December 21, 2025 • 22 mins
Relationship Stories - OP, a woman in her late 20s, faces emotional sabotage when her girlfriend hides her laptop before finals as retaliation for moving a misplaced hat. The betrayal forces OP to reconsider their unstable, toxic relationship.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi everybody, and welcome back to lost genre Reddit stories.
This post is from the subletted am I wrong? And
it's by user dizzy University five eight seven. Am I
wrong for treating this as breakup worthy? Partner intentionally hit
my laptop out of spite some context. My partner late
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twenties female and I late twenties female have been together
seven years. We've had periods of breaking up and getting
back together. We recently moved in together after a long
period of what felt like stability and growth. But since
the moving process and moving in, there's been a lot
of strife and fighting, some of it old problems coming
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back up, and some of it new issues. One recurring
problem is my partner struggles with organization and will put
her things such as clothes, accessories, etc. In piles in
a specific but non designated place for those things, for example,
putting a pile of clothes and jewelry on the couch
or entryway table. When I or she accidentally move these items,
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usually due to needing to use that space for its
intended purpose or some other purpose, it becomes a huge problem.
She gets frustrated and overwhelmed quickly has wanted me to
drop what I'm doing to look for it, with the
undercurrent of it being my fault it's misplaced and my
responsibility to find it, which makes me not want to
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help anymore and have the time it ends up in
a fight. It's exhausting. We're still in the process of
unpacking and settling in and right now one of our
bathrooms is filled with storage. So she puts a stack
of her clothes, including a hat, on top of the
storage items. I needed to get to those items to
organize the house, and I did my best to put
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her things together. I don't recall moving the hat. Cube
breakfast time, We're having a fine morning chatting and everything
is good. She's getting dressed and goes to get her hat,
which is not where she remembers putting it. Immediately, she's
upset with me, telling me I need to stop touching
your stuff and how I always do this, and she
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is agitated and frustrated. I tell her calmly but firmly,
that I have no intention of moving her things, but
if I need to get to this storage, I will
simply have to touch her stuff, and that it probably
fell behind some things, and to keep looking because I
know she will find it. She didn't want to hear that.
She became increasingly more upset, talking at me, stormed around
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criticizing me instead of actively looking, and I lost my
patience and left on a walk in the middle of
her talking. Fast forward to the afternoon. Partner is not home.
I'm looking around for my laptop. I have finals due
the next day and I need to start working. Keep
in mind, I do have another laptop that I just
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bought to replace my old one, but I hadn't set
it up yet, and to manage my fickle ADHD motivation,
I was going to use setting up my computer as
a reward for completing my finals on my old laptop.
But I can't find my laptop anywhere. It's not in
the place I always leave it. My gut immediately says
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that she took it or moved it, but I decided
to look around first and make sure I didn't miss anything.
I look everywhere. I text her, did you take my
laptop with you? She takes a while to text back, No,
I don't have your laptop. I ask if she's seen
it and she can check her eye cloud since it
used to be connected. No, it's been disconnected for a
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while I text again, Okay, so have you seen it?
No reply. I am now ninety five percent convinced she
is lying to me, but I don't want to believe
that she would actually do this. She comes home in
the evening, I ask again about my laptop. She sits
on the couch, not looking at me, focusing on something else.
While I'm asking to talk to her about it. She
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tortles at my suggestion that the only other logical option
if you don't have it and it's not in the
apartment is that it's stolen. We live in a building.
I keep pressing her. She says, offhandedly, I don't know.
Did you check that closet. She walks over to the
closet to put away her jacket, and I walk over
to watch her, suspecting she would pull it out of
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her bag or something. I didn't see her move anything,
and I ask, why would you suggest that closet specifically.
This goes on for a few more minutes, with her smiling,
smuggly and snickering, and I'm getting increasingly upset. She's telling
me she's too busy to help me find my laptop
by answering my questions. Finally, I walk over again to
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the closet, the tiniest piece of doubt, wondering if maybe
I didn't check it fully, and lo and behold, it's
sitting right there on top of some jackets, the same
jackets I complete he pulled out of the closet while
digging through to find my laptop. It wasn't there before.
I absolutely lose it. I am livid. I am yelling
at her that she is weird and that was cruel
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and disgusting behavior. I tell her I don't want to
be in a relationship with her, and I do not
want to be in a relationship like this. Once I
say that, she doubles down, says I broke up with her,
and just proceeds to dismiss that it's just a computer
and it's not that serious, and was attempting still to
make it seem like it was there in the closet
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the whole time. Turns out she hit it on a
top shelf, the only place in this entire apartment I
didn't check. She still has not apologized and said she
had no reason to since we're broken up. Her response
in the whole situation made me feel sick to my stomach.
I absolutely hate pranks. She knows this, and this wasn't
even a prank. She basically admitted to doing this because
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she was pissed at me for loosing her hat. Mind you,
I founder damn hat while looking for my laptop exactly
where I said it would be. This feels extremely serious
to me. It doesn't feel like a petty little act.
It feels disrespectful, like a breach of my privacy. And
I were shared space and genuinely cruel. I told her,
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I don't think you can care for someone and love them,
and to do something like this intentionally caused them distress, confusion,
and harm. I cannot fathom how she thought this would
play out. The whole process of breaking up is daunting,
and I historically have not been good at maintaining my
boundaries and my resolve when breaking up. In the past,
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I initiated, but we were both expressing unhappiness. We live
together now, and while the apartment is spacious, it is
challenging to split up rooms only one bed and the
other room is still being used to storage, and finding
a new apartment is even more challenging with financial constraints.
Having just moved so recently, I have been feeling a
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lot of frustration with our dynamics aside from this situation,
as has she. I love her a lot, but I'm
at my wits end. I don't know if things will
get better or if we're doomed. We've tried couples counseling
again recently and it didn't go well. Partner was shut
down and didn't like the therapist. Our communication is not improving.
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I need advice on how to move forward in this situation.
Will be based off of everything that you wrote. It
doesn't seem like you guys are compatible at all. You
guys are definitely drawn to each other. I mean, you've
broken up and come back so many times. I don't
know if it's because you guys are stubborn and refused
to call it quits, or if you're actually naturally drawn
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to each other but you're incompatible. I mean, chemistry can
take you so far, but you also need admiration and
respect to actually call it love, because at some point
in these seven years, respect did leave the relationship. Now
regarding what she did in this particular case, in my opinion,
absolutely break up worthy, and again based on everything that
you wrote in the post, I think there's no further
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analysis needed. And what do you guys think? Let me
know in the comments section, and now let's check out
the community comments. Kit Kat seventy one seventy nine says,
love yourself enough to stop being in a relationship with
someone who acts like that. People will only treat you
the way you allow them to. She is obviously not
ready to act like a normal, well balanced person, nor
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is she ready to be an adult. If you love someone,
you don't purposely cause them distress and anguish, get your
stuff together and leave as soon as you can. Few
Replacement ninety five thirty one says you are not wrong,
or yawn? Tell me what she planned to achieve by
hiding your laptop the day before finals. Surely she knew
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this would really hurt you academically and emotionally. I don't
know if she's done anything like this before, but her
behavior is horrible on so many levels. Odubeaque says, not wrong,
girlfriend doesn't actually respect you. It took you seven years
to move in together, and you have had numerous prior
to breakups. Stop forcing this relationship and find something that
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is better. And kimmeron four one two says it's cruel
and sheds light on her underlying personality. Most of us
in serious long term relationships couldn't fathom causing stress or
upset to a partner, but that is clearly not her.
Run at the first opportunity, my spider senses tell me
there is a possibility of some form of retaliation towards
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you if you double down on the breakup. The community agrees. Ope,
he needs to take get out of that relationship as
soon as possible. So now let's move on to the
update to see how this story ends. I posted a
few days ago about my partner, both female, late twenties,
hiding my laptop in revenge for me accidentally misplacing her
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hat allegedly and me breaking up with her for it.
I've been avoiding speaking to her, sleeping on the couch,
getting my affairs in order quietly, She's been finding ways
to try and rage bait me. Last night, at two am,
she comes to the living room where I'm sleeping to
ask where I put my rose toy. I know, you know,
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I put it away because it's mine. It was always
meant to be my personal toy. But she took quasi
ownership of it, and I simply don't want her using
it anymore. She proceeds to harass me for forty minutes
straight to tell her where it is, to please give
it to her, that she needs it to sleep as
she disrupts my sleep. I had to lock myself in
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the bathroom twice because she wouldn't respect me telling her
to leave me alone, and kept coming back. At the
end of this high rate, she asks, when are you
leaving for holiday trip? I tell her I don't know,
and to please leave me alone and let me sleep. No, no, no,
I just need to know when you're going to be
gone for an extended period of time. Cauz, Yeah, I
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just need to know, implying she needs to know when
I'll be gone so she can get her rocks off
with someone else in the house. I didn't get to
sleep until after three am. She gets up at seven
thirty am. She never gets up this early, comes to
the living room loudly tries to hug me. I was sleeping.
I tell her to please do not touch me. She says, really,
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how long are we going to do this for? I
pull the covers over my face and try and ignore
her and stay calm. She pulls them off My face
to ask me a question. She proceeds to turn on
all the lights even though it is already bright. She
blends something for no exaggeration. Twenty minutes straight, she stumps around,
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slams doors, loudly, rummages through items. I stay under the
covers and just contain my energy. Before she leaves, she
again tries to hug me after I told her multiple
times to please not touch me. She forces a kiss
on my head and says I love you, and again
asks how long we're going to do this. Finally, she
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leaves for the day. When I get up, I see
that she turned the heater in the living room up
to eighty six degrees from seventy degrees to make me
horten uncomfortable. We have pets. I just wanted to update
because I needed to hear how messed up, manipulative and
abusive it is. And I just want to witness myself
by writing this down and be witnessed by others. I
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can't wait to get myself out of here. Yes, OPI
please try to get yourself as soon as you can
out of there. If you have family living clothes by,
maybe you can stay with them and figure the lease out. Later,
maybe you need to keep paying, but at least get
away from her. She claims to love you, while just
a few hours later she was asking you when are
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you leaving so she could be alone. This person is
toxic to the bone. Get away. But in the meantime,
OPI take care of yourself and here's wishing you the best.
Thanks for sharing, and I will keep my ear to
the ground in case Op posts another update. But in
the meantime, let's move on to the next post. It
also has an update. This post is it's from the
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Subreddadam the a Hole and it's by user advanced to
light three one seven am I the A hole from
not removing multiple scary posters from my room that my
nephew is leaping in. Okay, So I Mail sixteen got
told today that my brother Mail twenty nine would be
staying in my room overnight tomorrow with my nephew Male
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six I'm already pissed at this because well, it's my
effing room. My mom is part of the older generation,
so according to her, it's perfectly normal to give up
your bed for a guest. One thing about my room
is that the walls are smothered in posters like no
gaps between Jenga of different poster banners and postcards. I
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have a wall of two thousand postcards of Studio Ghibli,
seven full sized posters, five half size, forty A five
pictures of Hozier, and lots more general memorbilia from bands
and shows. I have three posters stapled to my ceiling,
one of which is Ryuke from Death Note look him up.
He is creepy as he is a demon, I will admit.
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And my brother asked, ooh, can you just take it
down for the night. I say no, sorry, it's staple
and I don't want to damage it and put it
back up. And he is not pleased, having a go
at me and saying you would have been scared at
his age too. I don't see how that's my problem.
I don't want them in my room at all. I'm
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not ripping down a permanent poster for people I don't
want in my room. But it gets worse. I mentioned
the forty a five pictures of Hosier before he wanted
me to take them down. He said it looks like
a shrine cult, like it's gonna scare him. Take it down.
I'm not listening to a word, he says, but like,
am I in the wrong for this? I don't feel
like I am, but my mom is calling me unreasonable.
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Well if you personally, no, I don't think you're in
the wrong. You're being kind enough to accommodate them in
your room for them to sleep. You don't need to
change the decoration. And after your brother asked the first
time and you refused, he should have understood it's it's
not gonna happen and should have tried to figure something
else out. So no, Opie, I don't think you're the
ehle or unreasonable at all. And what do you guys think?
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Let me know in the comments section, and now let's
check out the community comments. Oriyan Key thirty nine ninety
six says, not the ahle, but maybe a simple roll
of brown package paper pinned over them would ensure he
doesn't damage them and that they don't get taken down.
Or you could use wrapping paper. Not ideal, but would
be kind. Soap Poisoning says I was always asked to
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give up my room to guests as a kid. It
was annoying, but it was the best way to accommodate
visiting relatives. Since we didn't have a guest room. It's
not an uncommon occurrence. As for the posters, maybe there
is some kind of compromise that will protect your posters
while protecting your nephew from disturbing images. Can you find
a way to cover the posters, like maybe hang up
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bed sheets or paper in front of them. Drake ver
de d says it's perfectly normal to give up a
room to a guest, especially as a child. People have
been doing this for a very very long time. I
did this a lot when I was a child, and honestly,
it was never a problem. It's temporary and if there
isn't anywhere else to put the guest, it's also sensible.
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So I do think you're being a bit unreasonable on
that part, even though it's not ideal to give up
your room for a few days. But it's unreasonable to
ask you to take the posters down, and that shouldn't
be part of the conversation. You should not be required
to adapt your room in any way. As long as
it's clean and tidy. It comes as is and should
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stay as is. So it's and everybody sucks here situation.
In my opinion, you could be more gracious, your brother
shouldn't ask for you to remove your posters. Your mother
could have found other arrangements, and sheep Pup says, not
the ahle. They are being completely unreasonable. It's not going
to disturb your nephew to see pictures of a singer
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on a teenage's wall. Posters and photos singers are completely
normal for riuke on the ceiling. What about a compromise
put posted notes over his face so that the kid
can't see it, but you don't have to damage your poster. Well,
the community agrees Opie is not the ahole, except some
people thinking everybody sucked here. In any case, let's move
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on to the update to see how this story ends.
My nephew saw the poster and didn't give an f
We picked him and my brother up, came back to
my house, well my mom's house, asks some of you
seem to care so much about property ownership, and I
was given the job of babysitting and entertaining him for
the rest of the day. Eventually, the park gets boring,
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toys get boring, games get boring, so he asks to
watch YouTube in my room. My brother instantly goes, no,
there's scary pictures you won't like this immediately piqued his
interest and went straight to my room, straight staring at
the ceiling. He's just like, oh, that's cool. Turns out
out he literally plays Call of Duty zombies all day
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and has unlimited access at six. My brother was literally
just trying to get under my skin and irritate me.
Thanks to everyone for all the advice, though, but I
do think some people either disregarded or just didn't care
that the poster is on my ceiling. I'm five to two,
so it took me an hour, a pile of cushions,
and a lot of rage quitting to put them up
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in the first place. But none of that matters anymore,
Spiley face, Well it be Apparently it all ended well,
and your brother's a dork just doing this to irritate you.
Come on, man, get a life. Anyways, Opie, here's swishing
you the best. Thanks for sharing and take care, and
now let's finish this video with a mood booster post.
This post is from the subreddit petty Revenge and it's
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by user I don't want to sign in dressed down,
so I stood up. I worked in an office where
they promoted a very new, unexperienced, unqualified suck up from
an entry level guy to a team lead one of
three under the manager. There were roughly thirty people on
the team. HR rules stated that he wasn't allowed to
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apply due to having been at the company less than
one year at zero leadership experience, et cetera, et cetera.
Grievances were filed with HR and dropped despite multiple fully
qualified individuals with spotless records being in the running. He
was known to be a suck up and wasn't really
liked prior to his promotion. After the promotion, he was
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wildly hated, apart from a couple of sycophants, quite entertaining
in retrospect how people will degrade themselves for the barest
scraps of power. Anyway, Middle management knew he was reviled
and told him he had to find a way to
get people to like him. His solution was not required,
but you should think of them as required happy hours
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every month. For the first one, most people felt like
they had to go and started figuring out how to
fit it into their schedule. Some of these people had
an hour drive each way and were finding sitters for
their kids. These people were terrified they would lose their
jobs if they missed drinking a few beers with the boss.
I should note that he has not roped in everyone
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under the manager. I'm not even technically under this guy.
I knew my rights and declined the invite. He comes
by my cube a few times and the day of
to try to pressure me into being there. Dude, there
is no way I'm spending my free time with work people.
You can either keep me on the clock or you
can't ask me to be there. I know my rights.
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I liked my team members well enough, had been to
parties at their houses, et cetera, but I'm not going
out with the team lead under any circumstances. Team lead
did not like that and walked away in a huff.
Next day, everyone comes in and everyone is pretending like
they had fun when it was very clear they are
just trying to get away from team leads attempts at
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chumming with them. Around ten, we have a stand up
and he talks about how great it was to have
everyone at the thing. Then he singles me out, talks
about how antisocial I am and how management notices when
people aren't team players don't skip required events et cetera.
Oh okay, dude. About twenty minutes later, I email the
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entire team. Hey all, team member asked me about required
after work events that are unpaid, so I figured i'd
share with everyone. State statued Blah says that for hourly
employees like us, that we can't be required to go
to these sort of things without being on the clock.
So if you can't find asier and make it, you
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don't need to worry at all. Totally friendly, totally non confrontational,
totally effective team lead sat by himself at the bar
for the next two required but not required happy hours
and had to find another way to force people to
like him. Not as smart manned that team lead, and Ope,
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you executed that perfectly. Thanks so much for sharing. And
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Hi everybody, and welcome back to lost genre Reddit stories.
This post is from the subletted am I wrong? And
it's by user dizzy University five eight seven. Am I
wrong for treating this as breakup worthy? Partner intentionally hit
my laptop out of spite some context. My partner late
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twenties female and I late twenties female have been together
seven years. We've had periods of breaking up and getting
back together. We recently moved in together after a long
period of what felt like stability and growth. But since
the moving process and moving in, there's been a lot
of strife and fighting, some of it old problems coming
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back up, and some of it new issues. One recurring
problem is my partner struggles with organization and will put
her things such as clothes, accessories, etc. In piles in
a specific but non designated place for those things, for example,
putting a pile of clothes and jewelry on the couch
or entryway table. When I or she accidentally move these items,
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usually due to needing to use that space for its
intended purpose or some other purpose, it becomes a huge problem.
She gets frustrated and overwhelmed quickly has wanted me to
drop what I'm doing to look for it, with the
undercurrent of it being my fault it's misplaced and my
responsibility to find it, which makes me not want to
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help anymore and have the time it ends up in
a fight. It's exhausting. We're still in the process of
unpacking and settling in and right now one of our
bathrooms is filled with storage. So she puts a stack
of her clothes, including a hat, on top of the
storage items. I needed to get to those items to
organize the house, and I did my best to put
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her things together. I don't recall moving the hat. Cube
breakfast time, We're having a fine morning chatting and everything
is good. She's getting dressed and goes to get her hat,
which is not where she remembers putting it. Immediately, she's
upset with me, telling me I need to stop touching
your stuff and how I always do this, and she
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is agitated and frustrated. I tell her calmly but firmly,
that I have no intention of moving her things, but
if I need to get to this storage, I will
simply have to touch her stuff, and that it probably
fell behind some things, and to keep looking because I
know she will find it. She didn't want to hear that.
She became increasingly more upset, talking at me, stormed around
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criticizing me instead of actively looking, and I lost my
patience and left on a walk in the middle of
her talking. Fast forward to the afternoon. Partner is not home.
I'm looking around for my laptop. I have finals due
the next day and I need to start working. Keep
in mind, I do have another laptop that I just
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bought to replace my old one, but I hadn't set
it up yet, and to manage my fickle ADHD motivation,
I was going to use setting up my computer as
a reward for completing my finals on my old laptop.
But I can't find my laptop anywhere. It's not in
the place I always leave it. My gut immediately says
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that she took it or moved it, but I decided
to look around first and make sure I didn't miss anything.
I look everywhere. I text her, did you take my
laptop with you? She takes a while to text back, No,
I don't have your laptop. I ask if she's seen
it and she can check her eye cloud since it
used to be connected. No, it's been disconnected for a
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while I text again, Okay, so have you seen it?
No reply. I am now ninety five percent convinced she
is lying to me, but I don't want to believe
that she would actually do this. She comes home in
the evening, I ask again about my laptop. She sits
on the couch, not looking at me, focusing on something else.
While I'm asking to talk to her about it. She
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tortles at my suggestion that the only other logical option
if you don't have it and it's not in the
apartment is that it's stolen. We live in a building.
I keep pressing her. She says, offhandedly, I don't know.
Did you check that closet. She walks over to the
closet to put away her jacket, and I walk over
to watch her, suspecting she would pull it out of
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her bag or something. I didn't see her move anything,
and I ask, why would you suggest that closet specifically.
This goes on for a few more minutes, with her smiling,
smuggly and snickering, and I'm getting increasingly upset. She's telling
me she's too busy to help me find my laptop
by answering my questions. Finally, I walk over again to
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the closet, the tiniest piece of doubt, wondering if maybe
I didn't check it fully, and lo and behold, it's
sitting right there on top of some jackets, the same
jackets I complete he pulled out of the closet while
digging through to find my laptop. It wasn't there before.
I absolutely lose it. I am livid. I am yelling
at her that she is weird and that was cruel
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and disgusting behavior. I tell her I don't want to
be in a relationship with her, and I do not
want to be in a relationship like this. Once I
say that, she doubles down, says I broke up with her,
and just proceeds to dismiss that it's just a computer
and it's not that serious, and was attempting still to
make it seem like it was there in the closet
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the whole time. Turns out she hit it on a
top shelf, the only place in this entire apartment I
didn't check. She still has not apologized and said she
had no reason to since we're broken up. Her response
in the whole situation made me feel sick to my stomach.
I absolutely hate pranks. She knows this, and this wasn't
even a prank. She basically admitted to doing this because
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she was pissed at me for loosing her hat. Mind you,
I founder damn hat while looking for my laptop exactly
where I said it would be. This feels extremely serious
to me. It doesn't feel like a petty little act.
It feels disrespectful, like a breach of my privacy. And
I were shared space and genuinely cruel. I told her,
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I don't think you can care for someone and love them,
and to do something like this intentionally caused them distress, confusion,
and harm. I cannot fathom how she thought this would
play out. The whole process of breaking up is daunting,
and I historically have not been good at maintaining my
boundaries and my resolve when breaking up. In the past,
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I initiated, but we were both expressing unhappiness. We live
together now, and while the apartment is spacious, it is
challenging to split up rooms only one bed and the
other room is still being used to storage, and finding
a new apartment is even more challenging with financial constraints.
Having just moved so recently, I have been feeling a
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lot of frustration with our dynamics aside from this situation,
as has she. I love her a lot, but I'm
at my wits end. I don't know if things will
get better or if we're doomed. We've tried couples counseling
again recently and it didn't go well. Partner was shut
down and didn't like the therapist. Our communication is not improving.
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I need advice on how to move forward in this situation.
Will be based off of everything that you wrote. It
doesn't seem like you guys are compatible at all. You
guys are definitely drawn to each other. I mean, you've
broken up and come back so many times. I don't
know if it's because you guys are stubborn and refused
to call it quits, or if you're actually naturally drawn
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to each other but you're incompatible. I mean, chemistry can
take you so far, but you also need admiration and
respect to actually call it love, because at some point
in these seven years, respect did leave the relationship. Now
regarding what she did in this particular case, in my opinion,
absolutely break up worthy, and again based on everything that
you wrote in the post, I think there's no further
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analysis needed. And what do you guys think? Let me
know in the comments section, and now let's check out
the community comments. Kit Kat seventy one seventy nine says,
love yourself enough to stop being in a relationship with
someone who acts like that. People will only treat you
the way you allow them to. She is obviously not
ready to act like a normal, well balanced person, nor
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is she ready to be an adult. If you love someone,
you don't purposely cause them distress and anguish, get your
stuff together and leave as soon as you can. Few
Replacement ninety five thirty one says you are not wrong,
or yawn? Tell me what she planned to achieve by
hiding your laptop the day before finals. Surely she knew
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this would really hurt you academically and emotionally. I don't
know if she's done anything like this before, but her
behavior is horrible on so many levels. Odubeaque says, not wrong,
girlfriend doesn't actually respect you. It took you seven years
to move in together, and you have had numerous prior
to breakups. Stop forcing this relationship and find something that
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is better. And kimmeron four one two says it's cruel
and sheds light on her underlying personality. Most of us
in serious long term relationships couldn't fathom causing stress or
upset to a partner, but that is clearly not her.
Run at the first opportunity, my spider senses tell me
there is a possibility of some form of retaliation towards
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you if you double down on the breakup. The community agrees. Ope,
he needs to take get out of that relationship as
soon as possible. So now let's move on to the
update to see how this story ends. I posted a
few days ago about my partner, both female, late twenties,
hiding my laptop in revenge for me accidentally misplacing her
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hat allegedly and me breaking up with her for it.
I've been avoiding speaking to her, sleeping on the couch,
getting my affairs in order quietly, She's been finding ways
to try and rage bait me. Last night, at two am,
she comes to the living room where I'm sleeping to
ask where I put my rose toy. I know, you know,
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I put it away because it's mine. It was always
meant to be my personal toy. But she took quasi
ownership of it, and I simply don't want her using
it anymore. She proceeds to harass me for forty minutes
straight to tell her where it is, to please give
it to her, that she needs it to sleep as
she disrupts my sleep. I had to lock myself in
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the bathroom twice because she wouldn't respect me telling her
to leave me alone, and kept coming back. At the
end of this high rate, she asks, when are you
leaving for holiday trip? I tell her I don't know,
and to please leave me alone and let me sleep. No, no, no,
I just need to know when you're going to be
gone for an extended period of time. Cauz, Yeah, I
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just need to know, implying she needs to know when
I'll be gone so she can get her rocks off
with someone else in the house. I didn't get to
sleep until after three am. She gets up at seven
thirty am. She never gets up this early, comes to
the living room loudly tries to hug me. I was sleeping.
I tell her to please do not touch me. She says, really,
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how long are we going to do this for? I
pull the covers over my face and try and ignore
her and stay calm. She pulls them off My face
to ask me a question. She proceeds to turn on
all the lights even though it is already bright. She
blends something for no exaggeration. Twenty minutes straight, she stumps around,
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slams doors, loudly, rummages through items. I stay under the
covers and just contain my energy. Before she leaves, she
again tries to hug me after I told her multiple
times to please not touch me. She forces a kiss
on my head and says I love you, and again
asks how long we're going to do this. Finally, she
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leaves for the day. When I get up, I see
that she turned the heater in the living room up
to eighty six degrees from seventy degrees to make me
horten uncomfortable. We have pets. I just wanted to update
because I needed to hear how messed up, manipulative and
abusive it is. And I just want to witness myself
by writing this down and be witnessed by others. I
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can't wait to get myself out of here. Yes, OPI
please try to get yourself as soon as you can
out of there. If you have family living clothes by,
maybe you can stay with them and figure the lease out. Later,
maybe you need to keep paying, but at least get
away from her. She claims to love you, while just
a few hours later she was asking you when are
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you leaving so she could be alone. This person is
toxic to the bone. Get away. But in the meantime,
OPI take care of yourself and here's wishing you the best.
Thanks for sharing, and I will keep my ear to
the ground in case Op posts another update. But in
the meantime, let's move on to the next post. It
also has an update. This post is it's from the
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Subreddadam the a Hole and it's by user advanced to
light three one seven am I the A hole from
not removing multiple scary posters from my room that my
nephew is leaping in. Okay, So I Mail sixteen got
told today that my brother Mail twenty nine would be
staying in my room overnight tomorrow with my nephew Male
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six I'm already pissed at this because well, it's my
effing room. My mom is part of the older generation,
so according to her, it's perfectly normal to give up
your bed for a guest. One thing about my room
is that the walls are smothered in posters like no
gaps between Jenga of different poster banners and postcards. I
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have a wall of two thousand postcards of Studio Ghibli,
seven full sized posters, five half size, forty A five
pictures of Hozier, and lots more general memorbilia from bands
and shows. I have three posters stapled to my ceiling,
one of which is Ryuke from Death Note look him up.
He is creepy as he is a demon, I will admit.
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And my brother asked, ooh, can you just take it
down for the night. I say no, sorry, it's staple
and I don't want to damage it and put it
back up. And he is not pleased, having a go
at me and saying you would have been scared at
his age too. I don't see how that's my problem.
I don't want them in my room at all. I'm
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not ripping down a permanent poster for people I don't
want in my room. But it gets worse. I mentioned
the forty a five pictures of Hosier before he wanted
me to take them down. He said it looks like
a shrine cult, like it's gonna scare him. Take it down.
I'm not listening to a word, he says, but like,
am I in the wrong for this? I don't feel
like I am, but my mom is calling me unreasonable.
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Well if you personally, no, I don't think you're in
the wrong. You're being kind enough to accommodate them in
your room for them to sleep. You don't need to
change the decoration. And after your brother asked the first
time and you refused, he should have understood it's it's
not gonna happen and should have tried to figure something
else out. So no, Opie, I don't think you're the
ehle or unreasonable at all. And what do you guys think?
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Let me know in the comments section, and now let's
check out the community comments. Oriyan Key thirty nine ninety
six says, not the ahle, but maybe a simple roll
of brown package paper pinned over them would ensure he
doesn't damage them and that they don't get taken down.
Or you could use wrapping paper. Not ideal, but would
be kind. Soap Poisoning says I was always asked to
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give up my room to guests as a kid. It
was annoying, but it was the best way to accommodate
visiting relatives. Since we didn't have a guest room. It's
not an uncommon occurrence. As for the posters, maybe there
is some kind of compromise that will protect your posters
while protecting your nephew from disturbing images. Can you find
a way to cover the posters, like maybe hang up
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bed sheets or paper in front of them. Drake ver
de d says it's perfectly normal to give up a
room to a guest, especially as a child. People have
been doing this for a very very long time. I
did this a lot when I was a child, and honestly,
it was never a problem. It's temporary and if there
isn't anywhere else to put the guest, it's also sensible.
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So I do think you're being a bit unreasonable on
that part, even though it's not ideal to give up
your room for a few days. But it's unreasonable to
ask you to take the posters down, and that shouldn't
be part of the conversation. You should not be required
to adapt your room in any way. As long as
it's clean and tidy. It comes as is and should
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stay as is. So it's and everybody sucks here situation.
In my opinion, you could be more gracious, your brother
shouldn't ask for you to remove your posters. Your mother
could have found other arrangements, and sheep Pup says, not
the ahle. They are being completely unreasonable. It's not going
to disturb your nephew to see pictures of a singer
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on a teenage's wall. Posters and photos singers are completely
normal for riuke on the ceiling. What about a compromise
put posted notes over his face so that the kid
can't see it, but you don't have to damage your poster. Well,
the community agrees Opie is not the ahole, except some
people thinking everybody sucked here. In any case, let's move
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on to the update to see how this story ends.
My nephew saw the poster and didn't give an f
We picked him and my brother up, came back to
my house, well my mom's house, asks some of you
seem to care so much about property ownership, and I
was given the job of babysitting and entertaining him for
the rest of the day. Eventually, the park gets boring,
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toys get boring, games get boring, so he asks to
watch YouTube in my room. My brother instantly goes, no,
there's scary pictures you won't like this immediately piqued his
interest and went straight to my room, straight staring at
the ceiling. He's just like, oh, that's cool. Turns out
out he literally plays Call of Duty zombies all day
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and has unlimited access at six. My brother was literally
just trying to get under my skin and irritate me.
Thanks to everyone for all the advice, though, but I
do think some people either disregarded or just didn't care
that the poster is on my ceiling. I'm five to two,
so it took me an hour, a pile of cushions,
and a lot of rage quitting to put them up
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in the first place. But none of that matters anymore,
Spiley face, Well it be Apparently it all ended well,
and your brother's a dork just doing this to irritate you.
Come on, man, get a life. Anyways, Opie, here's swishing
you the best. Thanks for sharing and take care, and
now let's finish this video with a mood booster post.
This post is from the subreddit petty Revenge and it's
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by user I don't want to sign in dressed down,
so I stood up. I worked in an office where
they promoted a very new, unexperienced, unqualified suck up from
an entry level guy to a team lead one of
three under the manager. There were roughly thirty people on
the team. HR rules stated that he wasn't allowed to
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apply due to having been at the company less than
one year at zero leadership experience, et cetera, et cetera.
Grievances were filed with HR and dropped despite multiple fully
qualified individuals with spotless records being in the running. He
was known to be a suck up and wasn't really
liked prior to his promotion. After the promotion, he was
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wildly hated, apart from a couple of sycophants, quite entertaining
in retrospect how people will degrade themselves for the barest
scraps of power. Anyway, Middle management knew he was reviled
and told him he had to find a way to
get people to like him. His solution was not required,
but you should think of them as required happy hours
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every month. For the first one, most people felt like
they had to go and started figuring out how to
fit it into their schedule. Some of these people had
an hour drive each way and were finding sitters for
their kids. These people were terrified they would lose their
jobs if they missed drinking a few beers with the boss.
I should note that he has not roped in everyone
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under the manager. I'm not even technically under this guy.
I knew my rights and declined the invite. He comes
by my cube a few times and the day of
to try to pressure me into being there. Dude, there
is no way I'm spending my free time with work people.
You can either keep me on the clock or you
can't ask me to be there. I know my rights.
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I liked my team members well enough, had been to
parties at their houses, et cetera, but I'm not going
out with the team lead under any circumstances. Team lead
did not like that and walked away in a huff.
Next day, everyone comes in and everyone is pretending like
they had fun when it was very clear they are
just trying to get away from team leads attempts at
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chumming with them. Around ten, we have a stand up
and he talks about how great it was to have
everyone at the thing. Then he singles me out, talks
about how antisocial I am and how management notices when
people aren't team players don't skip required events et cetera.
Oh okay, dude. About twenty minutes later, I email the
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entire team. Hey all, team member asked me about required
after work events that are unpaid, so I figured i'd
share with everyone. State statued Blah says that for hourly
employees like us, that we can't be required to go
to these sort of things without being on the clock.
So if you can't find asier and make it, you
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don't need to worry at all. Totally friendly, totally non confrontational,
totally effective team lead sat by himself at the bar
for the next two required but not required happy hours
and had to find another way to force people to
like him. Not as smart manned that team lead, and Ope,
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you executed that perfectly. Thanks so much for sharing. And
that's it for today's video. Thank you so much for
taking the time to watch it. Now. If you've gotten
to this point in the video, I assume that you
like these stories that I'm reading out, so here are
a couple more that you might enjoy. And if you
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