February 18, 2025 • 35 mins
It's Orlando and the one and only Milah, with a special Valentine's Day episode of Love Like This! We're talking all things Love, from the cheesy holiday to our own journey towards tying the knot. Orlando pulled out all the stops for that engagement and now you can hear the details! So sit back, relax, and get ready for some laughs, some Love, and a whole lot of us being our fabulous selves!
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Like this.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Hm hmm. Happy Valentine's Day, Happy Valentine's Day. Heavy Valentine's Day, y'all?
What's goody? Another beautiful episode of love like this, and
it's Valentine's Day. Honestly, this is my favorite holiday of
there other than my birthday? Is it? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Shocker? I don't know what?
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Why? Why? Is that a shocker?
Speaker 1 (00:32):
I didn't know this is your second holiday favorite?
Speaker 2 (00:35):
Yeah? Yeah? I love Valentine's Day and I love love.
How do you feel about I say, that's whatever.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
I think it's you know, made up, made up.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
So Happy Valentine's Day, y'all. It is the season and
day of love, and I am here with my one
and only love, the person I live so much. Look
at these beautifull roses and my beautiful red shirt to
show how I'm celebrating Valentine's Day. Meala's wearing black for
(01:09):
her black cold Heart of Valentine's Day.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Do you think I have a black cold heart?
Speaker 2 (01:17):
It seems like you do today. Cheers whatever, cheers, I love.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
You, love you? She has something stronger.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
I'm just kidding, of course, but really wanted to be
here to celebrate Valentine's Day, which I know we release
episodes bi monthly, but it's Valentine's Day. It's my favorite
holiday of the year or one of and I forced
me listened to do an episode today because I love
this day.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
You've learned something new every week when you have a
podcast or somebody, if you don't for any other reason,
start a podcast so you learn something new about your lover.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
That is sure, you do learn a lot of things.
I've feel you learn a lot of things quickly when
your podcast because you're constantly talking to people, and when
you talk, you and just knowledge a lot faster.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
You're asking questions.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Yeah, so if you really want to have a great
relationship with a lot of communication, you should start a
podcast or not.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
Honestly, I realized today that content creation together is not
our strong point. What makes you say that, because every
time we try to create content, it's like an argument.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
No, it's not an argument, it's not it's really not.
I think the miscommunication comes in where you think that
you have to do everything or be in control of
everything and communicating and feeling like somebody else can do
something to help you and get get done whatever you
need is possible.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
I don't understand what you're saying exactly exactly you're saying.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
I don't I do.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
What you're saying. It's not a strong suit, it's not possible.
What I'm saying to you is that you don't have
to do everything within the content creation space. That there's
other people that know how to do stuff and you're
not the only one that knows how to do everything. No,
I'm not saying so now you see why. Now you see,
(03:15):
now you can hear and see and understand why why
it could be challenging. What I'm saying to you is
in a creative space, you cannot do everything. Within that
creative space. You have to communicate and you have to
actually speak out loud the things that you want done
so that creativity can come to light. In order to
do that, it must be proper communication. So it's not
(03:36):
that we have a struggle or we can't get things
done in the creative space. Is that there's a certain
commount of communication and then you can't feel like you
have to you could do everything, because then nobody's being creative.
Just you.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
Okay, Yeah, a moment ago, when I was getting you
to help me, it seemed like very.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
Difficult, Yes, because I kept trying to municate with you
and asking you and talking to you about the creative things,
and you just kept telling me, we'll just go read
this because that was.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
The outline of what needed to be created. I didn't
know any other better way to fulfill you in about
what needed to be created rather than simply show you
the very detailed description that was written.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
And when I showed it to you, you still were like,
what are we doing? And I was like, reading, yes.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
And I understand that. And so within that, right, that's
when you no. Sorry, within that, I'm talking to you
so I can understand more. I read the thing right,
and then there's a communication that happens after that, as
in people speak to each other so that we can
then come up with a plan to execute said things.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
Oh, it seemed pretty self explanatory. That's why maybe I
was missing.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
No, it's not self explanatory. That's why you speak to people.
Speaker 3 (04:56):
I mean, in detailed description line with exampleator, it seems
that is explanatory.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
Yeah, it's explanatory. And after it's read and explained to me,
then you have a conversation with you.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
But if you're reading it, what needs to be explained.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
We won't. I never said anything needs to explained. I
said a conversation and communication happens.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Well, I don't know if you'll see any reels from.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Us coming to what's going on today?
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Nothing?
Speaker 2 (05:27):
What's happening?
Speaker 1 (05:29):
Nothing.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
I was just expressing to my feelings about every time
we try to create something that seems to be a miscommunication.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
I think that it's a stress to say that every
time we try to communicate that it's a miscommunication. When
we've community, we've created like a pretty good amount of
things together.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
I guess you're right, we've created a lot of things
together despite the challenges.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Yeah, so where we're going? Where are you going with this?
You just want to or wrench into things.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
I just want to talk. I just want to express myself.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Okay, I'm listening.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
Anyway.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
We're at home in our bedroom, guys, in the walls
that I painted black. This is the most comfortable podcast
setting we've ever had.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
You think we should do some more episodes like this?
Maybe that's what it is. Maybe the setting isn't right.
Maybe there's some things that need to be tweaked so
that you can feel a bit more comfortable. Things could
be communicated easier and then the execution can happen boom
just like that? Would that would that be more reasonable
(06:44):
for you?
Speaker 3 (06:44):
I don't know if it's the bed that's gonna make
it the execution, but this is an ideal location for
content creation.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
Okay, so let's do some more content creation here.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
And I don't mean only fans, I mean the bed.
Speaker 3 (07:02):
You know, even though I've considered it being a late
in life only fans star.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
It's such a sad tree to have.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
Some people make it. What is considered late in life?
Speaker 2 (07:13):
Is my question? Now?
Speaker 3 (07:16):
Like forty plus, like thirty five, I mean McDonald didn't
make it until he was like sixty, So I mean,
is there a McDonald.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
Had to shake Asst. Cell Burger's.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
The point is, whatever your aspirations are, is it ever
too late? Including being an only fan star?
Speaker 2 (07:33):
You know, it might not be too late, just like
I was not too late taken engaged and married and
fall in love and all of these things. So I
think if you want to you want to be a
only fans or a porn star, there's not too late
and open McDonald's not too late. And if you want
to fall in love and get married, it's not too late.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Do you think you're late. I'm late. I'm engaged like
I'm a late bride. No late in life bride.
Speaker 2 (07:56):
No. Well, what is a medieval time?
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Ye? Old?
Speaker 2 (08:02):
Ye old woman is thirty six six years now.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
Dead.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
Ye see right, you be elderly.
Speaker 3 (08:10):
The life span is very short. Please don't say medieval
times to me.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
I am triggered.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
If I have to watch for a more fucking period
piece with medieval whites, I'm going to pass out.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
Speaking of period pieces and medieval whites. Uh. We've been
having a conversation recently about realizing that marrying for love
like is like kind of like a new phenomenon in
the capacity that is happening right now where women are
more so marrying for protection because the world was very scary,
very dangerous.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
Going back to that, I'm scared, but.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
I'm saying now it's it's it's amazing to see the
capacity of how many people are marrying for specifically just
because I love this person. And when women aren't marrying
for what do you call? I think protection? You see
how different their attraction and things are for the men
(09:08):
that they want.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
Yeah, I think love.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
Marrying for love and partnership for love is a relatively
new concept, especially for black people because of slavery. I
think that just historically women have had little choice and
how who they marry. Fathers were often choosing for economical reasons,
and yeah, support and survival, and so yeah, this is
(09:32):
a new error, a new wave, and so like when
we're seeing as a collective of struggling at it, it's
because we don't have a lot of examples because it's
a relatively new concept. And when you do something you
know you haven't seen your parents do, or your grandparents do,
your great great great.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
Parents do, then you're like, what the fuck am I doing?
Speaker 3 (09:49):
And there's no blueprint, and a lot of us are
creating the blueprint.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
So yeah, I guess that's why they. I guess that's
why masculinity is so toxic now, is because we're not
moving on the same guys as we're not in the
same world as we were before. But the world may
have been dangerous and we were act like Neanderthals and
cavemen and had to abide by these rules.
Speaker 3 (10:11):
Now you don't like, well, well, men have really delicate
egos because now we have choice and women have freedom,
and we have financial freedom with some financial independence In.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
Fact, we also don't have the same things to make
a scene manly as we did before, right, and before
we could hunt right before we can like we can
before before we can hunt, we were strong, we can survive, right,
we can protect it outside in the wilderness. Now niggas
just pay their phone bill and be podcasters. Like, there's
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not really much manly manliness and things in that realm
as far as like in the wilderness and being out
in the forest and wild and like taking care of
each other and trying to survive. And I know we're
not like really Nini and the Thals and stuff like that,
but the concept and the thought of the world is
dangerous and someone needs to protect you. It's just not
(11:08):
the same. And so it's really beautiful now to see
that people are falling in love solely because of the
matters of the heart in comparison to the matters of fear.
Speaker 3 (11:18):
It's very difficult for men, I think, I think their
egos are fragile and they are less equipped with a
lot of skill sets. In fact, women are you know,
doing things far larger rates, you know, further along than
men have. And we're seeing that in fact, men may
(11:40):
be the weaker sex.
Speaker 4 (11:43):
I think you really want to problem women up on
the pedestal. I mean, I don't, I mean, do you disagree,
I don't think. I don't think neither one is stronger
or weaker. I think we've seen grand examples of men
being strong and showing up and doing the right things.
I think that you know, the world is just changing
(12:04):
and a lot of times matter letters stray.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
I don't think that makes them weaker, sense.
Speaker 3 (12:07):
I just think the state of the world has a
lot to do with patriarchy, and they've centered themselves and
also ran the world into shit, and so as we
are in this chao chaotic state of the world, there
is a lot of reworking that needs to be done,
and I think it's going to like maybe crash and
burn before it becomes rebuilt. But I think a lot
of that is at the hands of ego and violence
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and men led to civilizations and societies, and we'd have
we have to recognize that.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
I have nothing to say to you to disagree with
that at all, be very honestitude, you got a point
right there anyway. But speaking on falling in love, yes
we do have rolled up. So sorry, we're gonna smoke
a brogred after this episode. But speaking on love and
(12:57):
marrying for love and going down that road journey and
stuff like that, we're starting that journey. Can I hold
your hand when I say this? We're starting the journey
of marriage. Because now if y'all don't know, we're engaged
for real, listen for real, for real, for real, for real,
(13:18):
for real, for real. Oh, Neila is not fired from
the podcast. I know you've been hearing some earlier episodes.
I kind of fired you and suspended you from the podcast.
Say that that's what I've been telling people.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
You tell everybody but me. I don't think you have
the power to fire me.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
I dope, But I'm so happy to be in this
space with you right now and go down this journey
of love and you know, step by step go towards
like our wedding day.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
Yeah, I know.
Speaker 3 (13:52):
We got engaged on one eleven at eleven eleven PM because.
Speaker 2 (13:56):
Your boy be doing that. Wait, hold on, let me
tell y'all what the engagement plan was, right, because Miila
loves it. So first, I was going to just have
people just like come over to the house like randomly
on January eleven, because it's eleven eleven just stand by Randley.
But that was a stupid man idea. So Erica, our
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lovely friend, said that we should have a Good Mom's
Season two launch party at the house. I said, perfect,
if we're talking about Good Moms, She's never gonna think
anything of it. So yeah, I was like, like, okay,
fine for Good Moms. I'm with it. So the only
two days I was thinking about for the whole year
that I can propose to Miela was at January eleventh
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or November eleventh, so that it could align with one
eleven or eleven eleven. And on top of that, I
want to propose to her at eleven eleven PM. So
I had to get this right. I had literally one minute,
two minutes in the whole one day on another day
to get this right.
Speaker 1 (15:04):
Where did this concept come from?
Speaker 3 (15:07):
I know, but because for a long time, even like
I can only do it, there's only two days of
the whole year I could ever do it.
Speaker 1 (15:13):
And I was like Christmas my birthday, and.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
I've known this for two years now.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
I was like, wait are the days? Like it has
to be a holiday, you know. We had a really
magical New Year's even like four five years ago when
we met, and I was like, he has to be
talking about this day, but you kept saying no, and
I was just thoroughly confused at what fucking day was.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
It was just the angel numbers, and but I wanted
to level it up a little bit, because you know,
I don't do nothing small, do things big around here, player,
all right, So I wanted to level it up a
little bit, but also make it so specific and then
specificity specificity.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
I'm Jamaica specifically.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
Whatever makes it specific also makes it so special because
that day and time will always be very special to me,
and we can always celebrate a specific day and time,
not just like the whole day, but that specific one
minute will always be so special. And I just thought
that having a down plan to the tea like that
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would just invoke a new level of emotion out of everybody,
because they're just going to think that it's so thoughtful.
Speaker 3 (16:22):
It was sufful And it just so happened that it
was a full moon, and it also happened to be
a full moon in cancer and I am a cancer guys,
So the Great Divine Mother was divining.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
Yeah, And then all our friends and family came my
cousin came all the way from Long Beach, and if
you don't know a Long Beach to North Hollywood, it's
quite a trip. So it was just kind of funny
because my cousins on my side of the family is
there and me was like, oh, my cousins, they really
support good Moths repersentate.
Speaker 3 (16:53):
At the house, people were coming, you know, my parents came. Luckily,
I'm pretty close to my parents, so I'm like, we're
going to cook, come over, So when they came, it
wasn't a big deal.
Speaker 1 (17:02):
And then you know, my childhood friends.
Speaker 3 (17:04):
I didn't initially invite them because they don't really come
to good Mom's events that often.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
But at the like.
Speaker 3 (17:10):
Literally two or three hours before, I was like, let
me invite them because they're gonna be seen online and
I'm gonna be like the why don't you tell me?
Speaker 1 (17:17):
So let me just say.
Speaker 3 (17:19):
Let me just give them the invite just in case
they I know they're not gonna count.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
And then they came and I was like, wow, everybody's here.
Still I thought nothing of it.
Speaker 3 (17:32):
I was on the phone with my best friend on
FaceTime for like a few hours that day. I was
getting dressed Orlando was annoying the shit out of me
because he wouldn't clean up the things on top of
the refrigerator. And I told my friend Mira, I was.
Speaker 1 (17:46):
Like, he's kidding all my nerves.
Speaker 3 (17:48):
He won't clean up on top of the refrigerator of
people coming over, you know, black people, when people come over.
It is very serious cleaning, very specific only when people
come over there. And so she's like, yeah, that would
annoy me too. And then I was like, should I
put the makeup? I'm like, it's just my house. Should
I get dressed? And she's like, it's your house, he
might as well, and thankfully I did. And also, which
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should have been a fucking sign. Two things. Or Landa's like,
do you want to get your nails done on Thursday? Something
he never asked me. And then the very same day,
Eric's like, you want to get your nails done tomorrow?
Speaker 2 (18:21):
And I was like, everybody wanted to get their nails though,
would be I Orlando.
Speaker 3 (18:26):
Everybody wants to get the nails zone. So I don't
know what to tell you, and he's like, just go
with Erica. And you know, me and Erica have been
trying to make a conscious effort as business partners and
friends to like do things together. So I really thought
that we were just doing it. It was so perfect
doing something together. Even until people showed up. My house
was full of people, and we have a loft upstairs
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that usually people like hang out in. Nobody would go
sit upstairs, and I was just like, you guys know,
they're seating upstairs too. Nobody would go upstairs. And then
the kids were well, also the kids. Luna was at
her dad's house and I asked, Erica, are you bringing Iri,
her daughter? And she was like yeah, And I was like,
I did not want kids at the party, but whatever,
(19:10):
I'll go get lou Not like being an anti children.
Speaker 2 (19:15):
Well, but Luna had to be there, both Lunda had
and Iri had to be there. My daughters had to
be there to see me, you know, do the thing,
you know, show show them how mothers and women are
supposed to be treated and how they're supposed to be
treated themselves when they become women of age, and regardless
of whatever partner they have, that they have respect, respect,
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even engagement.
Speaker 1 (19:36):
Even though I think they were upstairs not paying attention.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
No, they were. They were into it. They were like, yo,
you should have told me like beforehand, like it was
coming because we were upstairs, so we get they could
have the dvantage pois and they could see the engagement,
but I was too wrapped up.
Speaker 1 (19:48):
They were like, where's the land and where's the lando?
And I was like, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (19:51):
And Erica goes, he's changing, and he's changing, Where's changing?
Speaker 2 (19:56):
He's taking this event seriously.
Speaker 3 (19:58):
He was cooking earlier, maybe defresh up. I didn't think
anything of it, so like, literally moments before he goes.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
You should touch up your lipstick, I should touch up
my lipstick. Look at never in the whole time.
Speaker 3 (20:13):
I've ever known him as he told me to touch
up my lipstick, And at first I was like, who
the fuck are you talking to me? And then I
was like whatever, if Erica told me to touch up
my list, I would just do it, so I did.
Speaker 2 (20:23):
And then if Erica said listen to a party, she
just did it.
Speaker 3 (20:26):
No, it's just you don't care about my fucking lipstick.
So I was like, I'm not gonna take this personally.
And then I proceeded to go to the kitchen to
pour a shot, and mid shot, he whisked me away,
and I was.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
Like, because everybody's alarmed. Oh here's another thing, right, here's
another detail to the party. I told everybody that eleven
eleven eleven they need to set their phone alarms, so
that at eleven eleven, as everybody.
Speaker 1 (20:50):
Was coming in, you're whispering to them.
Speaker 2 (20:52):
Yeah, it's not a good Moss party.
Speaker 1 (21:00):
People didn't know, though some did. People not know it
was for an engagement.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
Only a few people like super and Over didn't know.
So didn't know.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
Girl, I.
Speaker 3 (21:14):
Invited friends that had come on the show before. I
invited friends from the show. I just invited friends.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
But you know, it's crazy because they were hype and happened.
They're like, oh, this is even better.
Speaker 3 (21:23):
And apparently you know, because I thought, I was really
annoyed that Eric didn't add me as a host. I'm
part off, I was, it's my party. It's at my
house too, so like what the fuck?
Speaker 1 (21:34):
I was like, why would she add me as a host?
Speaker 3 (21:36):
And then she keeps uninviting me. I keep going back
to R S V, PDC, how many people am I
expecting at my house? And apparently she was sending messages
through there letting people know that it was an engagement party.
But like, literally, I missed like literally when I'm a man,
literally until the moment he pulled me.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
Yeah, and then her way. I whisked her way, put her.
We stood in front of our fire place. Everybody was
around us. Everybody knew what time it was because it
was eleven eleven nothing. She was like, I'm trying to
pour my shot and I'm like, come on, just well,
we'll share it. It's like half and half. And I
just pulled her right in front of me and I
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kissed her and I was looking in the face and
I was like, babe, it's time. You get that, you
get it, It's time.
Speaker 1 (22:23):
I didn't know what. I didn't hear that.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
She was so in love. She didn't hear I said
it's time. And then I got down on one knee.
It's creasing my Jordan's. You know you gotta wear.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
Jordan's also did he put on? I saw it, but
I was just like, he's really trying to.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
Show out for And so I got there on one knee,
which which the part from me standing up to like
getting down on one knee was so nerve racking for me.
And I have no idea why. I don't know. From
standing n getting on your knee and proposing is so
nerve racking to me. And so when I was doing it,
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right when I kissed you and I was like, oh,
it's time, and I was about to go down, I
put my whole body go numb, and I'm already toller
than you. So all I can see is me going
from being taller than you to being shorter than you
and looking up at you, and I was like, oh shit,
how did I get down here? And next thing I know,
I have it in my hand and I'm showing you
the ring and We're both smiling at each other, and
You're like, oh, fuck.
Speaker 3 (23:20):
He got me as soon as you backed away from
the kiss.
Speaker 1 (23:23):
And then I was like, oh, because everybody was looking
at us. Why is everybody looking at us?
Speaker 3 (23:30):
And then it dawned on me as you started to
get on one knee that I had gotten fooled.
Speaker 2 (23:38):
Trick to marriage to.
Speaker 1 (23:40):
The highest capacity.
Speaker 3 (23:42):
Yeah, yeah, but it was really nice.
Speaker 1 (23:45):
My family was there, my brother and my mom, my dad.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
It was beyond nice.
Speaker 1 (23:49):
It was really beautiful.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
It was beautiful. It was it was full of fucking love.
Like the love was so concentrated in that house, the
happiness I could, you know, even.
Speaker 3 (24:02):
When even when the jewelry, the jeweler came, I didn't
even think anything of it.
Speaker 1 (24:09):
I can't believe she came out. Sorry, I just don't
if she came out at night, you know, she has
come out at.
Speaker 2 (24:18):
It was just it was just it was just so beautiful.
It was amazing. But the part of it that is
kind of wonderful is that everybody already knew it was
going to happen. Like we're the most obvious well before
we got engaged, we were the most obvious unmarried couple
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that everybody knew we were getting married to each other's
nobody else marrying either of us but each other.
Speaker 3 (24:45):
I mean we knew, you know, We're like, we knew
we're getting married. We talked about it. We've been looking
at rings, we talked about it.
Speaker 2 (24:51):
The energy is already there.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
It was just yeah, you know.
Speaker 3 (24:54):
And I had yelled at him a lot for fake
proposing on the sets, really fucking annoying.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
But but two for everybody to like already know and wait
in anticipation for the day where I pose and wait,
and we still wait in wait in anticipation for the
day we get married. But it's just I think it's
exciting for everybody to see, like, I know what's going
to happen, but how like how is he going to
(25:20):
pull it off? And then for everybody be like, oh
my gosh, January eleventh, at eleven eleven with this two
couple that we know are madly in love each other
from the beginning, to be in the space of their
love and know just how we like to radiate that
love to everybody else. It felt great to everybody there.
Speaker 3 (25:40):
Yeah, And you know, we do a lot of hosting
at our house and we hold a lot of space
at our house for our.
Speaker 1 (25:45):
Friends, and like just a lot of love is like aways.
Speaker 3 (25:48):
It's always here, you know, at our gatherings, and so
it was perfect. Like had we went out somewhere fancy
and I had to get dressed out and maybe like
been suspicious if we had to go out to dinner,
but because it was here, I was just like another
another gathering.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
Yeah, we do it all the time. So it wasn't
a thing.
Speaker 2 (26:03):
But the beautiful part of that is that our engagement
was I guess, kind of tying in a bunch of
things that we are already do. We already celebrate with
our friends, We already do things at the house. We
already feel special cook, cook and nourish our bodies. We
already feel special about certain times of the day with
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angel numbers and things like that, like we not we
your boy. Your boy was able to tie in all
the things that make our relationship special and make it
a moment for you.
Speaker 1 (26:41):
Yeah. I did a really good job. It was really
impressed by a your designing of our rings.
Speaker 2 (26:47):
And I did the ring. I did the engagement well
more you want from your boy.
Speaker 3 (26:54):
The ring was beautiful, and I was shocked when I
saw it, you know, I was. I was shocked in
jen But then you know what, It's something about like
a getting on the knee and then be the reveal
of the ring that I knew was in the house.
I was just like, oh, oh shit, it's happening. And
I thought for a long time like am I going
to be surprised? Am I going to cry? And it's
going to be able to surprise me? And how am
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I going to feel? And it's just I still am
It's been a little bit more than a month and
I'm still a little bit like oh yeah, oh yeah,
I'm engaged.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
Yeah, you're attached to that ring, am, and I will
say this post engagement, I think is probably some of
the happiest times that I've been in a relationship with you.
Like this last month has been one of the happiest
months that we've had, and we've been happy and in
(27:51):
the honeymoon stage since we've met. In this last month
has been one of the happiest and I feel it
wholeheartedly inside my chest.
Speaker 3 (28:02):
Do you have any fear it has any fear come up? Like,
oh now it's real now?
Speaker 2 (28:05):
No, Actually, all the fear came up between when I
got the ring and proposed because that's when like, if
I would get annoyed by something, I would go, oh
my god, I got to deal with this for the
rest of my life.
Speaker 1 (28:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
I was like, I was like, damn, I already got
the ring. Oh god, it's got his shorts. But yeah, yeah,
yeah no, but but yeah, there were things that would
come up and I'm like, damn, can I deal with
that for the rest of my life? And I was like,
I need to relax. I'm just overdoing it. I'm overthinking
(28:46):
about it would be nothing, it would literally be nothing,
but I would just be thinking about, Okay, if it
happened one time this time, and it happened three times before.
That's gonna happen like three hundred times for the rest
of my life. Now it's like, ah, can I deal
with that? And it's like everything that kept coming up
kept making me go, oh my god, can I deal
with that for rest of my life? And then I
(29:07):
was just like, these aren't things. I'm just so overly
anxious about getting on one knee and then making it
solid and that for real. And now I have to
continuously go down paths of love, this path of engagement,
the path of marriage, the path of family, the path
of kids, like all these adult things just just nerve
(29:28):
wracking when you haven't been prepared and prepped as a
as a boy and as a man to understand how
to love somebody and not in this neander Neanderthal type
of way. A very yeah, in a very modern, advanced
way where you have to communicate, you have to be
emotionally intelligent, and you have to be accountable and be
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a man in so many different ways. And this is
not only is the way we love now very modern,
but the way we show up in the relationships and
how you have to be as men is much different
than how it was fifty years ago, and so you know,
all the things were it was nerve wracking, but when
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my body numbed out and I fell to the floor
and hold on me and proposed to you, and then
I came back up and I held you, and we
were by our fireplace and just looking around the room
and seeing how much love was surrounded by by us,
and how much continuous support is always surrounded by us,
and support of our love, because I truly feel like
(30:33):
people look at us as the modern day way of
being in love. You loving out loud, loving with intention,
and supporting, supporting each other and supporting women in a
very rare way.
Speaker 1 (30:51):
Yeah, I mean, I think.
Speaker 3 (30:54):
After the engagement, not that there is fear, but I'm like, oh, like, oh,
shit's getting real. I knew it was real. We've talked
about it. Obviously, it's been real. We lived together, he
moved across the country to live together.
Speaker 1 (31:06):
So it's not that.
Speaker 3 (31:08):
I didn't know, but I didn't think that I say
this all the time, that marriage was that important to me.
But then I guess I realized throughout this journey that
it is and it has been.
Speaker 1 (31:21):
But I guess not really.
Speaker 3 (31:22):
Wanting to acknowledge that as a woman, I get very
annoyed with women who are so obsessed with marriage that
they settle or that they make dumb decisions just for
the sake of being married. And I never wanted to
be that type of bitch. And so I guess like
just waking like I think the actual ring is a
tangible reminder and example that just like optically that oh,
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like we're on this journey together and that this is
you know, this stage, you know, pre engagement has been
a stage of its own four years and then this
is you know, this really signifies and like symbolizes a
new chapter that we're stepping into. And you know, each
chapter has been different. We met, we dated, you moved,
(32:11):
you know what I mean. There's just there's been different
iterations of a relationship. But with the ring and the
investment of yeah, just the investment of jewelry, I guess
of an engagement ring, it's just like eights reminding me
like I'm not getting any younger. It's also been really
clear about like our family dynamic and that I am
(32:32):
having another baby, even though it's been something that I mean,
I know we're doing it, but I'm like, it's been
a decade since I've been pregnant, it's been decade since
I've been with the small child, and questioning if it's
not something I'm capable of, because obviously I am, but
just what that looks like in this iteration, in this
(32:54):
age of my life. And I don't know, I'm really
excited about it, even though I think initially, I think
initially I was a little bit nervous, but now I'm
like settling into the fact that we're in it, you know,
and there's nothing there's really no better person for me,
and I don't feel I know that we both are like, yeah,
(33:17):
until death to do us part, basically, and I think
we're both realistic about you know, things will come up.
It's not going to be easy always, there will be obstacles,
but there's gonna be a lot of beautiful things. And
I think that just getting serious about the trajectory of
our relationship, but more so the legacy that we want
(33:38):
to leave behind and how we set up our kids
and really how we shift the mindset of our lineage,
you know, together and like what that looks like.
Speaker 1 (33:49):
And I'm really excited about that.
Speaker 2 (33:52):
Yeah, And I am too, And obviously this all just
goes to show that, you know, with how I was
creative with making the ring and how it's creative with
putting together our engagement party, that I am the one
that is creative in the relationship and I am not
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the problem with the miscommunication. And then obviously we can
be creative if it's just me. I want to thank
you for coming and listening and watching this beautiful Valentine's
a special episode of Love Like This with my lovely
sweetheart Beyonce, Mila Maps say bye, Mila Bye, and me wonderful,
(34:38):
beautiful Orlando Roy I love y'all. This is waiting.
Speaker 3 (34:44):
Side note Orleana tell me yesterday he's gonna rev back
up his only fans. And if you wait to be
engaged to rev back you up your only fans.
Speaker 2 (34:53):
I think it'd be great if you're a creative.
Speaker 1 (34:55):
Coordinator, but I'm not the creative.
Speaker 2 (35:00):
Let me say, if y'all want to live upon us
and show us some love, follow us on Instagram and
huci mom and dad listen to us love like this
and watch us on YouTube love like this and send
us some love because we love y'all too.
Speaker 1 (35:16):
Love you, Bye bye. Excuse me, Nah, like this
Like this.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Hm hmm. Happy Valentine's Day, Happy Valentine's Day. Heavy Valentine's Day, y'all?
What's goody? Another beautiful episode of love like this, and
it's Valentine's Day. Honestly, this is my favorite holiday of
there other than my birthday? Is it? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Shocker? I don't know what?
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Why? Why? Is that a shocker?
Speaker 1 (00:32):
I didn't know this is your second holiday favorite?
Speaker 2 (00:35):
Yeah? Yeah? I love Valentine's Day and I love love.
How do you feel about I say, that's whatever.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
I think it's you know, made up, made up.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
So Happy Valentine's Day, y'all. It is the season and
day of love, and I am here with my one
and only love, the person I live so much. Look
at these beautifull roses and my beautiful red shirt to
show how I'm celebrating Valentine's Day. Meala's wearing black for
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her black cold Heart of Valentine's Day.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Do you think I have a black cold heart?
Speaker 2 (01:17):
It seems like you do today. Cheers whatever, cheers, I love.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
You, love you? She has something stronger.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
I'm just kidding, of course, but really wanted to be
here to celebrate Valentine's Day, which I know we release
episodes bi monthly, but it's Valentine's Day. It's my favorite
holiday of the year or one of and I forced
me listened to do an episode today because I love
this day.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
You've learned something new every week when you have a
podcast or somebody, if you don't for any other reason,
start a podcast so you learn something new about your lover.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
That is sure, you do learn a lot of things.
I've feel you learn a lot of things quickly when
your podcast because you're constantly talking to people, and when
you talk, you and just knowledge a lot faster.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
You're asking questions.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Yeah, so if you really want to have a great
relationship with a lot of communication, you should start a
podcast or not.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
Honestly, I realized today that content creation together is not
our strong point. What makes you say that, because every
time we try to create content, it's like an argument.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
No, it's not an argument, it's not it's really not.
I think the miscommunication comes in where you think that
you have to do everything or be in control of
everything and communicating and feeling like somebody else can do
something to help you and get get done whatever you
need is possible.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
I don't understand what you're saying exactly exactly you're saying.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
I don't I do.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
What you're saying. It's not a strong suit, it's not possible.
What I'm saying to you is that you don't have
to do everything within the content creation space. That there's
other people that know how to do stuff and you're
not the only one that knows how to do everything. No,
I'm not saying so now you see why. Now you see,
(03:15):
now you can hear and see and understand why why
it could be challenging. What I'm saying to you is
in a creative space, you cannot do everything. Within that
creative space. You have to communicate and you have to
actually speak out loud the things that you want done
so that creativity can come to light. In order to
do that, it must be proper communication. So it's not
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that we have a struggle or we can't get things
done in the creative space. Is that there's a certain
commount of communication and then you can't feel like you
have to you could do everything, because then nobody's being creative.
Just you.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
Okay, Yeah, a moment ago, when I was getting you
to help me, it seemed like very.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
Difficult, Yes, because I kept trying to municate with you
and asking you and talking to you about the creative things,
and you just kept telling me, we'll just go read
this because that was.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
The outline of what needed to be created. I didn't
know any other better way to fulfill you in about
what needed to be created rather than simply show you
the very detailed description that was written.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
And when I showed it to you, you still were like,
what are we doing? And I was like, reading, yes.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
And I understand that. And so within that, right, that's
when you no. Sorry, within that, I'm talking to you
so I can understand more. I read the thing right,
and then there's a communication that happens after that, as
in people speak to each other so that we can
then come up with a plan to execute said things.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
Oh, it seemed pretty self explanatory. That's why maybe I
was missing.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
No, it's not self explanatory. That's why you speak to people.
Speaker 3 (04:56):
I mean, in detailed description line with exampleator, it seems
that is explanatory.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
Yeah, it's explanatory. And after it's read and explained to me,
then you have a conversation with you.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
But if you're reading it, what needs to be explained.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
We won't. I never said anything needs to explained. I
said a conversation and communication happens.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Well, I don't know if you'll see any reels from.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Us coming to what's going on today?
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Nothing?
Speaker 2 (05:27):
What's happening?
Speaker 1 (05:29):
Nothing.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
I was just expressing to my feelings about every time
we try to create something that seems to be a miscommunication.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
I think that it's a stress to say that every
time we try to communicate that it's a miscommunication. When
we've community, we've created like a pretty good amount of
things together.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
I guess you're right, we've created a lot of things
together despite the challenges.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Yeah, so where we're going? Where are you going with this?
You just want to or wrench into things.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
I just want to talk. I just want to express myself.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Okay, I'm listening.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
Anyway.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
We're at home in our bedroom, guys, in the walls
that I painted black. This is the most comfortable podcast
setting we've ever had.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
You think we should do some more episodes like this?
Maybe that's what it is. Maybe the setting isn't right.
Maybe there's some things that need to be tweaked so
that you can feel a bit more comfortable. Things could
be communicated easier and then the execution can happen boom
just like that? Would that would that be more reasonable
(06:44):
for you?
Speaker 3 (06:44):
I don't know if it's the bed that's gonna make
it the execution, but this is an ideal location for
content creation.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
Okay, so let's do some more content creation here.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
And I don't mean only fans, I mean the bed.
Speaker 3 (07:02):
You know, even though I've considered it being a late
in life only fans star.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
It's such a sad tree to have.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
Some people make it. What is considered late in life?
Speaker 2 (07:13):
Is my question? Now?
Speaker 3 (07:16):
Like forty plus, like thirty five, I mean McDonald didn't
make it until he was like sixty, So I mean,
is there a McDonald.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
Had to shake Asst. Cell Burger's.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
The point is, whatever your aspirations are, is it ever
too late? Including being an only fan star?
Speaker 2 (07:33):
You know, it might not be too late, just like
I was not too late taken engaged and married and
fall in love and all of these things. So I
think if you want to you want to be a
only fans or a porn star, there's not too late
and open McDonald's not too late. And if you want
to fall in love and get married, it's not too late.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Do you think you're late. I'm late. I'm engaged like
I'm a late bride. No late in life bride.
Speaker 2 (07:56):
No. Well, what is a medieval time?
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Ye? Old?
Speaker 2 (08:02):
Ye old woman is thirty six six years now.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
Dead.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
Ye see right, you be elderly.
Speaker 3 (08:10):
The life span is very short. Please don't say medieval
times to me.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
I am triggered.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
If I have to watch for a more fucking period
piece with medieval whites, I'm going to pass out.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
Speaking of period pieces and medieval whites. Uh. We've been
having a conversation recently about realizing that marrying for love
like is like kind of like a new phenomenon in
the capacity that is happening right now where women are
more so marrying for protection because the world was very scary,
very dangerous.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
Going back to that, I'm scared, but.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
I'm saying now it's it's it's amazing to see the
capacity of how many people are marrying for specifically just
because I love this person. And when women aren't marrying
for what do you call? I think protection? You see
how different their attraction and things are for the men
(09:08):
that they want.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
Yeah, I think love.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
Marrying for love and partnership for love is a relatively
new concept, especially for black people because of slavery. I
think that just historically women have had little choice and
how who they marry. Fathers were often choosing for economical reasons,
and yeah, support and survival, and so yeah, this is
(09:32):
a new error, a new wave, and so like when
we're seeing as a collective of struggling at it, it's
because we don't have a lot of examples because it's
a relatively new concept. And when you do something you
know you haven't seen your parents do, or your grandparents do,
your great great great.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
Parents do, then you're like, what the fuck am I doing?
Speaker 3 (09:49):
And there's no blueprint, and a lot of us are
creating the blueprint.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
So yeah, I guess that's why they. I guess that's
why masculinity is so toxic now, is because we're not
moving on the same guys as we're not in the
same world as we were before. But the world may
have been dangerous and we were act like Neanderthals and
cavemen and had to abide by these rules.
Speaker 3 (10:11):
Now you don't like, well, well, men have really delicate
egos because now we have choice and women have freedom,
and we have financial freedom with some financial independence In.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
Fact, we also don't have the same things to make
a scene manly as we did before, right, and before
we could hunt right before we can like we can
before before we can hunt, we were strong, we can survive, right,
we can protect it outside in the wilderness. Now niggas
just pay their phone bill and be podcasters. Like, there's
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not really much manly manliness and things in that realm
as far as like in the wilderness and being out
in the forest and wild and like taking care of
each other and trying to survive. And I know we're
not like really Nini and the Thals and stuff like that,
but the concept and the thought of the world is
dangerous and someone needs to protect you. It's just not
(11:08):
the same. And so it's really beautiful now to see
that people are falling in love solely because of the
matters of the heart in comparison to the matters of fear.
Speaker 3 (11:18):
It's very difficult for men, I think, I think their
egos are fragile and they are less equipped with a
lot of skill sets. In fact, women are you know,
doing things far larger rates, you know, further along than
men have. And we're seeing that in fact, men may
(11:40):
be the weaker sex.
Speaker 4 (11:43):
I think you really want to problem women up on
the pedestal. I mean, I don't, I mean, do you disagree,
I don't think. I don't think neither one is stronger
or weaker. I think we've seen grand examples of men
being strong and showing up and doing the right things.
I think that you know, the world is just changing
(12:04):
and a lot of times matter letters stray.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
I don't think that makes them weaker, sense.
Speaker 3 (12:07):
I just think the state of the world has a
lot to do with patriarchy, and they've centered themselves and
also ran the world into shit, and so as we
are in this chao chaotic state of the world, there
is a lot of reworking that needs to be done,
and I think it's going to like maybe crash and
burn before it becomes rebuilt. But I think a lot
of that is at the hands of ego and violence
(12:29):
and men led to civilizations and societies, and we'd have
we have to recognize that.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
I have nothing to say to you to disagree with
that at all, be very honestitude, you got a point
right there anyway. But speaking on falling in love, yes
we do have rolled up. So sorry, we're gonna smoke
a brogred after this episode. But speaking on love and
(12:57):
marrying for love and going down that road journey and
stuff like that, we're starting that journey. Can I hold
your hand when I say this? We're starting the journey
of marriage. Because now if y'all don't know, we're engaged
for real, listen for real, for real, for real, for real,
(13:18):
for real, for real. Oh, Neila is not fired from
the podcast. I know you've been hearing some earlier episodes.
I kind of fired you and suspended you from the podcast.
Say that that's what I've been telling people.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
You tell everybody but me. I don't think you have
the power to fire me.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
I dope, But I'm so happy to be in this
space with you right now and go down this journey
of love and you know, step by step go towards
like our wedding day.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
Yeah, I know.
Speaker 3 (13:52):
We got engaged on one eleven at eleven eleven PM because.
Speaker 2 (13:56):
Your boy be doing that. Wait, hold on, let me
tell y'all what the engagement plan was, right, because Miila
loves it. So first, I was going to just have
people just like come over to the house like randomly
on January eleven, because it's eleven eleven just stand by Randley.
But that was a stupid man idea. So Erica, our
(14:19):
lovely friend, said that we should have a Good Mom's
Season two launch party at the house. I said, perfect,
if we're talking about Good Moms, She's never gonna think
anything of it. So yeah, I was like, like, okay,
fine for Good Moms. I'm with it. So the only
two days I was thinking about for the whole year
that I can propose to Miela was at January eleventh
(14:44):
or November eleventh, so that it could align with one
eleven or eleven eleven. And on top of that, I
want to propose to her at eleven eleven PM. So
I had to get this right. I had literally one minute,
two minutes in the whole one day on another day
to get this right.
Speaker 1 (15:04):
Where did this concept come from?
Speaker 3 (15:07):
I know, but because for a long time, even like
I can only do it, there's only two days of
the whole year I could ever do it.
Speaker 1 (15:13):
And I was like Christmas my birthday, and.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
I've known this for two years now.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
I was like, wait are the days? Like it has
to be a holiday, you know. We had a really
magical New Year's even like four five years ago when
we met, and I was like, he has to be
talking about this day, but you kept saying no, and
I was just thoroughly confused at what fucking day was.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
It was just the angel numbers, and but I wanted
to level it up a little bit, because you know,
I don't do nothing small, do things big around here, player,
all right, So I wanted to level it up a
little bit, but also make it so specific and then
specificity specificity.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
I'm Jamaica specifically.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
Whatever makes it specific also makes it so special because
that day and time will always be very special to me,
and we can always celebrate a specific day and time,
not just like the whole day, but that specific one
minute will always be so special. And I just thought
that having a down plan to the tea like that
(16:15):
would just invoke a new level of emotion out of everybody,
because they're just going to think that it's so thoughtful.
Speaker 3 (16:22):
It was sufful And it just so happened that it
was a full moon, and it also happened to be
a full moon in cancer and I am a cancer guys,
So the Great Divine Mother was divining.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
Yeah, And then all our friends and family came my
cousin came all the way from Long Beach, and if
you don't know a Long Beach to North Hollywood, it's
quite a trip. So it was just kind of funny
because my cousins on my side of the family is
there and me was like, oh, my cousins, they really
support good Moths repersentate.
Speaker 3 (16:53):
At the house, people were coming, you know, my parents came. Luckily,
I'm pretty close to my parents, so I'm like, we're
going to cook, come over, So when they came, it
wasn't a big deal.
Speaker 1 (17:02):
And then you know, my childhood friends.
Speaker 3 (17:04):
I didn't initially invite them because they don't really come
to good Mom's events that often.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
But at the like.
Speaker 3 (17:10):
Literally two or three hours before, I was like, let
me invite them because they're gonna be seen online and
I'm gonna be like the why don't you tell me?
Speaker 1 (17:17):
So let me just say.
Speaker 3 (17:19):
Let me just give them the invite just in case
they I know they're not gonna count.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
And then they came and I was like, wow, everybody's here.
Still I thought nothing of it.
Speaker 3 (17:32):
I was on the phone with my best friend on
FaceTime for like a few hours that day. I was
getting dressed Orlando was annoying the shit out of me
because he wouldn't clean up the things on top of
the refrigerator. And I told my friend Mira, I was.
Speaker 1 (17:46):
Like, he's kidding all my nerves.
Speaker 3 (17:48):
He won't clean up on top of the refrigerator of
people coming over, you know, black people, when people come over.
It is very serious cleaning, very specific only when people
come over there. And so she's like, yeah, that would
annoy me too. And then I was like, should I
put the makeup? I'm like, it's just my house. Should
I get dressed? And she's like, it's your house, he
might as well, and thankfully I did. And also, which
(18:11):
should have been a fucking sign. Two things. Or Landa's like,
do you want to get your nails done on Thursday? Something
he never asked me. And then the very same day,
Eric's like, you want to get your nails done tomorrow?
Speaker 2 (18:21):
And I was like, everybody wanted to get their nails though,
would be I Orlando.
Speaker 3 (18:26):
Everybody wants to get the nails zone. So I don't
know what to tell you, and he's like, just go
with Erica. And you know, me and Erica have been
trying to make a conscious effort as business partners and
friends to like do things together. So I really thought
that we were just doing it. It was so perfect
doing something together. Even until people showed up. My house
was full of people, and we have a loft upstairs
(18:48):
that usually people like hang out in. Nobody would go
sit upstairs, and I was just like, you guys know,
they're seating upstairs too. Nobody would go upstairs. And then
the kids were well, also the kids. Luna was at
her dad's house and I asked, Erica, are you bringing Iri,
her daughter? And she was like yeah, And I was like,
I did not want kids at the party, but whatever,
(19:10):
I'll go get lou Not like being an anti children.
Speaker 2 (19:15):
Well, but Luna had to be there, both Lunda had
and Iri had to be there. My daughters had to
be there to see me, you know, do the thing,
you know, show show them how mothers and women are
supposed to be treated and how they're supposed to be
treated themselves when they become women of age, and regardless
of whatever partner they have, that they have respect, respect,
(19:36):
even engagement.
Speaker 1 (19:36):
Even though I think they were upstairs not paying attention.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
No, they were. They were into it. They were like, yo,
you should have told me like beforehand, like it was
coming because we were upstairs, so we get they could
have the dvantage pois and they could see the engagement,
but I was too wrapped up.
Speaker 1 (19:48):
They were like, where's the land and where's the lando?
And I was like, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (19:51):
And Erica goes, he's changing, and he's changing, Where's changing?
Speaker 2 (19:56):
He's taking this event seriously.
Speaker 3 (19:58):
He was cooking earlier, maybe defresh up. I didn't think
anything of it, so like, literally moments before he goes.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
You should touch up your lipstick, I should touch up
my lipstick. Look at never in the whole time.
Speaker 3 (20:13):
I've ever known him as he told me to touch
up my lipstick, And at first I was like, who
the fuck are you talking to me? And then I
was like whatever, if Erica told me to touch up
my list, I would just do it, so I did.
Speaker 2 (20:23):
And then if Erica said listen to a party, she
just did it.
Speaker 3 (20:26):
No, it's just you don't care about my fucking lipstick.
So I was like, I'm not gonna take this personally.
And then I proceeded to go to the kitchen to
pour a shot, and mid shot, he whisked me away,
and I was.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
Like, because everybody's alarmed. Oh here's another thing, right, here's
another detail to the party. I told everybody that eleven
eleven eleven they need to set their phone alarms, so
that at eleven eleven, as everybody.
Speaker 1 (20:50):
Was coming in, you're whispering to them.
Speaker 2 (20:52):
Yeah, it's not a good Moss party.
Speaker 1 (21:00):
People didn't know, though some did. People not know it
was for an engagement.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
Only a few people like super and Over didn't know.
So didn't know.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
Girl, I.
Speaker 3 (21:14):
Invited friends that had come on the show before. I
invited friends from the show. I just invited friends.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
But you know, it's crazy because they were hype and happened.
They're like, oh, this is even better.
Speaker 3 (21:23):
And apparently you know, because I thought, I was really
annoyed that Eric didn't add me as a host. I'm
part off, I was, it's my party. It's at my
house too, so like what the fuck?
Speaker 1 (21:34):
I was like, why would she add me as a host?
Speaker 3 (21:36):
And then she keeps uninviting me. I keep going back
to R S V, PDC, how many people am I
expecting at my house? And apparently she was sending messages
through there letting people know that it was an engagement party.
But like, literally, I missed like literally when I'm a man,
literally until the moment he pulled me.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
Yeah, and then her way. I whisked her way, put her.
We stood in front of our fire place. Everybody was
around us. Everybody knew what time it was because it
was eleven eleven nothing. She was like, I'm trying to
pour my shot and I'm like, come on, just well,
we'll share it. It's like half and half. And I
just pulled her right in front of me and I
(22:16):
kissed her and I was looking in the face and
I was like, babe, it's time. You get that, you
get it, It's time.
Speaker 1 (22:23):
I didn't know what. I didn't hear that.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
She was so in love. She didn't hear I said
it's time. And then I got down on one knee.
It's creasing my Jordan's. You know you gotta wear.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
Jordan's also did he put on? I saw it, but
I was just like, he's really trying to.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
Show out for And so I got there on one knee,
which which the part from me standing up to like
getting down on one knee was so nerve racking for me.
And I have no idea why. I don't know. From
standing n getting on your knee and proposing is so
nerve racking to me. And so when I was doing it,
(23:00):
right when I kissed you and I was like, oh,
it's time, and I was about to go down, I
put my whole body go numb, and I'm already toller
than you. So all I can see is me going
from being taller than you to being shorter than you
and looking up at you, and I was like, oh shit,
how did I get down here? And next thing I know,
I have it in my hand and I'm showing you
the ring and We're both smiling at each other, and
You're like, oh, fuck.
Speaker 3 (23:20):
He got me as soon as you backed away from
the kiss.
Speaker 1 (23:23):
And then I was like, oh, because everybody was looking
at us. Why is everybody looking at us?
Speaker 3 (23:30):
And then it dawned on me as you started to
get on one knee that I had gotten fooled.
Speaker 2 (23:38):
Trick to marriage to.
Speaker 1 (23:40):
The highest capacity.
Speaker 3 (23:42):
Yeah, yeah, but it was really nice.
Speaker 1 (23:45):
My family was there, my brother and my mom, my dad.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
It was beyond nice.
Speaker 1 (23:49):
It was really beautiful.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
It was beautiful. It was it was full of fucking love.
Like the love was so concentrated in that house, the
happiness I could, you know, even.
Speaker 3 (24:02):
When even when the jewelry, the jeweler came, I didn't
even think anything of it.
Speaker 1 (24:09):
I can't believe she came out. Sorry, I just don't
if she came out at night, you know, she has
come out at.
Speaker 2 (24:18):
It was just it was just it was just so beautiful.
It was amazing. But the part of it that is
kind of wonderful is that everybody already knew it was
going to happen. Like we're the most obvious well before
we got engaged, we were the most obvious unmarried couple
(24:39):
that everybody knew we were getting married to each other's
nobody else marrying either of us but each other.
Speaker 3 (24:45):
I mean we knew, you know, We're like, we knew
we're getting married. We talked about it. We've been looking
at rings, we talked about it.
Speaker 2 (24:51):
The energy is already there.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
It was just yeah, you know.
Speaker 3 (24:54):
And I had yelled at him a lot for fake
proposing on the sets, really fucking annoying.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
But but two for everybody to like already know and wait
in anticipation for the day where I pose and wait,
and we still wait in wait in anticipation for the
day we get married. But it's just I think it's
exciting for everybody to see, like, I know what's going
to happen, but how like how is he going to
(25:20):
pull it off? And then for everybody be like, oh
my gosh, January eleventh, at eleven eleven with this two
couple that we know are madly in love each other
from the beginning, to be in the space of their
love and know just how we like to radiate that
love to everybody else. It felt great to everybody there.
Speaker 3 (25:40):
Yeah, And you know, we do a lot of hosting
at our house and we hold a lot of space
at our house for our.
Speaker 1 (25:45):
Friends, and like just a lot of love is like aways.
Speaker 3 (25:48):
It's always here, you know, at our gatherings, and so
it was perfect. Like had we went out somewhere fancy
and I had to get dressed out and maybe like
been suspicious if we had to go out to dinner,
but because it was here, I was just like another
another gathering.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
Yeah, we do it all the time. So it wasn't
a thing.
Speaker 2 (26:03):
But the beautiful part of that is that our engagement
was I guess, kind of tying in a bunch of
things that we are already do. We already celebrate with
our friends, We already do things at the house. We
already feel special cook, cook and nourish our bodies. We
already feel special about certain times of the day with
(26:26):
angel numbers and things like that, like we not we
your boy. Your boy was able to tie in all
the things that make our relationship special and make it
a moment for you.
Speaker 1 (26:41):
Yeah. I did a really good job. It was really
impressed by a your designing of our rings.
Speaker 2 (26:47):
And I did the ring. I did the engagement well
more you want from your boy.
Speaker 3 (26:54):
The ring was beautiful, and I was shocked when I
saw it, you know, I was. I was shocked in
jen But then you know what, It's something about like
a getting on the knee and then be the reveal
of the ring that I knew was in the house.
I was just like, oh, oh shit, it's happening. And
I thought for a long time like am I going
to be surprised? Am I going to cry? And it's
going to be able to surprise me? And how am
(27:17):
I going to feel? And it's just I still am
It's been a little bit more than a month and
I'm still a little bit like oh yeah, oh yeah,
I'm engaged.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
Yeah, you're attached to that ring, am, and I will
say this post engagement, I think is probably some of
the happiest times that I've been in a relationship with you.
Like this last month has been one of the happiest
months that we've had, and we've been happy and in
(27:51):
the honeymoon stage since we've met. In this last month
has been one of the happiest and I feel it
wholeheartedly inside my chest.
Speaker 3 (28:02):
Do you have any fear it has any fear come up? Like,
oh now it's real now?
Speaker 2 (28:05):
No, Actually, all the fear came up between when I
got the ring and proposed because that's when like, if
I would get annoyed by something, I would go, oh
my god, I got to deal with this for the
rest of my life.
Speaker 1 (28:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
I was like, I was like, damn, I already got
the ring. Oh god, it's got his shorts. But yeah, yeah,
yeah no, but but yeah, there were things that would
come up and I'm like, damn, can I deal with
that for the rest of my life? And I was like,
I need to relax. I'm just overdoing it. I'm overthinking
(28:46):
about it would be nothing, it would literally be nothing,
but I would just be thinking about, Okay, if it
happened one time this time, and it happened three times before.
That's gonna happen like three hundred times for the rest
of my life. Now it's like, ah, can I deal
with that? And it's like everything that kept coming up
kept making me go, oh my god, can I deal
with that for rest of my life? And then I
(29:07):
was just like, these aren't things. I'm just so overly
anxious about getting on one knee and then making it
solid and that for real. And now I have to
continuously go down paths of love, this path of engagement,
the path of marriage, the path of family, the path
of kids, like all these adult things just just nerve
(29:28):
wracking when you haven't been prepared and prepped as a
as a boy and as a man to understand how
to love somebody and not in this neander Neanderthal type
of way. A very yeah, in a very modern, advanced
way where you have to communicate, you have to be
emotionally intelligent, and you have to be accountable and be
(29:50):
a man in so many different ways. And this is
not only is the way we love now very modern,
but the way we show up in the relationships and
how you have to be as men is much different
than how it was fifty years ago, and so you know,
all the things were it was nerve wracking, but when
(30:12):
my body numbed out and I fell to the floor
and hold on me and proposed to you, and then
I came back up and I held you, and we
were by our fireplace and just looking around the room
and seeing how much love was surrounded by by us,
and how much continuous support is always surrounded by us,
and support of our love, because I truly feel like
(30:33):
people look at us as the modern day way of
being in love. You loving out loud, loving with intention,
and supporting, supporting each other and supporting women in a
very rare way.
Speaker 1 (30:51):
Yeah, I mean, I think.
Speaker 3 (30:54):
After the engagement, not that there is fear, but I'm like, oh, like, oh,
shit's getting real. I knew it was real. We've talked
about it. Obviously, it's been real. We lived together, he
moved across the country to live together.
Speaker 1 (31:06):
So it's not that.
Speaker 3 (31:08):
I didn't know, but I didn't think that I say
this all the time, that marriage was that important to me.
But then I guess I realized throughout this journey that
it is and it has been.
Speaker 1 (31:21):
But I guess not really.
Speaker 3 (31:22):
Wanting to acknowledge that as a woman, I get very
annoyed with women who are so obsessed with marriage that
they settle or that they make dumb decisions just for
the sake of being married. And I never wanted to
be that type of bitch. And so I guess like
just waking like I think the actual ring is a
tangible reminder and example that just like optically that oh,
(31:48):
like we're on this journey together and that this is
you know, this stage, you know, pre engagement has been
a stage of its own four years and then this
is you know, this really signifies and like symbolizes a
new chapter that we're stepping into. And you know, each
chapter has been different. We met, we dated, you moved,
(32:11):
you know what I mean. There's just there's been different
iterations of a relationship. But with the ring and the
investment of yeah, just the investment of jewelry, I guess
of an engagement ring, it's just like eights reminding me
like I'm not getting any younger. It's also been really
clear about like our family dynamic and that I am
(32:32):
having another baby, even though it's been something that I mean,
I know we're doing it, but I'm like, it's been
a decade since I've been pregnant, it's been decade since
I've been with the small child, and questioning if it's
not something I'm capable of, because obviously I am, but
just what that looks like in this iteration, in this
(32:54):
age of my life. And I don't know, I'm really
excited about it, even though I think initially, I think
initially I was a little bit nervous, but now I'm
like settling into the fact that we're in it, you know,
and there's nothing there's really no better person for me,
and I don't feel I know that we both are like, yeah,
(33:17):
until death to do us part, basically, and I think
we're both realistic about you know, things will come up.
It's not going to be easy always, there will be obstacles,
but there's gonna be a lot of beautiful things. And
I think that just getting serious about the trajectory of
our relationship, but more so the legacy that we want
(33:38):
to leave behind and how we set up our kids
and really how we shift the mindset of our lineage,
you know, together and like what that looks like.
Speaker 1 (33:49):
And I'm really excited about that.
Speaker 2 (33:52):
Yeah, And I am too, And obviously this all just
goes to show that, you know, with how I was
creative with making the ring and how it's creative with
putting together our engagement party, that I am the one
that is creative in the relationship and I am not
(34:12):
the problem with the miscommunication. And then obviously we can
be creative if it's just me. I want to thank
you for coming and listening and watching this beautiful Valentine's
a special episode of Love Like This with my lovely
sweetheart Beyonce, Mila Maps say bye, Mila Bye, and me wonderful,
(34:38):
beautiful Orlando Roy I love y'all. This is waiting.
Speaker 3 (34:44):
Side note Orleana tell me yesterday he's gonna rev back
up his only fans. And if you wait to be
engaged to rev back you up your only fans.
Speaker 2 (34:53):
I think it'd be great if you're a creative.
Speaker 1 (34:55):
Coordinator, but I'm not the creative.
Speaker 2 (35:00):
Let me say, if y'all want to live upon us
and show us some love, follow us on Instagram and
huci mom and dad listen to us love like this
and watch us on YouTube love like this and send
us some love because we love y'all too.
Speaker 1 (35:16):
Love you, Bye bye. Excuse me, Nah, like this
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