August 7, 2025 • 21 mins
Relationship Stories - OP has spent years building a career she loves, but her fiancé refuses to compromise on a remote dream house that would force her to start over. He insists she’s overthinking—she knows she’s not.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi everybody, and welcome back to Lost Genre Reddit stories.
This post is from the subredd adam II a hole
and it's by user through a Ray Nowhere House. Am
I the a hole for not wanting to buy a
house three hours away from my current workplace? I don't
know how to start this. I, twenty seven female, have
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been with my fiance, twenty eight male, for five years.
We've just recently saved enough for a deposit on a house,
and he's found this cottage in the middle of nowhere,
two hours away from where we currently live. The thing
is I already work an hour away. I'm a nursery
practitioner and I love my workplace. I've been there since
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I was twenty and I've worked my way up to
a room lead position. Living three hours away from my
job would not be ideal, But my fiance won't budge
on this house. He says it's perfect within our budge
and quirky enough to fit our tastes in home style.
I've tried to communicate with him about this issue multiple times,
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bringing up the fact that there's not even any nurseries
in that area that are looking for staff, and I
don't want to find another job that's a bit further out,
but start from the bottom again. He says, it'll all
work out if I just stop overthinking it. And I've
been at my current job for so long that it
would be nice for me to start fresh. Another issue
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is that I want children. They've always been a huge
deal breaker for me, and I don't think it would
be such a good idea to live so remotely when
it comes to children, as we will have to get
them to and from school or nursery before and after
work every day. The nearest school and nursery is a
thirty minute to drive away from the house he wants,
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and we both start work fairly early and finish quite late.
It will also be an issue of their freedom as
they grow up, because I think it would be horrible
to have to rely on your parents for transportation all
the time and have to skip out on plans if
they can't drive you. He really thinks I'm being dramatic
about this and I'll just figure it out. So am
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I the ahle for not wanting to move so far
away from my job and basically all civilization? No OPI,
you're not the Ahle. You've invested yourself in both your
career and your relationship. And up to now everything was
working fine for the two of you from my understanding,
and it seems absolutely reasonable to continue on that path
if it's working for the both of you. But now
(02:38):
you've hit a major disagreement and you've raised practical, future
focused concerns, and instead of working through them with you,
he's brushing them off with vague reassurances. He's not acting
as a partner. And OPI it might just be that
both you and him have different visions of what your
future looks like. So in my opinion, you guys need
to sit down and really have a hard conversation of this,
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and it might be a deal breaker. And what do
you guys think? Let me know in the comments section,
and now let's check out the community comments. Feisty Irish
Wench says, not the ahole. If you have joined the funds,
immediately remove your contributions from the account and safeguard the money.
He absolutely will use all of it to buy the cottage.
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His plan is to isolate you and keep you away
from your network of people. And Opie responds, Luckily, I
control our finances because I'm better with numbers, so I've
already transferred my half of the savings into a different account.
He won't even notice. He's usually very sweet and considerate,
so I'm not sure what's got into him about this house.
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He loves my family and we have the same friend
group as we've known each other since high school, so
I don't think he's trying to isolate me. Impossible. Emu
fifteen ninety five says, not the Ahle. You two are
not on the same page. You need to sort that
out before you get married, and Dopie responds, I am
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desperately trying to sort it out. I'm considering telling him
that I will ender the engagement if he continues to
be unreasonable and doesn't consider my feelings on the matter.
Harry Proof eighty five four says, not the Ahle, y'all
didn't talk about where you wanted to live. You both
should have discussed where exactly you wanted a home. You
don't have to move where you don't want to live,
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and Dopi responds, we discuss it. We both want a
nice cottage that's out of the way of lots of people,
but there's options near us, and even more options that
are actually closer to my job. That also still has
access to regular buses, and there's even a few up
for sale in a town with a train station a
reasonable walk away. I don't know why he's suddenly so
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set on this house that's so far out, when we
have plenty of options available to us that won't move
us ours away and routine p. Ninety five thirty eight
says is the house also three hours away from his workplace?
Or does he work from home? And Dopie responds, he
works in tech and he does go physically to work,
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but has the opportunity to work from home if he
wants to. He says, because it's worked out for him,
it'll work out for me too, and I can always
just find another job in a nursery. But I don't
think he gets quite how difficult it is to find
a genuine, good job in a great nursery that doesn't
have a toxic environment and crazy high staff. Turnover additional
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information from Op's comments. We've been saving for a while.
Nobody gave us any money. I was already saving before
we got together, so was he, And after a couple
of years together, we decided to pool our house savings
for our future, which I now realize was probably a
really dumb idea because we aren't married. I've actually put
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more end than him despite spending less, because I'm happy
to live a frugal lifestyle. Well, he likes holidays and
expensive cars, et cetera. The community agrees that opia is
not the equal and they're warning her about the future.
But the good thing is from OPI, it sounds like
it wouldn't be so difficult to move on if she
had to. Anyways, let's move on to the update to
(06:14):
see how this story ends. I wasn't expecting to be
able to update this fast, but here we are. First off,
I want to thank everyone that commented on my last
post and also add some context as I realized my
last post may have been lacking some My fiance and
I have been together five years, but I have known
him for twelve and in all that time i've known him,
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and especially since we got together, he's always been sweet,
taken my feelings into consideration, and hasn't actively ignored my
opinion like this. It's always been a two yes, one
no situation in decisions. Before this, we had a good relationship. Otherwise,
we had date nights once a fortnight. We enjoyed each
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other's company, had aligning plans for the future, and the
same ideals for a relationship. He had watched me go
through a few quite bad relationships over the years before
we got together, and did his best to be the
opposite of my excess. Though he's always been quite pushy
when it comes to sexual intimacy, so I guess that's
an issue. But other than that, it was great, and
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we had actually had a lot of talks about what
we wanted in a house. We had agreed that we
wanted a house or cottage either the same distance away
or closer to my work, a bit more remote, but
still with a town or city easily accessible by public
transport and car. I'm not sure why he suddenly switched
to wanting a house so far out from everything and everyone.
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We both know we live in the UK and a
two hour drive can have you in basically a whole
other world. Anyway. The actual update, I had annual leave
from work yesterday and my now ex fiance was having
a work from home day, something he's been doing more
and more frequently as of late. This is another reason
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he is so okay with the house he wants being
where it is because he can just switch to full
time work from home. In the morning, I sat down
with him and tried to bring up the house. I
laid out my points from my last post yet again,
and told him I am under no circumstances leaving my job.
I love it and I do not want to search
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for another. I brought up the countless other houses that
fit our criteria. There are in our area and closer
to my work, some of which we have viewed. We
haven't viewed the place he wants yet as we haven't
had the time, and I told him I do not
want to, as I already know it's not what I want.
I also asked him if he really thinks it would
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be okay for me to have a six hour round
commute every day, especially considering my shift starts at eight
a m. So I would have to leave by five
am every morning and be up by around four am.
My shifts typically finish at five thirty pm, so I
wouldn't even be back home until late thirty pm. Would
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he be okay with doing all the childcare in the future, housework,
and just everything that needed to be done because I
would not be home for any of it. He didn't
seem to take any of it to heart and still
insisted I could find another job, maybe one not even
into childcare. And that's what finally pushed me over the edge.
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Childcare has been my dream since I was a little girl,
and I managed to find an absolute dream of a
workplace that I know many childcare practitioners would kill the
work for. How could I possibly leave that all behind
when I've worked so hard for it? He told me
he set on this house, so either I accept it
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or I leave. I chose to leave. I gave him
his ring back and told him we're done. I told
him that he's not being the sweet, considerate man I
fell in love with, and I don't know why he
can't see my side of things in this. I do
not want to live alive with somebody that doesn't consider
how I feel in all of this. This completely shocked him,
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and he started begging me to rethink that we can
figure it out, but I refused and went to pack
my things. I'm staying with my brother and his wife now,
which is nice because they live closer to my workplace
a thirty minute drive instead of an hour, and I
get to spend time with my little Nieces. I am hurting,
but I also feel like a huge weight has been
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lifted off my shoulders. I do not deserve to not
have my opinion valued, and he certainly did not. I
guess it's onwards and upwards, as they say, but I
definitely won't be dating for a long time after this OPI.
It's understandable that you're hurting, but you've made the right
decision and this was like the last checkpoint to do
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it before the stakes would be way higher. So here's
wishing you the best in the future. Rope, take care
and thanks for sharing. And now let's move on to
the next post that also has an update. This post
is from the subredded Almighty Ahoul and it's by user
amazing Box thirty five eleven. Future ex fiance is angry
because I don't want to share my son's money. I
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Female thirty five met my fiance two years ago. My
son four gets on well with him and my ex husband.
My son's father also likes him. Now to the point
three years ago, I won a large sum of money
in the lottery, not millions, but enough for a nice
life if I work normally and a good start for
my son later, seventy five percent went into a savings
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account that my son will have access to when he's
twenty one. My fiance always thought he had plenty of
money and never let me correct him. I insisted on
a prenuptial agreement, and for that the finances were disclosed.
Now the amount in my son's savings account is about
five times more more than anything. My fiance has completely enraged.
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He left the lawyer's office and ignored all calls for
two days. For me, that was the end of the relationship,
and I wrote to him saying that he could have
the ring back. A week later, he was at the door.
He would love me, but was in shock and now
wanted details of where the money had come from. He
also told me that he had a five year old
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daughter from a previous relationship, and that it would only
be fair to split the money so that his daughter
could also benefit from it. He sees it as justified,
as I got the money through luck and not through performance.
I gave him back the engagement ring and kicked him
out of my apartment. Since then, I've been getting messages
from various social media profiles and cell phone numbers that
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I would be the Aho, who is ruining his daughter's future.
I only found out about his daughter that day. I
never saw any photos or anything like that in the
past years. Well he I don't see anything here to
kind of judge to see if you were the agle
or not. But it's clearly that he is. I mean,
I don't know what kind of scammer grift this guy
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was pulling that he has a daughter. Now. I mean,
if it was true, horrible person to not even tell
you that, considering you were engaged. And if it's false,
well it's just another scam. It's a good thing you
gave the ring back and then did the relationship. Op
What do you guys think? Let me know in the
comments section and let's take a quick look at the
community comments. Eighty five Monte Carlo SS says, you knew
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this guy for two years, got engaged and didn't know
he had a daughter, and he's upset that you didn't
mention your son's money, and Dopey responds, well, I tried
to tell him about my finances. He never wanted to know.
He always were kind of Ye're on the man, You
don't have to worry. Vegetable Cod twenty three, forty says
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not be ahle. Wow. I don't know why he thought
admitting to hiding a daughter for two years and then
that you give her a trust fund for her would
win you back, Opie. But damn Also, I want to
know when he planned to reveal the daughter if he
hadn't found out about the trust. I'm thinking he was
definitely going to disclose that after the wedding, when he
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thought he had op logged down. Lastly, I'm actually seriously thinking, Opie,
that the daughter is completely fictional, and he actually spent
the last two days setting up a way to siphon
money for his daughter's trust account. I would bet money
the second the account was set up, she would pass
away or suddenly have a slew of medical bills that
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need to be paid from the trust. This dude is
shifty ass f told you to your face, says not
the equal you dodged a nuke. Go treat you and
your son to a fun day. The level of entitlement
is stunning. Just remember, not your child, not his money.
The trash took itself out Opie's comment. Wow, thanks for
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the support. I never expected so many comments or up votes. Hart.
I probably have some explaining to do. In my country,
lottery winners are never revealed. Sometimes they say in which
region a ticket was bought, but never more. Apart from
the financial security for my son, there is no sign
of the win in my family. I used my part
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of the wind to pay off debts and bought myself
a car, neither new nor anything special. We live in
the same rented apartment and I still have my job
that pays the monthly bills. I treat myself to a
two week vacation in Australia once a year, but never
in luxury. My son wears Timu clothes he loves the designs,
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and I don't have any designer stuff myself and always
wear my clothes up, so there was never any sign
that my fiance was a gold digger. On the contrary,
I had to fight for him not to keep inviting
me to dinner or paying for weekend trips. I mostly
turned them down. I grew up in a financially unstable family,
so I was always very concerned about being frugal. My
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son's saving account is also closed to withdrawals before his
twenty first birthday. You can put money into it, but
you can't take it out, and even then only he
is allowed to do so. I also will inform and
prepare him for that moment. He will not be lost
and alone with that. He's also getting twenty bucks per month.
He can do with that whatever he wants, and even
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now he can save and think about it. So twenty
one is a realistic age. Well, the community definitely agrees
Opie is not the Ahle and she dodged a nuke apparently,
which I agree. So now let's move on to the
update to see how this story ends. Hello. Everyone, thank
you for your support on my original post and sorry
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for the long wait for an update. After receiving many
of your tips, I took my son to his grandparents,
informed the police and also my boss. Unfortunately, the police
can't do much in my country as long as he
doesn't commit a crime against me. Harassing me on the
phone and begging for money doesn't count as a crime.
I informed my boss mainly because my ex fiance works
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for a company that we deal with almost daily. That's
how we originally met. In recent weeks, there have been
many attempts to buy his friends and family to contact me,
all of whom wanted to convince him to give him
the money, but everyone hung up when I asked about
his daughter. When my ex fiance showed up at my work,
he didn't normally have to do that. After getting a promotion,
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my boss called my fiance's company and explained that if
he took one more step in my direction, all contracts
would be canceled due to their unacceptable behavior. This led
to a meeting with my ex fiance's boss, my boss
and me. I didn't tell them every detail, but when
it came to the money, his boss explained to me
that my fiance actually wanted to buy a large stake
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in the company and was allegedly just waiting for the
loan to be paid out. This made it clear why
he wanted my son's money so badly. My ex fiance
is actually a highly respected employee at his company, which
is why his boss was reluctant to fire him, especially
since this probably wouldn't have improved my situation, and similar
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to the police, his boss considered it bad behavior, but
it wasn't a criminal offense. At the same time, my
company is a very large client for them, and sweeping
the whole thing under the rug wouldn't help. After a
few days, I received the news that my ex fiance
was being transferred to another branch of the company several
thousand kilometers away from me. The company's purchasing department also
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clearly rejected the purchase. Afterwards, I found out via social
media that my ex fiance actually has a daughter. A
friend was still following him on Instagram to keep an
eye on him, and when she looked at his tags
from the last six years, she actually noticed his ex
and a look at her profile showday girl of the
specified age. I contacted her and she willingly explained to
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me how much she actually wanted a child, and now
when the ultrasound showed it was a girl, he left her.
He broke off contact with the mother during the pregnancy
and willingly gave up all his rights and obligations as
a father. She herself is now in a happy relationship
and her husband loves her daughter. She never asked my
ex fiance for money. Following your advice regarding the savings account,
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I contacted our financial advisor and can now say that
I must apologize to you. It is indeed a trust fund.
I just hand referred to it as such until then,
as it is mainly referred to as a savings account
in my country, but yes, it is a trust fund
in the American sense. I discussed with my ex husband,
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the father of my son, once again how we would
make the payout, and thanks to your tips, we have
now decided on a staggered payout from the ages twenty
one to thirty five, so that he has a contribution
for several stages of his life. The amount of age
twenty one has been chosen so that it can be
used for colling, but at the same time it won't
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hurt too much if he squanders it. My question about
amii Aho was mainly because there was actually many people
in my circle who called me that because I persuaded
my ex fiance to sign a prenuptial agreement. But for me,
a prenuptial agreement was important for several reasons. One to
secure my son's money now I know he wouldn't have
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been able to get his hands on it. Two, I
started a small business in addition to my main job.
Nothing big at the moment, but it's still mine. And
three I'm saving money so that I can eventually realize
my dream of owning a house in Australia. And I
don't want to lose that money to him in a divorce.
In retrospect, I can see how many red flags I
overlooked on his part, and I will definitely be more
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careful in the future. Thank you for your support. Also
via DMS, Wow, Ob your ex totals comeback. Absolute scomeback,
dead be dad to try to scam you and was
also trying to scam the company he worked for. Yeah,
total scumback. It's a good thing that you got away
from him, OPI. So here's wishing you and your son
the best. Op take care and thanks for sharing. And
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Hi everybody, and welcome back to Lost Genre Reddit stories.
This post is from the subredd adam II a hole
and it's by user through a Ray Nowhere House. Am
I the a hole for not wanting to buy a
house three hours away from my current workplace? I don't
know how to start this. I, twenty seven female, have
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been with my fiance, twenty eight male, for five years.
We've just recently saved enough for a deposit on a house,
and he's found this cottage in the middle of nowhere,
two hours away from where we currently live. The thing
is I already work an hour away. I'm a nursery
practitioner and I love my workplace. I've been there since
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I was twenty and I've worked my way up to
a room lead position. Living three hours away from my
job would not be ideal, But my fiance won't budge
on this house. He says it's perfect within our budge
and quirky enough to fit our tastes in home style.
I've tried to communicate with him about this issue multiple times,
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bringing up the fact that there's not even any nurseries
in that area that are looking for staff, and I
don't want to find another job that's a bit further out,
but start from the bottom again. He says, it'll all
work out if I just stop overthinking it. And I've
been at my current job for so long that it
would be nice for me to start fresh. Another issue
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is that I want children. They've always been a huge
deal breaker for me, and I don't think it would
be such a good idea to live so remotely when
it comes to children, as we will have to get
them to and from school or nursery before and after
work every day. The nearest school and nursery is a
thirty minute to drive away from the house he wants,
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and we both start work fairly early and finish quite late.
It will also be an issue of their freedom as
they grow up, because I think it would be horrible
to have to rely on your parents for transportation all
the time and have to skip out on plans if
they can't drive you. He really thinks I'm being dramatic
about this and I'll just figure it out. So am
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I the ahle for not wanting to move so far
away from my job and basically all civilization? No OPI,
you're not the Ahle. You've invested yourself in both your
career and your relationship. And up to now everything was
working fine for the two of you from my understanding,
and it seems absolutely reasonable to continue on that path
if it's working for the both of you. But now
(02:38):
you've hit a major disagreement and you've raised practical, future
focused concerns, and instead of working through them with you,
he's brushing them off with vague reassurances. He's not acting
as a partner. And OPI it might just be that
both you and him have different visions of what your
future looks like. So in my opinion, you guys need
to sit down and really have a hard conversation of this,
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and it might be a deal breaker. And what do
you guys think? Let me know in the comments section,
and now let's check out the community comments. Feisty Irish
Wench says, not the ahole. If you have joined the funds,
immediately remove your contributions from the account and safeguard the money.
He absolutely will use all of it to buy the cottage.
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His plan is to isolate you and keep you away
from your network of people. And Opie responds, Luckily, I
control our finances because I'm better with numbers, so I've
already transferred my half of the savings into a different account.
He won't even notice. He's usually very sweet and considerate,
so I'm not sure what's got into him about this house.
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He loves my family and we have the same friend
group as we've known each other since high school, so
I don't think he's trying to isolate me. Impossible. Emu
fifteen ninety five says, not the Ahle. You two are
not on the same page. You need to sort that
out before you get married, and Dopie responds, I am
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desperately trying to sort it out. I'm considering telling him
that I will ender the engagement if he continues to
be unreasonable and doesn't consider my feelings on the matter.
Harry Proof eighty five four says, not the Ahle, y'all
didn't talk about where you wanted to live. You both
should have discussed where exactly you wanted a home. You
don't have to move where you don't want to live,
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and Dopi responds, we discuss it. We both want a
nice cottage that's out of the way of lots of people,
but there's options near us, and even more options that
are actually closer to my job. That also still has
access to regular buses, and there's even a few up
for sale in a town with a train station a
reasonable walk away. I don't know why he's suddenly so
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set on this house that's so far out, when we
have plenty of options available to us that won't move
us ours away and routine p. Ninety five thirty eight
says is the house also three hours away from his workplace?
Or does he work from home? And Dopie responds, he
works in tech and he does go physically to work,
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but has the opportunity to work from home if he
wants to. He says, because it's worked out for him,
it'll work out for me too, and I can always
just find another job in a nursery. But I don't
think he gets quite how difficult it is to find
a genuine, good job in a great nursery that doesn't
have a toxic environment and crazy high staff. Turnover additional
(05:33):
information from Op's comments. We've been saving for a while.
Nobody gave us any money. I was already saving before
we got together, so was he, And after a couple
of years together, we decided to pool our house savings
for our future, which I now realize was probably a
really dumb idea because we aren't married. I've actually put
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more end than him despite spending less, because I'm happy
to live a frugal lifestyle. Well, he likes holidays and
expensive cars, et cetera. The community agrees that opia is
not the equal and they're warning her about the future.
But the good thing is from OPI, it sounds like
it wouldn't be so difficult to move on if she
had to. Anyways, let's move on to the update to
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see how this story ends. I wasn't expecting to be
able to update this fast, but here we are. First off,
I want to thank everyone that commented on my last
post and also add some context as I realized my
last post may have been lacking some My fiance and
I have been together five years, but I have known
him for twelve and in all that time i've known him,
(06:37):
and especially since we got together, he's always been sweet,
taken my feelings into consideration, and hasn't actively ignored my
opinion like this. It's always been a two yes, one
no situation in decisions. Before this, we had a good relationship. Otherwise,
we had date nights once a fortnight. We enjoyed each
(06:57):
other's company, had aligning plans for the future, and the
same ideals for a relationship. He had watched me go
through a few quite bad relationships over the years before
we got together, and did his best to be the
opposite of my excess. Though he's always been quite pushy
when it comes to sexual intimacy, so I guess that's
an issue. But other than that, it was great, and
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we had actually had a lot of talks about what
we wanted in a house. We had agreed that we
wanted a house or cottage either the same distance away
or closer to my work, a bit more remote, but
still with a town or city easily accessible by public
transport and car. I'm not sure why he suddenly switched
to wanting a house so far out from everything and everyone.
(07:44):
We both know we live in the UK and a
two hour drive can have you in basically a whole
other world. Anyway. The actual update, I had annual leave
from work yesterday and my now ex fiance was having
a work from home day, something he's been doing more
and more frequently as of late. This is another reason
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he is so okay with the house he wants being
where it is because he can just switch to full
time work from home. In the morning, I sat down
with him and tried to bring up the house. I
laid out my points from my last post yet again,
and told him I am under no circumstances leaving my job.
I love it and I do not want to search
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for another. I brought up the countless other houses that
fit our criteria. There are in our area and closer
to my work, some of which we have viewed. We
haven't viewed the place he wants yet as we haven't
had the time, and I told him I do not
want to, as I already know it's not what I want.
I also asked him if he really thinks it would
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be okay for me to have a six hour round
commute every day, especially considering my shift starts at eight
a m. So I would have to leave by five
am every morning and be up by around four am.
My shifts typically finish at five thirty pm, so I
wouldn't even be back home until late thirty pm. Would
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he be okay with doing all the childcare in the future, housework,
and just everything that needed to be done because I
would not be home for any of it. He didn't
seem to take any of it to heart and still
insisted I could find another job, maybe one not even
into childcare. And that's what finally pushed me over the edge.
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Childcare has been my dream since I was a little girl,
and I managed to find an absolute dream of a
workplace that I know many childcare practitioners would kill the
work for. How could I possibly leave that all behind
when I've worked so hard for it? He told me
he set on this house, so either I accept it
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or I leave. I chose to leave. I gave him
his ring back and told him we're done. I told
him that he's not being the sweet, considerate man I
fell in love with, and I don't know why he
can't see my side of things in this. I do
not want to live alive with somebody that doesn't consider
how I feel in all of this. This completely shocked him,
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and he started begging me to rethink that we can
figure it out, but I refused and went to pack
my things. I'm staying with my brother and his wife now,
which is nice because they live closer to my workplace
a thirty minute drive instead of an hour, and I
get to spend time with my little Nieces. I am hurting,
but I also feel like a huge weight has been
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lifted off my shoulders. I do not deserve to not
have my opinion valued, and he certainly did not. I
guess it's onwards and upwards, as they say, but I
definitely won't be dating for a long time after this OPI.
It's understandable that you're hurting, but you've made the right
decision and this was like the last checkpoint to do
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it before the stakes would be way higher. So here's
wishing you the best in the future. Rope, take care
and thanks for sharing. And now let's move on to
the next post that also has an update. This post
is from the subredded Almighty Ahoul and it's by user
amazing Box thirty five eleven. Future ex fiance is angry
because I don't want to share my son's money. I
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Female thirty five met my fiance two years ago. My
son four gets on well with him and my ex husband.
My son's father also likes him. Now to the point
three years ago, I won a large sum of money
in the lottery, not millions, but enough for a nice
life if I work normally and a good start for
my son later, seventy five percent went into a savings
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account that my son will have access to when he's
twenty one. My fiance always thought he had plenty of
money and never let me correct him. I insisted on
a prenuptial agreement, and for that the finances were disclosed.
Now the amount in my son's savings account is about
five times more more than anything. My fiance has completely enraged.
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He left the lawyer's office and ignored all calls for
two days. For me, that was the end of the relationship,
and I wrote to him saying that he could have
the ring back. A week later, he was at the door.
He would love me, but was in shock and now
wanted details of where the money had come from. He
also told me that he had a five year old
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daughter from a previous relationship, and that it would only
be fair to split the money so that his daughter
could also benefit from it. He sees it as justified,
as I got the money through luck and not through performance.
I gave him back the engagement ring and kicked him
out of my apartment. Since then, I've been getting messages
from various social media profiles and cell phone numbers that
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I would be the Aho, who is ruining his daughter's future.
I only found out about his daughter that day. I
never saw any photos or anything like that in the
past years. Well he I don't see anything here to
kind of judge to see if you were the agle
or not. But it's clearly that he is. I mean,
I don't know what kind of scammer grift this guy
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was pulling that he has a daughter. Now. I mean,
if it was true, horrible person to not even tell
you that, considering you were engaged. And if it's false,
well it's just another scam. It's a good thing you
gave the ring back and then did the relationship. Op
What do you guys think? Let me know in the
comments section and let's take a quick look at the
community comments. Eighty five Monte Carlo SS says, you knew
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this guy for two years, got engaged and didn't know
he had a daughter, and he's upset that you didn't
mention your son's money, and Dopey responds, well, I tried
to tell him about my finances. He never wanted to know.
He always were kind of Ye're on the man, You
don't have to worry. Vegetable Cod twenty three, forty says
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not be ahle. Wow. I don't know why he thought
admitting to hiding a daughter for two years and then
that you give her a trust fund for her would
win you back, Opie. But damn Also, I want to
know when he planned to reveal the daughter if he
hadn't found out about the trust. I'm thinking he was
definitely going to disclose that after the wedding, when he
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thought he had op logged down. Lastly, I'm actually seriously thinking, Opie,
that the daughter is completely fictional, and he actually spent
the last two days setting up a way to siphon
money for his daughter's trust account. I would bet money
the second the account was set up, she would pass
away or suddenly have a slew of medical bills that
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need to be paid from the trust. This dude is
shifty ass f told you to your face, says not
the equal you dodged a nuke. Go treat you and
your son to a fun day. The level of entitlement
is stunning. Just remember, not your child, not his money.
The trash took itself out Opie's comment. Wow, thanks for
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the support. I never expected so many comments or up votes. Hart.
I probably have some explaining to do. In my country,
lottery winners are never revealed. Sometimes they say in which
region a ticket was bought, but never more. Apart from
the financial security for my son, there is no sign
of the win in my family. I used my part
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of the wind to pay off debts and bought myself
a car, neither new nor anything special. We live in
the same rented apartment and I still have my job
that pays the monthly bills. I treat myself to a
two week vacation in Australia once a year, but never
in luxury. My son wears Timu clothes he loves the designs,
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and I don't have any designer stuff myself and always
wear my clothes up, so there was never any sign
that my fiance was a gold digger. On the contrary,
I had to fight for him not to keep inviting
me to dinner or paying for weekend trips. I mostly
turned them down. I grew up in a financially unstable family,
so I was always very concerned about being frugal. My
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son's saving account is also closed to withdrawals before his
twenty first birthday. You can put money into it, but
you can't take it out, and even then only he
is allowed to do so. I also will inform and
prepare him for that moment. He will not be lost
and alone with that. He's also getting twenty bucks per month.
He can do with that whatever he wants, and even
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now he can save and think about it. So twenty
one is a realistic age. Well, the community definitely agrees
Opie is not the Ahle and she dodged a nuke apparently,
which I agree. So now let's move on to the
update to see how this story ends. Hello. Everyone, thank
you for your support on my original post and sorry
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for the long wait for an update. After receiving many
of your tips, I took my son to his grandparents,
informed the police and also my boss. Unfortunately, the police
can't do much in my country as long as he
doesn't commit a crime against me. Harassing me on the
phone and begging for money doesn't count as a crime.
I informed my boss mainly because my ex fiance works
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for a company that we deal with almost daily. That's
how we originally met. In recent weeks, there have been
many attempts to buy his friends and family to contact me,
all of whom wanted to convince him to give him
the money, but everyone hung up when I asked about
his daughter. When my ex fiance showed up at my work,
he didn't normally have to do that. After getting a promotion,
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my boss called my fiance's company and explained that if
he took one more step in my direction, all contracts
would be canceled due to their unacceptable behavior. This led
to a meeting with my ex fiance's boss, my boss
and me. I didn't tell them every detail, but when
it came to the money, his boss explained to me
that my fiance actually wanted to buy a large stake
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in the company and was allegedly just waiting for the
loan to be paid out. This made it clear why
he wanted my son's money so badly. My ex fiance
is actually a highly respected employee at his company, which
is why his boss was reluctant to fire him, especially
since this probably wouldn't have improved my situation, and similar
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to the police, his boss considered it bad behavior, but
it wasn't a criminal offense. At the same time, my
company is a very large client for them, and sweeping
the whole thing under the rug wouldn't help. After a
few days, I received the news that my ex fiance
was being transferred to another branch of the company several
thousand kilometers away from me. The company's purchasing department also
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clearly rejected the purchase. Afterwards, I found out via social
media that my ex fiance actually has a daughter. A
friend was still following him on Instagram to keep an
eye on him, and when she looked at his tags
from the last six years, she actually noticed his ex
and a look at her profile showday girl of the
specified age. I contacted her and she willingly explained to
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me how much she actually wanted a child, and now
when the ultrasound showed it was a girl, he left her.
He broke off contact with the mother during the pregnancy
and willingly gave up all his rights and obligations as
a father. She herself is now in a happy relationship
and her husband loves her daughter. She never asked my
ex fiance for money. Following your advice regarding the savings account,
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I contacted our financial advisor and can now say that
I must apologize to you. It is indeed a trust fund.
I just hand referred to it as such until then,
as it is mainly referred to as a savings account
in my country, but yes, it is a trust fund
in the American sense. I discussed with my ex husband,
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the father of my son, once again how we would
make the payout, and thanks to your tips, we have
now decided on a staggered payout from the ages twenty
one to thirty five, so that he has a contribution
for several stages of his life. The amount of age
twenty one has been chosen so that it can be
used for colling, but at the same time it won't
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hurt too much if he squanders it. My question about
amii Aho was mainly because there was actually many people
in my circle who called me that because I persuaded
my ex fiance to sign a prenuptial agreement. But for me,
a prenuptial agreement was important for several reasons. One to
secure my son's money now I know he wouldn't have
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been able to get his hands on it. Two, I
started a small business in addition to my main job.
Nothing big at the moment, but it's still mine. And
three I'm saving money so that I can eventually realize
my dream of owning a house in Australia. And I
don't want to lose that money to him in a divorce.
In retrospect, I can see how many red flags I
overlooked on his part, and I will definitely be more
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careful in the future. Thank you for your support. Also
via DMS, Wow, Ob your ex totals comeback. Absolute scomeback,
dead be dad to try to scam you and was
also trying to scam the company he worked for. Yeah,
total scumback. It's a good thing that you got away
from him, OPI. So here's wishing you and your son
the best. Op take care and thanks for sharing. And
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that's it for today's video. Thank you so much for
taking the time to watch it. Now. If you've gotten
to this point in the video, I assume that you
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