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Speaker 1 (00:21):
Welcome to Love Light and Wisdom with your host, Shashaana.
Love Light and Wisdom inspires listeners to tune into their
authentic selves and create a happier and healthier life, take
control and experience true happiness. So please welcome the host
of Love Light and Wisdom, Shashaana.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Hi everybody, my name is Shoshana Arabah and you're watching
me live on Bold Brave TV. Welcome to today's edition of
Love Light and Wisdom. Today we're going to be taught
continuing and our series about reclaiming the lots parts lost
parts of your inner child and how you can understand roles,
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dysfunctional roles that you played in childhood and maybe are
carying with you into adulthood and how they affected you
then and continue affecting you into adulthood until they are identified,
released and healed. So I'm so excited today to bring
this information to you because these roles are lurking in
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the back of our minds and our subconscious and unconscious minds,
and they can interfere with a person's happiness and wellbeing
and the quality of their relationships, including the relationship with
theirselves themselves. So first I like to introduce myself. My
name is Shoshana Auberbach and New York State. I'm a
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licensed social worker music therapist. I also practice energy and
spiritual healing. I am certified in the Belief Code, Body Code,
and Emotion Code. I'm an assist, I'm an adjunct psychology professor,
and a lot of other important things. But most of all,
I hope that you will know me as a nice, kind,
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generous person to brings you love, light and wisdom. And
be sure to share this with all your friends, and
if you have any questions or comments, we welcome those
as well. Feel free to reach out through the chat
and email, even if it's after the show, or call
in on our live helpline. So first like to also
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introduce some other parts of myself. I recorded these two
beautiful albums of healing songs that I wrote myself. But
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it doesn't have to be So we're going to take
a break now and come back and learn some more
about these roles. This is Shoshanna Auberbach, and you're on Love,
Light and Wisdom, and you're speaking to me live, watching
me live rather on Bold Brave TV. See in a few.
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Speaker 2 (17:14):
Do know even though I don't know why, Perhaps something
happened to me. It's my job to deal with it
and face it with courage and clarity and heal that
part of myself so I can live the best life
that I can. Let's look at the next slide and
learn some more. So again, why can't these parts speak up?
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They were intimidated. It's bad to get angry at the
person you depended on as a child for your needs.
Freeze response, bottle and eck of emotions, awkwardness, fear. But
in reality these parts do speak up. They speak up
as somatic complaints such as neck ache, backache, and digestion, irritability, depression, anxiety,
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and they do speak up verbally when you least expect them.
You get triggered and you lash out. That's not good
for healthy adult nor child relationships. Let's learn some more again,
this is a review. If you want to learn more
about this, I suggest you check out the previous shows
in this series. Let's learn some more in the next
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slart again. So what happened to these parts? They got
stuck as a trapped emotion in the body. And the
body code and the emotion code and the belief code,
which I'm certified in, has helped me and thousands of
other people identify and release these trapped emotions and negative beliefs.
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And what else happens to these lost parts? You get
pigeonholed into a role by choice or other people. A
person may put their energy into what I call the
avoid dance rather than investing in the solution and resolving
the problems. And what you confront transforms you. But what
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you avoid will come back at you, according to grief
expert David Kessler. So this has been a little review,
and let's move on a little more. Review motions and
unmet needs. What you see here is Maslow's triangle or
hierarchy of needs. And if a person's physiological needs, for example,
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or not met food, clothing, shelter, homeostasis, they cannot focus
on higher needs such as safety and security, self esteem,
self actualization. So the child's needs are the unmet needs
of children, especially from dysfunctional backgrounds, are probably on the
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lower I would say one or two, maybe the third,
But we must first meet the bottommost needs in order
to move high up the triangle. That's what our number
one concern is is to get our needs met so
that we can live. Let's learn some more and some
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expressions of emotions and nonmet needs frustration, futility, depression, anxiety,
magical thinking, denial, acting out, abusing oneself for other people bypassing.
These are only some of the many expressions and maybe
maladaptive ways of getting one's needs met and expressing one's feelings.
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And let's move on to the next slide. So again,
these are the four main roles that I'm going to
be discussing in this series. The hero of the scapegoat,
the lost child, the clown of the mascot. And if
you're watching this on a replay, you can pause it
and look at the entire chart. We're going to be
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going through them a little bit, one at a time.
Let's move on to the next line. The hero is
something we started discussing in the last week's episode. This
is the child who needs to step up and be
good and save and rescue because there's dysfunction, there's a
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lack of stability in the family. I need to be
the good child, the one who achieves, even though there's
unhappiness in the family. This may be an overcompensation for
fear of failing or fighting against situations in the home
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that are out of control, and overcompensating to control them. Now,
this can be a good thing, a good trait. In adulthood,
a person can be very dedicated to their work and
achieving and putting making order out of chaos or organizing.
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But it can also work against them depending on what
I call wiring. They can be a workaholic. They can
take on too much and not know how to set
boundaries for themselves and other people. Let's look at the
next slide with some suggestions for the hero. And again
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we've discussed this in prayer episodes, so I invite you
to go back to them, and let's look at the
next slide. The scapegoat is the child who gets unjustly
blamed for the family's problems. That oftentimes these children grow
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up to experience more symptoms of depression than some of
the other roles. They may be more likely to experience
abuse and neglect. They are often described as problematic or
a burden that's a hard thing for somebody to carry.
And let's move on. Here are some suggestions for the scapegoat. Again,
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this is a very brief review. Boost your self esteem,
learn to love yourself, learn to speak up and say
I'm not comfortable, why are you seeing that to me?
And who are you to say that to me? And
not take the blame for things that you're not responsible for.
Let's move on again. These are some characteristics of the scapegoat.
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They can grow to be addicts criminals. On the other hand,
they can learn to be good and feel good and
take appropriate risks and direct those kinds of energies. And okay,
so this again the role in the family of someone
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needs to be blamed for the dysfunction in the family.
Let's move on now. Now that we've had some review.
Let's look at the lost child or the forgotten child.
What's on the outside is ignored, quiet, invisible, loves, animals,
material possessions because those are safer than people to relate to.
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Maybe they're artistics since they have a different they're in
their own little world. And sometimes they may have learning
disabilities because they were neglected. What you don't see what's
inside them. The fear is their feelings are frozen many
times and they can't express feelings, and they're very lonely.
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When a person is feeling forgotten about ignored, that's very painful.
I don't exist, I'm invisible, don't matter. Those are very
painful feelings, even if they are not realistic or true.
That's what the child feels, and that's what person needs
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to deal with the reality as the child perceives it.
What do they do for the family and why they
play along because the family feels at least we don't
have to worry about this kid. After all, they're invisible
without help. This kind of child may grow up to
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be someone very withdrawn, not feeling needed, and can die
early because I guess you could call it heartache or heartbreak,
and they may not be willing to volunteer opinions. However,
with healing such as the emotion code, body code, belief code,
and therapy, it is possible that they can grow up
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to be talented and creative and can learn to participate
and share with that they achieve by being quieter, such
as being a good listener and feeling needed and connecting
with time over time, and maybe they would be a
good person to make sure that everybody feels included. Later on,
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let's look at the next slide. Here are some suggestions
for the lost child who has often forgotten. First of all,
have awareness of when you're feeling lost, when you're dissociating,
when you feel yourself withdrawing out of frustration and anger
and disappointment. Identify and express your feelings and opinions Safely
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assert yourself when you feel overlooked, I matter, I'm here, Hey,
hello you. Awareness of being bypassing yourself, which is an
internalized message that I don't deserve attention, that I don't
deserve to be acknowledged. And as a participant, first be
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aware of this. Yourself up your self care, don't forget yourself.
Even if other people forget you, don't forget yourself. Remember
it's okay to say no and exit relationships that don't
work for you. Negative attention is not a substitute for
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genuine love. Learn to differentiate that. Find a mentor and
seek professional help, maybe group therapy where you may be
a little nudged to speak up and participate. Perhaps pursue
artistic and creative endeavors. And lastly, volunteer and feel needed
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in a functional way, not a codependent, dysfunctional way. Maybe
these will help the lost child regain their lost parts
and beak up and realize that their needs do matter.
Let's look at the next slide. The next role is
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the clown or the mascot of This is the person
who makes people laugh because there's a lot of tension
from dysfunctional behaviors, so this tension needs to be released.
But what is really happening is this person is hiding
pain with humor. They may be scared or feeling inadequate,
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maybe deflecting and laughing off the tension. They bring comic
relief to the family, but it's also an avoidance of
the elephant in the room. Without help, this person may
grow up to continue to build up that pain. They
may become an addict. They may be in denial. They
may not have healthy relationships because they can't bond. But
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with help, they can feel a range of emotions and
use laughter in a healthy constructor of way. Maybe be
a real comedian, not just the dysfunctional one. So we're
gonna learn more about these roles when we come back
from our break. This is show Shanna Auerbach speaking to
you live on Bold Brave TV, Love, Light and Wisdom.
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Speaker 2 (31:37):
Hi everybody, Welcome back to Loveline of Wisdom. I'm show
Shanna Auberbach, your hostess, and you're watching me live on
Bold Brave TV. I was just informed by engineer that
mistakenly the sound was muted for most of the programs
so far. However, you were able to see the slides.
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Most of it was a review. So we're going to
move forward with the clown role and some suggestions for
healing that and get into maybe some emotion code if
we have time for that. So some suggestions for healing
the clown, the one who tries to make people laugh
and dispel the tension in the or the elephant in
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the room. Have awareness of why you're laughing. Is it
genuinely funny what you're laughing at, or is it disruptive
avoidant putting the focus on yourself and taken away from
others or the subject matter at hand. Is it taking
the focus off yourself, deflecting or minimizing other people's feelings
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or the seriousness of a situation. This will help you
manage issues in relationships as well as maybe how other
people may see you. Develop awareness of how minimizing and
deflecting hurt other people's feelings and prevent trust and intimacy
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from developing. This could be an avoidance to this could
laughing could be an avoidance to getting close. Or it's
scary to get close, it's too vulnerable, I feel threatened,
so we laugh things off. Or it's a way of
putting someone down, but that's very hurtful. And have awareness.
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What is your laughter doing for yourself and other people
if they're involved, And what you do with those painful feelings.
You first identify them and express them safely and get
a therapist. A good therapist address the pain, the emotional
pain of the dysfunction that perhaps you grew up with.
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You could which could be hiding inadequacy, fear of getting close,
and avoiding closeness. You can also redirect your talent for
humor in a constructive way. Become a medical clown or
a comedian. We need more laughter and lightheartedness in this world.
Use it constructively. Let's move on to the next slide.
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We also have other roles such as the enabler or caretaker,
and this is the person who maintains the look or
appearance of normalcy in the family. They support and affirm
the unhealthy behavior of other family members who might have
a substance, a disorder, or untreated mental illness or personality disorder.
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This is very similar to the hero. In adulthood, this
role often manifests into more of the same. They continue
trying to fix others and have an overall strong sense
of responsibility and ownership over the problems of others. With healing,
they can learn to relax and let others do the driving,
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so to speak, and let others do their thing and
be who they are and focus on fixing themselves and
not others. Let's learn some more in the next slide.
There's also the role of the golden child, the one
who can do no wrong. In adulthood, this role often
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manifests as perfectionism, which is really masking a low sense
of self a fear of failure. Often many times this
can be like the hero role. It is common for
these people to become obsessively attached to others as they
learn to get their value and worth from external sources.
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It's a form of codependency rather than coming authentically from
one's sense of self and power. With healing, they can
learn to become independant, provides self care and forgive oneself
and others for so called mistakes. And again I encourage
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you if you identify with any of these roles, look
me up at Authentic Radiance dot life, Authentic Radiance dot
Life and let's learn about how the emotion code, bodycode,
and belief code or maybe an intuitive reading can help
you free yourselves from these dysfunctional, maladaptive roles so that
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you're functioning authentically as yourself and learning that life doesn't
have to be like this. It can be happier and healthier.
Let's learn some more in the next slide. There's also
the parentify a child, which is known as a role reversal.
The child becomes the parent, and oftentimes the parent becomes
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the child because they can't handle life and they need
structure and direction. So this is the child who takes
on the role of being the caretake in the absence
of the caregiver speuse or a healthy caregiver. Sometimes this
role is also the caretaker of younger children, but not
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always like the hero. They often bypass their own feelings
and needs in favor of caretaking and don't know how
to have fun. It's a hard life to always feel
like you had to be working and on stage. In adulthood,
this person is frequently drawn to relationships with a lot
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of dysfunction and emotionally unavailable partners, and this is what
we see in imago relationship therapy. They play out the
same role as what was missing in their childhood because
we want holding and to be healed. But oftentimes these
people attract dysfunctional partners who need to be taken care
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of instead of too healthy functional adults with healing. I'm sorry.
They struggle with boundaries and base their self worth on
their partners or others for approval, rather than coming from
intrinsic approval. Knowing that I am good, I do good,
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and I can say no, I don't have to take
on the world. With healing, these are some of the
healthier behaviors and attitudes and feelings. They can focus on
themselves and self parenting rather than parenting others, and they
can provide self care rather than bypassing their needs. They
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can let go and say no, this is too much
for me. This is the parentified child or rule reversal.
Let's learn some more in the next slide. So these
dysfunctions come out of what are called acees adverse childhood experiences,
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and oftentimes these roles are what comes out of these
unmet emotional needs and imbalances in dysfunctional families where there's
mental illness, alcoholism, abuse, substance abuse, death or divorce, and
the like. Children in dysfunctional families often experience parental inconsistencies
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such as double bind messages you know, do as I
say and not as I do, hidden feelings, double standards.
It's okay for me to drink, but I don't want
you to drink. It's okay for me to yell and curse,
but I don't want you to do that. This can
be very confusing for a child who needs rules and consistencies.
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These inconsistencies also project hidden feelings incomplete information, shame, uncertainty,
and mistrust, and this can lead to the adoption of
rigid roles like the ones we discussed, which may lead
to problems later on in life with especially in adult relationships,
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at work, romantic relationships, friendships, etc. In dysfunctional families, there's conflict, misbehavior,
childhood neglect, or abuse, which feature come up as regular
ways of behaving rather than loving, consistently, loving, validating healthy.
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Others agree that while in a healthy situation, individuals should
adopt different roles with a certain degree of flexibility, whereas
roles can become more fixed and rigid in unhealthy social systems. Researchers.
Researchers found that a history of outcome a laudism and
dysfunction was linked to the adoption of certain unhelpful family roles,
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especially if one grew up in a dysfunctional family. Most
likely there you're going to marry a dysfunctional partner because
it feels familiar, just like a pig can roll in
mud because it's familiar even though it's dirty. Let's look
at the next line some more information about family roles
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and dysfunction. It is well demonstrated that experiences during childhood
can negatively impact later psychosocial adjustment and outcomes. As we
were just discussing, especially having the role of the scapegoat,
the one who's unjustly blamed, or the lost child the
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when visible person was positively associated with depressive symptoms in adulthood,
whereas none of the other roles was significantly related to
depressive symptoms. Also, prior research shows that family dysfunction would
be associated with greater adoption of the roles of scapegoat
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and lost child, but not be associated with the adoption
of the roles of hero and mascot. So these two
roles are more vulnerable to depression and adult dysfunction, maybe
childhood dysfunction as well as family dysfunction. Let's look at
the next slide and learn some more. Here are some
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more information. Researchers found that the role of scapegoat in
particular was associated with one's own abusive drinking and adult children.
Research found that roles of the scapegoat and lost child
to be particularly negatively related to family satisfaction and research measures, trends,
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intervention and what I call wiring play a part and
how a person copes with life's challenges. Sometimes people take
in more stride than others. Just because you have this
role doesn't mean you're going to grow up and be
a dysfunctional adult. That depends on the protective factors that
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we call them in psychology. Do you have a mentor,
a teacher, a caregiver, a grandparent, supportive friend or grandparent?
Did you read self help books or seek out therapy?
So one can grow up to be a healthy, functional adult.
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It takes courage, determination, vigilance, and awareness. So please look
me up at www dot Authentic Radiance dot life and
let's talk some more about how I can help you.
We're going to take a break and this has been
show Shanna Auberbach speaking to you live on Bold Brave TV,
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and you're watching me live on Love, Light and Wisdom.
See you in the few.
Speaker 3 (44:14):
Did you know that your beliefs create your entire reality?
But it's the subconscious beliefs that do most of the creating.
Belief shifter and life coach Sharaz can help you identify
those limiting beliefs and eliminate them, often in a single.
Speaker 2 (44:30):
Session, like it was almost instant, Like I had relief
right away.
Speaker 3 (44:34):
Creating better health, relationships, careers and finances. Let Sharaz help
you step out of safety and into awareness.
Speaker 2 (44:43):
Definitely something's happening. It's like a flow inside. Yeah, it
feels good.
Speaker 3 (44:48):
Whether in person or online. Sharaz provides personal coaching belief shifting.
Visit Charras at Energeticmagic dot com or call four one
six five to nine seven four to nine Energetic Magic
on the BBM Global Network Tuesdays at seven pm Eastern.
Find your greater happiness, be well, be aware, be magical.
Speaker 4 (45:16):
Are you struggling to care for elderly parents or a spouse.
Do you wonder if being a caregiver is making you sick?
Are you worried about taking time off work to care
for elderly parents and balance work life and caregiving? Has
caregiving become exhausting and emotionally draining? Are you an aging
adult who wants to remain independent but you're not sure how.
(45:36):
I'm Pamela d Wilson. Join me for The Carrying Generation
radio show for caregivers and aging adults Wednesday evenings, six Pacific,
seven Mountain, eighth Central, and nine Eastern, where I answer
these questions and share tips for managing stress, family relationships, health, wellbeing,
and more. Podcasts and transcripts of The Carrying Generation are
on my website Pamela Dwilson dot com, plus my care
(46:00):
giving library. Online caregiver support programs and programs for corporations
interested in supporting working caregivers. Help, hope and support for
caregivers is here on The Carrying Generation and Pamela Dwilson
dot com.
Speaker 2 (46:23):
Hi, welcome back to Lovelight and Wisdom. I'm your hostess,
Shoshana Aferbach and you're watching me live on Bold Brave TV.
We're going to do a very brief demonstration of the
Emotion Code, which was developed by doctor Bradley Nelson to
help people identify and release trapped emotions that create dysfunction, depression,
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physical and emotional pain. And oftentimes when they're on these
unmet needs from childhood and people get pigeonholed into roles,
either by choice or forced into them, they can grow
up to be dysfunctional adults or maybe functional adults, but
unhappy with themselves in life. So what we do is
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we use not our We'll call it common sense. I'm
feeling this, this and this and this. We're going to
use muscle testing to ask the subconscious mind which is
the main emotion that I'm most resonating with, and connect
that with a body part and age a person and
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an event, and then clear that out by swiping over
the governing meridian which connects all the other meridians and
energy pathways in the body. So I'm going to rate
myself and pick an issue. So for example, I was
I played the hero, and I felt that I had
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to do everything myself, and I felt resentful about that.
I get overwhelmed sometimes when I have a big project
and I need to do everything myself for that's my thinking.
So this has bothered me today. I'm using muscle testing.
This is a yes, this is a no. This has
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affecting me today, ten nine, eight seven six out of ten?
So which emotion am I most risk resonating with and
what is safe for me to release? Column A Is
it an odd road? Yes? Row one, Row three Crying, discouragement, rejections, sadness, sorrow, sorrow, Okay,
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that got trapped in my liver? No, in my gallbladder? Yes?
At what age? Was it below age ten? Yes? Ten nine,
eight seven six? At age six I had I'm sorry,
that was my lung. It got trapped in my colon,
the wrong body part. What happened around age six? What's
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coming up for me? That I felt sorrow in my colon?
Did involve a male a female? Yes? Was it a
teacher my mother? Yes? And what was going on at
age six? Didn't have something to do with school? Yes,
I had a first grade teacher who did something that
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was not very nice and I still remember it. So
I want to clear that out. I don't want it
to take up room in my brain anymore. So I'm
going to release that sorrow at age six involving my
mother or this teacher. Maybe I was ashamed to tell
her about it from my colon, swiping five times? Is
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this clear? Yes? Okay, thank you? Is there something else
I can release? Safe lean easily today, and we release
about five to ten trapped emotions until the system says
enough company From column A yes, odd road, yes, one
three crying, discouragement got trapped in my lung my colon.
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Was it the same thing at age six involving this teacher? Yes, okay,
I'm going to swipe it out two, three, four, five,
take a deep breath, reintegrate. Is this complete? Yes? Good?
Thank you? Is there something else I can release now? Yes?
Speaker 4 (50:40):
Uh?
Speaker 2 (50:40):
Something from column A colum b yes, odd row even
wrote yes is a row two? Yes, failure, helplessness. It
got trapped in my spleen, got trapped in my stomach.
So as an adult, you know this could be carrying
over into stomach pains, for example, So I'm gonna swipe
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it out. Is this complete? Yes? Okay? Now, so these
are This is a very brief demonstration of the emotion code.
I invite you to contact me at www Dot Authentic
radiance dot life and find out how this can help
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you as well. So I'm going to re rate myself
in releasing only three trapped emotions, I went from a
six to a ten nine eight, seven, six, five, four,
So again we would release between five and ten trapped emotions.
But from releasing only these three, I went down two numbers.
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So let's go to full screen, please. So I hope
that today's program has brought you some awareness. Sorry for
the problems at the beginning of the podcast again, but
do join us next week when I'll be continuing to
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explain more about roles and how they shaped you from
childhood into your adulthood. But you don't have to stay
stuck with them and stay unhappy and dysfunctional if it
is you do feel dysfunctional in your adult relationships, at work,
with yourself, or in your romantic or friend relationships. So
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I invite you to give me a call again at
www Dot Authentic radiance dot life, and let's talk about
how you can be free from these roles which were
adaptive in childhood and continue to be maladaptive in adulthood,
so that you can feel and have the best life
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with lots of happiness and good health and satisfaction. And
I want to remind you that you are never too
old to have a happy childhood. So again, this has
been Showshana Auberbach speaking to you live on Bold Brave
TV on Love Light and Wisdom. I look forward to
seeing you on the next episode and have a beautiful, wonderful, happy, healthy, successful, creative,
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lucrative of healthy week. Okay, Soloman blessing.
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Hi everybody, my name is Shoshana Arabah and you're watching
me live on Bold Brave TV. Welcome to today's edition of
Love Light and Wisdom. Today we're going to be taught
continuing and our series about reclaiming the lots parts lost
parts of your inner child and how you can understand roles,
(01:12):
dysfunctional roles that you played in childhood and maybe are
carying with you into adulthood and how they affected you
then and continue affecting you into adulthood until they are identified,
released and healed. So I'm so excited today to bring
this information to you because these roles are lurking in
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the back of our minds and our subconscious and unconscious minds,
and they can interfere with a person's happiness and wellbeing
and the quality of their relationships, including the relationship with
theirselves themselves. So first I like to introduce myself. My
name is Shoshana Auberbach and New York State. I'm a
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licensed social worker music therapist. I also practice energy and
spiritual healing. I am certified in the Belief Code, Body Code,
and Emotion Code. I'm an assist, I'm an adjunct psychology professor,
and a lot of other important things. But most of all,
I hope that you will know me as a nice, kind,
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generous person to brings you love, light and wisdom. And
be sure to share this with all your friends, and
if you have any questions or comments, we welcome those
as well. Feel free to reach out through the chat
and email, even if it's after the show, or call
in on our live helpline. So first like to also
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introduce some other parts of myself. I recorded these two
beautiful albums of healing songs that I wrote myself. But
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it doesn't have to be So we're going to take
a break now and come back and learn some more
about these roles. This is Shoshanna Auberbach, and you're on Love,
Light and Wisdom, and you're speaking to me live, watching
me live rather on Bold Brave TV. See in a few.
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Do know even though I don't know why, Perhaps something
happened to me. It's my job to deal with it
and face it with courage and clarity and heal that
part of myself so I can live the best life
that I can. Let's look at the next slide and
learn some more. So again, why can't these parts speak up?
(17:38):
They were intimidated. It's bad to get angry at the
person you depended on as a child for your needs.
Freeze response, bottle and eck of emotions, awkwardness, fear. But
in reality these parts do speak up. They speak up
as somatic complaints such as neck ache, backache, and digestion, irritability, depression, anxiety,
(18:01):
and they do speak up verbally when you least expect them.
You get triggered and you lash out. That's not good
for healthy adult nor child relationships. Let's learn some more again,
this is a review. If you want to learn more
about this, I suggest you check out the previous shows
in this series. Let's learn some more in the next
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slart again. So what happened to these parts? They got
stuck as a trapped emotion in the body. And the
body code and the emotion code and the belief code,
which I'm certified in, has helped me and thousands of
other people identify and release these trapped emotions and negative beliefs.
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And what else happens to these lost parts? You get
pigeonholed into a role by choice or other people. A
person may put their energy into what I call the
avoid dance rather than investing in the solution and resolving
the problems. And what you confront transforms you. But what
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you avoid will come back at you, according to grief
expert David Kessler. So this has been a little review,
and let's move on a little more. Review motions and
unmet needs. What you see here is Maslow's triangle or
hierarchy of needs. And if a person's physiological needs, for example,
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or not met food, clothing, shelter, homeostasis, they cannot focus
on higher needs such as safety and security, self esteem,
self actualization. So the child's needs are the unmet needs
of children, especially from dysfunctional backgrounds, are probably on the
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lower I would say one or two, maybe the third,
But we must first meet the bottommost needs in order
to move high up the triangle. That's what our number
one concern is is to get our needs met so
that we can live. Let's learn some more and some
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expressions of emotions and nonmet needs frustration, futility, depression, anxiety,
magical thinking, denial, acting out, abusing oneself for other people bypassing.
These are only some of the many expressions and maybe
maladaptive ways of getting one's needs met and expressing one's feelings.
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And let's move on to the next slide. So again,
these are the four main roles that I'm going to
be discussing in this series. The hero of the scapegoat,
the lost child, the clown of the mascot. And if
you're watching this on a replay, you can pause it
and look at the entire chart. We're going to be
(20:58):
going through them a little bit, one at a time.
Let's move on to the next line. The hero is
something we started discussing in the last week's episode. This
is the child who needs to step up and be
good and save and rescue because there's dysfunction, there's a
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lack of stability in the family. I need to be
the good child, the one who achieves, even though there's
unhappiness in the family. This may be an overcompensation for
fear of failing or fighting against situations in the home
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that are out of control, and overcompensating to control them. Now,
this can be a good thing, a good trait. In adulthood,
a person can be very dedicated to their work and
achieving and putting making order out of chaos or organizing.
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But it can also work against them depending on what
I call wiring. They can be a workaholic. They can
take on too much and not know how to set
boundaries for themselves and other people. Let's look at the
next slide with some suggestions for the hero. And again
(22:22):
we've discussed this in prayer episodes, so I invite you
to go back to them, and let's look at the
next slide. The scapegoat is the child who gets unjustly
blamed for the family's problems. That oftentimes these children grow
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up to experience more symptoms of depression than some of
the other roles. They may be more likely to experience
abuse and neglect. They are often described as problematic or
a burden that's a hard thing for somebody to carry.
And let's move on. Here are some suggestions for the scapegoat. Again,
(23:09):
this is a very brief review. Boost your self esteem,
learn to love yourself, learn to speak up and say
I'm not comfortable, why are you seeing that to me?
And who are you to say that to me? And
not take the blame for things that you're not responsible for.
Let's move on again. These are some characteristics of the scapegoat.
(23:38):
They can grow to be addicts criminals. On the other hand,
they can learn to be good and feel good and
take appropriate risks and direct those kinds of energies. And okay,
so this again the role in the family of someone
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needs to be blamed for the dysfunction in the family.
Let's move on now. Now that we've had some review.
Let's look at the lost child or the forgotten child.
What's on the outside is ignored, quiet, invisible, loves, animals,
material possessions because those are safer than people to relate to.
(24:27):
Maybe they're artistics since they have a different they're in
their own little world. And sometimes they may have learning
disabilities because they were neglected. What you don't see what's
inside them. The fear is their feelings are frozen many
times and they can't express feelings, and they're very lonely.
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When a person is feeling forgotten about ignored, that's very painful.
I don't exist, I'm invisible, don't matter. Those are very
painful feelings, even if they are not realistic or true.
That's what the child feels, and that's what person needs
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to deal with the reality as the child perceives it.
What do they do for the family and why they
play along because the family feels at least we don't
have to worry about this kid. After all, they're invisible
without help. This kind of child may grow up to
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be someone very withdrawn, not feeling needed, and can die
early because I guess you could call it heartache or heartbreak,
and they may not be willing to volunteer opinions. However,
with healing such as the emotion code, body code, belief code,
and therapy, it is possible that they can grow up
(25:56):
to be talented and creative and can learn to participate
and share with that they achieve by being quieter, such
as being a good listener and feeling needed and connecting
with time over time, and maybe they would be a
good person to make sure that everybody feels included. Later on,
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let's look at the next slide. Here are some suggestions
for the lost child who has often forgotten. First of all,
have awareness of when you're feeling lost, when you're dissociating,
when you feel yourself withdrawing out of frustration and anger
and disappointment. Identify and express your feelings and opinions Safely
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assert yourself when you feel overlooked, I matter, I'm here, Hey,
hello you. Awareness of being bypassing yourself, which is an
internalized message that I don't deserve attention, that I don't
deserve to be acknowledged. And as a participant, first be
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aware of this. Yourself up your self care, don't forget yourself.
Even if other people forget you, don't forget yourself. Remember
it's okay to say no and exit relationships that don't
work for you. Negative attention is not a substitute for
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genuine love. Learn to differentiate that. Find a mentor and
seek professional help, maybe group therapy where you may be
a little nudged to speak up and participate. Perhaps pursue
artistic and creative endeavors. And lastly, volunteer and feel needed
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in a functional way, not a codependent, dysfunctional way. Maybe
these will help the lost child regain their lost parts
and beak up and realize that their needs do matter.
Let's look at the next slide. The next role is
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the clown or the mascot of This is the person
who makes people laugh because there's a lot of tension
from dysfunctional behaviors, so this tension needs to be released.
But what is really happening is this person is hiding
pain with humor. They may be scared or feeling inadequate,
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maybe deflecting and laughing off the tension. They bring comic
relief to the family, but it's also an avoidance of
the elephant in the room. Without help, this person may
grow up to continue to build up that pain. They
may become an addict. They may be in denial. They
may not have healthy relationships because they can't bond. But
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with help, they can feel a range of emotions and
use laughter in a healthy constructor of way. Maybe be
a real comedian, not just the dysfunctional one. So we're
gonna learn more about these roles when we come back
from our break. This is show Shanna Auerbach speaking to
you live on Bold Brave TV, Love, Light and Wisdom.
(29:16):
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Speaker 2 (31:37):
Hi everybody, Welcome back to Loveline of Wisdom. I'm show
Shanna Auberbach, your hostess, and you're watching me live on
Bold Brave TV. I was just informed by engineer that
mistakenly the sound was muted for most of the programs
so far. However, you were able to see the slides.
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Most of it was a review. So we're going to
move forward with the clown role and some suggestions for
healing that and get into maybe some emotion code if
we have time for that. So some suggestions for healing
the clown, the one who tries to make people laugh
and dispel the tension in the or the elephant in
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the room. Have awareness of why you're laughing. Is it
genuinely funny what you're laughing at, or is it disruptive
avoidant putting the focus on yourself and taken away from
others or the subject matter at hand. Is it taking
the focus off yourself, deflecting or minimizing other people's feelings
(32:48):
or the seriousness of a situation. This will help you
manage issues in relationships as well as maybe how other
people may see you. Develop awareness of how minimizing and
deflecting hurt other people's feelings and prevent trust and intimacy
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from developing. This could be an avoidance to this could
laughing could be an avoidance to getting close. Or it's
scary to get close, it's too vulnerable, I feel threatened,
so we laugh things off. Or it's a way of
putting someone down, but that's very hurtful. And have awareness.
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What is your laughter doing for yourself and other people
if they're involved, And what you do with those painful feelings.
You first identify them and express them safely and get
a therapist. A good therapist address the pain, the emotional
pain of the dysfunction that perhaps you grew up with.
(33:53):
You could which could be hiding inadequacy, fear of getting close,
and avoiding closeness. You can also redirect your talent for
humor in a constructive way. Become a medical clown or
a comedian. We need more laughter and lightheartedness in this world.
Use it constructively. Let's move on to the next slide.
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We also have other roles such as the enabler or caretaker,
and this is the person who maintains the look or
appearance of normalcy in the family. They support and affirm
the unhealthy behavior of other family members who might have
a substance, a disorder, or untreated mental illness or personality disorder.
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This is very similar to the hero. In adulthood, this
role often manifests into more of the same. They continue
trying to fix others and have an overall strong sense
of responsibility and ownership over the problems of others. With healing,
they can learn to relax and let others do the driving,
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so to speak, and let others do their thing and
be who they are and focus on fixing themselves and
not others. Let's learn some more in the next slide.
There's also the role of the golden child, the one
who can do no wrong. In adulthood, this role often
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manifests as perfectionism, which is really masking a low sense
of self a fear of failure. Often many times this
can be like the hero role. It is common for
these people to become obsessively attached to others as they
learn to get their value and worth from external sources.
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It's a form of codependency rather than coming authentically from
one's sense of self and power. With healing, they can
learn to become independant, provides self care and forgive oneself
and others for so called mistakes. And again I encourage
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you if you identify with any of these roles, look
me up at Authentic Radiance dot life, Authentic Radiance dot
Life and let's learn about how the emotion code, bodycode,
and belief code or maybe an intuitive reading can help
you free yourselves from these dysfunctional, maladaptive roles so that
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you're functioning authentically as yourself and learning that life doesn't
have to be like this. It can be happier and healthier.
Let's learn some more in the next slide. There's also
the parentify a child, which is known as a role reversal.
The child becomes the parent, and oftentimes the parent becomes
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the child because they can't handle life and they need
structure and direction. So this is the child who takes
on the role of being the caretake in the absence
of the caregiver speuse or a healthy caregiver. Sometimes this
role is also the caretaker of younger children, but not
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always like the hero. They often bypass their own feelings
and needs in favor of caretaking and don't know how
to have fun. It's a hard life to always feel
like you had to be working and on stage. In adulthood,
this person is frequently drawn to relationships with a lot
(37:35):
of dysfunction and emotionally unavailable partners, and this is what
we see in imago relationship therapy. They play out the
same role as what was missing in their childhood because
we want holding and to be healed. But oftentimes these
people attract dysfunctional partners who need to be taken care
(37:59):
of instead of too healthy functional adults with healing. I'm sorry.
They struggle with boundaries and base their self worth on
their partners or others for approval, rather than coming from
intrinsic approval. Knowing that I am good, I do good,
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and I can say no, I don't have to take
on the world. With healing, these are some of the
healthier behaviors and attitudes and feelings. They can focus on
themselves and self parenting rather than parenting others, and they
can provide self care rather than bypassing their needs. They
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can let go and say no, this is too much
for me. This is the parentified child or rule reversal.
Let's learn some more in the next slide. So these
dysfunctions come out of what are called acees adverse childhood experiences,
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and oftentimes these roles are what comes out of these
unmet emotional needs and imbalances in dysfunctional families where there's
mental illness, alcoholism, abuse, substance abuse, death or divorce, and
the like. Children in dysfunctional families often experience parental inconsistencies
(39:30):
such as double bind messages you know, do as I
say and not as I do, hidden feelings, double standards.
It's okay for me to drink, but I don't want
you to drink. It's okay for me to yell and curse,
but I don't want you to do that. This can
be very confusing for a child who needs rules and consistencies.
(39:52):
These inconsistencies also project hidden feelings incomplete information, shame, uncertainty,
and mistrust, and this can lead to the adoption of
rigid roles like the ones we discussed, which may lead
to problems later on in life with especially in adult relationships,
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at work, romantic relationships, friendships, etc. In dysfunctional families, there's conflict, misbehavior,
childhood neglect, or abuse, which feature come up as regular
ways of behaving rather than loving, consistently, loving, validating healthy.
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Others agree that while in a healthy situation, individuals should
adopt different roles with a certain degree of flexibility, whereas
roles can become more fixed and rigid in unhealthy social systems. Researchers.
Researchers found that a history of outcome a laudism and
dysfunction was linked to the adoption of certain unhelpful family roles,
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especially if one grew up in a dysfunctional family. Most
likely there you're going to marry a dysfunctional partner because
it feels familiar, just like a pig can roll in
mud because it's familiar even though it's dirty. Let's look
at the next line some more information about family roles
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and dysfunction. It is well demonstrated that experiences during childhood
can negatively impact later psychosocial adjustment and outcomes. As we
were just discussing, especially having the role of the scapegoat,
the one who's unjustly blamed, or the lost child the
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when visible person was positively associated with depressive symptoms in adulthood,
whereas none of the other roles was significantly related to
depressive symptoms. Also, prior research shows that family dysfunction would
be associated with greater adoption of the roles of scapegoat
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and lost child, but not be associated with the adoption
of the roles of hero and mascot. So these two
roles are more vulnerable to depression and adult dysfunction, maybe
childhood dysfunction as well as family dysfunction. Let's look at
the next slide and learn some more. Here are some
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more information. Researchers found that the role of scapegoat in
particular was associated with one's own abusive drinking and adult children.
Research found that roles of the scapegoat and lost child
to be particularly negatively related to family satisfaction and research measures, trends,
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intervention and what I call wiring play a part and
how a person copes with life's challenges. Sometimes people take
in more stride than others. Just because you have this
role doesn't mean you're going to grow up and be
a dysfunctional adult. That depends on the protective factors that
(43:26):
we call them in psychology. Do you have a mentor,
a teacher, a caregiver, a grandparent, supportive friend or grandparent?
Did you read self help books or seek out therapy?
So one can grow up to be a healthy, functional adult.
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It takes courage, determination, vigilance, and awareness. So please look
me up at www dot Authentic Radiance dot life and
let's talk some more about how I can help you.
We're going to take a break and this has been
show Shanna Auberbach speaking to you live on Bold Brave TV,
(44:08):
and you're watching me live on Love, Light and Wisdom.
See you in the few.
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Did you know that your beliefs create your entire reality?
But it's the subconscious beliefs that do most of the creating.
Belief shifter and life coach Sharaz can help you identify
those limiting beliefs and eliminate them, often in a single.
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Session, like it was almost instant, Like I had relief
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Creating better health, relationships, careers and finances. Let Sharaz help
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Definitely something's happening. It's like a flow inside. Yeah, it
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Whether in person or online. Sharaz provides personal coaching belief shifting.
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radio show for caregivers and aging adults Wednesday evenings, six Pacific,
seven Mountain, eighth Central, and nine Eastern, where I answer
these questions and share tips for managing stress, family relationships, health, wellbeing,
and more. Podcasts and transcripts of The Carrying Generation are
on my website Pamela Dwilson dot com, plus my care
(46:00):
giving library. Online caregiver support programs and programs for corporations
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Speaker 2 (46:23):
Hi, welcome back to Lovelight and Wisdom. I'm your hostess,
Shoshana Aferbach and you're watching me live on Bold Brave TV.
We're going to do a very brief demonstration of the
Emotion Code, which was developed by doctor Bradley Nelson to
help people identify and release trapped emotions that create dysfunction, depression,
(46:47):
physical and emotional pain. And oftentimes when they're on these
unmet needs from childhood and people get pigeonholed into roles,
either by choice or forced into them, they can grow
up to be dysfunctional adults or maybe functional adults, but
unhappy with themselves in life. So what we do is
(47:11):
we use not our We'll call it common sense. I'm
feeling this, this and this and this. We're going to
use muscle testing to ask the subconscious mind which is
the main emotion that I'm most resonating with, and connect
that with a body part and age a person and
(47:31):
an event, and then clear that out by swiping over
the governing meridian which connects all the other meridians and
energy pathways in the body. So I'm going to rate
myself and pick an issue. So for example, I was
I played the hero, and I felt that I had
(47:56):
to do everything myself, and I felt resentful about that.
I get overwhelmed sometimes when I have a big project
and I need to do everything myself for that's my thinking.
So this has bothered me today. I'm using muscle testing.
This is a yes, this is a no. This has
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affecting me today, ten nine, eight seven six out of ten?
So which emotion am I most risk resonating with and
what is safe for me to release? Column A Is
it an odd road? Yes? Row one, Row three Crying, discouragement, rejections, sadness, sorrow, sorrow, Okay,
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that got trapped in my liver? No, in my gallbladder? Yes?
At what age? Was it below age ten? Yes? Ten nine,
eight seven six? At age six I had I'm sorry,
that was my lung. It got trapped in my colon,
the wrong body part. What happened around age six? What's
(49:04):
coming up for me? That I felt sorrow in my colon?
Did involve a male a female? Yes? Was it a
teacher my mother? Yes? And what was going on at
age six? Didn't have something to do with school? Yes,
I had a first grade teacher who did something that
(49:27):
was not very nice and I still remember it. So
I want to clear that out. I don't want it
to take up room in my brain anymore. So I'm
going to release that sorrow at age six involving my
mother or this teacher. Maybe I was ashamed to tell
her about it from my colon, swiping five times? Is
(49:54):
this clear? Yes? Okay, thank you? Is there something else
I can release? Safe lean easily today, and we release
about five to ten trapped emotions until the system says
enough company From column A yes, odd road, yes, one
three crying, discouragement got trapped in my lung my colon.
(50:16):
Was it the same thing at age six involving this teacher? Yes, okay,
I'm going to swipe it out two, three, four, five,
take a deep breath, reintegrate. Is this complete? Yes? Good?
Thank you? Is there something else I can release now? Yes?
Speaker 4 (50:40):
Uh?
Speaker 2 (50:40):
Something from column A colum b yes, odd row even
wrote yes is a row two? Yes, failure, helplessness. It
got trapped in my spleen, got trapped in my stomach.
So as an adult, you know this could be carrying
over into stomach pains, for example, So I'm gonna swipe
(51:03):
it out. Is this complete? Yes? Okay? Now, so these
are This is a very brief demonstration of the emotion code.
I invite you to contact me at www Dot Authentic
radiance dot life and find out how this can help
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you as well. So I'm going to re rate myself
in releasing only three trapped emotions, I went from a
six to a ten nine eight, seven, six, five, four,
So again we would release between five and ten trapped emotions.
But from releasing only these three, I went down two numbers.
(51:47):
So let's go to full screen, please. So I hope
that today's program has brought you some awareness. Sorry for
the problems at the beginning of the podcast again, but
do join us next week when I'll be continuing to
(52:09):
explain more about roles and how they shaped you from
childhood into your adulthood. But you don't have to stay
stuck with them and stay unhappy and dysfunctional if it
is you do feel dysfunctional in your adult relationships, at work,
with yourself, or in your romantic or friend relationships. So
(52:33):
I invite you to give me a call again at
www Dot Authentic radiance dot life, and let's talk about
how you can be free from these roles which were
adaptive in childhood and continue to be maladaptive in adulthood,
so that you can feel and have the best life
(52:55):
with lots of happiness and good health and satisfaction. And
I want to remind you that you are never too
old to have a happy childhood. So again, this has
been Showshana Auberbach speaking to you live on Bold Brave
TV on Love Light and Wisdom. I look forward to
seeing you on the next episode and have a beautiful, wonderful, happy, healthy, successful, creative,
(53:23):
lucrative of healthy week. Okay, Soloman blessing.
Speaker 1 (53:28):
Bye. This has been Love Light and Wisdom with your
host Shashwa. Shashawa's proven approach takes the guesswork out of
healing with user friendly techniques that resonate deeply with her clients.
Tune in to Love Light and Wisdom Mondays at ten
(53:50):
am Eastern to hear Shashana discuss her techniques and learn
how to apply them in your own life. Be You,
Be Happy, Be Music excerpt for My Carry You in
My Heart Forever by Shoshana Aferbach copyright twenty twenty four.
All rights reserved.
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