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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Welcome to Love Light and Wisdom with your host Shashana.
Love Light and Wisdom inspires listeners to tune into their
authentic selves and create a happier and healthier life, take
control and experience true happiness. So please welcome the host
of Love Light and Wisdom, Shashana.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Hello everybody, I'm Shoshana Auerbach, your hostess of Love Light
and Wisdom. Thanks so much for joining us today. It's
going to have you here. Our topic today is something
that can be very troublesome to people, but it doesn't
have to stay troublesome, and that's why we're here to
share love, light and wisdom to help you have a happier,
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healthier life. So let's go to the topic slide. Today's
topic is, oh, it's a little bit about me. First
of all, there we go. We're doing a series on anger,
Friend or Foe. Today is part eight, Beating betrayal with
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the Emotion Code and reclaiming your power. You can be
victorious over betrayal someone else's intentional desire and will to
hurt you, but you're going to learn how to fight
back and reclaim your power and your sense some beautiful
self with tips and perspectives to empower you to understand
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and deal effectively with betrayal. You're going to learn how
to make lemonade out of lemons. You will reduce the
emotional charge from betrayal so you can create a brighter
future and reclaim your power and personhood. So, before we proceed,
I would like to introduce myself for those of you
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who are new, and if you're not new, thanks for
joining us anyway. So let's go to the next line please.
I practice energy and spiritual healing as a certified practitioner
of the Emotion Code, Bodycode, and Belief Code. I also
provide intuitive readings to help people like you obtained metaphysical
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insights for physical and emotional healing, relationship issues, feeling, stock, depression, anxiety,
and whatever is can make you have a happier, healthier life.
I'm also a licensed social worker a music therapist in
the state of New York. So if you would like
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more information about scheduling a private session or my services,
please look up my website at www dot Authentic Radiance
dot life and let's go to the next line. Please.
These are some of the topics that I've discussed on
my show Dealing with some very difficult and challenging emotions
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and you can champion over them instead of them controlling you.
We also discuss energy awareness and energy healing, so please
look up our previous shows, and i'd also invite you
to listen to my music on the next slide. Please.
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These are songs that I wrote, the lyrics, the music, made,
the arrangements. So look me up on your favorite platform
and be inspired. Let's go to the next line. So
these are some of the topics that I've been discussing
in this series, so if you would like to get
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more information about them, please look us up anyway, So
let's jump right in into today's topic. The next line, betrayal.
What is betrayal? So I like to work with dictionary
definitions as well as etymologies, the language, the roots of
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the language. So betrayal is an act any act committed
by one relationship partner that violates I think that's the
key word here, violates the others expectations of that partner.
And although the term betrayal is commonly associated with infidelity,
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it can also include a broader sense, such as lying, disloyalty,
revealing secrets to outsiders, intentionally another key word intentionally harmful behavior,
lack of support or broken promises. Betrayals can also evoke
strong emotions and victims and perpetrators, and are usually harmful
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to relateationships and can sometimes end them or maybe the
two parties will agree to forgive and move on. The
etymology of betrayal very interesting, has to do with the
word treason and also prove false or violate by unfaithfulness.
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It also means to deceive or hand over someone or
something to an enemy, often for monetary gain or other
personal advantage. So how do we cope with this very
hurtful behavior. Let's find out more in the next slave place.
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So why does betrayal hurts so much? You were trusting,
you were vulnerable, you gave your heart, you invested yourself.
Things may have been fine all along. You had maybe
predictable responses from the other person involved, and then there
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was a sudden, unexpected change and you found out the
painful reality that you're not on the same page as
the other person, a feeling of fear and separateness. Let's
learn some more in the next slide. The hurtful messages
behind the behavior of betrayal are you don't matter, and
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I put in per brackets to me, it's not that
you don't matter. You don't matter to me. And the
perpetrator's messages also my blank my needs, my addiction, my
need for power, control, whatever it is matters more than you.
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This is self centered and selfish. It's acting in duality
and unilfe ly and not in terms of a partnership
and working in cooperation. Again, it's intentional hurt and revenge,
power control. I can hurt you. So these are some
of the hurtful messages behind betrayal. Next slide place. These
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are some emotional responses to betrayal trauma, And yes, betrayal
is a trauma. It is very hurtful and upsetting. Again,
it's very complex, but these are some of the emotional responses.
A person might be feeling anger, like, huh, where were we?
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I thought we were going in a certain direction, we
were in love, we were working together cooperatively, and you
find out the shock that you're not feeling abandoned or
emotionally abandoned. Hurt, confusion, dis empowerment, feeling unworthy, denial, dissociation,
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which is it's nothing, He'll be back, She'll be back.
Dissociation is no, there's nothing wrong, it's par for the course.
Dissociation is dissociating from reality and minimizing any harm or
hurtful feelings because these feelings are very painful and scary.
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It's vulnerable, feeling vulnerable because someone has your secrets, questioning
who you are, self doubt, and lowered self esteem. That
actually you're in charge of your self esteem. And that's
what we're going to be discussing. More of fear and
lack of trust in anyone, not just the person who
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betrayed you. This is called generalization. I can't trust men, women,
people anymore. Lack of security. I'm unsafe. The world isn't
safe any more. Are So these are some of the
emotional responses to betrayal trauma. And of course, if you
have any questions or comments, please call us and we'd
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love to hear you. Send us some messages. Let's go
to the next slide. Please. So, when a person feels
these or is avoiding actually feeling these painful emotions, which
is a very natural response, defense mechanisms kick in. Their
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purpose is to shield you and keep the pain out,
but what they really do is keep you on the defensive.
Some of the defense mechanisms that maybe at play here
are minimizing. Ah, it's nothing, you know. Bypassing yourself, you know,
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I'm not hurting, it's it's his I should have done better.
I could have I should have served the dinner warm.
Bypassing yourself is not paying attention to your own needs.
He's right, I really am stupid, and you know you're not.
That's also gaslighting. Denial, nothing nothing, it didn't happen. Yeah,
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he'll be his old self, she'll be her old self again. Justification, Well,
I know I should have rationalization. Yeah, I guess I
am stupid. I guess I don't serve dinner warm, and
that's what made him upset, wishful thinking, Oh why can't
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we be in love again like we were in the beginning,
So to it's important to be aware of these defense
mechanisms at work. What you avoid comes back to you,
and what you confront transforms you. It takes courage to
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confront painful feelings, but what you feel is what you
can heal. And stop investing your energies in perpetuating the
problem and investing yourself in healing, and stop perpetuating the pain.
It's not easy, but you can do it. And with
the right helping person or perhaps scheduling a session of
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energy healing or the emotion belief for body code with me,
or doing an intuitive reading, we can discover more about
what keeps you in this vicious cycle and what's triggering you.
So let's move on to the next slide and learn
some more. So the shock of reality when you've been
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betrayed can feel disempowering. Here we have a court, a
heavy cart that's led by two oxen pulling equal weight.
But when you're an unhealthy relationship, whether that's a romantic relationship,
a work relationship, a caregiving relationship, whatever relationship it is,
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when two oxen are not pulling the weight equally, it
puts a strain on the other person and sometimes denial
is in place. Oh well, no, there's nothing wrong here.
I don't care if you're exhausted. So what is the
shock the reality here? You were unequally yoked, you were
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not pulling the cart equally. You feel taken advantage of,
You feel violated and vulnerable. You feel taken for granted,
you were drained and not supported and not reciprocated, and
you didn't realize how much this toxic relationship, this toxic environment,
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work environment was draining you. You are in shock about
the other person portraying a fraud and you didn't know it,
or you were in denial and you weren't expecting it.
It was a shock and a surprise. So these are
some of the shocks and the responses.
Speaker 3 (13:17):
To to the wake up call, the shock of betrayal,
and it can make some people feel disempowered.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
And we're going to learn more about betrayal and how
you can take back your power and reclaim your beautiful
self and your beautiful life and not let other people
determine your self esteem. When we come back from our
commercial break, this has been Shoshanna Auerbach speaking to you
live on Bold Brave TV. You're watching Love, Light and Wisdom.
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Hi everybody, and welcome back to Love, Light and Wisdom.
I'm your hostess Joshanna Auberbach, and we've been talking about
betrayal today on Bold Brave TV. We've been talking about
the shock, the emotional response, is why betrayal hurts so much,
and we're going to start discussing later in the program
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what you can do about it to take back your power.
So let's move to the next slide here, So let's
get some perspective. Is the problem you or someone else's issues?
Is the other person or you capable of a healthy relationship?
Is it your fault or is it both people's faults?
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Or is some of the other person just not capable
of having a healthy relationship? Do you know what a
healthy relationship is? And is the other person or you
capable of apologize? So it may not be you, It
may be you, or it may be why you're attracting
such a toxic partner in your life, and let's learn
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more about that in the next slide and how you
can deal with that. What are some red and green
flags of healthy relationships so you don't fall into that
sandtrap anymore. We never know what's going to happen in
the future, of course, but maybe there are some things
you could look at in retrospect, like ahhh, or while
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you're in the getting to know each other process, whether
it's work or a romantic relationship. Of course, if you're
in a I guess like apparent child relationship, it's a
lot different different, but you can be aware of these
red and green flags and use them to work on yourself.
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Red flags include put downs, lack of respect for what's
important to you, unable to compromise, moody, depressed, denies your needs,
blocking them, stonewalling excuse me. Stonewalling is like not just
not responding or that is the response, just catatonic stare.
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You could be passionately emoting and the other person is
just stonewalling you and it drives you nuts because you
want a response. Other red flags include contempt and according
to doctors Judy and John Gutman, who did over three
thousand hours of research about couples, the number one destroyer
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of relationships was contempt. Another red flag is controlling, controlling
your emotions, your whereabouts, unilateral decisions, unwilling to take care
of you that's emotionally and financially as well as concrete help,
and expects you to be there for them. Sounds a
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little narcissistic, nasty, temperamental, treats other people badly. Well, if
they're treating other people badly, what can you expect? Has
few friends and inconsistent attention. Now, let's look at some
of the green flags. Maybe you are in a healthy relationship,
or maybe this is what to look for the next
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time around, or work towards accepts all of you and
puts up with your faults. That doesn't mean you have
to like the other person's faults or they have to
like your faults, but they accept and tolerated enough to
have the bigger perspective. That's not your entire being in person.
You have good points as well. They're forgiving and forgive
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you for your shortcomings. They're there for you when you
need help. Your needs matter, which means you matter and
your feelings matter. There's mutual respect, there's trust, that stays
consistent over time, not just when it's convenient for the
other person. They have good conflict resolution skills. They can
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work out differences easily. They work as a team, mutual
decision making. They're empathetic. H I understand how that could
be difficult, challenging for you, or like, wow, what a
great job. Kindness and so called little things are actually
big things. They have mutual respect for your boundaries. Please
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don't mention that word, don't play that song, don't do that,
don't leave your stuff please. That's respecting boundaries because your
partner knows or your colleague knows that it's going to
trigger you, and respects that you have similar values. And
most importantly, you're both committed to the relationship and working
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on your issues. So these are some red and green
flags of healthy relationships that can help you steer clear
of sand traps or maybe have awareness and work on
yourself and relationships. And that's what we're going to show
you how to do in love, light and wisdom. Let's
move on to the next line. So here's a reality check.
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If you knew, if you saw these red flags, why
did you stay? And I do speak from personal experience,
I stayed way too long in certain relationships, and that's
why I can bring you love, light and wisdom and
perspective in tools to help you avoid those sand traps
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or deal more effectively with them. One myth is I
was afraid to be alone. Well, the truth is you
were alone anyway. Hard pill to swallow. You were alone anyway.
This is something I went through. I didn't want to
go through. I didn't want to get divorced again or
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go through another heartbreak or break up. That is not
a reason to stay in a relationship, especially one that's toxic.
Create instead, pre create a better future for yourself and
learn from the pain. Another myth, I hate sleeping by myself. Well,
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the truth is you are sleeping by yourself, and get
a hot water bottle and warm up the bed, put
it next to your chest, on the small of your back,
or take a Teddy bear. It sounds childish perhaps, but
it works and it's better than sleeping by yourself with
someone next to you. Myth the pain of being alone
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and lonely was worse than a toxic relationship. Yeah, it
is painful, but the truth is find someone better, and
you can and will find someone better. Myth. This is
minimizing and denial. It isn't so bad. Truth. You are
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lying to yourself. Get you got inconsistent and sufficient amounts
of so called love? You deserve better, right. It's like
saying I'm thirsty and someone gives you literally a drop
of water. You need more than that, and you deserve
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more than that. But you have to feel deserving of
more than a drop of settling for more than a
drop of so called love. Myth I'm afraid I'll never
find anyone else truth. Pray for courage to try so.
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I hope these myths and reality checks will give you
some perspectives and help you review and look even in retrospect,
and have AHA moments and claim your right to healthy,
loving relationships. Let's look at another myth and reality and
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the next line. Another myth is I'm not lovable, so
at least I have somebody. Truth. You don't love yourself enough,
so you settled for less less than what you deserved.
You underestimated yourself, your standards were too low. What kind
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of someone do you have? Toxic, unreal life, liable, unpredictable,
not caring enough for you, not caring if you're hurt injured,
suffering doesn't matter what kind of someone do you have.
By having someone, maybe you're better off without that someone.
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Another truth is you're fulfilling someone else's needs and by
passing your own. Oh if only I did more for
my partner. No, it has to be two way street.
And if you're not getting two ways, you are in
a halfway relationship with a half a person. And is
that good enough for you? Something to think about. You're
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also lying to yourself. You have a someone, you have
a half a person. You're abandoning yourself. You're abandoning your
need to have happy and healthy relationships in your life.
And you're also abusing and neglecting yourself because you're not
getting everything that you deserve, and you deserve better. Something
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to think about, myths and reality. Let's learn some more.
In the next line, here are some rewrites that may
be helpful in giving you perspective. A feeling of I
feel worthless, some of those hurtful emotions that come from
being betrayed. Well, maybe think of it. I am worthy
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of better and I deserve better. Counter those negative cognitions,
those negative thoughts and low self esteem messages, I am
worthy of better and I deserve better. For some people,
that's a learning process because they didn't grow up with
that message. You can learn it, it's not too late.
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Another rewrite you might consider to give you some perspective
is about codependence. When you depend on someone else for
your self esteem and feeling worthy and that source is
no longer there, your world is shattered. So how can
you counter that and have a rewrite? Increase your self
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love and nurture yourself more self care soothes your wounded
self and affirms I am somebody. Another hurtful message from
betrayal from the perpetrator, as well as if you've been betrayed,
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you might be feeling I don't matter. Well, the truth
is you don't matter to the other person. The question
is do you matter to yourself? So when I was
going through a traumatic and bombshell breakup, I took a
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sticky note in the form of a heart, in the
shape of a heart, and I wrote on it, I matter,
and I stuck it to my bathroom mirror, and every
time I go look in the mirror, I see this
reminder I matter. And that has been something that was
very helpful because the other person was giving me messages
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to the contrary, and my victory was staying in my
power and my self esteem, loving myself. Because the other
person wanted me to feel yucky and put me down,
I was not going to give them the pleasure. And
that's my victory, looking and feeling my best. And that's
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how I can bring you this Love, Light and Wisdom
so that you don't have to stay in the yucky,
mucky whirlpool of self doubt, self deprecation and feeling unhappy,
but rather reclaiming your beautiful self and your power and
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looking and feeling your best. So we're going to take
a break and come back and we're going to discuss
more perspectives and using the emotion coade to help you
have clarity and deal with these very painful and challenging
emotions so that you're in control and not the emotions.
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This has been Shoshanna Auberbach speaking to you live on
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Speaker 2 (31:42):
Hi everybody, I'm Shoshana Auberbach, your hostess of Love, Light
and Wisdom, and you're watching me live on Bold Brave TV.
Today's topic is betrayal or Beating betrayal, and now we
are going to learn a little bit about the emotion
and how this wonderful modality can help you beat betrayal
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and deal with this painful feeling and make lemonade out
of lemons. So this I am first of all certified
in the Emotion Code, body Code, and belief Code, which
were developed by doctor Bradley Nelson, a retired chiropractor who
discovered that in between visits his patients weren't holding the
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benefits of the adjustments, and he concluded that this was
because they were having trapped emotions. These are emotions that
got trapped in their body from some kind of trauma
or upset that stayed in the body and created energy disturbances.
So he created the emotion code and then went on
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to create the body code and belief code. So I
have used these modalities on myself and for clients to
help them have clarity and perspective and feel less triggered
by emotions. And that's when you know you're healing when
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you have the same trigger but you have a different
response to it. So let's learn some more about the
emotion code, and you can also contact me through my
website www dot Authentic Radiance for a private session and
more information. Let's go to the next slide place. So
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the subconscious mind is where these trapped emotions are held,
and when we are using the emotion code, we are
accessing them. But the key here is that the subconscious
mind will release and reveal only what is safe. So
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when we go through a trauma again, it creates an
energy to di sturbance and it could be a relationship
loss It could be stress, it could be a physical
injury or betrayal and abandonment. But what we suppress we
express in other ways, such as irritability and somatic complaints
such as pain and digestion, insomnia, joint pain, panic attacks,
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and more. So. Again, the idea here, like defense mechanisms,
is to protect us from pain, but the pain is
actually what perpetuates the trauma instead of clearing it and
healing it. Let's learn some more in the next line.
So why do emotions become trapped? They can be ancestral,
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we inherited them. Like we have a genetic DNA, we
have an emotional DNA. They can become trapped during pregnancy.
They can become trapped after birth, or maybe you absorb
them from someone else modeling behavior, especially in early childhood.
They can become trapped in one or more body parts
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or systems, or in the meridians, which are energy pathways
that have corresponding in emotions, and these emotions get connected
with an event. So the idea here is to identify
what is the emotion, the event, the age, and who
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else was involved and clear that from your system. Let's
learn some more in the next slide and what are
the consequences of not doing that well? You remain disconnected, irritable, depressed,
perhaps unfulfilled. You create a heart wall. It's harder for
you to be in real time with other people, including yourself.
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You're connected from yourself, You're an excel from yourself. You
create imbalances in the body that may trigger poor health,
and you keep resonating on a lower frequency, and you
keep attracting. According to the law of attraction, you keep
attracting the same kind of so called luck or opportunities
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or unfulfilling relationships in your life. So let's learn more
in the next slide how to move forward. The emotion code,
body cone belief code used muscle testing, which is termed
also applied kinesiology, and it's a form of biofeedback where
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I'm testing resonance with Everything is energy and every energy
is everything. So I'm testing resonance what I'm resonant, I'm
resonating with. I'm putting out a vibration wave, and maybe
there's a food or an emotion that has a certain wave.
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Are we harmonious or not? Will be testing for a
strong yes or a strong no. Let's go to the
next slide please, and when we get this information, the
trapped emotion, the body part, the age, and the other
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people involved, then we release it by swiping over the
governing meridian, which is connected with all of the other
meridians and energy pathways in the body. Let's go to
the next slide and we use a magnet or our
hand also has magnetic energy in it, and that lifts
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out those resonances, those vibrations as so that we can
have more clarity. So let's go to the next slide,
and here is the emotion code chart. You'll see sixty
emotions divided up into column A and B, and then
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on the left side you see the emo I'm sorry,
the organs body parts that are connected with these emotions.
This is not random. This is part of what is
the science behind acupuncture, acupressure, shiatsu, and Eastern medicine. So
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this is the basic protocol, I guess you would call it.
So I'm going to just center myself and I'm going
to show you how this is done. All right, So
I'm going to think about a time that I felt
angry and hurt from betrayal. It was when my ex
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announced that I was he wanted divorce. It was a
total shock to me, or maybe I was in denial.
Whatever it was, it was a to me, and it
happened a few years ago, and I'm still feeling this emotion.
So I want to clear it and neutralize it as
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much as I can. It's not getting rid of it,
it's clearing and healing from it, all right. So I'm
going to use this. I use the ring. I sorry,
I'm going to use this method. So this is a yes.
I'm pulling my thumb against my sorry, my middle finger
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against my thumb. This is a yes. This is a no. Okay,
this isn't. Give me a yes, give me a no.
My name is Shoshana. Yes, my name is Robert No.
All right. So now I have programmed so to speak,
my mind, my body to resonate with show Shana. What
is yes? What is resonating true for show SHAWNA? All right?
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So the issue I want to clear today is the
shock I felt, and we want to be as specific
as possible, the shock I felt when my ex announced
to me that he wanted a divorce. And how much
is this bothering me now? Today? How much is this
affecting me? Give me, yes, give me a no, ten
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nine eight, ten nine eight seven on a ten point scale,
So it's still pretty strong. All right. What is the
first emotion that I can release that's part of this betrayal?
What is it reaching back in my history from? Okay? So?
Is it from column A yes, cam be no? Is
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it an odd row? Yes? Is it row one? Yes?
Is it?
Speaker 1 (40:51):
So?
Speaker 2 (40:51):
I'm going to go to column A row one? Is
it abandonment?
Speaker 3 (40:57):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (40:58):
Okay. So do we need to know more information? Yes,
it is that emotion trapped in my heart?
Speaker 5 (41:05):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (41:08):
Do we need to know the age? Yes? The age
is under ten yes, ten nine eight seven six five.
So what happened to me at age five when I
felt abandoned? Maybe I wasn't physically or emotionally abandoned, but
that was my response as a five year old? All right?
Who else was involved? Male? Yes? Give me a note?
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Was it male? No? Female? Yes? My mother? Yes, she
was a good mother. But at that time, something happened.
Can I remember what it was? Yes? Was it have
to do with school? Yes, something happened at school and
maybe she didn't respond. Yes, okay, I forgive her. So
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now I'm going to take my hand and I'm going
to swipe over the top of my head, starting at
the top of the nose. I'm going to swipe five
times and ask God to help me release a feeling
of trapped emotion of abandonment that got trapped in my
heart when I was five years old, involving my mother
and something that happened at school. Three one, two, three
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four five. Okay, and just take a deep breath at
that settle. Okay. Is this released? Yes? Good, thank you.
Is there another trapped emotion I can release right now? Yes?
Column a yes, wrote an odd row yes row one Yes. Abandonment, betrayal.
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This happened when I was five years old under ten yeah, ten, nine, eight, seven, six,
five four. Something happened at three years old? Well? Was
it involving a birth of a sibling that was born
when I was three years old? Yes? I was the
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oldest child. I am the oldest child, and I felt, hey,
I'm not getting the same attention anymore. Is that what
it is?
Speaker 6 (43:17):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (43:18):
Okay. So now I'm going to ask God to help
me clear this trapped emotion of betrayal from when I
was five years old, involving the birth of my sister
and not getting the same attention from my caregivers. Okay,
and I do forgive them. I had what two three
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four five? Okay, take a deep breath and let that settle. Okay.
I do feel clearer in my aur my energy field.
I feel a little clearer in my head. Okay, Okay.
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Is there another trapped emotion that I can release now? Yes?
Is it column a yes, odd road? Yes? Row one Yes,
abandoned by betrayal? Four? Lord? Is it the same thing
when my sister was born? I felt forlorn because I
wasn't getting attention. Yes, I'm going to release that God's.
Speaker 6 (44:23):
Help two three four five okay, and I feel even
a bit clearer now.
Speaker 2 (44:35):
Usually in an emotion code session, we release between five
and ten trapped emotions and then we asked the system
is there anything else? And when we get to know
that the body has had enough detoxing, we stop and
we may continue with a follow up session. So, just
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from releasing these three trapped emotions period of what maybe
five minutes or less? How much is this affecting me? Now?
This feeling of betrayal from when my ex announced that
he wants a divorce is a ten nine eight, seven
six five? So I went in five minutes, I went
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from a five. I'm sorry, I went from a seven
to a five. So I invite you to contact me
at www dot Authentic Radiance dot life and schedule a
session for yourself of the emotion code, body code or
belief code and how this modality can help you deal
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with feelings of betrayal and anger and other trapped emotions
and traumas so that you can have a happier, healthier
life and resonate on your true residents. Okay, so we're
going to take a break and come back with some
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Hi everybody, and welcome back to Lovelight and Wisdom. This
is your hostess, Shoshanna Auberbach, and you're watching me live
on bold GRAVETV. We've been talking about the emotion code,
how it can help you deal with anger and betrayal
and beating betrayal, not staying feeling angry and feeling and
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the hurt cycle of betrayal. So we did some emotion
code and had some amazing results. In just five minutes,
I went from a seven to a five. So please
contact me at my website www dot Authentic Radiance for
more information and to schedule a private sense session. Let's
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I end the program today with some more tools to
help you move forward from betrayal and anger and hurt.
This is something that I came up with with the
same situation when, as I demonstrated in the Emotion Code,
when my ex announced that he wanted a divorce and
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I was very surprising to me. I was a big
wake up call. So I came up with this Dialectics
for Self Love and self Healing, which was my victory.
I was feeling crummy, but that's not how I wanted
to feel, and I kept I was at more with myself.
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But the more I try to push it away, the
more it came back. So how do we confront it
and heal it? So this is one technique that may
be helpful for you. A dialect. When you have two
opposite feelings, the brain can't handle that. It needs one input.
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So we take these two opposite statements or feelings and
put them into one sentence. Although I feel crummy, betrayed, hurt, angry, abandoned,
how can I have the best day? How can I
have the best life? And how can I take the
best care of myself? And when I put that into
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one statement, I got up off my chair and I
got a massage, and I went to the gym, and
I started taking back, reclaiming my power and my beautiful
self and not let someone else run my life. Let's
look at the next slide. This is one of my
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mother's Her name is Doris. Some maternal wisdom from Doris
I want to share with you. If you settle for
less than what you deserve. You get less than what
you settled for. Set your standards high, not so high
that they're impossible, but you deserve good things. You must
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be equally yoked, the team pulling the wagon, the cart equally,
not one more than the other. The devil is a liar.
I do not. I am not a yucky person, although
I was feeling yucky. I am a beautiful woman, and
I deserve love and good things. It is better to
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be alone than to be badly accompanied. M M all right,
don't need drama, trauma and chaos. Hold your head up high,
put a smile on your face, put your back to
the wind, and keep it moving. And when I would
call Doris when she was alive and spill my artel
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to her, she would say, he's not worth one of
your precious golden tears. And Mom was always right. Let's
learn some more from the next slide, The blessing of
a wake up call. It was a shock, it was,
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That's what it was. It was a shock, and it
taught me some very powerful lessons. Stop wasting my energy
on someone who couldn't and wouldn't love me. Stop wasting
my time on the same Stop investing in something the
relationship that wasn't supporting me and wasn't working for me,
(52:45):
Stop trying to make it work. Realize that I was
unequally yoked and I was being taken advantage of recalibrate
and invest elsewhere, which is what I did, and it
was not easy. Was easier to create a brighter future
than to stay in a toxic, unhealthy, unfulfilling, unhappy relationship.
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Let's learn some more on the next slide. And again,
where you're at is what you attract. So if you're
not happy with what's coming into your life, it's not luck.
It's a mirror of where you are. Change yourself and
you will change what you attract back to you. And
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let's go to the next to the last slide. So
maybe next time we're going to talk more about why
you attract these kinds of relationships in your life. And
let's go to the full screenplace. So I hope that
today's topic of beating betrayal and in this series of anger,
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friend or foe has been very useful to you. And
if so, I or if not, I'd like to hear
more from you. You can send us an email through
Bold Brave TV or look me up at www dot
Authentic radiance, dot life and let's have a chat about
how my services with energy healing, intuitive readings using the
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emotion code, bodycode and belief code or other modalities can
help you heal from betrayal, trauma and deal more effectively
with this challenging emotion and often misunderstood emotion of anger.
It doesn't have to rule your life. You rule your
life and I help. The perspectives that I've shared with
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you today based on my previous experiences, have helped you
to be who you authentically are. Have a healthy, healthy, normal, enough, safe, successful, lucrative, fulfilling, peaceful, spiritual,
loving day, Saloman blessings and I hope to see you
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Hello everybody, I'm Shoshana Auerbach, your hostess of Love Light
and Wisdom. Thanks so much for joining us today. It's
going to have you here. Our topic today is something
that can be very troublesome to people, but it doesn't
have to stay troublesome, and that's why we're here to
share love, light and wisdom to help you have a happier,
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healthier life. So let's go to the topic slide. Today's
topic is, oh, it's a little bit about me. First
of all, there we go. We're doing a series on anger,
Friend or Foe. Today is part eight, Beating betrayal with
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the Emotion Code and reclaiming your power. You can be
victorious over betrayal someone else's intentional desire and will to
hurt you, but you're going to learn how to fight
back and reclaim your power and your sense some beautiful
self with tips and perspectives to empower you to understand
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and deal effectively with betrayal. You're going to learn how
to make lemonade out of lemons. You will reduce the
emotional charge from betrayal so you can create a brighter
future and reclaim your power and personhood. So, before we proceed,
I would like to introduce myself for those of you
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who are new, and if you're not new, thanks for
joining us anyway. So let's go to the next line please.
I practice energy and spiritual healing as a certified practitioner
of the Emotion Code, Bodycode, and Belief Code. I also
provide intuitive readings to help people like you obtained metaphysical
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insights for physical and emotional healing, relationship issues, feeling, stock, depression, anxiety,
and whatever is can make you have a happier, healthier life.
I'm also a licensed social worker a music therapist in
the state of New York. So if you would like
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more information about scheduling a private session or my services,
please look up my website at www dot Authentic Radiance
dot life and let's go to the next line. Please.
These are some of the topics that I've discussed on
my show Dealing with some very difficult and challenging emotions
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and you can champion over them instead of them controlling you.
We also discuss energy awareness and energy healing, so please
look up our previous shows, and i'd also invite you
to listen to my music on the next slide. Please.
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These are songs that I wrote, the lyrics, the music, made,
the arrangements. So look me up on your favorite platform
and be inspired. Let's go to the next line. So
these are some of the topics that I've been discussing
in this series, so if you would like to get
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more information about them, please look us up anyway, So
let's jump right in into today's topic. The next line, betrayal.
What is betrayal? So I like to work with dictionary
definitions as well as etymologies, the language, the roots of
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the language. So betrayal is an act any act committed
by one relationship partner that violates I think that's the
key word here, violates the others expectations of that partner.
And although the term betrayal is commonly associated with infidelity,
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it can also include a broader sense, such as lying, disloyalty,
revealing secrets to outsiders, intentionally another key word intentionally harmful behavior,
lack of support or broken promises. Betrayals can also evoke
strong emotions and victims and perpetrators, and are usually harmful
(04:59):
to relateationships and can sometimes end them or maybe the
two parties will agree to forgive and move on. The
etymology of betrayal very interesting, has to do with the
word treason and also prove false or violate by unfaithfulness.
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It also means to deceive or hand over someone or
something to an enemy, often for monetary gain or other
personal advantage. So how do we cope with this very
hurtful behavior. Let's find out more in the next slave place.
(05:45):
So why does betrayal hurts so much? You were trusting,
you were vulnerable, you gave your heart, you invested yourself.
Things may have been fine all along. You had maybe
predictable responses from the other person involved, and then there
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was a sudden, unexpected change and you found out the
painful reality that you're not on the same page as
the other person, a feeling of fear and separateness. Let's
learn some more in the next slide. The hurtful messages
behind the behavior of betrayal are you don't matter, and
(06:34):
I put in per brackets to me, it's not that
you don't matter. You don't matter to me. And the
perpetrator's messages also my blank my needs, my addiction, my
need for power, control, whatever it is matters more than you.
(06:54):
This is self centered and selfish. It's acting in duality
and unilfe ly and not in terms of a partnership
and working in cooperation. Again, it's intentional hurt and revenge,
power control. I can hurt you. So these are some
of the hurtful messages behind betrayal. Next slide place. These
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are some emotional responses to betrayal trauma, And yes, betrayal
is a trauma. It is very hurtful and upsetting. Again,
it's very complex, but these are some of the emotional responses.
A person might be feeling anger, like, huh, where were we?
(07:43):
I thought we were going in a certain direction, we
were in love, we were working together cooperatively, and you
find out the shock that you're not feeling abandoned or
emotionally abandoned. Hurt, confusion, dis empowerment, feeling unworthy, denial, dissociation,
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which is it's nothing, He'll be back, She'll be back.
Dissociation is no, there's nothing wrong, it's par for the course.
Dissociation is dissociating from reality and minimizing any harm or
hurtful feelings because these feelings are very painful and scary.
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It's vulnerable, feeling vulnerable because someone has your secrets, questioning
who you are, self doubt, and lowered self esteem. That
actually you're in charge of your self esteem. And that's
what we're going to be discussing. More of fear and
lack of trust in anyone, not just the person who
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betrayed you. This is called generalization. I can't trust men, women,
people anymore. Lack of security. I'm unsafe. The world isn't
safe any more. Are So these are some of the
emotional responses to betrayal trauma. And of course, if you
have any questions or comments, please call us and we'd
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love to hear you. Send us some messages. Let's go
to the next slide. Please. So, when a person feels
these or is avoiding actually feeling these painful emotions, which
is a very natural response, defense mechanisms kick in. Their
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purpose is to shield you and keep the pain out,
but what they really do is keep you on the defensive.
Some of the defense mechanisms that maybe at play here
are minimizing. Ah, it's nothing, you know. Bypassing yourself, you know,
(09:53):
I'm not hurting, it's it's his I should have done better.
I could have I should have served the dinner warm.
Bypassing yourself is not paying attention to your own needs.
He's right, I really am stupid, and you know you're not.
That's also gaslighting. Denial, nothing nothing, it didn't happen. Yeah,
(10:19):
he'll be his old self, she'll be her old self again. Justification, Well,
I know I should have rationalization. Yeah, I guess I
am stupid. I guess I don't serve dinner warm, and
that's what made him upset, wishful thinking, Oh why can't
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we be in love again like we were in the beginning,
So to it's important to be aware of these defense
mechanisms at work. What you avoid comes back to you,
and what you confront transforms you. It takes courage to
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confront painful feelings, but what you feel is what you
can heal. And stop investing your energies in perpetuating the
problem and investing yourself in healing, and stop perpetuating the pain.
It's not easy, but you can do it. And with
the right helping person or perhaps scheduling a session of
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energy healing or the emotion belief for body code with me,
or doing an intuitive reading, we can discover more about
what keeps you in this vicious cycle and what's triggering you.
So let's move on to the next slide and learn
some more. So the shock of reality when you've been
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betrayed can feel disempowering. Here we have a court, a
heavy cart that's led by two oxen pulling equal weight.
But when you're an unhealthy relationship, whether that's a romantic relationship,
a work relationship, a caregiving relationship, whatever relationship it is,
(12:07):
when two oxen are not pulling the weight equally, it
puts a strain on the other person and sometimes denial
is in place. Oh well, no, there's nothing wrong here.
I don't care if you're exhausted. So what is the
shock the reality here? You were unequally yoked, you were
(12:31):
not pulling the cart equally. You feel taken advantage of,
You feel violated and vulnerable. You feel taken for granted,
you were drained and not supported and not reciprocated, and
you didn't realize how much this toxic relationship, this toxic environment,
(12:54):
work environment was draining you. You are in shock about
the other person portraying a fraud and you didn't know it,
or you were in denial and you weren't expecting it.
It was a shock and a surprise. So these are
some of the shocks and the responses.
Speaker 3 (13:17):
To to the wake up call, the shock of betrayal,
and it can make some people feel disempowered.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
And we're going to learn more about betrayal and how
you can take back your power and reclaim your beautiful
self and your beautiful life and not let other people
determine your self esteem. When we come back from our
commercial break, this has been Shoshanna Auerbach speaking to you
live on Bold Brave TV. You're watching Love, Light and Wisdom.
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See you in a few minutes.
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Hi everybody, and welcome back to Love, Light and Wisdom.
I'm your hostess Joshanna Auberbach, and we've been talking about
betrayal today on Bold Brave TV. We've been talking about
the shock, the emotional response, is why betrayal hurts so much,
and we're going to start discussing later in the program
(16:22):
what you can do about it to take back your power.
So let's move to the next slide here, So let's
get some perspective. Is the problem you or someone else's issues?
Is the other person or you capable of a healthy relationship?
Is it your fault or is it both people's faults?
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Or is some of the other person just not capable
of having a healthy relationship? Do you know what a
healthy relationship is? And is the other person or you
capable of apologize? So it may not be you, It
may be you, or it may be why you're attracting
such a toxic partner in your life, and let's learn
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more about that in the next slide and how you
can deal with that. What are some red and green
flags of healthy relationships so you don't fall into that
sandtrap anymore. We never know what's going to happen in
the future, of course, but maybe there are some things
you could look at in retrospect, like ahhh, or while
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you're in the getting to know each other process, whether
it's work or a romantic relationship. Of course, if you're
in a I guess like apparent child relationship, it's a
lot different different, but you can be aware of these
red and green flags and use them to work on yourself.
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Red flags include put downs, lack of respect for what's
important to you, unable to compromise, moody, depressed, denies your needs,
blocking them, stonewalling excuse me. Stonewalling is like not just
not responding or that is the response, just catatonic stare.
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You could be passionately emoting and the other person is
just stonewalling you and it drives you nuts because you
want a response. Other red flags include contempt and according
to doctors Judy and John Gutman, who did over three
thousand hours of research about couples, the number one destroyer
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of relationships was contempt. Another red flag is controlling, controlling
your emotions, your whereabouts, unilateral decisions, unwilling to take care
of you that's emotionally and financially as well as concrete help,
and expects you to be there for them. Sounds a
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little narcissistic, nasty, temperamental, treats other people badly. Well, if
they're treating other people badly, what can you expect? Has
few friends and inconsistent attention. Now, let's look at some
of the green flags. Maybe you are in a healthy relationship,
or maybe this is what to look for the next
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time around, or work towards accepts all of you and
puts up with your faults. That doesn't mean you have
to like the other person's faults or they have to
like your faults, but they accept and tolerated enough to
have the bigger perspective. That's not your entire being in person.
You have good points as well. They're forgiving and forgive
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you for your shortcomings. They're there for you when you
need help. Your needs matter, which means you matter and
your feelings matter. There's mutual respect, there's trust, that stays
consistent over time, not just when it's convenient for the
other person. They have good conflict resolution skills. They can
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work out differences easily. They work as a team, mutual
decision making. They're empathetic. H I understand how that could
be difficult, challenging for you, or like, wow, what a
great job. Kindness and so called little things are actually
big things. They have mutual respect for your boundaries. Please
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don't mention that word, don't play that song, don't do that,
don't leave your stuff please. That's respecting boundaries because your
partner knows or your colleague knows that it's going to
trigger you, and respects that you have similar values. And
most importantly, you're both committed to the relationship and working
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on your issues. So these are some red and green
flags of healthy relationships that can help you steer clear
of sand traps or maybe have awareness and work on
yourself and relationships. And that's what we're going to show
you how to do in love, light and wisdom. Let's
move on to the next line. So here's a reality check.
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If you knew, if you saw these red flags, why
did you stay? And I do speak from personal experience,
I stayed way too long in certain relationships, and that's
why I can bring you love, light and wisdom and
perspective in tools to help you avoid those sand traps
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or deal more effectively with them. One myth is I
was afraid to be alone. Well, the truth is you
were alone anyway. Hard pill to swallow. You were alone anyway.
This is something I went through. I didn't want to
go through. I didn't want to get divorced again or
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go through another heartbreak or break up. That is not
a reason to stay in a relationship, especially one that's toxic.
Create instead, pre create a better future for yourself and
learn from the pain. Another myth, I hate sleeping by myself. Well,
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the truth is you are sleeping by yourself, and get
a hot water bottle and warm up the bed, put
it next to your chest, on the small of your back,
or take a Teddy bear. It sounds childish perhaps, but
it works and it's better than sleeping by yourself with
someone next to you. Myth the pain of being alone
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and lonely was worse than a toxic relationship. Yeah, it
is painful, but the truth is find someone better, and
you can and will find someone better. Myth. This is
minimizing and denial. It isn't so bad. Truth. You are
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lying to yourself. Get you got inconsistent and sufficient amounts
of so called love? You deserve better, right. It's like
saying I'm thirsty and someone gives you literally a drop
of water. You need more than that, and you deserve
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more than that. But you have to feel deserving of
more than a drop of settling for more than a
drop of so called love. Myth I'm afraid I'll never
find anyone else truth. Pray for courage to try so.
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I hope these myths and reality checks will give you
some perspectives and help you review and look even in retrospect,
and have AHA moments and claim your right to healthy,
loving relationships. Let's look at another myth and reality and
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the next line. Another myth is I'm not lovable, so
at least I have somebody. Truth. You don't love yourself enough,
so you settled for less less than what you deserved.
You underestimated yourself, your standards were too low. What kind
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of someone do you have? Toxic, unreal life, liable, unpredictable,
not caring enough for you, not caring if you're hurt injured,
suffering doesn't matter what kind of someone do you have.
By having someone, maybe you're better off without that someone.
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Another truth is you're fulfilling someone else's needs and by
passing your own. Oh if only I did more for
my partner. No, it has to be two way street.
And if you're not getting two ways, you are in
a halfway relationship with a half a person. And is
that good enough for you? Something to think about. You're
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also lying to yourself. You have a someone, you have
a half a person. You're abandoning yourself. You're abandoning your
need to have happy and healthy relationships in your life.
And you're also abusing and neglecting yourself because you're not
getting everything that you deserve, and you deserve better. Something
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to think about, myths and reality. Let's learn some more.
In the next line, here are some rewrites that may
be helpful in giving you perspective. A feeling of I
feel worthless, some of those hurtful emotions that come from
being betrayed. Well, maybe think of it. I am worthy
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of better and I deserve better. Counter those negative cognitions,
those negative thoughts and low self esteem messages, I am
worthy of better and I deserve better. For some people,
that's a learning process because they didn't grow up with
that message. You can learn it, it's not too late.
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Another rewrite you might consider to give you some perspective
is about codependence. When you depend on someone else for
your self esteem and feeling worthy and that source is
no longer there, your world is shattered. So how can
you counter that and have a rewrite? Increase your self
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love and nurture yourself more self care soothes your wounded
self and affirms I am somebody. Another hurtful message from
betrayal from the perpetrator, as well as if you've been betrayed,
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you might be feeling I don't matter. Well, the truth
is you don't matter to the other person. The question
is do you matter to yourself? So when I was
going through a traumatic and bombshell breakup, I took a
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sticky note in the form of a heart, in the
shape of a heart, and I wrote on it, I matter,
and I stuck it to my bathroom mirror, and every
time I go look in the mirror, I see this
reminder I matter. And that has been something that was
very helpful because the other person was giving me messages
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to the contrary, and my victory was staying in my
power and my self esteem, loving myself. Because the other
person wanted me to feel yucky and put me down,
I was not going to give them the pleasure. And
that's my victory, looking and feeling my best. And that's
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how I can bring you this Love, Light and Wisdom
so that you don't have to stay in the yucky,
mucky whirlpool of self doubt, self deprecation and feeling unhappy,
but rather reclaiming your beautiful self and your power and
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looking and feeling your best. So we're going to take
a break and come back and we're going to discuss
more perspectives and using the emotion coade to help you
have clarity and deal with these very painful and challenging
emotions so that you're in control and not the emotions.
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Hi everybody, I'm Shoshana Auberbach, your hostess of Love, Light
and Wisdom, and you're watching me live on Bold Brave TV.
Today's topic is betrayal or Beating betrayal, and now we
are going to learn a little bit about the emotion
and how this wonderful modality can help you beat betrayal
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and deal with this painful feeling and make lemonade out
of lemons. So this I am first of all certified
in the Emotion Code, body Code, and belief Code, which
were developed by doctor Bradley Nelson, a retired chiropractor who
discovered that in between visits his patients weren't holding the
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benefits of the adjustments, and he concluded that this was
because they were having trapped emotions. These are emotions that
got trapped in their body from some kind of trauma
or upset that stayed in the body and created energy disturbances.
So he created the emotion code and then went on
(32:52):
to create the body code and belief code. So I
have used these modalities on myself and for clients to
help them have clarity and perspective and feel less triggered
by emotions. And that's when you know you're healing when
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you have the same trigger but you have a different
response to it. So let's learn some more about the
emotion code, and you can also contact me through my
website www dot Authentic Radiance for a private session and
more information. Let's go to the next slide place. So
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the subconscious mind is where these trapped emotions are held,
and when we are using the emotion code, we are
accessing them. But the key here is that the subconscious
mind will release and reveal only what is safe. So
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when we go through a trauma again, it creates an
energy to di sturbance and it could be a relationship
loss It could be stress, it could be a physical
injury or betrayal and abandonment. But what we suppress we
express in other ways, such as irritability and somatic complaints
such as pain and digestion, insomnia, joint pain, panic attacks,
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and more. So. Again, the idea here, like defense mechanisms,
is to protect us from pain, but the pain is
actually what perpetuates the trauma instead of clearing it and
healing it. Let's learn some more in the next line.
So why do emotions become trapped? They can be ancestral,
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we inherited them. Like we have a genetic DNA, we
have an emotional DNA. They can become trapped during pregnancy.
They can become trapped after birth, or maybe you absorb
them from someone else modeling behavior, especially in early childhood.
They can become trapped in one or more body parts
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or systems, or in the meridians, which are energy pathways
that have corresponding in emotions, and these emotions get connected
with an event. So the idea here is to identify
what is the emotion, the event, the age, and who
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else was involved and clear that from your system. Let's
learn some more in the next slide and what are
the consequences of not doing that well? You remain disconnected, irritable, depressed,
perhaps unfulfilled. You create a heart wall. It's harder for
you to be in real time with other people, including yourself.
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You're connected from yourself, You're an excel from yourself. You
create imbalances in the body that may trigger poor health,
and you keep resonating on a lower frequency, and you
keep attracting. According to the law of attraction, you keep
attracting the same kind of so called luck or opportunities
(36:15):
or unfulfilling relationships in your life. So let's learn more
in the next slide how to move forward. The emotion code,
body cone belief code used muscle testing, which is termed
also applied kinesiology, and it's a form of biofeedback where
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I'm testing resonance with Everything is energy and every energy
is everything. So I'm testing resonance what I'm resonant, I'm
resonating with. I'm putting out a vibration wave, and maybe
there's a food or an emotion that has a certain wave.
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Are we harmonious or not? Will be testing for a
strong yes or a strong no. Let's go to the
next slide please, and when we get this information, the
trapped emotion, the body part, the age, and the other
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people involved, then we release it by swiping over the
governing meridian, which is connected with all of the other
meridians and energy pathways in the body. Let's go to
the next slide and we use a magnet or our
hand also has magnetic energy in it, and that lifts
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out those resonances, those vibrations as so that we can
have more clarity. So let's go to the next slide,
and here is the emotion code chart. You'll see sixty
emotions divided up into column A and B, and then
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on the left side you see the emo I'm sorry,
the organs body parts that are connected with these emotions.
This is not random. This is part of what is
the science behind acupuncture, acupressure, shiatsu, and Eastern medicine. So
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this is the basic protocol, I guess you would call it.
So I'm going to just center myself and I'm going
to show you how this is done. All right, So
I'm going to think about a time that I felt
angry and hurt from betrayal. It was when my ex
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announced that I was he wanted divorce. It was a
total shock to me, or maybe I was in denial.
Whatever it was, it was a to me, and it
happened a few years ago, and I'm still feeling this emotion.
So I want to clear it and neutralize it as
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much as I can. It's not getting rid of it,
it's clearing and healing from it, all right. So I'm
going to use this. I use the ring. I sorry,
I'm going to use this method. So this is a yes.
I'm pulling my thumb against my sorry, my middle finger
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against my thumb. This is a yes. This is a no. Okay,
this isn't. Give me a yes, give me a no.
My name is Shoshana. Yes, my name is Robert No.
All right. So now I have programmed so to speak,
my mind, my body to resonate with show Shana. What
is yes? What is resonating true for show SHAWNA? All right?
(40:00):
So the issue I want to clear today is the
shock I felt, and we want to be as specific
as possible, the shock I felt when my ex announced
to me that he wanted a divorce. And how much
is this bothering me now? Today? How much is this
affecting me? Give me, yes, give me a no, ten
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nine eight, ten nine eight seven on a ten point scale,
So it's still pretty strong. All right. What is the
first emotion that I can release that's part of this betrayal?
What is it reaching back in my history from? Okay? So?
Is it from column A yes, cam be no? Is
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it an odd row? Yes? Is it row one? Yes?
Is it?
Speaker 1 (40:51):
So?
Speaker 2 (40:51):
I'm going to go to column A row one? Is
it abandonment?
Speaker 3 (40:57):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (40:58):
Okay. So do we need to know more information? Yes,
it is that emotion trapped in my heart?
Speaker 5 (41:05):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (41:08):
Do we need to know the age? Yes? The age
is under ten yes, ten nine eight seven six five.
So what happened to me at age five when I
felt abandoned? Maybe I wasn't physically or emotionally abandoned, but
that was my response as a five year old? All right?
Who else was involved? Male? Yes? Give me a note?
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Was it male? No? Female? Yes? My mother? Yes, she
was a good mother. But at that time, something happened.
Can I remember what it was? Yes? Was it have
to do with school? Yes, something happened at school and
maybe she didn't respond. Yes, okay, I forgive her. So
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now I'm going to take my hand and I'm going
to swipe over the top of my head, starting at
the top of the nose. I'm going to swipe five
times and ask God to help me release a feeling
of trapped emotion of abandonment that got trapped in my
heart when I was five years old, involving my mother
and something that happened at school. Three one, two, three
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four five. Okay, and just take a deep breath at
that settle. Okay. Is this released? Yes? Good, thank you.
Is there another trapped emotion I can release right now? Yes?
Column a yes, wrote an odd row yes row one Yes. Abandonment, betrayal.
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This happened when I was five years old under ten yeah, ten, nine, eight, seven, six,
five four. Something happened at three years old? Well? Was
it involving a birth of a sibling that was born
when I was three years old? Yes? I was the
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oldest child. I am the oldest child, and I felt, hey,
I'm not getting the same attention anymore. Is that what
it is?
Speaker 6 (43:17):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (43:18):
Okay. So now I'm going to ask God to help
me clear this trapped emotion of betrayal from when I
was five years old, involving the birth of my sister
and not getting the same attention from my caregivers. Okay,
and I do forgive them. I had what two three
(43:38):
four five? Okay, take a deep breath and let that settle. Okay.
I do feel clearer in my aur my energy field.
I feel a little clearer in my head. Okay, Okay.
(44:01):
Is there another trapped emotion that I can release now? Yes?
Is it column a yes, odd road? Yes? Row one Yes,
abandoned by betrayal? Four? Lord? Is it the same thing
when my sister was born? I felt forlorn because I
wasn't getting attention. Yes, I'm going to release that God's.
Speaker 6 (44:23):
Help two three four five okay, and I feel even
a bit clearer now.
Speaker 2 (44:35):
Usually in an emotion code session, we release between five
and ten trapped emotions and then we asked the system
is there anything else? And when we get to know
that the body has had enough detoxing, we stop and
we may continue with a follow up session. So, just
(44:56):
from releasing these three trapped emotions period of what maybe
five minutes or less? How much is this affecting me? Now?
This feeling of betrayal from when my ex announced that
he wants a divorce is a ten nine eight, seven
six five? So I went in five minutes, I went
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from a five. I'm sorry, I went from a seven
to a five. So I invite you to contact me
at www dot Authentic Radiance dot life and schedule a
session for yourself of the emotion code, body code or
belief code and how this modality can help you deal
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with feelings of betrayal and anger and other trapped emotions
and traumas so that you can have a happier, healthier
life and resonate on your true residents. Okay, so we're
going to take a break and come back with some
more perspectives about betrayal and anger after this commercial message.
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Hi everybody, and welcome back to Lovelight and Wisdom. This
is your hostess, Shoshanna Auberbach, and you're watching me live
on bold GRAVETV. We've been talking about the emotion code,
how it can help you deal with anger and betrayal
and beating betrayal, not staying feeling angry and feeling and
(48:42):
the hurt cycle of betrayal. So we did some emotion
code and had some amazing results. In just five minutes,
I went from a seven to a five. So please
contact me at my website www dot Authentic Radiance for
more information and to schedule a private sense session. Let's
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I end the program today with some more tools to
help you move forward from betrayal and anger and hurt.
This is something that I came up with with the
same situation when, as I demonstrated in the Emotion Code,
when my ex announced that he wanted a divorce and
(49:24):
I was very surprising to me. I was a big
wake up call. So I came up with this Dialectics
for Self Love and self Healing, which was my victory.
I was feeling crummy, but that's not how I wanted
to feel, and I kept I was at more with myself.
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But the more I try to push it away, the
more it came back. So how do we confront it
and heal it? So this is one technique that may
be helpful for you. A dialect. When you have two
opposite feelings, the brain can't handle that. It needs one input.
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So we take these two opposite statements or feelings and
put them into one sentence. Although I feel crummy, betrayed, hurt, angry, abandoned,
how can I have the best day? How can I
have the best life? And how can I take the
best care of myself? And when I put that into
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one statement, I got up off my chair and I
got a massage, and I went to the gym, and
I started taking back, reclaiming my power and my beautiful
self and not let someone else run my life. Let's
look at the next slide. This is one of my
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mother's Her name is Doris. Some maternal wisdom from Doris
I want to share with you. If you settle for
less than what you deserve. You get less than what
you settled for. Set your standards high, not so high
that they're impossible, but you deserve good things. You must
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be equally yoked, the team pulling the wagon, the cart equally,
not one more than the other. The devil is a liar.
I do not. I am not a yucky person, although
I was feeling yucky. I am a beautiful woman, and
I deserve love and good things. It is better to
(51:38):
be alone than to be badly accompanied. M M all right,
don't need drama, trauma and chaos. Hold your head up high,
put a smile on your face, put your back to
the wind, and keep it moving. And when I would
call Doris when she was alive and spill my artel
(52:00):
to her, she would say, he's not worth one of
your precious golden tears. And Mom was always right. Let's
learn some more from the next slide, The blessing of
a wake up call. It was a shock, it was,
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That's what it was. It was a shock, and it
taught me some very powerful lessons. Stop wasting my energy
on someone who couldn't and wouldn't love me. Stop wasting
my time on the same Stop investing in something the
relationship that wasn't supporting me and wasn't working for me,
(52:45):
Stop trying to make it work. Realize that I was
unequally yoked and I was being taken advantage of recalibrate
and invest elsewhere, which is what I did, and it
was not easy. Was easier to create a brighter future
than to stay in a toxic, unhealthy, unfulfilling, unhappy relationship.
(53:10):
Let's learn some more on the next slide. And again,
where you're at is what you attract. So if you're
not happy with what's coming into your life, it's not luck.
It's a mirror of where you are. Change yourself and
you will change what you attract back to you. And
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let's go to the next to the last slide. So
maybe next time we're going to talk more about why
you attract these kinds of relationships in your life. And
let's go to the full screenplace. So I hope that
today's topic of beating betrayal and in this series of anger,
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friend or foe has been very useful to you. And
if so, I or if not, I'd like to hear
more from you. You can send us an email through
Bold Brave TV or look me up at www dot
Authentic radiance, dot life and let's have a chat about
how my services with energy healing, intuitive readings using the
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emotion code, bodycode and belief code or other modalities can
help you heal from betrayal, trauma and deal more effectively
with this challenging emotion and often misunderstood emotion of anger.
It doesn't have to rule your life. You rule your
life and I help. The perspectives that I've shared with
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you today based on my previous experiences, have helped you
to be who you authentically are. Have a healthy, healthy, normal, enough, safe, successful, lucrative, fulfilling, peaceful, spiritual,
loving day, Saloman blessings and I hope to see you
next time and look up our other shows on Love
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Light and Wisdom. See you next time.
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