August 31, 2024 • 6 mins
In this episode, I share three ways in which you can ask the person that you like out at work. The three tips that I share maintain the balance of casual and professionalism that is needed at the workplace. If you need personalized coaching, visit www.masteringdating.com to sign up for the monthly membership where I share coaching tips on a consistent basis as well as recorded workshops.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Mastering Dating, broadcasting to eighty five countries worldwide.
With a wealth of experience as a seasoned dating coach,
your host at Mastering Dating has empowered clients globally and
now she's here to share valuable insights with you. So
sit back, relax, and get ready to dive into today's episode.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Hi, everyone, welcome back to Mastering Dating. It is so
nice to be back. I am finally back home. I
spent the entire summer traveling through different countries in Europe
and it was so much fun. But I am definitely
glad to be home and back to work, back to
doing the things that I normally do, which includes making
(00:52):
episodes for you guys. I know that I didn't do
a whole lot of episodes while traveling, but I tried
to put out a few for you. Now I'm back,
so you can expect episodes on a weekly basis again.
And it's really nice that you guys are all here
to listen to another episode today. In today's episode, I'm
(01:12):
going to be talking about something that I get asked
quite often, and that is what to do about liking
someone in an office or a place where you work,
and how to ask them out on a date, so
that you are professional in a professional way, but at
(01:32):
the same time you are also casual. Right, So there's
a balance because it's a balance that you have to
maintain because you are at a workplace, right, your workplace.
So that's what we're going to talk about today, all right,
So let's talk about the ways in which you can
ask someone out in your workplace, because there is a
(01:53):
certain balance that is required, a balance of being casual
while maintaining professionalism. So I'm going to share three different
ways that you can do this and still stay very
professional but casual. One of the things that you can
do is to suggest a group activity first. So if
you want to really be casual about it and you
(02:15):
don't want to seem too upfront or too forward, you
can approach the person that you like and mention an
upcoming group activity, or you can even try to organize one,
like let's say, grabbing lunch with colleagues or attending a
work related event. After the group activity, you can then
suggest hanging out one on one, making it feel very
(02:39):
natural and not forced. For example, you could say, hey,
a few of us are grabbing lunch tomorrow, you should
join maybe we could do something similar just the two
of us sometime something like that. Or if you go
out together as a group with your fellow co workers.
Towards the end of the event, you can say, hey,
I'm having so much fun, I don't really want this,
(03:00):
and what do you think about us going to grab
a cup of coffee after this, or going for a
walk or grabbing some dessert at the diner, whatever you
want to say. The important thing is to allow it
to be very natural. The entire process should feel easy,
not forceful, not forward, just nice and casual and natural.
The second thing that you could try is to tie
(03:21):
it to a shared interest. For example, let's say that
you know that you share a particular interest or hobby.
Somehow use that as a way to suggest spending time
together outside of work. For example, you could say, hey,
I heard that you're into playing tennis. There's a great
park nearby where we can play tennis. Would you like
(03:44):
to check it out on Saturday? Or something like that.
You get the idea, right, The important thing is to
keep it nice and natural and try to remember what
it is that shared interest is so that you don't
mention the wrong thing. But if you know then that's
great because as you can use that as a way
of asking them out. And then the third thing that
(04:05):
you can do is to just keep it light and
casual and directly ask them. You could maybe directly ask
them out in a way that's light and easy to decline,
so that they don't feel pressured and it doesn't seem
like a big deal. For example, you could say something like, hey,
would you like to grab a coffee sometime after work?
Or you could maybe even say, hey, no pressure or anything,
(04:27):
but I thought it might be nice to chat outside
the office sometime. Would you like to do that? There
really are many different ways that you can ask. Just
remember to keep it light and casual, and as long
as you do that, it shouldn't be a problem. It's
very easy to find someone that we are attracted to
at a workplace and like at a workplace because usually
(04:48):
a lot of companies have or i would say even
most companies have quite a few people working in an
office setting, or it doesn't even have to be an
office setting. It could be any workplace that you have.
There are a lot of different people come in and
out usually or a lot of people working there, so
you get to meet to a lot of different types
of people, and it's a great way to really get
to know someone on a more business level. And maybe
(05:11):
you are attracted to how they look, or you're attracted
to their personality, what you know about them so far,
and you want to know more about them, right, So
this is a great way to really gauge whether there
could be something with that person. You could kind of
feel how it is when you communicate together at the
office or at the company where you work. Kind of
see how it feels. Are they smiling, Are they really
(05:32):
interested in what you have to say? Do they seem
to be flirting with you? Is there some kind of
an interest in wanting to communicate with you more than
you normally communicate? You know, look at these little signs.
You know, if someone is into you or interested in you.
The signs are very hard to avoid or to not see.
They're very difficult not to see. So you will see them.
(05:54):
And if you see those signs and you like that
person and you're attracted to that person, then find a
way to approach them, to ask them out on a date.
And you can use any of these three different ways
that I just shared with you. All right, hopefully that
was helpful for you guys. It was so nice to
come back here today for another episode, and I will
make another episode for you guys again. Now that I'm
(06:16):
back in my city, I'm able to record a lot
more episodes for you guys again. Love you guys, have
an awesome weekend, and I'll see you later
Welcome to Mastering Dating, broadcasting to eighty five countries worldwide.
With a wealth of experience as a seasoned dating coach,
your host at Mastering Dating has empowered clients globally and
now she's here to share valuable insights with you. So
sit back, relax, and get ready to dive into today's episode.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Hi, everyone, welcome back to Mastering Dating. It is so
nice to be back. I am finally back home. I
spent the entire summer traveling through different countries in Europe
and it was so much fun. But I am definitely
glad to be home and back to work, back to
doing the things that I normally do, which includes making
(00:52):
episodes for you guys. I know that I didn't do
a whole lot of episodes while traveling, but I tried
to put out a few for you. Now I'm back,
so you can expect episodes on a weekly basis again.
And it's really nice that you guys are all here
to listen to another episode today. In today's episode, I'm
(01:12):
going to be talking about something that I get asked
quite often, and that is what to do about liking
someone in an office or a place where you work,
and how to ask them out on a date, so
that you are professional in a professional way, but at
(01:32):
the same time you are also casual. Right, So there's
a balance because it's a balance that you have to
maintain because you are at a workplace, right, your workplace.
So that's what we're going to talk about today, all right,
So let's talk about the ways in which you can
ask someone out in your workplace, because there is a
(01:53):
certain balance that is required, a balance of being casual
while maintaining professionalism. So I'm going to share three different
ways that you can do this and still stay very
professional but casual. One of the things that you can
do is to suggest a group activity first. So if
you want to really be casual about it and you
(02:15):
don't want to seem too upfront or too forward, you
can approach the person that you like and mention an
upcoming group activity, or you can even try to organize one,
like let's say, grabbing lunch with colleagues or attending a
work related event. After the group activity, you can then
suggest hanging out one on one, making it feel very
(02:39):
natural and not forced. For example, you could say, hey,
a few of us are grabbing lunch tomorrow, you should
join maybe we could do something similar just the two
of us sometime something like that. Or if you go
out together as a group with your fellow co workers.
Towards the end of the event, you can say, hey,
I'm having so much fun, I don't really want this,
(03:00):
and what do you think about us going to grab
a cup of coffee after this, or going for a
walk or grabbing some dessert at the diner, whatever you
want to say. The important thing is to allow it
to be very natural. The entire process should feel easy,
not forceful, not forward, just nice and casual and natural.
The second thing that you could try is to tie
(03:21):
it to a shared interest. For example, let's say that
you know that you share a particular interest or hobby.
Somehow use that as a way to suggest spending time
together outside of work. For example, you could say, hey,
I heard that you're into playing tennis. There's a great
park nearby where we can play tennis. Would you like
(03:44):
to check it out on Saturday? Or something like that.
You get the idea, right, The important thing is to
keep it nice and natural and try to remember what
it is that shared interest is so that you don't
mention the wrong thing. But if you know then that's
great because as you can use that as a way
of asking them out. And then the third thing that
(04:05):
you can do is to just keep it light and
casual and directly ask them. You could maybe directly ask
them out in a way that's light and easy to decline,
so that they don't feel pressured and it doesn't seem
like a big deal. For example, you could say something like, hey,
would you like to grab a coffee sometime after work?
Or you could maybe even say, hey, no pressure or anything,
(04:27):
but I thought it might be nice to chat outside
the office sometime. Would you like to do that? There
really are many different ways that you can ask. Just
remember to keep it light and casual, and as long
as you do that, it shouldn't be a problem. It's
very easy to find someone that we are attracted to
at a workplace and like at a workplace because usually
(04:48):
a lot of companies have or i would say even
most companies have quite a few people working in an
office setting, or it doesn't even have to be an
office setting. It could be any workplace that you have.
There are a lot of different people come in and
out usually or a lot of people working there, so
you get to meet to a lot of different types
of people, and it's a great way to really get
to know someone on a more business level. And maybe
(05:11):
you are attracted to how they look, or you're attracted
to their personality, what you know about them so far,
and you want to know more about them, right, So
this is a great way to really gauge whether there
could be something with that person. You could kind of
feel how it is when you communicate together at the
office or at the company where you work. Kind of
see how it feels. Are they smiling, Are they really
(05:32):
interested in what you have to say? Do they seem
to be flirting with you? Is there some kind of
an interest in wanting to communicate with you more than
you normally communicate? You know, look at these little signs.
You know, if someone is into you or interested in you.
The signs are very hard to avoid or to not see.
They're very difficult not to see. So you will see them.
(05:54):
And if you see those signs and you like that
person and you're attracted to that person, then find a
way to approach them, to ask them out on a date.
And you can use any of these three different ways
that I just shared with you. All right, hopefully that
was helpful for you guys. It was so nice to
come back here today for another episode, and I will
make another episode for you guys again. Now that I'm
(06:16):
back in my city, I'm able to record a lot
more episodes for you guys again. Love you guys, have
an awesome weekend, and I'll see you later
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