September 26, 2025 • 21 mins
Relationship Stories - OP let her sister move in after she agreed to help with childcare. Two years later, the sister refuses to help at all, leading OP to question the arrangement—and ultimately decide to kick her out.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi everybody, and welcome back to Lost Genre Reddit stories.
This post is from the subredded amity Ahle and it's
by user glad Prize fifty three forty am I the
a hole if I asked my sister to leave my
house since she refuses to watch my kids. A little
background story. I twenty seven female, married my husband thirty
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two male, have two kids eleven female and two male.
Two years ago, I asked my sister, who was twenty
at the time and she will turn twenty two in
a month, to come live with us and help out
with the kids as I needed. She was in an
abusive relationship, she needed a place to stay. At first,
it was for her to get back on her feet
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since she's getting out of the situation. The initial thing
was that we will pay her two hundred dollars a
week to watch our four month old at the time
Monday through Friday six thirty am till two pm, and
she could use my car anytime she needed to, and
if she wanted an afternoon job, that was totally fine.
She happily accepted. A month had passed and she told
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me she's getting depressed being inside every day. She can't
do this anymore. I told her that's okay. Her mental
health is very important, but she should be able to
watch the kids when we need her to, like date night,
et cetera. So we found someone else to watch our
kids during the days. Fast forward two years later. She
works full time, doesn't pay any bills, doesn't help around
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the house, not even washing the dishes or take out
the trash, or cook dinner or even buy groceries or
things the house needs. Like no help at all. Last week,
my husband and I went out for a bit, mind you.
We asked her the weekend before if she could watch
the kids, and she said yes. Within an hour of
us being out, my husband and I received this message
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from her. I just want to say this to get
this off my chest. This isn't an attack, and this
isn't me being a rateful I just want you guys
to try to consider my point of view, and my
point of view is that I don't appreciate being used
as a service whenever it's convenient for y'all. I understand
this is all I'm good for, but there are some
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days where I don't want to come home after a
nine hour shift and watch a baby. I didn't decide
to have children, you guys did, and the only person
who ever appreciates me for it and only thanks me
for it it is my husband. So it has been
building up inside me and causing resentment that my own
sister will refuse to recognize my accomplishments because it's what
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I'm supposed to do. I appreciate staying here rent free,
and I've appreciated the opportunity being given to me, but
I don't feel like I should dedicate my life to
you guys. It's like now I'm being asked to watch
the kids, like it's already a given that it's not
something I can ever say no to, because when I
do say no, I'm treated like Voldemore. It feels like
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an obligation when it should feel like a choice. I
felt like the time frame should have been more discussed
because I was under the impression I was watching him
until six thirty, not nine thirty. Thank you for taking
the time to read this again. I'm not attacking. I
just want to ask for more clarity.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
At this point. That is all.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
She's good for watching the kids for us for a
few hours once or twice a week, and the accomplishment
she's referring to is getting her high school diploma at
the age of twenty one because she dropped out of
school a few months before graduating. She still uses my
car when needed to go to her boyfriend's house or work.
At this point, I am fed up and just can't
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take it anymore. My husband tells me she is my
sister and I need to handle it, and he is
tired of taking care of a grown adult. So would
I be the ecle if I ask it to leave
my house since she refuses to watch the kids when needed.
I know that is long, but feel free to ask
any questions. Well, if I gotta say no, I don't
think you're the a hole. She's been living with you guys,
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rent free. She has a job, but she contributes to nothing.
The least she could do is be a part of
the household. She calls your house her home, but she
contributes nothing. Though, if she doesn't want to watch the kids,
that's fine, but she should at least be giving you
guys some money for utilities, or paying you guys rent,
or buying groceries or something. She calls it a home,
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she should contribute. If not, she can gos taste somewhere else.
She has a full time job, can't she pay for
her own place? And also that whole spiel about this
is all I'm good for. Honestly, this is a personal
thing for me. Whenever somebody starts with the victimy self
deprecating kind of crap, I honestly lose respect for that person.
Self deprecation is funny when it's in jokes, but it's
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not something that's admirable at all. But that's just me
being a grumpy cineke A hole. Anyways, what do you
guys think? Let me know in the comment section, and
now let's check out the community comments. Coyfish The fishy says,
not the Ahle quote. It sounds like this arrangement is
no longer working for everyone involved, and it's time for
you to find other housing.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
End quote. Living rent free for two.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Years while she works full time means she should have
some savings. If she doesn't, that's on her. Give her
a written notice to vacate with the number of days
required by state and or local law since she is
considered a tenant.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Talk to me. Seven oh one says, not the a hole.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
She says it's a given she'll watch the kids, even
though you hired the nanny so she wouldn't have to
watch the kids. She has enjoyed your largest for long enough.
Just don't frame it as a punishment. Tell her you're
glad you were there for her when she needed it,
and after thinking about her text, you can't have her
feeling used.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
You'd like to give.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
Her two months to find her own place, unless she'd
like to leave it immediately. Put it in writing, and
don't back down. Don't go back and forth over what
was agreed and whether or not you're angry. She doesn't
deserve your energy. She's an ungrateful ass who has started
to not just take it for granted, but is trying
to drive a wedge between you and your husband. Only
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he thanks me. No, this will not do ope. She
is a drain on your resources, both emotional and financial.
Let her go somewhere she'll get the appreciation she thinks
she deserves. Xx Mimis X two says not the Ahle.
The deal was her helping with childcare. She changed the terms.
She did not contribute at all in these years, and
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you asked her a week beforehand if she was able
to babysit. I would tell her that she can either
now start paying rent and bills and groceries and do
household tasks which she didn't do all those years, or
she can go and find other living arrangements, as this
is not working anymore. She can't expect all the benefits
without giving anything back, and Limp Paint seventy two forty
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four says text her back.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
The deal was you would watch the.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
Kids from six thirty to two five days a week
in return for room and and two hundred dollars a week.
You stopped watching them all day, which we respected because
it was a lot of work. So instead of seven
and a half hours of child watching time, we accepted
you to do occasional sitting for us instead. Since you
no longer like that arrangement, that is just fine. A
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room in our area goes for eight hundred a month
or whatever, but start there, because that's what it probably is.
We expect you to pay eight hundred a month. Now,
pay for your own groceries, pay for have the electric
and water payments, and of course, since you don't want
to be ungrateful, you will of course begin doing all
the chores since you have done none of them for
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the past two years you have lived here rent free.
We will expect you to do the dishes, doest vacuum, mop,
clean the bathrooms, everything except our laundry. Of course, we
will now have a roommate situation. Since you cannot bother
to do the bare minimum, you can pay for that
stuff instead, or you can move out. Well, the community
agrees that will be is not the ahle and that
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the system it can either start paying her own way
or move out.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
So now let's move on to.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
The update to see how this story ends. Thank you
everyone for your inputs that definitely helped me make the
right decision for my family. Like many of you suggested,
I did sit her down, and I did apologize for
not showing any appreciations and the fact that she felt used.
And I also pointed out that her watching the kids
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once or twice a week, it was never last minute,
is her only way of contributing to the house. And
of course, like many of you predicted, she started yelling
that I'm attacking her and that I only took her
out of the situation she was in to benefit me
and not her. I did confirm that the previous agreement
was something I thought would benefit both of us, not
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just me. I told her this new living arrangement is
not working for anyone at this point, and since she
doesn't want to watch the kids, she has sixty days
to find better living arrangements. She stated she never said
she didn't want to watch the kids, and I cut her,
stating that as her older sister, I don't want to
ruin our relationship. I then told her it's best for
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her to find another place to live because her feeling
appreciated or not being used, her mental health is very
important and it does matter. I even apologized for treating
her as my own child, like taking care of her,
taking her to all our family vacations for free. I
really thought I was helping her, but I now realize
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I was hurting her, and now she has a great
opportunity to grow and live the life she wants to.
She started crying and said that it wasn't her intention
for things to get way out of hand, and I
told her we can't go back. Everyone needs to move on.
By the way, we live in San Diego, California. Minimum
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rent for one bedroom is two thousand dollars. I wish
her the best of luck. Thanks again, everyone, All right
O peep, good desision. First step is taken. Now the
name next thing I would do is I would start
sharing links to listings that she should look at for
when she moves out, saying her you again wish her
all the best. Well at the same time, maybe consult
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with a lawyer or a friend who might know about this,
about how to evictor if she wouldn't want to leave. Still,
the right decision has been taken, so here's wishing you
and your family the best. Ope, Thanks so much for
sharing and to take care. And now let's move on
to the next post that also has an update. This
post is from the subreddit am I the a whole?
Would I be the aphle public?
Speaker 2 (10:30):
And it's by.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
User appropriate see eighteen seventy seven. Not sure if I
should tell my husband that his child isn't biologically his child. Hey, Reddit,
I thirty four female, found myself in a pickle. My husband,
thirty three male, has a child. They are ten years old. Recently,
we were talking about blood types and my husband let
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me know his child's blood type. My heart stopped because
I know my husband's blood type, and I know there
is no post possible way, no matter the mom's blood
type that my husband could be the biological father. At first,
I wasn't going to say anything because even though the
bio mom is crazy, he loves his child. We both do.
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The child is ten. What difference does it even make.
On the other hand, I'm not sure if that's something
he has a right to know. I really am at
a loss, so I turned to you, guys.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
Should I tell him? Thank you?
Speaker 1 (11:26):
Sorry, if formatting is weird, I don't really post on here,
and if anyone has any questions, please let me know.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
Will it be?
Speaker 1 (11:34):
In my opinion, he does have the right to know.
Regardless of the outcome. He does have the right to know. Now, personally,
considering you told us how much he loves the child,
I don't think he's gonna disown the kid or kick
him out or anything like that. He might be more
angry with the crazy eggs for lying, cheating and all
that crap, but not with the kid. But regardless of
all that speculation, he does have the right to know,
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and you should tell him because if he finds out
that you knew and didn't say anything, then he will
feel betrayed by you. So you need to tell him.
And what do you, guys, think let me know in
the comment section, and now let's move on to the
community comments. Preg Bob says it happens often that someone
is mistaken or learned the wrong blood type. I thought
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mine was B minus for years and it's actually B plus,
just saying that's a possibility, so they should double check
with a test before jumping to conclusions. Chap twenty one
oh five says, before you tell him, unless you're a geneticists,
ask one to make damn sure he can't be biologically related.
Or hey, maybe your husband just thinks he knows the
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kid's blood type. What if he's wrong and I don't
think you're understanding the complexities of blood typing. For instance,
a B mother and a BEE father can actually have
an old child because of the alliols plus what is
mom's blood type? Fish Whisper twenty two says if YI
rare but possible rare exceptions sis a B blood type
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in extreme rare circumstances, a genetic anomaly called sis AB
can occur. In this case, the individual carries both A
and B allioles on the same chromosome, and in very
specific situations could appear to have an AB blood type,
even if one parent is OH. But this is a
highly exceptional scenario. Bomb By phenotype. Another rare blood type,
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known as the bomb By phenotype, can prevent the detection
of A or B antigens. In this situation, a person
might have an O blood type through standard testing, but
still carry the genes to pass on A or B antigens,
leading to an unexpected blood type in the child, testing
error or other biological factors. In some cases, an unexpected
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blood type result could be due to a testing error,
a non biological mother, or other rare biological variations and
odd yogurt Closet three P one three says I want
to give blood. One day, they told me my blood
type was OH negative. I was excited that I was
a universal donor and had several conversations about it. Years later,
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I'm in the hospital for blood lass and need a transfusion.
They ask me my type. They give it to them.
They say, okay, we'll test just in case. They came
back and said I had my blood type wrong. I'm
B plus. They said that's exactly why they test, because
it's very common to have it wrong.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
I'm not sure why. OH piece Edit.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
I did change the ages a little bit, so if
my husband came across this, it wasn't obvious. Also, he
is OH positive and the child is AB negative. You
guys really gave me a lot to think about. I
will send an update once I've decided and what the
outcome was. Thank you for all your kind thoughts. All right, well,
the majority of the community is warning OpEd to get
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the blood types right and that these kind of things
could happen even though very rare. Some people are telling
her also that the husband does have the right to know.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
So let's move on to the up to see how
this story ends.
Speaker 1 (15:03):
I want to thank everyone who sent kind words and
really helpful advice. I got a few private messages from
people also, and the point of views from people who
have been through something similar was so helpful, so thank
you for sharing your stories.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
Now to the update.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Ultimately, I ended up getting into a conversation with my husband.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
I knew if he found out in.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
The future he would feel betrayed and have every right
to I let him know as gently as I could
that the blood type combination between him and his child
is not impossible but so incredibly rare, and how common
mistyping blood can be. I shared some stories I read
on here. It might be good just to get it rechecked.
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If he wanted whatever he wants to do from here,
I support him one hundred percent. Some of you suspected
he knew you were right. Without getting into too much detail,
the relationship and marriage he had with his child's mom
was absent, resolutely awful. She sort of lied that they
had slept together after he had been drinking one night,
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even though he said he wasn't that drunk and remembers
everything anyway, Two weeks later, she said she was pregnant.
They were well separated at this point, and he had
filed for divorce shortly before this happened. Anyway, he wasn't
involved in the pregnancy and had every intention of not
being involved in anything. Further, he said, when the baby
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was born, he just saw this beautiful little thing that
was completely dependent. So he was terrified on what they
would become if he went through with this plan that
leads us to where we are now. He apologized for
not telling me sooner. He sort of assumed I would
have already known with the history of M and his
ex's relationship. I honestly had no clue Looking back He
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made comments here and there that now makes sense, but
at the time I didn't read too much into it.
He actually apologized for the predicament I was in the
last week and a half, and he appreciated how tactful
I was trying to relay the information. I wish you
would have said something to me sooner, mainly to have
avoided a situation like this. However, I am beyond relieved.
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I feel like I can breathe again and a weight
has been lifted. I don't know what will happen from here,
or what will happen if the child ever finds out.
I guess that will be a conversation for another time.
Thank you well, P I gotta say your husband is
a good man. He saw the baby and just couldn't
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leave it, regardless if it was his or not. He
knew he had to do something for that baby, and
he stepped up. Not many people do in their right,
of course, but your husband did. I'm sure that when
the child is grown and finds out the truth, they
might be sad for a few minutes or maybe a
few days, but eventually they'll realize their father loves them.
In any case, here's switching you three the best in
the future of pee. Thanks so much for sharing and
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to take care. And now let's finish this video with
a mood booster post. This post is from the subreddit
malicious Compliance, and it's by user pro Friendzoner. Supervisor told
me sarcastically to call the fire department. I did worked
in retail in between jobs, way back when, early nineties. Yeah,
I'm old, get off my lawn. It was December, major
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department store that is no longer around. I know that
doesn't narrow it down.
Speaker 2 (18:23):
Sorry.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
Anyways, they tried to cram as much product on the
floor as possible, to the point that you couldn't walk
through the aisles and had to twist and turn to
get past the fixtures set up with product. I casually
mentioned to a supervisor that if the fire department ever
came in, they would close us down for the hazards
and lack of aggress. She was highly stressed and blurted
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out to me, you know what, then call the fire department.
I held my hands up and said easy. She assigned
me my duties and that was that.
Speaker 2 (18:55):
Well.
Speaker 1 (18:56):
She did tell me to call. On the way home,
I stopped by a government building that had all sorts
of agencies in it. Told the receptionist my plight, and
she pointed to a phone on the wall. Tell the
operator I want the fire department and they would patch
me through to the station's non emergency line. The fire
chief himself answered, I told him how crowded it was
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and what the supervisors said. He had a good laugh
and said they'd check it out. I was off the
next day but heard about it when I got back.
Fire chief and a station house full of firefires show
up to do an inspection. He tells the store manager
that a gress is being blocked and he'd have to
remove a lot of the fixtures in the aisles. Store
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manager says he has orders from corporate fixtures.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
Stay.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
Fire chiefs assures him he will win the argument. Store
manager stands his ground. Fire chief says, all right, boys,
close them down. They evacuated the store all three levels
and closed all entrances in December, prime Christmas shopping season.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
Although it wasn't a.
Speaker 1 (20:01):
Weekend day, it was during the week, but still store
manager tried to protest and suddenly the Sheriff's department starts
showing up. Long story short, they were closed for five
and a half hours while the chief, store managers and
employees rearranged the store to acceptable levels. The supervisor never
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treated me differently, so I'm guessing she didn't remember the conversation.
Store manager surprisingly did not get fired by corporate, but
corporate was not happy. About a week later, I'm working
with the store manager and supervisor. When she asks why
we can't do something a certain way, the store manager replied,
the fire department won't allow that, and that was it.
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I worked there for a few more weeks before getting
a job that almost got me killed in a workplace shooting,
but that's a story for later. Well, OPI, she did
tell you to call the department and you were just
following orders. Thanks for sharing, Op, And that's it for
today's video. Thank you so much for taking the time
to watch it.
Speaker 2 (21:03):
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Hi everybody, and welcome back to Lost Genre Reddit stories.
This post is from the subredded amity Ahle and it's
by user glad Prize fifty three forty am I the
a hole if I asked my sister to leave my
house since she refuses to watch my kids. A little
background story. I twenty seven female, married my husband thirty
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two male, have two kids eleven female and two male.
Two years ago, I asked my sister, who was twenty
at the time and she will turn twenty two in
a month, to come live with us and help out
with the kids as I needed. She was in an
abusive relationship, she needed a place to stay. At first,
it was for her to get back on her feet
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since she's getting out of the situation. The initial thing
was that we will pay her two hundred dollars a
week to watch our four month old at the time
Monday through Friday six thirty am till two pm, and
she could use my car anytime she needed to, and
if she wanted an afternoon job, that was totally fine.
She happily accepted. A month had passed and she told
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me she's getting depressed being inside every day. She can't
do this anymore. I told her that's okay. Her mental
health is very important, but she should be able to
watch the kids when we need her to, like date night,
et cetera. So we found someone else to watch our
kids during the days. Fast forward two years later. She
works full time, doesn't pay any bills, doesn't help around
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the house, not even washing the dishes or take out
the trash, or cook dinner or even buy groceries or
things the house needs. Like no help at all. Last week,
my husband and I went out for a bit, mind you.
We asked her the weekend before if she could watch
the kids, and she said yes. Within an hour of
us being out, my husband and I received this message
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from her. I just want to say this to get
this off my chest. This isn't an attack, and this
isn't me being a rateful I just want you guys
to try to consider my point of view, and my
point of view is that I don't appreciate being used
as a service whenever it's convenient for y'all. I understand
this is all I'm good for, but there are some
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days where I don't want to come home after a
nine hour shift and watch a baby. I didn't decide
to have children, you guys did, and the only person
who ever appreciates me for it and only thanks me
for it it is my husband. So it has been
building up inside me and causing resentment that my own
sister will refuse to recognize my accomplishments because it's what
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I'm supposed to do. I appreciate staying here rent free,
and I've appreciated the opportunity being given to me, but
I don't feel like I should dedicate my life to
you guys. It's like now I'm being asked to watch
the kids, like it's already a given that it's not
something I can ever say no to, because when I
do say no, I'm treated like Voldemore. It feels like
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an obligation when it should feel like a choice. I
felt like the time frame should have been more discussed
because I was under the impression I was watching him
until six thirty, not nine thirty. Thank you for taking
the time to read this again. I'm not attacking. I
just want to ask for more clarity.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
At this point. That is all.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
She's good for watching the kids for us for a
few hours once or twice a week, and the accomplishment
she's referring to is getting her high school diploma at
the age of twenty one because she dropped out of
school a few months before graduating. She still uses my
car when needed to go to her boyfriend's house or work.
At this point, I am fed up and just can't
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take it anymore. My husband tells me she is my
sister and I need to handle it, and he is
tired of taking care of a grown adult. So would
I be the ecle if I ask it to leave
my house since she refuses to watch the kids when needed.
I know that is long, but feel free to ask
any questions. Well, if I gotta say no, I don't
think you're the a hole. She's been living with you guys,
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rent free. She has a job, but she contributes to nothing.
The least she could do is be a part of
the household. She calls your house her home, but she
contributes nothing. Though, if she doesn't want to watch the kids,
that's fine, but she should at least be giving you
guys some money for utilities, or paying you guys rent,
or buying groceries or something. She calls it a home,
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she should contribute. If not, she can gos taste somewhere else.
She has a full time job, can't she pay for
her own place? And also that whole spiel about this
is all I'm good for. Honestly, this is a personal
thing for me. Whenever somebody starts with the victimy self
deprecating kind of crap, I honestly lose respect for that person.
Self deprecation is funny when it's in jokes, but it's
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not something that's admirable at all. But that's just me
being a grumpy cineke A hole. Anyways, what do you
guys think? Let me know in the comment section, and
now let's check out the community comments. Coyfish The fishy says,
not the Ahle quote. It sounds like this arrangement is
no longer working for everyone involved, and it's time for
you to find other housing.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
End quote. Living rent free for two.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Years while she works full time means she should have
some savings. If she doesn't, that's on her. Give her
a written notice to vacate with the number of days
required by state and or local law since she is
considered a tenant.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Talk to me. Seven oh one says, not the a hole.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
She says it's a given she'll watch the kids, even
though you hired the nanny so she wouldn't have to
watch the kids. She has enjoyed your largest for long enough.
Just don't frame it as a punishment. Tell her you're
glad you were there for her when she needed it,
and after thinking about her text, you can't have her
feeling used.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
You'd like to give.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
Her two months to find her own place, unless she'd
like to leave it immediately. Put it in writing, and
don't back down. Don't go back and forth over what
was agreed and whether or not you're angry. She doesn't
deserve your energy. She's an ungrateful ass who has started
to not just take it for granted, but is trying
to drive a wedge between you and your husband. Only
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he thanks me. No, this will not do ope. She
is a drain on your resources, both emotional and financial.
Let her go somewhere she'll get the appreciation she thinks
she deserves. Xx Mimis X two says not the Ahle.
The deal was her helping with childcare. She changed the terms.
She did not contribute at all in these years, and
(06:29):
you asked her a week beforehand if she was able
to babysit. I would tell her that she can either
now start paying rent and bills and groceries and do
household tasks which she didn't do all those years, or
she can go and find other living arrangements, as this
is not working anymore. She can't expect all the benefits
without giving anything back, and Limp Paint seventy two forty
(06:52):
four says text her back.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
The deal was you would watch the.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
Kids from six thirty to two five days a week
in return for room and and two hundred dollars a week.
You stopped watching them all day, which we respected because
it was a lot of work. So instead of seven
and a half hours of child watching time, we accepted
you to do occasional sitting for us instead. Since you
no longer like that arrangement, that is just fine. A
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room in our area goes for eight hundred a month
or whatever, but start there, because that's what it probably is.
We expect you to pay eight hundred a month. Now,
pay for your own groceries, pay for have the electric
and water payments, and of course, since you don't want
to be ungrateful, you will of course begin doing all
the chores since you have done none of them for
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the past two years you have lived here rent free.
We will expect you to do the dishes, doest vacuum, mop,
clean the bathrooms, everything except our laundry. Of course, we
will now have a roommate situation. Since you cannot bother
to do the bare minimum, you can pay for that
stuff instead, or you can move out. Well, the community
agrees that will be is not the ahle and that
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the system it can either start paying her own way
or move out.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
So now let's move on to.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
The update to see how this story ends. Thank you
everyone for your inputs that definitely helped me make the
right decision for my family. Like many of you suggested,
I did sit her down, and I did apologize for
not showing any appreciations and the fact that she felt used.
And I also pointed out that her watching the kids
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once or twice a week, it was never last minute,
is her only way of contributing to the house. And
of course, like many of you predicted, she started yelling
that I'm attacking her and that I only took her
out of the situation she was in to benefit me
and not her. I did confirm that the previous agreement
was something I thought would benefit both of us, not
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just me. I told her this new living arrangement is
not working for anyone at this point, and since she
doesn't want to watch the kids, she has sixty days
to find better living arrangements. She stated she never said
she didn't want to watch the kids, and I cut her,
stating that as her older sister, I don't want to
ruin our relationship. I then told her it's best for
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her to find another place to live because her feeling
appreciated or not being used, her mental health is very
important and it does matter. I even apologized for treating
her as my own child, like taking care of her,
taking her to all our family vacations for free. I
really thought I was helping her, but I now realize
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I was hurting her, and now she has a great
opportunity to grow and live the life she wants to.
She started crying and said that it wasn't her intention
for things to get way out of hand, and I
told her we can't go back. Everyone needs to move on.
By the way, we live in San Diego, California. Minimum
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rent for one bedroom is two thousand dollars. I wish
her the best of luck. Thanks again, everyone, All right
O peep, good desision. First step is taken. Now the
name next thing I would do is I would start
sharing links to listings that she should look at for
when she moves out, saying her you again wish her
all the best. Well at the same time, maybe consult
(10:09):
with a lawyer or a friend who might know about this,
about how to evictor if she wouldn't want to leave. Still,
the right decision has been taken, so here's wishing you
and your family the best. Ope, Thanks so much for
sharing and to take care. And now let's move on
to the next post that also has an update. This
post is from the subreddit am I the a whole?
Would I be the aphle public?
Speaker 2 (10:30):
And it's by.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
User appropriate see eighteen seventy seven. Not sure if I
should tell my husband that his child isn't biologically his child. Hey, Reddit,
I thirty four female, found myself in a pickle. My husband,
thirty three male, has a child. They are ten years old. Recently,
we were talking about blood types and my husband let
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me know his child's blood type. My heart stopped because
I know my husband's blood type, and I know there
is no post possible way, no matter the mom's blood
type that my husband could be the biological father. At first,
I wasn't going to say anything because even though the
bio mom is crazy, he loves his child. We both do.
(11:14):
The child is ten. What difference does it even make.
On the other hand, I'm not sure if that's something
he has a right to know. I really am at
a loss, so I turned to you, guys.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
Should I tell him? Thank you?
Speaker 1 (11:26):
Sorry, if formatting is weird, I don't really post on here,
and if anyone has any questions, please let me know.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
Will it be?
Speaker 1 (11:34):
In my opinion, he does have the right to know.
Regardless of the outcome. He does have the right to know. Now, personally,
considering you told us how much he loves the child,
I don't think he's gonna disown the kid or kick
him out or anything like that. He might be more
angry with the crazy eggs for lying, cheating and all
that crap, but not with the kid. But regardless of
all that speculation, he does have the right to know,
(11:57):
and you should tell him because if he finds out
that you knew and didn't say anything, then he will
feel betrayed by you. So you need to tell him.
And what do you, guys, think let me know in
the comment section, and now let's move on to the
community comments. Preg Bob says it happens often that someone
is mistaken or learned the wrong blood type. I thought
(12:17):
mine was B minus for years and it's actually B plus,
just saying that's a possibility, so they should double check
with a test before jumping to conclusions. Chap twenty one
oh five says, before you tell him, unless you're a geneticists,
ask one to make damn sure he can't be biologically related.
Or hey, maybe your husband just thinks he knows the
(12:40):
kid's blood type. What if he's wrong and I don't
think you're understanding the complexities of blood typing. For instance,
a B mother and a BEE father can actually have
an old child because of the alliols plus what is
mom's blood type? Fish Whisper twenty two says if YI
rare but possible rare exceptions sis a B blood type
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in extreme rare circumstances, a genetic anomaly called sis AB
can occur. In this case, the individual carries both A
and B allioles on the same chromosome, and in very
specific situations could appear to have an AB blood type,
even if one parent is OH. But this is a
highly exceptional scenario. Bomb By phenotype. Another rare blood type,
(13:26):
known as the bomb By phenotype, can prevent the detection
of A or B antigens. In this situation, a person
might have an O blood type through standard testing, but
still carry the genes to pass on A or B antigens,
leading to an unexpected blood type in the child, testing
error or other biological factors. In some cases, an unexpected
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blood type result could be due to a testing error,
a non biological mother, or other rare biological variations and
odd yogurt Closet three P one three says I want
to give blood. One day, they told me my blood
type was OH negative. I was excited that I was
a universal donor and had several conversations about it. Years later,
(14:08):
I'm in the hospital for blood lass and need a transfusion.
They ask me my type. They give it to them.
They say, okay, we'll test just in case. They came
back and said I had my blood type wrong. I'm
B plus. They said that's exactly why they test, because
it's very common to have it wrong.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
I'm not sure why. OH piece Edit.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
I did change the ages a little bit, so if
my husband came across this, it wasn't obvious. Also, he
is OH positive and the child is AB negative. You
guys really gave me a lot to think about. I
will send an update once I've decided and what the
outcome was. Thank you for all your kind thoughts. All right, well,
the majority of the community is warning OpEd to get
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the blood types right and that these kind of things
could happen even though very rare. Some people are telling
her also that the husband does have the right to know.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
So let's move on to the up to see how
this story ends.
Speaker 1 (15:03):
I want to thank everyone who sent kind words and
really helpful advice. I got a few private messages from
people also, and the point of views from people who
have been through something similar was so helpful, so thank
you for sharing your stories.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
Now to the update.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Ultimately, I ended up getting into a conversation with my husband.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
I knew if he found out in.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
The future he would feel betrayed and have every right
to I let him know as gently as I could
that the blood type combination between him and his child
is not impossible but so incredibly rare, and how common
mistyping blood can be. I shared some stories I read
on here. It might be good just to get it rechecked.
(15:45):
If he wanted whatever he wants to do from here,
I support him one hundred percent. Some of you suspected
he knew you were right. Without getting into too much detail,
the relationship and marriage he had with his child's mom
was absent, resolutely awful. She sort of lied that they
had slept together after he had been drinking one night,
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even though he said he wasn't that drunk and remembers
everything anyway, Two weeks later, she said she was pregnant.
They were well separated at this point, and he had
filed for divorce shortly before this happened. Anyway, he wasn't
involved in the pregnancy and had every intention of not
being involved in anything. Further, he said, when the baby
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was born, he just saw this beautiful little thing that
was completely dependent. So he was terrified on what they
would become if he went through with this plan that
leads us to where we are now. He apologized for
not telling me sooner. He sort of assumed I would
have already known with the history of M and his
ex's relationship. I honestly had no clue Looking back He
(16:50):
made comments here and there that now makes sense, but
at the time I didn't read too much into it.
He actually apologized for the predicament I was in the
last week and a half, and he appreciated how tactful
I was trying to relay the information. I wish you
would have said something to me sooner, mainly to have
avoided a situation like this. However, I am beyond relieved.
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I feel like I can breathe again and a weight
has been lifted. I don't know what will happen from here,
or what will happen if the child ever finds out.
I guess that will be a conversation for another time.
Thank you well, P I gotta say your husband is
a good man. He saw the baby and just couldn't
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leave it, regardless if it was his or not. He
knew he had to do something for that baby, and
he stepped up. Not many people do in their right,
of course, but your husband did. I'm sure that when
the child is grown and finds out the truth, they
might be sad for a few minutes or maybe a
few days, but eventually they'll realize their father loves them.
In any case, here's switching you three the best in
the future of pee. Thanks so much for sharing and
(17:56):
to take care. And now let's finish this video with
a mood booster post. This post is from the subreddit
malicious Compliance, and it's by user pro Friendzoner. Supervisor told
me sarcastically to call the fire department. I did worked
in retail in between jobs, way back when, early nineties. Yeah,
I'm old, get off my lawn. It was December, major
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department store that is no longer around. I know that
doesn't narrow it down.
Speaker 2 (18:23):
Sorry.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
Anyways, they tried to cram as much product on the
floor as possible, to the point that you couldn't walk
through the aisles and had to twist and turn to
get past the fixtures set up with product. I casually
mentioned to a supervisor that if the fire department ever
came in, they would close us down for the hazards
and lack of aggress. She was highly stressed and blurted
(18:46):
out to me, you know what, then call the fire department.
I held my hands up and said easy. She assigned
me my duties and that was that.
Speaker 2 (18:55):
Well.
Speaker 1 (18:56):
She did tell me to call. On the way home,
I stopped by a government building that had all sorts
of agencies in it. Told the receptionist my plight, and
she pointed to a phone on the wall. Tell the
operator I want the fire department and they would patch
me through to the station's non emergency line. The fire
chief himself answered, I told him how crowded it was
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and what the supervisors said. He had a good laugh
and said they'd check it out. I was off the
next day but heard about it when I got back.
Fire chief and a station house full of firefires show
up to do an inspection. He tells the store manager
that a gress is being blocked and he'd have to
remove a lot of the fixtures in the aisles. Store
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manager says he has orders from corporate fixtures.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
Stay.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
Fire chiefs assures him he will win the argument. Store
manager stands his ground. Fire chief says, all right, boys,
close them down. They evacuated the store all three levels
and closed all entrances in December, prime Christmas shopping season.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
Although it wasn't a.
Speaker 1 (20:01):
Weekend day, it was during the week, but still store
manager tried to protest and suddenly the Sheriff's department starts
showing up. Long story short, they were closed for five
and a half hours while the chief, store managers and
employees rearranged the store to acceptable levels. The supervisor never
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treated me differently, so I'm guessing she didn't remember the conversation.
Store manager surprisingly did not get fired by corporate, but
corporate was not happy. About a week later, I'm working
with the store manager and supervisor. When she asks why
we can't do something a certain way, the store manager replied,
the fire department won't allow that, and that was it.
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I worked there for a few more weeks before getting
a job that almost got me killed in a workplace shooting,
but that's a story for later. Well, OPI, she did
tell you to call the department and you were just
following orders. Thanks for sharing, Op, And that's it for
today's video. Thank you so much for taking the time
to watch it.
Speaker 2 (21:03):
Now.
Speaker 1 (21:04):
If you've gotten to this point in the video, I
assume that you like these stories that I'm reading out,
so here are a couple more that you might enjoy.
And if you don't have any time to watch another
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