for reading. I really appreciate it. A test.
I don't buy that for a second. I'm gonna give
it to your scumbag of a boyfriend. He's going for
the hail Mary of gas lighting. He's not trying to
make you doubt about parts of this story. He's trying
to get you to think the whole story didn't even exist.
And your brother is an unreliable alibi at this moment. Anyways,
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that's what I think. I could be absolutely wrong, But regardless, OPI,
you've made the right choice. Just move on. And on
that point, here's wishing you the best, OPI. Thanks for
sharing and take care, and now let's move on to
the next post that also has an update. This post
is from the subreddata Mighty Ahle and it's by you,
sir job Ok eighty nine forty one. I don't want
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my sister in law to come to our vacation, and
now she claims I shamed her. I don't think you
can shame someone who is incapable of being ashamed of
her actions, even after people pointed them out to her.
A couple of years ago, my brother met his now wife,
Susan thirty three female and started bringing her to our events.
Our family has a cabin that we use every year
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for a one week family vacation. Normally it used to
be our parents, husband, and I and my brother, but
for the last two years Susan also joined us. This year,
I refuse to go if Susan is present and my
parents want me there, so Susan is not invited anymore.
Onto why I don't want Susan to come with us,
(12:39):
The short reply is that she is disgusting. She doesn't
have any kind of hygiene, and every vacation with her
was a nightmare because she can't act like a normal
human being. Some examples of what happened until now. One,
she stinks, plain and simple. How my brother can tolerate
her smelling the way she does is beyond my understanding,
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but all the rest of us have a hard time
being in her presence. The reason why she stinks is
because she is against the odorant. Two, she uses items
that don't belong to her without asking and without informing
anyone afterwards. Last year, I have left my and my
husband's towel to dry in the sun after we had
(13:23):
our morning showers. Around noon, I wanted to take the
towels back to our room and noticed it was soaking wet,
which couldn't be possible since it literally stayed in the
sun for half a day. When I asked if anyone
knows what happened to our towels or why it was wet,
Susan said she had a shower and used it. It's
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a miracle she showers, but I don't share my towel
with anyone except my husband, so it landed right to
the bin. She acted offended that I threw it out
and said there's no need to act like she has
the plague. I told her there is also no need
to use my towel, and I don't care what she
has or not. It's not okay to use things that
don't belong to you, no matter what. Three. She doesn't
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clean the toilet after using it, so all of us
found period blood and poop displayed when we needed to
use the bathroom. She also doesn't wrappered hampons when throwing
them away in the bin. Her reason every time is
I forgot. Four. I have seen her multiple times drinking
juice milk directly from the bottle. She also forgets we
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don't want to share saliva with her and that this
habit is disgusting. And five she uses her hands to
mix ingredients without washing them before she was making a
salad and mixed everything together in the bowl with her
dirty hands. When we talked to my brother about everything,
he always made excuses for her. His main justifications are
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that she has autism and that she grew up poor,
so we need to be understanding of her. I am not.
Poverty is not an excuse to stink and be dirty.
Poverty and autism are not excuses to not clean the
toilet after you use it when you have a brush
there for this exact purpose. I guess my brother told
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her the reasons why she is not invited, and she
confronted me, crying that I am shaming her. So I
told her, if by this age she is incapable of
feeling ashamed by her own behavior, there's a very slim
chance I or anyone else can ever shame her in
any way. Am I the a whole? No? OPI or
not the a whole? You set a boundary after years
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of tolerating behavior that's unhygienic and disrespectful. As you said,
autism and poverty don't excuse using other people's belongings, poor
higiing or ignoring basic cleanliness, and the fact that your
brother enables her doesn't mean this is your problem. Also,
you're not shaming her, It's just called reality. So no,
not the ahole. And what do you guys think? Let
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me know in the comments section, and now let's check
out the community comments. Fitzfroglet says, not thele Your brother
is for blaming autism for her behavior. One thing I
found autistic people are normally very good at is understanding
direct instructions like please wash your hands before touching food,
and please don't use my things without asking, and you
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have to make the toilet look clean before you leave
the room. I can understand that the odorant might be
difficult from a sensory perspective, although I found the cream
one suit me. However, if you don't use it, you
need to clean yourself more often so you don't have
body odorlechi Oka thirty one twenty says, not the ahole.
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She is not disgusting because she grew up poor or
because she has autism. She is just the type of
person who lacks respect for the people around her and
then blames it on her condition or upbringing and undead
pyro Ninja Lover says, not the ahole. My sister was autistic,
God rests oh, and she showered every day, used the odorant,
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cleaned up after herself. There is no excuse for being disgusting.
The community agrees, not the ahole. So now let's move
on to the update to see how this story ends.
Thank you guys for all your feedback on my last
post after yesterday, I was left with mixed feelings. On
one hand, I am happy that there are still normal
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people around who value being clean and sanitary, but on
the other hand, I was sad to see how many
nasty people we have around us. Someone said very well
that shame should once again start being a thing, because
maybe by feeling ashamed, some people will start acting normally
again and stop demanding the rest of the society to
(17:38):
put up with nasty habits. As an adult, to go
on the internet and claim that a thirty three year
old female must be showed and explained basic things like
cleaning a toilet seed after getting it dirty is unreal,
just a personal idea, but I will share it here.
One may not learn from home everything they need to
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know or all the social standards, but each and every
one of us is responsible to educate ourselves. If that
education did not come in our early years, meaning your
parents may not have explained to you why it's important
to have a good hygiene, but as an adult you
have all the means to learn it yourself. To those
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who say my parents did not teach me this and
this is why I don't know are just lazy and
ignorant people. If you have a phone and internet access
to waste time on writing nonsense on Reddit, you can
clearly use those tools to google it, or watch tutorials
on how to deal with your period, your sanitary products,
or how to clean poop after yourself. That being said,
(18:43):
my family and I are leaving tomorrow to go to
the cabin. My brother will join us, but Susan will not.
I don't know what's going on, but my guess is
that he is also tired of his wife and her
inability to act like a normal human being. It's sad,
and he is also to blame for how things turned out,
for not putting a stop to his wife's nasty habits.
(19:06):
But well, for the first time in two years, we
will enjoy our family vacation, and my parents will have
both his kid's presence with no stress, not being disgusted
or tired of cleaning after an adult woman. For those
who seemed unable to understand why my husband is still
invited and my brother's wife is not, the answer is
because my husband is not a pig, and because my
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husband did not leave period blood on the toilet seat
making my father storm out of the house to go
pee in his own yard because he was too disgusted
to use his own bathroom from his own cabin. Hope
this clears that absurd question. But if you need more
graphic descriptions I can provide also for those who will
start crying in a corner, how unfair it is that
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Susan will be excluded tough life, bro. Society will exclude
you if you are unable to follow basic decent cues
because people don't owe you anything. And no, this does
not come from a place of hate, as immature people
want to believe. It comes from a place of valuing
boundaries and comfort. And one last thing, I promise this trip,
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I am not throwing any towel away. Since this was
such a triggering topic for many of you, keep calm.
The towels are saved with me, I swear well be
if Susan's not going anymore, so you get to enjoy
your family holiday. But the thing with your brother there
is gonna need to work on that thing if his
marriage is gonna survive, I guess. In any case, thanks
for sharing, Opion. Here's wishing you the best, Take care,
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and that's it for today's video. Thank you so much
for taking the time to watch it. Now. If you've
gotten to this point in the video, I assume that
you like these stories that I'm reading out, so here
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