March 9, 2025 • 9 mins
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In this episode of Mastering Dating, Waleska Latorre discusses the crucial role of confidence in dating and personal growth. She emphasizes that confidence is the foundation of attraction and should be developed before achieving success in dating. The conversation covers practical steps to build confidence, such as owning one's value, taking action, shifting mindset, improving body language, and adopting an abundance mentality. Waleska encourages listeners to step out of their comfort zones to enhance their confidence and overall happiness.
Takeaways:
Confidence comes before success, not the other way around.
Charismatic people are confident regardless of their dating life.
Waiting for validation leads to chasing approval.
Lack of confidence results in hesitation and self-doubt.
Confidence can be built, not innate.
Own your value and recognize your worth.
Take action before feeling ready to build confidence.
Focus on experiences rather than outcomes in dating.
Improve body language to convey self-assurance.
Adopt an abundance mentality to reduce pressure in dating.
"Confidence isn’t something you’re born with."
"Confidence comes from action."
"Step out of your comfort zone."
In this episode of Mastering Dating, Waleska Latorre discusses the crucial role of confidence in dating and personal growth. She emphasizes that confidence is the foundation of attraction and should be developed before achieving success in dating. The conversation covers practical steps to build confidence, such as owning one's value, taking action, shifting mindset, improving body language, and adopting an abundance mentality. Waleska encourages listeners to step out of their comfort zones to enhance their confidence and overall happiness.
Takeaways:
Confidence comes before success, not the other way around.
Charismatic people are confident regardless of their dating life.
Waiting for validation leads to chasing approval.
Lack of confidence results in hesitation and self-doubt.
Confidence can be built, not innate.
Own your value and recognize your worth.
Take action before feeling ready to build confidence.
Focus on experiences rather than outcomes in dating.
Improve body language to convey self-assurance.
Adopt an abundance mentality to reduce pressure in dating.
"Confidence isn’t something you’re born with."
"Confidence comes from action."
"Step out of your comfort zone."
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Mastering Dating, broadcasting to eighty five countries worldwide.
With a wealth of experience as a seasoned dating coach,
your host at Mastering Dating has empowered clients globally and
now she's here to share valuable insights with you. So
sit back, relax, and get ready to dive into today's episode.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Hi everyone, welcome back to Mastering Dating, the podcast where
we break down the art of attraction, relationships, and personal growth.
I'm Valesca, and today we're talking about something that can
change the way you approach dating and life in general.
A lot of people believe that once they start seeing
(00:40):
success in dating, their confidence will improve.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
But the truth is confidence comes before success, not the
other way around. Like some might think, if you wait
until you feel successful to be confident, you will be
waiting forever. So today we're diving deep into why confidence
is the foundation of attraction and how you can build
(01:04):
it right now without needing external validation. So let me
tell you why confidence comes first. I want you to
think about the most charismatic, attractive people you know. Are
they confident because they have a great dating life, or
do they have a great dating life because they're confident
(01:26):
it's the second one, No doubt. Confidence is not about
what you've achieved. It's about how you carry yourself and
believe in yourself even when you're not at your peak.
People are drawn to certainty, self assuredness, and ease. That's
what's sexy. So if you're waiting for someone else to
validate you before you feel good about yourself, you'll always
(01:47):
be chasing approval instead of just naturally attracting people, and
that is the goal. So what happens when you lack confidence?
If you don't have confidence, here's what typically happens. First,
you hesitate to approach people that you're really interested in,
(02:08):
and you're missing out on possibly meeting the right person.
Second thing is that you second guess everything you say,
You doubt what you say, you don't truly believe in
what you're saying. The third thing is that you overanalyze
tax dates and even interactions with other people, which can
(02:30):
be self destructive in the end. And then the fourth
thing is that you come off as unsure or even needy,
which is, come on, let's face it, a major turnoff.
No one likes a needy partner. Everyone enjoys some level
of independence and needs a little meed time from time
to time. Right, So someone who is really needy is
(02:53):
a turnoff. It means that you'll never have time for yourself.
That they'll want everything from you and demand everything from you.
So that's a turnoff. So now the good news is
that confidence isn't something you're born with. It's actually something
you build. So that's great news because you can work
on that to build your confidence. So how do we
(03:13):
build confidence before we reach success. Let's get into some
very practical steps. First of all, you want to own
your value. Your worth isn't determined by how many dates
you get. Confidence starts with knowing that you're enough exactly
as you are. So take time to list out what
(03:36):
makes you valuable, not just to potential partners, but in general.
Write it down. You guys know that I love writing
things down. I have so many journals, a journal for everything.
Write it down. Write down all the things that you
adore about yourself that make you valuable. Maybe you're funny, intelligent,
or kind or ambitious. Own those qualities whatever they are,
(04:01):
be proud of them. The second thing that you can
do is to take action before you feel ready. A
lot of people think they need to feel confident before
they take action. That's not true, but confidence comes from action.
The more you put yourself in social situations, the more
(04:21):
comfortable and confident you'll become. Talk to new people daily,
whether it's at a coffee shop, the gym, or even
on a dating app. Get out there mingle talk. The
third thing to do is for you to shift your
mindset from outcome to experience. Instead of focusing on whether
every interaction leads to a date, I want you to
(04:44):
focus on the experience of engaging with others. When you
detach yourself from the outcome, you naturally relax, and that's
when attraction happens effortlessly. And that is the goal here.
You want to attract without control the situation, without expecting things,
without having to determine the outcome. The fourth thing is
(05:08):
you need to improve your body language and your presence.
Stand tall, maintain eye contacts, slow down when you speak.
Confident body language sense signals of self assurance before you
even say a word. And that's sexy. And I'm not
talking about cocky someone who's cocky. I'm talking about someone
(05:29):
who's confident, who's self assured. That's hot. I don't know
anyone who doesn't like that, as long as they're not cocky. Right,
So this changes how you feel about yourself. When you use,
when you stand tall and you maintain eye contacts and
slow down when you speak, and you're confident in the
way that you communicate, you feel better about yourself. And
(05:50):
if you feel good, they will see that you feel good,
and that is sexy. We all want a partner that
feels good and is happy. That's just an attractive quality. Obviously,
you don't have to be happy all the time and
feel good all the time because you're human, but you
know what I mean, it's just attractive. And then the
fifth thing is to develop an abundance mentality. Scarcity thinking
(06:16):
like believing that there are only a few people out
there for you, actually creates a lot of pressure and anxiety.
When you adopt an abundance mindset, you realize that there
are plenty of potential connections out there and rejection isn't
a big deal. Really, it's not that mindset makes you
(06:37):
naturally more attractive. There are millions and millions and billions
of people out there. You can be a good couple,
a good pair with so many different people. One person
not working out is not a deal breaker, trust me.
There are so many options out there waiting to be
(06:59):
discres So if you can just take one thing away
from today's episode, it's this confidence is not a result
of success. It's the cause of success. When you start
believing in yourself and acting with certainty and embracing experiences
(07:20):
without fear, you will see a shift in your dating
life and your overall happiness and you start to feel
so damn good. And when you start to feel so
damn good, you smile more, you laugh more, and you
become magnetic. Everybody wants to hang out with you. Everybody
loves you.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
And adores you.
Speaker 3 (07:36):
People are attracted to you. So you will see you
will see that everything will shift in your life, not
just in dating, but every aspect of your life. So
your challenge this week is for you to step out
of your comfort zone. I invite you to just step
the heck out of there. Start one conversation a day
(07:59):
with some when you even if it's just small talk.
The more you put yourself out there, the more confidence
you'll build. I promise you you've got to get out
there and start doing it. So that's it for today's
episode of masstering dating. I hope that you found today helpful,
and please do share my podcast with a friend if
(08:21):
you think there is a friend out there that needs
dating tips, and I appreciate it. Don't forget to subscribe.
If you haven't subscribed to my podcast yet, be sure
to subscribe so that you never miss an episode. You'll
always be notified. And I love you, guys. I love you,
and I thank you so much for being here today.
(08:42):
So in the meantime until I come back again for
another episode, I just want to say, please stay bold,
go after what you want. Stay confident you can do this,
get yourself out there. Nothing will change if you don't
take that first step.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Love you, guys, I do what of the back? The
back do
Welcome to Mastering Dating, broadcasting to eighty five countries worldwide.
With a wealth of experience as a seasoned dating coach,
your host at Mastering Dating has empowered clients globally and
now she's here to share valuable insights with you. So
sit back, relax, and get ready to dive into today's episode.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Hi everyone, welcome back to Mastering Dating, the podcast where
we break down the art of attraction, relationships, and personal growth.
I'm Valesca, and today we're talking about something that can
change the way you approach dating and life in general.
A lot of people believe that once they start seeing
(00:40):
success in dating, their confidence will improve.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
But the truth is confidence comes before success, not the
other way around. Like some might think, if you wait
until you feel successful to be confident, you will be
waiting forever. So today we're diving deep into why confidence
is the foundation of attraction and how you can build
(01:04):
it right now without needing external validation. So let me
tell you why confidence comes first. I want you to
think about the most charismatic, attractive people you know. Are
they confident because they have a great dating life, or
do they have a great dating life because they're confident
(01:26):
it's the second one, No doubt. Confidence is not about
what you've achieved. It's about how you carry yourself and
believe in yourself even when you're not at your peak.
People are drawn to certainty, self assuredness, and ease. That's
what's sexy. So if you're waiting for someone else to
validate you before you feel good about yourself, you'll always
(01:47):
be chasing approval instead of just naturally attracting people, and
that is the goal. So what happens when you lack confidence?
If you don't have confidence, here's what typically happens. First,
you hesitate to approach people that you're really interested in,
(02:08):
and you're missing out on possibly meeting the right person.
Second thing is that you second guess everything you say,
You doubt what you say, you don't truly believe in
what you're saying. The third thing is that you overanalyze
tax dates and even interactions with other people, which can
(02:30):
be self destructive in the end. And then the fourth
thing is that you come off as unsure or even needy,
which is, come on, let's face it, a major turnoff.
No one likes a needy partner. Everyone enjoys some level
of independence and needs a little meed time from time
to time. Right, So someone who is really needy is
(02:53):
a turnoff. It means that you'll never have time for yourself.
That they'll want everything from you and demand everything from you.
So that's a turnoff. So now the good news is
that confidence isn't something you're born with. It's actually something
you build. So that's great news because you can work
on that to build your confidence. So how do we
(03:13):
build confidence before we reach success. Let's get into some
very practical steps. First of all, you want to own
your value. Your worth isn't determined by how many dates
you get. Confidence starts with knowing that you're enough exactly
as you are. So take time to list out what
(03:36):
makes you valuable, not just to potential partners, but in general.
Write it down. You guys know that I love writing
things down. I have so many journals, a journal for everything.
Write it down. Write down all the things that you
adore about yourself that make you valuable. Maybe you're funny, intelligent,
or kind or ambitious. Own those qualities whatever they are,
(04:01):
be proud of them. The second thing that you can
do is to take action before you feel ready. A
lot of people think they need to feel confident before
they take action. That's not true, but confidence comes from action.
The more you put yourself in social situations, the more
(04:21):
comfortable and confident you'll become. Talk to new people daily,
whether it's at a coffee shop, the gym, or even
on a dating app. Get out there mingle talk. The
third thing to do is for you to shift your
mindset from outcome to experience. Instead of focusing on whether
every interaction leads to a date, I want you to
(04:44):
focus on the experience of engaging with others. When you
detach yourself from the outcome, you naturally relax, and that's
when attraction happens effortlessly. And that is the goal here.
You want to attract without control the situation, without expecting things,
without having to determine the outcome. The fourth thing is
(05:08):
you need to improve your body language and your presence.
Stand tall, maintain eye contacts, slow down when you speak.
Confident body language sense signals of self assurance before you
even say a word. And that's sexy. And I'm not
talking about cocky someone who's cocky. I'm talking about someone
(05:29):
who's confident, who's self assured. That's hot. I don't know
anyone who doesn't like that, as long as they're not cocky. Right,
So this changes how you feel about yourself. When you use,
when you stand tall and you maintain eye contacts and
slow down when you speak, and you're confident in the
way that you communicate, you feel better about yourself. And
(05:50):
if you feel good, they will see that you feel good,
and that is sexy. We all want a partner that
feels good and is happy. That's just an attractive quality. Obviously,
you don't have to be happy all the time and
feel good all the time because you're human, but you
know what I mean, it's just attractive. And then the
fifth thing is to develop an abundance mentality. Scarcity thinking
(06:16):
like believing that there are only a few people out
there for you, actually creates a lot of pressure and anxiety.
When you adopt an abundance mindset, you realize that there
are plenty of potential connections out there and rejection isn't
a big deal. Really, it's not that mindset makes you
(06:37):
naturally more attractive. There are millions and millions and billions
of people out there. You can be a good couple,
a good pair with so many different people. One person
not working out is not a deal breaker, trust me.
There are so many options out there waiting to be
(06:59):
discres So if you can just take one thing away
from today's episode, it's this confidence is not a result
of success. It's the cause of success. When you start
believing in yourself and acting with certainty and embracing experiences
(07:20):
without fear, you will see a shift in your dating
life and your overall happiness and you start to feel
so damn good. And when you start to feel so
damn good, you smile more, you laugh more, and you
become magnetic. Everybody wants to hang out with you. Everybody
loves you.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
And adores you.
Speaker 3 (07:36):
People are attracted to you. So you will see you
will see that everything will shift in your life, not
just in dating, but every aspect of your life. So
your challenge this week is for you to step out
of your comfort zone. I invite you to just step
the heck out of there. Start one conversation a day
(07:59):
with some when you even if it's just small talk.
The more you put yourself out there, the more confidence
you'll build. I promise you you've got to get out
there and start doing it. So that's it for today's
episode of masstering dating. I hope that you found today helpful,
and please do share my podcast with a friend if
(08:21):
you think there is a friend out there that needs
dating tips, and I appreciate it. Don't forget to subscribe.
If you haven't subscribed to my podcast yet, be sure
to subscribe so that you never miss an episode. You'll
always be notified. And I love you, guys. I love you,
and I thank you so much for being here today.
(08:42):
So in the meantime until I come back again for
another episode, I just want to say, please stay bold,
go after what you want. Stay confident you can do this,
get yourself out there. Nothing will change if you don't
take that first step.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Love you, guys, I do what of the back? The
back do
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