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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Welcome to Love Light and Wisdom with your host Shashawa.
Love Light and Wisdom inspires listeners to tune into their
authentic selves and create a happier and healthier life, take
control and experience true happiness. So please welcome the host
of Love Light and Wisdom, Shashaana.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Hello everybody, my name is Shoshanna Auberbach and you're watching
me live on Bold Brave TV. Welcome to today's topic
on Love, Light and Wisdom, which is the continuation in
our series Anger Friend or Foe and anger turned inward
and causing you to self sabotage and betray yourself, which
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makes you live not in integrity with your belief code
and your code of ethics for yourself and causes people
to feel out of sorts and depressed and unsure of
themselves and inadequate and operate in in inauthentic power. Today,
we're going to continue this topic and give you tips
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and techniques and tools how to deal with these very
painful emotions so they don't have to stay painful, and
you don't stay stuck, and you can climb your way
out of the whole and into the light, the light
of yourself. So we're going to introduce myself. I'm Shoshana
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Auberbach and I'm a licensed social worker and music therapist
in the state of New York. I also practice energy
and spiritual healing and teach psychology courses online at a university.
So welcome, welcome, welcome. By the way, we'd love to
hear from you, So if you have any questions or comments,
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please drop us a chat, a message, or send us
an email, or you can call live and we'll be
happy to address your questions. So let's move forward to
today's topic again. We're going to be using the Belief
Code to address this very very painful feelings and situations
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that we get ourselves into, sometimes unconsciously or perhaps without awareness,
and it leaves us feeling very unsatisfied and very unhappy.
But you don't have to stay there, and that's why
we're here today to give you some tips and perspectives
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to empower you to recognize and cope with betrayal of yourself.
How the Belief Code may help you to stop self
sabotaging and stop punishing yourself so you can live in
integrity with your code and reclaim your power, self respect,
and personhood. Let's move to the next slide please. These
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are some of the topics. Sorry. These are some of
the services that I offer energy healing as an energy
healing practitioner, the emotion body code and belief code, which
help identify and release negative emotions and trapped emotions and
negative belief systems so that you are operating authentically as yourself.
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I also provide intuitive readings for people to help them
get a metaphysical perspective on whatever is ailing them, whether
that's relationship issues, depression, anxiety. I do not give medical advice,
but there are often metaphysical reasons for physical ailments. So
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look me up on www. Dot Authentic radiance dot life
for more services and information. Let's go to the next
slide place. These are some of the previous show topics
on lovelight and wisdom dealing with energy healing, energy awareness,
energy tips, and how to deal with some very difficult
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and challenging emotions so they don't have to stay that
way and you can live a happier, healthier life. I
also invite you to listen to my music that I've written,
these original songs. I wrote the lyrics, the music and
made the arrangements and you can listen to them on
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different platforms. And next, these are the series in this
series of anger, friend or Foe. These are the topics
we've been discussing. Look them up on my prior shows. Okay, next,
so let's just review what is betray Betrayal has to
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do with deceit usually another person. One person deceives another
or proves to be like a false friend or have
a false connection, loving trust and connection, and that trust
is broken often for personal gains such as monetary gain
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or self centeredness, self interest and the like, and it
leaves the victim feeling left in the lurch and very
very hurt shock. You know what did I do? And
it's just very very hurtful. But it doesn't have to
stay that way, and that's why we're here today. So
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we have also been discussing what is integrity on the
other side of the betrayal spectrum. That means living in
accordance with my values, such as being an honest person,
a kind person, an educated person, whatever your values are
that's important to you and your code that you live by,
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your ethics, making choices about what's in my highest and
best interest. Saying no is also saying yes to other things,
and that's part of self respect, liking yourself and putting
those messages out there. And when you put out self respect,
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you get self respect back. That also means when you're
living in integrity and people smell this right away about
you because it's an energy, it's a vibration that you
exude out in the universe without words. So it also
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means I can trust myself. I like myself. I have
good self esteem. A difference between conceit and good self esteem.
Conceit is you think too highly of yourself, not taking
other people's needs and perspectives into consideration. But you in
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order to be selfless, as one of my mentors once said,
you need to have a self otherwise we'd all be
walking around like a mental case. So we need healthy
self esteem. I feel good enough about myself that I'm
proud of myself. And because I love myself enough, I
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set and I keep boundaries. Please don't say those words
to me. That's very hurtful. Please don't do that. It
annoys me. For example, Please let me know when you're
going to be calling me so I can plan accordingly.
Sometimes it's simple things, sometimes not. And when you will
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have integrity and you're living in integrity, you are operating
in authentic power and you're not dependent on anyone else
for your self esteem. So we're going to talk more
about this and why do people betray themselves and what
you can do about it. Let's move forward. So thought,
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speech and action, The question is are the congruent? That
means what are you thinking? Is that congruent with the
speech that's coming out of your mouth and the actions.
Instead of saying like, well, I wish I could quit smoking,
but you're still smoking the same amount, that's incongruent, that's sabotage.
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So when we're living in integrity, we are incongruence with
our thoughts. Speech and action reflect how we perceive ourselves
in our world. They are vibrations and when we're putting
out those waves, we pick up waves set to a
certain dial that we emit like a radio station. We're
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going to talk more about the law of attraction, which
is what that is. And thoughts become our story and
our identity, and they are very deeply embedded, and it's
very difficult sometimes to change our story because it's been
serving us. We've been having some benefit from it, even
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if it's a negative kind of benefit, but we've been
having some kind of benefit, or maybe we just don't
believe it'll ever change. And again, that's why we're here.
And like cognitive behavior therapy, awareness of our thoughts and
how they become our behaviors is something that can help
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us grow and stop walking into the quicksand and stop
doing things that aren't congruent with our integrity code. So
let's move forward and learn some more. This is the
law of attraction. Everything is energy and a vibration that's
broadcasted and picked up by the receiver like an antenna
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or a radio dial setting. You are a vibration, you
put out, you emit a vibration, and people who are
on a similar wavelength literally not just figuratively, well also
pick up these vibrations. And that's how you attract each other.
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Like is like like a magnet. So what if you're
not happy with what you're attracting and you're responsible for
it's not necessarily bad luck. What happens if you're not
happy with the type of job, the type of partner,
the type of relationship or opportunities that you're attracting into
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your life, Well got to set reset your or change
your dial and you can do that with the belief code,
body code, and emotion code, as well as some self
reflection and therapy and some of the services that I offer.
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And you can act in integrity so that you can
broadcast your optimal vibration and attract that back to you,
as we see in the next slide. This was the
basis of the book that came out in the nineteen
nineties called The Secret. The Secret explains the law of attraction.
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The way you think and act is what you attract.
The way you think and act is what you attract.
And this may be foreign to some people. It's like, oh,
God is punishing me I have bad luck. Well, that
might be so, I'm not God's secretary. But this is
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what you can do to change what's coming towards you
in your life. Change your radio station, the radio station
setting in your mind, change your thoughts, which will change
your speech and change your action and attract something different
back to you like a boomerang. And it makes you
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responsible and in charge more of what you is coming
into your life, of course, with God's help and approval.
Let's learn some more on the next slide. What happens
when we are acting out of integrity. We are disconnected
from ourselves, and that can be very scary. I don't
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know who I am. I feel lost, I don't know
what to think, I don't know what to feel. I'm
scattered brained. That's called dissociation and it can be very scary.
It means you're an excel from yourself and you're operating
in inauthentic power. You are vulnerable to other people telling
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you what to do and controlling you and manipulating you.
Instead of those healthy self esteem boundaries that will say no,
that's not okay to take advantage of me, you are
giving your power away to something something like a substance,
a drug of approval seeking or someone else, instead of
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operating in authentic power your power. When you are out
of integrity with yourself, you settle for less than what
you deserve, and you get less than what you settled for.
That's some wonderful maternal wisdom from one of my second
mothers named Dora. Yes, when you settle for less than
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what you deserve, you get less than what you've settled for,
and then you feel really crummy about what you're settled for.
As well as yourself, and you're vibrating at less than
optimal frequency and you're attracting that back to you. So
these are some thoughts about what is operating in integrity,
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what is operating out of integrity and the law of attraction.
And if you're not satisfied with what's coming back to you,
stay tuned and we're going to talk about how your
thoughts and using the belief code can help you attract
better things, better people, and opportunity and help you lead
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Speaker 2 (17:12):
Hi everybody, this is Shoshana Auberbach, your hostess of Love,
Life and Wisdom. Welcome back and you're watching me live
on Bold Brave TV. We've been talking about integrity and
living out of integrity, which is betraying yourself and sabotaging yourself,
and what you can do about it, first by having awareness.
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We're going to review a little bit from the previous
show in case you didn't see it, and why do
people make these choices and betray themselves and live unhappily. Well,
there are consequences of poor choice choices and betraying yourself
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leaves one in victim mode, perpetuating the victim, mental and
abusing oneself. That may sound strong, that's what I believe.
You have. Low self respect, low self esteem, staying in
a state of perpetual spiritual distress, and helplessness learned helplessness
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feeling hopelessness, hopeless and stuck. Not a happy place to be.
But sometimes stress makes us contributes to why we make
poor choices. So I guess The antidote to that is
reduce your stress. It's not always easy or easier said
than done. Sometimes. Let's review some more on the next line.
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Some of the emotional responses to betrayal, trauma or taking
the hurt out on yourself, shock, confusion, hurt anger, feeling
abandoned or abandoning yourself, questioning who you are, lack of
security and feeling safe, not a happy place to be.
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Why did I do that to myself? I was weak,
not strong enough. I was desperate, I was lonely, I
was depressed. I wanted a relief. I put my faith
in someone or something else. The temptation was too great. Well,
stay out of quicksand and have the awareness I smell
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erect and run the other way. Again, it's not always
so easy. But even in retrospect, think about why did
I do that to myself? I'm a beautiful person. Why
would I hurt myself? Let's learn so review some more
in the next slide. These are some of the defense mechanisms.
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Why we don't have that awareness. We minimize, we dissociate,
we numb out, check out. Oh it's just a little hit,
it's just a little this, it's just a little poison. Right,
But what you of comes back to you, and what
you confront transforms you, according to David Kessler, a grief expert,
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and stop investing your energies and perpetuating the problem, and
start investing in healing and feeling happier and healthier. So
these defense mechanisms shield you from the pain, but yet
they all they also keep you on the defensive and
perpetuate the problem. Let's review some more and again. If
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you want to learn more about this, I encourage you
to look up the last show that I did. The
message the hurtful messages of betrayal and self betrayal, which
I believe our form of self abuse is that even
if other people tell you don't matter, that's not always true.
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You do matter. You're still alive. God has a mission
for you. You got up today. The best defense is a
good offense. According to I believe it was Yogi Berra
or one of those football players or coaches the best defenses.
I do matter. But the message that a person is
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not yet strong enough to say is I, or stop saying,
is I don't matter to myself? You don't care about me.
Therefore I internalize the message I don't care about me either.
So these are this is how a person can not
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only betray themselves, but also it's a form of self abuse.
You can hurt me, I can hurt myself too, And again,
why would you do that? You're a beautiful person And
if you don't feel that way, you need some help.
Give me a call or get some professional other types
of professional help, and stop hurting and stop setting baitizing
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and live a better life. You deserve it. Let's learn
some more in the next line. One of the reasons
I reviewed in the last I put forth in the
last show was insecure versus secure attachment. Why you put
up with toxicity because you didn't have that from when
you were a really little kid. You had a caregiver
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who didn't consistently show you and predictably enough or consistently
enough love, attention and validation. So these people often grow
up to the adults who make poor choices in relationships.
They often get into trouble, addictions, bad habits, negative thinking.
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This can be corrected in therapy. But these are some
of the reasons for which people betray themselves and don't
make good choices. Let's look at the next slide which
is a different presentation of attachment styles. So again you
can if you're listening to this on the replay, you
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can either put it on pause or look up the
last show. So the way you're raised and the way
your caregiver paid attention to you has a lot to
do with how you turn out as an adult. And
again not to despair. This can be corrected with some
professional help or give me a call look me up
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at www dot authentic radiance dot life. Let's look at
the next slide please, these are some other some more
review about perspective, real feelings, hard choices, and being accountable.
For example, if you feel that when you betrayed yourself,
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you took that drink, you took that with you went
with hooked up with somebody who was a toxic person,
against your better discernment, I was weak, I was lonely,
I was desperate. So try this the next time you
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run into that challenge. Ask yourself, am I doing the
most loving thing for myself? Now? Am I doing the
most loving thing for myself? Now? Okay, and let's look
at the next line with some more perspectives about hard choices.
When you're in a test, I will gain more by
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giving into anxiety and pressure. I just want relief. Well again,
the question is am I doing the most loving thing
for myself? Now? Short term gains, long term losses. Feeling
crummy about yourself and your life is not a solution.
What is a solution is to get some help, and
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we're going to address that. Using the belief code is
one of many modalities that's out there. So let's look
at the next slide, please so and the next one
the opposite direction. There we go. Okay, So what happens
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when you're in a test? A test is when you
have stress and you have choices to make, which is
a conflict of needs and values, and that's what causes
the stress. It's not clear. I want both. I want
to get the high, but I want to stop taking quack.
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I want to quit smoking, but I need to reduce
my stress. Well, hello, smoking doesn't reduce stress. It's the
breathing that reduces the stress. So maybe do some breathing.
But you can't have both at the same time. Have
a Yiddish saying than cantonsen Nish by Svehrassen is you
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can't answer at two weddings at the same time. It's
either or so what people do oftentimes they want the
relief more than they're in their emotional reactive brain, more
than their thinking brain. This is a test. So the
big question here is am I doing the most loving
thing for myself to make the best choice. Am I
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going to stay in integrity with my values or betray myself?
There are benefits and consequences to each one. It starts
with awareness. First, recognize that the test you're in a test,
and sometimes that's the test itself, sometimes not. The struggle
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of the test produces growth. It answers the question where
am I holding I'm not strong enough yet to go
into a bar as or recovering alcoholic? I'm not one,
but I'm just giving you an example. Thank god, Where
am I holding I'm not yet strong enough? Or well
I pass that test. It used to be a trigger
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for me and now it's not. And that's how you
know you've grown and moved forward. Good for you. And
little victories are not little so little victories, they are huge.
Changing the way you think and act and believe are
very difficult, right, but with awareness, you can choose a
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different outcome. And again that's why we're here. You always
have choices to cope. Awareness if your choices are constructive
or destructive? And what are the end results? And again
it doesn't have to be so cerebral, but over time,
if you can just slow down your brain and say
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and give yourself a hug and say, what is it
that's really important to me right now? Am I doing
the most loving thing for myself? Yes? I want that drink,
that cigarette, I want that hug, I want that man,
that woman. It's impulsivity, it's important and urging. Right now
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you're in distress. But if you just slow down your
brain and think this is distressing now, is it dangerous?
Will it matter in one minute, one hour, one day,
five years from now. That's what we need to think about,
because when you're in that test, you have those weights,
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and when you are pushing up against those weights, that temptation,
that test is what's going to build the muscle. If
you're not strong enough to push up against it, stop breathe,
call a buddy, do something, walk away right at least
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by yourself some time and pass your test. So we're
going to take upbreak and come back and discuss this
and the belief code and how this can help you
pass your tests or maybe why you're not passing your
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Speaker 2 (31:45):
Welcome back, everybody to Lovelight and Wisdom. I'm your hostess,
Shoshana Auberbach, and you're watching me live on Bold Brave TV.
We've been talking about betrayal of oneself and versus living
in integrity. So what if you have the idea or
the desire. Yes, I'd like to change. I like to
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stop smoking, I'd like to stop my drug habit. I'd
like to stop attracting the wrong kind of person into
my life. But I just don't know how. So now
we're going to give you going to give you a
brief demonstration of the belief Code. Remember, things start with
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our beliefs, So we must have our beliefs in order
because like the law of attraction, we put out of
vibration and that's what we attract back to ourselves. So
the Belief Code helps to identify and release negative beliefs
and belief systems. It was developed by doctor Bradley Nelson,
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who also developed the belief I'm Sorry, the Emotion Code,
and the Body Code. I have found this to be
so helpful for myself and that's why I took these
courses to become a certified practitioner. So using muscle testing,
which is testing resonance in the body, we identify using
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an app. There is no book out about the belief Code.
There is a book out about the body code and
the Emotion Code, but not yet about the belief Code.
So we are testing which negative belief is most resonating
with our issue. So muscle testing works something like this.
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So I use this method. Okay, this is going my
thumb is going to There are many different ways. This
is the one that I like to use. So I'm
going to drag my middle finger across. This would be
a no because it's weak. Think of something that makes
you feel strong, So this is strong. Yes, my name
is Shoshana. Is my name Joe on? No, my energy
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goes down. So we can do this a number of ways,
ring and ring like this. Some people use their arms,
some people use the sway test. So this is a
yes and this is a no. So how do you
know I'm not just manipulating that in my mind? Well,
I guess you have to trust me, and if you're
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still not sure, stay with us and maybe anyway. So
I do need to just relax my mind. That's true,
and just have the confidence that I'm going to get
I'm asking my system. I'm going to get the best answer.
What's resonating true for me? All right, then you're going
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to see me. I'm going to do a screen share.
There are hundreds of belief listed in this app and
so how do I know which one? It could be
a number of them. So we want to get the lynchpin,
which is the most the one that I'm resonating the
most with. I'm going to identify that, and then you're
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going to see me swiping over the top of my
head to release that this is the governing meridian. Meridians
are energy pathways in the body, and all the energy
pathways in the body are connected to this governing meridian.
And there is magnetic energy in my hand, or you
can use a magnet and swipe, lifting these beliefs literally
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out of your subconscious mind where they have been stored
and lurking for perhaps many many years. Okay, So I'm
going to just get quiet for a moment here, and
I'm going to choose the issue that I'd like to
work on so regards to in regards to betraying oneself,
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I'm thinking of a particular incident that happened when I
I was a teenager, which was many many years ago,
and I still feel uncomfortable about it because someone took
advantage of me, And you could also I could also
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reframe that I let that person take advantage of me.
I was young, innocent. I didn't know how to speak
up for myself. Whatever the reason is, it left me feeling.
I still have some feelings of guilt and shame about that.
It doesn't lurk in my consciousness. It doesn't interfere with
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my ability to, you know, work as a social worker
or do what I need to do every day. But
it's uncomfortable. But I think about it, and that's how
I know it's a trigger. So I'm going to there
are seven categories here. Each of these correspond to a chakra,
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a power center, and energy center, And I'm going to
rate myself on a scale of zero to ten. How
much is this particular memory and the belief that that
came out of it. I guess was people take advantage
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of me. Okay, so that's what I want to address,
and I'm how much is it bothering me? The first
number that comes up ten, nine, A seven, six, about
a five or six? So well, let's clear this out
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all say goodbye, all right? So, which one of these
categories is the belief that I'm resonating with that's causing
this the belief that I'm feeling right now to still
be alive. It's on the left side, and you're gonna
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hear me checking is that left side? Right side? And
then one, two, three, or four it's I'm getting a
yes for myself and a no. I'm checking for myself
left side, left side, one two insight. So this is
the sub menu. Okay, So is there something here on
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the left side? Yes, body defect. So under defect, we're
gonna come to negative statements. There are four sections, and
each section has usually eight to eleven statements negative belief statements.
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Which one is most resonating with me? Now? As negative,
we'll call it negative program number one. Section one. Yes. Now,
out of the ten statements here, they could be any
one of them, which one is in my subconscious mind
contributing to this negative feeling, this negative belief of people
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take advantage of me? Where did that come from? What's
underneath all the layers of the onion? So I specifically
intentionally covered all these ten statements up because I want
you to see that I'm really muscle checking myself all
right as it Number one, Yes, gim me you know
number one? Yes? Okay, one, two, three, three, four or five? Okay.
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I am nervous and anxious. So if I were doing
a real session. I would have a word document and
I would copy this onto a word document. Then the
next question I asked was when did this belief about myself?
I'm nervous and anxious. Start at what age? Was it?
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Under age? Ten? Yes? Ten? Nine eight seven nine eight seven?
Who was involved? Do we need male female mother teacher?
So I would ask a client to ask myself when
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I was seven, what came up for me regarding a
female teacher. Well, I had a first grade teacher. I
can still tell you her name, and she did something
that humiliated me in front of the whole class. That
was a lot long time ago, but it's still lurking
in my subconscious mind, and I felt nervous and anxious
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about it. I was laid to school a few times
and she in those days, they were allowed to hit students,
and she made me bend over and hit me with
the yardstick in front of the whole class. It was
really embarrassing. So I want to release this now. I
don't need it anymore. And this contributed to when I
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was a teenager and I let someone take advantage of me.
All right, So I'm going to swipe over the top
of my head about five times, asking God to help
me release this belief of I am nervous and anxious
from when I was aged seven regarding this teacher, when
I was humiliated in front of the whole class. Okay,
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now I'm going to take a deep breath. Well, I
feel that leaving my root chakra and I'm really I
really need to let that go. Thank you, thank you,
thank you. Okay? Is that complete? Yes? All right, so
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let's see what else is the next negative belief program
that's related to my issue? Also in this same category defect. Yes,
so I'm going to go back down here. Is it
from section one? Yes? Give me that section one? Yes?
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All right? Out of the ten statements, is it one? Okay,
I am old and tired? Well, where does this come from?
This belief? Is it also from under age ten? Yes? Ten? Nine? Eight?
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At age eight, I developed this belief I am old tired.
Was there someone else involved? Yes? My mother? Yes. This
is when my second sister was born and I was
the I am the oldest child, and it was hard
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for me to have not only one sibling, but then
our second sibling. And it's like here we go again.
I'm not going to get the attention that I need.
So I developed this belief I am old and tired
even though I was only eight years old. So now
I am ready to release this. It's been operating in
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my subconscious mind for too long. So I'm going to
swipe over the top of my head five times. Some
people do three. I like to do five and let
it go. Take some deep breath and us let that resettle,
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and yeah, I do feel clearer. I feel some lightning,
lighter energy in my neck and my root chakra, and
I do feel clearer in my mind. So now I've
released two of the beliefs, and we keep going. We
do have a template, and we keep going until we've
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released all the beliefs that need to be released, and
then we check. We check if everything has been released,
and if we need to instill install some positive beliefs
like I am worthy, I love myself, I am vibrant.
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It's usually the opposite of those beliefs. So I hope
that that was just a little taste of the belief code.
And if you're interested in more, look me up on www.
Dot authentic radiance, dot life and schedule a session. So
we're going to take a commercial break and come back
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with some more tips and perspectives to help you have
the most wonderful life that you can and stop betraying yourself.
This is Shoshana Auberbach and you've been watching me live
on BOWLBRAYTV. This is Lovelight and Wisdom saying a few
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help gain perspective, build confidence, find clarity, achieve goals. John M.
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with Limitless Growth, published by I Universe, Hawkins reveals strategies
to help readers accomplish more. He believes the book can
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get to the top of their sport with the help
of coaches, mentors, and others. He shares guidance that helps
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Welcome back, everybody. I'm Shoshanna Auberbach, your Hostess of Love,
Light and Wisdom. You've been watching me live on Bold
Brave TV. We've been talking about awareness of when you're
sabotaging and betraying yourself, some tips and perspectives, and using
the belief code to help you stop doing that and
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do the most loving thing for yourself. So we're going
to give you some more tips and techniques and perspectives
to please take this home or practice at home and
share it with someone you love the next slide. Please,
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So again, it's about choice, and choices are not always easy.
But the choice is do I love myself enough to
do the right thing when I'm in that test situation,
when I'm feeling that distressed, that conflict, I can only
choose one. Is it the cigarette? Is it the drink?
It's a the toxic relationship. Just please do the most
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loving thing for yourself. You deserve that. And if you're
not sure if you deserve that, get some help. Give
me a call or find some other professional help. My
website is www dot authentic radiance dot life. So get
to know yourself, stay in integrity with yourself, or explore
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what that means with a professional. If you're not sure
what your integrity code is, learn what that is. Explore
discover so that you can live in authentic power. Maybe
consider a person or a situation like the one that
I was discussing before, a negative behavior model. Do I
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want to end up like the person who abused me,
the person who hurt me, the person who manipulated me. No,
I don't so that enough is an aversion, enough of
a deterrent. And I really learned a lot from that situation,
and I'm not doing that again. Can I look at
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myself in the mirror and feel proud of myself? Nurture
myself responsibly instead of harming myself? Is another way to
avoid sand traps, because I think enough of myself, not
too much, but think enough of myself as a worthy person.
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And I'm going to do the most loving thing for myself,
and that way I will be less vulnerable to people
trying to harm and harm or harm myself and manipulate me.
Remember self, compassion versus impulsivity. Acknowledge this is hard. Yeah,
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I want that hug, I want that approval, I want
that promotion, but at what cost? So just maybe acknowledge
this is hard and put yourself back in your body,
back with yourself, and take a deep breath and say,
am I doing the most loving thing myself? Let's learn
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some more before we close for today. Remember Nancy Reagan,
just say no, this is not for me. Yes, I want,
but it is not for me because I love myself
and I have the self discipline to do the most
loving thing for myself. At least by yourself some time.
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Because the amigdala, that reactive emotional part of your brain,
works five times faster than your prefrontal cortex, which is
the thinking part of your brain. So maybe just say
by yourself some time, Take a deep breath and say
this too will pass. It's distressing now, it will pass.
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Or just by yourself some time. Okay, is this what
I really want to do? Call a friend, a buddy,
a sponsor. There's a twenty four seven three sixty five
crisis counseling line at least in New York City. Find
somebody to talk to, or talk to yoursel if you
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can't do it talking to yourself. Celebrate those so called
little victories, even just catching yourself and again stay away
from quicksand learn to recognize when it's your approaching danger,
learn to identify it and run the other way. And
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if all that hasn't helped you yet, maybe just give
yourself a hug and give yourself some self love. Say
God loves me. I have a purpose in this world.
I woke up today. God created me. I'm still alive
and I'm a very special person. No one else can
do what I'm doing in this world. Let's go to
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the next slide. Please, and if you're still not sure
why you can't change again, get some help. Give me
a call, look me up on www Dot Authentic radiance
dot life, and find out why your conscious and your
subconscious mind aren't in sync and that's making it hard
for you to change and do the things you really
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Your behavior will match, will be congruent with what you
really want to be doing. Be patient with yourself. Change
takes time. Right, sometimes we're under psychic attack and entities
for influencing us. Again, it's about awareness. Aha, catch you,
(53:40):
I'm not doing that. The devil is a liar, some
people say. But remember you can change full screen plays.
You can change. It takes time, it takes discipline, it
takes sometimes a helping person. So again, please look me
up at www Dot authentic radiance dot life. And let's
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talk about how one of these modalities, the belief code,
the body code, the emotion code, eft TAT or perhaps
an intuitive reading, can help you stop betraying yourself, stop sabotaging,
stop living in inauthentic power and start radiating more love,
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more light, and more wisdom and living as you were
truly meant to be so. I hope you've enjoyed today's show.
I look forward to seeing you next time. This is
Shoshanna Auberbach, hostess of Love, Light and Wisdom. You've been
watching me live on Bold Brave TV. Have a beautiful, happy, healthy, normal, enough, safe, successful, blessed, creative, loving,
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Welcome to Love Light and Wisdom with your host Shashawa.
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Hello everybody, my name is Shoshanna Auberbach and you're watching
me live on Bold Brave TV. Welcome to today's topic
on Love, Light and Wisdom, which is the continuation in
our series Anger Friend or Foe and anger turned inward
and causing you to self sabotage and betray yourself, which
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makes you live not in integrity with your belief code
and your code of ethics for yourself and causes people
to feel out of sorts and depressed and unsure of
themselves and inadequate and operate in in inauthentic power. Today,
we're going to continue this topic and give you tips
(01:17):
and techniques and tools how to deal with these very
painful emotions so they don't have to stay painful, and
you don't stay stuck, and you can climb your way
out of the whole and into the light, the light
of yourself. So we're going to introduce myself. I'm Shoshana
(01:38):
Auberbach and I'm a licensed social worker and music therapist
in the state of New York. I also practice energy
and spiritual healing and teach psychology courses online at a university.
So welcome, welcome, welcome. By the way, we'd love to
hear from you, So if you have any questions or comments,
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please drop us a chat, a message, or send us
an email, or you can call live and we'll be
happy to address your questions. So let's move forward to
today's topic again. We're going to be using the Belief
Code to address this very very painful feelings and situations
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that we get ourselves into, sometimes unconsciously or perhaps without awareness,
and it leaves us feeling very unsatisfied and very unhappy.
But you don't have to stay there, and that's why
we're here today to give you some tips and perspectives
(02:46):
to empower you to recognize and cope with betrayal of yourself.
How the Belief Code may help you to stop self
sabotaging and stop punishing yourself so you can live in
integrity with your code and reclaim your power, self respect,
and personhood. Let's move to the next slide please. These
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are some of the topics. Sorry. These are some of
the services that I offer energy healing as an energy
healing practitioner, the emotion body code and belief code, which
help identify and release negative emotions and trapped emotions and
negative belief systems so that you are operating authentically as yourself.
(03:33):
I also provide intuitive readings for people to help them
get a metaphysical perspective on whatever is ailing them, whether
that's relationship issues, depression, anxiety. I do not give medical advice,
but there are often metaphysical reasons for physical ailments. So
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look me up on www. Dot Authentic radiance dot life
for more services and information. Let's go to the next
slide place. These are some of the previous show topics
on lovelight and wisdom dealing with energy healing, energy awareness,
energy tips, and how to deal with some very difficult
(04:19):
and challenging emotions so they don't have to stay that
way and you can live a happier, healthier life. I
also invite you to listen to my music that I've written,
these original songs. I wrote the lyrics, the music and
made the arrangements and you can listen to them on
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different platforms. And next, these are the series in this
series of anger, friend or Foe. These are the topics
we've been discussing. Look them up on my prior shows. Okay, next,
so let's just review what is betray Betrayal has to
(05:02):
do with deceit usually another person. One person deceives another
or proves to be like a false friend or have
a false connection, loving trust and connection, and that trust
is broken often for personal gains such as monetary gain
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or self centeredness, self interest and the like, and it
leaves the victim feeling left in the lurch and very
very hurt shock. You know what did I do? And
it's just very very hurtful. But it doesn't have to
stay that way, and that's why we're here today. So
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we have also been discussing what is integrity on the
other side of the betrayal spectrum. That means living in
accordance with my values, such as being an honest person,
a kind person, an educated person, whatever your values are
that's important to you and your code that you live by,
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your ethics, making choices about what's in my highest and
best interest. Saying no is also saying yes to other things,
and that's part of self respect, liking yourself and putting
those messages out there. And when you put out self respect,
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you get self respect back. That also means when you're
living in integrity and people smell this right away about
you because it's an energy, it's a vibration that you
exude out in the universe without words. So it also
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means I can trust myself. I like myself. I have
good self esteem. A difference between conceit and good self esteem.
Conceit is you think too highly of yourself, not taking
other people's needs and perspectives into consideration. But you in
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order to be selfless, as one of my mentors once said,
you need to have a self otherwise we'd all be
walking around like a mental case. So we need healthy
self esteem. I feel good enough about myself that I'm
proud of myself. And because I love myself enough, I
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set and I keep boundaries. Please don't say those words
to me. That's very hurtful. Please don't do that. It
annoys me. For example, Please let me know when you're
going to be calling me so I can plan accordingly.
Sometimes it's simple things, sometimes not. And when you will
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have integrity and you're living in integrity, you are operating
in authentic power and you're not dependent on anyone else
for your self esteem. So we're going to talk more
about this and why do people betray themselves and what
you can do about it. Let's move forward. So thought,
(08:25):
speech and action, The question is are the congruent? That
means what are you thinking? Is that congruent with the
speech that's coming out of your mouth and the actions.
Instead of saying like, well, I wish I could quit smoking,
but you're still smoking the same amount, that's incongruent, that's sabotage.
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So when we're living in integrity, we are incongruence with
our thoughts. Speech and action reflect how we perceive ourselves
in our world. They are vibrations and when we're putting
out those waves, we pick up waves set to a
certain dial that we emit like a radio station. We're
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going to talk more about the law of attraction, which
is what that is. And thoughts become our story and
our identity, and they are very deeply embedded, and it's
very difficult sometimes to change our story because it's been
serving us. We've been having some benefit from it, even
(09:34):
if it's a negative kind of benefit, but we've been
having some kind of benefit, or maybe we just don't
believe it'll ever change. And again, that's why we're here.
And like cognitive behavior therapy, awareness of our thoughts and
how they become our behaviors is something that can help
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us grow and stop walking into the quicksand and stop
doing things that aren't congruent with our integrity code. So
let's move forward and learn some more. This is the
law of attraction. Everything is energy and a vibration that's
broadcasted and picked up by the receiver like an antenna
(10:19):
or a radio dial setting. You are a vibration, you
put out, you emit a vibration, and people who are
on a similar wavelength literally not just figuratively, well also
pick up these vibrations. And that's how you attract each other.
(10:39):
Like is like like a magnet. So what if you're
not happy with what you're attracting and you're responsible for
it's not necessarily bad luck. What happens if you're not
happy with the type of job, the type of partner,
the type of relationship or opportunities that you're attracting into
(11:03):
your life, Well got to set reset your or change
your dial and you can do that with the belief code,
body code, and emotion code, as well as some self
reflection and therapy and some of the services that I offer.
(11:26):
And you can act in integrity so that you can
broadcast your optimal vibration and attract that back to you,
as we see in the next slide. This was the
basis of the book that came out in the nineteen
nineties called The Secret. The Secret explains the law of attraction.
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The way you think and act is what you attract.
The way you think and act is what you attract.
And this may be foreign to some people. It's like, oh,
God is punishing me I have bad luck. Well, that
might be so, I'm not God's secretary. But this is
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what you can do to change what's coming towards you
in your life. Change your radio station, the radio station
setting in your mind, change your thoughts, which will change
your speech and change your action and attract something different
back to you like a boomerang. And it makes you
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responsible and in charge more of what you is coming
into your life, of course, with God's help and approval.
Let's learn some more on the next slide. What happens
when we are acting out of integrity. We are disconnected
from ourselves, and that can be very scary. I don't
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know who I am. I feel lost, I don't know
what to think, I don't know what to feel. I'm
scattered brained. That's called dissociation and it can be very scary.
It means you're an excel from yourself and you're operating
in inauthentic power. You are vulnerable to other people telling
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you what to do and controlling you and manipulating you.
Instead of those healthy self esteem boundaries that will say no,
that's not okay to take advantage of me, you are
giving your power away to something something like a substance,
a drug of approval seeking or someone else, instead of
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operating in authentic power your power. When you are out
of integrity with yourself, you settle for less than what
you deserve, and you get less than what you settled for.
That's some wonderful maternal wisdom from one of my second
mothers named Dora. Yes, when you settle for less than
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what you deserve, you get less than what you've settled for,
and then you feel really crummy about what you're settled for.
As well as yourself, and you're vibrating at less than
optimal frequency and you're attracting that back to you. So
these are some thoughts about what is operating in integrity,
(14:26):
what is operating out of integrity and the law of attraction.
And if you're not satisfied with what's coming back to you,
stay tuned and we're going to talk about how your
thoughts and using the belief code can help you attract
better things, better people, and opportunity and help you lead
(14:50):
your happiest, healthiest life. So we're going to take a
break for commercial, and this has been Shoshana Auberbach speaking
to you live on Bold Break TV. You're watching Love
Live and Wisdom. See you on a few What if there.
Speaker 3 (15:07):
Were a super tiny device that could diagnose the brain
and is smaller than a single human hair. What if
you could see inside the brain to help an epilepsy
patient during surgery or to help the fight against Parkinson's disease.
Doctor Patricia Brodrick is proud to announce the Broaderick Probe,
(15:28):
a biomedical and electronic breakthrough imagine a probe to help
with the understanding and potential cure of brain related diseases.
To learn more, listen live to the Easy Sense Radio
Show with host Doctor Brodrick Wednesday's seven pm Eastern on
the Bold Brave Media Network and tune in radio. And
(15:49):
to help support the Broaderick Foundation, please go to easysense
dot com and learn how with your help, we can
fight these horrific brain disorders. That's easy, he sends dot
com to learn more and help support the Broaderick Foundation. Author,
(16:12):
radio show host and coach John M. Hawkins reveals strategies
to help gain perspective, build confidence, find clarity, achieve goals.
John M. Hawkins' new book Coached to Greatness Unlock Your
Full Potential with Limitless Growth, published by I Universe, Hawkins
reveals strategies to help readers accomplish more. He believes the
(16:35):
book can coach them to greatness. Hawkins says that the
best athletes get to the top of their sport with
the help of coaches, mentors, and others. He shares guidance
that helps readers reflect on what motivates them. We discover
and assess their core values, philosophies and competencies, find settings
that allow them to be the most productive, and track
(16:57):
their progress towards accomplishing goal. Listen to John Hawkins My
Strategy Saturdays, one pm Easter on the BBM Global Network
and tune in radio.
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Hi everybody, this is Shoshana Auberbach, your hostess of Love,
Life and Wisdom. Welcome back and you're watching me live
on Bold Brave TV. We've been talking about integrity and
living out of integrity, which is betraying yourself and sabotaging yourself,
and what you can do about it, first by having awareness.
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We're going to review a little bit from the previous
show in case you didn't see it, and why do
people make these choices and betray themselves and live unhappily. Well,
there are consequences of poor choice choices and betraying yourself
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leaves one in victim mode, perpetuating the victim, mental and
abusing oneself. That may sound strong, that's what I believe.
You have. Low self respect, low self esteem, staying in
a state of perpetual spiritual distress, and helplessness learned helplessness
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feeling hopelessness, hopeless and stuck. Not a happy place to be.
But sometimes stress makes us contributes to why we make
poor choices. So I guess The antidote to that is
reduce your stress. It's not always easy or easier said
than done. Sometimes. Let's review some more on the next line.
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Some of the emotional responses to betrayal, trauma or taking
the hurt out on yourself, shock, confusion, hurt anger, feeling
abandoned or abandoning yourself, questioning who you are, lack of
security and feeling safe, not a happy place to be.
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Why did I do that to myself? I was weak,
not strong enough. I was desperate, I was lonely, I
was depressed. I wanted a relief. I put my faith
in someone or something else. The temptation was too great. Well,
stay out of quicksand and have the awareness I smell
(19:23):
erect and run the other way. Again, it's not always
so easy. But even in retrospect, think about why did
I do that to myself? I'm a beautiful person. Why
would I hurt myself? Let's learn so review some more
in the next slide. These are some of the defense mechanisms.
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Why we don't have that awareness. We minimize, we dissociate,
we numb out, check out. Oh it's just a little hit,
it's just a little this, it's just a little poison. Right,
But what you of comes back to you, and what
you confront transforms you, according to David Kessler, a grief expert,
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and stop investing your energies and perpetuating the problem, and
start investing in healing and feeling happier and healthier. So
these defense mechanisms shield you from the pain, but yet
they all they also keep you on the defensive and
perpetuate the problem. Let's review some more and again. If
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you want to learn more about this, I encourage you
to look up the last show that I did. The
message the hurtful messages of betrayal and self betrayal, which
I believe our form of self abuse is that even
if other people tell you don't matter, that's not always true.
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You do matter. You're still alive. God has a mission
for you. You got up today. The best defense is a
good offense. According to I believe it was Yogi Berra
or one of those football players or coaches the best defenses.
I do matter. But the message that a person is
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not yet strong enough to say is I, or stop saying,
is I don't matter to myself? You don't care about me.
Therefore I internalize the message I don't care about me either.
So these are this is how a person can not
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only betray themselves, but also it's a form of self abuse.
You can hurt me, I can hurt myself too, And again,
why would you do that? You're a beautiful person And
if you don't feel that way, you need some help.
Give me a call or get some professional other types
of professional help, and stop hurting and stop setting baitizing
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and live a better life. You deserve it. Let's learn
some more in the next line. One of the reasons
I reviewed in the last I put forth in the
last show was insecure versus secure attachment. Why you put
up with toxicity because you didn't have that from when
you were a really little kid. You had a caregiver
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who didn't consistently show you and predictably enough or consistently
enough love, attention and validation. So these people often grow
up to the adults who make poor choices in relationships.
They often get into trouble, addictions, bad habits, negative thinking.
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This can be corrected in therapy. But these are some
of the reasons for which people betray themselves and don't
make good choices. Let's look at the next slide which
is a different presentation of attachment styles. So again you
can if you're listening to this on the replay, you
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can either put it on pause or look up the
last show. So the way you're raised and the way
your caregiver paid attention to you has a lot to
do with how you turn out as an adult. And
again not to despair. This can be corrected with some
professional help or give me a call look me up
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at www dot authentic radiance dot life. Let's look at
the next slide please, these are some other some more
review about perspective, real feelings, hard choices, and being accountable.
For example, if you feel that when you betrayed yourself,
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you took that drink, you took that with you went
with hooked up with somebody who was a toxic person,
against your better discernment, I was weak, I was lonely,
I was desperate. So try this the next time you
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run into that challenge. Ask yourself, am I doing the
most loving thing for myself? Now? Am I doing the
most loving thing for myself? Now? Okay, and let's look
at the next line with some more perspectives about hard choices.
When you're in a test, I will gain more by
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giving into anxiety and pressure. I just want relief. Well again,
the question is am I doing the most loving thing
for myself? Now? Short term gains, long term losses. Feeling
crummy about yourself and your life is not a solution.
What is a solution is to get some help, and
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we're going to address that. Using the belief code is
one of many modalities that's out there. So let's look
at the next slide, please so and the next one
the opposite direction. There we go. Okay, So what happens
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when you're in a test? A test is when you
have stress and you have choices to make, which is
a conflict of needs and values, and that's what causes
the stress. It's not clear. I want both. I want
to get the high, but I want to stop taking quack.
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I want to quit smoking, but I need to reduce
my stress. Well, hello, smoking doesn't reduce stress. It's the
breathing that reduces the stress. So maybe do some breathing.
But you can't have both at the same time. Have
a Yiddish saying than cantonsen Nish by Svehrassen is you
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can't answer at two weddings at the same time. It's
either or so what people do oftentimes they want the
relief more than they're in their emotional reactive brain, more
than their thinking brain. This is a test. So the
big question here is am I doing the most loving
thing for myself to make the best choice. Am I
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going to stay in integrity with my values or betray myself?
There are benefits and consequences to each one. It starts
with awareness. First, recognize that the test you're in a test,
and sometimes that's the test itself, sometimes not. The struggle
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of the test produces growth. It answers the question where
am I holding I'm not strong enough yet to go
into a bar as or recovering alcoholic? I'm not one,
but I'm just giving you an example. Thank god, Where
am I holding I'm not yet strong enough? Or well
I pass that test. It used to be a trigger
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for me and now it's not. And that's how you
know you've grown and moved forward. Good for you. And
little victories are not little so little victories, they are huge.
Changing the way you think and act and believe are
very difficult, right, but with awareness, you can choose a
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different outcome. And again that's why we're here. You always
have choices to cope. Awareness if your choices are constructive
or destructive? And what are the end results? And again
it doesn't have to be so cerebral, but over time,
if you can just slow down your brain and say
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and give yourself a hug and say, what is it
that's really important to me right now? Am I doing
the most loving thing for myself? Yes? I want that drink,
that cigarette, I want that hug, I want that man,
that woman. It's impulsivity, it's important and urging. Right now
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you're in distress. But if you just slow down your
brain and think this is distressing now, is it dangerous?
Will it matter in one minute, one hour, one day,
five years from now. That's what we need to think about,
because when you're in that test, you have those weights,
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and when you are pushing up against those weights, that temptation,
that test is what's going to build the muscle. If
you're not strong enough to push up against it, stop breathe,
call a buddy, do something, walk away right at least
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by yourself some time and pass your test. So we're
going to take upbreak and come back and discuss this
and the belief code and how this can help you
pass your tests or maybe why you're not passing your
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tests and you've been watching me live Shoshanna Aberbach on
Bold Brave TV, on Loveline and Wisdom see you in
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Welcome back, everybody to Lovelight and Wisdom. I'm your hostess,
Shoshana Auberbach, and you're watching me live on Bold Brave TV.
We've been talking about betrayal of oneself and versus living
in integrity. So what if you have the idea or
the desire. Yes, I'd like to change. I like to
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stop smoking, I'd like to stop my drug habit. I'd
like to stop attracting the wrong kind of person into
my life. But I just don't know how. So now
we're going to give you going to give you a
brief demonstration of the belief Code. Remember, things start with
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our beliefs, So we must have our beliefs in order
because like the law of attraction, we put out of
vibration and that's what we attract back to ourselves. So
the Belief Code helps to identify and release negative beliefs
and belief systems. It was developed by doctor Bradley Nelson,
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who also developed the belief I'm Sorry, the Emotion Code,
and the Body Code. I have found this to be
so helpful for myself and that's why I took these
courses to become a certified practitioner. So using muscle testing,
which is testing resonance in the body, we identify using
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an app. There is no book out about the belief Code.
There is a book out about the body code and
the Emotion Code, but not yet about the belief Code.
So we are testing which negative belief is most resonating
with our issue. So muscle testing works something like this.
(33:36):
So I use this method. Okay, this is going my
thumb is going to There are many different ways. This
is the one that I like to use. So I'm
going to drag my middle finger across. This would be
a no because it's weak. Think of something that makes
you feel strong, So this is strong. Yes, my name
is Shoshana. Is my name Joe on? No, my energy
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goes down. So we can do this a number of ways,
ring and ring like this. Some people use their arms,
some people use the sway test. So this is a
yes and this is a no. So how do you
know I'm not just manipulating that in my mind? Well,
I guess you have to trust me, and if you're
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still not sure, stay with us and maybe anyway. So
I do need to just relax my mind. That's true,
and just have the confidence that I'm going to get
I'm asking my system. I'm going to get the best answer.
What's resonating true for me? All right, then you're going
(34:47):
to see me. I'm going to do a screen share.
There are hundreds of belief listed in this app and
so how do I know which one? It could be
a number of them. So we want to get the lynchpin,
which is the most the one that I'm resonating the
most with. I'm going to identify that, and then you're
(35:08):
going to see me swiping over the top of my
head to release that this is the governing meridian. Meridians
are energy pathways in the body, and all the energy
pathways in the body are connected to this governing meridian.
And there is magnetic energy in my hand, or you
can use a magnet and swipe, lifting these beliefs literally
(35:31):
out of your subconscious mind where they have been stored
and lurking for perhaps many many years. Okay, So I'm
going to just get quiet for a moment here, and
I'm going to choose the issue that I'd like to
work on so regards to in regards to betraying oneself,
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I'm thinking of a particular incident that happened when I
I was a teenager, which was many many years ago,
and I still feel uncomfortable about it because someone took
advantage of me, And you could also I could also
(36:14):
reframe that I let that person take advantage of me.
I was young, innocent. I didn't know how to speak
up for myself. Whatever the reason is, it left me feeling.
I still have some feelings of guilt and shame about that.
It doesn't lurk in my consciousness. It doesn't interfere with
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my ability to, you know, work as a social worker
or do what I need to do every day. But
it's uncomfortable. But I think about it, and that's how
I know it's a trigger. So I'm going to there
are seven categories here. Each of these correspond to a chakra,
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a power center, and energy center, And I'm going to
rate myself on a scale of zero to ten. How
much is this particular memory and the belief that that
came out of it. I guess was people take advantage
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of me. Okay, so that's what I want to address,
and I'm how much is it bothering me? The first
number that comes up ten, nine, A seven, six, about
a five or six? So well, let's clear this out
(37:48):
all say goodbye, all right? So, which one of these
categories is the belief that I'm resonating with that's causing
this the belief that I'm feeling right now to still
be alive. It's on the left side, and you're gonna
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hear me checking is that left side? Right side? And
then one, two, three, or four it's I'm getting a
yes for myself and a no. I'm checking for myself
left side, left side, one two insight. So this is
the sub menu. Okay, So is there something here on
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the left side? Yes, body defect. So under defect, we're
gonna come to negative statements. There are four sections, and
each section has usually eight to eleven statements negative belief statements.
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Which one is most resonating with me? Now? As negative,
we'll call it negative program number one. Section one. Yes. Now,
out of the ten statements here, they could be any
one of them, which one is in my subconscious mind
contributing to this negative feeling, this negative belief of people
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take advantage of me? Where did that come from? What's
underneath all the layers of the onion? So I specifically
intentionally covered all these ten statements up because I want
you to see that I'm really muscle checking myself all
right as it Number one, Yes, gim me you know
number one? Yes? Okay, one, two, three, three, four or five? Okay.
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I am nervous and anxious. So if I were doing
a real session. I would have a word document and
I would copy this onto a word document. Then the
next question I asked was when did this belief about myself?
I'm nervous and anxious. Start at what age? Was it?
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Under age? Ten? Yes? Ten? Nine eight seven nine eight seven?
Who was involved? Do we need male female mother teacher?
So I would ask a client to ask myself when
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I was seven, what came up for me regarding a
female teacher. Well, I had a first grade teacher. I
can still tell you her name, and she did something
that humiliated me in front of the whole class. That
was a lot long time ago, but it's still lurking
in my subconscious mind, and I felt nervous and anxious
(41:06):
about it. I was laid to school a few times
and she in those days, they were allowed to hit students,
and she made me bend over and hit me with
the yardstick in front of the whole class. It was
really embarrassing. So I want to release this now. I
don't need it anymore. And this contributed to when I
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was a teenager and I let someone take advantage of me.
All right, So I'm going to swipe over the top
of my head about five times, asking God to help
me release this belief of I am nervous and anxious
from when I was aged seven regarding this teacher, when
I was humiliated in front of the whole class. Okay,
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now I'm going to take a deep breath. Well, I
feel that leaving my root chakra and I'm really I
really need to let that go. Thank you, thank you,
thank you. Okay? Is that complete? Yes? All right, so
(42:11):
let's see what else is the next negative belief program
that's related to my issue? Also in this same category defect. Yes,
so I'm going to go back down here. Is it
from section one? Yes? Give me that section one? Yes?
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All right? Out of the ten statements, is it one? Okay,
I am old and tired? Well, where does this come from?
This belief? Is it also from under age ten? Yes? Ten? Nine? Eight?
(42:56):
At age eight, I developed this belief I am old tired.
Was there someone else involved? Yes? My mother? Yes. This
is when my second sister was born and I was
the I am the oldest child, and it was hard
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for me to have not only one sibling, but then
our second sibling. And it's like here we go again.
I'm not going to get the attention that I need.
So I developed this belief I am old and tired
even though I was only eight years old. So now
I am ready to release this. It's been operating in
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my subconscious mind for too long. So I'm going to
swipe over the top of my head five times. Some
people do three. I like to do five and let
it go. Take some deep breath and us let that resettle,
(44:04):
and yeah, I do feel clearer. I feel some lightning,
lighter energy in my neck and my root chakra, and
I do feel clearer in my mind. So now I've
released two of the beliefs, and we keep going. We
do have a template, and we keep going until we've
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released all the beliefs that need to be released, and
then we check. We check if everything has been released,
and if we need to instill install some positive beliefs
like I am worthy, I love myself, I am vibrant.
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It's usually the opposite of those beliefs. So I hope
that that was just a little taste of the belief code.
And if you're interested in more, look me up on www.
Dot authentic radiance, dot life and schedule a session. So
we're going to take a commercial break and come back
(45:15):
with some more tips and perspectives to help you have
the most wonderful life that you can and stop betraying yourself.
This is Shoshana Auberbach and you've been watching me live
on BOWLBRAYTV. This is Lovelight and Wisdom saying a few
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Welcome back, everybody. I'm Shoshanna Auberbach, your Hostess of Love,
Light and Wisdom. You've been watching me live on Bold
Brave TV. We've been talking about awareness of when you're
sabotaging and betraying yourself, some tips and perspectives, and using
the belief code to help you stop doing that and
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do the most loving thing for yourself. So we're going
to give you some more tips and techniques and perspectives
to please take this home or practice at home and
share it with someone you love the next slide. Please,
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So again, it's about choice, and choices are not always easy.
But the choice is do I love myself enough to
do the right thing when I'm in that test situation,
when I'm feeling that distressed, that conflict, I can only
choose one. Is it the cigarette? Is it the drink?
It's a the toxic relationship. Just please do the most
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loving thing for yourself. You deserve that. And if you're
not sure if you deserve that, get some help. Give
me a call or find some other professional help. My
website is www dot authentic radiance dot life. So get
to know yourself, stay in integrity with yourself, or explore
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what that means with a professional. If you're not sure
what your integrity code is, learn what that is. Explore
discover so that you can live in authentic power. Maybe
consider a person or a situation like the one that
I was discussing before, a negative behavior model. Do I
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want to end up like the person who abused me,
the person who hurt me, the person who manipulated me. No,
I don't so that enough is an aversion, enough of
a deterrent. And I really learned a lot from that situation,
and I'm not doing that again. Can I look at
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myself in the mirror and feel proud of myself? Nurture
myself responsibly instead of harming myself? Is another way to
avoid sand traps, because I think enough of myself, not
too much, but think enough of myself as a worthy person.
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And I'm going to do the most loving thing for myself,
and that way I will be less vulnerable to people
trying to harm and harm or harm myself and manipulate me.
Remember self, compassion versus impulsivity. Acknowledge this is hard. Yeah,
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I want that hug, I want that approval, I want
that promotion, but at what cost? So just maybe acknowledge
this is hard and put yourself back in your body,
back with yourself, and take a deep breath and say,
am I doing the most loving thing myself? Let's learn
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some more before we close for today. Remember Nancy Reagan,
just say no, this is not for me. Yes, I want,
but it is not for me because I love myself
and I have the self discipline to do the most
loving thing for myself. At least by yourself some time.
(51:25):
Because the amigdala, that reactive emotional part of your brain,
works five times faster than your prefrontal cortex, which is
the thinking part of your brain. So maybe just say
by yourself some time, Take a deep breath and say
this too will pass. It's distressing now, it will pass.
(51:48):
Or just by yourself some time. Okay, is this what
I really want to do? Call a friend, a buddy,
a sponsor. There's a twenty four seven three sixty five
crisis counseling line at least in New York City. Find
somebody to talk to, or talk to yoursel if you
(52:08):
can't do it talking to yourself. Celebrate those so called
little victories, even just catching yourself and again stay away
from quicksand learn to recognize when it's your approaching danger,
learn to identify it and run the other way. And
(52:29):
if all that hasn't helped you yet, maybe just give
yourself a hug and give yourself some self love. Say
God loves me. I have a purpose in this world.
I woke up today. God created me. I'm still alive
and I'm a very special person. No one else can
do what I'm doing in this world. Let's go to
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the next slide. Please, and if you're still not sure
why you can't change again, get some help. Give me
a call, look me up on www Dot Authentic radiance
dot life, and find out why your conscious and your
subconscious mind aren't in sync and that's making it hard
for you to change and do the things you really
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Your behavior will match, will be congruent with what you
really want to be doing. Be patient with yourself. Change
takes time. Right, sometimes we're under psychic attack and entities
for influencing us. Again, it's about awareness. Aha, catch you,
(53:40):
I'm not doing that. The devil is a liar, some
people say. But remember you can change full screen plays.
You can change. It takes time, it takes discipline, it
takes sometimes a helping person. So again, please look me
up at www Dot authentic radiance dot life. And let's
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talk about how one of these modalities, the belief code,
the body code, the emotion code, eft TAT or perhaps
an intuitive reading, can help you stop betraying yourself, stop sabotaging,
stop living in inauthentic power and start radiating more love,
(54:25):
more light, and more wisdom and living as you were
truly meant to be so. I hope you've enjoyed today's show.
I look forward to seeing you next time. This is
Shoshanna Auberbach, hostess of Love, Light and Wisdom. You've been
watching me live on Bold Brave TV. Have a beautiful, happy, healthy, normal, enough, safe, successful, blessed, creative, loving,
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spiritual day. Shaloman blessings. For now.
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Shashana's proven approach takes the guesswork out of healing with
user friendly techniques that resonate deeply with her clients. Tune
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to apply them in your own life.
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