August 4, 2025 • 20 mins
Relationship Stories - OP visits her in-laws for two weeks and discovers her MIL secretly took photos of her nursing without consent. When confronted, MIL blames OP for “ruining” the pictures, igniting a clash over boundaries and respect.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi everybody, and welcome back to Lost Genre reddit stories.
This post is from the subreddit am I Overreacting and
it's by user ginger Pretzel. Mama, am I overreacting? Mother
in law says I'm ruining the weird photos she tried
to sneak of my new baby. Need to get some
feedback on this because it's driving me crazy. My thirty
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seven female family has been staying with my husband's thirty
six male parents fifty nine female and fifty nine male
for a week, and we'll be at their home for
another week before we have to head home to get
the kids ready for back to school. My mother in
law and I don't necessarily get along, but she's been
trying to play nice since I gave birth to our
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fourth child, a boy, four months ago. However, I suppose
the nice act has ended because she's been stirring the
pod and pushing my buttons since we got to their house,
rummaging through my clothes, whining that I should bottle feet
instead of nursing so she has a chance to feed
her baby. The works. I've been biting my tongue because
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my husband loves his family and this is some of
the only time we get to see his siblings anyway.
At the end of this week, mother in law storms
downstairs while we're eating breakfast and the kids are in
the yard playing, claiming we need to talk. I go
through a mental checklist to try to figure out which
one of her household rules I've broken or how I've
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managed to piss her off this time. That's when she
slaps her phone down on the counter and begins scrolling
through photos that are all of me and the baby.
These are photos she apparently took while I wasn't paying attention,
as most of them are blurry or from strange angles
down low, as though she angled her phone up while
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it was in her lap. One of them is taken
through a crack in the door to husband and I's bedroom.
I ask mother in law what her problem is and
why she's been taking photos of me and the baby
like a lunatic instead of just asking for my help
with taking photos I'd approve of. I don't want my
infant son's face plastered all over her social media. I
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cover it with emojis on my Facebook pictures. She complains
that she doesn't want to put those stupid pictures all
over his face. She was also complaining that I won't
put the baby down long enough for her to get
a photo of him by himself. He's been contact napping
and I wear him for most of the day, and
she can't post the photos she took because I'm huge
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and ruining them by looking ridiculous. For context, I'm definitely
on the heavier side five foot three and two hundred
and thirty pounds, and because half of these photos are
from a weird low angle, I have a prominent double chin,
and the baby is usually pressed up against me, either
in my arms or his wrap, so the photos are
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pretty much much just unflattering pictures of me with baby's
head and maybe an arm or a leg visible. I
tell her that I'm not going to entertain this behavior,
and since she decided to approach the supposed problem like this,
she can work with what she's already got, but she's
definitely not getting a solo photo up with my baby now.
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Hubby is understanding and supports my decision, even getting in
the way when he sees mother in law trying to
sneakily take more photos or distracting her so I can
leave the room. But some people think I'm blowing this
out of proportion. Father in law says, mother in law
has a right to take photos of her grandchild, and
it's not her fault that I'm insecure about how fat
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I am. Hubby's twin sister is also being dismissive because
she's always been caddy about Wait, why are you acting
so insulted like it's the first time. Even my sister,
when I called and complained about this, acted like I
was making mountains out of mole hills. She was like
this the pounds ago. Why is it suddenly a big
deal again? No one will listen to me when I
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insist that I don't care about her comments on my weight.
I care that she's sneaking around taking photos like a
stalker because she doesn't respect me enough to ask my
permission to take photos of my baby. She doesn't want
to have to follow my rules about covering his face
and can't wrench him up out of my arms to
get pictures of him, so she's just been acting like
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a creep. Instead, I'm nursing him in one of these photos.
This is weird, right, Am I crazy? Well? No, OPI
You're neither the aple nor are you crazy? Your mother
in law took secret photos, including while you were nursing
and through a cracked bedroom door. That's just being incredibly creepy.
As you've said. In my opinion, this whole thing is
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about consent and respect. She wants to post your baby
without following your rules, so she decided she would just
be a creep and take these secret pictures of you
and your father in law, saying she has a right
to this. No she does not. So for any of
those people minimizing this, your father in law, your sister
in law, and even your sister, they're all enabling her,
So don't worry about them. OPI. You drew a clear
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line and enforced it. You set a boundary. You're not
ruining in any pictures. You're just protecting your child's privacy
and your dignity. And what do you guys think? Let
me know in the comment section, and now let's check
out the community comments. Throw Away and some numbers says
not overreacting. I'd report her pictures on social media with
your baby and say that it's inappropriate child content or something.
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Because the pictures look like they've been taking stealthily. It
kind of works in your favor. Well, I'm sorry people
unrespecting your wishes, but it's great that your husband is
and he seems to be trying to help. Also side note,
you're allowed to be annoyed at somebody body shaming you
and ask them to stop. I hate how older generations
think they are allowed to pass for things like this, racism, sexism, etc.
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And Opie responds, I didn't even think about reporting her photos.
If they managed to pop up on her Facebook, I'll
definitely do that to get them taken down. I've told
her to mind her business about my body, especially in
front of my children, but she's nosy and can't help
but make comments. So long as they're just to me
or to my husband in private, I can at least
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let them roll off. She's been somewhat better about keeping
her mouth shut while the older kids are around. Gard
Da Bella says, go home now. Don't waste your precious
postpartum time with someone rude and disrespectful. She is awful
and posting pictures online can do actual harm. Pack up
and go home. Life's too short to dodge around nutcases
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when you don't have to, and Opie responds, my husband
will be back in a few hours. And I plan
on asking him to take me home. I'm reading comments
while I finish repacking my suitcase. We're only a three
hour drive away. I honestly don't know why I didn't
consider leaving before. Hot Atmosphere eighty eight thirteen says, don't
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stay there. Don't let your husband take the kids there.
Why are you putting yourself through this? Your kids are
learning that behaving like this is okay, that calling their
mother fat is okay, that ignoring someone's boundaries is okay.
I'm no longer in contact with my mother due to
similar behavior. You really shouldn't be in contact with his,
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and Opie responds. Husband's siblings live far away, and these
occasional visits to mother in law and father in law's
place are some of the only times he gets to
see them, So I put up with it to give
him his family time. The kids don't really know what's
going on. They were playing outside when this happened, though
I'm sure my oldest too can tell something's off. Husband
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and I are discussing that he might be going to
the next visit solo. Additional information from Opie's comments, husband
has told her to knock it off and she doesn't
listen to him either. I feel lucky to be married
to a man with a spine not an eager to
please mama's boy, but watching her bulldoze him when he
tries to put his foot down irks me. I'm planning
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on skipping out on the rest of this lovely vacation
and taking the baby with me. We already spend way
more time with my family than his, but that ratio
might be tipping even further in my folks favor now
Opie's edit, Thank you guys for proof that I'm not crazy.
I honestly didn't even think about going home early. I
was fully prepared to just grip my teeth for the
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rest of this visit because we only took one car
on the drive up here because it had enough space
to fit all of us, and he and the kids
will probably want to stay him for his siblings and
the kids because mother and father in law have a
bigger pool than ours at home. In any case, I
can't just drive back myself with the baby. If I
ever do agree to come on one of these trips again,
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I'll definitely be traveling separately in my car, or we're
staying in a hotel so I can at least escape
the crazy. I'm packing my under my son's things, and
when husband gets back from fishing with his dad and
his brother, I'm asking him if he can drive me
and the baby back home. I'll be able to have
peace of mind and have the house to myself for
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a few days so I can get things in order
before the kids have to go back to school. To update,
husband is back. They're home from fishing early because brother
in law lost his poll and they forgot to bring
any spares. He and I have been texting since he
left early this morning, and he's taking the baby and
I home and we're planning on having a conversation about
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what time spent with his folks will look like going
forward on the drive back. Thank you all for the advice,
giving me the gumption to leave early and keeping my
company with your comments while I packed my stuff. Well,
the community agrees that Opie is definitely not overreacting, the
mother in law is a complete ahole, and that Opie
should get out of there, which is something Opie didn't
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think of and now she's doing it. So let's move
on to the update to see how this story ends.
I wasn't going to update because I got home with
the baby and settled in and thought nothing of it.
Just communicate it with my husband and my fourteen year
old through texts and phone calls while they were gone.
But problems started to follow pretty soon after. After my
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husband returned to his parents' house without the baby and I.
His mother huffed and started grumbling about how dramatic I am,
how possessive I am of her baby, how I was
ruining this trip for everyone. Sister in law began winding
her up, talking about how I didn't want anyone else
to build a relationship with the baby. Husband told them
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both to mind their business and get a grip, mentioning
the mother in law that he needed to have a
serious talk with her. Once the kids left with brother
in law for lunch. Mother in law rolled her eyes
and walked off. They have a talk, and husband insists
to mother in law and father in law that they
can't expect me to roll over and let them stump
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all over my limits just because they want access to
our baby, that we are the final say in what
happens with our children, and if they can't get on
board with that, they can forget about seeing them, especially
not supervised. He told mother in law that her sneaking
around acting like my word meant nothing was childish and
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proved that she wasn't trustworthy, and he told both of
them to keep their opinions about my weight to themselves.
This starts. What my husband told me later was a
practically two to three hour argument that only stopped because
brother in law came back with the kids and husband
refused to discuss this in front of them. Mother in
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law pulling out crocodile tears and asking why he won't
defend her, insisting that I'm trying to ruin their relationship.
Husband has never been close with his mother and that
she just wants to show off her baby to her
friends and the extended family. Husband responds that if she
really wanted to take pictures of the baby, all she
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had to do was ask for help so he or
I could cover the baby's face. Mother in law and
father in law argue that they shouldn't have to ask
permission their grown adults and can do as they please
in their own house. Husband reminds them that it is
our baby, not theirs, and since they felt so strongly,
that is why I removed myself from the situation, and
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if they wanted to see my baby, they could do
it at our house, where they'll have to follow our rules.
This went back and forth, with mother in law eventually
shouting and stomping her feet until brother in law returned.
For the rest of the day, mother in law was
grumbling under her breath and practically ignoring our older children,
even as my five year old was clamoring for her attention.
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Husband paid her no mind and spent the evening playing
board games with the kids and brother in law while
sister in law and his mother sulked in the kitchen.
Fast forward to last night. Husband was having a couple
of beers with his brother while mother in law and
sister in law have wine in the kitchen. Mother in
law had gone to bed early and the kids were asleep.
Husband hears mother in law and sister in law giggling
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to each other, and while casually checking his phone, he
sees that mother in law has posted all of the
photos she took of me on her Facebook page. She
put the caption O pie won't let me see my grandson,
so you'll have to excuse her hugging the frame In
the comments, of her post. She was chatting with her
sisters about me, derogatory comments on my hair I'm a
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natural redhead, shaming me for my selfishness, and obviously comments
on my body. Husband flips is crap, demanding that mother
in law take the photos down or he'd take her
phone from her and do it himself. Apparently there were
more photos than even the ones we saw at first,
and in several of them, my top is fully open,
nursing brought and clipped. Mother in law is unaware husband
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is serious, and tries teasing him that she thought he
wasn't ashamed of being married to a fat woman. Husband
rushes into the kitchen and snatches mother in law's phone
out of her hands after a brief scuffle, deleting the
photos from mother in law's Facebook and then taking them
off of her phone altogether, before throwing her phone down
on the counter and telling her that he was leaving
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first thing in the morning. Mother in law scowls and
starts shouting that it isn't fair he's taking my side.
He responds that he loves me, that it isn't my
side versus hers, it's our side versus hers. I'm pretty
out of the loop about all of us. At this point,
I've been cleaning the house, looking after the baby, and
dealing with the cold I was apparently incubating for the
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first week of our visit. So I get a call
from a husband while I'm doing laundry in the basement.
He is in his car trying to keep himself calm,
but says he'll be home early with the kids in
the morning and that he wanted to have a discussion
with me about our plans moving forward. He tells me
what happened. I calm him down and we both head
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to bed. Fast forward to this morning, and I get
up early with the baby to have breakfast and coffee waiting.
Husband arrives with fourteen, ten and five at about six
a m. We have breakfast and then the kids peel
off to do their own thing. Our daughters leave for
their friends' houses, and the five year old goes into
the basement and to watch cartoons on the big TV.
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Hubs and I talk and he says he's done with
that annual visit to his parents' place and that he's
planning to have some one on one time with his
brother a few times a year. Instead. We go over
a plan of action in terms of much stricter boundaries,
deciding that the kids won't be going to the in
laws's house anymore, and while the in laws visit us
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at our house, if they act out, they'll be kicked out.
Mother in law has been blowing up his phone since
he left, but he's ignoring her for the time being
and helping me with cleaning. He also sheepishly admitted that
as disrespectful and frustrating as mother in law's creepy photos were,
they'd giving him a new appreciation for my round face.
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I picked a winner, y'all. Truly well, P, you definitely
have a husband that has your back, absolutely stood up
for you, and that's the right type of partner. And
regarding your in laws decisions, I think they're all the
right decisions. So here's witshing you the best of P.
Thanks so much for sharing and to take care. And
now let's finish this video with a mood booster post.
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This post is from the Subredditt Malicious Compliance and it's
by U, sir Dick part but take the chairs away
from our work area. We're gonna f this place up.
I work for a major US airline for a long time,
and at several different airports there's an area behind the
baggage counter where the bags get sorted for their respective
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flights after they've been checked. We're on our feet most
of the time, but we each have chairs at our
workstations so we can sit and rest for a minute
when there's a lull in bags coming down. Every few
years there'll be a hot crap new manager who's gonna
turn this airport around and make it the best performing
one in the system, and they all seem to have
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the same idea. Take away the chairs, so the agents
are always standing at the belt. Now, the agents in
this area are generally on the senior side, as it's
indoors and out of the elements. We've done the job
for a while, we know how to do the job efficiently,
and we really do our best to avoid f ups.
But as long as human error is a factor, there
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will always be some Taking our chairs does nothing but
pisces us off their bs. Excuse usually is framing it
as a safety issue, a tripping hazard, but that's where
we start. Smaller or oddly shaped bags get set down
in a plastic tube so they don't jam the belt.
Maybe you've seen them, we take them off the belt
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and stack them up on the ground for someone to
combine and collect. Not anymore, we let them pile up
on the belt, making it a giant pain in the
ass for the poor bastard collecting them. They're bitching constantly
to the manager. We say, sorry, boss, they're a tripping
hazard on the ground. Next, we start following the rules.
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Our employee handbook lays out very clearly what the company's
expectations for us in our job duties are. We're only
expected to pull one bag per minute and take bags
out no later than twenty minutes before the flight departs.
Maybe you've guessed already, but those expectations are nowhere near
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good enough to actually complete these tasks. So by the
company's own rules, we were already going well beyond what
was expected of us. But we start giving them the
bare minimum one bag per minute twenty minutes prior. Manager
was pissed. He and the supervisors were throwing bags, and us,
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being unionized, we documented and grieved every single time it happened,
and the company a few days later had to pay
out several thousands to agents for covered work delays across
the board. Fifteen hundred bags missed that day. The next morning,
the chairs were back in their spots and we continued
as normal, and afterwards no one would give that manager
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the time of day. A lot of passengers got left
over that day, but we were working exactly to the
rules our company had given us, so you can blame
the airline and not the agents. The handbook was changed
after a while, but only extending it to thirty five
minutes prior instead of twenty. It's still one bag per minute.
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Last I looked, I was lucky enough to be a
part of three of these events over the last years,
but this was the most satisfying. Well, that manager went
about it the wrong way, but at least he tried.
He failed. Hopefully he took the lesson. Thanks so much
for sharing, Opie, Take care, and that's it for today's video.
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Hi everybody, and welcome back to Lost Genre reddit stories.
This post is from the subreddit am I Overreacting and
it's by user ginger Pretzel. Mama, am I overreacting? Mother
in law says I'm ruining the weird photos she tried
to sneak of my new baby. Need to get some
feedback on this because it's driving me crazy. My thirty
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seven female family has been staying with my husband's thirty
six male parents fifty nine female and fifty nine male
for a week, and we'll be at their home for
another week before we have to head home to get
the kids ready for back to school. My mother in
law and I don't necessarily get along, but she's been
trying to play nice since I gave birth to our
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fourth child, a boy, four months ago. However, I suppose
the nice act has ended because she's been stirring the
pod and pushing my buttons since we got to their house,
rummaging through my clothes, whining that I should bottle feet
instead of nursing so she has a chance to feed
her baby. The works. I've been biting my tongue because
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my husband loves his family and this is some of
the only time we get to see his siblings anyway.
At the end of this week, mother in law storms
downstairs while we're eating breakfast and the kids are in
the yard playing, claiming we need to talk. I go
through a mental checklist to try to figure out which
one of her household rules I've broken or how I've
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managed to piss her off this time. That's when she
slaps her phone down on the counter and begins scrolling
through photos that are all of me and the baby.
These are photos she apparently took while I wasn't paying attention,
as most of them are blurry or from strange angles
down low, as though she angled her phone up while
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it was in her lap. One of them is taken
through a crack in the door to husband and I's bedroom.
I ask mother in law what her problem is and
why she's been taking photos of me and the baby
like a lunatic instead of just asking for my help
with taking photos I'd approve of. I don't want my
infant son's face plastered all over her social media. I
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cover it with emojis on my Facebook pictures. She complains
that she doesn't want to put those stupid pictures all
over his face. She was also complaining that I won't
put the baby down long enough for her to get
a photo of him by himself. He's been contact napping
and I wear him for most of the day, and
she can't post the photos she took because I'm huge
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and ruining them by looking ridiculous. For context, I'm definitely
on the heavier side five foot three and two hundred
and thirty pounds, and because half of these photos are
from a weird low angle, I have a prominent double chin,
and the baby is usually pressed up against me, either
in my arms or his wrap, so the photos are
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pretty much much just unflattering pictures of me with baby's
head and maybe an arm or a leg visible. I
tell her that I'm not going to entertain this behavior,
and since she decided to approach the supposed problem like this,
she can work with what she's already got, but she's
definitely not getting a solo photo up with my baby now.
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Hubby is understanding and supports my decision, even getting in
the way when he sees mother in law trying to
sneakily take more photos or distracting her so I can
leave the room. But some people think I'm blowing this
out of proportion. Father in law says, mother in law
has a right to take photos of her grandchild, and
it's not her fault that I'm insecure about how fat
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I am. Hubby's twin sister is also being dismissive because
she's always been caddy about Wait, why are you acting
so insulted like it's the first time. Even my sister,
when I called and complained about this, acted like I
was making mountains out of mole hills. She was like
this the pounds ago. Why is it suddenly a big
deal again? No one will listen to me when I
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insist that I don't care about her comments on my weight.
I care that she's sneaking around taking photos like a
stalker because she doesn't respect me enough to ask my
permission to take photos of my baby. She doesn't want
to have to follow my rules about covering his face
and can't wrench him up out of my arms to
get pictures of him, so she's just been acting like
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a creep. Instead, I'm nursing him in one of these photos.
This is weird, right, Am I crazy? Well? No, OPI
You're neither the aple nor are you crazy? Your mother
in law took secret photos, including while you were nursing
and through a cracked bedroom door. That's just being incredibly creepy.
As you've said. In my opinion, this whole thing is
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about consent and respect. She wants to post your baby
without following your rules, so she decided she would just
be a creep and take these secret pictures of you
and your father in law, saying she has a right
to this. No she does not. So for any of
those people minimizing this, your father in law, your sister
in law, and even your sister, they're all enabling her,
So don't worry about them. OPI. You drew a clear
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line and enforced it. You set a boundary. You're not
ruining in any pictures. You're just protecting your child's privacy
and your dignity. And what do you guys think? Let
me know in the comment section, and now let's check
out the community comments. Throw Away and some numbers says
not overreacting. I'd report her pictures on social media with
your baby and say that it's inappropriate child content or something.
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Because the pictures look like they've been taking stealthily. It
kind of works in your favor. Well, I'm sorry people
unrespecting your wishes, but it's great that your husband is
and he seems to be trying to help. Also side note,
you're allowed to be annoyed at somebody body shaming you
and ask them to stop. I hate how older generations
think they are allowed to pass for things like this, racism, sexism, etc.
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And Opie responds, I didn't even think about reporting her photos.
If they managed to pop up on her Facebook, I'll
definitely do that to get them taken down. I've told
her to mind her business about my body, especially in
front of my children, but she's nosy and can't help
but make comments. So long as they're just to me
or to my husband in private, I can at least
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let them roll off. She's been somewhat better about keeping
her mouth shut while the older kids are around. Gard
Da Bella says, go home now. Don't waste your precious
postpartum time with someone rude and disrespectful. She is awful
and posting pictures online can do actual harm. Pack up
and go home. Life's too short to dodge around nutcases
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when you don't have to, and Opie responds, my husband
will be back in a few hours. And I plan
on asking him to take me home. I'm reading comments
while I finish repacking my suitcase. We're only a three
hour drive away. I honestly don't know why I didn't
consider leaving before. Hot Atmosphere eighty eight thirteen says, don't
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stay there. Don't let your husband take the kids there.
Why are you putting yourself through this? Your kids are
learning that behaving like this is okay, that calling their
mother fat is okay, that ignoring someone's boundaries is okay.
I'm no longer in contact with my mother due to
similar behavior. You really shouldn't be in contact with his,
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and Opie responds. Husband's siblings live far away, and these
occasional visits to mother in law and father in law's
place are some of the only times he gets to
see them, So I put up with it to give
him his family time. The kids don't really know what's
going on. They were playing outside when this happened, though
I'm sure my oldest too can tell something's off. Husband
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and I are discussing that he might be going to
the next visit solo. Additional information from Opie's comments, husband
has told her to knock it off and she doesn't
listen to him either. I feel lucky to be married
to a man with a spine not an eager to
please mama's boy, but watching her bulldoze him when he
tries to put his foot down irks me. I'm planning
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on skipping out on the rest of this lovely vacation
and taking the baby with me. We already spend way
more time with my family than his, but that ratio
might be tipping even further in my folks favor now
Opie's edit, Thank you guys for proof that I'm not crazy.
I honestly didn't even think about going home early. I
was fully prepared to just grip my teeth for the
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rest of this visit because we only took one car
on the drive up here because it had enough space
to fit all of us, and he and the kids
will probably want to stay him for his siblings and
the kids because mother and father in law have a
bigger pool than ours at home. In any case, I
can't just drive back myself with the baby. If I
ever do agree to come on one of these trips again,
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I'll definitely be traveling separately in my car, or we're
staying in a hotel so I can at least escape
the crazy. I'm packing my under my son's things, and
when husband gets back from fishing with his dad and
his brother, I'm asking him if he can drive me
and the baby back home. I'll be able to have
peace of mind and have the house to myself for
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a few days so I can get things in order
before the kids have to go back to school. To update,
husband is back. They're home from fishing early because brother
in law lost his poll and they forgot to bring
any spares. He and I have been texting since he
left early this morning, and he's taking the baby and
I home and we're planning on having a conversation about
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what time spent with his folks will look like going
forward on the drive back. Thank you all for the advice,
giving me the gumption to leave early and keeping my
company with your comments while I packed my stuff. Well,
the community agrees that Opie is definitely not overreacting, the
mother in law is a complete ahole, and that Opie
should get out of there, which is something Opie didn't
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think of and now she's doing it. So let's move
on to the update to see how this story ends.
I wasn't going to update because I got home with
the baby and settled in and thought nothing of it.
Just communicate it with my husband and my fourteen year
old through texts and phone calls while they were gone.
But problems started to follow pretty soon after. After my
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husband returned to his parents' house without the baby and I.
His mother huffed and started grumbling about how dramatic I am,
how possessive I am of her baby, how I was
ruining this trip for everyone. Sister in law began winding
her up, talking about how I didn't want anyone else
to build a relationship with the baby. Husband told them
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both to mind their business and get a grip, mentioning
the mother in law that he needed to have a
serious talk with her. Once the kids left with brother
in law for lunch. Mother in law rolled her eyes
and walked off. They have a talk, and husband insists
to mother in law and father in law that they
can't expect me to roll over and let them stump
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all over my limits just because they want access to
our baby, that we are the final say in what
happens with our children, and if they can't get on
board with that, they can forget about seeing them, especially
not supervised. He told mother in law that her sneaking
around acting like my word meant nothing was childish and
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proved that she wasn't trustworthy, and he told both of
them to keep their opinions about my weight to themselves.
This starts. What my husband told me later was a
practically two to three hour argument that only stopped because
brother in law came back with the kids and husband
refused to discuss this in front of them. Mother in
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law pulling out crocodile tears and asking why he won't
defend her, insisting that I'm trying to ruin their relationship.
Husband has never been close with his mother and that
she just wants to show off her baby to her
friends and the extended family. Husband responds that if she
really wanted to take pictures of the baby, all she
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had to do was ask for help so he or
I could cover the baby's face. Mother in law and
father in law argue that they shouldn't have to ask
permission their grown adults and can do as they please
in their own house. Husband reminds them that it is
our baby, not theirs, and since they felt so strongly,
that is why I removed myself from the situation, and
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if they wanted to see my baby, they could do
it at our house, where they'll have to follow our rules.
This went back and forth, with mother in law eventually
shouting and stomping her feet until brother in law returned.
For the rest of the day, mother in law was
grumbling under her breath and practically ignoring our older children,
even as my five year old was clamoring for her attention.
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Husband paid her no mind and spent the evening playing
board games with the kids and brother in law while
sister in law and his mother sulked in the kitchen.
Fast forward to last night. Husband was having a couple
of beers with his brother while mother in law and
sister in law have wine in the kitchen. Mother in
law had gone to bed early and the kids were asleep.
Husband hears mother in law and sister in law giggling
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to each other, and while casually checking his phone, he
sees that mother in law has posted all of the
photos she took of me on her Facebook page. She
put the caption O pie won't let me see my grandson,
so you'll have to excuse her hugging the frame In
the comments, of her post. She was chatting with her
sisters about me, derogatory comments on my hair I'm a
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natural redhead, shaming me for my selfishness, and obviously comments
on my body. Husband flips is crap, demanding that mother
in law take the photos down or he'd take her
phone from her and do it himself. Apparently there were
more photos than even the ones we saw at first,
and in several of them, my top is fully open,
nursing brought and clipped. Mother in law is unaware husband
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is serious, and tries teasing him that she thought he
wasn't ashamed of being married to a fat woman. Husband
rushes into the kitchen and snatches mother in law's phone
out of her hands after a brief scuffle, deleting the
photos from mother in law's Facebook and then taking them
off of her phone altogether, before throwing her phone down
on the counter and telling her that he was leaving
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first thing in the morning. Mother in law scowls and
starts shouting that it isn't fair he's taking my side.
He responds that he loves me, that it isn't my
side versus hers, it's our side versus hers. I'm pretty
out of the loop about all of us. At this point,
I've been cleaning the house, looking after the baby, and
dealing with the cold I was apparently incubating for the
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first week of our visit. So I get a call
from a husband while I'm doing laundry in the basement.
He is in his car trying to keep himself calm,
but says he'll be home early with the kids in
the morning and that he wanted to have a discussion
with me about our plans moving forward. He tells me
what happened. I calm him down and we both head
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to bed. Fast forward to this morning, and I get
up early with the baby to have breakfast and coffee waiting.
Husband arrives with fourteen, ten and five at about six
a m. We have breakfast and then the kids peel
off to do their own thing. Our daughters leave for
their friends' houses, and the five year old goes into
the basement and to watch cartoons on the big TV.
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Hubs and I talk and he says he's done with
that annual visit to his parents' place and that he's
planning to have some one on one time with his
brother a few times a year. Instead. We go over
a plan of action in terms of much stricter boundaries,
deciding that the kids won't be going to the in
laws's house anymore, and while the in laws visit us
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at our house, if they act out, they'll be kicked out.
Mother in law has been blowing up his phone since
he left, but he's ignoring her for the time being
and helping me with cleaning. He also sheepishly admitted that
as disrespectful and frustrating as mother in law's creepy photos were,
they'd giving him a new appreciation for my round face.
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I picked a winner, y'all. Truly well, P, you definitely
have a husband that has your back, absolutely stood up
for you, and that's the right type of partner. And
regarding your in laws decisions, I think they're all the
right decisions. So here's witshing you the best of P.
Thanks so much for sharing and to take care. And
now let's finish this video with a mood booster post.
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This post is from the Subredditt Malicious Compliance and it's
by U, sir Dick part but take the chairs away
from our work area. We're gonna f this place up.
I work for a major US airline for a long time,
and at several different airports there's an area behind the
baggage counter where the bags get sorted for their respective
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flights after they've been checked. We're on our feet most
of the time, but we each have chairs at our
workstations so we can sit and rest for a minute
when there's a lull in bags coming down. Every few
years there'll be a hot crap new manager who's gonna
turn this airport around and make it the best performing
one in the system, and they all seem to have
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the same idea. Take away the chairs, so the agents
are always standing at the belt. Now, the agents in
this area are generally on the senior side, as it's
indoors and out of the elements. We've done the job
for a while, we know how to do the job efficiently,
and we really do our best to avoid f ups.
But as long as human error is a factor, there
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will always be some Taking our chairs does nothing but
pisces us off their bs. Excuse usually is framing it
as a safety issue, a tripping hazard, but that's where
we start. Smaller or oddly shaped bags get set down
in a plastic tube so they don't jam the belt.
Maybe you've seen them, we take them off the belt
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and stack them up on the ground for someone to
combine and collect. Not anymore, we let them pile up
on the belt, making it a giant pain in the
ass for the poor bastard collecting them. They're bitching constantly
to the manager. We say, sorry, boss, they're a tripping
hazard on the ground. Next, we start following the rules.
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Our employee handbook lays out very clearly what the company's
expectations for us in our job duties are. We're only
expected to pull one bag per minute and take bags
out no later than twenty minutes before the flight departs.
Maybe you've guessed already, but those expectations are nowhere near
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good enough to actually complete these tasks. So by the
company's own rules, we were already going well beyond what
was expected of us. But we start giving them the
bare minimum one bag per minute twenty minutes prior. Manager
was pissed. He and the supervisors were throwing bags, and us,
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being unionized, we documented and grieved every single time it happened,
and the company a few days later had to pay
out several thousands to agents for covered work delays across
the board. Fifteen hundred bags missed that day. The next morning,
the chairs were back in their spots and we continued
as normal, and afterwards no one would give that manager
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the time of day. A lot of passengers got left
over that day, but we were working exactly to the
rules our company had given us, so you can blame
the airline and not the agents. The handbook was changed
after a while, but only extending it to thirty five
minutes prior instead of twenty. It's still one bag per minute.
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Last I looked, I was lucky enough to be a
part of three of these events over the last years,
but this was the most satisfying. Well, that manager went
about it the wrong way, but at least he tried.
He failed. Hopefully he took the lesson. Thanks so much
for sharing, Opie, Take care, and that's it for today's video.
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