January 8, 2025 • 31 mins
Welcome to the Love Like Crazy podcast! In this heartwarming episode, your hosts, Jay and Stacey Coleman, are joined by returning guests— their son Tyler and daughter-in-law Brittney—for an honest and entertaining conversation about life, family, and preparing for their fourth child.
What to Expect in This Episode:
-Exciting News: Tyler & Brittney share updates on their growing family.
-Family Dynamics: The joys and challenges of raising children and building a close-knit family.
-Real Life vs. Instagram: Embracing the chaos and finding beauty in the messy moments.
-Life Lessons: The importance of honoring each other’s roles, staying connected, and keeping faith at the center of family life.
-Fun Moments: From cookie debates to reflections on parenting, this episode is filled with laughter and love.
Whether you're a young family seeking encouragement or simply love uplifting stories of faith and family, this episode offers heartfelt wisdom, humor, and inspiration.
Don’t forget to:
Like, subscribe, and leave a comment with future topic suggestions. Share this episode with friends or anyone facing a tough season.
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As always, we’re Jay and Stacey, and this is Love Like Crazy.
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What to Expect in This Episode:
-Exciting News: Tyler & Brittney share updates on their growing family.
-Family Dynamics: The joys and challenges of raising children and building a close-knit family.
-Real Life vs. Instagram: Embracing the chaos and finding beauty in the messy moments.
-Life Lessons: The importance of honoring each other’s roles, staying connected, and keeping faith at the center of family life.
-Fun Moments: From cookie debates to reflections on parenting, this episode is filled with laughter and love.
Whether you're a young family seeking encouragement or simply love uplifting stories of faith and family, this episode offers heartfelt wisdom, humor, and inspiration.
Don’t forget to:
Like, subscribe, and leave a comment with future topic suggestions. Share this episode with friends or anyone facing a tough season.
Join us next time as Jay and Stacey for more insightful and family based content.
As always, we’re Jay and Stacey, and this is Love Like Crazy.
Podcast Produced by Hi HelloLabs
https://www.hihellolabs.com/
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Speaker 1 (00:22):
Hey everyone, and welcome to the Love Like Crazy Podcast.
We're your hosts, Jay and Stacy Colemen, and we have
a very exciting episode for you today.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Hold on, I know that you're excited about our guests
that are with us today.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
I am.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Before you introduce them, I want to take just a
quick moment, I want to thank all of our listeners
for you guys helping us so much to build this podcast.
If you're enjoying this, like, subscribe, share, leave a comment,
give us a review. And once again I say this,
I think every episode we love to hear your ideas
as to what you would like to see us do
with different episodes as far as ideas stuff like that.
(00:54):
So thank you guys, and I just like you, I'm
fired up about today's episode. It's going to be absolutely well.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
We have some returning guests today. Our son and daughter
in law, Tyler and Brittany, are joining us again today
and so we have you know, had a discussion with
them before about family and I believe it was episode
ten if you want to go back and listen to that,
and today we're going to like just talk a little
bit more and about their lives and stuff.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Now, if you watched that episode. There's one particular part
of that episode that I made a proclamation. I'm not
going to say I'm a prophet. I'm not going to
say that. You know, maybe I am. Maybe the Lord
has gifted me in this area, but I'm not going
to say that. But maybe, well you were.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
You were kind of foretelling a little bit.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Maybe, so check in fact check this out from the
previous episode. And the big news you're sharing with everybody
on the podcast today is you're expecting again.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Stop no, pat, So let's walk come back, Tyler and Brittany.
Speaker 3 (02:01):
It is so good to be back, all three of us.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
All right, So, if you watched the previous episode that
we did with you guys before, I actually made a
statement on there where I was like, hey, is there
something you want to share with everybody? And y'all were like,
what are you talking about? No, you didn't. You had
no idea then that you were pregnant.
Speaker 4 (02:23):
And let it be known, we were not pregnant when
we did that episode.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
We were not pregnant.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Yeah, there were people because that episode released like right
about the time that y'all got let the word out
that's you. But you did not know at that time,
and I just called it. I'm called it, so thank you,
You're welcome. So this is going to be baby number four,
and you do not know what if this child's a
boy or girl.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
I am surprised.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
And now remember that you know I saw it and
I'm speaking this as well. I keep saying that this
is going to be twin boys.
Speaker 3 (02:57):
Now your profit.
Speaker 5 (03:00):
We know it's only one. We just don't know what
the gender is.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Well, I know y'all have not had an ultrasound as
far as like where y'all saw the gender. But I
believe that those babies. Notice I said that they're in
the womb and they're lined up where you can only
see one and their heartbeats are synchronized, and so whenever
you give birth on April the twenty seventh, seven, yeah,
(03:25):
second was also on the Hudson was born on my birthday.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
Now only get one grandchild born on your birthday.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
A lot easier to just to remember all and we.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
Could have one big party for everybody on the same day.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Absolutely so well, but regardless, all joking aside, it's exciting.
I know that Tyder wants the shock war off. You
were probably excited.
Speaker 6 (03:47):
Yeah, yeah, No, I made the joke earlier that once
the chak war off at the end of January, then
I started to get excited.
Speaker 5 (03:53):
But I mean it really.
Speaker 6 (03:55):
We were both shocked and then we quickly turned into
excitement and we're just like, yeah, let's do this thing.
Speaker 5 (04:01):
One more. What's what's one more?
Speaker 2 (04:03):
What's one more?
Speaker 6 (04:04):
Okay, we're not going to say that after this, but like, yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
It's just one more, you know, mouth to feed, one
more college education, one more. I'm sorry, I didn't mean that.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
Yeah, I don't like, don't bring it down. Well, yes,
it's your fourth child for you guys, but it's our
fifth grandchild because from the time that the last episode aired,
your brother had his first baby. So and she's about
five months old.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Now it's active. It's active in the Coleman House.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Yeah, so the cousins are going to be really close together.
It's be great.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
And when y'all we do a family and night and
y'all bring all the kiddos over, it gets it gets
pretty pretty gray gray up in here.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
Yeah, I love it can get a little loud.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
I'm just like, hey, y'all have all the babies you want.
I personally, this is just me I think you ought
to go for an even dozen, not a dozen, half
half a dozen, half dozens.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
Good, we'll probably end up with a dozen.
Speaker 5 (04:54):
Grand fur.
Speaker 6 (04:58):
We were good at three and then uh, four happened,
So we're good at four.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
You know what, after three, it's just like whatever. So
I say, six is the number? No, remember, I remember
I speak these.
Speaker 3 (05:11):
You know four is good.
Speaker 4 (05:13):
We were recalling, like thinking back after marriage conference to
the time we were dating, and I was telling Tyler.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
I was like, do you remember when we were dating?
Speaker 4 (05:21):
And I used to always tell him I'm gonna have
four kids by the time I'm thirty. So maybe i'm
the prophet because I used to.
Speaker 5 (05:28):
I don't want any kids, and yeah, here we are.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
So did we ever talk about how many kids we
wanted before we got married.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
I'm not quite sure that we did. I can't remember
that far.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
If you would have told me you wanted four kids,
I might would have been like, Pisa, No, didn't scare
me away. Yeah, okay, that's true love right there. Well, actually,
there was a girl that that I was friends with
in high school. We we kind of liked each other
a little bit, and she made a comment that she
wanted lots of kids. And I ran into her at
a reunion one time and she had I'm like, she
(06:04):
had a lot of kids, six or seven, but it
was like she was a kid and she wanted a
lot of kids and her and her husband's sweet couple,
good family. But uh, three three was there was enough
for us? Yeah, So Brittany, tell us this, uh is
you guys are prepping get ready for this child? What
does that look like?
Speaker 3 (06:22):
You may be really honest, we haven't done anything.
Speaker 2 (06:25):
Okay, now that is straight up honest.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
We're really close.
Speaker 3 (06:29):
Okay, yeah, we are close.
Speaker 4 (06:31):
But there's a great difference between the time you have
your first kid and you have the nursery running. The
bags are packed at like thirty weeks at the latest,
you know, all this kind of stuff, And I'm like,
we are thirty three weeks and my mom bought us
a box of diapers.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
And what did you think You're just gonna wrap the
child in paper towels?
Speaker 1 (06:49):
No?
Speaker 4 (06:49):
No, no, I mean we'll get some like we have like
a couple of Gingerstra outfits, but we'll.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
Stop at Walgreens on the.
Speaker 4 (06:56):
Basically doing a pickup order on the way, like some
clothes and some more diapers and stuff. But as far
as like the material things go, we really haven't done
much because we're just realizing, like, as long as you
have diapers, wipes, and a couple of clothes, we have
a bastnet like you're good.
Speaker 6 (07:13):
Yeah, you're good, which was kind of the mindset with
the last one. But we were probably a little bit
more prepared, prepared yea than than we are now. Like yeah,
now we're just like, okay, one, where is this kid
gonna go? You know, we only have three bedrooms in
our house, and the youngest is in one, the two
older ones are in one, and we're like, well, this
(07:33):
one could just go in the closet over there, Like.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
Yeah, yeah, Well what you could do is you could
build like like instead of bunk beds, that can be
like trips like that one for Ella and for the baby,
like cribs.
Speaker 5 (07:45):
That actually sounds like a great idea. We should we
should pat that.
Speaker 4 (07:48):
As far as like in our household, the preparations with
like our family, it's just I feel like the it's
just like talking to the kids. I mean, they just
did this with Ella, so they're very familiar with it.
They're very they're very very excited, but I don't.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
We really haven't done anything.
Speaker 5 (08:05):
We haven't done anything at all.
Speaker 6 (08:07):
Well, I'm honestly looking forward to the vacation we're going
to get at the hospital because that's what we have
that many kids.
Speaker 5 (08:12):
That's what you like.
Speaker 2 (08:13):
Room service.
Speaker 5 (08:15):
It is you're just hanging out. You know.
Speaker 4 (08:17):
It's like the most all the most expensive, all inclusive
we've ever been to.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
I think I think the question should be for us,
are we prepared for them to have another baby? Because
we're going to be helping out with the other children
while they go on their vacation to the hospital.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
So what you're saying is I should rest up in
preparation for their So I.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
Think we need to have some activities planned for these
older grand babies.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
Yeah, we can do that, but they're going away to
a lush resort and they get the souvenir of a lifetime.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
For our lifetime.
Speaker 6 (08:51):
Yes, it's like the souvenir T shirt that you just
keep forever. Different, very very different.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
My parents went to Women's and Children's hospital. All I
got was a stink T shirt and a baby. Well,
it's exciting. I know that whenever you're prepping getting ready
for a new baby. I got to say that this
is that you're right vastly different because I remember when Olivia,
you know, we're prepping for her, I'm talking like designer stroller,
getting everything ready, and by the fourth child, you're just
(09:21):
like they picked that bottle up off the ground over
there and feed it to them.
Speaker 4 (09:25):
Yeah. Yeah, a lot changes from one to four. You
just realized like everything that's not actually necessary.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
Yeah. So we have been talking a lot about how
people do the Instagram stuff where they'll go on and
post the perfect picture of the house, the kids, the family,
all that type of stuff, But behind the scenes and
behind the filters, you get to really get a picture
what real life looks like. You always see the perfect
you don't really get to see the real life. Are
(09:52):
there any of those pictures like where it's absolutely perfect,
because I'd imagine four kids, it's got to get a
little crazy up in y'all's house.
Speaker 6 (10:00):
Uh do we even have a perfect picture? Probably the
first thing? No, Yeah, I don't know. Every picture has
the background story to it. Like I love the iPhone
Live feature because when you hold the picture down and
it'll show you what was actually happening for the few
seconds around it and typically someone's screaming.
Speaker 5 (10:20):
Uh the kids never never me. I never screamed.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
How many times do you get on the phone with you.
I'm like, I hear the kids screaming in the background, like,
all right, I'll talk to you.
Speaker 5 (10:29):
Very single time. Yeah. Yeah, it's just it's you know,
it's just we embraced the chaos.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
It's a season you're in. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (10:36):
Yeah, And I think people people know that and people
get it, like, especially other families with young kids.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
It's like you can tell you're in the same.
Speaker 4 (10:44):
Seasons me because they like give you the look of
like it's okay, just let them go.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
And I'm like, well, and it's okay that your house
isn't spotless like the pictures on Instagram. I always say, hey,
my house looks lived in. I mean, we live here
and there's activity that goes on.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
So well. I know whenever we were raising you and
your brothers that it was like going on a vacation
every day to get up and go to work because
it was kind of, you know, for sure, active and crazy.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
Wait a minute, I was a stay at home mom.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
Yeah, you go to work and I'm like I'm leaving
to go to the on my vacation, Yeah, because to
get away from the craziness.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
But no, I thoroughly enjoyed being a stay at home
mom and being able to take care of my babies
even though you were escaping.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
Well, it wasn't just that I was having a work
approximate one hundred and twenty hours a week to allow
everybody have that lifestyle. Yeah. Yeah, So now Brittany you are,
you're stay at home mom. I am how's that working
out for you?
Speaker 3 (11:43):
It is awesome. It is like dream comes true.
Speaker 4 (11:47):
I don't know how to feel bad because I'm like,
I know how hard he works, but it is it's
something that we fought for, I guess for like for
four years while we were in that waiting season of
trying to make it happen. But when I tell you,
the days are very long, and there is days running
to break and that's okay, but I wouldn't turn it
(12:08):
for the world.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
You're not just laying on the couch all day long
and eating bomb bonds.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
That's what accuse me.
Speaker 5 (12:15):
I was like, there's no way.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
It was a joke.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
Jack, He said, what are you doing just sitting on
the couch watching Oprah eating bond Bonds.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
Because I would have vacation.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
Joe this you know, pile of laundry, you know, on
the couch, and he would fuss out and I would say,
I finally told him that is not the same pile
of laundry. I've already folded that this is a different
pile of laundry that I have not gotten to.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
Now, all the mamas that are.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
Watching Bond Bonds, I've never even eaten.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
I actually.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
I thought, you there you go. All the moms who
are listening to this, watching this now hate me so well. Look,
I know for us having her the place where she
was able to be a stay at home mom was awesome.
And so there's just so much you get that time
with the kiddo's and it's just so precious. So I'm
excited that you get to do that you too.
Speaker 4 (13:14):
It is it is not anything that I take for granted.
I mean, it's like a I know, it's a big privilege,
and like I said, I don't take it for granted.
Speaker 3 (13:23):
It is.
Speaker 4 (13:24):
It is like one of the best things I've ever
done and one of the hardest things.
Speaker 2 (13:27):
About recently, you have become a baker. You have started
and brought some cookies. I want to throw you under
the bus. I want to be thrown you under the
bus here I've been promised sour dough bread and it
does not happen.
Speaker 3 (13:40):
It's proofing right now, it's proof act.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
But she also provides some very delicious chocolate chip cookies.
And what was the other sticker doodles Christmas?
Speaker 6 (13:53):
The Royal icingies.
Speaker 2 (13:56):
I'm not as big into the chocolate chip cookies. They
were okay, hang on, it needs to be known that
I'm not a huge fan of stuff that's super sweet,
like you love chocolate chip cookies. They're not my favorite.
The snickerdoodles, though, goodness gracious alive.
Speaker 6 (14:15):
Your cookies are terrible, but that one cookie you make
is really good.
Speaker 2 (14:18):
It's kind of like this, if you go to a
cookie store and you have to pick out cookies, you're
gonna pick your favorite. So there's two kinds of cookies
that are my favorite, the snickerdoodles or oatmeal raisin cookies.
Speaker 4 (14:31):
You will never making oatmeal raisin in my kitchen.
Speaker 2 (14:34):
Get out of my house, right.
Speaker 3 (14:36):
Never.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
That is, you won't learn to make them just for me.
No goodness gracious coming out.
Speaker 4 (14:47):
But I am learning, hopefully, the next month, maybe right
before the baby comes to make comed ice cream.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
Oh, I wonder what a cookie, what a chocolate chip
cookie would look like. If you had the dough and
you just didn't put the chocolate chips in.
Speaker 3 (15:00):
It, it would just be like sugar, just.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
Be cookie, not chocolate cookie. The reason why I'm saying
that is because the chocolate chips whenever I bite in them,
they're so sweet.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
We are all looking at you like you're weird. I'm
just saying I'm not weird.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
I'm a thinker.
Speaker 5 (15:14):
Is chocolate chip cookies but oatmeal raising.
Speaker 2 (15:18):
They're delicious.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Chocolate chip cookies, chocolate.
Speaker 5 (15:22):
That's a terrible time.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
Everybody's listening to this and they're like, this is the
dumbest episode. They're talking about cookies, all right, So let's
get into some real good stuff here, Mama. You want
to jump in that direction, Well.
Speaker 1 (15:34):
I just I want to kind of talk about, like,
are there any certain like life lessons as you're preparing
for your fourth child? Are there any like life lessons
that maybe you are specifically wanting to pass down to
your kids as you're as you're at home with them as.
Speaker 4 (15:50):
Your Yeah, so me as a stay at home mom,
and Tyler is out working providing, making all the money
to pay the bills and stuff for me to have
the kids at home. They don't see the full sacrifice
of everything that's happening. What they see is Dad is
gone and you're always here. So for me being home
(16:10):
with the kids pretty much twenty four to seven, it
is something that's very important to me and to you too.
But I always make kids make sure our kids honor
and respect what Tyler is doing, and that is something
I want them to carry on forever.
Speaker 3 (16:24):
You know, if they ever make.
Speaker 4 (16:25):
Like a comment like well Dad, Dad's always gone or
why is Dad not here, I quickly like nip it
in the button. I'm like, listen, Dad has gone right
now because Dad is helping us provide for you to
do dance and Hudson for you to do t ball.
And I want them to understand and respect him and
what he's doing, but then honor like how he's providing
for our household, because that is very important. And then
(16:46):
I'm hoping in return of that they will honor and
respect what he's doing because I've i realized I'm like
the thermostat in our household. And if they see me
having a negative attitude or talking negative.
Speaker 3 (16:58):
They're going to replicate that.
Speaker 4 (16:59):
And I'm like, no, we're gonna hunt in respect him
as your dad and then.
Speaker 3 (17:04):
You as my husband and the leader of our household.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
Get you want to add anything you want to add
to that.
Speaker 5 (17:13):
Cool?
Speaker 3 (17:13):
No.
Speaker 6 (17:15):
I for me, it's a little different because I'm not
I'm not there as much. So like a lot of times,
like I feel like I'm coming in, it's just immediately
put on the hat of like.
Speaker 5 (17:27):
The disciplinarian, Like I just got to, like, you know,
take care of these kids right now.
Speaker 6 (17:32):
But I think like the biggest thing for me, just
me right now is just teaching them to be kind
and teaching them to be compassionate. Like Hudson is all
into the superhero movies right now, and so I let
them watch the uh, you know, the.
Speaker 5 (17:49):
More appropriate superhero movies.
Speaker 6 (17:51):
You know, we'll watch the scenes and stuff like he
loves Captain America and just kind of taking the life
lessons from those movies about being compassionate for other people,
Like that's what you know a hero is, like you know,
and then then they're just also brother and sister and
they fight all the time, So make sure he doesn't
hulk smash his sister, but like just making you know,
(18:15):
teaching them to be kind. It's a very difficult thing
to do, but it's something that you know, it's just
heavy on my heart, like just in the season that
we're in, because they do squabble all the time, and
that's not going to go away because they're siblings, but
just teaching them to be compassionate and kind, and you know,
we go back to Proverbs and friends is loving at
all times.
Speaker 5 (18:35):
That's what we tell them all the time.
Speaker 6 (18:36):
And you know, we're just trying to raise them to
be loving, compassionate, kind towards each other.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
You know.
Speaker 5 (18:42):
So one of the things that I've been learning in
this season.
Speaker 6 (18:45):
You know, I've gone through a lot of career transition
over the last you know year and then more recently
in the last few months, and I think for me,
like one of the biggest things that I'm learning is
just where to place my time.
Speaker 5 (18:58):
I think it's in the.
Speaker 6 (19:00):
Very very busy seasons of life, it's real easy to
just kind of get caught up in the cycle and
you you know, you're moving so fast. It's kind of
like a ceiling fan where it's like you can't even
see where where you're going or how it's moving, but
the second you put your hand up there, it's going
to hit you real hard.
Speaker 5 (19:18):
I did that as a kid. That's why I use
it as an example. But I know I replaced the.
Speaker 6 (19:24):
But I think, like for me, it's just you know,
I want the I value my time with Brittany and
with the kids and you know, with my family, And
it's just for me, it's learning where to value in
place that the very sacred time that we have each
and every day. And so it's like, I know, I
work a lot to provide for the family outside of
(19:46):
what I'm doing at the church as well, and that
just comes with learning.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
How to balance it.
Speaker 5 (19:51):
And it's it's it's a constant balancing act.
Speaker 2 (19:54):
You know well, and all of our listeners may not
know this, but because we've talked about not on this episode,
but but when we had you guys before that you
work for us at the church. You're our worship pastor.
You were the worship pastor slash student pastor. But but
you're no longer with a student pastor. You're now just
strictly the worship pastor. And over the last year you
(20:15):
went more on a part time basis. Now you're back
at the church full time. And I think that one
of the things that you, you know, you're like dad.
For her to be a stay at home mom, I
have to have a side hustle. And so that's why
we say things like this episode is sponsored by Pelican
Foundations for all your concrete needs. But the point is
you're you're super busy.
Speaker 5 (20:34):
There's just a lot going on.
Speaker 6 (20:35):
Yeah, because it's like, you know, you have like ministry
is already busy in general, and it you know, because
you're dealing with people constantly, and we you know, did ministry.
We do ministry together now, but especially when we were
doing student ministry, it was just like, man, what is
not happening this week? Was almost kind of the question
we would ask. But ministry is already busy, and then
(20:55):
life is busy and we have so many children. But
then also you tackle on, I have more responsibility on
top of that, and you know, I just for me,
it's just learning where to where to place that time,
and it's you know, hey, sometimes it's Britney fossing at
me for being on my phone when we're sitting at
the dinner table because I'm trying to, like, you know, like, hey,
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I got to get this lined up for tomorrow, but
just it can wait, you know, at the end of
the day, like you know, most anything can wait. But
I'm you know, just learning how to place my time
where it needs to go.
Speaker 2 (21:27):
I love it. I love it.
Speaker 3 (21:29):
Well.
Speaker 1 (21:29):
I just want to say how very proud you know
that we are of y'all, because I think y'all are
doing a great job. And I know this is going
to be an interesting new season adding adding another child
into the mix, but I know y'all can do it.
It's going to be it's going to be good.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
Well. One of the things that's a blessing to me,
and I know it is to you as well, is
to see how close knit your family is. I remember,
I think it was your dad made a comment about
our family because your family growing up, you and your
mom and sister. But he was a he was a workaholic, yes,
and so he saw the way that we did family
and he made that comment, you know, very close knit family,
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and I'm like, that's stuck with me, and so I
see that in y'all and it really blesses my heart.
So I echo what mom is saying, we're very proud
of y'all. Love y'all, and you're doing a good job.
Keep it up, Keep after this baby, keep it up,
keep cavin babies six, remember that I must keep all right. So,
(22:29):
last thing, what is some encouragement that you would have
for any young families who might be listening. Young moms,
young dads, you know, what are your what are your thoughts?
Just something to encourage.
Speaker 4 (22:39):
Them, so to go off of what you were just
saying about having a close knit family. The dynamic of
my household growing up was my parents were always in
the workplace. So my encouragement for young families, and this
is just something that is very very heavy on my
heart for my family is to have a close knit family.
I do stay home with my so that's it is
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already different than how I was raised. But that is
something that I tell Tyler I will fight for till
the end of time. Like we will sit down and
have family dinner, we will have family nights. We set
up movie nights for our kids in our living room,
like we blow up an air mattress or just get
the pillows out or whatever. But that is I think
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one of the biggest encouragements I can give is to
prioritize your family time because it is so important. And
I mean, life now is the hustle and bustle.
Speaker 3 (23:30):
It's all about.
Speaker 4 (23:30):
Making the money in. And I know those things are necessary,
but there should be nothing that comes before prioritizing your
family time. So even if he does have a quote
to send out, or we have things that need to
get done, like it's bad night and it's just crazy,
we can take thirty minutes or even twenty minutes whatever
and sit down. We're gonna have family time. We're gonna
eat dinner together. No phones, Like, let's just talk to
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our kids and have conversations and you and I can talk.
You know, everything right now is screens and craziness.
Speaker 2 (24:01):
And I think, what's what's kind of you know, cool
is you see the different dynamics. We we had a
household where she was a stay at home mom, but
there was a lot of sacrifice. We did not get
to do a lot of the things maybe other families
were doing because we didn't have any money.
Speaker 1 (24:16):
It didn't take a lot of alabyrant vacations and things
like that either.
Speaker 2 (24:19):
And you know, I know your parents and I know
that your family is close, but your mom and dad
were busy in the workplace and basically just living the
life that almost probably most of our listeners and every
other American is doing.
Speaker 5 (24:32):
That's what we did for years before. I mean she's
only been saying home for like what a year and
a half now.
Speaker 2 (24:37):
Yeah, and you just get the place where you're like,
you know what, we're going to sacrifice. We're going to
do this so that we can have and I talk
about that close knit family to where we're together all
the time.
Speaker 4 (24:47):
Yeah, Well, it was just that was what was that
was a priority for us, is that he wanted me
to stay home, and I wanted to stay home and
raise our kids. So for us, it came down to
what's going to be best for our family. What sacrifices
will we sacrifice to make this happen. But my encouragement,
even if you're not in the place where you can
make those sacrifices financially yet, my encouragement would still be
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prioritize your family. I know, eight hour work days, twelve
hour work days, they are long, and then you have
kids on top of that and homework and sports and
everything else.
Speaker 3 (25:19):
But even if it's like you're at the.
Speaker 4 (25:21):
Ballpark for t ball practice or soccer practice, go through
the drive through, get some food, open up your trunk,
and sit there and have family time before or after practice.
You know. I think whatever season you're in, you can
find the time to prioritize sitting down and just having
that family time. Make it intentional.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
Yes, very important.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
And I think it kind of comes down to if
you worked a ten hour day and you're stressed out,
you're an eight year old kid. They don't know that.
They don't care about that. They just want to see
mom or dad, right, and they just want to spend
time with mom or dad.
Speaker 4 (25:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:54):
So, and you can never go wrong by, you know,
being intentional to make that family time, because when you
get to our stage in life, you realize just how
fast time goes by. They grow so quickly, and in
that moment, in that season, like where you're at right now,
you may think, well, you know, I've got all the
time in the world. They're little, but it changes so quickly.
Speaker 2 (26:17):
Yeah you know. Yeah, well, and I think it comes
down to this, You realize you gots to pay the bills,
but you got to prioritize your family time.
Speaker 3 (26:26):
Yeah. I mean, that's just I think that's the thing.
Speaker 4 (26:29):
It's every family has got to sit down and figure
out what's important to them because every family is different.
But for us, it is having I mean we're having
family dinner.
Speaker 3 (26:40):
We're sitting down and we're eating.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
Well. Even as a stay at home mom, you can
get to where, you know, as a family, you could
get to a place where you don't really spend a
lot of quality time together just because you start going
through the routines of life. And so I think it's
you kind of hit the nail on the head to
prioritize make sure that we're going to have good quality
family time together.
Speaker 3 (27:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (27:00):
Yeah, you can make it happen wherever you're at, b
part anywhere.
Speaker 6 (27:06):
Yeah, I mean, I guess going off of that, you know,
we we actually just started a young adults ministry at
the church and we're helping out with that. So I've
actually gotten to spend a lot of time with you know,
ones that are just now getting married and they're you know,
all excited, you know, young family stuff like that. Probably
the best encouragement that I can give anybody that is
(27:29):
maybe like a young family, just just just do it
if you want kids. Just have kids if you you know,
want to, you know, take the job you don't feel
qualified for. Figured it out, be a profession. Just go
do it, Like, just stop worrying about like, well, I
don't know if I'm gonna be able to afford.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
All these kids.
Speaker 6 (27:46):
I asked all the same questions. I'm still breathing, like
we you know, like it's it's nothing that isn't doable.
And I think at the end of it, like you know,
kind of coming back to the root of it, it's
just you know, honoring God and all things, glorifying God
and all things, and that gives you the strength to
carry through the things that you feel like you can't
do right now. So, yeah, have more kids than you
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feel like you need to have, you know, buy the house.
Speaker 5 (28:11):
Do the things like, just do it, Just do.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
It, Okay, all right, all right, anything you want to add.
Speaker 1 (28:18):
I think this is a wonderful conversation that we're having today,
and I appreciate you guys coming back to be our
guest again.
Speaker 2 (28:25):
All right, So it's been a great episode today and
it's been a lot of fun. Look, we cut up
a little bit. Me and Brittany. We love to We
love to cut up. So Brittany, I'm looking forward to
those oatmeal raisin cookies and you.
Speaker 4 (28:38):
Don't make for me, Tyler won't allow that in our
own don't count on that.
Speaker 2 (28:44):
So we love you guys. We're proud of y'all. Thank
y'all for joining us today.
Speaker 6 (28:47):
But hey, look, before we end, I just wanted to
say this. You know, I appreciate that y'all are proud
of us and proud of me and what we're doing.
But you know, I really do have to say, like,
it's kudos to y'all. You know, y'all did a great
job raising me, Bryce and Reese, and you know, I
think me, Me and you know, brothers, we talk about
it like all the time, how we just really enjoyed
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the way that we grew up. I mean we really do,
and not only just from the way we grew up,
but just from the principles and the you know, raising
us to know God, raising us to walk in the
things of the Lord. And so I just, you know,
I just wanted to say thank y'all and just for
you know, just for everything.
Speaker 2 (29:25):
You know.
Speaker 5 (29:26):
I don't I don't say that lightly, so, but thank y'all.
Speaker 4 (29:31):
Yeah, And if I can add to that. I see
a lot of the things that you instilled in Tyler that.
Speaker 3 (29:36):
He's now instilling in our children.
Speaker 4 (29:38):
And there's so many times where he's like, oh, my
dad taught me to do this, or my dad taught
me to do this, or my mom made this sacrifice
so that we could do this, and it is something
that we look up to and we honor. And those
are things that you know, I was telling you, like
how I want to make sure that our kids honor
and respect what he's doing. But it's because we watch
you consistently honor and respect your husband, you know. And
so there is so many things that I I can
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see that you instilled in him that now we're putting
in our children. So you guys are phenomenal examples took
up to well.
Speaker 2 (30:07):
Thank you. And I think as parents a lot of
times you wonder when you're poor into your kids, like, man,
I hope that this is taking root in their hard
I hope that they're learning. I hope we're not screwing
them up.
Speaker 1 (30:17):
I know that I know that we are. We're seeing
a lot of seeds that we've sown over the years.
You know, there's a harvest yep, absolutely so we see
that in y'all.
Speaker 2 (30:27):
Well, Thank y'all, We're proud of y'all, and thank y'all
for being with us today.
Speaker 3 (30:30):
Thank you for having me.
Speaker 2 (30:31):
And all of our listeners. I hope that you guys
have enjoyed this episode today. Once again, please like, subscribe,
share this, if you leave us a comment, give us
a review, and we cannot wait to be with you
guys again in the next episode. As always, I'm Jay
and I'm Stacy and this is love like crazy.
Hey everyone, and welcome to the Love Like Crazy Podcast.
We're your hosts, Jay and Stacy Colemen, and we have
a very exciting episode for you today.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Hold on, I know that you're excited about our guests
that are with us today.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
I am.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Before you introduce them, I want to take just a
quick moment, I want to thank all of our listeners
for you guys helping us so much to build this podcast.
If you're enjoying this, like, subscribe, share, leave a comment,
give us a review. And once again I say this,
I think every episode we love to hear your ideas
as to what you would like to see us do
with different episodes as far as ideas stuff like that.
(00:54):
So thank you guys, and I just like you, I'm
fired up about today's episode. It's going to be absolutely well.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
We have some returning guests today. Our son and daughter
in law, Tyler and Brittany, are joining us again today
and so we have you know, had a discussion with
them before about family and I believe it was episode
ten if you want to go back and listen to that,
and today we're going to like just talk a little
bit more and about their lives and stuff.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Now, if you watched that episode. There's one particular part
of that episode that I made a proclamation. I'm not
going to say I'm a prophet. I'm not going to
say that. You know, maybe I am. Maybe the Lord
has gifted me in this area, but I'm not going
to say that. But maybe, well you were.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
You were kind of foretelling a little bit.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Maybe, so check in fact check this out from the
previous episode. And the big news you're sharing with everybody
on the podcast today is you're expecting again.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Stop no, pat, So let's walk come back, Tyler and Brittany.
Speaker 3 (02:01):
It is so good to be back, all three of us.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
All right, So, if you watched the previous episode that
we did with you guys before, I actually made a
statement on there where I was like, hey, is there
something you want to share with everybody? And y'all were like,
what are you talking about? No, you didn't. You had
no idea then that you were pregnant.
Speaker 4 (02:23):
And let it be known, we were not pregnant when
we did that episode.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
We were not pregnant.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Yeah, there were people because that episode released like right
about the time that y'all got let the word out
that's you. But you did not know at that time,
and I just called it. I'm called it, so thank you,
You're welcome. So this is going to be baby number four,
and you do not know what if this child's a
boy or girl.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
I am surprised.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
And now remember that you know I saw it and
I'm speaking this as well. I keep saying that this
is going to be twin boys.
Speaker 3 (02:57):
Now your profit.
Speaker 5 (03:00):
We know it's only one. We just don't know what
the gender is.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Well, I know y'all have not had an ultrasound as
far as like where y'all saw the gender. But I
believe that those babies. Notice I said that they're in
the womb and they're lined up where you can only
see one and their heartbeats are synchronized, and so whenever
you give birth on April the twenty seventh, seven, yeah,
(03:25):
second was also on the Hudson was born on my birthday.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
Now only get one grandchild born on your birthday.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
A lot easier to just to remember all and we.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
Could have one big party for everybody on the same day.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Absolutely so well, but regardless, all joking aside, it's exciting.
I know that Tyder wants the shock war off. You
were probably excited.
Speaker 6 (03:47):
Yeah, yeah, No, I made the joke earlier that once
the chak war off at the end of January, then
I started to get excited.
Speaker 5 (03:53):
But I mean it really.
Speaker 6 (03:55):
We were both shocked and then we quickly turned into
excitement and we're just like, yeah, let's do this thing.
Speaker 5 (04:01):
One more. What's what's one more?
Speaker 2 (04:03):
What's one more?
Speaker 6 (04:04):
Okay, we're not going to say that after this, but like, yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
It's just one more, you know, mouth to feed, one
more college education, one more. I'm sorry, I didn't mean that.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
Yeah, I don't like, don't bring it down. Well, yes,
it's your fourth child for you guys, but it's our
fifth grandchild because from the time that the last episode aired,
your brother had his first baby. So and she's about
five months old.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Now it's active. It's active in the Coleman House.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Yeah, so the cousins are going to be really close together.
It's be great.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
And when y'all we do a family and night and
y'all bring all the kiddos over, it gets it gets
pretty pretty gray gray up in here.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
Yeah, I love it can get a little loud.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
I'm just like, hey, y'all have all the babies you want.
I personally, this is just me I think you ought
to go for an even dozen, not a dozen, half
half a dozen, half dozens.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
Good, we'll probably end up with a dozen.
Speaker 5 (04:54):
Grand fur.
Speaker 6 (04:58):
We were good at three and then uh, four happened,
So we're good at four.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
You know what, after three, it's just like whatever. So
I say, six is the number? No, remember, I remember
I speak these.
Speaker 3 (05:11):
You know four is good.
Speaker 4 (05:13):
We were recalling, like thinking back after marriage conference to
the time we were dating, and I was telling Tyler.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
I was like, do you remember when we were dating?
Speaker 4 (05:21):
And I used to always tell him I'm gonna have
four kids by the time I'm thirty. So maybe i'm
the prophet because I used to.
Speaker 5 (05:28):
I don't want any kids, and yeah, here we are.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
So did we ever talk about how many kids we
wanted before we got married.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
I'm not quite sure that we did. I can't remember
that far.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
If you would have told me you wanted four kids,
I might would have been like, Pisa, No, didn't scare
me away. Yeah, okay, that's true love right there. Well, actually,
there was a girl that that I was friends with
in high school. We we kind of liked each other
a little bit, and she made a comment that she
wanted lots of kids. And I ran into her at
a reunion one time and she had I'm like, she
(06:04):
had a lot of kids, six or seven, but it
was like she was a kid and she wanted a
lot of kids and her and her husband's sweet couple,
good family. But uh, three three was there was enough
for us? Yeah, So Brittany, tell us this, uh is
you guys are prepping get ready for this child? What
does that look like?
Speaker 3 (06:22):
You may be really honest, we haven't done anything.
Speaker 2 (06:25):
Okay, now that is straight up honest.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
We're really close.
Speaker 3 (06:29):
Okay, yeah, we are close.
Speaker 4 (06:31):
But there's a great difference between the time you have
your first kid and you have the nursery running. The
bags are packed at like thirty weeks at the latest,
you know, all this kind of stuff, And I'm like,
we are thirty three weeks and my mom bought us
a box of diapers.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
And what did you think You're just gonna wrap the
child in paper towels?
Speaker 1 (06:49):
No?
Speaker 4 (06:49):
No, no, I mean we'll get some like we have like
a couple of Gingerstra outfits, but we'll.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
Stop at Walgreens on the.
Speaker 4 (06:56):
Basically doing a pickup order on the way, like some
clothes and some more diapers and stuff. But as far
as like the material things go, we really haven't done
much because we're just realizing, like, as long as you
have diapers, wipes, and a couple of clothes, we have
a bastnet like you're good.
Speaker 6 (07:13):
Yeah, you're good, which was kind of the mindset with
the last one. But we were probably a little bit
more prepared, prepared yea than than we are now. Like yeah,
now we're just like, okay, one, where is this kid
gonna go? You know, we only have three bedrooms in
our house, and the youngest is in one, the two
older ones are in one, and we're like, well, this
(07:33):
one could just go in the closet over there, Like.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
Yeah, yeah, Well what you could do is you could
build like like instead of bunk beds, that can be
like trips like that one for Ella and for the baby,
like cribs.
Speaker 5 (07:45):
That actually sounds like a great idea. We should we
should pat that.
Speaker 4 (07:48):
As far as like in our household, the preparations with
like our family, it's just I feel like the it's
just like talking to the kids. I mean, they just
did this with Ella, so they're very familiar with it.
They're very they're very very excited, but I don't.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
We really haven't done anything.
Speaker 5 (08:05):
We haven't done anything at all.
Speaker 6 (08:07):
Well, I'm honestly looking forward to the vacation we're going
to get at the hospital because that's what we have
that many kids.
Speaker 5 (08:12):
That's what you like.
Speaker 2 (08:13):
Room service.
Speaker 5 (08:15):
It is you're just hanging out. You know.
Speaker 4 (08:17):
It's like the most all the most expensive, all inclusive
we've ever been to.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
I think I think the question should be for us,
are we prepared for them to have another baby? Because
we're going to be helping out with the other children
while they go on their vacation to the hospital.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
So what you're saying is I should rest up in
preparation for their So I.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
Think we need to have some activities planned for these
older grand babies.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
Yeah, we can do that, but they're going away to
a lush resort and they get the souvenir of a lifetime.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
For our lifetime.
Speaker 6 (08:51):
Yes, it's like the souvenir T shirt that you just
keep forever. Different, very very different.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
My parents went to Women's and Children's hospital. All I
got was a stink T shirt and a baby. Well,
it's exciting. I know that whenever you're prepping getting ready
for a new baby. I got to say that this
is that you're right vastly different because I remember when Olivia,
you know, we're prepping for her, I'm talking like designer stroller,
getting everything ready, and by the fourth child, you're just
(09:21):
like they picked that bottle up off the ground over
there and feed it to them.
Speaker 4 (09:25):
Yeah. Yeah, a lot changes from one to four. You
just realized like everything that's not actually necessary.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
Yeah. So we have been talking a lot about how
people do the Instagram stuff where they'll go on and
post the perfect picture of the house, the kids, the family,
all that type of stuff, But behind the scenes and
behind the filters, you get to really get a picture
what real life looks like. You always see the perfect
you don't really get to see the real life. Are
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there any of those pictures like where it's absolutely perfect,
because I'd imagine four kids, it's got to get a
little crazy up in y'all's house.
Speaker 6 (10:00):
Uh do we even have a perfect picture? Probably the
first thing? No, Yeah, I don't know. Every picture has
the background story to it. Like I love the iPhone
Live feature because when you hold the picture down and
it'll show you what was actually happening for the few
seconds around it and typically someone's screaming.
Speaker 5 (10:20):
Uh the kids never never me. I never screamed.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
How many times do you get on the phone with you.
I'm like, I hear the kids screaming in the background, like,
all right, I'll talk to you.
Speaker 5 (10:29):
Very single time. Yeah. Yeah, it's just it's you know,
it's just we embraced the chaos.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
It's a season you're in. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (10:36):
Yeah, And I think people people know that and people
get it, like, especially other families with young kids.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
It's like you can tell you're in the same.
Speaker 4 (10:44):
Seasons me because they like give you the look of
like it's okay, just let them go.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
And I'm like, well, and it's okay that your house
isn't spotless like the pictures on Instagram. I always say, hey,
my house looks lived in. I mean, we live here
and there's activity that goes on.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
So well. I know whenever we were raising you and
your brothers that it was like going on a vacation
every day to get up and go to work because
it was kind of, you know, for sure, active and crazy.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
Wait a minute, I was a stay at home mom.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
Yeah, you go to work and I'm like I'm leaving
to go to the on my vacation, Yeah, because to
get away from the craziness.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
But no, I thoroughly enjoyed being a stay at home
mom and being able to take care of my babies
even though you were escaping.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
Well, it wasn't just that I was having a work
approximate one hundred and twenty hours a week to allow
everybody have that lifestyle. Yeah. Yeah, So now Brittany you are,
you're stay at home mom. I am how's that working
out for you?
Speaker 3 (11:43):
It is awesome. It is like dream comes true.
Speaker 4 (11:47):
I don't know how to feel bad because I'm like,
I know how hard he works, but it is it's
something that we fought for, I guess for like for
four years while we were in that waiting season of
trying to make it happen. But when I tell you,
the days are very long, and there is days running
to break and that's okay, but I wouldn't turn it
(12:08):
for the world.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
You're not just laying on the couch all day long
and eating bomb bonds.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
That's what accuse me.
Speaker 5 (12:15):
I was like, there's no way.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
It was a joke.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
Jack, He said, what are you doing just sitting on
the couch watching Oprah eating bond Bonds.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
Because I would have vacation.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
Joe this you know, pile of laundry, you know, on
the couch, and he would fuss out and I would say,
I finally told him that is not the same pile
of laundry. I've already folded that this is a different
pile of laundry that I have not gotten to.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
Now, all the mamas that are.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
Watching Bond Bonds, I've never even eaten.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
I actually.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
I thought, you there you go. All the moms who
are listening to this, watching this now hate me so well. Look,
I know for us having her the place where she
was able to be a stay at home mom was awesome.
And so there's just so much you get that time
with the kiddo's and it's just so precious. So I'm
excited that you get to do that you too.
Speaker 4 (13:14):
It is it is not anything that I take for granted.
I mean, it's like a I know, it's a big privilege,
and like I said, I don't take it for granted.
Speaker 3 (13:23):
It is.
Speaker 4 (13:24):
It is like one of the best things I've ever
done and one of the hardest things.
Speaker 2 (13:27):
About recently, you have become a baker. You have started
and brought some cookies. I want to throw you under
the bus. I want to be thrown you under the
bus here I've been promised sour dough bread and it
does not happen.
Speaker 3 (13:40):
It's proofing right now, it's proof act.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
But she also provides some very delicious chocolate chip cookies.
And what was the other sticker doodles Christmas?
Speaker 6 (13:53):
The Royal icingies.
Speaker 2 (13:56):
I'm not as big into the chocolate chip cookies. They
were okay, hang on, it needs to be known that
I'm not a huge fan of stuff that's super sweet,
like you love chocolate chip cookies. They're not my favorite.
The snickerdoodles, though, goodness gracious alive.
Speaker 6 (14:15):
Your cookies are terrible, but that one cookie you make
is really good.
Speaker 2 (14:18):
It's kind of like this, if you go to a
cookie store and you have to pick out cookies, you're
gonna pick your favorite. So there's two kinds of cookies
that are my favorite, the snickerdoodles or oatmeal raisin cookies.
Speaker 4 (14:31):
You will never making oatmeal raisin in my kitchen.
Speaker 2 (14:34):
Get out of my house, right.
Speaker 3 (14:36):
Never.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
That is, you won't learn to make them just for me.
No goodness gracious coming out.
Speaker 4 (14:47):
But I am learning, hopefully, the next month, maybe right
before the baby comes to make comed ice cream.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
Oh, I wonder what a cookie, what a chocolate chip
cookie would look like. If you had the dough and
you just didn't put the chocolate chips in.
Speaker 3 (15:00):
It, it would just be like sugar, just.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
Be cookie, not chocolate cookie. The reason why I'm saying
that is because the chocolate chips whenever I bite in them,
they're so sweet.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
We are all looking at you like you're weird. I'm
just saying I'm not weird.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
I'm a thinker.
Speaker 5 (15:14):
Is chocolate chip cookies but oatmeal raising.
Speaker 2 (15:18):
They're delicious.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Chocolate chip cookies, chocolate.
Speaker 5 (15:22):
That's a terrible time.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
Everybody's listening to this and they're like, this is the
dumbest episode. They're talking about cookies, all right, So let's
get into some real good stuff here, Mama. You want
to jump in that direction, Well.
Speaker 1 (15:34):
I just I want to kind of talk about, like,
are there any certain like life lessons as you're preparing
for your fourth child? Are there any like life lessons
that maybe you are specifically wanting to pass down to
your kids as you're as you're at home with them as.
Speaker 4 (15:50):
Your Yeah, so me as a stay at home mom,
and Tyler is out working providing, making all the money
to pay the bills and stuff for me to have
the kids at home. They don't see the full sacrifice
of everything that's happening. What they see is Dad is
gone and you're always here. So for me being home
(16:10):
with the kids pretty much twenty four to seven, it
is something that's very important to me and to you too.
But I always make kids make sure our kids honor
and respect what Tyler is doing, and that is something
I want them to carry on forever.
Speaker 3 (16:24):
You know, if they ever make.
Speaker 4 (16:25):
Like a comment like well Dad, Dad's always gone or
why is Dad not here, I quickly like nip it
in the button. I'm like, listen, Dad has gone right
now because Dad is helping us provide for you to
do dance and Hudson for you to do t ball.
And I want them to understand and respect him and
what he's doing, but then honor like how he's providing
for our household, because that is very important. And then
(16:46):
I'm hoping in return of that they will honor and
respect what he's doing because I've i realized I'm like
the thermostat in our household. And if they see me
having a negative attitude or talking negative.
Speaker 3 (16:58):
They're going to replicate that.
Speaker 4 (16:59):
And I'm like, no, we're gonna hunt in respect him
as your dad and then.
Speaker 3 (17:04):
You as my husband and the leader of our household.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
Get you want to add anything you want to add
to that.
Speaker 5 (17:13):
Cool?
Speaker 3 (17:13):
No.
Speaker 6 (17:15):
I for me, it's a little different because I'm not
I'm not there as much. So like a lot of times,
like I feel like I'm coming in, it's just immediately
put on the hat of like.
Speaker 5 (17:27):
The disciplinarian, Like I just got to, like, you know,
take care of these kids right now.
Speaker 6 (17:32):
But I think like the biggest thing for me, just
me right now is just teaching them to be kind
and teaching them to be compassionate. Like Hudson is all
into the superhero movies right now, and so I let
them watch the uh, you know, the.
Speaker 5 (17:49):
More appropriate superhero movies.
Speaker 6 (17:51):
You know, we'll watch the scenes and stuff like he
loves Captain America and just kind of taking the life
lessons from those movies about being compassionate for other people,
Like that's what you know a hero is, like you know,
and then then they're just also brother and sister and
they fight all the time, So make sure he doesn't
hulk smash his sister, but like just making you know,
(18:15):
teaching them to be kind. It's a very difficult thing
to do, but it's something that you know, it's just
heavy on my heart, like just in the season that
we're in, because they do squabble all the time, and
that's not going to go away because they're siblings, but
just teaching them to be compassionate and kind, and you know,
we go back to Proverbs and friends is loving at
all times.
Speaker 5 (18:35):
That's what we tell them all the time.
Speaker 6 (18:36):
And you know, we're just trying to raise them to
be loving, compassionate, kind towards each other.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
You know.
Speaker 5 (18:42):
So one of the things that I've been learning in
this season.
Speaker 6 (18:45):
You know, I've gone through a lot of career transition
over the last you know year and then more recently
in the last few months, and I think for me,
like one of the biggest things that I'm learning is
just where to place my time.
Speaker 5 (18:58):
I think it's in the.
Speaker 6 (19:00):
Very very busy seasons of life, it's real easy to
just kind of get caught up in the cycle and
you you know, you're moving so fast. It's kind of
like a ceiling fan where it's like you can't even
see where where you're going or how it's moving, but
the second you put your hand up there, it's going
to hit you real hard.
Speaker 5 (19:18):
I did that as a kid. That's why I use
it as an example. But I know I replaced the.
Speaker 6 (19:24):
But I think, like for me, it's just you know,
I want the I value my time with Brittany and
with the kids and you know, with my family, And
it's just for me, it's learning where to value in
place that the very sacred time that we have each
and every day. And so it's like, I know, I
work a lot to provide for the family outside of
(19:46):
what I'm doing at the church as well, and that
just comes with learning.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
How to balance it.
Speaker 5 (19:51):
And it's it's it's a constant balancing act.
Speaker 2 (19:54):
You know well, and all of our listeners may not
know this, but because we've talked about not on this episode,
but but when we had you guys before that you
work for us at the church. You're our worship pastor.
You were the worship pastor slash student pastor. But but
you're no longer with a student pastor. You're now just
strictly the worship pastor. And over the last year you
(20:15):
went more on a part time basis. Now you're back
at the church full time. And I think that one
of the things that you, you know, you're like dad.
For her to be a stay at home mom, I
have to have a side hustle. And so that's why
we say things like this episode is sponsored by Pelican
Foundations for all your concrete needs. But the point is
you're you're super busy.
Speaker 5 (20:34):
There's just a lot going on.
Speaker 6 (20:35):
Yeah, because it's like, you know, you have like ministry
is already busy in general, and it you know, because
you're dealing with people constantly, and we you know, did ministry.
We do ministry together now, but especially when we were
doing student ministry, it was just like, man, what is
not happening this week? Was almost kind of the question
we would ask. But ministry is already busy, and then
(20:55):
life is busy and we have so many children. But
then also you tackle on, I have more responsibility on
top of that, and you know, I just for me,
it's just learning where to where to place that time,
and it's you know, hey, sometimes it's Britney fossing at
me for being on my phone when we're sitting at
the dinner table because I'm trying to, like, you know, like, hey,
(21:17):
I got to get this lined up for tomorrow, but
just it can wait, you know, at the end of
the day, like you know, most anything can wait. But
I'm you know, just learning how to place my time
where it needs to go.
Speaker 2 (21:27):
I love it. I love it.
Speaker 3 (21:29):
Well.
Speaker 1 (21:29):
I just want to say how very proud you know
that we are of y'all, because I think y'all are
doing a great job. And I know this is going
to be an interesting new season adding adding another child
into the mix, but I know y'all can do it.
It's going to be it's going to be good.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
Well. One of the things that's a blessing to me,
and I know it is to you as well, is
to see how close knit your family is. I remember,
I think it was your dad made a comment about
our family because your family growing up, you and your
mom and sister. But he was a he was a workaholic, yes,
and so he saw the way that we did family
and he made that comment, you know, very close knit family,
(22:07):
and I'm like, that's stuck with me, and so I
see that in y'all and it really blesses my heart.
So I echo what mom is saying, we're very proud
of y'all. Love y'all, and you're doing a good job.
Keep it up, Keep after this baby, keep it up,
keep cavin babies six, remember that I must keep all right. So,
(22:29):
last thing, what is some encouragement that you would have
for any young families who might be listening. Young moms,
young dads, you know, what are your what are your thoughts?
Just something to encourage.
Speaker 4 (22:39):
Them, so to go off of what you were just
saying about having a close knit family. The dynamic of
my household growing up was my parents were always in
the workplace. So my encouragement for young families, and this
is just something that is very very heavy on my
heart for my family is to have a close knit family.
I do stay home with my so that's it is
(23:01):
already different than how I was raised. But that is
something that I tell Tyler I will fight for till
the end of time. Like we will sit down and
have family dinner, we will have family nights. We set
up movie nights for our kids in our living room,
like we blow up an air mattress or just get
the pillows out or whatever. But that is I think
(23:21):
one of the biggest encouragements I can give is to
prioritize your family time because it is so important. And
I mean, life now is the hustle and bustle.
Speaker 3 (23:30):
It's all about.
Speaker 4 (23:30):
Making the money in. And I know those things are necessary,
but there should be nothing that comes before prioritizing your
family time. So even if he does have a quote
to send out, or we have things that need to
get done, like it's bad night and it's just crazy,
we can take thirty minutes or even twenty minutes whatever
and sit down. We're gonna have family time. We're gonna
eat dinner together. No phones, Like, let's just talk to
(23:53):
our kids and have conversations and you and I can talk.
You know, everything right now is screens and craziness.
Speaker 2 (24:01):
And I think, what's what's kind of you know, cool
is you see the different dynamics. We we had a
household where she was a stay at home mom, but
there was a lot of sacrifice. We did not get
to do a lot of the things maybe other families
were doing because we didn't have any money.
Speaker 1 (24:16):
It didn't take a lot of alabyrant vacations and things
like that either.
Speaker 2 (24:19):
And you know, I know your parents and I know
that your family is close, but your mom and dad
were busy in the workplace and basically just living the
life that almost probably most of our listeners and every
other American is doing.
Speaker 5 (24:32):
That's what we did for years before. I mean she's
only been saying home for like what a year and
a half now.
Speaker 2 (24:37):
Yeah, and you just get the place where you're like,
you know what, we're going to sacrifice. We're going to
do this so that we can have and I talk
about that close knit family to where we're together all
the time.
Speaker 4 (24:47):
Yeah, Well, it was just that was what was that
was a priority for us, is that he wanted me
to stay home, and I wanted to stay home and
raise our kids. So for us, it came down to
what's going to be best for our family. What sacrifices
will we sacrifice to make this happen. But my encouragement,
even if you're not in the place where you can
make those sacrifices financially yet, my encouragement would still be
(25:10):
prioritize your family. I know, eight hour work days, twelve
hour work days, they are long, and then you have
kids on top of that and homework and sports and
everything else.
Speaker 3 (25:19):
But even if it's like you're at the.
Speaker 4 (25:21):
Ballpark for t ball practice or soccer practice, go through
the drive through, get some food, open up your trunk,
and sit there and have family time before or after practice.
You know. I think whatever season you're in, you can
find the time to prioritize sitting down and just having
that family time. Make it intentional.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
Yes, very important.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
And I think it kind of comes down to if
you worked a ten hour day and you're stressed out,
you're an eight year old kid. They don't know that.
They don't care about that. They just want to see
mom or dad, right, and they just want to spend
time with mom or dad.
Speaker 4 (25:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:54):
So, and you can never go wrong by, you know,
being intentional to make that family time, because when you
get to our stage in life, you realize just how
fast time goes by. They grow so quickly, and in
that moment, in that season, like where you're at right now,
you may think, well, you know, I've got all the
time in the world. They're little, but it changes so quickly.
Speaker 2 (26:17):
Yeah you know. Yeah, well, and I think it comes
down to this, You realize you gots to pay the bills,
but you got to prioritize your family time.
Speaker 3 (26:26):
Yeah. I mean, that's just I think that's the thing.
Speaker 4 (26:29):
It's every family has got to sit down and figure
out what's important to them because every family is different.
But for us, it is having I mean we're having
family dinner.
Speaker 3 (26:40):
We're sitting down and we're eating.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
Well. Even as a stay at home mom, you can
get to where, you know, as a family, you could
get to a place where you don't really spend a
lot of quality time together just because you start going
through the routines of life. And so I think it's
you kind of hit the nail on the head to
prioritize make sure that we're going to have good quality
family time together.
Speaker 3 (27:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (27:00):
Yeah, you can make it happen wherever you're at, b
part anywhere.
Speaker 6 (27:06):
Yeah, I mean, I guess going off of that, you know,
we we actually just started a young adults ministry at
the church and we're helping out with that. So I've
actually gotten to spend a lot of time with you know,
ones that are just now getting married and they're you know,
all excited, you know, young family stuff like that. Probably
the best encouragement that I can give anybody that is
(27:29):
maybe like a young family, just just just do it
if you want kids. Just have kids if you you know,
want to, you know, take the job you don't feel
qualified for. Figured it out, be a profession. Just go
do it, Like, just stop worrying about like, well, I
don't know if I'm gonna be able to afford.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
All these kids.
Speaker 6 (27:46):
I asked all the same questions. I'm still breathing, like
we you know, like it's it's nothing that isn't doable.
And I think at the end of it, like you know,
kind of coming back to the root of it, it's
just you know, honoring God and all things, glorifying God
and all things, and that gives you the strength to
carry through the things that you feel like you can't
do right now. So, yeah, have more kids than you
(28:08):
feel like you need to have, you know, buy the house.
Speaker 5 (28:11):
Do the things like, just do it, Just do.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
It, Okay, all right, all right, anything you want to add.
Speaker 1 (28:18):
I think this is a wonderful conversation that we're having today,
and I appreciate you guys coming back to be our
guest again.
Speaker 2 (28:25):
All right, So it's been a great episode today and
it's been a lot of fun. Look, we cut up
a little bit. Me and Brittany. We love to We
love to cut up. So Brittany, I'm looking forward to
those oatmeal raisin cookies and you.
Speaker 4 (28:38):
Don't make for me, Tyler won't allow that in our
own don't count on that.
Speaker 2 (28:44):
So we love you guys. We're proud of y'all. Thank
y'all for joining us today.
Speaker 6 (28:47):
But hey, look, before we end, I just wanted to
say this. You know, I appreciate that y'all are proud
of us and proud of me and what we're doing.
But you know, I really do have to say, like,
it's kudos to y'all. You know, y'all did a great
job raising me, Bryce and Reese, and you know, I
think me, Me and you know, brothers, we talk about
it like all the time, how we just really enjoyed
(29:10):
the way that we grew up. I mean we really do,
and not only just from the way we grew up,
but just from the principles and the you know, raising
us to know God, raising us to walk in the
things of the Lord. And so I just, you know,
I just wanted to say thank y'all and just for
you know, just for everything.
Speaker 2 (29:25):
You know.
Speaker 5 (29:26):
I don't I don't say that lightly, so, but thank y'all.
Speaker 4 (29:31):
Yeah, And if I can add to that. I see
a lot of the things that you instilled in Tyler that.
Speaker 3 (29:36):
He's now instilling in our children.
Speaker 4 (29:38):
And there's so many times where he's like, oh, my
dad taught me to do this, or my dad taught
me to do this, or my mom made this sacrifice
so that we could do this, and it is something
that we look up to and we honor. And those
are things that you know, I was telling you, like
how I want to make sure that our kids honor
and respect what he's doing. But it's because we watch
you consistently honor and respect your husband, you know. And
so there is so many things that I I can
(30:00):
see that you instilled in him that now we're putting
in our children. So you guys are phenomenal examples took
up to well.
Speaker 2 (30:07):
Thank you. And I think as parents a lot of
times you wonder when you're poor into your kids, like, man,
I hope that this is taking root in their hard
I hope that they're learning. I hope we're not screwing
them up.
Speaker 1 (30:17):
I know that I know that we are. We're seeing
a lot of seeds that we've sown over the years.
You know, there's a harvest yep, absolutely so we see
that in y'all.
Speaker 2 (30:27):
Well, Thank y'all, We're proud of y'all, and thank y'all
for being with us today.
Speaker 3 (30:30):
Thank you for having me.
Speaker 2 (30:31):
And all of our listeners. I hope that you guys
have enjoyed this episode today. Once again, please like, subscribe,
share this, if you leave us a comment, give us
a review, and we cannot wait to be with you
guys again in the next episode. As always, I'm Jay
and I'm Stacy and this is love like crazy.
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