September 20, 2025 • 23 mins
Relationship Stories - After OP’s brother got kicked out for trash-talking his girlfriend, the family pushed OP to let him move in. OP refused, citing past behavior, and clapped back by telling their parents to house him instead.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi everybody, and welcome back to Lost genre Reddit stories.
This post is from the subretata Mighty a Hole, and
it's by user hypocrite Family six six one two. Would
I be the a hole for telling my family they
can take my brother in if they think family should
help family? Not going into minutia. People hate it when
(00:24):
I talk too much. Can't be differently written. Me thirty
seven male, it's me husband thirty six male accountant, love
him to bits. Son thirteen male student, average kid who
doesn't like my brother. I'm trying to learn anime for him.
It's an uphill battle. Brother thirty two male. Not a
member of the household. I wanted to stay that way situation.
(00:47):
My brother got kicked out of my would be sister
in laws house.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Reason You don't talk crap about.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Your buddies about a scary lawyer and expect her to
never find out. The ask family wants me to take
him in since we have an extra bedroom we usually
use it for my parents when they visit. Plus our
house is big. The problem. You give brother anything, you
might as well say goodbye to it forever. Toys, clothes, money,
(01:15):
you name it. You're only seeing it again if you
sneak into his room and take it the fear the second.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
He steps in.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
The only way he leaves is if I chase him
out with a metal bat I found in the basement
when I moved in here. He doesn't have a job.
I don't want another kid to take care of. One
is quite enough, thank you very much. Also, every conversation
he has with my son becomes an intervention. We said, no,
he is not getting a foot in the bigger problem.
(01:46):
Family says we should help my brother because he's family
and family should help family.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
We are saying no. Still they have not stopped question.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Would I be the acle for sending family messages of
you think family should help family.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
I think that's a great idea. You should do it.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
And only ever saying that when they try to bring
it up. No, Obi, of course you'd not be the ahole.
It's what you need to do. Actually, just call them
out if they're pushing this family helps family so much,
they can do it, and I don't think you being
the a hole if you only reply with that every
time they ask you for it.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
And at the end of the day, it is yours
and your husband's house and that is it.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
You guys have the final say as to who gets
to stay as a visitor and who doesn't. And from
what you've learned throughout your life with your brother, he
shouldn't be allowed to stay in your house or else. Well,
he might claim squatter rights at some point. Long story, Shuto, pep, Nope,
you would not be the ahole. That's exactly the right
thing to do. And what do you guys think? Let
me know in the comments section, And now let's check
(02:46):
out the community comments. Coy and feisty says, dudes burnt
his bridges and now he gotta face the music. Fan's
there for support. Stick to your guns. You got a
kid and a home to look after. If other family
is so held bent on helping, they can step the
f up. Bet they'll turn a one eighty real quick.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Don't let him.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Guilt Tripia, You clearly got your priorities straight. Interesting Old
two seven nine says, not the ahole. You have zero
obligation to mother people's bad decisions. He's a grown ass man,
and if he hasn't learned to overcome adversity at his age,
this is the perfect opportunity for a crash.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
Course. He cannot stay in your house.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
It would ruin whatever piece at home you have. The
definition of family to the people you've posted about is
codependent and unhealthy, and Opie responds, it's what I'm worried
about too. I can't live with someone who hates who
my son is. Protecting my piece from parasites comes first,
just worried I may set off a serious drama bomb accomplished.
(03:49):
EMU five nine one says, you would not be the ahole.
You have every right to protect your immediate family from
your younger brother. Family obligations go both ways, and it's
pretty clear younger brother has no ever met an obligation
he couldn't ignore telling the rest of the family they
should do it is a great idea. Good luck and
keep the bad polished and obduspon goo'se abuse says taking
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someone into your home that has no way of ever
getting back on their feet is how you get a
permanent resident. Good luck evicting someone, even if you live
in the same house. It can be a multi year process,
depending on where you live and how swamped the court
systems are. I've met at least one person that has
served eviction papers from twenty to twenty that are still
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waiting to be legally evicted to this day, simply because
they've figured out how to stole the eviction process several times.
I don't think that you're an AHO for saying no.
Maybe the response could make you one since it's a
bit snarky, But informing them that you cannot house them
and asking if anybody else could take him instead would
(04:52):
be fine. Maybe ask them their reasons while you give
your reasoning and Dopy responds right kinda glad that I
found that metal band in the basement. My husband has
a better mind for communicating. I'll plan with him well.
The community agrees that op would not be the aple,
and they are suggesting that he strongly stay firm on
(05:13):
his convictions. So now let's move on to the update
to see how this story ends. Preliminary address, Thank you
for your time and advice.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
Reddit.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
Your advice and care for my son has been so lovely.
Be Ye Genuine or be Ye spectators awaiting the next
chapter in an entertaining story, I appreciated it didn't tell
my husband and son this statement. Husband helped me write
this in a professional ish way and contacted Joe's nighthawk X,
who is a lawyer Nighthawk hasn't officially taken the case,
(05:44):
but we thought she would be able to help us
write a serious sounding letter by giving pointers and revising
to add gravitas. For the sake of readability, I will
give people fake names. I will write Smith for a
fake family surname, and Joe for my brother, just for readability.
So here's the message, people of the Smith family, for
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anyone who hasn't heard it yet, Mister Joe Smith asked
us for a place to stay after a recent breakup
with Miss Nighthawk. Members of our household have talked it
over and we came to the conclusion that Joe Smith
would not make for a suitable tenant in our household.
We understand some people believe family should help family, and
(06:26):
we do not completely deny this statement. However, help does
not always mean to allowing people to move in for
an undefined amount of time. Given past history which everyone
reading this knows about, let's not pretend otherwise. The already
strained relationship between Joe and a certain household members this
was already tenuous. We also have a statement from Miss
(06:47):
Knighthawk that Joe never was employed while living with her
and their arrangement was financially parasitic in nature. Based on
the current state of mister Joe Smith's employment, we believe
this will be no different for us. Hosting mister Joe
Smith would not be healthy for anyone under our roof.
If anyone feels strongly that Joe needs a place to stay,
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our door is not the one to knock on, but
yours absolutely could be. We fully support anyone in the
family opening their home to him and showing how family
support is done. We love you all, but we're not
sacrificing our home stability to prove our loyalty. That is
our final word on the matter. Much love, Opie and family.
(07:32):
The after effects the communications assault ceased after two days
of us turning it against them. No one has threatened
to burn bridges or exclude us from family events. They
tried to use the bad family card, but we just
played it back at them, accusing them of being bad family.
I underestimated how much people can just spam it the
(07:54):
secondary incident, we may have dodged a big bullet. I
really don't like going on too long, but I don't
know how to make this shorter without making it blander
than unseasoned, under buttered Rice. Before this, we talked to
the police and thanks to my hobby's connections, they knew
the situation. In the event Joe broke in and tried
(08:15):
to claim residency, we made it clear Joe is not
a resident in any capacity and we don't want him
in the house unless we invite him. We are now
on a weekend trip to my in laws place, who
are very much just the loving Aunties and Grandma's. They
are non drama people and respect boundaries. Yesterday I get
a call from my parents saying Joe got into trouble
(08:36):
with the police. Fortunately he was not arrested and he
was not harmed. Apparently, he showed up to our house
at night and he tried to get us to let
him in, but no one was around, but he tried harder.
Neighbors called the cops because they didn't know who it
was and thought we were being robbed. Cops showed up,
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and I don't know everything, but my mom told me
that the cops told her that he tried to claim residency,
but that was false and they knew, and then Joe
told the cops he didn't have a home. The cops
told my parents that either they could pick up Joe
or they'd get a shelter and other services involved. Parents
ended up having to drive to pick him up late
(09:19):
at night, and now Joe is crashing on their couch.
Other news, Joe's ex Nighthawk, as I called her before
on my past post, bite me it works and my
husband are still friends and says she's never taking Joe
back to her nest. Joe might have lost a lover,
but Son didn't lose an aunt. Son is doing okay.
(09:41):
It's still an uphill battle to understand anime, but he
likes the effort I put in. He said he was
happy he didn't have to live with Joe. I didn't
tell him about the concern you all showed for him,
but I think that's fine, Probably safer this way conclusion.
Family now has to put their money where their mouth is.
Joe is, our asses are covered. We're fine and safe.
(10:03):
I'm sorry if this is too long. Try to make
it brief, but I couldn't well peeve. I like the
way you write, pretty factual to the point, no fluff,
so I'll keep it like that. Like you said, your
family's okay. John can figure it out for himself. So
here's witching you guys the best in the future. Ope,
thanks so much for sharing and to take care and
now let's move on to the next post that also
(10:24):
has an update. This post is from the subjected A
mighty ahole and it's my user construction Witty nine seven eight.
Am I the ahle for telling my father's girlfriend that
it's not my fault she doesn't have any friends. My
twenty six female father late fifties has been with Trudy
early forties for about six years, but she only moved
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in with him a little under a year ago. Before that,
she lived in a different city. Since they started dating,
Trudy has established herself as essentially a housewife. It was
her choice from what I gathered. My father was against it,
and she seems happy with it, but she's a little
extreme about it. She doesn't work, has no hobbies, and
refuses to go anywhere without my father and he often
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leaves on work trips for days at a time. When
he's in town. She joins him in whatever he's doing.
When he's not, her daily routine consists of going to
the gym and returning home to order takeout and watch TV.
Because of that Trudy has no friends in this city.
She never meets anyone, her whole family is a six
(11:27):
hour drive away, and only my father's friends come to
her birthday parties. Recently, both Trudy and my father started
pushing me and my sister to hang out with Trudy
or include her in whatever plans we make, because she's
been spending a lot of time home alone and has
been getting lonely. They've mostly given up on asking my sister,
(11:48):
but still try to convince me. I never do both
because I can't and because I don't like Trudy.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
I'm well aware.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
That's not her problem, and I'm always polite, but I
don't want to spend time with if I don't have to.
I also have a baby and a job, so whatever
free time I have tends to revolve around my son,
even when it doesn't. Truthy and I don't have the
same interests. Last Friday, Truthy was home alone and invited me,
(12:16):
my husband, and our baby over to watch a movie
with her. We thanked her, but said no because my
husband wanted to catch up on work and I didn't
want to take our son out on my own.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
Both true.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
On Saturday, we ended up inviting my best friend and
her husband for a small game night at our place.
Said friend later posted on Instagram story about it. My
father returned on Sunday morning, and we saw my family
at a small get together that day. Truthy was quiet,
which was out of character. Right before we left, she
and my father pulled me aside. We had an argument
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because Trudy had seen what my friend had posted. She
said she was upset I hadn't thought of including her
or taking her up on her offer to hang out
when she was home alone. My father told me I'd
been inconsiderate, as she hasn't made any friends around here yet,
and I know how lonely she's been lately. I said,
it's not my fault she doesn't have any friends, and
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I don't have to include her in my plans just
because she refuses to meet new people. Trudy got offended,
but my husband and I had to leave. Yesterday, my
father texted me saying that Trudy was still upset about
what I said, and he thinks I owe her an apology.
He thinks that I'm bullying his girlfriend by refusing to
hang out with her, and it was rude of me.
(13:32):
To imply that her lack of friends is her own fault.
That was not what I meant, and I don't like
being treated like Trudy's cure for loneliness. But I do
understand how what I said could be seen as rude.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
Am I the a whole?
Speaker 1 (13:47):
Will be in my opinion, how you present the story.
I don't think you're the a hole, but I can't
understand why Trudy would interpret it that way. And I
think your dad's statement when he said that it's rude
of you to imply that her lack of friends is
her own fault. Why is that rude? Whose fault is it?
It's definitely not yours, opie, and you shouldn't become her
(14:07):
de facto friend just because she's lonely. She's the one
that needs to do something about it, and your dad,
instead of trying to ponner off on you, should be
trying to help her. Anyways, what do you guys think?
Let me know in the comments section, and now let's
check out the community comments. Outrageous ad thirty six eleven says,
not the ahle. Why is Trudy looking at your friend's
(14:28):
Instagram story? It's not your job to entertain her or
invite her to anything. Trudy's a grown as woman who
needs to get a life instead of crying to her
boyfriend that his kids don't want to hang out with her.
And Opie responds, she started following some of my friends
during my birthday party a few months ago. Said friend
has been my best friend since Typer's and is a
(14:50):
little more active on social media, so Trudy checks her
pretty often. But her Scotch Little sixty five says.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
Not the a whole.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
She is not your friend, She is not your family.
She is a person who is dating your father. That
is all you owe her nothing, and Dopey responds, I
think my father has always wanted to be able to
dictate what family means for us. It's true I don't
consider Truty family, but I never felt I had to.
It's this weird relationship, not mine. And Select Negotiation eighty
(15:23):
seven says.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
Not the aple.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
Your father should stop setting up play dates for you
and his wife. Her lack of friends is not your problem,
since you are not the one married to her. This
is between your father and his wife to figure it out.
Stay firm on your boundaries and tell your father to
stop bullying you into being his wife's companion, and Dopey responds,
I always thought they were a weird couple. Truty is
(15:47):
still nostalgic for Y two K and would be a
Disney adult if she could afford to My father thinks
he's James Bond, but is closer to Fraser minus the
college degrees. He really wants us to be friends, though
I never told him I didn't like her, but I
did make it clear that the fact we have nothing
in common makes it unlikely. The community agrees that OPI
(16:09):
is not the ahole and that this is something between
Opie's father and his girlfriend. So now let's move on
to the update to see how this story ends. It's
been almost two weeks since I posted here. I wouldn't
say I've sorted everything out, but I'm satisfied with what
has happened. A few days after my post, I reached
out to all my friends who know Trudy and told
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them to either block her own social media or just
remove her as a follower. I don't think she was
using them to stalk me or anything. She spends a
lot of time on her phone. It was actually very
unlikely she would see the story my friend posted that day,
but I figured it would be best to prevent this
from happening again. I also removed her from my followers.
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My account has always been private anyway. I decided I
wanted to have a one on one conversation with my
father so that we could talk things through, so we
agreed to have lunch together on Saturday. We settled on
a restaurant near my place and agreed it would just
be the two of us. The day of, he called
me and told me Trudy was insisting on coming along
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to keep us company. I told him no, I wanted
to talk to him on my own. We had a
small fight because he didn't want to leave Truty alone,
so I told him it was best we reschedule it.
My husband and I had lunch together and took our
baby to the park instead. That night, I told my
husband what had happened, and he said, I love that
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you're still trying to be nice to them, but I
don't think it's working. Between that your comments and the
fact that I'm exhausted, I decided to give up. I
can't force my father and Trudy to listen, but I
can at least put my foot down. I called my
father the next day, while Truty was at the gym.
I told him, in no uncertain terms, that I do
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not like Trudy and will never accept an offer to
spend time with her when he's not around, even more
so now that I have. As expected, my father started
trying to guilt me right away. First, he went on
a spiel about Trudy's life story and how caring and
devout she is to everyone around her. He told me
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about how much she loves me and wishes we could
spend more time with her. This wasn't the first time
I heard all of that, but it was the first
time I told him I didn't care. I'm glad she
loves me, but I have no obligation to love her
in return. I could spend hours listing all the reasons
I don't like her, but I don't think she has
to care about that. We're not friends and we're not family.
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That argument actually went on for a while, but eventually
the subject shifted to Truty's lack of friends. I reminded
him that they live in one of the most popular
streets in our city, and there are dozens of things
she could do to meet new people. My father said
he knew that, but Trudy didn't want to try any
of them. I told him that in that case, there
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was nothing else I could do. Either start putting herself
out there or continue her lonely routine. Either way, I
won't be part of it. My father said he wouldn't
try to push me to hang out with Trudy anymore,
but he can't guarantee she'll do the same. I can
live with that, and I reassured him I'll never stop
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being polite to Trudy, but I won't start liking her
just because they want me to. He said he could
live with that. My husband and I have come up
with multiple theories about why Truthy is so fixated on
having her life revolve around my father's. We call her
a terminator housewife for a reason, but I've always thought
it was very unhealthy for both of them. I hope
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she does decide to start meeting new people and doing
stuff on her own, but I won't be treated as
her babysitter anymore. My son is my number one priority.
Thank you for your reassurance. I don't think this is over,
but I don't plan on updating again, as I'm very busy.
Speaker 2 (19:53):
And very tired. Cheers. Wellough p.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
You did as much as you could, which was give
an insight and that's it. Hopefully Trudy does something with it.
If not, it is not your responsibility, so here's switching
you the best ope. Thanks for sharing and take care
and now let's finish this video with a quick mood
booster post. This post is from the separatedit Malicious compliance
and it's by user my reddit saga. No more taking
(20:18):
advantage of flexible hours. Your day ends at four pm
from now on. This happened a long time ago, about
thirteen to fifteen years ago. I had just started a
job at a government agency where I was responsible for
a big fleet of cars. My duties included driving the
vehicles to various places like repair shops, tied companies, class
repair shops, and inspection centers. I also performed simple repairs myself,
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like replacing some light bulbs not all. In addition to
all of that, I hand washed and cleaned every car,
both inside and out, refilled the windshield wiper fluid, and
made sure all the required items were in each car.
Washing a car inside out, checking the fluid, and making
sure all the necessary equipment was present, took a minimum
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of forty five minutes and a maximum of about an hour.
About a month into the job, my boss decided I
was taking too much advantage of my flexible working hours
and told me that I had to stop working precisely
at four PM. So I decided to follow my boss's
rule to the letter. As the days went on, and
if it was after three point fifteen pm, I didn't
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think I had enough time to start washing and fixing
another car, so instead I did other small tasks like
sweeping the floor or restalking the supply room. After a
few weeks of this, my boss noticed that fewer cars
had been cleaned and fixed in total, so he called
me into a meeting to ask why. That's when I
brought up his policy that I had to leave at
exactly four pm and that I shouldn't be taking advantage
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of my flexible hours. The boss suddenly realized why I
had been taking advantage of the flexible hours before. I
was simply working smart. Some days I would go home
a little earlier after after a car was finished, and
other days I needed an extra five to twenty minutes
to complete a car. It wasn't a daily issue, but
it happened often enough that the boss's new policy created
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a problem. So after the boss had been thinking for
a moment, he said that we should go back to
the way I was working before. He apologized for his
poor policy and admitted that he was wrong.
Speaker 2 (22:21):
I ended up.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
Staying at that job for about two more years and
we got along well for the entire time. Well, OPI
I have to say this was very refreshing. Your boss
admitted he was wrong, apologized for the poor policy, and
that was it. That's awesome. Thanks for sharing, Op, And
that's it for today's video. Thank you so much for
taking the time to watch it.
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Hi everybody, and welcome back to Lost genre Reddit stories.
This post is from the subretata Mighty a Hole, and
it's by user hypocrite Family six six one two. Would
I be the a hole for telling my family they
can take my brother in if they think family should
help family? Not going into minutia. People hate it when
(00:24):
I talk too much. Can't be differently written. Me thirty
seven male, it's me husband thirty six male accountant, love
him to bits. Son thirteen male student, average kid who
doesn't like my brother. I'm trying to learn anime for him.
It's an uphill battle. Brother thirty two male. Not a
member of the household. I wanted to stay that way situation.
(00:47):
My brother got kicked out of my would be sister
in laws house.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Reason You don't talk crap about.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Your buddies about a scary lawyer and expect her to
never find out. The ask family wants me to take
him in since we have an extra bedroom we usually
use it for my parents when they visit. Plus our
house is big. The problem. You give brother anything, you
might as well say goodbye to it forever. Toys, clothes, money,
(01:15):
you name it. You're only seeing it again if you
sneak into his room and take it the fear the second.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
He steps in.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
The only way he leaves is if I chase him
out with a metal bat I found in the basement
when I moved in here. He doesn't have a job.
I don't want another kid to take care of. One
is quite enough, thank you very much. Also, every conversation
he has with my son becomes an intervention. We said, no,
he is not getting a foot in the bigger problem.
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Family says we should help my brother because he's family
and family should help family.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
We are saying no. Still they have not stopped question.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Would I be the acle for sending family messages of
you think family should help family.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
I think that's a great idea. You should do it.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
And only ever saying that when they try to bring
it up. No, Obi, of course you'd not be the ahole.
It's what you need to do. Actually, just call them
out if they're pushing this family helps family so much,
they can do it, and I don't think you being
the a hole if you only reply with that every
time they ask you for it.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
And at the end of the day, it is yours
and your husband's house and that is it.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
You guys have the final say as to who gets
to stay as a visitor and who doesn't. And from
what you've learned throughout your life with your brother, he
shouldn't be allowed to stay in your house or else. Well,
he might claim squatter rights at some point. Long story, Shuto, pep, Nope,
you would not be the ahole. That's exactly the right
thing to do. And what do you guys think? Let
me know in the comments section, And now let's check
(02:46):
out the community comments. Coy and feisty says, dudes burnt
his bridges and now he gotta face the music. Fan's
there for support. Stick to your guns. You got a
kid and a home to look after. If other family
is so held bent on helping, they can step the
f up. Bet they'll turn a one eighty real quick.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Don't let him.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Guilt Tripia, You clearly got your priorities straight. Interesting Old
two seven nine says, not the ahole. You have zero
obligation to mother people's bad decisions. He's a grown ass man,
and if he hasn't learned to overcome adversity at his age,
this is the perfect opportunity for a crash.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
Course. He cannot stay in your house.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
It would ruin whatever piece at home you have. The
definition of family to the people you've posted about is
codependent and unhealthy, and Opie responds, it's what I'm worried
about too. I can't live with someone who hates who
my son is. Protecting my piece from parasites comes first,
just worried I may set off a serious drama bomb accomplished.
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EMU five nine one says, you would not be the ahole.
You have every right to protect your immediate family from
your younger brother. Family obligations go both ways, and it's
pretty clear younger brother has no ever met an obligation
he couldn't ignore telling the rest of the family they
should do it is a great idea. Good luck and
keep the bad polished and obduspon goo'se abuse says taking
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someone into your home that has no way of ever
getting back on their feet is how you get a
permanent resident. Good luck evicting someone, even if you live
in the same house. It can be a multi year process,
depending on where you live and how swamped the court
systems are. I've met at least one person that has
served eviction papers from twenty to twenty that are still
(04:32):
waiting to be legally evicted to this day, simply because
they've figured out how to stole the eviction process several times.
I don't think that you're an AHO for saying no.
Maybe the response could make you one since it's a
bit snarky, But informing them that you cannot house them
and asking if anybody else could take him instead would
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be fine. Maybe ask them their reasons while you give
your reasoning and Dopy responds right kinda glad that I
found that metal band in the basement. My husband has
a better mind for communicating. I'll plan with him well.
The community agrees that op would not be the aple,
and they are suggesting that he strongly stay firm on
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his convictions. So now let's move on to the update
to see how this story ends. Preliminary address, Thank you
for your time and advice.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
Reddit.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
Your advice and care for my son has been so lovely.
Be Ye Genuine or be Ye spectators awaiting the next
chapter in an entertaining story, I appreciated it didn't tell
my husband and son this statement. Husband helped me write
this in a professional ish way and contacted Joe's nighthawk X,
who is a lawyer Nighthawk hasn't officially taken the case,
(05:44):
but we thought she would be able to help us
write a serious sounding letter by giving pointers and revising
to add gravitas. For the sake of readability, I will
give people fake names. I will write Smith for a
fake family surname, and Joe for my brother, just for readability.
So here's the message, people of the Smith family, for
(06:05):
anyone who hasn't heard it yet, Mister Joe Smith asked
us for a place to stay after a recent breakup
with Miss Nighthawk. Members of our household have talked it
over and we came to the conclusion that Joe Smith
would not make for a suitable tenant in our household.
We understand some people believe family should help family, and
(06:26):
we do not completely deny this statement. However, help does
not always mean to allowing people to move in for
an undefined amount of time. Given past history which everyone
reading this knows about, let's not pretend otherwise. The already
strained relationship between Joe and a certain household members this
was already tenuous. We also have a statement from Miss
(06:47):
Knighthawk that Joe never was employed while living with her
and their arrangement was financially parasitic in nature. Based on
the current state of mister Joe Smith's employment, we believe
this will be no different for us. Hosting mister Joe
Smith would not be healthy for anyone under our roof.
If anyone feels strongly that Joe needs a place to stay,
(07:10):
our door is not the one to knock on, but
yours absolutely could be. We fully support anyone in the
family opening their home to him and showing how family
support is done. We love you all, but we're not
sacrificing our home stability to prove our loyalty. That is
our final word on the matter. Much love, Opie and family.
(07:32):
The after effects the communications assault ceased after two days
of us turning it against them. No one has threatened
to burn bridges or exclude us from family events. They
tried to use the bad family card, but we just
played it back at them, accusing them of being bad family.
I underestimated how much people can just spam it the
(07:54):
secondary incident, we may have dodged a big bullet. I
really don't like going on too long, but I don't
know how to make this shorter without making it blander
than unseasoned, under buttered Rice. Before this, we talked to
the police and thanks to my hobby's connections, they knew
the situation. In the event Joe broke in and tried
(08:15):
to claim residency, we made it clear Joe is not
a resident in any capacity and we don't want him
in the house unless we invite him. We are now
on a weekend trip to my in laws place, who
are very much just the loving Aunties and Grandma's. They
are non drama people and respect boundaries. Yesterday I get
a call from my parents saying Joe got into trouble
(08:36):
with the police. Fortunately he was not arrested and he
was not harmed. Apparently, he showed up to our house
at night and he tried to get us to let
him in, but no one was around, but he tried harder.
Neighbors called the cops because they didn't know who it
was and thought we were being robbed. Cops showed up,
(08:58):
and I don't know everything, but my mom told me
that the cops told her that he tried to claim residency,
but that was false and they knew, and then Joe
told the cops he didn't have a home. The cops
told my parents that either they could pick up Joe
or they'd get a shelter and other services involved. Parents
ended up having to drive to pick him up late
(09:19):
at night, and now Joe is crashing on their couch.
Other news, Joe's ex Nighthawk, as I called her before
on my past post, bite me it works and my
husband are still friends and says she's never taking Joe
back to her nest. Joe might have lost a lover,
but Son didn't lose an aunt. Son is doing okay.
(09:41):
It's still an uphill battle to understand anime, but he
likes the effort I put in. He said he was
happy he didn't have to live with Joe. I didn't
tell him about the concern you all showed for him,
but I think that's fine, Probably safer this way conclusion.
Family now has to put their money where their mouth is.
Joe is, our asses are covered. We're fine and safe.
(10:03):
I'm sorry if this is too long. Try to make
it brief, but I couldn't well peeve. I like the
way you write, pretty factual to the point, no fluff,
so I'll keep it like that. Like you said, your
family's okay. John can figure it out for himself. So
here's witching you guys the best in the future. Ope,
thanks so much for sharing and to take care and
now let's move on to the next post that also
(10:24):
has an update. This post is from the subjected A
mighty ahole and it's my user construction Witty nine seven eight.
Am I the ahle for telling my father's girlfriend that
it's not my fault she doesn't have any friends. My
twenty six female father late fifties has been with Trudy
early forties for about six years, but she only moved
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in with him a little under a year ago. Before that,
she lived in a different city. Since they started dating,
Trudy has established herself as essentially a housewife. It was
her choice from what I gathered. My father was against it,
and she seems happy with it, but she's a little
extreme about it. She doesn't work, has no hobbies, and
refuses to go anywhere without my father and he often
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leaves on work trips for days at a time. When
he's in town. She joins him in whatever he's doing.
When he's not, her daily routine consists of going to
the gym and returning home to order takeout and watch TV.
Because of that Trudy has no friends in this city.
She never meets anyone, her whole family is a six
(11:27):
hour drive away, and only my father's friends come to
her birthday parties. Recently, both Trudy and my father started
pushing me and my sister to hang out with Trudy
or include her in whatever plans we make, because she's
been spending a lot of time home alone and has
been getting lonely. They've mostly given up on asking my sister,
(11:48):
but still try to convince me. I never do both
because I can't and because I don't like Trudy.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
I'm well aware.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
That's not her problem, and I'm always polite, but I
don't want to spend time with if I don't have to.
I also have a baby and a job, so whatever
free time I have tends to revolve around my son,
even when it doesn't. Truthy and I don't have the
same interests. Last Friday, Truthy was home alone and invited me,
(12:16):
my husband, and our baby over to watch a movie
with her. We thanked her, but said no because my
husband wanted to catch up on work and I didn't
want to take our son out on my own.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
Both true.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
On Saturday, we ended up inviting my best friend and
her husband for a small game night at our place.
Said friend later posted on Instagram story about it. My
father returned on Sunday morning, and we saw my family
at a small get together that day. Truthy was quiet,
which was out of character. Right before we left, she
and my father pulled me aside. We had an argument
(12:49):
because Trudy had seen what my friend had posted. She
said she was upset I hadn't thought of including her
or taking her up on her offer to hang out
when she was home alone. My father told me I'd
been inconsiderate, as she hasn't made any friends around here yet,
and I know how lonely she's been lately. I said,
it's not my fault she doesn't have any friends, and
(13:11):
I don't have to include her in my plans just
because she refuses to meet new people. Trudy got offended,
but my husband and I had to leave. Yesterday, my
father texted me saying that Trudy was still upset about
what I said, and he thinks I owe her an apology.
He thinks that I'm bullying his girlfriend by refusing to
hang out with her, and it was rude of me.
(13:32):
To imply that her lack of friends is her own fault.
That was not what I meant, and I don't like
being treated like Trudy's cure for loneliness. But I do
understand how what I said could be seen as rude.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
Am I the a whole?
Speaker 1 (13:47):
Will be in my opinion, how you present the story.
I don't think you're the a hole, but I can't
understand why Trudy would interpret it that way. And I
think your dad's statement when he said that it's rude
of you to imply that her lack of friends is
her own fault. Why is that rude? Whose fault is it?
It's definitely not yours, opie, and you shouldn't become her
(14:07):
de facto friend just because she's lonely. She's the one
that needs to do something about it, and your dad,
instead of trying to ponner off on you, should be
trying to help her. Anyways, what do you guys think?
Let me know in the comments section, and now let's
check out the community comments. Outrageous ad thirty six eleven says,
not the ahle. Why is Trudy looking at your friend's
(14:28):
Instagram story? It's not your job to entertain her or
invite her to anything. Trudy's a grown as woman who
needs to get a life instead of crying to her
boyfriend that his kids don't want to hang out with her.
And Opie responds, she started following some of my friends
during my birthday party a few months ago. Said friend
has been my best friend since Typer's and is a
(14:50):
little more active on social media, so Trudy checks her
pretty often. But her Scotch Little sixty five says.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
Not the a whole.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
She is not your friend, She is not your family.
She is a person who is dating your father. That
is all you owe her nothing, and Dopey responds, I
think my father has always wanted to be able to
dictate what family means for us. It's true I don't
consider Truty family, but I never felt I had to.
It's this weird relationship, not mine. And Select Negotiation eighty
(15:23):
seven says.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
Not the aple.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
Your father should stop setting up play dates for you
and his wife. Her lack of friends is not your problem,
since you are not the one married to her. This
is between your father and his wife to figure it out.
Stay firm on your boundaries and tell your father to
stop bullying you into being his wife's companion, and Dopey responds,
I always thought they were a weird couple. Truty is
(15:47):
still nostalgic for Y two K and would be a
Disney adult if she could afford to My father thinks
he's James Bond, but is closer to Fraser minus the
college degrees. He really wants us to be friends, though
I never told him I didn't like her, but I
did make it clear that the fact we have nothing
in common makes it unlikely. The community agrees that OPI
(16:09):
is not the ahole and that this is something between
Opie's father and his girlfriend. So now let's move on
to the update to see how this story ends. It's
been almost two weeks since I posted here. I wouldn't
say I've sorted everything out, but I'm satisfied with what
has happened. A few days after my post, I reached
out to all my friends who know Trudy and told
(16:29):
them to either block her own social media or just
remove her as a follower. I don't think she was
using them to stalk me or anything. She spends a
lot of time on her phone. It was actually very
unlikely she would see the story my friend posted that day,
but I figured it would be best to prevent this
from happening again. I also removed her from my followers.
(16:51):
My account has always been private anyway. I decided I
wanted to have a one on one conversation with my
father so that we could talk things through, so we
agreed to have lunch together on Saturday. We settled on
a restaurant near my place and agreed it would just
be the two of us. The day of, he called
me and told me Trudy was insisting on coming along
(17:11):
to keep us company. I told him no, I wanted
to talk to him on my own. We had a
small fight because he didn't want to leave Truty alone,
so I told him it was best we reschedule it.
My husband and I had lunch together and took our
baby to the park instead. That night, I told my
husband what had happened, and he said, I love that
(17:31):
you're still trying to be nice to them, but I
don't think it's working. Between that your comments and the
fact that I'm exhausted, I decided to give up. I
can't force my father and Trudy to listen, but I
can at least put my foot down. I called my
father the next day, while Truty was at the gym.
I told him, in no uncertain terms, that I do
(17:52):
not like Trudy and will never accept an offer to
spend time with her when he's not around, even more
so now that I have. As expected, my father started
trying to guilt me right away. First, he went on
a spiel about Trudy's life story and how caring and
devout she is to everyone around her. He told me
(18:13):
about how much she loves me and wishes we could
spend more time with her. This wasn't the first time
I heard all of that, but it was the first
time I told him I didn't care. I'm glad she
loves me, but I have no obligation to love her
in return. I could spend hours listing all the reasons
I don't like her, but I don't think she has
to care about that. We're not friends and we're not family.
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That argument actually went on for a while, but eventually
the subject shifted to Truty's lack of friends. I reminded
him that they live in one of the most popular
streets in our city, and there are dozens of things
she could do to meet new people. My father said
he knew that, but Trudy didn't want to try any
of them. I told him that in that case, there
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was nothing else I could do. Either start putting herself
out there or continue her lonely routine. Either way, I
won't be part of it. My father said he wouldn't
try to push me to hang out with Trudy anymore,
but he can't guarantee she'll do the same. I can
live with that, and I reassured him I'll never stop
(19:18):
being polite to Trudy, but I won't start liking her
just because they want me to. He said he could
live with that. My husband and I have come up
with multiple theories about why Truthy is so fixated on
having her life revolve around my father's. We call her
a terminator housewife for a reason, but I've always thought
it was very unhealthy for both of them. I hope
(19:38):
she does decide to start meeting new people and doing
stuff on her own, but I won't be treated as
her babysitter anymore. My son is my number one priority.
Thank you for your reassurance. I don't think this is over,
but I don't plan on updating again, as I'm very busy.
Speaker 2 (19:53):
And very tired. Cheers. Wellough p.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
You did as much as you could, which was give
an insight and that's it. Hopefully Trudy does something with it.
If not, it is not your responsibility, so here's switching
you the best ope. Thanks for sharing and take care
and now let's finish this video with a quick mood
booster post. This post is from the separatedit Malicious compliance
and it's by user my reddit saga. No more taking
(20:18):
advantage of flexible hours. Your day ends at four pm
from now on. This happened a long time ago, about
thirteen to fifteen years ago. I had just started a
job at a government agency where I was responsible for
a big fleet of cars. My duties included driving the
vehicles to various places like repair shops, tied companies, class
repair shops, and inspection centers. I also performed simple repairs myself,
(20:42):
like replacing some light bulbs not all. In addition to
all of that, I hand washed and cleaned every car,
both inside and out, refilled the windshield wiper fluid, and
made sure all the required items were in each car.
Washing a car inside out, checking the fluid, and making
sure all the necessary equipment was present, took a minimum
(21:03):
of forty five minutes and a maximum of about an hour.
About a month into the job, my boss decided I
was taking too much advantage of my flexible working hours
and told me that I had to stop working precisely
at four PM. So I decided to follow my boss's
rule to the letter. As the days went on, and
if it was after three point fifteen pm, I didn't
(21:25):
think I had enough time to start washing and fixing
another car, so instead I did other small tasks like
sweeping the floor or restalking the supply room. After a
few weeks of this, my boss noticed that fewer cars
had been cleaned and fixed in total, so he called
me into a meeting to ask why. That's when I
brought up his policy that I had to leave at
exactly four pm and that I shouldn't be taking advantage
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of my flexible hours. The boss suddenly realized why I
had been taking advantage of the flexible hours before. I
was simply working smart. Some days I would go home
a little earlier after after a car was finished, and
other days I needed an extra five to twenty minutes
to complete a car. It wasn't a daily issue, but
it happened often enough that the boss's new policy created
(22:10):
a problem. So after the boss had been thinking for
a moment, he said that we should go back to
the way I was working before. He apologized for his
poor policy and admitted that he was wrong.
Speaker 2 (22:21):
I ended up.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
Staying at that job for about two more years and
we got along well for the entire time. Well, OPI
I have to say this was very refreshing. Your boss
admitted he was wrong, apologized for the poor policy, and
that was it. That's awesome. Thanks for sharing, Op, And
that's it for today's video. Thank you so much for
taking the time to watch it.
Speaker 2 (22:43):
Now. If you've gotten to this point in.
Speaker 1 (22:45):
The video, I assume that you like these stories that
I'm reading out, so here are a couple more that
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