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The Smiths are here as promised.Like I said, me and my husband
disgusted, and the Lord has beenleading us to really start this marriage podcast
right now. It's mainly going tobe video, but we do hope to
be able to get it distributed todifferent places soon. But for right now,
like I said, we're doing it'sgonna record. So we are excited
about this marriage podcast. So beforewe even jump in tonight, just introducing
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who we are while we titled themarriage podcast the way that we did and
all that. Real, go aheadand jump right into prayer. So maybe
you want to go ahead and prayus in and then we'll jump right into
it. Absolutely, let's go togotten prayer. Heavenly Father, the name
of Jesus. We just come toyou right now just telling you, thank
you God, thank you for thisMarried to Autism podcast. Lord. We
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just thank you for the vision andthe purpose that You've placed upon our lives
to you know, influence and changethe terrectory of many marriages across as the
world. God. So, FatherGod, I just thank you for the
divergent marriage that me and Brianna arein right now. I just thank you
for the challenges that we've faced before, the strengths that we've had, and
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even the strengths and the weaknesses thatwe currently have right now. So right
now, Father God, I justglorify you. We just give this to
you. We just thank you forthe purpose and the mission. And this
is truly our mission and purpose ofbeing united as husband and wife, going
on a platform like this and sharingour life testimony to others and to where
they can be influenced and they canfinally think, wow, they went through
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that. I can get through thattoo. So I just thank you God.
We just give everything to you,every podcast that we do, and
we just allow your spirit to leadus and everything that we do and saying
we love you and we honor you, and it's in Jesus' mighty name we
do pray. Amen. Amen.Yes, guys, like I said,
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welcome to married with all chism.And I know you're probably like, why
do they pick this title. Butcurrently as a lot of people know,
but some people don't know, Likemy husband has autism, right, he's
on an autism spectrum disorder. Theold turn would have been called Haasberger.
Yes, right, And so wedecided that to really bring that out a
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lot, talk about the challenges,talk about the even the good things that
we have had within our marriage,right, because we realize there are a
lot of other marriages out there likeus. Some people don't even realize that
they even may even have characteristics ofautism. And there's some wives out there
or even husbands out there, andthat may be suffering and they're thinking that
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certain things like man, why isthis person a certain way? And you
know what I mean? And it'snot even it's not even that right,
it could literally just be they wereundiagnosed. Right, So we kind of
wanted to just like I said,talk about our experiences and really and through
that prayfully be able to help heala lot of marriages and save a lot
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of marriages. But like I said, it's not even just for neurodivergent marriages,
and we're going to talk about that. This is also for neurotypical marriages
right as well, which would justbe regular regular marriages without people who are
on the autism spectrum are dealing withany type of neurological disorder. So,
like I said, we are verymuch excited about this podcast. Like I
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said, the Lord has been showingus signs and speaking to us all summer
about this, and we was like, you know what, We're just gonna
go ahead and just jump right intoit. Like I said, We'll give
you the mission, and then afterthat we're gonna talk about who we are
individually, and then we'll just kindof get into how we met and things
like that, and then next weekwe're gonna actually jump into our dating phase.
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But we're gonna set it up.Like I said, each week is
gonna like set up for the nextweek, So please be in tune for
that as well. If you knowother couples out there, or people who
desire to be married, or peoplewho are already married, even like I
said, people who may be inneuro divergent relationships, This is especially for
you. Please share, share,share, because, like I said,
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our goal is to help heal andsave a lot of marriages. That is
that is what we're here for.Okay, all right, Well, like
I said of our podcast, isto help both. And a neurodivergent individual
is an individual who may differ inmental or neurological function from what is considered
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normal or typical. Right. Sonormally these people are going to be on
the autistic spectrum, right, andthen you have those that are neurotypical.
Rights, So these are people thatare not displaying or are characterized by autism
or any other neurological disorder. Okay, So our purpose is to help,
Like I said, both both campsto be healed and be to save and
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to not go into divorce, right, because I know from what we found
out in our study, eighty percentof neuro divergent marriages and divorce and that
that's very powerful. And I knowin the beginning of our marriage it was
very hard for us to navigate becauseI'm used to thinking one way and then
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you have somebody else who thinks acompletely different way. They're not even they
don't think in the same patterns typicalpatterns that you're thinking, and so you're
like, what in the world thisis weird? You know what I mean?
And so I know if I washaving those difficulties. I know that
there's other people out there who washaving those difficulties. What about you,
baby, got anything before? Oh? Yeah, as I prayed, I'm
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glad the Lord led us to thisbecause this is our testimony and our goal
is to help heal marriages and withthe gap and communication, with how the
two partners think about each other andcommunication. Our goal, like one hundred
percent is to definitely heal those marriagesbecause we don't want another marriage to end
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a divorce to where it could beover something that is very solvable. If
it's like something big like kids ormoney, that's one thing. But you
know, we don't speak divorce onwhen anyone's marriage. But if it's you
know, something as small as likemisunderstanding of communication, then it's preventable.
So that's why we are here.We want to help those listening save their
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marriages so it doesn't end in divorceand whatever, as the Bible says,
whatever God has put together, lettingno man separate. Right. Amen.
Well, my name, like mostof y'all probably already know, but my
name is Rihanna Smith or everybody knowsme by Free. My name is Free
Smith. I'm a prophetess. I'ma wife, my husband Eric Smith.
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I'm an author, business owner,things like that. But at the end
of the day, I just liketo think of myself. It's just breef.
So yeah, you can go ahead. Yeah, So yes, my
name is Eric, her proud husbandof this lovely woman of God right here,
and I'm an upcoming pastor. Definitely. I've always been passionate about the
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Word of God and living in andunderstanding it for its context. And I
enjoy just reading and listening to Godbecause He truly influences not just my individual
life, but he being you know, my family life, like living you
know, being with her and howI can effectively cover her. So I'm
glad to be you know, onthis platform with her and just letting myself
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flow out more because like she saidat the beginning, and we'll get it.
We'll get into it more in furtherepisodes. At the beginning, I
was very closed off. I didn'twant to like, you know, share
nothing about me because I was thattype of person, right, definitely understand,
But yeah, we're just gonna jumpinto it. So prior to meeting
Eric, I did a lot ofpeople, I mean, Cardy, y'all
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know my testimony. But you know, I was out there in the streets.
I was I call it bottan andbopping right literally, And there came
a time where I was like,you know what, I'm tired of being
done dirty. I'm tired of beingabused and being mistreated and being mishandled on
relationships. And I know that Ihave a lot to bring to the table,
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have a lot to offer, andI want to be with someone who
is going to love me for me. And so with that being said,
I wanted to be with someone,like I said, who was going to
love me for me, cherish meand stuff like that. So I remember
I remember just beginning to pray toGod and It's like, God, you
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know, I'm ready, Like sendme my husband, right in my mind.
I always love to say that.In my mind, I was always
like, Lord, send me myhusband. I'm ready, right. And
at the time though, I reallykind of wasn't. I mean, really,
looking back on it, I reallywasn't ready. I would say more
emotionally on that aspect, but that'sfor a different podcast. I think that's
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episode three. We're going to talkabout that. But from the perspective where
I was at, I was likelisten, I'm fed up. I'm ready
to settle down. I don't wantto play no games. I'm just ready
to be with who I'm supposed tobeak with. And at that time,
I had all these like factors andwhat I wanted, and finally I remember
looking at God and speaking to God. I was like, you know what,
God, I just want a godlyman who's gonna love me for me.
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Right, I'm a lower I'm gonnabring down my standards and I ain't
gonna lie has some very high standards, very very high standards, and I
just kind of lowered my list toactual things that I wanted, like characteristics
that I wanted to see in aman, and long and behold, my
husband right ends up fitting a lotof those characteristics. And so yeah,
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that's that's pretty much that piece.I'm gonna let Eric talk about how his
prior dating experience was before he metme, and it will kind of jump
into the year when our pasts collided. Yeah, I'll go ahead and expound
on that as well. My pastdating experience. I'm just gonna let everybody
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know I really wasn't the type ofperson to be chosen for dates or had
any luck on dates. I wasthat type of person that you know,
when it came to especially in highschool, when it came to like homecoming
and prom I didn't go because itwas typically thought of as you go with
a date, and I didn't go. I didn't have any of that,
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you know, type of experience andlove and behold. I was about twenty
seven, yeah, about six twentyseven when I first started dating. I
tried different dating sites, like threedifferent ones, went on dates with two
different There was like three different womenor the two before it was only dated
the first one. I didn't dateher, but just going out on dates,
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getting the feel like what they wereand stuff, because you know,
dating was it was just new tome. Whereas like most of my peers,
they've had that experience and sometimes theyhad way they went way too far
into the experience with that. I'mjust saving that for another time too.
But as for me, as forme and before I was with my wife,
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I was in it. It wasa very short relationship and I met,
you know, another young lady ona website, a different dating website,
and I wanted to settle down atthe time too, being at twenty
seven, but we weren't ready,Like I wasn't ready mentally and physically and
emotionally, and she definitely wasn't either. It was just a lot of immaturity
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at the time. And I'm gladthat that relationship didn't go any further and
that four month period level and beholdwhen I was hurting from that, and
that's when Rihanna came on the scene. And it took like it took me
a while to warm up to it, but I eventually did, and ever
since then, I never looked backon, you know, being with her,
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because I knew she was the personthat I needed, always asked for
a woman that definitely a woman ofGod, definitely a woman of her character,
and definitely a woman who values andrespects me. And she definitely fits
the mold on that values me,respects me, woman of God, you
know, has my best inswers atheart, because that's what I was seeking
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for the whole time. And Inever wanted to be used, and that's
why I had to be so protectedwith myself in the past. But you
know, she definitely has my bestbest interest in heart and I can't thank
you enough for that. Baby.Yeah, no problem. So I know
the year that we met. So, like Eric said, Eric was in
a relationship at the beginning part ofthat year. I remember, I think
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I ended up moving out here tobe a Actually it's so crazy. I
moved out here as a hold it. Sorry, but I moved out here
October thirty first, twenty seventeen.That was Woh. The devil fought me
so hard from being out here,y'all. I'm telling y'all, that's,
like I said, it's another storyfor another day. I have to tell
y'all all the craziness that went downwith that. But fast forward, I
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think it was like March. Idon't know if it was like late February
early March, but I had wentto this women's conference in North Carolina and
one of my good friends I thinkit was called the Birthing Place or or
something. It was something like that, some with birth in it. And
I had went and I've seen oneof these like a prominent prophet that I
follow. I still follow her ministryto this day. And I remember I
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was standing in her book line andI was all excited gun hole to meet
her, and she ended up autographingmy book and she ended up prophesying to
me, and she said, theLord is same marriage for you. Now
you can mind you. I've nevermet this lady in my life. I've
only seen on the internet. Shegets profited words on in it, but
I'm actually like in her face andshe's actually giving me a word, and
she's like, you have the Lordof seeing marriage for you and your husband.
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He's a pastor and he's being broughtup in the church now and you're
gonna meet him before the years outright. So I'm like at this point,
like I got a lot. I'ma little spooked, right because I'm
like shaken to my core, butI'm excited because I'm like, oh,
yes, finally, like I'm gonnabe in a relationship with somebody I'm gonna
be able to do ministry with.We're gonna because at the you know,
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I'm all excited about ministry. I'mnew to ministry. I don't really understand
protocol and all that all I knewwas I was I was in love with
Jesus and I was just gonna gowith whatever Jesus want me to do.
And so after that, the wholenight I could not sleep. I literally
couldn't sleep because that's all I keptthinking about anyways, when I got back
home back to Virginia because that conferenceis in North Carolina, thinking think,
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yeah, it was in Greensboro.Drove back to Virginia a couple months later.
My pastor, my old pastor atthe time. I was in her
house in her study, and Iremember we were just having a conversation and
she was checking in on me andshe ended up seeing just ended up out
of nowhere, and she was like, yeah, the Lord is saying you
can date and it's okay that youthat you're dating online. And I was
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like and at that point, I'mlike, oh my god, I'm like,
Jesus, you are steeling my team, Like why are you telling this
woman online? Right? And sothe Lord was like, yeah, that's
fine. You just have to makesure that he's a god man. And
so at that particular moment in time, and I was just like okay.
But then she also told me too, like, hey, you need to
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forgive your father, because I wasstill dealing with a lot of daddy issues
and a lot of daddy hurt andso at that moment in time, she
was like, she challenged me.She's like, you don't have to write
She's like, I know you've beentrying to speak to your dad for years
about how he's hurt you and allthis stuff, but you're going to write
him a letter and you want haveto send him the mail and mail at
all. And it's not for him, it's for you because you need to
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free yourself because of where God isgetting ready to take you to. And
I suggest anybody who is who isin that particular phase right, no matter
if it's daddy issues or any typeof mail issue, or even if you
have mother issues or whatever it maybe, that you really forgive right,
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that you let that go because youdon't want that to be the thing that
is holding you back from your nextAnd I'm telling y'all, after I wrote
that letter and I'll put everything inthere, you know what I mean,
But you're a chi out of God. I ain't gonna lie. I did
and put it in the letter,right, and I put it in the
mailbox. But it was like Ifelt free. It was like the weight,
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like whatever it was on me foryears, that oppression that I've been
feeling for years ended up just liftingoff of me. Shortly after that,
I was on Facebook. And it'sso funny because we're gonna talk about this.
I was on Facebook and I happenedto see this this married couple called
Natasha and Jamal Miller. Yes,and they had this thing called One the
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One University. I will never forgetthat the One University. And I ain't
gonna lie had paid membership for thatfor a little bit because I'm like,
Okay, I want to get preparedfor my husband, you know what I
mean. At that time, I'mtrying to read books on marrior, I'm
trying to read books on you know, celibacy, I'm trying to read books
on everything, right, And soI'm doing all that, and they had
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this thing called Pray for your FutureSpouts Challenge, right, and and something
just said, yeah, do thischallenge. Well I knew it was the
Lord, but the Lord ended upsaying do this challenge, and so I
was like, okay, I'm gonnabe the child, right. So I
ended up doing a challenge. Okay, long to beho, I didn't really
And this is where Eric's gonna comein to talk about his part of the
story, because he had a propheticword that year and he ended up being
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the same Pray for my Future SpouseChallenge so just imagine if we would have
met each other in that group,but we didn't because Eric's more shod,
so he wouldn't need to be moreslick like it needed to be more intimate
and more private for us to speakbecause he I don't think he would have
said anything to me in no group. He would have been lying. Girl,
I know you, but I'm gonnalet him tell his side of the
story. Yeah. Like my wifespoke, I also had a prophetic word
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about being prepared for marriage. Andas she spoke, I was brought up
in the church like I was raisedin the church all my life, and
that's why I began my journey withJesus Christ and learning who he is and
learning his ways. And at thetime, I was with the men's ministry
of my home church. At thetime, I was with the men's ministry,
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and I decided, you know,it's time for me to you know,
join them because I was at thatcrossroads of learning about more about manhood
and how to you know, bea husband. And I knew I was,
you know, and there was nodivine time and this is a guy's
divine timing that I was, youknow, becoming an adult like about to
grow, you know, grow upmore, leave the nest. One of
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my older mentors I know in themsince about the fourth to the sixth grade.
He was. He was part ofthe men's ministry at the time too.
He just spoke to me one timeand he just said, hey,
guys, like getting you ready formarriage? And when I thought about that,
I'm like getting ready for marriage.And I was just thinking about myself,
like am I really ready for marriage? And a lot of things you
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have thoughts of, Oh, amI really ready for marriage? And it
was a process I was thinking andlike, am I really ready for marriage?
Or am I like gonna be withthe right person? And all that?
Yes, and those are I can'tthank God enough for those group of
guys, older men who have beenmarried first some years and seen the ups
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and downs of marriage. And Ineeded to be with that group. And
we did mens retreats as well,and lo and behold, yes, that
same you know, that was likeMarch when I got that prophetic word,
and I think it was about thesame time you know you got yours too.
I didn't think about it until now. Oh yeah, God God worked
out something good. I'm telling you. That was a Divine Vine. It
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was to talk to him about LikeI said, you were in the group
too, Yes, I was alsoin the Pray for Future Spouse Challenge.
One of my friends introduced me toit and told me you should have gone
this Prayerature Spouse challenge. And atthe time, I didn't think nohing of
it. Like to be honest withyou, I didn't think nothing of it.
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I didn't think I was going tofind a future spouse and that challenge
like Pray for your Future Spouse Challenge, And I did it because you know,
God led me to it. Andonce I was doing that for a
while, I just thought. Ithink it was like a week later after
that challenge because of jusually at theend of August and it goes, yeah
into August, and it's a it'sa week week long challenge, and it
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was about yea, we were talkingdoing that same time, were we?
I think we were like, Ithink, yeah, we were. Yeah,
we started talking like the twentieth Yeah, it was like it was like
the end of August. It wasAugust. We started talking, but we
didn't start talking on the Future SpouseChallenge all like we didn't even know each
other was in the child. No, we didn't, not at all.
Afterwards, we actually matched on mastYes, And I was always traveling on
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the road. I used to workfor a corporation and so I was always
on the road doing remodels and newstore setups and things like that. So
it was really hard for me todate because I was never here. So
it was like the only way forme to like date and meet anybody was
online. And at the time Iain't gonna I was talking to a lot
of people people. But you knowwhat I will say, probably about probably
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towards the end of all early September, when we were talking, the Lord
ended up telling me he told mefirst before you told my husband. But
he said that that's he said,Eric's the man that I chosen for you.
And so everybody, and like Itell everybody all the time because everybody's
like, ooh, this is afeeling. It's like, nah, it
was not a feeling. Like theLord literally said, that's your husband,
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that's the man I chose for you. And once he said that for me,
once he said that to me,I dropped everybody else. Everybody else
I had planned to go on Daytwin and talk to and all that,
like I was like, no,the Lord said this to my husband's gonna
be so I'm just gonna have towork it out with him now. Of
course, like I said, Ididn't go and tell him right away,
like you my husband, that's gonnahappen. Like, no, I don't
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suggest doing that. I think youneed to be able to watch the fruit
of somebody's life, you know whatI mean, And just because God may
tell you something, he might notbe your husband for ten years down the
road because maybe he got to worksome stuff out, you know what I
mean, or vice versa if youa man, and you know what I
mean, like allow a person's lifeand the fruit of their life to show
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you that. So I definitely tellpeople you need to watch people's character because
people will change on you in aheartbeat. Okay, yeah, you know
we do rod talk over here,but he told me that about my husband,
and like I said, I wouldjust rock with him ever since.
And that just kind of goes backto divine timing. We kind of wanted
to talk a little bit about thattonight before we ended, because next week
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we're gonna jump right into our actuallike dating thing, so that'll be fun.
But yeah, like I said,just waiting on the God's divine timing,
waiting on him because I think alot of people, like I said,
we want to rush the gun.We want to jump out there and
we want to make stuff happen.You want to say stuff right like that's
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my husband, that's my wife.But I'm like, did God say that?
Or is that because you're feeling somethingand you just automatically assume. And
that's what gets us in trouble alot of times. And that's why a
lot of people, I said,our divorce is because they're not waiting on
God to tell them who their spouseis. They're just saying, ooh,
I like this person, I feelsomething, I feel something for them to
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let me just jump in this thingwith them. And then it's like,
oh man, you getting this relationshipwith them and find out we don't even
clicks. And so it is veryimportant that you learn to wait on the
timing of God, right because too, you got to understand that God is
developed, not only just developing you, they're developing that other person. Like
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I tell my husband all the time, I'm like, man, I'm glad
we didn't meet in my early twenties, Like I wasn't ready. This was
out there doing her thing. Iwas with my best life. That's how
I like to put it out.I was out there club and drink and
smoking sex and I was doing itall. I don't care. And Eric,
you see, look, he waslike, listen, I'm saving myself
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and I'm not doing that and thattype of stuff. And you know what
I mean, Like completely, Iwasn't ready, but I was ready towards
towards my late twenties. I waslike, all right, I'm ready to
settle down now, So you haveto wait on the timing, the divine
timing of God. Baby, yougot anything you want to say? Yes,
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I just also want to add I'mglad that we It was the divine
timing of God, and the divinetiming really helped us, you know,
grow to this point now. Andlike she said, I know if it
was me, if we would havemet at our early twenties, she would
have turned me away real quick,and I would have turned away from him
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because he would have not been mytype. I like, yeah, you
would have just wrote me off realquick. And I know for me,
the divine timing when she talk aboutthe satan yourself from marriage, like I'm
not gonna lie. Come, youknow, this is be another story too,
Like it was hard to like resistthe temptation on a college campus because
you're on a college campus. You'relike, oh, yeah, I want
to do this, I want todo that, or be with this girl,
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be with that girl. But Iknew I had to, you know,
during that time in college, Ihad to, you know, make
sure that I was you know,not just pure, but also that a
you don't need to go down thatroad yet and the bond. Tim and
I have a few scriptures I wantto I want to share as well before
we close the night. Yes,and I know this is a King James
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version, but it's it really getsto the point. So Proverbs sixteen,
verse nine says, a man's heartdevisedes his way, but the Lord directed
his steps in our case, likeLord directed our steps to marriage to each
other. And I also want toread Ecclesiastics three to one, which,
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yeah, the beauty of it helpme. Ecclesiastics three one goes. I
know it says time and place foreverything, the famous chapter Ecclesiastic three one.
You just find it in here.This is how we used to do
when we had Bibles. Yeah,look look at bad Yeah, let's take
it back gold School here right herethere, you go help me. Yeah,
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that Ecclesiastics three one says to everythingthere is a season and a time
to every purpose under the heaven,and that that was definitely our purpose and
time like for us to collide togetherand finally, you know, be mature
and say, you know what,we need to settle down because I know
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for me, I was, Iwas. You know, I'm a big
family person. I care for family, and I think me caring for family
when I was underneath my my momand dad group. It's really going to
help me, like when we doraise the family of our own and Jeremiah
twenty eleven. We all know thisscripture. I can just paraphrase it.
Oh we're almost there, yep,twenty nine eleven. Yep, one more
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page. We got twenty nine eleven. For I know the thoughts that I
think towards you, Saith the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil
to give you and an expected andoh, God like already had the plans
for us, like even before wegot married, before we knew each other,
He planned this podcast out and thiswhole married with the autism out and
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our whole lives. He planned outeverything because he thought, you know what,
I have a great you know,destiny for Eric and Breonna, that
this man and this woman of God, they're going to do great works.
And when God looked down from heaven, He's like, see them have plans
for them, and that God hadhis proud dad, no smiling, no
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damn on heaven. So I justwanted to share that with you. I'm
selling in all with the Father andmaking them proud. It's the best feeling,
hey man. And I just wantto shout out to Chanel and Prophet
Keisha. Hey love you guys.Thanks for joining tonight. But yeah,
and I really believe this is theexpected end. And I know it's probably
so weird, like y'all just beginningand we are beginning our marriage, but
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I believe that this was the reasonfor part of the reason for our marriage
was for this, and we hadto go through a lot of stuff because
you're gonna be like, hi,y'all go through that much stuff getting of
y'all marriage, right, You're onlytwo years then, But we did right,
but we needed to right in orderto truly be to be solidified and
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not only each other, but toreally truly be solidified and grunted in Christ,
because really it's Christ that kept ustogether through it all. Like the
scripture said, I can't think ofit right now, but the three for
the core can't be sure, yes, cannot be easily broken. And so
when you remember to keep Christ atthe center of your marriage, right,
because there's another reason why a lotof marriage is fairs, because they're not
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built upon that foundation, that solidfoundation. Like I said, a lot
of people are just getting married because, oh that person look good, that
person got a lot of money,that person could get me somewhere, status,
all kinds of reasons why people getmarried to people, and they're not
marrying people for the right reason.Right. When you get married, you
want to marry because you want tobe in the will of God. And
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God is going to use your marriageas ministry. Right. Your family is
your first ministry. Right, Yourmarriage is a ministry right, and it
should be a testimony. Your marriageshould be a reflection of how Christ is
with the Church, because the Churchis the broad of Christ. And so
when we begin to look at thatparallel, right, and how God doesn't
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how Jesus don't just throw away thebride. Even though I know it sounds
he probably be like Lord Jesus Iknow said about it. I'm like,
man, I need to hear menpeople. But you know what, he
loves us, right, and he'salone suffering with us, right, And
so we just have to get backto that place and just getting back to
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that. But like I said,we just wanted to give you guys an
introduction tonight. Podcasts are probably gonnabe anywhere between thirty forty five minutes something
like that each night, just orhowever the Holy Spirit leads us to do.
And then, like I said,it will kind of be a progression,
and then eventually we'll probably like ifpeople have questions, you guys can
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definitely spent questions, will definitely answeranything. If you guys have any type
of topics excuse me that you wantto hear particularly about, definitely do that.
We'll also come up with other topicsas time goes on. We have
quite a few topics that I'm justsaying because sometimes people might be like,
ooh, you guys are helping meout a lot, So we want to
make sure that this is for you. It's not just for us. To
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really legitimately to help others. Soanyways, that was tonight. Join us
again next week for episode two.Like I said, that's called the dating
phase. We're going to talk aboutour dating phase, right and so that'll
be fun and then keep going.Guys, all right, well, we're
gonna go ahead and close it outin prayer and then like I said,
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until next week, So you guysokay, all right, Father God,
but just want to say thank youfor allowing us to be on here tonight
with you, Father God. Thankyou for allowing us to just be able
to share our testimony with other peopleout there in the world who may be
other couples who may be like us, who maybe going through things like we
did, or are going through things, Father God, or about to go
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through things, Father God, andeven couples who may not be neuro divergent,
but our neurotypical couples. Father God. We want to pray for all
marriages right now, Father God,that you strengthen the bonds of marriage,
Father God, and we pray restorationinto marriages right now, God, in
the name of Jesus, that youwill touch them, God, touch them,
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even touch the wounds, Father God. The words that have been spoken
God, that may have been breakingthem apart God, the lack of communication
God, the lack of intimacy andmarriages everything, the financial situation, Father
God, debt, whatever has beencalling people to go at each other's throats,
Father God and not truly be aone Father God, Father God.
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We pray right now that you willbe, that you will come in God.
You will come in God with theHoly Ghost, follow God and begin
to restore God and begin to renewand begin to build something new, Father
God. Father God. Allows themto be built upon a firm foundation.
Allow them to be built upon thechief quarterstone, which is you Lord,
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in the name of Jesus, FatherGod, we asked more love and more
passion go back into their marriage likenever before. And even people who have
goodness marriages, Father God even askfor more love and passion to be set
on fire. Father God. Allowpeople to have date nights with their partner.
Father God, Allow them to justhave at least one day out the
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week or one day after month wherethey will potentially date their partner God and
do something, whether they got toget away, whether they go out to
dinner, whether they decide that they'regoing to go bowling and just be kids
again, Father God, but allowthem to do something together as a couple
to solidify them. God, inthe name of Jesus and Father God,
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we even pray over the bedroom.God, we pray the intimacy, that
the passion, that the love willbe their God. In the bedroom.
God, in the name of Jesus, you said that the bedroom is undefouled.
God in the name of Jesus.So, Father God, we pray
over the marriage band right now,Yes, God, sorry, the marriage
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band. We pray of the marriageband right now in the name of Jesus,
that it will be underfouled, thatthere will be no other lovers God
in it, Father God, therewon't be any adultree. Right now.
We come against the spirit of adulttree right now in marriages any you said,
even if a man looks at anotherwoman a thanks about another woman.
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God, you said that he's alreadycommitted adultree in his heart, followed God.
So, Father God, we evencome against the thoughts of adultree,
Father God, we even come againstpornography right now in the marriage bed.
God, in the name of Jesus, we come against that. God.
We bind that up, We shutthat down right now. In the name
of Jesus, Glory to God.Hallelujah, Father God, Father God,
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we come against that argumentative spirit rightnow in the name of Jesus. Yes,
Lord, we come against the argumentativespirit right now. In the name
of Jesus. We bind that thingup. We curse it at the roof,
and we send it back down tothe depths of Hella which have belongs.
Father, hallelujah. Glory to God. Thank your Father God, Thank
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you, Father God. Thank youfor the shifting in the marriages. Thank
you God, Thank you for theshifting in the marriages. Father God.
We even pray over wives being submissiveto their husband's God in the name of
Jesus God, hallelujah. I includemyself in that prayer. Lord, in
the name of Jesus, God,hallelujah, teaches how to be submissive Lived
God. Teach husbands how to lovetheir wives like Christ does the Church.
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God, in the name of JesusGod, hallelujah. Bring it back,
Bring it back, Bring marriages backinto how it's supposed to be in alignment
with the scripture. Lord, inthe name of Jesus, Glory to God.
We worship you, God, Wehonor you, Lord. In the
name of Jesus. You alone areworthy. You alone are worthy to be
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praised God. So we just wantto say thank your God and Father God.
Every weapon, every weapon that isformed against the marriages. Right now,
Father God, we pray it adissolve. It is now shapeless,
It is now cursed up a root. Now come down down. We either
come against the assignments that attack people'smarriage the finances in their marriage. God,
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because we know that that a lotof times will cause argument and friction
in the house Old God. Inthe name of Jesus, Father God,
we ask for restoration of finances rightGod. We ask for det solution right
now and bearage just God, inthe name of Jesus. We even pray
over the kids God, because hewas kids are going crazy God, and
they don't know what to do.God in the name of Jesus. But
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Father God, we bring order orin the house the name Yes for me
and my house, we serve theLord Jesus. Call the Lord God,
bring it back, Bring the wholefamily back into our alignment. Lord in
the name of Jesus, pull thesnacks the kids out the fire. God
in the name of Jesus, GloryGod, how that Loah? God.
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Oh yeah, God. Even thekids to stat there in the streets.
God, the kids that want tobe hot, God, they want to
have sex. God, they wantto sit there and deal drugs. God.
Yeah, we speaking to you.We calling you back into the household.
You will not continue to call yourmother and father pain. In the
name of Jesus. You will comeoff of that. You won't get out
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of that. In the name ofJesus. We decreed the cloud that it
is so, in the name ofJesus. Lord Razl go call y'all Jesus,
and we come against every weapon thatis the enemy is trying to form
right now, in the name ofJesus. Right now, I pray and
cover me and my husband with theblood of Jesus. Enemy, you will
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not have our marriage. In thename of Jesus, hallelujah. Nothing nothing,
nothing will come against our marriage.In the name of Jesus, hallelujah.
We cancel every assignment right now,and we send it back down to
the depths of Hell in which inbelong you are no longer activated. In
the name of Jesus, we comeagainst the witchcraft right now, I see
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you, which right now the nameof Jesus. We curse you at the
room right now, in the nameof Jesus. Glory to God, returned
us under everything you are sitting thereright now in the name Jesus. How
lay lou your glory to God.Thank your Father, Thank your Father.
Ooo. God, thank you Jesus. Right now in the name of Jesus.
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We thank you, We thank youGod, Father, God. We
asked for your shaloon peace to covereverybody on this evening. We asked that
everybody have a peaceful rest. God, peaceful rest, give them joy,
give them unthinkable joy. Father OooGod, thank you Lord, Thank you
Lord, Thank you Lord, Thankyour Lord. We just glorify you.
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Oo God, Thank you God,Thank you God, Thank you oooh Lord,
thank you. This is Jesus' namethat we pray. Amen. Amen,
Amen, Amen, Lady, Gloryto God. Out get ed.
We will be doing this again,all right, Gods the next time.
Love y'all. Bobby. Thank youguys for listening to another episode of Married
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with Autism. We would love tohear from you regarding certain topics that you
would like to see addressed. Lifechange your testimonies. You would like to
share or information on how you canbecome against on the show. Please email
us at info at married with Autismdot com. As always, we love
you all with the love of Christ. Remember to keep Christ's first in all
that you do, including your marriage, and watch the Lord begins to transform
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The Smiths are here as promised.Like I said, me and my husband
disgusted, and the Lord has beenleading us to really start this marriage podcast
right now. It's mainly going tobe video, but we do hope to
be able to get it distributed todifferent places soon. But for right now,
like I said, we're doing it'sgonna record. So we are excited
about this marriage podcast. So beforewe even jump in tonight, just introducing
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who we are while we titled themarriage podcast the way that we did and
all that. Real, go aheadand jump right into prayer. So maybe
you want to go ahead and prayus in and then we'll jump right into
it. Absolutely, let's go togotten prayer. Heavenly Father, the name
of Jesus. We just come toyou right now just telling you, thank
you God, thank you for thisMarried to Autism podcast. Lord. We
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just thank you for the vision andthe purpose that You've placed upon our lives
to you know, influence and changethe terrectory of many marriages across as the
world. God. So, FatherGod, I just thank you for the
divergent marriage that me and Brianna arein right now. I just thank you
for the challenges that we've faced before, the strengths that we've had, and
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even the strengths and the weaknesses thatwe currently have right now. So right
now, Father God, I justglorify you. We just give this to
you. We just thank you forthe purpose and the mission. And this
is truly our mission and purpose ofbeing united as husband and wife, going
on a platform like this and sharingour life testimony to others and to where
they can be influenced and they canfinally think, wow, they went through
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that. I can get through thattoo. So I just thank you God.
We just give everything to you,every podcast that we do, and
we just allow your spirit to leadus and everything that we do and saying
we love you and we honor you, and it's in Jesus' mighty name we
do pray. Amen. Amen.Yes, guys, like I said,
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welcome to married with all chism.And I know you're probably like, why
do they pick this title. Butcurrently as a lot of people know,
but some people don't know, Likemy husband has autism, right, he's
on an autism spectrum disorder. Theold turn would have been called Haasberger.
Yes, right, And so wedecided that to really bring that out a
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lot, talk about the challenges,talk about the even the good things that
we have had within our marriage,right, because we realize there are a
lot of other marriages out there likeus. Some people don't even realize that
they even may even have characteristics ofautism. And there's some wives out there
or even husbands out there, andthat may be suffering and they're thinking that
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certain things like man, why isthis person a certain way? And you
know what I mean? And it'snot even it's not even that right,
it could literally just be they wereundiagnosed. Right, So we kind of
wanted to just like I said,talk about our experiences and really and through
that prayfully be able to help heala lot of marriages and save a lot
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of marriages. But like I said, it's not even just for neurodivergent marriages,
and we're going to talk about that. This is also for neurotypical marriages
right as well, which would justbe regular regular marriages without people who are
on the autism spectrum are dealing withany type of neurological disorder. So,
like I said, we are verymuch excited about this podcast. Like I
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said, the Lord has been showingus signs and speaking to us all summer
about this, and we was like, you know what, We're just gonna
go ahead and just jump right intoit. Like I said, We'll give
you the mission, and then afterthat we're gonna talk about who we are
individually, and then we'll just kindof get into how we met and things
like that, and then next weekwe're gonna actually jump into our dating phase.
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But we're gonna set it up.Like I said, each week is
gonna like set up for the nextweek, So please be in tune for
that as well. If you knowother couples out there, or people who
desire to be married, or peoplewho are already married, even like I
said, people who may be inneuro divergent relationships, This is especially for
you. Please share, share,share, because, like I said,
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our goal is to help heal andsave a lot of marriages. That is
that is what we're here for.Okay, all right, Well, like
I said of our podcast, isto help both. And a neurodivergent individual
is an individual who may differ inmental or neurological function from what is considered
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normal or typical. Right. Sonormally these people are going to be on
the autistic spectrum, right, andthen you have those that are neurotypical.
Rights, So these are people thatare not displaying or are characterized by autism
or any other neurological disorder. Okay, So our purpose is to help,
Like I said, both both campsto be healed and be to save and
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to not go into divorce, right, because I know from what we found
out in our study, eighty percentof neuro divergent marriages and divorce and that
that's very powerful. And I knowin the beginning of our marriage it was
very hard for us to navigate becauseI'm used to thinking one way and then
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you have somebody else who thinks acompletely different way. They're not even they
don't think in the same patterns typicalpatterns that you're thinking, and so you're
like, what in the world thisis weird? You know what I mean?
And so I know if I washaving those difficulties. I know that
there's other people out there who washaving those difficulties. What about you,
baby, got anything before? Oh? Yeah, as I prayed, I'm
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glad the Lord led us to thisbecause this is our testimony and our goal
is to help heal marriages and withthe gap and communication, with how the
two partners think about each other andcommunication. Our goal, like one hundred
percent is to definitely heal those marriagesbecause we don't want another marriage to end
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a divorce to where it could beover something that is very solvable. If
it's like something big like kids ormoney, that's one thing. But you
know, we don't speak divorce onwhen anyone's marriage. But if it's you
know, something as small as likemisunderstanding of communication, then it's preventable.
So that's why we are here.We want to help those listening save their
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marriages so it doesn't end in divorceand whatever, as the Bible says,
whatever God has put together, lettingno man separate. Right. Amen.
Well, my name, like mostof y'all probably already know, but my
name is Rihanna Smith or everybody knowsme by Free. My name is Free
Smith. I'm a prophetess. I'ma wife, my husband Eric Smith.
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I'm an author, business owner,things like that. But at the end
of the day, I just liketo think of myself. It's just breef.
So yeah, you can go ahead. Yeah, So yes, my
name is Eric, her proud husbandof this lovely woman of God right here,
and I'm an upcoming pastor. Definitely. I've always been passionate about the
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Word of God and living in andunderstanding it for its context. And I
enjoy just reading and listening to Godbecause He truly influences not just my individual
life, but he being you know, my family life, like living you
know, being with her and howI can effectively cover her. So I'm
glad to be you know, onthis platform with her and just letting myself
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flow out more because like she saidat the beginning, and we'll get it.
We'll get into it more in furtherepisodes. At the beginning, I
was very closed off. I didn'twant to like, you know, share
nothing about me because I was thattype of person, right, definitely understand,
But yeah, we're just gonna jumpinto it. So prior to meeting
Eric, I did a lot ofpeople, I mean, Cardy, y'all
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know my testimony. But you know, I was out there in the streets.
I was I call it bottan andbopping right literally, And there came
a time where I was like,you know what, I'm tired of being
done dirty. I'm tired of beingabused and being mistreated and being mishandled on
relationships. And I know that Ihave a lot to bring to the table,
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have a lot to offer, andI want to be with someone who
is going to love me for me. And so with that being said,
I wanted to be with someone,like I said, who was going to
love me for me, cherish meand stuff like that. So I remember
I remember just beginning to pray toGod and It's like, God, you
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know, I'm ready, Like sendme my husband, right in my mind.
I always love to say that.In my mind, I was always
like, Lord, send me myhusband. I'm ready, right. And
at the time though, I reallykind of wasn't. I mean, really,
looking back on it, I reallywasn't ready. I would say more
emotionally on that aspect, but that'sfor a different podcast. I think that's
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episode three. We're going to talkabout that. But from the perspective where
I was at, I was likelisten, I'm fed up. I'm ready
to settle down. I don't wantto play no games. I'm just ready
to be with who I'm supposed tobeak with. And at that time,
I had all these like factors andwhat I wanted, and finally I remember
looking at God and speaking to God. I was like, you know what,
God, I just want a godlyman who's gonna love me for me.
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Right, I'm a lower I'm gonnabring down my standards and I ain't
gonna lie has some very high standards, very very high standards, and I
just kind of lowered my list toactual things that I wanted, like characteristics
that I wanted to see in aman, and long and behold, my
husband right ends up fitting a lotof those characteristics. And so yeah,
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that's that's pretty much that piece.I'm gonna let Eric talk about how his
prior dating experience was before he metme, and it will kind of jump
into the year when our pasts collided. Yeah, I'll go ahead and expound
on that as well. My pastdating experience. I'm just gonna let everybody
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know I really wasn't the type ofperson to be chosen for dates or had
any luck on dates. I wasthat type of person that you know,
when it came to especially in highschool, when it came to like homecoming
and prom I didn't go because itwas typically thought of as you go with
a date, and I didn't go. I didn't have any of that,
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you know, type of experience andlove and behold. I was about twenty
seven, yeah, about six twentyseven when I first started dating. I
tried different dating sites, like threedifferent ones, went on dates with two
different There was like three different womenor the two before it was only dated
the first one. I didn't dateher, but just going out on dates,
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getting the feel like what they wereand stuff, because you know,
dating was it was just new tome. Whereas like most of my peers,
they've had that experience and sometimes theyhad way they went way too far
into the experience with that. I'mjust saving that for another time too.
But as for me, as forme and before I was with my wife,
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I was in it. It wasa very short relationship and I met,
you know, another young lady ona website, a different dating website,
and I wanted to settle down atthe time too, being at twenty
seven, but we weren't ready,Like I wasn't ready mentally and physically and
emotionally, and she definitely wasn't either. It was just a lot of immaturity
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at the time. And I'm gladthat that relationship didn't go any further and
that four month period level and beholdwhen I was hurting from that, and
that's when Rihanna came on the scene. And it took like it took me
a while to warm up to it, but I eventually did, and ever
since then, I never looked backon, you know, being with her,
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because I knew she was the personthat I needed, always asked for
a woman that definitely a woman ofGod, definitely a woman of her character,
and definitely a woman who values andrespects me. And she definitely fits
the mold on that values me,respects me, woman of God, you
know, has my best inswers atheart, because that's what I was seeking
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for the whole time. And Inever wanted to be used, and that's
why I had to be so protectedwith myself in the past. But you
know, she definitely has my bestbest interest in heart and I can't thank
you enough for that. Baby.Yeah, no problem. So I know
the year that we met. So, like Eric said, Eric was in
a relationship at the beginning part ofthat year. I remember, I think
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I ended up moving out here tobe a Actually it's so crazy. I
moved out here as a hold it. Sorry, but I moved out here
October thirty first, twenty seventeen.That was Woh. The devil fought me
so hard from being out here,y'all. I'm telling y'all, that's,
like I said, it's another storyfor another day. I have to tell
y'all all the craziness that went downwith that. But fast forward, I
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think it was like March. Idon't know if it was like late February
early March, but I had wentto this women's conference in North Carolina and
one of my good friends I thinkit was called the Birthing Place or or
something. It was something like that, some with birth in it. And
I had went and I've seen oneof these like a prominent prophet that I
follow. I still follow her ministryto this day. And I remember I
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was standing in her book line andI was all excited gun hole to meet
her, and she ended up autographingmy book and she ended up prophesying to
me, and she said, theLord is same marriage for you. Now
you can mind you. I've nevermet this lady in my life. I've
only seen on the internet. Shegets profited words on in it, but
I'm actually like in her face andshe's actually giving me a word, and
she's like, you have the Lordof seeing marriage for you and your husband.
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He's a pastor and he's being broughtup in the church now and you're
gonna meet him before the years outright. So I'm like at this point,
like I got a lot. I'ma little spooked, right because I'm
like shaken to my core, butI'm excited because I'm like, oh,
yes, finally, like I'm gonnabe in a relationship with somebody I'm gonna
be able to do ministry with.We're gonna because at the you know,
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I'm all excited about ministry. I'mnew to ministry. I don't really understand
protocol and all that all I knewwas I was I was in love with
Jesus and I was just gonna gowith whatever Jesus want me to do.
And so after that, the wholenight I could not sleep. I literally
couldn't sleep because that's all I keptthinking about anyways, when I got back
home back to Virginia because that conferenceis in North Carolina, thinking think,
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yeah, it was in Greensboro.Drove back to Virginia a couple months later.
My pastor, my old pastor atthe time. I was in her
house in her study, and Iremember we were just having a conversation and
she was checking in on me andshe ended up seeing just ended up out
of nowhere, and she was like, yeah, the Lord is saying you
can date and it's okay that youthat you're dating online. And I was
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like and at that point, I'mlike, oh my god, I'm like,
Jesus, you are steeling my team, Like why are you telling this
woman online? Right? And sothe Lord was like, yeah, that's
fine. You just have to makesure that he's a god man. And
so at that particular moment in time, and I was just like okay.
But then she also told me too, like, hey, you need to
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forgive your father, because I wasstill dealing with a lot of daddy issues
and a lot of daddy hurt andso at that moment in time, she
was like, she challenged me.She's like, you don't have to write
She's like, I know you've beentrying to speak to your dad for years
about how he's hurt you and allthis stuff, but you're going to write
him a letter and you want haveto send him the mail and mail at
all. And it's not for him, it's for you because you need to
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free yourself because of where God isgetting ready to take you to. And
I suggest anybody who is who isin that particular phase right, no matter
if it's daddy issues or any typeof mail issue, or even if you
have mother issues or whatever it maybe, that you really forgive right,
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that you let that go because youdon't want that to be the thing that
is holding you back from your nextAnd I'm telling y'all, after I wrote
that letter and I'll put everything inthere, you know what I mean,
But you're a chi out of God. I ain't gonna lie. I did
and put it in the letter,right, and I put it in the
mailbox. But it was like Ifelt free. It was like the weight,
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like whatever it was on me foryears, that oppression that I've been
feeling for years ended up just liftingoff of me. Shortly after that,
I was on Facebook. And it'sso funny because we're gonna talk about this.
I was on Facebook and I happenedto see this this married couple called
Natasha and Jamal Miller. Yes,and they had this thing called One the
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One University. I will never forgetthat the One University. And I ain't
gonna lie had paid membership for thatfor a little bit because I'm like,
Okay, I want to get preparedfor my husband, you know what I
mean. At that time, I'mtrying to read books on marrior, I'm
trying to read books on you know, celibacy, I'm trying to read books
on everything, right, And soI'm doing all that, and they had
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this thing called Pray for your FutureSpouts Challenge, right, and and something
just said, yeah, do thischallenge. Well I knew it was the
Lord, but the Lord ended upsaying do this challenge, and so I
was like, okay, I'm gonnabe the child, right. So I
ended up doing a challenge. Okay, long to beho, I didn't really
And this is where Eric's gonna comein to talk about his part of the
story, because he had a propheticword that year and he ended up being
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the same Pray for my Future SpouseChallenge so just imagine if we would have
met each other in that group,but we didn't because Eric's more shod,
so he wouldn't need to be moreslick like it needed to be more intimate
and more private for us to speakbecause he I don't think he would have
said anything to me in no group. He would have been lying. Girl,
I know you, but I'm gonnalet him tell his side of the
story. Yeah. Like my wifespoke, I also had a prophetic word
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about being prepared for marriage. Andas she spoke, I was brought up
in the church like I was raisedin the church all my life, and
that's why I began my journey withJesus Christ and learning who he is and
learning his ways. And at thetime, I was with the men's ministry
of my home church. At thetime, I was with the men's ministry,
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and I decided, you know,it's time for me to you know,
join them because I was at thatcrossroads of learning about more about manhood
and how to you know, bea husband. And I knew I was,
you know, and there was nodivine time and this is a guy's
divine timing that I was, youknow, becoming an adult like about to
grow, you know, grow upmore, leave the nest. One of
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my older mentors I know in themsince about the fourth to the sixth grade.
He was. He was part ofthe men's ministry at the time too.
He just spoke to me one timeand he just said, hey,
guys, like getting you ready formarriage? And when I thought about that,
I'm like getting ready for marriage.And I was just thinking about myself,
like am I really ready for marriage? And a lot of things you
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have thoughts of, Oh, amI really ready for marriage? And it
was a process I was thinking andlike, am I really ready for marriage?
Or am I like gonna be withthe right person? And all that?
Yes, and those are I can'tthank God enough for those group of
guys, older men who have beenmarried first some years and seen the ups
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and downs of marriage. And Ineeded to be with that group. And
we did mens retreats as well,and lo and behold, yes, that
same you know, that was likeMarch when I got that prophetic word,
and I think it was about thesame time you know you got yours too.
I didn't think about it until now. Oh yeah, God God worked
out something good. I'm telling you. That was a Divine Vine. It
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was to talk to him about LikeI said, you were in the group
too, Yes, I was alsoin the Pray for Future Spouse Challenge.
One of my friends introduced me toit and told me you should have gone
this Prayerature Spouse challenge. And atthe time, I didn't think nohing of
it. Like to be honest withyou, I didn't think nothing of it.
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I didn't think I was going tofind a future spouse and that challenge
like Pray for your Future Spouse Challenge, And I did it because you know,
God led me to it. Andonce I was doing that for a
while, I just thought. Ithink it was like a week later after
that challenge because of jusually at theend of August and it goes, yeah
into August, and it's a it'sa week week long challenge, and it
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was about yea, we were talkingdoing that same time, were we?
I think we were like, Ithink, yeah, we were. Yeah,
we started talking like the twentieth Yeah, it was like it was like
the end of August. It wasAugust. We started talking, but we
didn't start talking on the Future SpouseChallenge all like we didn't even know each
other was in the child. No, we didn't, not at all.
Afterwards, we actually matched on mastYes, And I was always traveling on
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the road. I used to workfor a corporation and so I was always
on the road doing remodels and newstore setups and things like that. So
it was really hard for me todate because I was never here. So
it was like the only way forme to like date and meet anybody was
online. And at the time Iain't gonna I was talking to a lot
of people people. But you knowwhat I will say, probably about probably
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towards the end of all early September, when we were talking, the Lord
ended up telling me he told mefirst before you told my husband. But
he said that that's he said,Eric's the man that I chosen for you.
And so everybody, and like Itell everybody all the time because everybody's
like, ooh, this is afeeling. It's like, nah, it
was not a feeling. Like theLord literally said, that's your husband,
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that's the man I chose for you. And once he said that for me,
once he said that to me,I dropped everybody else. Everybody else
I had planned to go on Daytwin and talk to and all that,
like I was like, no,the Lord said this to my husband's gonna
be so I'm just gonna have towork it out with him now. Of
course, like I said, Ididn't go and tell him right away,
like you my husband, that's gonnahappen. Like, no, I don't
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suggest doing that. I think youneed to be able to watch the fruit
of somebody's life, you know whatI mean, And just because God may
tell you something, he might notbe your husband for ten years down the
road because maybe he got to worksome stuff out, you know what I
mean, or vice versa if youa man, and you know what I
mean, like allow a person's lifeand the fruit of their life to show
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you that. So I definitely tellpeople you need to watch people's character because
people will change on you in aheartbeat. Okay, yeah, you know
we do rod talk over here,but he told me that about my husband,
and like I said, I wouldjust rock with him ever since.
And that just kind of goes backto divine timing. We kind of wanted
to talk a little bit about thattonight before we ended, because next week
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we're gonna jump right into our actuallike dating thing, so that'll be fun.
But yeah, like I said,just waiting on the God's divine timing,
waiting on him because I think alot of people, like I said,
we want to rush the gun.We want to jump out there and
we want to make stuff happen.You want to say stuff right like that's
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my husband, that's my wife.But I'm like, did God say that?
Or is that because you're feeling somethingand you just automatically assume. And
that's what gets us in trouble alot of times. And that's why a
lot of people, I said,our divorce is because they're not waiting on
God to tell them who their spouseis. They're just saying, ooh,
I like this person, I feelsomething, I feel something for them to
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let me just jump in this thingwith them. And then it's like,
oh man, you getting this relationshipwith them and find out we don't even
clicks. And so it is veryimportant that you learn to wait on the
timing of God, right because too, you got to understand that God is
developed, not only just developing you, they're developing that other person. Like
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I tell my husband all the time, I'm like, man, I'm glad
we didn't meet in my early twenties, Like I wasn't ready. This was
out there doing her thing. Iwas with my best life. That's how
I like to put it out.I was out there club and drink and
smoking sex and I was doing itall. I don't care. And Eric,
you see, look, he waslike, listen, I'm saving myself
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and I'm not doing that and thattype of stuff. And you know what
I mean, Like completely, Iwasn't ready, but I was ready towards
towards my late twenties. I waslike, all right, I'm ready to
settle down now, So you haveto wait on the timing, the divine
timing of God. Baby, yougot anything you want to say? Yes,
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I just also want to add I'mglad that we It was the divine
timing of God, and the divinetiming really helped us, you know,
grow to this point now. Andlike she said, I know if it
was me, if we would havemet at our early twenties, she would
have turned me away real quick,and I would have turned away from him
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because he would have not been mytype. I like, yeah, you
would have just wrote me off realquick. And I know for me,
the divine timing when she talk aboutthe satan yourself from marriage, like I'm
not gonna lie. Come, youknow, this is be another story too,
Like it was hard to like resistthe temptation on a college campus because
you're on a college campus. You'relike, oh, yeah, I want
to do this, I want todo that, or be with this girl,
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be with that girl. But Iknew I had to, you know,
during that time in college, Ihad to, you know, make
sure that I was you know,not just pure, but also that a
you don't need to go down thatroad yet and the bond. Tim and
I have a few scriptures I wantto I want to share as well before
we close the night. Yes,and I know this is a King James
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version, but it's it really getsto the point. So Proverbs sixteen,
verse nine says, a man's heartdevisedes his way, but the Lord directed
his steps in our case, likeLord directed our steps to marriage to each
other. And I also want toread Ecclesiastics three to one, which,
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yeah, the beauty of it helpme. Ecclesiastics three one goes. I
know it says time and place foreverything, the famous chapter Ecclesiastic three one.
You just find it in here.This is how we used to do
when we had Bibles. Yeah,look look at bad Yeah, let's take
it back gold School here right herethere, you go help me. Yeah,
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that Ecclesiastics three one says to everythingthere is a season and a time
to every purpose under the heaven,and that that was definitely our purpose and
time like for us to collide togetherand finally, you know, be mature
and say, you know what,we need to settle down because I know
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for me, I was, Iwas. You know, I'm a big
family person. I care for family, and I think me caring for family
when I was underneath my my momand dad group. It's really going to
help me, like when we doraise the family of our own and Jeremiah
twenty eleven. We all know thisscripture. I can just paraphrase it.
Oh we're almost there, yep,twenty nine eleven. Yep, one more
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page. We got twenty nine eleven. For I know the thoughts that I
think towards you, Saith the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil
to give you and an expected andoh, God like already had the plans
for us, like even before wegot married, before we knew each other,
He planned this podcast out and thiswhole married with the autism out and
(29:38):
our whole lives. He planned outeverything because he thought, you know what,
I have a great you know,destiny for Eric and Breonna, that
this man and this woman of God, they're going to do great works.
And when God looked down from heaven, He's like, see them have plans
for them, and that God hadhis proud dad, no smiling, no
(29:59):
damn on heaven. So I justwanted to share that with you. I'm
selling in all with the Father andmaking them proud. It's the best feeling,
hey man. And I just wantto shout out to Chanel and Prophet
Keisha. Hey love you guys.Thanks for joining tonight. But yeah,
and I really believe this is theexpected end. And I know it's probably
so weird, like y'all just beginningand we are beginning our marriage, but
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I believe that this was the reasonfor part of the reason for our marriage
was for this, and we hadto go through a lot of stuff because
you're gonna be like, hi,y'all go through that much stuff getting of
y'all marriage, right, You're onlytwo years then, But we did right,
but we needed to right in orderto truly be to be solidified and
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not only each other, but toreally truly be solidified and grunted in Christ,
because really it's Christ that kept ustogether through it all. Like the
scripture said, I can't think ofit right now, but the three for
the core can't be sure, yes, cannot be easily broken. And so
when you remember to keep Christ atthe center of your marriage, right,
because there's another reason why a lotof marriage is fairs, because they're not
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built upon that foundation, that solidfoundation. Like I said, a lot
of people are just getting married because, oh that person look good, that
person got a lot of money,that person could get me somewhere, status,
all kinds of reasons why people getmarried to people, and they're not
marrying people for the right reason.Right. When you get married, you
want to marry because you want tobe in the will of God. And
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God is going to use your marriageas ministry. Right. Your family is
your first ministry. Right, Yourmarriage is a ministry right, and it
should be a testimony. Your marriageshould be a reflection of how Christ is
with the Church, because the Churchis the broad of Christ. And so
when we begin to look at thatparallel, right, and how God doesn't
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how Jesus don't just throw away thebride. Even though I know it sounds
he probably be like Lord Jesus Iknow said about it. I'm like,
man, I need to hear menpeople. But you know what, he
loves us, right, and he'salone suffering with us, right, And
so we just have to get backto that place and just getting back to
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that. But like I said,we just wanted to give you guys an
introduction tonight. Podcasts are probably gonnabe anywhere between thirty forty five minutes something
like that each night, just orhowever the Holy Spirit leads us to do.
And then, like I said,it will kind of be a progression,
and then eventually we'll probably like ifpeople have questions, you guys can
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definitely spent questions, will definitely answeranything. If you guys have any type
of topics excuse me that you wantto hear particularly about, definitely do that.
We'll also come up with other topicsas time goes on. We have
quite a few topics that I'm justsaying because sometimes people might be like,
ooh, you guys are helping meout a lot, So we want to
make sure that this is for you. It's not just for us. To
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really legitimately to help others. Soanyways, that was tonight. Join us
again next week for episode two.Like I said, that's called the dating
phase. We're going to talk aboutour dating phase, right and so that'll
be fun and then keep going.Guys, all right, well, we're
gonna go ahead and close it outin prayer and then like I said,
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until next week, So you guysokay, all right, Father God,
but just want to say thank youfor allowing us to be on here tonight
with you, Father God. Thankyou for allowing us to just be able
to share our testimony with other peopleout there in the world who may be
other couples who may be like us, who maybe going through things like we
did, or are going through things, Father God, or about to go
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through things, Father God, andeven couples who may not be neuro divergent,
but our neurotypical couples. Father God. We want to pray for all
marriages right now, Father God,that you strengthen the bonds of marriage,
Father God, and we pray restorationinto marriages right now, God, in
the name of Jesus, that youwill touch them, God, touch them,
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even touch the wounds, Father God. The words that have been spoken
God, that may have been breakingthem apart God, the lack of communication
God, the lack of intimacy andmarriages everything, the financial situation, Father
God, debt, whatever has beencalling people to go at each other's throats,
Father God and not truly be aone Father God, Father God.
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We pray right now that you willbe, that you will come in God.
You will come in God with theHoly Ghost, follow God and begin
to restore God and begin to renewand begin to build something new, Father
God. Father God. Allows themto be built upon a firm foundation.
Allow them to be built upon thechief quarterstone, which is you Lord,
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in the name of Jesus, FatherGod, we asked more love and more
passion go back into their marriage likenever before. And even people who have
goodness marriages, Father God even askfor more love and passion to be set
on fire. Father God. Allowpeople to have date nights with their partner.
Father God, Allow them to justhave at least one day out the
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week or one day after month wherethey will potentially date their partner God and
do something, whether they got toget away, whether they go out to
dinner, whether they decide that they'regoing to go bowling and just be kids
again, Father God, but allowthem to do something together as a couple
to solidify them. God, inthe name of Jesus and Father God,
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we even pray over the bedroom.God, we pray the intimacy, that
the passion, that the love willbe their God. In the bedroom.
God, in the name of Jesus, you said that the bedroom is undefouled.
God in the name of Jesus.So, Father God, we pray
over the marriage band right now,Yes, God, sorry, the marriage
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band. We pray of the marriageband right now in the name of Jesus,
that it will be underfouled, thatthere will be no other lovers God
in it, Father God, therewon't be any adultree. Right now.
We come against the spirit of adulttree right now in marriages any you said,
even if a man looks at anotherwoman a thanks about another woman.
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God, you said that he's alreadycommitted adultree in his heart, followed God.
So, Father God, we evencome against the thoughts of adultree,
Father God, we even come againstpornography right now in the marriage bed.
God, in the name of Jesus, we come against that. God.
We bind that up, We shutthat down right now. In the name
of Jesus, Glory to God.Hallelujah, Father God, Father God,
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we come against that argumentative spirit rightnow in the name of Jesus. Yes,
Lord, we come against the argumentativespirit right now. In the name
of Jesus. We bind that thingup. We curse it at the roof,
and we send it back down tothe depths of Hella which have belongs.
Father, hallelujah. Glory to God. Thank your Father God, Thank
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you, Father God. Thank youfor the shifting in the marriages. Thank
you God, Thank you for theshifting in the marriages. Father God.
We even pray over wives being submissiveto their husband's God in the name of
Jesus God, hallelujah. I includemyself in that prayer. Lord, in
the name of Jesus, God,hallelujah, teaches how to be submissive Lived
God. Teach husbands how to lovetheir wives like Christ does the Church.
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God, in the name of JesusGod, hallelujah. Bring it back,
Bring it back, Bring marriages backinto how it's supposed to be in alignment
with the scripture. Lord, inthe name of Jesus, Glory to God.
We worship you, God, Wehonor you, Lord. In the
name of Jesus. You alone areworthy. You alone are worthy to be
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praised God. So we just wantto say thank your God and Father God.
Every weapon, every weapon that isformed against the marriages. Right now,
Father God, we pray it adissolve. It is now shapeless,
It is now cursed up a root. Now come down down. We either
come against the assignments that attack people'smarriage the finances in their marriage. God,
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because we know that that a lotof times will cause argument and friction
in the house Old God. Inthe name of Jesus, Father God,
we ask for restoration of finances rightGod. We ask for det solution right
now and bearage just God, inthe name of Jesus. We even pray
over the kids God, because hewas kids are going crazy God, and
they don't know what to do.God in the name of Jesus. But
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Father God, we bring order orin the house the name Yes for me
and my house, we serve theLord Jesus. Call the Lord God,
bring it back, Bring the wholefamily back into our alignment. Lord in
the name of Jesus, pull thesnacks the kids out the fire. God
in the name of Jesus, GloryGod, how that Loah? God.
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Oh yeah, God. Even thekids to stat there in the streets.
God, the kids that want tobe hot, God, they want to
have sex. God, they wantto sit there and deal drugs. God.
Yeah, we speaking to you.We calling you back into the household.
You will not continue to call yourmother and father pain. In the
name of Jesus. You will comeoff of that. You won't get out
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of that. In the name ofJesus. We decreed the cloud that it
is so, in the name ofJesus. Lord Razl go call y'all Jesus,
and we come against every weapon thatis the enemy is trying to form
right now, in the name ofJesus. Right now, I pray and
cover me and my husband with theblood of Jesus. Enemy, you will
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not have our marriage. In thename of Jesus, hallelujah. Nothing nothing,
nothing will come against our marriage.In the name of Jesus, hallelujah.
We cancel every assignment right now,and we send it back down to
the depths of Hell in which inbelong you are no longer activated. In
the name of Jesus, we comeagainst the witchcraft right now, I see
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you, which right now the nameof Jesus. We curse you at the
room right now, in the nameof Jesus. Glory to God, returned
us under everything you are sitting thereright now in the name Jesus. How
lay lou your glory to God.Thank your Father, Thank your Father.
Ooo. God, thank you Jesus. Right now in the name of Jesus.
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We thank you, We thank youGod, Father, God. We
asked for your shaloon peace to covereverybody on this evening. We asked that
everybody have a peaceful rest. God, peaceful rest, give them joy,
give them unthinkable joy. Father OooGod, thank you Lord, Thank you
Lord, Thank you Lord, Thankyour Lord. We just glorify you.
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Oo God, Thank you God,Thank you God, Thank you oooh Lord,
thank you. This is Jesus' namethat we pray. Amen. Amen,
Amen, Amen, Lady, Gloryto God. Out get ed.
We will be doing this again,all right, Gods the next time.
Love y'all. Bobby. Thank youguys for listening to another episode of Married
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with Autism. We would love tohear from you regarding certain topics that you
would like to see addressed. Lifechange your testimonies. You would like to
share or information on how you canbecome against on the show. Please email
us at info at married with Autismdot com. As always, we love
you all with the love of Christ. Remember to keep Christ's first in all
that you do, including your marriage, and watch the Lord begins to transform
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your life. Be blessed,
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