June 25, 2025 • 18 mins
33 Years Married! In this special anniversary episode of Love Like Crazy, Jay and Stacey Coleman take a heartwarming and hilarious walk down memory lane through their wedding album. From budget wedding hacks and mullet hairstyles to wardrobe malfunctions and sentimental moments, they reflect on their 1992 wedding day, young love, and the journey of building a life together.
Hear the story behind Stacey’s song to Jay, the infamous birdseed exit, a ripped dress, and a prank that almost convinced her they weren’t legally married! Plus, Jay shares what he would do differently (hint: it involves Bitcoin) and the couple opens up about the power of love, laughter, and legacy through the highs and lows of 33 years together.
Whether you’ve been married for decades or are just starting your relationship journey, this episode will encourage you to treasure the simple beginnings, laugh through the mishaps, and keep choosing each other — every day.
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Hear the story behind Stacey’s song to Jay, the infamous birdseed exit, a ripped dress, and a prank that almost convinced her they weren’t legally married! Plus, Jay shares what he would do differently (hint: it involves Bitcoin) and the couple opens up about the power of love, laughter, and legacy through the highs and lows of 33 years together.
Whether you’ve been married for decades or are just starting your relationship journey, this episode will encourage you to treasure the simple beginnings, laugh through the mishaps, and keep choosing each other — every day.
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- 00:00 - Intro & 33rd Anniversary Announcement
- 04:00 - How We Met & Our Engagement Story
- 09:00 - Our $2,000 Wedding (Yes, Really!)
- 14:00 - Walking Through Our Wedding Album\
- 18:00 - Wedding Day Mishaps: Train Rips Off!
- 23:00 - Birdseed Chaos & The Groom’s Cake
- 28:00 - The Legal Marriage Prank
- 32:00 - Wedding Rings & Sweet Memories
- 36:00 - Reflections on Family & Faith
- 41:00 - Would We Do It All Over Again?
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Speaker 1 (00:22):
Hey everybody, and thank you for being a part of
this episode of Love Like Crazy. It is a very
special episode because we are right at our thirty third anniversary.
We've been married for thirty three years. Can I believe
you've actually put up with me this week?
Speaker 2 (00:36):
I have put up with you for all these years,
but you've also had to put up with me.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
That's I said this in a previous episode that when
you marry me, you won the lottery.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
Oh yeah, yes, well so did you?
Speaker 1 (00:49):
I did? I really did? I hit the jackpot.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Yeah. So thank you to all of our listeners. We
appreciate you tuning in today, and we hope that you'll like,
share and subscribe and watch on YouTube if you prefer
to watch instead of listen. And we're just so happy
that you've joined us today.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
Now it's different because we're going to go through our
wedding album. And I've not looked at this wedding album
and quite some time.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
We pulled it out of the vault.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Yeah, we pulled it out of the vault to kind
of go through pictures. And this was thirty three years ago.
I was twenty years old whenever I married this woman,
and she was around that age.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
I'm only two years older.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
She was twenty two. And you got to understand that
whenever we met, I was fresh out of high school.
I was just a baby. I was eighteen years old,
had just turned eighteen. Stacey was twenty years old, and
I was just excited because she was going into her
junior year of college, and I was excited. I was
dating a college shick. And so we meet, we go
(01:49):
out on a date. Eventually, after a year, we get engaged,
and then a year later, when she finished school, we
got married. And the wedding, it was exciting.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
Well, and yeah, we were dating for a year, like
you said, and then we were engaged a year. So
it took a little bit, you know, planning away. It's
our wedding was probably not as elaborate as maybe today's
wedding standards.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
All right, tell everybody, what did you spend on the wedding?
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Was it thousand dollars? And that was including my dress.
I know some people are like, what, because a dress
by itself will cost two thousand dollars plus so yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Mm hm, yeah that was a you know, a budget wedding.
But I feel like we had a nice wedding.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Yeah, it was the early nineties, So we did, we did.
We had a nice church wedding with the reception in
the fellowship haul and yeah, with the family and friends there,
it was. It was nice.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
So as we jump off into this, before we start
looking at pictures less station, let me just say this
to you, happy anniversary.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
Well, thank you baby, Happy anniversary to ut.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
All right, you want to do the honors, let's let's
look at some pictures.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
So yeah, so we pulled this album out and we
haven't We kind of had to dust dusted off a
little bit. It's been a long time since we've looked
at this.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Yeah, this is uh.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
So, what is the one thing you remember about the
church that we got married in.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
The orange carpet?
Speaker 2 (03:15):
The orange carpet.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
It was nineteen ninety two. They had built this church
in the late seventies early eighties and orange bar which was.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
A very popular color at the time. And so yeah,
later on though after we got married, they did change
the carpet to blue. But yeah, so it made for
some some interesting pictures with orange carpet. But yeah, we
had just what furriesmaids and groomsmen, a little flower girl
(03:50):
and bear.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
I remember Stephen the ring bear. He had gone on
a camping trip and he was not in again.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
It was only like seven years old.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
And I promised him because he was said he was
crying and I promised him, get your snow cone if
you will carry this ring down there? And how old
is it? That's thirty three years ago, so he's probably
close to forty now never bottom that snow cone.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Well, I think you owe him a strong probably.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
Should I get him a gift card? How about that?
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Yeah? So we were looking through this earlier and it's
sad to say, but I mean as the years go by,
I mean we have family members who are no longer
with us, you know, here on earth, and so that's
a little sad when you look back at your pictures.
But yet it was such a joyous occasion.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Yeah, my dad, I'm looking at my dad. He's eighty
eight years old and I'll be eighty nine this summer.
And I think he was a brown fifty five fifty
six in this wedding. So yeah, and to see different
family members, Granny, Pa, Paul, your dad, my grandma, Grandpa
did have gone home. If passed away, you go home
be with the Lord. So that was it's kind of
surreal to look at some of these.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
Well, we were all so young, and look, I mean
in this I'm going to say if we were skined,
we were yes thinner, and you had dark.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
Hair and.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
I had I had hair had here it was all dark.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Yeah, that's kind of I was starting to trend away
from the mullet, you know, close to our wedding. I
was trending away from the.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
Mullet doing that. So, no, I think the mullet's coming back.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Yeah, I think a lot of When I heard that
the mullet was coming back, I'm like, no, but what
about this picture? Tell everybody about this picture here?
Speaker 2 (05:29):
Okay, So I sang a song to you. I wrote
a song for you at our wedding. And I was
a music major of vocal performance, and I had just
graduated college and then we got married in June, and
so I had I had written a song for you
that I sang. And I remember being so nervous that
(05:50):
I would forget the words that I typed in all
the worst of the song in the pastor's notes and
told him please whisper to me the word it's just
in case I forget them.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Well, and I had well I had some critics in
the audience because if you look at this picture, I'm
looking down. I didn't look at you one time to
hearing the song, and I think it was my sister's like, well,
what is wrong with you? Why don't you look at
her while she was singing to you? And I'm like, well,
because it would have messed her up.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
Yeah, it would have probably made me more nervous. But
but yeah, that was a sweet, a sweet time, you
know at our wedding. Very original, Oh my goodness. So yeah,
we we lit a unity candle together and okay, do
you remember what happened?
Speaker 1 (06:34):
Yeah, the look on your face in this picture here
is because half your clothes just came off.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Okay, well that sounds terrible. You need to explain that.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
I look on my faces like, uh, I'm not I'm
not going instead of like get you know, to get
the rest of the clothes.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Of gosh, we were so young.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
Yeah, we were very young. But in this picture that
we turned to walk down the aisle after he pronounced
his husband and Wane. And that was back in the
day when you had had a large train that was
like the style. Oh yes, a large train on the
back of your dress.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
Right, My dress was straight, and so it was velcrode
that it was a massive train, and it was a
velcrode underneath this very large bow. I mean, bows have
kind of come back and styled it. Well, bows were
big h at that time. And the mistake that we
made was I did not pin well.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
I think you asked the seamstress the pendant. She insisted
the work.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
Well, yes, the velcrow was supposed to work, and it
was made to where for the reception you took the
train off, you know, and so which is which is
obviously what I did. But so I remember when we
knelt down seeing this picture. We were kneeling down to
receive community, to receive communion at the little what do
(07:52):
you call that a kneeling stand bench. And so when
I got up from the kneeling bench, I remember here
a rip of velcrow and the train was still attached,
but I knew it had loosened. And so whenever the
pastor announced us a husband and wife, we turned to
(08:13):
walk back down the aisle, and we had this aisle
runner that also produced static electricity. It just grab it
just yeah, so it just as I'm walking, not even
halfway down the aisle, it just rips completely off.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
And everybody busts out loud.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Yes, everybody's bet my husband that the gentleman that you are,
you calmly walked me to the end so we could
take our picture, which is this picture. And I'm smiling
real big because I'm like, oh my gosh, what has
just happened.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
And I go back and get your clothes, and.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
So he turns around, such a gentleman, goes back, picks
up the train and brings it to me. So and
for years I kept telling you, do you remember that
we should have submitted our wedding video to Funniest Home Videos?
I said, we could have won money. We could have yeah,
and I'm gone crazy with that, but we never did.
(09:12):
I thought it was funny. I mean I had to
laugh not to cry.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
Well, I just turned the page to go to these
other pictures because that cake was good.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
Oh yeah, the cake was good.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
I remember I had a business card. I was actually
selling insurance at the time for Mutual of Omaha, and
I wanted the cake to look like one of my
business cards because I thought that, you know, twenty years old,
I'm like, oh I got a business card. It was
a big deal. And that cake was chocolate and it
was good, and just like the traditional wedding cake. We
kept our top tier, put it in the freezer, and
(09:44):
one anniversary we went to eat that suckery. It was gross.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
It was terrible. It was so frozen, yeah, and nasty.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
All right.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
So but you know, it reminds me this, seeing this
picture of your groom's cake. One of our sons, our
youngest son, when he got married, he had obviously seen
this photo album and you knew the story that you
used your business card, and so his groom's cake was
his his pressure washing business. You know, I said, way
(10:14):
to advertise.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
Babe, Yeah, get some business at your wedding.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
So I thought that was neat.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
And at these bridesmaids fighting over that bouquet, It's like, wow,
this is serious.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
Oh yeah, okay.
Speaker 1 (10:25):
So I'm looking at the wedding license and I remember
whenever we made the big move to Baton Raige, to
Baton Rouge, we had been married at this point and
may or may have been whenever we moved into our
first house that we bought. We'd been married at that
time for quite some time. We had three boys, and
we found the marriage license and the portion that we
were supposed to send back to the Clerk of Court's office.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
We did not mail in right paperwork.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
As a minister, I know that that's a big deal. Like,
as the minister, you have to fill out the paperwork
and get it sent back to the cirk Court within
thirty days. So when I found this, I told say
she said, this is a big deal. We've got to
find out what we're supposed to do here. So I
told her I'll take care of it. So I went
to the office and I called the Clerk of Court's
office and the little lady said, oh, no big deal.
(11:10):
The minister already submitted his paperwork, so just you know,
y'all sign and send it to me. I'll just put
it in the file. I'm like, okay, Well that was
not what I told my wife. I went home and
told her. I said, oh, we've got a problem here,
and she said what And I said, because we did
not send this in. Our marriage was not submitted to
the Clerk of Court and so they basically what the
(11:32):
minister sent in was null and void. So legally we
are not we're not married.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
Yeah, you're such a joke.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
And she was like, you know, starts getting emotional like what.
I'm like, yeah, we I said.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
We're got married and we have three kids.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
Well, I told her, I said, this is a big
deal because now the boys we have actually submitted everything
as though we were a married couple, so we have
to go back and now all their birth certificates have
to be changed that they were born to a single mom.
You go in like I went off the way, and
I'm like, so taxes. The lady told me if you
(12:07):
have filed taxes with the IRS that you were married,
filing jointly, you've committed fraud. You could face prison time.
Like this is a big deal. She gets emotional, she
starts crying, and I'm like, look, hold up, stop, I'm
just kidding. Okay, it was like an April Fool's joke.
That was not on April Fools.
Speaker 2 (12:25):
It was a terrible, terrible thing to do your wife.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
That was awesome. Okay, So, husband's if you ever get
the opportunity to play a prank like that on your wife,
go for it.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
Okay, No, it was not nice.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
So I told her that I'm just messing with you.
We're legally married in all's well, so thank goodness and
then I'm looking at this picture here at the end,
that's where the Calvin Cobb. He was our pastor, and
he just tremendous pastor.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
He was a blessing to He was the.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
One who really spoke in our lives that God could
use us in ministry as an encourage He was such
an encourager. So running out of.
Speaker 2 (12:56):
The church, yeah, the picture looks like just complete bird seed,
like in in our face.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
That outfit that you're wearing. I love that dress. That
was one of my favorite dresses that you had. But
when we ran out, they pelted us with bird seed,
and I remember getting bird seed in my ears, getting
bird seed in my mouth. I think I even had
some like go up my nose because I breathed in
through my nose and you had it all in your hair.
I mean, it was.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
A dead it was. It was everywhere. I think it
was the younger ones. They thought it was fun.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
They thought it was funny. Somebody even literally it was
like little little silk bags of bird seed. Somebody even
threw a whole bag and hit me in the head
with it instead of taking it out of the bag. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
Yeah, that was back in the day when you would
actually throw rice. You know, that was supposed to be,
but then they came out they got away from that
because they said that's not good for the birds. So
then we all transitioned to bird seed. But now, I
mean it's a lot of like sparkles like that, bubbles
and different things like that. That's good for Yeah.
Speaker 1 (14:00):
I saw I saw a video of one where they
were doing the sparklers and they set stuff on fire.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
Okay, well, I'm glad we didn't do that because that
I had a lot of hairspray.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
In your hair.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
Your hair, My hair was bigger, you know, coming out
of the eighties into the nineties.
Speaker 1 (14:14):
Yeah, your hair would have burst into dangerous And actually
that's funny because in this picture you talked about it.
I actually I've got you know, my hair's not gray,
but I actually have hair in the picture, So now
I have less hair. And that cool mustache, cool mustache.
That was my my Chips mustache, if you I'm probably
dating myself with. In the seventies early eighties, Chips was
(14:36):
a popular program and I thought that was the coolest
thing in the world to have that mustache.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Yeah, yeah, you're so handsome.
Speaker 1 (14:42):
Yeah, well, thank you. Gorgeous too, Thank you, my beautiful wife.
Speaker 2 (14:47):
So it's fun reminiscing over things goin.
Speaker 1 (14:51):
Just kind of it makes me a little sad to
see some of the ones in these pics who have
passed on. But you know what's wild is you look
at this picture of where we were, and the excitement,
the dreams, the planning for the future, and to see
where the Lord has brought us has really been been
a tremendous thing.
Speaker 2 (15:07):
We were just so young.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
Yeah, I'm looking at my wedding ring. I'm still wearing
the same wedding ring that you gave me that day.
And your wedding ring I'm looking at and you're on
your third one now.
Speaker 2 (15:16):
I am, yeah, but I have the original.
Speaker 1 (15:20):
Yeah. The first one I was so small you could
barely see the diamond. The second one was one that
we picked out together where you scan me. I said,
I'll buy you a new ring and we won't have
any kids for a couple more years, And you got pregnant.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
Three months later, I got a ring and a baby. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:34):
And then the third one was I was yeah, I
was on a mission trip to the Middle East and
we stopped in to buy and I found a ring
there and bought it for you, and that's what you
currently wear.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
Yeah, yeah, so yeah, it's time for maybe a new ring.
What's you think?
Speaker 1 (15:52):
What are you saying the Fourth Times of Charm?
Speaker 2 (15:53):
I don't know. I'm just saying, hey, baby.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
We shall see. Well, this has kind of been fun
to take a little trip down memory lane. And if
I asked you this question, if you could do it
all over again, would you absolutely? Is there anything you
would change.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
About the wedding or about marrying you.
Speaker 1 (16:15):
Both both?
Speaker 2 (16:17):
I wouldn't change anything. I think it is just perfect
for us.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
Okay, simple wedding, but a beautiful wedding. I know what
you change you'd put you'd put hooks on the back.
I would.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
I would definitely make sure that that train was secure.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
Absolutely definitely, I would definitely. I would marry you again,
But I would change I would change something.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
What's that?
Speaker 1 (16:40):
I would make a note whenever bitcoin is available, purchase it,
purchase it.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
Well, yeah, we'd be doing pretty good now and.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
I could definitely buy you that new ring. Would not
even think about it, you could all right, Well, this
has been fun going on. It's been a great sharing
sharing stories.
Speaker 2 (16:58):
Yeah, just reminiscing for our anniversary.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
Anything you want to add or share before we wrap up.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
Well, baby, I just want to tell you how much
I love you and I appreciate you, and it has
really been even through the hardest times, it has been
the best thirty three years, really thirty five because we
were together a couple of years before our wedding, and
I love you. Happy anniversary.
Speaker 1 (17:22):
Awesome. Well, today, as we wrap up this episode, I'm
just kidding, I'm going to look at you and tell
you I love you too, tell you how much I
appreciate you. Well, I was just mussling with you because
that's what I like to do, well, share my heart. Well,
(17:45):
thank you for putting up with me, and I love you,
and happy anniversary.
Hey everybody, and thank you for being a part of
this episode of Love Like Crazy. It is a very
special episode because we are right at our thirty third anniversary.
We've been married for thirty three years. Can I believe
you've actually put up with me this week?
Speaker 2 (00:36):
I have put up with you for all these years,
but you've also had to put up with me.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
That's I said this in a previous episode that when
you marry me, you won the lottery.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
Oh yeah, yes, well so did you?
Speaker 1 (00:49):
I did? I really did? I hit the jackpot.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Yeah. So thank you to all of our listeners. We
appreciate you tuning in today, and we hope that you'll like,
share and subscribe and watch on YouTube if you prefer
to watch instead of listen. And we're just so happy
that you've joined us today.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
Now it's different because we're going to go through our
wedding album. And I've not looked at this wedding album
and quite some time.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
We pulled it out of the vault.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Yeah, we pulled it out of the vault to kind
of go through pictures. And this was thirty three years ago.
I was twenty years old whenever I married this woman,
and she was around that age.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
I'm only two years older.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
She was twenty two. And you got to understand that
whenever we met, I was fresh out of high school.
I was just a baby. I was eighteen years old,
had just turned eighteen. Stacey was twenty years old, and
I was just excited because she was going into her
junior year of college, and I was excited. I was
dating a college shick. And so we meet, we go
(01:49):
out on a date. Eventually, after a year, we get engaged,
and then a year later, when she finished school, we
got married. And the wedding, it was exciting.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
Well, and yeah, we were dating for a year, like
you said, and then we were engaged a year. So
it took a little bit, you know, planning away. It's
our wedding was probably not as elaborate as maybe today's
wedding standards.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
All right, tell everybody, what did you spend on the wedding?
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Was it thousand dollars? And that was including my dress.
I know some people are like, what, because a dress
by itself will cost two thousand dollars plus so yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Mm hm, yeah that was a you know, a budget wedding.
But I feel like we had a nice wedding.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Yeah, it was the early nineties, So we did, we did.
We had a nice church wedding with the reception in
the fellowship haul and yeah, with the family and friends there,
it was. It was nice.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
So as we jump off into this, before we start
looking at pictures less station, let me just say this
to you, happy anniversary.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
Well, thank you baby, Happy anniversary to ut.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
All right, you want to do the honors, let's let's
look at some pictures.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
So yeah, so we pulled this album out and we
haven't We kind of had to dust dusted off a
little bit. It's been a long time since we've looked
at this.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Yeah, this is uh.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
So, what is the one thing you remember about the
church that we got married in.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
The orange carpet?
Speaker 2 (03:15):
The orange carpet.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
It was nineteen ninety two. They had built this church
in the late seventies early eighties and orange bar which was.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
A very popular color at the time. And so yeah,
later on though after we got married, they did change
the carpet to blue. But yeah, so it made for
some some interesting pictures with orange carpet. But yeah, we
had just what furriesmaids and groomsmen, a little flower girl
(03:50):
and bear.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
I remember Stephen the ring bear. He had gone on
a camping trip and he was not in again.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
It was only like seven years old.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
And I promised him because he was said he was
crying and I promised him, get your snow cone if
you will carry this ring down there? And how old
is it? That's thirty three years ago, so he's probably
close to forty now never bottom that snow cone.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Well, I think you owe him a strong probably.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
Should I get him a gift card? How about that?
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Yeah? So we were looking through this earlier and it's
sad to say, but I mean as the years go by,
I mean we have family members who are no longer
with us, you know, here on earth, and so that's
a little sad when you look back at your pictures.
But yet it was such a joyous occasion.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Yeah, my dad, I'm looking at my dad. He's eighty
eight years old and I'll be eighty nine this summer.
And I think he was a brown fifty five fifty
six in this wedding. So yeah, and to see different
family members, Granny, Pa, Paul, your dad, my grandma, Grandpa
did have gone home. If passed away, you go home
be with the Lord. So that was it's kind of
surreal to look at some of these.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
Well, we were all so young, and look, I mean
in this I'm going to say if we were skined,
we were yes thinner, and you had dark.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
Hair and.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
I had I had hair had here it was all dark.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Yeah, that's kind of I was starting to trend away
from the mullet, you know, close to our wedding. I
was trending away from the.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
Mullet doing that. So, no, I think the mullet's coming back.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Yeah, I think a lot of When I heard that
the mullet was coming back, I'm like, no, but what
about this picture? Tell everybody about this picture here?
Speaker 2 (05:29):
Okay, So I sang a song to you. I wrote
a song for you at our wedding. And I was
a music major of vocal performance, and I had just
graduated college and then we got married in June, and
so I had I had written a song for you
that I sang. And I remember being so nervous that
(05:50):
I would forget the words that I typed in all
the worst of the song in the pastor's notes and
told him please whisper to me the word it's just
in case I forget them.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Well, and I had well I had some critics in
the audience because if you look at this picture, I'm
looking down. I didn't look at you one time to
hearing the song, and I think it was my sister's like, well,
what is wrong with you? Why don't you look at
her while she was singing to you? And I'm like, well,
because it would have messed her up.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
Yeah, it would have probably made me more nervous. But
but yeah, that was a sweet, a sweet time, you
know at our wedding. Very original, Oh my goodness. So yeah,
we we lit a unity candle together and okay, do
you remember what happened?
Speaker 1 (06:34):
Yeah, the look on your face in this picture here
is because half your clothes just came off.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Okay, well that sounds terrible. You need to explain that.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
I look on my faces like, uh, I'm not I'm
not going instead of like get you know, to get
the rest of the clothes.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Of gosh, we were so young.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
Yeah, we were very young. But in this picture that
we turned to walk down the aisle after he pronounced
his husband and Wane. And that was back in the
day when you had had a large train that was
like the style. Oh yes, a large train on the
back of your dress.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
Right, My dress was straight, and so it was velcrode
that it was a massive train, and it was a
velcrode underneath this very large bow. I mean, bows have
kind of come back and styled it. Well, bows were
big h at that time. And the mistake that we
made was I did not pin well.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
I think you asked the seamstress the pendant. She insisted
the work.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
Well, yes, the velcrow was supposed to work, and it
was made to where for the reception you took the
train off, you know, and so which is which is
obviously what I did. But so I remember when we
knelt down seeing this picture. We were kneeling down to
receive community, to receive communion at the little what do
(07:52):
you call that a kneeling stand bench. And so when
I got up from the kneeling bench, I remember here
a rip of velcrow and the train was still attached,
but I knew it had loosened. And so whenever the
pastor announced us a husband and wife, we turned to
(08:13):
walk back down the aisle, and we had this aisle
runner that also produced static electricity. It just grab it
just yeah, so it just as I'm walking, not even
halfway down the aisle, it just rips completely off.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
And everybody busts out loud.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Yes, everybody's bet my husband that the gentleman that you are,
you calmly walked me to the end so we could
take our picture, which is this picture. And I'm smiling
real big because I'm like, oh my gosh, what has
just happened.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
And I go back and get your clothes, and.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
So he turns around, such a gentleman, goes back, picks
up the train and brings it to me. So and
for years I kept telling you, do you remember that
we should have submitted our wedding video to Funniest Home Videos?
I said, we could have won money. We could have yeah,
and I'm gone crazy with that, but we never did.
(09:12):
I thought it was funny. I mean I had to
laugh not to cry.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
Well, I just turned the page to go to these
other pictures because that cake was good.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
Oh yeah, the cake was good.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
I remember I had a business card. I was actually
selling insurance at the time for Mutual of Omaha, and
I wanted the cake to look like one of my
business cards because I thought that, you know, twenty years old,
I'm like, oh I got a business card. It was
a big deal. And that cake was chocolate and it
was good, and just like the traditional wedding cake. We
kept our top tier, put it in the freezer, and
(09:44):
one anniversary we went to eat that suckery. It was gross.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
It was terrible. It was so frozen, yeah, and nasty.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
All right.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
So but you know, it reminds me this, seeing this
picture of your groom's cake. One of our sons, our
youngest son, when he got married, he had obviously seen
this photo album and you knew the story that you
used your business card, and so his groom's cake was
his his pressure washing business. You know, I said, way
(10:14):
to advertise.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
Babe, Yeah, get some business at your wedding.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
So I thought that was neat.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
And at these bridesmaids fighting over that bouquet, It's like, wow,
this is serious.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
Oh yeah, okay.
Speaker 1 (10:25):
So I'm looking at the wedding license and I remember
whenever we made the big move to Baton Raige, to
Baton Rouge, we had been married at this point and
may or may have been whenever we moved into our
first house that we bought. We'd been married at that
time for quite some time. We had three boys, and
we found the marriage license and the portion that we
were supposed to send back to the Clerk of Court's office.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
We did not mail in right paperwork.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
As a minister, I know that that's a big deal. Like,
as the minister, you have to fill out the paperwork
and get it sent back to the cirk Court within
thirty days. So when I found this, I told say
she said, this is a big deal. We've got to
find out what we're supposed to do here. So I
told her I'll take care of it. So I went
to the office and I called the Clerk of Court's
office and the little lady said, oh, no big deal.
(11:10):
The minister already submitted his paperwork, so just you know,
y'all sign and send it to me. I'll just put
it in the file. I'm like, okay, Well that was
not what I told my wife. I went home and
told her. I said, oh, we've got a problem here,
and she said what And I said, because we did
not send this in. Our marriage was not submitted to
the Clerk of Court and so they basically what the
(11:32):
minister sent in was null and void. So legally we
are not we're not married.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
Yeah, you're such a joke.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
And she was like, you know, starts getting emotional like what.
I'm like, yeah, we I said.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
We're got married and we have three kids.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
Well, I told her, I said, this is a big
deal because now the boys we have actually submitted everything
as though we were a married couple, so we have
to go back and now all their birth certificates have
to be changed that they were born to a single mom.
You go in like I went off the way, and
I'm like, so taxes. The lady told me if you
(12:07):
have filed taxes with the IRS that you were married,
filing jointly, you've committed fraud. You could face prison time.
Like this is a big deal. She gets emotional, she
starts crying, and I'm like, look, hold up, stop, I'm
just kidding. Okay, it was like an April Fool's joke.
That was not on April Fools.
Speaker 2 (12:25):
It was a terrible, terrible thing to do your wife.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
That was awesome. Okay, So, husband's if you ever get
the opportunity to play a prank like that on your wife,
go for it.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
Okay, No, it was not nice.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
So I told her that I'm just messing with you.
We're legally married in all's well, so thank goodness and
then I'm looking at this picture here at the end,
that's where the Calvin Cobb. He was our pastor, and
he just tremendous pastor.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
He was a blessing to He was the.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
One who really spoke in our lives that God could
use us in ministry as an encourage He was such
an encourager. So running out of.
Speaker 2 (12:56):
The church, yeah, the picture looks like just complete bird seed,
like in in our face.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
That outfit that you're wearing. I love that dress. That
was one of my favorite dresses that you had. But
when we ran out, they pelted us with bird seed,
and I remember getting bird seed in my ears, getting
bird seed in my mouth. I think I even had
some like go up my nose because I breathed in
through my nose and you had it all in your hair.
I mean, it was.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
A dead it was. It was everywhere. I think it
was the younger ones. They thought it was fun.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
They thought it was funny. Somebody even literally it was
like little little silk bags of bird seed. Somebody even
threw a whole bag and hit me in the head
with it instead of taking it out of the bag. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
Yeah, that was back in the day when you would
actually throw rice. You know, that was supposed to be,
but then they came out they got away from that
because they said that's not good for the birds. So
then we all transitioned to bird seed. But now, I
mean it's a lot of like sparkles like that, bubbles
and different things like that. That's good for Yeah.
Speaker 1 (14:00):
I saw I saw a video of one where they
were doing the sparklers and they set stuff on fire.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
Okay, well, I'm glad we didn't do that because that
I had a lot of hairspray.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
In your hair.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
Your hair, My hair was bigger, you know, coming out
of the eighties into the nineties.
Speaker 1 (14:14):
Yeah, your hair would have burst into dangerous And actually
that's funny because in this picture you talked about it.
I actually I've got you know, my hair's not gray,
but I actually have hair in the picture, So now
I have less hair. And that cool mustache, cool mustache.
That was my my Chips mustache, if you I'm probably
dating myself with. In the seventies early eighties, Chips was
(14:36):
a popular program and I thought that was the coolest
thing in the world to have that mustache.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Yeah, yeah, you're so handsome.
Speaker 1 (14:42):
Yeah, well, thank you. Gorgeous too, Thank you, my beautiful wife.
Speaker 2 (14:47):
So it's fun reminiscing over things goin.
Speaker 1 (14:51):
Just kind of it makes me a little sad to
see some of the ones in these pics who have
passed on. But you know what's wild is you look
at this picture of where we were, and the excitement,
the dreams, the planning for the future, and to see
where the Lord has brought us has really been been
a tremendous thing.
Speaker 2 (15:07):
We were just so young.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
Yeah, I'm looking at my wedding ring. I'm still wearing
the same wedding ring that you gave me that day.
And your wedding ring I'm looking at and you're on
your third one now.
Speaker 2 (15:16):
I am, yeah, but I have the original.
Speaker 1 (15:20):
Yeah. The first one I was so small you could
barely see the diamond. The second one was one that
we picked out together where you scan me. I said,
I'll buy you a new ring and we won't have
any kids for a couple more years, And you got pregnant.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
Three months later, I got a ring and a baby. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:34):
And then the third one was I was yeah, I
was on a mission trip to the Middle East and
we stopped in to buy and I found a ring
there and bought it for you, and that's what you
currently wear.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
Yeah, yeah, so yeah, it's time for maybe a new ring.
What's you think?
Speaker 1 (15:52):
What are you saying the Fourth Times of Charm?
Speaker 2 (15:53):
I don't know. I'm just saying, hey, baby.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
We shall see. Well, this has kind of been fun
to take a little trip down memory lane. And if
I asked you this question, if you could do it
all over again, would you absolutely? Is there anything you
would change.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
About the wedding or about marrying you.
Speaker 1 (16:15):
Both both?
Speaker 2 (16:17):
I wouldn't change anything. I think it is just perfect
for us.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
Okay, simple wedding, but a beautiful wedding. I know what
you change you'd put you'd put hooks on the back.
I would.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
I would definitely make sure that that train was secure.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
Absolutely definitely, I would definitely. I would marry you again,
But I would change I would change something.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
What's that?
Speaker 1 (16:40):
I would make a note whenever bitcoin is available, purchase it,
purchase it.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
Well, yeah, we'd be doing pretty good now and.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
I could definitely buy you that new ring. Would not
even think about it, you could all right, Well, this
has been fun going on. It's been a great sharing
sharing stories.
Speaker 2 (16:58):
Yeah, just reminiscing for our anniversary.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
Anything you want to add or share before we wrap up.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
Well, baby, I just want to tell you how much
I love you and I appreciate you, and it has
really been even through the hardest times, it has been
the best thirty three years, really thirty five because we
were together a couple of years before our wedding, and
I love you. Happy anniversary.
Speaker 1 (17:22):
Awesome. Well, today, as we wrap up this episode, I'm
just kidding, I'm going to look at you and tell
you I love you too, tell you how much I
appreciate you. Well, I was just mussling with you because
that's what I like to do, well, share my heart. Well,
(17:45):
thank you for putting up with me, and I love you,
and happy anniversary.
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