January 29, 2025 • 11 mins
In this episode, I share how to flirt in public across the room. To follow my new YouTube channel visit: Mastering Dating on YouTube and to join the supporters club go here: JOIN THE CLUB HERE
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Mastering Dating, broadcasting to eighty five countries worldwide.
With a wealth of experience as a seasoned dating coach.
Your host at Mastering Dating has empowered clients globally and
now she's here to share valuable insights with you. So
sit back, relax, and get ready to dive into today's episode.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Welcome to Mastering Dating. I'm Veleska, your dating coach. It's
so great to be back for another episode. Thank you
so much for coming back. In today's episode, I will
be sharing seven tips for mastering the art of flirting
across the room in any public place, so you can
use these tips to get their attention. But before I
(00:51):
get started with that, I wanted to apologize because I
found out that my video episode that I created for
you last time was in fact not showing up on
any of the platforms because, as it turns out, the
platform that I host on, which is Spreaker, does not
support video podcasts, so unfortunately, you won't be seeing the
(01:15):
video version like I thought you would. However, I have
a new YouTube channel that I created called Mastering Dating
that I will provide a link to in my show notes,
so you can go to the about this podcast show
notes section and look up the link there. It is
a relatively new channel, so there aren't as many videos
(01:35):
as I would like just yet, but if you follow
me and subscribe on YouTube then you'll be able to
see video episodes there as well as coaching videos, so
you can check that out. And I also wanted to
mention that I have created something called the Supporters Club,
which is only available if you are listening to my
(01:57):
podcast through the Spreaker App. I will provide the link
for this as well in the show notes of the
about this podcast area. Check that out for the link
with the Supporters Club. If you join on a monthly basis,
you will get access to private episodes that are not
available anywhere else, as well as this really cool new
(02:21):
feature that Spreaker now offers where I'm able to post
different posts with links on the spreaker app, so you
will be notified about this through the app or an
email every time I post something new. So basically what
I plan on doing with this is turning it into
(02:41):
a coaching experience for you. You will basically have access
to me as a private coach through these posts, where
you can even comment and communicate with me. Back and forth,
and this will only be available in the Supporters Club
when you join. So these are two cool features that
you'll have access to. The private posts as well as
(03:01):
the private episodes where you will have me as your
personal coach. Basically, it's a really cool feature that they
now offer that I am activating. So if you join,
then you can be a part of this experience. Okay,
and I'll have the link in the show notes. So
with that being said, let's get started on the seven
tips for mastering the arts of flirting from across the room.
(03:25):
The first thing to do is to catch their eye
with confidence. Lock eyes for a moment, not longer than
a moment, because you don't want to look kind of creepy, right,
So just for a moment, hold the gaze just long
enough to spark their curiosity, and then as you look away,
do it with a little cute smile on your face.
(03:46):
Be confident with your body language because that will make
an unforgettable first impression. Let's face it, we all love
a confident person. Confident but not arrogant, right, so don't
be arrogant. The second tip is to send them playful smiles.
You can on occasion while you're hanging out with your friends,
look in their direction and send them a cute, little
(04:08):
playful smile and see if they smile back, or maybe
they smile and hold the gaze or lock eyes with you.
Keep it mysterious, keep it warm and inviting, not creepy,
and you will love how they react to that. And
the third one is for you to use your body language.
(04:31):
Use your body language, keep your posture nice and open.
Stand or sit with an open, approachable body, Be warm,
be inviting. Don't cross your arms or slouch. Don't do
any of those things that let them feel that they're
not invited to go over and talk to you. If
you want them to come over to talk to you,
(04:52):
open your body. Maybe you can even point your legs,
your feet, or your body towards them and put your
arms down, stand straight, and send them a little smile.
This gives them the clue that, yes, you're interested in
having a conversation with them. They can come over if
they want to, okay, or you can go there if
(05:12):
you prefer, But first look for clues that they are
inviting you. Over Look at their body language. If they're
totally closed off, not looking at you that much, not
smiling at you, kind of turned away from you. Most
likely they don't want to have a conversation with you
and don't take it personally. Maybe they have a partner
or a boyfriend or girlfriend already, so don't take it personally.
(05:32):
If this happens, the next tip is for you to
mirror their energy. If they are relaxed and casual, then
you need to mirror that vibe you be relaxed and casual,
kind of like an interview. I'm sure you've heard this before,
but if you go to a job interview, you're supposed
to mirror the energy of whoever's interviewing you. So if
(05:55):
the person seems lively and upbeat, allow your energy to
match theirs. This will create an instant connection, even from
a long distance, even from the other side of the room.
Another great tip that I have for you is to
keep your gestures subtle, a little gentle wave, raising your
(06:17):
glass in their direction and smiling like you're giving a
little toast or even a little tiny head nod hello.
You know, keep it simple, keep it natural, don't foresaid,
no one likes aggressive energy, so don't force it. The
next tip is for you to position yourself correctly move
(06:40):
closer if possible, but not too obviously close, right, So
find a spot where they can see you really well
and just be in their direction in case they want
to go over to talk to you. This increases the
chances of interaction too, So if they can see you,
even from a distance like in front of you, they
are more likely to smile towards to you, or to
(07:01):
somehow interact with you, or even go up to you.
And then the last tip that I have for you
is to let the moment breathe for a minute. And
what I mean by that is flirting from across the
room is about creating interest, not about rushing the whole process.
So after you make eye contact for the first time,
(07:22):
like the initial eye contact or a gesture, let them
respond before you take the next step. You don't want
to seem overly persistent, desperate, or aggressive, so give them,
give them some time to respond, and then you can
take it from there. You want to leave a little
bit of mystery so that they want to come to you.
Don't make it too easy, right. If you make it
(07:43):
too easy, then they won't want it. But definitely make
it obvious enough that you're interested in them. So there's
a very fine line between those two things. I think
that you're going to find these tips really helpful. I
want to give you an example, many many, many, many
men any many years ago, when I was at a
bar and I was there with my stepbrother having a
(08:07):
drink in our hometown. I saw this really cute guy
on the other side of the bar, and I was
at the bar, sitting on the stool, and he was
too on the opposite side, and I told my brother,
I said, Oh, he's really cute. Wow, I like him.
I like the way he looks. He's super cute, totally
(08:27):
my type. And my brother was like, go up to
him and talk to him. I was like, no, no way,
I can't do that. So instead, what I did in
that moment is I looked at him. I let him
notice me. We locked eyes, and then I smiled at him,
and he smiled really big at me and waved hello,
(08:48):
And that actually eased my nervousness. And when he waved
hello at me like that and smiled at me like that,
I actually decided to go up to him. Not right away.
I didn't want to see so I didn't do it
right away. I kept talking to my brother and spending
time with him, and I would say about maybe twenty
minutes later, I smiled, I looked it over at the
(09:10):
guy again. He smiled at me again and said hi again,
kind of like whispered it. And that's when I went over.
I walked over to the other side of the bar
and I sat next to him. I said hi, and
I sat next to him and started a conversation. This
guy ended up being one of my best friends. We
dated for a while, but we decided we made better
friends than we did partners, so we didn't pursue anything
(09:35):
too serious. But we did become really good friends and
we have been friends for more than twenty years now.
Really awesome story. So, yeah, you never know what's going
to happen, even if you don't date them. Maybe they'll
end up being one of your best friends or your
friend for life. You never know guys and girls, so
(09:56):
don't be afraid to go up to them. Okay, a conversation,
but it's all about looking at the clues they give you.
You know, you don't want to seem desperate or aggressive
or like a creeper, so really look at the clues
and their body language, and yeah, take all of that
(10:16):
into consideration when deciding whether or not you will go
up to them. And that's about it for today. Guys.
I hope that you enjoyed this episode. If you did,
I would really love it if you could please follow
my podcast if you don't yet, that way you can
be notified every time that you receive a new episode
on the podcast. And also I would love it if
(10:38):
you can give me a rating just to show your support.
It would be so great. I would really appreciate that too.
It allows me to keep going, you know, with this podcast.
When I see that you like my episodes, it makes
me want to make more episodes for you, So the
support is greatly appreciated. If you could give me five stars?
(10:59):
Where is that you're listening? And if you want to
join the supporters club and have me as like a
personal dating coach inside your pocket anytime you need me,
then you can go to the about section and the
podcast show notes and click on the link there or
also follow the YouTube channel there. I love you, guys.
I hope you have an awesome day.
Welcome to Mastering Dating, broadcasting to eighty five countries worldwide.
With a wealth of experience as a seasoned dating coach.
Your host at Mastering Dating has empowered clients globally and
now she's here to share valuable insights with you. So
sit back, relax, and get ready to dive into today's episode.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Welcome to Mastering Dating. I'm Veleska, your dating coach. It's
so great to be back for another episode. Thank you
so much for coming back. In today's episode, I will
be sharing seven tips for mastering the art of flirting
across the room in any public place, so you can
use these tips to get their attention. But before I
(00:51):
get started with that, I wanted to apologize because I
found out that my video episode that I created for
you last time was in fact not showing up on
any of the platforms because, as it turns out, the
platform that I host on, which is Spreaker, does not
support video podcasts, so unfortunately, you won't be seeing the
(01:15):
video version like I thought you would. However, I have
a new YouTube channel that I created called Mastering Dating
that I will provide a link to in my show notes,
so you can go to the about this podcast show
notes section and look up the link there. It is
a relatively new channel, so there aren't as many videos
(01:35):
as I would like just yet, but if you follow
me and subscribe on YouTube then you'll be able to
see video episodes there as well as coaching videos, so
you can check that out. And I also wanted to
mention that I have created something called the Supporters Club,
which is only available if you are listening to my
(01:57):
podcast through the Spreaker App. I will provide the link
for this as well in the show notes of the
about this podcast area. Check that out for the link
with the Supporters Club. If you join on a monthly basis,
you will get access to private episodes that are not
available anywhere else, as well as this really cool new
(02:21):
feature that Spreaker now offers where I'm able to post
different posts with links on the spreaker app, so you
will be notified about this through the app or an
email every time I post something new. So basically what
I plan on doing with this is turning it into
(02:41):
a coaching experience for you. You will basically have access
to me as a private coach through these posts, where
you can even comment and communicate with me. Back and forth,
and this will only be available in the Supporters Club
when you join. So these are two cool features that
you'll have access to. The private posts as well as
(03:01):
the private episodes where you will have me as your
personal coach. Basically, it's a really cool feature that they
now offer that I am activating. So if you join,
then you can be a part of this experience. Okay,
and I'll have the link in the show notes. So
with that being said, let's get started on the seven
tips for mastering the arts of flirting from across the room.
(03:25):
The first thing to do is to catch their eye
with confidence. Lock eyes for a moment, not longer than
a moment, because you don't want to look kind of creepy, right,
So just for a moment, hold the gaze just long
enough to spark their curiosity, and then as you look away,
do it with a little cute smile on your face.
(03:46):
Be confident with your body language because that will make
an unforgettable first impression. Let's face it, we all love
a confident person. Confident but not arrogant, right, so don't
be arrogant. The second tip is to send them playful smiles.
You can on occasion while you're hanging out with your friends,
look in their direction and send them a cute, little
(04:08):
playful smile and see if they smile back, or maybe
they smile and hold the gaze or lock eyes with you.
Keep it mysterious, keep it warm and inviting, not creepy,
and you will love how they react to that. And
the third one is for you to use your body language.
(04:31):
Use your body language, keep your posture nice and open.
Stand or sit with an open, approachable body, Be warm,
be inviting. Don't cross your arms or slouch. Don't do
any of those things that let them feel that they're
not invited to go over and talk to you. If
you want them to come over to talk to you,
(04:52):
open your body. Maybe you can even point your legs,
your feet, or your body towards them and put your
arms down, stand straight, and send them a little smile.
This gives them the clue that, yes, you're interested in
having a conversation with them. They can come over if
they want to, okay, or you can go there if
(05:12):
you prefer, But first look for clues that they are
inviting you. Over Look at their body language. If they're
totally closed off, not looking at you that much, not
smiling at you, kind of turned away from you. Most
likely they don't want to have a conversation with you
and don't take it personally. Maybe they have a partner
or a boyfriend or girlfriend already, so don't take it personally.
(05:32):
If this happens, the next tip is for you to
mirror their energy. If they are relaxed and casual, then
you need to mirror that vibe you be relaxed and casual,
kind of like an interview. I'm sure you've heard this before,
but if you go to a job interview, you're supposed
to mirror the energy of whoever's interviewing you. So if
(05:55):
the person seems lively and upbeat, allow your energy to
match theirs. This will create an instant connection, even from
a long distance, even from the other side of the room.
Another great tip that I have for you is to
keep your gestures subtle, a little gentle wave, raising your
(06:17):
glass in their direction and smiling like you're giving a
little toast or even a little tiny head nod hello.
You know, keep it simple, keep it natural, don't foresaid,
no one likes aggressive energy, so don't force it. The
next tip is for you to position yourself correctly move
(06:40):
closer if possible, but not too obviously close, right, So
find a spot where they can see you really well
and just be in their direction in case they want
to go over to talk to you. This increases the
chances of interaction too, So if they can see you,
even from a distance like in front of you, they
are more likely to smile towards to you, or to
(07:01):
somehow interact with you, or even go up to you.
And then the last tip that I have for you
is to let the moment breathe for a minute. And
what I mean by that is flirting from across the
room is about creating interest, not about rushing the whole process.
So after you make eye contact for the first time,
(07:22):
like the initial eye contact or a gesture, let them
respond before you take the next step. You don't want
to seem overly persistent, desperate, or aggressive, so give them,
give them some time to respond, and then you can
take it from there. You want to leave a little
bit of mystery so that they want to come to you.
Don't make it too easy, right. If you make it
(07:43):
too easy, then they won't want it. But definitely make
it obvious enough that you're interested in them. So there's
a very fine line between those two things. I think
that you're going to find these tips really helpful. I
want to give you an example, many many, many, many
men any many years ago, when I was at a
bar and I was there with my stepbrother having a
(08:07):
drink in our hometown. I saw this really cute guy
on the other side of the bar, and I was
at the bar, sitting on the stool, and he was
too on the opposite side, and I told my brother,
I said, Oh, he's really cute. Wow, I like him.
I like the way he looks. He's super cute, totally
(08:27):
my type. And my brother was like, go up to
him and talk to him. I was like, no, no way,
I can't do that. So instead, what I did in
that moment is I looked at him. I let him
notice me. We locked eyes, and then I smiled at him,
and he smiled really big at me and waved hello,
(08:48):
And that actually eased my nervousness. And when he waved
hello at me like that and smiled at me like that,
I actually decided to go up to him. Not right away.
I didn't want to see so I didn't do it
right away. I kept talking to my brother and spending
time with him, and I would say about maybe twenty
minutes later, I smiled, I looked it over at the
(09:10):
guy again. He smiled at me again and said hi again,
kind of like whispered it. And that's when I went over.
I walked over to the other side of the bar
and I sat next to him. I said hi, and
I sat next to him and started a conversation. This
guy ended up being one of my best friends. We
dated for a while, but we decided we made better
friends than we did partners, so we didn't pursue anything
(09:35):
too serious. But we did become really good friends and
we have been friends for more than twenty years now.
Really awesome story. So, yeah, you never know what's going
to happen, even if you don't date them. Maybe they'll
end up being one of your best friends or your
friend for life. You never know guys and girls, so
(09:56):
don't be afraid to go up to them. Okay, a conversation,
but it's all about looking at the clues they give you.
You know, you don't want to seem desperate or aggressive
or like a creeper, so really look at the clues
and their body language, and yeah, take all of that
(10:16):
into consideration when deciding whether or not you will go
up to them. And that's about it for today. Guys.
I hope that you enjoyed this episode. If you did,
I would really love it if you could please follow
my podcast if you don't yet, that way you can
be notified every time that you receive a new episode
on the podcast. And also I would love it if
(10:38):
you can give me a rating just to show your support.
It would be so great. I would really appreciate that too.
It allows me to keep going, you know, with this podcast.
When I see that you like my episodes, it makes
me want to make more episodes for you, So the
support is greatly appreciated. If you could give me five stars?
(10:59):
Where is that you're listening? And if you want to
join the supporters club and have me as like a
personal dating coach inside your pocket anytime you need me,
then you can go to the about section and the
podcast show notes and click on the link there or
also follow the YouTube channel there. I love you, guys.
I hope you have an awesome day.
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