June 11, 2025 • 46 mins
This is smorgasboard hour for Mama Bears Radio.... today I take a deep dive into the seriousness of how online porn is obliterating our precious next generation. We all know it's there but we look the other way. Time to stop ignoring or our kidlets can't/won't/aren't have actual relationships to healthy sex. Yikes! I also cover AB84 here in California which is the next step, speaking of obliteration, to crunch down on charter schools.
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The California Mama Bears have been forced out of hibernation.
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Kristin Hurley.
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Safe and Effective Radio. Welcome to Mama Bear's Radio, Kristin
Hurley here. Gold standard broadcasting is what I aim for
here at Schoolhouse Radio AM thirteen forty KOMY. I hope
everyone has had a riotous weekend getting your insurrection on.
Very exciting. It's never a dull moment, and apparently a
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nationwide insurrection I guess is planned for this weekend. It's
coming weekend. So hold on your hats, or your your
Palestinian headscars, whatever your cotur of choice may be, whatever's
on your little bear heads. As for the Mama Bears
of the world, we're still hard to work, holding down
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the fort holding down the homesteads, fortifying our castles, all
sorts of good stuff, rallying the troops. Summer's not a
time to retract the clause, and summer is in full swing.
It's very exciting, although sometimes you know a little summer manicure.
I'm a little overdue, a little claw a cure, a
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little TLC for oneself. But I hope everyone's doing well
out there. It's beautiful day and we have a couple
of just fabulous hours together ahead of us. I don't
have a guest. It's just you and me today. I
do want to think last week's guest Brenda Waybright from
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the Santa Cruz Pregnancy Resource Center. She is their educational component.
She goes out into the community schools and health classes
and et cetera, and has some h brings up some
tough topics with the kids, helps them walk through online
pornography and sexual relationships and trafficking and all the tough,
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the tough talks that sometimes they don't get at home.
And admittedly, as I said last week, like who might
have missed one or two of these? Really with my kids,
even it's you know, even like I talk. I clearly
I love to talk, and I'm not afraid of like
saying stuff. It is hard when you're sitting there staring
at your kids to be like, guys, there's this, you know,
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there's stuff you need to know, and they're looking at
you like you're nuts. So it's easy to avoid those
conversations in the safety of one's own home or bared in.
And it is nice that the PRC offers this really
fantastic resource for our kids in our schools today. So
taking a breather, ideally today from the calamitous world soap
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opera out there, We're gonna we're gonna tackle the usual
Mama Bear's fair here first hour. I have a total
smoke smorgasboard for us as usual, all sorts of good stuff.
What do we got, oh abe? Eighty four charter schools
getting the middle finger from the California State legislature. What's new? Uh? Yeah,
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that's a really crazy bill. We're gonna get into it
if you attend a charter school or think you'd like
to or whatever. They're on the edge. Uh. The mass
mass trauma of porn Speaking of pornography and your young
sweet little things. I have a really great article about that.
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We have Tony Thurman v. Harmy Dylan. The DJ is
cracking down on California schools that persist in this nonsense
of boys v girls out on the sports field. So
that's interesting. We have Florida teens take a Gay Survey. Yes,
this stuff is still happening in schools and Florida of
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all places. And then Rockefeller Medicine and it's future or
lack thereof. And this is kind of my lead into
our number two. So our number two I'm going to
be tackling, speaking of tough subjects, my take on on shrunk.
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This is the Laura Delano book I talked about a
few weeks ago, story of psychiatric treatment resistance. I did
read it thoroughly. I've even started in on the next
book that was kind of a resource for her in
her journey with psychiatric care and being prescribed about nineteen
different drugs of the course of her time and treatment.
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And then again, of course she was on Tucker Carlson
within the last week or something they put out that podcast,
So it's super timely. And if you haven't thought of
this or delved into this, or heard of Lord Delano,
or for that matter, heard of Tucker Carls, and you
probably know someone that is on SSRIs or the anti psychotics,
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the mood stabilizers, the host of cocktail of pharma drugs
that sixty six million Americans are on today. So I
want to get into that my humble opinions. Next week.
Next week I have a guest Matt Boudreau. He's from
Apage Strong. So at the APAGE group and let me
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get the website up here so I can hype them
up a little bit. So a friend of mine turned
me onto this organization. In their mission, they exist to
quote receied freedom in our children and in our nation
through education for the entire family. And so the APIG
programs are they encompass APIG women, APAGE Strong Young Women,
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which particularly piques my interest, APIG schools, Apage Strong Young Men,
and APAGE Man. And so they have a team of
people that provide mentoring mentorship programs to raise up young
leaders and to I just think, build a foundation in
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our next generation, a foundation of liberty and understanding what
freedom is. And the mentorship program if you go to
their website and it's apagstrong dot com, apog e strong
dot com, the mentors are an impressive laundry list of
everybody out there today that's just putting in the elbow
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grease for our country. Charlie Kirk, JP Sears and I
just can't even Nick Lane, No, no, no, sorry, Nick Behar, Sorry,
it's a picture of him without a shirt jogging, so
I wasn't looking at the word John Delooney, Tulci Gabbard.
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The list goes on and on. I'm just trying to
name some of the more recognizable names, Tim Bellard, on
and on and on and on. You have to scroll
through this list to believe it. And again, these are
sort of pop culture people meant the mentors their leaders
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in their fields of athletics. There's like some UFC champions
in there, and it's just an impressive, impressive organization to
support and help raise up leaders for our next which
is I'm all about. So I'm very excited. Matt Bodreau
is one of the one of the team who's one
of the founders of this, and we will have him
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on next week, I want to say, at the three
o'clock hour, although don't count me on that one, because
that's the way the fifty year old Mama bear's brain works. Okay,
So having said all that, let's get to work. Let's
get to work. Let's oh my gosh, I'm always almost
at my next break. Let's dig into this anti charter
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school bill. Oh barf. It's just always something and this
really bums me out my kids when the years that
we homeschooled, we belonged to a charter school. Although it
would have been kind of cool to just be totally
rogue off the grid. I know people that are and
it works just perfectly fine, but we happen to belong
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to a charter school here in California. Obviously, the charter schools,
there's many of them, there's tons of them, even in
our local districts here, provide just an extra element of
independent thinking in education and for families that have kids
that just are not thriving in the regular schools that
are offered, the charter schools sort of dot the landscape
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and they have the ability to craft and shape themselves
into an alternative school for kids, and they, you know,
oftentimes are just really kind of they specialize in a
particular type of educational program. They've got the ability to
be flexible, to have a lot of freedom and bandwidth
in how they approach learning and education and their families
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that they serve. And it's that is like the next
best thing. And I'm always barking about independent schools that
we need more and more and more tiny independent schools
that look at education through a different lens and cater
to the kids that need a different a different way
to learn and have their wired differently, and they need
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to be reached in specialty ways to help them thrive
and grow and be you know, self educators and whole
people as adults. So pick charter school fan over here
and this bill aby eighty sorry, aby eighty four. I
meant to talk about it a number of weeks ago,
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and then it turned out it was voted on last week,
I think after this show, So I kind of just
missed the boat on like make a phone call two
your's state legislator. Not that that does much these days anyways,
but this bill guts a number of aspects to running,
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starting and running and operating a charter school. That's just
gonna bring the thumb down on the good people that
are trying to make the charter schools work. This was
written by my Education Committee chair, Assemblyman Al Marsaci. We
have heard from him before in all of his genius
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in the state legislature, and basically, what it's doing, it's
gutting funding and it's placing war bureaucratic oversight and hoops
for the charter schools to jump through, So I want
to read a little bit from the California Globe. This
is going to have to be. When we come back
from our break, I will get into the nuts and
bolts of it. It passed. It passed in the Assembly
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a couple of days ago, a narrow vote, but still
and I believe, I hope not to be a total
dork about this, I believe. Then it heads to the Senate,
the state Senate and their committees, and then onto Gavenusom's desks.
So there's still a chance to follow this and let
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your opinions be known. But as usual, I get it.
It feels frual us and why bother? All of those
things run through my head. But at the very least
you need to be informed this is going on. So
there you have it, all right. When we come back
a few more details on that, and then we'll get
into porn. Oh boy, hey, thanks Kristen. All right, everybody,
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this is Mama Bear's Radio. Kristin Hurley here. I'll be
right back.
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The welcome back to Mama Bears radio. Kristin Hurley here,
safe and effective radio jabs in your brains not in
your arms. How's that. I've been trying to figure out
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what I mean when I say all that, but I
think I'll put the jabs in your brains, not on
your arms. Okay, the uh we're talking aby eighty four.
Thank you, California State Assembly. This is Assemblyman Marsace's bill
and the impetus. This is according to the Californy Globe
and it says the primary impetus for this bill was
the quote discovery of large scale fraud perpetrated by a
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number of non classroom based charter schools such as People
Versus McManus. This was in twenty nineteen or the San
Diego County District Attorney's Office and dighted eleven defendants in
a fraud scheme involving nineteen charter schools and identified forty
million in fraud. Well, yay, good job DA in San Diego. Apparently,
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these charter schools enrolled Little League Baseball players in their
schools during the summertime to generate state attendance funding. These
schools never provide instruction to these players. But they got funding.
They got their funding for it. Some genius hard at
work there. Okay, fine, So, in response to this case
and other instances of fraud, and oh, California, you mean
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someone's defrauding the public, the public treasury, you ask, No,
that couldn't be anyone except for some really bad people
not having anything to do with the California state government
or Gavin Newsom. Excuse me, Yes, California's underwear is as
clean as it gets except for these couple bad people
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in charter schools. This is what Marsaci is saying. Excuse me,
that's the Mama bear's interpretation. Fine, somebody defrauded, somebody happens
all the time in California here, okay, fine, not limited
to charter schools, mister Mersaci. So, the Legislative Analysts Office
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and the Fiscal Crisis and Management Team put forward recommendations
for better oversight in the areas of student data tracking, auditing,
and school finance. Okay, fine, yay, you identified fraud and
you're getting on it. Let's look elsewhere, LA office. Excuse me. Okay.
So Mrsaci claims his bill AB eighty four is consistent
with these recommendations, but mRNA I cannot pronounce her last name. Castrahane,
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the CEO of the Charter Schools Association, who spoke in
opposition to AB eighty four during its April thirtieth Education
Committee hearing, argues that Marsacchi's bill is far in excess
of the recommendations. It is heavy handed approach, and it's
not endorsed by the LAO, and so right, he's taking
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it next level because because certain people do not want
independent thinking and education, be it independent schools or private
schools or charter schools. So this really is just a
heavy handed approach to limiting the ability for charter schools
to exist. So what does it include? More bureaucracy. This
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bill would create the Office of the Inspector General, a
new bureaucratic office appointed by the Governor oh Boy with
the authority to conduct and supervise audits and investigations of
charter schools. This role has sweeping authority to investigate far
beyond previous oversight structures fiscal effects. Charter schools already face
financial challenges, generally receiving thousands less per pupil compared to
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public schools. That's significant. It makes the fiscal effects of
this bill even more dramatic. The bill would triple the
cap that authorizers can hold for financial oversight from one
percent to three percent. This comes straight out of the
charter school's revenue. With that money gone, something has to give.
The staffing programs, student resources cuts and funding will result
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in the cut of educational resources and the charter schools
already stretched thin. Murrusachi claim the goal of this bill
is to quote protect taxpayer dollars, which is a hoot
and a holler that somebody in California is like, I
would like to protect the taxpayer dollars. What Okay, good
luck with that, Mrsachi. But in this specific case, what
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this bill is doing is diverting the dollars, the taxpay dollars,
diverting from education and putting them towards bureaucracy. According to
the Appropriation's Committee report of the fiscal Effect of this bill,
establishing and staffing the Office of the Inspector General would
likely cost the taxpayer millions of dollars, potentially tens of
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millions of dollars. Okay, that's if you know, in a
perfect world, this new bureaucracy, this new layer of bureaucracy
actually is going to spend the money wisely and do
what it's chartered to do. Good luck, nothing is stopping
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them from using those funds to audit audit some more,
and they can create a bureaucratic nightmare and cause the
charter school to just throw up their hands. Okay. Restrictions
on vendors and services this is another aspect of this bill.
This bill would limit the charter school's ability to completely
change the way they make contractor agreements. All contracts, whether
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for curriculum, enrichment programs, staffing, tech, or otherwise, must be
approved by the authorizing board. This gives charter schools even
less control over what they can do. They cannot sign
agreements on their own without outside review. Well, that's that's
going to be a be and for some reason not
made clear the fact. She also admits that AB eighty
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four quote prohibits private religious organizations or schools from serving
as public school contractors. And this is discriminate discrimination, right,
not anti fraud contracting with Here's the example of where
this would come to a play. Renting out a church
as an educational facility, or using a religiously affiliated online
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program right for curriculum support or whatever, all of these
would be prohibited and then credentialing this eighty eighty four
would require quote all service personnel to hold an appropriate
services credential. This is, you know, the freedom of charter
schools to be able to hire independently, think creatively find
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talented staff. And also the homeschooling programs is just limits them.
There's already a teacher shortage in California. Limiting any education
adjacent en Richmond activity to be administered by a credential
teacher is ridiculous. Okay, So again it's boondoggle, boondoggle, boondoggle.
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Listen to this. At the April thirtieth hearing, the forty
five minute long line of educators, administrators, parents and students
joined together in opposition, but that was not enough to
stop the Democrats from passing it in committee, and then
not enough to stop it passing in the Assembly. So
everybody heads up on this one. If you value what's
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left in California of taxpayers, in parents getting to have
variety in their educational options for your families and your
kids and all that, keep an eye on this. It
just there are sneaky ways that they the esteemed leaders
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in our state are finding just different ways to crunch
down and make it more difficult for us to have
freedom of choice and spend our taxpayer dollars the way
we would like them spend for ourselves, et cetera. Yay, Okay,
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well let me take a break right on time. I
might add good job, Kristen when we come back. Oh boy, porn.
Like I said, I'm not gonna be explicit, but we
are going to talk about how it's affecting our young kids.
We talked about this last week a bit with Brenda.
We actually talked about this a little bit of a
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few weeks ago with Ashley Chesney, who was my guest
from Set Free Monterey Bay and sort of her journey
into commercial sex working and trafficking. We need to face it.
What the kids are seeing online. It's a rough, rough landscape. Okay, Well,
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I'm Kristin Hurley. This is Mama Bear's Radio. I'll be
back in just a minute, Mama Bear's Radio. We'll be
right back, all right, Welcome back to Mama Bear's Radio.
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Kristin Hurley here, goodie. A very exciting topic coming up,
mass trauma from porn in our kids' hands. Yes, I
mean my kids well, we didn't exactly give them the
phones early on. And in fact, my kids were just
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barely on the cusp of the whole iPhone smartphone thing,
you know, as they were kind of a little bit older.
Now it's like every six year old's phone on it around.
Thankfully we skated a little bit on the early years
of that. But my kids had well my daughters. My
son didn't have a phone until he was eighteen because
he's a funny guy. But the girls had phones and hands.
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We didn't, you know, monitor perhaps as much as we should.
We like everyone probably just thought, oh, they're good kids,
we trust them with their phones and whatever. And I
just shuddered a stupid think about really what they caught.
Because the smut is pervasive and it's everywhere. So this
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is an article for you India. One of my favorite writers,
Gen z Or writer on substance, and this is an
article about this tough topic for our young things, when
it's just an absolute fact of life. You can block
the porn sites, you can have your little alerts or
your parental controls on the phone, but they can get it.
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They can see it anywhere Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat, discord, Twitch, TikTok.
Many kids stumble across pornography accidentally. Obviously, they are not
like looking for it, unless you're maybe like a thirteen
year old boy. But so Freya begins her piece with this,
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Imagine you meet a teenage girl who starts telling you
about her childhood, where she mentions somewhat casually, that she
was shown porn by a strange man. He introduced her
to it when she was nine, nine before she had
even held hands with a boy, before she'd gotten her
first period, without her parents knowing. Week after week, he
showed her more, each time, something more extreme. By ten,
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it seemed normal. By eleven, she was watching regularly on
her own. She's calm about this, reassuring you that this
has happened to most of her friends. Yuck, you think,
would anyone think this is normal, part of coming of
a joe, healthy development, exploring her sexuality, or would we
call this abuse some yucky old man taking her nine
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year old down that path. But this is exactly what
is happening to children today, she says, when we hand
them a smartphone instead of one stranger introducing them to porn.
It is a billion dollar industry profiting from their trauma,
and she says, these days we talk a lot about trauma.
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We worry about the impact of words, Oh, the bullying
in schools. We agnize it about our parenting. We inspect
every inch of a childhood. But one trauma being tragically ignored,
she says, potentially lasting trauma changing the hearts and minds
and souls of children is porn. And this is really
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any content showing nudity and sexual acts. Today in the US.
Listen to this. Hold on your little Mama bear hats.
Today in the US, the average age of the first
exposure is twelve. And it doesn't happen on dedicated porn sites. Right,
you can block those or trust your children would never
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go there, But again, they can find it anywhere. Modern
porn is unlike anything else in history. Children are learning
about sex for the first time from social media algorithms
designed to drag them towards ever more degrading content. They're
also learning from sites like porn Hub, which uses addictive
tactics we all know, like the TikTok algorithms, the doom scrolling, Well,
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you can doom scroll your porn, variable rewards, AutoPlay features,
subscription services to unlock more. This is the gamification of
graphic porn. These platforms also use data mining to track
people and provide endless personalized videos. Yes, that does happen.
Users are categorized by their fantasies and fetishes. See more
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like this. Suggestions can escalate from incest to violence to
barely legal content. Viewing habits get leaked to third parties
for targeted ads. Rape and assault videos can be quote
recommended for you, and what we would immediately see as
abuse for an individual child, we tend to ignore. In
mass We pretend it has always been this way because
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it's too painful to accept that it hasn't. This type
of porn can traumatized children, would traumatize a frog. I'm
sorry the one mama bearer's opinion. Like come on. Several
studies have found that the earlier they're exposed to online porn,
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more likely they are to view violent content have lower
self esteem later in life. Porn use has also been
linked to lower relationships satisfaction, and higher likelihoods of infidelity.
You think the impact is not only on individual children,
This is doing something to our societies. What does growing
up with a limitless porn due to our ability to love,
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in form lasting relationships, our desire to start families, our
capacity to see people as people instead of objects, she says,
and she's a gen Zer Free India the author here.
My generation was taught to see each other not only
as content to consume but and products to shop through,
but as categories, sex objects, things to get pleasure from.
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We grew up watching what we were what were often
sex trafficking victims, likely seeing raven abuse, and we are
somehow expected to file that away, to fall in love
the real world and have romantic experiences just the same
as previous generations did, and to know how to do
that cast aside the imagery and the thought, the you know,
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the neural net that was trained in childhood. This is
really really tough to take. I mean, this is not
something in my purview. I'm not oblivious to how this
is just pervasive and gory online. It's really really and
she calls it exactly, this is my thoughts, Mama Bears.
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I'm not reading from the article right now, but it's
so yucky that you're like, do do do do do? Do? Do? Do?
Not in my world doesn't exist, right. I don't particularly
spend you know, I don't lose sleepless nights over this.
I have sleepless nights over other things, but like this,
one's too terrifying to really embrace and come to grips with,
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so much easier to ignore. And she goes on to say,
this is free of India. We learn the wrong things
about love. We girls learn that sex is brutal, that
men are predatory and insatiable, and the only way to
be loved is to become a better object. That intimacy
isn't something to be clumsily stumbled through together, but a
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performance to be delivered, content to be copied. If a
girl grew up being shown hardcore porn by a stranger,
we wouldn't be surprised if she couldn't accept love as
an adult, didn't know how to function in relationships, couldn't
see her own worth, feared abandonment, and couldn't fully trust.
We worry that young women have learned to accept violence
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and being hurt. She says, So this is not only
about violent porn or illegal porn, nor is it about
addiction orroblematic you. I'm talking about the entire online porn industry,
the whole thing. Seeing people with sex categories, getting bored
and swiping into something more depraved, betraying partners behind backs,
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all of it dehumanizing, gazing into screens instead of eyes,
preferring pixels over people, the whole numb retreat from one another.
Uh yeah, she goes on a little bit here. We're
already addicted to simulations, but the nightmare has already begun.
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This is just what they sell after they have successfully
numbed a generation and drained their drive to connect with
other human beings. The most painful realization to me, this
is Freya India saying this as I get older is
the gaslighting. Girls like me grew up being told that
this is completely normal, healthy, Even porn hub is a right.
It's a right. It's good for relationships. It's not cheating.
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It stops men from cheating. It's like food and water.
Every guy watches it. You can't expect him not to
overthinking it. Maybe you have anxiety, and so we thought
the problem was us. Boys who realized this was harming
them got gas lit and ridiculed. Girls were made to
feel insecure and broken. And for those in gen Z
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who didn't grow up religious, who weren't who aren't from
more conservative families. We had no words to express how
this made us feel. There was no language left. We
couldn't talk about morality, couldn't talk about loyalty, couldn't articulate
any sort of spiritual degradation. We were convinced by a
two decades old, billion dollar online industry that their services
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are a natural need. And anyone who didn't accept this
was the problem. But she goes on to say she
thinks that backlash is beginning. They're brave young women admitting
they were raised on porn that destroyed their brains, their
brave young men trying to give it up for good,
Their confessions everywhere, stories from children, and she has a
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bunch of links here porn addicts men in their twenties
who wasted their potential, from girls who grow up watching
simulated incest and gangbangs since age ten. Holy crap. On
one Reddit thread, hundreds of gen z ors are finally
opening up about when they first saw porn, with some
as young as six. There are movements growing, wounded young
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men and women waking up to what has happened and
refusing to allow the same thing to happen to their children.
She ends the article here just look at us now,
the older end of gen Z. Look at this liberated,
lonely generation trying to feel something anything from screens, generation
losing belief that love even exists, who increasingly expect infidelity
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and betrayal, who find it hard to look at each
other in the eye. I can't help but think we're traumatized.
And yes, I know that word is used to liberally,
but maybe our actual trauma is the one we can't
bring ourselves to admit. Perhaps the issue with the least
outrage the fuse pro test cuts deepest of all. And
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she goes on and says, you know, for the next generation,
they have to pay forward. The gen Z is already like,
what do we do to prevent us from our next
that the generations after us, we have to process the
horror of preteens watching hardcore porn, acknowledge the skill on
which it's happening, confront what we have done and its consequences.
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And only by facing it will we find some words
of our own. And I hope we aren't afraid to
use them. She says, yikes, Yeah, I know a lot
of a lot of mees out there, a lot of moms.
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We do the best with being open and honest with
our kids, being frank about stuff. My husband and I
always thought, okay, well, you know, if we never we
don't gaslight them, We don't lie to the kids, we
don't bs them. We never give them an opportunity to
doubt what we're saying. We never give them a chance
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to think that what we say and the way we
you know, express ourselves earnestly to them, and the way
we like we perceive things and see the world and
our perspective never given them a reason to think that
what we're not saying isn't you know true for us,
I can't say the truth, but that we aren't misleading
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them or falsifying or lying to them, that mom and
Dad have a foundation of honesty with them and they
can trust our word on whatever topic it is. You know,
I think that's the approach that I took parenting at least.
And you know, hope and a prayer. Are we in
a prayer that like that? You know, that level of
forthrightness from us and trust ability kind of a thing
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would see the kids through and tough tough moments when
it's them be the rest of the world or parents
be the rest of the world, and that's definitely come
up where their entire social world is telling them one
thing that's contrary to what they've gotten out of us.
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And I know that. I mean, the kids tell me
that a lot. We've been through that a lot over
the years, scam denic, scamdemic, anyone, the BLM stuff, all
of the social nuttiness of the years and anyways. You know,
so I think what I'm saying is like is for
as much as I'm like, I worked really hard to
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have a foundation of trust with my kids and no, no, no,
no no, and do my best on some levels, I
definitely have dropped the ball on some big ones. And
this might be one of them as well. Not that
we haven't discussed pornography and they don't you know, know,
our take on it, but in terms of doing what
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we can to physically limit exposure or you know, I
don't if that to the extent that's even possible, I
don't know. Did we do enough? Is probably my self
searching question. And the that pony has left the gate
at this point, and you know, I suppose it's just
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taking the leap into actual hardcore, not hardcore porn, but
a hardcore convos about the hardcore porn and just helping
them sort through it, you know it just it's like
if it came under our noses as a factor in
their online life, you know the mistakes we made or
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you know the failings on our part for you know,
having let it slip by. How do we help them
as free as talking about Okay, fine, learn a dang
lesson and move forward and just hope that they're going
to carry it forward into when when this becomes their world,
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Right we bequeath to them and then they grow up
and become in charge and what measures will they take
to protect and rectify what they went through the trauma
of hardcore porn? Oh boy? All right, well, I need
to take a break here. When we come back, I
think we're going to get into speaking of which, Thank
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you Florida schools. The Florida teens asked to consider becoming
gay in a class assignment to talk about like everyone's
in on it to talk about sex. You don't need
to get it from the dark web. You get it
in your classroom. Holy cow ah. All right, everybody, this
is Mama Bear's Radio. I will take my break and
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be right back Mama Bear's Radio. Bear, We'll be right back,
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all right. Welcome back to Mama Bear's Radio. Kristin Hurley here,
safe and effective radio. Hold on one second. I cannot
control the papers. I need my old cat. Back, as
we used to say, we had a cat named Scully.
This is back in the homeschool days. And my dining
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room table would be like full of papers and books
and artwork and you name it, and the cat would
jump up. Anytime some kid, one of my kids was
like trying to do their work book or drawing on
a piece of paper or do you something, the cat
would come and sit smack dab on top of whatever
book the kids were working through or whatever, you know,
(40:08):
ditto sheet they had or whatever. The cat would like
have to control the papers, we said, and like sit
down and help the kids out right, because it looked
like to the cat, we imagined the kids were trying
to hold the papers down and control the papers, and
so the cat would be like, I'm helping and would
sit on the papers. But at any rate, I have
control of my article here that I wanted to read from,
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and I only have a couple of minutes before the
top of the hour. Again, next hour, I am gonna
tackle talk about this is tough subject. A couple of
weeks here Mama Bear's Radio, I'm gonna delve into Unshrunk
by Laura Delano. I mentioned this book a couple of
weeks ago, in fact, so there was what started all this.
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There was a huge New York Times article about her
leading a movement away from psychiatric medication, super intriguing, and
I read that. I read there was a I believe
it was Jeffrey Tucker article about her and her book.
The book had come out, there was all sorts of
who about it in various publications. I couldn't believe the
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Times article, and then I did end up ordering the book.
I read it. She was just on talker. I have
a lot to say about it, so I thought I
would share that with everybody. That's Mama Bear's Radio. Second hour.
But until then, for the sheer fun of it, this
is recent and this wasn't the Daily Wire. Florida high
school students were drilled. Now you think it's safe in Florida,
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think again. Florida high school students were drilled for being straight,
asked to consider being gay, and we're told that straight
people are to blame for overpopulation, according to course materials
obtained by The Daily Wire, So, during a course for
high school children in Miami Dade County, students were assigned
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to complete a sexuality focused question that asked a series
of bizarre questions such as, what do you think caused
your heterosexuality? And is it possible that being straight is
just a phase you may grow out of? And considering
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the menace of hunger and overpopulation? Could the human race
survive if everyone were straight like yourself? What the actual
h el Seriously, what the actual heck is going on?
I thought this was a joke and then had to
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delve into it a little bit longer here and like
this actually happened. Parents were shocked to learn that a
professor made their children answer questions like this as part
of a Miami Dade college course being offered to high schoolers,
so they snuck it in. This course, called Preparing for
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Students' Success, was designed for students to develop academic goals
and come up with strategies to succeed in college. This
is what you need to succeed in college is to
decide your head of centosexuality is going to cause the
human race to overpopulate the world currently not happening. Excuse me. Okay,
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So this is offered in Miami Dade County, an area
that has turned red in certain years that should have
nothing to do with it. It's not normal, quoted a parent.
A concerned mother whose son was enrolled in the class
told The Daily Wire, it's not normal. I mean, imagine
if a person, anyone gets close to your son and
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asks him these questions, I'd call the police. It's perversion.
Why are you talking about sexuality with fifteen year old
boys or girls? It's sick, she says. One other question
post to the children included to whom have you disclosed
your straight tendencies? And why do you insist on showing
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off your heterosexuality? Wow's a The questionnaire ended by asking
students what their reaction to it was and quote about
the assumptions you hold about what others are like. The
questions come from the textbook Power Strategies for Success in
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College and Life by Robert Feldman. Here we Go a
Mama bears radio name, Blame and Shame them Robert Feldman,
a senior research associate at the University of Massachusetts Amherst.
The textbook was printed by mcral hill, one of the
largest academic publishers in the United States, whose products are
used in thirteen thousand k through twelve school districts across
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the country. After being contact did by The Daily Wire,
Miami Dade College said that it had reviewed the assignment
and determined that it would no longer be used. Oh really, so,
in other words, somebody slipped this by excuse me, Robert
Feldman slipped this on by into the curriculum, into this textbook,
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into this course that had found its way into high
school classrooms. I have the actual here questionnaire. We'll go
out with this. We already talked about that. Why do
straits play so much emphasis on sex? Oh? Now wait
a minute, who here's this? This is a this is
(45:39):
a gem. There seem to be many unhappy heterosexuals. Techniques
have been developed that might enable you to change your
sexual orientation. Have you considered changing what? I'd be mad
as a dang hornet if my kid came home with this.
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Is it possible that being straight is just a phase
you may grow out of? When and how did you
decide that you were straight? What do you think caused
your heterosexuality? Ah? Okay, well, you know, as I say,
coming soon to a classroom near you. Obviously, we've talked
about this before. We've talked about surveys and tests given
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to kids under our noses in classrooms, and apparently that
one's by. They're out there and you wonder why our
kids are nuts? All right, everybody, this is the end
of Mama Bear's Radio Hour number one. I'll be back
after the top of the hour for our number Tuesday.
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here at Schoolhouse Radio AM thirteen forty KOMY. I hope
everyone has had a riotous weekend getting your insurrection on.
Very exciting. It's never a dull moment, and apparently a
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nationwide insurrection I guess is planned for this weekend. It's
coming weekend. So hold on your hats, or your your
Palestinian headscars, whatever your cotur of choice may be, whatever's
on your little bear heads. As for the Mama Bears
of the world, we're still hard to work, holding down
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the fort holding down the homesteads, fortifying our castles, all
sorts of good stuff, rallying the troops. Summer's not a
time to retract the clause, and summer is in full swing.
It's very exciting, although sometimes you know a little summer manicure.
I'm a little overdue, a little claw a cure, a
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little TLC for oneself. But I hope everyone's doing well
out there. It's beautiful day and we have a couple
of just fabulous hours together ahead of us. I don't
have a guest. It's just you and me today. I
do want to think last week's guest Brenda Waybright from
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the Santa Cruz Pregnancy Resource Center. She is their educational component.
She goes out into the community schools and health classes
and et cetera, and has some h brings up some
tough topics with the kids, helps them walk through online
pornography and sexual relationships and trafficking and all the tough,
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the tough talks that sometimes they don't get at home.
And admittedly, as I said last week, like who might
have missed one or two of these? Really with my kids,
even it's you know, even like I talk. I clearly
I love to talk, and I'm not afraid of like
saying stuff. It is hard when you're sitting there staring
at your kids to be like, guys, there's this, you know,
(02:55):
there's stuff you need to know, and they're looking at
you like you're nuts. So it's easy to avoid those
conversations in the safety of one's own home or bared in.
And it is nice that the PRC offers this really
fantastic resource for our kids in our schools today. So
taking a breather, ideally today from the calamitous world soap
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opera out there, We're gonna we're gonna tackle the usual
Mama Bear's fair here first hour. I have a total
smoke smorgasboard for us as usual, all sorts of good stuff.
What do we got, oh abe? Eighty four charter schools
getting the middle finger from the California State legislature. What's new? Uh? Yeah,
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that's a really crazy bill. We're gonna get into it
if you attend a charter school or think you'd like
to or whatever. They're on the edge. Uh. The mass
mass trauma of porn Speaking of pornography and your young
sweet little things. I have a really great article about that.
(04:08):
We have Tony Thurman v. Harmy Dylan. The DJ is
cracking down on California schools that persist in this nonsense
of boys v girls out on the sports field. So
that's interesting. We have Florida teens take a Gay Survey. Yes,
this stuff is still happening in schools and Florida of
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all places. And then Rockefeller Medicine and it's future or
lack thereof. And this is kind of my lead into
our number two. So our number two I'm going to
be tackling, speaking of tough subjects, my take on on shrunk.
(04:48):
This is the Laura Delano book I talked about a
few weeks ago, story of psychiatric treatment resistance. I did
read it thoroughly. I've even started in on the next
book that was kind of a resource for her in
her journey with psychiatric care and being prescribed about nineteen
different drugs of the course of her time and treatment.
(05:11):
And then again, of course she was on Tucker Carlson
within the last week or something they put out that podcast,
So it's super timely. And if you haven't thought of
this or delved into this, or heard of Lord Delano,
or for that matter, heard of Tucker Carls, and you
probably know someone that is on SSRIs or the anti psychotics,
(05:37):
the mood stabilizers, the host of cocktail of pharma drugs
that sixty six million Americans are on today. So I
want to get into that my humble opinions. Next week.
Next week I have a guest Matt Boudreau. He's from
Apage Strong. So at the APAGE group and let me
(05:58):
get the website up here so I can hype them
up a little bit. So a friend of mine turned
me onto this organization. In their mission, they exist to
quote receied freedom in our children and in our nation
through education for the entire family. And so the APIG
programs are they encompass APIG women, APAGE Strong Young Women,
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which particularly piques my interest, APIG schools, Apage Strong Young Men,
and APAGE Man. And so they have a team of
people that provide mentoring mentorship programs to raise up young
leaders and to I just think, build a foundation in
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our next generation, a foundation of liberty and understanding what
freedom is. And the mentorship program if you go to
their website and it's apagstrong dot com, apog e strong
dot com, the mentors are an impressive laundry list of
everybody out there today that's just putting in the elbow
(07:03):
grease for our country. Charlie Kirk, JP Sears and I
just can't even Nick Lane, No, no, no, sorry, Nick Behar, Sorry,
it's a picture of him without a shirt jogging, so
I wasn't looking at the word John Delooney, Tulci Gabbard.
(07:25):
The list goes on and on. I'm just trying to
name some of the more recognizable names, Tim Bellard, on
and on and on and on. You have to scroll
through this list to believe it. And again, these are
sort of pop culture people meant the mentors their leaders
(07:46):
in their fields of athletics. There's like some UFC champions
in there, and it's just an impressive, impressive organization to
support and help raise up leaders for our next which
is I'm all about. So I'm very excited. Matt Bodreau
is one of the one of the team who's one
of the founders of this, and we will have him
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on next week, I want to say, at the three
o'clock hour, although don't count me on that one, because
that's the way the fifty year old Mama bear's brain works. Okay,
So having said all that, let's get to work. Let's
get to work. Let's oh my gosh, I'm always almost
at my next break. Let's dig into this anti charter
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school bill. Oh barf. It's just always something and this
really bums me out my kids when the years that
we homeschooled, we belonged to a charter school. Although it
would have been kind of cool to just be totally
rogue off the grid. I know people that are and
it works just perfectly fine, but we happen to belong
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to a charter school here in California. Obviously, the charter schools,
there's many of them, there's tons of them, even in
our local districts here, provide just an extra element of
independent thinking in education and for families that have kids
that just are not thriving in the regular schools that
are offered, the charter schools sort of dot the landscape
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and they have the ability to craft and shape themselves
into an alternative school for kids, and they, you know,
oftentimes are just really kind of they specialize in a
particular type of educational program. They've got the ability to
be flexible, to have a lot of freedom and bandwidth
in how they approach learning and education and their families
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that they serve. And it's that is like the next
best thing. And I'm always barking about independent schools that
we need more and more and more tiny independent schools
that look at education through a different lens and cater
to the kids that need a different a different way
to learn and have their wired differently, and they need
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to be reached in specialty ways to help them thrive
and grow and be you know, self educators and whole
people as adults. So pick charter school fan over here
and this bill aby eighty sorry, aby eighty four. I
meant to talk about it a number of weeks ago,
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and then it turned out it was voted on last week,
I think after this show, So I kind of just
missed the boat on like make a phone call two
your's state legislator. Not that that does much these days anyways,
but this bill guts a number of aspects to running,
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starting and running and operating a charter school. That's just
gonna bring the thumb down on the good people that
are trying to make the charter schools work. This was
written by my Education Committee chair, Assemblyman Al Marsaci. We
have heard from him before in all of his genius
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in the state legislature, and basically, what it's doing, it's
gutting funding and it's placing war bureaucratic oversight and hoops
for the charter schools to jump through, So I want
to read a little bit from the California Globe. This
is going to have to be. When we come back
from our break, I will get into the nuts and
bolts of it. It passed. It passed in the Assembly
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a couple of days ago, a narrow vote, but still
and I believe, I hope not to be a total
dork about this, I believe. Then it heads to the Senate,
the state Senate and their committees, and then onto Gavenusom's desks.
So there's still a chance to follow this and let
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your opinions be known. But as usual, I get it.
It feels frual us and why bother? All of those
things run through my head. But at the very least
you need to be informed this is going on. So
there you have it, all right. When we come back
a few more details on that, and then we'll get
into porn. Oh boy, hey, thanks Kristen. All right, everybody,
(12:19):
this is Mama Bear's Radio. Kristin Hurley here. I'll be
right back.
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The welcome back to Mama Bears radio. Kristin Hurley here,
safe and effective radio jabs in your brains not in
your arms. How's that. I've been trying to figure out
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what I mean when I say all that, but I
think I'll put the jabs in your brains, not on
your arms. Okay, the uh we're talking aby eighty four.
Thank you, California State Assembly. This is Assemblyman Marsace's bill
and the impetus. This is according to the Californy Globe
and it says the primary impetus for this bill was
the quote discovery of large scale fraud perpetrated by a
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number of non classroom based charter schools such as People
Versus McManus. This was in twenty nineteen or the San
Diego County District Attorney's Office and dighted eleven defendants in
a fraud scheme involving nineteen charter schools and identified forty
million in fraud. Well, yay, good job DA in San Diego. Apparently,
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these charter schools enrolled Little League Baseball players in their
schools during the summertime to generate state attendance funding. These
schools never provide instruction to these players. But they got funding.
They got their funding for it. Some genius hard at
work there. Okay, fine, So, in response to this case
and other instances of fraud, and oh, California, you mean
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someone's defrauding the public, the public treasury, you ask, No,
that couldn't be anyone except for some really bad people
not having anything to do with the California state government
or Gavin Newsom. Excuse me, Yes, California's underwear is as
clean as it gets except for these couple bad people
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in charter schools. This is what Marsaci is saying. Excuse me,
that's the Mama bear's interpretation. Fine, somebody defrauded, somebody happens
all the time in California here, okay, fine, not limited
to charter schools, mister Mersaci. So, the Legislative Analysts Office
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and the Fiscal Crisis and Management Team put forward recommendations
for better oversight in the areas of student data tracking, auditing,
and school finance. Okay, fine, yay, you identified fraud and
you're getting on it. Let's look elsewhere, LA office. Excuse me. Okay.
So Mrsaci claims his bill AB eighty four is consistent
with these recommendations, but mRNA I cannot pronounce her last name. Castrahane,
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the CEO of the Charter Schools Association, who spoke in
opposition to AB eighty four during its April thirtieth Education
Committee hearing, argues that Marsacchi's bill is far in excess
of the recommendations. It is heavy handed approach, and it's
not endorsed by the LAO, and so right, he's taking
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it next level because because certain people do not want
independent thinking and education, be it independent schools or private
schools or charter schools. So this really is just a
heavy handed approach to limiting the ability for charter schools
to exist. So what does it include? More bureaucracy. This
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bill would create the Office of the Inspector General, a
new bureaucratic office appointed by the Governor oh Boy with
the authority to conduct and supervise audits and investigations of
charter schools. This role has sweeping authority to investigate far
beyond previous oversight structures fiscal effects. Charter schools already face
financial challenges, generally receiving thousands less per pupil compared to
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public schools. That's significant. It makes the fiscal effects of
this bill even more dramatic. The bill would triple the
cap that authorizers can hold for financial oversight from one
percent to three percent. This comes straight out of the
charter school's revenue. With that money gone, something has to give.
The staffing programs, student resources cuts and funding will result
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in the cut of educational resources and the charter schools
already stretched thin. Murrusachi claim the goal of this bill
is to quote protect taxpayer dollars, which is a hoot
and a holler that somebody in California is like, I
would like to protect the taxpayer dollars. What Okay, good
luck with that, Mrsachi. But in this specific case, what
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this bill is doing is diverting the dollars, the taxpay dollars,
diverting from education and putting them towards bureaucracy. According to
the Appropriation's Committee report of the fiscal Effect of this bill,
establishing and staffing the Office of the Inspector General would
likely cost the taxpayer millions of dollars, potentially tens of
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millions of dollars. Okay, that's if you know, in a
perfect world, this new bureaucracy, this new layer of bureaucracy
actually is going to spend the money wisely and do
what it's chartered to do. Good luck, nothing is stopping
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them from using those funds to audit audit some more,
and they can create a bureaucratic nightmare and cause the
charter school to just throw up their hands. Okay. Restrictions
on vendors and services this is another aspect of this bill.
This bill would limit the charter school's ability to completely
change the way they make contractor agreements. All contracts, whether
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for curriculum, enrichment programs, staffing, tech, or otherwise, must be
approved by the authorizing board. This gives charter schools even
less control over what they can do. They cannot sign
agreements on their own without outside review. Well, that's that's
going to be a be and for some reason not
made clear the fact. She also admits that AB eighty
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four quote prohibits private religious organizations or schools from serving
as public school contractors. And this is discriminate discrimination, right,
not anti fraud contracting with Here's the example of where
this would come to a play. Renting out a church
as an educational facility, or using a religiously affiliated online
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program right for curriculum support or whatever, all of these
would be prohibited and then credentialing this eighty eighty four
would require quote all service personnel to hold an appropriate
services credential. This is, you know, the freedom of charter
schools to be able to hire independently, think creatively find
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talented staff. And also the homeschooling programs is just limits them.
There's already a teacher shortage in California. Limiting any education
adjacent en Richmond activity to be administered by a credential
teacher is ridiculous. Okay, So again it's boondoggle, boondoggle, boondoggle.
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Listen to this. At the April thirtieth hearing, the forty
five minute long line of educators, administrators, parents and students
joined together in opposition, but that was not enough to
stop the Democrats from passing it in committee, and then
not enough to stop it passing in the Assembly. So
everybody heads up on this one. If you value what's
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left in California of taxpayers, in parents getting to have
variety in their educational options for your families and your
kids and all that, keep an eye on this. It
just there are sneaky ways that they the esteemed leaders
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in our state are finding just different ways to crunch
down and make it more difficult for us to have
freedom of choice and spend our taxpayer dollars the way
we would like them spend for ourselves, et cetera. Yay, Okay,
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well let me take a break right on time. I
might add good job, Kristen when we come back. Oh boy, porn.
Like I said, I'm not gonna be explicit, but we
are going to talk about how it's affecting our young kids.
We talked about this last week a bit with Brenda.
We actually talked about this a little bit of a
(21:49):
few weeks ago with Ashley Chesney, who was my guest
from Set Free Monterey Bay and sort of her journey
into commercial sex working and trafficking. We need to face it.
What the kids are seeing online. It's a rough, rough landscape. Okay, Well,
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I'm Kristin Hurley. This is Mama Bear's Radio. I'll be
back in just a minute, Mama Bear's Radio. We'll be
right back, all right, Welcome back to Mama Bear's Radio.
(22:47):
Kristin Hurley here, goodie. A very exciting topic coming up,
mass trauma from porn in our kids' hands. Yes, I
mean my kids well, we didn't exactly give them the
phones early on. And in fact, my kids were just
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barely on the cusp of the whole iPhone smartphone thing,
you know, as they were kind of a little bit older.
Now it's like every six year old's phone on it around.
Thankfully we skated a little bit on the early years
of that. But my kids had well my daughters. My
son didn't have a phone until he was eighteen because
he's a funny guy. But the girls had phones and hands.
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We didn't, you know, monitor perhaps as much as we should.
We like everyone probably just thought, oh, they're good kids,
we trust them with their phones and whatever. And I
just shuddered a stupid think about really what they caught.
Because the smut is pervasive and it's everywhere. So this
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is an article for you India. One of my favorite writers,
Gen z Or writer on substance, and this is an
article about this tough topic for our young things, when
it's just an absolute fact of life. You can block
the porn sites, you can have your little alerts or
your parental controls on the phone, but they can get it.
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They can see it anywhere Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat, discord, Twitch, TikTok.
Many kids stumble across pornography accidentally. Obviously, they are not
like looking for it, unless you're maybe like a thirteen
year old boy. But so Freya begins her piece with this,
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Imagine you meet a teenage girl who starts telling you
about her childhood, where she mentions somewhat casually, that she
was shown porn by a strange man. He introduced her
to it when she was nine, nine before she had
even held hands with a boy, before she'd gotten her
first period, without her parents knowing. Week after week, he
showed her more, each time, something more extreme. By ten,
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it seemed normal. By eleven, she was watching regularly on
her own. She's calm about this, reassuring you that this
has happened to most of her friends. Yuck, you think,
would anyone think this is normal, part of coming of
a joe, healthy development, exploring her sexuality, or would we
call this abuse some yucky old man taking her nine
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year old down that path. But this is exactly what
is happening to children today, she says, when we hand
them a smartphone instead of one stranger introducing them to porn.
It is a billion dollar industry profiting from their trauma,
and she says, these days we talk a lot about trauma.
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We worry about the impact of words, Oh, the bullying
in schools. We agnize it about our parenting. We inspect
every inch of a childhood. But one trauma being tragically ignored,
she says, potentially lasting trauma changing the hearts and minds
and souls of children is porn. And this is really
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any content showing nudity and sexual acts. Today in the US.
Listen to this. Hold on your little Mama bear hats.
Today in the US, the average age of the first
exposure is twelve. And it doesn't happen on dedicated porn sites. Right,
you can block those or trust your children would never
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go there, But again, they can find it anywhere. Modern
porn is unlike anything else in history. Children are learning
about sex for the first time from social media algorithms
designed to drag them towards ever more degrading content. They're
also learning from sites like porn Hub, which uses addictive
tactics we all know, like the TikTok algorithms, the doom scrolling, Well,
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you can doom scroll your porn, variable rewards, AutoPlay features,
subscription services to unlock more. This is the gamification of
graphic porn. These platforms also use data mining to track
people and provide endless personalized videos. Yes, that does happen.
Users are categorized by their fantasies and fetishes. See more
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like this. Suggestions can escalate from incest to violence to
barely legal content. Viewing habits get leaked to third parties
for targeted ads. Rape and assault videos can be quote
recommended for you, and what we would immediately see as
abuse for an individual child, we tend to ignore. In
mass We pretend it has always been this way because
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it's too painful to accept that it hasn't. This type
of porn can traumatized children, would traumatize a frog. I'm
sorry the one mama bearer's opinion. Like come on. Several
studies have found that the earlier they're exposed to online porn,
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more likely they are to view violent content have lower
self esteem later in life. Porn use has also been
linked to lower relationships satisfaction, and higher likelihoods of infidelity.
You think the impact is not only on individual children,
This is doing something to our societies. What does growing
up with a limitless porn due to our ability to love,
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in form lasting relationships, our desire to start families, our
capacity to see people as people instead of objects, she says,
and she's a gen Zer Free India the author here.
My generation was taught to see each other not only
as content to consume but and products to shop through,
but as categories, sex objects, things to get pleasure from.
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We grew up watching what we were what were often
sex trafficking victims, likely seeing raven abuse, and we are
somehow expected to file that away, to fall in love
the real world and have romantic experiences just the same
as previous generations did, and to know how to do
that cast aside the imagery and the thought, the you know,
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the neural net that was trained in childhood. This is
really really tough to take. I mean, this is not
something in my purview. I'm not oblivious to how this
is just pervasive and gory online. It's really really and
she calls it exactly, this is my thoughts, Mama Bears.
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I'm not reading from the article right now, but it's
so yucky that you're like, do do do do do? Do? Do? Do?
Not in my world doesn't exist, right. I don't particularly
spend you know, I don't lose sleepless nights over this.
I have sleepless nights over other things, but like this,
one's too terrifying to really embrace and come to grips with,
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so much easier to ignore. And she goes on to say,
this is free of India. We learn the wrong things
about love. We girls learn that sex is brutal, that
men are predatory and insatiable, and the only way to
be loved is to become a better object. That intimacy
isn't something to be clumsily stumbled through together, but a
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performance to be delivered, content to be copied. If a
girl grew up being shown hardcore porn by a stranger,
we wouldn't be surprised if she couldn't accept love as
an adult, didn't know how to function in relationships, couldn't
see her own worth, feared abandonment, and couldn't fully trust.
We worry that young women have learned to accept violence
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and being hurt. She says, So this is not only
about violent porn or illegal porn, nor is it about
addiction orroblematic you. I'm talking about the entire online porn industry,
the whole thing. Seeing people with sex categories, getting bored
and swiping into something more depraved, betraying partners behind backs,
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all of it dehumanizing, gazing into screens instead of eyes,
preferring pixels over people, the whole numb retreat from one another.
Uh yeah, she goes on a little bit here. We're
already addicted to simulations, but the nightmare has already begun.
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This is just what they sell after they have successfully
numbed a generation and drained their drive to connect with
other human beings. The most painful realization to me, this
is Freya India saying this as I get older is
the gaslighting. Girls like me grew up being told that
this is completely normal, healthy, Even porn hub is a right.
It's a right. It's good for relationships. It's not cheating.
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It stops men from cheating. It's like food and water.
Every guy watches it. You can't expect him not to
overthinking it. Maybe you have anxiety, and so we thought
the problem was us. Boys who realized this was harming
them got gas lit and ridiculed. Girls were made to
feel insecure and broken. And for those in gen Z
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who didn't grow up religious, who weren't who aren't from
more conservative families. We had no words to express how
this made us feel. There was no language left. We
couldn't talk about morality, couldn't talk about loyalty, couldn't articulate
any sort of spiritual degradation. We were convinced by a
two decades old, billion dollar online industry that their services
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are a natural need. And anyone who didn't accept this
was the problem. But she goes on to say she
thinks that backlash is beginning. They're brave young women admitting
they were raised on porn that destroyed their brains, their
brave young men trying to give it up for good,
Their confessions everywhere, stories from children, and she has a
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bunch of links here porn addicts men in their twenties
who wasted their potential, from girls who grow up watching
simulated incest and gangbangs since age ten. Holy crap. On
one Reddit thread, hundreds of gen z ors are finally
opening up about when they first saw porn, with some
as young as six. There are movements growing, wounded young
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men and women waking up to what has happened and
refusing to allow the same thing to happen to their children.
She ends the article here just look at us now,
the older end of gen Z. Look at this liberated,
lonely generation trying to feel something anything from screens, generation
losing belief that love even exists, who increasingly expect infidelity
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and betrayal, who find it hard to look at each
other in the eye. I can't help but think we're traumatized.
And yes, I know that word is used to liberally,
but maybe our actual trauma is the one we can't
bring ourselves to admit. Perhaps the issue with the least
outrage the fuse pro test cuts deepest of all. And
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she goes on and says, you know, for the next generation,
they have to pay forward. The gen Z is already like,
what do we do to prevent us from our next
that the generations after us, we have to process the
horror of preteens watching hardcore porn, acknowledge the skill on
which it's happening, confront what we have done and its consequences.
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And only by facing it will we find some words
of our own. And I hope we aren't afraid to
use them. She says, yikes, Yeah, I know a lot
of a lot of mees out there, a lot of moms.
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We do the best with being open and honest with
our kids, being frank about stuff. My husband and I
always thought, okay, well, you know, if we never we
don't gaslight them, We don't lie to the kids, we
don't bs them. We never give them an opportunity to
doubt what we're saying. We never give them a chance
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to think that what we say and the way we
you know, express ourselves earnestly to them, and the way
we like we perceive things and see the world and
our perspective never given them a reason to think that
what we're not saying isn't you know true for us,
I can't say the truth, but that we aren't misleading
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them or falsifying or lying to them, that mom and
Dad have a foundation of honesty with them and they
can trust our word on whatever topic it is. You know,
I think that's the approach that I took parenting at least.
And you know, hope and a prayer. Are we in
a prayer that like that? You know, that level of
forthrightness from us and trust ability kind of a thing
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would see the kids through and tough tough moments when
it's them be the rest of the world or parents
be the rest of the world, and that's definitely come
up where their entire social world is telling them one
thing that's contrary to what they've gotten out of us.
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And I know that. I mean, the kids tell me
that a lot. We've been through that a lot over
the years, scam denic, scamdemic, anyone, the BLM stuff, all
of the social nuttiness of the years and anyways. You know,
so I think what I'm saying is like is for
as much as I'm like, I worked really hard to
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have a foundation of trust with my kids and no, no, no,
no no, and do my best on some levels, I
definitely have dropped the ball on some big ones. And
this might be one of them as well. Not that
we haven't discussed pornography and they don't you know, know,
our take on it, but in terms of doing what
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we can to physically limit exposure or you know, I
don't if that to the extent that's even possible, I
don't know. Did we do enough? Is probably my self
searching question. And the that pony has left the gate
at this point, and you know, I suppose it's just
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taking the leap into actual hardcore, not hardcore porn, but
a hardcore convos about the hardcore porn and just helping
them sort through it, you know it just it's like
if it came under our noses as a factor in
their online life, you know the mistakes we made or
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you know the failings on our part for you know,
having let it slip by. How do we help them
as free as talking about Okay, fine, learn a dang
lesson and move forward and just hope that they're going
to carry it forward into when when this becomes their world,
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Right we bequeath to them and then they grow up
and become in charge and what measures will they take
to protect and rectify what they went through the trauma
of hardcore porn? Oh boy? All right, well, I need
to take a break here. When we come back, I
think we're going to get into speaking of which, Thank
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you Florida schools. The Florida teens asked to consider becoming
gay in a class assignment to talk about like everyone's
in on it to talk about sex. You don't need
to get it from the dark web. You get it
in your classroom. Holy cow ah. All right, everybody, this
is Mama Bear's Radio. I will take my break and
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be right back Mama Bear's Radio. Bear, We'll be right back,
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all right. Welcome back to Mama Bear's Radio. Kristin Hurley here,
safe and effective radio. Hold on one second. I cannot
control the papers. I need my old cat. Back, as
we used to say, we had a cat named Scully.
This is back in the homeschool days. And my dining
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room table would be like full of papers and books
and artwork and you name it, and the cat would
jump up. Anytime some kid, one of my kids was
like trying to do their work book or drawing on
a piece of paper or do you something, the cat
would come and sit smack dab on top of whatever
book the kids were working through or whatever, you know,
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ditto sheet they had or whatever. The cat would like
have to control the papers, we said, and like sit
down and help the kids out right, because it looked
like to the cat, we imagined the kids were trying
to hold the papers down and control the papers, and
so the cat would be like, I'm helping and would
sit on the papers. But at any rate, I have
control of my article here that I wanted to read from,
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and I only have a couple of minutes before the
top of the hour. Again, next hour, I am gonna
tackle talk about this is tough subject. A couple of
weeks here Mama Bear's Radio, I'm gonna delve into Unshrunk
by Laura Delano. I mentioned this book a couple of
weeks ago, in fact, so there was what started all this.
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There was a huge New York Times article about her
leading a movement away from psychiatric medication, super intriguing, and
I read that. I read there was a I believe
it was Jeffrey Tucker article about her and her book.
The book had come out, there was all sorts of
who about it in various publications. I couldn't believe the
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Times article, and then I did end up ordering the book.
I read it. She was just on talker. I have
a lot to say about it, so I thought I
would share that with everybody. That's Mama Bear's Radio. Second hour.
But until then, for the sheer fun of it, this
is recent and this wasn't the Daily Wire. Florida high
school students were drilled. Now you think it's safe in Florida,
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think again. Florida high school students were drilled for being straight,
asked to consider being gay, and we're told that straight
people are to blame for overpopulation, according to course materials
obtained by The Daily Wire, So, during a course for
high school children in Miami Dade County, students were assigned
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to complete a sexuality focused question that asked a series
of bizarre questions such as, what do you think caused
your heterosexuality? And is it possible that being straight is
just a phase you may grow out of? And considering
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the menace of hunger and overpopulation? Could the human race
survive if everyone were straight like yourself? What the actual
h el Seriously, what the actual heck is going on?
I thought this was a joke and then had to
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delve into it a little bit longer here and like
this actually happened. Parents were shocked to learn that a
professor made their children answer questions like this as part
of a Miami Dade college course being offered to high schoolers,
so they snuck it in. This course, called Preparing for
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Students' Success, was designed for students to develop academic goals
and come up with strategies to succeed in college. This
is what you need to succeed in college is to
decide your head of centosexuality is going to cause the
human race to overpopulate the world currently not happening. Excuse me. Okay,
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So this is offered in Miami Dade County, an area
that has turned red in certain years that should have
nothing to do with it. It's not normal, quoted a parent.
A concerned mother whose son was enrolled in the class
told The Daily Wire, it's not normal. I mean, imagine
if a person, anyone gets close to your son and
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asks him these questions, I'd call the police. It's perversion.
Why are you talking about sexuality with fifteen year old
boys or girls? It's sick, she says. One other question
post to the children included to whom have you disclosed
your straight tendencies? And why do you insist on showing
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off your heterosexuality? Wow's a The questionnaire ended by asking
students what their reaction to it was and quote about
the assumptions you hold about what others are like. The
questions come from the textbook Power Strategies for Success in
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College and Life by Robert Feldman. Here we Go a
Mama bears radio name, Blame and Shame them Robert Feldman,
a senior research associate at the University of Massachusetts Amherst.
The textbook was printed by mcral hill, one of the
largest academic publishers in the United States, whose products are
used in thirteen thousand k through twelve school districts across
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the country. After being contact did by The Daily Wire,
Miami Dade College said that it had reviewed the assignment
and determined that it would no longer be used. Oh really, so,
in other words, somebody slipped this by excuse me, Robert
Feldman slipped this on by into the curriculum, into this textbook,
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into this course that had found its way into high
school classrooms. I have the actual here questionnaire. We'll go
out with this. We already talked about that. Why do
straits play so much emphasis on sex? Oh? Now wait
a minute, who here's this? This is a this is
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a gem. There seem to be many unhappy heterosexuals. Techniques
have been developed that might enable you to change your
sexual orientation. Have you considered changing what? I'd be mad
as a dang hornet if my kid came home with this.
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Is it possible that being straight is just a phase
you may grow out of? When and how did you
decide that you were straight? What do you think caused
your heterosexuality? Ah? Okay, well, you know, as I say,
coming soon to a classroom near you. Obviously, we've talked
about this before. We've talked about surveys and tests given
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to kids under our noses in classrooms, and apparently that
one's by. They're out there and you wonder why our
kids are nuts? All right, everybody, this is the end
of Mama Bear's Radio Hour number one. I'll be back
after the top of the hour for our number Tuesday.
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