My Kids Lied To The Police To Get Me Arrested—Now I Want Nothing to Do with Them

Relationship Stories - OP’s kids ran away and accused him of abuse, resulting in his arrest and legal chaos. After the lies unraveled, OP was left emotionally devastated and no longer wants a relationship with them or his ex.

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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi everybody, and welcome back to lost genre Reddit stories.
This post is from the subredded A Mighty a Hole
and it's by user returning Darkness. Am I the a
hole for wanting nothing to do with my kids and
ex wife after two years of false allegations? Hold on
because this is a doozy. Last year, my kids, nine

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female and seven male, ran away late at night early
in the morning. When found by some officials, they claimed
I kicked them out of the house. I woke up
the morning of to the cops and CPS knocking on
the door. I told my side of the story from
what I knew, and they had my now ex wife
tell her side while keeping us separated. The cops claim

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our stories don't match and end up arresting me. I
bail myself out that same day and go live with
my parents for a while. I'm dealing with court, scared
that I'm going back to jail or prison, or that
I'll lose my job that I had only been for
a year. A little over a month goes by and
I get a phone call to have a meeting with

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the CPS woman in charge of our case. My daughter
ended up making more allegations against me. That did not
make any sense to the CPS people, and when they
asked her questions, she was unable to give them answers.
My son ended up breaking first and admitting the whole
thing was made up and that my daughter was the
one to orchestrate everything. This reveal led to the charges

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being dropped and my daughter getting counseling in psychiatric help.
For a while, I thought things were good, we were
on our way to fix things. I kept trying to
get all of us into therapy, both individually and family.
I was already in therapy due to this whole situation. Anyway,
my ex kept dragging her feet and it never went anywhere.

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After some other situations with being displaced due to a
natural disaster and me trying to get things packed up
in our old apartment, I get told by my ex
she wants such divorce, so now I'm having to rush
and try to find a place to live, which I did. Luckily,
I actually move in tomorrow. Then two weeks ago, I
got served in emergency protection order by the County Sheriff's office.

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I'm told it's because I allegedly hit my son and
gave him a concussion while in the grocery store where
there are cameras. He had been taken to the emergency
room by my ex the day before, but this event
allegedly happened four days before that. I had told my
ex that due to me having to get this house
to rent, along with utilities in my name adding up

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to over two thousand dollars, that I wasn't going to
be able to pay certain bills this month, but that
I'll get them caught up as soon as I can
to get everything paid off, and even I signed for
the deposit almost three weeks ago, and the kids have
been with her while I did this paperwork and there
was no issue. On the same morning, I had taken

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my kids to the park so they could play and
recorded videos of them being silly and having fun. I
was talking to my therapist this week and I told
her what was going on and how I felt about
being around my ex or the children. It's two years
in a row of false allegations. I want nothing to
do with any of them. Now. I'll pay child support gladly.

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I had an agreement with my ex before this all happened,
of paying one thousand dollars a month five hundred per
paycheck for child support after all of this. Am I
the aco for not wanting to be around the children
and my ex after everything gets settled and found out
to be lies again? Wow, I'll be This whole situation sucks.
I can't blame you for what you want to do.

(03:37):
Of course it sounds horrible. Two years of false allegations.
What you've been through absolutely sucks. But there's just one
thing that's itching in the back of my head, the
fact that yours and your wife's stories didn't match. If
you were both asleep while this was happening, why didn't
they match? What did she know that you didn't? What
did she say that got you arrested? Because it wasn't

(03:59):
just the kids saying that you kicked them out, which
was a lie. And that's where I think the crux
of this whole thing is. You haven't shared any evidence
to support this, but my assumption is that your wife
is behind this whole thing. Now, of course I have
no proof of this. It is just my assumption, but
I'd be definitely looking for hints that could point to that.
And what do you guys think? Let me know in
the comments section. And now let's check out the community

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comments odd Welcome seventy nine forty says not the Ahole.
I am one of the loudest fight for your kids advocates. Ever,
it takes disasters for me to think a parent should
distance themselves. You, sir, have a disaster here. My big suspicion.
How sure are you that your wife X isn't the
one orchestrating all of this. It seems extremely unlikely that

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without her orchestrating this, that both your kids would make
up such nonsense one after another. I think you get
the best lawyer you possibly can and go for broke.
You either get one hundred percent uninhibited custody, et cetera,
or walking way may be your only option. If you lose,
just wait for her to later expose herself, then reconsider

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big It, says m I'd begin to really push the
false claim to police that you hit your son at
the supermarket. I want to claim it's the X and
if she did that, it's super illegal. Not the Ahle.
If you want to bul though, it seems everyone here
just hates being around everyone just exhausted sixty one says

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not the Ahle. Before you end up in jail, you
need to stop this let her go to courts to
file for support, ask for supervised visitation. Do not be
alone with the children ever. Everything you do needs to
be through the courts. I would say, don't walk away
from the kids, but protect yourself. And Stallion eighty four

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twenty six says, not the ahle. It sounds like you
don't have an actual custody agreement in place. Get one.
They will court order therapy for the daughter as well,
because she clearly needs it. Communicate with your ex only
through court approved parenting app. These apps shared chat records
with the court, so they cannot be deleted or hidden

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by either side. And Opie comments. I posted this before
I clogged in at work, so let me give some
more details. My ex wife and I were still together
when the kids ran away last year. My side of
the story during that was that I came home from work,
talked with the kids and wife gave the kids their
melatonin gummies before sending them to bed, after which I

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took a shower before making me something for dinner and
cleaning up afterwards. By this point, my ex was asleep
already and so were the kids. When CPS and the
mental health professionals were talking to my daughter. After everything
got cleared, she was saying the voices she was hearing
were telling her to do things. The mental health professionals

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said this sounded to rehearsed to them. It later got
revealed that she was watching videos on YouTube about kids
pranking their parents and she wanted to try it out herself.
She had access to YouTube due to tablets that my
mother in law had given the kids for Christmas back
in twenty twenty three, which I disagreed with, but I
was ignored at the time, and to this day, I

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do not believe my ex had a hand in the
running away situation. On to this year, my son went
to the er on the fourteenth because he had and
I quote from the paperwork, I was giving dizziness, light
headed feeling, and a nosebleed. I am not sure how
he received a concussion. Nothing is finished with this situation
yet and nothing has been decided in terms of child support.

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We go back to court next month to revisit this
after the investigation is finished. On the day I received
the EPO, I talked to a state trooper and told
him the kid's history, showed the videos of my kids
playing and showed receipts of my banking app from when
we were at Walmart and at what time we were there.
As of right now, I haven't heard anything else. I

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have already been interviewed by CPS and informed them of
the same things I told the state trooper because it
is a different person on this case, as my ex
and kids live in a different county at the moment
this time, I firmly believe that my ex is behind
this due to my telling her some of the bills
would have to wait because I'm having to pay approximately

(08:18):
twenty five hundred dollars to move, put down deposits, and
pay first and last month rent. I haven't seen my
kids since I dropped them off to my grandparents a
day after of the alleged concussion. I have not made
a decision about staying away from my kids, but I
do plan on talking to a lawyer in the next
couple of days, and I'm looking into security for my
house and a discrete body camera to where Like many

(08:40):
other users have said, thank you for all of your
insights and words and thoughts and prayers. It means a
whole lot to me that I can't put into words.
The community agrees OP wouldn't be the ahole, but also
told them to take a second look at the X
and OP is taking measures. So let's move on with
the first of three updates to see what happened. So

(09:02):
I have an update along with answering some questions better
from my previous post. When I first posted this, I
was not in a good headspace, and I realized that
I wasn't very clear. To be honest, I'm still not
in a good headspace, but it's a little bit better
for starters. These false allegations started last year, when my
kids were nine and seven. When I said two years,

(09:23):
I meant calendar years when I said I spoke to
the police about my side of the story last year,
I met what happened the night before the police and
CPS showed up at the front door. I explained what
I did that night in a comment in my original post,
but I didn't mention that due to a contraction happening
when she was being given the epidural, my wife's sleeps

(09:43):
better propped up, so she slept on the couch while
myself and the kids slept upstairs. The next morning is
when I woke up to the cops at the door
with CPS. I was charged with the child abandonment and arrested.
It took over a month for the truth to come
out about my kids making this up. Due to the
fact my daughter was saying I was abusing her. The

(10:06):
CPS agent conducting the investigation tried to ask more details,
and that's when my daughter started crying and admitted she
made it up because she couldn't give details. The only
reason my daughter even knew what sex was is because
my ex and I were in the bedroom and we
both thought the other locked the door and my daughter
walked in on us. Moving to now, I don't know

(10:27):
how my son got this supposed concussion. We had caught
again on Monday, and when the judge asked her, she
told him that after talking with the state trooper, we
have decided not to press criminal charges. I asked the
judge if there was any evidence that they had about
what their claiming I did, and he told me that
since no charges were filed, there's no evidence gathered to

(10:48):
give to me. I want to thank everyone for their
answers on my last post, thinking about these feelings was
making me sick to my stomach and I just needed
some perspectives from people who weren't emotionally involved. I thought
about this since last month, and I made the decision
to tell the judge I want the divorce process and
this EPO to be over and done with, and that

(11:08):
I just want to be left alone. I'm still questioning
if this was the right decision or not. I'm just
not sure what else I could do. I work twelve
hour days, five to six days a week. I have
no way to take care of the kids, so I
can't take them in even then, am I supposed to
get to the point where the court system says supervised
visits aren't needed anymore and just start wearing a body

(11:31):
camera around the kids and just be scared all the time,
looking over my shoulder constantly, just to make sure that
I'm not going to end up in jail again. We
have a hearing set for the end of the year
to hopefully get everything finalized and finished. I keep thinking
about the kids going trick or treating, going to school,
how we won't be decorating Christmas trees together or making

(11:52):
cookies for Santa, and I start crying all over again.
I'm not sure what else I could have done though
that wouldn't have made me a paranoid mess. Seven. Thank
you again for everyone saying I wasn't an a hole
for feeling this way. Have a good one. Read it
all right, Well, let's not waste any time and move
on to the second update. First, to clear it up,

(12:13):
my wife said, in her words, that she just isn't
in love with me anymore, and we've both become too different.
She's religious, I'm not. Both have different views on things
that we can't come to an agreement on, so she
wanted a divorce after last year. I wanted to get
us into therapy and got some recommendations for marriage counselors
and gave her the list and said that I'd be
fine with whoever she chose as long as we worked

(12:35):
on it. She never chose anyone and kept making excuses
about why every time I asked now an update, A
really small update that I wasn't expecting to make. I
had left a voicemail for the CPS agent assigned to
the current situation with my son, asking for an update
on everything, because I haven't heard anything since the beginning
of last month. She had to look in her case notes,

(12:57):
but everything has been found to be unsubstantiated. I should
be getting the official paperwork in a few days to
a week in the mail. I'm not sure how to
feel about this. Honestly, I'm relieved that the truth has
come out about these allegations, angry that this has happened
to me twice, now happy that this is one step
closer to being finished. I want to cry, but I

(13:18):
couldn't tell you the specific emotion that's causing it. I'm
taking some other redditor's words to heart and putting in
a request to my state Police Records Department to get
copies of any and all paperwork, evidence or lack thereof
anything I can get my hands on from them. I'm
also getting copies of my son medical records so I
can see exactly what was found back at the beginning

(13:40):
of last month. I know a lot of you don't
believe this, and I don't care. I have nothing to
gain from lying about this. I'm just going on survival mode.
I only just got a full sized fridged two days ago.
I only have an air mattress for a bed. I'm
just tired. I want this over with. I want things
to go back to January, when all I had to
worry about was the fact I was recovering from a

(14:02):
car wreck and couldn't even help take down the Christmas
trees and get a new car. All right, So that
was op situation up until two months ago. So now
let's fast forward to the present for the final update.
So I didn't think I would be back with any
sort of update until the end of the year, but
here I am. First, I want to thank everyone for

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their comments, the ones who tell me I'm not the
ahle for feeling this way, the ones who said this
was fake ai bo, which got me laughing a bit,
and for all the advice everyone's given me. Second, for
the ones who dmped me, I also want to say
thank you for reaching out. I may not have answered,
but I really appreciated reading the messages. After my last update,

(14:46):
I tried looking for something to do on my days
off of work. My first thought was the animal shelter nearby,
because it's not even a five minute drive from my house.
Turns out it's closed on my days off. I looked
around for neighboring counties and if those were even less helpful.
A lot of them required I attend some sort of orientation,
But there's no set day of the week for the orientations.

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I know it would be good for my mental health
in the long run, but in the short term, taking
a day off from work potentially to attend the orientation
and making my paycheck smaller isn't helpful. So I decided
to try dating. I wasn't going into this looking for
anything serious. I was wanting to try some casual dates
to just get out of the house and meet people.

(15:29):
That's not what happened. I made a profile on a
dating app and kind of just left it alone. One
of the pictures I had put on there was of
my cat. He's an orange cat presenting as a tuxedo cat.
No brain cell whatsoever. I got a message and this
woman was talking about how cute my cat was and
how he matched one of hers. We talked about our

(15:50):
cats for a while, then things got flirty and I
asked her out on a date. I feel like it
went well since she's stuck around anyway. We found out
that there are so many similar between what we like
and our senses of humor that my friends think I
found a female version of myself, which I think is
funny because when she meets them, that means they're screwed.

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After almost a month of us talking and going on
the occasional date, I told her I had some things
to tell her and then something to ask her. I
was upfront with everything that happened last year and this year,
showing her the paperwork that I had to show that
I was innocent in all of this. After telling her
all of this, I asked if she still wanted to

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stick around, or if she wanted to walk away and
not get dragged into any drama that she could get
put through just because of us having a relationship. She
hugged me, cried for me, which got me to start crying,
and told me that she was sorry I had to
go through something like that. Once the two of us
stopped trying to flood my house from crying more myself

(16:51):
than her, I asked her if she wanted to make
things official between us, and she said yes. I was
honestly so scared to tell her about what happened with
my kids. I was dead certain that once I told
any prospective girlfriend this, they would walk away so that
their own lives wouldn't get ruined. But she stayed, and
I'm so incredibly grateful for that. We agreed to take

(17:12):
it slow so that we don't rush into anything too quickly.
I can't remember which of my posts it was on,
and to be honest, there's too many comments on them
all to be able to find them. But a reditor
said that essentially they hope I find someone that can
actually be happy after all of this drama with my
ex wife and kids. I want to thank them for
saying that, because between them speaking it into existence and

(17:35):
my cat being well him, it seems to have worked.
I'm not back up to one hundred percent, though, I'm
still scared that something else will happen that will somehow
mess my life up even more. I'm scared of the
cops showing up at my house with new allegations even
though I haven't done anything. I'm scared of running into
my ex or the kids in public just by going

(17:56):
grocery shopping, and somehow getting arrested over it. Every time
I drive home and a sheriff, state police, or city
police vehicle comes down towards me or drives by the house,
I can feel my anxiety spike. I have cameras up
that record my front door, back door, and where I
park my car outside My house and cameras inside that

(18:16):
cover my front door and my back door. I have
other means of showing my location on my phone and
where I've traveled if I've traveled at all that day.
I keep any receipts from shopping or even grabbing something
to eat while in town, just so I have timestamps
of where I've been and when I was there. It's
a mess, but I'm doing what I can. I'm looking

(18:37):
forward to learning more about my girlfriend that my Dingers
of a Cat helped me meet. I'm looking forward to
being able to not live in fear of police. I'm
looking forward to being able to live and not just die.
Right now again, I want to thank everyone for their thoughts, advice,
comments everything. I'm still gathering paperwork and what evidence I
can about all of this, and sadly, I still don't

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have answers about why this has been happening. I don't
know how my son got this supposed concussion. I don't
know if my ex is coaching them. I don't know
if someone is in their lives because of my ex
that is causing all of this. I don't know if
I'll get those answers, but right now I'm going to
keep searching and fighting for myself until I either can't

(19:21):
find anything else or I get answers. WILLOUGHB, You're safe.
You're starting on your relationship and it sounds like your
girlfriend is absolutely in your corner and has your back.
So even though you don't have answers right now, you've
got things to look forward to. So here's wishing you
the best of bee. Thanks so much for sharing and
to take care and now let's finish this video with

(19:42):
a mood booster post. This post is from the subreddit
malicious Compliance and it's by user Joey Jojo Sr. Manager
insisted we do time sheets after hours at our work
time sheets have to be filled in every fortnight on
a Friday by close of business to be processed first
thing Monday morning. Our manager was a really chill woman

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who would sign off on timesheets Friday morning and then
send them to payroll before five pm. She went on
leave because her daughter was having a baby, and we
got some young dude to temporarily fill in as manager.
This guy was a total d bag. One of the
first things he did was insist we complete timesheets only
after we'd worked our fortnightly hours. This meant we had

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to work until five, then get our timesheets signed, and
then get them to payroll, except payroll closes at five,
which meant we couldn't get our timesheets to payroll until
Monday morning and they'd be processed late. So we decided
we'd take our time filling in time sheets. A lot
of us hang around chatting on a Friday because there's
a bar across the road that does cheap drinks from

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six to seven pm, so we'd leisurely do our timesheets
and D bag manager would have to hang around to
sign them all one week, we didn't give them to
him until right before six pm. He was pissed. This
lasted about five weeks. I guess something got flagged somewhere
that our whole department wasn't getting paid on time. D

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bag Manager was quickly identified as the culprit and given
the boot. They ended up getting one of my co
workers to take over until our real manager came back
and just as got served. Hopefully the lesson was imprinted
in D bag Manager. Thanks for sharing, op, and that's
it for today's video. Thank you so much for taking

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