July 30, 2025 • 21 mins
Relationship Stories - OP agreed to a short mountain trip with friends but was expected to drive, cover costs, and sleep uncomfortably. When she backed out, the group turned on her, exposing their selfish priorities.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi everybody, and welcome back to lost genre Reddit stories.
This post is from the subredded Amity a Hole, and
it's by user agent Olympus. Am I the a hole
for backing out at the last minute because I didn't
want to sleep on an air mattress. I twenty seven female,
and three friends made a last minute plan to go
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to the mountains this weekend. Our group is a couple
let's call them Jay twenty seven female, and Sam thirty
two female, and two single friends Me and Alex twenty
six male. We actually found a good airbnb at first.
It had two bedrooms, one with a king bed and
one with two single beds. Alex and I were totally
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fine sharing the second room as long as we had
our own bed, but Jay kept saying that she wanted
a pool. This is a short two day trip and
we're staying just one night. I really didn't see see
why a pool was a big deal. We kept going
back and forth trying to decide, and the place got
booked by someone else. After that, the only places we
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could find had just one bedroom, a pullout couch, and
an air mattress. Alex is recovering from an injury, so
of course he shouldn't be on the air mattress. The
couple immediately said they wanted the bedroom and they're not
offering to pay more for it. That leaves me with
the air mattress. Jay and Sam both don't have a
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driver's license, and Alex can't drive right now because of
his injury, so I'm the only one who can drive
us there and back. On top of that, I'm also
the only one who has to work on Monday. I
really don't want to be driving for hours, sleeping on
an air mattress, and then dragging myself to work the
next day, all tired and sore. I genuinely hate sleeping
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on an air mattress. I always sleep like crap and
it just hurts my neck. So I told him I
was backing out. I told them that if they really
want to do a trip like this, they need to
plan it better so that everyone is comfortable. Alex and
Sam seem to understand, but Jay got annoyed. She said
I was being a party pooper, that I was being selfish,
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and that I was ruining the weekend. She told me
I should just adjust so we could all have fun.
For a moment, I really did think I was overreacting
because it's just one night and going to the mountains
would be super fun that Honestly, it doesn't feel fair
that I have the worst sleeping arrangement and still get
labeled as the problem. So am I the a hole
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for backing out last minute because I didn't want to
sleep on an air mattress? No, OPI, You're not the ahle.
You're the only driver, have to work the next day,
and we're still expected to sleep on an air mattress
with no complaints. That's not fair. It's just being thoughtless.
Jay's the one that lost everyone the nicer Airbnb by
pushing for a pool and not settling. Then blame you
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for backing out. Talk about entitlement and being selfish, ohpe.
In my opinion, you're not ruining in the trip. Jay
did that by herself. You're just refusing to be the
one doing the driving, loosing sleep and sacrificing comfort for
a plan that wasn't built with you in mind. Backing
out isn't selfish, it's setting a standard for how you
deserve to be treated. The only selfish one here is Jay,
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so she can zip it. And what do you guys think?
Let me know in the comments section, and now let's
move on to the community comments. Snacking Penguin says, that's
legit crappy. Everyone pays the same price, but you get
the worst bed option and are the designated driver. Nah,
they're just mad because they can't do any of this
without you, but not appreciating the extra effort on your part.
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Not the a hole. Janet in Spain says, not the
a hole. And she said I was being a party pooper,
that I was being selfish. The absolute nerve of the
ahle who chose a swimming pool over her friend's comfort
is calling that friend selfish. Yikes, she is not the
friend you are imagining she is. She could have adjusted
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to a place without a pool, but that provided an
actual bed for everyone. So if her she didn't care
about you at all, she wanted you along to drive.
If she actually cared about you, then she'd have happily
given up on having a pool. Take a closer look
at this friendship. The boxs says they weren't going to
pitch in for gas either, were they? The two people
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who can't drive Trying to call the shots on a
road trip is low key hilarious. Tell them to either
quit being bumps or to quit being selfish pricks. Cheap
Theory thirteen twenty one says, if she wants you there
so bad so you can drive them all there, just
tell them the bedroom is yours, full stop. If she
can't adjust, then back out as planned. No adult enjoys
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sleeping on an air mattress, and Jay knows this, which
is why she's fine with it when it's not her
sleeping on it. Watch how fast those feelings change when
you inform her that's where she'll be sleeping or you
won't be coming. Graphic Design says, not the a hole.
I had a friend who insisted we drive three hours
to a show and back the same night. Didn't want
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to stay an extra day or two to do things
in that city and make the drive worth it for me,
which we'd initially discussed. When I agreed to the trip,
we definitely had to take my car. I backed out,
and I'm so glad I did. I felt pretty used, honestly,
because she expected that I to do that. You'll be
so relieved you backed out. Starb Netter says, not the
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a hole. Jay was the party pooper, demanding somewhere with
a pool instead of accepting somewhere that everybody has an
actual bed and cat buds want two to three says
not the a hole will be. I have canceled trips
and booked my own hotel rooms over things like this.
I refused to sleep on an air mattress in a
place I paid for staying at a friend's house and
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all they have is an air mattress. That's fine. You
want me to spend money on a hotel room with
us other people and still sleep on the air mattress?
Absolutely effing not well. The community absolutely agrees that o'
be is not the ahle and that she should totally
back out, and Jay sucks. So now let's move on
to the update to see how this story ends. Thanks
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to everyone who replied to my original post. Your responses
really helped me feel like I wasn't crazy for feeling frustrated. Unfortunately,
I had to go on the trip because I couldn't
cancel the airbnb. Now that the trip is finally over,
I wanted to post a quick update for a bit
more context. I moved to a new city last year,
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and I've been friends with these people for a little
over a year, so I haven't known these people for
a very long time. We've gone out drinking, grabbed food,
gone to the movies a few times. They've always seemed
pretty chill, which is why I thought it wouldn't be
a bad idea to do a short trip with them.
Turns out I was very wrong. Now onto the actual up,
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I had already booked everything before the whole sleeping arrangement argument.
My bad, I know, I know. I just had to
do it quickly because it was the fourth of July weekend.
The airbnb, the gondola tickets, shuttle tickets, even prepaid parking.
After realizing the airbnb couldn't be canceled, I figured I'd
just go anyway. I even messaged the host to ask
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if she could help us with another mattress or something.
She said the pullout couch would be big enough for
two people and just looked small in the photos. At
that point, Sam and Jay still wouldn't budge, so I
told myself I'd just suck it up and deal with
it for one night. We were supposed to leave early
Saturday morning. They were supposed to show up at my
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place by five thirty am, so we could leave by six.
All of them only reached around seven fifteen seven thirty,
so we ended up starting the drive late. We only
got to the town around one pm. Then they took
two hours to eat lunch, and because of that, we
missed our shuttle to the gondola. When I suggested we
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just do a short hike instead, they said they were
too tired and just wanted to get drinks at the
local bar. Since I refused to drive them to the bar,
they got it delivered and they stayed up drinking on
the couch also known as my bed for the night
and didn't let me sleep until two am. They got
absolutely wasted and told me they weren't going to the
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lake the next morning, and then passed out on the
couch and floor. I did get the bed, but at
what cost. I woke up at around seven am to
cancel our shuttle tickets and started cleaning up the airbnb
before our eleven am check out. They didn't wake up
until ten thirty, and I had to beg them to
get dressed so we could check out on time. I
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was so done at this point, so I drove them
all back to Alex's place and went home. So we
did absolutely nothing on the trip. Except take a sixteen
minute Gonda ride up and down a mountain. No one
has paid me back for anything, not the Airbnb, not
for the gas, not even for the tickets. You were
all right. I was just the driver and just someone
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who helped make their trip cheaper. I don't think I'm
going to be hanging out with these people anymore. I'll
wait to get my money back if I ever do,
and then I'm done. It feels kind of sad because
these were some of the best friends I've made since
moving to this city. But honestly, life's too short to
spend time around selfish, inconsiderate people. Deep down, I already
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knew this trip would be a mess, but I had
to learn it the hard way. I guess hopefully next
time I'll spot people like this a little earlier. Lesson learned, Ope,
even though your ex friends are a bunch of a
holes and you had a crappy trip, I really like
your attitude. Lesson learned that's what you do when something
unexpected happens or something goes to crap. You take the learning.
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You can't change the past, so you learn from it
and you focus on the present and future. And on
that note, of pee. Here's wishing you the best, take
care and thanks for sharing. And now let's move on
to the next post that also has an update. This
post is from the subreddit Relationship Advice and it's by
user art throwaway post am I, twenty seven female overreacting
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to my boyfriend's twenty six male mom's fifty female unhinged
sexual comments. I twenty seven female have been with my boyfriend,
twenty six male for two years. Our families are very close.
Both of our moms get along and pretty much became
best friends once we started dating. I adore his mom,
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fifty female too. We've had a genuine friendship since her
son and I got together. Let me start by saying,
my boyfriend and his mom are pretty close and they
have a great relationship, but since we started dating, she
seems to be jealous of our relationship and she seemed
to start copying me. My boyfriend bought me a beanie
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from our favorite local company, and suddenly she needed the
same beanie. We went bikini shopping and she bought the
exact same bikini I decided to buy. My boyfriend bought
me a camping ice chest, so she went out and
bought the exact same one for herself. Now she's looking
to buy the exact same car as me that I
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bought for myself six months ago. For reference, I bought
a four x four off roading suv with full towing
capabilities because I go camping and write dirt bikes quite
a bit. She does not do any of that, nor
have a single use for any type of four by
four car. Aside from the copying, she makes very weird
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and appropriate jokes. I said I wanted breakfast, and she responds,
don't she get enough sausage from my son? You? I say,
I'm tired. She says, maybe don't stay up so late
having sex. Has literally said that. One time I made
a comment about my boyfriend and having big hands, and
she said, you know what that means, right, Mama, didn't
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raise no shrimpies. We were on a road trip once
and we had to pull over for a pea break.
My boyfriend got out and just pete on the side
of the road jokingly. I stood behind him and peeked
over to watch his business. His mom saw and she
came over to do the same. You and ugh, she
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does say this stuff in front of my boyfriend, her
son and he'll snap and tell her she's being weird,
but she only ever laughs it off. When she came
over to see his business, he immediately shrugged her off,
elbowed her, and snapped at her to knock it off.
She just doesn't take it seriously. I want the entire
future with my boyfriend, kids, house, land, all of it,
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So cutting her off or giving my boyfriend that ultimatum
doesn't seem feasible. Is this an overreaction? Do I just
let the weirdness visle out and ignore it in the meantime?
Ohp No, Oh, you're definitely not overreacting. What his mom
is doing is gross and wildly inappropriate. The jokes, the peaking,
the copying. It's definitely not harmless. It's boundary breaking your
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boyfriend snapping isn't enough. You need to tell him clearly
how uncomfortable this makes you feel, and that it's affecting
how you see the future with him. It's his mom,
so it's his job to shut it down firmly and consistently.
If he won't, then you've got a bigger problem. Ope,
what do you guys think? Let me know in the
comment section, and now let's check out the community comments.
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Plastic Venus says, as the mother of a son in
his twenties, she's unhinged and deeply inappropriate. He's likely been
dealing with this unhealthy ameasurement, which I firmly believe is
low key child abuse his whole life, and is aware
that it's weird. I'd talk to him honestly and in
a non judgmental way about your concerns and see what
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his thoughts are. I'm Pinomini says this is emotional incest.
She's seen her son as a place holder for a partner,
and now that he has a partner, she sees you
as competition for his affection. This behavior will only escalate
with every further step you take in your relationship. Getting married,
she will wear white. Having a baby, she will insert
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herself as the mother of your child. You need to
talk to your boyfriend about this and ask him to
set boundaries. She needs therapy. Worth Blueberry seventy one, twenty
nine says, not overreacting sounds like boyfriend also isn't comfortable.
Hopefully he's receptive to your concerns and support setting down
some real boundaries would be a shame to go no contact,
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but I've read similar stories on here before, and that's
unfortunately how it ended. Granted those were in context of
married couples, so the stakes were higher. You have the
opportunity to break things off without going through divorce if
it came to that, Yeah, I just gotta talk to him.
See if you'll step up to mom and then go
from there. Wonder if she has always acted like this
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with his girlfriends or may maybe it has ramped up
if you're his first committed relationship and that scares her.
Either way, totally gross behavior and skayam Ningen says is
boyfriend's dad in the picture. There's a weird level of
husbandification of her son. He has likely learned to shrug
it off or else she would absolutely lose it. She
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has no business being in her son's business anymore. He
needs to stop that. About the mirroring, I would try
telling her wrong things you are supposedly going to do
and get and see if she copies them and point
it out every time. Do not tell her what dress
you are wearing for your engagement or wedding. Potentially tell
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her it's pink when it's white, or go with an
unusual style while sending her pictures of pretty standard white dresses. Also,
don't share what you plan to name any future children
she is likely going to want to say. In that,
the community agrees that Opie is not overreacting and that
the mom is absolutely gross, and they also gave her
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a lot of tips about how to maybe manage her
in the future. So now let's move on to the
update to see how this story ends. Hi. I was
overwhelmed by the amount of responses I got on my
previous post and effing horrified that my fears were put
into words that outsiders were able to very clearly see.
I'm not gonna lie. It made me nauseous reading some
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of the comments and realizing it was a form of
emotional incest, which I had to research. By the way,
hated every second of it. Anyways, here's an update from
the drama that went down the last month. I sat
down with my boyfriend and had a really uncomfortable talk
about all of it, and he was equally horrified. I
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don't think it ever really hit him how completely bananas
and sick the behavior was until everything was laid out
on the table back to back. He assured me he
hasn't dealt with any deeper abuse from his past, and
this seems to be a more recent behavior. I'm his
most serious relationship, so we're assuming it was some weird,
sick jealousy, like many of you said, the real drama.
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He sat down with his mom without me and told
her how he felt that it was inappropriate and that
it needed to stop. Well, crap hit the fan. After that,
that woman completely snapped. She blew up my phone with
messages about how I will never compete with her, she
will always be my boyfriend's first love, and that I
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shouldn't have felt so insecure, especially since we considered each
other friends. She also said there was nothing weird or
sexual about the comments she's made and that were all
sensitive snowflakes. Eventually they got into a screaming match. He
told her we'd cut ties if she continued acting like this.
Both his siblings have cut tied with her for years now,
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and she pretty much said, I dare you, You'll deal
with the consequences. So ties were cut, but we have
learned she's been twisting the story quite a bit to
her and family, and they apparently blame me, saying I
poisoned her in my boyfriend's mind. I personally have no
guilt for the situation. I think cutting ties was the
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best outcome, but I do worry about my boyfriend. His
dad is still very much in his life, but I
worry about him not having his mom, even though she
was toxic. For the ones who have cut ties with
family members in the past because of a spouse, what
kind of advice can you give for a smooth transition
to essentially losing a parent. Is there anything that will
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make it easier on him or both of us? We
want to start planning a family soon too, but how
am I supposed to ever explain to our child what
happened to their grandma. I'm truly scared my boyfriend might
hold resentment towards me one day for bringing light to
how toxic his mom was. Opie, you didn't cause the damage.
You just helped uncover it. You showed courage, protected your piece,
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and gave your partner the chance to choose clarity. You've
shown him how much you love him, and that is
not sabotage. So stay grounded in the truth. Wipe, and
here's wishing you the best. Thanks for sharing and take care,
and now let's finish this video with a mood booster post.
This post is from the subreddit malicious Compliance, and it's
by you, sir fig ninety one. You can't give me
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five dollars? My son's school for the hundredth day of
school asked for the kids to bring in a hundred
of the same coin. They are going to be donating
the money to the local food pantry, so it is
for a good cause, and we are doing pretty good
this month, so I decided to give him one hundred
quarters twenty five dollars to donate. So on lunch, I
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head to my bank and go in. I'm directed to
one of the windows and tell the nice lady I
need to withdraw twenty five dollars in quarters. She says
okay and goes to get my quarters. She comes back
with three rolls of quarters. I can only do twenty
or thirty. They only come in rolls of ten. I
point out that she has a tray of change and ask,
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can you take five dollars from the loose change? Now
they only come in rolls of ten. Do you want
twenty or thirty? Okay, I really need the twenty five dollars,
so I ask for the thirty. She goes to process
my request in the computer at another window and comes
back with the three rolls of quarters. I then tell her,
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can I go ahead and make a deposit? Of course,
how much were you wanting to deposit five dollars in quarters?
The range of emotions that crossed her face as I
broke open one of the rolls and began to count
out my five dollars in quarters was priceless. She then
takes it and tells the guy at the other computer
that we needed to deposit five dollars in quarters back
into the account. He asked her what happened, and she
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told them I asked for twenty five dollars, but rolls
only came in tense. He then asked her why she
didn't just count out five dollars in quarters from the
loose change that is on each desk. I just smiled
as I waited for my deposit receipt. Look at UOPI
congratulations on the problem solving, and of course you were right.
Still fun to read. Thanks for sharing, Ope, and that's
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Hi everybody, and welcome back to lost genre Reddit stories.
This post is from the subredded Amity a Hole, and
it's by user agent Olympus. Am I the a hole
for backing out at the last minute because I didn't
want to sleep on an air mattress. I twenty seven female,
and three friends made a last minute plan to go
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to the mountains this weekend. Our group is a couple
let's call them Jay twenty seven female, and Sam thirty
two female, and two single friends Me and Alex twenty
six male. We actually found a good airbnb at first.
It had two bedrooms, one with a king bed and
one with two single beds. Alex and I were totally
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fine sharing the second room as long as we had
our own bed, but Jay kept saying that she wanted
a pool. This is a short two day trip and
we're staying just one night. I really didn't see see
why a pool was a big deal. We kept going
back and forth trying to decide, and the place got
booked by someone else. After that, the only places we
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could find had just one bedroom, a pullout couch, and
an air mattress. Alex is recovering from an injury, so
of course he shouldn't be on the air mattress. The
couple immediately said they wanted the bedroom and they're not
offering to pay more for it. That leaves me with
the air mattress. Jay and Sam both don't have a
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driver's license, and Alex can't drive right now because of
his injury, so I'm the only one who can drive
us there and back. On top of that, I'm also
the only one who has to work on Monday. I
really don't want to be driving for hours, sleeping on
an air mattress, and then dragging myself to work the
next day, all tired and sore. I genuinely hate sleeping
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on an air mattress. I always sleep like crap and
it just hurts my neck. So I told him I
was backing out. I told them that if they really
want to do a trip like this, they need to
plan it better so that everyone is comfortable. Alex and
Sam seem to understand, but Jay got annoyed. She said
I was being a party pooper, that I was being selfish,
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and that I was ruining the weekend. She told me
I should just adjust so we could all have fun.
For a moment, I really did think I was overreacting
because it's just one night and going to the mountains
would be super fun that Honestly, it doesn't feel fair
that I have the worst sleeping arrangement and still get
labeled as the problem. So am I the a hole
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for backing out last minute because I didn't want to
sleep on an air mattress? No, OPI, You're not the ahle.
You're the only driver, have to work the next day,
and we're still expected to sleep on an air mattress
with no complaints. That's not fair. It's just being thoughtless.
Jay's the one that lost everyone the nicer Airbnb by
pushing for a pool and not settling. Then blame you
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for backing out. Talk about entitlement and being selfish, ohpe.
In my opinion, you're not ruining in the trip. Jay
did that by herself. You're just refusing to be the
one doing the driving, loosing sleep and sacrificing comfort for
a plan that wasn't built with you in mind. Backing
out isn't selfish, it's setting a standard for how you
deserve to be treated. The only selfish one here is Jay,
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so she can zip it. And what do you guys think?
Let me know in the comments section, and now let's
move on to the community comments. Snacking Penguin says, that's
legit crappy. Everyone pays the same price, but you get
the worst bed option and are the designated driver. Nah,
they're just mad because they can't do any of this
without you, but not appreciating the extra effort on your part.
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Not the a hole. Janet in Spain says, not the
a hole. And she said I was being a party pooper,
that I was being selfish. The absolute nerve of the
ahle who chose a swimming pool over her friend's comfort
is calling that friend selfish. Yikes, she is not the
friend you are imagining she is. She could have adjusted
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to a place without a pool, but that provided an
actual bed for everyone. So if her she didn't care
about you at all, she wanted you along to drive.
If she actually cared about you, then she'd have happily
given up on having a pool. Take a closer look
at this friendship. The boxs says they weren't going to
pitch in for gas either, were they? The two people
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who can't drive Trying to call the shots on a
road trip is low key hilarious. Tell them to either
quit being bumps or to quit being selfish pricks. Cheap
Theory thirteen twenty one says, if she wants you there
so bad so you can drive them all there, just
tell them the bedroom is yours, full stop. If she
can't adjust, then back out as planned. No adult enjoys
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sleeping on an air mattress, and Jay knows this, which
is why she's fine with it when it's not her
sleeping on it. Watch how fast those feelings change when
you inform her that's where she'll be sleeping or you
won't be coming. Graphic Design says, not the a hole.
I had a friend who insisted we drive three hours
to a show and back the same night. Didn't want
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to stay an extra day or two to do things
in that city and make the drive worth it for me,
which we'd initially discussed. When I agreed to the trip,
we definitely had to take my car. I backed out,
and I'm so glad I did. I felt pretty used, honestly,
because she expected that I to do that. You'll be
so relieved you backed out. Starb Netter says, not the
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a hole. Jay was the party pooper, demanding somewhere with
a pool instead of accepting somewhere that everybody has an
actual bed and cat buds want two to three says
not the a hole will be. I have canceled trips
and booked my own hotel rooms over things like this.
I refused to sleep on an air mattress in a
place I paid for staying at a friend's house and
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all they have is an air mattress. That's fine. You
want me to spend money on a hotel room with
us other people and still sleep on the air mattress?
Absolutely effing not well. The community absolutely agrees that o'
be is not the ahle and that she should totally
back out, and Jay sucks. So now let's move on
to the update to see how this story ends. Thanks
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to everyone who replied to my original post. Your responses
really helped me feel like I wasn't crazy for feeling frustrated. Unfortunately,
I had to go on the trip because I couldn't
cancel the airbnb. Now that the trip is finally over,
I wanted to post a quick update for a bit
more context. I moved to a new city last year,
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and I've been friends with these people for a little
over a year, so I haven't known these people for
a very long time. We've gone out drinking, grabbed food,
gone to the movies a few times. They've always seemed
pretty chill, which is why I thought it wouldn't be
a bad idea to do a short trip with them.
Turns out I was very wrong. Now onto the actual up,
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I had already booked everything before the whole sleeping arrangement argument.
My bad, I know, I know. I just had to
do it quickly because it was the fourth of July weekend.
The airbnb, the gondola tickets, shuttle tickets, even prepaid parking.
After realizing the airbnb couldn't be canceled, I figured I'd
just go anyway. I even messaged the host to ask
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if she could help us with another mattress or something.
She said the pullout couch would be big enough for
two people and just looked small in the photos. At
that point, Sam and Jay still wouldn't budge, so I
told myself I'd just suck it up and deal with
it for one night. We were supposed to leave early
Saturday morning. They were supposed to show up at my
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place by five thirty am, so we could leave by six.
All of them only reached around seven fifteen seven thirty,
so we ended up starting the drive late. We only
got to the town around one pm. Then they took
two hours to eat lunch, and because of that, we
missed our shuttle to the gondola. When I suggested we
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just do a short hike instead, they said they were
too tired and just wanted to get drinks at the
local bar. Since I refused to drive them to the bar,
they got it delivered and they stayed up drinking on
the couch also known as my bed for the night
and didn't let me sleep until two am. They got
absolutely wasted and told me they weren't going to the
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lake the next morning, and then passed out on the
couch and floor. I did get the bed, but at
what cost. I woke up at around seven am to
cancel our shuttle tickets and started cleaning up the airbnb
before our eleven am check out. They didn't wake up
until ten thirty, and I had to beg them to
get dressed so we could check out on time. I
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was so done at this point, so I drove them
all back to Alex's place and went home. So we
did absolutely nothing on the trip. Except take a sixteen
minute Gonda ride up and down a mountain. No one
has paid me back for anything, not the Airbnb, not
for the gas, not even for the tickets. You were
all right. I was just the driver and just someone
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who helped make their trip cheaper. I don't think I'm
going to be hanging out with these people anymore. I'll
wait to get my money back if I ever do,
and then I'm done. It feels kind of sad because
these were some of the best friends I've made since
moving to this city. But honestly, life's too short to
spend time around selfish, inconsiderate people. Deep down, I already
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knew this trip would be a mess, but I had
to learn it the hard way. I guess hopefully next
time I'll spot people like this a little earlier. Lesson learned, Ope,
even though your ex friends are a bunch of a
holes and you had a crappy trip, I really like
your attitude. Lesson learned that's what you do when something
unexpected happens or something goes to crap. You take the learning.
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You can't change the past, so you learn from it
and you focus on the present and future. And on
that note, of pee. Here's wishing you the best, take
care and thanks for sharing. And now let's move on
to the next post that also has an update. This
post is from the subreddit Relationship Advice and it's by
user art throwaway post am I, twenty seven female overreacting
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to my boyfriend's twenty six male mom's fifty female unhinged
sexual comments. I twenty seven female have been with my boyfriend,
twenty six male for two years. Our families are very close.
Both of our moms get along and pretty much became
best friends once we started dating. I adore his mom,
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fifty female too. We've had a genuine friendship since her
son and I got together. Let me start by saying,
my boyfriend and his mom are pretty close and they
have a great relationship, but since we started dating, she
seems to be jealous of our relationship and she seemed
to start copying me. My boyfriend bought me a beanie
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from our favorite local company, and suddenly she needed the
same beanie. We went bikini shopping and she bought the
exact same bikini I decided to buy. My boyfriend bought
me a camping ice chest, so she went out and
bought the exact same one for herself. Now she's looking
to buy the exact same car as me that I
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bought for myself six months ago. For reference, I bought
a four x four off roading suv with full towing
capabilities because I go camping and write dirt bikes quite
a bit. She does not do any of that, nor
have a single use for any type of four by
four car. Aside from the copying, she makes very weird
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and appropriate jokes. I said I wanted breakfast, and she responds,
don't she get enough sausage from my son? You? I say,
I'm tired. She says, maybe don't stay up so late
having sex. Has literally said that. One time I made
a comment about my boyfriend and having big hands, and
she said, you know what that means, right, Mama, didn't
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raise no shrimpies. We were on a road trip once
and we had to pull over for a pea break.
My boyfriend got out and just pete on the side
of the road jokingly. I stood behind him and peeked
over to watch his business. His mom saw and she
came over to do the same. You and ugh, she
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does say this stuff in front of my boyfriend, her
son and he'll snap and tell her she's being weird,
but she only ever laughs it off. When she came
over to see his business, he immediately shrugged her off,
elbowed her, and snapped at her to knock it off.
She just doesn't take it seriously. I want the entire
future with my boyfriend, kids, house, land, all of it,
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So cutting her off or giving my boyfriend that ultimatum
doesn't seem feasible. Is this an overreaction? Do I just
let the weirdness visle out and ignore it in the meantime?
Ohp No, Oh, you're definitely not overreacting. What his mom
is doing is gross and wildly inappropriate. The jokes, the peaking,
the copying. It's definitely not harmless. It's boundary breaking your
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boyfriend snapping isn't enough. You need to tell him clearly
how uncomfortable this makes you feel, and that it's affecting
how you see the future with him. It's his mom,
so it's his job to shut it down firmly and consistently.
If he won't, then you've got a bigger problem. Ope,
what do you guys think? Let me know in the
comment section, and now let's check out the community comments.
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Plastic Venus says, as the mother of a son in
his twenties, she's unhinged and deeply inappropriate. He's likely been
dealing with this unhealthy ameasurement, which I firmly believe is
low key child abuse his whole life, and is aware
that it's weird. I'd talk to him honestly and in
a non judgmental way about your concerns and see what
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his thoughts are. I'm Pinomini says this is emotional incest.
She's seen her son as a place holder for a partner,
and now that he has a partner, she sees you
as competition for his affection. This behavior will only escalate
with every further step you take in your relationship. Getting married,
she will wear white. Having a baby, she will insert
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herself as the mother of your child. You need to
talk to your boyfriend about this and ask him to
set boundaries. She needs therapy. Worth Blueberry seventy one, twenty
nine says, not overreacting sounds like boyfriend also isn't comfortable.
Hopefully he's receptive to your concerns and support setting down
some real boundaries would be a shame to go no contact,
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but I've read similar stories on here before, and that's
unfortunately how it ended. Granted those were in context of
married couples, so the stakes were higher. You have the
opportunity to break things off without going through divorce if
it came to that, Yeah, I just gotta talk to him.
See if you'll step up to mom and then go
from there. Wonder if she has always acted like this
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with his girlfriends or may maybe it has ramped up
if you're his first committed relationship and that scares her.
Either way, totally gross behavior and skayam Ningen says is
boyfriend's dad in the picture. There's a weird level of
husbandification of her son. He has likely learned to shrug
it off or else she would absolutely lose it. She
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has no business being in her son's business anymore. He
needs to stop that. About the mirroring, I would try
telling her wrong things you are supposedly going to do
and get and see if she copies them and point
it out every time. Do not tell her what dress
you are wearing for your engagement or wedding. Potentially tell
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her it's pink when it's white, or go with an
unusual style while sending her pictures of pretty standard white dresses. Also,
don't share what you plan to name any future children
she is likely going to want to say. In that,
the community agrees that Opie is not overreacting and that
the mom is absolutely gross, and they also gave her
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a lot of tips about how to maybe manage her
in the future. So now let's move on to the
update to see how this story ends. Hi. I was
overwhelmed by the amount of responses I got on my
previous post and effing horrified that my fears were put
into words that outsiders were able to very clearly see.
I'm not gonna lie. It made me nauseous reading some
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of the comments and realizing it was a form of
emotional incest, which I had to research. By the way,
hated every second of it. Anyways, here's an update from
the drama that went down the last month. I sat
down with my boyfriend and had a really uncomfortable talk
about all of it, and he was equally horrified. I
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don't think it ever really hit him how completely bananas
and sick the behavior was until everything was laid out
on the table back to back. He assured me he
hasn't dealt with any deeper abuse from his past, and
this seems to be a more recent behavior. I'm his
most serious relationship, so we're assuming it was some weird,
sick jealousy, like many of you said, the real drama.
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He sat down with his mom without me and told
her how he felt that it was inappropriate and that
it needed to stop. Well, crap hit the fan. After that,
that woman completely snapped. She blew up my phone with
messages about how I will never compete with her, she
will always be my boyfriend's first love, and that I
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shouldn't have felt so insecure, especially since we considered each
other friends. She also said there was nothing weird or
sexual about the comments she's made and that were all
sensitive snowflakes. Eventually they got into a screaming match. He
told her we'd cut ties if she continued acting like this.
Both his siblings have cut tied with her for years now,
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and she pretty much said, I dare you, You'll deal
with the consequences. So ties were cut, but we have
learned she's been twisting the story quite a bit to
her and family, and they apparently blame me, saying I
poisoned her in my boyfriend's mind. I personally have no
guilt for the situation. I think cutting ties was the
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best outcome, but I do worry about my boyfriend. His
dad is still very much in his life, but I
worry about him not having his mom, even though she
was toxic. For the ones who have cut ties with
family members in the past because of a spouse, what
kind of advice can you give for a smooth transition
to essentially losing a parent. Is there anything that will
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make it easier on him or both of us? We
want to start planning a family soon too, but how
am I supposed to ever explain to our child what
happened to their grandma. I'm truly scared my boyfriend might
hold resentment towards me one day for bringing light to
how toxic his mom was. Opie, you didn't cause the damage.
You just helped uncover it. You showed courage, protected your piece,
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and gave your partner the chance to choose clarity. You've
shown him how much you love him, and that is
not sabotage. So stay grounded in the truth. Wipe, and
here's wishing you the best. Thanks for sharing and take care,
and now let's finish this video with a mood booster post.
This post is from the subreddit malicious Compliance, and it's
by you, sir fig ninety one. You can't give me
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five dollars? My son's school for the hundredth day of
school asked for the kids to bring in a hundred
of the same coin. They are going to be donating
the money to the local food pantry, so it is
for a good cause, and we are doing pretty good
this month, so I decided to give him one hundred
quarters twenty five dollars to donate. So on lunch, I
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head to my bank and go in. I'm directed to
one of the windows and tell the nice lady I
need to withdraw twenty five dollars in quarters. She says
okay and goes to get my quarters. She comes back
with three rolls of quarters. I can only do twenty
or thirty. They only come in rolls of ten. I
point out that she has a tray of change and ask,
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can you take five dollars from the loose change? Now
they only come in rolls of ten. Do you want
twenty or thirty? Okay, I really need the twenty five dollars,
so I ask for the thirty. She goes to process
my request in the computer at another window and comes
back with the three rolls of quarters. I then tell her,
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can I go ahead and make a deposit? Of course,
how much were you wanting to deposit five dollars in quarters?
The range of emotions that crossed her face as I
broke open one of the rolls and began to count
out my five dollars in quarters was priceless. She then
takes it and tells the guy at the other computer
that we needed to deposit five dollars in quarters back
into the account. He asked her what happened, and she
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told them I asked for twenty five dollars, but rolls
only came in tense. He then asked her why she
didn't just count out five dollars in quarters from the
loose change that is on each desk. I just smiled
as I waited for my deposit receipt. Look at UOPI
congratulations on the problem solving, and of course you were right.
Still fun to read. Thanks for sharing, Ope, and that's
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it for today's video. Thank you so much for taking
the time to watch it. Now. If you've gotten to
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