Don't Do This On A Date!

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:18):
Hello everyone, welcome to Mastering Dating. I'm so happy you're
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(00:39):
today's video, I'm going to be telling you the number
one thing to avoid when you go on a first date.
If you want to get to the second date, you
will not do this one particular thing. I want you
to remember that a first date is like an interview. Guys,
you must pass the first date before you can get
to the second date. So that first date is your

(00:59):
chance to really grab the attention of the person that
you're on a date with. So one thing I want
you to do when you show up on your first
date is to leave behind any of that emotional baggage
that you carry with you that we all carry. Leave
all of that emotional baggage behind. And I know we

(01:20):
all carry it. We've all been heard at some point
in our lives. The thing is that if you bring
that emotional baggage with you to your first date, is
it's going to affect how you appear to the other person.
When we bring the emotional baggage to our first date,
we have reguard up and we're either a ready to
fight if we need to fight, or be so protected

(01:44):
that we don't allow our authentic, most beautiful self to
shine through. And this is our chance to show ourselves
in our best light. This is like an interview, So
don't be guarded, leave that behind and instead allow yourself
to be vulnerable. It's okay to go there. When you're vulnerable,

(02:05):
your date will be able to really see a glimpse
of the type of person that you really are. So
what happens is that if you bring yourself guarded to
that first date, then your date is going to see
this very tough exterior, a tough person who's independent and strong.

(02:28):
But that's not necessarily what we want to show. On
that first date. You can show that a little bit
later when the time is right. At the beginning, we
want to be bringing a calm, beautiful energy to the table. Right,
allow yourself to sit in a peaceful energy with your
guard down, so that you can be as authentic as

(02:50):
possible and that person can really get to see a
little glimpse of the type of person that you are.
This is your chance to shine. Don't bring a guarded,
protective energy to the table, because then you're going to
be seen as that type of person. And the truth
is is that it's not who you always are. You're

(03:12):
not always this tough person, ready to fight if you
have to protect yourself if you have to. You're not
always that person. You have peaceful, calm moments where you
sit in your most authentic self when you're at home alone,
You're in your most authentic self when no one is watching,
or when you're with your friends or loved ones or
your family. Don't be afraid to bring that version of

(03:35):
you to the first day because that's the version that
they need to see on the first date, which, remember,
is like your interview, and once they get to know you,
then you can show them that you're independent and strong,
and you can show it to them when the timing
is correct. The timing is not on the first day.
You don't want to scare that person away, you don't

(03:57):
want to intimidate them. And I'm not saying don't yourself.
If yourself, your true self, is someone who's strong and independent,
that's fantastic. I'm not saying don't be that. I'm just saying,
don't bring that person to the table yet. Wait before
you bring that person to the table. Okay, we're all

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filled with different types of qualities. We're strong, sometimes we're independent,
Sometimes we're gentle, sometimes more sensitive. Sometimes all I want
you to do is to wait all to hold off
on showing that part of your personality until the timing
is correct. It's just not made for a first date
because a person can get easily scared or intimidated, or

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they're going to think that you're always like this, tough, strong, rough, independent, protective.
They're going to think that you're always like that. And
those are beautiful, wonderful qualities to have at a certain
time in life, not on a first date. So bring
a peaceful, calm, wonderful, open, authentic energy to your first date,

(05:00):
captivate them and get yourself to the second date first,
and then they can get to know you more and
get to know the other side. They can get to
know that strong independence side of you a little bit
later on. Okay, see it as an onion. Right, when
you're peeling the onion, you're going layer by layer, right,

(05:21):
layer by layer. You don't want to bring on these
very strong personality qualities so quickly early on. Right, we
want to bring in a calm energy. A calm, open, authentic,
vulnerable energy is what's going to get you to the
second date. And I know that can make you feel uncomfortable.

(05:42):
I get it. I've been there, I was there before.
But in order to get to the second date, you
must put the weapons down, put your guard down. Okay,
you can do it. If you enjoyed today's video, please
come back for another episode like this video. Appreciate the support.
I appreciate it. If you could subscribe and also share

(06:03):
my channel with your friends. Maybe they need a dating
and relationship coach too. It was so great to be
here for you guys today. Have a lovely weekend, and
I'll see you soon.