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Speaker 1 (00:11):
Hi, it's Damien and welcome to another healing Meditation episode
from you. You your source for personal healing, self transformation,
and everyday manifestation. Now today we are going to be
delving into the topic of authentic connection. You know, those
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moments where we can just be ourselves with other people,
We can effectively communicate our needs without worrying about how
they will respond. So how do we know that we're
not actually doing that already? How do we know that
we're not connecting with people authentically? Do you ever feel
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like you have to wear a mask with people? Do
you have to present a version of yourself that doesn't
really feel quite right or even real. Perhaps you notice
that conversations feel shadow or unsatisfying, and you have this
ongoing sense of emptiness. Maybe you'll find yourself agreeing with
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things that you don't really want to, just simply to
avoid conflict or to fit in. These are all symptoms
that we might not actually be showing our true selves
to those around us, or that our needs and desires
are not being clearly communicated. You see, when we don't
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connect authentically, the consequences can be far reaching and have
a deep impact on our lives. Over time, This disconnect
can lead to feelings of loneliness and isolation. Even when
we are surrounded by other people, we can still feel alone.
The relationships we do have can become strained, built on
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misunderstandings and unmet needs. We might experience increased stress, anxiety,
and even depression as this constant effort to maintain a
facade takes its toll on our mental health. Moreover, our
self esteem can suffer because we're not receiving the genuine
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validation and support that comes from being truly known and understood.
But here's the good news. Transforming the way we connect
with others will have an incredibly positive effect on your life.
When we learn to communicate authentically, our relationships become more
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meaningful and satisfying. We build deeper connections based on mutual
understanding and respect. Our self esteem improves as we start
to see ourselves being accepted for who we truly are.
We experience greater emotional intimacy and soup, which can enhance
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our overall well being, and, perhaps most importantly, we can
create a life that feels more aligned with our true selves.
So how do we start going about making these changes? Well,
in a little while, I will invite you to join
me on a meditation that will help. But for the moment,
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let's look at some practical methods that you can implement
right now to start connecting more authentically and making your
needs understood. It really does start with self reflection. Spend
some time understanding what your own needs are, your values,
your desires. Journeying or meditation can be a great tool
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for this. Before you can start thinking about communicating authentically,
you need to know what the authentic you is. Who
are you? And this will make it so much easier
to communicate authentically. Become aware of your communication. Practice being
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fully present in your conversations. Don't just say words. Listen
actively and without judgment, and express yourself honestly and clearly.
Focus on eye statements to convey your feelings and needs
without placing blame on others. Don't make them responsible for
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how you feel. Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Share your
true thoughts and feelings, even if it feels risky. Vulnerability
is a powerful way to build deeper connections. It is
also the foundation of trust. Once we are vulnerable with
somebody in their respect us and treat us well, then
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that builds trust. Learn to set and respect boundaries. List
involve saying no when you need to and not feeling
guilty about it it. Clear boundaries help ensure that your
needs are met and respected. Be aware of feedback as
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trusted friends or family members how they perceive your communications
and relationships. Sometimes an outside perspective can provide valuable insights,
provided it's done in a positive way. Remember, don't get
down the avenue of inviting people that we perceive to
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be close family or friends just to set us up
for another round of criticism, because it won't help. As
long as they do it positively and with love, then
where good to go? You know, Transforming the way we
connect with others as a journey is not something you
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do once and that's it, it's all done. It takes time,
takes patience, and it takes practice. But the rewards, the
deeper relationships, the better mental health, and living a more
authentic life are all very well worth the effort. Now,
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after the break, I would like you to join me
on a yoga needer meditation to set the foundation to
transform the way you connect with other people, to ensure
you are doing it in a way that really is
true to yourself. But before we do, just take a
moment to subscribe to this podcast so you don't miss
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a single step on your journey to a life of abundance.
Did you continue to relax and let go, You might
find it's more relaxing to just go ahead and close
those your eyes. Whenever you are ready to drift into
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a deep meditation, just close those eyes, letting them drift
lower and lower, and as you continue to relight, noticing
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the sounds outside the room, those distant sounds which just
seem to drift on the air, no labels or recognition,
just noticing the sounds drifting in the air as if
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hearing them for the very first time. And then noticing
the sounds inside the room, those gentle sounds drifting around you.
No need to try and recognize them, just let them
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drift in the air all around you, almost as if
you could watch those sounds floating in the air as
you continue to drift deeper and deeper within yourself, noticing
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the sound of my voice, the sounds behind my voice.
As you continue to react, my voice will comfort you,
will ease you, or keep you safe as you continue
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to drift deeper and deeper, and you can begin to
notice any fragrances around you, some distance, some close, those
beautiful fragrances that dance so gracefully. No need to wonder
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what they are, Just enjoy the fragrances drifting on the air. Now.
I don't know how you will find yourself connecting with
people on a deeper level and being your authentic self,
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but you do, and that's what's most important. So as
you relax even deeper, you can repeat the words silently
in your mind, just as they are spoken. I am
worthy of authentic and meaningful connections. I communicate my needs
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clearly and confidently. I embrace vulnerability as a strength in
my relationships. I listen actively and without judgment. I set
healthy boundaries that honor my needs and values. I am
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open and honest in my interactions with others. I attract
and cultivate supportive and respectful relationships. I trust myself to
express my true feelings and desires. I am patient and
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compassionate with myself as I grow. I deserve to be seen, heard,
and understood the who I truly am. And as you
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let those words drift through your mind and body, the
constant reminder of the transformation, you can enjoy. You can
get a sense of the beginning of a new energy,
maybe small at first, as it just begins to grow.
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Right there in the thumb on your right hand, that
energy slowly moving through your hand, out through your wrist,
your elbow, your shoulder, down the right hand side of
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your body, your hip, your knee, down into your right foot,
and all the toes on your right foot. And notice
now that energy in the thumb on your left hand,
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That energy slowly moving through all the fingers on your
left hand, out through your arm, down your shoulder, all
down the left side of your body, even down into
your legs, and all the way down to your left foot,
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and all the toes on your left foot. Notice now
that energy drifting across your head. Notice the muscles in
your forehead just telling them to relax, release that go.
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Notice the muscles around your eyes, just relaxing, letting go,
the bundles of nerves behind your eyes relaxing. Notice how
those bundles go all the way into your mind, relaxing
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even deep. Notice the muscles around your ears relaxing, releasing
the muscles inside your e that's it. Notice the muscles
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around your mouth, your jaw, relaxing, drifting open, resting, that
relaxation you have created, drifting down your chest, down to
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your stomach, even into your legs, that relaxation, that new
energy drifting through your whole body. Now, just for a moment,
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I'd like you to focus on your breathing. Just notice
the gentle rise in fall of your chest and allow
yourself to take a deeper breath all the way in
and then letting it go with a sigh, letting go
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of any tension, as if you were sat relaxing after
a long, hard day. Notice the beating of your heart,
the pulsing of the blood in your veins, the natural
rhythm of your body, and you can allow yourself to
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become more and more absorbed in the life, the energy
of you. You can notice words, notice noticing words, and
you can notice your body can relax. Your mind relaxes
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as your breathing carries on or by itself. Your mind
carries on thinking or by itself, and you can just
watch it wander away, your experience, your understanding, your awareness
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can just attach and slow down. And my voice can
be soothing, can comfort you and ease your mind as
my voice goes with you as you drift deeper deeper
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within yourself, and you can learn something new about how
you connect with others around you and how you help
yourself to be understood. And there are times you are
more understood and times you are less understood, and times
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you feel close to people and times you feel a
little more distant, and your unconscious can integrate new learning
and understanding about how you connect with people in the
unique way. And sometimes it can seem like you or
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others are speaking a different language and that you could
do with a translator, and your unconscious can act as
a translator and you may not even realize. And we
communicate on many levels, and to be understood, we have
to pick up on many levels of communication. And as
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you listen to people, you can really focus and learn
and develop with what they are communicating to know how
to put what you want to communicate in a way
that they will understand and you can understand through communication
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and discovery and learning. And when you're around someone that
spends time breathing like you, and spending times using similar
words to you and similar categories of words to you,
and spending time smiling, and yet this is so subtle
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you don't consciously notice, you can find yourself feeling deeply
emotionally connected and feeling all of your senses and emotions
lighting up with the pleasure, and you can form appropriate
emotional connections with those around you, and you can learn
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to recognize the signs that allow you to know when
to approach and when to back off. And when you
approach a wild horse, you know you are no threat,
and you know you just want to get close to them,
But if you approach too fast, or approach looking aggressive
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or threatening, the horse runs away. If you take time
and approach at the right speed, paying attention to the horse,
so that if the horse begins to show any signs
of being uncomfortable, you can slow down, and if they
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appear more comfortable, you can speed up until eventually you
reach the horse. And you know, if a horse approaches
you for food or for petting, you should feed or
pet that horse. And even horses can make the mistake
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of pushing the luck even though they have been fared
or petted. And you can learn more from this than
you realize on a conscious level. And so before you
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allow yourself to drift up completely into conscious waitful learnedness,
or maybe you might choose to drift into sleep to
let the lessons communicate at a deeper level. It might
be useful for you to utilize the opportunity now to
think about what you've experienced, the thoughts, images, understandings, and
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how you might use those things later on, from one
day to the next, because you have an unconscious mind
and you have a conscious mind, and those two minds
can learn from your experiences here today some things that
you can utilize to deal more effectively with those things
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that have been challenges for you before. So as you
continue to relax, you can see your own hand moving
across the blank page as it writes the words I
set healthy boundaries that honor my needs and values. And
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as you've finished writing those words, you can go ahead
and see yourself signing your name in your own sparkling
golden signature just underneath. And so before you continue to
drift up into conscious awareness, normal weightful awareness, or maybe
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choose to lect your mind and body drift in to sleep,
it is your privilege to use is time to become
more aware of those things you can use later on,
those learning's abilities and skills you may have overlooked before
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to give you a new view of the possibilities for
a new way of thinking and feeling and doing things.
That's right takes some time now, a brief time that
seems to be a long time to review and plan
at some level of awareness. Those things you'll do later on,
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Those things you may change later on as you begin
to use more and more of you. You can use
that time now, because in a few moments from now,
when you drift up and awaken, or maybe let your
mind and body drift in to sleep, it may be
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interesting for you to know that in that drifting, relaxed
state of mind, with thoughts drift by, my dreams, the
denter awareness for a time and drift through the mind,
while some are left behind to be utilized later on,
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and others are remembered or seem to be remembered at first,
but then become more and more distant, forgotten over time,
and the entire experience can seem so far away as
your unconscious mind protects the conscious mind, and these those
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things behind forgotten but remembered too, and time changes too. See,
you can know what a journey it's been when you
begin to know that what seemed to take a short
time turns out to in a long time, and what
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seems to be a long time, there's really no time
at all. So for now, when if you wish to
return to your normal world, you can just count from
one to five as you're awaken, Or perhaps you might
drift into a deep and relaxing sleep to let all
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the messages sink even deeper