December 14, 2025 • 22 mins
Relationship Stories - After a traumatic car accident, OP's wife woke from a coma claiming not to recognize him—despite remembering her parents and others. As she pushes for divorce, OP suspects her memory loss might not be real.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Hi everybody, and welcome back to lost genre reddit stories.
This post is from the subreddit Threw off My Chest
and it's by user few Analysts sixty seven sixty six.
I think my wife is faking her amnesia. My wife
was in a car crash two months ago. It was
bad but not lethal. She was in a coma for
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three days, and when she woke up, she was confused.
That is normal, but the first thing she told me
was who are you. I thought she was making a
joke or something, but she continued to act like she
didn't know me. Her parents were also at the hospital,
and she recognized them immediately, but she apparently didn't know
her husband of four years. The doctor said that from
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her head injuries, amnesia was uncommon but not impossible. When
she was discharged, she refused to come home with me,
even when her parents told her they would be there too,
and she went home with them. She still refuses to
see or talk to me, even when she has seen
proof of our relationship pictures, videos, hurt things at our place.
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And the thing is, I don't believe her. I'm pretty
sure she is doing all of this just to get
a divorce, because the first thing she told me after
going home with her parents, was that she doesn't care
if we're married, she doesn't know me and wants a divorce.
I still don't know why, though. Why would she lie
instead of just telling me she wants a divorce. I
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never cheated, mistreated her, or anything like that. And even
if she just doesn't love me, this is crazy. Let's
be honest. Abnetia is not nearly as common as it
is in the movies or TV shows, and apparently she
doesn't remember the last six years. It seems crafted. I
can't talk to anyone about this because when I tried
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to tell my mother in law about my suspicions, she
lost it on me. But this doesn't make any sense.
My wife is still pushing for a divorce, but apparently
her attorney told her mediation and or couple's counseling is
a better first step. She won't talk to me or
acknowledge our relationship, but apparently already has a tender. It's
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driving me insane and I don't know why she is
doing this to me. Will it be the way I
see it? You've got two choices at how to look
at this one. Let's say you're right she is faking
the abnesia. Well, she's a coward then for using abneesia
to try to get out of your marriage. If that
was the case, I'd give her the divorce and thank
her for releasing me from the future crazy I could
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get involved in. So no lass there. The second one
is that maybe she does have abneesia. Of course, I'm
only saying that as a possibility, even though maybe very
very minute, because I'm not an expert on it. So OPI,
if you've spoken to specialists and you're very certain that
she is faking it, then I'd happily comply and move
on with my life. If not, then you need to
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see if you can trust that this is true and
see if you guys can work through it. And what
do you guys think? Let me know in the comments section,
and now let's check out the community comments. Will Elaine says,
my best friend had a heart attack and was in
a coma for weeks. When she woke up, she remembered
her parents and her brother, but not her husband. She
asked her sister in law who the cute guy was.
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She didn't remember her son, who was twelve or thirteen either.
She only remembered from a certain point before she met
her husband. Eventually, over the next year she regained a
lot of memories, but she has extremely poor short term memory.
She can tell you her childhood phone number, but not
her current one. Delicious Quantity nine six y eight says
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faking amnesia would not be an easy thing, especially forgetting
a whole six years. That is a lot of things
she would have to remember to forget. There would be
ways to find out if she's faking, like having someone
who is not you ask her about some events over
the last six years and see if she remembers anything.
Irishie Princess says, I had a seizure in twenty twenty
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three caused by my doctors think a new medication that
finally reached therapeutic levels. My short term memory is shot.
I forget words in the middle of sentences. My family
is very good at charades. Now we'll repeat questions within minutes.
I remember my wedding in two thousand and four, the
birth of my sons who are teenagers. I had to
retire from nursing because I don't trust myself anymore twenty
(04:25):
plus years and spent COVID in the ICU CCU with
the critical patience the brain is weird. Both Mud forty
three sixty two says it is not uncommon for brain
injuries to cause permanent personality changes. Maybe she woke up,
remembered her life and hated it, and the previous her
loved her life. Maybe she does have amnesia. But what
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ifs don't provide answers, and sometimes there is no closure.
You just have to take the situation for what it is.
She wants out, and I suggest you give it to her.
Just let her go, cherish the memories had and to
go make a new life with new memories. Maybe one
day she will remember or regret her actions. Maybe she
never will, but again that doesn't help anyone. Additional information
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from Opie's comments. When she woke up, I was there.
At first, I believed it fully. The doctor even said
she should regain her memories in a few days, so
I waited. After that, everything changed. I suddenly wasn't allowed
to speak to the doctors anymore. She removed me as
an emergency contact and replaced me with her parents. So
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now I legally can't know anything, even though I'm her husband.
I technically could get an attorney to request access, but
I decided not to because I don't want her to
hate me more than she already does. I really don't
What makes everything confusing is it's not that she doesn't
remember everything. She remembers the friend who introduced us, but
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she met him just a couple months before meeting me.
She even remembers his birthday and told him we should
do something. I'm sure I'll be well enough by then.
She remembers a vacation we took together four years ago,
except she thinks she went alone. She recognizes people from
that same part of her life, but somehow not me,
who she was living with, married to, planning holidays with,
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talking about trying for a baby with. How do you
forget one person and not the whole time period before
the crash. Her best friend actually told me she saw
Tinder on my wife's phone. That was over two months ago.
I didn't want to believe anything was wrong. Then, after
the crash, her phone was never found. I assumed it
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got destroyed. But now I don't know what to think.
The same friend is the only person who gives me updates,
and she still won't tell me much about her treatment,
just small things or pictures. She's also the one who
warned me about tinder. So I'm stuck here with all
this information and no way to confirm anything. Her parents
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and I pay for all of her therapy she goes
twice a week. I cover her physiotherapy too, which is
around one hundred dollars each session, five times a week.
I can barely afford the mortgage right now with her
bills and everything she needs, so I can't even pay
for my own therapy until January. I spend most of
my days crying and waiting. I even offered to drive
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her and her parents to appointments, but she refused to
even be in a car with me, so I gave
my card to her dad so he could take her.
I'm still trying to help, even though she pushes for divorce.
What hurts the most is that before all this, her
parents were like my parents. Mine died a year into
our relationship, and they took me in. They wore my rock.
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Now I'm completely shut out by everyone except her best friend,
who gives me just enough information to make me worry more.
I honestly don't know what's worse anymore, if she's faking
it or if she genuinely forgot only me if she
wanted to leave, why not just tell me like a
normal person. If this is real, how am I the
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only thing she erased? I thought we were soul mates.
At least you're supposed to want to tell your spouse
you want out. I don't want to hate her. I
don't even know how to be angry properly. I'm just lost.
So the communities more on the abnisia can happen kind
of camp, I think, And the additional information is OpEd
doubling down. So now let's move on to the update
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to see how this story ends. Hello, it's me again.
As you could probably see, I was not in a
good place mentally speaking, and after making my first post,
I was in a very dark place and made an
attempt against myself. I ended up calling my best friend.
He lives like an hour away, but I don't think
it took him more than twenty minutes to get to
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my house. He took me to the hospital. I was
given some fluids, and then I was committed to the
psych word for four days. My best friend decided to
move in with me for the moment, and I have
therapy appointments twice a week now. When I was released
from the hospital, I found a bunch of texts from
my in laws asking me why I didn't pay for
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my wife's physiotherapy and therapy appointments, and I realized they
were never worried about me. They didn't even ask if
I was okay, just asked for money. I realized this
was going to be the end of me if I
didn't do anything about it. So I called them and
told them I agreed to the divorce and to tell
my wife, but since she'll no longer be my wife,
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I wouldn't pay for anything else, and that I wanted
my car back. They tried to yell, and I just
hung up. My best friend found me a lawyer who
is a friend of his, and we'll see what I
can do to protect myself. I'm not really planning on
talking to any of them anymore. My lawyer said, we
don't even need to be in the same room, just
sign everything. I'm still very tired and very hurt, and
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I want to clarify that is not that I don't
believe my wife. I was just so heartbroken and drunk
I basically created a whole new alternative reality. I don't
think she is faking it at the time, it was
the better option than the love of your life doesn't
remember you and doesn't want to be near you, and
this might never change. To be honest, I don't think
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anyone can fake something like this from the waking up,
but I wasn't thinking clearly and was in a very
bad place mentally speaking. Yesterday, my best friend went to
retrieve my car because I don't have the energy to
fight with anyone right now. It was in the middle
of the night with the spare key, so he didn't
even have to talk to them because my car was
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parked outside. I don't really know what I'm going to
do after all this. Everything is still fresh and confusing,
and everything hurts. But I can't fight anymore, and maybe
this is all my own fault for fighting when everyone
told me to just give up. I haven't heard anything
from my ex and I blogged my in laws, but
I assume well from them soon because I took my
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car and I stopped all payments. I appreciate the kind
words and the ones trying to reason with me, but
at the moment I wasn't ready to listen Right now.
I just want to get better and move on with
my life. I ask for time off at my job
so I can process everything, and I'm just relaxing. I
haven't realized how bad I was sleeping until today. I
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woke up around two pm. I'm thinking about selling the house,
but I think I have to wait after the divorce,
even though it was an inheritance. My lawyer said something
like that. He also said we actually have a shot
at not paying for alimony or any medical bill, so
I'm almost hopeful. Please take care of yourself and enjoy
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the holidays. I'll try to do it myself too. OPI,
I'm so sorry you were in that dark place, but
the good thing is that you're out of it now
and you can see clearly that you need to move forward.
So here's wishing you the best. Ope, thanks so much
for sharing and to take care. And now let's move
on to the next post that also has an update.
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This post is from the subreddit am I Overreacting and
it's by user time extent five eight five am I
overreacting to my girlfriend sharing a bed non sexually with
a male friend. I, twenty five male, have been in
a long distance relationship with this girl, twenty four female
for about four months now. She has a friend, straight
twenty two male from college who she is really close to,
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who she says she sees as a brother. She also
insists that the feeling is mutual and that he only
sees her as a sister. Yesterday, he flew to her
city to meet her and booked a room. She told
me that she is going to meet him, but won't
be staying. She went to visit him in the room
and stayed there the entire day. She called me around
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ten pm and told me that they just spent the
whole day in the room and we're going to watch
a movie while having dinner. I knew immediately that she
wasn't gonna go back to her place, but I didn't
say anything then. But after dinner, they watched a few
more movies, talked late until three am, and then slept
in the same bed as well. Since I was messed
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up from last night's conversation, I didn't really send her
any good morning message like I usually do, with a
silly good morning video I found online. I just said
that I didn't sleep well and sent the video, to
which she replied, well, it's too late. We have both
woken up, confirming that they slept in the same room
at least. This absolutely messed up my entire day to day,
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but wasn't going to bring it up as long as
the guy is still around her. But she called me
in the evening today and she was talking in detail
about what they did yesterday, probably to make it clear
that she isn't hiding anything from me, and said that
they will probably do the same tonight as well, staying
up till three am talking. I did my best to
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stay calm and asked how many days he is staying,
and she said that he is staying for three more days.
This absolutely made me fly off the handle, and I
got on a call in a cent actually just told
yelled to be honest about how this is really not
fine and it doesn't sit with me well at all.
She kept insisting that neither of their intentions are the
kind to be worried about, and nothing was ever gonna
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happen between them. I guess that was the point I
realized that I don't even care about the intentions, but
rather I'm simply not okay with my girlfriend sleeping in
the same bed as an unrelated guy. It was this
realization that brought me to this sub is that last
bit and overreaction. I wouldn't consider it an overreaction if
the intentions of either person aren't clear. But even if
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they are clear, I am not fine with it. Is
that wrong on my part? Well, if you're in my opinion, no,
it's your boundary. You're just not comfortable with your girlfriend
sleeping in the same bed as another guy, even if
the intentions are to just talk until three am. Now,
maybe yelling that was not the best way to communicate
your boundaries, but you have a boundary now without yelling.
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If you're able to communicate what your boundary is proper
and she chooses to respect it, great, If not, then
you're either gonna stay in the relationship feeling very uncomfortable,
or you're gonna end it now. Personally, YOUPI, I would
have ended it already because I cannot believe that they
spend all day in a room just talking and then
talking some more and watching a movie and then talking,
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and they're gonna do that for like four days Unless
you and I have a different meaning for the word talking.
The cynic in me says, that's not what's going on there,
but I guess that's not your premise. In any case,
what do you guys think, let me know in the
comment section, and now let's check out the community comments.
Pancerflex says they spent the whole day and night in
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the room playing scrabble. I'm sure it's fine. BlackBerry Regular
for a eight says one of the telltale signs someone
is lying is when they give you too many details.
Sounds like she was doing that. I don't think that
nothing happened. I'm sorry, bro, you deserve better. And Imaginary
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and Photos says you are underreacting. How would she feel
if your situation were reversed? That's a rhetorical question, of course.
As a woman, I can tell you that she'd flip
out on you if your lady bestie stayed all day
and night with you, because she would know that you're
fuller crap, full stop. Get out of this long distance relationship. Now,
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they rarely, if ever work, just like yours is not
working well. The community clearly does not believe the girlfriend
and are telling the op to just bolt. So now
let's move on to the update to see how this
story ends. First, I wish this story was fake. It isn't.
This happened today and I'm still going through it. It
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hurts even more when someone straight dismisses it as rage
bait lao. Secondly, she messaged me a few hours or
so ago saying that they apparently had a fight. This
message was five hours after our phone call, eleven pm
local time. The message, I will go back to my
place after work tomorrow since it's too late to travel
back now. I stayed here smiley face. After that absolutely
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perfect message, she apologized for not realizing that her decisions
affect me as well, whatever the F that's supposed to mean.
I saw a few well meaning comments in the sea
of comments directly taking the cheating angle that we're talking about.
How platonic relationships do exist and a man and a
woman can't sleep on the same bed with absolutely no
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sexual contact. So to them, I ask, let's say it
was absolutely platonic and they had the purest of intentions.
Isn't it bare minimum to respect your partner's feelings about
a certain action you committed and not effing repeated the
very same day. Forget the ideology behind having a problem
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with your partner sharing a bed with a platonic friend
who flew a thousand miles and then booked a room
for five days to be alone with you for a second.
Isn't it even a knee jerk reaction to stop doing
what is causing pain to your partner, at least until
you had a proper conversation about it. I'm done Opie's
final update. I really can't even reconstruct the calls that
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happened today. But one of the things I brought up
in the calls was from the comments under this post.
How was it a spontaneous decision to stay over if
she didn't plan to in the first place and didn't
take any clothes? This was actually the only thing that
found its way from Reddit into a real conversation with her.
I got a pretty clear answer, she took them in
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case I had to stay over for two days. Honestly,
it was just laughable because it was very clearly decided
before she left her place. It wasn't even one change
of clothes, but rather two, considering that she spent two
nights there and went to work on the third. There
are so many many other things, so many new random
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red flags popped up after that, that I can't even
begin to write it all here. I am so absolutely
exhausted with two wild days of emotional and physical turmoil.
I knew I was pretty much done after her immediately
disrespecting my boundaries, but the crap she said over the
calls just removed all doubt in my mind that we
are absolutely incompatible with each other. Our idea of relationships, friendships,
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and families all got called into question in my mind,
and I knew what had to be done. I would
like to thank everyone who took the time to read
my post. It's effing long, just realized and commented sensibly.
I would also like to thank the people who reached
out to me to ensure I am doing fine and
to give their two cents on the matter. I will
thank you guys in our chats as well, of course,
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thanks all well. Be honestly, at this point doesn't matter
how you got there, you got there, and you're free.
So here's rigid you the best, Take care and thanks
for sharing, and now let's finish this video with a
mood booster post. This post is from the subreddit petty
Revenge and it's by user executor of judgment. My manager
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always called for a twenty minute team meeting after work unpaid,
so I finally had enough. By the way, this is
not in America, so US labor laws don't apply here.
This was a small team of ten people that the
manager was assigned to. Myself included. I was the last
person to be hired on the team. Everybody was my SANDPI,
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and on the first day I worked there, they called
a team meeting. After work, we log off our computers
at four fifty five pm, go to the meeting room,
and we clock out at five fifteen pm. Every day
like clockwork. I said, no problem, that's an extra two
and a half hours on the biweekly paycheck and we
didn't have to do any actual work except listen. When
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my first pay day came, I saw my full eighty hours,
but the extra two and a half were nowhere to
be found. So I asked a couple of the guys
if they only got paid eighty hours two They all
confirmed it. We were not getting paid for these meetings.
The shift ends and once again the manager called for
the daily team meeting and to log off at four
fifty five pm, then head to the meeting room. I
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do so, and so I sit there for five minutes.
As soon as it hit five pm, I get up
and say I need to be somewhere important with everyone's
eyes on me. The manager says, okay, I leave the room,
clock out and go home. The next day, I do
the same, and again and again. The manager never stops me.
Then the manager pulls me to the side one day
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and asks, what's this important thing that I need to
get to after work every day? And I tell him
it's a personal matter and he leaves it at that.
Pretty soon it catches on. The other guys start leaving
right after me, and eventually, within a matter of days
of me starting to leave at five, everyone else started
doing so. The manager started scheduling the meetings for four
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forty pm. All it took was one person to not
take this crap anymore nicely, Peepe, good for you. That
is very assertive. I don't know if it's any kind
of revenge, but I still enjoyed your story very much.
Thanks so much for sharing. And that's it for today's video.
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Hi everybody, and welcome back to lost genre reddit stories.
This post is from the subreddit Threw off My Chest
and it's by user few Analysts sixty seven sixty six.
I think my wife is faking her amnesia. My wife
was in a car crash two months ago. It was
bad but not lethal. She was in a coma for
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three days, and when she woke up, she was confused.
That is normal, but the first thing she told me
was who are you. I thought she was making a
joke or something, but she continued to act like she
didn't know me. Her parents were also at the hospital,
and she recognized them immediately, but she apparently didn't know
her husband of four years. The doctor said that from
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her head injuries, amnesia was uncommon but not impossible. When
she was discharged, she refused to come home with me,
even when her parents told her they would be there too,
and she went home with them. She still refuses to
see or talk to me, even when she has seen
proof of our relationship pictures, videos, hurt things at our place.
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And the thing is, I don't believe her. I'm pretty
sure she is doing all of this just to get
a divorce, because the first thing she told me after
going home with her parents, was that she doesn't care
if we're married, she doesn't know me and wants a divorce.
I still don't know why, though. Why would she lie
instead of just telling me she wants a divorce. I
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never cheated, mistreated her, or anything like that. And even
if she just doesn't love me, this is crazy. Let's
be honest. Abnetia is not nearly as common as it
is in the movies or TV shows, and apparently she
doesn't remember the last six years. It seems crafted. I
can't talk to anyone about this because when I tried
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to tell my mother in law about my suspicions, she
lost it on me. But this doesn't make any sense.
My wife is still pushing for a divorce, but apparently
her attorney told her mediation and or couple's counseling is
a better first step. She won't talk to me or
acknowledge our relationship, but apparently already has a tender. It's
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driving me insane and I don't know why she is
doing this to me. Will it be the way I
see it? You've got two choices at how to look
at this one. Let's say you're right she is faking
the abnesia. Well, she's a coward then for using abneesia
to try to get out of your marriage. If that
was the case, I'd give her the divorce and thank
her for releasing me from the future crazy I could
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get involved in. So no lass there. The second one
is that maybe she does have abneesia. Of course, I'm
only saying that as a possibility, even though maybe very
very minute, because I'm not an expert on it. So OPI,
if you've spoken to specialists and you're very certain that
she is faking it, then I'd happily comply and move
on with my life. If not, then you need to
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see if you can trust that this is true and
see if you guys can work through it. And what
do you guys think? Let me know in the comments section,
and now let's check out the community comments. Will Elaine says,
my best friend had a heart attack and was in
a coma for weeks. When she woke up, she remembered
her parents and her brother, but not her husband. She
asked her sister in law who the cute guy was.
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She didn't remember her son, who was twelve or thirteen either.
She only remembered from a certain point before she met
her husband. Eventually, over the next year she regained a
lot of memories, but she has extremely poor short term memory.
She can tell you her childhood phone number, but not
her current one. Delicious Quantity nine six y eight says
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faking amnesia would not be an easy thing, especially forgetting
a whole six years. That is a lot of things
she would have to remember to forget. There would be
ways to find out if she's faking, like having someone
who is not you ask her about some events over
the last six years and see if she remembers anything.
Irishie Princess says, I had a seizure in twenty twenty
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three caused by my doctors think a new medication that
finally reached therapeutic levels. My short term memory is shot.
I forget words in the middle of sentences. My family
is very good at charades. Now we'll repeat questions within minutes.
I remember my wedding in two thousand and four, the
birth of my sons who are teenagers. I had to
retire from nursing because I don't trust myself anymore twenty
(04:25):
plus years and spent COVID in the ICU CCU with
the critical patience the brain is weird. Both Mud forty
three sixty two says it is not uncommon for brain
injuries to cause permanent personality changes. Maybe she woke up,
remembered her life and hated it, and the previous her
loved her life. Maybe she does have amnesia. But what
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ifs don't provide answers, and sometimes there is no closure.
You just have to take the situation for what it is.
She wants out, and I suggest you give it to her.
Just let her go, cherish the memories had and to
go make a new life with new memories. Maybe one
day she will remember or regret her actions. Maybe she
never will, but again that doesn't help anyone. Additional information
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from Opie's comments. When she woke up, I was there.
At first, I believed it fully. The doctor even said
she should regain her memories in a few days, so
I waited. After that, everything changed. I suddenly wasn't allowed
to speak to the doctors anymore. She removed me as
an emergency contact and replaced me with her parents. So
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now I legally can't know anything, even though I'm her husband.
I technically could get an attorney to request access, but
I decided not to because I don't want her to
hate me more than she already does. I really don't
What makes everything confusing is it's not that she doesn't
remember everything. She remembers the friend who introduced us, but
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she met him just a couple months before meeting me.
She even remembers his birthday and told him we should
do something. I'm sure I'll be well enough by then.
She remembers a vacation we took together four years ago,
except she thinks she went alone. She recognizes people from
that same part of her life, but somehow not me,
who she was living with, married to, planning holidays with,
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talking about trying for a baby with. How do you
forget one person and not the whole time period before
the crash. Her best friend actually told me she saw
Tinder on my wife's phone. That was over two months ago.
I didn't want to believe anything was wrong. Then, after
the crash, her phone was never found. I assumed it
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got destroyed. But now I don't know what to think.
The same friend is the only person who gives me updates,
and she still won't tell me much about her treatment,
just small things or pictures. She's also the one who
warned me about tinder. So I'm stuck here with all
this information and no way to confirm anything. Her parents
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and I pay for all of her therapy she goes
twice a week. I cover her physiotherapy too, which is
around one hundred dollars each session, five times a week.
I can barely afford the mortgage right now with her
bills and everything she needs, so I can't even pay
for my own therapy until January. I spend most of
my days crying and waiting. I even offered to drive
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her and her parents to appointments, but she refused to
even be in a car with me, so I gave
my card to her dad so he could take her.
I'm still trying to help, even though she pushes for divorce.
What hurts the most is that before all this, her
parents were like my parents. Mine died a year into
our relationship, and they took me in. They wore my rock.
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Now I'm completely shut out by everyone except her best friend,
who gives me just enough information to make me worry more.
I honestly don't know what's worse anymore, if she's faking
it or if she genuinely forgot only me if she
wanted to leave, why not just tell me like a
normal person. If this is real, how am I the
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only thing she erased? I thought we were soul mates.
At least you're supposed to want to tell your spouse
you want out. I don't want to hate her. I
don't even know how to be angry properly. I'm just lost.
So the communities more on the abnisia can happen kind
of camp, I think, And the additional information is OpEd
doubling down. So now let's move on to the update
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to see how this story ends. Hello, it's me again.
As you could probably see, I was not in a
good place mentally speaking, and after making my first post,
I was in a very dark place and made an
attempt against myself. I ended up calling my best friend.
He lives like an hour away, but I don't think
it took him more than twenty minutes to get to
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my house. He took me to the hospital. I was
given some fluids, and then I was committed to the
psych word for four days. My best friend decided to
move in with me for the moment, and I have
therapy appointments twice a week now. When I was released
from the hospital, I found a bunch of texts from
my in laws asking me why I didn't pay for
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my wife's physiotherapy and therapy appointments, and I realized they
were never worried about me. They didn't even ask if
I was okay, just asked for money. I realized this
was going to be the end of me if I
didn't do anything about it. So I called them and
told them I agreed to the divorce and to tell
my wife, but since she'll no longer be my wife,
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I wouldn't pay for anything else, and that I wanted
my car back. They tried to yell, and I just
hung up. My best friend found me a lawyer who
is a friend of his, and we'll see what I
can do to protect myself. I'm not really planning on
talking to any of them anymore. My lawyer said, we
don't even need to be in the same room, just
sign everything. I'm still very tired and very hurt, and
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I want to clarify that is not that I don't
believe my wife. I was just so heartbroken and drunk
I basically created a whole new alternative reality. I don't
think she is faking it at the time, it was
the better option than the love of your life doesn't
remember you and doesn't want to be near you, and
this might never change. To be honest, I don't think
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anyone can fake something like this from the waking up,
but I wasn't thinking clearly and was in a very
bad place mentally speaking. Yesterday, my best friend went to
retrieve my car because I don't have the energy to
fight with anyone right now. It was in the middle
of the night with the spare key, so he didn't
even have to talk to them because my car was
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parked outside. I don't really know what I'm going to
do after all this. Everything is still fresh and confusing,
and everything hurts. But I can't fight anymore, and maybe
this is all my own fault for fighting when everyone
told me to just give up. I haven't heard anything
from my ex and I blogged my in laws, but
I assume well from them soon because I took my
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car and I stopped all payments. I appreciate the kind
words and the ones trying to reason with me, but
at the moment I wasn't ready to listen Right now.
I just want to get better and move on with
my life. I ask for time off at my job
so I can process everything, and I'm just relaxing. I
haven't realized how bad I was sleeping until today. I
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woke up around two pm. I'm thinking about selling the house,
but I think I have to wait after the divorce,
even though it was an inheritance. My lawyer said something
like that. He also said we actually have a shot
at not paying for alimony or any medical bill, so
I'm almost hopeful. Please take care of yourself and enjoy
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the holidays. I'll try to do it myself too. OPI,
I'm so sorry you were in that dark place, but
the good thing is that you're out of it now
and you can see clearly that you need to move forward.
So here's wishing you the best. Ope, thanks so much
for sharing and to take care. And now let's move
on to the next post that also has an update.
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This post is from the subreddit am I Overreacting and
it's by user time extent five eight five am I
overreacting to my girlfriend sharing a bed non sexually with
a male friend. I, twenty five male, have been in
a long distance relationship with this girl, twenty four female
for about four months now. She has a friend, straight
twenty two male from college who she is really close to,
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who she says she sees as a brother. She also
insists that the feeling is mutual and that he only
sees her as a sister. Yesterday, he flew to her
city to meet her and booked a room. She told
me that she is going to meet him, but won't
be staying. She went to visit him in the room
and stayed there the entire day. She called me around
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ten pm and told me that they just spent the
whole day in the room and we're going to watch
a movie while having dinner. I knew immediately that she
wasn't gonna go back to her place, but I didn't
say anything then. But after dinner, they watched a few
more movies, talked late until three am, and then slept
in the same bed as well. Since I was messed
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up from last night's conversation, I didn't really send her
any good morning message like I usually do, with a
silly good morning video I found online. I just said
that I didn't sleep well and sent the video, to
which she replied, well, it's too late. We have both
woken up, confirming that they slept in the same room
at least. This absolutely messed up my entire day to day,
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but wasn't going to bring it up as long as
the guy is still around her. But she called me
in the evening today and she was talking in detail
about what they did yesterday, probably to make it clear
that she isn't hiding anything from me, and said that
they will probably do the same tonight as well, staying
up till three am talking. I did my best to
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stay calm and asked how many days he is staying,
and she said that he is staying for three more days.
This absolutely made me fly off the handle, and I
got on a call in a cent actually just told
yelled to be honest about how this is really not
fine and it doesn't sit with me well at all.
She kept insisting that neither of their intentions are the
kind to be worried about, and nothing was ever gonna
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happen between them. I guess that was the point I
realized that I don't even care about the intentions, but
rather I'm simply not okay with my girlfriend sleeping in
the same bed as an unrelated guy. It was this
realization that brought me to this sub is that last
bit and overreaction. I wouldn't consider it an overreaction if
the intentions of either person aren't clear. But even if
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they are clear, I am not fine with it. Is
that wrong on my part? Well, if you're in my opinion, no,
it's your boundary. You're just not comfortable with your girlfriend
sleeping in the same bed as another guy, even if
the intentions are to just talk until three am. Now,
maybe yelling that was not the best way to communicate
your boundaries, but you have a boundary now without yelling.
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If you're able to communicate what your boundary is proper
and she chooses to respect it, great, If not, then
you're either gonna stay in the relationship feeling very uncomfortable,
or you're gonna end it now. Personally, YOUPI, I would
have ended it already because I cannot believe that they
spend all day in a room just talking and then
talking some more and watching a movie and then talking,
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and they're gonna do that for like four days Unless
you and I have a different meaning for the word talking.
The cynic in me says, that's not what's going on there,
but I guess that's not your premise. In any case,
what do you guys think, let me know in the
comment section, and now let's check out the community comments.
Pancerflex says they spent the whole day and night in
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the room playing scrabble. I'm sure it's fine. BlackBerry Regular
for a eight says one of the telltale signs someone
is lying is when they give you too many details.
Sounds like she was doing that. I don't think that
nothing happened. I'm sorry, bro, you deserve better. And Imaginary
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and Photos says you are underreacting. How would she feel
if your situation were reversed? That's a rhetorical question, of course.
As a woman, I can tell you that she'd flip
out on you if your lady bestie stayed all day
and night with you, because she would know that you're
fuller crap, full stop. Get out of this long distance relationship. Now,
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they rarely, if ever work, just like yours is not
working well. The community clearly does not believe the girlfriend
and are telling the op to just bolt. So now
let's move on to the update to see how this
story ends. First, I wish this story was fake. It isn't.
This happened today and I'm still going through it. It
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hurts even more when someone straight dismisses it as rage
bait lao. Secondly, she messaged me a few hours or
so ago saying that they apparently had a fight. This
message was five hours after our phone call, eleven pm
local time. The message, I will go back to my
place after work tomorrow since it's too late to travel
back now. I stayed here smiley face. After that absolutely
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perfect message, she apologized for not realizing that her decisions
affect me as well, whatever the F that's supposed to mean.
I saw a few well meaning comments in the sea
of comments directly taking the cheating angle that we're talking about.
How platonic relationships do exist and a man and a
woman can't sleep on the same bed with absolutely no
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sexual contact. So to them, I ask, let's say it
was absolutely platonic and they had the purest of intentions.
Isn't it bare minimum to respect your partner's feelings about
a certain action you committed and not effing repeated the
very same day. Forget the ideology behind having a problem
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with your partner sharing a bed with a platonic friend
who flew a thousand miles and then booked a room
for five days to be alone with you for a second.
Isn't it even a knee jerk reaction to stop doing
what is causing pain to your partner, at least until
you had a proper conversation about it. I'm done Opie's
final update. I really can't even reconstruct the calls that
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happened today. But one of the things I brought up
in the calls was from the comments under this post.
How was it a spontaneous decision to stay over if
she didn't plan to in the first place and didn't
take any clothes? This was actually the only thing that
found its way from Reddit into a real conversation with her.
I got a pretty clear answer, she took them in
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case I had to stay over for two days. Honestly,
it was just laughable because it was very clearly decided
before she left her place. It wasn't even one change
of clothes, but rather two, considering that she spent two
nights there and went to work on the third. There
are so many many other things, so many new random
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red flags popped up after that, that I can't even
begin to write it all here. I am so absolutely
exhausted with two wild days of emotional and physical turmoil.
I knew I was pretty much done after her immediately
disrespecting my boundaries, but the crap she said over the
calls just removed all doubt in my mind that we
are absolutely incompatible with each other. Our idea of relationships, friendships,
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and families all got called into question in my mind,
and I knew what had to be done. I would
like to thank everyone who took the time to read
my post. It's effing long, just realized and commented sensibly.
I would also like to thank the people who reached
out to me to ensure I am doing fine and
to give their two cents on the matter. I will
thank you guys in our chats as well, of course,
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thanks all well. Be honestly, at this point doesn't matter
how you got there, you got there, and you're free.
So here's rigid you the best, Take care and thanks
for sharing, and now let's finish this video with a
mood booster post. This post is from the subreddit petty
Revenge and it's by user executor of judgment. My manager
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always called for a twenty minute team meeting after work unpaid,
so I finally had enough. By the way, this is
not in America, so US labor laws don't apply here.
This was a small team of ten people that the
manager was assigned to. Myself included. I was the last
person to be hired on the team. Everybody was my SANDPI,
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and on the first day I worked there, they called
a team meeting. After work, we log off our computers
at four fifty five pm, go to the meeting room,
and we clock out at five fifteen pm. Every day
like clockwork. I said, no problem, that's an extra two
and a half hours on the biweekly paycheck and we
didn't have to do any actual work except listen. When
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my first pay day came, I saw my full eighty hours,
but the extra two and a half were nowhere to
be found. So I asked a couple of the guys
if they only got paid eighty hours two They all
confirmed it. We were not getting paid for these meetings.
The shift ends and once again the manager called for
the daily team meeting and to log off at four
fifty five pm, then head to the meeting room. I
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do so, and so I sit there for five minutes.
As soon as it hit five pm, I get up
and say I need to be somewhere important with everyone's
eyes on me. The manager says, okay, I leave the room,
clock out and go home. The next day, I do
the same, and again and again. The manager never stops me.
Then the manager pulls me to the side one day
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and asks, what's this important thing that I need to
get to after work every day? And I tell him
it's a personal matter and he leaves it at that.
Pretty soon it catches on. The other guys start leaving
right after me, and eventually, within a matter of days
of me starting to leave at five, everyone else started
doing so. The manager started scheduling the meetings for four
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forty pm. All it took was one person to not
take this crap anymore nicely, Peepe, good for you. That
is very assertive. I don't know if it's any kind
of revenge, but I still enjoyed your story very much.
Thanks so much for sharing. And that's it for today's video.
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch it. Now.
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