July 29, 2025 • 20 mins
Relationship Stories - OP recounts how her pregnancy sparked escalating jealousy from her cousin Casey, who had bullied her for years. After a dramatic confrontation at the baby shower, Casey stormed out and sent a bitter farewell message.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi everybody, and welcome back to lost Genre Reddit stories.
This post is from the subredded am I the Ahle,
and it's by user Lily g am i the Ahle
for ruining my cousin's life by existing, being pregnant and
allegedly stealing her baby name. So I eighteen female, have
always had weird drama with my cousin Casey twenty three female.
(00:27):
For some reason, she's always had this bizarre obsession with
being in competition with me while loving my older sister
twenty four female like she's God's favorite. No idea why
I gave up trying to figure it out years ago.
For context, she lived with us from middle school up
to now because of family issues, and even then she
tweeted me like a punching bag. She called me a
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worthless pos ugly and tried to make me feel like nothing,
and unfortunately it worked. For a while, I hate under
baggy clothes, avoided people that I had zero confidence. Fast
forward to junior high, I started finding myself made some friends,
got a little style, learned makeup from my sister, and
got into my nineties baggy clothes, but cute era Casey
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hated every second of it claimed I was copying her.
She wore baggy hoodies and sweats with crocs every day.
It got worse when I got a boyfriend. He was sixteen,
I was fifteen, and she dead has tried to steal
him by telling him her body was better than mine
and he would love seeing her under her clothes emoji.
My mom had to intervene multiple times, while my dad
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kept telling me to let it go. She's been through
a lot spoiler alert, She's been through a lot her
entire life. According to everyone, I graduated high school early
at sixteen with honors and college credits. She hated it
and called me a dumb aho who wouldn't get far.
She didn't even come to my graduation. Meanwhile, she dropped
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out of college twice rejection, I think yes. What made
it worse was I found out I was pregnant in November,
and Casey immediately started telling family I didn't know who
the father was, that it could be multiple men, and
even told my dad the father was over thirty one.
Mind you, I've been with my boyfriend for two years.
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At this point, when no one believed her messy ass,
she tried to take the attention off of me and
got pregnant herself. She admitted to this, but sadly she
miscarried in February. We were all there for her. I
even wore baggy clothes so she wouldn't feel triggered seeing
my bump. Still, every time I had a craving or
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talked about my pregnancy, she made it about her. Would
literally cry at the dinner table because it should have
been her traumatic right then, when I announced my baby's name,
she went and got a custom blanket made with the
same name, her do date, and the day she miscarried,
claiming I stole it. When her name was my mom's
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mother's name, who she has no relation to. She's my
dad's niece. I kept the name. Also, today's episode, we're
planning my baby shower, talking about decorations and food when
she loudly scoffs from the living room. No one cares.
We ignore her. We said the baby's name again. Here
she goes a name you stole from me. I rolled
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my eyes because why are you still on this. I'm
showing my mom a picture of a custom car seat
cover I ordered. She storms in with her own baby
stuff she bought before the miscarriage. Bumbling. Hopefully I don't
steal her ideas, like I have the most of her
things already, I don't want her ideas laughing emoji. Once again,
I ignored her and my mom told her she loved them.
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Once she sees me not caring. She then went full
on explode mode, accuses me of copying her, being jealous,
needing to heal before I bring a baby into this world,
and randomly brings up the hormonal hygiene struggle I've been
having lately that she overheard talking me about, Like what
the f We left to the backyard where my sister was,
and this woman followed us out, screaming, saying, we treat
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her worse than her own parents did. Big lie. My
parents had babied her for years while she treated me
like dirt. My dad eventually came upstairs from the basement
because she was so loud, asked what was going on,
and for once, instead of calling her he went off,
He straight up said, Casey, for God's sake, I love you,
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but what is your problem? You pick fights constantly, you
play victim, and you're not in middle school anymore. If
you want to stay here, you need to get your
act together. I can't keep doing this with you, or
you fighting with a teenager who has done nothing to you.
She was shell shocked, stormed to her room, packed a bag,
and left. Later, she texted me this I've won. I
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can't fight anymore. You've always ruined my life. Even when
I was with my parents, you were always the favorite,
and I always hat you ruin everything for me, And
now I feel kind of bad. I didn't respond, and
no one's heard from her. Sense, OPI don't feel bad.
You were not the akle. You were a target. Casey
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projected her pain, her insecurity and self loathing onto you
for years, and you've survived it with strength. She clearly
doesn't have the text she sent you confirms it. She
sees your existence as a threat because you refused to shrink,
and that's not your fault. That's her unresolved trauma misfiring
on to you. Also, you didn't humiliate her. You didn't scream,
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you didn't exiled her. You endured, you ignored, and even
showed empathy when she lost her pregnancy. She escalated every
time you stood in your own light. So no, Opie,
you shouldn't feel guilty. You didn't ruin her life. You
just stopped letting her ruin yours. What do you guys think?
Let me know in the comment section, and now let's
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check out the community comments. Says, don't feel bad. Low
She constantly was an akal to you, and when she
didn't get her way, she threw a pissy fit and
ran off. She'll either be back or crash somewhere else, regardless,
it's not the last you'll hear of her. And Dopy responds,
part of me wants her to stay gone, but my
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parents are here low key worried, so that's what really
makes me feel guilty. Electrical elk five three six says,
when she was screaming at you, she was screaming about
everything she hates about herself. She's jealous and has unresolved issues.
She isn't well, but that's not a free pass to
be abusive. Distance yourself as much as possible from her,
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let her stay away. I'm sorry the adults in your
life didn't protect you like they should have from her
terrible behavior. Not the ahle, and Dopy responds, it means
a lot hearing that, and yeah, I wish the adults
had stepped in sooner too, But I'm grateful my dad
finally saw it for what it was. I'm definitely focusing
on keeping my distance and protecting my peace. Covert Pudding said,
(07:00):
not the ehole. I'm glad your dad stepped in finally,
but he should have stood up for you years ago
and gotten her into therapy. That level of projection and
resentment along with the bullying is super toxic and unhealthy.
It sounds like you've been mostly gray rocking her and
not giving her the reaction she wanted, which is really
the best way to deal with her. Good luck going forward,
(07:22):
and Opie responds, thank you and yeah, I agree. It
would have saved everyone a lot of stress if someone
had stepped in years ago. He is the type of
person that doesn't believe in therapy, so that wasn't on
the list. Opie's edit update, Hey you guys, I'm honestly
overwhelmed by all the responses. I didn't expect this to
blow up like it did, but thank you so much
(07:44):
for the kindness, advice, and support. I wanted to answer
some of the questions I've been seeing a lot in
the comments. One was she the youngest girl before me? Yes,
she was the last girl born for five years before
I came along. Our family is mostly boys, with only
a few girls here and there, so I do think
that may have played a part in how she felt
about me. Two about me being eighteen, Mom, I turned
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nineteen in a couple of weeks. I've been independent since
I was able to work at fifteen, and I even
have my own small business that's slowly growing. I still
live with my parents for now, but I handle my
own life for the most part. Three Why didn't my
parents get her into therapy? My mom has tried several
times to convince my dad to get us all into therapy,
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but he's one of those people who doesn't believe in it.
He's always told us to pray or write it down instead,
which honestly did help me at times growing up. But
she definitely needed professional help and still does. I've asked
him recently to consider it, and he just rolled his
eyes and ignored me. Four my parents' ages. My mom
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is forty seven and my dad is fifty seven. They've
been married since nineteen ninety eight, so about twenty six
years now. Five what happened with her parents. Her dad
was physically abuse us to both her and her mom.
Her mom helped her run away and send her to
live with us while she stayed behind. We live on
the East coast and they were all the way in Oakland, California.
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As for contact, no, we haven't spoken to them since
they lost custody of her. Six. Why was I so
nice to her because I genuinely looked up to her.
My older sister was never really around much, and I
thought she and I could be close like sisters. I
really wanted that seven was their favoritism. No, not really.
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I feel like we were treated fairly for the most part.
If anything, she got a little more attention and was
doted on more, probably because of what she'd been through.
I only got extra toys when I was little because
I was four years old and too small to do
the stuff they did. Where is she now? No one
has heard from her since she left. She's blocked all
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of us, and as far as we know, she doesn't
have a job or anywhere stable to go, which honestly
makes me nervous because it's likely she'll try to come
back eventually, so we're keeping our eyes open and being cautious. Well,
the community agrees that'll Pe is not the equal and
that she should just move on and focus on herself.
So now let's move on to the update to see
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how this story ends. Casey ended up coming back about
two days later, drunk and higher than ever. It was
around one am. I was asleep, but apparently my parents
were still up watching a movie when she came in.
My dad, who's a recovering alcoholic and has been sober
since I was fourteen, was furious and disappointed. They tried
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to sit her down to talk, but she just cried
and said she was tired and wanted to lay down,
so they let her go upstairs. A little while later,
my parents stepped outside to the back patio for a
smoke break. Yes both of them smoke occasionally, of course.
While they were outside and out of earshot, Casey came
to my room. I woke up to her trying to
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open my door. Thankfully it was lock. She started whisper
shouting for me to open it, calling me a piece
of crap, and saying we needed to talk. When I
told her to go away and that we could talk
in the morning, she started banging on my door, kicking it,
and was saying that I would never be prettier than her,
and that I was the ugly black sheep in the family.
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This again can't help. I told her to go to
bed again, but she wasn't done. She threatened me, saying
if she saw me tonight, it wouldn't be good for me.
At that point, I started recording and sent a video
to my dad. He came rushing back inside and went off.
He told her she wasn't staying another night in this
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house and she needed to start packing as soon as possible,
that coming home drunk and bullying me again was unacceptable,
and she needed to figure out where she was going
in the morning. She broke down crying again, claiming we
were all she had and she just wanted to talk.
My dad didn't budge this time. He told her the
only person she needed to talk to was a therapist,
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and until she got professional help, she wasn't welcome here.
She was shocked because, like I've said before, my dad's
always been old school and kind of coddled her, But
not this time. My mom came inside mid conversation, sat
her down, and apparently had a heart to heart about
how unacceptable it was for her to live in our
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home while treating me like garbage. I was watching the
whole thing go down on the security cameras from my phone,
because yes, I'm that petty. But then my sister Monica
starts texting me, taking Casey's side. It goes something like this.
Monica says, Opie, for once, will you stop making it
so hard with her? She only wanted to talk. And
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I say, it's one o'clock in the morning. I'm barely
able to get out of bed. What do you expect
me to do? I don't want to talk. Then she goes,
I'm tired of you playing the victim like you're so
innocent in this. Get over yourself. You're exhausting and it's
getting harder to deal with. And I say, what have
I Monica, I've cooked for y'all, cleaned up after y'all,
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always tried to be nice, and neither of you do
anything for me. If anything, you're exhausting. You're twenty four,
you've got a degree you won't even use it. Be real,
stop texting me good night. I cried. I always looked
up to both of them, even after everything, but this
was my breaking point. So here's where we're at now.
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Casey left the next morning to go stay with a friend.
She's been texting and calling my parents begging them to reconsider,
but they're standing firm. If she wants to be a
part of this family, she needs therapy first, no exceptions.
It's scary to even think about what could have happened
if she'd gotten into my room. She's completely crossed the
line and she won't be coming back into our lives
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or near my baby. If anything else happens, I won't
hesitate to involve the police and get a protective order.
My baby's safety comes first always. As for Monica, we
haven't spoken since those texts. I'm noticed and asked what
was going on, but I told her to ask her
daughter because I had nothing to say. Later, though, I
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did show the texts to my mom and they're starting
to see the reality of what's been happening. It's painful,
but it's clear my sister needs that wake up call.
I've also officially uninvited both Monica and Casey from my
baby shower. Neither of them will be involved with my baby,
and my mom said it's my decision. So no Aunt Monica,
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no cousin Casey. My dad's standing firm too, no more excuses,
no more drama, and me I'm focusing on my pregnancy,
my business, and reclaiming my piece. This is supposed to
be a happy time for me, and I'm done letting
them take that away. I deserve to be excited about
this baby without guilt. Thank you to everyone who's been
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so kind, offered advice and reminded me. I don't have
to tolerate this treatment. It means more than you know. Well.
I think this is a really good update. You kept
yourself and your baby safe, and you helped your parents
see what was going on, and whatever your cousin or
sister do is not for you to worry about. So
here's chin you the best of bee, take care and
thanks for sharing. And now let's move on to the
(15:09):
next post that also has an update. This post is
from the subredded AmIV Ahle and it's by user designers
Square fifty to fifteen. Am I the Ahle for wanting
to break up with him for being a good dad.
Me thirty female and Kyle thirty two male have been
in what I thought was a good relationship for three years.
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He has children, and for privacy, I won't say anything
about his children. He does have an ex wife around
our age and she's all right. We aren't friends, but
we get along, and she trusted me enough to ask
me to do things if they couldn't. We're going to
move in together, but obviously not anymore. It was Father's
Day that this happened. He spent his day with his
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kids and I spent mine with my dad. Kyle texted
me that he will always put his kids before me. Okay,
totally unprompted. I was confused. My dad asked me if
anything happened, and I'm like, not that. I know it
was weird and I didn't reply because yeah, I know
you should. I'm still confused. We talk about it like
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the next day, and he just said I needed to know.
I'm like, yeah, but did I do anything? Did one
of the kids say anything like help me correct my behavior? Like?
Why did you say that when it's to be expected.
I know he's a good dad that puts his kids first.
It's why I wanted to have my own with him.
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He kept saying that I just need to know my
place in his life, need to know the hierarchy. It
was really weird and there's been no resolution. Now. When
I try to talk about that, he gets angry and says,
I'm being petty or jealous and I always knew the deal.
It feels weird to say it, but it almost felt hurtful,
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like some type of passive aggressive move, and he just
wanted to arta fighter put me down. If I've never
done anything and have been respectful, why say that? I
know I don't come first in his life, and it
never bothered me until he decided I needed to know
that from his own mouth. I'm rethinking the relationship and
just removing myself from it. OPI, No, you're not the Ahle,
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and you're absolutely right. His message is old. Thing is
absolutely unprompted. You weren't asking to come before the kids,
but when confronted with the situation, you were just asking
for respect. Instead, he put you down to a certain
control and that's not love. So trust your instincts and leave.
What do you guys think? Let me know in the
comments section, and now let's check out the community comments.
(17:43):
Travis Blink says, not the Ahle sounds like some weird,
passive aggressive stuff to me as well. Did he spend
Father's Day with his X and the kids? If so,
that might be where this is coming from. I would
demand to know what he meant as well, and would
probably break up if he wouldn't explain. And Opia responds,
I don't think he was with her, but I'm like
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shaking right now. I never thought he could be cheating
on me with the woman he effing divorced. He just
said he was spending the day with the kids, but
I lost the details of that day because of that text.
D Tony says, start looking for a place to live
or move back home, change passwords, close joint accounts, move
(18:25):
and Opia responds, Luckily everything is separate and I still
have my own place. And Goydelica says, you're right. That
sounds like he's on the defensive. He's acting as if
you did something wrong, but you didn't, and I think
he knows you didn't. He's trying to assert dominance or something.
Watch out mate, the crimson banners flying edit. I'd almost
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say it sounds like he's trying to find a way
to make you the bad guy because he's done something wrong.
That he's trying to justify doing something he hasn't told
you about to himself by projecting negativity to you. Well,
the community agrees that Pie is not the ahole and
that she should just move on. So now let's move
on to the update and see how this story ends.
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I dumped him. I tried again, for like the hundredth
time to talk to him. What prompted him to say that?
What did I do? He just got angry and said,
I need to know my place and why do I
have a problem with it? When I knew he was
a dad going into this same old line has been
saying for the past week. I asked if he was
cheating with his ex, and I got called insecure, petty,
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crazy and others, but I remember those. I didn't even
bother asking about hypothetical kids. I told him we're done,
and he said he knew I couldn't handle it and
to stay away from dad's. Next time, I blogged him,
sent his ex a text letting her know, and she
saw it, but no reply, which is fine. She'll be
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blocked too if anything weird happens. I'm going to miss
the kids, and that's the weirdest part gone. The graduations,
birthdays and other milestones gone. So yeah, no more dads
for me, and I can't say this was a learning experience.
It just sucks. OP. I'm sorry that this is the
way that you learned your ex is an idiot, and
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of course it sucks so much right now, but in
time you've dodged a bullet. So here's wishing you the best, Opie,
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Hi everybody, and welcome back to lost Genre Reddit stories.
This post is from the subredded am I the Ahle,
and it's by user Lily g am i the Ahle
for ruining my cousin's life by existing, being pregnant and
allegedly stealing her baby name. So I eighteen female, have
always had weird drama with my cousin Casey twenty three female.
(00:27):
For some reason, she's always had this bizarre obsession with
being in competition with me while loving my older sister
twenty four female like she's God's favorite. No idea why
I gave up trying to figure it out years ago.
For context, she lived with us from middle school up
to now because of family issues, and even then she
tweeted me like a punching bag. She called me a
(00:50):
worthless pos ugly and tried to make me feel like nothing,
and unfortunately it worked. For a while, I hate under
baggy clothes, avoided people that I had zero confidence. Fast
forward to junior high, I started finding myself made some friends,
got a little style, learned makeup from my sister, and
got into my nineties baggy clothes, but cute era Casey
(01:13):
hated every second of it claimed I was copying her.
She wore baggy hoodies and sweats with crocs every day.
It got worse when I got a boyfriend. He was sixteen,
I was fifteen, and she dead has tried to steal
him by telling him her body was better than mine
and he would love seeing her under her clothes emoji.
My mom had to intervene multiple times, while my dad
(01:36):
kept telling me to let it go. She's been through
a lot spoiler alert, She's been through a lot her
entire life. According to everyone, I graduated high school early
at sixteen with honors and college credits. She hated it
and called me a dumb aho who wouldn't get far.
She didn't even come to my graduation. Meanwhile, she dropped
(01:57):
out of college twice rejection, I think yes. What made
it worse was I found out I was pregnant in November,
and Casey immediately started telling family I didn't know who
the father was, that it could be multiple men, and
even told my dad the father was over thirty one.
Mind you, I've been with my boyfriend for two years.
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At this point, when no one believed her messy ass,
she tried to take the attention off of me and
got pregnant herself. She admitted to this, but sadly she
miscarried in February. We were all there for her. I
even wore baggy clothes so she wouldn't feel triggered seeing
my bump. Still, every time I had a craving or
(02:39):
talked about my pregnancy, she made it about her. Would
literally cry at the dinner table because it should have
been her traumatic right then, when I announced my baby's name,
she went and got a custom blanket made with the
same name, her do date, and the day she miscarried,
claiming I stole it. When her name was my mom's
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mother's name, who she has no relation to. She's my
dad's niece. I kept the name. Also, today's episode, we're
planning my baby shower, talking about decorations and food when
she loudly scoffs from the living room. No one cares.
We ignore her. We said the baby's name again. Here
she goes a name you stole from me. I rolled
(03:23):
my eyes because why are you still on this. I'm
showing my mom a picture of a custom car seat
cover I ordered. She storms in with her own baby
stuff she bought before the miscarriage. Bumbling. Hopefully I don't
steal her ideas, like I have the most of her
things already, I don't want her ideas laughing emoji. Once again,
I ignored her and my mom told her she loved them.
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Once she sees me not caring. She then went full
on explode mode, accuses me of copying her, being jealous,
needing to heal before I bring a baby into this world,
and randomly brings up the hormonal hygiene struggle I've been
having lately that she overheard talking me about, Like what
the f We left to the backyard where my sister was,
and this woman followed us out, screaming, saying, we treat
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her worse than her own parents did. Big lie. My
parents had babied her for years while she treated me
like dirt. My dad eventually came upstairs from the basement
because she was so loud, asked what was going on,
and for once, instead of calling her he went off,
He straight up said, Casey, for God's sake, I love you,
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but what is your problem? You pick fights constantly, you
play victim, and you're not in middle school anymore. If
you want to stay here, you need to get your
act together. I can't keep doing this with you, or
you fighting with a teenager who has done nothing to you.
She was shell shocked, stormed to her room, packed a bag,
and left. Later, she texted me this I've won. I
(04:52):
can't fight anymore. You've always ruined my life. Even when
I was with my parents, you were always the favorite,
and I always hat you ruin everything for me, And
now I feel kind of bad. I didn't respond, and
no one's heard from her. Sense, OPI don't feel bad.
You were not the akle. You were a target. Casey
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projected her pain, her insecurity and self loathing onto you
for years, and you've survived it with strength. She clearly
doesn't have the text she sent you confirms it. She
sees your existence as a threat because you refused to shrink,
and that's not your fault. That's her unresolved trauma misfiring
on to you. Also, you didn't humiliate her. You didn't scream,
(05:33):
you didn't exiled her. You endured, you ignored, and even
showed empathy when she lost her pregnancy. She escalated every
time you stood in your own light. So no, Opie,
you shouldn't feel guilty. You didn't ruin her life. You
just stopped letting her ruin yours. What do you guys think?
Let me know in the comment section, and now let's
(05:53):
check out the community comments. Says, don't feel bad. Low
She constantly was an akal to you, and when she
didn't get her way, she threw a pissy fit and
ran off. She'll either be back or crash somewhere else, regardless,
it's not the last you'll hear of her. And Dopy responds,
part of me wants her to stay gone, but my
(06:14):
parents are here low key worried, so that's what really
makes me feel guilty. Electrical elk five three six says,
when she was screaming at you, she was screaming about
everything she hates about herself. She's jealous and has unresolved issues.
She isn't well, but that's not a free pass to
be abusive. Distance yourself as much as possible from her,
(06:35):
let her stay away. I'm sorry the adults in your
life didn't protect you like they should have from her
terrible behavior. Not the ahle, and Dopy responds, it means
a lot hearing that, and yeah, I wish the adults
had stepped in sooner too, But I'm grateful my dad
finally saw it for what it was. I'm definitely focusing
on keeping my distance and protecting my peace. Covert Pudding said,
(07:00):
not the ehole. I'm glad your dad stepped in finally,
but he should have stood up for you years ago
and gotten her into therapy. That level of projection and
resentment along with the bullying is super toxic and unhealthy.
It sounds like you've been mostly gray rocking her and
not giving her the reaction she wanted, which is really
the best way to deal with her. Good luck going forward,
(07:22):
and Opie responds, thank you and yeah, I agree. It
would have saved everyone a lot of stress if someone
had stepped in years ago. He is the type of
person that doesn't believe in therapy, so that wasn't on
the list. Opie's edit update, Hey you guys, I'm honestly
overwhelmed by all the responses. I didn't expect this to
blow up like it did, but thank you so much
(07:44):
for the kindness, advice, and support. I wanted to answer
some of the questions I've been seeing a lot in
the comments. One was she the youngest girl before me? Yes,
she was the last girl born for five years before
I came along. Our family is mostly boys, with only
a few girls here and there, so I do think
that may have played a part in how she felt
about me. Two about me being eighteen, Mom, I turned
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nineteen in a couple of weeks. I've been independent since
I was able to work at fifteen, and I even
have my own small business that's slowly growing. I still
live with my parents for now, but I handle my
own life for the most part. Three Why didn't my
parents get her into therapy? My mom has tried several
times to convince my dad to get us all into therapy,
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but he's one of those people who doesn't believe in it.
He's always told us to pray or write it down instead,
which honestly did help me at times growing up. But
she definitely needed professional help and still does. I've asked
him recently to consider it, and he just rolled his
eyes and ignored me. Four my parents' ages. My mom
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is forty seven and my dad is fifty seven. They've
been married since nineteen ninety eight, so about twenty six
years now. Five what happened with her parents. Her dad
was physically abuse us to both her and her mom.
Her mom helped her run away and send her to
live with us while she stayed behind. We live on
the East coast and they were all the way in Oakland, California.
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As for contact, no, we haven't spoken to them since
they lost custody of her. Six. Why was I so
nice to her because I genuinely looked up to her.
My older sister was never really around much, and I
thought she and I could be close like sisters. I
really wanted that seven was their favoritism. No, not really.
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I feel like we were treated fairly for the most part.
If anything, she got a little more attention and was
doted on more, probably because of what she'd been through.
I only got extra toys when I was little because
I was four years old and too small to do
the stuff they did. Where is she now? No one
has heard from her since she left. She's blocked all
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of us, and as far as we know, she doesn't
have a job or anywhere stable to go, which honestly
makes me nervous because it's likely she'll try to come
back eventually, so we're keeping our eyes open and being cautious. Well,
the community agrees that'll Pe is not the equal and
that she should just move on and focus on herself.
So now let's move on to the update to see
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how this story ends. Casey ended up coming back about
two days later, drunk and higher than ever. It was
around one am. I was asleep, but apparently my parents
were still up watching a movie when she came in.
My dad, who's a recovering alcoholic and has been sober
since I was fourteen, was furious and disappointed. They tried
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to sit her down to talk, but she just cried
and said she was tired and wanted to lay down,
so they let her go upstairs. A little while later,
my parents stepped outside to the back patio for a
smoke break. Yes both of them smoke occasionally, of course.
While they were outside and out of earshot, Casey came
to my room. I woke up to her trying to
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open my door. Thankfully it was lock. She started whisper
shouting for me to open it, calling me a piece
of crap, and saying we needed to talk. When I
told her to go away and that we could talk
in the morning, she started banging on my door, kicking it,
and was saying that I would never be prettier than her,
and that I was the ugly black sheep in the family.
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This again can't help. I told her to go to
bed again, but she wasn't done. She threatened me, saying
if she saw me tonight, it wouldn't be good for me.
At that point, I started recording and sent a video
to my dad. He came rushing back inside and went off.
He told her she wasn't staying another night in this
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house and she needed to start packing as soon as possible,
that coming home drunk and bullying me again was unacceptable,
and she needed to figure out where she was going
in the morning. She broke down crying again, claiming we
were all she had and she just wanted to talk.
My dad didn't budge this time. He told her the
only person she needed to talk to was a therapist,
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and until she got professional help, she wasn't welcome here.
She was shocked because, like I've said before, my dad's
always been old school and kind of coddled her, But
not this time. My mom came inside mid conversation, sat
her down, and apparently had a heart to heart about
how unacceptable it was for her to live in our
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home while treating me like garbage. I was watching the
whole thing go down on the security cameras from my phone,
because yes, I'm that petty. But then my sister Monica
starts texting me, taking Casey's side. It goes something like this.
Monica says, Opie, for once, will you stop making it
so hard with her? She only wanted to talk. And
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I say, it's one o'clock in the morning. I'm barely
able to get out of bed. What do you expect
me to do? I don't want to talk. Then she goes,
I'm tired of you playing the victim like you're so
innocent in this. Get over yourself. You're exhausting and it's
getting harder to deal with. And I say, what have
I Monica, I've cooked for y'all, cleaned up after y'all,
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always tried to be nice, and neither of you do
anything for me. If anything, you're exhausting. You're twenty four,
you've got a degree you won't even use it. Be real,
stop texting me good night. I cried. I always looked
up to both of them, even after everything, but this
was my breaking point. So here's where we're at now.
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Casey left the next morning to go stay with a friend.
She's been texting and calling my parents begging them to reconsider,
but they're standing firm. If she wants to be a
part of this family, she needs therapy first, no exceptions.
It's scary to even think about what could have happened
if she'd gotten into my room. She's completely crossed the
line and she won't be coming back into our lives
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or near my baby. If anything else happens, I won't
hesitate to involve the police and get a protective order.
My baby's safety comes first always. As for Monica, we
haven't spoken since those texts. I'm noticed and asked what
was going on, but I told her to ask her
daughter because I had nothing to say. Later, though, I
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did show the texts to my mom and they're starting
to see the reality of what's been happening. It's painful,
but it's clear my sister needs that wake up call.
I've also officially uninvited both Monica and Casey from my
baby shower. Neither of them will be involved with my baby,
and my mom said it's my decision. So no Aunt Monica,
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no cousin Casey. My dad's standing firm too, no more excuses,
no more drama, and me I'm focusing on my pregnancy,
my business, and reclaiming my piece. This is supposed to
be a happy time for me, and I'm done letting
them take that away. I deserve to be excited about
this baby without guilt. Thank you to everyone who's been
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so kind, offered advice and reminded me. I don't have
to tolerate this treatment. It means more than you know. Well.
I think this is a really good update. You kept
yourself and your baby safe, and you helped your parents
see what was going on, and whatever your cousin or
sister do is not for you to worry about. So
here's chin you the best of bee, take care and
thanks for sharing. And now let's move on to the
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next post that also has an update. This post is
from the subredded AmIV Ahle and it's by user designers
Square fifty to fifteen. Am I the Ahle for wanting
to break up with him for being a good dad.
Me thirty female and Kyle thirty two male have been
in what I thought was a good relationship for three years.
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He has children, and for privacy, I won't say anything
about his children. He does have an ex wife around
our age and she's all right. We aren't friends, but
we get along, and she trusted me enough to ask
me to do things if they couldn't. We're going to
move in together, but obviously not anymore. It was Father's
Day that this happened. He spent his day with his
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kids and I spent mine with my dad. Kyle texted
me that he will always put his kids before me. Okay,
totally unprompted. I was confused. My dad asked me if
anything happened, and I'm like, not that. I know it
was weird and I didn't reply because yeah, I know
you should. I'm still confused. We talk about it like
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the next day, and he just said I needed to know.
I'm like, yeah, but did I do anything? Did one
of the kids say anything like help me correct my behavior? Like?
Why did you say that when it's to be expected.
I know he's a good dad that puts his kids first.
It's why I wanted to have my own with him.
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He kept saying that I just need to know my
place in his life, need to know the hierarchy. It
was really weird and there's been no resolution. Now. When
I try to talk about that, he gets angry and says,
I'm being petty or jealous and I always knew the deal.
It feels weird to say it, but it almost felt hurtful,
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like some type of passive aggressive move, and he just
wanted to arta fighter put me down. If I've never
done anything and have been respectful, why say that? I
know I don't come first in his life, and it
never bothered me until he decided I needed to know
that from his own mouth. I'm rethinking the relationship and
just removing myself from it. OPI, No, you're not the Ahle,
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and you're absolutely right. His message is old. Thing is
absolutely unprompted. You weren't asking to come before the kids,
but when confronted with the situation, you were just asking
for respect. Instead, he put you down to a certain
control and that's not love. So trust your instincts and leave.
What do you guys think? Let me know in the
comments section, and now let's check out the community comments.
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Travis Blink says, not the Ahle sounds like some weird,
passive aggressive stuff to me as well. Did he spend
Father's Day with his X and the kids? If so,
that might be where this is coming from. I would
demand to know what he meant as well, and would
probably break up if he wouldn't explain. And Opia responds,
I don't think he was with her, but I'm like
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shaking right now. I never thought he could be cheating
on me with the woman he effing divorced. He just
said he was spending the day with the kids, but
I lost the details of that day because of that text.
D Tony says, start looking for a place to live
or move back home, change passwords, close joint accounts, move
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and Opia responds, Luckily everything is separate and I still
have my own place. And Goydelica says, you're right. That
sounds like he's on the defensive. He's acting as if
you did something wrong, but you didn't, and I think
he knows you didn't. He's trying to assert dominance or something.
Watch out mate, the crimson banners flying edit. I'd almost
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say it sounds like he's trying to find a way
to make you the bad guy because he's done something wrong.
That he's trying to justify doing something he hasn't told
you about to himself by projecting negativity to you. Well,
the community agrees that Pie is not the ahole and
that she should just move on. So now let's move
on to the update and see how this story ends.
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I dumped him. I tried again, for like the hundredth
time to talk to him. What prompted him to say that?
What did I do? He just got angry and said,
I need to know my place and why do I
have a problem with it? When I knew he was
a dad going into this same old line has been
saying for the past week. I asked if he was
cheating with his ex, and I got called insecure, petty,
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crazy and others, but I remember those. I didn't even
bother asking about hypothetical kids. I told him we're done,
and he said he knew I couldn't handle it and
to stay away from dad's. Next time, I blogged him,
sent his ex a text letting her know, and she
saw it, but no reply, which is fine. She'll be
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blocked too if anything weird happens. I'm going to miss
the kids, and that's the weirdest part gone. The graduations,
birthdays and other milestones gone. So yeah, no more dads
for me, and I can't say this was a learning experience.
It just sucks. OP. I'm sorry that this is the
way that you learned your ex is an idiot, and
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of course it sucks so much right now, but in
time you've dodged a bullet. So here's wishing you the best, Opie,
take care and thanks for sharing. And that's it for
today's video. Thank you so much for taking the time
to watch it now. If you've gotten to this point
in the video, I assume that you like these stories
that I'm reading out, so here are a couple more
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